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Oh trust me, we do.
/r/seduction20/07/22 04:02 PM
1

I see. In the case of a cold approach it is indeed different than chatting on Tinder for example. One thing you could do is figure out a topic you could use as a base for your opener. Just as a very simple example: you like dogs. It’s important for you to find someone who likes animals, because it shows they’re more likely to be compassionate. Therefore, you very quickly move the topic onto pets and see how she responds. If you aren’t looking for relationship material, your standards for persona…
/r/seduction19/07/22 02:15 PM
1

Lol what?
/r/seduction18/07/22 09:55 PM
2

And that’s absolutely correct. I mean, who wants to talk about the same basic things over and over again? “Where are you from? What do you do?” The person can be absolutely fantastic, but I cringe every time I hear those questions. (Of course these are just examples.)
/r/seduction18/07/22 09:54 PM
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I’m not going to comment this in the original thread, as it will get lost there, so instead I’ll ask you: why would you even want to talk to somebody that you have nothing in common with, doesn’t challenge you mentally and is, quite frankly, boring it seems? Don’t you enjoy interesting conversations?
/r/seduction18/07/22 09:51 PM
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I mean, it’s literally because people are different. I know very well how one would have to attract me, but it would probably be a completely another story with a woman who’s the opposite of my personality. Saying that women don’t know what gets them going is a weird generalization. Not everyone lacks self-awareness. So figure out what’s the type you are going for and take advice from those who know that type.
/r/seduction18/07/22 09:43 PM
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Doesn’t matter if you’re a male or a female, it’s not wise to put all eggs into one basket at the start. Nothing wrong with going on a few dates with several different people during the same time period, as it reduces the possibility of getting desperate/clingy and ending up with someone you’re incompatible with solely because you have no other options in the picture. From there on, it’s up for interpretation. I personally would say you shouldn’t sleep with several people simultaneously unless t…
/r/seduction18/07/22 10:42 AM
-4

This is such a weak reasoning.
/r/seduction18/07/22 10:37 AM
5

You sound hostile. Is it a result of no success on the dating scene or is it just your personality? Either way, this could be it.
/r/seduction16/07/22 02:18 PM
1

Not the good kind, that’s for sure.
/r/seduction14/07/22 06:30 PM
1

Find God.
/r/seduction14/07/22 09:50 AM
1

I doubt either of you gets laid on a regular basis.
/r/seduction13/07/22 04:43 PM
1

I use a lot of emojis and it sometimes weirds me out when the guy doesn’t use any. First of all it can (but not necessarily) seem like they’re boring, but also at one point I notice the difference and I might become a bit less expressive myself. So I’d say that if a girl uses them, do the same but to a slightly smaller extent. Just wanted to add as a response to some of the other comments: texting is not just for setting up a date. Many girls want to get to know the guy a little bit before meeti…
/r/seduction13/07/22 04:41 PM
3

What would have been a better explanation/reasoning for you?
/r/seduction30/06/22 07:32 AM
1

Read it again. And again. Until you comprehend how fucked up it sounds.
/r/seduction30/06/22 07:31 AM
2

I know, I know. I just wish there was more thought process behind those actions.
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:14 PM
-8

I am condescending? This is peak irony.
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:12 PM
-12

My man said “femcel” 😭 Sweetheart, not to be harsh, but based on your post history you aren’t calling anyone out. Might want to work on your insecurities for a bit and stop projecting.
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:02 PM
1

Amen. I’ve always struggled to understand the fact that many guys want to fuck around, but in that same breath are trying to explain how a woman should stay virgin until marriage basically. Then whom are they all fucking? The math ain’t mathing.
/r/seduction29/06/22 10:57 PM
6

Interesting, I would have thought the opposite. Although the bio doesn’t fit, her “daddy” sentence sounds like a straight up f*ck call 😂
/r/seduction29/06/22 10:13 PM
5

Why would you enter a relationship with someone like that? Overall I think it’s pretty well known that people who are lacking looks wise need to make up for it in other areas. I have experienced that as well, unfortunately.
/r/seduction29/06/22 03:21 PM
2

Wow this worked out well. Happy for you, enjoy!
/r/seduction27/06/22 09:49 AM
1

I see you’re trying to make sense, but you make no sense. That’s because the best indicator of how good one’s “dick game” is, is whether the female orgasmed or not. There are other factors that come into play, but this tops the charts. If you have a different understanding, feel free to elaborate. If you don’t give a fuck about the other person, then just say so, but don’t call it a “good dick game” if you’re there just to cum & bounce. 😂
/r/seduction26/06/22 11:39 AM
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Lol
/r/seduction26/06/22 11:31 AM
1

A bit offtopic, but is there an example of this attractiveness scale for both men and women? Asking because I didn’t think 6 is so unattractive that they have never received a compliment.
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:06 AM
0

Because of this pure desperation and the fact that your morals are so low, one day you’ll do something that is considered rape (especially since it is not seen in the same way it was 10 years ago for example). Good luck, homie, don’t forget to update us!
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:56 AM
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I never claimed that I have the answer to how to become confident, as I simply do not know. I just know it should be the end goal because of how, based on my experience, confident people (not just men) are perceived, as they radiate a completely different kind of energy. And not just that - the one benefitting from it the most is the person themselves. However, it can only come from changing your mindset and that’s tough, but others saying that pretty girls are confident because they get complim…
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:24 AM
2

Yes!
/r/seduction25/06/22 10:38 PM
1

Are you confident and joke around a lot?
/r/seduction25/06/22 10:32 PM
2

There is literally no other answer than “you need to become confident, get your shit together and reach their level”. You need to have something that adds value to their life, and most importantly - you CANNOT be scared of them. But this, again, comes from confidence. A few of the comments here are aiming in the right direction - it is sometimes a “false impression”. Within the comfort of their own home, they are as vulnerable as anyone else. Doesn’t mean they’re insecure, but they don’t have it…
/r/seduction25/06/22 10:29 PM
0

May you never get another blowjob in this lifetime.
/r/seduction25/06/22 10:18 PM
2

You mean that sometimes people forget to respond to messages? For sure. Many people are “bad at texting”, but it’s important to be able to point out when it’s just bad habits and when you’re being dragged along/used for easy attention. The latter isn’t your case of course, and I am assuming that if she isn’t responsive now either then you’ll drop it. :)
/r/seduction25/06/22 10:13 PM
3

Can’t you bring someone home so that they don’t meet your family? This would work if you have your own room. Regarding the car - just use Uber..?
/r/seduction25/06/22 10:10 PM
2

Alright, not a bad progress I guess. Good luck!
/r/seduction25/06/22 10:05 PM
2

Gotcha. I know the kind of message you want to send and it’s not a bad idea, but damn I’m not sure what it should say. You had a conversation with her. Did you at all discuss each others’ interests? I would ask for advice about something, so it’d look like “Hey you mentioned that there’s a good burger place in town. What was the name again?” But that’s if you reallly feel the need to try again.
/r/seduction25/06/22 09:40 PM
1

I think your best chances are to ask the female. Many are open to explain what they are looking for in a guy.
/r/seduction25/06/22 09:36 PM
1

Figured you’re trolling, because why would you even want to get with her? She’s disrespecting you and using you as her personal therapist.
/r/seduction25/06/22 11:21 AM
-3

And you’ve been a good son, but judging from your post I can tell that we got it wrong somewhere.
/r/seduction25/06/22 11:13 AM
1

About the same things you’d discuss with your friends (with some exceptions of course). If you’re looking for something serious, then you should absolutely make sure that you two have a common ground - you share some hobbies and interests, your sense of humour is similar, etc. Unless you make very bad jokes, you shouldn’t avoid them. Girls like funny guys - not clowns but funny. I would assume that you have opinions on a lot of things, just choose a topic.
/r/seduction25/06/22 11:10 AM
-1

😘 here you go
/r/seduction25/06/22 10:59 AM
-3

Oh, sweetheart, you’ve got it all backwards.
/r/seduction25/06/22 10:45 AM
1

You forgot to add this: /s
/r/seduction25/06/22 10:43 AM
3

Are you sure you got the number right?
/r/seduction24/06/22 10:33 PM
1

Did her behaviour change once she got back from the trip? People don’t necessarily want to spend their time in social media while they’re travelling. Leaving her on read sounds like a bad idea. Maybe just take a bit longer to answer and don’t act desperate in any way?
/r/seduction24/06/22 08:46 PM
2

Trust me, those girls are even happier to have you as friends, just because it is so difficult to find one that isn’t just patiently waiting for his opportunity. You’re welcome! 😊
/r/seduction24/06/22 08:20 PM
1

No, I’m not a guy. I was being sincere, it’s tough out there.
/r/seduction24/06/22 08:17 PM
5

She just isn’t interested in you now that she’s sobered up, that’s it. Have you ever drunk an ugly girl pretty? This is the effect here. I’m absolutely not saying you’re ugly or that there is anything wrong with you whatsoever. She just isn’t interested. It happens and it’s normal.
/r/seduction24/06/22 06:46 PM
2

Pretty much. I’m sorry you have to go through that.
/r/seduction24/06/22 06:42 PM
1

Watching insta stories doesn’t mean anything. Replying to a text? Did she respond with more than 1 sentence or initiate a longer conversation past that point? If not, she’s just a nice girl. Leave her alone.
/r/seduction24/06/22 05:59 PM
1

I read your post again and, oh well. She asked to break up a MONTH after she left, and 1.5 months after that was already dating someone else. The story about the letter is cute n shit, but she obviously didn’t walk the talk. How to get over her? I really don’t know, this is different for everyone. Finding a rebound is a toxic method but maybe it’d work? Watch sad romantic movies and cry? Sorry I have never gone through a breakup as a male.
/r/seduction24/06/22 05:53 PM
1

You can’t flirt with a girl that feels uncomfortable around you because she has already had to say “no” once. It’s literally like throwing gasoline into fire. You can talk to her here and there, nonchalantly, make jokes etc, but very little at first. (Using “you” just as to make it easier to get my point across. Of course we are still talking about your friend. 😉)
/r/seduction24/06/22 05:45 PM
1

The thing is, unless she was objectively a REALLY good partner, you won’t miss her once you’re over her, because it just doesn’t work like that. Quite the opposite - you’ll start noticing the negatives. You can wait around, but you need to consider the (quite real) possibility that it will not work out.
/r/seduction24/06/22 05:38 PM
1

No flirting/asking out until she feels comfortable around the guy (again?). He needs to pretend like nothing happened and act relaxed around her. Lol I’m making it sound like this is the only route to follow. I obviously don’t know the girl, but if she’s a nice person (as opposed to a spoilt brat), these might be the best odds.
/r/seduction24/06/22 05:27 PM
1

Maybe you’re just trolling, but if not: yes.
/r/seduction24/06/22 05:09 PM
1

Meaning it’s a bit difficult to come back from. Sometimes a girl is just inbetween or thinks the guy is moving too fast, but although this one here could have several reasons, her “no” was witnessed by other people. Have you seen those memes that say “sorry, you can’t come back into my life, I’ve already told my mom”? It’s a bit like that. And if she happened to be embarrassed in this situation, then good luck.
/r/seduction24/06/22 05:02 PM
2

No, “no” isn’t always a definitive “no”, but in this situation it’s a pretty tough “no”. Tell the friend to chill out for a while and not make such moves in front of the girl’s siblings.
/r/seduction24/06/22 04:49 PM
0

If you think you cannot play it cool (especially since there is alcohol involved), don’t go. She’s showing some red flags. But only you know how much of a good actor you are.
/r/seduction24/06/22 04:45 PM
2

You did a bit too much. The beginning was alright but why did you keep pushing it? Where’s the rush? And why on Earth would you text again when she didn’t respond to your previous invite? See, as opposed to the general opinion of this sub, you CAN come back from a friendzone and no, attraction doesn’t have to be instant, it can grow over time when people get to know each other better. What you cannot come back from so easily is the Desperation Zone. Once she gets the ick, it’s pretty stuck there…
/r/seduction24/06/22 04:40 PM
1

This makes the situation pretty clear then. Not to mention the fact that they are literally only in a FWB thing, so I’m not sure what are those “relationship” and “cheating” people talk about in these comments 😂 Tbh, OP, she can probably get nearly anyone she wants and she chose to sleep with you. Chill out, not everyone sleeps around. Also, pretty girls are often tired of the hype of good looks and just want to be treated like people.
/r/seduction24/06/22 03:10 PM
3

She probably gets that all the time.
/r/seduction24/06/22 01:55 PM
3

Well based on your last sentence, you’re not going to like my answer. Nr 1: confidence Nr 2: good sense of humour Once you have those 2, everything else is trivial.
/r/seduction24/06/22 11:17 AM
2

Is it her job to attend those parties and events?
/r/seduction24/06/22 11:14 AM
2

I have to agree. Seeing yourself as a victim isn’t going to help, however this isn’t to say that the OP’s past experiences weren’t dreadful. The question is, OP, what are you going to do to fix this? I’m a bit confused about why would you go off the grid? Are you bothering anyone with your existance? And by the way, 28 is in no way too late for anything, especially for a man. You have, at the minimum, another 10 years to figure things out.
/r/seduction24/06/22 08:00 AM
1

Well, for starters, a confident one. A person shouldn’t be looking for validation from others to the point where it starts to inconvenience their life. We all do it to some extent just because we are “pack animals”, but it also lessens with age. The lack of confidence causes desperation and this won’t only affect the dating life but potentially everything else. How to achieve a better mindset? This is the much more difficult part, because there are so many pitfalls. One could end up becoming bit…
/r/seduction24/06/22 07:40 AM
1

Because, at the end of the day, real confidence doesn’t come from external sources. You need to work on your mindset.
/r/seduction24/06/22 06:24 AM
3

The guy sent her nudes, so he’s definitely not trying to do the right thing here. OP, please don’t ask him if he wants to marry you. 😅
/r/seduction23/06/22 04:05 PM
1

Ouch. This wouldn’t necessarily be a bad thing if the attraction was mutual, but that’s just not the case here…
/r/seduction23/06/22 04:01 PM
1

Girl, how do you lose the attention of a guy that sends you nudes? 😂 How did you respond?
/r/seduction23/06/22 03:55 PM
3

Do you have any female friends that you are not romantically interested in but still enjoy talking to? Try to copy that attitude you have when you communicate.
/r/seduction23/06/22 02:32 PM
3

It would make me think that he uses Snapchat as his main communication channel and this in turn seems immature. Don’t know how to explain it further, might be a personal thing, but pretty much not a good sign for me.
/r/seduction23/06/22 06:12 AM
1

What a respectful way to end this. I’m flattered! But sure, let’s do that.
/r/seduction22/06/22 09:43 PM
1

Or perhaps we should consider the idea that I have interacted with men outside of this sub as well?
/r/seduction22/06/22 09:39 PM
1

And yet they seem to fail in their studies. I can only speak for myself and say you are incorrect, but this is a very small sample size. 😄
/r/seduction22/06/22 09:32 PM
1

Forgot to ask for a source in the earlier comment, but would like to use the opportunity now. :)
/r/seduction22/06/22 09:22 PM
1

The “limited eggs” theory is hilarious. My intuition says there’s no causation. Although a bit oddly, you do raise an interesting topic, but I wonder if it wouldn’t be easier for you to google some scientific articles to find the answer? Why would you ask it in a subreddit which is 90% (I’m completely assuming here) men? Or were you counting on getting female insight?
/r/seduction22/06/22 09:17 PM
3

In that case: I would entertain your thought process if the “female intuition” was only about men. But it’s not.
/r/seduction22/06/22 08:46 PM
4

So are you asking or are you telling me I don’t have it?
/r/seduction22/06/22 08:40 PM
17

Every time a guy asks me for my Snapchat, I die a little bit inside.
/r/seduction22/06/22 07:21 PM
1

Even scholars don’t agree with them being interexchangeable (surely there are exceptions), never mind the general public.
/r/seduction22/06/22 06:59 PM
2

This. This is it.
/r/seduction22/06/22 05:24 PM
2

Was gonna write a similar response but yours is much better.
/r/seduction22/06/22 05:23 PM
3

People like to talk about themselves and girls are generally more talkative, so there you go. Anxiety can also make one lose the ability to conversate in a normal manner. And finally, some people are just full of themselves and there for free food or whatever. You yourself need to figure out which one it is.
/r/seduction22/06/22 05:08 PM
0

If it’s this hopeless, then you can always become rich. Or get surgeries. Ever seen what Tom Cruise looked like before he started getting his?
/r/seduction22/06/22 04:55 PM
1

Then the best thing you can do is respect her wishes, even though you’d probably like to drag her along. Otherwise at least 1 of you will end up getting hurt.
/r/seduction22/06/22 04:46 PM
1

To be fair I would assume sociopathy rather than psychopathy. It doesn’t have to be extreme and it doesn’t mean you’ll end up being a serial killer. Maybe this could be something to look into? Depending on the country you live in, it’s the psychiatrist or sometimes the psychologist who can diagnose you. I think you’d benefit from getting whatever is going on checked out.
/r/seduction22/06/22 04:43 PM
3

She could easily just be very busy at the moment and maybe also bad at keeping her calendar in order? But still, if someone is really interested, they will make time. She’s obviously not that into you and therefore isn’t prioritizing you. Doesn’t mean it can’t change. I think you should act based on what your dignity allows. If a male friend behaved like this, would it be acceptable for you? If you wouldn’t care, it’s fine. If it would bother you but you are still giving her chances, you’re desp…
/r/seduction22/06/22 04:30 PM
2

Agreed, but I’d stress that there is a difference between witty banter and being a class clown.
/r/seduction22/06/22 11:32 AM
2

A coping mechanism indeed, probably the same for OP. If you want to change it, you need to figure out why you behave like that. Read books/watch informative videos about the topic, pretty sure it’s well-researched.
/r/seduction22/06/22 11:30 AM
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Could it be a personality disorder? My second guess would be a messed up childhood/broken family dynamic. Doesn’t sound like something a person should have to just live with.
/r/seduction21/06/22 09:52 PM
5

In terms of the rudeness level, you definitely shouldn’t say something you wouldn’t say to your friend. Some girls like banter, nobody likes insults. Good quality women will mentally throw you into the trashcan as soon as you start negging.
/r/seduction21/06/22 08:04 PM
0

I do agree with you - manipulation is a part of life and everyone does it to an extent. What you were describing is f*cking with a person’s psyche, since being “clingy, obsessed and in need of someone’s attention” is not a healthy human behaviour. Then you take it one step further and call it “crazy”, although you created it. Which part of this seems rationally acceptable to you?
/r/seduction21/06/22 07:59 PM
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I would put it a bit differently. Firstly, OP, what’s your own racial background? Secondly, while I do agree that there is entitlement involved, I’d say it’s simply because society puts white women on a pedestal. Very similar to why pretty girls are sometimes entitled - they can afford it. Both groups have some advantages over non-white women & less attractive girls respectively. Goes for men as well tbh, just basic human behaviour.
/r/seduction21/06/22 07:23 PM
2

And why’s that?
/r/seduction21/06/22 07:16 PM
1

Well at least you know the answer to that, but I am wondering what do you, personally, want? Leaving her out of the equation. Do you want a fling with someone? A long term thing? A forever thing?
/r/seduction21/06/22 06:34 PM
3

Jerk off beforehand?
/r/seduction21/06/22 06:26 PM
1

Are you looking for something long term?
/r/seduction21/06/22 06:23 PM
0

This, sir, is called manipulation.
/r/seduction21/06/22 06:20 PM
1

I’ll be here waiting with you, cause… 😂
/r/seduction21/06/22 06:19 PM
1

You have no idea how many ugly guys have girlfriends. Those girls are usually not over 5/10 but still.
/r/seduction21/06/22 06:14 PM
6

I think that by nature women are more sensitive, therefore more likely to feel guilt in such situations which ends up with them avoiding it altogether. However, it is very, very common that guys turn into bitter, malicious assholes after getting rejected, no matter how kindly it’s done. So do not take it personally, it is not pleasant for the female either. There are always exceptions! Some just don’t give a damn about your feelings.
/r/seduction21/06/22 06:08 PM
5

Lmao. “No sex, no food!”
/r/seduction21/06/22 06:01 PM
3

Will let my momma know, bro.
/r/seduction21/06/22 03:02 PM
1

Throw any rationality out of the window and boom, you’re 18 again. In all seriousness, I think you are stopping your own fun.
/r/seduction21/06/22 12:07 AM
2

Definitely not too late to start. Might take a few years but after that you’ll still be young enough to start over when it comes to dating. I hope betterhelp works out for you. If not, don’t hesitate to try out more “conventional” ways of therapy. Getting help is expensive but a better investment than attempting to fix someone whose life is in shambles.
/r/seduction20/06/22 10:45 PM
1

Alright alright. I understand I was a bit harsh. Here’s your gameplan: Seriously, start therapy Fix your confidence Start dating women who have their s**t together Nothing in your description of yourself says you need to settle. You need to fix your mental health before you start looking for a partner, because right now you won’t be able to start a healthy relationship. So, 2 options: you settle for… I don’t even know whom you’d end up with. A heroin addict? Or fix yourself. Good luck.
/r/seduction20/06/22 10:16 PM
1

You have accidentally arrived at the right conclusion. You do need therapy if you choose women based on how much power you have over them. She saw the red flags and dipped.
/r/seduction20/06/22 10:05 PM
1

And now we know why you’re here. :)
/r/seduction20/06/22 07:27 PM
1

Some answers in this sub are gold.
/r/seduction20/06/22 07:12 PM
6

ASAP, before she gets attached. And stop taking her out on dates, you’re blurring the lines.
/r/seduction20/06/22 06:15 PM
5

Absolutely not. You should keep fucking her, taking her out for dinners, meet her parents and befriend her dog. Then after a year tell her that you’re not over your ex and you’re not looking for anything serious anyway. Don’t forget to add “I thought you knew!” Bruh…
/r/seduction20/06/22 06:11 PM
7

Be honest about wanting something very casual and don’t forget to mention that you are also seeing other people so that she would know there is a chance of STD’s going around. Not saying you’re carrying any, but that is important health-related information. Finally, don’t gaslight. Be upfront, even if that means she won’t want to continue seeing you. Don’t be a dick, give her the right to choose based on full information.
/r/seduction20/06/22 05:08 PM
1

Yup you can do that. Another tip: stalk her social media and find out if she’s even single, you can avoid a lot of embarrassment. Don’t leave a trail though.
/r/seduction20/06/22 04:28 PM
1

Are you sure he/she isn’t just doing their job by being nice? I wouldn’t be too aggressive with the approach (as in, asking them out right away) because it can be awkward later on, so what if you approach in a friendly manner and test the waters a bit?
/r/seduction20/06/22 03:46 PM
5

Is that… projection? 😉
/r/seduction20/06/22 03:39 PM
1

Yes, you should talk about something other than her. She probably gets those 🔥🔥🔥 reaction emojis from other guys anyway. I cannot know what she posts, but I’d assume from time to time there is something other than a picture full of her face? Cats/dogs? Food? 😂
/r/seduction20/06/22 03:36 PM
1

Honest truth is that it definitely reduces your number of options if it’s visible. What you are saying implies that it is, so not talking about it doesn’t make sense, as it will be the elephant in the room. I don’t think you’re doomed, just need to acknowledge that it’s going to be more difficult for you. Don’t let the desperation take over - THEN you’re done.
/r/seduction20/06/22 01:00 PM
9

Does she post stories? Respond to one of them and start a discussion. “Hello stranger” is not the way to go I think. Try to be more original.
/r/seduction20/06/22 12:31 PM
1

It does, and it’s something I actually wanted to add after I had posted. Good pictures will take you far as long as you look clean and put together. They shouldn’t look as if you’ve gone to a photo studio (that would be weird) but just taken by someone with a good eye. My advice: have a female take them for you.
/r/seduction20/06/22 12:17 PM
1

So you just want to be the popular kid. Have you asked yourself why? Do you feel like that would increase your self worth? Not trying to be your psychologist, so of course you don’t need to respond if you don’t want to. What you are aiming for is very superficial and while I do think it’s quite a normal feeling, I think there are ways around it. In my opinion working on yourself (your confidence) is in a way easier and in the long run MUCH more beneficial than choosing a career to gain approval,…
/r/seduction20/06/22 12:13 PM
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I don’t think you should read too much into it tbh. She was just being friendly.
/r/seduction20/06/22 11:16 AM
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Firstly, I completely agree that looks matter (at least in the initial phase) and you will for sure get more attention when you become more muscular. Fat people also notice that when they start losing weight. Considering that you are only 22, I do think you should fuck around for a bit yes. Get it out of your system as they say. However I am struggling a bit to understand what you mean by “status”. I don’t think DJ’s and PT’s are socially that respected but maybe they have many females drooling …
/r/seduction20/06/22 11:00 AM
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Is this reliable info? Is it only for guys or females as well?
/r/seduction20/06/22 09:41 AM
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I may have missed this but what’s your goal? Do you want hookups or a girlfriend? DJ’s and PT coaches are generally not relationship material to be honest, no offense to them. Could it be that you are trying to attract girls with superficial mindset? Because thinking that you need to have muscles or money in order to get someone seems a bit questionable. However, of course cultures are different and wherever you live, that might just be the standard.
/r/seduction20/06/22 09:39 AM
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I would be wearing much more revealing outfits if I knew nobody’s looking. I like to see myself look good. Another possibility: maybe she had an outfit in mind and couldn’t wait until the weather gets warmer to wear it? I definitely have outfits pop into my mind from time to time and can’t rest before I wear them. Could also be looking for attention, but that you can usually see from their behaviour. Overall I think it’s a bit outdated assumption, these days women just want to be able to wear wh…
/r/seduction20/06/22 09:29 AM
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As a female, I think a guy has to be above average attractive in order to be successful on dating apps. This is my opinion based on hearing the experiences and of course swiping myself. I don’t think I would have swiped right on most of my exes, but in reality I didn’t find them unattractive. Granted, they weren’t models, but it didn’t really matter. I can take a look at your profile if you want though.
/r/seduction20/06/22 09:25 AM
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It depends. You most likely won’t pull a girl every night, but it doesn’t remove you from the overall equation. Some girls prefer the quiet guys because they seem more reliable than the “life of the party” kinds. However some people have correctly commented here that it really depends whether you look insecure or content with yourself and “mysterious”. The first one pretty likely won’t get approached. The second one will.
/r/seduction17/06/22 03:59 PM
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It depends. You most likely won’t pull a girl every night, but it doesn’t remove you from the overall equation. Some girls prefer the quiet guys because they seem more reliable than the “life of the party” kinds. However some people have correctly commented here that it really depends whether you look insecure or content with yourself and “mysterious”. The first one pretty likely won’t get approached. The second one will.
/r/seduction17/06/22 03:59 PM
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I don’t think I can help you with examples, as I’ve never had to seduce a woman lol, but I do want you to remember that females can be socially awkward and anxious as well. Even many of the 10/10 ones. So you aren’t approaching a goddess from Venus who looks down on you if you aren’t cool enough. Some are assholes but those would be a nightmare to deal with in the long run anyway.
/r/seduction17/06/22 03:23 PM
1

I don’t think I can help you with examples, as I’ve never had to seduce a woman lol, but I do want you to remember that females can be socially awkward and anxious as well. Even many of the 10/10 ones. So you aren’t approaching a goddess from Venus who looks down on you if you aren’t cool enough. Some are assholes but those would be a nightmare to deal with in the long run anyway.
/r/seduction17/06/22 03:23 PM
1

Repulsive indeed.
/r/seduction17/06/22 03:14 PM
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I am not trying to push my narrative, but I do want to bring in alternative explanations. So, it’s possible she hasn’t unfollowed you simply because she’s non-confrontational. If so, she’d probably leave you on “read” if you texted her or after a few texts. But I could be wrong and the situation could have been much more positive.
/r/seduction17/06/22 03:04 PM
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Did she give you her instagram voluntarily or did she hesitate? Tbh sounds like you made her feel uncomfortable, I don’t think it’s a good idea to text. Better luck next time!
/r/seduction17/06/22 10:21 AM
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Agreed. I think she was just trying to be funny. To answer the question in the title: yes, it can happen that a female wants to get to know you a bit before meeting up, for several reasons: 1) She is shy or anxious and wants to feel a bit comfortable with you before meeting up. 2) Wants to make sure you vibe at least a little bit in order to avoid an awkward date. .. there are probably more but those popped in my head first. Anyway, just don’t be too pushy and hint about meeting up every day. Wh…
/r/seduction17/06/22 10:17 AM
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The girl just wants to date someone at least slightly taller than her. Give her a break.
/r/seduction17/06/22 10:12 AM
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Pretty sure it’s fake. If not, I’m calling the cops.
/r/seduction17/06/22 10:08 AM
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I don’t think you should go with the first option… 😅 Second one sounds pretty okay, I’d just end it with “free this weekend?” It’s fairly confident and unexpected I think, would think it’d work.
/r/seduction17/06/22 10:02 AM
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I like your answer! And I get your point. I was thinking of it afterwards and somewhat came to a conclusion that the dresscode is probably on the same importance level with body language, just from real life observations. Therefore dressing “too well” wouldn’t necessarily be the end of it. After all, women who dare to express themselves through their clothing style tend to be more confident (I am talking about tasteful clothing, not running around titties and ass out lol). And what do confident …
/r/seduction17/06/22 09:50 AM
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Then you should do exactly that, if you are able to keep things neutral of course. Just because she’s not romantically interested in you doesn’t mean she has no respect for you. She can be the person you can discuss exactly these kind of questions with. Use her wisely lol.
/r/seduction16/06/22 06:43 PM
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An hour or 2? I’d think you’re talking about a day or 2. People are busy, dude.
/r/seduction16/06/22 06:40 PM
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I’d assume the alcohol will do the job for you, no worries. Even if not, she will initiate after a few drinks.
/r/seduction16/06/22 04:56 PM
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Well damn if this ain’t disappointing… Appreciate the response though!
/r/seduction16/06/22 04:47 PM
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Could you elaborate on “dressing too fancy”? Does it mean “weird, unique” clothing or more of a “she’s too stylish”? Is it because men get intimidated and don’t feel like they have a chance with that female?
/r/seduction16/06/22 03:28 PM
1

So once you get into a relationship, you’ll never have a casual conversation with a female again?
/r/seduction15/06/22 10:31 PM
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You should.
/r/seduction15/06/22 10:04 PM
1

Did it look like you were having a painful heart attack or more like you maybe lost your train of thought? Since you’re saying that she may not even have noticed, I’m assuming it’s the latter. Don’t worry about it. If something that small ruined it for her, she wasn’t interested enough anyway.
/r/seduction15/06/22 10:03 PM
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I’m a straight female, so not worried about all the dicks that are happily getting sucked out there. Just offered my point of view to the OP, although not in the response to you but in another one above. Your comment was just too extreme not to say anything.
/r/seduction15/06/22 09:05 PM
1

A bit of a far-fetched assumption, no?
/r/seduction15/06/22 08:56 PM
1

This is hilarious. Don’t take it seriously, she’s just really into zodiac signs and has concluded that Sags ain’t it. Nothing wrong with you.
/r/seduction15/06/22 08:55 PM
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Dude I’m confused just reading this and it has nothing to do with the way you write lol. She seems emotionally damaged, or maybe it’s just because she’s an artistic person - I don’t get those. But to answer your question which I assume was about me saying not to contact her even as time passes. Just speaking from personal experience, since some guys feel no shame texting every couple of months while being left on read every single time. It’s embarrassing. Just looking out for ya!
/r/seduction15/06/22 08:51 PM
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It’s always somebody else’s fault, right? What will happen for you from here on is that you expect every female you meet to be materialistic. Sometimes you will be on point, but there will be times when you’ll scare away the good ones because of your bitter attitude. It will be just you and your right hand (sometimes left for some variety) riding into the sunset. No but seriously, you’re messing it up for yourself. It ain’t that bad out there.
/r/seduction15/06/22 08:45 PM
4

The insecurity is loud in this one.
/r/seduction15/06/22 08:34 PM
2

Pretty much.
/r/seduction15/06/22 08:33 PM
2

Maybe she’s staying in the relationship out of comfort? Do you have kids or are dependent on each other somehow? Propose couple’s counselling and if she’s not up for fixing the relationship, there is absolutely nothing you can do. Another option is that you have pissed her off to no end, so there is an actual reason to this. Talk to her? Communicate?
/r/seduction15/06/22 08:32 PM
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100% do not text again before she contacts you. Not even after some time has passed. Something seems off about her by the way. Is she a pretty girl that gets a lot of attention?
/r/seduction15/06/22 08:20 PM
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It seems like your actual problem is the fact that her ex is her manager at work. This is what you should focus on. As for the clothes - no, it does not necessarily mean anything. I have my ex boyfriend’s tshirt which is one of my favourite things to wear at home. It’s so… worn in, big and comfortable. Wish I had stolen one of those thick big hoodies, can’t seem to find a good one anywhere.
/r/seduction15/06/22 08:12 PM
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Is your face fat, ugly or do you just have a bit chubby cheeks? The knife-sharp jawline you see on social media isn’t realistic and I doubt girls your age are looking for specifically that. You said you’re tall so you’ve got one of the most important things in your pocket already. Now, what you really need is confidence. Easier said than done though, but girls love a reasonably confident guy.
/r/seduction15/06/22 12:27 PM
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What even is the advice in this comment section? The most likely answer is that she is hurt because she obviously misinterpreted the situation. She can’t bring it up, because it seems like you two aren’t official yet (even then, young people don’t always communicate openly and honestly). So if she did bring it up right now, she’d risk looking crazy, since there are many guys who would gaslight the s..t out of her in response. In my opinion, the best thing you can do is subtly bring up the other …
/r/seduction15/06/22 12:22 PM
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