Dating a Model - Tips

d_pock_chope_bruh · 2022-06-24T12:30:31+00:00

Lol there's no way she's adhering to the just you part.. I wager she likes that (you) and only you adhered to the agreement.

mrblack-- · 2022-06-24T12:04:24+00:00

First mistake was you asking her for exclusivity… she’s supposed to ask you. But whatever

But this is what you do.

STAY BORING.

You be THE EXACT OPPOSITE of her party life.

You have to bring such a calmness that if she leaves you her life will only be partying.

You’re dates should be quite shit, like food markets, the beach, museums n shit.

NEVER go to 1 of her events or parties it will make you insecure, go to gym gym, eat healthy, don’t drink, sort out her finances, make a plan for her life outside of modelling/ partying… then make her start to do that. Make her eat good, work out do yoga and shit.

She will brag to her friends about how uninterested you are in partying.

You have to be stability in her life, I REPEAT DO NOT TRY TO OUT PARTY HERE YOU WILL LOSE.

NEVER ask her why she doesn’t contact you

You have to be a solid guy, that means you need to always be levelling up financially, physically spiritually you have a model bro it’s either that or be a complete loser who does drugs and is super unpredictable but the fact you’re asking for advice here, I know you’re not that guy

Oh and fuck the shit out of her lol

Liberaler · 2022-06-24T17:18:41+00:00

I think you caught feelings and don't want to admit it. It's between the lines. You don't say it directly, but imho you are aiming for a relationship.
She is partying regularly with attractive men. Alcohol is involved. You are not there. Do you really think, she is ready for a relationship?

Aramid55 · 2022-06-24T10:17:11+00:00

Have other options open, meet other girls too etc to have sone balance in this relationship. If she is partying all the time it's very naive to think she will be loyal even if she agreed to.

Have fun and enjoy while it last but don't get attached. It's fwb not relationship

focus_flow69 · 2022-06-24T17:11:45+00:00

If you’re asking how to sustain a relationship, then you’ve already lost.

Big mistake asking her to be exclusive. That’s HER job. Next girlfriend, you wait for her to bring up exclusivity while you continue to fuck other girls.

source: 40+ women banged/dated including professional strippers etc

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-06-24T11:04:36+00:00

It's kind of like a man who works in the porn industry being expected to be faithful. Not saying it's impossible, but with so much temptation out there she is sure to stray. Just accept it and don't be jealous and weird. The more carefree you are, the more likely you are to keep her. You are likely not the first nor last man who falls head over heels for her and gets needy and clingy.

bestmenrmenatbest · 2022-06-24T16:16:12+00:00

I have dated a model before. Just enjoy and don’t take it too seriously

ashton_men · 2022-06-24T19:24:49+00:00

Lettuce pray for our fallen brother who is being so naïve and not seeing the bigger picture. Amen

Environmental_Work63 · 2022-06-24T14:51:59+00:00

This sounds complicated mate. As other had said, continue seeing other people, but this becomes a bit hypocritical if you decide to sleep with someone else. You’re already one step ahead of anyone honestly, just don’t fuck it up. She’s coming to you for uncomplicated sex, when you’re not seeing her, just go out with your friends or continue finding a new hobby you genuinely like, this will kill that insecurity of her returning home late. If she decides you’re boring then that’s her lost and don’t take it personal. You literally had sex with a model who kept on coming back. Continue taking time to plan nice fun dates, she will see you take time to plan dates and will compare you with others who half-ass date night. Either way, win-win for you. At least you have new spots to bring another woman to.

Don’t get oneitis, you have the right to take a break if you’re developing this. If you’re ever feeling jealous or insecure, it’s okay to stop dating and work on yourself.

ozzzy83 · 2022-06-24T17:02:17+00:00

Well, party girls, especially if they party that often, unless REALLY in love with you, will cheat when they drink a couple of drinks more. That is just a fact, it's a matter of time. A party girl prefers a guy who will also be a party guy, if you aren't, and she goes with her friends often, then it's a matter of time until someone seduces her, and bang her (or more of them).

U1tra1ightBeam · 2022-06-24T11:14:41+00:00

Is it her job to attend those parties and events?

pua_max · 2022-06-24T14:02:03+00:00

I like the comment that says “stay boring”. I agree with a slight twist - be like a rock to her. Listen to her hopes and aspirations. Walk with her through her past trauma. Make her feel understood. Allow her to completely open up to you and calmly help her reflect on how she wants to live her life. Through all of this, think 0 about yourself. You’re basically a therapist, a 3rd party, etc.

I once met a girl (who indeed was very cute) who made me feel truly understood. When we went out for the first time she insisted on paying for my coffee. I felt like she really got me and had high standards for how I should live my life. I recall during the date I got a call from my mom. I turned it off. And she said something like “If you don’t pick that up I’m going to beat the shit out of you”. Like semi-jokingly. But her strong sense of values (in this case family values) really got to me. It didn’t end up working out, but I still think about her. I’d take her over a generic model or 10 any day.

mjornir · 2022-06-24T14:31:48+00:00

Sounds like she likes you just by being you. So keep doing you, treat her like anyone else you’d be fucking and don’t put her on a pedestal

jayjonas1996 · 2022-06-24T15:03:36+00:00

Do any of you have experience dating models

Come on man now you're just rubbing it my face, but anyway hope someone can help you out.

cangero0 · 2022-06-24T17:09:44+00:00

Now usually I hate this saying, but I think in your specific case, this saying applies:

She's not yours, it's just your turn.

So don't get too hung up about "owning" her, just enjoy it while you can.

Total_Obligation_371 · 2022-06-24T18:14:10+00:00

You can't stop her from losing interest. When she wants to leave, she'll leave. Just enjoy it while it lasts.

Repulsive-Fee393 · 2022-06-24T18:56:44+00:00

Bro….. this isn’t sustainable unless you Jack up your value in life big time, she needs to see other hot women wanting you. Like pay them if you have to just to make an impression but sadly bro her being a model gives her way more kudos than you.

yiggaman · 2022-06-24T20:33:25+00:00

You failed the moment you asked for exclusivity. You're supposed to let her do that. Enjoy your time my guy. Don't do no clingy shit like that again tho

nordik1 · 2022-06-24T22:09:06+00:00

I’ve worked with models for a few years and have dated a few. The key is always cultivating more options or you will be too focused on your one and get caught up in your feelings like you already have

Never assume she is staying committed to your sexual exclusivity without giving her full commitment. Assume she is taking other dick and your life will be easier

Again, never stop cultivating options and dating other women if you don’t want to commit to her, otherwise you will drown in a sea of feels while she is out there cultivating her own options

Lastly, you have to have an irrational level of confidence. If you allow yourself to be intimidated by these other male models she will smell it a mile away. You must have a true iron-clad confidence level to you, and that is going to come from a combination of being on your own shit and again, cultivating other options all the time

Also let me just say, your sexual exclusivity without overall exclusivity is stupid. Pick one side or the other. Sit in the middle and you will lose this one unless you’re a savage constantly churning out women, but you’re not since you asked for sexual exclusivity so this is going to be a virtually unwinnable uphill battle because you will always care more than her.

Brian_S7 · 2022-06-24T23:16:31+00:00

How are you so gullible 😂😂

mrcrow77 · 2022-06-25T06:21:14+00:00

Bro ima be honest with you, this girl is sorruounded by high valuable man (not only handsome models but also rich mans) and she is already giving signs of having other options.

Not texting you when she’s partying or not texting for days

-That ig shit she did it on purpose

Never listen to what a women says, judge her by her actions, she says she’ll commit to you, but acts like she’s looking for better options.

You went into her frame big time by asking her for exclusivity.

Connect with your masculinity, keep your frame and confidence, give 0 fucks about what she may do and have an interesting life, don’t gravitate towards her.

Threat her like she were some regular pussy, I know it’s hard because she’s got and that’s of weak point, but don’t let yourself start to slowly pedestalize her

persiancat_god · 2022-06-25T06:39:42+00:00

Don't listen to them, read this.

Fashion model is a very demanding job, the travelling can be very taxing, the photoshoot can take hours just the shoot alone without considering the make up session, fashion week is literally hell, running across city get dressed and getting make up on for 2-3 min walk and repeat that again multiple time. Female model doesn't usually go for male model, especially male runway model. Connecting and socialising is central part of their job, going to club or just having drink after show or photoshoot is the norm.

Look, you've already got yourself a partner with striking feature, that's something most people here could ever dream of. You need to get over your jealousy if you want to carry on with her, you can't expect her to not mingle with other male model, promoter or designer cause ITS THEIR JOB, if you can't, save yourself and hers time and end it. You've both already made a deal about exclusivity, man up and honour it, if she fail to honour it then that's not on you.

Try to understand from her point of view.

Aramid55 · 2022-06-24T11:22:13+00:00

Yeah don't do it, don't put yourself lower than her. With this mindset she is better and hotter you are kind of losing it.

Enjoy time with her and focus on your thigns instead of thinking what she is doing when she is not with you.

Most of guys would like to be in a place where they can have fwb with model. Hehe. Consider yourself lucky

poorwardobservations · 2022-06-24T14:31:37+00:00

I’ve ran the influencer (anywhere between 10-250k followers, not full pro model though) gauntlet a couple times now. I think a lot of them want to keep something on the side like what you have- but you won’t be priority. For me this wasn’t an issue because they weren’t a priority of mine. But for you it sounds like it might be. At the end of the day clout comes first.

OpenComparison · 2022-06-24T15:04:28+00:00

Either be the most interesting person in the world or the most boring. No in between. These are ur options

STROOQ · 2022-06-24T19:02:24+00:00

She’s not a model, she’s a person and a human being who might want more in life than narcissistic hot guys that get everything they want.

You’re her breath of fresh air 😉

Glacier_Sama · 2022-06-24T17:46:10+00:00

The Key here is to become an Alpha Male and maintain that status. Increase your testosterone and DHT. Your masculine hormones will retain the womans sexual attention, which in turn will retain her romantic attention as well.

henlofr · 2022-06-24T13:21:51+00:00

Use it as leverage to get more.

Wolfpack360 · 2022-06-24T15:25:16+00:00

What’s keeping you from dating her but still wanting exclusivity? You already see her multiple times per week so the only thing that’s keeping this from being a relationship is putting a label on it. In my personal experience, expecting exclusivity without commitment all too often doesn’t end up playing out in your favor. You can’t have your cake and eat it too and if you can, just remember that eventually you’ll be out of cake, so just enjoy it for what it is and while it lasts. Every situation is different though.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-06-24T15:31:56+00:00

Enjoy it while it lasts. Unless she’s incredibly loyal and values monogamy ,you’re going to have a very difficult time maintaining a relationship with her. She’ll be approached and hit on continuously by men that have more money, power and status then you. Very important that you NOT become possessive or jealous and that you let her know you trust her. In reality, this is counterintuitive to what you’ll actually be feeling inside.

Good luck.

Pookiethetwentieth · 2022-06-24T16:06:27+00:00

To be honest she may appear okay with it but you’ve set a standard for her she’s okay with despite not fully committing. It’s kinda unfair to her. You can’t be perfect enough at sex to still not have someone get curious enough to want to try something or someone else. However, she’s definitely much more likely to say no if she’s committed. Also if that’s your reasoning for not committing you should stop asking her to be exclusive and seek other options too.

rotaderpxepa · 2022-06-24T16:38:25+00:00

Eat her pussy and fuck her exactly the way she likes every single day. If you get her brain chemically hooked on orgasms from you she will stay with you forever.

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2022-06-24T20:26:29+00:00

You enjoy the ride, and accept that you cannot control her actions or her emotions towards you.

Just be grateful to her and for her, for whatever amount of time it lasts. If it ends, let it end.

Peelfest2016 · 2022-06-24T20:51:08+00:00

Sounds fucking exhausting to me. Hope you have fun though bud.

vroomvroomski · 2022-06-24T21:53:21+00:00

I'm dating a model and I must say your situation is fucked because you feel below her and she maybe will pick up on it.

My girl also gets dms from hot dudes and celebs, but I feel secure because I know I'm also a catch and we make a great team.

If you don't wanna commit that much energy just use her to find other girls

jjboy91 · 2022-06-24T23:06:31+00:00

Don't out her on a pedestal or whatever because she's model. You are already friend so keep doing what you do because you know she already value you and your time

321gumby · 2022-06-25T03:34:59+00:00

Your fucked bro... Enjoy the ride

HyakuShichifukujin · 2022-06-25T03:56:46+00:00

Not going to sugar coat it - the moment you focus all your effort, hopes, and dreams on one and only one woman, you’ve already lost half the battle. When you verbalize this to her and make it a social contract (with all the negative emotions that are expected to arise when - not if, but when - one of you breaks it and the other finds out) you’ve lost the other half.

I don’t have any advice for you for this relationship, but for the future get familiar with the concept of “oneitis”, understand how it is a killer of men, and do what it takes not to succumb to it. You want to become the interesting one with other options, and be busy enough with life (this doesn’t necessarily mean partying) to not have time to be texting one person all the damn time.

Visual-Guide5473 · 2022-06-25T05:02:24+00:00

Congrats on getting yourself a model girlfriend. Now go get yourself a harem of models to ensure you don’t get oneitis for this one girl. You’ll be living the dream of pretty much every man on this subreddit.

Visual-Guide5473 · 2022-06-25T05:13:00+00:00

Haha jk - ok actual advice. You have to understand most models are insecure and broke. They don’t make a ton of money and often are worried about their future. A lot of them actually don’t prefer to date male models because they get bored of these men very easily and in some cases feel more insecure around them. Models respond best to guys who don’t put them on a pedestal and treat them like normal girls, and aren’t afraid of them. Most models date average looking guys because they care more about personality than looks in men.

Keep doing what you’re doing but don’t put her on a pedestal, and keep the relationship fun and playful.

2-0-3 · 2022-06-25T05:34:51+00:00

if you only want a fwb situation why should she text you when she’s out partying? i don’t even text guys i may want a potential relationship with during my nights out with friends. i don’t get why you want her to meet your standards - which are very relationship-like but you’re also saying that you’d cut her off if she wanted a relationship. that’s not really fair. as long as she’s not sleeping with anyone else, she hasn’t broken your agreement. if guys flirt with her, what’s it to you? she’s not yours, and you say that you don’t want her to be, but then you’re still jealous?

strawberrysweetpea · 2022-06-25T05:55:23+00:00

Honestly, the advice in here is so out of touch with reality. She is WORKING. Even though they’re called parties, these parties still take a lot of emotional energy. She’s probably way more concerned with networking and replaying things that went wrong during fashion shows than she is with the male models. It’s human to notice that people are attractive, but actually flirting…thinking of clever comebacks and impressing someone…If she’s serious about her work, I doubt she’d have the energy for that.

Someone said y’all aren’t dating because she’s keeping her options open, but maybe it’s really just because she’s afraid of validating the idea that it’s hard for women to be in FWB relationships. Or maybe she’s human and gets confused when things aren’t clearly defined or gets scared of rejection like most people. Let her speak for herself. You wanna know what’s sexy these days? Directness. Open the conversation instead of putting something that could be good into other people’s hands. How do they actually know what she’s thinking and feeling about this?

Title	Dating a Model - Tips
Author	amuster588
Upvotes	51
Comments	118
Date	June 24, 2022 10:12 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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