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Logisticsmjornir/r/seduction18/08/22 03:38 PM
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You’re gaslighting yourself into these beliefs, much like the red pill does. There are millions upon millions of nonwhite/nonasian women that are beautiful by any standard, and are desired and/or in relationships. Societal standards do not reflect individual standards, and you’ll be as desirable on the dating market as anyone else without surgery. Personally I think North African women are some of the prettiest on the planet (and being tan is VERY much a good thing). Plenty of others do too. Ple…
/r/ExRedPill10/07/25 09:37 PM
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Yeah therapy’s a must
/r/ExRedPill16/04/25 08:03 AM
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Sounds like dude was put through the wringer with this girl. Pretty much every guy’s worst nightmare of a situation and it’s clear he’s not taking it well. At this stage he needs a good male bond or role model to pull him out of this funk most likely
/r/ExRedPill16/04/25 12:10 AM
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If you take it as an insult then maybe the message was meant for you
/r/ExRedPill26/03/25 02:45 PM
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My rule stands as this: it’s a non-issue if your partner finds someone else attractive. The issue begins when they’re attracted to someone
/r/ExRedPill07/03/25 02:01 AM
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There’s definitely a balance on when to cut it off IMO. At least for me, I get attached relatively early and so if I found myself attached to two different women it would become emotionally messy for me, even though I wasn’t doing anything wrong or unethical. But regardless, agree that in the early stages it’s best to date at least 2 women so you don’t get super attached to the one by mistake. Having another caps how much you can get attached
/r/seduction27/01/25 04:17 AM
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Yall are WAY too in your own heads on this and it drives me insane. Most of the time you see “don’t approach women, they don’t want it” it’s coming from one specific woman who is projecting her preferences onto every woman. Most women won’t care and some will even be flattered you approached. It’s also incredibly unlikely someone’s going to call you a creep or accuse you of harassment for merely starting a convo, as long as you’re respectful and accept all forms of “no” right away. And on the of…
/r/seduction15/01/25 03:48 AM
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Always. Flip side is I don’t get dinner. NEVER do dinner for the first date. But yeah if they don’t wanna meet again I chalk it up aa an investment in getting closer to someone who is interested. Plus, I like being generous and providing, so I never mind treating for the first date or really first few dates
/r/seduction10/01/25 12:55 AM
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Then learn from the failure, ffs. Try to actually improve yourself instead of using a digital crutch to fake intimacy.
/r/seduction03/01/25 04:05 PM
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Nah you have to fail to learn. ChatGPT/AI doesn’t provide that opportunity
/r/seduction03/01/25 07:20 AM
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I think you gotta find a balance/mixture, honestly. Like be persistent once you’ve determined interest, but also show that you’re prepared to walk away at any moment without breaking a sweat. That you want her but don’t need her.
/r/seduction12/12/24 12:47 AM
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Having gotten lucky with public transit on my end, I usually just ask for their insta or phone # and follow up later-if they’re genuinely busy, ain’t shit you can do. If you really want an instant close tho, ask what stop they get off at, and see if they wanna meet somewhere close to that stop for a happy hour-or maybe ask if they wanna meet afterward. Prob works best on weekends or Thursdays
/r/seduction29/11/24 06:57 PM
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Be less “gentlemanly” a bit, tone down the compliments, and tease her
/r/seduction29/11/24 06:02 PM
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If she’s saying that right off the bat, like the other guy said it’s a sign you need to maybe cool the eagerness/gentlemen jets a bit. But if you’ve been seeing each other for a bit it’s fine. It’s a yellow flag if it’s your first impression bc it means you’re giving nice guy vibes
/r/seduction29/11/24 06:02 PM
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Maybe the hair pulling is a bit much, try cooling on that a little and be a bit more gentle? Not that it’s bad, plenty of women appreciate it, but maybe you’re just coming off aggressive early on
/r/seduction22/11/24 03:34 AM
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I know how to meet and approach women, have done it plenty. I’m just curious what that commenter specifically did for himself that worked. Like if he approached in specific types of places, time of day, if he lived in a certain city or type of neighborhood, etc. I have a system that works for me but curious what others do
/r/seduction20/11/24 05:09 PM
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Honest question how do you have the time/resources for so many women? And how many might you be talking to at any given time? Sorry for the double questions lol
/r/seduction20/11/24 01:39 AM
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Have you ever thought you got all the signals you didn’t click with someone and then asked them home anyway and it worked? What are some things that definitely didn’t work and/or mistakes you know not to repeat? And how did you meet the majority of these women?
/r/seduction20/11/24 01:38 AM
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What’s an example of a go-to first date for you, and what’s an example of an outfit you would wear? Also, how did you meet these women to ask on dates?
/r/seduction20/11/24 01:36 AM
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Let the regret stick in your mind and use it as motivation to approach the next woman you find attractive
/r/seduction04/11/24 09:33 PM
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Got on a trolley in downtown New Orleans, met a gal while boarding, 15 blocks down the line I took her back to my hostel room I’m not gonna act like I didn’t luck into it lmao but my general advice is to talk to everyone, expect nothing at all, and be open to every surprise. And have but a single beer
/r/seduction04/11/24 08:58 PM
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One time in college a girl was in my room and wanted to use my phone charger. My reaction was to tell her to get out of my room 🤦🏻‍♂️
/r/seduction04/11/24 08:52 PM
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no more expensive dinner dates over $100. I hope to god you’re not doing these in the first 2-3 dates
/r/seduction26/10/24 10:57 AM
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However, question though-if it’s what she wants, how do I factor last minute resistance into that equation? How do I respond? It’s been an obstacle before
/r/seduction16/10/24 09:59 AM
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I’d hardly say I come off as an asshole, but frankly sometimes I think I need to be. I have a history of being too nice sometimes and I’ve been working to be better about that
/r/seduction16/10/24 09:58 AM
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Now see this is the shit I need to hear. You’re right. Who am I to deny them what they want? How could I say these good things about myself and then turn around and think those women didn’t want me to make a move? Thanks man
/r/seduction16/10/24 12:20 AM
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But I don’t feel like I’m getting better, I’m just repeating the same mistakes but with slightly different flavors. I don’t enjoy it anymore, I just feel like a fucking idiot, like I’m Charlie Brown trying to kick the football again, wondering the whole time if it’s gonna end the same way (and then it does)
/r/seduction15/10/24 11:26 PM
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I actually like a consistent yoga class/teacher/routine so for me it’s don’t shit where I eat. Even so, I’ve never really found them to be good social spaces, which is surprising because my understanding would be that they’re great for that.
/r/seduction11/10/24 12:26 PM
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Tell them no. You’re not getting anything from that interaction, don’t bother
/r/seduction29/09/24 05:40 PM
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Of course man! Happy to chat, I hope it helps. Good luck out there
/r/seduction12/09/24 12:36 AM
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Then move somewhere bigger
/r/seduction12/09/24 12:27 AM
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Look I’m sorry you experienced that. But if the cops questioned you I’d wager there’s a bit more to that story
/r/seduction12/09/24 12:27 AM
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Talking to people is not wasting time, it’s one of the most important ways we connect with each other. Even if it’s mundane. Not everything has to be a super productive use of every waking second to be useful or have value, even just blind chatter serves a purpose I can get how door to door sales can create that perspective though, but you’re not asking people to give you anything, you’re just offering connection. If they truly don’t want you to take their time they can draw the boundary and wal…
/r/seduction12/09/24 12:21 AM
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Can’t undo the social awkwardness without talking to people and socializing. It’s gonna be shitty at first but you just gotta get those reps in and trust it gets better because it does over time There’s no training wheels here. You just gotta fall off the bike a few times and scrape your knees until you’ve learned how to ride
/r/seduction12/09/24 12:18 AM
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its more so for them and not me. I think to solve that you gotta find what you like about people, and ask about them to see if they have those qualities, values or interests you like. i genuinely dont like taking peoples time from them Brother that’s not good self-talk and belies a lack of confidence. You have value and deserve people’s time as much as anyone else. Some people are out there that will want to give you their time-you’d be doing them a disservice by not allowing that. You don’t hav…
/r/seduction12/09/24 12:01 AM
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How could you possibly know if you’ve never squeezed
/r/seduction11/09/24 11:57 PM
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Do you even go to the gym?? I have not once in my entire life seen women recording themselves there lol. This type of stuff is a made up boogeyman in your head, it doesn’t happen to 99.9999999% of the population. You are more likely to be struck by lightning than for this to happen to you. Go outside
/r/seduction11/09/24 11:55 PM
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Well that’s a whole other thing. In that case you start small by talking to strangers in general. It makes for a great warm up. By the time you’ve asked out the cashier you’re hardly thinking about it
/r/seduction11/09/24 11:51 PM
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Honestly, quite a decent amount. I still really kick myself for fumbles when I do still make them now and again, because as I improved I resolved never to slip up again, which of course is not a fair thing to expect of anyone including myself-I’m only human, as we all are. But sometimes I will make a mistake I thought I moved past-THOSE are the most frustrating moments. Haven’t quite figured out how to forgive myself for it yet though.
/r/seduction07/09/24 07:25 PM
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Build a social network and meet people in person. Women are less likely to flake if they meet you face to face and you establish a rapport already
/r/seduction07/09/24 03:41 PM
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Gotcha thanks! I’m still kinda fresh to this but would love to learn more about your experience, do you mind if I DM you?
/r/seduction07/09/24 03:13 AM
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This is good info for sure! Appreciate your insight. Did you find difficulties going between Spain Spanish and LA Spanish?
/r/seduction07/09/24 03:08 AM
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Can I ask, what do you do that allows you to travel across LATAM so easy? When did you learn the language? And what made you want to travel there to begin with? Latin American culture has piqued my interest lately and I’m looking at Spanish classes and then language immersion programs to learn more
/r/seduction06/09/24 09:34 PM
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Do you think those risks are just Tinder or does it also apply to Bumble and Hinge? And do similar risks appear for in person dates?
/r/seduction06/09/24 09:32 PM
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I’m not going to say this in the other dating advice subs, but I have to wonder if this is said in these books because they’re written by women? Dating, at least in the initial phases, seems mostly up to the women in allowing advances/approaches and permitting who has access vs not. Not to devalue their perspective, but maybe that’s a blind spot for the authors in this situation?
/r/seduction25/08/24 11:10 PM
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Beyond what women think, video games are an unproductive time suck. Everyone can have their escapist getaway from time to time so don’t feel shamed for partaking every now and then, but moderate them as a free time activity because at best it’s dead weight on your life and at worst it’s actively harming your mental health
/r/seduction25/08/24 03:21 PM
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That’s a great one. Helps build confidence and charisma, makes you funnier, and connects you with a lot of people. Not quite standup but taking improv classes vastly improved my social and dating lives
/r/seduction25/08/24 03:19 PM
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Just stop caring about it. Act in spite of it. There are millions of women in the world, if one or a couple dislike you just move onto the next. If you know you’re not a threat or danger to anyone, why does someone else’s misconception bother you?
/r/seduction06/08/24 06:13 PM
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Have a hobby group, a meetup or class or something you genuinely enjoy and is a regular part of your schedule. Or, have some kind of project-a painting, building furniture, working out/getting in shape, writing something, reading a book, literally anything that you can repeatedly come back to that you are excited to finish. This will pull your focus away from just the woman and prevent your mind from becoming preoccupied with her. Also, when you have a specific date planned, make backup plans fo…
/r/seduction30/07/24 11:59 AM
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1) Talking to random strangers. Gears you up for approaches but more importantly puts you in a good mood 2) Extension of #1, go out into public a lot. Social events, parties, bars/clubs, parks, the beach, libraries & bookstores, coffee shops, sports leagues, just get out of your house 3) Make alternative plans to dates/romantic ventures, and have some kind of project, initiative or effort to focus on totally unrelated to women. You’ll be best at it when you’re not worried about it
/r/seduction29/07/24 08:39 PM
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If you feel like it’s impacting your ability to be present on a date or enjoy the date, maybe take a break from dating, conserve your resources, and take the time to climb out of the hole and repair your situation before jumping back in
/r/seduction22/07/24 02:28 PM
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No. Unless she reciprocates my energy/escalates/shows initiative in other ways, if I get softly rejected I’m moving on to the next. Don’t play dumb games At the same time he doesn’t want you all that bad so unless you’re cool with something casual I’d move on from him too
/r/seduction16/07/24 06:08 PM
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Right. You have to decide for yourself if dating/hookups are a priority for you, and spend your money, time and effort accordingly-which means you might not be able to spare as much of those on other things. If meeting women is not your priority, and you’d rather stick to your preferences like deeply pursuing hobbies, buying a house, or living in the countryside, then don’t waste your time and energy complaining that you can’t find any women
/r/seduction15/07/24 08:09 PM
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It doesn’t matter if they understand our experience, it works perfectly fine for them, so they don’t need to know or care what it’s like on our end
/r/seduction12/07/24 03:52 PM
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I know this doesn’t answer your question but I wouldn’t worry about interpreting her words at all. They could have been based on a feeling that struck her in that moment over something totally irrelevant to you-she was hungry and didn’t want to think about sex, she had a bad day, etc. I think you’re going into it with the right mindset, just let things unfold as they will and enjoy wherever you end up
/r/seduction10/07/24 01:14 AM
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Some women like to let the men take initiative. She’s into you no doubt, it’s up to you to determine whether her type of expression suits you or not. You can try communicating your concerns if you want, or if you just feel like she’s never gonna meet your needs you can back out as well. The ball is in your court
/r/seduction10/07/24 12:52 AM
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Feel what you’re feeling, write down some things you miss about her, write a letter to her, then burn all of it and let it exit your system. Repeat this any time you feel that you miss her until you no longer need to
/r/seduction09/07/24 07:07 PM
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Mostly because I have no idea how people are having these long-ass convos in loud clubs. I second this, clubs are loud as shit and absolutely terrible places to have any kind of conversation, and they hardly even play good music anymore
/r/seduction07/07/24 10:49 AM
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a 5’9” midget you are massively insecure. that’s a normal height
/r/seduction07/07/24 01:50 AM
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My dude you are 15 you are way overthinking this. I’m sorry you got bullied, that was really shitty. Teenagers are gonna be teenagers. I sucked at being 15 lol but best you can do at this stage of life is just find things you like to do and people you like to be around, and just naturally connect with girls. Also most importantly, stop caring what people think about you, you can’t control it and they’ll think whatever they want to so it’s not worth your energy worrying about it
/r/seduction07/07/24 01:49 AM
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Not really a method, more a mindset you have to get yourself into, but I find it WAY easier to approach if I just start off talking to strangers at random throughout the day. Makes approaching natural which I think gives off a positive vibe towards whoever you speak to and thus will get you better results
/r/seduction07/07/24 01:46 AM
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You don’t need to provide a serious reason, you can just ask. It’s not a creepy thing to do, you’re in your own head. If it helps tho, typically after I’ve been chatting with someone for a bit I’ll say “I’d love to keep in touch, can I grab your Instagram?”
/r/seduction07/07/24 12:18 AM
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That is barest of bare minimum my guy, say an actual conversational piece. I think you might need to like some pics back and then immediately follow up with something to start a convo unrelated to her story. Hard truth tho is that you may have missed the boat already
/r/seduction06/07/24 12:15 AM
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Just say something clever, maybe a lil cheeky. One of my goofiest openers is to post a pic of a plane landing and say “sorry had to make an emergency landing in your DMs” lol. It reliably gets a reaction Barring that, comment on one of her stories with a question, and get a convo moving
/r/seduction05/07/24 11:27 PM
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How so? Can you elaborate? Genuinely curious
/r/seduction03/07/24 05:36 AM
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Adding on to this, you still start any convo with the basic small talk stuff, but then start making the conversation personal. Get to know the “why”-why they’re studying their major, why they live in the city you’re in, why they have the job they do. That’s usually a great entry point
/r/seduction03/07/24 01:56 AM
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Hmmm. I hardly remember honestly. But typically it’s either lots of flirting via teasing/complimenting, or some kind of deep and personal topic we connect on. I just kind of get into an emotional flow state where I say what's on my mind without hesitation I suppose the theme there is that whatever it is we talk about, it’s emotionally charged
/r/seduction03/07/24 01:45 AM
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Well, it’s been flukey and has unfolded different ways each time, but the general theme is that you meet in some way (you’re there together as part of a group, you introduce yourself in the club line or to the bar, etc), and you converse and offer to get her a drink. If you’re clearly clicking, you dance together or talk a long time one on one at whatever bar you’re at, and then you say (don’t ask, just say) “let’s go back to my place.” The key thing is the one on one, meaning her and your frien…
/r/seduction03/07/24 01:21 AM
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I mean that’s the thing I can run a pretty interesting convo, but it gets exhausting quickly bc I end up carrying it a lot of the time. I can’t tell half the time if that’s a sign I should quit or just that she’s bad at carrying conversation. Plus the more I drink, the less clever I get. Which unfortunately the more I drink the bolder I get. These are inversely correlated so I have to walk a thin line
/r/seduction02/07/24 07:26 PM
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This is a western perspective but for me, if someone consistently pulls back or hesitates when I’m trying to move forward, I move on from them pretty quickly. I’d ask her out on a date directly, phone call be damned, and if she doesn’t answer, is vague, dances around the question or otherwise doesn’t give you a path forward just give her the boot because at that point she just wants the attention. Again, western perspective, but a couple of weeks should be plenty of time for them to decide wheth…
/r/seduction02/07/24 07:13 PM
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This is stupid. Just don’t show or say anything, reacting just gives her power over you. Write her off as a lost cause, don’t bring it up, and move on
/r/seduction02/07/24 05:10 PM
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I don’t even know anymore. I meet people fine and can have a healthy dating life when I apply myself, but some kind of obstacle always comes up on their end, always. I’m taking a long break
/r/seduction30/06/24 08:18 PM
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Not at all, in fact it’s worse for you to not have standards. You’re not a bad person for setting boundaries and wanting what you want. Those women are doing the same to you and not thinking twice about it. Also don’t base your self esteem on who you can get on dating apps, they’re so obviously and horrendously skewed that most decent looking guys won’t have much of a shot unless the app is extracting money from you (as it’s designed to do).
/r/seduction29/06/24 12:00 AM
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These two things aren’t mutually exclusive
/r/seduction26/06/24 09:34 PM
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You did way better than I did in college lol, probably better than most anyway. It absolutely gets better, but you do have to put in more effort. The rewards are greater though. If you wanna meet people you have to either live in a big city or, if you live in a suburb, go into one regularly. College towns can also be an option but small towns are a non-starter. Plenty of activities-bars and clubbing of course, but also social clubs/meet-ups, trivia, happy hours, sports leagues, museums, concerts…
/r/seduction11/06/24 04:12 PM
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I got a theory-hot women look hot because they put more effort into their appearance. They do this partly bc they are open to being approached. The “less hot” women don’t care to be approached so they don’t put in as much effort and therefore don’t look as good as the ‘9-10s’.
/r/seduction31/05/24 12:27 PM
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A realistic, thoughtful, and truthful comment on Reddit, that’s crazy. Well said man you summed it up perfectly
/r/ExRedPill24/05/24 05:22 PM
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When I showed signs of doubt, she often cut her arms to show her pain. That’s not proof of love that’s mental illness my guy, run
/r/seduction16/05/24 05:43 PM
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I don’t feel like dealing with the the rest of your points rn but I can tell you a flower on the first date is too much
/r/seduction08/05/24 04:54 PM
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There’s a reason I used the words I did, Americans are isolated in large part due to their isolating suburbs and car dependent cities which leads to all those other issues. If you’re gonna dumb down what I said don’t leave out the most important parts
/r/seduction02/05/24 08:06 PM
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In general I think there’s a growing distrust of and disdain towards others infecting the social fabric in the US due to a mix of suburbanized isolation, political polarization, social atomization, hyper-competitiveness from capitalism, etc. Some people have become outright misanthropic. It shows up in gender dynamics and relations as much as anywhere else
/r/seduction02/05/24 06:25 PM
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Why don’t you take one? It might not be your thing but like who cares, throw her a bone
/r/seduction22/04/24 01:50 PM
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Honest question, how is “masked” you different from the real you? What is it about your behavior that you change?
/r/seduction14/04/24 11:10 PM
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I’ll make a joke about “our future children” Maybe I'm nitpicking but if this is the general type of opening comment you make, one that implies a future together or otherwise unintentionally implies expectations, that’s coming on a bit too strong IMO Also I’m not sure there’s any level of attractiveness that’s totally immune to rejection. Sometimes you aren’t gonna get what you want. You gotta learn to accept that
/r/seduction14/04/24 11:09 PM
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I don’t really see what you did wrong, although idk what you mean “seeded a date idea” why don’t you just ask her on a date? It’s not a complex psychological manipulation, she’ll either say yes or no
/r/seduction09/04/24 07:30 PM
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My one size fits all answer for this is to look her in the eye and say “only the ones I like”.
/r/seduction28/02/24 02:18 PM
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You right, thanks king. I’m gonna be real this shit is more exhausting than anything. I’ve figured out the formula and gone on hot streaks before, but I don’t have the energy to sustain it for long before burning out I feel like
/r/seduction22/02/24 02:36 AM
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Yeah that’s usually what I do or compliment something she’s wearing or something. But after enough drinks my vocabulary gets much smaller lmao
/r/seduction21/02/24 09:35 PM
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I just have no idea what to start with most of the time. Once I get a conversation rolling though I’m usually fine
/r/seduction21/02/24 04:15 PM
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And that’s how you do it. You just wing it. Good shit king
/r/seduction07/02/24 02:41 AM
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I’m right there with you. Still find some indoor stuff to do to bide your time. But also don’t forget to take time to recharge-I found out my limits very quickly throughout that process. You can get burnt out rapidly so leave yourself some down time every week
/r/seduction31/01/24 03:23 AM
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Invited work colleagues/peers to go out. Joined sports leagues like kickball and dodgeball. Asked anyone I connected with on any level to grab a drink sometime/hang out and collected #s and social media. Asked out a TON of women, and often if they just wanted to be friends/had a bf got drinks as friends. Chatted with strangers literally everywhere. Got out of the house a lot-hung out in parks, coffee shops, and other third spaces. Etc
/r/seduction30/01/24 07:48 PM
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I had a friend get asked out by a guy on an expensive dinner date off a dating app (entirely his idea, she was down for whatever). Dude dropped like $150 on the meal and then asked her to split it. She did not see him again lolol
/r/seduction30/01/24 06:37 PM
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Honestly, not a bad idea. Personally I prefer active dates (games, mini golf, etc) for a second date
/r/seduction30/01/24 02:36 PM
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Personally I don’t like coffee dates either but I wanted to suggest something other than drinks lol
/r/seduction30/01/24 02:25 PM
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That doesn’t fly after college lol. Once everyone has a paycheck you gotta pay to play
/r/seduction30/01/24 01:52 AM
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If you are taking a girl to Chili’s on the first date you are an abject loser. Do better
/r/seduction30/01/24 01:44 AM
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Yup, didn’t even think about that one. The suckitude of dinner dates goes even deeper
/r/seduction30/01/24 12:38 AM
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Honestly that can get interpreted as low effort and IMO can be just as bad or even worse
/r/seduction30/01/24 12:38 AM
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For me, moving to a walkable neighborhood in a major city. It’s expensive but the benefits to your social life are incalculable if you put yourself out there. Plus the women are often higher quality-they’re smarter, more educated, more driven, and know what they want (may vary based on the city though)
/r/seduction29/01/24 09:00 PM
34

For me, moving to a walkable neighborhood in a major city. It’s expensive but the benefits to your social life are incalculable if you put yourself out there. Plus the women are often higher quality-they’re smarter, more educated, more driven, and know what they want (may vary based on the city though)
/r/seduction29/01/24 08:59 PM
140

Having options also does wonders. Secret lil hack: those options don’t have to be other women. If you can find an activity/hobby you really enjoy that takes your time and focus, that can be just as effective a replacement
/r/seduction29/01/24 08:47 PM
16

Let it rest. If she really wants to engage Sounds like she wanted you spur of the moment and since the moment passed she’s moved beyond it. It happens, nbd Advice tho, sometimes with gals a voice message can be a little much, sometimes they just get anxious and don’t open it. Next time write a short text message telling a highlight or two (word it briefly and interestingly to prompt questions from her) and then ask her about her weekend
/r/seduction29/01/24 07:15 PM
2

Totally true, but that’s not what OP asked for and this comes off a little dismissive tbqh
/r/ExRedPill16/01/24 08:38 AM
3

Def some truth to that-it def implies that type of behavior is natural if not expected in a relationship, so they’ll give up and stay in it rather than leave and seek someone better since they think they’ll always have to deal with it anywhere. Not to mention the RP dating tactics usually target women like these anyway
/r/ExRedPill16/01/24 08:35 AM
13

I wouldn’t doubt it. Autistic men struggle with reading and responding to social cues, which makes for a difficult time in social environments in general but especially in the dating world where subtextual and non-verbal communication are key. This leaves them isolated and especially vulnerable to online radicalization.
/r/ExRedPill15/09/23 02:55 PM
1

Buddy 138 of the last 145 mass shootings since 1982 were solely by men https://www.statista.com/statistics/476445/mass-shootings-in-the-us-by-shooter-s-gender/
/r/ExRedPill16/08/23 02:59 PM
3

Idk, this kind of self-deprecation reeks of self-loathing once he added the no friends bit
/r/seduction18/07/23 06:22 PM
1

Certainly-but never impossible. And it only takes one time
/r/seduction28/06/23 02:40 PM
5

I saw this gal go down the escalator to the platform behind me and thought wow she’s pretty. I boarded the subway while she stayed on the platform. Our train was stuck for a couple minutes; while we sat in the station I stole a few more glances at her and after sitting in the train for 10 minutes, I finally made my decision to go say something, stood by the door for 30 seconds to muster up the courage, walked out of the train and up to her. I said “hi, I think you’re really pretty, and I like yo…
/r/seduction28/06/23 12:06 AM
0

No, I did it in my own way, because I played it the best way that worked for me. Which is my point
/r/seduction28/06/23 12:00 AM
9

Yeah that’s straight up BS. I just had a date last night with a gal I approached on the subway
/r/seduction27/06/23 02:59 PM
40

Nah I think he played it his way and it was perfect. Do whatever works best for you as an individual, bc it’ll draw women that are the best fit for you
/r/seduction27/06/23 02:05 PM
22

Dude that was suave as hell. Nice work!
/r/seduction27/06/23 02:05 PM
-2

I honestly think it’s a chicken/egg problem and they picked the wrong answer. Women who sleep around don’t have problems forming attachments because they have a lot of partners; they have a lot of partners because they have problems forming attachments. It’s not a biological problem, it’s a psychological problem for those particular type of women. Plenty of men also have the same attachment issues. The cause comes from the individual’s psychological state rather than the behavior
/r/ExRedPill30/05/23 04:09 PM
10

Her boyfriend has her on none of his social media. One time though, she caught him following a bunch of young girls on Instagram in the area he was living in (they were long distance) IMO this is a tell. It’s a bad situation from what you are observing, but it also sounds like she knows that already & doesn’t want to leave yet. All you can do is ask questions and support her when she needs it
/r/ExRedPill27/05/23 04:47 AM
2

Plenty of men have been or are in toxic relationships too. This isn’t unique to women, anyone is susceptible to it
/r/ExRedPill20/04/23 01:48 AM
44

That’s the key-if she asks/attempts to reschedule, she’s still interested. A woman who makes it easy for you is interested. If she’s not clearing a path to her for you, she’s not interested.
/r/seduction19/04/23 03:48 PM
1

You missed the point. You gotta think bigger-beyond just the context of a potential partner. You’re hung up on who is good or bad for you-but what about your happiness, alone, without anyone else’s involvement?
/r/seduction17/04/23 08:01 PM
11

Bro if someone can “swoop her away” there was never going to be anything you could do to keep her
/r/seduction15/04/23 07:47 AM
20

How about just compliment (or don’t)!based on how you feel rather than based on how it makes her feel?
/r/seduction15/04/23 07:46 AM
8

Totally agree. I think a lot of modern dating pain for men is because so many don’t know how to draw boundaries and stand up for themselves. Lots of guys will put up with terrible women and bad relationships because they don’t think they can get anything else. On top of that, plenty of guys also work with the framework that they need a relationship and they don’t recognize the potential for happiness and fulfillment they can achieve on their own.
/r/seduction15/04/23 07:45 AM
4

Have you ever had a night out with your boys? Same thing, they talk, share an activity they enjoy, drink, etc. Spend more time away from the internet and you’ll see they’re just as human as men are
/r/ExRedPill08/04/23 02:54 PM
5

I think there’s some statistic out there that says 1 in 4, maybe 1 in 3, women have dealt with sexual assault? We aren’t just talking about catcalling here man, stop trivializing
/r/ExRedPill21/03/23 04:18 PM
5

You can walk down the street at night and not fear for your life. Genuinely, the gap between how men think about walking around empty streets in a city at night vs women is massive. They’re much more afraid of being alone, and rightfully so, as they’re much more likely to be overpowered by some random bozo than the average man-and have more risks than men do. First girl I dated, men would catcall her as we walked down the street. I had never in my life seen anyone do that before, but to women it…
/r/ExRedPill21/03/23 02:21 AM
3

Honestly man, when it comes to approaching/talking to women, you’re gonna screw up a lot. Like, a LOT. Don’t expect perfection at any point, and don’t beat yourself up over failure-even the most successful, irresistible guys have a 90-95%+ failure rate, you just notice their successes more easily. Be kind, allow yourself room to fail and grow, try to pick a lesson or two from every attempt, and keep marching. Each stumble gets you a little bit better. Just gotta churn through the numbers.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/23 06:44 PM
10

I’ve been pretty depressed mentally, very exhausted, and not confident, and I feel like there’s no point to because of the lack of attention I get from women. Right there. That’s why. Women (really, people in general, but especially women) can sense your general vibe. If you’re miserable and don’t feel good about yourself you’ll come off that way-and they won’t want any part of you. People want to be happy and have fun, so why would anyone want to be around a person that’s miserable? You have to…
/r/ExRedPill13/03/23 05:51 PM
4

I think that’s something the red pill community fails to understand. It works off the assumption that a relationship is an absolute necessity, and then blames women for creating obstacles to that. But the reality is that you can be entirely happy without a relationship. You can create a fulfilling life without ever having sex. You don’t need a partner to enjoy things. Once you realize that, the whole Redpill ideology falls apart. Woman treated you poorly? Who cares? She sucks as an individual. G…
/r/ExRedPill11/03/23 07:21 PM
0

I understand. But the hard truth is that in order to find your way to one, you also have to make peace with the possibility that it may never happen. You have to find happiness elsewhere first Also horniness often masquerades as love, hence the original comment
/r/ExRedPill31/12/22 02:44 AM
1

It’s not love you’re just horny. Beat your meat, work out, and go do some good for your community
/r/ExRedPill30/12/22 02:17 AM
9

You will-but only if you keep putting effort towards healing. Seek happiness for yourself (independent of a relationship, a partner and sex) and focus on growing, learning and failing and in time you’ll find your way again
/r/ExRedPill22/12/22 04:28 AM
2

second this. now that I’m in my 20s and have gotten an actual life, not only has dating not become as big of a deal, but it’s consequently become easier and more enjoyable
/r/ExRedPill09/12/22 02:08 AM
1

So is this a yes or no to my statement? lol what does that even mean? you offered a statement and you got a response
/r/ExRedPill09/12/22 02:07 AM
1

Who cares whether women have it easier or not? Even if it is true you can’t change it. No point in getting upset about it. Play with the hand you’re delt
/r/ExRedPill09/12/22 02:06 AM
1

It’s not. You becoming depressed immediately upon sight of anyone you think is attractive is not a normal thing.
/r/ExRedPill08/12/22 08:43 PM
1

Dude this isn’t about women, this is about you. Seek help, find a psychiatrist, get on some meds, etc
/r/ExRedPill07/12/22 04:56 PM
4

They’re not, she’s just saying that to excuse her own actions. Stop buying it, you know she’s wrong and so does she
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 10:38 PM
4

Why are you letting yourself be martyred?? Leave. This woman has no respect for you and won’t take accountability for herself. No man has to deal with her shit, including you.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 09:35 PM
1

Yeah it’s absolutely realistic, but you shouldn’t come into a relationship expecting that or needing it. No partner is ever going to ‘fix’ you, you have to do that yourself or else the relationship will inevitably crumble.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 03:43 PM
2

No not at all lol. But you def need therapy
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 02:35 PM
1

Nope. The women available by that point include plenty of people whose relationships didn’t work out, who are also late bloomers themselves, who spent time focused on their education/career, etc. Lots of high quality women are still available well into your late 20s/30s, especially in major cities where people typically ‘settle down’ later. (And no, they didn’t “ride the cock carousel”. Even I’ve been surprised by how low the body counts are of women I’ve dated. Not that that matters if she make…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 02:09 PM
1

No not in the slightest
/r/ExRedPill28/11/22 10:52 PM
12

You’re gonna take the opinion of a weird cross section of the internet as law? Dude get outside and go talk to people, Reddit is not real life and most people aren’t on it
/r/ExRedPill16/11/22 05:16 PM
9

That’s not true at all lol, that’s what you tell yourself to avoid approaching because you’re scared of rejection
/r/ExRedPill16/11/22 04:48 PM
4

It didn’t ‘make’ you do anything. You chose to let it influence you. You can also choose to change. Don’t remove your own agency
/r/ExRedPill09/11/22 03:27 PM
51

Why is the notion of men avoiding relationships such an important part of red pill ideology? Because it’s a narrative built to cope with the hopelessness of their perception of the dating world. It gives the hope of men retaining agency in what’s perceived to be a women-dominated dating market.
/r/ExRedPill06/11/22 11:54 PM
1

It matters absolutely, to guys who aren’t idiots. Honestly based on what you’ve told me I’d prob date you. You’re extremely desirable from what it sounds like. But it seems like you’re fighting a mental health issue that prevents you from seeing that. That should be your main focus IMO
/r/ExRedPill06/11/22 02:01 AM
5

Most normal men don’t feel that way about women your age and frankly some like mature women better. Don’t think you’d want to date someone with that kind of mindset anyway. Women have nothing to offer men besides youth and fertility. Not only is this not remotely true, but this is something you can change. You can provide little or plenty as a partner and that’s entirely in your control. It comes down to what you invest in yourself
/r/ExRedPill06/11/22 01:50 AM
2

No, you can control it, over time, by becoming not needy. You only come off as needy if you feel that way and project it.
/r/seduction03/11/22 06:14 PM
2

You find things outside of relationships that bring you happiness and you pursue them relentlessly. The goal of a relationship is to find lasting happiness, but ironically enough you won’t find a good one if you aren’t happy. Luckily, there are other avenues to happiness and fulfillment that can supplement a relationship to the point where it no longer feels like a need, but just an added luxury
/r/seduction03/11/22 04:08 AM
3

because she’s a shitty human being. sometimes when you do the healthy thing you lose people that are unhealthy for you. that is a good thing. addition by subtraction
/r/ExRedPill31/10/22 04:50 PM
6

No, not “‘she’ will respect you down the line”. The right people will. She and people like her will disrespect you no matter what. They will continue to get away with it if you let them. But you won’t attract the right people if you don’t stand up for yourself, ALWAYS.
/r/ExRedPill31/10/22 04:49 PM
10

she probably doesn’t know what red pill is, and even if she did she doesn’t care what stereotype she’s fitting, she’s being entirely selfish. just because she fits the caricature doesn’t mean every woman is going to be like that, but you have to know your worth and stand up for yourself to find the women who will actually respect you. you took the first step towards that and you should be proud of yourself for that
/r/ExRedPill31/10/22 03:15 PM
14

It doesn’t matter why, because no matter what you do, you can’t change it. Only she can, and she doesn’t want to.
/r/ExRedPill31/10/22 03:08 PM
17

Yes, but only by shitty people who feel entitled to your obedience will do that to you. The right person/people will never do that, though. Your girlfriend is not the right person for you. I’m sorry that it had to come about this way. You do not deserve this treatment. At least now the band-aid is ripped off and you can begin the process of getting away from her.
/r/ExRedPill31/10/22 03:07 PM
1

Because she’s a terrible person, you gave her a chance to show otherwise and try to resolve the conflict in a mature manner and she declined. That’s not your fault
/r/ExRedPill31/10/22 02:26 PM
3

Tbh I think it comes down to cities more than countries. There’s so much variation even within countries that you won’t get a consistent answer with that broad of a question
/r/seduction30/10/22 05:20 PM
2

This is clever lmao I might try it
/r/seduction30/10/22 01:59 PM
4

Why don’t you just enjoy the great things you have built? You won’t get into a relationship if you’re super invested into getting into one. You have to treat it as an added plus, not a need. The neediness will prevent you from finding anything meaningful. I’m not saying don’t try, obviously you want to put yourself out there, but your focus should be on finding the situations that can progress to dates, that then could progress to relationships. Process, not results
/r/seduction28/10/22 11:42 PM
3

Then why are you so worried about a relationship if you’re satisfied with your life?
/r/seduction28/10/22 10:26 PM
7

if every drop of water was different, yeah you would lol
/r/seduction28/10/22 08:43 PM
6

that’s exactly what it is. you have to truly believe it with all your heart that you’re capable, even to a point of delusion at times. you won’t get what you want by second guessing yourself doesn’t mean you’re actively arrogant or anything, you just know in your mind that just as much as the sun will rise, you know at some point you’ll get yours
/r/seduction28/10/22 08:40 PM
2

You want to build an abundance mindset in terms of not women exclusively but happiness in general. That whether you have a relationship/an active sex life or not, you trust that good opportunities will come your way and you trust yourself that you’ll capitalize accordingly. Relationships may or may not be part of that picture and that’s ok, because they’re just one segment of life-there’s plenty of other opportunities to bring yourself fulfillment.
/r/seduction28/10/22 08:38 PM
1

then ask to meet in person and go on a date
/r/seduction28/10/22 05:24 PM
1

I agree but when the stakes are high you can’t take it lightly either. start off with the harsh truth and bring in the empathy after
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 03:58 PM
2

You gotta do what’s best for you regardless. Yes you will feel guilt but that is her daughter and assuming it’s not yours, it’s her responsibility at the end of the day. Definitely makes it tricky though, and I understand that’s a tough situation. There’s probably not any easy way to leave if she’s got you like that. I’m sorry, you don’t deserve this. But you need to try to find a path out.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 03:51 PM
2

Fair, I’m not coming from a place of judgement either, but when it comes to tough love on stuff like this you gotta be brutally honest. This is definitely a bad relationship and I think treating it gently isn’t what the situation requires, he needs to get out.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 03:49 PM
2

That’s toxic af. There’s zero reason you should be putting up with this.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 02:48 PM
2

And she is messing it up. You are a great guy and you don’t deserve this bullshit.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 02:47 PM
3

Considering? There’s nothing left to consider he needs to get out now
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 02:47 PM
0

Are relationships supposed to be unfair like this for men? No, not even remotely. You have no reason you should be putting up with that. She’s abusive and a psycho. That doesn't include that she puts me on loud speaker when we have a disagreement and it makes me sound like I'm crazy or some bad guy. Is this normal? Not normal at all. She’s being manipulative. You need to leave, like yesterday.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 02:46 PM
6

Just be honest, say I prefer something a bit more lowkey and suggest an alternative with what you want to do. If she starts pushing the dinner, that may be a sign
/r/seduction28/10/22 11:58 AM
33

This sounds super insecure man. Sometimes you get ghosted and it has nothing to do with your looks
/r/seduction26/10/22 02:54 PM
2

My experience is that those difficulties may or may not exist, I don’t really perceive them or care tbh. I just talk to whoever I feel like talking to at the moment, wherever I am. do what’s fun
/r/seduction25/10/22 08:29 PM
4

Sure if you wanna win the debate on why you won’t try to talk to women, you’ve won. We can’t convince you to go do it, you either will or won’t, difficulty be damned
/r/seduction25/10/22 06:28 PM
1

Dude honestly I think you’re madly overthinking it. Seems like you’ve done a good job of saying how you feel and where you stand, and of engaging her. Trust yourself more. I think if you just keep moving at a comfortable pace she’d open up over time as long as you don’t pressure her but stay firm to your needs and boundaries. The question you should be asking yourself though is, do you like her? Why? And do you like her enough to wait? How long? Don’t be afraid to walk away if you aren’t satisfi…
/r/seduction25/10/22 12:56 PM
1

you can have the best game of all time and yet if you try to approach someone when they are not receptive to it there’s not a damn thing you can say to get them to change their mind. and their receptivity is mostly decided by outside factors-their mood, things that happened that day, what’s the environment, what are they doing, who’s with them, etc
/r/seduction25/10/22 11:12 AM
3

To clarify, you want to make her feel seen/known by you-as in, you make her feel that you, specifically, understand who she is in ways that others/the general public do not. This emphasizes that you have a special connection. You do this by getting to know her-not just through questions, but also by just stating observations (“you strike me as a [xyz] type of person”, for example) and jumping to conclusions about her, and letting her correct you or fill in the blanks. You also ask questions base…
/r/seduction25/10/22 11:08 AM
3

You listen to her and be receptive to her. Tease her a bit to make her feel a bit vulnerable and seen/known too. Make her feel like you understand her and she can be herself without judgement-your actions should fit that kind of vibe
/r/seduction24/10/22 09:25 PM
2

I mean if you’re casual about it no. As long as you at least look like you’re shopping
/r/seduction24/10/22 09:23 PM
13

I think you handled it pretty smoothly. She’s where she wants to be rn and doesn’t feel comfortable moving forward yet. If that is a dealbreaker for you then you just be like “hey I don’t think this is working out, let’s just stay friends”. If it isn’t, you just keep hanging out and doing what you’re doing, vibing together. Make her comfortable through your actions, don’t over explain like you did with the “I’m not going to use you” bit. That doesn’t help you and it makes you look like you’re tr…
/r/seduction24/10/22 08:55 PM
9

A park would be better IMO. A mall is ok if you’re going to shop or browse and then happen to have conversations on the side-but you should be able to do that anywhere. If you’re just walking up to random people, you’re going to burn out quickly trying to connect with a lot of people who just won’t be interested, because they’re at a mall and aren’t open to being approached.
/r/seduction24/10/22 08:48 PM
3

Not at all, mulling about at a mall just to walk up to people at random and start a conversation is just a really forced way of meeting people and is a waste of energy because hardly anyone will respond positively to it, it’s very off putting. I mean it would be ok if he makes it look natural, like browses through stores, clothes and whatnot, but at that point, you’re there for the shopping anyway bc that’s kinda hard to fake. You want to genuinely have a primary activity that’s taking your atte…
/r/seduction24/10/22 08:46 PM
9

Why the fuck are you going to a mall to hit on women? It’s one thing to want to know how to talk to women when just hanging out at a mall which is totally normal but don’t expressly go there for only that reason, that’s weird and they will sniff that out immediately. If you want to expressly go somewhere to hit on women, go to bars, clubs, concerts, mixers, and other specifically purposed social events. Otherwise you need to have a real reason to be somewhere to practice picking up-that should n…
/r/seduction24/10/22 08:17 PM
1

Mini golf is always fun, especially if you can find one of those new age ones with a bar Or go to a beer garden or somewhere with a patio, ideally by a park so you can go for a walk after
/r/seduction24/10/22 07:22 PM
19

First off, social media is an absolutely terrible place for your self esteem as a single guy in your situation, stay as far away as possible so you can stay focused on your own story. Secondly, it’s a known phenomenon that people in the West in general are developing later, so you’re not behind the curve at all. More and more guys are hitting their stride in their late 20s and early 30s. No shame in being a “late bloomer” and to be frank there’s some additional value as a guy in not being run th…
/r/seduction24/10/22 03:48 PM
1

Do things that make you happy and make you think. And that’s genuinely happy, not just providing you with a dopamine rush
/r/seduction23/10/22 07:03 PM
1

I feel like you don’t need to say it. If you carry yourself right, she’ll know
/r/seduction22/10/22 02:28 PM
2

“Well now you have an opportunity to find out ;)”
/r/seduction20/10/22 02:38 AM
1

Great q. I think the biggest obstacle is finding women that want to go out with me. They exist, but they only come up every couple of months, despite me putting myself out there. Once I can get on a date I usually do fine, it’s just getting the first one that’s the problem.
/r/seduction19/10/22 12:17 PM
53

I think it’s extremely stupid, because it takes away your agency as a male. If you have a partner that you feel is using you for money, you can leave at any time. If you feel uncomfortable about their sexual past, you also may leave at any time, although that will never matter if they truly make you happy.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/22 05:32 PM
1

Did she give you a reason, if so what was it?
/r/seduction17/10/22 12:46 AM
14

I think I can speak to #2. Was enjoying spending time with a girl so much that I never really had or created the opportunity to ask her back to my place-was worried it would push her away. We got to date 5 and she didn’t want to keep spending time with me anymore. If you want her, advocate for that. Don’t deny yourself what you want for any reason
/r/seduction16/10/22 08:31 PM
2

Sometimes people don’t want what’s good for them, because often they internally don’t believe they deserve better. It’s them, not you, and you have to accept that there is nothing you can do to change that
/r/seduction16/10/22 08:18 PM
1

I once had a girl tell me I looked like her brother at the end of a date. I kissed her 5 min later. Don’t count yourself out until they have actively communicated to you directly that the answer is no
/r/seduction11/10/22 05:49 PM
1

And how can an adult be confident in himself when he know that he's inexperienced and hasn't been good enough for most women he has talked to? You disconnect your confidence from women. Happiness and success are things you can achieve in so many different ways-career, talents, hobbies, community, friendships, volunteering, etc etc. If you achieve that and become confident in one area (particularly in your social life) it will bleed over to other areas including your sex life. The thing about ine…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/22 01:05 PM
1

I’d say focus on socializing. Find a friend group first, go out and meet people. Find some cafes, parks and bars you like and can frequent. Find some meetup groups/hobbies/social sport leagues that you can get involved with. Build your social network and social skills. And then go from there
/r/seduction11/10/22 04:03 AM
1

Is he “red pilled” or just a dickhead? You projected all that “red pill” knowledge onto him without confirming if he even knows what that is. The reality is he’s just naturally confident and true to himself, in oodles, which is what women are drawn to. Unfortunately, he also just happens to be a total dickhead. However, here’s the thing-you don’t have to be an ass to be confident and authentic. It’s a lot harder, sure, because you actually care about other people and don’t want to step on people…
/r/ExRedPill10/10/22 11:55 PM
8

You ask to set the next time you see her and see how she responds. If she doesn’t meet up then you move on
/r/seduction10/10/22 09:42 PM
5

Oh I see. Then fuck that, you deserve better than someone who’s gonna tell you off like that
/r/seduction09/10/22 06:52 PM
8

I tried a few techniques to stick in there after she basically told me to go away That’s when you should’ve quit. Of course she’s gonna harshly tell you to fuck off when you refuse to take a hint man. That’s on you
/r/seduction09/10/22 05:33 PM
1

no. that’s only a prerequisite
/r/ExRedPill09/10/22 12:19 PM
5

But it made me think how do i connect with girls beyond my looks and money? with your personality. a true connection is when both people feel drawn to one another and enjoy each other’s company. that applies at multiple levels-acquaintances, friendships, romantic relationships, etc. not every relationship will be like your last one. I am sorry you had to go through that
/r/ExRedPill09/10/22 01:03 AM
33

. I do not want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t view me as attractive but sees me as a stable option. As a man, you have agency to leave if you feel your needs aren’t being met or you are not valued. Hold fast on your boundaries for someone that actually respects you and wants you for who you are. Sorry that happened to you. You deserve and will find better. Not all women are going to be like that
/r/ExRedPill08/10/22 01:53 PM
2

You misunderstood. I can do that. It’s not a problem. Where I’m caught up is the ‘inner game’ part: Maybe because you’re actively looking which might give off neediness. My point is why would I do all of what you’re saying if I’m not ‘actively looking’? Seems contradictory
/r/seduction08/10/22 01:36 PM
1

Social sports and singles mixers, easily
/r/seduction07/10/22 11:31 PM
3

average, but go to the gym regularly. working on that
/r/seduction07/10/22 10:45 PM
9

It’s a paradox tbh because if I’m not actively looking, sometimes I won’t be near as social. When I’m feeling comfortable with myself in public settings I often don’t have any compulsion to put myself out there and approach. So the neediness is my motivator, otherwise why would I talk to a stranger with what I’m doing in that moment?
/r/seduction07/10/22 10:38 PM
3

I didn’t say he needs to have it figured out, but he should be putting effort into that first so he doesn’t focus all his energy on women. And as he does that, it will get easier to find women
/r/seduction07/10/22 10:34 PM
14

I don’t ever see them looking at me tbh
/r/seduction07/10/22 09:45 PM
9

It’s not flashy but it’s certainly a put-together look. I feel like I dress well and I have gotten a few compliments on my fits in the past. I have my seasonal staples I go with and they’ve worked so far
/r/seduction07/10/22 08:59 PM
113

I’m 24 years old and I work at a bar as a server/food runner. I live with my parents still and I have a hard time figuring out what I want to do with my life. Right there. That’s what you should be focusing on instead.
/r/seduction07/10/22 08:18 PM
6

Ya no I wasn’t taking it personally so much, I just wasn’t sure if it was unique to me or if I was just missing them. Comforting to hear they’re not common
/r/seduction07/10/22 08:10 PM
4

Ok see this makes me feel better that people are saying they’re uncommon. I thought I was either ugly or just missing them left and right lol
/r/seduction07/10/22 08:07 PM
12

You’re insanely overthinking something that likely has nothing to do with you in the first place
/r/seduction07/10/22 05:46 PM
43

I feel like she’s flirting with you based on the arm lean, she’s trying to knock you down a peg tho. Sounds like a shit test for lack of a better term. You play it off, don’t bring it up, and continue to do your thing. Tease her back and see how she responds if you wanna try to escalate.
/r/seduction07/10/22 04:17 PM
26

why do you care what other people judge about you? if you have standards, stick to them
/r/seduction05/10/22 12:38 AM
61

you can still be attracted to women, still talk to them, hell maybe even ask for a date if one very clearly likes you. don't deny yourself how you feel in the moment. just find other things to think about in the mean time. fill your life up with commitments to yourself that demand your energy and focus-gym, sports, hobbies, friendships, work, projects, meetups, etc etc etc. you can't change what you feel at all, and it's totally ok to feel that way. you cant just turn off your attraction. just f…
/r/seduction03/10/22 08:16 PM
53

This is like the 3rd time in the past month I’ve heard someone say women are like cats lol, and now that I’m living with 2 cats I’m seeing the parallels
/r/seduction03/10/22 07:51 PM
1

Actually yeah if you’re genuine about it and doing it because you want to connect or have a conversation, not if you’re transparently looking to get a number or trying to fuck
/r/seduction03/10/22 04:41 PM
1

I have never met a single woman in real life that actively complains about this or even cares. You only ever see it on Reddit where everyone’s a basement dwelling antisocial misanthrope. Go outside
/r/seduction03/10/22 04:34 PM
1

How often do you think that actually happens? Jesus man get off the internet and go talk to people
/r/seduction03/10/22 03:43 PM
1

Why do you care what they think? As long as you know to quit when the answer is no, who cares?
/r/seduction03/10/22 03:36 PM
3

Because the vast majority of people don’t think you’re a creep or bad person for trying to socialize with strangers, that’s you telling yourself that. Talking to other people is an extremely normal thing to do lol
/r/seduction03/10/22 03:22 PM
1

this is another example of your brain finding reasons not to do it
/r/seduction03/10/22 01:42 PM
48

It’s your brain trying to find reasons not to do it. Only way to get over it is to force yourself over and over to go talk to her the very moment you get the inclination, and force yourself to do that until it becomes instinctual. Don’t even bother worrying about finding something clever to say, just trust yourself to wing it and come up with something when you get to her
/r/seduction03/10/22 04:03 AM
1

I have known a few guys on spectrum who insisted on being social, no matter what--but despite being resilient, they were nonetheless excluded or bullied for years. They were longterm depressed because of it. I know. I went through it too. It’s extremely hard on your self esteem and I was absolutely depressed. Unfortunately, no one else is going to fix that damage for you, you have to repair it yourself. I would never accept being roundly mocked, no matter the cost. You don’t have to accept being…
/r/seduction01/10/22 11:24 PM
1

seems like they were in a shared interest group and bonded over their shared interest. an interest that also just so happens to cause heightened emotional states and increased vulnerability. a potent mix for a relationship forming. Not a healthy one but still As for point 2, that’s prob because you were more socially active and willing to take risks, and more carefree, which were the underlying attitudes that led you to take drugs (and were probably also induced by the drugs). and you attracted …
/r/seduction01/10/22 11:09 PM
2

She’s fucking with you, don’t tolerate that in a partner. Draw a hard boundary and if she crosses it you leave her
/r/seduction01/10/22 01:46 PM
6

I think this applies to both men and women. Most people in general really don’t have much ambition
/r/seduction01/10/22 01:30 PM
-5

Tbh tho it seems like you’re basing your whole stereotype off of that one drug addiction guy, seems like there’s more to the story there
/r/seduction01/10/22 03:00 AM
51

A couple theories right off the bat 1) those women see those guys as a ‘project’ and so they fall for them and then try to take care of them. in other words, they attract codependents 2) drugs = fun, women want to be around someone who’s fun 3) drugs are often social and having a social circle makes it easier to make a potential partner 4) additionally, the lowered inhibitions within that social circle might make it easier for 2 potential partners to bond 5) drug use may indicate more risk-takin…
/r/seduction01/10/22 02:58 AM
1

sounds like she’s got self esteem issues that stand in the way of you getting into a relationship. unfortunately there isn’t anything you can do about that. there’s a chance that maybe she is just uncomfortable with herself and projects it onto you. have seen that before
/r/seduction30/09/22 05:56 PM
1

feel like like I don’t make people i like feel comfortable because I get terrible anxiety when I’m with them that could potentially be the problem. they might subconsciously feel that about you and it in turn makes them uncomfortable. you have to find ways to keep yourself comfortable and maintain a level of inner peace regardless of others’ presence could also be an internal level of anxiety from their end which you can’t do anything about.
/r/seduction30/09/22 05:55 PM
1

The gist of what you’re saying is “your situation is different”. Which may be true, but you’re making excuses to not take some kind of action. The odds are greater that you don’t even know what you’re capable of a lot of this is, frankly, not able to be rescued anymore. Horseshit. You’re writing yourself off before even trying. Cmon man you deserve better than that. I have met people like you. I’m sad for them not because of their situation but because they choose to stay in it; they’ve already …
/r/seduction30/09/22 01:53 PM
6

I would interpret “settling down” not as “compromising” but as “choosing stability over highs and lows”
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 07:22 PM
14

she also did not say, “the things that make the good guys good husbands makes them unsexy”. She even said regarding ‘good husbands’-“These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.” You’re focusing on the bad boys part because it affirms what you believe, and completely ignoring the end where she literally states that in the end, the good men are worthwhile
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 04:07 PM
11

I think she’s saying “date and try new people until you find your preferences” which is fine and well within a woman’s right to do, and men can do the same. Why worry about it? If a woman chooses only to date ‘bad boys’ over and over, in the end she’ll only be hurting herself. Mind your own business and go for the women that are smarter than that.
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 03:46 PM
2

No actually I get it perfectly because I was that person for the longest time. I was extremely socially awkward and I am on the spectrum too. I had zero friends in HS and was regularly bullied. I relate to you on all of that. I was depressed for quite some time because of it and it felt entirely hopeless. I started to fix it first by changing my scenery. I got to college and I aggressively went out of my way to make good first impressions and fit in. I was able to find some social groups (includ…
/r/seduction29/09/22 01:53 PM
2

plenty don’t honestly. and you grow past that by doing it
/r/seduction27/09/22 05:52 PM
2

Have you actually tried them? You don’t have to like them but if you want to meet people you need to do things you wouldn’t normally do
/r/seduction27/09/22 03:50 PM
50

I’m gonna suggest you go a different direction and try some hobbies and groups that have more women-dance, yoga, sports, things like that. You’re not going to these things to pick up women, but you are going so that you increase your chances of connecting with them-whether as a friend or more.
/r/seduction27/09/22 12:41 PM
1

You train yourself to be assertive. More specifically, you stick to your boundaries and keep commitments. You can be a silent type and keep to yourself without being a doormat.
/r/seduction27/09/22 12:20 PM
7

First off, young adulthood doesn’t end at the end of college. It consists of all your 20s. You have soooooo much time left, and being a late bloomer absolutely is a thing. Secondly, happiness exists outside of relationships. You can very easily be happy and single. Your goal shouldn’t be a relationship that will make you miserable, your goal should be happiness-which may not include a relationship or sex and that’s completely normal and ok. And it is NOT, in any way shape or form, an indication …
/r/ExRedPill26/09/22 07:48 PM
1

dude dont be so hard on yourself, sometimes you arent gonna be in the space for it and thats fine. besides, approaching should not be the sole reason you're out and about-it should be a thing you do at your convenience, when you're already out for something else and the mood just happens to strike you. i think you'll find it easier if you just go do things you enjoy and be happy; then not only will you want to approach more and enjoy interactions more but women will also pick up on your positive…
/r/seduction26/09/22 01:45 AM
1

at the end of the day, if you want her to be into you, only one way to find out if she is. gotta advocate for yourself and what you want No prob, good luck! Let us know how it goes
/r/seduction24/09/22 07:31 PM
1

If her friends are teasing her about it, there’s a solid chance she’s into you honestly. I would ask her out. Just do it. If I were in your shoes I can think of a couple ways I’d go about it: -you can ask one of the other baristas that you’re friendly with (talk softly to them and be like “hey so and so, I need a huge favor. I forgot what her name is, can you help me out?” once you have the name, you just tease with her as per usual and ask her out for a drink or a coffee or something simple, wh…
/r/seduction24/09/22 06:41 PM
1

Seems like you’re psyching yourself out tbh, if she’s still responding that’s prob a good sign. If she didn’t want to talk to you she wouldnt talk to you. If the convo is dry just ask her out and see where it goes
/r/seduction24/09/22 01:15 PM
4

I mean, is there a pattern or is this an isolated incident?
/r/ExRedPill23/09/22 07:29 PM
1

I think you’re taking their attendance far too personally. They aren’t your close friends for sure, so I would match their energy and withdraw a little. Invite them to parties or whatever every now and then, but put the onus on them to make the effort to see you one on one if they want it that bad. IMO if you have to tell them, it’s a one sided friendship and not worth putting in the energy. And you can quit any time This is the nature of friendships in general tbh. Most people, women and men, a…
/r/seduction23/09/22 01:40 PM
2

hey
/r/seduction23/09/22 12:15 PM
4

You’re super arrogant and you’ve convinced yourself “you’re different”. This girl’s a waste of your energy, pivot to easier opportunities
/r/seduction22/09/22 09:13 PM
5

You can’t make her see anything or sabotage anything. She’s just gonna have to figure it out on her own Do NOT get hung up on that girl, she is bad news and she’s a basketcase. Avoid girls hung up on their exes AT ALL COSTS. You WILL get hurt. Get the hell out of there
/r/seduction22/09/22 07:53 PM
1

maybe your focus could be your career-getting it to a place where you can work more normal hours for a better social life. or find a coffee spot that you frequent in the mornings. maybe take early or mid day fitness classes?
/r/seduction22/09/22 06:18 PM
65

Tbh I think it’s just people who don’t know what actual intimacy feels like so they chase someone who represents the idea of it to them
/r/seduction21/09/22 06:26 PM
1

Be social. Do social sports, join clubs, etc. not for the sake of meeting women specifically, but people in general
/r/seduction21/09/22 02:09 PM
1

nah. i know what this is trying to say - that self-esteem issues will repel everyone - but it's wrong. out of curiosity why do you disagree here? I feel like that particular line resonates with me
/r/seduction20/09/22 07:40 PM
1

You right. Thanks
/r/seduction20/09/22 07:01 PM
1

No I know and agree. I’m not trying to brag, what I’m saying is that should I be denying myself every opportunity, even the ones that seem easy first glance for me, for the sake of focusing on myself? Those past two just came from natural conversation, it wouldn’t have felt right to not ask. Idk, I’m in a spot mentally where rejection stings more than it should but I’m kicking myself if I don’t try, which clearly belies something bigger than just seduction but I’m not sure what to do
/r/seduction20/09/22 06:56 PM
1

it was a layup getting the #, it’s getting past that that’s the problem
/r/seduction20/09/22 06:27 PM
1

They aren’t? Lol I get #s like that fairly frequently
/r/seduction20/09/22 06:16 PM
7

A lot of times, I’ll just either ask “would you like to get a drink sometime?” or “I’d love to get a drink sometime” and then ask for their #. context-dependent but you can usually drop that at most points in the convo
/r/seduction20/09/22 04:14 PM
1

1) Ah I see what you’re saying now, I’ll give that a try next time. Thanks! 2) -Openers can be anything, usually situational, a lot of times it’s a remark on a shared observation/event or a compliment/observation. Sometimes I just come up and say hi. -Depends on the convo, but I often swing to life-centered things, ask them about themselves/their personality, and get their opinion on topics. Sometimes talk psychological stuff. If I get a bit of teasing from them or they give me some vulnerabilit…
/r/seduction20/09/22 02:17 PM
1

Thanks for the tips y’all. My gut was telling me something similar, that it’s more effective if I take initiative. Also clear that I’m not in a super good place to handle rejection so maybe I need to just lay off for a bit. Idk, I naturally connect with people & women fairly easily, just can’t seem to make anything of it-could be a product of my vibe as much as it is the actual mechanisms of how I approach. Lots to figure out. In the mean time we go jim
/r/seduction20/09/22 02:04 PM
1

I mean you’re right to a degree, but sometimes a conversation naturally comes up like with these most recent two #s I got. should I be passing up layups? (to be fair they both didn’t reply when I asked them out so maybe they weren’t layups)
/r/seduction20/09/22 01:59 PM
1

Personally I hate asking for their IG because it feels impersonal. If I ask for their # and they give me their IG I assume they’re not interested. If I ask for their contact info and they offer their IG that’s fine. I hardly use IG anymore though and I deleted the app from my phone so it logistically isn’t so much a thing for me anymore
/r/seduction20/09/22 01:57 PM
1

On item 1, getting or giving a # is an exchange. If I get theirs I text them a quick “It’s (me), nice to meet you!” Or something like that. If I give them mine I expect them to text something along those same lines to identify themselves, if they don’t I assume they’re not interested. 2) you’re right, I appreciate that. this section of my life has been all but insurmountable at times and it’s hard to move past-I’m competent at mostly everything else but here I’m stuck. 3) that’s the thing, I alr…
/r/seduction20/09/22 01:48 PM
8

Idk man. Usually I feel the same way you do but right now I find my mental health getting worse with every rejection. Obv a sign of a bigger problem but then that just begs the question of whether I should just not try at all until I’m in a better spot?
/r/seduction19/09/22 05:06 PM
1

Your psychologist sucks at her job
/r/seduction19/09/22 08:51 AM
1

Don’t worry about it, not about you
/r/seduction18/09/22 02:48 AM
1

My dude the way you talk about yourself and the negative energy and low self esteem you project is going to be a turn-off regardless of where you are
/r/seduction17/09/22 05:30 PM
10

You know how dudes get post nut clarity and then switch up on the girl and change energy? Sometimes girls do that to guys too. Happens, march forward
/r/seduction17/09/22 05:21 PM
2

they get a bit nervous and don’t make much eye contact and they start to like giggle even if I haven’t said anything funny or interesting I mean, I could be wrong but this feels to me like they like you/are showing interest
/r/seduction17/09/22 05:15 PM
5

Nah dude you’re just being a dick Some people are at different stages of developing their confidence and that’s completely ok, everyone has a different timeline
/r/seduction17/09/22 09:20 AM
1

what exactly did you do when you were drunk?
/r/seduction16/09/22 03:43 PM
1

Living with parents and working a dead end job. Solve this first. Then the dating will fall into place.
/r/seduction16/09/22 01:42 PM
90

They just aren’t attracted to you. Sometimes it’s just because the personality doesn’t click, sometimes it’s looks/a preference thing. Not worth finding out which, you just move on
/r/seduction13/09/22 03:05 PM
7

I'm 24 and 6'4" alright pack it up we’re done here
/r/seduction13/09/22 01:02 PM
1

that’s a lot of words to say “women shouldn’t be held accountable for cheating”
/r/ExRedPill13/09/22 11:50 AM
2

Bingo. You can’t be on point every day and it’s unfair and unrealistic to expect that of yourself
/r/seduction13/09/22 02:02 AM
7

dude you’re getting your panties in a twist over a non-issue. 99% of women aren’t remotely like that and the ones that are don’t have any sort of power to affect anyone’s day-to-day. go outside and stop reading hate threads
/r/ExRedPill12/09/22 07:31 PM
12

no, the real question is, why the fuck do you care?
/r/ExRedPill12/09/22 04:48 PM
17

Honestly, I think the women that hate men are generally harmless. They just avoid men, they might say something mean but that’s more of their own problem than a problem that affects you or I. The only person they should be accountable to is themselves because blanket hatred like that is just a reflection of their character, and may be a response to negative experiences. There’s no reason that we should let that affect us. The women that should be held accountable are the ones that hurt, manipula…
/r/ExRedPill12/09/22 04:20 PM
5

It’s worth noting that the woman who posted could only last a month without wanting to die and yet you were able to go years under much worse circumstances. No it’s not easy but your mental fortitude is off the charts. It sucks to suffer but you’re winning simply based on the fact that you’re still standing. There’s a lot of people (guys too believe it or not) that have to always stay attached at the hip to someone, and always manage to fall into relationships. This prevents them from ever worki…
/r/ExRedPill11/09/22 11:36 PM
2

On #3 I feel like every girl says that nowadays. Idk what to make of that
/r/seduction11/09/22 09:25 PM
5

No don’t lie about your age. Just don’t tell her unless she asks. If you don’t make it a big deal, she won’t make it a big deal
/r/seduction11/09/22 04:02 PM
1

If you want them asking questions about you and they’re not, then you can move on. You’re not doing anything wrong, you probably just had an unlucky streak if it’s really that bad. I wouldn’t sweat it
/r/seduction10/09/22 07:28 AM
3

That’s entirely a you problem then lol
/r/ExRedPill06/09/22 01:23 PM
1

Connect with yourself, do things you genuinely enjoy without needing other people Consume media (books, music, etc-NOT social media) that resonates with you emotionally Also see a therapist that def helps in identifying emotions and re-learning how to embrace rather than stifle them Develop a strong sense of self and then you will learn to identify when your gut speaks to you and what it’s saying You’ll also have to screw up a lot and then you’ll be able to understand when your gut was telling y…
/r/seduction04/09/22 06:26 AM
1

Then you have lost touch with your emotions. Do things that make you feel
/r/seduction04/09/22 02:22 AM
1

You say what comes to mind and deal with the consequences later. listen to your gut brother
/r/seduction04/09/22 01:07 AM
2

Massive red flag, get the hell out of there
/r/ExRedPill01/09/22 04:26 PM
4

Sometimes you won’t kiss on the first date and that’s totally fine man. You go for it if it feels natural but don’t press the issue
/r/seduction31/08/22 09:25 PM
1

It’s simple, you ignore the noise and pay attention to how you feel about her presence and communication. Do you feel better or worse than you did before you met the girl? Does texting or calling her, spending time with her, etc make you genuinely feel better, or are you just chasing a hope? The key signifier is if you feel calm (which can sometimes feel like boredom) and at peace with that person’s presence & you feel entirely open to be yourself; or if you feel anxious, wondering if they like …
/r/seduction31/08/22 01:53 PM
140

I have a friend who has the same level of ease with women and being firm from what I’ve observed from him essentially means enforcing your boundaries when things aren’t working for you. This can play out as: -if they aren’t willing to give you what you want during a relationship, you part ways -if they offer to be friends when you want to fuck, you respectfully decline and walk away -if they are asking or demanding more of you than they are willing to reciprocate, you enforce distance (for examp…
/r/seduction29/08/22 12:03 AM
2

How emotionally involved do you usually get with each girl? Was there a point where you would get heavily invested, and if you no longer do, why did that change?
/r/seduction28/08/22 11:46 PM
2

you are a MARRIED man, good god if you can’t draw boundaries for things as obvious as this it’s no wonder you guys are about to separate
/r/seduction25/08/22 10:29 PM
3

dude responding to those with anything besides drawing boundaries and saying don’t do that is toeing the line on cheating
/r/seduction25/08/22 08:48 PM
2

How the fuck do you react to unsolicited nudes “as a friend” besides blocking lmao
/r/seduction25/08/22 07:26 PM
1

Update: called to reach out and float the idea, she never responded 😕
/r/seduction22/08/22 11:22 PM
1

lol I’m not gonna press her for sex when she can barely fuckin walk
/r/seduction19/08/22 03:42 PM
1

to be fair the girl broke her leg after the 3rd so couldn’t exactly jump to sex lmao
/r/seduction19/08/22 03:20 PM
1

Thanks man. I gotta say I’m a bit nervous about it. Initial gut reaction was to say no. Have you ever had something like this?
/r/seduction18/08/22 10:06 PM
1

Tuff one lol, but I’ve always offered something worth coming back to. I’m confident in who I am and what I provide
/r/seduction18/08/22 03:47 PM
9

do they tho? never have had that happen to me lol
/r/seduction17/08/22 07:47 PM
3

someone who thinks it’s a red flag is someone who will not be there for you in crisis and is more keen to push issues out of sight than try to resolve them. obviously you don’t want to to dump the contents of your visits but it’s ok to be open that you’re seeing someone IMO
/r/seduction13/08/22 02:55 AM
1

that’s not overexposure but forced exposure IMO
/r/ExRedPill11/08/22 01:31 PM
3

Best way to combat his messaging IMO is to relentlessly mock him. Treating him as a danger legitimizes his message. Rather we should be making fun of him for sounding like a sad, desperate incel and for having to use an MLM scheme to buy followers. Also mock his most loyal followers for falling for what is an obvious scam. He makes for a pretty easy target tbh. The appeal of following his messaging will disappear if others see it makes you a pariah.
/r/ExRedPill10/08/22 02:51 PM
8

If he’s your friend he should know better than to go for a girl you’ve been gunning for
/r/seduction08/08/22 09:17 PM
2

HELL YEAH LFG KING 👑
/r/seduction06/08/22 11:57 PM
-1

but it helped you get laid now, did it not? Would you still be as successful as you are not if you hadn’t put in the work back then?
/r/seduction05/08/22 04:51 PM
1

you can still meet women without making it your priority
/r/seduction05/08/22 03:27 PM
2

Yea but you don’t need to date to grow
/r/seduction05/08/22 01:44 PM
2

because I’ve gone out into the real world plenty and I have yet to have a single interaction like the ones social media say are everywhere or meet the people they always show.
/r/ExRedPill05/08/22 01:43 PM
1

not anywhere near as much as you think it does
/r/ExRedPill05/08/22 09:33 AM
1

that’s sweet of you to offer but you’re offering too much; you also have to consider if she will meet your needs. if she can’t, even if it’s due to something outside of her control, it’s best for you to pivot elsewhere.
/r/seduction05/08/22 09:17 AM
6

pick up some new hobbies. join social groups. ask strangers you vibe with to hang out/grab a drink and get their contact info. play sports. join clubs. go to the park. take classes. learn skills. travel. have small talk with a stranger. go see shows, concerts, etc. make & try new food. try new clothes. go shopping. start styling yourself in a look that makes you feel good about how you look all of these things will give you experience, teach you new skills, show you how and how not to handle soc…
/r/seduction04/08/22 09:03 PM
6

so in other words, they just need basic communication and social skills. what better way to learn those with minimal stakes than by just going out into the world and interacting with others?
/r/seduction04/08/22 08:58 PM
6

Exactly. On the “endlessly scrolling through Reddit” part, removing that from your life helps mental health IMMENSELY as well. Limiting or eliminating social media usage will make your outlook on life infinitely more positive
/r/seduction04/08/22 08:57 PM
26

100% agree. People are getting the wrong idea because they’re getting that kind of advice from a cross-section of the internet that rarely goes outside and genuinely dislikes people. Most normal human beings don’t give a fuck, go talk to strangers and just be friendly.
/r/seduction04/08/22 08:56 PM
2

why did y’all break up? If I can ask
/r/seduction04/08/22 08:44 PM
2

I make it obvious I’m into her by asking her out. Tried your route with a friend I caught feelings for and it just prolonged the rejection. Just rip the bandaid off and ask, you should’ve done that before being the shoulder to cry on though because now you’ve given the wrong impression of what your intentions are
/r/seduction04/08/22 08:44 PM
-1

How do you know? Have you tried actually putting yourself out in the world and committed to improving yourself? And no it doesn’t count if it’s been a couple months. This is a years long process
/r/seduction04/08/22 08:29 PM
13

Oh no that’s definitely rude lol that’s a whole different convo tho
/r/seduction04/08/22 08:20 PM
6

You’re right, good distinction my friend
/r/ExRedPill04/08/22 05:12 PM
3

where did I say that lmao?
/r/seduction04/08/22 04:18 PM
10

you’re trying to protect yourself while also putting yourself out there. these are antithetical. if you put yourself out there you will get rejected and you will not be able to save yourself from ‘trouble’. that’s just the name of the game. you just have to learn to tolerate that feeling and numb yourself to it.
/r/ExRedPill04/08/22 04:15 PM
39

also NEVER let what you see on social media dictate how you view dating, that shit is entirely curated for pure shock value.
/r/ExRedPill04/08/22 03:53 PM
75

No need to ask, you find out when you text her. If you put her on the spot and try to confirm if it’s the right # you run a serious risk of making her uncomfortable and killing any interest she may have had in you. It’s not the most egregious offense but it will do you more harm than good. I think you sound caught up on the ‘knowing whether she likes you or not part’ and it projects insecurity. Just set yourself up for opportunities and go from there, accept you have no control over the actual o…
/r/ExRedPill04/08/22 03:52 PM
4

If it’s like the first, second, maybe even third date and they’re keeping their options open that’s completely normal and you probably should be doing the same-or at least being open to other opportunities. Typically you aren’t attached before the 3rd date enough for both parties to quit dating elsewhere
/r/seduction04/08/22 03:49 PM
2

Does it matter? You’re overthinking it. Until you’re exclusive you shouldn’t be worried about what the girl is doing.
/r/seduction04/08/22 12:57 PM
247

Because they want to show off to their friends and wider social network. They’re seeking attention. Yes that might include other potential suitors. That isn’t a problem if you guys haven’t agreed to be exclusive-it’s a competitive environment and you gotta compete. Now if she’s in a committed relationship and she’s still doing it without showing the guy that’s absolutely attention-seeking behavior and arguably a red flag if she’s not willing to publicly claim you.
/r/seduction04/08/22 12:56 PM
7

If it’s early on in the dating process it’s fine, don’t overthink it, she just wants to flex for her friends and other guys. If anything it means you showed her a good enough time that she likes what you’re bringing to the table. If you’re in a committed relationship and she’s doing that, then that raises some eyebrows.
/r/seduction04/08/22 12:53 PM
1

Here’s the thing-you can enjoy life without a partner, AND if you do so it makes it easier to date. If you give up, then what? You’re just going to sit at home for the rest of your life and be miserable? Fuck that shit my guy, go try new things and find what makes you happy
/r/ExRedPill04/08/22 12:19 PM
2

You should never ‘push’ for it. You can flow towards it but that’s a two-person vibe and if she’s not on the same page as you then it won’t happen. Escalate if you both are feeling it
/r/seduction01/08/22 08:17 PM
1

Sounds like you need to set boundaries
/r/seduction29/07/22 02:47 PM
2

I think being “clear about your actions” is more about how you signal your intentions rather than stating them outright. You use nonverbal cues (eye contact, touch, tone of voice, body positioning/proximity, etc) to flirt and show you see the woman sexually.
/r/seduction25/07/22 04:32 PM
6

I’ve had many women in my life as great & supportive friends. It’s much easier to be emotionally open with a woman who’s a friend and they’re great at validating you & your feelings when you don’t even know you needed it. Women can also provide clarity and guidance when we get caught up in our thoughts and analysis paralysis. They have a stronger intuition than we men do which comes in handy more than you might think. Finding good people is rare, that applies to both men and women, but a good wo…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/22 04:01 PM
9

No actually at least for me it’s hotter when a girl says that and I don’t expect it from her usually lol
/r/seduction21/07/22 08:12 PM
3

I had a strange moment on a date last night where I asked, she said no, and then a few moments later we ended up kissing anyway. We just kinda fell into it. People like to hype up asking for consent for a kiss & say it’s sexy but my spicy take is that if you’re asking for it you likely already have the answer. You should just be able to read the room. Easier said than done but you break/luck out once and you can start to recognize the patterns. (Please note that this only applies to kissing, I s…
/r/seduction21/07/22 08:10 PM
1

Like a small but outsized portion of college students do, and then they settle almost immediately after college. Some people hit their stride afterward. Go according to your timeline, don’t worry about others
/r/seduction21/07/22 08:06 PM
0

Nailed that shit king, know your worth
/r/seduction21/07/22 02:07 PM
2

Get them out into the real world and disconnected from technology entirely
/r/ExRedPill20/07/22 01:47 AM
2

thanks man this is great and it’s needed reassurance lol
/r/seduction18/07/22 04:54 PM
4

damn dude a couple months ago a girl dropped that line on me and we did not have sex and now I’m realizing I fucked up lmfao
/r/seduction18/07/22 07:58 AM
1

Someone on here said that if she says you aren’t having sex, it’s already on her mind and she’s just trying to convince herself otherwise
/r/seduction18/07/22 07:57 AM
2

bro it’s Reddit of course all the replies disagree. if I agree I’m just gonna be quiet I’m not gonna reply yes I agree lol
/r/seduction12/07/22 11:50 PM
6

lol not at all. most girls don’t even notice, the rest don’t really care. if any care enough to ask you hit them with honesty like “I just wanted to have fun on my own” or “I’m just out on my own adventure”, if anything that projects value
/r/seduction12/07/22 03:38 PM
1

so what do you recommend then?
/r/seduction11/07/22 03:09 AM
8

which would be?
/r/seduction08/07/22 08:00 PM
32

ok that’s good to hear cuz that’s generally what I said in the particular scenario that lead to this post, figured it’s a good way to toe the line I ended up not taking her home but it was largely cause she tripped in heels and fucked up her ankle lmao
/r/seduction08/07/22 08:00 PM
2

Sounds like she likes you just by being you. So keep doing you, treat her like anyone else you’d be fucking and don’t put her on a pedestal
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:31 PM
17

Counter to point 2: it’s ok if she doesn’t want to talk about it right away. if it’s a conversation that OP feels he needs to have and she keeps shutting it down or deflecting it, and they haven’t had it yet, she’s being childish.
/r/seduction24/06/22 03:07 AM
5

Just talk to her whenever you’re compelled to. If y’all have chemistry the convo will flow naturally if you tease and joke a little. Don’t overthink it, just fly by the seat of your pants
/r/seduction17/06/22 11:37 PM
1

How is that a “loss of frame”? I barely know what the even means but it seems you lost it the minute you let what she thinks dictate your actions. If she’s playing hard to get just move on to greener pastures brother
/r/seduction17/06/22 05:38 PM
2

LFG boss!!!! Love the active investment in your self-improvement, it’s great. Keep that up and you’ll be shocked where you are a year from now. You’re making great progress and you’re an inspiration!!
/r/seduction16/06/22 05:34 PM
6

If you like her as a person and you’re comfortable with her fucking other guys, then yeah for sure. that’s not rhetorical btw, if you genuinely don’t care, and you enjoy her company, keep her around. A good friendship is always worth keeping
/r/seduction16/06/22 05:09 PM
1

Because sometimes things change in how you feel. Or, it might have been intended as a date and she asks to stay friends afterward.
/r/seduction16/06/22 05:07 PM
-1

You’re expecting something. That’s where you’re going wrong. As soon as you stop expecting anything and remove yourself from your women-centric thinking, things will start to change
/r/seduction16/06/22 02:11 PM
4

Exactly. You don’t want those women who are attracted to those men, they’ve got some serious things going on with their mental health that they and you are ill-equipped to handle
/r/seduction16/06/22 02:08 PM
21

It’s not just women-everyone is instinctively repulsed by someone who feels sorry for themselves. Because it’s pathetic. It says you have given up and have no intent of trying to improve your lot in life. Being repulsed by it doesn’t make anyone a user, they wanna know they’re not stepping into a bad situation where they’re expending energy on someone that is just going to drain them. If you’re in that kind of state, a partner won’t fix it. You have to work on yourself first.
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 03:31 PM
3

He’s not struggling now, but when things go left he will have zero idea how to handle it. Your struggles make you stronger and wiser. Keep at it
/r/seduction11/06/22 02:17 PM
2

I’m in the process of it but it’s working. I find myself more at peace when not pursuing someone. The key is to accept things as they are and do things that genuinely bring you joy without the need for anyone else to be present.
/r/seduction02/06/22 04:36 PM
3

She’s giving you mixed signals because she isn’t sure whether she likes you in particular but she definitely likes and wants the attention and validation. Don’t say anything about that, don’t call her out or anything, just do as you usually do without her around. As to how to respond, you gotta decide what you want from her and whether you’re willing to wait for that before you try to reciprocate or pursue to any degree.
/r/seduction02/06/22 03:59 AM
1

No prob man. Good luck out there!
/r/seduction19/05/22 10:09 PM
2

I mean that’s the thing. You go into it without anything to see through. If you have intent other than to talk with a stranger they can tell from a mile away. So don’t go in necessarily with intent beyond just having an interesting conversation. You can use that convo as an opportunity to size them up initially and figure out if they’re worthwhile, but really it’s just for its own sake. You’re thinking of doing this as a goal-oriented action. Instead, just think of it as a casual interaction for…
/r/seduction19/05/22 04:28 PM
2

Well that’s my point, you can’t have a natural connection if they don’t like you, but you won’t know unless you start a conversation right? Just don’t center the conversation on dating/asking them out. Have a real and genuine exchange first
/r/seduction19/05/22 11:38 AM
4

exactly. don’t overthink it in terms of “approaching” anyway. go live life and if you happen to strike up a conversation with an attractive stranger that leads somewhere, great! nobody likes when you force anything
/r/seduction19/05/22 05:45 AM
31

Read the room and don’t go to places just to ask people out. It’s clear he came there with an agenda and obv that’s a huge turnoff There’s nothing wrong with striking up a conversation with a stranger and being friendly and then conveying that natural connection into a desire for a date. But if you go into a place like that with the explicit desire to ask people out, it takes away all the allure and makes you look thirsty and desperate
/r/seduction19/05/22 12:03 AM
75

remove all expectation and attachment to any particular outcome. just go chat with anyone you find interesting without an agenda. and if anyone rejects you bluntly like the Snapchat thing, just internalize that they’re not for you & it’s their loss and move on
/r/seduction10/05/22 01:18 PM
1

lol yuuup, you just gotta find peace in that you can’t control how people think, feel or act, and do as best as you can for yourself
/r/seduction10/05/22 01:10 PM
1

only she knows why, and you may never find out. such is dating 🤷🏻‍♂️
/r/seduction10/05/22 12:37 PM
1

well you did technically learn something here, that sometimes you did nothing wrong and it just was never going to work with that person. dating takes two and the other person has to be both physically and mentally available and open for you, she might be the former but not the latter. if she wants you she’ll come around but march forward with your life assuming she won’t
/r/seduction10/05/22 12:00 PM
3

does it matter? It’s a rejection, move on
/r/seduction10/05/22 10:44 AM
1

i think you honestly need to just approach strangers-women or otherwise-and just talk. learn to free yourself of expectation and just go with the flow. go start conversations with anyone for the fuck of it, and stop worrying about the pursuit of women specifically
/r/seduction09/05/22 06:59 PM
4

yikes man
/r/seduction09/05/22 05:59 PM
-1

I'm trying to figure out if she just likes the attention from men and that's it or if she's actually sleeping around left and right. these two things are one and the same, if she likes the attention from men she doesn’t like she’ll be having sex with the men she does like to secure their attention. she may not be having sex and just have orbiters around in her back pocket, but that kind of attention seeking behavior is a pretty big red flag on its own. you’ll always be competing with those guys …
/r/seduction07/05/22 10:02 PM
17

hot take, don’t ask that directly, it’s not gonna go well
/r/seduction07/05/22 09:57 PM
1

I know that, I’m talking in a medium/longer term, like if you’re in a talking phase with someone and they’re giving mixed signals or otherwise aren’t being clear. In other words, after you’ve shown her who you are. If she still has to decide at that point, walk away
/r/seduction07/05/22 04:16 PM
1

Good tip, I’ll try that. Do you usually text them the night of with your name so they know who it is? Or how do you get them to remember you?
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:23 AM
1

Ratio as of rn is practically 0 if you’re talking about turning #s into dates. Only have done it once really. Out of probably just slightly under 100 attempts in the past 2 years or so post-pandemic
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:22 AM
5

Oh I meant over the course of days or more. 30 min convo or so, yeah you gotta establish that connection. But that’s more a matter of being yourself, being confident, flowing with the moment and not displaying red flags than it is about deploying any tricks or techniques
/r/seduction06/05/22 03:22 PM
33

if she needs time to figure out if she’s attracted to you, that means either A) she isn’t or B) she will be, but there’s nothing you can do to expedite it. In the latter case, you walk away and let her come around
/r/seduction06/05/22 01:53 PM
1

that’s too much after just one date. just say you’re not interested in being friends. you’re trying to change the mind of someone who already said they’re not interested. move on
/r/seduction06/05/22 02:05 AM
3

it takes less effort if you’re completely detached from the outcome. just talk to people you actually want to talk to, not just because you want sex from them
/r/seduction06/05/22 02:04 AM
1

Question-if you’re working a girl and she goes up to a bar to grab a drink or otherwise is away from you, and some other guy slides in to talk to her, what do you do? Hope she comes to her senses and sticks with you? Pop into the convo? If the latter, what do you say/do/project to avoid looking clingy, desperate or jealous?
/r/seduction04/05/22 09:21 PM
2

Enforce your boundaries rigidly. Say no to things that won’t make you happy or benefit you. Put yourself first and others after. You won’t actually be an asshole by doing these things, but some people who think they’re entitled to your time and energy may label you as one.
/r/seduction04/05/22 12:13 AM
1

I usually need to know more about them to get to that level IMO, which I prefer anyway. Again to your point tho that’s a matter of attention to detail on my end
/r/seduction03/05/22 09:38 PM
0

You’re right for sure, and thank you for confirming what I thought-that bars are not really the best place to find what I’m looking for. Maybe when I’m looking for something a bit more temporary or transactional I can move more towards that kind of approaching but for me as it stands rn I want to date. In the mean time I’ll just keep doing me and give some of the recommendations in here a spin. Thanks!
/r/seduction03/05/22 09:24 PM
1

interesting. it’s usually pretty hard to conjure up something like that with a total stranger that I don’t have much memory of speaking to, but then again that’s probably a sign I should have spent more time talking to them
/r/seduction03/05/22 09:10 PM
2

So just walk over with the assumption that she is into you and behave like you've already slept together. this is really good insight. I’ll do that. thanks man!
/r/seduction03/05/22 08:26 PM
0

Interesting take. What specific things do you mean by sub-communication? I could certainly stand to spice up my personality to be more exciting lmao, I’m not a boring person by any means and I can flirt but I can see where that particular area could be improved. What kind of energy should I be seeking to give off to create that kind of vibe?
/r/seduction03/05/22 07:32 PM
1

for the record when I say “establish trust” that’s for me, not them. I can be attracted to someone but I want to know they’re someone I can trust before I get to a certain level of vulnerability/intimacy with them, IE at least get to know them a little. Essentially I want to date. not trying to be their friend, I tease/flirt with them, or compliment them. but I sometimes fail to be more direct about my intentions (I only sparingly call them cute) so that could be something I might improve on. Ik…
/r/seduction03/05/22 07:26 PM
0

I don’t even choose them really. It’s not like I’m hunting them down. I happen to start talking to them because I’m close to them, I think they’re cute and am drawn to speak to them. I’m just going with the flow of the moment.
/r/seduction03/05/22 07:19 PM
41

You build a strong enough connection with one that she doesn’t want to leave you. There are plenty of women out there who are smart enough not to throw away a good relationship for a passing desire.
/r/seduction03/05/22 05:30 PM
5

for whatever reason she no longer wants to keep seeing you and her anxiety thing means she probably isn’t able to tell you b/c the mere thought of it sends her into a panic attack. that’s my best working theory but either way, move on and don’t worry about it. knowing the “why” won’t change anything
/r/seduction03/05/22 10:33 AM
13

compliment him, smile at him, etc. literally just show warmth and openness
/r/seduction01/05/22 11:45 PM
9

nothing wrong with having standards and not wanting to fuck certain women, sometimes the desire just isn’t there and there’s nothing you can do about it. you’re not the odd one out, that’s fairly normal
/r/seduction01/05/22 02:53 PM
1

So basically, use a presumptive ask
/r/seduction29/04/22 05:33 PM
2

why the fuck would you go back to your ex after all that lmao
/r/seduction26/04/22 09:40 PM
2

exactly. there are women out there who are not like this, who have good self esteem and aren’t walked on. find those women
/r/seduction26/04/22 09:02 PM
19

my dude you’re right but you are not surrounding yourself with the best women tbh
/r/seduction26/04/22 02:27 PM
5

it did work out for him lmao
/r/seduction26/04/22 02:25 PM
4

it’s unbelievable how many more don’t mind
/r/seduction25/04/22 09:11 PM
93

1) low self esteem 2) the desire for what she can’t have 3) a need to mother/“fix” someone 4) full life & need for excitement & drama
/r/seduction23/04/22 12:32 PM
17

He's one of her relatives wait hol up
/r/seduction23/04/22 12:31 PM
3

how about this, do what makes you happiest and most content in that moment, other people’s opinions be damned
/r/seduction22/04/22 10:33 AM
7

my dude she met you in person and said “no”. what other evidence do you need?? the answer has been given, you’re just too stubborn to accept it
/r/seduction20/04/22 07:35 PM
10

because women (all people really) don’t choose to change their mind, they either like you or they don’t. unless you’re catfishing others and are uglier on social media than in real life, they have seen enough of you to know how they feel about you, and that’s not changing. you can’t force it either and trying to absolutely will make you a creep
/r/seduction20/04/22 06:58 PM
22

I thought maybe I could change her mind if we met. and that’s where you went wrong. you can’t and you never will, stop trying to
/r/seduction20/04/22 04:00 PM
1

bingo! Altho there are some girls who genuinely don’t like it
/r/seduction18/04/22 08:35 PM
2

I’m actually gentle on my handshakes with women tbh, I feel like going for an aggressive one is something I do only for guys. I treat women a bit more delicately
/r/seduction18/04/22 03:29 PM
3

one other thing I’ll add-a personal favorite of mine is sticking out my elbow and giving them an opportunity to grab my arm or link arms when we’re walking somewhere. it’s a gentlemanly thing to do but also allows you to gauge their receptiveness and even build a little attraction
/r/seduction18/04/22 03:19 PM
56

literally just tap their shoulder, brush their arm, nudge/bump into them, give them a light shove if they tease you, etc. that’s really it. when you start out and you’re just getting to know her you do it really lightly, the key is to only really use your fingertips starting off
/r/seduction17/04/22 11:52 PM
3

Fuck your mutual friend’s opinion lol, they’re a hater. shoot your damn shot
/r/seduction15/04/22 05:45 PM
15

Hosting, providing drinks, and having the ability to travel. Money is freedom and flexibility and they utilize that to grow their social circle
/r/seduction11/04/22 12:34 PM
6

be less average. level up. that’s well within your control
/r/seduction09/04/22 10:27 PM
5

only 900 followers well above average my dude happy for you but this feels out of touch for most guys
/r/seduction09/04/22 10:26 PM
7

You can get a date using dating app but that is it. If date fails or not, you are same ol' scared guy that women does not respect. that’s not a problem with the app, that’s a problem with you
/r/seduction06/04/22 03:06 PM
1

doing noticeably well at something that I hadn’t been good at before. and/or, not falling into bad patterns or habits that i used to partake in. for me, seeing evidence that I’ve grown and improved is a massive confidence boost
/r/seduction06/04/22 12:40 PM
3

it is lmao, but that’s dating
/r/seduction05/04/22 02:37 PM
6

lemme give you additional insight after re-reading your post. you had a shot to start with, but then you texted this girl three days in a row, gave her no space, and made no attempt to meet up either. she inevitably got bored and you got desperate, that can show up in even the tiniest ways and it’s the biggest turn off for any girl. you put her on a pedestal, got overeager and anxious and smothered her. you clearly have the goods to attract girls like this in the future; just use this as a lesso…
/r/seduction02/04/22 09:53 PM
5

tough lesson-you’re very rarely going to get an explanation as to why someone flips on you, especially this early in the game. people break off contact or change their minds for all sorts of reasons, it’s outside of your control. you’re only gonna reduce the likelihood they turn back to you if you press the issue. just learn to accept it and move on, there’s nothing you can do
/r/seduction02/04/22 08:56 PM
19

Dude she’s clearly trying to tell you to buzz off and you’re not taking the hint. You prob pressed too hard in the beginning. It’s done, you’re not gonna make it work, you scared her off
/r/seduction02/04/22 03:34 PM
3

Dude, respectfully, if you’ve been hung up on someone you only went on one date with for an entire year, you’ve got much bigger problems you need to tackle
/r/seduction02/04/22 12:31 PM
0

Yeah no lmao you can’t just be like “I know there’s a clearly outlined medical definition of narcissism, but have my own definition, so I know what it is”
/r/seduction31/03/22 01:30 PM
5

Actually no in this day and age it’s relatively early
/r/seduction31/03/22 01:29 PM
4

Lol you’re relatively early tbh
/r/seduction31/03/22 12:53 PM
0

dude respectfully I don’t think you know what narcissism actually is
/r/seduction30/03/22 11:50 PM
1

It’s not a level of narcissism at all, it’s completely acceptable. It’s the other way around, narcissists come with the belief in their self-worth embedded, along with all the toxic things as well. The rest of us have to build that self worth from scratch-but it’s still attainable without the toxic traits. To put it another way, all narcissists are confident, but not all confident people are narcissists. Plus, the simple fact that you’re worried about become a narcissist means you are not a narc…
/r/seduction29/03/22 05:19 PM
2

This is good to read. I’ve always been the type to say “ya keep me posted” after getting a “I’ll let you know” out of courtesy. But now that I think about it this way, there’s no point in saying that, if she wants to she will regardless of whether I’ve said anything. if she can’t extend me the courtesy of being direct then why should I do the same? Same goes out to all you kings, if it’s not a fuck yes, do slightly less than the bare minimum of communicating. Close the door, let her knock. If it…
/r/seduction29/03/22 05:06 PM
5

Not necessarily. But you do have to have a focus that’s not on a partner. Whether that’s your well-being, or self-improvement, or a hobby, or friendships/family, or a mission/cause, is up to you. But treating a specific person as your primary concern is counterproductive, because they’ll pick up on the desperation.
/r/seduction29/03/22 04:40 PM
7

Agreed, there are people who will respect you even if you aren’t “high value” or whatever. If someone only respects you based on your status/what you provide they’re a shitty human being
/r/seduction29/03/22 03:40 PM
2

You know it’s not for you and your gut tells you as much. Why worry about what other people are doing? You have zero control over that. Just do your thing
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 01:37 AM
1

I agree. We should be investing in ourselves first-not because that’s what’s required for a relationship, but because that’s what’s best for our own growth. Great insight!
/r/ExRedPill25/03/22 05:13 PM
2

I think a lot of that also needs to come from other men tbh. We as men are failing to support each other and often step on each other in order to project ourselves as “alphas”. We like to say society isn’t supporting men, which is true, but we are half of that society and we interact with each other arguably more than the other half does with us. Take care of each other kings
/r/ExRedPill25/03/22 02:16 AM
1

then go get out and about & travel
/r/seduction24/03/22 05:40 PM
3

Status is only useful insofar that it gives you confidence. It is more than possible to be confident without it. You have to just find other reasons to be confident-you worked your ass off and paid your debt, for example, and that’s a great reason right off the bat
/r/seduction24/03/22 04:50 PM
10

oh no only millions of eligible women, will that be enough??
/r/seduction24/03/22 01:56 PM
6

Maybe it’s just a matter of people living in countries that aren’t their own tend to be more worldly and grounded because of broader experiences
/r/seduction23/03/22 05:00 PM
1

Like what’s something someone said to you specifically, word for word, if you remember? IMO that’s just people being shitty. Most people are, frankly. But they’re doing you a favor by filtering themselves out. It sounds like you have a few diamonds surrounding you though, which is a great thing to have. Hearing praise from people that already like you can feel hollow, trust me I know the feeling. But it means they were willing to put in the effort to see what you’re worth to them. THOSE are the …
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 02:23 PM
2

I mean, maybe you rub them the wrong way, either by something you do wrong or by no fault at all. maybe you live somewhere where a lot of people are assholes. who knows? best solution is to get honest feedback from friends on things you could improve on, and disregard anything beyond what you can control. maybe consider being an asshole back; you should at the very least be asserting yourself and your space and respect. you don’t have to accept that type of treatment. can I ask for some examples…
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 01:44 PM
1

Couple thoughts 1) first off if you’re getting compliments on your looks in general that’s definitely a good thing. I’m not particularly ugly and I never get those lmao. most guys really don’t that often 2) don’t put stock into internet ratings of your appearance, it’s almost always an aggregate rating by basement dwellers who are comparing you to hyper-unrealistic standards 3) most people you meet won’t accept you, period. a lot of people genuinely suck. that’s just how people are. you don’t ne…
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 12:07 PM
-5

with that attitude? yes
/r/seduction22/03/22 05:38 PM
51

I would’ve just said “oh yeah good idea, I’ll get both of y’all’s!”
/r/seduction20/03/22 01:21 PM
44

don’t ask, just withdraw and let her actions speak for her. they’ll be more honest than her words
/r/seduction19/03/22 06:14 PM
1

Do both! Keep forging forward. You don’t have to wait for one to do the other
/r/seduction19/03/22 01:00 PM
2

then it’s therapy and introspection time my guy. this goes beyond seduction and physical relationships, this is about the emotional component and keeping a partner around. gotta do some digging and healing
/r/seduction18/03/22 07:20 PM
2

maybe you have an avoidant attachment style? you’re afraid of getting close to someone for fear of getting hurt? depends on your past and how you’ve coped with any trauma
/r/seduction18/03/22 05:52 PM
1

Well I am American soooo
/r/seduction18/03/22 02:01 PM
1

Last part is true, always remember you are the catch. but-it doesn’t seem like he was being clingy, just seems like she turned on a dime. he didn’t go wrong by putting forth effort, and if he did he shouldn’t waste time on someone who can’t reciprocate. it’s not like he was simping here. I don’t think he did anything wrong
/r/seduction18/03/22 03:06 AM
1

you will boss, if you can do it once you can do it again
/r/seduction18/03/22 03:04 AM
1

bro some of y’all are just sad with these comments lmao yeah man, sometimes shit can get affectionate and the meaning behind it isn’t there. or her mind can change on a dime due to a realization. could’ve also been someone else, could’ve not been (doubt that’s the case if it started off well like you said). who knows? there’s really not shit you can do. just appreciate it for what it was and move on to someone who can meet your wants and needs. I’d speculate that she was really enjoying it and t…
/r/seduction18/03/22 02:14 AM
2

Way too much too early, you will scare her off lol
/r/seduction17/03/22 09:17 PM
12

Honestly, I’m the opposite. Like I appreciate a well-dressed woman, especially in a dress, but I really like a girl that can rock a cozy look, like sweaters and joggers and her hair in a bun. That shit’s just cute to me idk why
/r/seduction17/03/22 09:16 PM
3

I think not just women but people in general use “sorry” to express guilt for making others feel bad, not because they’re actually remorseful about the action itself. Sorry is used more as a diplomatic tool to preserve a relationship rather than to actually apologize unfortunately. Most people do this-I think some women might tend to do it more just because women are more socially-inclined and more likely to want to preserve relationships with people, but men are just as guilty with the misuse o…
/r/seduction17/03/22 08:05 PM
7

That’s the best way to go about it. If she’s interested she’ll make time
/r/seduction16/03/22 02:52 PM
12

This is brilliant-great insight! Women are attracted to men who are confident and self-assured; people with dark triad traits have those naturally ingrained because they have zero moral restraints and are purely selfish, so unfortunately they tend to be attractive for that reason. The rest of us with a moral code have to build those characteristics from scratch-but it IS possible to attain them.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/22 04:24 PM
5

still beat tho
/r/seduction14/03/22 08:27 PM
19

touch is key
/r/seduction14/03/22 02:56 PM
3

she’s definitely using you and you’re allowing it. ghost her and don’t let people walk on you like that
/r/seduction14/03/22 02:53 PM
1

chat with strangers, start small talk, build up your social confidence. compliment girls you think are cute (about minor stuff that they choose-clothes, jewelry, shoes, etc). slowly work your way up to more in-depth/connected conversations and eventually asks-dates, numbers, social media, etc
/r/seduction14/03/22 04:05 AM
5

it’s like jumping in the pool, you just hold your nose and fuckin do it
/r/seduction14/03/22 04:03 AM
3

you’re overthinking man, in situations like that just enjoy the convo for what it is, get her contact info and see where it goes. worst case scenario, you make a hot friend. but you gotta remove the idea of any particular outcome from the interaction and just go with the flow
/r/seduction14/03/22 03:56 AM
3

just start thinking of girls like that as a dime a dozen, cause they are. physically attractive girls are everywhere, yet you are putting them on a pedestal without wondering if they’re worthy of your best qualities and the things YOU have to offer. ask yourself the question when you see a girl like that: “yeah she’s beautiful, but what’s her personality like?” approach with curiosity, but don’t come in already sold on the girl.
/r/seduction14/03/22 03:54 AM
2

Thank you king ✊🏼
/r/seduction13/03/22 02:25 AM
4

isn’t calling it a date a confession in and of itself? how would that be different?
/r/seduction11/03/22 09:47 PM
1

so essentially, be honest about how she makes me feel
/r/seduction11/03/22 09:46 PM
4

no she clearly gave you mixed signals. maybe someone else came up in her life, or an ex returned, or whatever. you did nothing wrong tho, chin up king I will say I trust this girl not to do anything like that to me, she’s an extremely open and honest communicator and is highly genuine and trustworthy. if she says no we can absolutely still be friendly and I’d probably still want to keep her as a friend, I’d just pivot elsewhere romantically
/r/seduction11/03/22 09:44 PM
3

that’s the thing, we already have so I worry if I ask for that she’ll still think it’s platonic
/r/seduction11/03/22 08:34 PM
3

Good call. Always trust your gut
/r/seduction11/03/22 02:53 AM
2

Good luck man!
/r/seduction08/03/22 10:12 PM
6

Lol we talked for about 4 months before it became clear the distance was too much to overcome. Sorry to disappoint with no happy ending. But attraction was not the problem there.
/r/seduction08/03/22 08:38 PM
12

I went on like 6 or so dates with a girl (Girl X) for a month and a half or so. She was into me and I enjoyed the adventure and dates, and the chemistry was certainly there. I just was waiting for the feelings to kick in, I figured they would at some point. I was discussing it with a friend and when I explained that to them they said in disbelief, “you’ve been on 6 dates and still don’t feel that way?” and I had an epiphany. If they hadn’t shown up by then, then when would they? I also started t…
/r/seduction08/03/22 08:18 PM
0

because the women here are antisocial loners, same as the men. most people in the real world don’t give a damn and if they do they’ll tell you
/r/ExRedPill02/03/22 11:36 PM
-1

Jesus man all y’all wanna do is bitch n moan instead of actually working to make yourselves better
/r/seduction01/03/22 02:49 PM
1

whatever you would talk about with anyone else. Something you could try is ask them some questions to kick things off, like what’s their connection to the team, where are they from, do they go to your school, etc
/r/seduction27/02/22 01:10 AM
23

the minute you stop worrying about looking awkward is the minute you are no longer awkward
/r/seduction27/02/22 01:09 AM
8

genuinely curious how you met her (and how OP met his girl)? I feel like that level of followers just means they’re usually restricted to certain specific social circles
/r/seduction23/02/22 05:21 PM
70

honestly, the more followers she has, the higher chance she is insecure. at that point, a following that big has been actively cultivated. she is putting a lot of effort into social media to mask or compensate for an insecurity with virtual attention
/r/seduction23/02/22 05:19 PM
1

girls ranging from hot to slightly better looking than him
/r/seduction22/02/22 06:02 PM
2

booyah see you’re already one step ahead. now go leverage that accent as a strength king the world is yours for the taking
/r/seduction22/02/22 01:03 PM
1

very attractive, honestly. although he mixed some… interesting ones in there too. dude just fucks and you gotta respect it
/r/seduction22/02/22 04:41 AM
22

Dude I’m so tired of the negativity, partly because I too used to wallow in it and now I’ve escaped and am seeing others in it and I just want everyone to see that life can get better, sex or no sex, if you actually invest in it
/r/seduction22/02/22 04:40 AM
277

I literally had a friend who swam in pussy despite being 5’6” and bald with a nasally voice. He pulled it off because he didn’t give a shit what people thought, he got the most out of life, and he stayed true to himself. Get off the fuckin Internet and just go appreciate life without expectation. Even if you don’t get laid you’ll still be happy
/r/seduction21/02/22 10:15 PM
2

find a new job or find fulfillment in your job.
/r/seduction20/02/22 11:48 AM
10

he means to be fulfilled. pick up a hobby. try new activities. make new friends. go on trips, adventures, etc. make something with your hands. get outside of your comfort zone
/r/seduction20/02/22 04:38 AM
83

precisely. fill your life with things besides women and find things that can fulfill you. then even if you are alone you will still be happy
/r/seduction20/02/22 04:37 AM
2

of course they do. who cares? you can’t change it. focus on what makes you happy and works for you first
/r/ExRedPill19/02/22 07:05 PM
106

if you’re described as nice, it means there are no redeeming qualities about you that people remember. you never want to be just “nice”
/r/seduction19/02/22 07:03 PM
1

Ew dude you reek of insecurity but to answer your question, I think you should not think about it at all. move the fuck on who cares
/r/seduction19/02/22 02:21 AM
1

dude this reeks of a quitter mentality and your comments only enforce it. you’re just wasting time and energy complaining. why don’t you go try to change things instead?
/r/seduction18/02/22 05:45 PM
1

KING
/r/seduction12/02/22 03:31 PM
1

Don’t bother. Flip it on its head, make her think she has to convince you instead. Just ignore her
/r/seduction11/02/22 01:09 AM
5

Oh nvm I misread his post as “best outside of the 3. don’t mind me I’m illiterate
/r/seduction10/02/22 07:55 PM
3

The OP asked what dating apps besides those three are good and not a single person has answered the actual question lol I’d answer but idk any good ones and haven’t bothered with the apps in months anyway.
/r/seduction10/02/22 05:54 PM
2

It’s always the ex lol
/r/seduction07/02/22 06:37 PM
27

you stop seeing her? lmao
/r/seduction07/02/22 05:30 PM
1

I think I got something figured out too today. If you’re nervous about asking out one girl, start thinking about a different girl right beforehand and distract yourself
/r/seduction06/02/22 06:24 PM
19

If they’re telling other girls you’re a player, they’re making you look far more valuable. Now if they’re saying actually negative things about you, they’re not your friends.
/r/seduction06/02/22 06:14 PM
1

pretty
/r/seduction06/02/22 12:04 PM
7

Alternatively, she was never that into you in the first place. don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t want you wholeheartedly or always needs you to be at your peak. go for someone that likes you regardless of whether you’re having a good day or not. As others said, your intrinsic qualities will consistently shine through and the right girls will be attracted to that, so you don’t need to expend effort putting up a facade.
/r/seduction05/02/22 08:52 PM
11

Push your boundaries at every level. Do things and say things you’re uncomfortable doing. Meet people outside of your usual crew or space. Go new places. These things will give you stories, that’s a key part of being more interesting. They’ll also help you develop your social skills and give you more confidence that builds your personality. You have to grow, and to do that you must ignore your fear. Go take on the world
/r/seduction05/02/22 12:06 AM
1

You keep going and you keep improving until the women are no longer the goal
/r/seduction04/02/22 12:11 PM
2

they will never ever admit to that lmao
/r/seduction03/02/22 06:55 PM
63

Reddit is a horrible place to go for advice on general but especially dating advice because you get a horribly skewed cross section of society with an outsized set of bitter Internet loners and self-obsessed weirdos
/r/seduction03/02/22 04:03 PM
7

Dude where does one find quiet girls?? I’ve had nothing but amazing experiences with them but they only pop up in my life very rarely in unique situations lol
/r/seduction03/02/22 12:49 AM
5

Also to your case they easily could ignore the DMs anyway. If they just cave to the next best person that comes along (according to whatever shallow standards they have), that’s a personality weakness and the follower count only makes that possible, it doesn’t cause it. They were going to cheat anyway, Instagram just made it easier. Sorry you went through that. It’s not because you were “out-chadded” or someone was better than you, it’s because your Ex was weak-willed and flaky and always lookin…
/r/seduction02/02/22 06:32 PM
2

I think 1k-ish, maybe up to like 3k,?if they’re physically attractive you can plausibly say it’s just thirsty dudes and/or they’re popular. I think once you pass a certain threshold though it’s clear the follower count has become a goal in and of itself, 70k is well past that point
/r/seduction02/02/22 06:23 PM
1

at 70k followers that’s just unhealthy clout seeking tbh, nothing you could have ever done to satiate that big of a need for attention. sorry mayne
/r/seduction02/02/22 04:48 PM
21

He’s her Only Fan
/r/seduction02/02/22 04:47 PM
2

Gas her up, she’s your girl after all
/r/seduction02/02/22 04:46 PM
1

you’re right, although it’s also a matter of the tone, body language, etc. I almost feel uncomfortable doing it and it shows. not sure how to shake that
/r/seduction02/02/22 03:39 AM
2

I like this idea a lot but: Where do I get a pen and piece of paper
/r/seduction01/02/22 06:00 PM
1

in that process rn lmao
/r/seduction30/01/22 12:30 AM
36

I also fully agree that he’s 30 years old and a lawyer
/r/seduction30/01/22 12:30 AM
1

bro learn to read
/r/seduction29/01/22 03:18 AM
11

he did literally everything he could and this girl kept blocking him out, he didn’t give up at all leaving was his last resort
/r/seduction28/01/22 08:20 PM
9

Her friend doesn’t have the respect to let you two have your moment and she doesn’t have the self respect to tell her friend that she can check back another time. That’s on them, not you. Good on you for knowing your worth and standing up for yourself. Onto the next
/r/seduction28/01/22 08:19 PM
5

I wouldn’t even bother responding. Leave her on read lol. It’s not even petty or undermining you “being the bigger person”, it just demonstrates that you don’t care and that gives you power
/r/seduction26/01/22 03:58 PM
1

good. then he can stop wasting his time and go find someone that does
/r/seduction25/01/22 04:47 PM
1

you talk to them in public. grocery stores, coffee shops, bars, the elevator at your apartment. strike up conversation, if it goes reasonably well get their contact info. just talk to people man
/r/seduction24/01/22 12:54 PM
5

that’s because they document all their highlights so much. but that means in reality they spend more time documenting the best moments than actually experiencing them
/r/seduction21/01/22 10:20 PM
1

you’re really just gonna let life defeat you like that? not even gonna go down fighting?
/r/seduction20/01/22 02:16 PM
1

On top of that, if it’s someone you already know, if she actually does like you back she’ll see it as a date on her own. If you have to communicate that to her she probably isn’t interested anyway
/r/seduction19/01/22 08:32 PM
2

so are you just gonna roll over and accept it?
/r/seduction18/01/22 02:01 PM
19

no pain no gain 😤
/r/seduction16/01/22 08:29 AM
4

Off the top of my head, the guys I knew that slept around were good looks, avg to above avg wealth/status, incredibly sociable, very confident to the point of arrogance, about 5’10 and up. Think your chad stereotypes. They were smarter than they let on, not exactly meatheads by any means. Some were vapid, others had pretty colorful personalities. They were/are also bad human beings who have self-sabotaged their relationships, friendships and reputation and have hurt and alienated a lot of people…
/r/seduction14/01/22 02:46 AM
1

This is exactly it. Have fun man. The minute you try too hard, it won’t work. It’s like trying to get a car out of snow or mud, if you floor it you just spin in place. Take things easy, steady and at a comfortable pace
/r/seduction14/01/22 02:17 AM
2

No I think that’s actually a great point ego be damned. It’s about a connection
/r/seduction13/01/22 03:07 PM
1

I like this mindset
/r/seduction13/01/22 03:07 PM
4

In regards to self esteem also, it takes a while to build up. Best way to go about it is to fail in dating so often you lose the ability to care about failing, while also creating a habit of continually trying as many opportunities as possible. Not only does that start bringing in more wins, it makes them feel much more impactful
/r/seduction13/01/22 03:35 AM
9

I’ve definitely had more success now than I had even a year ago, and so much more than in college even despite greater exposure back then. I also like the selection of dating prospects (and people in general) more at this stage of life. Being a postgrad adult gives you more control over your own situation and destiny, gives you access to more mature women, and levels the playing field more between you and the silver spoon kids who have things easy early on and get complacent. No shame in being a…
/r/seduction13/01/22 03:32 AM
1

whatever they seem like, never trust that until you know
/r/seduction12/01/22 08:36 PM
23

this feels like the Casually Explained video. “well there’s really no way to know for sure, maybe she’s just Canadian”
/r/seduction12/01/22 07:16 PM
0

I used to and then I realized it never changes anything and I stopped caring. Just move onto the next
/r/seduction08/01/22 05:43 PM
2

That’s wayyyy too extra and coming on too strong lol. open up with something pertinent to the both you, or something clever if you have nothing in common. For example i DM’d someone who followed a lot of Twitter accounts in an interest I was also heavily involved in and asked her about that. Another, I asked if since they went to x school per their bio if they knew a mutual friend. For ones I had never met, I sent a pic of an airplane and said “whoops sorry had to make an emergency landing in yo…
/r/seduction07/01/22 10:11 PM
3

ask them to grab a drink on the spot you mean? or have my first text message be me asking them to grab a drink? I could stand to try both, just curious which you think works better
/r/seduction07/01/22 08:33 PM
1

why not just say “I think you’re cute”
/r/seduction06/01/22 10:20 PM
2

I find something I like about them and drop a compliment. then ask questions and go from there
/r/seduction06/01/22 10:20 PM
42

Why bother? Go for someone else. It’s over, next
/r/seduction05/01/22 01:23 AM
52

I do it all the time, no need to drag out a convo longer than it needs to be. I always try to get them to be the last person to say something tbh
/r/seduction01/12/21 08:40 PM
1

ask
/r/seduction30/11/21 08:51 PM
5

that’s absolutely a good reply, very promising nice work king
/r/seduction30/11/21 02:14 AM
3

I remind myself that I live on a planet with an unfathomable amount of attractive women close to my age scattered across the globe. And a rejection is not a reflection on you in any way. Also don’t apologize for “wasting her time,” that shows a clear lack of self confidence and she and other girls definitely pick up on that vibe. You ARE a catch, if she can’t see that oh well. If anything, she’s wasting your time-you’re doing her a favor cause she turned down the opportunity you gave her to be w…
/r/seduction29/11/21 05:35 PM
109

The “hope this helps” at the end really puts the cherry on top
/r/seduction28/11/21 07:28 PM
21

playful teasing, light touching, and let her know you have secrets without telling her what they are (be mysterious)
/r/seduction28/11/21 09:35 AM
1

Hell yeah brother nice work
/r/seduction26/11/21 03:10 PM
1

Depends on the woman because like men they’re all individual human beings with different preferences
/r/ExRedPill18/10/21 11:27 PM
1

My rule of thumb is that if someone has to say they’re an Alpha, they’re not an Alpha
/r/seduction26/08/21 09:31 PM
1

Only if you accept the new job and she knows you’re on the way out. Then sure why not
/r/seduction26/08/21 09:24 PM
1

Oh no I’m not asking because I’m worried about outside judgement, I’m asking because I’m curious what it would look and feel like having/being in that conversation
/r/seduction26/08/21 07:58 PM
2

Blocking's a little extreme, just unfollow her and delete her number & convos
/r/seduction22/08/21 06:57 PM
1

Can you specify what you mean by "seductive frame"?
/r/seduction22/08/21 06:56 PM
1

What does the interaction look like to a bystander though? And what's the closing line you might use in that situation? I just can't even imagine what it would look like/how it would transpire, which makes it that much harder to pull off in my mind
/r/seduction22/08/21 06:55 PM
8

Be result independent, uncouple from the idea that it’s going to be a hookup. Expect nothing and just take it as it goes
/r/seduction21/08/21 02:47 PM
2

This is inspiring as hell, good for you man!!!!! This relates to me a lot, I’ve had a pretty similar experience and am only now starting to bloom. I’m happy for ya and hope you continue to prosper Question-where are/were you cold approaching daily? I work at home so I can’t even find enough women I find attractive enough to approach within a day
/r/seduction21/08/21 03:32 AM
8

Honest question how do you seduce someone that quickly, how does it escalate from small talk to fucking in 5 minutes? I genuinely cannot envision what that conversation would look like. Or are you just an attractive guy?
/r/seduction21/08/21 03:25 AM
14

RIP to the guy whose place she was going to
/r/seduction21/08/21 03:22 AM
23

That’s an extremely bold question to ask but wow it worked lol
/r/seduction21/08/21 03:20 AM
14

How the hell did it progress to that point?? That escalated very very quickly
/r/seduction21/08/21 03:19 AM
2

I feel ya. Just politely flirt with her and be upfront about what you want. If she rejects you (her loss), you can live with yourself knowing the answer rather than fighting the uncertainty because you wanted to keep the hope alive.
/r/seduction20/08/21 07:02 PM
43

Second this. As someone who stuck around way too long, it only amplified the pain. Break off as soon as you can, stop lying to yourself thinking you can change your platonic relationship by sheer willpower. Maybe if you’re lucky, she’ll say she wants you around still as more than a friend. More likely she will pivot to the next poor orbiter in her lineup. Either way, rip off the bandaid and move on
/r/seduction20/08/21 02:19 PM
2

Hell yeah king
/r/seduction17/08/21 02:38 PM
15

Genuinely curious what on earth makes him think that is a normal way to speak to another human being, let alone someone he wants to date And then he turns around and gets mad because no one wants to date him
/r/ExRedPill17/08/21 11:22 AM
0

What did you say verbatim? Just curious
/r/seduction03/08/21 02:54 PM
10

Lol you’ve got an unspoken looks advantage going on here because for most people it is not even remotely that easy
/r/seduction20/07/21 01:17 PM
17

Anybody who’s that into social media has an insatiable need for attention IMO. Always a red flag for me
/r/seduction19/07/21 05:26 PM
1

Update: asked what she was up to, asked to see if she wanted to do the wine/movie thing, got another maybe, removed her from my Snapchat contacts. On to the next
/r/seduction19/07/21 05:24 PM
2

Hell that’s what I did with the date option (drink or wine/movie) and it worked then so yeah that’ll be part of my Hail Mary pitch too
/r/seduction14/07/21 12:45 AM
3

Not really, have minimal privacy and no lockable door, no TV for my bed, etc. It’s a terrible setup. Trying to weather it out until I move out for good because it lets me put away money
/r/seduction13/07/21 11:51 PM
2

I’ve gotten in a better habit of that lately thanks to some coaching. It’s been more fruitful than it was before but still not culminating in many dates
/r/seduction13/07/21 11:44 PM
3

Yeah I’m also curious as to how many responses should be considered “normal.” I prob get 1-2 matches a day and 1 response every week-10 days.
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:40 PM
1

Hmm I like that approach
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:37 PM
3

The catch is that she basically wants a Netflix and chill type of deal. I’d offer my place except I unfortunately live at home for the next 2 months and then I leave town
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:27 PM
2

I picked a day and time and that’s where I got left on read, so that’s where I’m stuck
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:25 PM
2

…I live at home temporarily which is the killer. I move out in under 2 months but it’s destroying my romantic life rn
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:21 PM
2

I move out of town in 2 months. I don’t have that kind of time (or desire) to chase a maybe. I’m happy to give one more try but that’s it
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:21 PM
6

I can tell you right now I am not waiting around to fuck for anyone for 2 years lmao. Short of my future wife there is no one who is remotely worth that amount of time
/r/seduction13/07/21 05:58 PM
5

I mean isn’t that solicitation? Which is def illegal lmao
/r/seduction13/07/21 05:16 PM
1

She’s absolutely being taken to pound town by multiple guys given her tinder bio: “let’s have a who’s better in bed contest, I’m hoping to be a sore loser 😉” Idc tho. The struggle for me is just getting into the rotation lmao
/r/seduction13/07/21 04:54 PM
37

“Your availability has turned you into an option” that’s a great perspective. Thank you
/r/seduction13/07/21 03:49 PM
3

I am, don’t worry. Problem is that most of my “plates” are being similarly ambiguous, and it’s getting harder and harder to pick up new ones. OLD matches are starting to taper off, and several strings of weekends of dates and going out is sucking my wallet dry when I have a move coming up in 2 months. Already asked her to get a drink, she said she preferred to stay in and do a movie night with wine. Pitched a day/time and that’s where the maybes came from. I feel like I was taking leadership she…
/r/seduction13/07/21 03:33 PM
20

Yeah and it’s annoying as hell tbh. Seems like all my matches are girls like that cause they don’t go anywhere
/r/seduction13/07/21 02:53 PM
5

I like this one. Thanks boss
/r/seduction13/07/21 01:38 PM
21

I agree, the only thing that gives me pause is that when I asked her “would you prefer date option X or Y” she said “definitely Y” as in she seemed up for it. But yeah you guys are prob right
/r/seduction13/07/21 01:23 PM
5

I mean, I got the impression she was, she just wants sex
/r/seduction13/07/21 12:40 PM
12

Honest to god curious if that has ever worked cause I feel like that’s a good way to get arrested on the spot
/r/seduction13/07/21 12:39 PM
1

Aight boss. Hopefully she still will be cause I definitely botched my convo attempt lmao (I kid, I’ll be fine).
/r/seduction13/07/21 12:48 AM
1

It’s tough to say. I mean I don’t make enemies and I’ve never felt like I had to cut someone out of my life because people who have qualities I don’t like (selfishness, immaturity, pettiness, ignorance, shallowness, etc) have never really gravitated towards me in the first place. I have that general idea of those 5 dealbreakers but it’s not truly set in stone I don’t think, and I don’t know what they would look like or how they might manifest themselves to where I should look for them. And that’…
/r/seduction12/07/21 08:14 PM
1

See, this is something I struggle with. I haven’t had enough dating experience to know what I want and don’t want apart from a handful of baseline things. How do I date based on what I know I want if I don’t know what I want without dating?
/r/seduction12/07/21 07:50 PM
2

I try to take on as many leadership roles as I feel I have the capacity and expertise to. Leading is fun and it’s a valuable confidence builder and social skill for dating and just in general. And the ability and confidence to take charge is something the ladies will appreciate of course :)
/r/seduction12/07/21 03:53 PM
2

You handled that with aplomb, great work mayne
/r/seduction12/07/21 02:43 AM
1

I needed to hear this today, thank you. Agreed that the minute you put someone on a pedestal it’s game over
/r/seduction11/07/21 07:24 PM
2

It’s ok man I understand. I genuinely am concerned about you, please do get help. And if you need someone to chat with my DMs are open
/r/seduction11/07/21 05:42 PM
5

My man, this is way beyond dating, you genuinely need therapy. Forget dating or sex, this is just not a good way to think or to live your life period
/r/seduction11/07/21 06:18 AM
3

They found love in a hopeless place
/r/seduction11/07/21 06:10 AM
4

I don’t think I see 7-30 women in one day lol
/r/seduction11/07/21 05:48 AM
1

Hell I don’t consider time with any new person a waste of time. It’s always a novel experience which I like. It takes a lot for me to dislike somebody. Do I really have to be a misanthrope to be good at dating?
/r/seduction11/07/21 02:05 AM
3

What’s the purpose/mechanics behind not using a compliment when doing an approach? I feel like that’s a good honest disarming technique but I’d like to hear an opposing take
/r/seduction11/07/21 01:13 AM
1

A little cynical way of saying it but I see your point, gotta have her more interested than you are. Though actually making that work is tough on my end. If I’m not (at least physically) interested in someone, I don’t waste my time with them tbh, so reconciling that difference confuses me
/r/seduction10/07/21 07:36 PM
1

I feel like I’ve got my goals and my long term purpose on lock. I have for a while now. Now I just need to improve my appearance and my sales pitch to get my foot in the door
/r/seduction10/07/21 02:00 AM
3

If you feel like you bring a lot to the table, but aren’t attracting as many women as you’d like/think you should, how do you reconcile that (besides working on yourself harder)?
/r/seduction09/07/21 04:07 PM
3

Even if you’re not in it for the purpose of appearance, working out gives you more stamina, energy, clarity and confidence. It just completely transforms your mindset in a purely chemical sense. You just feel better day-to-day if you work out regularly, which gives you a baseline to pursue the other things you desire for self improvement.
/r/seduction09/07/21 04:07 PM
7

If it makes you feel any better, I had access to all those things and still barely got anything lol
/r/seduction08/07/21 03:07 AM
3

I can see small town gossip spreading quickly and giving you a rep. Small towns are not all that great for the anonymity element you need in places like clubs to shoot your shot. You lose that element of surprise & the randomness/spontaneity of the cold approach IMO. If you want to widen your pool, you may need to consider leaving.
/r/seduction07/07/21 01:30 AM
3

This is great stuff. Personally applies to me too, I grew up with the same struggles you did. Thanks man!
/r/seduction07/07/21 12:37 AM
2

Fuck that’s a good point. Yeah the thought that women are obsessed with wealth, looks, etc is only valid insofar as redpillers use those things as crutches so women will overlook their stunted emotional growth. Of course that only works on shallow women who sometimes cheat & then feed the narrative; but that’s ultimately who the redpillers were going to attract because they focused only on the characteristics that attract that type of woman. Fuck now that I’m thinking about it it’s almost like a…
/r/ExRedPill06/07/21 02:00 PM
1

If you have a prior connection, start a convo based on that. If not, come up with a clever opener or come clean and say you find them cute/attractive/what have you
/r/seduction06/07/21 01:51 PM
1

Usually I try to self-improve/grow by trying something new. A new cafe/bar/restaurant, menu item at a place I frequent, a new activity/event I’ve never been a part of, visit a part of town I’ve never seen, maybe even try to pick up a new skill. Volunteering’s also another great thing for self improvement, makes good and unselfish use of time. Maintenance is one thing and it sounds like you have that covered, but you actually have to push your comfort zone outward and grow too. It ends up being i…
/r/seduction06/07/21 01:50 PM
15

Dude, most women are really not that monstrous. What she did is really fucking awful and cruel and she’s a garbage human being for that. I promise you that you can count on that not happening to you again-pretty much all rejections you’ll face will be gentler and impersonal, and not vicious like that. For all non-sociopaths, rejection is the endpoint of your interaction essentially-vicious teasing won’t follow your future attempts. The other guy’s right, you will have to face your fear. Swamping…
/r/ExRedPill02/07/21 07:45 PM
1

Flirting is essentially when someone acts towards you in a way distinct from how they usually act towards someone-consciously, unconsciously or both. The distinctness representing to whatever degree their interest in you. The unfortunate thing is that this varies person to person. IE one person might laugh at your bad jokes, another might touch you on the shoulder, another might respond to your texts very quickly. There are also people who do these things regularly. It really comes down to how y…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 09:58 PM
1

You were obese and then you hit puberty. Your working out definitely helped, but you also changed just as everyone else does around that time. Not to mention, you said you had a girlfriend even at your lowest point possible. I never have even come close to that even when I’ve been at my best. You worked hard, but it would be silly to think genetics didn’t play some kind of role. Not that genetics or looks is the end all be all. In terms of self improvement, I’m always improving and growing. I’ve…
/r/ExRedPill12/04/21 05:41 PM
2

At least in terms of attraction/looks, you do have it easy-or at least have a major advantage. You’re at model-levels of attractiveness and said yourself you’ve never had problems dating or having sex after your first relationship (when you were a teenager). You’re not who RedPill targets. They’re after someone like me, who’s struggled their entire life with dating and relationships. How am I supposed to relate to you or your message at all? It’s like Bill Gates coming to an impoverished communi…
/r/ExRedPill10/04/21 12:26 PM
0

This is great and all but the “I’m a model” thing makes your point ring hollow honestly. Not exactly convinced by someone having an easy path telling me how easy things are
/r/ExRedPill10/04/21 04:52 AM
2

This is the guy who preaches responsibility and self discipline after nearly dying off a raw meat diet and getting hooked on benzos and then being shipped off to Russia by his daughter for treatment. He should not be taken seriously at any level lol
/r/ExRedPill02/04/21 04:07 AM
1

Except it’s not the bottom half now. More like the bottom three quarters
/r/ExRedPill25/08/20 05:52 PM
4

Because of dating apps more and more women are gunning for a smaller and smaller pool of guys. Unlike in the past when your dating options were limited to who you met in person, having anyone available at a swipe means that they can pick just about anyone. And since women have a clear advantage in online dating (the ratio’s huge), they have the leverage to shrink their selection pool and be pickier
/r/ExRedPill23/08/20 05:17 AM
7

My understanding is that Rome fell basically because of lead poisoning lol. They’re grasping at straws
/r/ExRedPill02/03/20 03:31 PM
2

Here’s my thoughts on your points: It’s not automatically supposed to be easier. Nobody guaranteed that it will be. You put in the work partly to make it less difficult and remove obstacles that could make it harder. That doesn’t make it easier. Sucks, but that’s how it is. Life isn’t a input->output equation. You’ve already defied and re-set expectations for yourself. You’ve beat the odds of your situation and set your own destiny. I respect the fuck out of that, that’s real man shit. The right…
/r/ExRedPill27/02/20 04:58 AM
1

Yeah, I’m in the same boat and it sucks. It’s like looking for a job with the same conundrum, IE lack of experience disqualifies you from getting experience. Only way out of the cycle in the dating world IMO is to work on yourself. Or, more cynically, get rich.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/20 04:55 AM
1

Just because men don’t have to be the chasers doesn’t mean they usually aren’t. It’s certainly possible to reverse the typical dynamic but as things currently stand for like 80-90% of people the dating game still leans towards women. If you try to go about it differently you might be waiting for a looooong time. It would be naive to pretend otherwise
/r/ExRedPill25/02/20 01:24 AM
1

I’ve felt the same way when a girl I was talking to told me we were moving too fast and then I learned from a friend she had been fucking numerous other dudes on the regular with her friend. I honestly have no idea how to feel towards the girl after something like that but I know that in my situation it made me feel bitter too. Like why am I being held to a different standard?
/r/ExRedPill18/01/20 04:08 PM
3

Easiest way to deal with it is to see that it occurs just as much in males too. Look at Hollywood actors, for example, and how many 20-somethings they marry and then divorce for the next young model. The constant desire to swap partners for a “newer and better” one is a personality trait, not a characteristic of women. As an extension of that logic, if we know men that are this way, and we know there aren’t, you can conclude that there are women this way and women who are not as well. In other w…
/r/ExRedPill09/11/19 09:59 PM
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