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I agree with you, but I don't think this is an unpopular opinion. Also, even obsession is not set in stone and can flip.
/r/seduction22/10/22 06:06 PM
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Don't call it a date. Using that term just puts pressure on you two and will reduce the likelyhood that she will show up. If you aquired the contact form a dating app, the sexual/romantic conotation is obvious anyway.
/r/seduction22/10/22 05:32 PM
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The regret of inactivity will be worse than the temporary pain of a rejection.
/r/seduction22/10/22 05:17 PM
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come up with an interesting/suitable idea to meet up before you even talk about finding a timeslot, so she is already more invested when you concretize things. "grab a drink" - so you are talking about going to a bar/pub for the first date? This is only a good idea if that is the place where you can shine. Going to a bar with a complete stranger can be quite a challenge for women, because they can feel quite vulnerable there. If you still want to do it, you should phrase it the right way and not…
/r/seduction22/10/22 04:29 PM
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So I'm trying to figure out if it's my body language, posture, the eye contact I make or don't make, maybe I stink? But I can't just ask random people 'hey why do you act weird around me?'. Ask someone you can trust about how you come across in the mentioned areas. An insecure vibe alone can be a turn off for some people. It's also possible that their behavior has in many cases nothing to do with you. Sometimes people are just in a bad mood or have a bad day. Don't automatically assume, that you…
/r/seduction21/10/22 03:31 PM
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in person is and would have been better, as you already know. But there can happen a lot in two weaks, so you should at least try to set something up, witout ruining the situation, when you meet her again in two weeks. Assume that she remembers you. Send her something funny related to the test or class you had together, to see, whether she is even answering your messages. If she answers, you can ask her to study together. If she does not answer, you can still talk to her in two weeks and act as …
/r/seduction21/10/22 03:14 PM
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you have to make the context more clear. Is she talking about sexual fantasies or fantasies about life in general? your goal should be to get her out on a meet up. This is where most of the seduction is gonna happen. Revealing personal, expicit and intimate information early on is risky, even if the other person is asking for it. Just because she asks that questions, does not mean she is ablet to deal with an actual answer to it or will appreciate it. Imho the goal should be to answer with a jok…
/r/seduction16/10/22 04:24 PM
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It's totally worth it if the photographer is actually good, but just being expensive does not make him good. Many professional photographers take your money just for using high-end equipment, but pay not enought attention to the details. You need someone who takes the time and is able to emphasize your strength and conceal your weaknesses, both in terms of face/body and personality. And it's an absolute must to tell him that you take this photos to use it for dating apps so he knows what you are…
/r/seduction16/10/22 01:05 PM
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It’s low risk in terms of messing up the bar as a hangout. You only would lose the hangout if you do something disreputable, just being interested in her in a polite way is nothing negative, even if she rejects you. Good luck!
/r/seduction16/10/22 12:52 PM
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In all interactions from the beginning you are aiming to present your self at you best, and in no means am I saying to be rude. However by starting your verbal interaction with excuse me you are apologising for your presence. Implying that your interaction could potentially be negative. At the end of the day it is your choice and I wish you the best on all your interactions!
/r/seduction16/10/22 12:48 PM
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you could send something that refers to the video she sent you, to see whether she is even responding. your mindset should be that she likes you, but still embrace the risk of a rejection. Don't expect to much, as she is a bartender and gets hit on by many guys. if you do something you always have a chance, no matter how small it is. If you do nothing you chance always goes down to zero automatically.
/r/seduction16/10/22 12:47 PM
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don't hit on her via text, if you haven't done so in real life. Be authentic an show your interest face to face. Hitting on her via text would be even worse, as you obtained her number in an odd way instead of exchanging it. Why don't you hit on her when you meet her at that bar? Imho one should not invite a bartender to a drink, as it will be nothing special at all for her. She has drinks all the time, so do something different.
/r/seduction16/10/22 12:26 PM
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I see where your coming from with the excuse me, although I would advice against it as it make you seem less important and confident as an important person does not apologise for their presence. In light of that I would suggest experimenting with “Hey, can I get your view on something?”
/r/seduction16/10/22 12:15 PM
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Rejection is a normal part of life and happens to everyone, no matter how improved, rich, beautiful or maxed out they are. As a man you have to learn to take it without getting more emotional than necessary. Also, don't improve your life for women, do it for its own sake.
/r/seduction25/09/22 07:04 PM
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I'd say it means nothing. It's not natural to stare someone in the eyes all the time in most situations, the eye shift breaks this tension. Girls are not as tall as you, therefore your chest is among the nearest options to look at, it's in front of their faces. Trust your intuitions, when it comes to evaluating tension, instead of being overly analytical. And if you are really interested yourself, you should make a move anyway, without waiting for signals.
/r/seduction25/09/22 07:33 AM
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This is not a good strategy, on micro and macro level. On the macro level you will lose women, who otherwise would have been interested, because they are turned off by your odd approach. But even on the micro level with the girl, who kisses you, it's not ideal. A kiss should have a foundation of energy build up, so it can then lead you even further in the escalation process. An instant kiss on the other hand completely hangs in the air without any emotional foundation or direction. Therefore doi…
/r/seduction25/09/22 05:11 AM
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just because he's popular I doubt that it's just because he is popular, he probably offers value in some way. At the same time trusting in popularity is a way for women to outsource the evaluation of a guy to the crowd. "He must be good, if everyone wants him"
/r/seduction24/09/22 10:57 AM
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What you describe comes more or less down to status, which, of course, will help you. But as it is the case with looks, status is just one variable out of many. If e.g. you have no chemistry with a person, both looks and status will no get you anywhere. It's always a combination of variables that is relevant. You don't have to be among the best to be sucessful, most of the time crossing a certain threshold is enough.
/r/seduction24/09/22 10:46 AM
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In its core being needy is not about certain behaviour e.g. how fast you answer, it is an inner state. If you are needy, it will find a way to shine through in some way. Flaking in OLD is completely normal and happens to everyone, who does it.
/r/seduction23/09/22 02:36 PM
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Body dysmorphia is a psychological condition, not a physical one. You can suffer from it, no matter how you look. Solution: Make the best out of what you have and put the focus somewhere else, away from your looks. In hard cases - therapy. Don't be so hard on yourself: negative canthal tilt it can give you that melancholic look, that some women like and help you to emotionally connect to them. astigmatism Have you tried contact lenses? You have different style options with glasses. I'm sure you …
/r/seduction23/09/22 11:36 AM
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Haha, 26 is young imho. Check out social situations and social clubs, that are completly new to you with no pre-existing contacts there. This is where you will learn the most and what will set new dynamics in motion.
/r/seduction23/09/22 08:17 AM
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Describe it in more details, please. In which situations and in what way did you already try to talk to women? Do you live in the west or somewhere else? What also might help you: living in a shared flat with other young people, ideally women and men, instead of living alone. You will become more social through their experiences.
/r/seduction23/09/22 08:11 AM
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If you are really approaching for 10 years and women do not even chat with you (as you said earlier), there will be something wrong with your social skills and your ability to understand social situations.
/r/seduction23/09/22 08:00 AM
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Thank you for the clarification. As I said, imho even women, who saw you as high value, can lose interest if you lose your independence and make her the centre of your life (instead of your mission in life) - "betaisation"
/r/seduction23/09/22 07:54 AM
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mainly through exposure to social situations in real life, that challenge you. Small talk with strangers, checking out different social groups and by trial and error: a guy that gets rejected a lot, will learn many things by it. Through reflecting your expiriences, sometimes books can help here, but the main point of leverage is not theory but expiriences in real life
/r/seduction23/09/22 07:50 AM
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That means you lack social skills. Women would chat with a social guy, even if he is not their type.
/r/seduction23/09/22 07:41 AM
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If you become less needy and find a way to enjoy the process and not just the results, interacting with women will not only make you not tired but give you energy!
/r/seduction23/09/22 07:27 AM
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There is truth to what you are saying, but not in all contexts. In social circles, e.g. in a school class, it might be an option.
/r/seduction23/09/22 07:23 AM
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OK. OP did not specify what "treating her like a queen" means. For some guys it will evoke ideas, that other men would call simping. For others it would be about treating her with much respect and be noble in your behaviour. Can a king dominate his queen, or are they on the same level? It's all a bit vague. Let's assume it means something like, if you treat a woman (too) "well", and she loses feelings. She never had respect for you in the first place. That's a possible dynamic, but not necessari…
/r/seduction23/09/22 05:59 AM
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I’m not trying to constantly be “on the grind” in such a deliberate way. Then just use it as a tool, in situations, where your emotions overwhelm you and you want to control them. it puts too much emphasis on the past and future and not enough on the present. Imho the opposite is the case, it put's focus only on the present, if outer successes are secondary, as I wrote. If outer sucesses are secondery, there also is no story arc, the test is not about achieving some goal, but to express your dee…
/r/seduction23/09/22 05:46 AM
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By viewing every situation in life as a test of character. You embrace this test to become a better man on the inside. Outer successes are secondary.
/r/seduction22/09/22 10:00 PM
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If you treat her like a queen, and she loses feelings. She never saw you as her king. Poetically beautiful, but also reductionist and vague.
/r/seduction22/09/22 08:54 PM
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Changing your behaviour changes your chances. Who could doubt that?
/r/seduction22/09/22 07:50 PM
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Live on the edge of your comfort zone. You'll get a strong frame by "sparring", taking joy in challange, friction and confrontation.
/r/seduction21/09/22 12:50 PM
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You are right. I was just refering to our example.
/r/seduction21/09/22 08:51 AM
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you are right a guy should know, when his presence is unwanted. Especially, in a sensitive area like the gym. Here he should be extra careful. but in general, politely talking to someone is not harassment. Saying that would be an insult to people, who suffer from real harassment. my point was not that he necessarily should talk to her again. What I wanted to say is, if he approaches someone, he should not hesitate to go for the number, only because her signals seem not perfect.
/r/seduction21/09/22 06:53 AM
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your analysis might be wrong. Don't be so negative maybe she was just nervous or overwhelmed. Maybe you forgot to smile because you were nervous and therefore came across a little weird. don't judge her reaction so quickly. There are women, who react that way and still give you the number and meet up with you in the end. Others react positively and flake.
/r/seduction21/09/22 03:54 AM
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No. What i wanted to say is, if you are able to discern good from bad information/ideas and have the ability to engage in an anylitical discussion, than it will be helpful. If you expect everything you read here to be automatically correct and an instant recepe for sucess, than it will not be helpful, because you use it the wrong way.
/r/seduction20/09/22 06:54 PM
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This subreddit is just a tool. A tool is only as good as the person using it.
/r/seduction20/09/22 01:45 PM
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That's totally not how this works. Dating is not a rational process for women. It's about the emotions he will be able to evoke. And most importantly, the state she is in by chance. In terms of looks it's just necessary that he crosses a certain threshold.
/r/seduction20/09/22 05:09 AM
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There probably will be (at least some) women his age, who are not looking for a guy to marry. But even if there were none, he still could just go for younger women.
/r/seduction18/09/22 12:40 PM
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you are still young and can make good for it. You idealise the lives of other people, you see on social media. The expirience cool things, no doubt. But many of it is also just a show. And in the end it's the things they enjoy, modelled for their interests and personality, not yours. No one else is able to live your life. And it seems women my age have had their fun and just care about looking for a guy to marry. If that's really true than look for younger women. no matter how your past was, it …
/r/seduction18/09/22 11:50 AM
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It's hard to analyse the situation accurately, because we were not there with you and him. For a deeper analysis seeing you two and knowing the content of the roast would be necessary. your focus on him shows, that you do not focus enough on yourself and your goals. If your focus on yourself and your goals were strong enough, he would just be background noise. Accept, that it's not necessary to dominate every situation. Let him do his thing and see it as theatre and a chance to learn about human…
/r/seduction18/09/22 11:40 AM
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Wish you the best for your life, but a discussion with you is sadly not possible. You are too emotional and not able/willing to discuss in a differentiated way. Bye
/r/seduction18/09/22 08:24 AM
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Your post shows, that you don't have much life expirience and self-reflexion. I guess, you are very young. I remember some guy posting here how he tried cold approaching a girl and she turned and run away. [...] Do you think if the guy had the looks of brad pitt she would of done that? Yes, if Pitt is not socially calibrated and she is in the wrong state. I know enough good looking guys to have the comparison. They have it easier with women, yes, but they get rejections and get ghosted too. In y…
/r/seduction18/09/22 07:45 AM
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As a first step you need to be less judgmental towards people you don't know yet. You can't expect them to automatically show you their deeper sides. There are no superficial topics. Even a cartoon show or celebrity drama are connected to deep philosophical and psychological questions, if you look at it the right angle. It all depends on your intelligence, creativity and ability to see and listen. Every sentence another person says comes with small details, that are like entry points to further …
/r/seduction17/09/22 07:17 AM
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179cm is about average male height in many European countries, don't worry comfort, health and style are much more important in shoes, than increasing your height.
/r/seduction16/09/22 04:40 PM
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Most people don't start at zero, they already have some social skills and everyone has a mating program on the biological level. But I also think, that game does often not work as indented. Theories of social interaction are always based on reductionism, they therefore will often not work as indented, especially when people apply them the wrong way. Often there rather is just the numbers game of exposure to enough people at work.
/r/seduction16/09/22 04:21 PM
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Approaching people that move is always harder than approaching stationary people, even if they are moving slow. As far as I know, approaching strangers is a little less common in Asian countries, therefore the line you used "i know people don't usually do this" was quite good to show social intelligence on your side. In cultures, where talking to strangers is less, common, you of course will get irritated responses a little bit more often. Practice with stationary people first, to get some posit…
/r/seduction16/09/22 03:52 PM
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Okay. Do you live in the US, somewhere else in the west, or outside the west? Were they moving or stationary?
/r/seduction16/09/22 03:34 PM
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not enough context to analyse the situation. You do not even tell us the location, where you did it. It's not what you said or your appearance, her reaction was based on the WAY you came across, small details in your behaviour matter = calibration Typical errors in beginners: speaking too fast, because you are nervous forgetting to smile, because you are nervous startling her, because you entered her field of view too fast or from a bad angle not enough presence in your body language and voice
/r/seduction16/09/22 03:13 PM
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you confuse cause and effect. It is rather your lack of ability to be respected, that makes it harder for you do attract women, than vice-versa. There plenty of guys, who are single, who are respected, and there are plenty of guys in relationships, that don't get respect. We have too little information to know, what the real reason is, you struggle with getting respect. But my guesses would be the following: lack of social skills taking yourself and life to seriously negative assumptions about o…
/r/seduction16/09/22 08:10 AM
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Needy can mean two different things: Your inner attitude towards meeting women. How you come across to other people cold approaching is just a method and can done with different inner attitudes. Imho it makes you feel less needy, because it gives you more options. how cold approaching comes across depends on your vibe and how you do it. If you do it in lighthearted/socially intelligent/relaxed way and do not view a rejection as a bit deal, why would anyone expirience that as needy behaviour? Why…
/r/seduction15/09/22 07:13 PM
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I'm successful at this and married as a result, Nice. But being successful with women, does not automatically mean, you are good at analysing and understanding situations other people are in. I never claimed it will work in all circumstances. One could zoom in on each point and differentiate more, but when OP asks a general question, the answer will be relatively general as well. I still think it's OP's best chance for the case he described. But, of course, I'm always open and curious for substa…
/r/seduction15/09/22 04:58 PM
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You are right, understanding women's psyche and behavior has no connection to game at all.
/r/seduction15/09/22 03:55 PM
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Women's biggest weaknesses are their need for attention and their curiosity. They even want the attention of guys, they are not interested in, and are curious about their life.
/r/seduction15/09/22 03:51 PM
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Pyramid of creating friendships. A (base): accepting yourself the way you are, being ok with yourself having a positive outlook on life avoiding negative assumptions about things and social situations you don't know being okay in your own skin B (mid-section) putting yourself out there curiosity to check out new social groups being able to become part of a relatively loose group being able to collect loose contacts being able to have small talk (with strangers) being able to connect to people be…
/r/seduction15/09/22 03:11 PM
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I understand how you feel. The solution is getting more real-life experiences on your own. This will fill the gaps and you will be able see, which advice makes sense and which does not. Of course, you need persistence and the ability to reflect and abstract your own behaviour.
/r/seduction15/09/22 02:38 PM
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what do you mean by that? I see nothing pornographic in this thread ...
/r/seduction15/09/22 02:09 PM
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(Assuming you are at least somewhat cool, and he is well groomed.) he will make you look better, at his side you will look more fit
/r/seduction15/09/22 01:53 PM
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People, who change their behaviour abruptly, often come across as weird and irritating. It seems unnatural. Also, climbing out of the friendzone is easier, when the other person, does not get, what you are up to. Therefore, it's better to slowly move out of it and towards ambiguous behaviour. longer eye contact be more playful and less agreeable more touching, that theoretically could happen between friends, but slightly hints towards more. when/if she reacts positively, you can do more of all t…
/r/seduction15/09/22 01:39 PM
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don't wait for her to be ready. If she is attracted to a guy, she will be ready very quickly. For women the process of letting go of their partner often happens before the relationship ends. Also, your competitors will also not wait. If you are already friends with her, you should not play with an open hand. Rather increase tension slowly and try to escalate. "it just happened" don't emotionally invest when nothing has happened yet. Don't base your crush on a phantasy you project on her. You don…
/r/seduction15/09/22 05:49 AM
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Sorry Bro, I have to bring some sense into you. I don't doubt that you are an attractive guy, but you misread the situation. She did not charge you because she wanted to bond with you to acquire you as a regularly paying customer. If you were a hooker, would you rather have an attractive or unattractive regular customer? Of course the former. In 99% of the cases a hooker will have zero intrinsic interest in her customers. She is doing it for the money, duh ...
/r/seduction14/09/22 08:30 PM
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It's much more ambiguous. Giving in to excuses is also about protecting your ego and avoiding rejections. The real damage of passivity is the wasted chance. If you confindence and self-esteem are not solid enough, rejections can reconfirm negative ideas about yourself as well. Most interactions are rejections. So often passivity is about protecting yourself from the harsh reality of approaching, which is in a way the opposite of what you said.
/r/seduction14/09/22 08:16 PM
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This would only justify an adaptation of the standard (accepting a few previous sexual partners instead of none at all), but not completely dropping the standard.
/r/seduction11/09/22 07:12 AM
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a lot of men are so thirsty, they forget to care about red flags. Then they rationalise these things away. Western culture pushes that kind of behaviour atm. You have to go against the grain to stand against it. Many people are not capable of doing that. All you said is imho true, but still just a tendency. Their are women with low body counts that are not relationship-ready and LTRs with higher body count women that work out. Some women will just convince men, that they are worth the risk.
/r/seduction11/09/22 06:30 AM
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My question: Men and Women have different perspectives on dating/sex/seduction. The advice men and women give is quite different most of the time. How should a man deal with this fact? How can he bring the advice he gets from both sides in harmony?
/r/seduction10/09/22 09:11 PM
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You can have a haircut at an expensive place to get good advice for optimising your style. As soon as you know what looks best on you, you can try to find a cheaper place, that will get you that haircut too. Finding and changing your style can be difficult, maintaining it is easier.
/r/seduction10/09/22 05:29 PM
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Yes, a good haircut increases your attractiveness and confidence. But keep one thing in mind: The important things is that it fits to your face and your personality. Don't ask which haircut is preferred by women, because popular haircuts will completely ruin your looks if it does not fit your type. What matters most is your face shape. E.g. if you have a face that is on the longer or rounder side, you don't want your haircut to exaggerate these features even more. Instead of that you want your h…
/r/seduction10/09/22 05:23 PM
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Guys, who are very focused on what they are doing, instead of getting distracted and emotional by everything, that comes in their way, give off this "aloof" vibe, that women often find attractive. You should aim for the character traits, that are the basis for this vibe, instead of trying to fake it. Also, this is just one way of being attractive. Focus on finding women, that fit to the personality you already have.
/r/seduction10/09/22 02:54 PM
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And in what way did you approach them?
/r/seduction10/09/22 04:08 AM
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Yes, the text you quoted could lead guys to behave in a way, that comes with a risk of overstepping the boundaries of women. But your quote is not in context. I'm sure there are other paragraphs in the book, where Manson talks about the necessity of consent and being socially calibrated.
/r/seduction09/09/22 08:12 PM
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Human nature does not care whether it's toxic, politically correct or moral. It is what it is. The qouted text is certainly a correct description of female nature. One can understand these principle but still behave in a polite, consensual, legal and moral way. That's what I would recommend.
/r/seduction09/09/22 07:17 PM
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Let's be extra generous: Lets assume she is very attracted to you and also likes guys, who are ultra direct. Even then you don't know the state she is in when she receives your message. Also, the rapport is quite low when we communicate via text, especially with new people. The things we say often come across slightly different than we intend. Even with our generous assumption, the chances are quite low.
/r/seduction09/09/22 06:57 PM
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Good luck!
/r/seduction09/09/22 06:35 PM
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Yes, especially when it's the first meet up, so there was no chance yet for the spark to light up.
/r/seduction09/09/22 06:02 PM
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"Don't worry, I'm slow too. I'm not going to propose to you on our first meet up [funny emoticon] Let's meet at [cosy place] for a coffee. Are you free on Sunday?" Joke + dominance
/r/seduction09/09/22 05:54 PM
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She expects you to set up another meet up, because you told her everything is fine. There is no situation to analyse, because not much has happened yet. Try to arrange another meet up in a few days. Don't emotionally invest at this point. Text as few as possible in the meantime. You still should send one ore two funny messages, that are not related to meeting up. Your first meet up will show how much interest there is on both of your sides. Don't read too much in the situation at this point.
/r/seduction09/09/22 05:32 PM
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Never said you have to bring them up. I never said that you said it. But OP implied it, "Embarrassed that you are a virgin? Say it!" A prime example of this would be baldness. There are two ways you can address this insecurity: 1. Try to hide it by always wearing hats and feeling shitty about it 2. Own it by shaving your head and going out hat-less, not giving a shit about the fact that you have no hair. good example
/r/seduction09/09/22 03:54 PM
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But the insecurities in it self are not attractive, most of the time. Owning can also be an internal or implicit process, you don't have to address your insecurities in your speech all the time. Often people already recognise and feel, that someone would theoretically be able to talk about his weaknesses. This can be enough to reap the benefits of being honest/vulnerable. You don't have explicitly express you insecurities all the time.
/r/seduction09/09/22 03:42 PM
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We have to differentiate when we preach honesty and vulnerability. Being honest and vulnerable will make you authentic and burst the glass bubble, that insulates you from the world and makes you anti-social. This alone will increase your attractiveness and set things in motion, that can lead to success. But there is one problem - vulnerability is rather unattractive. Women will enjoy its ability to create rapport and closeness, but they don't want a weak guy, that is (too) vulnerable for long-te…
/r/seduction09/09/22 03:26 PM
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I agree with most of what you saying, but keep in mind, that we all are manipulative to a certain extent. A guy portraying himself slightly cooler than he actually is, will not be a problem or immoral at all. It becomes a problem and immoral though when people fake their whole identity and intentions.
/r/seduction09/09/22 02:21 PM
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You pass all of them by staying true to yourself and your values, by your positive energy and by being willing to walk away if necessary.
/r/seduction09/09/22 02:13 PM
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Nope. Never, not even once has it happened for me or any of my friends. Maybe you are not introspective enough. No one is able to perceive all processes on all levels of human interaction. not "1:1 stand up comedy". Its immature and, from my experience, the men who get most women falling for them or even obsessed with them are the ones that stay honest and kind (and yeah a bit funny too). You have to differentiate between the concept of shit tests in general and the things OP is saying. The conc…
/r/seduction09/09/22 02:04 PM
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So, while as a woman i believe this is complete bullshit and your dates ask questions because they want to get to know you, not as some kind of test, i have to ask you. The tests do not happen on a conscious level. Women do not think "I going to test this guy". It's some dynamic that automatically happens on a deeper level of female nature or human nature in general.
/r/seduction09/09/22 01:43 PM
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Body and face = good looking facial expression, body language/pose = room for improvement shirt could be tucked in better for a photo background and cloth fit very well together
/r/seduction01/09/22 05:40 PM
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People will most likely dance not only in couples but also in groups of individuals. You don't need great dance moves, just a little bit of feeling for the rhythm and the ability to become lose. You can practice dancing at home.
/r/seduction31/08/22 09:39 PM
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The most important thing is that you will dance like there is no tomorrow. You can't be in your head, if you do that. Getting loose through dancing will be the number one way to overcome the barriers of your comfort zone and to be more social at this party.
/r/seduction31/08/22 08:17 PM
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You have to differentiate. There are two aspects personality and social skills. An introvert can improve his social skills and learn to deal with parties, groups of people, clubs, bars etc. He can overcome all his social limitations, but one thing he can't change - the core of his personality. He will always expirience the world differently compared to people, who are not introverts, because his inner world will always be very dominant. In the end he will realise, that large social gatherings wi…
/r/seduction31/08/22 01:23 PM
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Yes. In many cases it is not even clear, who initiated the kiss, because both wanted it almost simultaneously.
/r/seduction31/08/22 09:01 AM
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I looked it up. To give your position a chance I picked one of the strictest countries I could find - Canda. But even there what you said does not apply: Sexual activity is only legal when both parties consent. Consent is defined in Canada’s Criminal Code in s. 273.1(1), as the voluntary agreement to engage in the sexual activity in question. The law focuses on what the person was actually thinking and feeling at the time of the sexual activity. Sexual touching is only lawful if the person affir…
/r/seduction30/08/22 08:27 PM
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Yes, all countries I know have laws against sexual assault and different forms of molestation, but these laws do not state, that consent can only given verbally. Think logically, almost no one explicitly asks when kissing another person. Are these people all breaking the law? That's not plausible. You made a claim, so the burden of proof is on you. Please, show me a source that states, that consent can only be given verbally in any country.
/r/seduction30/08/22 07:48 PM
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I don't think I live in the same country as you. I can't just look it up. But I'd like to read a source, where you getting your ideas from.
/r/seduction30/08/22 07:32 PM
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Everyone source I know of recognises, that implied consent exits, e.g. in contract law and social sciences. I think you are trolling.
/r/seduction30/08/22 07:15 PM
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I'm interested different opinions, so I'm interested in your view. How do you come to this conclusion? I never asked before any kiss, but I still think all my kisses were consensual. None of the women, who kissed me first, asked me for consent. But in all cases the whole vibe, body language and context made it clear, that consent was there.
/r/seduction30/08/22 07:06 PM
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Can this consent also be created implicitly in your view?
/r/seduction30/08/22 06:19 PM
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Sounds all quite good, but don't get stuck at interpreting details of things in the past. You can't anticipate her reaction, until you make a move in some form. It's about getting active and moving things forward. Good luck!
/r/seduction30/08/22 05:46 PM
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Normally I would advise you to be super direct, but you said the situation is a little bit more delicate here. Also, it might be already too late for super-directness, as you already met her several times. Do the following, exchange numbers wither her, but keep a vibe that is friend-ish/ambiguous. Exchange numbers to meet up with her to have a coffee. Don't call it a date, don't have a label. If she gives you her number, agrees to meet up and actually shows up, it's already a little green light.…
/r/seduction30/08/22 04:12 PM
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your youth will make her feel younger. She still wants you to be mature in character. she has more life experience than you and will in many cases be able to see through your bs. don't expect that she does not want anything serious just because she is older than you. If she sees you as a suitable partner, she will not care about an age gap. a lot of single mums got pumped and dumped several times. This influences their personality. There is a chance she will not immediately show how she really i…
/r/seduction30/08/22 03:23 PM
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If one is in the right state even a few years would not matter. You have no way of knowing the state of your contacts. You only can try messaging them. My wild guess is, that 20 to 40 % will at least react in some way, if you send a creative message.
/r/seduction29/08/22 05:30 PM
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Imho the key is playfulness. Don't take yourself too serious, this will give you a little note of self-irony in your vibe. It's all a game and a dance. This mean if she doesn't comply to your lead, it is not a tragedy, but only funny. Be dominant but don't have a big ego. Half of the equation comes from the women's side. Women, who are very feminine and playful often will put you automatically in that frame. Others will just not accept your lead. Whether you are able to achieve that state (domin…
/r/seduction29/08/22 04:31 PM
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because I’m afraid they might make fun of me? Yes, they could make fun of you. Confident young guys tend to make fun of each other, because they also can take a joke. All the girls they hang out with are really attractive so if I befriend them there’s a possibility i meet them This sounds like you just want to use the cool guys as a means to an end. They will probably feel on some level, if you are not really interested in them. The key to rise in the social hierarchy is authenticity. Authentic …
/r/seduction27/08/22 06:21 PM
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You are overthinking. There are countless other variables (random mood swings, interaction with friends, her period), that influence her state. Other than looking at her body language and the situation she is in, you have no way of guessing, how receptive she will be. Even then it's just a guess, that could be totally wrong.
/r/seduction27/08/22 05:08 AM
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Haha, sounds fun
/r/seduction26/08/22 09:05 PM
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remind yourself of the following things: there are countless women out there, you don't depend on one specific one linking you you have dignity and ideals, if they are not met, you can just walk away you can be happy without women. There are so many other things in life, that can give you happiness internalise this!
/r/seduction26/08/22 08:14 PM
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The guy, who has fun, is fun - focus on self-amusement and outcome independence
/r/seduction26/08/22 07:37 PM
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Then there is either not enough comfort: Asking to early, showing no sense of humour, not being able to have a basic comversation. Or not enough attraction: when you are not enough of her type in terms of looks/vibe/style boring conversation that is too long, before moving towards number/date neediness - if you are needy, it will find a way to subtly express itself, even if you try to hide it
/r/seduction26/08/22 07:33 PM
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Going from a match on OLD to another more casual social media platform is a step backwards instead of upwards. (= boring, no tension) The conversation should move towards getting her number and setting up a date. Upgrade and escalation instead of downgrade and deescalation.
/r/seduction26/08/22 07:17 PM
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As I said, trust your instincts and own gut. It's your date. Good luck!
/r/seduction26/08/22 12:58 PM
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Ignoring someone is childish. If you still want to try something, reengage and act as if the whole meet up did never happen. Another week later, after things between you two have normalised again, you can try another attempt to meet up with her.
/r/seduction26/08/22 12:47 PM
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Agreeing to meet someone, you know quite well, under the label 'date' is a massive green light. You already know each other, therefore she will expect you to move things forward and spice things up, compared to your previous interactions. I'm not quite sure about buying flowers that soon. It could put pressure on you both. Also, if you meet up somewhere outside you have to carry the thing with you for the whole date - very unhandy. You have to trust your instincts, but giving her flowers too ear…
/r/seduction26/08/22 12:27 PM
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I want women, who are not/less damaged by this social media mind virus. Not having an account is a way to select for this type.
/r/seduction25/08/22 05:02 AM
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Don't question such trivial things. What ever it meant, it's not really relevant. No one likes or understands all the things people say about them. Your ego has to become smaller! Don't take yourself so serious. An ambiguous compliment about your height, that was probably meant to be funny, if that's your biggest problem, then you are the luckiest man on earth.
/r/seduction24/08/22 07:22 PM
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When I’m at the gym I see girls with boyfriends glancing at the buff attractive taller dudes and some of them not even subtly lol they’ll deadass look for a few seconds with their boyfriend next to them - it’s a biological thing. Just as they would look when someone stands out with achievements in other fields. Do you really think girls will not look, when a guy has an extraordinary wealth/humour/status/happiness? As soon as someone has a lot of a desirable quality people/women will pay attentio…
/r/seduction24/08/22 03:30 PM
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If you are really sure about that, you should not act against your nature and focus all your energy on the methods you feel better about.
/r/seduction23/08/22 08:30 PM
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I did not want to imply that. Everyone should find his individual niche. My point was that bars/clubs/parties are not the universal go-to anymore, as they once were.
/r/seduction23/08/22 03:43 PM
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Good luck!
/r/seduction23/08/22 03:31 PM
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I liked both your phrases, aside from the question about moisturising. Don't overthink.
/r/seduction23/08/22 03:29 PM
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This is hard for me without a context. "your skin looks good" would it be like "do you moisturize? your skin looks like it's glowing" These are all not standard phrases. "do you moisturize? I'm not sure if I would say that because it takes away from the compliment, as it implies an external reason for her beauty.
/r/seduction23/08/22 03:21 PM
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There is no all-round solution. Every guy must find his niche. My point was that bars/clubs are not the universal go to. At least in bars you have mankinds greatest elixir of social lubrication working in your favor. Does work for some, but not for all in the right way.
/r/seduction23/08/22 02:59 PM
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If your compliment is sincere most people will feel it and potentially just act, as if they did not deserve it. Also, a creative compliment will be perceived as more authentic, then saying standard phrases.
/r/seduction23/08/22 02:55 PM
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Think of it that way. Your goal is to find a woman, who really wants you, who you really click with. You are not looking for women with lukewarm interest. Therefore you did not lose much. Don't look at it so goal oriented. You had three dates, that were fun and a success in itself. You surely wanted to hang out more with these women, but your well being is not dependent on them. You can meet up with other women, til you finally click with someone. Until then, every date will teach you something …
/r/seduction23/08/22 02:38 PM
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Imho that's pre-2010 thinking. In times of social media and OLD the majority of women don't go anywhere to meet men. Also, many guys are just not made for bars/clubs. They just don't function in that loud/rude/drunken environment.
/r/seduction23/08/22 01:58 PM
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I’ve previously asked her to hang out but she said “possibly if I don’t have to train for a run” How did you ask her out to get such an answer? Did you ask, whether she is going to do sports with you? That's not asking someone out in an romantic/sexual context ...
/r/seduction23/08/22 01:53 PM
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Okay, that changes my viewpoint a bit. Also, "stalking" was a too strong word to begin with. But imho you still viewed this info as more important than you should. You don't know for sure, what she did there and if it's relevant for you.
/r/seduction23/08/22 12:26 PM
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Prime example of self-sabotage. You were needy and stalked her digitally. You've found out information, that bothered you. Now you feel bad and want to dumb her, although you don't know what really went on and are not entitled in any way, because you are not in a relationship with her.
/r/seduction23/08/22 12:00 PM
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Because that's how humans are. Are you always super direct or honest?
/r/seduction22/08/22 04:33 PM
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being a lot among people, instead of just in front of the computer chit-chat with stragers talking yourself less serious and being able to laugh about yourself be emphatic towards other people smile, open and relaxed bodylanguage be independent of outcome when you feel good, you will infect other people with that feeling getting out of your head and filtering less
/r/seduction22/08/22 09:22 AM
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Attractiveness helps you to be seen as attractive, yes. No one would doubt that. But attractiveness does not determine how you come across socially. if any old guy that she doesn’t necessarily think is attractive walks up to her and says something bold, she will probably think it’s weird or creepy. If he has a good vibe and social intelligence she will find it funny, but still be not attracted. But she will not find it weird or creepy. However, if she thinks you’re attractive, will being bold no…
/r/seduction22/08/22 09:03 AM
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When people say, that you should improve your social skills, they are not talking about the skills of daily life almost everybody has, they are talking about social skills in the field of seduction, e.g. being able to hold flirtatious tension and being able to approach. "Go to the gym" is to 50% about it's effect on your personality. Going to the gym makes you feel a lot different (more confident), even though your actual looks did not change that much. On tinder looks matter more then in real l…
/r/seduction22/08/22 07:02 AM
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Maybe your energy would have been high enough to do whatever you wanted to do. Maybe the girl you like has a thing for quiet and relaxed guys. You'll never know, until you try. Everything else is self-sabotage. Also, guy, who is super fun and cool, will get rejected too. I really don't know how to flirt with them without seeming like I am trying too hard to get them... You ended up doing nothing because of a theory you had in your head. What seems needy is subjective. The needy guy is still more…
/r/seduction21/08/22 06:58 PM
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What can I do to appear confident and leave a good impression? Ask yourself what activities and places you like, instead of asking what she likes. Because when you feel good, you will leave a good impression and pull her into your world with your positive energy. Imho the first date should also not be something too special. You and her are what makes it special. Doing something exciting would just be a distraction, save that for a later date. For the first date the most important thing is, that …
/r/seduction21/08/22 06:43 PM
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Yes. Which part/aspect are you interested in?
/r/seduction21/08/22 04:32 PM
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The best way to reduce approach anxiety are positive reference experiences. Even a rejection can be a positive interaction, that gives both of you positive feelings. To have a positive interaction you need to emphasise with the person you are talking to and calibrate for the situation they are in. Doing that already starts before talking to someone. This is why I'm sceptical of the 3-second-rule and forcing yourself to approach as fast as possible, when we are talking about approaching during th…
/r/seduction21/08/22 11:27 AM
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https://pediaa.com/what-is-the-difference-between-dating-and-courting/
/r/seduction20/08/22 05:14 PM
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Even in traditional cultures there is most of the time a way (or some form of process with specific rules) for potential partner to get to know each other before marriage, even when dating is not allowed. Look up the following term: "Courting"
/r/seduction20/08/22 05:05 PM
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This is what you wrote, just without swearing. Seems quite like a part of a normal conversation: "Mmh this conversation is ridiculous. Look at how many people are here. Why is that guy wearing such a funny shirt? Great. Now I’m a Clown and I’m a Clown because I decided to take advice from someone on an online forum to just let my words spew out without thinking. Anyway, how was your week?” idk if it would be better for my public image and I’d probably never return to that establishment again. As…
/r/seduction20/08/22 11:55 AM
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Nothing about that is really shocking. Talking like that would be an improvement to tensing up and getting stuck up in your head, thinking about theory. Just remove the swearing and you are good to go.
/r/seduction20/08/22 11:27 AM
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You did not lead the conversation. You even almost explicitly ask her to lead it - "hey you are free to ask whatever you want :)" Most of what you write was neither funny, nor does it build comfort. "whats the point of talking if I can get information out of your profile?" Why would you be that confrontational? What do you expect to achieve by doing that? You just had to open 2 or 3 topics, have a normal (mostly rapport building) conversation and lead her to meet up in real life. I don't think s…
/r/seduction20/08/22 11:21 AM
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In many cases it would not even be easy to recognise, whether a women rides the c. carousel. Many women, who look innocent, do it. Some women, who move in quite conservative circles, do it. On the other hand there are women, who dress provocatively, but do not ride the c. carousel. Be aware, often you can't immediately know, what you are dealing with.
/r/seduction20/08/22 06:56 AM
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Wow, you almost sold social media to me. This is an idealised description of it. But it clearly shows it's potential strengths. For me real life is still superior, because I don't have to compete against tons of meaningless content, be sucked into that fake bubble and in invest the time to update my profile.
/r/seduction20/08/22 04:23 AM
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Read it again
/r/seduction20/08/22 04:12 AM
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Speak what is on your mind. Speak your truth. Don't fear friction and disagreement. Accept negative feelings and don't be afraid to express them. Experiment with sharing of things, you previously saw as secrets. Don't try to be perfect. Embrace embarrassment as a chance to get a thicker skin. Stop talking yourself too serious, learn to laugh about yourself. View life as an adventure. Let the chips fall where the may. If you do all that, I guarantee you, you will not get stuck in your head anymor…
/r/seduction19/08/22 08:40 PM
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Sounds good, but would this really be efficient, when these groups are small and take up a lot of your time on a regular basis? Does it make sense to sacrifice e.g. one evening per week, to have a pool of 20 people, to select friends and sexual/romantic partners from?
/r/seduction19/08/22 06:38 PM
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We can not analyse the expression of her voice from distance in a correct way. Even if it where a negative sign in that moment, it is still possible, that she will meet up with you and show interest then. Good interactions can lead to flakes, and bad interactions to good dates. If she is not interested, she will either tell you, or just don't follow through with the dating process. Don't try to avoid a rejection. Be polite and emphatic, bu don't hesitate to take your chance.
/r/seduction19/08/22 06:27 PM
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If I look at this precisely, I do not fully agree with it. Your weakest trait is not necessarily the most relevant aspect. Your weakest point is not always your real sticking point. Your theory implies, that you just have to have your sh#t together and then you will be successful. Many average guys have their sh#t together, but still have a problems with women. On the other hand there are guys, who live in total chaos, e.g. drug problems, who still get women. "Work on your weakest point" is quit…
/r/seduction19/08/22 05:58 PM
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She responded to your joke. This joke is completed now. A new talking point is needed.
/r/seduction19/08/22 06:34 AM
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Keep your answers short and point to your next meet up in real life. She probably has enough social intelligence to adapt her texting frequency then. "Interesting, we should talk about that, when we see each other"
/r/seduction18/08/22 07:21 PM
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Wait a week an then text her something funny, that is not related to meeting up. If a conversation arises again, bring up meeting up after two or three messages.
/r/seduction18/08/22 05:18 PM
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I get what you are saying. Imho it does not necessarily contradict what I was saying. I did not say, that you should not have things in common. I just wanted to convey, that complementing each other and polarity is also an important ingredient. I exaggerated my point a bit, to make it more clear. Good luck!
/r/seduction16/08/22 09:56 PM
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Being similar can be dangerous. 'Similar' smells of friendship. Often partners complement each other. Similar people tend to be less able to show each other new things, they lack polarity. If there is polarity, women often will pick up the interests and values of their partners and "join his mission". A women that is right for that, will become your counterpart after some time. She will look up more to you, because you brought all these things in her world, instead of just doing the things and t…
/r/seduction16/08/22 09:15 PM
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You can't do much at the moment. Definitely let her go mentally - right know! If for some reason she add you back after all or you meet her again, you can follow the lead once again. But for know, forget her. I left without asking for her contact info bc we were in a rush. sounds like an excuse. It would have take only 30 seconds. This was your mistake.
/r/seduction16/08/22 09:04 PM
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women that gave me that ineffable feeling one gets when they know they're in the company of "the one" You have to be careful, chances are high you had that feelings for idealised versions of these women, not for the real person. How can you have feelings, with an actually deep basis, that early on? You have to get to know her first. Too strong feelings too early on are dangerous for a men, because they are based on idealisation and also drive women away because, they most likely perceive it as n…
/r/seduction16/08/22 08:48 PM
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Keep it ambiguous. Defining it as a date via text does not help you. Imho one should never directly call a meet up a date. You already had the two meet ups before summer, to show her your romantic interest. Calling it a date would just put pressure on you two and reduce increase the chances, that she will flake. The name-category of the meet up does not get you anywhere. What matters is that you flirt and escalate at the event, if the chemistry between you two is right. This is the deciding fact…
/r/seduction16/08/22 08:28 PM
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But you are still going to the same restaurant, right? How close before the meetup did she flake? The evening before? An hour before? Edit: Additional details necessary to evaluate the situation - was it the first date? How long do you know each other?
/r/seduction16/08/22 06:07 PM
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Please, show a little bit of self-reflection. I know, what my motivation was. Projecting negative motives on someone is not nice. Why can't I just have a different opinion? I always stayed respectful. Anyways, have a nice day.
/r/seduction16/08/22 05:28 PM
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Give more details if you want advice, that actually applies to your situation.
/r/seduction16/08/22 05:04 PM
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My goal was not to attack. My original posting came from place of compassion. But you are right, if I were more clever, I would have written it in an even more female-friendly way.
/r/seduction16/08/22 04:55 PM
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There will be literally thousands of young attractive girls in your city, who never go out and prefer more boring things.
/r/seduction16/08/22 04:34 PM
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you’re laying out your issues with women Typical response, whenever someone gives advice with conservative tendencies or reveals uncomfortable truth about female nature. No problem, I expected that much sooner. She asked how to get her dream guy and imho to reach that goal, what matters is the long-term strategy and avoiding typical obstacles, which I tried to explain. All the scenarios I talked about will be very relevant for her in the next month/years. mean she already said she’s not interest…
/r/seduction16/08/22 04:31 PM
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You out-gamed yourself. You interpreted her line as a soft attack. You managed to defend yourself, but lost sight of your goal - starting a conversation with her. you could have had it so much easier. With a smile - "the temperature is just right on this spot - come and join us!" This would have made it easy for her to come over. "I'm all bladder, up to here" makes it hard for her to join. She had not entered your group yet, she might have interpreted it as breaking rapport with her. It's hard t…
/r/seduction16/08/22 01:29 PM
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How big is your city, roughly?
/r/seduction16/08/22 11:11 AM
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show up, when she is in the right state.
/r/seduction16/08/22 10:32 AM
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Maybe postponing your final evaluation of attractiveness a bit could help. Many women initially do not look that good, but once you spend time with them, you find out, that you find them quite hot. On the other hand, many women, who seem hot, are not that hot, once you see them from closer up and spend time with them.
/r/seduction16/08/22 10:31 AM
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By routine I meant, that has done all that things many times, not canned material. irrelevant if she's not into him. In many cases it will not be decided yet. "Maybe girl" She will just decide, whether she wants to proceed to the next step. And of the girls that ARE into you, it's all just common sense stuff. Don't be super weird. Escalate. A lot of modern men do not have that common sense. The dating market and modern culture are absurd. That's the problem.
/r/seduction16/08/22 10:00 AM
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This is true, but does not apply to the initial phase, when she does not even know you and nothing has happened yet. In this phase flaking in many cases has nothing to do with you, but intervening factors in her life.
/r/seduction16/08/22 09:50 AM
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An 'expert' in your body would have ALMOST identical results His eloquence, his vibe, his situational/social intelligence, his routine, his understanding of logistics and his ability to not sabotage himself would change ALMOST nothing? Are you serious?
/r/seduction16/08/22 09:44 AM
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You need (positive) reference experiences to grow and to learn how to deal better with your approach anxiety. Drugs would disturb that process and instead of growing socially, you would just take these risky substances again and again. Sounds not reasonable.
/r/seduction15/08/22 04:54 AM
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If you want to start dating, start now. Learn and improve by doing it. Life is short.
/r/seduction14/08/22 10:14 AM
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Imho the general rule should be to avoid bothering women at their job. There are more than enough attractive women out there, who are not atm. Only hit on e.g. a waitress if she really seems to be your type, not when you find her just somewhat attractive. Also, the chances to get in contact with her are ten times higher, when you talk to her and get her number.
/r/seduction13/08/22 07:15 AM
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Correcting another person always has some dominance. Because that's what people in dominant social roles do. Teachers, parents ...
/r/seduction13/08/22 06:44 AM
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The average person (male or female) will not make a big deal about it and just remove it. Even if there were a tiny embarrassment it would rather help than hurt you. It would remind her, that she is just a fellow human being and not a flawless princess. Also, telling her shows caring and dominance, which are both positive.
/r/seduction13/08/22 06:38 AM
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I can only laugh about this. I've seen too many guy, who could change their situation to the better. Of course there is bad advice out there. But good advice from other guys is something really valuable. Men are giving each other advice on women since the beginning of time ...
/r/seduction12/08/22 09:28 PM
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I agree with your first paragraph and the message you want to convey, but imho you miss one important aspect: whether you appear creepy is subjective. It lies in the eyes of the person you are getting in contact with. How far you go of course matters, but is not necessarily the deciding variable. It's about social/emotional intelligence/calibration, and the ability to build rapport. A guy, who masters these things can go quite far and pull off unbelievable things. A guy, who lacks these things, …
/r/seduction12/08/22 08:27 PM
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"Let's meet up on Monday for [activity OP likes]!" You are giving her one instead of many options. This communicates dominance. Giving one instead of many options, is of course also less needy, because one option increases the chance, that she does not have time. Therefore you imply, that you are not needy. Also, you should make it easy for a maybe girl to say yes. If she is interested, but only has time on a different spot, she will tell you. "Let me know when you’re free next week and we’ll go…
/r/seduction11/08/22 07:39 PM
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why not just find a guy who is on their wavelength Because sexual/romantic relationships also need polarity, complementing each other. Being only on the same wavelength is enough for friendships, not for more. What’s the benefit of being with a man who’s brusque and emotionally withdrawn and why is that still considered attractive in 2022 when everyone knows that it’s really just a signal of insecurity? We do not rationally decide, who we are attracted to. That happens on a deeper level.
/r/seduction11/08/22 05:40 PM
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I have seen successful men with high ethical standards and guys, who do not get far by dropping all morals. Dropping your standards will not automatically boost your success. often guys want to break bad, when they got hurt buy someone. They were total nice guys before and then want to chance to the other extreme. The problem is, they always had a distorted view, about what ethical behaviour is to begin with.
/r/seduction11/08/22 05:24 PM
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Maybe you should put the expirience a little bit in the perspective. The backstory before you even talked to her is quite movie like (Seeing her in the waiting room, meeting her by chance when you walked out). When such a situation is the starting point, men are often times overly hyped and tend to idealise the situation. Women crave for the energy, they get from men, who are genuinely fascinated by them. To get this energy, they are ready to bait men, by doing or saying things, that do not nece…
/r/seduction11/08/22 04:58 PM
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Whatever the answer to your question is, it would not help you in any way. You will have to play the cards life dealt to you. Comparing yourself to others in this matter will get you nowhere. Thousand other reasons to lose, thousand other reasons to WIN!
/r/seduction09/08/22 08:00 PM
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I know women are objectively much less attracted to men without hair. That doesn't mean that this rule applies to every single case. Some men look better bald, e. g. Vin Diesel. I shaved my hair totally off once, because of a bet. An when I regrew it some women said, that they liked me more when I was bald. A bald head is seen as a sign of masculinity by many women and associated with being a bad boy. Therefore shaving your head can be an advantage and a boost to your dating life, because when y…
/r/seduction06/08/22 05:49 AM
1

I don't have a direct proof, but we can use logic. The designers of the app wan't to please their users, to keep them as customers. The picky guy is an unsure customer, so they would rather make an algorithm, that helps him, than the needy guy, who wants to match with everyone anyways.
/r/seduction05/08/22 02:57 PM
1

I had similar thoughts. A confident guy would not feel embarrassed that easy. But the problem is, we don't know enough about the concrete situation, OP is in, to interpret it accurately.
/r/seduction05/08/22 08:43 AM
9

Don't try to match with everyone. The algorithm will notice your needy behaviour and rank you lower.
/r/seduction05/08/22 08:14 AM
268

Easy. To maximise the number of guys in their orbit, who give them attention and are in some cases potential mates. Many of them would leave, if they think she is already taken.
/r/seduction04/08/22 09:23 AM
19

all the top girls that I dream over he gets effortlessly Celebrity women with their big egos and their superficial style are not the top women.
/r/seduction04/08/22 08:25 AM
4

Being nervous is not necessarily seen as creepy by women. It's all about the way you deal with your nervousness. If you try to hide your nervousness and tense up while unsuccessfully trying to play it cool, you become incongruent, women notice, that something is off. They don't know for sure, what it is. A guy stands in front off them, says something nice, but seems to have an unknown problematic tension in him, they can feel. This is what turns them off, not being nervous per se. But if you own…
/r/seduction03/08/22 04:15 PM
3

Im afraid our feelings aren't mutual From her perspective nothing has happened yet. Even if you have a chance, she probably will not fantasise about you yet, in the way you do it with her. So don't explicitly confess your feelings. Get her number, Meet up with her, flirt and try to seduce and escalate, without explaining yourself.
/r/seduction03/08/22 07:55 AM
2

Good advice from the other user, that will help you to look even better. But you already look good. Looks is not your problem or sticking point, it must be something else, if there is something.
/r/seduction31/07/22 04:15 PM
10

Imho the relevant variable is culture not race, Western culture to be precise. In Europe you can notice the same difference between Western and Eastern European women, although both groups are white. The feminism of Western culture tends to reduce the femininity of women and makes them manlier. As a result it's harder to establish a man-to-women connection. Only two things can changes their behaviour: 1. A guy, that is really sure of his role as a masculine man, so that they eventually have to a…
/r/seduction31/07/22 03:59 PM
2

I never been complimented for my looks, never ever in this life. No girl told me through text "hey handsome wyd" or to tell me that I'm good looking. That's a feminine attitude. A man does not define himself so much by his looks. He is even less dependent on compliments on his looks. Made shitton of catfish Tinder profiles, the results put me down. Girls told to the fake me that I am handsome, that they want to lick my abs, my chest, to have sex with me. Why would you make these fake profiles? B…
/r/seduction31/07/22 08:16 AM
9

Groundhog Day 40 year old virgin
/r/seduction30/07/22 06:06 PM
22

chemistry and a women's emotions are not governed by logic. Ultimately, the search for your exact mistake is therefor futile. Thinking that perfect behaviour can always lead you to success is a form of needyness. You definitely over-interpreted all of her behaviour. Dancing and kissing does not mean that you have her and that she is a sure thing in any way. And what she said also did not mean that everything is over. She just expressed, how she felt in each moment. You shouldn't have deleted her…
/r/seduction30/07/22 07:52 AM
4

Give her time, but still establish a frame where you lead. break it down into several little steps trick her with creativity. Do unusual things, that pushes her limits by hacking them. E.g. be naked together without having sex. Put your hand down her pants, but do nothing, just let it it rest there. Have her remove her panties for only 10 Seconds. Maybe she experienced some sort of abuse, but is not ready to talk about it.
/r/seduction29/07/22 05:09 PM
10

do something you enjoy. Your positive feelings will pull her into your world. Imho first dates don't need special activities and locations. You two are what makes things special. A fancy location/activity would just distract from getting to know each other. coffee (+ a little walk through the park) is perfect. It's not boring because you are doing it with her. It makes more sense to come up with something special for the second or third date. Then you know a bit more about her, that will inspire…
/r/seduction29/07/22 04:11 PM
1

50 is another imaginary line, where things supposedly end. But in reality men in their 50s are dating left and right. As an older guy, you know better what you need in life. This is an advantage, women will also be able to appreciate. You also seem like a guy, who has some stories to tell. This will also help you with dating. view dating as an adventure, where you enjoy the process, not just the results. Every failed attempt will teach you something and bring you closer to what you want. The pro…
/r/seduction22/07/22 06:23 PM
10

A confident guy would not care too much about whether others think he is a loser/weirdo or not. They are much less concerned with you and how you are than you think. Mostly, they are concerned with their own problems, not you. The oppions on you will not be the same but differ. Some will like you, some don't. And, no matter how much you will improve, this will always be the same, as it is for everyone. Learn to accept yourself first. Confidence has to be grounded in yourself, not some outside st…
/r/seduction22/07/22 12:40 PM
2

you took your chance. You would have regretted it for a long time, if you hadn't tried. people are mostly concerned with their own problems. Whether you have or don't have a certain partner at the event, might be interesting for one moment, but still remains a footnote to the whole thing. This is one among thousand stories. Try to find a new partner while you can.
/r/seduction21/07/22 07:33 PM
1

No, in our scenario the solution is not to immediately judge her and not immediately eject. A few moments later, you will have much more substance to evaluate her state. One sentence later her vibe could already be a lot different. It takes few moments for both parties to see what is even going on. Nightlife is loud and overstimulating in many other ways.
/r/seduction21/07/22 05:15 PM
1

It's just an initial moment where no connection is established yet. Women get approached by weird guys a lot and first need to put their guard down.
/r/seduction21/07/22 05:02 PM
0

No hostile or bad vibes from my side at all. Why would I be hostile towards people I don't know? Stay open minded and have a nice day. Don't judge a phone-posting dude, lying with a cold in bed too hard.... I hope you have a good day. I still learned something from our conversation.
/r/seduction21/07/22 04:05 PM
0

Yeah I unashamedly believe that truth can be shown by debating...
/r/seduction21/07/22 03:50 PM
2

For example, right now you're being weirdly aggressive Was not my intention to come across this way, because I'm not at all like this. Sadly, I got emotionally engaged, because I just know I right on the scenario. I care for guys, who approach and I know that ejecting to early because you want to protect your ego is one of the biggest mistakes. Probably we are just talking past each other as it happens so often in texting... Have a nice day!
/r/seduction21/07/22 03:22 PM
0

Would not be the guy, who runs off because of one feisty line be the chode?
/r/seduction21/07/22 02:54 PM
1

90 % of the variables, who will decide whether she will be still interested then, are not within your control. Once you realize that, you will stop forcing your desired outcome so much. Focus on other people/things in the mean time. Texting tends to lead to misunderstandings and does hardly build up attraction. So less is more. A weekly phone call would be much more intimate. You will hear her voice and can build up genuine rapport.
/r/seduction21/07/22 02:42 PM
5

Perfect. It will be hard to have such a joke spontaneously at hand for many guys. Holding a funny frame would be the next best thing: "wow, you are feisty... Where are you from?"
/r/seduction21/07/22 02:07 PM
-2

Good luck expecting manners from drunken people at a bar. This is not tea with queen...
/r/seduction21/07/22 01:47 PM
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it’s “this person isn’t interesting or challenging me and doesn’t deserve my time” Ho could he know, after 10 Seconds of interaction? That's called being emotional... he should have given the situation at least one minute to understand what is going on...
/r/seduction21/07/22 01:02 PM
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You are wrong regarding this concrete scenario. the strongest way to deflect any verbal attack is to not interpret it as one and answer with a joke, that subtly makes the attacker look bad. Getting defensive too early is a sign of weakness. In our scenario there was not even an attack just one provocative line. respect is something that should be present in when a connection has been established. You can't expect a woman to be super respectful to a random stranger. Maybe she is disrespectful may…
/r/seduction21/07/22 12:56 PM
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I never said, he should have complied. A confident guy, would ignore the demand and say, what he originally wanted to say. He definitely would not get defensive and immediately run off. Being confident means to a large degree being chilled.
/r/seduction21/07/22 12:38 PM
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So one should get defensive and run off because one provocative line? I don't think so... Seems weak to me. Maybe she would have been the sweetest girl one moment later...
/r/seduction21/07/22 12:25 PM
5

You have to be mentally present yourself first. Being in your head, comparing yourself to other guys and analyzing the situation is not being present. To connect to people, you have to be loose and be totally in the moment. Your ego prevents you from that, because you want to be a certain way and be perceived a certain way. But you can never control how others see you.
/r/seduction21/07/22 12:19 PM
4

Imho the correct reaction would have been to answer with a joke or to ignore it and say what you originally planned. You have to hold your frame. You should have taken her less serious/literal and been more playful.
/r/seduction21/07/22 12:00 PM
1

This only explains some of the cases. For the rest a strong irrational and moody component can't be ignored.
/r/seduction21/07/22 01:36 AM
2

not really, random events like this happened. and i still recovered and continued the set It happens but is very seldom, if you are calibrated. She may recover, but a bad start still reduces your chances in the macro. it was advanced. had i not done that, i would have wasted my time texting the number and realizing she isn't down romantically It may have saved your time in this concrete scenario (taken woman). But in general it's not a good idea. Even a women, who is free and interested, may not…
/r/seduction16/07/22 05:08 AM
4

she was definitely startled that means your stop/initial phase of the approach was not smooth/calibrated enough. i did a little advanced tactic "so we can meet up on a nice date huh?!" That's not advanced at all. It comes across weak and insecure. Why would a confident guy, who directly approached a woman, question the nature of the interaction? "well, i wouldn't exactly call it a date" she said BOOM. exposed Just because she is not willing to call it a date, it does not mean, that you have no c…
/r/seduction16/07/22 04:42 AM
43

Perhaps my profile and pictures are dog shit? High resolution and good colours? good poses? perspectives, that make your facial proportions look good, highlight your strength and downplay your imperfections? creative ideas? lighting, that makes your face look three-dimensional?
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:57 PM
1

I think probably because it was a more straightforward answer than our previous goofy convos. You can't assume that. You are just one tiny aspect of the things, that are going on in her life. There are endless other possibilities, that could have caused her to not respond. You can't know the reason and you don't have to. Don't think such things, do not happen to a guy, who texts perfect, whatever that might be. People are not machine, you can't control their behaviour. what’s a smooth/funny text…
/r/seduction15/07/22 06:25 PM
1

Dick size follows the normal distribution curve. Many in the middle, few dicks who are really big/small. For someone, who is really small, it is understandable, that it can cause issues. But we can obverse an interesting phenomenon among the average guys, who make up the majority. They are more or less the same size, but some of them care about it and some don't. Therefore for the average guy size can't be the determining factor about how they perceive themselves. Also, in terms of beauty in gen…
/r/seduction15/07/22 06:06 PM
1

the danger here obviously is, that you drift into the direction of a platonic relationship. There may have been some electricity in the air, when you did that project, but you don't have much momentum yet. Your next indermediate goal should be to meet up with her in real life. revealing your motives via phone or app would weaken your position so don't do it. Come up with a cool idea of something cool, you could do together. Keep it ambiguous. Directly asking someone out only has power in real li…
/r/seduction15/07/22 05:43 PM
1

you mean stop comparing?
/r/seduction15/07/22 04:10 PM
3

Your problems are self-doubt and (lack of) self-worth, not your dick size. A confident guy will make the best out of what he has, no matter what his size is, without caring much. An insecure guy will doubt himself, no matter what his size is.
/r/seduction15/07/22 04:05 PM
2

You need two things gratefulness and living in the moment: gratefulness: You may not have reached all the things you desire. But the sole fact, that you are alive and seemingly healthy is something great, you should be grateful for. You could die tomorrow or discover, that you are seriously ill. This should show you relative all things are. Your health and loved ones are the most important thing in your life. Whether more or less attractive women like you, is of much less importance. the past is…
/r/seduction15/07/22 02:33 PM
13

Just because alcohol seemingly has helped you on one occasion, it does not mean that it would always be the case. Your sample size is not that big. Not all women in all situations necessarily want/need a guy that is super funny. One night I went to a work happy hour before my date. I had a couple drinks and talking with my coworkers warmed me up socially. When I went to my date it was like a night and day difference. I absolutely crushed making her laugh and the convo just flowed. How do you kno…
/r/seduction15/07/22 02:19 PM
3

If you are really interested in her, interested enough to risk the friendship, you should take your chance. Guessing whether she is interested and how much, will get you nowhere. You will soon enough see, when you decide to make a move.
/r/seduction15/07/22 02:06 PM
7

Because aside from all the negative traits, that are associated with sluts, they have one trait, all women want to have: sluts are able to express their sexuality uninhibited.
/r/seduction15/07/22 08:30 AM
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Because the word means something different in both contexts. Outside bed a slut is a woman, who is easy to get and not able to hold a meaningful long-term relationship. In bed it means a woman, who enjoys doing "naughty" stuff.
/r/seduction15/07/22 08:24 AM
5

Don't ask for her phone number. Come up with something you could do together and then exchange numbers. If you have a reason to exchange numbers doing it is much easier. Don't make a big deal out.
/r/seduction15/07/22 08:18 AM
1

technically it would not even be a number close, because you don't get her number A few girls will contact you. But these would not necessarily be the women with the most potential. Just the ones, who are randomly in the state to contact you first. Many women, you otherwise would have had potential with, will slip though your fingers, just because you did not ask for their numbers. situations, where there is not the time to for 1 minute of talking and exchanging numbers are very rare. By using t…
/r/seduction15/07/22 05:09 AM
2

You can move on. But than you are wasting a lead, that still holds some potential. Trying to meet up with her one more time at a later date, does not cost you much time or energy. So doing it is only a win.
/r/seduction14/07/22 09:24 PM
7

The dynamic of the sexes is not something mechanical like a computer game, where you have to reach a certain power level to unlock new features. Human connection is different, being a good match is something deeper, something more personal, that you can't force with superficial characteristics. The bottom line is, that you don't want women, who don't want you. Every rejection leads you closer to finding someone you click with. You want to find someone, youi have a deeper connection with, so it's…
/r/seduction14/07/22 08:56 PM
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Whatever makes you happy. But to me that sound like being a good boy and earning your reward. The bedroom version of putting her on a pedestal. Also, what you describe is the mainstream approach to sex. The mainstream gets the dynamics of the sexes wrong in every other field. Why would the get it right in the bedroom? They don't. The hyper-focus on orgasms has taken away the magic form sex and ruined it.
/r/seduction14/07/22 08:11 PM
-10

Trying to be good enough for women is thinking like a "beta". Of course, you should care for her, but you shouldn't place her above yourself. By trying to be "good enough" for her, you do exactly that. Imho this spiritual inversion is worse than "bad" sex and turns women off.
/r/seduction14/07/22 07:42 PM
2

The status of your v-card will not magically transform your life. Sex with a prostitute might not be as great as you imagine, it could be a humiliating expirience. You can't know in advance. The better way is to free yourself from thinking it is important and focus on building your confidence on a solid foundation: life goals, friendship, family, health Women should never be the foundation of your confidence.
/r/seduction14/07/22 07:30 PM
2

She doesn't want him in this moment for whatever reason, but things can be different another time. She is not a needy man. Just because she does not make him first priority after one date, does not mean she would not meet up with him at a later date and give him a chance.
/r/seduction14/07/22 07:10 PM
2

You can't expect a woman to be super hooked after one date. Give her a little bit more time. You also can't expect the dating process to be totally stream line. Don't emotionally invest, but try again at a later time, after focusing on other stuff and other people. in this phase of getting to know her, you have to lead the whole thing. Propose another idea for meeting up after some time has passed. If she meets up again with you, you two have another fresh chance.
/r/seduction14/07/22 07:06 PM
1

How would this "long game" look like? If it means getting to know her and trying to flirt, then it exactly the same all the other guy will do. Also, it will be hard to distinguish professional niceness from genuine attraction. By being indirect he has no way of seeing whether he is making progress. Whether he is able to get to know her a little bit or able to create a flirty vibe, says nothing about, whether she will exchange numbers and meet up with him. If she is attracted to him and in the ri…
/r/seduction14/07/22 06:35 PM
3

you seem to be her "orbiter". She already knows, that she has you. This reduces your value and chances. You don't have to engage in her game, if you don't enjoy it. She seems to lead the whole thing and not you. Do you really want that? You have to meet up with her and try to escalate. Everything else is not that relevant. She may be great. But you don't know her that well. And there are tons of other great women out there.
/r/seduction14/07/22 04:17 PM
1

Don't confess. Meet up as friends, then try to escalate without explaining yourself.
/r/seduction13/07/22 03:20 PM
9

Attraction is negotialble just not by rationality and words, but by actions. For woman being attracted is a process and a momentary status. You can only try to lead her to the next step/moment and see, whether she follows along. But you can't find out whether she is ultimatly attracted to you. Never.
/r/seduction11/07/22 03:56 PM
1

I said I felt that I liked her enough that it made sense to end things with the other girls I'd been seeing, but she said she felt like it was too soon to do that. I was caught a off guard by this, since the way she looks at me did not at all make me think she was still curious about other men. Clearly, I was wrong. So basically you were talking about excusivity. Excusivity is not just about seeing other people it's also a status, that consolidates the relationship of you two. So maybe it's not …
/r/seduction11/07/22 03:49 PM
5

You can talk to her if you already have something like an established relationship. But if you confront her in the phase, where you are getting to know each other, it's just a weak and needy move. You can't rationally convince her to behave in a certain way. Action speaks louder than words. Instead, Give her less attention and focus on other people/things. What matter is that she shows up for dates eventually, this is where you create attraction. Texting is secondary.
/r/seduction10/07/22 11:56 AM
2

Was I wrong for texting quickly Imho you were not. Expressing yourself when you are in the flow is a good thing. But I should have gone for the kiss Yes! By holding her hand you have broken the touch barrier, if you have done that you should also try to kiss her, otherwise you will come across a lot less exciting then before.
/r/seduction10/07/22 05:51 AM
2

Some guys are rather feminine, but feel deep inside of them, that they want to embody masculine qualities. In this case they imho should try to conquer their on masculinity. Other guys have more or less a feminine side, but that is their core personality. In this case, they should learn to accept themselves. Being a man is a journey. As a young guy you probably don't fully know who/what/how you are. That is normal. Don't worry.
/r/seduction10/07/22 05:36 AM
2

Hard to analyse without seeing you. But you seem to be not sure of yourself and your behaviour. But that is the most important thing, much more important than how other people perceive you. Stay true to yourself and your values. Whether other people like you and call you "arrogant" or anything else is secondary. Am I too nice and friendly? If you are a somewhat young guy in the west, than you probably are. But that does not mean you should not be friendly. It's about knowing your own boundaries …
/r/seduction09/07/22 08:53 PM
3

Text her as if there was no problem with the number. She may have given you the wrong number on purpose, but in the meantime she already has forgotten whether she gave you a correct number or a wrong one. Giving you her number is a trivial act for her, she does not think much about it. Women live in the moment, how she felt in the moment she gave you the number, says not much about how she feels now. Give it a try.
/r/seduction09/07/22 07:37 PM
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Strong and confident women fall for two different types of guys: guys with feminine traits, that compliment their own masculine traits. guys, who are even more strong and confident than themselves and bring back the feminine side in them. Option 1 will tend to be less stable. Because sooner or later almost all women will crave for masculine polarity and society does not encourage long term relationships. But if the woman is not damaged and the less masculine guy brings something to the table (lo…
/r/seduction09/07/22 07:21 PM
1

If you both want it, why shouldn't you give it a try? From my experience one can not just decide whether you are friends with someone. The decision alone does not mean much. Friendship is something you do, meeting up, sharing thoughts and feelings. This has to happen on a more or less regular basis. Only time can tell whether it can work out, or whether you two are even interested in it.
/r/seduction01/07/22 07:19 PM
2

Wrong question. The real question is "what are your intentions?" Being ignored is a sign that you are hesitant and coming on too weak. Showing your intentions lukewarm can lead too such situations and creep women out. If you come on strong enough you either will be successful or get rejected. People with a strong presence (almost) never get ignored.
/r/seduction30/06/22 05:19 PM
3

Address it, when it comes up naturally. You two will not change the course of history in one direction or the other. Therefore your politically affiliations are not as important as the media makes you to believe. Just make sure she is not a political extremist in any way. The most feminine women tend to lack heavy politicisation in either direction. They are just not concerned with it.
/r/seduction30/06/22 04:56 PM
1

First does it matter? Are you serious? Do you doubt, that a straight guy will react completly different than a gay guy when a man approaches him romantically/sexually? And second iont know man if a tight shorts and pink long sleeve isn’t a giveaway i dont know shat is There are tons of straight guys, that come across gay and wear pink /tight cloths.
/r/seduction29/06/22 07:10 PM
-4

How do you know he was gay and not just a metrosexual straight guy? This would explain the situation.
/r/seduction29/06/22 03:14 PM
1

why not?
/r/seduction29/06/22 10:06 AM
6

Nothing with a strong sexual or romantic angle. Take something lighthearted or funny.
/r/seduction29/06/22 09:00 AM
2

That is still not relevant to your individual case. Everyone has to overcame their sticking points. Many have it hard in some way. Comparing yourself to others will not help you in any way. Only taking action and overcoming your negativity will get you further. There will be some women out there, who you find attractive, that also are attracted to you. You need to find them. The rest is irrelevant.
/r/seduction28/06/22 10:24 PM
2

group comparison has zero influence on your individual case. Stop it. Your confidence and self-value should not be based on looks either way. If people regularly tell you, that you are good looking, you definitely are. Probably not bad at conversation, just bad at flirting and talking to women (and understanding their nature). "only-above average" above average is more then enough to completely stop worrying about your looks. The last two years I was heavily depressed and it took a massive toll …
/r/seduction28/06/22 09:04 PM
2

There will be no real IOI most of the time. She will be focused on finding the stuff she needs.
/r/seduction28/06/22 08:40 PM
3

How to become her Tarzan Don't verbalise your interest or that you want to seduce her Play with the tension between the two of you via looks, jokes and kino. Slowly increase it and go back and forth with it. If she has allowed all previous steps and the tension has reached the boiling point, just grab and kiss her!
/r/seduction28/06/22 07:20 PM
2

Yes, but after you came up with a cool idea for a meet up. "Lets exchange numbers!" is even better. Once you focus on other women, she will become less interesting to you. Quite soon the way you two treat each will normalise again. Trust me. The situation would be even more difficult, if you had been more successful with her and the rejection had happened on a later stage. This is just one reason why you should be very careful with dating and seduction at your workplace. Have a nice day!
/r/seduction28/06/22 06:46 PM
3

It all depends on the energy of you two. You have to get a feeling for it. If there is passion in the air, you will have more kisses or escalte further. If the ice not completly broken you go back to talking or whatever you were doing. The more silence there is, the more tension will be. Tension can be awkward, but most of the time it is good. Maybe you will caress her back a bit. Who will start the talking again does not matter at all. Don't overthink. And also if i did do the kiss in the midle…
/r/seduction27/06/22 04:34 PM
3

What she means is that she is not interested so there is no point in rescheduling This is a strong possibility, but still an assumption. Interest is fluid, the situation can be different in a few days. He should not invest at this point. But it is still a lead. Out of 10 bad leads 3 will turn better later on, if one is not needy.
/r/seduction27/06/22 03:54 PM
4

short message, that shows, that you are understanding don't blame and don't show dissapointment don't adress meeting up and rescheduling in any way withdraw attention for at least one weak, focus on other people/stuff in the meantime contact her after at least one weak, but do not bring the idea of meeting up in the first message
/r/seduction27/06/22 03:39 PM
1

Good luck with your date!
/r/seduction27/06/22 02:59 PM
3

As long as you are not recognizable (visible face or unique tatoo on the same photo), there is no way she could harm you, just by having the photo. Also, scammers would not bring up the story with the gay guy. They would want to maximise their success.
/r/seduction27/06/22 02:40 PM
2

The needy guy wants her at (almost) any price. He is ready to give up his dignity and sense of reality just to get/have her. This leads to a weak, overly emotional and unmanly vibe.
/r/seduction27/06/22 02:23 PM
6

never ask for a number. Instead exchange numbers, when there is a reason for it (that you created). Maybe you came across as needy and clingy, as she is not even willing to eat with you anymore. How do I stop thinking that I should pursue it again? You don't want a complicated situation at work. You are in a new city, that is filled with attractive women. Why focusing on her?
/r/seduction27/06/22 01:51 PM
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We can not generalise here. It depends on the location and time you'll meet there. It depends on the mood and the connection you two you'll have then, maybe quiet is good, maybe not. If the place is too loud or too boring, you can always switch location after one drink. This can have a positive influence on your date as it becomes more versatile. Don't overthink too much. The surroundings are just one relatively minor factor. If you two have really good connection, almost anything will suffice. …
/r/seduction27/06/22 12:58 PM
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look at the wheather forecast, maybe you two want to be outside a bit look at which day is best in terms of your own plans only do bar dates, if that is your thing, that you enjoy and an environment, where you can shine. You know the saying: "Bringing a girl to a bar is like bringing sand to the beach"
/r/seduction27/06/22 11:30 AM
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Everyone gets looks in public. Some people more some less. There is not one single reason behind that. Sometimes it will be curiosity, sometimes one person will remind another of someone and sometime people like the look of someone. Some people catch more attention than others. Some people stare back if you stare at them. Whether you get looks or how much you get has no meaning for your potential to be sucessful in social life and in dating. The public is not concerned with you. Everyone focuses…
/r/seduction27/06/22 09:55 AM
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Hard to tell without a photo
/r/seduction27/06/22 09:44 AM
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Assume the next best thing: Assume, that you don't know, whether she is attracted to you. Then you have to make a move to find it out.
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:47 AM
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Just learn how to escalate, that seems to be your sticking point, and repeat, what you are already doing. Every failed attempt will teach you something and increase your social skills. Sooner or later your behaviour will be on point and you will click with someone. "Weird" is totally subjective, no matter how you are, you'll always be weird to some people. You'll be fine.
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:41 AM
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Most of your lines feel a bit artificial, but that's just my opinion. Why don't you just invite her to a e.g. coffee at your place, where you will show her the book/movie/xy you talked about. You don't need to address, whether you plan to be intimate with her at your place.
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:24 AM
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My problem with that and the thing that has stopped me doing that already is the thought that she might feel like the relationship is going well because I am putting less time and effort into her because she will definitely notice the difference. It's not about whether she thinks the relationship is going well or not. Point is, she has to see, that you are independent, that your wellbeing is not dependent on her. This should not just be a show to get her back, it should actually be the case. Abo…
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:57 AM
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it seems, she lost attraction to you in some way. It does not necessarily mean, she is aware of it, but it happened on some level. It's not a good sign, that such a thing happened that early in the relationship, but imho you should not give up yet. what most likely happened: she became the sun of your universe, your first priority. A man can have a partner and a family, but his first priority should always be his life-mission. She does not want to be your first priority. By making her, you lose …
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:32 AM
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Good post! But imho when talking to strangers the importance of rapport should not be underestimated. Tension and rapport go hand in hand. Also, to be able to put the focus on tension, a guy already needs to have quite good social skills (= the ability to read social situations correctly, the ability to read and send social signals correctly, being people-wise, confidence) Otherwise his attempts to build or play with tension will just come off as weird or creepy.
/r/seduction26/06/22 08:10 AM
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you probably got the wrong vibe. On a conscious level she probably did not think of getting intimate with you - it's a funeral + you are her friends son "omg he's so handsome" is a quite usual thing family and friends of the family say when they meet up. But maybe there was some connection when you two look at each other. Only you and her can know. Just because she has not thought about starting something with you, does not mean, she would not do it, given the opportunity. She probably does not …
/r/seduction26/06/22 07:34 AM
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How do I stop falling in love? Try to project less. Men tend to assume, women have all the qualities they desire, just because tgey find them hot. But truth is, you don't know her, you know almost nothing about her. If you fall in love early, you fall in love with your own fantasy, not with her. Also, falling in love early communicates neediness. By making her so important to you that soon, you communicate low value. Spend more time with attractive women and you will develop "immunity". Is swoll…
/r/seduction26/06/22 06:56 AM
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its not set that just because she has fun, banters, dances and even flirts back a bit that she will go and fuck them. For many girls fucking around and going home with men just like that is not something they'd wanna do for various reasons. I know, I already assumed that. I think, you'll know her character a bit by now. But that covers 99 % of the opportunities there, but can you be sure about the other 1 %? Alcohol + dancing + attractive guy + they celebrate something job related + a little ten…
/r/seduction26/06/22 05:57 AM
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Option 1: Convince yourself that muscles are not important. Option 2: Buy a pull-up-bar and have a nice v-taper within a few month. Not just for women but also for yourself and your health. You don't need to become a gym bro. One can have an athletic body just by doing push-ups and pull-ups.
/r/seduction25/06/22 06:08 PM
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If she shows up for another meet up, another window will open, but you have to hold your frame.
/r/seduction24/06/22 08:46 PM
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It's important to him objectively, because it was a formative phase in his life. Connecting to it in a positive way is a source of strength. Imho the disaster would be to give the negative feelings power by hiding at home. Facing the situation will be much harder, than the situation itself. "plan of action" - how can you plan a scenario, you know nothing about? He does not know, whether she is there. He does not know, how he himself is going to feel in the situation. He does not know how the vib…
/r/seduction24/06/22 08:01 PM
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that will be the stepping stone to then giving out random compliments, Insert an additional stepping stone: asking for directions. It will be easier to get a feeling for talking to strangers that way, as there is zero tension in it.
/r/seduction24/06/22 07:19 PM
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I think you caught feelings and don't want to admit it. It's between the lines. You don't say it directly, but imho you are aiming for a relationship. She is partying regularly with attractive men. Alcohol is involved. You are not there. Do you really think, she is ready for a relationship?
/r/seduction24/06/22 05:18 PM
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You should definitely go. Your high school group is important to you, it's part of your identity. Don't reduce all just to the situation with her. Don't let that event be taken away from you by this situation. You'll meet other people there, she, if she will be there at all, is just one person of many. Facing such situations is part of being an adult. Don't use alcohol or drugs to handle it. Overcoming it sober will make you stronger. I'm not saying you shouldn't drink with the other guys, just …
/r/seduction24/06/22 04:57 PM
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Don't try to force yourself to be a certain way. Life expirience and expressing yourself more will form your personality. be adventurous and try out new things in life live on the edge of your comfort zone regularly spend time alone all by yourself to reflect your own thoughts and feelings listen to opinions of people, who think totally different than yourself, learn from it spend time with people you deem interesting share more of your thoughts and feelings with others, especially, if they are …
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:48 PM
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I could also mean "I don't have the time for dating and a relationship atm"
/r/seduction24/06/22 06:01 AM
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You once were younger, but 28 is still quite young. Even guys at 38 or 48 find love and start families. Look at it that way: If you move ahead an inch every day, where would you be in a month? Where would you be in a year? In two years? Your past or even your current situation might be bad, but you can always decide to look and move ahead.
/r/seduction24/06/22 04:56 AM
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I think you should play long game, cuz she must have guys hit on her all day long and you don’t wanna just be another of them. I think the opposite will be the case. More guys will play the long game in some way. Only the minority will have the guts to ask her out directly. One would stand out more by asking her out bluntly.
/r/seduction23/06/22 03:16 PM
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This actually is a good mindset. When your expectations are low, you will not get disappointed so easily. You'll be able to enjoy little successes. Low expectations do not automatically imply that one assumes failure, it can also mean that you have a neutral mindset, that is free of positive and negative assumptions. Lulling yourself with these hyper-positive affirmations works, when you are at home. But as soon as you are in the field, you need a more realistic mindset, that works under pressur…
/r/seduction19/06/22 03:09 PM
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Of your countless ancestors all managed to have sex. There is no reason to think you are not part of that line. every failed attempt teaches you somethings and takes you closer to success taking your chances with women is an adventure and expression of your masculinity and therefor a win in itself. The outcomes are secondary. guys much older than you managed to turn their lives around. It may be late but not too late, as long as you take action now.
/r/seduction19/06/22 01:02 PM
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very attractive + single mom = dangerous combination. That in all likelihood means, that a lot of guys have pump-and-dumped her. This altered her psyche and it will take time until she will show, how she really is. Maybe I'm wrong, I just want you to be careful and aware. Treat her like you would treat one of your guy friends. Would you use a cab or public transport for them? at the latest during the festival. Otherwise you risk seeming like a boring guy. Don't plan it too much. Let it happen. B…
/r/seduction18/06/22 10:06 AM
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Because for many men having a chance with an attractive women is a rare opportunity. It's hard to not put a rare opportunity of something, you would like to have, not on a pedestal.
/r/seduction18/06/22 06:31 AM
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No. If the guy is socially calibrated and confident, most women will enjoy the interaction (at least a little bit), even if they are not into the guy or find him ugly. In contrast to that they will totally blow out a guy, they would have found attractive under normal circumstances, if he is not confident and has no social skills.
/r/seduction18/06/22 06:17 AM
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She cant be that busy, if a customer needed some help, he would also just interrupt her. If you were friends with her you would also just drop by and interrupt her. The impossibility is in your mind. You have to talk to her. Otherwise she will think: "Is this guy normal? Isn't he able to just introduce himself and say hello? Somehow weird ..."
/r/seduction17/06/22 04:21 PM
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The most logical thing is to connect with other people, who are also new in this city. There will be a Facebook group "New in X" or something like that. If there is nothing like that you could start one, or an event on meetup.com
/r/seduction17/06/22 04:14 PM
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Who would doubt, that people treat their crushes better? But if people, including women, regularly deny you basic respect, the reason is probably your own behaviour. If you don't respect yourself and stand up for yourself, others wont do either. Observe the behaviour of people. Middle aged men with beer guts and bad breath get treated with normal respect. Is it because they are attractive? No. It's because they radiate confidence and presence.
/r/seduction16/06/22 07:55 PM
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Focus on yourself and not other guys. Whether other guy are successful is completely irrelevant to your success. Some girls always will be more into other guys instead of you. Forget these girls, find new girls who are into you.
/r/seduction16/06/22 04:32 PM
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Walk out with her and ask her out in front of your shop. This way you step out of your role a bit and keep your professionalism.
/r/seduction16/06/22 05:00 AM
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Anything is better than nothing and will increase your chances. Your mind is playing a trick on you here. You tell yourself in this situations, "I'm allowed to do nothing at all if I have no idea what to say in detail!" But you will not always have a witty line at hand in real life. Why are there guys, who are witty in such situations? Because they put themselves into it repeatably. Maybe run-of-the-mill talking point or plain honesty already would have been enough to create some momentum.
/r/seduction15/06/22 07:18 PM
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What you miss is probably a purpose in life.
/r/seduction15/06/22 06:48 PM
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Probably problems with another guy made her emotionally break down and "fed up with ALL men", so she had to "change her life". Therefore she changed her insta and deleted her facebook. Terminating the contact to you would just have been collateral damage then. But you probably will never find out what happened to her. The most important aspect: Don't blame yourself the slightest, you did nothing wrong.
/r/seduction15/06/22 02:38 PM
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She knows right away, whether she is attracted in the current moment, but that might change with new information and new behaviour.
/r/seduction14/06/22 01:41 PM
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When I realized that everyone in society is mostly concerned with themselves, not whether I'm acting a little more or less cool.
/r/seduction13/06/22 04:30 PM
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when I’ve lost the genetic lottery. Genes are more than your looks! Many if not most of your abilities (physical, psychological) have at least some basis in your genes. You haven't pushed yourself to your limits, therefore you can't know, how good your genes are. In general the most important thing will be for you to not use your (perceived) disadvantages as an excuse to give up. Something can be hard to achieve. But if you give up, you will certainly not get it. NEVER GIVE UP!
/r/seduction13/06/22 04:22 PM
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I agree these factors will play a role too. But what I meant was rather more details about his interactions, how he approaches and which reactions he gets at which stage.
/r/seduction12/06/22 08:28 PM
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The downvote probably meant: "Don't nitpick, throw some content in like the others!" haha
/r/seduction12/06/22 07:04 PM
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Not only women, everyone does. Even a small piece of advice is most of the time part of a bigger social/philosophical model, that is just implied.
/r/seduction12/06/22 07:01 PM
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Look closer: Maybe you already are cracking jokes and your humour is e.g. just very dry. filter your thoughts less, being relaxed and loose goes hand in hand with being funny. A cheeky guy will automatically develop his humours side. Learn to be in the moment and become a good observer. Learn to stop the carousel of your thoughts and project your mind outwards. All the funny situations are already there, you just need to recognise them. Not all people are equally funny and humour is subjective. …
/r/seduction12/06/22 06:57 PM
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If you want good advice, you need to give more context. Otherwise you will only get wild guesses.
/r/seduction12/06/22 06:36 PM
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Most dating advice is better than people think. They fail at putting it in the right context and at calibrating the details.
/r/seduction12/06/22 06:32 PM
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you can learn from the experiences your friends make and avoid the mistakes they make. Having someone, who is good with women in your friend group, teaches you more than any book or reddit advice, because it's so practical and exactly fits to your demographic and life situation. stop idealising other people's lives. They are trying to live out their dreams, not yours. A relationship, even a casual one, always has a price (time, energy, stress). You, in contrast, are completely free at the moment…
/r/seduction12/06/22 05:57 PM
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more realistic alternative: stop overstimulating your sexual drive with pornography, cut it completely out of your life. Switch to a moderate regimen of masturbating using your imagination only. find a purpose in life and goals, that fulfil you. cultivate deep friendship engage in dating without focusing on the results, view it as a chance to grow and learn. Find a way to enjoy the process itself, not just the results.
/r/seduction12/06/22 05:36 PM
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Time to expose all of you and your pathetic lies and teaching men that something is wrong with them. Please, expose my lies. Pro tip: using arguments with substance will get you further than just ranting.
/r/seduction12/06/22 11:17 AM
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different opinions are lies? Would he really make a fool out of himself, just by showing intent (smiling, flirty vibe) or directly hitting on them? I never used any of that and still got women attracted. used what? She either likes you or she doesn't. How you behave, your vibe, the social context etc is also part of who you are.
/r/seduction12/06/22 09:35 AM
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No, I stand with what I said. If there is no seductive/sexual/romantic offer, there can't be a rejection, because there is nothing on the table to be rejected. What they rejected was a platonic offer to play beer bong. Also, if he had made a clear seductive/sexual/romantic offer, they would have perceived him totally different.
/r/seduction12/06/22 09:18 AM
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I know that if they were interested, they actually would have stuck around, so yeah I got rejected, but it was worth the shot! It's great that you mustered up the courage to talk to them, but I'm not sure whether you shot your shot. Did you show intent and try to flirt with them? If not, it was not a rejection, because you did not even enter the seductive/sexual/romantic sphere.
/r/seduction12/06/22 08:48 AM
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Attractive guy approaches women, but ... X % will be in a happy relationship X % will be lesbian X % will prefer guys of another race X % think he acted rude and arrogant X % are sceptical of dating a guy, who is not part of the right social group X % are highly religious X % think he sound uneducated and is therefore unattractive X % think he looks similar to a person, they have had negative expirience with X % think he is a player and don't like players X % are in a bad mood X % will be too mu…
/r/seduction12/06/22 05:45 AM
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Thank you for the long and detailed reply. I wish you a nice day and that you find a man, that comes close to that ideal one day.
/r/seduction11/06/22 07:40 PM
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Thank you for sharing. Imho this is what an intelligent and well articulated women would want herself to like. But there will be other layers, that are even more relevant, but less politically correct. Almost all of your points are stuff you would also look for in a platonic friend. But ultimately sexual chemistry (physical, psychological and spiritual) is what makes non-platonic relationships work and defines them. Almost none of your points cover this aspect. This shows that your level of intr…
/r/seduction11/06/22 05:37 PM
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People definitely react to extraordinarily attractive people. That kind of things are in the realm of possibility. But such people also often develop a type of narcissism, which makes them believe they are the centre of the universe and view the world in a distorted way. The lesson here is, that you don't have to be like them to be successful with women. You would not compare yourself to total outliers on another field.
/r/seduction11/06/22 06:16 AM
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That would depend on the reason you lost it.
/r/seduction10/06/22 06:30 PM
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Imho false memory will be a part of it. We remember our successes but forget about the times when we were rejected or not successful. Even if it got harder for some reason, it also got easier: Now you have more courage and life expirience to do the right thing.
/r/seduction09/06/22 09:56 PM
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Imho you should (try) to date, of course without putting pressure on yourself. Your main focus should be on healing yourself though. Dating can be a part of the healing process, as it distracts you and shows you, that there are other attractive women out there. Your current state could even give you an advantage in certain scenarios: your dark and broken side will make it easier for some women to emotionally connect with you. being concerned with your past makes you less needy, when meeting new …
/r/seduction09/06/22 08:37 PM
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That means you did talk to her? I thought you just flirted non-verbally. Yes, it was clear to me, that she was a cashier. But even then there will be windows of opportunity to talk to her and exchange numbers, it does not take that much time.
/r/seduction09/06/22 08:26 PM
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Yes, you should make a move any opener is better than saying nothing at all if this is hard for you, being totally honest and direct is probably the best thing you can do. Playing it cooler than you are often comes off inauthentic. you have nothing to lose
/r/seduction09/06/22 07:36 PM
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This is just a cheap version of a business card. It could work in certain cases, but having a conversation and exchanging numbers will almost always be superior. There are almost no situations were talking is not possible. She will think, "what kind of strange guy is that, when he is not even able to talk to me?"
/r/seduction09/06/22 07:30 PM
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Really? Isn't there also the stereotype of the dull and superficial model?
/r/seduction09/06/22 07:00 PM
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Self-awareness is key. Cool guys tend to express a little bit of irony, when they do something silly. Being perceived as goofy most of the time stems from the fact, that you are not aware of what your behaviour expresses/implies. Talking yourself not too serious is also a sub-set of self-awareness, because then you are aware, that your ego is not the most important thing. "too goofy" ultimately is subjective. What is "funny" or "cool" to one person, can be "too goofy" for another.
/r/seduction09/06/22 06:58 PM
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She is late - you run off like a snitch, immediately reporting her, although things had not even played out and there were thousand other possible reasons to be late. It turned out your assumptions were wrong - you feel guilty for something (being reported just one time), that will have zero negative consequences for her, guilty enough to post i on reddit. You should get a more relaxed and less emotionally driven mindset!
/r/seduction09/06/22 12:51 PM
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No matter how good looking you are, there will always be someone even more attractive. Sooner or later age will do the trick. So many people have a hard time in their live - health issues, traumas, missing loved ones who died etc You already are good looking, being jealous is really a luxury problem in your case. Always remind yourself of that. You idealise these guys. They also have their issues in life. I became friends with a guy, many people are jealous of because of his looks and background…
/r/seduction09/06/22 08:45 AM
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Wrong question. Ask instead: "Which hairstyle looks best on me" This will depend on your face, head shape, personality and the type of hair. The hairstyle girls like on an abstract level is completely irrelevant, it is all about whether it looks good on you.
/r/seduction08/06/22 09:35 PM
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Would an unsuccessful lion get confidence from buying meat at the super market? No. You can get confident about your dick much easier: Stop watching porn Shock therapy: Be naked as much as possible, where it is legal: nudist area, locker room, sauna. It will flip a switch in your head. man up: No matter how big your expirience or your dick is, there is never a guaranty for success in any encounter with women. Accept that. Don't view failure as such a bad thing, it can teach you something. Our fe…
/r/seduction05/06/22 12:42 PM
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LA has several million inhabitants with the full spectrum of all kinds of backgrounds. Even if there were a tendency for a certain behaviour, the outliers would still be in the thousands.
/r/seduction05/06/22 08:29 AM
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there will be tons of other girls in college. Drop that focus on her. You haven't even talked to her. All you think about her is a fantasy in your head. You don't know whether she is that great. If she is attractive and has a good profile on social media, she already has more than enough guys hitting on her that way. Be different, try to chat her up in real life. This will increase your chances. Never be "honestly intrigued" for no real reason. You know how the saying goes: Treat her like a star…
/r/seduction05/06/22 08:13 AM
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It's not the outside world that cause that feeling, it's your mindset. There is the full spectrum of success and lack of it present on this board. People from diverse age groups, demographics and cultures, the starting points could not be more different. Focus on the success stories, in which guys started from rock bottom but transformed their lives. These are the inspirations you need to change your outlook on life.
/r/seduction05/06/22 06:59 AM
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Most new skills are hard to learn, but ask yourself the following question: Do you enjoy the expirience of going out to clubs and bars regularly (independently of women)? If you can't answer that question with a yes, you should stop night game and focus on other forms of dating. If you don't even enjoy being there, trying to seduce women in this environment makes no sense.
/r/seduction05/06/22 06:48 AM
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Whether indirect is better or not is a matter of opinion, but one thing is sure: direct is easier for beginners.
/r/seduction02/06/22 09:56 AM
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There is one things you can do to immediately become more manly and satisfied. Relax! The past is gone and the future will never come, you only have this moment. Look at the good things you have in your life and be grateful.
/r/seduction02/06/22 09:41 AM
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Exposure! Make it a habit to always step a tiny bit out of your comfort zone. Only so much that it challenges you, but is still doable. Don't try to be perfect all the time, get out of your head and go with the flow. It's okay to experiment. Accept, that there will always be people, who don't like you, no matter how you are or what you do. Realize that other people care less about you than you think. Most of the time they are concerned with their OWN problems. Try to express your true thoughts a…
/r/seduction31/05/22 02:35 PM
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Job: no pressure social bond already established automatically meeting the other person again field of work already works as filter for having something in common App: people on apps want to force it to get to know someone a match on an app does not come with any social bond as it is something arteficially created women and some men have a lot of options on dating apps, they want to optimize their romantic/sexual partners and are ready to drop someone suboptimal
/r/seduction31/05/22 02:20 PM
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Imho that comment has nothing to do with you, it's about her feeling towards studying at this place. I'd just switch topic.
/r/seduction27/05/22 08:14 PM
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I'll give you fictional story as a possible context. A very attractive girl dances alone on a platform in a club. A lot of men are in the club, many of them are black. Everyone is looking at her, but no one does anything. Being in the centre strokes her ego. Finally, a rather average white guy dares to approach her. She answers with a smile. "I like my men black" Of course, she will test him what kind of man he is, if really as bold as it seems. He should try flirt with her and not back off afte…
/r/seduction26/05/22 06:03 PM
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The important thing is how you got her number. Did you already make clear, that you are romantically/sexually interested? If that is the case you can directly propose a cool idea to meet up. If you got the number in a context, where she sees you as a friend, you should set up a meeting like friends do it and try to flirt and escalate in person. I know i'm supposed to wait 1-2 days If you got the number in a bar/club, you should give her 24 hours to sober up. If you got the number in your daily l…
/r/seduction26/05/22 05:43 PM
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It depends whether its a factual statement of preference or just a way to tease and provoke him. Only the context and her body language will reveal that.
/r/seduction26/05/22 05:28 PM
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Thx
/r/seduction26/05/22 05:23 PM
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"I'm black in my heart" ironically evil smile + wink
/r/seduction26/05/22 05:21 PM
2

Cause I’ve met some immature 30 and 40 something’s. What do you mean by 'immature'? Please, elaborate.
/r/seduction26/05/22 05:18 PM
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Yes, western hook up culture is totally decadent. But it's not just men, women do the same thing. Said situation is easily avoided, just don't immediately go to bed with the guy. This gives you time to check out the guy's personality and whether he is really interested in you.
/r/seduction26/05/22 02:39 PM
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"wild plans - I like that ;) Let's start off by [what you originally wanted to offer her]"
/r/seduction26/05/22 09:08 AM
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Revealing it will not help you directly to increase your chances with women. But it can help you indirectly, if you do it the right way. Also, it can help you to cure your anxiety over time. Severe Anxiety is visible to people you interact with. You can come off weird, if they feel something is going on, but you try to cover it up. Then they are confused and will behave odd as well, which will lead you to act even more anxious. By revealing your inner state you stop that downward spiral. You sho…
/r/seduction21/05/22 08:44 PM
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not just haircut, but also hairstyle trimmed eyebrows (for older guys) clean and fresh skin - moisturizing cream cloth that fit well to your body cut and filed nails Side question for my people from U.K., any good teeth whiteners? DIY-whitening is dangerous for your teeth and can lead to unwanted results, e.g. uneven colouring. In most cases whitening is not even necessary. The better option is to see the dentist every 6 month to check your teeth and to scrape all discolorations. The bottom line…
/r/seduction21/05/22 09:42 AM
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Cold approaches are a thing of the past. Good for us guys, who do it, so we stand out of the crowd even more. We live in the feminist digital revolution so this is perceived as creepy, unless your social skills are off the hook. The good thing is, everyone can improve his social skills.
/r/seduction21/05/22 07:19 AM
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Almost never. A sleazy sales man wants to force his products on people, I don't because I'm looking for connection and interest on both ends. If there is no connection, I just eject. I still have given value to her day, because she e.g. got a compliment and met a friendly stranger (me). A sleazy salesman sells cheap/useless products, I'm neither cheap nor useless. I don't think the sleazy sales man is even the most common negative box, in which women put guys, who approach them, when they percei…
/r/seduction21/05/22 07:04 AM
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I've often got those limiting beliefs that she thinks I'm weird, she won't be interested anyway and so on, you know it. *From a rational point of view that seems like real bs ... * You really have a lot of good qualities, I agree. But you are wrong, it's not bs. Some women will find you weird and not like you and are not interested in you and the things going on in your life. That will always be the case no matter how you are. You can't be attractive to everybody. Accept that. Also, the more you…
/r/seduction20/05/22 05:06 PM
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I was extroverted and always had people laugh and a good guy to hang around You should not suppress that part of you. There is nothing wrong with having fun and being social. Just don't be too nice, so people will not take you serious and use you. Also, you are 17. You are amidst the process of changing from kid to adult. This phase is about trying to find out who you are, that's normal, so don't worry.
/r/seduction20/05/22 06:29 AM
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either one of the following things or a combination of both. My intuiton tells me it's the second option. You did not show enough intent, when you asked her out. In doubt give her a direct compliment before asking. You did not escalate enough. By taking her hand you broke the touch barrier, but did not fire her up enough, because you did not escalate further. For this reason she put you in the 'boring' box. Maybe you underestimated her.
/r/seduction17/05/22 03:01 PM
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I think my lower libido can be an issue with girls who I genuinely like and want to get to know though, so what do you think is a good strategy for me? As a first step you should try to understand your condition and rule out that the reason for it is low testosterone, trauma or lack of expirience. Once you understand yourself you, should embrace the way you are and find a compatible woman. There are other flavours of sexuality and arousal, not just the dumb onesidedness mainstream pornography pr…
/r/seduction11/05/22 09:37 PM
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rules #5 and 6; no off-topic posts. everything must be related to pickup and game. The title of the sub reads "Seduction, Self-Improvement and Pick-up"
/r/seduction05/05/22 08:48 AM
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Thanks for the clarification. I agree.
/r/seduction01/05/22 05:39 PM
1

pretending you don't like the girl Can you elaborate this one?
/r/seduction01/05/22 06:07 AM
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(I don't know you or her. This is just based on my instincts. I could, of course, be wrong) I don't think she is playing you. If that guy on the video were relevant, she would not show him to you. He is probably an orbiter or just a friend. Showing him is naiveté and a test on a rather subconscious level, to see how you react and what your limits are. Well, she had 3 rich ex-boyfriends, football players, who wanted her because of her look but ended up cheating on her. Do you know these guys pers…
/r/seduction30/04/22 01:36 PM
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I think you confuse style with physical attractiveness. It's cloth and make up that make "sexy gym rats" and "lawyer-doctor girls" out of women, not the body per se. A lot of "normal" women would look exactly the same if they adopted that style. Once you realised that, you will see through style and be able to appreciate natural beauty more.
/r/seduction30/04/22 01:07 PM
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If your social skills are underdeveloped and you lack confidence, trying to find a theory to do it right is counterproductive. There is only one approach, that can heal you - learning to accept they way you are now and exposure to social situations (with girls). Join some kind of group, work in sales on Saturday, find a way to expose yourself to people as much as possible. You can't build muscles on paper. It's the same with building your social muscle. You have to get out there instead of sitti…
/r/seduction30/04/22 07:31 AM
2

Comparing oneself to guys, who were total outliers from the start, is not motivating to most more or less average guys. Rather look at someone average, who turned his life around by hard work.
/r/seduction30/04/22 06:46 AM
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Get used to interacting with them. In many cases, this will demystify them. A lot of these women are not as perfect, as you imagine them to be from the distance. It's an act you should not fall victim to.
/r/seduction30/04/22 06:22 AM
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If you want good answers, you need to give more context. Where are you going to meet her in one week? What kind of momentum is there? Why do you even have her number? What did already happen? Please don't emotionally invest so much at this early stage, or you are inviting disappointment.
/r/seduction29/04/22 04:08 PM
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I read between the lines, that you are a sensitive guy, so imho losing it to a prostitute is not a good idea in your case. Opening up to close friends might be a good idea, not only to get tension off you, but also to strengthen your relationship. That's what friends are there for. Often when we open up to someone close, a new dynamic in life is set in motion. drastically reduce your consumption of pornography, or totally stop it. Result: jealousy and frustration less triggered, more drive to ge…
/r/seduction28/04/22 06:40 PM
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fair point. Let's hope both groups need such communities only for transitory phases in their lives, until they move on to find a more productive way to deal with their lives.
/r/seduction27/04/22 05:35 PM
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You could start of with the most easy variants of real life dating: speed datings single bar nights (Organised events where a group of singles of both sexes meet at a bar or restaurant to get to know each other and exchange numbers if there is interest.) "new in town"-groups on social media e.g. facebook
/r/seduction27/04/22 05:27 PM
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My impression of this sub is horrible, but imho one has to look a bit deeper. A lot of the women there seem to have traumatic experiences. Hating men for a while might be part of the healing process for such women. Edit: wow, many downvotes. You naively think, "why don't these women find a more rational and constructive way of dealing with their problems?" But someone who understands female nature, especially in case of trauma, can just laugh about this unrealistic demand ...
/r/seduction27/04/22 05:14 PM
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but i still wanna see if she's interested or not That's probably not decided at this point, because she does not view you through that lens at the moment don't confess your feelings to her, she would most likely reject you, because that way you would sell your love to a very cheap price to her and would catch her totally by surprise. slowly bu steadily change your vibe towards a more romantic/sexual tone. She should not notice it at first on a conscious level. Even when you turn the voulume of t…
/r/seduction27/04/22 05:00 PM
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Here, of course, the (sub-)culture you are living in and your age comes into play. I see, I guess my idea that it's expected to get to know eachother a little bit before setting up a date is kinda wrong then? How can you get to know someone without seeing/expiriencing the other person in real life? Meeting up is the best way to see whehter there is chemistry. Waiting longer just raises the expectations of both sides and could ruin your chances because of some silly missunderstanding via text. Do…
/r/seduction27/04/22 11:10 AM
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your goal should be to get her out on a date in real life as soon as possible. Before that you yourself can't even know whether you are interested at all. Don't emotionally invest in the slightest before she has shown up in real life. Before that any text you exchange does not mean much, so keep texting at a bare minimum for now. One mini step of escalation would be to have a voice call with her = more indimate than text
/r/seduction27/04/22 10:26 AM
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Signals of preselection and social status Both are to a large degree aggregates of masculine behavior.
/r/seduction27/04/22 09:37 AM
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Don't look at what she says. Look at her behaviour.
/r/seduction27/04/22 08:20 AM
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In the case of a feminine woman, that craves for someone to complement herself, yes. In the case of a woman, who got too much masculinized by modern/western lifestyle, it is only attractive in certain situtaions.
/r/seduction27/04/22 08:05 AM
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When I wrote about conservative women, I was not talking about political affiliation. Don't let yourself be fooled by outward presentation. I meant women, who had an upbringing with good values and did not lose contact to their feminity, so they can accept and enjoy male lead. The best thing is she is, when she is not interested in politics.
/r/seduction27/04/22 07:50 AM
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Did I say you should believe anything they write on dating apps? Fact is, there are women out there, who had a better then average upbringing. You should critically check it out in real life.
/r/seduction27/04/22 07:30 AM
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Dating in real life was still possible (in the west) during the pandemic. Women, who could date in real life with success had no reason to switch. Many women were in relationships in the pandemic Many women have just grown old enogh to enter the dating market
/r/seduction27/04/22 07:26 AM
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At the moment internet is helping you. It teaches you to avoid the wrong kind of women and to choose your partner in a more careful way.
/r/seduction26/04/22 02:58 PM
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You look at this the wrong way. Avoiding damaged women will save you from a lot of pain. You should sigh, but from relief!
/r/seduction26/04/22 02:48 PM
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not all women use dating apps conservative women women, who only (mostly) had LTRs some women just are not (less) prone to this dynamic you will have a special connection with some women, that makes you stand out of the crowd
/r/seduction26/04/22 02:31 PM
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Main takeaway from this: Find a girl, that is not (or as little as possible) damaged by this lifestye, if you want to start a relationship.
/r/seduction26/04/22 01:20 PM
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If you have social skills most people will react positively, even if they are not interested. Smiles will be exchanged and there will be chit-chat .... Your problem probably is, that your ego is too big and you take life and yourself to serious.
/r/seduction25/04/22 04:51 PM
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How big is your city? No one meets like that thats why i stopped. If that's really the case, it is a big advantage for you! It allows you to stand out of the crowd. Why would a women, who is interested in some way, not exchange number and meet up with you?
/r/seduction25/04/22 04:46 PM
8

Any game (in a wider context) is rigged. You have to do something to win, yes.
/r/seduction25/04/22 04:42 PM
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Approaching these women will make you look like a clown🤝 No, a guy with good social skills comes off as cool even when he got rejected. If you have social skills almost none of your rejctions will be a blow out, you will have nice and funny interactions all the way. why would you give someone the power to reject you publicly when reputation matters more than ever. Of course, one can't mass approach in a smaller place and be super direct. You have to adapt your behaviour to the place and context.
/r/seduction25/04/22 04:39 PM
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Most guys in this sub already have normal social skills They have average social skills. But in our alienated world average is quite low. We spend only a fraction of the time on interacting with others compared to our grandparents. TV, Internet and finally COVID did the trick. Also, having regular social skills and finding rapport with the opposite sex is something different. Some guys will just be succussful with their looks alone, but these are total outliers, you have to stop looking at.
/r/seduction25/04/22 04:33 PM
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Seen too much guys, who transformed theirs lives by learning game to believe you ... And there’s no such thing as (game) if an ugly guy and an attractive guy both say the same thing to a female it will always be taken better from an attractive guy, and it never yields the same results. The ugly and the super attractive guy are both outliers. For the average guy his willingness to be proactive and improve his social skills will determine his sucess. Everyone with expierience in the field can tell…
/r/seduction25/04/22 04:15 PM
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Only take antidepressants if there is a medical need, a doctor has prescribed them to you. Imporving your social skills and taking action will lift your mood and raise you within the social ladder on its own.
/r/seduction25/04/22 03:19 PM
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The only way to get game is to play it. Some people and girls will like you the way you are now, you have to find them. And the interactions, that end in rejections will still teach you something and improve your game. You can only win, if you are proactive.
/r/seduction25/04/22 03:16 PM
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That's just one interpretation of what being a seducer means. The problem with dropping morals and objectifying other people is, that it will alianate you from them. He, who is just an actor, will lose his abbility to feel and appreciate human connection, deep down, he will know that he is faking it. This approach also comes with the bad mindset, that your authentic self is not good enough for others.
/r/seduction25/04/22 09:30 AM
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Make him to be more dominant and manly. Not by telling him explicitly, but by playfully provoking him to act that way. You do it by teasing him and acting more submissive and feminine yourself. If you manage to rekindle the polarity, there is a chance, that you find him attractive enough again.
/r/seduction25/04/22 09:19 AM
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If it's "deep-rooted", than it could be about the following, two aspects and books, I often recommend: The importance of getting out of your head and authentically express your true thought and feeling. The power of honesty. Read Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton. It's not the perfect book (cult like mentality and reductionism), but it shows how much being in your head limits us and the great potential, that lies in expressing unconformable truth. Your nature as a man on a spiritual level compared…
/r/seduction23/04/22 05:24 PM
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Women, that are in contact with their femininity are attracted to masculine men, e.g. men with muscles. People, who are educated and rich tend to lose contact to this primal nature. This is more often the case with withe girls.
/r/seduction23/04/22 04:41 PM
1

Can you specify, what you miss or what doesn't work like you want it to? Or can you describe what you already could better in your life? Maybe I have something, that leads you to your last "key" ...
/r/seduction23/04/22 04:28 PM
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Running from one "advice of the week" to the next will not help you. You should work on your individual sticking points instead, that you recognised in real life situations. Advice always comes out of a larger model or world view. Without either real life application or sticking to the model of one "guru" it will become a contradictory mess.
/r/seduction23/04/22 03:11 PM
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You have a list in the side bar with 30 names
/r/seduction23/04/22 01:59 PM
1

Life expirience a habit of trying out new things a positive outlook on life, you have internalised affirming challenges as a necessary part of life living on the edge of your comfort zone talking total responsibility for your own life. Instead of e.g. blaming your parents or your past putting your life into perspective and being grateful for the goods things in your life reducing your ego and talking yourself less serious. Realising you are not the centre of the universe authentically expressing…
/r/seduction23/04/22 09:41 AM
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Question 1: If I were to engage further how would you even double message? The last message would be the one you saw above. You would simply ignore the last message and begin a new conversation. The starting point would be something trivial/funny. Some joke, that relates to things you have talked about or a story out of your daily life, that make her curious. E.g. a scene in a movie, that reminded you of her or a funny rumour, you heard about people, where she is from. When the communication is …
/r/seduction23/04/22 09:28 AM
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Problem was I didn’t know this city so I literally didn’t know where to go and asked if she had a favorite spot and tried to get to know her better. I don't buy that excuse. Finding a nice place is super easy. Just ask some rando on the streets or google it. “Want to meet at 9pm this saturday at X place and then we can check out a spot for Y? Feel free to text me my number is <number>.” That's not that bad. Now it's her turn. If she does not answer you, it's probably a scenario, where you should…
/r/seduction23/04/22 08:26 AM
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Will not matter much.
/r/seduction23/04/22 08:15 AM
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I've got the strong feeling she is leading the whole thing and not you. Under normal circumstances, she would prefer you to lead. You should have exchanged numbers early on The whole scenario screams low interest, but it could just be because you did not take the lead. If you try to rekindle the interaction, don't immediately address your date. That comes off needy. Write something casual/funny/trivial instead. Just because her interest is low now, it does not mean that can't change. Everything …
/r/seduction23/04/22 07:55 AM
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If you are a pretty girl, everyone is nice to you. So a guy can not stand out of the crowd (just) by being nice. She does not necessarily want a bad guy, but at least someone, that does not put up with her bullshit and gives her the feeling of being part of an adventure. As a pretty girl she can chose. A guy, that is too nice, implies, that he is below her.
/r/seduction23/04/22 07:41 AM
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Don't ask her whether you two are still on! It does not come off as confident. Text something funny/casual/trivial instead. It can (implicitly) refer to your date, but should be based on the assumption, that you are still on.
/r/seduction22/04/22 09:25 PM
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She already agreed to a date. Isn't that enough for the moment? Texting much will probably not help you, especially when it's odd messages. See whether she will show up, if she does, try to seduce her. Don't worry about the second girl, if you lose her for not agreeing to her first proposed date, the attraction was not that high anyways.
/r/seduction22/04/22 09:16 PM
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Imho it's risky. Communicating ambiguous messages via text often comes off different than it was indented. It's good when she thinks you have other potential options. But that should be sub-communicated not explicitly expressed. With your message you could come off as rude and narcissistic. Also, although she wants a man with options, she still wants to feel like something special not like one of several options.
/r/seduction22/04/22 08:44 PM
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No canned routines will make you a cool guy, because a cool guy is able to spontaneously react to situations. You can't know, what concrete situations, happenings and moods of other people will await you there. Prepared stuff would just get you into your head and make things worse. Do the following instead: Find a way to make sure that you are in social and open state when you get there. Do something like the following things before your shift starts: Small talk with strangers, meeting with frie…
/r/seduction21/04/22 06:26 PM
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you are 100% right, I know I'm slick but it's an open loop, I don't have interests or passions at the moment and this reflects on how I present myself. My edges, how do I find them? Having not found your passions yet and having not much friends comes with a good aspect: It gives you the independence to be adventurous and try out new thing, because have more independence than others. Trying out new things and being in new social circles, increases your life expirience and creates chances to click…
/r/seduction21/04/22 06:03 PM
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I don't know you, but from reading between the lines, I would give the following diagnosis: Problem 1: You are to slick. Look more inside you, to find out who you are and what you stand for. Express that without hesitation. To click with people you need some edges and be a little polarising, have profile. Find out what your edges are by looking into yourself. Being polarising feels a little risky, but that is what will make you feel alive and make you interesting to others. Problem 2: You are to…
/r/seduction21/04/22 05:18 PM
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Spend a lot of time among young and joyful people of both sexes. Just by being in that environment, you will pick up so many things, without realising it. They will inspire you and you will learn from their successes and failures. drastically reduce your time online. embrace awkwardness, rejection and living on the edge of your comfort zone. This will make you stronger, more resilient and increase your abilities. learn to reflect your own behaviour and to empathise with other people. Always ask …
/r/seduction21/04/22 02:09 PM
2

Does Manson really fit in a box with the other two? If yes, why?
/r/seduction21/04/22 08:37 AM
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There would be a contradiction if wanting her would automatically mean, that you are needy. But if that were the case, meeting women as a whole would become impossible. Being needy just means, that you want her at all costs or for too high price, that you are unable to put her or women in general into perspective.
/r/seduction21/04/22 08:33 AM
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getting emotionally attached to her, although nothing has happened yet imbalance of investment trying to buy her love. Also figuratively. idealising her
/r/seduction21/04/22 07:46 AM
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Why would you give up? Even if it were harder for you to get what you want, the bottom line is that you still CAN get it. Giving up wont make you happier. Of course, an ethnically European man will have it easier in the West. But there still will be women present, who you have a chance with. You just have to play the numbers game harder. The interesting thing about your post is, that you describe your outer appearance in detail, but to not address where your sticking point could be socially. Thi…
/r/seduction21/04/22 07:35 AM
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Did you get any success on the following date, if first one ended with a hug? Yes, why not. There are thousand reasons, why that could happen. (e.g. mood on that day, would have needed more imitative from your side, is a little conservative, etc) You just haven't seduced her yet. If there is another date, you have another chance to get her. Simple as that. Or should I just move on? Yes, move on so I can date her. To be serious: Why would you do that? Just to protect your ego? Because that's what…
/r/seduction20/04/22 09:36 PM
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Bad boys tend to be confident, manly and socially proactive - these are attractive qualities, that can deceive young and impressionable women. Especially in an age, where the majority of young men does not have them. Arrogance and rudeness are byproducts of being a bad boy, but they are not attractive on their own.
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:41 PM
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Eyes and your facial in general convey so many micro expressions, that can not voluntary be controlled. Improve your social life, better your mindset, expose yourself more to social situations. Once your social skills are improved and your vibe has changed, eye contact will self-regulate. got to in the meantime: If you talk to someone, look them into the eyes. There will be short moments, in which you or the other person looks away, but you both will always return to the eyes. If you look a pers…
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:23 PM
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started doing things that i fear. Very good! This way you destroy the barriers within you. This is the first step, but you also have to develop social skills and the empathy to understand social situations.
/r/seduction16/04/22 11:16 AM
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be proud of your sober approaches! That should be the main take away for you here. The basis of everything in the club is, that you enjoy yourself and the place and make it you playground. Enjoy interacting with other people, not just women. Everyone should feel your positive energy Night- and club game most of the time is not that upfront. It's more playful. People, who are new to approaching women, or do it in a way, that is new to them, often radiate a weird vibe, that confuses other people. …
/r/seduction16/04/22 07:35 AM
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arrangement, motive and mostly where the picture directs the focus to. Just put yourself in the shoes of an anonymous viewer and ask yourself: What is this picture about? What does it convey? A picture can just show a guy with a pretty face an nothing more. Or it can show a guy with a pretty face, that does something interesting, is with other people, has an interesting facial expression, is on an interesting location, etc
/r/seduction14/04/22 11:27 AM
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If you want to remove focus from your looks, you should not address it with a joke. How you come across on an app will mostly depend on the style of your photos.
/r/seduction14/04/22 10:14 AM
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I honestly don't care, where I'm exactly at in this scale. Such a rating would just be a limitation to my imagination. Some women, I'm attracted to, feel also attraction towards me. I just need to find them. That's good enough for me.
/r/seduction14/04/22 09:59 AM
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Switching from texting to voice calls or voice messages could be a game changer, as there would be more connection and empathy and less room for missunderstandings.
/r/seduction12/04/22 01:48 PM
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top pushing for the date, send a few texts irrelevant to this topic and then bring up a date next week? This opition is a lot better, because it's less needy. Keep the communication til next week at a bare minimum.
/r/seduction12/04/22 01:13 PM
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In my expirience women enjoy it to make their partner happy, in bed and outside. Saying they were more selfish than men would not be true. But when it comes to anything physical, they tend to enjoy receiving more than giving, as men tend to enjoy giving more. That does not mean they do not like the opposite part, it's just less of a priority for them. Communication is key. You need to tell your wishes to your partner. She can not read your mind. How could she know, that you want to be touched ge…
/r/seduction12/04/22 12:56 PM
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Find a way, to downgrade your relationship to just sexual excusivity, so you are able/allowed to at least meet up other women. This way you can get to know the second woman and decide then how to proceed.
/r/seduction12/04/22 07:11 AM
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What are some practices or thoughts that I should do to overcome this hump? Don't wait til you are perfect. Life is short. Go for the things you want to have! Embarrassment is quickly over and forgotten, but regretting inactivity will stay. Also, being proactive will eliminate your shyness over time.
/r/seduction12/04/22 06:22 AM
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Imho learn to wait. 4 days only seems long, if you a very needy. You don't know her yet, so you can't know, whether she is really as great as you think. Relax. Text her either Thursday evening or Friday morning to confirm the date. But not like "Are we still on?" Write something short, that is funny/casual/trivial. Get to know her during the date.
/r/seduction11/04/22 04:23 PM
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Even from a demisexual/conservative position you are able to give your options a try. This will help you to decide. Spend more time one on one. Allow them to do things with you, that are slighlty more indimate or romatic, e.g. hugging for a little bit longer than usual, spending more time one on one, holding hands, etc Doing that will allow you to explore your own feelings better. Also, if they are good friends you can tell them about your feeling of not being sure (yet). If you are looking for …
/r/seduction11/04/22 04:10 PM
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I say a combination of learning how to be unfiltered and present combined with practicing it, this will get you there. This!
/r/seduction11/04/22 03:09 PM
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Read Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton: It's not a perfect book* but it got one thing right: Filtering our thoughts (too much) stifles human interaction and real connection. The problem of self-help is, that it's often about shoving further mental concepts into our mind, instead of letting go and arriving in the moment. Think of the fun guys, you know. What do they all have in common? They do not care (too much)! The filter their thoughts less than average people and just say whats on their minds.…
/r/seduction11/04/22 06:35 AM
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The best book is the one, that addresses your individual sticking points the best and fits your personality.
/r/seduction10/04/22 08:03 AM
3

"Let's exchange numbers to stay in contact."
/r/seduction10/04/22 07:13 AM
1

Imho what you are doing is the other extreme. There is a middle ground between annoying people and avoiding them completely.
/r/seduction10/04/22 06:12 AM
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Not, your jar is quite big and your face broad. You don't have that fragile look of Korean idols.
/r/seduction10/04/22 04:26 AM
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In terms of looks you can improve the following way: go the gym to gain a few muscles. Drop your body fat a few percents to get your face edgier. Your facial shape allows you to wear shorter hair, which would look manlier on you. Also wear more masculine colours for clothing and leather boots with heels to gain an extra inch of height.
/r/seduction10/04/22 04:15 AM
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Approaching someone at the gym on a special occasion is one thing, making it your primary hunting ground something totally different. Gym size will play a role, but it is definitely risky. Your routine seems not that bad, as it give you the opportunity to eject in case the vibe is not right. There is still the risk of becoming "that guy", women warn each other about. Social status in the gym will help you to avoid that. Gym size, your attractiveness and your social intelligence will determine wh…
/r/seduction09/04/22 07:08 PM
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You shouldn't date someone at your workplace under normal circumstances. Therefore whether someone there is attracted to you, is completely irrelevant. It should not influence your confidence in any way. You are there to work! You don't need to be attractive/interesting to everyone. Some people like you more, some less, no matter how you are. Accept that reality of life. Try not to base your self-worth on the reaction of others. Once you managed that, people will also see and treat you in a diff…
/r/seduction09/04/22 05:56 PM
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Imho you interpret the results of your experiment the wrong way. It just proves what we already know: The most important thing in online-dating is your profile picture. Texting too much and too sophisticated before even meeting up is not advantageous. Texting more creates more opportunities to scare her away before she even met you in real life. Good status, good conversation, good cocky and funny conversation on chat, good push and pull Maybe the communication was not that good after all. Statu…
/r/seduction09/04/22 05:26 PM
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In a way it makes sense, but imho it is still odd. If some kind of relationship would arise, you two also had to find a way to see each other one on one.
/r/seduction09/04/22 04:17 PM
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If he is a veteran the goal should be to learn form him, not to impress him. What do you gain from impressing him? You should open up to him and ask him all the questions you have on your mind. Observe him closely, you always can talk to girls but seeing him in action is an rare opportunity for you.
/r/seduction09/04/22 04:09 PM
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I don't get if she is interested or not, what do you say? Interest is not static, especially with women. She was interested initially, because otherwise she wouldn't matched with you on bumble. Probably her interest went down later on for some reason. But it can go up again, dependent on your behaviour and what's else going on in her live. I asked her if she wanted to hang out with my friend and I Very strange move. Why should your friend be involved at all? Seeing you in real life could up her …
/r/seduction09/04/22 04:00 PM
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don't get discouraged when the night is not as great as you want it to be. You do this for the first time, don't be to hard on yourself. warm up: listen to music, that is similar to the music in the club in the afternoon to mentally prepare yourself. Dance a little bit at home. try to have small talk with strangers, that seem friendly, on the way to the club call a few people, that get you in a funny mood, in the afternoon. Try to interact with someone as soon as you arrive at the club. The bigg…
/r/seduction09/04/22 03:42 PM
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I'm glad you want to hold your initial frame, instead of worrying! The order can be different, dependent on the flow of the conversation: You introduce yourself, ask her where she is from. Ask her how it is to live here. Tell her where you are from. Tell her that you noticed her and give her a compliment. Offer to exchange numbers to be able to meet up for some activity you both like, e.g. having a coffee. Don't forget to smile! Guys, who are nervous often forget that.
/r/seduction09/04/22 03:33 PM
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You need to be fast and to the point, but also discreet. You don't want to ask her out in front of all these customers. Go to the counter and say "I need to ask you something in private, can you come over there" and just go to the side. good move. That is social intelligence. "I've been thinking about what you said about my hair Referring to something she said about his own hair on another occasion seems odd and narcissistic to me. He should rather give the girl a compliment. I'm gonna make you …
/r/seduction09/04/22 03:16 PM
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Edit 1 was not there, when I wrote my previous posting. Putting it in her laundry is creepy, but it still might be not that big of a deal for her. Hold your frame, that you did nothing wrong. Have small talk with her as soon as possible, then she will see, that you are a normal guy, who is not dangerous. If she reacts positive, try to hit on her. By doing that you hit two nails with one stroke: 1. Sorting the thing out. 2. Seeing whether you have got a chance with her.
/r/seduction09/04/22 01:24 PM
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That Information was not there when I wrote my posting. I thought, he left it at her doorstep. Comes across as a panty sniffing pervert. I agree. But there is still a big chance she does interpret it in a more harmless way.
/r/seduction09/04/22 01:12 PM
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No need to be worried. You did not imply danger in any way. If she is older and attractive, she is used to guys hitting on her in an awkward way. Nothing bad will happen.
/r/seduction09/04/22 11:44 AM
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"Stalkerish and creepy." While it could be interpreted in this way, it is unlikely, she will see it that way. People tend to put things in pre-established social boxes and frame their experiences in a way, that they fit. Saying hello to a new neighbour is common, so she will put it in that box, even when, what he said is a bit odd. As she looks like a cougar, she will be used to getting attention. His message does not imply danger in any way ...
/r/seduction09/04/22 11:41 AM
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She might ask herself, why you didn't talk to her in real life. But she is probably curious and will type your number in her phone, to see the profile pictures of your messengers. If she likes what she sees and is available, there is a chance she will text you. You can still talk to her in real life, even when she will not text you.
/r/seduction09/04/22 11:30 AM
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I think, you could talk to her. You are both adults, so there is no limit, what you can talk about. Of course, such a conversation must have trust, respect and the right amount of distance as a basis. But it's probably not even necessary to talk to her. I think you underestimate her and the girls in your village. They will talk about everything, when they are alone.
/r/seduction09/04/22 11:29 AM
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You haven't lost you social skills, you just got rusty. I'm sure, once you are again among people regularly, everything will come back. That means, you have to put more social activities into you schedule. Start observing your state more: Increase activities, that raise your social state and decrease activities, that drain your social energy, e.g. being too much online Warm up when you need your social skill at a certain event. E.g. talk to a friend via phone on the way to a party or ask strange…
/r/seduction09/04/22 11:08 AM
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I don't doubt, that having money and being in shape helps you a lot. But isn't trying to make money and stay/become fit, what everyone does anyways? How is that the game changing magic pill?
/r/seduction08/04/22 01:26 PM
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It's about the vibe you radiate. People feel it,when you are in a social and open state. As soon as you give off something different, people will adapt their behaviour. Also, as a man you don't wait for things to happen, you get active on your own.
/r/seduction08/04/22 05:15 AM
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Worrying too much whether you do everything right. It is visible and destroys your confidence.
/r/seduction08/04/22 05:01 AM
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Have you told her, that you don't want her to put your name (and face) in public? What did you write, that is still interesting after such a long time?
/r/seduction08/04/22 04:59 AM
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How much time has passed since it happened?
/r/seduction08/04/22 04:54 AM
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The whole thing is not worth your pain, it will be old news sooner than you think. Do you really think such an incident can be interesting for a long time? You will see how short the attention span of people is. Something like that happens very seldom, so you don't have to worry it will happen again. In a way you already experienced the worst case scenario of online dating. What of the common stuff, that happens online can still shock you know? Nothing. In a way it liberated you. Humiliation can…
/r/seduction08/04/22 04:50 AM
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If you are nervous, you should be direct. Being nervous when asking someone out is generally recognised as legitimate and normal. But being nervous during normal small talk can easily come of as weird and confusing. Your goal should be to set up some kind of date and get her number.
/r/seduction07/04/22 09:38 PM
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At that moment its your job to cut it short, take your date home and yes, erase them from your contact list. The opposite extreme to being needy. Why would you delete her number before the thing has even played out? If the date is lame, she probably will not show up for another one anyways. Why not at least seeing what would happen? You also do not factor in, that women in many cases take longer to feel a spark than men. Some women will also take a bit more time to open up. The second date can b…
/r/seduction07/04/22 08:06 PM
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There is no magic formula because everyone has different goals and a different starting- and sticking point. What you think the magic formula is, just applies to people of your demographic, who share your goals.
/r/seduction07/04/22 05:06 PM
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Whether she presents herself as traditional/modern or which societal/political values she aligns with is not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about a more subtle quality of a person's being.
/r/seduction07/04/22 03:59 PM
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Whether she presents herself as traditional/modern or which societal/political values she aligns with is not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about a more subtle quality of a person's being.
/r/seduction07/04/22 03:59 PM
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It will be hard to give practical advice without some expirience. But success alone does not mean that you are able to abstract what you are doing and that you are able to emphasise in a scenario of another person. You can never know, who is sitting at the other end, giving you advice. It could be a kid, who never leaves the basement. That's why you should never blindly trust an advice, even when the majority on this board agrees with it. Always view it just as an inspiration, think through it o…
/r/seduction07/04/22 03:46 PM
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That's a straw man argument and you know it. I did not say, that compatibility is not important. I just said, that everything would be easier, if men/women hadn't lost their masculinity/femininity.
/r/seduction07/04/22 03:23 PM
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Compatibility is hard I don't think compatibility would be that hard, if men weren't effeminate and women not masculinized. Depolarized magnets just don't stick well ...
/r/seduction07/04/22 01:55 PM
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A day is not that long. She has a life aside of you. One day is not that long. You yourself said that she is stressed out. Wait for at least one week til you message her again, if she doesn't reply before that. Focus on other things/people in the meantime.
/r/seduction07/04/22 01:04 PM
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Your fears are unfounded, as you already had an relationship and have expirience with kissing. Trust your instincts and follow his lead.
/r/seduction07/04/22 12:55 PM
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It is still simple. Just don't lock yourself up at home. Belonging to a social cirlce reduces your freedom - enjoy it, while you have it and do the things you always wanted to do. Be around people, get to know as many different groups as possilbe. Something will stick in the end.
/r/seduction05/04/22 06:52 PM
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Focus on your own goals accept, that some people will not like you - it's okay wanting to not give a fuck and wanting to shine are contraticting goals. If you don't give a fuck, you don't care whether you shine or not. realistically you will always care a little bit what other people think, it's human. But caring a little bit will not influence you in a negative way. This is important because, saying "I don't care at all" is a childisch phantasy most of the time - people, who care a lot say it t…
/r/seduction05/04/22 11:25 AM
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"This is not a contract ... You don't have to marry me from my tinder profile [funny smiley]. Let's meet up cassually and see where things will go ... [switch topic] I know this nice place ..."
/r/seduction05/04/22 10:51 AM
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"She didn't indicate she had a bf at all when I asked her out for drinks" Whether asking for drinks made your romantic intentions clear depends on your bodylanguage and vibe. If you came across the wrong way she could really think, you just want to be friends. Something similar happend to me several times: (years ago, when I started picking up women in real life) I thought I had asked out a women. When I met up with her I thought I was on a date, but she thought otherwise. For her it was casuall…
/r/seduction05/04/22 08:21 AM
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How did you ask her out? Did you make your romantic intentions clear?
/r/seduction05/04/22 07:44 AM
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Imho most women like hairy men and most men would prefer being hairy to having a hairless body. Don't shave it, just trim it with an electric trimmer. This way you avoid ingrown hair and itching. Also, it is easier to do, because trimming does not aim for that even smoothness like shaving does. The effect will still last long.
/r/seduction03/04/22 08:31 PM
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Why do you focus on her signals so much? The question is whether you are interested in her. Her signals are secondary. She could be interested in you, but don't give you any signal. Or there could be signals and they are either just politeness or just flirting for fun. The bottom line is, she won't give you any ultimate green light, because she does not really expect you to hit on her. She is on her job, has totally different things on her mind. If there is flirty energy, there is not much thoug…
/r/seduction03/04/22 07:47 PM
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She will show you what's up after you did what I said. There probably won't be any signs, because she is not thinking about romantically flirting, when she is on her job. But that does not mean, that she is not interested, when you directly hit on her. You can not know whether she is interested before confronting her with your interest. She is in work mode, she hasn't even thought about whether she would e.g. give you her number or not.
/r/seduction03/04/22 07:06 PM
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You can't immediately stop being needy, but you can stop to act needy. Ask her out as soon as possible, before she makes other plans. Six days will go by quickly. Don't overthink. You could try to turn things around in your thinking, in order to become less needy. Say to yourself: "I don't know her well enough, to know whether she is right for me, whether I really want her. Time will tell."
/r/seduction03/04/22 06:27 PM
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Yes. But that was not my goal. I added an additional line at the end to clarify, what I wanted to say. But it's probably still provocative ...
/r/seduction03/04/22 06:20 PM
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only do it, when you are really interested in her. Only then you'll have the right energy for it. And you don't want to annoy a women on her job, you don't even like that much. "How to discern professional politeness from sensing they're potentially into you?" You solve that problem by being very direct, but in an very polite and very socially calibrated way. The most important thing is, to let her know, that you are aware of the fact, that romantically approaching a women on her job is nothing …
/r/seduction03/04/22 05:57 PM
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Welcome to female nature, my friend. An archetypal women does not have many traits on her own. She is formless and embodies the principle of absorption. But if a masculine man come around, who is able to tame her, she will take on his interests. Edit: I'm talking just about archetypes, fully recognising, that everyone has male and female aspects.
/r/seduction03/04/22 05:18 PM
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I assume, you already have some experience, but if that's not the case: You should do your very first approaches not in environment the is so closely connected to yourself. Indirectly approaching someone on campus is IMHO totally normal. Doing it direct can also be done, but every location has its own culture, you have to get a feeling for. You can only do a very limited amount of approaches, otherwise you'll soon be "that guy". You don't want to ruin your reputation, especially at place you stu…
/r/seduction03/04/22 04:22 PM
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You should start off by looking deep into yourself, in order to see your own true nature. Having a wild side does not mean that you have to be immoral, you can try to express it in a way, that is not destructive. But it is also possible, that you truly are a "vanilla" guy. Even that would not be a problem. In this case you just have to look for partners, that are compatible and sharpen your senses to recognise them early on.
/r/seduction03/04/22 03:00 PM
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Don't aim to change core character traits (= introversion). It is probably not even possible. But you still can become a socially proactive person while being an introvert. A lot of manly and archetypal figures are introvert, e.g. James Bond. Being an introvert does not mean being a coward, or socially incapable. You still can learn anything. Try out different styles of dating and approaching, til you discover a method you feel comfortable with. If there's any female reader I wanna know how much…
/r/seduction03/04/22 02:49 PM
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why attach morality and self esteem to a skill? A lot of people habitually judge everything including themselves morally. They can't just switch this way of thinking off. I like your action oriented approach, as I'm action oriented myself. But sometimes working on mindsets is necessary to be able to take action or to change your vibe.
/r/seduction03/04/22 09:09 AM
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I think OP is talking about the case, when the moral believes of people work against them and inhibit from even starting to take action. Or they approach people with such a negative mindset, that they can only fail.
/r/seduction03/04/22 08:17 AM
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Treat her like a normal girl and don't try to stage yourself as upper class and academic, if you are not. You should not try to compete with her in the fields she is good at. Your strength is that you are different from her normal social circle (rich people). extremely high value (genius, extremely wealthy, etc) Are these really the things, that make a women high value?
/r/seduction03/04/22 07:05 AM
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Imho People, who are naturally good with people, don't become coaches. They can't explain what they are doing, because they don't rationalise their behaviour. Also, their own life experience is too far away from people, who have a hard time socialising. Imho most coaches will be people, who learned being social the hard way and have an analyst personality type. Therefor they can empathise in socially inhibited people and have the intellectual capacity to translate their own learning experiences …
/r/seduction03/04/22 06:39 AM
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one does not start a casual conversation with someone, who is moving and listening to music. It's unnatural. Such a person is preoccupied. If you approach such a person, you need to have something relevant to say. (= in your case being more direct) Otherwise people will be confused. trying to stop her (done right), would have been better, because then she would have had the chance to leave, when she decides to do so. If you walk with her she might be afraid, she can't get rid of you. if you are …
/r/seduction02/04/22 01:02 PM
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Peter in Office Space perfectly portrays the aspect of being relaxed, honest and not caring about results. Being like that frees you from being locked up in the prison of your mind. But you have to keep in mind, that he is not much socially calibrated and does not act like someone, who knows, what he is doing. Being uninhibited alone, will not automatically give you social skills and results.
/r/seduction02/04/22 07:35 AM
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The faster you lose fat, the more muscles you will lose as well. Doing it a bit slower but consistently is better.
/r/seduction02/04/22 05:39 AM
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Imho place matters a lot. People will react very different depending on the place you talk to them. Crux: Are your empathy and social skill levels high enough to adapt to the specific situation? If they are not, there are definitely places, where you should not approach, because a) you will receive negative reference experiences, that can inhibit your development. b) You will annoy other people (too much). If a very good looking guy e.g. Cavill approaches without empathy and sense for tact, he s…
/r/seduction01/04/22 09:50 PM
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I really wish I wasn’t such a pussy during my studies Maybe you just weren't ready. Don't be to harsh with yourself. Is it worth doing in small cities/big towns (50k people U.K.)? And what are the downsides of it? Even small towns fill their bars. Imho the location, type and audience of the bar will matter more than the size of the city/town. A bar in a big city located in a back alley will have less people than the "main" bar of a smaller town.
/r/seduction27/03/22 08:29 PM
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Yes, you should but not via text. Tell her that you have to talk to her about something. But have the talk face to face.
/r/seduction27/03/22 06:38 PM
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I thought you already had the talk: I decided to cut her off on Wednesday I realise, I misunderstood that ... Then meet up with her and tell her how you feel in an honest way.
/r/seduction27/03/22 06:32 PM
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"Hey X, as you know, what I did was a considered decision. Of course, I still hope you are well and soon find someone right for you. Have a nice day, Y" Either something like above or not replying at all.
/r/seduction27/03/22 06:26 PM
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It will boost your success a little bit with women of lower social classes - blue collar people. But decrease your attractiveness towards people/women of higher social classes and conservative people. (Not judging, this is just descriptive)
/r/seduction27/03/22 06:18 PM
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I'll just throw in the towel if I get rejected enough Life is about developing new character traits ... If there's a girl out there who's right for me she already is going out with someone a few tiers above me. You underestimate the impact of individual taste. Quite a few girls a out there who would find you attractive and you would also like them. You just need to find them. Also, dressing well, working out and gaining social skills makes you above average quite soon. above average guy, while t…
/r/seduction27/03/22 06:11 PM
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there is not only (cold) approaching and online-dating. There are other alternatives: speed dating, organised single nights an much more You are only 26. You can theoretically still start a family in 20 years from now. A 46 year old guy having a mid-thirties partner is not that uncommon. Find a way to view it more as an adventure and look less on the results. View it more experimental: "I want to express myself and more and more understand the dynamics behind the behaviour of people/women." If y…
/r/seduction27/03/22 05:45 PM
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Do it. It will be an adventure. Of course, we can not now, how the experience actually will turn out to be. It depends on so many factors. Quit when it becomes frustrating. Pros: Exclusive insights in dynamics of nightlife Desensitisation regarding odd behaviour of others Learning to interact with all kinds of people becoming people-wise Cons: Danger of drinking too much ruining your sleep pattern (for me the biggest con) only fraction of the interactions will be sober and have depth, or be inte…
/r/seduction27/03/22 04:48 PM
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Because with your friends, you already know how they behave and will react to certain things. A stranger is always a wild card. What can you do? Enjoying the excitement, getting used to talking to strangers, building up life experience.
/r/seduction27/03/22 03:02 PM
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don't make them feel as if you reduce them to their body because of your fetish many of them will be less used to being approached than other women. Be extra emphatic and in doubt a bit less direct.
/r/seduction27/03/22 02:59 PM
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The dynamic you describe is plausible, but thinking that that is the way to seduce someone is highly reductive. Human interaction is so much more complex: E.g. is the guy attractive to the woman in the first place? Is he able to have a good conversation with the group? is he able to make further steps? Also, If the guy is social he will automatically talk with all members in the group and not giver one women all the attention. i want women perspective on this, but men is also okay Why would wome…
/r/seduction27/03/22 01:36 PM
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more indirect style, especially in crowded places approach more from front instead turn stop style Did he give an explanation for this takes?
/r/seduction27/03/22 09:20 AM
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Every man has the potential for a great heroes's journey within him! You just have to kick yourself in the butt hard enough.
/r/seduction27/03/22 08:34 AM
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I'm got rid of porn several years ago. One of the best decisions of my life. It is possible! using blockers and editing the hosts-file (a file present in every operating system, which with you can redirect sites.) helping other people online, that are worse off than yourself - sometimes listening alone already helps hard one but effective: opening up to friends and family counting days, crossing days out on a big calendar not judging yourself or pornography as a whole too much. Rather deciding f…
/r/seduction27/03/22 08:31 AM
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I just wanted to say, that it will become easier when you are older. Please stop being so negative.
/r/seduction27/03/22 05:17 AM
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It's a mindset that invites disappointment, because it's proven wrong after only one rejection. Replace it with talking to any girl is worth a try.
/r/seduction26/03/22 07:58 PM
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I’ve been with a 50 something year old & believe me, when they’re horny for you they won’t hesitate to make the first move. Yes, but that is still just a tendency. Also, keep in mind that he is so much younger and that she is on her job. I think in this specific scenario, it is more likely she does not make a move even when she is interested.
/r/seduction26/03/22 02:34 PM
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It should be clear, that anything long-term makes no sense at all. She could be your grandmother! Oedipus-complex? Pros: a short-term relationship could teach you many things: you could profit from her life experience. Being loved by a mature women could help you to mature in your own character. you can't get her pregnant Cons: You don't even have a chance for a future together You'll waste her time and yours: Instead of spending time together, both of you could use the time to find someone suit…
/r/seduction26/03/22 02:15 PM
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we both said we're looking for FWBs Why would you frame it so narrow, when you haven't even met her? Maybe there is potential for more, or there is not even enough chemistry to get intimate. Framing it so narrow puts such a high pressure on you both. Imho you can hint at the fact that you are interested in something casual, but being that explicit in such a early stage is not an advantage. But maybe I'm old and old-fashioned ... Is there any course of action besides just waiting until the day of…
/r/seduction26/03/22 07:22 AM
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Haha, nice one!
/r/seduction26/03/22 07:04 AM
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It don’t matter. Says behaviour and personality does not matter ... says it on a seduction board. Gets upvoted. This is so sad ...
/r/seduction26/03/22 05:31 AM
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Your problem is not your looks! Your problem is that you are young and socially inexperienced, that's why its so hard for you to be authentic. That's normal. With growing life experience you will develop a well rounded personality, that also has its edges. But yourself out there and go for what you want.
/r/seduction26/03/22 05:29 AM
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You can't evaluate a joke or any behaviour in a vacuum. It all depends on the context and your personality as a whole. Also, how good a joke is depends on the delivery.
/r/seduction25/03/22 08:54 PM
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Yes, start off by reading on this sub.
/r/seduction25/03/22 06:49 PM
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Search for the following key words: "escalation", "push pull", "flirting" Just take inspiration from what you are going to read, use common sense and don't act too much out of your character. Good luck! I hope you'll get her.
/r/seduction25/03/22 06:25 PM
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But it did though Okay. But she still probably put you in the friendzone in SOME WAY, but that does not mean you have no chance. Calling it a date and relying so much on texting was not a good idea, it would have been better to ambiguously imply it. How do I do this? Is it too late? I don't think its nescaerly the too late. What I would do: Stop discussing dating and your feelings with her, stay ambiguous Hang out with her like you normally would but slowly start flirting with her (ambiguous jok…
/r/seduction25/03/22 06:12 PM
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"I’m usually not this flaky" It shows that she reflects her own behaviour. good. "I had a long week so I’m staying at my parents house" Makes sense. In combination with her being self-reflexive it seems quite genuine. Still could be half-truth. But you cannot know. “damn that sucks, looks like you’ll miss out” Not funny for me. Seems artificial. But everyone is different. “okay let me know when you want to make plans” By saying that you roll the ball over to her and create the impression that yo…
/r/seduction25/03/22 05:49 PM
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Imho that is a premature conclusion: maybe she did not get that he asked her out. Or she just wants him to take the lead more.
/r/seduction25/03/22 04:44 PM
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It's been 2 months so far, so I caved in and asked her out Why did you wait so long? I'm sure it did not take you 2 month to find her attractive. She must have put you in her friendzone in some way. What else would she do? You did not make a move on her for such a long time, while spending a lot of time with her. You did not behave like a guy, who is interested in her in an romantic/sexual way. I did it over the phone and she was kinda surprised What exactly did you tell her? - This detail is im…
/r/seduction25/03/22 04:42 PM
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I like the simplicity of your eating-device! I know is likely to create uncomfortable feelings in another person. But you don't know there reaction for sure. They could also enjoy it. It is a risk, you have to take. If you don't approach you will take the good experience away from the ones, who would enjoy. Imho you also have to be a bit egoistic here: Your do your part by being respectful and emphatic - if they still feel uncomfortable, it's their problem. Some people will reduce you to your di…
/r/seduction25/03/22 11:37 AM
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Google the following two guys for inspiration: Georg Fraberger (Austrian psychologist, who was born without limbs, but managed to have a wife, family and career.) David Aguilar (Guy, who has one deformed arm and became an engineer creating robotic arms. He shows that is possible to be cool and attractive with a disability)
/r/seduction25/03/22 09:59 AM
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A "normal" guy also uses "game", just intuitively instead of conscious. Learning "game" is just for people, who lost contact to their manly/sexual/seductive side for different reasons - upbringing, modern culture etc
/r/seduction24/03/22 08:46 PM
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Some concrete ideas: don't just make a move on her, try to be more playful and seduce her. Do something she does not expect. She should think - "what is he up for now, is making a move on me or not?" Confuse her in a good way. find different places to do it, not just the bedroom don't always do it before going to sleep, find other times focus less on orgasms and being high energy, sexuality has many flavours that are enjoyable. Being very close can take the mystery of the other person away. Try …
/r/seduction24/03/22 08:34 PM
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Don't think a relationship ever reaches a state where everything is perfect. You always have to work on it. You don't have her on some point, seduction never ends. Maybe you became more feminine in some way. If she is a feminine women she misses your masculine polarity. "like animals" - how do animals do it? The copulate like crazy and then move on for a new partner. Ultra-high frequency and intensity sounds good if you look at it through a porno-induced lens. But if you want a long term relatio…
/r/seduction24/03/22 06:56 PM
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It will be a form of desensitisation in terms of talking to strange women and dating situations. Where else can you have around ten in real life dates on one day? You might as well get to know someone interesting. But it will not cure your approach anxiety. It will not chain you to your phone/computer like online-dating, it is less artificial and you will lose less money. Do it! It will be an interesting experience in any case and give you an interesting story to tell.
/r/seduction24/03/22 02:11 PM
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Maybe your self-analyses is wrong. Look at old movies: The stereotypical manly man is neither dramatic nor emotional. And he does not bore women. Of course, it's just a movie, but that archetype does not come out of nowhere. What matters is whether the things you say and do create tension and have meaning. Maybe you are just too smooth and avoid confrontations too much?
/r/seduction24/03/22 07:20 AM
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Focus on moving forward in all areas of life. Celebrate small successes. If you keep going you will piece by piece solve the puzzle of getting what you want. Every time you catch yourself being envious you have to see it as a reminder, that your attention is not there where it has be: Focusing on giving the best in your own life. Always keep in mind that your school is just one social circle of many. You are mainly there for education to make your career possible, not to find women. You can find…
/r/seduction23/03/22 08:16 PM
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Everyone is biased because of his/her role - women, men, young, old, experienced, inexperienced, cultural. These biases can't be avoided. They only become a problem when we don't take them into account. But if we are able to consider the context, every perspective in valuable and adds something to the bigger picture.
/r/seduction23/03/22 05:51 PM
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David Deida - Way of the superior Man
/r/seduction21/03/22 12:52 PM
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The more you express your thoughts wish and feelings, the sooner it will come to light how good the match really is.
/r/seduction20/03/22 02:03 PM
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You have to polarize more by stopping to hide so much of your thoughts and feelings. A little bit of friction is often necessary to form deeper connection. You know this trope from movies. At first protagonist A and B hate each other, but in a way this tension is transformed into something positive over time. Of course, that's exaggerated but there is still some truth to it. He who is to smooth and has no profile can't click with anyone. Don't be an asshole but be inspired by the following assho…
/r/seduction20/03/22 07:14 AM
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Imho makeing her come to you is better. (if you manage to do it and she actually comes over) Reasons: she can leave whenever she wants and doesn't have to fear the guy is staying for too long. it's more leading and confident. Subconsciously she gets used to the idea of doing something for you. Imho also don't evaluate her vibe too early. You don't know whether she really didn't want to talk. Maybe the awkward tension you felt was just a mirror of your own energy. Or she is in general a bit shy. …
/r/seduction20/03/22 06:11 AM
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You said it happened in a city. She probably won't even remember your face. Talking to her a second time.
/r/seduction19/03/22 09:56 AM
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I agree with your friend, she did not know what was going on. I came to this conclusion on my own. When a woman is in the supermarket flirting is not one bit on her mind. These weren't IOSs. She was even listening to music. She did not (consciously) notice you when she was shopping. A dude starring is background noise for her, not because you're not attractive, she just has other things on her mind. I can read between the lines that you talked too fast and too quiet, put the card out too fast. S…
/r/seduction19/03/22 06:36 AM
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Gladly. Accept the way you are now and just go for the things you want to do, even if your not as cool right now as you want to be. Your whole character (thinking, body language, behaviour, facial expressions etc) will automatically adapt over time, if you make it a habit to live on the edge of your comfort zone (constantly overstepping it just a tiny little bit, that is doable). Don't wait til you are perfect, which will not happen anyways, work with what you have right now - that's the adventu…
/r/seduction18/03/22 05:37 PM
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Yes, you should approach. Of course, being confident is good, but it has to come from within and be congruent with the rest of your character. By e.g. faking super-cool body language you imply something, you might not be able to back up later on. Also, it can lead you to be more in your head instead of connecting to the people. You pressure yourself to be someone else. The road to more confidence is self-acceptance and constantly overstepping your comfort-zone a tiny little bit. Becoming loose a…
/r/seduction18/03/22 05:19 PM
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Your goal shouldn't be to get more attention. Become more proactive instead and take the leading role yourself. The older you get, the lesser it will work to just be a pretty boy, who is waiting for them to come to you. The more confidence you radiate, the more women will expect you to do the first move. So, as long as you don't do that, faking a more confident body language etc would have a negative effect, cause even fewer women would approach you.
/r/seduction18/03/22 03:24 PM
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how do you let go emotionally? by focussing on other things? on yourself? on your goals your passions etc? cause I am currently not focused on those so maybe that is another reason why I repel women now Sounds plausible. Do you have an example of what sort of text you would send to a girl who ghosted you? "Shopping with a friend atm, trying to find a dvd as present for his sister. Stumbled upon Movie-X haha #funny smiley [Title related to her or her interests] Have you seen it?"
/r/seduction18/03/22 10:22 AM
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I was talking about a random model case not your specific situation. Many men are needy therefor the standard advice is to delete the contact when women ghost. A lighthearted Message after an appropriate time, however, will not come off as needy. But you have to emotionally let go (for the moment) and focus on someone else. If you are not able to do that it's probably better to delete. Option # 4 is the one which maximises your chances seeing that women again. But it only raises the probability …
/r/seduction18/03/22 10:03 AM
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I like this. But a week seems a bit too little time no?how long would you recommend? It depends on the circumstances. The longer the more she messed up. Shorter if you barley know her. Has that worked for you? Yes, I got women out to meet me who ghosted me. I know other guys, who did. Sometimes women are not even aware they ghosted you because the have other things on their mind and you just hold little relevance to them AT THE MOMENT. But things might change ... I'm not talking about lovebombin…
/r/seduction18/03/22 09:51 AM
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(I'm talking about ghosting in general, not your specific situation I have only limited insight.) Option #4 Letting her go mentally and emotionally (for now). Focusing on other people. Texting her again after an appropriate amount of time (at least a week) in a lighthearted and funny way without mentioning the ghosting. Trying to reestablish a conversation with 2-3 Messages. Suggesting meeting up after that. No dignity or energy lost. Chances to see her again maximised.
/r/seduction18/03/22 09:32 AM
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We started texting everyday n started to get close and one day she asked why I haven't taken her out on a date yet. Why did you do that? I don't even text daily with my best buddies ... Why would text so much with someone you are not seeing regularly? This is boyfriend behaviour but you are not even dating her. In my head, my only goal was to have sex with her Why do you behave like a (potential) boyfriend then? This is not only confusing but also dishonest. my feelings started to change from wa…
/r/seduction18/03/22 09:18 AM
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I was witness to cheating case in my neighbourhood. But the roles were reversed to your stereotype. The tall, fit and masculine guy got cheated. His girlfriend had an affair with a short, non-lifting and soft-voiced guy.
/r/seduction18/03/22 07:40 AM
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As you don't go into detail I only can keep my answer general: You pridefully overestimate your own relevance. Everyone is concerned with own problems. 0,1 % of their attention is oriented towards you. Also, people's memory is ultra-short. What is on one day a scandal is forgotten on the next. Therefore being non-reactive is such a strong tool. When there is drama people always pick different sides. So, some people will already be on your side. But by hiding yourself you manifest the reality tha…
/r/seduction18/03/22 07:17 AM
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You made it a habit to fall into the roll of the spectator. The following things will help you to break that role and create new habits: dance as much as possible - one can't be fully in one's head while being physically active. being fit and strong also changes the way you experience situations talk to strangers - you can't be in this passive spectator mode when you talk to people, who will always behave in an unexpected way. be more dominant - you can't be a passive spectator when you (try to)…
/r/seduction17/03/22 09:43 PM
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No. All of my points are suggestions for concrete things he can act upon. Read my post again.
/r/seduction17/03/22 09:09 PM
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If I was attractive, I would have lost my virginity at 17 like all normal (attractive) people. 17 is the average age in the US. Average means that 50% of people lose it after 17. Do you really believe 50% of people are not normal? If I was attractive, women wouldn't ghost me after EVERY first date I've ever had. But if you were not attractive in some way you wouldn't have gotten the dates in the first place. If I was attractive, at least ONE woman would be attracted to me. How to you know that i…
/r/seduction17/03/22 04:16 PM
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reduce your pornography consumption and masturbation as much as possible. Contrary to common believe both things increase libido and in many cases frustration. (reducing time online in general is good for mental wellbeing) you have to channel your sexual energy in some creative outlet. E.g. drawing, writing, singing & making music. Doing sports will increase your libido, but at least reduce your feeling of frustration make steps towards finding a romantic/sexual partner. These steps don't have t…
/r/seduction17/03/22 03:40 PM
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have small talk with random people on the street on the way to the club = warm up talk to someone as soon as you arrive at the club - don't wait for five minutes immediately do it avoid silently standing alone and watching other people at any cost. Always dance or talk to someone (other people, the bar keeper ...)
/r/seduction17/03/22 12:26 PM
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You used the wrong title for your post. It should be like "How can I find my sticking point?" Your reasoning is flawed: I can dance - I'm not successful - therefore dancing skills are useless. It's like saying my car has a strong motor - but the car is not working - therefor strong motors are useless. Maybe your tank is empty, or your battery has no energy etc The correct conclusion is: Being a great dancer is not enough if you lack in other areas. You have to find out what these areas are. wild…
/r/seduction17/03/22 12:11 PM
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Accept that you never will be perfect. Learning and seeing new perspectives will always be part of your social life. But the good thing is, people are concerned with themselves, they don't focus as much on you as one might think. And, you'll never have control over their thoughts, no matter how perfect you are. Accept that and relax.
/r/seduction17/03/22 08:25 AM
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I can understand why you feel that way in our superficial social-media-obsessed age, but I can assure you, that your view is distorted. I don't doubt good looks boost your social success, but Imho you probably lack social skills and got stuck in your head. So, instead of socialising you got obsessed with looks and rationally analysing social situations. Once you get out of your head and start participating authentically in social situations you also will make friends. Most of the friend groups, …
/r/seduction17/03/22 07:50 AM
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Chill, dude, don't let some randos on the internet (myself included) ruin your day. No one of us knows you, the girl or the environment you live in. Our evaluation is very limited...
/r/seduction15/03/22 01:41 PM
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Why do you think that?
/r/seduction15/03/22 11:02 AM
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That can be cool for confident guys. But insecure guys can come off as stiff office drones. That look can insulate you, if you can't handle to be overdressed.
/r/seduction15/03/22 10:48 AM
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A fashion sense is not something you can get from a few tips. One develops it over time. Cloth have to fit your personality and sub culture, accentuate your strength and downplay your weaknesses. People on the internet are not seeing you in real life, so their tips will always be slightly off. Go to your local quality store and get professional advice. You don't need to beat around the bush when you are in the store, tell them how you want to look and which people you want to impress/attract.
/r/seduction15/03/22 10:41 AM
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Seek out groups/clubs that are looking for new members e. g. sports, chess, music etc... whatever your interests are. Once you are integrated in a well-meaning group, your social skills will grow faster.
/r/seduction15/03/22 10:18 AM
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If your social skills are high and you dress well people will automatically assume relatively high social status. Keep in mind that, if your attempt to fake social status fails, people will perceive you as even lower. Also, to build up a social circle you'll need qualitative relationships. You won't get them by faking it. On the other hand if you're open minded and fun to be around, a lot of people will like you even if your status is not that high.
/r/seduction15/03/22 09:39 AM
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try to fulfill your needs as good as possible on your own. being online and watching pornography much increases desperation - decrease both. find a new hobby or project that excites and distracts you see a female massage therapist (a normal one not some kind of hooker). It will reduce your touch deprivation, stress and tension work on increasing the number of chances for getting what you want.
/r/seduction15/03/22 08:35 AM
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My theory: It creeped her out because it came out of the blue. A guy that always says provocative stuff stays in character and such ideas, will accepted or even expected from him. But if you abruptly step out of your established character it will shock people.
/r/seduction15/03/22 06:33 AM
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Others influenced you in a negative way, yes. But how you feel today and the situation you are in now is nothing less than 100% your responsibility. You could be in a much worse or better place - it was the sum of your actions/decisions that led to your current situation. You might think it's unfair that you have to carry all the responsibility. Look at it the following way: By blaming someone else or 'holding them accountable' you take away power from yourself! The good thing is, 100% means tha…
/r/seduction15/03/22 04:31 AM
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Don't try to be cool. Own that you're a greenhorn. Being tensed up and taking yourself too serious is hundred times worse than being inexperienced. Talk to the people you gonna meet! Say what's on your mind when you're at the bar. Ask all your questions no matter how dumb you think they are. You have no control how they perceive you anyways. Being seen as X does not hurt but building up a thick crust of ego to insulate you from others is dangerous.
/r/seduction15/03/22 01:05 AM
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There is point in life where you are to old to blame your parents. Imagine a 90 year old doing that. Everyone would recognize it as absurd. I argue that it is much earlier. Even if we consider it to be true that your parents influenced and brought you up in a negative way, you must let go of it and move forward. You must take Full responsibility! You probably blame your parents because you are not satisfied with your life, but it was you who created it. Another guy would have created something t…
/r/seduction15/03/22 12:46 AM
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"The way I was raised was so bad" is just another way of not wanting to take responsibility. Your upbringing was probably better than you think. Don't blame your parents - you are an adult for almost a decade now! Raising a kid is not easy. Culture changed so much, they were not able to prepare you for a society, that is totally different than their own in so many ways. Don't blame yourself either, get active instead.
/r/seduction14/03/22 11:48 PM
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no problem
/r/seduction12/03/22 07:39 PM
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Could you explain both philosophies with a little bit more detail?
/r/seduction12/03/22 07:15 PM
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I'm not OP
/r/seduction12/03/22 05:43 PM
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Could it be that you suppress some important aspect of yourself without noticing it? E.g. imho a lot of new age guys suppress manly* traits like aggression, or the longing for freedom and dominance. They are doing it because of a twisted concept of harmony. Try the following thought experiment: Image you could clone yourself into two people. One would take care of all your daily obligations, so that the second is free to do whatever he wants. What would you make him do? The answer will hint at w…
/r/seduction12/03/22 04:34 PM
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You do not need them as a prerequisite Yes, in many cases it's even easier to get to know new people if you are alone.
/r/seduction12/03/22 04:12 PM
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I don't think you are necessarily depressed. May you have neglected the spiritual side of life and need to look more inwardly. I'll just drop some keywords: Philosophy, Meditation, Religion, spending time alone, Spirituality, setting some long term goals, reflection on your life, enjoying nature, finding out what you really want in life, spending more time with your family etc
/r/seduction12/03/22 04:11 PM
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There needs to be a balance between self improvement and also being authentic. I agree. beautiful woman who has a lot going on. Sounds a lot like modern women. The question is if anyone can hold them long term. (I'm exaggerating and hinting at high divorce rates and serial monogamy) Imho the secret is to find a women who is able to respect you for being a man and has ta ability to bond - therefore the aspect of game, that allows you to get to know a lot of women, is very important, to find such …
/r/seduction12/03/22 03:38 PM
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Just by being a man you have something, she has not. One should improve for it's own sake not for women. Trying to impress someone will set you down the wrong path. I'm convinced a lot of women will prefer a lazy slob, that is manly and authentic, to someone lost on a self-improvement trip, tensely trying to prove a point. Sometimes being at right place at the right time is enough.
/r/seduction12/03/22 02:22 PM
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But how long does it take? It does not matter, because if you do it the right way, even walking the way to your goals is enjoyable. There have been numerous times in my life where I was like 'I am sick of this, I am gonna change' but that change didn't enrich my life in the long run I'm not sure, what you mean. Did you reach your goals or did you give up? The whole trope of 'I was sick of being a virgin so I went to the gym/got new clothes/picked up a new hobby and got laid 2 months after that' …
/r/seduction12/03/22 01:52 PM
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Your feelings of missing out are very understandable. Your perspective is still distorted. Realize how young 25 actually is - your whole life lies before you! A large share of men, takes a bit longer to find their way in life. Worse things can happen. Quite a few guys have their first sexual experiences in their late twenties. Giving up is not an option. Start to take responsibility for your life - sooner or later you will experience the things you're craving for. If you take action your life wi…
/r/seduction12/03/22 12:23 PM
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They don't do it consciously most of the time. It's just the tension between the female and male energies. What you feel shows that you are in touch with your masculine nature. Good! Don't loose it.
/r/seduction12/03/22 09:43 AM
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It's a strong indicator of interest, when somebody is looking at you in an intense way. But you can not know what the the interest is about unless you talk to that person. Interest can also be interest in just playing with you, or interest in enjoying your attention, etc Make it a habit to talk to people when they intensely looking at you, just to see what's going on. Respect that she has a boyfriend, but just talking to her does not equal making a move on her (in western culture).
/r/seduction10/03/22 08:41 PM
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A comeback that is aggressive can be viewed as defensive, which implies weakness, because you think defence is necessary. The best comeback is humour or reinterpreting the situation in a completely new way.
/r/seduction10/03/22 08:26 PM
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Get out of that reactive mindset. Your life runs by your own script now, what he thinks of you is irrelevant. The guys from back then can think about you whatever they want. You don't have time to focus on the past so much because you live in your new reality and strive for your current goals. The question is not what they thinks about you and how they see you. Turn the table: Ask yourself how do you see them - maybe some of them are potential friends or at least useful acquaintances for your ne…
/r/seduction10/03/22 08:03 PM
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Good body language does not need much. Upright and relaxed posture, not fidgeting. Trying to control one's body language is often counter productive because you can't get the micro expressions right and will become incongruent. A shy guy with some faked "alpha" moves will just come across as ridiculous. Even if he would get it right, he would not be able to live up to what he had implied. If you habitually step out of your comfort zone your body language will automatically adapt to your new self…
/r/seduction10/03/22 10:05 AM
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You don't owe them an answer. To any question. Just keep smiling. People can't just come and extract information from you, unless you are willing to share.
/r/seduction09/03/22 01:57 PM
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I feel like I’m always on the wrong foot before it even starts. This could also mean, they way you stop people, how you initiate conversations and your calibration while doing it is off.
/r/seduction08/03/22 02:44 AM
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Don't let yourself go in any way. Do as much as you can. But try to trust your loved ones during hard times!
/r/seduction06/03/22 11:01 AM
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"blue pill" interests will not hinder your success on tinder, no matter how your profile looks like. They'll even boost your success because there is less friction with women. The core of manliness is how you carry yourself and the vibe you emit, not some outer characteristics.
/r/seduction05/03/22 09:05 AM
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If you are relaxed and loose, it will be good enough, even if you have virtually no skills. It's about not taking yourself so serious. You have to risk it and get your body into motion and your blood flowing. Once your heart rate is a bit up you will stop caring. You adrenaline will kick in, it's impossible to feel insecure then. Force yourself to break through that glass wall. If you don't believe me, try it out at home. Turn some music on and start to dance. I'll guarantee you, as soon as your…
/r/seduction05/03/22 08:42 AM
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There is a tendency, yes. But the premise that girls don't like introverted guy is wrong. Introverted does not mean that you have no social skills or submissiveness. It does not even mean that you don't talk much. It mean that you are more focused inwards than outwards.
/r/seduction05/03/22 07:28 AM
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you will get 10 -20 numbers a day Interesting. Tell me your secret. If I interpret it correctly, you are referring to night game, right? Do you do it directly or indirectly? In group or one on one settings?
/r/seduction05/03/22 06:10 AM
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May I ask why you (or any introvert) would not want to be around a welcoming circle of people? I have an amazing group and we have obvious introverts that still come out and have fun and are treated well. If you enjoy deep and sober conversations, what would you gain from hanging in a loud environment, where everything plays against your strengths? I, personally, do enjoy groups and going out, I'm not that introverted, just not that often. It's also an age thing.
/r/seduction05/03/22 06:07 AM
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definitely not the type of girls you will be meeting at bars/clubs or picking up using cold approach. you can cold approach introverted women, just not in a bar/club setting, because they won't be there.
/r/seduction05/03/22 05:59 AM
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I think you are right with what you are saying. But you forget one thing: No everyone likes this kind of social circles. So many people are introverts and a little less outgoing. I'm not talking about social anxiety or lack of social skills. One can be an introvert with extremely high social skills. Some people just have a personality that is not compatible with these kind of groups. They prefer one on one meet ups with other introverts. They are just not compatible with bars/loud music/clubs, b…
/r/seduction04/03/22 10:26 PM
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Jobless guy with "game" will still have more dates. Even if 90% of women will reject him for his lack of job, his big advantage is all the time and energy he has to find compatible women. Focusing on job often is an excuse to avoid facing social fears. Thinking a job alone will give you success with women one day is another myth. (Not implying you said that!) Women earn their own money and have careers now. A job consumes most of your time and energy. Of course, you should have one, but not to g…
/r/seduction04/03/22 10:11 PM
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I think you don't get my argument, therefore I try to explain it one more time. (Not coming from a bad place at all, enjoying to debate with you.) During the day most people are concerned with themselves. Lets imagine a women sitting on a table having her coffee, checking out her phone. You are not on her mind or even her field of view yet. She does not evaluate you in any way in this phase, because her attention is elsewhere. It's about how you break into her bubble. "I'm sorry but..". That's n…
/r/seduction04/03/22 09:58 PM
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that you should approach strangers in a "rapport breaking" way, to show that you are dominant and "alpha" In reality when you talk to strangers during the day, rapport is the first thing you want to establish, to be not seen as a weirdo or dangerous person. In the very first moment you want the other person to feel safe. You can be cool/dominant/whatever once you have rapport. Underestimating the importance of calibration is one of the top reasons cold approaching strangers got a bad reputation.
/r/seduction04/03/22 09:33 PM
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Nice, thanks for the inspiration! Applies more to a street conversation though. Interrupting someones lunch is imho something different vibewise. Also, you assume that she has a somewhat outgoing personality/cultural background. If that's not the case, less tension and more rapport (=boring talk) will be more appropriate.
/r/seduction04/03/22 08:43 PM
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just a hello, how's it going, what's happenin This will just come off as rude in any uptown context, not as confident. At best she is just going to dismiss your apologies as politeness anyway at worst she is going to think you genuinely are sorry because you know you are bothering her Imho she will just notice, that you are someone with manners. If she is attractive, many dubious guys will talk to her,. If you come on too strong in the very first moment, she will put you in that box. She will no…
/r/seduction04/03/22 08:39 PM
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I understand your argument. Still not convinced, though. What's your alternative to create the initial rapport then? Lets say you walk up to some one, who does not notice you imitatively - what is the very first thing you say?
/r/seduction04/03/22 07:52 PM
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Can you rewrite/change OPs interaction to the way you would have done it?
/r/seduction04/03/22 07:37 PM
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no matter how perfect you are, a women can always find reasons to reject you. Even with maximum self-improvement, even if you are Brad Pitt you have no control over whether a specific women is attracted to you or not. You can change the odds but not the outcome. If she is not attracted to you, you don't want her either, because you are looking for someone, who is. Women will care about your penis, but will not have that hyper-focus on it like you seem to have, she can reject you for countless ot…
/r/seduction04/03/22 07:23 PM
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One reason will be that work is such an important part of her own life, not like young girls, who are e.g. at university As an adult, you spend most of your time at your job, no wonder it's also on your mind ... This would be my assumption. The good thing is, that it is positive, you do not sabotage yourself by thinking "she just wants money" or "She is evaluating me". That might be true, but it's bad as a mindset to have in a conversation.
/r/seduction04/03/22 07:09 PM
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That's not an apology. It's just a phrase to create the initial rapport with a stranger. "I'm sorry" as a starter, delivered in a confident tone will not be interpreted as an apology. Its just communicates that you are a self-aware person.
/r/seduction04/03/22 06:57 PM
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Good Joyce of words, seems natural! How you delivered them is more important of course Maybe the conversation was a bit short. There is a risk she will not respond because of that, just because she has to little of you to work with. "A friendly guy approached me at the dinning hall ... but I know nothing about him ... hmm ... I have other options ..." If she reacts positively (and only then) you should try to sit with her for a few minutes to have a longer conversation.
/r/seduction04/03/22 06:50 PM
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That has happened even in cases where everything seemed fine. You only know a tiny fraction of her and her life. So don't think too much about it. Maybe she also felt that you were not completely convinced of her.
/r/seduction28/02/22 07:33 PM
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because she is more relaxed with a person she already knows a bit better (her other friend). she has a life aside from you too. Men tend to prioritize a new person the have met faster than women. Women usually need more time to give someone that priority, because just getting to know someone is not as special to them, as they tend to have more options. Once you have bonded more you will have higher priority for her too.
/r/seduction28/02/22 11:35 AM
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Imho there is a niche, where he could get women in their late thirteens. In individual cases even younger women. And it's not just his money. It is his social status, life experience, intelligence, skills and success. Also, some women are into older guys.
/r/seduction27/02/22 09:17 PM
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Excitement is a good thing, accept and enjoy it. It makes you feel alive. Could it be an adventure without excitement? No.
/r/seduction27/02/22 06:12 PM
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Maybe goals, that challenge you more will do the trick then.
/r/seduction27/02/22 05:56 PM
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Do you hide at home all the time? Or maybe you are too reactive? Confidence also means that you lead by creating the situations you want to have instead of waiting for them to happen.
/r/seduction27/02/22 05:46 PM
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None of your thoughts and beliefs are controversial? Come on, do you really believe that? If that's really the case the solution is to leave your bubble of like minded people ... Probably you have just found a way to trick yourself to suppress confrontational thoughts ...
/r/seduction27/02/22 05:33 PM
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It does not matter if it's 10 or 98% - a social theory on the importance of looks has no impact on your individual case. You just use it as an excuse to stay inactive. Focus on the following formula/aspect instead: action leads to results!
/r/seduction27/02/22 04:56 PM
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I don't know what your starting point is. But start with simple things: saying hi to strangers you like ask for directions instead of using your phone try to have small talk with strangers as often as possible reduce your time online increase social activities (sport, chess club, music, anything ...) In many cases low self esteem is just a result of being too much alone ...
/r/seduction27/02/22 04:23 PM
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You look really good. manly. phenomenal jaw and more ... I can tell you the reasons: our society in this media age is obsessed with looks - it's just natural that people internalise that in some way. one can not easily change one's face so its a good excuse to stay inactive looks of women are very important for men, so they project that women have that focus as well. I know it's a really simple question, but how the hell do you get confidence. I don't know what your mental condition is like, but…
/r/seduction27/02/22 04:14 PM
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Do you mean something like "we're basically [famous company] for construction"? Yes, something like that. You can apply that on different levels. I don't know how to do this without turning it into a monologue about my career. Any tips? Describe it from the viewpoint of one of your b2b-customers. He comes to you with a problem or in need of something. After that what solution you offer. A solution is always easier understood, if one knows the problem first. You could even create a little story w…
/r/seduction27/02/22 01:47 PM
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Find analogies to dumb down what you do. describe it as one big adventure, change the angle you look at it. your description does not have to be 100% precise, it's more about getting an idea across. One can describe anything in an exiting way - it is not only about what you say, but also how you say it. dropping out of college Why the focus on dropping out? Isn't it more important, that you went there, even you did not finish it?
/r/seduction27/02/22 01:02 PM
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In a seductive conversation there are two forces at work: a) rapport/comfort b) tension lack of rapport/comfort = She will not feel safe. You'll seem arrogant. lack of tension = She will find you boring In your concrete case: If you agree too much, you will seem boring - as an attractive women she is used to people agreeing with her opinions. She will not see a special connection in your ever present agreement. On the other hand, if you show no interest in her life and you have nothing in common…
/r/seduction27/02/22 12:47 PM
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Matchmaking does not work in most cases. She probably just mentioned her friend to make the rejection less confrontational - easier for her. Yes, your line/joke isn't the best, but it is not that bad. If she will ghost you she would have done it anyway. She probably does not reply because she rejected you. you are no longer a priority for her. You had/have feelings for that women, but you barley know her. Why would being friends with her have any priority to you? probability that the matchmaking…
/r/seduction27/02/22 09:46 AM
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(Of course, It all also depends on your situation, the culture you life in, your age, your personality and what you are looking for.) First, we have to realise that bars/clubs come with several disadvantages: surplus of men - you will find no other place where you'll have more competition (= male to female ratio) In many cases this situation will inflate the ego of the women. So it can be harder to talk to them than if you had met them in a different situation. Going to bars is time consuming an…
/r/seduction26/02/22 09:48 PM
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I don't know what "1 to 2 or 0 to 100" means. But you should definitely look for women you are attracted to. It will take more time, but satisfy you more in the end. Don't wast your time with people you don't like - its also a waste of time for them too. But there is another important aspect: You first impression/evaluation of a person is not always right! Some women seem attractive at first, but time or a close look will demystify them quickly. Others don't seem that attractive at first, but th…
/r/seduction26/02/22 08:58 AM
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try to warm up - talk to random people on the way to the bar talk to a random person as soon as you arrive there, to rule out the possibility of an isolating bubble that might form around you. "I will wait 15 minutes before I talk to someone" is the road to an inactive night all by yourself. Most bars are high engery and loud. This means in doubt you have to come on too strong, than too weak. Hesitant and quiet people will be ignored, only because they are below the threshold of being noticed. D…
/r/seduction25/02/22 10:02 PM
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life is an adventure, you'll never know, whether you get what you want. No one does. Even if you are lucky you can lose everything from one day to another. One thing is sure: Those who not even try will die empty-handed. And it's not only about results, stepping out of your comfort zone has value on its own - it increases your freedom, its an exiting adventure, that will make you feel alive ...
/r/seduction25/02/22 07:02 PM
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It's not about race, but cultural socialisation. The downside of living in rich and educated environment is that you get too much in your head and lose contact to your primal nature. Blacks who grew up in said environment suffer from the same problems. On the other hand, the majority of men e.g. in southern European countries, where there is less wealth than in the West, still haven't lost their ways.
/r/seduction25/02/22 02:24 PM
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Giving up virtual fantasies that lead nowhere to get more active in real life = WIN!
/r/seduction25/02/22 08:56 AM
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It depends on so many factors what the best option is - her personality, your personality, type of relationship, your goals, amount of feelings involved etc when I lost my virginity, I brought it up because lying would have blocked me mentally and my partner would not have been able to understand the place I'm coming from. Telling the truth set me free and I could open up and relax a lot more. A friend of mine lied and it also turned out well. But he and I have different personalities, as well a…
/r/seduction23/02/22 06:28 AM
1

What is the number of real life approaches 80% of men did? Zero I bet.
/r/seduction11/02/22 06:29 AM
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It's less about what you say than how you say it - social intelligence, empathy, ability to understand situations and switch perspectives. The harder the conditions are (e.g. because of the culture) the more this is true.
/r/seduction29/11/21 01:21 PM
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If you really stick to the FWB franchise, he is irrelevant. You are not committed. You are not exclusive. FWB situations are not meant to last forever. Men have a hard time to precisely assess the attractiveness of another man through the eyes of a woman. Just because she feels flattered, she does not automatically find him super-attractive in all aspects. Also, if she is attractive, there will be many other options she has. You really overestimate the relevance of this one guy! Also, you have a…
/r/seduction26/11/21 08:51 AM
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Sources: Meta-study on HPV and condoms: Condoms help, but infection is still possible. https://journals.lww.com/stdjournal/fulltext/2002/11000/do_condoms_prevent_genital_hpv_infection,_external.18.aspx Condoms and Herpes: Condoms reduce the risk, but infection is still possible. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11427138/ Edit: What I forgot, when we were talking about aids and syphilis. Of course, it all depends on where you live.
/r/seduction26/11/21 08:28 AM
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Yes, it will help to improve your social skills, but compared to real interactions with real people it is not effective.
/r/seduction25/11/21 04:19 PM
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Tinder or the depression are the only options - sad implication for a seduction/pickup forum. You don't need to look good for tinder. Your photo needs to look good. Big difference.
/r/seduction25/11/21 04:08 PM
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It's a good movie. Not like one would expect it to be. Quite deep although it's comedy.
/r/seduction25/11/21 01:58 PM
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Condoms do not completely protect you from hpv and herpes. + Hookers have countless sex partners.
/r/seduction25/11/21 01:56 PM
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I didn't say that a hooker could not work. I also see the possibility of your scenario, I just said it's risky. A sensitive man will feel that what he gets is not real and in many cases see the act with the hooker as a confirmation of the low value he attributes to himself and his abilities.
/r/seduction25/11/21 12:58 PM
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That may be true for aids and syphilis. But not for herpes and hpv.
/r/seduction25/11/21 12:19 PM
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Because tinder is the only option to get a woman? 🤣
/r/seduction25/11/21 11:34 AM
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Because what he is dreaming of is real intimacy and not artificial sex with a hooker. I'm not suggesting, he should wait. He should get to ACTION to make it happen.
/r/seduction25/11/21 11:32 AM
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Risky idea. There's a big chance he will feel worse after doing it with a hooker. What he needs is a sensitive woman, that can appreciate him, the way he is. Becoming a guy, who does it with hookers will distance himself from the kind of women, that he really needs. Being a virgin has also an aspect of idealism, sensitivity and purity, that some women can appreciate.
/r/seduction25/11/21 11:18 AM
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Find an approach to dating and meeting wome in which you can enjoy not only the results, but also the process itself. Some of the deal breakers women turn out to have are unexpected. But when men meet women they often have a tendency to hype them and loose the ability to realistically asses the potential. Especially when they don't have many opportunities. A lot of the problems that appear later on were visible from the start, you just tricked yourself in not seeing them, because it felt so good…
/r/seduction25/11/21 09:39 AM
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'You are really pretty' is not a good idea. In real life it is good because it takes courage but online it's boring and you are just one of the guys in her orbit. Think of what everyone would write and then write something completely different.
/r/seduction24/11/21 05:06 AM
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Dos and don'ts for the first message you write her: Dos: short funny casual referring to something cool you experienced together Don'ts: trying to justify yourself long message confessing your feelings putting pressure on her in some way like immediately wanting to set up a date
/r/seduction24/11/21 04:48 AM
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This question is not specific enough. There is not only one 'state', there are countless states for different activities. But in general: watch your social energy level. Avoid things that drain your social energy. (e. g too much phone/computer) Do things that increase it. practice having small talk every day - with cashiers at a shop, your co-workers, random people on the street
/r/seduction21/11/21 05:59 PM
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This
/r/seduction04/11/21 03:04 PM
3

To give up the mental concept of virginity.
/r/seduction04/11/21 02:55 PM
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Too few details for an analysis. But you should definitely try to come up with ideas for the second date during the first one - in a playful way, not forced. Did you already do that? Questions for further analysis: How old are you roughly? How old were the girls? Were it girls, who have more opportunities than the average girl? Is there something about you that is not represented in your online profile, something that surprises people? E.g. Height, weight? Are you able to share interesting facet…
/r/seduction01/11/21 08:01 PM
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Become less dependent/needy and get psychologically fixed. You will be more successful then.
/r/seduction25/10/21 04:44 AM
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Try to enjoy the whole process of interacting with girls as a win and a positive challenge, something that enriches your life independently of the outcomes.
/r/seduction24/10/21 07:48 PM
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The obvious answer is that you should give yourself, the guy and the situation time. At the moment, you are not even able to put the finger on the thing, that has changed or disappoints you. It could just be a mood swing or an unconscious fear of something more serious. If you have seen so many positives qualities in him, so it's worth a second chance. The butterflies might return.
/r/seduction10/10/21 01:31 PM
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Men holding each other accountable for their actions is the oldest thing in the world. No matter how strong you are, you are always stronger when someone else challenges you. OPs idea is not bad.
/r/seduction06/10/21 02:49 PM
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Wait for a partner, you click with on every level (spiritually, character, life goals, physical attraction, love). Then you can really open up and enjoy it. With such a partner the most basic stuff in bed will feel much better than fancy stuff with a partner, that does not meet all these criteria. (Too much) casual sex will ruin you, because you will lose your emotional sensitivity and ability to bond. This is especially true for women.
/r/seduction03/10/21 07:28 AM
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You have to be a man and face your demons: That means confronting interested women with your secret, either by talking to her or by getting intimate directly. There is no way around it. slowing down the process of getting intimate could work in your favor. If there is already an established relationship built on trust, it might be easier to open up. an alternative approach is shock therapy: visit a nudist area and stay there till you stop caring. Would you rather be an unsuccessful and unattract…
/r/seduction30/09/21 01:06 PM
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It totally depends. No one can foresee the people/program/atmosphere of the dance class you are going to attend. But imho it's an experience every man should have. It will challenge your comfort zone, and that's a good thing.
/r/seduction25/09/21 07:15 PM
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"Would you bother pursuing or is this low interest?" It might be an excuse, or it might be true. There is no risk in trying it again, at a later time. Just don't wait for her and focus on other things/people.
/r/seduction25/09/21 05:18 PM
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wait at least one weak before contacting her again don't think about her during that time period. Focus on other things/people. "I like this girl and might want to get serious." You don't know her, you only met her once. You know nothing about her. How is that a foundation to get serious? Don't put pressure on her when you contact her again - don't immediately suggest a meeting in your first message. Start with something casual and funny. Let her go if she doesn't change her behavior or ghosts y…
/r/seduction25/09/21 09:33 AM
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No one will give you the license to be confident - ever! Even most successful people are not confident. Because real confidence does not come from outside. Real confidence comes from gratefulness to have this life and all it's opportunities. You can walk, talk, write, laugh and change your while other people are amputees, have cancer or mental illnesses. Realize how precious your opportunities and chances are and how different your life can look in one day/month/year/decade if you take responsib…
/r/seduction23/04/21 05:32 PM
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I'm on team less sexual. Let me explain why. It all comes down to age-old biological programs, that still running in all of us. A man can impregnate an unlimited amount of women. But a woman can only get pregnant one time. So she has to choose her partner more carefully. As a result, she will dismiss some of her opportunities for sex. Edit: Also, see studies on behavior on tinder: Men want to date and have sex with women, they are not even attracted to, just to have someone to have sex with - wh…
/r/seduction18/04/21 05:05 PM
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Imho you ask the wrong question. It does matter what the experience of other dudes in the same situation is, because all that might not be true for you. You should try to find out how to optimize your hairstyle instead.
/r/seduction15/04/21 07:52 AM
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Dale Carnegie - How to make friends and influence people (a crash course on social skills; some of it is 'beta' and manipulative but it will help you a lot to improve your social intelligence)
/r/seduction15/04/21 04:33 AM
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Hey, it's all a progression towards feeling and understanding better. At no point you can be perfect, nor have be. Accept the way you are now and be aware of your value. Self-acceptance is key. Having female friends in your social circle will also help you to normalize interacting with women and they will help you to reflect your dating experiences. But you also should have male friends you really open up to and support each other. This way you can learn with and through other people. View datin…
/r/seduction14/04/21 05:00 AM
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Hey HEKRomeo! The advice can only be as specific as the question is. If you just ask, how to ride a bike, no one will explain you how the new disc breaking from Shimano works. To get good advice, be as specific as possible. So don't forget to add e.g. your age group and location you are talking about. Most of the time it's the details that matter. For general advice on social skill you could also visit r/socialskills/ Have a nice day!
/r/seduction10/04/21 03:17 PM
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That's what the shoe industry in it's adds will tell you... Just wear decent shoes that fit your style. But don't waste money on having more than you need. Better save money for things you really need. Also, if you don't have long legs it's better to divert the attention to the upper body. Fancy shoes tend to make your legs look shortet in that case.
/r/seduction10/04/21 08:35 AM
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Let's hope so. I've met so many crazy people, so actually doing something like that would seem realistic to me.
/r/seduction09/04/21 08:38 PM
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Entertaining story! Numbers per se are useless, though. Connection is the foundation. You could find thousands of numbers in a phone book. Be careful! A lot of these women will not have realized the reason you wanted their number. As a result some of them will be angry when they get a message with private/romantic content. -> molestation -> data privacy
/r/seduction09/04/21 08:32 PM
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and the 3rd date usually comes up after some back and forth, but I just ask like when they'd be free again, nothing like asking them out to something planned. That sounds not too bad. I don't send too many messages cause after 2 or 3 it seems pretty clear they don't want to talk anymore lol I agree with 2 or 3 messages being the right amount. Just keep an appropriate amount of time between the attempts and keep them lighthearted. Wait till the conversation is rekindled until you propose another …
/r/seduction09/04/21 08:12 PM
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How often did the described scenario happen? Can you rule out a random occurrence? I usually end the second date with a make-out session. Maybe it would be better to have that session somewhere in the middle of the date to be able to better stabilize this new level of escalation. As for the self-sabotaging I feel I am going for women I am really attracted too, I only ask for a 2nd date if I feel like there's some kind of connection over the physical attraction. Could it be that you project too s…
/r/seduction09/04/21 07:31 PM
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You don't give much substance to analyze. So I have to work with the little information I have and stay on a general level. I know I'm not being creepy or coming on too strong since I get a 2nd date That is not sound on an argumentative level. Getting a second date only allows the conclusion that you weren't creepy or coming on too strong on the first date. However, there is still the possibility that you were creepy or coming on too strong on the second date. You cannot just view the second dat…
/r/seduction09/04/21 06:20 PM
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The communication women put out is often very indirect and has several layers. That does not mean they receive communication the same way. But if I say something like "I don't have time to date right now", do girls get the wrong message as "I don't have time to date YOU right now"?? My main question is, will girls get my point if I say it, or do woman usually think of implied thoughts behind messages, even if its from men? Usually she will interpret it in the most literal sense. "Ah, he does not…
/r/seduction09/04/21 10:06 AM
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Some people just don't click. That will always be the case, no matter how much you "change"/"improve". The most interesting person in the eyes of A will be boring to B. No need to reinvent yourself because one women rejected you :-) Change and improve for yourself based on your own perception and values.
/r/seduction09/04/21 05:03 AM
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This is probably the wrong sub to discuss metaphysical beliefs about some kinds of energies. But even from a scientific viewpoint mirror neurons, pheromones, recognition of micro expressions in face and body are at work. From a game perspective giving eye contact before interacting with the other person too much attention is counterproductive.
/r/seduction08/04/21 02:57 PM
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I personally value women, who are intelligent, educated, interested in culture and are capable of deep thoughts and conversations. There are more of that kind of women in higher social classes. That is why class is important to me. But I don't look down on working class people. I don't care so much about success and money. Being part of a social class also is not only about where someone stands, but also about background. A daughter of e.g. a doctor will tend to not like tattoos. That not prejud…
/r/seduction08/04/21 10:17 AM
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"Women block me when they learn about my inexperience." This is just a theory. Maybe they block you for some other reason, e.g. they feel you are not okay with yourself, or for some other reason. Women are quite flakey these days. Men, that have experience, also get blocked all the time. increase the number of women you get in contact with. Don't waste time with women, who are not interested in you. This way you increase the chance to really click with someone eventually. accepting yourself and …
/r/seduction07/04/21 07:46 PM
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You should be well groomed and have a good style for yourself and all the people you deal with not just for women. all these things must fit together and must fit to your style, your personality (or the one you try to impersonate), and your body form. Cheap cloth that fit your style and sit perfectly are better than expensive ones, that don't. Don't make yourself dependent on these things. The most important thing is your vibe. Sometimes you will not have these things for some reason. Don't use …
/r/seduction07/04/21 06:02 PM
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Don't underestimate these girls. They might just be picky. Friend to lover preference might just be a sign that the attraction is not high enough. Of course, respect their boundaries. But don't automatically believe everything they say and don't fall into their frame too much. A lot, if not most of this girls will drop their concept quite quickly if the right guy comes along. Someone that is really attractive to them but also sensible and seductive. Check their behavior and body language if they…
/r/seduction02/04/21 05:10 AM
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The bigger the city, the more the shotgun principle will be at work. In bigger cities there will also be more competition though.
/r/seduction29/03/21 09:00 AM
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Advice always must be adapted individually to the specific life situation, personality, goals, values and starting point of a person. One size does not fit for all. Therefore no book is an universal aid and shouldn't be seen in that way.
/r/seduction29/03/21 04:11 AM
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Changing behavior is part of female nature, one can learn to adapt to it. My comment was not that serious. Shut have found a way to signify my irony. :-)
/r/seduction27/03/21 07:58 PM
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But human/female nature also never changes and every song on an instrument is a bit different ^
/r/seduction27/03/21 09:30 AM
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Okay, now I understand your previous comment. I don't agree with everything in the book either. But I think it is a good and inspiring book for people who are interested in sexual polarity. One will never fully agree with any book. When I recommend a book it's like "read that book among many others to inspire your thinking. But question everything and just take what you like".
/r/seduction26/03/21 07:36 PM
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Please elaborate. Imho it is in line with all great books, that were written about masculinity. But I could be wrong. What aspects did you dislike? Let's hear your book recommendation. I'm always interested in new viewpoints.
/r/seduction26/03/21 07:06 PM
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Read "The Way of the Superior Men" by David Deida. He can give you a better definition, than I can give you right of the bat.
/r/seduction26/03/21 05:52 PM
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You are right. I didn't not elaborate my last paragraph enough. It's about what essence/core you have. If you are a man with a feminine essence/core then you are compatible with women with a masculine core. But that is a quite seldom case. Most feminine men have a masculine core that is just feminist. And most masculine women don't have a masculine core, but have lost contact to their feminine side. Of course, anything in between is also possible. Read "The Way of the Superior Man" by David Deid…
/r/seduction26/03/21 05:47 PM
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(I do believe, that a deeper and more spiritual aspect of this question does exist, but here is not the right place to discuss it. I will keep it general.) You have to differentiate. In the field of quality we attracted people, that are similar to us. But a large part of male/female dynamics is based on polarity, leading to attracting the opposite of ourselves. Only a quality guy can hold a quality woman in long-term. Women, who had a good upbringing, who internalized positive values and are not…
/r/seduction26/03/21 07:57 AM
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Don't text her for at least one week. Then text her again with a lighthearted message, hence something that is funny/emotional and has the potential to bring back good memories of things, you two experienced together. Don't put any pressure on her in that message. It's also good to put something in the text that makes her curious. Try to forget her for the time period of radio silence and put your focus on other people/things. Nexting her without giving it a last try seems too extreme in my eyes…
/r/seduction25/03/21 11:00 PM
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Nobody is perfect. Enjoy life with what you have. Be grateful for your health and, if you want, hit the gym and optimize your diet. But don't obsess about it. You are already within the normal spectrum. No need to be unhappy. A lot of women find a little fat here and there cute, or do not care as much about it as you think. I don't think people are staring at you because of your body. You rather provoke it by giving off an insecure vibe. They more you socialize with people and take yourself not …
/r/seduction25/03/21 08:19 PM
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You could be more in shape, but you look normal and your look does not hinder any of your social interactions. Take care not to develop a distorted view of your own body (body dysmorphia). That would be way worse than being a little out of shape.
/r/seduction25/03/21 07:20 PM
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This depends so much on the context, specifics of the group and your personality. So the following is just a general idea how to do it: (This is for social situation during the day or a situation, where everyone is sober and the energy level is not too high) You definitely have to socialize with her, sit/stand/walk next to her and talk to her to strengthen your relationship and to take a place within the group that has some connection to her. The rest of the group has to see that you talking (mo…
/r/seduction25/03/21 06:47 PM
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You are right and wrong. Yes, she would have proposed an alternative day if she were interested (enough). But you take her momentary level of being interested far too serious. That's not how the female mind works. The situation can be very different a few minutes/hours/days later. Women's interest is not kindled that fast in most cases. Women are not as needy as the average male. They do not fall for someone before even having a good date. Leave her alone for a few days, then start the conversat…
/r/seduction23/03/21 05:04 PM
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It all depends on your life situation (age, job, location, free time, social circle, interests, hobbies), personalty and goals. There is no universal best way, only the best for you. Any interaction with human beings can and will teach you social skills.
/r/seduction23/03/21 10:36 AM
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Most probable explanation imho: you tried to make everything right and it was such a new sensation to you, that you got overstimulated. As a result you could not open up, relax and express yourself.
/r/seduction23/03/21 07:30 AM
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Imho there is not much advance compared to a regular phone call. Phone calls are so intimate and deep because everything is reduced to speech and speech is such a primal thing, as it transports so much emotion and expression. For me, adding a video is not an addition, but a distraction. Just hearing the other person stimulates the imagination so much. When you do it, make sure that your cameras are aligned, so that looking into the eyes of the other person works as good as possible. You don't ri…
/r/seduction22/03/21 10:04 PM
1

It was a far-left philosophy Communism in Russia lasted for several decades, but there was no comparable development, at least not on a big level. How do you explain this?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 10:07 AM
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You can't really fake high status. People soon will see through the facade. I propose you a different strategy, that is harder, takes longer but comes with real results: Accept yourself the way you are now. Put yourself out into the world without restraint. Be proactive, accept social risks, take chances, always go slightly outside your comfort zone. Stand up for your values and what you think is right and moral. You will have to go through pain (humiliation, rejection, seeing other people havin…
/r/seduction21/03/21 09:28 AM
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She essentially admitted to “acting tough” with me. Are you sure that's not just ex post rationalization on her part? If you had not succeeded the second time, there is a big chance she would interpret the first time differently.
/r/seduction21/03/21 08:44 AM
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You can not break the rules until you know how to follow them. Confident people know social rules, therefore they have the knowledge how/when to bend/break them to reach their goals. They also know how to act socially calibrated. It's all about the fine details. Doing the same thing with vs without social calibration is like day vs night. People who are just oblivious sooner or later bite on granite.
/r/seduction20/03/21 05:48 PM
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Of course, it depends on the culture you living in, but imho in western culture if you hug everyone else, you can hug her too. It might even come of as unfriendly, if she is the only person you don't hug. But it depends on the people and the context. You will be able to sense it in her body language whether it is okay to hug her and how tight you can hug her. Try to get a chair next to her. Socialize with her, get to know her, have small talk. Add a little pinch of being flirty and see how she r…
/r/seduction20/03/21 01:15 PM
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The important thing is that you do not avoid this place because she could be there. Everything else is secondary. You don't know why the contact didn't work out. Don't plan what you will do, try to let the whole situation go instead. Spontaneously decide what you will do in case you see her again. If there again is some tension between the two of you, you can hit on her again. If there is no tension, but you find yourself in a friendly conversation with her, you can bring it up. If the situation…
/r/seduction20/03/21 12:54 PM
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Hilarious. Thx for posting it. But that is not good game. You want to come across as attractive not just be tolerated. It's much better to approach them either completely direct or by indirectly engaging them in a conversation. His strategy has no advantages. To the contrary, you will much more often be seen as a creep and get harder rejections.
/r/seduction20/03/21 12:02 PM
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being too direct in front of the coworkers is not an option. This setting would make it too hard for her to react positively. Realize that dating at your workplace comes with a couple of risks. Ask yourself if it's really worth it. There are numerous other attractive women in other places. Option #1: Find a way to socialize with her and her peer group. Try to get to know her and try to slowly strengthen the social bond between the two of you. Be playful with being flirty in a subtle way. See how…
/r/seduction19/03/21 07:20 PM
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Everyone hast different sticking points. Bud I'd say the most common ones are: Passivity. Expecting something to happen without stepping out of the comfort zone. Lack of the ability to let go of women, who don't want you. This wastes so much energy.
/r/seduction19/03/21 06:36 PM
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Let them come naturally. They should be congruent and an expression of your inner state. Just don't forget to smile when you cold approach someone, in order to appear non-threatening.
/r/seduction19/03/21 03:19 PM
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body language, facial expression romantic and sexual things are either stated directly or subtly implied and anything in between. when everything is right people also just feel through their mirror neurons, that the conversation is (meant to be) seductive. context of the conversation
/r/seduction19/03/21 03:06 PM
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They grew up in a totally different cultural environment - no social media, institution of marriage was still strong, different rules on sexuality, more traditional values. They have a different outlook on contemporary society. How could they teach you?
/r/seduction18/03/21 07:46 AM
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By making the best out of your life and regularly exposing yourself to social interaction, especially with women you find attractive, you will more and more develop "it". Build up a social circle, attend a regular meet up on any topic you are interested in. Open up to the people around you, express yourself, risk something. Don't try to be perfect, speak your mind. Step outside your comfort zone a little bit every day. Through these interactions and by reflecting them you will automatically deve…
/r/seduction17/03/21 06:34 PM
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Don't overanalyze. As you said acting needy can ruin your contact to this girl. The best way to stop acting needy is, to stop being needy: Never focus on a woman so much so soon. Never take focus of other things important to you (e.g. sports, school, religion, job, friends, whatever) If you give her an appropriate amount of your focus, you will automatically stop acting needy without analyzing your every move all the time.
/r/seduction17/03/21 06:05 PM
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Have clear values, goals and interests. This will automatically bring you closer to some people and distance you from others. Stay friendly and polite, that is a good thing. But don't be afraid to disagree.
/r/seduction17/03/21 05:36 PM
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Imho you should call him up and tell him exactly how you feel. As a friend he should be able to understand and respect you. If you do that he will have the right expectations for potentially meeting you again. Give yourself the time you need. If he can't wait he is not the right intimate partner for you. Only do things you feel good about!! Also, you don't have to go from kissing to sex in one step. There are as many intermediate stages as you want, e.g. kissing and cuddling half naked. An intim…
/r/seduction17/03/21 01:27 PM
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Don't overthink. Work with what you have until you are more relaxed again. Some women will like you even if you are a little stiff. You don't even know how your current state comes across until you get out there. Women can perceive you totally different from how you see yourself. Just be proactive and try to have fun. If you vibe with someone everything will automatically come back.
/r/seduction17/03/21 12:14 PM
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Touching a women, who is on her job? Very bad idea ...
/r/seduction17/03/21 11:58 AM
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If the attraction is high enough, anything can work, of course. But imho you have to pay attention to the fact that you want to approach her within a professional environment. She is on her job. It will be harder to interpret signals in this situations, because she is paid to be nice to you. One could misread professional friendliness for attraction. You can directly ask her out, but you have to be extra calibrated and polite. She has to feel that you are aware of the special circumstances and a…
/r/seduction17/03/21 11:56 AM
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Some thoughts: You need some perspective and gratefulness. A lot of people have really serious or life-threatening problems. And you are worrying about not being #1. Every one is a unique combination of traits. No one is better at being you than you. Don't define yourself so much by your looks. That's not manly. Looks is just one factor of many.
/r/seduction16/03/21 11:47 PM
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How many inhabitants does your city have? I want to know what we are talking about and what you consider big/small.
/r/seduction16/03/21 12:36 PM
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Hard to tell what the exact reason is - maybe she met someone else; maybe you were too clingy; maybe there is some problem in her life, that distracts her; maybe the connection were not as strong as you thought; maybe she is used to having physical intimacy sooner when she gets to know someone ... You can not know for sure what the reason is. For us guys on reddit it is even harder to know, as we don't have your messages and memories of the date. Do the following: Totally ignore her for at least…
/r/seduction15/03/21 11:07 PM
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Emphatic people can feel a lot, but interpret it in different ways. What to one person is "shy and weak" can be "cute and sensible" to another. Being confident does not mean having no flaws, but accepting them, working to better them and to love yourself.
/r/seduction15/03/21 04:22 AM
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Imho in day game there will be no signals at all in a lot of cases. People are just concerned with other things and not even in flirt mode in a lot of cases. Why would a women, who e. g. is shopping groceries give you any signals? In most cases she will put all the focus on her activity - until you approach her. In 80% of cases in day game she does not even have the chance to give you signals, because urban life is fast and tense, or distance and angle are not in your favor. Also, by approaching…
/r/seduction15/03/21 03:43 AM
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Most people don't become maniacs and push through when they burn. When they experience a negative reaction they will chicken out, try again in a more calibrated way or never try again. The backlash of behavior, that is very off socially, is an unpleasant experience.
/r/seduction13/03/21 03:26 PM
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People, who can talk in a lighthearted way with anybody tend to have the following traits: courage: - to state unpopular opinions, - to approach strangers, - to just say what comes to their mind empathy & attentiveness: understanding the situation, in which other people currently in, understanding where they are coming from. Both in an emotional and intellectual way. life experience and wide interest being able to take them self not too serious
/r/seduction13/03/21 09:37 AM
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Balance is key. You need room for spontaneity, trying out new things and just going with the flow. It also depends on how you do things you can try to find new tracks to run, study at a new place with a new technique. If you're creative there is always room for variation.
/r/seduction12/03/21 02:24 PM
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Ihmo you should not reinvent the way you flirt, especially after seeing her several times. The fact that she met with you a couple of times proofs that she likes you. Not everybody flirts in an expressive way. More important is that you touch and kiss her. If you haven't done that there is a good chance the vibe of your interactions will change once the ice is broken.
/r/seduction12/03/21 09:10 AM
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If she doesn't call you pay her a visit one last time. This time talk to her: Tell her that you know she is on her job, and you normally wouldn't interrupt her, but you noticed her, find her very attractive and want to get to know her. Tell her that you would like to have coffee with her. Ask her for her number. If she brings up that you already have given her your number, smile and tell her in an ironic way that you could not talk that day because you were at dentist.
/r/seduction12/03/21 07:58 AM
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Remind yourself of the following things: recognize that every interaction/approach comes with a learning experience focus on creating a pleasant experience for you both, by being polite and empathic - this way even a rejection does not feel so bad. A socially calibrated guy will get almost no hard rejections. celebrate every small success in your progress enjoy the masculine energy, that spikes up every time you step out of your comfort zone. enjoy the female energy, you receive in every interac…
/r/seduction11/03/21 12:45 PM
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You approach is wrong, if you are looking for the best results. No one can give you accurate advice online, because it will depend on a) you, what kind of guy you are - YOU want to express YOURSELF b) the culture and social class you live in Visit a qualitative perfumery together with a female friend, who has a good taste, and try out different options.
/r/seduction09/03/21 02:02 PM
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The fear of being judged by others and having one's self-image challenged. Make it a habit to leave your comfort zone a little more and more.
/r/seduction08/03/21 10:09 PM
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Don't do it. Imho one should respect the institution of marriage. Apply the golden rule: Would you want other men to approach your wife? There are plenty of women available, who are not married. That doesn't mean you have to check whether she is wearing a wedding ring before approaching. If she's married, she will tell you. But as soon as you know a women is married she is taboo.
/r/seduction08/03/21 06:06 PM
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Work hard to better your situation in a holistic and long-term oriented way (a). Try to find substitutes for your needs (b). a) realize that 23 is very young - so young that you can easily completely reinvent yourself. be grateful for the good things in your life Imagine where you could be in 1/3/5 years, if you walk just a baby step every day. Celebrate every small success. If you stay focused every small success will give you a small dopamine spike and the process of getting closer to your goa…
/r/seduction08/03/21 05:07 PM
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"I groom, am attractive based on other peoples opinions, am well spoken and there is no direct reason why I am not able to have sex or get into a relationship." Tattoo that quote on the inside of your eyelids to remind yourself of the good starting point you have. Start dating/approaching/working on your self in a really dedicated way. This will make you feel better quite quickly. Celebrate every baby step on your way to success. This will make you realize that no only reaching your goal feels g…
/r/seduction05/03/21 09:27 PM
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(I can only guess the impact of your condition on your game as I haven't seen you in person.) Some thoughts/ideas: "I always get something along the lines of "oh I feel so sorry for you" whenever somone asks why i'm limping and I explain it." Maybe you should not give a detailed explanation until a deeper bond to a person is established. The first moments you meet someone should not be concerned with your condition. Try to find jokey ways to brush off/postpone the talk to a later point in time, …
/r/seduction05/03/21 11:12 AM
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Start by asking yourself, what you want in life and what your values are. That has to be the starting point.
/r/seduction25/09/20 11:36 AM
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Social circle game only works if you are genuinely a social person. If you are not, this is very inefficient. Imagine all the effort, you don't even enjoy, it takes to build up a social circle just to get women. And if you do it just to get women, it is not honest. Most people are not that social. It will not work for them.
/r/seduction25/09/20 11:08 AM
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Be courageous and tell him how you feel. Have an honest and open talk with him. Don't overthink. You need to decide your reaction when you don't even know what he will say yet.
/r/seduction24/09/20 06:40 PM
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Don't look at the results too much. View it as an adventure. Every failure teaches you something and therefore is a win in itself. The universe does not conspire against you. If you move forward and overcome your obstacles success is inevitable. Have a mindset that allows you to enjoy the process and not just the results. Maybe you are also to a certain extent not unhappy, because of not being successful with women, but you are not successful with women because you are unhappy. Remind yourself t…
/r/seduction22/09/20 10:30 AM
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Because "do not validate" and "give compliments" are taken form different schools/approaches/gurus to picking up women. You can't expect consistency if you take all advice that is out there. For every advice you will find someone who says the exact opposite.
/r/seduction03/09/20 06:02 AM
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I had my first sexual experiences when I was in my late twenties. So, I know where you are coming from. I had moments where I felt like you, but as a whole I had quite a happy life. You must not allow yourself to feel self pity all the time. It's harmful. Keep in mind that (sooner or later) almost everyone carries some burden in their life. I know guys who lost their virginity in their 30s and they had a quite happy life before that. And I also know guys who never had problems with finding women…
/r/seduction02/09/20 10:25 AM
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problems in the future. Yes! E.g. that you are doing things the thing, you think will impress other people, instead of the thing you want to do and are good for you. And in the end other people might not be impressed to the extent you have expected it.
/r/seduction02/09/20 04:35 AM
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sharing your true thoughts and feelings in this moment getting out of your head and into the moment showing vulnerability and dropping of all strategies and facades emotionally opening up to the other person physical touch, eye contact, smiling -> all three in a way that expresses closeness sharing secrets creating a safe space for the other person being trustworthy asking more and more personal questions being attentive, trying to hear what the other persons wants to say, where they coming from…
/r/seduction02/09/20 04:24 AM
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Of course it's better than staying sad and depressed.
/r/seduction01/09/20 06:38 AM
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Work and improve till those girls that rejected you start regretting why they did it. Imho that sounds a bit like a teenage revenge fantasy out of a movie. You should improve for yourself! - not to impress women, who rejected you. The adult way is to let them go emotionally. Also, some people are just not into you and no success or improvement can change that. One has to accept that. But you don't need to care about these people too much, because there are others out there, who are into you. One…
/r/seduction01/09/20 05:46 AM
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This is a situation, that almost never happens in real life - more like out of a movie or something. Look at the positive side: Other unpleasant situations in dating and rejections will feel less threatening for the rest of your life, because you already experienced and survived the current out of this world situation. Chin up, wish you the best!
/r/seduction31/08/20 12:31 PM
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It's harder when your looks do not fit the expectations. But you totally underestimate the power of talking action. If the spirit of Giacomo Casanova would be transferred into the body of any Incel, he still would be successful. Social skills overrule looks to a large extent. Also, not all of your genes are visible in your looks. Behavior and personality are to a certain extent also functions of genes. Maybe you have the best genes without knowing it yet, because you don't take enough action in …
/r/seduction31/08/20 11:01 AM
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Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton Be warned this book has the potential to change your life and to challenge your perspectives on a lot of things. This is explosive stuff. A lot of people get the concept wrong: it is not about being rude. You have to actually read the whole book and listen to people, who have dived into this philosophy.
/r/seduction30/08/20 09:33 PM
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Night game is a waste of time and energy if you don't enjoy going out to bars/clubs for reasons other than women. Women can feel whether you really enjoy this environment. If that's not the case, you should quit night game. There will be better and more efficient ways for you to get to know women.
/r/seduction27/08/20 07:51 PM
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be open minded dock social circles and regular meet ups, that already exist. Keep looking for new groups, til you feel at home somewhere. Talk to many people, express yourself and get to know yourself better and better, find out the type of people you click with and keep in contact with these people. Over time you will have deeper and deeper friendships with some of them, you will lose others though. You'll automatically become more and more people-wise. Not only set up one on one meetups, but a…
/r/seduction26/08/20 05:48 PM
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You have to view it as an advantage: You have the chance to meet a lot of new people and you don't need stuff to talk about with them, because you still have to exchange all the basic information about yourself. Some people will like you more, some less no matter how you behave. So why don't you be proactive and initiate conversations with the other people? A new person should not sit on one place, they should keep moving and sit next to every other person.
/r/seduction26/08/20 05:19 PM
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Men do notice it. They unconsciously notice it. They find women with a good perfume more ladylike, they just don't think about it much. But I agree, it is not the most important aspect and having the wrong or too much perfume is much riskier than going without one.
/r/seduction26/08/20 04:40 PM
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Take a male platonic friend, you trust, with you when choosing it. Also, less is more: You should not come off like a prostitute.
/r/seduction26/08/20 04:34 PM
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You have to view the scene in the context of the whole movie. The scene is about making the instructor look bad: He tells the virgin about how complicated it is to talk to women. The virgin does better than both had expected, just because he is charismatic, not because he followed the rule about only asking questions. I'd say the interaction with the women is not to unrealistic. The vibe seems a bit too sexual for a conversation with a stranger. One the one hand this is overacting to make the mo…
/r/seduction26/08/20 04:27 PM
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One among dozens of variables. But you can't control it, so you should forget about it.
/r/seduction26/08/20 04:05 AM
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Have an honest conversation with him about how you feel - face to face, if not possible via voice call. You will feel better.
/r/seduction26/08/20 03:38 AM
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A manly man does not compare himself to women. He does not look down on them, but he knows that he is something different. Accept your hero's journey as a chance to grow. No challenge no growth! Also, it is men's fault, our fault, that we don't hold women to higher standards ...
/r/seduction25/08/20 08:58 PM
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I think your own explanations sound quit reasonable. One important factor you haven't mentioned yet: Going to bars/clubs (with/without alcohol) influences you sleep pattern. Some people, including myself, react very sensitive to it.
/r/seduction23/08/20 06:51 PM
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This is just, what I believe in: Text as few as possible. Use voice calls/phone instead - it's more personal. Meet up as soon as possible - people who are interested in you, will want that quite soon. Be honest, drop all strategies, share your truth and real though/feelings. Some people will not like it, but the one's who like it have potential. The others won't waste your time and vice versa. The #1 reason for being boring is being afraid to share what's really on your mind and what you really …
/r/seduction23/08/20 06:41 PM
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Ah, is this what this sub is like now? No, I think the likes are mostly from lurkers not the active people.
/r/seduction23/08/20 04:50 PM
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Maybe she just wanted attention ...
/r/seduction23/08/20 04:07 PM
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I'd say to talk to her, especially because she is a good friend. Good friends should be as open as possible to each other. In a way it is dishonest to keep this secret from her. Good friends tell each other such things. Don't plan the outcome, just tell her what you told us in your posting. You will feel so relieved after opening up to her. It's also possible that your feelings change after telling her - a secret fantasy often feels completely different than facing something in real life.
/r/seduction23/08/20 04:05 PM
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Maybe she gave you mixed signals in the beginning because she is not completely sure what she wants or just to tease you a bit to get attention. Refusing a number that is offered to them by a guy is too confrontational for many women - it is easier to just take the number and ignore it afterwards. It is also a way to get rid of a guy. Probably the hug was not about making you jealous but hindering you from approaching her again and embarrassing her in front of her boyfriend. Move on. Girls with …
/r/seduction23/08/20 02:43 PM
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You're welcome! I've forgotten an aspect of your question: You are definitely not completely flat chested, you have small breasts.
/r/seduction23/08/20 12:27 PM
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A lot of men, including myself, prefer small/smaller breasts. It is more aesthetically pleasing. Look at Greek statues of women: They all have small to medium size breasts. It definitely looks more graceful and feminine. Also, it will give you the advantage of a good shape and a younger look when you grow older. Big breasts are eye-catching and almost all men will be forced to look at it but that does not mean that they prefer big breasts. Tasteful sensual man will tend to prefer small/medium si…
/r/seduction23/08/20 11:34 AM
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The majority of people looks average. For them looks is neither a factor, that massively propels them forward, nor massively limits them. This is true for model-tier and aesthetically challenged people. But both groups are very small minorities. For the majority of people confidence and personality will be more important as a determining factor of their success than looks.
/r/seduction23/08/20 08:48 AM
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In a way I'm very sceptical to this. You don't build sexual tension by showing interest. You create it by having her chase you. You make her think she has a chance but only a chance. Many women may not chase you, even when they are interested: women with a very feminine character will not chase you, because they expect you to chase them, like in nature where the males chase the females. Not chasing when you are interested is also very manipulative and self-sabotaging - why would I not go after s…
/r/seduction22/08/20 02:35 PM
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Let's imagine a groomed but for some reason unattractive guy (I'm not saying you are, I don't know you) approaching 100 strange women in a polite and socially calibrated way, giving them an honest compliment and leaving afterwards. I guarantee you, that more than 90 women will react in a positive way. They may not be attracted to him but still react positively. Also, situations of embarrassment can be a positive thing: They show you that the fear of such situations is worse than the situations i…
/r/seduction22/08/20 10:53 AM
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I can relate to that, I've been there. Such phases are normal in a men's life. Something is hindering you from moving forward and sooner or later you'll find out what it is. Finding someone is not something you can take for granted. It's not about being good enough for women - humans are complex creatures, if your are in some way not a run-of-the-mill-guy, it will be harder for you to find someone compatible. That does not mean you are better or worse, you are just different/unique. You are 22, …
/r/seduction22/08/20 04:09 AM
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I have to do X now and will address your questions later in some way.
/r/seduction22/08/20 03:41 AM
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There are positive trends as well, but there is definitely something weird going on in mainstream sexuality. Imho one of the biggest reasons: Teenagers are raised by porn. The stimuli of these movies are so intense, that anything else is overlaid: emotional/psychological needs, physical physical health, long-term consequences ... it IS numbing! Nowadays e.g. doctors regularly have to treat teenagers because they inserted objects vaginally and anally, that are way too large. They have seen these …
/r/seduction22/08/20 03:38 AM
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Women are not being damaged and desensitized by sex toys, I promise. So you shrug the dozens of articles and anecdotes on the subject off, without even having an argument?
/r/seduction22/08/20 02:51 AM
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smiling, upright posture, relaxed movement, eye contact ... But all that will come natural, if you are a relaxed guy. Overcome what makes you stiff and all that will come automatically without thinking about it. Focus on expressing your true self and overcoming your fears and anxieties, instead of learning some artificial moves. Accept the way you are now - that's the best way to move forward. Flirting behavior is in your dna - for millennia men had no access to Reddit and behaved that way ...
/r/seduction21/08/20 11:06 AM
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You're welcome! I enjoy that my comment had some consequences in your real life.
/r/seduction21/08/20 10:45 AM
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Your chances are not that bad if she feels lonely because of Corona. And that is not unlikely. But a casual relationship did not make her happy last time, so she probably will feel the same way quite soon and you should not use her. That would be irresponsible and immoral: If she has troubles taking responsibility for her actions, you have to be responsible and reasonable even more. But you can always contact her and try to have a honest conversation from adult to adult, in which you two talk ab…
/r/seduction20/08/20 08:47 PM
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it might just be an excuse to avoid approaching - remind yourself of that fact. lowering your standards for approaching, does not mean you are lowering it for other things. Talking to someone should not be a big thing. You will see a lot of women in a different way once you have talked to them. You will reevaluate your 'rating' when you notice that she e.g. has beautiful eyes after all, or an interesting voice. math is not on the side of your argument: 80k in the city + 20k visitors = 100k, 50% …
/r/seduction20/08/20 07:12 PM
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Probably not the best subreddit for your question. Imho general tendencies are not super relevant. Your needs and your partners needs count. If cunnilingus really is that important for you, you need to find a man, who likes it too, no matter how seldom, guys, who are into it are. I don't think they are that seldom.
/r/seduction20/08/20 05:20 PM
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I haven't thought about me being different than her colleges might not be a bad thing after all Yes, a new/fresh/different input could be interesting for some of them. If you are in the same field as she is, she will compare your skills more to yours and it's harder for you to surprise her with new insights ...
/r/seduction20/08/20 04:39 PM
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But I also think we need more information to get a deeper understanding of OP's personality. Agreed.
/r/seduction20/08/20 09:17 AM
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A pickup line is better than saying nothing at all. But try to create something personal and original, or, even better, be spontaneous. If you use pickup line there always has to be self irony.
/r/seduction20/08/20 09:15 AM
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Do you really want a woman, who likes you because of your money? You don't. Maybe be you find a girl, who is also very much into sport. There are always several possibilities to be right for a girl. A medical student girl might e.g. prefer you over her colleges because you're not stressed out the whole time. Maybe you need a mentality, that is a little bit less materialistic. Pop cultural example: Remember in fight club Tyler, who does not care, is the cool guy and not the narrator, who tries to…
/r/seduction20/08/20 09:04 AM
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I can see your point. But "oversharing" might be part of the healing process for a guy suppressing far too much for years. Also, the urge to share one's entire life story is completely normal, if one were to afraid to do that for his whole life. And putting someone off by sharing too much might be a necessary experience to naturally tune it down a bit and he will see that life goes on, even when you putt someone off.
/r/seduction20/08/20 08:36 AM
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Totally subjective and often used like synonyms. "Hot" just conveys a little bit more masculinity. "Cute" sometimes is used for being unattractive in a sexual/romantic way. It all depends on the context.
/r/seduction20/08/20 07:27 AM
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I think OP is taking about a healthy middle ground.
/r/seduction20/08/20 07:11 AM
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That sounds like a developed personality. But it is not a good goal for people, who have problems with opening up and being more relaxed/loose, because it gives them an excuse to not crack up their shell, keep an artificial self-image and be in their mind instead of in the moment.
/r/seduction20/08/20 07:04 AM
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A many who is truly mysterious and stoic, will not stop being that way, just because he shares personal info or vulnerability. If that were the case his mystery and stoicism were just an act. You should experiment with expressing yourself a lot more. But in the end it is not about always expressing everything to everyone, but about being able to express what is relevant.
/r/seduction20/08/20 05:56 AM
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You can reconnect with people, who you haven't seen for 20 years or longer. If both sides are willing, why not? One thing has to be clear though, when you contact someone you lost contact with: You have to take into account the time, that has passed - you can't expect the other person, to see any relevance in you. If you contact someone of your past, you should do it with a very open mind and no expectations. Don't try to gather information about her beforehand, just contact her spontaneously an…
/r/seduction19/08/20 09:55 AM
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You can ask anyone anything, that is on your mind. That's what authentic communication is all about. Try things out, share your thoughts with other people in real life. This will help you more than any theoretical advice.
/r/seduction19/08/20 09:46 AM
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Talk to her about your feelings. Be open and honest, but phrase it the right way - don't degrade her, be sensitive and socially calibrated. Maybe her feelings are not that different. Anything is possible. You just find it out by talking to her. You should not waste your time or her time, but maybe you two can give yourself a time limit for becoming clearer about your feelings. Also, she might be better than you think. As she is your first girlfriend you have no comparison.
/r/seduction18/08/20 01:05 PM
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You have to go on your hero's journey for your own sake, not for being good enough for women. Success with women should just be the byproduct of it. Strive for a fulfilling life, that makes you happy, don't care too much about the judgments of society. Yes, as a man you have to build up your societal value. Women get a lot of value for free, if they are beautiful - but this bonus of youth and beauty is gone quite quickly in most cases - do you think that is easier to take?
/r/seduction18/08/20 07:56 AM
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You should leave her alone, if she really has a boyfriend - there is an honor code among men. And if she doesn't have one, it probably means that she is not (super-)interested. She didn't give you her number, right? - that would even more point in that direction. I think giving someone a present that early is an absolute no go. It puts pressure on her to give you something back. It will look as if you wanted to buy her love. Imho you probably should move on. And look for a girl, that is really i…
/r/seduction17/08/20 08:31 PM
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Absolutely agree with you! This thread is also a great example why inexperienced people should be open about it with their sexual partners. The inexperienced lurkers should take that at heart. Communicate, it's really not difficult Sharing something, that one has hidden for year, can really be difficult, but it would be worth to be open about it in this case. Let's wish OP and his girlfriend the best!!
/r/seduction17/08/20 07:47 PM
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Of course I mean before asking for her number: You could not even smile at her with your mask on. She couldn't see your facial expressions. You didn't talk about anything personal or give her a compliment. School/Job/Covid are topics you could bring up with your grandma, but there is no romantic component whatsoever. Maybe you conveyed a romantic vibe by the tone of your voice, your body language or your eyes. How could I know? That's why I'm asking.
/r/seduction17/08/20 01:53 PM
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She has not even seen your face - why would she want to exchange numbers with you? You haven't seen her face either... How can you feel, whether there was romantic tension without seeing her face? You should have said: 'Let's go outside where we can talk!' And the you both would have taken your masks off. Have you given her a reason, why you want her number - implicitly/explicitly? Did you express attraction in some way? Did she reciprocate?
/r/seduction17/08/20 01:36 PM
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Now I better understand your situation. Well, I'm waiting for acceptances at the moment. So I would guess, that this would only take a couple of weeks or a few month at the longest, right? However, to be in the now, I could always stop by more often and be super friendly and subtle flirt until the time comes. Get her talking about her research more, take a deeper interest in her more fully. Maybe that is the best for now. I can see why that would be the best in your current situation.
/r/seduction16/08/20 06:26 PM
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Don't be a weirdo. Keep in mind, that being perceived as a weirdo has a big subjective component. No matter what you do, you will be perceived as a weirdo in some situations. Try to be socially calibrated and polite instead. Don’t seek eye contact I don't understand this focus on eye contact. Imho one should trust the autopilot. Your eyes will express your true state of mind and will automatically keep up if you change. It's not really possible to control or fake micro expression, people intuiti…
/r/seduction16/08/20 10:41 AM
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I agree with you. But in some cases conversations are not as deep as you think, there are people who are manipulative. But if you trust your gut feeling you will know the difference.
/r/seduction16/08/20 08:49 AM
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start sharing more about your thoughts and feelings towards sexuality with close friends. Opening up will feel liberating and contribute to a healing process. It will also strengthen your friendships. lifting weights and sports in general will help you to ground yourself into your body. expression in other fields of life is connected to sexual expression: start dancing, drawing, singing or playing an instrument. There will be some carryover. Try to open up with future sexual partners: The more y…
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:38 AM
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And from our conversations, I understand she's bi, dated men and women. That increases your chances, but also means, that the chances for female competitors increase the longer you wait. I want to be settled at a different university if this makes sense. How soon will that happen? Only because of her?
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:15 AM
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For some guys a bit of time has to pass, til they a have their stuff together and have success with women. It's trail and error. But once you realize, that even the fails can teach you something, your have way there. Every fail/rejection comes with some insight and makes you a better man in some way, if you are willing to learn from it. Wish you the best!
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:10 AM
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Only go after women you are really interested in. Lowering your standards will not automatically increase you chances, because women can feel whether a man is truly interested. Now you probably say, that your chances with the women, you really like will be lower, because they are more attractive and therefore have more options. There is truth to that, but there is a small overlap between the circle of the women you like and the circle of the women who are attracted to you. You need to find this …
/r/seduction16/08/20 04:12 AM
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(Do nothing, that is illegal in your county!!) But my real hope is that I have planted seeds so that in a couple months when I am more established I can ask her out. Although, the timing of asking I haven't figured out. This strategy is very dangerous for you: You emotionally invest in her for month - if she finally rejects you, it will hurt you a lot. Men, who have that strategy, often act that way, because they are afraid of rejection and rather keep their crush as a fantasy than loosing her. …
/r/seduction16/08/20 04:00 AM
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subs that might interest you: r/socialskills/ (gender neutral discussion on social situations, not focused on dating) r/relationship_advice/ (gender neutral discussion on relationships) r/FemaleDatingStrategy/ (female only sub, about avoiding bad men. Imho the attitude towards men is far too negative, but you have to decide what's good for you)
/r/seduction16/08/20 03:25 AM
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You have to be very careful with women at your workplace. Keep in mind, if something goes wrong, you still have to see her every day. If you still want to try it: Talk more to her. Convey interest and a humorous vibe. Smile and show dosed affection non-verbally. Look at her reactions and guess whether she might be interested too. If you think she really is, invite her to a coffee or some other activity in your spare time.
/r/seduction15/08/20 10:01 PM
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I could be manipulative or he just lacks the balls to tell what he wants.
/r/seduction15/08/20 09:45 PM
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Imho don't do it. As a general rule: If a guy does not want to date you now, he will not want to date you in the future either. Imho the best first time for you would be a loving boyfriend. The first time forms your future perception of sex. You will meet so many more men in your future. You will have no doubts with the right guy
/r/seduction15/08/20 09:31 PM
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Imho you should think about telling the truth in such scenarios. This would allow you to find a women, who is attracted to you regardless your lack of experience, which sooner or later will come to surface anyways. Also, it would be liberating. Lying creates stress. But you could just move the conversation in the future, till you get more serious with the girl: "Let's keep the past in the past for the moment. I'd like to focus on the present. Once we start talking about relationships, it will be…
/r/seduction15/08/20 08:43 PM
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If you constantly have no drive to move forward in life, you have to look in your past. There will be something, that is not resolved yet. The natural state of humans is to be driven forward by passion and curiosity.
/r/seduction15/08/20 07:57 PM
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you are projecting: the lives of these guy are less perfect than you think. I know a guy, who seemingly has it all - perfect looks, beautiful girlfriend, rich background. But he has an incurable disease, he struggles with every day, but most people don't know about it. This is an extreme case, but it shows you how limited your insights in other peoples lives are. Why are you only comparing yourself to people, who are (seemingly) better off than yourself? There are so many people in much worse si…
/r/seduction15/08/20 07:44 PM
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That question would in a way imply that you are interested in becoming her boyfriend and that would be far far too pushy. And you should not want that either because you don't know her yet.
/r/seduction14/08/20 09:20 PM
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Good description. That would imply that someone with a lot of life experience and a broad spectrum of interests would have good chemistry with more people.
/r/seduction14/08/20 08:59 PM
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If you want to play the sexual partner role, being younger and fit will be attractive. Sexuality also encompasses emotional, spiritual and romantic needs. Older men tend to embody this qualities more.
/r/seduction14/08/20 07:22 AM
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Never tell her. Elaborate, please. To me not being direct feels unnatural. This is why I'm interested in your take.
/r/seduction14/08/20 06:57 AM
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When you are over thirty people, not only women, expect that you have used your time in some productive way, yes. But achievement can mean so many different things - e.g. life experience and a great character is also an achievement. I'd say a lot of men get better with dating and women once they are above the age of 30. This guys take is far too pessimistic: You've just got older. That sounds very passive. Hasn't this guy done anything with his life? You shouldn't be passive. You should always d…
/r/seduction14/08/20 06:44 AM
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In general moments of silence are not a bad thing. The closer two people are, the longer moments of silence they can handle, because they feel good in each others presence alone. Too much silence on dates can be a negative thing, but you should be able to handle a little bit of it. This way you show that you are a relaxed guy. You can address the silence and talk with her about "silence in conversations" and your feelings towards it ...
/r/seduction13/08/20 03:23 PM
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I agree with the consensus of the thread, that one should not do it. But if the very very rare situation occurs that you see your absolute dream girl, all other considerations are nullified: You have to talk to her. Do it in a direct, polite and calibrated way.
/r/seduction13/08/20 01:13 PM
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This question can only be answered by people of your demographic background. It varies too much to generalize.
/r/seduction13/08/20 11:06 AM
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The normal scenario in day game is that you both exchange numbers and you contact her. Do what feels natural. Just giving her your number is less invasive, and fits better in some situations. Some guys dont get her number to sort out women, who are not interested. IMHO that is a bad strategy: Some women will not call you although they are interested: a lot of feminine women want the man to lead. And just because she contacts you doesn't mean she is super interested, she can just do it for attent…
/r/seduction13/08/20 10:30 AM
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Imho pursue. The probability that it was an excuse is quite high. But as a confident man you assume, that women want to get to know you, especially when they say they want. Also, there is no risk in trying it one more time.
/r/seduction11/08/20 09:08 PM
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Imho your are not a virgin anymore. penis in vagina = intercourse virgin = a person who never had intercourse partial penetration, not fully erect -> penis still is in the vagina, ergo: still intercourse ergo: you are not a virgin
/r/seduction11/08/20 07:52 PM
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Your mistake is not that you are like you are. Your mistake is, that you can't accept the way you are right now and the needs, that you have right now. To be strong one must accept one's weaknesses. Anything else is just pretending. And nobody is without weaknesses, it just seems different. There are definitely women/girls, who can appreciate sensitive guys. You are generalizing here. And even if they expected something different, as long as you are okay with yourself, it will not be a big deal …
/r/seduction11/08/20 04:25 PM
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be direct about your indentions communicate in some way that you know, that it is uncommon for a customer to hit on shopping assistant, but in this special case you still have to do it. This way you show that you are not some weirdo, who is overbold, but does not know how society works. do it in a moment, in which she is relaxed, and no other customers are around, that could make her stress out or feel ashamed try to schedule a date for a coffee or something with her
/r/seduction10/08/20 04:37 PM
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I like your book request and I am interested what other users will propose. Imho there is the danger that one ends up doing some kind of act. That would not work because people always will notice your micro expressions, who you can not really change. Imho to become strong and dominant one must become weak first: one must face his weaknesses and be able to share uncomfortable truth. Read "Radical Honesty" by Brad Blanton to do that. Or watch his YouTube videos. One can not dress up a weak guy as …
/r/seduction10/08/20 02:54 PM
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It all depends on the circumstances. Do what feels natural. Imho if you meet someone and there is good chemistry - why would you not go on an instant date, if you could have one?
/r/seduction09/08/20 06:34 PM
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Why don't you talk openly about the situation with her - I mean you said she is a close friend ... Ask yourself first what you really want and what the long-term consequences for your friendship would look like.
/r/seduction09/08/20 03:12 PM
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Don't go to a bar or club with her, you already made out with her and have her number. Have a coffee with her or do any activity were you can talk to each other. Something you enjoy.
/r/seduction09/08/20 01:45 PM
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It's 1/4 of your life ago. Treat it like that. You have grown/changed a lot in the mean time. If other people and that girl notice the way you have changed, they will treat it like a funny childhood story. Why should not they have some fun with something that happened so long ago? Also, there so so many other things, that are funny, weird and exciting - the story about you will get boring in no time, especially if you can laugh about it and are not intimated by the story. If nothing helps and th…
/r/seduction09/08/20 01:31 PM
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Monday morning You are riding your bike and see her approaching in the distance and get of your bike to push it. You are walking in the middle of the bike way to block it a little bit. She comes closer. You say in a loud, dominant but friendly voice: "Excuse me!" and you stretch your hand out like you needed something. She stops her bike and take her ear plugs out and give's you a friendly face with a big question mark on it. You: "That may be a bit unexpected, but I see you everyday in the morn…
/r/seduction07/08/20 11:34 AM
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It matters less what you say, when the other person is attracted/interested. But you can always hit some trigger points, that kick you out of that mode.
/r/seduction07/08/20 07:06 AM
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Doing it will probably feel different than you think - more normal. Also, turn the table: "Let's see if they are only pretty or also interesting to spend time with..."
/r/seduction06/08/20 09:04 PM
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If she were really out of your league she would not meet with you. Also, maybe you have just entered a new league. Anyways, don't put her on a pedestal, only time will tell how good she really is. Obviously, you want to face the situation and keep meeting her. No matter what will happen, it is a great opportunity for your personal development. Remind yourself of your own value - make a list of all your accomplishments and good traits if necessary. Make sure that you open up to her. The worst cas…
/r/seduction06/08/20 08:53 PM
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Went on an instant date, had awesome time and kissed me a lot. Planned the whole week with me but did not show up again. Why do you think that this has anything to do with daygaming as a method? Imho the same thing would have happened, if you met that girl through any other method, e.g. online dating. Statistics is really important. so just trying to see other people's experiences. I don't agree. You must look at the people who are successful. Take e.g. playing the guitar or lifting weights: 80%…
/r/seduction06/08/20 05:31 PM
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Why do you doubt, that some of your dates/ONS/hookups could not have been converted to a relationship? find out if it worth the effort as I have seen my wings are putting a lot and lot of time and effort in it. Achieving the ability to express yourself to anybody in any situation in authentic way is definitely worth it. Not only for your success with women but for your personal development in general. But mass approaching in a robotic way makes only sense to beat your approach anxiety. You shoul…
/r/seduction06/08/20 05:03 PM
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Forget the poll - arguments matter more than having random people vote on something. So let me convince you: Why shouldn't it work? After the first date, the way you initially met each other has not a lot of relevance. If two people, who are sexually and romantically attracted to each other, find themselves in any situation, there is always a potential for a relationship. Why should it be different? Your friend must be doing something wrong, or he is on the right track and just needs more approa…
/r/seduction06/08/20 04:42 PM
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To be honest, imho that is a perfect example of counterproductive pick-up-nerdism. And it will not even work in your favor: When you have a good interaction in day game, she'll expect you to ask for her number. That's the natural thing. If you don't ask, she will think, that you are either not really interested or too afraid to ask. Doing it that way is also a good test: If exchanging numbers is not even possible in a relaxed and natural way, without tricks and manipulation, then there is no pot…
/r/seduction04/08/20 08:32 PM
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Practice comes from interactions, even when they are not successful. You surely have some forms of sticking point. Trying again and again will help you to find out what it is and to eventually overcome it.
/r/seduction04/08/20 02:11 PM
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Hi, Imho you need a social circle of people in your age. It will be your best teacher in the field of social dynamics. It will allow you to closely observe how dating and relationships work and you will automatically emulate good behavior and avoid certain mistakes. Maybe you should try a paid dating site too. Women are more serious there. Also, keep in mind that your attractiveness has not peaked yet. The things you listed are a very good foundation! But maybe you will need some outlet/hobby to…
/r/seduction04/08/20 02:06 PM
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Hi, as a late bloomer myself I have an idea about how you feel. Still, the importance of virginity is to a large degree just in your head. 19 is not even old. And it's never too late to get better with women. Also, you have not even reached your peak of attractiveness. You probably will not feel better after losing your virginity to a prostitute, maybe even worse. It will not give you the experience you dream of. Better investment the money in cloth or a professional therapist, psychologist, who…
/r/seduction04/08/20 09:23 AM
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The goal should to be to be honest and humane. Hurting someone is sometimes unavoidable, but being inhumane (ghosting, lying, tricks, dishonesty) is much worse, because it confuses people and destroys their faith in humanity. Share your true thoughts with her like you did it with us in your posting, be calibrated but don't sugarcoat. Don't leave her in the moment that fowollows after your revelation, stay with her in this potential moment of sadness and confusion if she accepts and needs that. I…
/r/seduction03/08/20 01:18 PM
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What a great experience is lies in the eyes of the beholder. I e.g. find habitual traveling, drugs and promiscuity not that exiting. It is more about having something in common than having the same level of experience in a field. People who are passionate about the same thing normally click with each other. But that only works if this passion is genuine. You should also value the experiences that you already have more. A simple walk through the city and the park can be the most exciting thing fo…
/r/seduction03/08/20 12:52 PM
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What is the normal way to do it? The Answer varies depending on culture, subculture and age group. Ask someone of your background to get a clear answer. But you don't have to be normal, you can always do what you see as the right thing. You know your situation and your women the best.
/r/seduction03/08/20 09:20 AM
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don't put out too soon. The ones, who only want sex, will leave quite soon in most cases, the rest will be willing to wait. This also gives you the opportunity to find out whether you are able to have fun together outside of the bedroom and whether you enjoy each other's personality. your behavior determines, how you will be seen. If you behave like a FWB, you will be seen and treated like one. Behave like a (potential) girlfriend and you will be treated that way. express to the other person, wh…
/r/seduction31/07/20 01:09 PM
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I tried to convince myself that for some reason it was their fault, I complained about the girls, when I met some friends the same night and soon forgot about it. And even back then, I thought that everyone involved would forget about it quite soon, as so many weird people roam the nightlife ...
/r/seduction24/07/20 11:46 AM
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Hi, your story reminds me of Georg Fraberger, an Austrian psychologist, who was born without arms and legs, but managed to be successful in life, to marry and to start a family. IMHO you should study his case. Of course, your situation is different, but I think you can draw inspiration from his story. He once said in an interview, that he met his wife via Online-Dating. You could also contact him, he is an psychologist after all... Wish you the best!!
/r/seduction20/07/20 02:17 PM
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Watch this and read her book. You don't have to agree on everything she says, but I'm sure there are some aspects, you can draw inspiration from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sv6vr5Zlezg
/r/seduction09/07/20 03:36 PM
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The adult way to do it is to tell her what you offer and want in an polite, respectful but honest way. You don't have to do it before you meet. Both of you should have the chance to experience each other in person before deciding anything. Sometimes such a conversation will not be enough. A lot of women are not able to take responsibility for their behavior. Skipping women like that is not only the moral thing to do, it will also keep you out of trouble. I personally am not interested in one tim…
/r/seduction08/07/20 12:37 PM
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This women is not suitable for a casual sexual relationship. Even if she wanted to her socialization/upbringing is too strong to make it happen. She will always expect something more serious to come out of meeting you. You just bring her and yourself into trouble. The cultural difference are too strong and you risk getting problems with her family. Imho move on.
/r/seduction08/07/20 10:00 AM
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/r/seduction08/07/20 08:23 AM
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Why wouldn't there be hope? Don't compare yourself to other people to much. First girl everything went great You should we that as a big success. It's a numbers game. Giving up is not an option. Wish you the best!
/r/seduction08/07/20 06:01 AM
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Go to a cloth store and ask for advice there, tell them the exact same thing you posted here. Ask them to put an outfit together for you. Don't be afraid to try a lot of stuff out without buying anything. Also, keep in mind that your cloth should fit to the type of women you want to attract.
/r/seduction06/07/20 05:21 AM
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Still a better strategy than doing nothing ...
/r/seduction05/07/20 08:12 PM
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Movie: The 40-Year-Old Virgin - I don't want to spoiler. But for me the core message of the movie is that the fear of others finding out your unpleasant secrets is worse than the actual revelation of them. If you reveal your weak side, things will worsen in short-term but become better in long-term. Keeping secrets can avoid the unfolding of necessary dynamics.
/r/seduction05/07/20 08:09 PM
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There is a lot of variation from guy to guy, therefore communication is key. Also, establish trust: You do that by emotionally opening up, sharing your honest thought and by helping the other person to do the same. Trust and communication is the basis of a healthy and fulfilling sex/love life. Don't ask random people on the internet for advice - directly talk to your partner instead. He knows best what he needs and you know best what you need. You both are the ingredients of your unique experien…
/r/seduction05/07/20 07:55 PM
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Hi, it's good to have friends, that look better better or are more attractive than yourself and are more sucessful. It challanges your self-perception and reminds you to build your identity on something deeper than looks, apperance and material accomplishments. You also can learn from them: They will know a lot about style and have interesting insights about life, you only can get from such people. No matter how good you look, there will always be someone, that looks better. Even the best lookin…
/r/seduction28/06/20 06:51 PM
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People look at other people for all sorts of reasons. Most of them are irrelevant or positive. Often we provoke people to look back at us, when we look at them first. Even when strangers in public take note of us they are not really concerned with us, we are just one indivdual in a see of people. They are mostly concerned with their own life. How I handle it: When a strange person is looking at me, I subtly nod my head to greet them and smile in a way that is friendly but also keeps a respectful…
/r/seduction28/06/20 06:15 PM
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Nothing. The male part is being active. You are the Bee, not the flower.
/r/seduction25/06/20 08:07 PM
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The danger of acting like a weirdo is always there if you try something new in the social sphere, yes. But it's about trying things out and finding oneself. If you act weird you will notice it sooner or later and change your behavior - trial and error. Also, the seduction community improved a lot over the last years and for the most part moved away from artificial techniques and pretending to genuine social development. Some of the aspects of the meme hold some truth, but it would be too general…
/r/seduction24/06/20 01:43 PM
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Funny meme. At least he is active - that will make him move forward and he will sooner or later overcome all his weird quirks and misinterpretations.
/r/seduction24/06/20 01:06 PM
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That's just negative thinking. A guy can find someone and improve his social skills at any age. I know a guy, who lost his virginity at 35 and now is in a happy relationship. I also know a guy, who is in his late forties and learned in his early forties how to be more extroverted and have big social circles. It's never too late to reinvent yourself. You're only too fare gone if you decide that you are. Change take effort and is sometimes painful. But it can be done. Face your inner demons. Why s…
/r/seduction24/06/20 08:32 AM
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cold approach = technique abundance mentality = mindset shotgun principle = strategy
/r/seduction24/06/20 07:25 AM
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Increasing your chances to instantly click with someone by talking to a lot of people.
/r/seduction24/06/20 07:11 AM
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honesty + directness calibration + politeness shotgun principle
/r/seduction24/06/20 07:00 AM
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Imho you probably should try to get more out of your head instead of trying to hold a certain frame. If you are too much in your head while being in social situations, you loose emotional connection to the people you're with. Also, one, who analyzes everything in a social situation, is to slow to take part in the spontaneous flow of a conversation, because interactions can be so quick and dynamic. Embrace they way you are now, filter less what you want to say and put yourself out there!
/r/seduction24/06/20 06:13 AM
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If you try to live a consistent life with clear values and goals, you will automatically develop a corresponding frame over time. Don't wait for the perfect moment and your perfect mental condition. Work with what you have right now. In which situations do you think you lack a strong enough frame?
/r/seduction23/06/20 08:20 PM
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radical honesty by brad blanton
/r/seduction21/06/20 07:17 PM
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To resolve this contradiction you have to understand how different the approaches to women and relationships are. There is the pu-approach, that is mainly focused on results. And there are other approaches, who focus on authenticity. They are about quality of relationships not quantity, getting relationships that are deep. This means giving up control to create depth in the relationships. Showing vulnerability belongs to the second school. By showing vulnerability you intentionally risk losing t…
/r/seduction21/06/20 08:46 AM
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Most guys drink - and don't approach. You have to drink too much to overcome your fears and at this point you often don't know what you're doing anymore. Of course, it works to a certain extent, but it comes at a high cost and will not help you to develop your personality and overcome your fears permanently.
/r/seduction14/06/20 09:07 PM
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Imho bad idea. You will smell of alcohol. After doing that you will think you need alcohol every time you're are too afraid to do something.
/r/seduction14/06/20 08:42 PM
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Progressive conditioning. Approach strangers ask for time/directions -> Approach strangers ask for time/directions and give a compliment before leaving --> Approach strangers, give compliment and leave -> Approach women, give compliment and leave -> Approach women give compliment and start a conversation, where you ask for her number and a date. Voilà ...
/r/seduction14/06/20 07:38 PM
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Imho you should save your virginity for a women, your in love with and in a relationship. But if you have sex with her, tell her. You will be able to open up much more, when the cards are on the table. Ideally, she will help/"teach" you. You will be able to enjoy it more that way. A women who has feelings for you in some way, will probably not reject you. And if she does, she is not the right girl to have your first time with. Also, being rejected because of virginity will hurt less than being r…
/r/seduction12/06/20 06:29 PM
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The only way i've got results none less is by going in places where girls don't receive too much attention. That's the key. Are you talking about places in real life or online? Could you elaborate a bit?
/r/seduction11/06/20 08:18 PM
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Really funny - I could imagine that as a scene in a comedy movie. It could work for early teens, when there is high attraction and they do it in an ironic way. But it would be totally ridiculous for adults.
/r/seduction11/06/20 11:44 AM
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Thank you for your effort! I do not agree with everything, as it is to be expected. But it was an interesting perspective, I can draw inspiration from.
/r/seduction11/06/20 07:43 AM
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What I wanted to say is, that you should treat your feeling of depression/frustration independently form your issue with women: Having a women in your life does not make you feel happy automatically You can live a happy an positive life without a women in your life. I'm just a guy on the internet, I can not know in detail what's going on in your life. Therefore you should seek professional help by a qualified person. Don't give up hope!
/r/seduction11/06/20 06:27 AM
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You need some kind of outlet to express your emotions - like playing an instrument, drawing a picture or expressing yourself by writing a long text. You could write a letter to your ex - you don't have to give it to her if circumstances do not allow it, you will still have an outlet for your emotions. Wish you the best!
/r/seduction10/06/20 08:47 AM
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Don't go for it. What you are missing is not only the sex but also the intimacy and (loving?) human connection - an escort can not give you that. Also, having sex one time only will make your craving only worse.
/r/seduction09/06/20 08:46 PM
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lack of self-awareness + lack of empathy and understanding/calibration for social situations + being self-centered = creep Edit: Sometime will people will experience you as a creep, even when you are not because of a social misunderstanding.
/r/seduction09/06/20 01:51 PM
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In a healthy circle of friends everyone will get attention. After the guy in the green shirt has finished his talking point the girl in the black leather jacked will start talking and everyone will look at her.
/r/seduction09/06/20 12:28 PM
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This. IOIs are overrated. Many women who are interested after you have approached them don't send visible IOIs before that. IOIs do not always mean she is really interested - e.g. she can do it to just get attention or to make someone else jealous.
/r/seduction09/06/20 11:06 AM
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I'ts only good if it's already a part of your personality, have good social skills and there's is some attraction/connection. If these prerequisites are not given, it will make you look weird and feel unnatural to women.
/r/seduction09/06/20 10:29 AM
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The priority of losing one's virginity is mostly a male thing - if a women is attracted to you she will not care. I know guys who lost their virginity in their thirties. You should see a professional therapist to work with you on your psychological issues and stopping to hate yourself. Once you feel better you will have a different outlook on life. Your feeling of depression/frustration is probably less causally connected to your issues with women than you think. There are men out there, who are…
/r/seduction09/06/20 09:54 AM
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yes
/r/seduction08/06/20 07:37 AM
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We live in an age, where everything is viewed in a materialistic and mechanistic way. Everything is analyzed in it's parts. But love and real connection does not work that way - and you seem to be looking for love and real connection. Such relationships are not easy to create, but still possible theses days. You seem to have a very mechanistic conception on people and how their interactions work. Imho that is harmful. We are more than our interests, looks, behaviors, our character traits etc Eve…
/r/seduction08/06/20 06:29 AM
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Everything you do does make you boring to some people - and interesting to other people. But in general people, who love what they do, are perceived as interesting. Follow your passions and talents, this will bring you the most success in all areas of life in the long term. Don't do something you don't like, just to impress someone.
/r/seduction08/06/20 05:09 AM
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How is your relationship to your mother? Do you have a sister? Any bad childhood experiences with girls, e.g. bullying? Progressive desensitization through exposure could work. But if it's really that bad, I guess, the best thing would be talk to a professional (therapist) about it in person.
/r/seduction07/06/20 05:40 PM
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I will come naturally. The more you are among people and girls the more relaxed you will become. Don't worry.
/r/seduction07/06/20 05:14 PM
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Do you really question your character because of that one situation?
/r/seduction07/06/20 01:39 PM
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Remind yourself that you want to exercise the same right in other situations, where you are not attracted to a girl. That's exactly the same thing. Response: Walk the path of honesty and authenticity and tell her what you really feel. (In a calibrated and polite way) Good women will be able to appreciate an honest guy. Also, letting your true emotions out will help you to deal with such situations. And you never have to waste time on strategizing about what to say. Also being more direct at the …
/r/seduction07/06/20 07:02 AM
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Two guesses: Maybe you never had large enough dose of social desensitization, where you talk to all kinds of strangers, not just women you attracted to. You still feel other people judging you all the time - social freedom exercises can help. You could also get a wing that pushes you across your boundaries ... Maybe your not authentic enough. A part deep inside you longs for more authenticity and therefore rejects everything that is too much fake. This could manifest in a block. Be (more) direct…
/r/seduction06/06/20 09:41 PM
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I try to be the contrarian here and show you the advantages of smaller places: women will tend to be less corrupted by all sorts of vices - more potential girlfriends and wives less celebrities and opponents therefore your value will be perceived as higher more nature so it's easier to do interesting activities with women (assuming you were raised at that place) you are native to that environment and already know how everything works There's no activities to find people. There has to be somethin…
/r/seduction06/06/20 08:01 PM
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I hear you too. Have a nice day, wherever you are!
/r/seduction05/06/20 08:46 PM
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Working out a situation is the best case scenario - if want to stay in contact with that person and working it out is possible. Of course it is better to leave a bad situation, compared to doing nothing. I just argued that many people walk away too often and that one should not walk away without confronting the other person in order to give them a chance to react. Of course, each case must be evaluated on its own.
/r/seduction04/06/20 02:17 PM
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I depends on the context of your personalty and appearance as a whole. It also depends on the amount of cynicism and sarcasm and the person you are talking to. People with high vitality, idealism and a positive attitude towards life will not like high levels of cynicism and sarcasm most of the time. Don't try to change your personality to be attractive. Work with what you have. If being cynical and sarcastic is who you are keep it. If not don't try to be.
/r/seduction04/06/20 09:22 AM
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Are theses women on the same page as you? Did you tell them, that the encounter is all about sex and nothing more? If you did and they agreed, it is ethical from an humanistic viewpoint. It is not be ethical from a conservative viewpoint though. I all depends on the details and the ethical standards you apply.
/r/seduction04/06/20 06:29 AM
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Text doesn't convey emotions very well and comes with a great potential for misunderstandings. Imho you should have switched to something voice based a lot earlier. You still could try that.
/r/seduction04/06/20 06:24 AM
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I can't give you a general rule. You have to look at each situation holistically and individually. OP's examples are quite good - but one has to ask oneself why one want's to walk away. Is it a way to avoid conflict? Is it honorable to walk away? It also makes a difference whether you walk away with or without explaining yourself. I think it's fair to tell people, who are/were in a certain relationship to you (friends, partner), what's going on. Speaking your mind is quite liberating, compared t…
/r/seduction30/05/20 05:51 AM
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Hi, I try to inspire you: be less judgmental: You don't know the qualities other guys have and you don't know what kind of men is needed by an individual girl. Attraction happens on so many levels - you can not know what makes them click for each other. Use the following mindset: "It's not about being good enough for someone, but about being right for someone!" You don't need the women of other guys, they are right for each other. You don't need them, because there are women who are right and pe…
/r/seduction29/05/20 08:43 PM
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By being in one's mind, theorizing about the current situation, one loses presence in any interaction. Women will just say what's on their mind without any deeper thinking while one grinds every word through a machine of pu theory. Don't do that. Try to be present. Theory more often hurts than it helps. Desensitize yourself with social freedom exercises: (only do it in a somewhat big city) E.g. go to a popular square where many people can see you. Dance and wave your hands around in a crazy way …
/r/seduction29/05/20 03:46 PM
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Okay, now I get what you are saying.
/r/seduction29/05/20 02:28 PM
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You want to enjoy the process of getting to know a girl and not just the possible success. Lying, manipulating and overthinking spoils this fun. If you are a self-aware and proactive man, who knows his values, standards and goals, you are immune to "shit test" and you forget about them.
/r/seduction29/05/20 02:10 PM
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Sometimes women will be interested without giving signals. Or is the attraction is created by you approaching them. One should not wait for signals as a permission to approach. I agree most people are not ugly but average - attractiveness follows normal distribution - a lot of more or less average people and only a few "super models" and "ugly people". An average guy has great potential but has to be proactive to manifest it.
/r/seduction29/05/20 12:29 PM
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You just see what you want to see. There are so many people, who are single for years or their half/whole life. You should be more grateful for what you have. You seem to only compare yourself to others, who have more - but no matter how much you have, there are always others, who have more. You can never be happy with this approach. Be grateful. I sense passivity in your posting - "women come to others", "girls tell me..." , "I receive very little attention", etc In all this sentences women are…
/r/seduction29/05/20 10:04 AM
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How many inhabitants does your city roughly have?
/r/seduction29/05/20 04:59 AM
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Did you use direct or indirect game?
/r/seduction29/05/20 04:55 AM
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Hi, heartwarming posting! But I'll be honest with you. Also, keep in mind that I'm writing this from an culturally western perspective, so there might be other things to consider in your culture, that I'm not aware of. I think you should not wait til her birthday. If you want to ask her out, do it in person as soon as possible. It's almost one month til July 25th - so many things could happen in that time. If she is attractive she'll probably have several other chances within that time frame. Th…
/r/seduction28/05/20 04:58 PM
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Are you talking about indirect day game?
/r/seduction28/05/20 10:35 AM
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(I'd be way too conservative for that, but that's not the reason why I don't recommend you to do it.) Don't do it, this person is too close to your marital relationship. If you have a threesome with a person not as close and an unpleasant dynamic unfolds, you can just cut this person out of your life or not see them for some time. But you are in big trouble when something goes wrong with a person that close.
/r/seduction28/05/20 08:34 AM
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Walking away is a powerful tool, I agree, but it's only good when used in the RIGHT situations! I smell immature alpha fantasies when walking away is praised too much. narcissistic people walk away too often, when their inflated ego gets hurt people who are afraid of conflicts walk away too often people who are too weak to endure unpleasant situations and have no discipline walk away too often people who are not able to discuss and work something out walk away too often shy people walk away too …
/r/seduction28/05/20 08:19 AM
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My list is ridiculous - but you only criticize one of my points (watching porn)? I never said that one should drop social media completely. You miss the point of this thread, it was not about friendship.
/r/seduction26/05/20 07:23 PM
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Don't try to control your facial expressions and body language. It's not really possible, unless you are a professional actor. Micro expressions and mirror neurons will always overrule all your efforts. And even if by some miracle you were able to fake body language, that would portray you as more "alpha" than you really are, it would not be helpful. It would just be in-congruent and create false expectations you can not fulfill. Don't think about body language and facial expressions. If you cha…
/r/seduction26/05/20 01:42 PM
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Do a social warm up before you approach: Ask five strangers for directions or the time try to start small talk with three strangers e.g. about some products in a store or the weather - the topic does not matter. Hold the conversation for a few minutes. after that warm up approaching will be a lot easier ...
/r/seduction26/05/20 01:17 PM
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Imho one should take some time to process what has happened when a relationship is over. But, of course, it's your decision. Then at least take a guy, that has some theoretical boyfriend potential and qualities, and not some player, who just arouses you only on a physical level.
/r/seduction26/05/20 01:06 PM
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Why don't you look for a real relationship? If you have a lot of casual sex your ability to form long lasting relationships based on love and commitment is at risk. It can numb you. It can distort your views on sex and the ideal partner. This is just the ultra-short version of warning ...
/r/seduction26/05/20 10:10 AM
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in the generations of our fathers and grandfathers almost every man had that ability. It's not something special that is limited to rich people and models be a social guy - be part of a social circle of social and cool people. You will automatically imitate some of their behavior without thinking about. stop watching porn completly reduce the time you use digital devices (smartphone, PC etc). It will automatically increase your social abilities reflect about your values in the fields of sex/wome…
/r/seduction26/05/20 09:21 AM
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Glad I could help!
/r/seduction25/05/20 09:17 AM
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Don't prepare a private phone call. It does not work that way. People and situations are unpredictable - especially women/girls. If she is in a slightly different mood to what you have expected, all your preparation will be useless. It's about reacting to the chances for topics, that spontaneously arise and establishing emotional connection. It's not possible to prepare for that. If there is connection between the two of you, it will not matter what you talk about. And if there is no connection …
/r/seduction24/05/20 09:17 AM
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Could you elaborate your take on him?
/r/seduction20/05/20 06:19 AM
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No, this community did not fuck you up. You just used it the wrong way. A lost of advice here is not about strategy/logistics/tactics but about genuine self-development. You just read the wrong posts and believed the wrong people. It was you, who had a fixation on strategy/logistics/tactics - you can not blame this on the community.
/r/seduction19/05/20 01:58 PM
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What aspect of dating scares you? How old are you? It will be easier to help you when you are more concrete. Some Ideas: Maybe you should socialize more in a general sense. Maybe socialize with more groups and individuals on a platonic level first. don't call it a date, make it about the activity. "We will have a coffee together". Originally dating was just an american thing - many cultures did not know about it Try speeddating to desensitize you and to get used to the situation of a date. verba…
/r/seduction19/05/20 12:51 PM
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Your value as sexual partner is not determined by your sexual experience or your physical abilities. What matters in the eyes of people, who approach sex, love and life holistically: ability to open up and open your heart, ability to love, ability to be honest, ability to show vulnerability, ability to verbalize your wishes and feelings, ability to listen and be emphatic. You probably already have a lot of theses abilities. You just need to recognize your own value. If you know your own value, t…
/r/seduction19/05/20 11:09 AM
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Thx for your long response. As you can imagine, I agree with some aspects and disagree with others. I will think about your arguments. I enjoyed talking to you! Best wishes!
/r/seduction18/05/20 03:03 PM
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"building skills/hobbies/physicality" takes days/weeks/month. His social freedom exercise can be done within one hour. It's a good reference experience to have to show yourself that nothing to bad happens when you do stuff like this and to care less when other people judge you.
/r/seduction18/05/20 07:06 AM
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Years ago I was going to a bar alone. I was in a very shy mood but eventually could force myself to approach a table with two girls. The girls explained in a slightly bitchy tone that they are not interested in talking to me as they are old friends who have not met for a long time and want to talk to each other. My social skills were not that high back then and I did not want to comply to their commanding tone and hold frame, that's why I had the idea to just stay at their table and look in a sl…
/r/seduction18/05/20 06:58 AM
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A certain amount of strategy and "manipulation" is a normal part of human interaction. Put imho the dose of strategy in PU-advice is far to high in many cases. I want my interactions to be as honest and spontaneous as possible so I can enjoy the process and not just the result. This also is allows me to filter out people that are not really interested in me and don't have my vibe. It saves my time and their time to use it for people where there is real connection. Imho being direct/honest will n…
/r/seduction17/05/20 09:16 PM
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Hi, Why don't you write what's really in your heart? What you could write: "Yes, call me up when you are back. Maybe I have a wife and three kids at that point in time, but I like the idea of us getting a second chance ;-)"
/r/seduction17/05/20 07:49 PM
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they seem to be reacting differently to what I anticipated them to, each and every time That's what real interaction is about. If you come from a place of total honesty and spontaneity instead of a strategy to have a certain result, you can enjoy it more. Also, you need less energy and time to overthink everything.
/r/seduction17/05/20 07:29 PM
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Women tend to prefer experienced men, I never doubted that, this was not what our discussion was about. But you were wrong on the preferences of men: men prefer virgins even on a biological/evolutionary level: If a male has sex with a virgin the chances that he is the father of the child is the highest. Also, females only take the best males they can get and reject the others. Therefore virginity means that she has rejected all other men up until now, that means she has high genetic value. A lot…
/r/seduction16/05/20 01:32 PM
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Our approach to sexuality is completely different: Your approach seems to be mostly about pleasure. Mine is about love, deep connections, spirituality, sensuality - that's why I can value the sensibility and "pure heart" of inexperienced women. The literature of traditional cultures around the world is on my side btw. Modern people are not balanced, they are confused. That's why there are so many incels and catladies ...
/r/seduction16/05/20 09:30 AM
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Statistics show that most people stick with their own race. How come that many men who outwardly don't fit the "chad" stereotype have girlfriends then? Why are there other 5'5 men that have attractive girlfriends? Because there are other aspects that can be attractive in a men. This guy was born without arms and legs and still got a wife: https://bilder.bild.de/fotos-skaliert/georg-fraberger-und-seine-frau-susanne-42211065-38759290/3,w=1280,c=0.bild.jpg
/r/seduction16/05/20 09:08 AM
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Women will reject you and every other man for all sorts of reasons - your height is just one of many reasons. You can never be perfect and you don't have to. Accept rejection as a part of life. Most women would reject most guys. Move on. Be proactive an create chances to meet women til you click with someone. The rejections before that will be irrelevant then.
/r/seduction16/05/20 08:51 AM
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Keep in mind that the original poster asked about a "classiy and nice vibe". Expressing to much sexual confidence, "a shit ton", is definitely not a feminine and contradicts "appearing vulnerable". It depends on what your goal is - most men prefer women with no or little sexual experiences as life partners. You have all the time to explore her sexuality with her. I associate "laser eyes" with people who have that know it all attitude and are very rational - that is masculine. "Lack of insecurity…
/r/seduction16/05/20 08:35 AM
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A lot of this traits are masculine and contradict each other ...
/r/seduction16/05/20 08:00 AM
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It all depends on what kind of guy you want to attract. In case you want to attract quality men: dress modest but feminine - ladylike, not slutty; don't show to much skin and don't dress too sexy don't try to compete with men embody the female principle (being nurturing, receiving, not being dominant) be nice, friendly and open in conversations - but don't give your sexuality to him too soon don't curse read advice for women written before 1968 - you don't have take everything, but read it as an…
/r/seduction16/05/20 07:58 AM
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Imho trying to get her fired is much riskier than your scenario. Toxic people are in every work environment. You can not get rid of all of them, their replacement might be worse. In many cases toxicity is connected to a certain role in the workplace, so the new person will just take over the toxicity. In most cases it's better to just become immune to the toxin. One should stand his ground, take up his space and not be afraid of fights - but you should not provoke unnecessary ones. Also, many wo…
/r/seduction16/05/20 06:32 AM
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If it's not possible to make peace with her, ignore her as much as possible. Rumors about everyone are present at every workplace, but intelligent people will not take them too seriously. Gossip serves the gossiping people as a way to bond to each other and as entertainment. Stories about you are just a small fragment in an universe of gossip - they soon will get boring. If you behave like a normal person, a cool, friendly and competent guy, everyone will know that you are. You should always hav…
/r/seduction16/05/20 06:11 AM
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IMHO your calculation does not make a lot of sense, as you can not know how much weight someone gives to each variable. Also, there are many other variables: shared life goals, shared sexual preferences, shared values, age, financial status etc You took my example far to literal - I just needed it to get my argument across.
/r/seduction15/05/20 02:19 PM
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It's hard to guess how relevant your disadvantages are without seeing you ... Everyone has a chance. Nobody can be sure to be successful. There is no guaranty. Almost everyone has disadvantages - some of them a very small, some of them are big. But there is no point in putting your focus on them - focus on your goals instead. Self-pity may seem justified in some situations, but it's just harmful, pointless and will get you nowhere. That's the hard truth. This guy was born without arms and legs a…
/r/seduction14/05/20 11:33 PM
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That can happen. But many girl eventually learn to value personality. Bottom line: Scenarios of swipe dating are not relevant for guys who approach girls IRL.
/r/seduction14/05/20 08:12 PM
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I’m hoping that they bought my confident act. Why is that important? You wanted to introduce yourself and you did it, that's what matters. Sensitive people will probably notice insecure micro-expression, but you don't have to be confident all the time to be liked and accepted by other people. In many situations the most confident thing to do is to accept that you are not as confident as you want to be in that moment ... The fastest way to become confident is to forget about it and proactively go…
/r/seduction14/05/20 10:36 AM
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You have the wrong mindset. Interacting with other people should not be rationalized that much. It's about spontaneity and being in the moment. Just say what's on your mind. Filter less.
/r/seduction14/05/20 10:26 AM
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So looks don’t trump personality, but they need to be on the same level of attractiveness to have a chance. This is contradicting and if anything this proves my point even more. What I wanted to say is, that even in the worst cases scenario you can get a person on the same level as you. I never wanted to say, that that you need to be on the same level. Maybe I did not express my self well ...
/r/seduction14/05/20 06:33 AM
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Hot = masculine physical/character traits Cute = physical/character traits that have a softer/feminine/boyish aspect Every man has some soft/feminine/boyish physical/character traits and that is not a bad thing. A lot of the most attractive people have a few feminine or androgynous traits. But as straight man you should strive for more than just cuteness. Maybe your friend gained some muscles, lost some weight or changed his behavior into a more masculine direction - or he just got older. In man…
/r/seduction13/05/20 11:53 PM
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Your Hypothesis: I'm not sure whether there is truth to your hypothesis about height and attractiveness in women. But I have a different hypothesis: We value genetic traits in other people, that are different to our own. People with dark eyes/skin often prefer light eyes/skin and vice versa. As a short guy you value the genetic trait of height in women and it's possible to see this trait in the face of a women. Height: There are short guys in happy relaitonships, that are satisfied with their bo…
/r/seduction13/05/20 11:27 PM
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Your personality will most likely be good in her eyes if your looks are good. Not in the long run. Not for people who have fallen for pretty people with no personality in the past - people are able to learn from their mistakes. Why do you think when an ugly guy approaches her or does something awkward it’s creepy but when a good looking guy does it she thinks it’s cute? Good looks inflate personality. I don't doubt that good looks inflate personality, but you said that looks ALWAYS trump persona…
/r/seduction13/05/20 10:57 PM
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Self-aware people with some life experience are able to have the realization that they like someones look but not the personality of the person or vice versa. looks always trump personality I don't think that's the case. It's more like a certain amount of physical attraction is a prerequisite for attraction as a whole. But if you are above this threshold in the eyes of the other person your personality can compensate a lot and be the decisive factor. Guy A: Looks: 9/10 Personality: 6/10 Guy B: 7…
/r/seduction13/05/20 10:38 PM
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What I consider advanced level in sex like threesomes, BDSM etc I consider something very different as "advanced level in sex": connecting on a heart and soul level to another person, to bond and join with your partner opening up to another person and show complete honesty and vulnerability to discuss all problems in your sex life in an open, adult and emphatic way with your partner to have a good long term sex life while being married and having kids to love your partner all-embracing Any drunk…
/r/seduction13/05/20 03:21 PM
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Being a player or wanting to be one is not a good thing. It's something immature. It's even in the word itself - he just plays instead of forming meaningful relationships with (a) women.
/r/seduction13/05/20 11:21 AM
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So you want to filter out the ones that a really interested and you don't even try to take her number, right? It helps you to filter out the lukewarm girls and to make more approaches - this would explain your increased results. How do you manage not to take her number, when you give her your number?
/r/seduction12/05/20 02:00 PM
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"Make them chase." A lot of feminine girls will not do that even when interrested. E.g. shy and sensitive girls. And it's an eternal principle that the masculine chases the feminine.
/r/seduction12/05/20 01:46 PM
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normal healthy body, no work out + a little belly fat - nothing hideous about it. But you will look and feel better when you work out. Do it for yourself, not for the girls.
/r/seduction12/05/20 01:01 PM
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Option one is more natural, because you give a reason why you need her number.
/r/seduction12/05/20 12:28 PM
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Any method has its pros and cons. Pros of cold approach: it's always available and you can do it anywhere highest number of available people it's fun and creates good stories, even when you get rejected you don't need a social circle you can meet women that are younger and hotter than you, who would never swipe on tinder no hangover/lack of sleep like in club/bar game it can be integrated in your daily life less competition than in any other method you can develop authenticity and honesty, if yo…
/r/seduction12/05/20 07:15 AM
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I recommend you two books: 1: How to Win Friends & Influence by Dale Carnegie 2: Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton The approach of each book is very different. This will allow you to find a middle ground and create your own perspective ...
/r/seduction08/05/20 05:01 AM
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Go to a cloth store, tell the shop assistant about your date and ask her to bring you appropriate stuff ... Try it on, visit several stores and you will develop a feeling for the right items ... Just buy what you like and need in the end ... Buy nothing if you already have everything you need ... A good style depends on many details (fitting, combination of color and texture etc) ... there is no quick fix via the internet ...
/r/seduction07/05/20 11:16 PM
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but I can come across as weird sometimes I bet you come across as even more weird when your drunk - you just don't care in that situation ... Alcohol does not come with a magic that makes you eloquent - it just relaxes you. Practice telling the truth: You don't have to be impolite but try to tell people more and more what's really on your mind, even if it's provocative or confrontational. This will automatically make you more relaxed and probably funnier. But the truth is you don't have to be fu…
/r/seduction07/05/20 10:59 PM
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If a topic or question is intimate depends on the context - the time your saying it and how you say it. Of course the person your talking to matters as well ... The keyword is calibration ... Why don't you just ask what is really on your mind in a calibrated way without strategizing?
/r/seduction07/05/20 10:34 PM
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Getting into the socio-political is interesting when done for its own sake. In the context of meeting women it is just an excuse to be inactive in most cases. Before you can save society you have to take responsibility for your own life and save your self. The only way to find out how women react to you and if they like you is to interact with them in real life.
/r/seduction07/05/20 02:38 PM
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Your question is so unspecific that it will be hard for other people to help you. You need to give context. If you tell what your sticking point is, people can give you a specific and helpful answers.
/r/seduction07/05/20 01:57 PM
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Hey! Sex should be something built on trust, honesty, intimacy and love. How can you create such an environment without telling her the truth? You cant't! If you tell her, it will create closeness and she will understand why you act inexperienced and she will be able to "help" you (e.g. show you how a certain position works) and answer all your questions ... and she will not expect the sex of an experienced guy ... You will enjoy the sex more if you don't have to hide your inside ... Also, you w…
/r/seduction07/05/20 01:01 PM
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It might be depend on age and "culture" but try to text as little as possible. Text is bad in transporting emotions - especially in our overstimulated world. Phone calls are thousand times better and more sexy. Hearing your voice makes a completely different experience. Phone calls are more binding and intimate as well.
/r/seduction27/04/18 11:37 AM
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Critical Thoughts: "Change your body language (take up space)" You can not simply change your body language. Micro-expressions matter and you can not fake them. A faked "alpha" body language just makes you incongruent. Try to have a good posture by hitting the gym instead. "Take fast action (don't hesitate to approach her)" Good tip. "Be curious (try and learn 2-3 things about her)" Good tip. "Don't put her on a pedestal (realize she's just a normal girl)" The guys who need this tip will probabl…
/r/seduction14/02/18 11:29 AM
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"How to get over disgust?" Live on a farm or for some days. "how to get over others annoying me" Tell them to fuck off – maybe in a more polite way ....
/r/seduction29/05/16 09:21 PM
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Was not a joke! I was serious!
/r/seduction29/05/16 09:16 PM
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Watch the movie "The 40-Year-Old Virgin"; I think it will be inspiring to you, and you will view "virginity" different after that!
/r/seduction29/05/16 08:08 PM
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"Is there a way to talk to girl that can possibly lead to sexting ??" Yes, there is a way: "I'd like to sexting with you!"
/r/seduction29/05/16 05:09 PM
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What answers to you expect? Some girls will care about your height some don't and will reject you for other reasons. You'll only find it out if you talk to the girls. If you see a girl you find her attractive but she is taller than you – would it be wise not to talk to her for that reason? You have nothing to loose by talking to her! Rejections are a normal part of life and nothing a man has to be ashamed of!! Don't wait for some involvement in the future, life is not a computer game, you don't …
/r/seduction29/05/16 05:06 PM
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Don't try to change your facial expression – that often leads to faking it. I think facial expressions can't be faked – what really matters and creates people are the micro-expression. Don't try to smile or any other bullshit exercise – do what makes you happy, your facial expressions will adapt automatically. A person who lives a social, authentic and fulfilling live has the corresponding facial expressions without taking care of it.
/r/seduction29/05/16 04:16 PM
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