How do I improve my eye contact while talking to girls?

Marus1 · 2020-05-26T12:39:26+00:00

maybe start with small conversations. family, other people. if you can maintain eye contact with them, then try small groups of friends (mixed if possible). if you get confortable talking to other people (not girls), you will have only a few issues talking in group. girls is just the final step then

urmomisahoe12 · 2020-05-26T12:32:41+00:00

Don't think about it. It will make you more nervous and you will definitely look away. Maybe practice with some vids on YouTube.

aggarwalhardik · 2020-05-26T13:30:54+00:00

Maintaing a direct eye contact can be a bit intimidating at times, especially when you are already having a tough time to do so.

Next time instead of directly looking into the other person's eyes, look at their forehead. Just around the middle of the forehead, slightly above the junction of the eyebrows. Basically, maintain eye contact with the third eye.

It's not as intimidating and other person gets the perception that you are maintaining a direct eye contact.

Liberaler · 2020-05-26T13:42:14+00:00

Don't try to control your facial expressions and body language. It's not really possible, unless you are a professional actor. Micro expressions and mirror neurons will always overrule all your efforts.

And even if by some miracle you were able to fake body language, that would portray you as more "alpha" than you really are, it would not be helpful. It would just be in-congruent and create false expectations you can not fulfill.

Don't think about body language and facial expressions. If you change your life and thinking, they will automatically adapt. Be social, relaxed and do sports - over time you will automatically have the body language and facial expressions of a social, relaxed and fit guy. And it will be real and fit the rest of you.

Get out of your head and accept the way you do eye contact at the moment ...

exodeadh · 2020-05-26T20:35:47+00:00

Stop jerking off for 30 days. Laser eye contact.

effervescent_e · 2020-05-26T17:58:36+00:00

When someone is genuinely interested or listening, you naturally don't look them in the eyes, you look at their mouth. If they're talking and you're not confident about looking in the eyes, try this. I do both at work and socially . Switching between mouth and eyes

BegginerGamer · 2020-05-26T19:07:53+00:00

What helped me a few years back is eye contact training videos on YouTube. On the computer it gets way out of proportion so do it on your phone.

I did it for like 1 hour throughout a whole week, and that ‘fixed’ my eye contact

Kinopua · 2020-05-27T04:45:21+00:00

Make sure you focus on one of her pupils one pupil only, the key is to have your face ultra relaxed, relax your eyelids, relax your forehead and shoulders and breathe deeply.

You want to look as relaxed as possible when making eye contact. Otherwise you'll look creepy. Practice in the mirror.

cyrahhhhhhboy98 · 2020-05-26T14:36:35+00:00

Look at them?

food4lifer · 2020-05-26T16:44:10+00:00

I learnt this one trick, look into the left eye for 5 seconds look into the right eye for 5 seconds the look at her nose for like few seconds to break away then repeat.

2020-05-26T17:13:32+00:00

This might be pure horseshit but it's just something I read here once and it's always interested me:

Basically the guy was saying you have no problem checking out a girls ass/tits etc because those are the parts which attracts us the most.

This guy would look for attractive features in their faces to help keep his eyes focused on the girls.

Tldr: Just start fapping it to pictures of girls faces and then your eyes will be naturally drawn closer to hers 👌.

rawbi01 · 2020-05-26T17:50:08+00:00

Look at the bridge of her nose, she will think you are making eye contact.

gbnz87 · 2020-05-26T22:53:47+00:00

I never did it because I was shy. It just comes with time and you have to keep pushing yourself. If someone is truly beautiful to you why would you want to look away

Xazax310 · 2020-05-27T15:07:05+00:00

I don't agree with most the "tricks/tips" people here provided. Eye contact stems from confidence within oneself. If you have a problem looking women in the eye, it's because your lacking self-esteem. That's where you need to start. Build up self-esteem and confidence within yourself. There is not "get confidence quick" its something that's a slow process takes years.

putcoolusernamehere · 2020-05-27T21:46:08+00:00

Rather than looking dead into their eyes, look at the spot on the base of the nose between the eyes. It appears the same to them, but it's way less difficult.

Title	How do I improve my eye contact while talking to girls?
Author	ajmalAJ
Upvotes	38
Comments	22
Date	May 26, 2020 12:22 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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