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I hear that if you go naked in your next meet-up whip-cream on all your private parts works wonders.
/r/seduction28/10/22 03:58 AM
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Just say, Im not interested. It’s that easy. I’ve said to this girls before. It made them nuts about me. But it was the honest truth.
/r/seduction30/09/22 07:42 AM
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Freehotsexmilfsfreereallyitsfree.com
/r/seduction06/09/22 06:13 AM
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I did the last courses RSD ever did. Waste of money. I’m talking $3000 worth too not including hotel In NYC. Wasn’t cheap. Talked to Tyler himself he was intense in after field reports but I felt I like got zero worth. I could go clubbing by myself than these go and have done more.
/r/seduction11/08/22 06:32 AM
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If say jus go strait for ducking the ass. She was already interested OP.
/r/seduction28/07/22 06:07 AM
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Dumber indeed
/r/seduction28/07/22 05:57 AM
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They are no dumb questions only dumb people. Girls will look at you, smile, be close to you, that’s there interested signal.
/r/seduction23/07/22 04:37 AM
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Can I ask you a question?
/r/seduction07/07/22 05:43 PM
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Give this man a medal 🏅
/r/seduction03/07/22 04:54 AM
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Ask Stephen king your a great fiction writer like him.
/r/seduction09/06/22 05:34 AM
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Why not run up to her and do a dance? Work for birds of paradise.
/r/seduction02/06/22 05:24 AM
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Sounds like he should write romance novels or I guess playboy magazine articles.
/r/seduction22/05/22 06:36 AM
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Mini golf or go-carts, amusement parks etc
/r/seduction02/05/22 12:28 AM
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First I thought you were dating this girl... you're not even dating this girl? Its not a red-flag because your not even at step one. Stay away, do your work, be nice to her at work, leave it all at work.
/r/seduction18/02/22 04:21 PM
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Good heartfelt read. Rare to find on this sub anymore.
/r/seduction15/01/22 05:28 PM
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Yes.
/r/seduction13/01/22 07:17 AM
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Excuse the paragraph I'm about to write, but hear me out. Back in 2019, I met a sexy, blonde girl at work. She was sweet, had tattoos, sex was great, enjoyed my time with her. I wasn't even sure how I landed this sexy girl. I was wholly inexperienced for a girl like this. Having only 1 GF and a couple of lack-luster ONS. Needless to say my inexperience along with anxiety, lack of confidence, I only dated her for 2 months or so before she ended it. This leads to me to "Tyler Duden" Aka Owen and J…
/r/seduction11/01/22 05:03 AM
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If you have a crush on this girl you should made the intentions that it was a ‘date’ very clear. She just thought it was a friendly hangout obviously.
/r/seduction16/11/21 10:52 AM
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Like I said up to the individual girl.
/r/seduction06/11/21 03:56 AM
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You just defined double standard. The way you put it YOU don’t want her to sleep with other dudes…. While you can sleep with whomever you want? I mean this can be a thing I’d your straight up with the girl However that’s up to the girl to make that decision, I doubt she’s going to feel the same way… ever. Only the really insane needy ones may ever entertain this idea.
/r/seduction06/11/21 03:24 AM
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Ah so your so a psychopath who doesn’t want any intimacy.
/r/seduction04/11/21 05:13 AM
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I would say if a women is pretty needy I don’t think you’d lose attraction but she may start texting you or expect a text from you. Which may deflate her or question if you like her.
/r/seduction25/10/21 03:40 AM
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Fake it until you make (it) out… the then get laid. Honestly I think the biggest problem is people can’t read other people’s emotions/facial expressions(read the room). So they say stupid, insulting, or blunt things which turns the girl off, not realizing they’ve done so. (Same with doing game in routines).
/r/seduction20/10/21 04:19 AM
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Also know as mark Manson says the feedback loop from hell.
/r/seduction12/10/21 05:54 AM
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Mmm the problem I see with this is they say to “approach random girls” to be real you to be approach EVERYONE. Old ladies, guys, girls, whatever. Say something like a compliment. “Dude awesome shirt!” Etc Because talking to people isn’t a skill that only get you laid by women it’s a skill that needs to be there 24/7 and I still struggle with this. That’s where I think the dating books are wrong.
/r/seduction10/10/21 11:20 PM
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Exactly. Why do you even give a fuck OP?
/r/seduction10/10/21 03:04 AM
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You confuse long-term and short-term prospects for dating. It’s never ok to lie to girl “because the ends justify the means” You communicate your interested in whatever if they ask you. If they say “I don’t want that” fair enough move on to a girl that does. It’s not hard to say “I’m just looking for something causal” take it or leave it.
/r/seduction08/10/21 04:31 AM
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My real question is this some one you really wanna deal with? She flakes you know this from work, she flaked from the date. Like you really you wanna deal with a girl that you never know if you go out a date, she’ll flake if she met you at your place, etc. sounds like you’ll do more work getting her to even meet at a single place let alone get intimate with. I’d say keep moving on my friend.
/r/seduction03/10/21 04:59 AM
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I mean yes and no. I see your point but idea of “making mind getting laid” basically makes you a guy set on a singular pursuit. You should be 100% yourself as you said and having fun the idea of “getting laid” literally has nothing to do with anything your out doing.
/r/seduction29/09/21 06:15 AM
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No Amazon affiliates link to your book? How can I buy it?
/r/seduction02/08/21 02:39 AM
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No mommy?
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:12 AM
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Women and friends say "Just be yourself!" but the truth is you need to be confident in who you are. Confidence is gained... not magically. This is done doing, what you said, building skills talking to people(not just women), working out etc.
/r/seduction02/07/21 04:30 PM
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Or I know this is controversial but actually talk to a girl face to face whom you don’t know.
/r/seduction02/07/21 05:43 AM
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Hahah what a sorry story. I met a stripper…. Then did nothing. Yep great! Dude stripper are people persons… they interact with strangers all day.
/r/seduction26/06/21 01:52 AM
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I’d like to caveat the “never invest more into a relationship than a women” is actually never invest more into a relationship than the woman is investing into the relationship. Too many men are needy so when the ‘found the one’ they do every to keep her because of being fearful. Rather than accepting them as a human being, enjoying there own life, advancing themselves. Your idea of ‘treat every women as replaceable’ is flawed. Every ONE including woman is different. That one you really like for …
/r/seduction11/06/21 11:35 PM
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Have you asked her out yet?
/r/seduction08/06/21 06:43 AM
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I laughed thanks.
/r/seduction27/05/21 07:07 AM
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Step 1. Tell a girl your really rich Step 2. Take her out to expensive places. Step 3. She’ll see your a shallow fuck only about money and dump you. Step 4. Buy a hooker. Seriously bro. Soon as you “flex” your money your a douche. No ‘normal’ girl will respect that. It’s good that you have money but just be cool with it.
/r/seduction15/05/21 03:36 AM
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Talk DOGE and GME to girls and get laid?
/r/seduction13/05/21 04:33 AM
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If a girl locks eyes with you. More than once. Definitely go talk to her. Interesting interaction but as soon as she started testing you “go talk to that big girl” you had it right “she’s not my type” but then did it anyway? Wtf bro. Just keep to your original stance. I would come up with a witty retort. Shame. Shame. Shame. Has a name! going home with the girl you didn’t care for only speaks to your shitty ego to make yourself ‘feel’ wanted/desired/not be alone.
/r/seduction26/04/21 03:18 AM
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Totally agree! Be direct polarize the girl (as mark manson would say) but ONLY AFTER you created some rapport or talking for a bit. I’ve had 50/50 with walking up to girls “hey I think your cute” right off the gate.
/r/seduction22/04/21 03:11 AM
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It’s really just that, an idea. Most people take it as gospel here... no it’s not Just try it. You can do however you want some girls will tell you they have husbands or BF just by talking to them.
/r/seduction21/04/21 02:05 PM
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That’s basically what I’m saying....
/r/seduction21/04/21 02:52 AM
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How do you not get emotionally attached to a girl? Simple, it’s called being a psychopath. If you have emotions well guess what champ? Your a human. Every girl you met you have some feelings for, some more than others.
/r/seduction07/04/21 03:54 AM
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You are correct Events have changed. about long distance, It was something I did out fear being alone, lack of choices, and novice of never dating.As of 2020 I’ve been growing. Currently have a GF we met right before corona and we live together. She’s pretty head over heels for me, I keep on with my life, goals, and doing fun things together.
/r/seduction19/03/21 01:47 AM
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Sorry to hear, it sucks. But look back on it, see if she said anything about her past that may have given a clue. Once a person cheats(guy or girl) they will always rational themselves to do so, even in a new relationship. Coronavirus has killed the dating field, so I feel you there. Hope you took this time to look upon yourself and improve there. Read Corey Wayne 3% man or Mark Mason's Models. Both are great books that helped me in the dating field.
/r/seduction16/03/21 05:38 AM
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Bullshit. That because the people you date or accept into your life are shit. The people you date are terrible and invest too much into. You see all the red-flags and ignore them. Then when in inventable fails "Dating sucks, its emotionally exhausting". Set higher standards. Only KEEP dating those that fit those standards. Sure meet someone go-on a date or two to learn what thier about, but if they don't fit your standards move on. You have to BE OK with yourself, confident, and understand that …
/r/seduction16/03/21 05:33 AM
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Me: "What was the favorite part of your trip?" You: "I loved all of it!" Me "Great!" You asked a goddamn question and got a goddamn answer and now confused about how to move the conversation? make a statement instead, or an open ended question. "You must have done scuba diving on your trip, I'm a big scuba diver. I've taken classes back in France!" (example)
/r/seduction16/03/21 05:23 AM
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Read Corey Wayne 3% man. Sounds like your just not touching them, being the man leading them, or escalating. Just 'listening' to them and their problems or stories.
/r/seduction16/03/21 05:19 AM
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Make sure you bring consent forms for touch and sex before the date and videotape the sex too to ensure consent was 100% to avoid any legal actions(sarcasm).
/r/seduction16/03/21 05:17 AM
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Take her out on something YOU THINK is fun. I personally enjoy physical activities that involve you two doing something together. Hitting Golf bars, go-carts, Fairs, etc. in the end it's doing something you enjoy or maybe never tried and you want to bring her along.
/r/seduction16/03/21 05:11 AM
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Give Corey Wayne's 3% man a read too. I did the exact same thing, I looked back upon my past(high-school crushes etc) and writing down what I thought that day. it's crazy how much of mind was spent thinking of last girl I dated! (If I did this, maybe I should text her this or that, and so on)
/r/seduction16/03/21 05:03 AM
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She can't hold eye contact you with because of something else. Something in her is not confident, scared even of herself. Body language is extremely important. People in general(not even talking women) are 'too nice' and will say nice things to not make a person mad, some just hoping the person goes away((if they dont like them). reading body language, how they react, eye contact says a lot. there body language reflects their trueself, what they feel NOT what there mind says they SHOULD DO. Henc…
/r/seduction16/03/21 04:59 AM
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w00f
/r/seduction16/03/21 04:53 AM
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Reading your very first sentence, attractiveness being too enticing/interesting others into your orbit, is incorrect. That's Charisma or "vibe" you put off. Confidence, being fun, etc. Your simply confusing attractiveness with Charisma. According to the dictionary " (of a person) appealing to look at; sexually alluring " is attraction. if you're not physically attractive not matter how much you try you cannot "become" a 10.you can improve your fashion, look clean, find your right look, but that …
/r/seduction16/03/21 04:49 AM
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I’ve taken “Tyler” pick-up courses the last one he ever did. It was a total crock of shit. He was an interesting guy but I could definitely tell he wasn’t “all-there” as a human being I believe he states himself he has some Austim and it shows. The course was a joke. Packed NY club trying to “game” women. I couldnt even hear my over the music and the mass amounts of people. Never spent another dime on them after that. What helped me the most wAs 3% man by Corey Wayne and Models/subtle art of not…
/r/seduction24/02/21 11:41 PM
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I very much enjoy that you state, "only how YOU ACT" this is true in everything in life. You can only control your emotions, actions, and life. You cannot dictate to others or control other people, you throw yourself out in the world and receive it as it is.
/r/seduction14/12/20 06:09 AM
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Disagree, if you find the girl attractive go for the number. Snapchat is acceptable too, but honestly, if you're being direct ask for the #. my current GF I met, I didn't ask for her "snapchat" (which she has) but directly for her # which she gave me. and setup a date few days later.
/r/seduction14/12/20 05:45 AM
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I don’t get why you didn’t just say... exactly what you wrote??? “Hey that took some guts to spit game on me, I’m very impressed! However your not my type of girl.”
/r/seduction01/12/20 10:15 PM
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I’m going out on a limb here and say this doesn’t make you more attractive to woman. Being honest with your insecurities is just being honest with yourself. Using this doesn’t make you attractive to women, but it shows that you understand yourself rather than hide it. In reality is called being a human being.
/r/seduction14/11/20 04:33 AM
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Awful advice. Intimacy should be done when both are feeling it, hard to explain, but if you shy away from it for the sake “I want I know her better” is really dumb. Once you share the intimacy it can continue and both you will learn about each other. Shutting it off only makes(in this case) the girl feel unwanted even if your honest with her it’s higher morale ground for no realistic reason.
/r/seduction09/10/20 12:09 AM
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I’m not telling people to measure their success simply change their idea of what “success” means to them. You’re pretty much spot on there.
/r/seduction02/10/20 11:51 PM
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Stereotypes of men, coming from cultures. The idea of conquest is as much a lure to men in any form women, business, politics. Hence we end up with shitty value and shitty ideas of what success really means.
/r/seduction02/10/20 08:13 PM
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One thing I'd love to point out, that you did correct, was you took into factor the SOCIAL situation! Many guys when approaching or learning, are inherently obviously of the social situation hence they come off creepy or awkward. My only caveat, not knowing nothing about the situation much is her age...
/r/seduction23/09/20 06:08 PM
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My two cents on this is, i think it’s fine for a girl to approach a guy, ask them out... or say they fancy you whatever. But it should be then the guy that leads and furthers the interaction if he accepts. Such as making a firm date, being the male and leading. I actually me and my GF had dinner with her coworker and her husband. this was the exact thing how they met in college. She asked him out. They’ve been married for 17 years now. Again I’m going to say the year 2020 doesn’t matter... women…
/r/seduction14/09/20 08:54 PM
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Pointless. It was a gaggle fuck of about 7-8 people, 5 students about 3 "PUAs". I was expecting to approach women, maybe have them help out or they watch and correct me. None of that happened. We walked around aimlessly trying to go from bar to bar(sometimes not getting in). When I did approach or talk to girls none of "PUA" teachers were looking, watching, or helped at all (I did really well with some approaches). They didn't wingman me. We were just told to "build an Instagram following" and o…
/r/seduction03/09/20 04:12 PM
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Disagree, the book is a good read as long you don't take it seriously. It's a great insight into what many guys right now face, similar to niel strauss. They do "PUA" because it like "magic" rather than work on themselves(inner game) they can be interesting, charming, unique (in the front end) however even as Niel soon realizes, they become "social robots" just copying him and other PUAs to get results with women, validation, or lays(back end still same shitty person). I was hesitant to read it …
/r/seduction03/09/20 12:27 PM
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So I've had this exact experience. Great looking tatoo'ed blondie at a bar showing me a lot of IoI's. I work up some nerve, approach her(while she's grabbing a drink). While talking, again lots of IoI's (smiling making strong eye contact) I say "I think your beautiful"(being totally honest) the look on her face was disgust as SOON as I said that(I knew i fucked up). I asked her to join me for pool, said no thanks. Lesson was, girl LOVE to be called pretty/beautiful... BUT ONLY AFTER you made a r…
/r/seduction18/08/20 03:30 PM
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The key is a different position, gotta find what's comfortable for you... even then it's not 100% if you're REALLY wasted.
/r/seduction18/08/20 03:23 PM
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People said to start of with girls you’re not necessarily attracted to in order to get over any social anxiety, and so I did just that. I'm sorry you listened to such terrible advice. If you read Models, Mark Manson even says DO NOT DO THIS. Other's will tell you the same. The reason is you're not being honest with those girls and yourself. When we’re in bed together, and she says it was love at first sight. How the fuck am I supposed to tell her she was a “practice round” for me? You tell her E…
/r/seduction14/08/20 02:07 PM
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I believe it's called AMOGing.
/r/seduction14/08/20 02:00 PM
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True, I'd like to point out as well as I've seen on this sub "1 year cold approach challenge" is absolutely stupid. While talking to random girls does help improve your ability to talk, it's about the quality of the interaction... not that your approaching 5 different girls every day for 1 year. Also, I think there's not wrong with letting her know you're attracted to her. "Hey, your cute, I liked/want to get to know you" as long as your body language, and like you said eye contact shows it, it'…
/r/seduction14/08/20 01:59 PM
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Because you see, prejudice is unfortunately a thing. Women based on their culture and upbringing are taught to be prejudiced I mean to disagree, While culture plays a factor, it's not prejudiced, it's based on choice and what you find attractive. I see lots of attractive Indian women, Asian's, Latina's etc. But being a white dude, the only girls I want to date are white girls, it's just my preference and choice. ​ However, I DO agree you have to "play in your market". Find the types of girls tha…
/r/seduction12/08/20 03:55 PM
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Just your assumption, Gym's are public spaces, I've talked to and approached girls in the gym, even with them having headphones in. Just like walking up a girl in a coffee shop, park bench, some don't want to be bothered others are fine with it. You have to talk, be direct, don't waste your time(or theirs if they're not interested).
/r/seduction12/08/20 01:37 PM
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This only happens two ways. 1. You ask for her number(rejections or not) 2. She asks for YOUR number. That’s it. Giving your number to a girl is just avoiding the rejection feeling. I’ve heard of suggestions such as “let’s keep in touch what’s your number?” Or “let’s exchange phone#” But it’s all the same. If she’s interested she interested I’d not move on.
/r/seduction10/08/20 11:51 PM
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I mean my point exactly, we're all fucked up.
/r/seduction03/08/20 11:51 AM
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Not all women bring it up directly. This girl may have already hinted to it but the guy could be clueless on it.
/r/seduction03/08/20 11:43 AM
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Basically here's how I've been seeing dating and life in general. Attractive girl - You approach/talk. She's receptive or not. IF receptive, you ask her on a date. If the date goes well and she seems your type. You keep asking her out. After a couple dates/spending time together you grow comfortable with eachother. Now you start getting into the deepness of a relationship between a guy/girl. This is where most relationships break-up/fail Either you continue seeing each-other or it doesn't work o…
/r/seduction03/08/20 11:00 AM
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Read up on Mark-Manson's "Backwards-Law" also his Disappointment Panda. General Idea, the More you chase something, happiness, Girls, Wealth, Power, the more it will elude you.
/r/seduction28/07/20 02:05 PM
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Why don’t you do more “practice” dates with not-as-pretty girls? I personally took some of this mindset, went on dates with girls I wasn't really into at all. I can tell you, it doesn't fucking help one-so-ever. If you don't find her attractive, there's no duality, the date feels boring, even having sex or kissing was a challenge because I honestly didn't want too with them. Stick to girls that you find pretty, attractive, the interaction is far better and emotionally feels better.
/r/seduction24/07/20 05:56 PM
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Make friends?
/r/seduction21/07/20 02:12 PM
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"Hey, I know this is a bit weird but I followed you over to this subreddit to say I think you're cute." .... get the point? You'll literally get nowhere with that, besides being outright creepy.
/r/seduction21/07/20 12:32 PM
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"I have BF"
/r/seduction21/07/20 11:45 AM
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Agree and disagree. I disagree, Kissing on the first/second date is important. I agree Reading the interaction is important. In the OP's example, he failed to build tension. The worst part was he kissed her cheek/forehead. That's a big no-no. That signals weak/needyness. ​ In your example, she expressed interest(touching/playful) in you but you took this a kiss signal(incorrect). This is simply a signal that she likes you. The kiss signal should be you two close, looking into each others eye. Sh…
/r/seduction21/07/20 11:31 AM
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​ I gave her a goodbye hug and tried to kiss her but she said no so I just kissed on her cheek and forehead Don't do that again. It's known as the "Kiss of death" You basically went for a kiss got rejected so you kind of weirdly kissed her cheek and forehead(She turned away). THESE ARE BODY signal she wants to escape. I wouldn't be so hopeful for a second date. Sounds like she doesn't see you as a dating partner. She may have been polite because you were just standing there for 10 minutes waitin…
/r/seduction21/07/20 11:22 AM
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That's typically a signal, but most guys might miss it because they'll shy away. It took me reading some dating books/forums (i grew up very sheltered) to notice that When I see a girl, we will look at each other in the eyes, the girl will smile, smirk, then look away. That's a dead give-away she's interested I can approach.
/r/seduction21/07/20 11:08 AM
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I totally agree, but I do want to point out this involves actually going out! You need to have fun by yourself, explore, do variety things. Not solely for picking up women purposes. You met her at some party. Seems most guys are shut indoors and expect online dating to somehow solve all this for them.
/r/seduction21/07/20 11:02 AM
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You're thinking too literal about "women jumping on your lap..." That's not exactly what this means. Letting women come to you is about being your best-self. You are not chasing after women seemly at random, placing them above your own life and self. The problem many guys have is that they meet a girl(date her) she becomes his "everything". The idea is to consume yourself in something bigger, and by that virtue the women will "come to you". You still have to do the approaching/talking/initial da…
/r/seduction15/07/20 12:24 PM
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Don't ever do that, that's even worse than ghosting. That comes off as weak, needy, and beta. He already sent her a text asking for a date, she never replied, said and done. Move on.
/r/seduction15/07/20 12:09 PM
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While I agree with everything said, at this current time, it's going to be impossible to "rock climb with a group". I personally wanted to go to NYC in a nice suit to some clubs take some pics etc, but that's out the window till next year at least. There are still things you can do to help improve yourself, just any sort of social thing is kind of out of the picture till things settle down with the Rona. Most bars/clubs are allowing you come in but you can't talk to other groups(stupid as shit) …
/r/seduction15/07/20 11:54 AM
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Gotta ask after 365 days of this (Btw are yo going to approach on Holidays like Christmas too?) what exactly are you hoping to achieve? I read a few of your posts by now... you're just a social robot. Have you just thought about least by day 46... living your life? Rather than approaching every girl you see at random, if you actually fancy them(you find them attractive/your type) approach and talk. while just doing normal daily life stuff (going to gym, getting food, going shopping etc) Talk to …
/r/seduction13/07/20 01:28 PM
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I'd argue out of all the stupid RSD shit I watched, and "PUA shit" also read the "The Game" by Neil Strauss (styles). That Mark Manson's "Models", "Subtle art of not giving fuck" and Corey Wayne's 3% Man did more for helping me with women and my life than anything else.
/r/seduction09/07/20 11:01 AM
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This depends on culture. Here in America, if your a 25 + year old dude living with his parents (and your not going to Doctor/Lawyer school) then yes it's seen a negative. Women want to see that you're independent, responsible, and a functional adult. Living with your parents can be seen as that your not mature, functional, still living with "mommy and daddy" girls don't want to date a boy they want a man. Not to mention it's kind of hard to get sexy time on the couch or even in your room... with…
/r/seduction08/07/20 05:08 PM
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Agree with the Facial expressions/Body language. Any bozo can learn "routines" and be interesting (See Styles/Mystery) but It's something I've been picking up on lately has been facial expressions. Oh and it's not "autism" that guys can't read facial expressions well. It's just that guys don't pick-up on this stuff like women do. Women since there young girls, have been reading faces and learning. They're more tuned towards emotions and expressions. Boys are more interested in Logic and reason. …
/r/seduction08/07/20 02:09 PM
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Don't do this as a first few dates thing. Only do this after you two have gone out and gotten comfortable enough with each-other. Most girls would love this "dangerous" or different aspect with sex. Again really depends on the girl.
/r/seduction06/07/20 01:39 PM
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The question is not, can you fall in love with someone? The question is can you love that person unconditionally, freely, because you love yourself. Love is freely given and received, thus cannot be coerced, forced, or bought. When you don't love yourself or bash yourself, you'll start running into problems in a relationship. "Is he cheating on me?", "Why Doesn't he pay attention to me, I'm worthless", you'll always be in self-doubt that will just lead to a toxic relationship. IMHO, You have to …
/r/seduction01/07/20 02:31 PM
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I'm going to criticize you here, you're being dishonest with her and yourself. For context, I have my skincare down and know what i'm looking at but I went up to her and played dumb BOOM GENTLEMAN Got her number and it only cost me 17.50 for a moisturizer I didn't need xD If you have you're skincare down, why not approach her and just share your knowledge? I mean be funny about it "hey I know i look like a smooth baby's bottom here but may I recommend this for you?" Just my two cents. Honestly I…
/r/seduction30/06/20 03:10 PM
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I'm going to tell you this right now because a LTR with a girl isn't the same technique as hooking up, which is all you've done. LTRs the "pick-up" community fails miserably because they don't factor in what it takes; mental health of girls, some are hot but totally fucked up by past experiences. Do you really want to deal with this? Communication, Are you both able to communicate issues, problems, without it leading into her crying or running away from the problem. Family/Friends, She will intr…
/r/seduction26/06/20 11:54 AM
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My question is this. Should I be talking to her every day through social messaging? Yes, its ok. The idea is not become 100% dependant to where you're not making dates anymore. You're taking Corey Wayne's advice too literally. Watch some of his youtube. he even says That's ok to talk/text. The idea is to not give away your entire life, life story, to girls via text or phone. Have a fun, funny, or interesting conversation. Setup a date at some later date. Don't talk to girls for 1 - 2 hours becau…
/r/seduction09/06/20 02:02 PM
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IoI's are everywhere the hardest to spot are the one's when you're not actively talking to a women. You see her sitting a table or walk past each other etc. (eye contact, her checking you out, playing with her hair) But as others said the best IoI is just ask her out on a date. That's your best one. if it's a yes guess what? she likes you. If its a not well then she other things going on in her life or she's not interested in you. Move on.
/r/seduction09/06/20 01:58 PM
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I agree and disagree with your statement "Not yours but your turn" I agree Women, people in general, are never "Yours" you do no own them. However It's not really "your turn". That implies short-term relationship with a woman that ends because your turn is up she wants someone else. Untrue, You show up as yourself, give your love they can receive it or not and reciprocate it. Relationships might grow out(on both ends) or continue. Sorry to hear about girl cheating on you, that must hurt. I Think…
/r/seduction09/06/20 01:54 PM
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This goes along with women not having their way with you, walking all over you. If a women can have "her way" she won't be attracted to you because your not showing strength(alpha characteristics). But your basically spot on, that's the key.
/r/seduction09/06/20 01:47 PM
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Word of advice, something I learned when approaching, it's all about the situation(Location, time, place, what the girl is doing) to what you open them with and what you're actually feeling about them or yourself. Additionally DON'T SAY "EXCUSE ME YOUR PRETTY(beautiful hairs)" that's really bad. You say "Excuse me, what's the time?" "Excuse me, do you know a good place to eat?" Example: You see cute girl at the gym. She's listening music(headphones in) stationary just lifting weights or say stre…
/r/seduction08/06/20 12:56 PM
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Personally, I read a few think you're a bit insane doing this. Absolutely nothing wrong with approaching women, but really what's your goal? I can only offer up a suggestion, that may help you. It's body language. I would go to a bar and just watch guys/girls and how they interact. Before doing "thousand approaches in a year"(insanity that is) Cue in on what's the body language between the man/women. Women will give you "signals" that they want to be approached and talk to you. As you approach w…
/r/seduction04/06/20 11:25 AM
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Yeah maybe meet girls at comedy clubs lol
/r/seduction04/06/20 10:51 AM
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You ever tell her that? I always tell a girl “I don’t like that” if they’re doing something like playing on there phone when it’s supposed to be a date. Or they do something touch me(like flick my neck) I don’t like. You have to tell them.
/r/seduction27/05/20 05:35 PM
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Maybe that's your problem? You moved them from Texting to Snapchat and started texting there. IMHO I have Snap/Insta/FB and USE all 3 to chat with various girls along with texting. I've never had a girl "lose interest" because of talking on SNAPCHAT. Those things are not best to used(as you say) to communicate with girl. Those are best used to share meme's, post funny stories, Dog/Cats pics if you have one. Girls watch them and some respond to them.
/r/seduction27/05/20 05:26 PM
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I don't agree with most the "tricks/tips" people here provided. Eye contact stems from confidence within oneself. If you have a problem looking women in the eye, it's because your lacking self-esteem. That's where you need to start. Build up self-esteem and confidence within yourself. There is not "get confidence quick" its something that's a slow process takes years.
/r/seduction27/05/20 03:07 PM
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Up to you really. I always give girls who I've invited back and "F-closed" the option to leave or stay. I don't say anything to them but if get there stuff and leave that's cool. If they wanna stay sleep and cuddle, fine with me. Doesn't actually mean anything, if they stay. Some girls just like the physical connection after sex(makes them feel less slutty). Some don't care. Don't read into things too much.
/r/seduction27/05/20 03:01 PM
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Great article I read by Mark Manson (models) on his website about 7 different things to achieve life success (Not just in dating but life). My personal favorite was "What's your flavor of shit sandwhiches?". After going around doing the same as you asking various girls out(getting denied) cold approaching and not getting much, or having some serious nerve racking moments. Those are all Shit-sandwhiches we have to eat to get what we want.
/r/seduction27/05/20 01:28 PM
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Here's a few I've read, then actually noticed myself. Proximity. If a girl likes you/interested in you. She will put herself in your view or stand close to you. (mind you there has to be NO REASON for them to do so) They will face you when you talk to them (Face to face) and look you eye to eye. They're talkative around you(doesn't apply to all SOME women are shy). If you talk or text is lengthy conversation. Never one word answers. How fast they respond back to you, is indicative to how much th…
/r/seduction26/05/20 01:20 PM
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If you're a girl you shouldn't have to approach guys... that's the guys duty as a man to approach girls. That's just the problem with today's society. Lots of guys are brainwashed not too or even shamed about approaching women. There was an Ad "#me too" where the one guy saw a pretty girl and the other guy friend "shook his head telling him no, its not right". Like WTF. (Edit: it was a Gillette commercial) Best thing you can do is look pretty, go to social events, or try the cess pool of online …
/r/seduction26/05/20 12:28 PM
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Be mysterious is one I've been working/practicing on. I used to think you'd have to talk to them, give out information about yourself(without them ever asking). Now I learned to just ask question or make a statement about them get a conversation going. If they ask a question about me, then it shows interest. You basically let the girl figure you out slowly. Additionally telling a story or stories is a good way to show off certain things about you without needing to say "Hey look how awesome I am…
/r/seduction22/05/20 12:56 PM
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Doesn't sound like to me you did anything wrong my friend. If you were being week or needy she probably just tell you "We need space etc", but if you think she's being real with you then there's really nothing you can do. It's not the problem of attraction but the issue of what you want vs what she wants, almost nothing can change that besides herself. Keep doing you, pursue other women, go on other dates. If she decides to come back to you, great! If not well you enjoyed it right?
/r/seduction22/05/20 12:43 PM
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This is something when I was younger I didn't understand. I wouldn't talk about computers, cryptocurrency, History, etc because 90% of girls aren't interested in any of those topics and I thought I would just bore them to death plus they wouldn't understand it. Now its the reverse.
/r/seduction19/05/20 06:56 PM
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Kind of weird, but I get it, practicing does well. But honestly if you messaging girls on dating Apps, and so concerned about what you say to matches, that's a problem.
/r/seduction19/05/20 04:22 AM
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" If the other person isn’t interested, it will be made obvious. The conversation needs equal participation and enthusiasm. If they don’t care, move on. Don’t waste your time." This one throws me off more often than not, it really depends on the person. Two examples Girl I'm actively seeing responds fairly quickly to my texts. We mostly meme, send pet pics, and we'll ask each other out, she'll invite me out or ill invite her out. Girl I was seeing prior to this one whom ended it with me( and now…
/r/seduction14/05/20 02:01 PM
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DragonForce! All about heroic awesome shit.
/r/seduction14/05/20 12:57 PM
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Exactly.
/r/seduction13/05/20 11:16 PM
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There's actually a trick in "The Game" which is opinion opener based on Cologne. go out and dab a couple different cologne choices on your wrist. Ask women "what do you think?" Gives insight and conversation starter.
/r/seduction13/05/20 02:14 PM
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Because if I put “very hard things to change in your life to attract women” no one would even bother opening up the post. Human psyche is a bitch :)
/r/seduction12/05/20 09:54 PM
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Not to rain on your parade, but you're using the "magic" of photoshop, shitty ass Tinder, I'd assume lame PUA stuff to get these "Hot" babes which I'd assume they are as dumb as they come. IMHO, Muscle building is stupid. Heavy weights, deadlights, etc all lead to what happen to you. You hurt yourself because the Human body isn't really meant to do that. Diet, excerise, having a Lean, muscluar body just doing simple things like Running, Jogging, Push-up/pull-ups and sit-ups. You want to use your…
/r/seduction12/05/20 03:24 PM
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Yeah great vid, Love Zan Perrion.
/r/seduction12/05/20 12:59 PM
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Only thing I'd point out on eye contact, is very few people, let alone women will actually make eye contact with you. Say your walking down the street or just sitting around coffee shop, bar, park etc. If a women(say a pretty one) makes eye contact with you that can mean they're interested. I've tried making eye contact with some they don't even acknowledge me, while others will look directly at you and keep eye contact until(they look away). Some will make eye contact and give you a little smil…
/r/seduction12/05/20 12:50 PM
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I think the problem was you spent an hour. Was this all just questions/convo? Did you actually set-up a virtual 'date' with glass of wine etc. Personally if your just FT a girl, keep 15-20 minutes max! Unless your really connecting and having an amazing convo. However i'd still keep it timed.
/r/seduction12/05/20 12:20 PM
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If you idea of taking a girl out only includes "venues" start really thinking outside the box. I've been Face-timing Girls, build some rapport, trust, invite them to your place or just outside. you could do simple things like Invite them to the park for a walk(parks are still open) or Hikes.
/r/seduction10/05/20 09:32 PM
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That's two separate things. Girl you like(visually) so you approach. Or girls you like and she's giving signals to approach. But I'd have to agree it really depends. I've made eye contact with some cute blond while just walking the street and unless you react that instant(which i wasn't even thinking) you kind of SOL. I've approached quite a few girls however, at the gym, coffee shops, mall or bars.
/r/seduction04/05/20 05:38 PM
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This is not "push-pull" you're confusing that with what you really doing which is letting her chase you. Women want to chase after men they're curious about and are attracted too. Men should be on there path, mission, not reaching out to women all the time. Constantly talking or reaching out, This is a feminine trait. Men start the courtship then slowly back off and let her step it up.
/r/seduction04/05/20 02:21 PM
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Your mom's house lol
/r/seduction01/05/20 09:33 PM
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Immediately after saying this I will ask her name and introduce myself I would tweak this, Don't introduce yourself, and don't ask her name. Just talk to her as if she was your long lost friend. Let her ask for your name. If it never comes up during the convo it will when you ask for her #. This also avoids step 3 entirely. Step 4 should be 80-20 rule until its 50-50. You approached so talking 80% of the time until she's doing more of the talking. Don't be the interviewer... asked OPEN ended que…
/r/seduction30/04/20 12:20 PM
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What? What crazy lonely world you living in? Do you get compliments?
/r/seduction29/04/20 06:34 PM
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Thanks is all you need to say. Saying "thanks or thank you" shows you have confidence in yourself. The GIRL is flirting with you, if she's attracted to you she'll say "I like your shirt/shoes/sweater/hair" whatever combined that with other IoI's and that's how you gauge interest level. Try complimenting a person with low self-esteem, they'll reject it or think you're being sarcastic to them.
/r/seduction29/04/20 04:14 PM
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You literally just contradicted yourself in the same Sentence. My reason for not having one is not deeply rooted or anything. I simply dont like how I look in pictures That means you have some self-image issues. Trust me I struggled with the same I HATED pictures of myself for years of my life. It took a pretty big life change and confidence to learn to love to take pictures of myself, along with others, and post on FB/Insta etc. The thing is I don't do this seeking Validation(very key) many wom…
/r/seduction13/04/20 04:04 PM
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Have to agree, it usually 2-3 time being together(and having sex) you decide you like each other or not. It's perfectly fine to say "I LIKE this or that about you" but the whole "I like you" shouldn't be the first words out of your mouth to her.
/r/seduction13/04/20 03:35 PM
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on Point #2 Yes, women get hit on "Hey baby your beautiful" whatever. However I think the problem is most guys are just in it for pussy, not to get know the girl. Girls read this on there faces and smell it a mile away. I totally believe you should state your intent in the interaction, throwing a small "hey you look good" lets her know why your talking to her in the first place. on point #3, You know how many girls have ASKED ME "Hey how are you? (sign of interest) and it's perfectly fine to tal…
/r/seduction13/04/20 12:05 PM
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but I've recently been face-timing her out of the blue I want to say, that's very important. Most guys, including me, missed this idea or chance. I wouldn't call or face time girls I just got phone numbers from either online or in person. I'd only text them because I used to be worried "What If I'm bothering her?" "What if she doesn't pick-up" "If she ignores my call she doesn't like me". So I WOULD ALWAYS ASK "Can I call you?". While the idea is "nice" it's also not manly and not something you …
/r/seduction10/04/20 03:08 PM
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She's throwing herself on you. Take action. That's not a shit test, she's complimenting you fool! You can do a little Cocky/Funny but don't over do it.
/r/seduction08/04/20 03:56 PM
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Not entirely, I think when girls see you as high-value man, they are interested in what you think of them. Additionally unclear feelings(does he like me or not?) create that attraction and have her guessing. Girl I'm seeing has asked me this question a couple times, we've had sex multiple times, she's heavily into(attracted to) me. I'm always honest with her.
/r/seduction08/04/20 02:54 PM
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I actually have the same thing, girl I'm seeing... always keeps asking me "What do you think of me?" Just tell her honest truth. This girl has asked me a couple times now. What does it mean? -She's Qualifying to you -She's interested in you -You have a high value to her. Make sure to reverse that script too "What do you think of ME". If she compliments you heavily she's really into you.
/r/seduction08/04/20 02:41 PM
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Its not about being disrespected (if your dealing with that type of person... why?) its about respecting yourself, your desires, and what you want.
/r/seduction08/04/20 02:17 AM
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All correct points, but as others said your escalation windows of 3 months is a bit insane. You had a fear of rejection and awkwardness. It shouldn't matter, because according to YOUR OWN 3 points the girl isn't your priority. You should be keen enough to understand she's sexually into you when A) you invited her to the gym and SHE SAID YES(if she wasn't into you or a friendly lab partner she would of politely declined) B) If she's smiling at you, or laughing at dumb jokes you make. C) Her body …
/r/seduction03/04/20 02:26 PM
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I can’t speak for all but yes, you learn, date around various women continue learning, maybe you find one you really like and it works out or it doesn’t. I would think the end of goal of most people would be to not be alone the rest of there lives correct?
/r/seduction01/04/20 05:52 PM
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Sub is for seduction and learning skills with women so you can get and keep a good GF. Not becoming a PUA Guru.
/r/seduction01/04/20 04:59 PM
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Probably not. It's because 95% of PUA's do it not out of love, of women, they do it for selfish, narcissistic reasons. Most PUAs are "Cult leaders" trying to amass followers(look at RSD or ToddV)
/r/seduction01/04/20 03:27 PM
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Snap Video chat her and do as other said. Ask questions. Make Assumptions. Do statements and tell stories. You can only get so little across through texting.
/r/seduction01/04/20 02:53 PM
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This, you're just being the 'nice guy'... without even fucking her. Sorry man she's 100% using you. Stand-up for yourself and invite her over, start making out, and fuck her or just move on.
/r/seduction01/04/20 01:46 PM
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your asking us a question only you can answer? If you don't like her why you bothering. Additionally girls love to talk, about anything and want to be listened to. I enjoy when they talk about other guys to me because I can always turn that sexual. (How was the sex?) this will give you insight into how she may end up dealing with you.
/r/seduction31/03/20 04:05 PM
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Hey what an idea go back like it’s 2005... not like 100+ word messages can be communicated over a phone call... or some magic crystal ball that let's you see each other called "SKYPE" Nothing wrong with Emails, I exchanged Emails with my GFs, but it's not my primary source of communication. I think this post is absolutely silly.
/r/seduction31/03/20 04:00 PM
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It's because you're having subconscious thoughts such as "What if I'm not good enough for her" "What if I fuck it up and she rejects me" "What does a girl like that want with a lowly guy like me" You have to change those thought patterns in order to take the "attractive girls" off a pedestal. Basically you're a cool, attractive, dude talking to just another girl(she maybe good looking but who cares?)
/r/seduction31/03/20 12:22 PM
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I realized cooking and eating would not be the first date idea because there would be too much time spent on chewing, but since we talked a lot on Facetime, she and I were ok with it. What a strange thought, I don't get your whole "spend time chewing" lol? Actually the best dates are the ones you invite her over and cook for you and her. Next time have her help you cook the tacos or whatever food. ​ My back began to hurt after holding her for 2 straight hours Bro, it's ok to Let go. You don't ha…
/r/seduction31/03/20 12:11 PM
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That's all situational. Some girls LOVE to talk and will chat your ear off talking about themselves(providing you ask the right questions or make statements) other girls won't talk much at all you'll do a lot of carrying the conversation. Just how the girl responds. If her ask her a personal question does she ramble on for 5-10 minutes? Then let her do the talking. If not just talk about yourself a little or tell some stories. If this is cold-approach keep it short. 5 minutes max with a phone # …
/r/seduction30/03/20 01:10 PM
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If you have decent social calibration you'll figure this stuff out yourself fairly quickly. After starting down my own "picking up woman" journey, learning some Pick-up, etc. I can honestly say my successes as been all of my own simply because I WAS NOT being a PUA. Getting more social, taking risks, talking. All these programs(which I've also taken/bought) including watching Todd's stuff is just reinforcement. (FYI I don't think you can sell product on these forums)
/r/seduction30/03/20 12:24 PM
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99% of the women you approach, even if you sleep or start a relationship with them, won't remember what you even said to them when you first met them. They'll only remember the emotions, feelings, location. Honestly it took me a while but this holds so true. It really does not matter what you say to them. Look up at Ross Jefferies. He would say random shit to women and it would work. Only two things matter Did you approach? Was it a fun, interesting, or emotionally charge convo that pulled her i…
/r/seduction30/03/20 12:12 PM
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Sounds fine to me. You told her your intent( you want nothing serious) when she asked. That's all. You could always add a take-away "If that's not what you want/your thing that's cool, I had a great time with you anyway"
/r/seduction30/03/20 12:03 PM
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I feel like this doesn't help. I've always talked online but when it came to talking to people IRL I always fell flat. It took me years to be able to talk to strangers and another year to be able to approach and talk to women. The problem is your in a comfortable setting(your home) and no physical/eye contact. Which makes bullshiting or talking very easy. Add person into the mix... let alone a lovely girl all those online guys fall flat.
/r/seduction27/03/20 03:29 PM
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That was a long read about you still being a "nice guy" even though you say your not trying to be anymore. The very first time you talked and came up to her place, you didn't make a move, she thought into "well maybe he doesn't get it but I want him" Later she talking "I have this guy i fuck but he's not my BF" because shes trying to throw a MASSIVE HINT TO YOU. Additionally it's a shit-test, do you get bent out of shaped because of it or are you cool? Like others said with the phone thing. I ha…
/r/seduction27/03/20 03:26 PM
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I'd honestly just forget about it. Brush up on yourself and game. Wait till summer and go out. Not much a point of setup dates when you can't meet or lay them. Girls lose interest if its strictly text or phone calls.
/r/seduction27/03/20 02:09 PM
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It depends on the context. I've had girl say stuff like "I'm weird" to me fairly often. I just ignore it really. Other girls have "pretty complex". Where obviously bunch of guys hit on them and there good looking girls, but to themselves "they're not pretty". Some of it may just be qualification to you. They're just trying to qualify themselves to you. Other-times it serious self-image problem. Honestly I'd just ignore it unless they ask you. Then DONT LIE. Remember women think emotionally.
/r/seduction20/03/20 01:32 PM
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Moral of the story - She was doing her job, and indicated zero interest in you, she shook her head because she's thinking after you tried flirting with her "God another asshole" Second moral of story - you continue to push well after she rejected you and still asked for her #. The real moral of this horrible story should be You see a cute paramedic. I would applaud this story if you told her, "Hey, thank you for the amazing work/job you've been doing during this time of craziness", "If my heart …
/r/seduction20/03/20 01:18 PM
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Thoughts? It's not all women, but if they start ghosting you, it's because you're being weak, needy, and no longer a man. The best thing to do is go totally cold. Cut all contact and never see/reach out to them again. Through your OWN social media, post pictures/stories of you with friends, other girls, or just having fun. She will watch, if she still likes you. Women will reach out to YOU if they wanna continue anything. As a guy NEVER reach out to a girl to ask her back out. She will initiate.…
/r/seduction20/03/20 12:44 PM
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Agreed, Pretty much this. I think too many guys get stuck in the "conservationist loop" where they talk to a girl they like... then wait to see if they talk back... then keep talking because they don't want the conversation to end with the girl since they like her, but they're unsure if she likes him. How do you know if girl likes you? easiest answer "Lets go out for drinks/dinner". That's entirely your answer. If she agrees SHE LIKES YOU. If not move on. There is no grey area. Simply she's attr…
/r/seduction19/03/20 10:55 AM
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During the call did you ever purpose to hang out at your place or hers? In light of recent events I had talked to a girl from online. We were going to first time meet-up and go out have a drinks this Monday. But she's a nurse + other factors means our date got cancelled(Cock blocked by corona virus). I left it go. Yesterday I sent a snapchat to her she responded and I just video called her. We talked for 20-30 minutes back and forth, but I purposed for her to come to my place tomorrow during tha…
/r/seduction19/03/20 10:43 AM
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Didn't see in your post at all... not that obvious. but good.
/r/seduction18/03/20 02:20 PM
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I never let girls give me handjobs, they entirely suck at it, blow-jobs or pussy that's it. I can't believe you let that shit go for 30mins after like 5min I'd tell her to fucking stop it, you suck lol. FYI you should of just fingered her afterwards. you didn't reciprocate you made it all about yourself. Then got mad at her for not texting you back(super needy and insecure btw) and SAID SOMETHING TO HER ABOUT IT. Wow throw yourself under the bus why don't you. She'll never get back to after that…
/r/seduction18/03/20 02:15 PM
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Praise be! lol. wise words never truer spoken.
/r/seduction17/03/20 05:27 PM
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Your right, but the key element your missing is by leading, taking direction, and not playing into there hands. You're being a man. You're allowing them to be in there full Feminine. When you allow her mind to fully in the Feminine, women love you, things are easy, sex and kissing are easy. Be indecisive, very needy or clingy, weak and not looking them in the eye. Little to nothing will happen. This comes from my personal experience and grow.
/r/seduction17/03/20 05:22 PM
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I can personally say this subreddit, has never helped me, the one gold I found was a book suggested, Corey Wayne's 3% man. Here and there are good post, like this, but unless you actually talk to women and experience it, its lost here. I'm going to slightly disagree, it's probably semantics, but girl's don't "choose you". There an undefined law of attraction. Men and women have it. As David Deanglo said, (Attraction is not a choice) Sadly most guys don't notice this NATURAL attraction women have…
/r/seduction17/03/20 04:55 PM
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Yep. I’m a level 70 wizard.
/r/seduction16/03/20 10:55 PM
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Girls are giving off signals to guys all the time. Some more obvious than others. I've had girls STARE ME DOWN other times I'd make eye contact and they'll give me a short smile. It's pretty fucking obvious shes interested at that point. The goal then is if you think she attractive to approach. Girl's do not approach guys... defeats the entire purpose. Men lead, take actions, are bold. Women are receivers, caring, beauty.
/r/seduction16/03/20 03:50 PM
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Easy, because guys are stupid. 90% don't get the signals you're giving off to them. Most guys... and this subreddit is a prime example will just walk up to ANY GIRL they find attractive start hitting on her with the hopes of getting a number. To me I don't think there's anything wrong with this. You don't know unless you ask, but there's small subtleties , IoI's, that 90% of guy miss. these are an invitation for you approach a girl rather than taking blind dumb luck.
/r/seduction16/03/20 03:45 PM
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So far, I've never been on a date that didn't end up with something more(kissing or sex) and always on how I FELT about her(If I liked her or not). I'll never understand this guys that are so at the whims of the girls on dates.
/r/seduction16/03/20 12:51 PM
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It helped, but I've gone on dates without the social validation and still ended in lays.
/r/seduction16/03/20 12:48 PM
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So question is do anyone of you have sex with someone you're not physically attracted? This goes more for guys than girls. Guys will have sex with someone they are not physically attracted too, for various reasons, mostly because of our need for sex. Women will not have sex with guys they're not emotionally attracted too, even if physically he isn't the best looking. Personally I've done this twice, I can't say why I thought this way "Just for practice". these were dates where oh, definitely not…
/r/seduction16/03/20 12:45 PM
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I'm pretty much the reverse of this. I suck online texting/flirting at first interactions with a girl. I'd keep overthinking things, best lines to say, maybe a meme. I totally flopped on tinder. I learned that At best I keep it very low-key, simple, and setup a date after she's obviously interested. Meeting them in person 1 on 1. Whole another ball-game for me. A lot of what you say has to do with hiding their true-selves. Those guys you talk to(should say boys), flirt with, are there when you m…
/r/seduction16/03/20 12:23 PM
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Zan Perrion Alabaster girl I'd recommend watching his stuff on youtube. He doesn't change his tune. Reading His book and what he says on youtube. The exact same stuff(sometimes word for word). To me shows that he truly believes it. Totally different than RSD. What Women want by Mel Gibson it fairly entertaining. Gives an insight into the emotional thinking of a women compared to rational thinking of a man. I think it loses a bit because the main character "becomes more feminine" which to me, tot…
/r/seduction16/03/20 11:58 AM
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Hm. I'm going to say you took a small confidence boost. So by standing up straighter, (plus your tall) girls love taller guys, you're getting noticed. What I've noticed is walking up straight and meeting the eyes of women who you pass by or just looking around the room(or bar). You'll see some women not even pay attention at all to you while others will look you directly and smile. (Or like you saw, catch them checking you out). If you see that behavior, approach them, that's an invitation to ap…
/r/seduction16/03/20 11:54 AM
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All the dates I've been on, so far have all ended in lays, I never once said anything sexual or suggestive sexual to them. The closest thing was a girl telling me she has fake boobs we had a short convo on that but she brought it up, not me. If the girl brings it up, latch on make it funny or an innuendo. Just listening, talking, building a connection, TOUCHING(key) and kissing, is all you need to do build tension that will end with a lay(if logistics plays out right). After sex has been establi…
/r/seduction16/03/20 11:41 AM
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Maybe read some books :) not just PUA books but other books. Brief history of time is my recommended! Impress the women with how smart you got over the outbreak. Not what netflix shows you watched....
/r/seduction16/03/20 10:28 AM
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I met her at bar via friends I made there. I've been going out to a local bar every other weekend or so being more sociable. Made friends with some of the regulars, bartender and owner. A guy I know there He's married and he brought a girl friend he's know for years(she doesn't get out much and doesn't do online dating). We hit it off that night. She's older(late 30's) but very pretty and takes care of herself. All my friends there talked me up highly to her(they know I've been looking for a gir…
/r/seduction13/03/20 02:27 PM
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I don't believe in "Rejection" when approaching a girl. Reframe your thinking. There is only one thing you, as a man, needs to do. That is to simply "show-up". It does NOT MATTER what happens with the girl whether she was receptive or not. All that matters is "Did you approach and say Hey, (this is who I am)?" If did that you won. You have conquered the world. "Rejection" is a term we apply to ourselves "She rejected me! How could she? or whats wrong with me that she rejected me?" is the story w…
/r/seduction13/03/20 12:39 PM
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We call it "Not giving a fuck" but reality is that we are fully comfortable with ourselves, accepting whatever happens, and putting ourselves out there. We do this Freely to any women(or person). You're not going to mesh with everyone you meet, but you have to take that risk(not giving a fuck) to do so.
/r/seduction13/03/20 11:26 AM
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The girl I've been seeing for month now, told me it was eye contact when we first met.
/r/seduction13/03/20 10:56 AM
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I find sexting pointless, why get all hot and bothered when you cant actually fuck. Save that shit for in person in the bedroom.
/r/seduction12/03/20 11:16 AM
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I'm going to argue some nuance here. If a girl's into you she'll be pretty quick to text you back within the day. If you're both new to meeting eachother, I think it's perfectly fine to ask couple questions(basic get to know ones), have fun, and be witty. However avoid deep subjects or very personal stories. I also don't "sext". Sexy iunno's or sometimes funny sex memes are great, but any further than that is pointless save it for in person in the bedroom.
/r/seduction12/03/20 11:14 AM
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1/100 i like those odds!
/r/seduction12/03/20 11:09 AM
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Well shit, there goes my Online PUA dating business. You ruined it now :D
/r/seduction12/03/20 11:06 AM
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The other people are correct, you can't treat this like a cold approach. Additionally many people will say "don't shit where you eat" in this case it's shitting where you eat and live so. I'm personally of the mindset, that it doesn't matter, many people date within work because most are working professionals. Being an adult about it all, is where many fail. I'd say approach her, be friendly, try starting a introduction conversation FIRST. I wouldn't ask her out at all the first time. You can le…
/r/seduction11/03/20 11:35 AM
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You know makes Quality content? Going out, socializing, and meeting new people. Ask for Insta/snapchapts IRL. Being adventurous taking pictures of yourself, where your at, or with others means a lot more to any "potential" girl you're interested in. All the people on my instagram are people I've met, talked to IRL. It's about 40~ so not 1000 followers but I only started late last year.
/r/seduction09/03/20 03:42 PM
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Doesn't matter. ok, say he approaches a girl, a couple, an old lady. "Excuse me you have the time? or Excuse me what's a good place to eat?" Yes, that's when your polite. Not when your hitting on a girl. "Excuse me, your cute I wanna fuck you" Now he can go in polite saying one of those things and get a quick chat going, THEN say "You know what your kind of cute" That's my two cents.
/r/seduction09/03/20 10:34 AM
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1) Don't say "Excuse me" or any other kind of politeness when using "your cute/fine/sexy" line. Be direct. 2) You did right in the second one, if you think she was feeling uncomfortable, just take a few steps back. 3) What did you say to her that worked?
/r/seduction09/03/20 10:12 AM
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When you run out of things to say... say how you feel in that moment. According to you she seemed open. You could of stayed sat down next to her. she didn't tell you to go away, you went away yourself. Just ask open ended questions, and invite her to coffee/drinks right then and there. But you did the right thing as a man, you took action.
/r/seduction06/03/20 01:26 PM
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Sounds like you have a bigger problem is you already realize this. I start meditating and asking yourself "Why" Only you know the answers not the people on this Subreddit.
/r/seduction05/03/20 12:50 PM
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I personally like Asking relationship, sex, or other questions related to that to cold approach women(bar scenes usually). It's gets them involved in interesting discussion. Such as "Should you be friends first, then date so you get to know the person, or date then slowly become friends?" "Would you date someone your not attracted too? My roommate told me he wasn't attracted to a girl but still went out with her, dates her, he likes that they can talk." One I've been asking recently "Have you ev…
/r/seduction05/03/20 12:39 PM
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Key factor is it's all about Risk taking vs Risk Avoidance. Walking up to a random girl, that's a risk. Talking to her another Risk, Getting a phone # Getting a date, Getting Laid. Every step you take is a risk towards the larger goal. It MATTERS NOT how the girl responds, if she flakes, doesn't seem interested, all that matter if you're willing to take that risk to ASK.
/r/seduction05/03/20 12:23 PM
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No I agree, I live in a very small city where meet-ups don't exist so I'm forced to drive an hour to larger cities. This is mostly where the problem lies, besides Hiking groups not much "meet-up" groups around here that interest me. The funny thing is I totally agree, cold-approaching, you'll never meet a girl that way or rarely. However it's an essential function/skill that you NEED. because it's the ability to be confident walk up to someone you have no idea/clue about and start talking. Many …
/r/seduction04/03/20 12:25 PM
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Meet-up groups (like from Meetup.com) are typically really awkward. I've gone to a couple myself and generally found that most people in this groups are basic introverts, who don't know how to talk, are very closed off, and generally unsociable. They never introduce themselves and after the meet-up everyone just goes home "Nice meeting you". I've haven't had one positive experience. let alone trying to meet any women through that way. There no such thing as "No time for cold approach" that's an …
/r/seduction04/03/20 11:27 AM
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Dude get out of the chair and approach girls, people, or anyone. Sounds like you spent 3 years watching/reading "feeling good" because you think your accomplishing something all the while you sit in your room doing absolutely nothing, no action. Books, youtube, articles etc are merely a soft basis for you to learn, the best learning is always doing it yourself. You can read an instruction manual back and forth, learning how to create the best cake ever. Know all the ingredients, the instructions…
/r/seduction03/03/20 03:30 PM
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Works both ways. The initial start when dating/seeing each-other is you asking her out. "When you free to get together" or "Let's grab dinner Friday" after you start seeing each-other for a while, she'll invite you to things. If she says she going out with friends Key is NEVER ask "Can I go out with you and your friends" very bad, needy, and weak. your frame is never weak. You're the man. It's your duty to ask the woman out. It's her duty to receive.
/r/seduction03/03/20 03:02 PM
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One last note: if you're in bed with a woman and she just wants to cuddle, and she's currently saying she just wants to cuddle, the most manly thing you can do is to calmly respect that. And if you decide you don't want to cuddle, you don't have to. I'd say if its the first date and that all we do is make-out/cuddle, that's acceptable... but I'm never going more than 2nd date without some direct intimacy if I like her and into her. I'd just tell that girl(like OP's friend) That I have to go make…
/r/seduction03/03/20 02:54 PM
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The reason why it's called "Cold approaching" is because the girls, guys, or couples you talk to are entirely COLD to you because they do not KNOW YOU. It's a societal tribal behavior. It's not about you being cold. I think it's great your not pushing for # and just having conversations. Better that you learned about Statements, even better than asking for # is when you just ask a girl out, on the spot, after talking to her. "Let's grab coffee" simple, her reaction to that statement tells you wh…
/r/seduction03/03/20 02:38 PM
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Personally what I see is two schools of thoughts on "Love" or "Romance" 1) You see a girl, your eyes meet eachothers, you have those lack of better terms "butterflies". You go approach her or maybe she works somewhere you see her often that you approach after getting up some courage. Things just click right away and you're dating, having great feelings for eachother etc. The idea of love at first sight 2) You through mutual friends or other means meet a girl. You talk but nothing instantly click…
/r/seduction03/03/20 02:02 PM
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Simple fact, there more women in the world than men. These guys are the "stereotypical" male in today's dating world. This is how men get women, without knowledge. Had they learned to approach or be appealing, they would of found other women, possibly better ones. To me I'm only ever going to date a girl who's attracted and interested in me from the start. I'll never date one that tells me "No" then I pursue her. What a waste of my time. There's plenty out there.
/r/seduction03/03/20 01:37 PM
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Can't say anything about overseas, but here in America it's the opposite. Lots of girls, even one told me directly, she has her guard up in bars when guys approach talk to her/tell her shes pretty etc. They know at bars guys get drunk and want to get laid. In "day game" many girls are going about there normal life, so a guy approaching them(isn't going to be drunk hopefully) in shopping mall/coffee shop whatever is actually a lot easier.
/r/seduction03/03/20 01:10 PM
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Sounds great man! Don't self-defeat, escalate, and don't hide your intentions. That's all you can do. If she decides she doesn't want to take it that way, that's not at all your fault. I hope best for you.
/r/seduction02/03/20 01:08 PM
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From a guys/dating perspective you really only wanna open up about positive things in your life, don't go on about family drama, personal issues, Ex's that hurt you etc. Even then don't freely give it. Let them ASK about it. You can drum up the conversation(What's your life goal?), listen to everything about the girl, interject while they talk. Ask them how whatever made them feel. In your case sounds like your rejecting yourself from this girl (She only likes older guys, she likes some other gu…
/r/seduction02/03/20 12:30 PM
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Did you make out with at all during any of those 3 times? It's kissing that leads to sex. Touching just indicates(indirectly) that you like her and are interested. Sounds like things with this girl are over at this point. I would move on. If you're not interested in her(besides sex) at all don't be a her movie buddy.
/r/seduction02/03/20 12:08 PM
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I saw a few clips from that show. British show, that's absolutely awful take on men and women dating.
/r/seduction02/03/20 11:54 AM
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They all rejected me. Kinda. Im new to this thing. I probably made it awkward. But it wasn't as scary as I thought it would be. There is no "rejection". You simply showed up/Approached. That's all you needed to do as a man and you did that. Whether they like you or not is inconsequential. Next time you're talking to girls try watching for non-verbal signals on whether they want you to approach or not or when you're in the approach.
/r/seduction02/03/20 11:33 AM
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I’m just saying what she literally told me after we went out a couple times. She told me “it was the eye contact that first nite that made wanna see you again”
/r/seduction29/02/20 02:39 AM
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Eye contact, She'd ask me questions, If I was talking to her(we're at bar mind you so) I get interrupted. She would say "So what were you saying" I'd continue. Also made the joke about moving out state and being "roommates together". She ran with this most the night and when I was escalating she would say "Well hard to be roommates..." (I didn't respond to I'd just continue)
/r/seduction28/02/20 04:25 PM
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You should know that every girl is different. I'm currently seeing a girl who's 37. Met her at a bar via some friends. I carried the escalation at the bar the entire time, she was a shy/quiet but I saw the IoIs. She didn't reciprocate the touching(I gently held her hand, Rubbed her thigh) She came home with me that night and had sex. Total time from meeting to sex was only 3-4 hours. Last Girl I was with she very talkative, more confident, and made the first moves (the kiss, touching, sex) She w…
/r/seduction28/02/20 01:10 PM
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I agree Tyler(Owen) is kind of wack. Interesting character to meet in real life. He understands energies, presence, and women. He's a larger than life kind of character. I've met him and he lacks Empathy due to his brain malfunction(his Autism). True, but there's two energies. Your Sexual energy and Mindful energy. Sexual energy is what drives you to seek women, to conquer, to dominate and control. Mindful energy is your emphatic side, logical side, and "nice guy". Porn/whacking off constantly k…
/r/seduction28/02/20 12:32 PM
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Reflecting about a day date is making me feel like a beta idiot. Very good you reflecting/thinking on it, however DO NOT beat yourself up over the things you did. Grow and learn from it. Most people will blame the women "It's her fault" or blame the circumstances. I need to grow some balls and take more risks when I get neutral body language, instead of only acting when I see IOIs Disagree, however if you're unsure then yes and see if she doesn't seem receptive back-off. Avoid lunch dates as a f…
/r/seduction28/02/20 12:14 PM
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A kiss on the cheek is the "kiss of death". I'm unsure of what guy barely knows a girl and goes for a kiss? A hug fine. You escalate, build tension and when you notice her looking at your lips then your eyes or you have the thought of kissing her do it. ​ Hopefully OP learns from this experience.
/r/seduction28/02/20 11:43 AM
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"Hey, I know this is really random, but I thought you looked nice and I wanted to introduce myself." I actually think this is perfectly fine. Keep that or change it a bit saying what do you think looks nice about them? The clothes, jacket, they're hair or face? It's a decent opener. "Hey, I thought you looked nice and I wanted to introduce myself." (Good) "Hey, I like your style and I wanted to introduce myself." (better) "Hey, I thought you looked nice and I want to see what your about." (Best)…
/r/seduction27/02/20 02:03 PM
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Don't try that, that's the worst thing you can do. It comes off as needy and desperate.
/r/seduction27/02/20 01:50 PM
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Women are not like a bank account into which you deposit credit and it stays. I mean they are because you deposit other things and sometimes it stays for 9 months until it matures. Then you're stuck with debt for 18 years.
/r/seduction27/02/20 01:45 PM
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Fucking Logistics the bane of our existence to bang women.
/r/seduction27/02/20 01:41 PM
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Like her inviting you to a party with her friends and she ends up ignoring you or she still goes to the bar where her ex boyfriend works and she invites you along with her friends to spend the evening there. That's really stupid idea, anyone who does this when first meeting/dating a girl definitely needs to learn. It's OK to invite her over to a friends place in more personal setting. Just a couple friends (3-4) having drinks, watching something, or playing board games. But you or her inviting e…
/r/seduction27/02/20 01:06 PM
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I think you missed an important thing here... that is not everyone really wants to talk to you. Loads of people are what I call "Cold" you may walk up to a group of people, girls, a couple, maybe some dudes. Just say "Hey and introduce yourself" These people will look at you not be inviting, and generally wish you to leave. REGARDLESS if you were doing said above. because in there minds they're thinking "Do we really want to invest in this new person?" because you have to remember, not everyone …
/r/seduction27/02/20 12:40 PM
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If you cannot accept a compliment it's because you don't see yourself as "good enough" or self-worth. I did this one day at work and with friends. I said "Just wanna say you're Awesome!" I got a variation of replies only 2 said back to me you're awesome too! one asked me if I was being sarcastic.
/r/seduction27/02/20 12:09 PM
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Don't forget if you didn't approach 30 women daygaming and fails at get 29 phone numbers there's a statistic that show women don't have phones so they can't give you there phone number.
/r/seduction27/02/20 12:03 PM
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Simple, Don't. If you not attracted to them why are you bothering? The best thing to do is tell them there pretty/beautiful, but that you don't feel "romance" towards them but you like them as friends(if you share similar interests). That girl can be your point for asking questions related to women. Best is taking them to a bar so you can practice your "game" and shes helping you (WingWoman). Also this should probably be in r/askseddit
/r/seduction26/02/20 01:22 PM
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So, let's start with looks. I keep myself clean, clothes that fit me well, style my hair and wear cologne. Height is important, your right on the other stuff as well. I can't tell you how many women I've talked too, that told me They like my Hair because it soft and I style it, that "I smell good" and that I'm good looking. The thing is only girls you're actively seeing(aka fucking) WILL tell you this, extreme rare cases where a HB will say stuff like this to you when you first meet/talking. I t…
/r/seduction26/02/20 12:40 PM
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Literally just give her a reason to go to your place other than "Hey lets fuck back at my place". It can be ANYTHING. "Come meet my cat/dog!" "Let's get a drink" "Lets watch a show back at my place" If the girl agrees she Knows what you mean. It's just escalation when you get there. Two examples that I've used for this girl I'm seeing Met her at bar was introduced to her by friends. To pull her back to my place I simply asked her "Come back to my place and have a drink with me" I had to figure o…
/r/seduction25/02/20 02:08 PM
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I'd change this to approaching her, in person, texting/FB/Insta DM-ing is total weak fucking sauce. 10 men would of DM'ed her/text her ONLY 1 would of approached her and said his intent. Which do you think is going to get the positive response? Don't be the next guy
/r/seduction25/02/20 01:45 PM
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When you make eye contact with a girl, you don't know, it's almost like those dumb romance movies. But it's actually true. The feeling or energy, nervousness, a sensation throughout your body. Girl's feel this too. I believe this a MUTAL attraction meaning if you feel it, you look each other in the eyes, the girl feels the same way. However unless you APPROACH then you'll never find out. So key is to approach.
/r/seduction24/02/20 09:19 PM
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i'm approaching girls cold on the street. you don't get IOIs here. You do get IOIs... you're just missing them. What I'm saying approaching is fine, but you're approaching girls who have no interest in you, attraction is not a choice, a girl knows if shes going to fuck you within the first 30 seconds of meeting you. You're just shooting a shotgun hoping to get lucky when it should be a finer tuned approach. what you're suggesting to do serves no purpose If were just "collecting data" it serves t…
/r/seduction24/02/20 09:05 PM
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That's because that is exactly how he framed the entire post. a responsive number means she texted me back with ANYTHING after i sent my initial text. which means the other 3 numbers i got, i texted them and... they sent me nothing at all. so complete ghost numbers basically. ​ i've got the responsive number and i've got all the data before that. and i'm at 27 approaches total so far. so not bad. who knows, maybe at approach 35-40 i'll get my first date
/r/seduction24/02/20 08:57 PM
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I have to kind of laugh at this... data, numbers, to get phone numbers. What a wonderful waste of your day. All for what for one number from a girl who doesn't seem all so interested? This my friend is useless. What we NEED TO SEE is HOW you are approaching these girls to get such spectacular data! Are you even approaching girls who show you any signs of interest? Are you looking them in the eyes and they reciprocate? When you 'cold' approach they already KNOW you want something from them (a num…
/r/seduction24/02/20 06:47 PM
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You're still young so the social stigma from that isn't there, plus your both the same age so I'm sure she hasn't had a lot of experiences herself. I'd say only after you kiss her(YOU BETTER be the one to make that move) build a rapport and comfort you can say things like "I've haven't made out with a girl/had a GF". DONT get heavy into it, all the reasons why etc etc, just say that and LEAVE IT AT THAT. If she asks why just say "I'm not sure it just never happened" THATS IT.
/r/seduction24/02/20 11:44 AM
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Did you go on a date with this guy lol
/r/seduction24/02/20 11:40 AM
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This! Your not making anything sexual with these girls We sit and talk and I ask her about her goals, career, childhood, and other things like that. I try to ask deeper questions because general small talk bores me and I visibly look bored and uninterested These are fine... but during that you better interrupt her(Like eye fuck her if shes hot) and say something about her as to WHY your attracted to her. Sounds to me you're just talking topics then being low-kino "When you have the chance". Fuck…
/r/seduction24/02/20 11:34 AM
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Get off tinder and you flake ratio will decrease. Approaching women, inviting them out, automatically makes you higher value they'll be more interested in you and will show up. I think tinder serves a purpose(good for abundance mindset) but those girls couldn't give a shit about you. Rejection (in all of its forms) is meant keep people who don’t belong to each other apart and if someone rejects you chances are it has nothing to do with you. If someone isn’t completely into meeting and getting to…
/r/seduction21/02/20 11:44 AM
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Pretty much this. PUAs and dumbass "shit tests". I posted an FR about a cute tattoo girl I've seen couple times at a local bar. More likely shes a total bitch, good looking, so stands to reason. She was giving me strong IOI(literally staring me down). I approached her next time I saw her said hey your beautiful like your face come join me for pool... I reasonable believe a normal girl WHO was interested would say Okay or talk to me instead it was an dismissive look "No thanks" so I walk away. Ev…
/r/seduction20/02/20 05:20 PM
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I would have to say this isn't a helpful post. Your drunk, what happens when your drunk is the "thinking mind" shuts off. You're more of yourself and free. Your more confident say what you want to women, they pick it up and like it. You're going to college parties. Seriously? that's of course the best place to find good looking women and get laid. Guys like me aren't in college anymore. We don't have this luxury and we work full-time jobs. The women are more likely drunk and drinking themselves.…
/r/seduction19/02/20 12:01 PM
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This is a great reason I suggest to have hot friends that you DON’T try to bone. You can use them as tools to get the other women to recognize your social value. This means sometimes you have to swallow your pride and not try to bone a girl on purpose, or accept that a girl has friend zoned you. I would say to this, that it's a girl you know is "hot" but not one you're attracted too. There are plenty of girls that are this, but one I wouldn't bother to bone because they're not my preference. I w…
/r/seduction19/02/20 11:48 AM
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Agreed. Like I said I went back to playing pool with my friend being chill and confident.
/r/seduction18/02/20 07:04 PM
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I have a bit to say on this from my experience. I am the typical "nice guy" (trying to break this habit) who has goals, a degree, stable life, ambitions and doesn't live in a back of van. My last GF dated and was with a guy for months, they barely had sex(he wasn't into it according to her), alcoholic and drug addict who lived with his mom. After she finally got the nerve to end it with this guy I met her month later. After I ended it with my last GF. I dated another girl for couple months. She …
/r/seduction18/02/20 12:36 PM
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The fact that I am not super attracted to her makes me act so much more relaxed. She even told me herself that the most attractive thing on me was/is my confidence and my chill. Wait till you get a girl with whom you are. Whole another ball game my friend :) Interesting fact. Guys will fuck girls that they are not attracted too. Girls will only fuck guys THEY are attracted too. Now she is super-investing, texting me good-morning and good-night stuff. She really likes me and she is communicating …
/r/seduction18/02/20 12:04 PM
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True, she may not have been attracted to me maybe just interested, but the IoI's were a bit confusing. Caught her staring at me prior and when I was talking to her, she was smiling (I notice bad smokers teeth... kind of turn off there).
/r/seduction17/02/20 08:07 PM
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"hey, want to play some pool?" Is probably the absolute best thing you could've said in that particular situation. Thinking on that, before your comment. You're probably right. Should just went up said, Hey, play pool with us. That's it. I'm going to try this out next time(not on the same girl) but on another cold approach. Just walk up Say "Hey, I'd like to know more about you, let's grab a drink."
/r/seduction17/02/20 07:02 PM
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Yeah true, been working on being "outcome independent" and inviting/escalating. I did this approach sober before I even started drinking at all. I mean I didn't ask her for anything(give me your phone number) Just invited her to play pool with us. Just an invitation freely offered.
/r/seduction17/02/20 06:09 PM
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True, I was totally stuck in my head (what should I say etc etc) and went to automation mode when I approach... So yeah I approached, It wasn't unique, but I'd couldn't seem to force myself to do anything other than approach. Hence why it's a "lesson learned"
/r/seduction17/02/20 05:54 PM
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How is that worse? She has a pretty face... and I told her I LIKED THAT. If i'm suppose to go up to a girl tell her what I like about her... that's literally what I liked about her.
/r/seduction17/02/20 05:49 PM
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In short, TELL HER what you find attractive about her. Respectfully of course, you will get better results. I said I like her face lol.
/r/seduction17/02/20 05:42 PM
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It might take awhile, if you caught the feel keep playing it smooth, DO keep showing interest in her, keep taking her out/sex, and if she's reaching out to you almost everyday it should just happen. Best of luck my friend!
/r/seduction14/02/20 01:42 PM
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I haven't had this happen, per say, I did have a girl at a gym whom's phone number I got, and asked out on a date, she was receptive but I was still new at the the whole thing. So I never got a date eventually she stopped responding to my texts. Later saw at the gym, went up said Hi, she wasn't in a good mood she told me, but I knew she wasn't interested in me but I still treated her normal just talked to her and let it go. I'm just wondering if this happens to anyone else or if anyone has used …
/r/seduction14/02/20 12:29 PM
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lol x 2 Why not fuck then cuddle ffs?
/r/seduction14/02/20 12:12 PM
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This is where all PUA fall flat on there faces personally there only ever in Phase 0 and Phase 1, Attraction and the date... I suggest reading Way of the superior man or Corey Wayne's 3% man on how to KEEP a girl you want, get them to fall in love with you. ​ encouraging a woman you’re already sleeping with to pursue an exclusive relationship? This depends, if your using PUA tactics to get one-and-done, after a while she'll see you for what you are, not being your trueself, and will just move on…
/r/seduction14/02/20 12:06 PM
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You did everything right: Playful Not the next guy, complimented her dress etc Touching/Kino The second she asks "Are you Single!?" you're in, she's interested. TL/DR: walked into a bar and was making out with chick within 10 min. While a lot of PUAs say "LEARN HOW TO DO THIS" I personally believe it just falls on attraction, when she saw you, she was already attracted to you. You're personality and how you talked to her made that easier. You escalated correctly and bam. Good job, learn from thi…
/r/seduction14/02/20 11:54 AM
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This may just be my own personal opinion around here, but I think you're a bit insane keeping metrics like you are. The idea of cold-approaching is not about "Getting there number" or "I've been rejected 42/100 times with a 5% like ratio". I'm not surprised you got blown out so bad. It seems to me that's the vibe you're approaching them with, that there just another stat in your "cold-approach report" you want something from them(there phone #). The Idea of cold approaching women is because you'…
/r/seduction13/02/20 12:55 PM
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So I do have to ask what kind of date was this? "Sit and talk" basically over meal or coffee. Because if she is shy, and you're asking 1000 questions to keep the conversation flowing, at some point it becomes an interrogation rather than a date. If you think or know she's a shy/quiet type always opt for activity dates. I personally love talkive girls, since I'm usually the quiet one, those are ones where you can ask just a few of the "right" questions. Make sure there open-end questions. You sit…
/r/seduction13/02/20 12:30 PM
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As I've gone out socializing, cold-approaching, his idea that "women will flake good guys for online" seems totally unreal and biased. If the subject of online dating comes up ALL the women I talked to absolutely hate it, they do because its easier, most rather meet a guy face to face. Couples I've talked to I always ask how they met, it's usually "we met at work, at an event, or someplace in the real world."
/r/seduction13/02/20 12:19 PM
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Don't quite agree, I think repeating same thing "I'm the prize, I'm the catch, I'm confident" is perfectly fine, but hyping yourself up isn't sustainable. You'll lose girls after they figuring out that wasn't really you but a hyper-state of you.
/r/seduction12/02/20 11:42 AM
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One easy way is too look at your past experiences, of confidence or challenges you overcame, to say "Fuck if i could do that...". For me it was being in the military. I did crazy shit and saw crazy shit overseas. So walking up and talking to a cute blond girl... I mean that's the fucking easiest thing ever compared to that!
/r/seduction12/02/20 11:36 AM
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This only holds true if you want a LTR with that woman. Women will fuck anyone. Money/stable life DOES matter when you're trying to build a life with a girl. The "Good" ones will never stick around if you don't have your life/money shit together. But you definitely don't go You literally go from a 2 to a 10 in the eyes of women.
/r/seduction12/02/20 11:33 AM
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This is confusing more than anything. If you're attracted to her and escalated with her, physically touching her/hugging etc then your telling the girl "We did that but I didn't like you". Basically you're throwing yourself out a window for this girl you like because you're trying to play a very dumb game. Play dumb games win stupid prizes. I'm telling you right now if you friendzone this girl, that's it it's over she'll go off and fuck someone else. Personally, You only friendzone girls your no…
/r/seduction12/02/20 11:26 AM
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I did enjoy the story, as a little cringey as it was, this is the norm for most guys. She's attracted to you enough she helped you. You set the date, she let you make a couple mistakes, INVITES you to her place, and still fucks you. Doesn't sound like she'll do it again, sounds like she committed to that date and wasn't going back home alone and horny, but doesn't sound like you'll ever get date two from that answer "I'm not feeling well" hahaha. Yeah she's feeling some other tinder dudes cock i…
/r/seduction11/02/20 12:44 PM
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Hhahah, man this is so bad, young and dumb I love it. I love the random shirtless pictures... I wouldn't bother with that unless she specifically asked, why do people think that's a good idea? We all have, including you, no idea of her intent because its stupid texting rather than in face interaction, best way to see if she's actually interested in you is by ASKING HER OUT.
/r/seduction11/02/20 12:08 PM
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She's doing all the work.. the invite, logistics, seriously dude just show up, let her talk about her life take her back to her place and enjoy. Shes old enough know... just don't be young and dumb and think you're in love or some crap.
/r/seduction11/02/20 11:50 AM
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This really doesn't apply for just women but fucking social skills in general. It's just that guys seem to take it out on women because of frustration. A lot people that exhibit this behavior is always because they're not OKAY with themselves. They have a self-image problem and hence when people (they think) are ignoring them it only proves there subconscious right (No one loves you/You're not good enough etc) so they lash in anger.
/r/seduction10/02/20 12:02 PM
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I've had some different reactions doing cold approaches but similar to yours. Approached a girl at the gym I saw working, walked up Said Hey, think you cute, I had it work myself up to come talk to you. "Are you from the area?" "yes" Then "I have a boyfriend" almost immediately. I laughed, said alright, and walked away. Reflecting back she had a deer in headlights look. (wasn't my best approach) Talked to a girl on treadmill at a gym while out-of-state visiting family for Christmas. This wasn't …
/r/seduction10/02/20 11:50 AM
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I think the thing is many guys do have that second part, an interesting life. the problem is they place the girls value higher so blow off those plans or do those plans but then don't know how to interact/escalate with them. I've been going out every weekend and having different interactions with various people, mostly women, so as you said, if I talk to a girl she doesn't seem interested, I don't waste my time neg/DHV/trying to get her to like me. (simply nice meeting you) I just walk away and …
/r/seduction10/02/20 11:30 AM
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Guy: Hey you wanna go out with me instead of studying Girl: "Sure!" Guy: I'm not sure if she likes me *MFW* next date dude you better kiss her.
/r/seduction07/02/20 12:45 PM
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I feel like I should demand the respect. Hahahahaha, this is pure fucking gold here. What kind of throne of gold do you shit on my friend? NO ONE, owes you ANYTHING. Let alone any girls you talk to. If you start asking them this is super fucking beta and weak. If you even had respect for yourself you wouldn't give a fuck.
/r/seduction07/02/20 11:24 AM
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There was also this girl (21F) who I really liked, and I was 98% sure she liked me back, based on months of interactions, reactions, building trust, etc. Next year I'll go to study abroad, so I wanted to tell her before leaving. Didn't even bother reading the rest of your post. FYI you see a girl, even a couple times, and you like her. Approach and talk to her, man to women, not friend to friend. I'm not there to be some Hot girl's friend I'm there to fuck her. If she responding well Say her "I'…
/r/seduction07/02/20 11:20 AM
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Definitely she said her friend she was working out with just got out a bad relationship... but she wasn't pretty in the least bit.
/r/seduction06/02/20 10:54 PM
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I can see how that can catch you off guard, most guys aren't used to that, I've had a lot of (unattractive women I wouldn't date) that I've talked to say the same thing to me. However never had a girl directly approach me(that was attractive) and tell me this. Most attractive women automatically assume YOU KNOW you're good looking( attractive girls are only ones that seek validation, REAL men don't) so they won't ever say to you directly. I would kill for your situation, if she's attractive it's…
/r/seduction06/02/20 12:09 PM
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The reason some people think its important is because culture and society has told "men" to share there feelings. This is totally untrue, this is a feminine feature and not a masculine feature. Women do not want a man sharing his emotions/feelings for her... when SHE is NOT ready. ​ Now when your going out with a girl, you first met or couple dates absolutely DO NOT SHARE your feelings for her FIRST. It is perfectly ok to have feelings for a girl or someone you're seeing but SHE needs to initiat…
/r/seduction06/02/20 11:53 AM
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That's not quite what that means. Its not randomly flipping your hair and guy signals that as interest. The idea is you're making eye contact or If you're talking to a guy you're attracted to you, you'll play with your hair.(twirling it combing it with hands etc)
/r/seduction06/02/20 11:42 AM
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Funny thing is I had this happen to me at the gym. I see a girl working out on a machine, and as I walk by her I DIRECTLY to her FACE tell her "Hey, I like you're face" then start flirting with her. She has this huge smile on her face and we talk back and forth, and she asks me questions(IoIs) . So I'm like great this girl is interested I ask for he number "Oh I'm married" THE FUCK I literally opened with a direct intent.
/r/seduction06/02/20 11:37 AM
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I've said it once, I'll say it again, girls are retarded. So start approaching, with or without choosing signals. Hahahaha, this made my day. Yes, girls have NO GAME. I have to keep this in mind when talking to them. If they like you they will just STARE at you or do other silly things like bump into you, if there walking by/near you, some might smile if you make eye contact. When do you approach and talk... they'll always ask lame questions "What do for work?" or mostly go on about themselves (…
/r/seduction06/02/20 11:31 AM
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Ask most long term couples how they met (i.e. great way to start a converstation) i bet you 80-90% will say at an event, bar, work, social meeting, via friends, most were "cold-approaches" or "social circles" almost none LTR that really last were done through "online dating" let alone through tinder, bumble or any of these lame match-making services. They're there to explicitly serve the girl so she can get laid/get what she wants. The funny part is most girls DONT EVEN PAY FOR THEM. It's all th…
/r/seduction06/02/20 11:18 AM
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This makes you a far more interesting and attractive person than the guy who has a list of tips and tricks obtained from an online forum. That's 90% of reddit. This subforum is no different. I come here for the lolz mostly, offer my advice based off my experiences, and once a bluemoon there's a decent link to article/book I found here.
/r/seduction05/02/20 11:26 AM
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Well I notice with "naturals" is that what girls are attractive to, is that they're themselves uncompromising, usually social and talkative, and have learn though trail and error how to attract/read women. So they just naturally pull women unlike many other guys who are too afraid to show there real personality around a women, these guys DGAF, that turns women on. What I do notice that's different is like you said... while they can pull women they have impossible time keeping any. He has to have…
/r/seduction03/02/20 11:29 AM
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What he said. That girl found your co-worker attractive and was interested enough to do so. Zero point in comparing yourself to others. Just go out talk, be social, cold approach girls you find attractive and it may just be that easy for you.
/r/seduction03/02/20 11:22 AM
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It seriously depends on the girl and how much time you spent. I've had girls that text me back almost instantly and others it's hours then a reply... then hours... I try to do the same to not seem needy, but I do like her, and don’t understand why she would do this to me. I would say the fact your even worried about it, is somewhat concerning and coming off as needy. ​ One word of advice. Get over it! She's a human with a life of her own. She really doesn't even have to text you back at all. Can…
/r/seduction31/01/20 06:40 PM
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Depends. If this women if your Long time GF/Wife and she absolutely loves you because of OTHER things you do in the relationship, then it's not seen as bribes. The problem is many guys come on very early after only a couple dates bringing flowers, expensive dinner dates, jewelry... anything to "bribe" the women to like them. Just talk to any amount of women they'll tell you how many guys come on so strong with gifts. My rule has been, and reading pick-up/seduction/relationship books affirms this…
/r/seduction31/01/20 06:29 PM
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Some tips Approach Say Hey then either two things A) open ended question such as "what do you like about college?" or b) a Statement "You look like a dog/cat person because..." Lose/drop expectations to pull. If you going out expecting to pull a girl home and have sex you going to come off at any girl you approach with those expectations, which can turn a lot of them off it not all. Because your coming from the mindset (I need to pull or what Can I get out of this interaction) instead go out wit…
/r/seduction31/01/20 12:50 PM
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I think some of the problem is your putting too much emphasis on "attractive girl" so your doing mental games then subconsciously "she's too attractive, she'll reject me" "I'm not good enough to approach her" "What do I even say?" Just dump the "Attractive" part and next "girl" you see talk to her... like a normal human. It really doesn't have to be anything special "hey I saw you and wanted to talk to you" then you can just be basic "What's some of your interests etc" very basic level shit.
/r/seduction29/01/20 12:46 PM
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That's my point. The interaction is you and girl meet at random, by chance, while your doing your daily life, you know she's interested I.E looking at you, staring at you, making eye contact. So you go talk to her. Vs You specially go to clubs, bars, "Day game" to find women to approach and talk to.
/r/seduction28/01/20 01:04 PM
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I understand, but it's Missing my point. Do your force the interactions or should you just let the interactions happen naturally.
/r/seduction28/01/20 12:39 PM
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It's not what you say to a girl, but HOW YOU SAY IT. It's not just "Hey you're pretty what your number"(wrong) It's "Hey your pretty I really like you face/hair/eyes" they'll say "oh thank you" (Don't stop and sit there...) "I just had to come over and talk to you otherwise the universe would kick me in the ass for missed opportunity" Throw in a statement or a question. Then Gauge there reactions. If a girl likes you she will smile, face you, and give you more information about themselves. If sh…
/r/seduction28/01/20 12:25 PM
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Being Safe never got anyone anywhere. You have to be able for them to take it wrong or not like it... your not going to get along with everyone in the world ffs. GIRLS say "I like your shirt" or something along those lines as an IOI. GUYS do NOT.
/r/seduction28/01/20 11:39 AM
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That's terrible example. If your going to direct I'd say something about her physical appearance that you find attractive... as to why you came up talked to her in the first place. That example sounds like you just wanna know where she buy her shoes lol its' awful.
/r/seduction28/01/20 11:35 AM
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Totally agree, Like I said I went to RSD free tour and bootcamp. I was interested and they sold me. I've seen them first hand pump there sales in the RSD free tour. I understand there a business. I actually got a ton of value and insight from Julien's TM/TMA I think its one the best. The PUA stuff is just too gimmicky.
/r/seduction24/01/20 07:01 PM
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It's funny I just started getting in PUA stuff mid last year then come Nov. The whole youtube final purge happens and videos go away. RSD stops doing any further bootcamps (I signed for the last Tyler Bootcamp, was a total joke). This sub has been interesting and What I like is the resources I find here. Some are pretty useful and meld into what I've been reading or seeing but there's so much BS too. PUA's are jokes. They try to sell you this magic pill "Come to my bootcamp/senimar and you will …
/r/seduction24/01/20 05:56 PM
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He's pretty much spot on. I'd only throw in that once she's your GF you have to be more understanding and communicate with her. Suggest reading books on relationships "Men are from mars women from venus" and "Way of superior man".
/r/seduction24/01/20 12:08 PM
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I'm in the same boat, live in small town PA where the entire county is about 100k people spread over miles. Most of the good looking women are at the gym or stores. Almost none come to the bars, most if they do are with BFs or Married. My approaches, which haven't been many, have been "Hey, I think your cute" then roll from there. Just remember women have no game and you're doing 90% of the talking or asking a question, or making a statement. Since you're not from the town that's your best opene…
/r/seduction23/01/20 11:43 AM
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seriously who get banned from a place for talking? That's an excuse.
/r/seduction23/01/20 11:30 AM
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I didn't think people keep numbers after a year lol. If I haven't heard from a girl in months and she didn't respond back to a cold message "hey whats up?" then number deleted. ​ The chances of your friend running into the same girl are pretty astronomical considering it NYC. So that kind of crazy there.
/r/seduction22/01/20 06:07 PM
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Well least the girl had a clue lol. But yes what happened was basically spent a day together doing stuff, different actives, and go figure it builds bonding and trust. ​ When you go out on a date your suppose to do this... it should be fun, different and exciting! No girl wants to spend 1-2 hours sitting at the some dinner talking interviewing each other. Start one place, if you both like each other, typically it's the dude who should ASK. "hey there's this cool bar/I'm hungry lets grab a bite e…
/r/seduction22/01/20 05:25 PM
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The problem I had with RSD, I even did a bootcamp with them, they talked about this "change your state bro" the whole time I was out. For me it was hard to impossible to enjoy myself when they kept telling me this or forcing interactions. I always felt like shit. Just clap/rub your hands together. I felt like they wanted me to flick on a magical "happy switch" in an instant and all of sudden shit would change, girls would love me, I'd have instant Charisma yada yada. I feel you're dominated by y…
/r/seduction21/01/20 05:28 PM
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Imagine you opened a girl. She is letting you talk to her without telling you to go away (since she's polite), but she is most definitely not attracted. At all. She thinks you're not her type. And it's obvious. I look at her body language see shes not interested. Say "Nice meeting you have a nice day" and go talk to a fucking girl THAT IS INTERESTED. You people are weird to think that if a girl doesnt like you, you can force her to like you somehow... even if you do why? She's not going to make …
/r/seduction21/01/20 11:37 AM
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Honestly you not touching her, in this case, was the best thing you could of done. If you felt unconfident of reaching out/touching her/grabbing her etc, it would of shown and been even more awkward kind of weird. The only thing I think is odd is that you've known her I guess socially for a year... and your not comfortable around her?
/r/seduction21/01/20 11:31 AM
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Just depends on the level of attraction a girl has. Her attraction to me was extremely high, those are the type of girl I always aspire to date. Going out with her was effortless. She always met me never gave me excuses. She would do all of the talking(mostly because I'm introverted). Why guys wanna feel like they have to pull teeth just to get with some girls to go out or have sex with them is beyond me. Find the ones who like you and its fucking easy.
/r/seduction20/01/20 08:31 PM
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I think it just has to go with the girl finds you attractive and you have SOME common sense, "hey she likes me I should get her number/take her out". The last girl I was with I was no where even remotely into game. I had zero clue, I didn't do Kino, disqualify her, hell I didn't even tell her I thought she was pretty. I did get her phone # after it obvious she liked me. We talked on the phone for hours/text before when went out on our Date. She even came back to my place on the first date where …
/r/seduction20/01/20 02:41 PM
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Yeah Don't believe for one second that if they met the right guy/one they instantly attracted to and(who did the right things too) they would jump in bed at the first date. The problem is most guys don't know how to engage the girls emotions to get her wanting you and wanting sex. After all the whole point of all Seduction is sex. So it takes a couple dates, them getting comfortable, and the dude finally getting comfortable as well to make the right moves/engage her emotions.
/r/seduction17/01/20 04:11 PM
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Unless its your family(mom/dad/brother/sister).... I mean you still can but not usually the best.
/r/seduction17/01/20 12:55 PM
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Before I even got into "Game theory" about women... I mean I kind of even knew when a woman really liked me it was obvious. The few women I dated/went out with was easy because I already KNEW(instinctively) that they were interested in me. by things such as talking to me A LOT, giving there contact info easily, the way they would stare or look at me. Now that I've read up/watched on attraction it's easier when cold-approaching and judge. I don't stand idly by and wait anymore for the 1 or 2 that…
/r/seduction16/01/20 08:57 PM
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your right, different meaning.
/r/seduction16/01/20 04:33 PM
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One of the key things I have learnt is there is absolutely no pattern with girls. The most beautiful girls can be willing to exchange a number with you and in the same regard the biggest hog will hand you a brutal rejection. That is because "attraction is not a choice". To me now, the whole point of cold-approaching is spending about 5 minutes or less talking to a girl you find attractive and gauging her interest. If she interested(or you think she is) ask for phone number. You'll get your answe…
/r/seduction16/01/20 03:46 PM
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By approaching and just talking. you are losing NOTHING. It's a zero-sum game. What happens if you fuck up? Nothing, life continues and you still go home. What happens if she has a BF or not interested? Nothing, life continues and you still go home. What happens if she's actually interested? You may get a phone number or a date. Life continues and you still go home. ​ At no point when approaching and just talking are you actually going to get harmed, possibly die, lose money, etc.
/r/seduction16/01/20 03:30 PM
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Keep doing that. Set dates days apart. Very little to no communication in between. If she reaches out FIRST reply engage in small talk/banter but don't start pouring your life story over the phone or text. Once she starts saying "when Am I going to see you again" or "What are you up too?" these are signs you can make a date right on the spot either that same day(come over and chill) or the next... and just keep going. Just remember always place YOURSELF first. If you're doing something with frie…
/r/seduction15/01/20 05:10 PM
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Doesn't she? Hell just say lets go back to your place lol. She's new so your the first person she met and probably attracted to. I think you have a decent in. Just don't get needy.
/r/seduction15/01/20 03:39 PM
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I've Definitely done this going out an approaching or on my past relationships. Lately I've been catching myself and you just gotta say aloud or mummer it, "Hey it's OK" "Hindsight is 20-20" "Don't beat yourself up over it". I find it helps me. You have to come from a place of love(For yourself) in order to attract a good women otherwise you're just whipping yourself into "I HAVE TO DO THIS" which is a really negative mindset in the long run even if you pull it off you'll still feel miserable.
/r/seduction15/01/20 11:24 AM
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So were you interested in her? I mean shit she literally ASK YOU TO STAY. You should of asked "what are you doing tonight" could taken her home and gotten a lot more of that interaction, sex, makeout, etc. Always Escalate. Worst you get is "No i'm busy blah" which is the same effect as if you went home anyway! If you're interested in her set a date for a cool place you know get her phone # and there ya go...
/r/seduction15/01/20 11:17 AM
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Change your approach. Your wasting time on dating these girls. Perfectly fine to talk to ones you don't find attractive. It helps build your social skills. I was doing this as well (getting phone number/dates from girls I didn't find attractive) when I started approaching... but I stopped. Really waste of your time if you don't find her attractive. Talk, Chat, ask them about good places to see in the area but don't escalate. In your conversations if you two share a connection you both like skiin…
/r/seduction13/01/20 01:43 PM
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I was thinking about this as I did some approaches Saturday. I definitely felt that "get ready for battle" kind of feeling in my stomach. However I still approached and talked. I think what it actually comes down to is "inner game" when approaching women. Something I'm struggling with. I've been asking myself two questions, because I've noticed as I approached, if it goes well I might pre-maturely eject from the set or fumble around with words/what I want to stay. So after the sets I've now aski…
/r/seduction13/01/20 12:01 PM
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Live in Nevada. Become a remote programmer who makes lots of money. bang Vegas prostitutes or go to Brothels. Or you can do the really hard thing and just accept who you are(We cant see your face so we all have no clue) A lot of people who think "I'm ugly" "I'm stupid" etc actually are just beating themselves down when they're none of those things. I mean fuck who knows maybe your absolutely hideous by social standards.... but doesn't matter bro. If your confident in yourself you can still get a…
/r/seduction06/01/20 06:21 PM
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I should word that better. If a girl likes you, how can you continue to build that attraction that interaction? by doing proper flirting otherwise she'll lose it and think of you not as a potential BF but just another random dude. I totally agree you cannot force attraction, but "Attraction is not a choice" meaning if a Girl like you she LIKES you if she doesn't then oh well. They have what they find attractive in there minds you'll never change it.
/r/seduction06/01/20 06:13 PM
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That's a no brainer the problem is most guys DON'T know how to flirt or do so in a way that builds attraction/interaction. hence why we have PUA books/programs/youtube vids... and this Subreddit. I agree most people want that "magic pill" where they are instantly transformed... shit takes time, years even. I'll disagree with you on the coaching, sometimes you need someone who's going to push you outside your comfort zone. That's what coaches do. Additionally buying the right books are great way …
/r/seduction06/01/20 06:01 PM
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If your on the "first date" (never say date to a girl BTW when asking her out) The girl should be doing 80% or more of the talking. Your simply asking the right questions or making statements. (What was college like for you?) (You were a party girl I bet) If there's a lull. You pause. let her ask you a question. Make it fun or interesting. If you need conversation starters I'm not even sure how you talked her and got the "date" to begin with... sounds like some Cosmo BS here.
/r/seduction06/01/20 05:51 PM
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Leaning forward, bending down to put your mouth to there ears(to talk during loud music/chatting) signals interest and lack of confidence. Your voice should be loud enough to convey your words and your stance not moving. This all signals confidence in yourself. I'm 5'11 and even short women will lean into me(if there interested) during loud music/talking. You really don't need to move yourself at all.
/r/seduction06/01/20 05:41 PM
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one thing I've been learning... women are nice because of society. They will also lie. So EVEN IF YOU DARED ASKED "Why" she would just lie. So while you had that whole conversation, was she smiling at you, were you two looking each other in the eyes, was she laughing at anything funny you said? Those are IOIs (indicators of interest) that are key to look for when cold-approaching and knowing for certain that girl is interested in you and WILL give you her contact info. Otherwise congrats on the …
/r/seduction24/12/19 02:16 PM
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Yeah, I gauge interest. If they smiling laughing or engaged with me I get there number. If they seem not all that interested or have a BF I’ll ask for social media.
/r/seduction23/12/19 10:28 PM
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I'd say you did fine. You talked and approached. I think those first girls might been thinking you would be a "beta" and would buy her a shot. Good for you on NOT DOING THAT. I would just simply say directly and clearly "No" you don't have to justify anything to those girls "I'm saving money" sounds like a cop out. My only recommendation would of been to ask both girls you talked to for there social media in some form.
/r/seduction23/12/19 01:17 PM
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Good stuff, however definitely get her number... she literally came back to you and started talking to you after all that. THAT is the time you ASK.
/r/seduction23/12/19 12:39 PM
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lol what also this should be on r/askseddit Short answer is no? She's asking you if you wanna go get a tattoo with her... that's not a date and doesn't mean shes interested in you. Also if your "friends" you're friendzoned unless you state your intent that your interested in dating her.
/r/seduction22/12/19 06:36 PM
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Gym: I go all the time, I talk to a few older gentlemen there but no women. Again, I personally think this is a bad place to approach because of the creep stigma associated with guys approaching in the gym. I approach women at the gym, if they seem interested... I'll even make this exact joke "Hitting on women at the gym" "I didn't want to be that gym creeper but you're cute" etc Break social barriers, acknowledge it, make it funny.
/r/seduction22/12/19 06:32 PM
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Same here actually. Months back i wasn't on anything. It be a super rare find to get a girl 7 or higher that isn't on Social Media in way or the other. Not say its impossible to get these girls without any Social media presence, doesn't matter on that, in fact but It helps with two things. 1. Numbers game 2. Break-ups/New girls who are interested in you.
/r/seduction22/12/19 04:40 PM
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Nothing wrong with that, that's what I've been doing. The idea of this is you actively GOING OUT and cold-approaching women. Women love to "stalk" you see what your doing via social media. This is in a short way your "dating Resume" they can see.
/r/seduction22/12/19 04:14 PM
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This isn't new knowledge. I was talking to my Ex recently about her tinder experience she said the same thing. Hundreds of likes lots from guys, few she liked back, some just straight out start sexual. IMHO You don't slide into DM's.... The women need to slide INTO your DM's.
/r/seduction22/12/19 02:30 PM
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I literally have D + so when girls are over we can watch Mandalorian and they get all cute over baby yoda.
/r/seduction22/12/19 02:26 PM
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Press F to pay respects
/r/seduction22/12/19 02:23 PM
1

You should of challenged him to a game of Mario kart for your woman's heart. Winner gets to bang the girl.
/r/seduction22/12/19 02:08 PM
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It may either be a numbers game or boils down to luck. However, in the end I remind myself I'm absolute shit. Don't be so harsh on yourself. I've only discovered all this stuff a couple months back... it hasn't gotten me a date or laid, But I don't tell myself "I'm shit". Instead man believe in yourself. Trust yourself and don't be self defeating.
/r/seduction22/12/19 02:02 PM
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If I could tell you have the stories of the cold approaches I’ve done where it was weird or stupid. It’s 50/50 and it’s a growth/skill set thing also if your attractive or not. I’ve approached women and probably creep them out or wasn’t direct with my intentions. I’ve directly approached women the way you did and gotten a phone number. You did the first and hardest step. Don’t beat yourself up over it. That was courage my man. Keep on it.
/r/seduction20/12/19 11:12 PM
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Link to vid? I'd like to see this lol
/r/seduction19/12/19 03:58 PM
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It's called not making yourself too available. If you JUMP at the chance she gives simply because you want to hang out with her at every second then you're coming off as dependent and needy... ​ So yeah she'll be more interested because she'll want to see you again sometime as you said.
/r/seduction19/12/19 12:34 PM
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Two views on that, 1) Because your practicing or getting laid even by girls you don't fancy an LTR with, it puts you in a better position. You're not needy, you have experience, and the girl you actually want will know this. 2) You'll find the actual girl you want like you said more naturally, it will kind of "happen" you both just vibe well or click. But you'll never find her sitting in your room smoking weed, playing video games, watching netflix... like most Redditers! It's going out and talk…
/r/seduction19/12/19 12:28 PM
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On top of you been busy, did you even tell her that? a simply "hey, how are you?" is fucking awful. "Hey I'm really sorry we didn't get to meet up. I've been swamped traveling across the world meeting world leaders" at least may have of gotten a response...
/r/seduction18/12/19 12:35 PM
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Pretty much this ^ Don't text or say anything. Go about your life. If she sends you a text, respond flirt whatever but don't think you have keep her engaged. Your not a BF/GF relationship with this girl she doesnt expect that.
/r/seduction16/12/19 07:03 PM
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Ironically this is something I've only discovered recently. I never used to see myself as "good looking" but as I've been cold-approaching and just talking. I've had Dudes and girls, tell me I'm a good looking dude. Fuck I even had Tyler from RSD when I attended his bootcamp tell me I was a good looking dude(no homo) lol. I've never considered this about myself... but now I do take a notice that when I do approach women at bars I've never had one say to me "Your not my type" obviously I'm still …
/r/seduction16/12/19 05:05 PM
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1000% If a girl messages YOU first say after you ask for her number "Hey it was great meeting you" it obvious she holds you in very high-value and is interested. With others it can be a time-thing you might send a text and she might send come back, it can be a slow build, but ultimately it's best to put the ones who are texting you back right away to "front of the line" while the others ones are in the rear. You might be able to flip them around, but it shouldn't be holding your hopes
/r/seduction15/12/19 07:44 PM
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reading words and doing are two different things.
/r/seduction15/12/19 07:39 PM
1

Good on you, takes some balls to do that. Keep going!
/r/seduction15/12/19 12:21 PM
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Literally its called "The Game" for a reason! because it's a game. You have two options have fun playing the game or play the game seriously and become frustrated. Honestly I enjoy the reactions I get from women, walk up to one and tell them you think there cute they'll laugh, giggle, talk to you or shut you down. The conversations and meeting them when we start vibing.
/r/seduction15/12/19 12:19 PM
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"I like you..." or "we should be more than friends." Good point. Well Don't directly come out the bat with that when meeting a girl you might be interested in. It's perfectly fine to be more leading. Example "Oh you like cats? I love cats! I like that about you." (give a hug or high-five) she says something funny or has interesting about her "I think you'd make GF material" Let her start those conversations, and if she really is interested - she will bring it up at some point. Another good point…
/r/seduction15/12/19 12:14 PM
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Life gave me a hard lesson with the last girl I was with. It was a lot of watching youtube videos, self learning, adventuring, and tons of inward reflection. I'm still looking for a girl, but not letting it adsorb my life.
/r/seduction11/12/19 10:40 PM
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felt we had to compromise a lot of independence/friends/passions, were stressed tf out walking on eggshells, low-energy, lost attraction for our partners, and eventually had messy, painful breakups. I think this what ends relationships. If you feel you have to walk on Egg-shells then its going to end very soon. I felt that same way about the last girl I was with after we had a disagreement over a tease that I didn't appreciate her doing to me. I talked to her about it in a calm way, but she got …
/r/seduction11/12/19 01:50 PM
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You are qualifying the girl to meet YOUR standards. Physical attraction (check), but can they talk? are they just retarded and watch House wives of orange county all day? Those are what your looking for when your having a conversation. A really good one I've been doing is "What are your goals in life" similarly "what are you most passionate about". Seems like your already understand this but the guys need for just physical attraction and smash is always going to be high.
/r/seduction11/12/19 01:22 PM
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Sounds like she made her mind up on the date. Your not her fit/type. "I had a great time too Wish you all the best" Nothing more to do. Besides you said you been getting consistent dates. What's your concern?
/r/seduction10/12/19 03:01 PM
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My question is, besides the sex, were you actually into her at all? IMHO she isn't going to remember you're damn schedule telling her before you'd be busy on the weekends. Additionally women think with emotions... so she was feeling good with you and wanted more of that. However you declined it(unsure the text) in a logical way (I'm busy with XXX) when that should of been your sunday text "Sorry can't but I enjoyed you etc" because you made her feel she was a once and done. ​ Just my opinion.
/r/seduction10/12/19 12:03 PM
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DHV = Demonstrate High Value - Showing a women that your a "good time" and valuable. RSD = Real Social Dynamics - a "Dating" company that teaches dating/social skills to pick up women
/r/seduction09/12/19 12:24 PM
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Cries in smaller town Hot women I see are A) Bartenders or working B) Extremely few or rare at the bars. Go to a bar yesterday and only hot girl was the bartender in a loud live venue music. Great place to try to get know someone(sarcasm). Impossible to keep attention.
/r/seduction08/12/19 02:24 PM
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First set you opened, right away you saw there reactions. Eject. Don't waste time. You teased/DHV whatever to try to build attraction but even for you it was obvious that interaction wasn't going anywhere. Simply "see you girls around" or whatever and move on the next set. (Every time I try to do something 'gamey' in fact, it tends to get a weird reaction! (cold reads, negs etc etc). I fell into this, I've stopped it unless its part of the natural conversation. I think it's because its not congr…
/r/seduction08/12/19 02:09 PM
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Online you need to be 9-10 with killer pictures and know how to pull women. That leaves out 80% of the actual male population. IRL you only need to be about 6-7 who looks like takes care himself (fashion, clean clothes/dress, styles hair), has confidence, and be able to talk. Just to pull women.
/r/seduction08/12/19 12:45 PM
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After a girl I was seeing ended it. I started running almost everyday and couldn't eat much due to emotions and depression. Combined it help me go from 230 pounds to now 188 pounds in a couple months. Besides losing weight, the running, sit-ups/push-ups and pulls up I did really help tone my body. Everyone at my work recently took notice I got a lot of compliments. For the first time in my life I can actually run 5 miles at 8:30min pace. I've never been able to do that. Also to the gym is great …
/r/seduction08/12/19 12:33 PM
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This is what my friends have all been telling me... and I tell them it's fairytale land. "Oh it will happen, when it will happen" my female friends even more so. My only point is my friends think that this girl will fall right into my lap, but just like you, I've been going out and taking that risk. Cold approaching women who I think are pretty then just have basic conversation. Which I think is something most people don't understand. A+ for taking the plunge! glad to hear you got a date and som…
/r/seduction08/12/19 12:19 PM
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Seems like a double edge sword... if your just looking for sex then sure pick up these girls. To me seems kind of pointless because if they're fucking you while they have a"BF" they're obviously not relationship material. So the good is you get some the bad is your investing into a girl that you shouldn't.
/r/seduction05/12/19 01:55 PM
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Well you don't have beat the bush around it. You state your intent either fully directly or indirectly. Talk to them and just be friendly. "You seem pretty cool, lets be friends"
/r/seduction05/12/19 01:33 PM
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Only thing I'd say to try is hold your hand out, palm facing upward and shake there hand daintily. It's a more "man to women" handshake than the normal "business style". I've been doing this a lot and has become just a part of me now. If the girl is receptive to you, she will do this.
/r/seduction05/12/19 01:26 PM
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My favorite "Hey, how are you" although I have to say some girls you find online are just absolutely boring as fuck to text. I'll say something witty, challenging, engaging and get a lack luster response back. To that I say "C ya, obviously not interested"
/r/seduction05/12/19 12:46 PM
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One thing about "sets" or when cold approaching... if the woman isn't interested in you (as the first one wasn't) fucking eject. Your wasting each others time and even you knew it when you were doing it. Nothing you were going to do or say was changing it. And hate to break to you... but sounds like your not a attractive dude. If you show intent and two women say "Your not my type" means they don't find you attractive. Not that should stop you, doesn't seem too, but just how Men perceive hot wom…
/r/seduction05/12/19 12:35 PM
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That's funny I'm 31 and usually when girls guess my age I get one of two answers either they think I'm 27~ or they think I'm 35~ though 90% of them I get the "you look young for your age" deal. But it makes flirting with 25 year olds(my ideal age for a girl I'm looking for) much easier.
/r/seduction05/12/19 12:11 PM
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Thanks for sharing. I've had similar experiences your not in this alone. Idk what is about online dating "apps" but I haven't gotten a single date out of them. Women are insanely flakey and tried everything, gotten numbers, pushed for dates notta. However I've gotten to be friends with women on cold approaches, but ones I wasn't attracted too because we have common interests. So, for example that redhair girl, don't always think it's "I shouldn't talk to her because I don't find her attractive."…
/r/seduction05/12/19 12:07 PM
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Meditation and affirmations are great for improving yourself. I started approaching girls and socializing a couple months ago. I'm now coming to realize more about myself, the energy I put out, "Who am I" and really what type girl do I want? A lot of what you said is entirely true. One thing I've said to my friend who got out of a 15 year disaster of relationship/marriage, which held true to me as I found out, is You have to love yourself. If you can't love yourself, no one is going to love your…
/r/seduction04/12/19 01:20 PM
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Some tips I picked up from Todd V's video, I found his stuff better than RSDs "Just say random shit/Free associate". When you go up and say "Hi" to a girl your responsible for the interaction but the best way is to get them talking about themselves. To do this it's best to make Assumptions about the girl "You look like you're/not from around here." "Hey I saw you, and thought you'd be cool to talk too" She'll correct you and give you personal info which you can then pop a question or input your …
/r/seduction04/12/19 12:29 PM
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I'm 50/50 on this, I would say don't approach every damn attractive girl at your work flirting with them, that looks really poor and is bad taste. But if your interested in one girl in particular shes attractive and you like her personality, I think its OK. obviously she has to feel the same don't push things if she doesn't feel the same then we get into the mucky sexual harassment area. I hooked up with a girl at my work causally, she ended it, but we still talk and are friendly. Sometimes its …
/r/seduction03/12/19 05:33 PM
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Don't think there's anything wrong "nice to meet you!" if your cold approaching you're going to hear that line a lot, due to social conditioning on "being nice". 90% of them aren't going to say "I'm not interested in you" there going to do some from of social behavior. Some examples I've ran into "Can I have your number" "Oh, no but it was nice to meet you" "Hey, come sit with me." "I'm Okay"
/r/seduction03/12/19 12:39 PM
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I think doing both are valid approaches because they require skills that are interchangeable. If you cold approach you'll still need to know how to text a girl a setup a date (Just like one tinder) similarly cold approaching means when you meet the girl on tinder, you not stuck in your head and don't know how to talk to a girl you met for the first time. Play the game, and play both to win. you'll only increase your % chance you meet someone you'll really like doing both.
/r/seduction28/11/19 09:05 PM
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ill give you an example just happened to me last night at a bar. Girl walks near the bar to get a drink. I open her with a question, we chat, I comment on her tattoos, and get her Instagram. She goes sits down in the corner with friends. Later on in the night I see her still sitting there in the corner just staring at her phone. I approach again and directly ask her to come sit with me and talk, she declines, as I'm going to walk away and a girl next to her asks if I want to sit there to talk to…
/r/seduction28/11/19 02:00 PM
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I did a FR on this subreddit a while back on exactly this actually. While at starbucks there was a cute girl with a Biology book, her Macbook, and she had headphones in. she was alone just studying. After I got my coffee I approached her (Tapped her) asked if minute to talk and if I could sit with her. We just had a good conversation that seemed to go on for a while, I was still new to the whole approaching so I didnt show a lot of intent and I didn't ask for her number. But the interaction was …
/r/seduction27/11/19 06:56 PM
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First rule of approaches there are NO RULES. Walk up to any girl and say Hi. It does require some SOCIAL CALIBRATION to understand the interaction: Is she telling you to go away, are you standing there awkwardly not talking, is she with a group of friends, etc.
/r/seduction27/11/19 06:00 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=waEC-8GFTP4
/r/seduction27/11/19 12:55 PM
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Most guys wont waste there time you'll find a few that like you that might pursue. If a girl is playing "hard to get" I'd just get with the girl that shows actual interest in me and is willing to meet-up with me.
/r/seduction27/11/19 12:54 PM
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Your text put that girl off "i felt great being with you, i want to meet you again" instead "That night was amazing!" or "I had a great night with you last night" Saying you want to meet her again kind of indicates neediness. Since you two haven't spent a lot of time together. Women read the emotion behind the words. the FWB situation is probably not because your showing "feelings" it's because your not indicating neediness in that interaction, your being a cool dude who she liked having sex wit…
/r/seduction27/11/19 02:24 AM
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My favorite opener is "Hi" then talk to her like a normal human fucking being, with some intent if you think shes hot. The only thing you SHOULD rehearse or get good with over time is interesting stories that you can inject into the conversation should the topic relate to it or if you introduce a new topic.
/r/seduction27/11/19 01:33 AM
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The Two coaches that were there working with me, were really cool chill dudes. I got along with them very well. Tyler himself was cool and chill dude. He talked to me A LOT. He spent 2-3 hours just on me in the AAR.
/r/seduction27/11/19 01:04 AM
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Whatever comes to mind(Are you from here, what music do you listen to, what do like to do?). Last girl I did this to I literally tapped her(she saw me approach) said "Hi, I think your pretty, and I'm interested in talking to you" and started the conversation from there and got her #.
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:25 AM
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Personally agree with this. I've only had 2 relationships with women in my life(the the great age of 30s). Watching "game" has entirely changed my outlook on relationships and my confidence. I was HUGE introvert who could only talk after being around a person for a long time. Now that's entirely changed. I'm able to pick up conversations, engage, flirt with women. Not doing it to fuck hundreds of women, but it's important social skill lots of men(even women) lack in modern society. Honestly if y…
/r/seduction20/11/19 02:34 PM
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You actually said/texted that to her? Take a lesson (Seeing that shes blocked you) and don't ever do that again. If she was flaky didn't want to meet-up with you. Just STOP TALKING TO HER. Talk to other girls. Come back to her later if she's still uninterested drop her.
/r/seduction20/11/19 02:07 PM
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3) Show that you have value. Talk about your passions, your friend and your goals. Talk about where you want to travel and plans for the future. Sell yourself a little bit but not too much. Now this is something I've been doing online in tinder/texts which leads to quite good answers/convo from the girl, but almost everyone I ask THIS question she never asks "How about you/yourself". I find that in cold-approaches/face to face they typically DO ask reciprocate the question. So my question is do …
/r/seduction20/11/19 12:59 PM
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The only reason the interaction was so bad is you felt so unconfident to even ask to sit down. They all sensed that, did not like the Vibe you were giving out. Either way its good that you did something outside your comfort zone. That feeling helps you understand yourself better and become better.
/r/seduction19/11/19 05:33 PM
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Like your idea of thinking!
/r/seduction19/11/19 02:32 PM
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Wait SHE sent you that message FIRST? dude that sounds like a total shit test to me. I'd need more context of the story but I wouldn't give up. If she's fairly hot, Social circle her as a friend then bang her friends lol.
/r/seduction19/11/19 02:31 PM
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I agree with you but depends if he lives in a small area where many women don't go out or there no malls/starbucks. These don't exist where I live so its hard even for day game for me I live in an city of only 5000. While the entire COUNTY is 100,000. The pool of women that don't have kids and around 25-30(my age) is fairly small. I try to do about 1 or 2 sets a day (at the gym) or if I'm out. sometimes I don't even get that because there isn't a female I find attractive. So ill just bullshit wi…
/r/seduction19/11/19 01:09 PM
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Personally I think the Nuclear Option is going right up to a girl you find attractive and saying "I love you" "Lets run away to Vegas and get married right now!". Depending on how you present that you definitely could get laid that night/day off doing that or creep some girls out.
/r/seduction19/11/19 01:02 PM
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Honestly This should of been the OP. I'm Dying.
/r/seduction19/11/19 12:59 PM
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Question is are you just looking to bang or you wanna keep the 8-9's? Like others said it comes down to your value. Say your confident, decent looking, and can "game" an 8. Trying to keep her in your life as Casual is you don't have interesting social circles going to be hard.
/r/seduction19/11/19 12:57 PM
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I do this to girls at the gym all the time. Literally walk in front so they see you approaching or just tap them on the shoulder. Be polite about it and say your intent. You'll know fast if they wanna talk or just put there headphones/earbuds back in.
/r/seduction19/11/19 12:51 PM
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Welcome to the Newbie Man club, where a ton of dudes never learned skills with women. *Raises hand* It took me until I really fell for a girl and she ended it. To start figuring out "What happened?". I learned I didn't have other women in my life to potentially date after her or even see while we were going out made me needy and to her looked she was my "only option" (I wasn't her only option but her top pick). ​ Keep on it brother. Enjoy your journey and walk the path head held high.
/r/seduction18/11/19 02:36 PM
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Might be something in here. But if your just following some girl on IG chances are unless your a fucking model, "Influencer" or rich, Zero. You don't need to be either to get a girl, but on IG trying to get women whole another ball-game. https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/how-to-text-message-a-woman/
/r/seduction18/11/19 01:56 PM
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Thanks for the kind words. Kind of screwed up the "setup for date" with the girl as this a whole new level for me. She was down for meeting up "monday for sure" but I didn't ask time. Side note I did say "date" in the text after I changed the place. I've heard mixed things on using the word "Date" Whats your take?
/r/seduction18/11/19 01:04 PM
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I guess as the saying goes "If you love them, let them go" then find them again on Tinder(or this case Hinge).
/r/seduction18/11/19 11:03 AM
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or better he fucked other girls and she came back.
/r/seduction18/11/19 10:54 AM
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Yes actually. First time this ever happened to me. Girl at work started hardcore flirting with me. I did the basics "Whats your number? what day are you free?" etc but she did 90% of the talking and was more than willing to go back to my place. Once there (i was being awkward) She even started the make out session. While still telling me about her life etc. We got busy the next time we met up. But she GAMED me pretty hard. She did all the talking She did the "teasing" She would initiate any Hugg…
/r/seduction17/11/19 07:26 PM
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Thanks. I've been trying "dating" events with the idea of having my own agenda. I figure that the women are already there so I just go up and talk to any I'm interested in however most are typically bad and I end up with nothing.
/r/seduction17/11/19 04:41 PM
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Hahaha, well played sir! Fake it till you make it! I definitely feel needy at times around women(wanting affection, validation, kiss etc). Have keep it all internally and live without hurts the ego, but will get you women(as proven here).
/r/seduction17/11/19 12:28 PM
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Here's my suggestion. After class approach her and just say, Hi and tell her some crazy college story recently or something that happened to you. Follow up by asking her name/age whatever(better if shes asks you, that's an IOI). Tell another story or ask questions about her. Followed up with phone # Sliding into her DM via Snapchap is a pussy's way of doing it. Approach, Face to Face. Good eye contact. THEN YOU'LL HAVE HER ATTENTION.
/r/seduction15/11/19 04:02 AM
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Im guilty of this as well. If a girl makes direct eye contact, that's literally them saying there interested. I'm guilty of not approaching or breaking eye contact as well. Literally have to punch yourself in the heart, tell your mind "were fucking doing this"
/r/seduction13/11/19 08:11 PM
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Lol kind of ironic
/r/seduction12/11/19 11:54 PM
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I'm a bit curious as to the Vibe your giving off to these girls? First dates then sex means literally all they wanted from you was a good time, but saw nothing more. I can't speak from experience(Haven't even gotten date from online "dating" yet), but I totally feel that fucks with you.
/r/seduction12/11/19 07:35 PM
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I've done this a few times(See my FR i posted). She was studying listening to music(headphones in ear) Just approach, Tap(if she cannot see you approaching), say politely! Excuse me, Hi (your opener)" gauge the reaction and then talk.Also had it where I tapped a girl who was a treadmill next to me, tried to talk to her she wasn't interested. Put her headphones back in and went back to her day. There is no RIGHT or WRONG if they have headphones. It's only gauging the cold-approach interaction.
/r/seduction12/11/19 07:30 PM
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I fucking feel the change, right on Bro! I've only been at it for a couple months and I've done more in those few months than years of my life. Conquer on!
/r/seduction12/11/19 07:23 PM
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I would add to this that many women are stuck in there heads during sex rather than enjoying it. Last one I was with wouldn't want sex telling me "too stressed" even if we did do it she couldn't cum because shes "Stressed". I would add in the fact of getting the women to "feel" and not think. Similar to "you can come baby" but instead ask them about touch, sense, tell them to loose themselves in the feeling.
/r/seduction12/11/19 07:22 PM
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Where-In lies the problem. If you're just "hooking up" with these girls for sex many won't be interested in anything further. Find one your attracted to. Get her to chase you. Keep her causal or FWB depending on how you want it. Enjoy a better sex life that more attached and emotional then bang and done. Personally I found the PUA community because I had a great causal girl that I ended up losing because of my neediness(which I didn't recognize). The Sex, emotions, and attraction I had to this o…
/r/seduction12/11/19 05:20 PM
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I live in PA. As far as location stranger danger on the internet.
/r/seduction12/11/19 02:16 PM
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I've had Similar experience and been struggling recently as well. I've heard of different suggestions such as "I'm going to XXX place or I'm at XXX place come join me" I've done this and included photos of food or drinks (so they know I'm being serious I'm actually there), but gotten excuses "I'm tried, or I gotta shower then see how I feel.. etc". Honestly still haven't pulled a girl from Online to in person date (even with phone numbers, calls etc) because of the flakyness. IMHO you really wan…
/r/seduction12/11/19 01:59 PM
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That's good! Approaching and talking is one of the hardest things to do because of our Egos and fear of negative consequences. I see this as an absolute win! hold your Head-high brother.
/r/seduction12/11/19 01:38 PM
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That's great idea, never thought of that. I'm going to internalize that for my next interaction.
/r/seduction12/11/19 12:54 PM
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You are very true in that statement, actually I never go in with the idea "Oh god I hope she likes me" half the time I can't even think lol. My mindset when I approach is "I just want to talk and meet you". That's definitely something in the second set I was practicing. I'll ask a question let her go on about where's she's been "Do you want to stay here? where would you go if you could etc". If there a pause and seems like the topics dead I'll inject something about myself (I do this, I'm a dork…
/r/seduction11/11/19 06:08 PM
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I've been finding out myself. Bars are basically dead anymore I haven't seen attractive women in there unless its a special event with DJ or live music. I've been focusing more on day game, Stores, Gym, coffee shops where ever I see ones that I find attractive and get the courage worked up to approach. I find it takes me some time to make move so I really need to work on that. I'd love to hear how you approach working girl, a lot of ones I see that I do find attractive are the ones working at th…
/r/seduction11/11/19 05:57 PM
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haha, thanks I didn't even think of it that way. Out of the two girls neither where really attractive(to my type) but they were the only two in the bar that I felt were approachable. There was a fairly large group all sitting at table (6-7 men/women) with pretty girls in there. Rest was really old dudes watching sports.
/r/seduction11/11/19 05:36 PM
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Well in a sense it was a shit-test to her, basically "Are you enjoying this interaction or do you want me to leave?" also being polite and mindful of her time since I interrupted her studying. Thanks for the input.
/r/seduction11/11/19 04:56 PM
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I thought it about a bit later that should of tried asking for her number and closing. Like you said worst is that is fake. Either way going without a number or getting a fake one it would of been better to ask! That's something I haven't done myself either yet. Definitely like to try.
/r/seduction11/11/19 04:50 PM
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It will become obvious to a woman after a while, if the guy keeps them around, that this guy is on his path or just another typical dude. The higher quality women will dump his lazy and unmotivated ass fast and move on. He'll find himself stuck with the lower quality women that's a reflection of himself. Here's the kicker, you stated about 90-day self improvement with a total focus on yourself. Here I would disagree with you. Part of self-improvement is approaching a women you see attractive or …
/r/seduction11/11/19 12:16 PM
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"What happens in vegas stays in vegas" ​ "thousands, Millions, ... (kiss her)" ​ "I'm not sure I usually fall asleep after they leave" ​ Getting my point?
/r/seduction07/11/19 08:11 PM
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I definitely teased her about so many questions. We'll see what happens.
/r/seduction07/11/19 05:43 PM
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Don't ever send them that lol
/r/seduction07/11/19 05:36 PM
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LOL I'm not experienced, it's just the things I keep in mind when I approach women. I hope it helps!
/r/seduction07/11/19 03:44 PM
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I find I have the reverse problem. Hard time opening with a girl then getting her number, I'm more quiet in person, but once they're comfortable around me and vice versa I can text game them and have them asking me questions about myself and chasing me. ​ How do you text? depends on the level of comfort this girl has with you. If this is a new girl you cold approached/tinder/online my text game is minimal. "hey whats going on? when are you free etc" They don't know you so they won't respond back…
/r/seduction07/11/19 03:43 PM
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First, I ROFLed at "nutritionally undisciplined" I'm stealing that. Set #1 I'm interested in how you ejected from that set? Not sure if you just went straight to touch her fur coat without asking. If so I would view that as a bit socially uncalibrated. It could be expensive and she doesn't know you. You could ASK "Can I touch your fur coat, what's it made out of?" I don't see a problem with that. Set #2 This is just my Preference but rather than saying "You look lonely" if you saw her sitting by…
/r/seduction07/11/19 01:55 PM
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If she said that, then That's a positive indicator so you wouldn't get far. But keep approaching and after a while(same with me I'm new to this) you'll start picking up the nuances women say.
/r/seduction06/11/19 03:09 PM
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If a girl says she has a BF, but your attracted to her DON'T EVER SUGGEST BEING FRIENDS with her! If you sense some attraction to you, it's an Alpha male/dog eat dog world. Some girls could be on the end of there relationships with BFs so probing/asking the right questions indirectly could be a benefit. Example of a set I had which I should of pursued(I'm a total noob at this) Approached a girl at a gym, Said "Hi" started chatting(I'm new to area, where you from what you do etc). I joked with he…
/r/seduction06/11/19 02:36 PM
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Basically I went up said Hi, introduced myself asked her name. Told her I moved out here recently. She told me where she lives and then I kind fell flat. (Sat there not saying anything) I think it would have Better would been to shoot into a small story about my move out here and why(which she asked) and continue the conversation. Also understanding that I'm responsible for engaging and maintaining the convo not her(90/10 rule)
/r/seduction05/11/19 08:14 PM
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I watched his youtube "How to never run out of things to day" I found its useful and informative. Because as an introvert I seriously have this problem. I approached a women at a gym(pretty hot) and Walked over to her, said Hi, I talked for less than one minute before my brain was dead of things to say. She politely said she was going back to her workout put her headphones on and I just walked away. Some points he makes 1- minute stories that convey value to the conversation 2- He rejects the id…
/r/seduction05/11/19 12:53 PM
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Focus back on yourself. Don't text/call her. Just continue living your life. Sounds like you two had a great time but this is a "shit-test" in that she's seeing if your needy/clingy or you can be a man, with his own life and agenda and doesn't need her to fill it. I know the feeling all to well, I actually failed a similar thing with a girl I was really into which ended with a "I'm distancing myself from you" text and a call later that day ending it. because I kept blowing up her phone one day a…
/r/seduction05/11/19 12:40 PM
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^This. The best way is to know is to say Hi. If she says Hi, but turns away or shows disinterest in even a basic conversation. Just go about your day and move on to the next girl/set. there's no magical way of knowing by looking at her.
/r/seduction05/11/19 12:28 PM
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I think a lot of people misunderstand that doing an activity together, even something very simple, builds togetherness. Dinner dates are rough if you two are meeting for the first time face to face each other. I'm introverted and its hard to find something to talk about in that awkward silence. Dates I've been on have been Activity Dinner/lunch (walk around if time permits) Depending on the mood of the girl bring them back or setup a second date. If your doing good SHE should ASK YOU for the sec…
/r/seduction04/11/19 07:58 PM
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Interested!
/r/seduction04/11/19 02:12 AM
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She was more than willing but like RSD says women are volume knob. You didn't have her dialed all the way when you got her back she could of broken her state or something at some point and when environments change. Still props to you least you got a her back to your place could always try Day 2
/r/seduction03/11/19 02:55 PM
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I'd disagree entirely stay away from compliments unless, its "back-handed" or funny one, as openers.
/r/seduction30/10/19 07:06 PM
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Had a similar experience, watched a lot of there youtube content then decided to submit my information via there website. I had a call with "Sammy" he was interesting dude, very nice we had a small chat and I was interested in buying a Bootcamp in PHL early this month. I paid for it, set-up the whole thing. Then I didn't hear anything about location/time/where to meet. Now were going to 1-DAY prior to the event happening. I almost bought non-refundable hotel room! I text "Sammy" and ask whats go…
/r/seduction30/10/19 05:48 PM
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"making her feel like she was the only girl for me" I made this mistake, I think that was probably what did it in for you. I was casually seeing a girl(very pretty best one I've been with) and she would directly TELL ME I should date/see other women and "She sucks". I did the fucking BETA/Choud thing and said the same you did "your only girl for me blah blah" and same shit happened to me after a while. "I'm distancing myself from you" she told me after ignoring my calls/texts for day+ . Correct …
/r/seduction30/10/19 04:58 PM
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My favorite response I got from a girl was "I see how I feel after I take a shower" then no follow up. still texted me back and forth that night. (but I never brought it up that she didnt comeout) She did that line to me a few times I asked her out.
/r/seduction30/10/19 04:48 PM
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Great FR. Enjoyed reading and learned something from you're mistakes. Honestly this is something I may have done myself without realizing it much like you. You were just being a nice, sociable dude, but it's an Alpha male world as soon as they learn its not BF/GF serious. What do you think I should have done in this situation? Initial Chat with Vinnie. Once the bar opened up for enough for your date "NICE MEETING YOU" and take your seat put your jacket, something w/e for your date. You didn't ha…
/r/seduction28/10/19 01:09 PM
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IF you've been talking to a girl and they flake... its literally a game of chance with most women. Some do have legit excuses others will lie because emotionally not feeling into you. A Suggestion I heard was to playfully tease them on their flakiness.
/r/seduction28/10/19 12:20 PM
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That's a key too although not directly stated in this, the more VALUE you place on the first few dates(fancy restaurant, drinks, etc) the more you expect to a get a return from the girl. It usually back fires as girl gets to enjoy all those things without having to engage physically or emotionally into you. So Coffee shops, parks, walks, bars with good venues, Hikes etc are great "free" actives to take dates.
/r/seduction28/10/19 12:16 PM
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If she's touching you physically that's an IOI (indicator of interest) touch back or engage physically. Honestly your both still young, while it might seem dorky may be in your interest to ask her. DONT ask to kiss her just ask If shes enjoying your company/having fun with you whatever. If she giggles/laughs or says yes try kissing and do your best not to make it awkward. Overthinking it WILL HURT YOU. Shut your brain off and DO IT.
/r/seduction26/10/19 04:01 PM
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^ this. As soon as you blew up at her you lost. Move on, find another. The way to play that situation would have been to walk up. "Hey girl, what's up didn't know you be out here" (don't mention her blowing you off nothing) A) That's it say Hi, whatever then leave. B) Alpha out the other guy shes with by being super cool, chill, flirt with her ignore the guy. if he makes comments say "Oh how cute" Or "Wow amazing" then focus back on the girl. I'm no expert on these only from what I've read/seen.…
/r/seduction25/10/19 02:23 PM
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I feel you brother, I'm the same way. I've spent most my life sitting in my room playing PC games avoiding human interaction(unless it was online via VOIP) I have great online friends but zero IRL friends because of this. Now at age 30+ I find my introverted self pushed to be social because I WANT to meet women and make friends. This is what you're going to have to do as well PUSH yourself to talk and socialize with the girl in your class. The funny thing is if a girl is interested in you showin…
/r/seduction25/10/19 01:22 PM
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This is trail and error my friend, If you find her attractive and wanna ask her out, you have to be clear in your intentions. Don't ask about "class or assignments or yada yada" When class ends or starts approach her, say "Hi, Hey, I love you" whatever Honestly the stupider or funnier ones are your best bet. I WOULD NOT ask for her number in your first interaction, if your a little uneasy because your nervous you have to build rapport with this girl. Otherwise she'll blow you off. You have class…
/r/seduction25/10/19 12:57 PM
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You should never approach someone from the side or behind I would disagree, its the WAY your friends were approaching them. If you see a girl walking it's much harder to get them to stop. If they are stopped but there lots of people walking by then YOU have to move her to a better spot so you two can chat. It seems like this instance your friends were being clueless as to the traffic and the girls. You should never ask, you should demand (?) If you do it in a funny, non-threatening way, good bod…
/r/seduction25/10/19 11:36 AM
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The best ones are when your not thinking in your head and you just open. I'd say something funny/light tease/High-fives are going to be the best but it's what you feel is right at the moment you open a girl.
/r/seduction25/10/19 11:23 AM
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Pretty much.
/r/seduction24/10/19 03:00 PM
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This has been my personal experience having a casual relationship with a another girl at work. We work different dept's and it was good at first she, much like you, was extremely interested in me and she made the advances/suggestions to hook up(after few days talking but I asked for her #). She didn't want to "date or be BF/GF" due to just getting out of a relationship(having got out of one myself recently I understood). So we just hung out, had sex, and enjoyed each other for few months. When I…
/r/seduction24/10/19 12:39 PM
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