Pro tip I learned from a natural

pendragon2290 · 2021-04-21T01:05:24+00:00

As a point of interest, I'm not sure that that is a great option. Instead, literally just talking to them like they have boyfriends is a good idea though. Not to find out if they are single. But so you can take the pressure off your own game and relax. Assume every woman has a man. There will be a correction and they should be acted on. But literally never discussing their relationship and just talking is absolutely a great approach. Been doing it for years. It's pretty reliable. Allows you to have fun too.

outchannel · 2021-04-21T01:42:36+00:00

this can also come off creepy because the question implies that what you’re really asking is if she has a boyfriend, especially since it may not have been established before

Daunt02 · 2021-04-21T01:13:40+00:00

This works more for a natural because his frame is congruent. Throwing this out as a newbie makes you seem like a creep. Forcing relationship knowledge without building rapport puts women into a logical mind which will make them question your intentions. It takes a good quick recovery to smooth it out.

Of course if your frame is strong you can do whatever you want.

Aquix · 2021-04-21T01:50:12+00:00

I prefer to assume every girl is single. Working from this frame automatically gives me permission to engage and escalate. Many times, using this frame has opened doors even with women that did have partners.

Venom-99 · 2021-04-21T02:52:31+00:00

I wouldn't mention her hypothetical boyfriend in conversation, but I really like the idea of assuming that she has one. I can imagine it taking some of the edge off of trying to make conversation, because I'm just talking to her for fun instead of with a specific goal in mind. I'm going to try this.

MrDownhillRacer · 2021-04-21T03:30:34+00:00

Why do you need to know if she has a boyfriend beforehand?

If she rejects you, she rejects you. It doesn't matter if the reason is that she has a boyfriend, or some other reason. Girls who have boyfriends will naturally filter themselves out on their own without you checking first, because they won't go out with you.

Unless you're afraid that your game will unintentionally get so good, that girls who have boyfriends will go out with you, and you'll be totally unaware it's happening, because you didn't ask. But if a partnered girl wants to go out with you that badly, she'll lie about her boyfriend if asked anyway, so checking with her first is still useless.

Tl;dr don't look for permission to shoot your shot, just shoot your shot and let her decide.

MalibuProducer77 · 2021-04-21T03:50:47+00:00

this is so fucking stupid lmfao

step 1 be attractive step 2 dont be needy step 3 be fun and a mystery

singleguy79 · 2021-04-21T02:44:53+00:00

You could just assume every girl you talk to isn't interested in you until proven otherwise

that_nagger_guy · 2021-04-21T09:11:30+00:00

That sounds incredibly cringy and honestly counter-productive.

realhero83 · 2021-04-21T15:03:40+00:00

That's pathetic advice.

LiamGatsby · 2021-04-21T02:24:46+00:00

Ah, the good ole bait and switch

kinkybillionaire · 2021-04-21T06:59:52+00:00

Always assume girls wanna fuck you. Big dick energy seems to work pretty well 😎

FaithInStrangers94 · 2021-04-21T03:08:04+00:00

I like to ask girls for dating advice specifically places to meet people in my city - it demonstrates that I’m single, looking to meet someone, a decent guy, determine whether they’re single - if they’re not interested I might still get some ideas from them or in one case she set me up with one of her friends.

I know it’s probably frowned upon here but there’s really no reason why it should be provided that you don’t come across as a whinging loser

MyUsername0_0 · 2021-04-21T04:28:59+00:00

I don't agree, its better to assume attraction and don't ask about a boyfriend unless she brings it up.

katalyna78 · 2021-04-21T06:26:11+00:00

Could the principle work in reverse? Can I ask a guy a good spot where he's taken his gf with a similar result?

kriirk_ · 2021-04-21T07:40:28+00:00

Nice idea.

Curious - is it just me, or is there always a nay-sayer in replies, when suggestions are very specific/pin-pointed? If so, why?

MattiasMatt · 2021-04-21T11:03:23+00:00

read models by mark manson. fantastic book.

Warped_Mindless · 2021-04-21T11:17:22+00:00

I do the exact opposite. If they have a BF it’s on her to let me know.

juneburger · 2021-04-21T12:29:38+00:00

I hated when men would do this. It’s not cute. Don’t assume.

Rad619619 · 2021-04-21T12:29:38+00:00

How do you cold approach a girl with the assumption she has a boyfriend?

disengage_rearrange · 2021-04-21T16:32:48+00:00

Yeah, we do that for sure but sometimes I will just go with it if I don't want the guy pursing anything. Gives me an easy out. Also, saves face for the guy. Win, win! Good tactic!

2021-04-21T20:29:33+00:00

Or just ask her if she has a boyfriend. And if she does move on. This doesn't sound natural to me.. This is old school pickup like the routines you will read from the Likes of Mystery or Neil Strauss

tehrealdirtydan · 2021-04-22T02:12:37+00:00

Yeah, usually a girl will mention her bf in conversation, I find. If they don't usually means they don't have one. But that's a subtle way too.

Crixusgannicus · 2021-04-22T02:34:01+00:00

1)Nice one

2)The boyfriend, if any, is not automatically an obstacle, if you know what you are doing/are a suffciently ruthless SOB.

3) Despite 2. keep in mind, some mofos WILL try to literally kill you over a piece of ass although it's neither his or yours, it's just one or both of your turns and someone else will be fucking her when one of you is dead and the other is locked up.

tetrachromancy · 2021-04-25T06:55:43+00:00

This is only helpful for screening if she’s single. It’s indirect and sneaky, and I am not sure what purpose it truly serves if your goal is sex.

I don’t care if she has a boyfriend.

The boyfriend can be someone she is about to break up with or forget about. I’m not going to cockblock myself.

It’s better to assume attraction. Boyfriends do not matter.

If you push up against a boundary and she is in a committed relationship, she’ll let you know.

That’s an indication you effectively signaled a man to woman dynamic and sex came to her mind.

And guess what? I’ve fucked women even after they told me they had a boyfriend. I guess he just wasn’t there at the time so it didn’t matter.

Title	Pro tip I learned from a natural
Author	Xazax310
Upvotes	969
Comments	65
Date	April 21, 2021 12:08 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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