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| 1 | Does anyone else feel that the book, "How to win friends and influence people", advices people to be overly kind and fake which comes across as extremely inauthentic?According to a lot of people here in this post, the book gives a general idea and gets better as we read further. So I'll continue reading it and take it all in but use it logically lol. I feel it's mainly for business people or sales people rather than for genuine friends. | /r/seduction | 07/05/21 11:42 AM |
| 12 | Does anyone else feel that the book, "How to win friends and influence people", advices people to be overly kind and fake which comes across as extremely inauthentic?That's a good advice! Totally agree with you. But what about "Never criticize. Only praise and compliment.". Oh hell no. I have been like that for years and people took advantage of me. I want to be direct and confrontational. | /r/seduction | 05/05/21 12:34 PM |
| 25 | Female Perspective On Online DatingLol even getting 1 match every three days would boost my ego as a guy. Imagine getting 1000s and still complaining. They may not be perfect, but at least your ego stays put and you're not discouraged. | /r/seduction | 28/04/21 02:47 PM |
| 3 | Women will respect your courageI'm guessing that's true. I think people are more social in the US and Canada. | /r/seduction | 26/04/21 03:47 PM |
| 59 | Women will respect your couragefuck. that one is difficult | /r/seduction | 26/04/21 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Help please!!!!r/madlads | /r/seduction | 26/04/21 03:22 PM |
| 2 | Help please!!!!I can't believe OP literally proposed her. Maybe he meant like ask her out? | /r/seduction | 26/04/21 03:03 PM |
| 20 | What is your hobby?I'm also going to list the hobbies that I want to take up Currently, I work out, do photography, stargazing, astrophotography, and programming. I'm planning to take up hiking soon. Maybe jiu Jitsu later? | /r/seduction | 25/04/21 03:45 PM |
| 3 | I need to love myself moreThank you! | /r/seduction | 25/04/21 03:16 PM |
| 3 | I need to love myself moreThank you! | /r/seduction | 25/04/21 03:16 PM |
| 10 | I need to love myself moreI wish this was true lol. But imagining myself to be fit at 6'1" with no style and personality, I can surely say this is a turn off. | /r/seduction | 25/04/21 11:56 AM |
| 55 | I need to love myself moreThis! I recently realised that I have nothing to offer. I need to work on myself a LOT in order to attract a woman. It's ME who is the problem, not them. I look around and see women taking so much time and effort in prettying themselves, working out, and building up confidence, and I'm a fucking weeping potato wanting a scrape of attention. If I could put the same effort as them and increase my self-esteem, I'm sure I can get there. I'm comparing myself with those confident and skilled men who a… | /r/seduction | 25/04/21 11:53 AM |
| 11 | 8 Surprising Ways To Beat Approach AnxietyDoes cold approach improve social skills? | /r/seduction | 23/04/21 11:18 AM |
| 4 | 8 Surprising Ways To Beat Approach AnxietyYes. Yes they are. | /r/seduction | 23/04/21 11:17 AM |
| 23 | Don't be a fool. Don't be like me.This is crazy. All these comments are making me remember those moments where girls just stared into my soul like they wanted to abduct me and I never realised what they were upto so I didn't make a move. I mean SOOOO many times that it hurts to remember now. I wanna ask women here that, do women actually stare at men (for more than usual time) for no reason or do they actually feel a sexual tension? | /r/seduction | 23/04/21 05:06 AM |
| 17 | Don't be a fool. Don't be like me.Cries in 6'1" | /r/seduction | 23/04/21 05:02 AM |
| 2 | How would you seamlessly lead a conversation to innocent flirting?Is this flirting? | /r/seduction | 22/04/21 07:52 PM |
| 2 | Guy here, What do i do if i catch feelings too early and too intensely? how to stop idealising women?Also go to the gym and lift weights. What ways does this help? I'm sure this can't be an all in one solution | /r/seduction | 22/04/21 05:19 AM |
| 35 | Direct Game - Being Brutally Honest and Telling a Girl You're Attracted to Her"I strive towards the evolution and wellness of our future human generations. Thus, I am here, conversing with you." | /r/seduction | 22/04/21 04:48 AM |
| 26 | Pro tip I learned from a natural* taps on the temple * | /r/seduction | 21/04/21 04:57 AM |
| 16 | To those that used to have a hard time holding a conversation, how did you fix your problem?I really need to improve this. I can probably start small with friends of friends. You know the "first get to know" phase is easy. But after that, I literally have nothing to say. I have been in places with people so many times where we were just fucking silent. Standing motionless and quiet whereas others were chatting away. It's so embarrassing ugh. | /r/seduction | 20/04/21 01:07 PM |
| 7 | Is this a group anyone can join or jus males?It is definitely scary, but they don't NEED to ask out. They GET asked out. Whereas a guy would probably die alone if he never asked out. | /r/seduction | 20/04/21 09:23 AM |
| 1 | Got a girls number when I wasn’t even trying toAlright I see what you mean. Thank you. | /r/seduction | 20/04/21 05:35 AM |
| 2 | Got a girls number when I wasn’t even trying toYeah I guessed most people would ask whether they have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Thank you. | /r/seduction | 20/04/21 05:26 AM |
| 17 | Got a girls number when I wasn’t even trying toYou don't say which one? | /r/seduction | 20/04/21 05:26 AM |
| 46 | Got a girls number when I wasn’t even trying toHow do native English speakers pronounce SO? Do you say Significant Other, or simply Ess Ohh? | /r/seduction | 20/04/21 04:39 AM |
| 1 | I managed to have a first small talk/date from cold approachI think I'll try Snapchat then. I have never used text (SMS) as a means of communicating with anyone because it feels so old fashioned lol. Everybody uses WhatsApp or telegram or social media. | /r/seduction | 19/04/21 03:31 AM |
| 1 | I managed to have a first small talk/date from cold approachYou use Snapchat as a messaging app? I never realised that. Because I've never used Snapchat and probably not use it at all lol. | /r/seduction | 19/04/21 03:01 AM |
| 1 | I managed to have a first small talk/date from cold approachI've never heard of those two lol. I think I should just straight up ask her haha | /r/seduction | 18/04/21 02:37 PM |
| 2 | I managed to have a first small talk/date from cold approachThat's true. What if she doesn't use WhatsApp or telegram lol. Are there people who don't? I'm talking about North America btw | /r/seduction | 18/04/21 02:33 PM |
| 1 | I managed to have a first small talk/date from cold approachWhat could android users do? I don't have iMessage so the only way I can contact her number is over WhatsApp, telegram or straight up call her which is definitely a no no. | /r/seduction | 18/04/21 02:25 PM |
| 3 | How have you guys overcome/deal with approach anxiety?How effective is this? | /r/seduction | 18/04/21 07:37 AM |
| 1 | Made a tiny move todayIt comes later. After all the little steps of nodding, heying, talking, dating.... | /r/seduction | 18/04/21 06:56 AM |
| 3 | First cold approach in months, rejected but worth itwot? | /r/seduction | 18/04/21 06:04 AM |
| 6 | Made a tiny move todayI've done that to girls so many times haha. Don't know what they think about it though | /r/seduction | 17/04/21 09:07 AM |
| 7 | Made a tiny move todayI actually realised I typed it the other way around. So yeah up is more for friends and down is greetings for strangers or for more formal situations | /r/seduction | 17/04/21 08:29 AM |
| 2 | Made a tiny move todayYeah haha prolly I'm overthinking like usual ugh | /r/seduction | 17/04/21 07:56 AM |
| 24 | Made a tiny move todayWhat type of nod is acceptable to girls? I do the up nod and down nod for two different reasons subconsciously. The up nod is a more respectful acknowledgment of the person, whereas the down nod is a more friendlier acknowledgment like "hey". Edit: the other way around lol | /r/seduction | 17/04/21 07:07 AM |
| 2 | How long would it take to go from no experiences to a regular dating life?How does Facebook dating work exactly? I have deleted literally all information from my profile. | /r/seduction | 14/04/21 05:30 PM |
| 3 | Misconceptions about Having HobbiesPlease tell me browsing Reddit is a hobby! | /r/seduction | 14/04/21 04:40 PM |
| 1 | 22 year old virgin just had sex for the first time. Here's everything I learned.Well my first language is English, but I'm not a native speaker. As in I didn't grow up in an English speaking country like the US, but have been speaking English since my childhood. | /r/seduction | 14/04/21 04:32 PM |
| 2 | 22 year old virgin just had sex for the first time. Here's everything I learned.Yes! I feel so attracted to the ones who can even simply ask back the same question to me. It really makes me wonder whether they are mindlessly swiping or actually paying attention. | /r/seduction | 14/04/21 08:17 AM |
| 5 | 22 year old virgin just had sex for the first time. Here's everything I learned.Talking with girls on Tinder honestly feels boring. I have no clue why they reply like it's an interview and never really try to push the conversation forward themselves. They match, but never show interest. | /r/seduction | 14/04/21 07:57 AM |
| 3 | 22 year old virgin just had sex for the first time. Here's everything I learned.How do you politely make your intentions clear? I have trouble explaining certain thoughts because I'm a non native English speaker. | /r/seduction | 14/04/21 07:56 AM |
| 9 | Speaking as a woman - Don’t forget you’re always coming off as horny.How do I even approach a shy girl without seeming desperate? Often times it seems like the girl is disinterested in me but she could be just shy. But now it's too difficult to decide what to do because I might seem desperate and creepy if I make any further move so I abandon it. | /r/seduction | 13/04/21 08:43 AM |
| 1 | How I learned to stop loathing and actually do something about myselfI really love working out. But since Covid started, I haven't been able to consistently work out and have grown a big belly which is making me self conscious. | /r/seduction | 11/04/21 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Share an successful encounter you've had.Can you go into the detail about how the sub helped you? | /r/seduction | 10/04/21 04:58 PM |
| 4 | Fellas keep up with your hygiene pleaseIs cologne always necessary? What about perfume? And when do I use it? Like before class and before work and before every time I go out? | /r/seduction | 06/04/21 05:56 PM |
| 7 | Fellas keep up with your hygiene pleaseI simply use my brush to brush my tongue. Is that a bad idea? | /r/seduction | 06/04/21 05:55 PM |
| 17 | What behaviors or habits scream low self-esteem?I never tell anyone that I'm trying to change it starting to take care of myself. It just carves a path for them to make fun of me and make me feel weak. The same reason I don't tell people that I actually put effort into improving English. I just tell them I sorta absorbed it and subconsciously learnt it which is only partly true. | /r/seduction | 06/04/21 05:42 PM |
| 8 | What behaviors or habits scream low self-esteem?My low self-esteem makes me not want to look into the mirror wtf | /r/seduction | 06/04/21 03:49 PM |
| 81 | What behaviors or habits scream low self-esteem?Oh man I'm trying to shift attention away from myself because of my low self esteem. I don't want to talk about myself because i don't like myself. I don't know but this is exactly opposite to what you just described. | /r/seduction | 06/04/21 03:47 PM |
| 2 | What behaviors or habits scream low self-esteem?My friends would slap me regardless for the lols lmao | /r/seduction | 06/04/21 03:45 PM |
| 3 | How come the seduction sidebar doesn't have any resources or anything ?I'm excited! | /r/seduction | 04/04/21 04:43 AM |
| 1 | Give 4-5 short bullets on what you think it takes to be successful with women, or to be successful in general. No paragraphs.I think it's just my hormones of a 21yo, but simply standing or sitting really close to a cute girl can give me a boner and I get so embarrassed because of that. I try to distract myself by walking away or increasing the distance between us which I think breaks off the connection. Ugh I just wish my boners were invisible to other people. | /r/seduction | 04/04/21 04:32 AM |
| 2 | Give 4-5 short bullets on what you think it takes to be successful with women, or to be successful in general. No paragraphs.Can I consider working out as my hobby? I always thought it would be odd to call that a hobby, but I love working out. I'm currently on a bulking stage and seeing progress just makes me so happy lol. | /r/seduction | 04/04/21 04:28 AM |
| 19 | I didn’t get her number, but I’m still glad I askedJust start telling your number even before she takes her phone out? What even | /r/seduction | 29/03/21 04:31 AM |
| 8 | I didn’t get her number, but I’m still glad I askedI'm clearly dumb here. English is not my first language. Can you explain how the first two lines were flirty? You just asked whether you could buy alcohol. And I don't get what she meant by tackle. Clearly shows I'm bad at seduction haha | /r/seduction | 29/03/21 04:30 AM |
| 52 | I didn’t get her number, but I’m still glad I askedIn this same scenario, how should I give my number to her? Just ask her to type it in her phone? What if I don't have a piece of paper and a pen? | /r/seduction | 29/03/21 04:28 AM |
| 1 | Tips on how to get girls from someone who was in a seven year relationshipI'm an adult. I don't have vehicle. I haven't even started earning yet :( | /r/seduction | 28/03/21 06:09 PM |
| 3 | Field report : Cold approached two peopleI sometimes hit wall in my conversations. For example, when I ask a question, and the other person fully answers it and I have no further questions, I'm just like, "oh yeah that's great". And then that's it. What else do I say? I have a feeling that this is because I'm a non native English speaker, but who knows, maybe even natives have the same problem as me. | /r/seduction | 28/03/21 07:29 AM |
| 1 | Tips on how to get girls from someone who was in a seven year relationship PART 2 :put yourself out there Where do I go? How do I randomly start conversing with a girl? | /r/seduction | 24/03/21 10:43 AM |
| 0 | Tips on how to get girls from someone who was in a seven year relationship PART 2 :I legit don't know the difference between cologne, perfume, and deodorant. Are they the same? | /r/seduction | 24/03/21 10:40 AM |
| 1 | Why results come when you stop caringWhat was it? | /r/seduction | 24/03/21 03:06 AM |
| 62 | Stop falling in love with people you're not datingLol look at this bold man thinking we get more than 1 | /r/seduction | 23/03/21 06:04 AM |
| 15 | Stop falling in love with people you're not datingSo, to love or not to love? | /r/seduction | 23/03/21 06:03 AM |
| 3 | Tips on how to get girls from someone who was in a seven year relationshipOffer to pick her up What if I don't have a vehicle? | /r/seduction | 22/03/21 07:45 PM |
| 54 | Tips on how to get girls from someone who was in a seven year relationshippay for the meal you cheap fuck Is it the norm? Every girl gets a free date everytime? Do I have to pay for everything every damn time?? Almost feels like I'm trying to buy her instead of having a mutual relation with her. | /r/seduction | 22/03/21 03:28 AM |
| 1 | Simple girl speaking from heart why how we suck at attraction (video)I think she took it a bit too far. It felt like she thinks that men should have all the responsibility, including mind reading women. If I was in a relationship, I would be really close friends with my partner and would except to share and have an open relationship, but trying to "figure out" what I'm supposed to do. We both will make it work, not just me. | /r/seduction | 21/03/21 04:46 PM |
| 10 | Becoming more physically attractive has made me realize I’m def gonna be single foreverlearn to socialize I see so many people say this. I always have one question in my mind. How? Where do I start? | /r/seduction | 21/03/21 11:38 AM |
| 1 | What are some hobbies that I can take up that would help me socialize with people while not being fixated at girls?Exactly! That's why I'm here to ask what I should do haha. All my hobbies are pretty solitary. Tbh they're my hobbies because they're solitary perhaps lol. | /r/seduction | 21/03/21 11:09 AM |
| 2 | What are some hobbies that I can take up that would help me socialize with people while not being fixated at girls?How exactly has it helped you? When I go out to do photography, I just step out myself and hardly talk with people. | /r/seduction | 21/03/21 11:06 AM |
| 2 | What are some hobbies that I can take up that would help me socialize with people while not being fixated at girls?But that's kinda lonely isn't it? | /r/seduction | 20/03/21 07:15 PM |
| 3 | What are some hobbies that I can take up that would help me socialize with people while not being fixated at girls?I play they keyboard sometimes. But I'm just trying to pick up some songs and trying to play those using the music sheet. It takes time to do that. So I'm not really sure whether I'm doing the right thing. And anyway, how would people know or would even care if I play the keyboard at my home anyway lol | /r/seduction | 20/03/21 05:43 PM |
| 1 | How do I, as an engineer, who is mostly doing and following things related to engineering, like coding and watching SpaceX videos, improve my social skills?Is it too much to ask for both 😳 | /r/seduction | 20/03/21 11:48 AM |
| 1 | How do I, as an engineer, who is mostly doing and following things related to engineering, like coding and watching SpaceX videos, improve my social skills?I'm 21 | /r/seduction | 20/03/21 03:00 AM |
| 1 | The total lack of parenting in dating.I'll check those out. Thanks! | /r/seduction | 18/03/21 07:16 PM |
| 0 | The total lack of parenting in dating.What books did you read? | /r/seduction | 18/03/21 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Women Want Men Who Are Superior To ThemWhat does pushover husband mean? | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 04:36 AM |
| 4 | Girls are impressed by guys who don't try to impress them. This is why bragging or showing off causes girls to lose interest. This epiphany made me realize it's about connecting with them and learning more about them, their goals, hobbies, past, etc."woah i didnt say anything for 2 minutes, now its weird to dtart talking again" Yikes. This! These are my exact thoughts. It feels strange to approach after some time has passed. Especially a long time like days or weeks. But thanks for insight. I think I'll just have to put myself out there lol. | /r/seduction | 10/03/21 06:10 PM |
| 198 | Girls are impressed by guys who don't try to impress them. This is why bragging or showing off causes girls to lose interest. This epiphany made me realize it's about connecting with them and learning more about them, their goals, hobbies, past, etc.I always felt that the concept of "impressing girls" is like tricking them into thinking that you're awesome, rather than actually being awesome. Because it literally means you're going out of your normal routine to do something, which makes it fake. | /r/seduction | 10/03/21 07:30 AM |
| 22 | Girls are impressed by guys who don't try to impress them. This is why bragging or showing off causes girls to lose interest. This epiphany made me realize it's about connecting with them and learning more about them, their goals, hobbies, past, etc.Man I have difficulty starting to talk with anyone when there is no context. If I'm at the gym or uni, there's something common to talk, but not anywhere else. I don't know whether it's because I'm a non native speaker or an introvert, but starting a conversation has always been difficult for me. I don't know what words I need to spit out. What do I SAY?! | /r/seduction | 10/03/21 07:27 AM |
| 6 | Well... today I cold approached....What's that? | /r/seduction | 03/03/21 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Well... today I cold approached....How do you start the conversation? Being a non native speaker, I have the toughest time in starting a conversation and not continuing it. I mean what were your exact words? | /r/seduction | 03/03/21 05:29 PM |
| 1 | If a girl looks at you do look away too quickly just because you're shyIf you keep staring at me, I'd like to know your name | /r/seduction | 23/02/21 05:44 PM |
| 14 | If a girl looks at you do look away too quickly just because you're shyAh those tiles look nice. | /r/seduction | 23/02/21 05:43 PM |
| 7 | If a girl looks at you do look away too quickly just because you're shyWhen you approach, what the hell do you talk about? I mean how do I start? Do you have like a cheat sheet or something? I have been in several situations where I have had nothing to talk about. Literally nothing! I see this girl at gym who's kinda by herself, but not too isolating or something, that I'd like to talk to. She seems friendly. I have asked for help like can we alternate our sets with the same equipment blah blah but nothing beyond that. | /r/seduction | 23/02/21 05:42 PM |
| 22 | Do I sit in front or next to her on the first date?This!! I didn't ask the question because I wanna kiss the girl on the first day. That's totally uncomfortable to me. I want to get to know her first, but sitting right in front is a lil scary for me because I have anxiety. I can maintain eye contact for a while while chatting, but it gets too tiring. Follow-up question: do you talk the whole time you're together or is it okay to be silent for sometime? I am a bit "out of topics" most so end up not knowing what to talk about. | /r/seduction | 18/02/21 03:09 PM |
| 5 | Do I sit in front or next to her on the first date?That's the next step right? Am I going the wrong way? /s | /r/seduction | 18/02/21 02:11 PM |
| 2 | I need help as to how to start a conversation with random person?How did you walk with a random girl for 30 minutes without making any contact? Were you following here lol | /r/seduction | 18/02/21 08:32 AM |
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