Difference between vulnerability and being feminine?

Liberaler · 2020-06-21T08:46:42+00:00

To resolve this contradiction you have to understand how different the approaches to women and relationships are. There is the pu-approach, that is mainly focused on results. And there are other approaches, who focus on authenticity. They are about quality of relationships not quantity, getting relationships that are deep. This means giving up control to create depth in the relationships.

Showing vulnerability belongs to the second school. By showing vulnerability you intentionally risk losing the girl by showing her your weak side. Really deep relationships are not possible without doing that.

Of course, this will only resonate with you if you're an honest, authentic and idealistic guy to begin with.

7Saturn7Saturn7 · 2020-06-21T02:56:08+00:00

Women want guys who are legitimately strong. You get points for openness if it verifies your strength, not in and of itself. This doesn't mean you can't show negative emotion or trauma but it had better be fresh, powerful, and you had better be defiant in the face of it. Guys will blubber about how they were bullied in high school and how they always felt chubby and then wonder why their girl left. If they had grown some standards then asked themselves if they were living up to them from time to time they would have delt with those things a long time ago.

sloanpal144 · 2020-06-21T06:35:19+00:00

Vulnerability would be opening up about anxiety and depression. Being weak and unmasculine would be revealing that you're afraid of spiders and secretly like listening to early justin bieber.

You can reveal what has hurt you emotionally but you must never give a woman any indication that you are weak or will fail to take care of her if you find yourself in a difficult situation. You have to show her that although you have vulnerabilities, you are a rock emotionally.

Icantstoptwinkling · 2020-06-21T16:52:57+00:00

Femininity is qualities or attributes regarded as characteristic of women.

I don’t think absence of strength or dominance or being weak and submissive is an attribute of women in general neither do I think vulnerability is. Unless you’re talking physically speaking e.g where a man and a woman had to face off in a fight.

Well I won’t say everything cuz that will expand to everything from femininity shown through literature to what biological attributes we have. Femininity is seen every where basically but I digress.

I guess to me femininity typical shit, like the way most women write, stuff they wear and the way they look. Just simple stuff that isn’t much of a big deal. Nothing to do with vulnerability. Like are you gonna see someone who is weak maybe even frail and they’re vulnerable and then say “that’s very feminine, vulnerability looks feminine”. That’s just seems weird to me.

I basically just live my life with my gender not weighing down on me because it’s not significant to me until someone else makes it apparent e.g catcalling

Femininity is seen differently in different cultures so unless you grew up in a very sexist one then your gonna seen that way.

ApollosSin · 2020-06-22T21:18:40+00:00

Express your emotions, state how you feel, but don't wear your heart on your sleeve.

pornodio · 2020-06-21T01:36:38+00:00

Nah it was some stupid shit invented by that mark manson guy to sell his book

The meaning of it all is simply just dont be shy. That was the meaning but he needed to invent a new concept to entice shy naive incels so they could pay money

Title	Difference between vulnerability and being feminine?
Author	jackaquack
Upvotes	2
Comments	11
Date	June 21, 2020 1:30 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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