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4

So, a mindset shift: trying to make the interaction enjoyable for both of you. How? Or what does it feel like?
/r/seduction24/07/26 02:44 AM
2

It depends on where you live
/r/seduction15/07/26 11:42 PM
1

I think Me Too was important and valuable. In any case, yes, American girls are terrible
/r/seduction12/07/26 03:42 AM
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OP, I mostly agree. This stuff worked in the US 15 years ago, though.
/r/seduction12/07/26 02:39 AM
8

Don't ghost her. Tell her the truth, which might be something like: "Hey, I like you, I want to keep getting to know you, I like these things about you, but for me, being in love is a little early. If we can take it slow and see where this connection goes, I'm excited to continue."
/r/seduction07/07/26 05:54 PM
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This, OP you ghost her, then I hope the next 10 women ghost you. Grow a fucking pair.
/r/seduction07/07/26 05:52 PM
1

Idk the answer, all I can say is that there is definitely no lack of fit girls in Colombia or Brazil. If I were you, I'd just go to Belo Horizonte, Brazil. The people there are wonderful, so nice, so easy to connect with, and there's this impression that there is a shortage of straight men, and of respectful men. So go, say hello, be respectful but flirty, and things will go very well for you. I think Portuguese is easier to learn than Spanish, and the third language is always easier. I wouldn't…
/r/seduction07/07/26 02:00 PM
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Idk what your life situation is, but I would move. Aggressively cockblocked by the staff? What the actual fuck! I live in South America. I like thick voluptuous girls, and there honestly aren't a ton of those in my city. But God, is it crawling with fit women of all ages. Just not my taste.
/r/seduction05/07/26 04:18 PM
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Yeah, focusing on one or two things is much better than focusing on nothing at all. Could you link that other post here? Your privacy settings hide them.
/r/seduction22/06/26 12:21 AM
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Love to see another autist out there getting it. Curious... how old, tall, good looking are you?
/r/seduction21/06/26 09:06 PM
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Fuck yeah, love the Wednesday night story about how you gave them a ride home and still banged. Would love to hear more about how you analyze your results... I think "just approaching" without learning from what you're doing is terrible.
/r/seduction21/06/26 09:04 PM
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Girls want sexual tension AND security.
/r/seduction18/06/26 06:05 PM
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Because I've been with more average looking women than beautiful women.
/r/seduction15/06/26 08:12 PM
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Hahaha yeah, that's kind of what they're supposed to be about...
/r/seduction15/06/26 06:25 PM
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I think talking to strippers is good for other reasons: Maintaining sexual tension, eye contact. Getting used to being around beautiful women. Realizing that it's not that missing ingredient that's going to change your life.
/r/seduction15/06/26 05:25 PM
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Sometimes women really do just move slowly. I don't think you did anything wrong, my guy.
/r/seduction08/06/26 01:50 PM
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Yes, I think you should have spoken to HIM about it, not her. With these kinds of conversations, that happen once and can cause shifts in relationships, I think it's good to sit down and write down your thoughts and the things you want to say. Because your emotions can boil up, and doing it on paper first helps to smooth it over and not say something you'll regret.
/r/seduction02/06/26 12:30 AM
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Where are you located?
/r/seduction23/05/26 03:19 AM
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If you're going to criticize cold approaching, and not offer any alternative, then get off the sub, dude.
/r/seduction08/05/26 09:06 PM
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And that filters would-be approachers out... leaving more for me.
/r/seduction08/05/26 09:05 PM
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I disagree, if you approach with the right vibe, it works VERY well, and it worked before I was some great catch
/r/seduction08/05/26 06:12 PM
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I wonder if this is a result of casual sex, polyamory, etc. (Which is my preference) The "old rules" more or less meant that there was one man for each woman I think what we're seeing today is a smaller pool of men sleeping with a larger pool of women
/r/seduction08/05/26 02:58 PM
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Quit blaming OP. Girl are so complicated these days.
/r/seduction01/05/26 01:30 AM
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Where do I find paper towels, how do I use the computer, etc.
/r/seduction30/04/26 02:36 PM
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Good move. It's what I should do
/r/seduction30/04/26 02:23 AM
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I had this restaurant job with some hotties. I started saving my "new guy" questions for the girls. It worked pretty well.
/r/seduction30/04/26 12:05 AM
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There's a wall that sometimes drops after about a minute of talking.
/r/seduction21/04/26 09:59 PM
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I left the US and it got a lot easier
/r/seduction16/04/26 03:02 AM
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I'd tell her you book it and I'll pay you back when you get here
/r/seduction13/04/26 06:31 PM
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I'm one of the horniest people I know. It hasn't been worth it for me. (35M) I would have had more, high-quality sex with cool girls who wanted to date me when I was trying to play the field or wait for something better. I'm kind of awkward, kind of cool, reasonably good-looking. I never found seduction to be super easy. Do with that what you will.
/r/seduction13/04/26 12:38 AM
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I think that a lot of the dating advice is good in big cities, and some of it doesn't working in smaller cities or the country. That being said, things like eye contact, speaking slowly with pauses in a chest voice... I think those things are universal, biological.
/r/seduction09/04/26 04:58 PM
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The point of this subreddit is not to talk shit from behind a keyboard
/r/seduction29/03/26 02:49 AM
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Ghosting is super common, and so Is getting attached
/r/seduction24/03/26 01:31 AM
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Say "Hi" to 5 people
/r/seduction20/03/26 05:19 AM
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As an autistic person, this is what my confidence now looks like. 1) I'm going to be awkward sometimes. And I'm not sorry, and I don't care. 2) If you let me know that I offended you, I'll do something about it. But I'm not walking around on eggshells because I miss things often.
/r/seduction19/03/26 07:41 PM
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That second paragraph... I definitely attract the weirdos. And I love it.
/r/seduction19/03/26 03:42 PM
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What does a conversation look like that leads to a date? Are these girls you met in person and added, or browsed Instagram for random hot girls?
/r/seduction16/03/26 09:30 PM
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What is a 3 in 1 barber?
/r/seduction16/03/26 09:27 PM
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Even if it is AI-generated... ...it is CORRECT, and exactly what so many men need to here. Quit the ridiculous jackhammer routine.
/r/seduction14/03/26 04:39 PM
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She's being an unreadable fool, there's no understanding this
/r/seduction24/02/26 02:00 AM
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Dude, if you're pulling with any regularity, you're doing a lot better than the vast majority of men. Enjoy what you have, be content.
/r/seduction16/02/26 11:10 PM
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"Own kind of logic" is not logic. """ Logic is the study of correct reasoning or good arguments. It is often defined in a more narrow sense as the science of deductively valid inferences or of logical truths. """
/r/seduction16/02/26 05:13 PM
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Women never make sense But girls want to see your IG to understand more about you. A number gives her none of that, and gives access to her that can feel uncomfortable
/r/seduction15/02/26 07:17 PM
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You don't, that's your flatmate
/r/seduction13/02/26 02:19 PM
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I disagree, I had a WAY easier time getting laid in Manaus, Brazil. It was like being a hot girl.
/r/seduction13/02/26 01:49 AM
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Girls love doing this, because the boyfriend is a shield that prevents the flirting from actually going anywhere
/r/seduction11/02/26 05:53 PM
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So, facetime, video calls... How do you use these? It sounds kind of like a first date before the first date. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, OP.
/r/seduction06/02/26 11:43 PM
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Man, that car needs a project
/r/seduction23/01/26 07:42 PM
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So sorry, man. I hate dealing with this kind of bullshit. My closest friend did this to me. Feel free to DM if you want to vent more.
/r/seduction15/01/26 05:15 AM
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Yeah man... after going to Colombia enough times, and easily making friends, I realized... ...the problem wasn't me. It was the culture I was in. Social media, screens, cultural suspicion... these things have ruined the US
/r/seduction10/01/26 04:50 PM
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Yeah, I speak Spanish. It's good, but not perfect. I would under no circumstance do anything without a lawyer. Not because people are shady, but because they are affordable and make the process easier.
/r/seduction10/01/26 04:30 PM
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Yes, it is. It's obviously easier for me because I'm exotic, but I think it's easier for EVERYONE, locals included, regardless of social status.
/r/seduction10/01/26 04:29 PM
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Great post, I agree completely. I left the US for Colombia and have a much better time dating here.
/r/seduction09/01/26 09:18 PM
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If you ghost people without explanation, you can go to hell
/r/seduction09/01/26 01:29 PM
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I just leave the room for a bit haha
/r/seduction09/01/26 01:05 AM
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Dude, been there.
/r/seduction05/01/26 04:31 PM
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Sorry OP, that's rough. I was sexually frustrated, too.
/r/seduction04/01/26 07:23 PM
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You're a physician. You have money. You and your wife are effectively not in a relationship. Your money is yours, her money is hers. Get out of the "back unit." You don't owe a woman your life story thru Bumble before the first date. Go out with her, get to know her, and then "disclose" these details at the end. You still have the option to make her your ex-wife so that you can honestly call her that. Otherwise, you can say that you two are separated, and the romance died a long time ago, but yo…
/r/seduction04/01/26 01:34 PM
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Interesting.
/r/seduction03/01/26 10:49 PM
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Why do you think you understand this girl better than I do?
/r/seduction03/01/26 12:46 PM
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It helps a lot, but like many things, it won't take you all the way.
/r/seduction02/01/26 11:56 PM
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"That's it" Nah, my FWB literally chews and licks my biceps.
/r/seduction02/01/26 11:55 PM
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What part of the world are you in, OP?
/r/seduction02/01/26 03:19 PM
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Interesting... what are "hooks" from the presentation class?
/r/seduction02/01/26 03:18 PM
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My notes: Avoid "rapper style" outfits
/r/seduction02/01/26 03:17 PM
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I think ultimately, life is about connection - platonic, familial, romantic, sexual. It can take time to build solid, enjoyable connections.
/r/seduction31/12/25 12:14 AM
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Honestly, OP, you may not need to fix all your mindset issues. Work on that as much as you can, of course. But really, if you can just make a move at the right times (like when that girl was staring at your lips), you can make out or sleep with some girls, and that should go a long way towards fixing your self-esteem. I exposed myself to frequent rejection through a sales job. It's really just an essential life skill. If talking to a few girls around campus isn't going to crush your spirit, then…
/r/seduction29/12/25 11:47 PM
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Density... Does it really matter that there are 7 million people, if you will only ever see 500,000 of them, and approach 500 of them? Imo, it's way better to have a city of 500,000 where the people are warm, open, friendly, you like them (in general) and they like you.
/r/seduction29/12/25 05:15 AM
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I just saw a post similar to yours about NYC. Another liberal city, leading the cultural charge of suspicion, man-hating and general shittiness in dating. My girl friend from NYC told me you're not supposed to talk to strangers in bars anymore.
/r/seduction29/12/25 02:04 AM
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Hey, sorry you feel bad, OP. I'm not from Seattle. I think that liberal cities lead the cultural charge for the rest of the US. I was in Austin, TX. I moved to a small city in Colombia, and after about a year, I have a girl I'm dating, and multiple others texting me often (and I'm not really asking them to) America sucks.
/r/seduction29/12/25 01:52 AM
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There are no absolute answers to these kinds of questions. "Girls" is not one person.
/r/seduction28/12/25 02:27 PM
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What is chatvisor like?
/r/seduction23/12/25 08:56 PM
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Hey OP. I know plenty of people who don't care about HSV. I've been rejected by like, 1 out of 10 people. Your chances of getting it from her are low. Here's an infographic of those chances: https://assets.website-files.com/5bad419cb04cd52dae8f7a89/654d58857b500d57447e8686_herpes-opportunity-disclosure-handout-2024.pdf
/r/seduction23/12/25 07:52 PM
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Hey OP, I disagree. I don't take a pill every day. I know plenty of people who don't care about HSV. I've been rejected by like, 1 out of 10 people. Your chances of getting it from her are low. Here's an infographic of those chances: https://assets.website-files.com/5bad419cb04cd52dae8f7a89/654d58857b500d57447e8686_herpes-opportunity-disclosure-handout-2024.pdf
/r/seduction23/12/25 07:51 PM
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"Appalled", no. Uncomfortable, yes. Uncomfortable because you do the same things she probably does. It's not her business.
/r/seduction23/12/25 01:12 PM
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Check the name of the subreddit
/r/seduction22/12/25 05:21 PM
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Ask her
/r/seduction21/12/25 09:23 PM
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I told a girl she had heart-shaped lips. She showed me pictures of her sister and her, and how they had the same lips.
/r/seduction19/12/25 01:31 PM
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I LOVE "You didn't say hello. That was rude." "No me saludaste. Qué grosera!"
/r/seduction19/12/25 01:24 PM
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Idk, I've dated a lot of Latinas (I live in Colombia) and have not had experiences like those. Where were they from? Did you meet online?
/r/seduction19/12/25 01:08 PM
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I think you're right, I had a date with the other girl last night and she said I came off as "too flirtatious" (translated), when I asked what she meant, she mentioned how I got other girls' contacts. Oh well. Next time haha. I'm a dumbass. Still, I got a date out of the night.
/r/seduction17/12/25 08:01 PM
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Hey man, really appreciate this. I think you're totally right, and may be exactly how I lost her. That being said, I set up a date and time the next day, asking if that night or two days later was better. She chose two days later... and faded.
/r/seduction17/12/25 07:59 PM
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I'm in a small city in Colombia.
/r/seduction16/12/25 12:35 PM
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You sleep with 1 in 5? That is really good. Well, I've got 2 that act interested... gotta find 8 more.
/r/seduction16/12/25 02:45 AM
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So how does this all break down, in your experience? Approach 20, 3 act interested, you sleep with 1?
/r/seduction16/12/25 02:13 AM
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You're not the psychologist you think you are. What games am I playing?
/r/seduction16/12/25 02:12 AM
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I do actually like them.
/r/seduction16/12/25 02:11 AM
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Yes.
/r/seduction16/12/25 02:11 AM
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How hard is it to just say, "Hey, you're hot and it's been great, but I met someone"?
/r/seduction16/12/25 02:06 AM
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Girls I sleep with do repeat and invite me over. Fuck off.
/r/seduction16/12/25 02:05 AM
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Damn, that would be fucking terrible either way
/r/seduction15/12/25 08:46 PM
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People are crazy, man. That's fucking robotic, inhuman.
/r/seduction15/12/25 08:13 PM
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Still, I almost always repeat.
/r/seduction15/12/25 06:45 PM
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Yeah, I figure the hottie might have backed off for the other girl's sake. I figure I'll pleasure the shit out of the other girl... because girls talk. Let the legend of my tongue and member spread.
/r/seduction15/12/25 06:44 PM
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That is crazy, never witnessed that before
/r/seduction15/12/25 06:43 PM
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It was an event, and I sat down at the relevant table (English speakers)
/r/seduction15/12/25 06:42 PM
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There's that, too. I was thinking about this... if I had 3 FWBs already, I might have risked it all on the hottie, but for now, building the rotation is better. I see outrageously hot latinas every week...
/r/seduction15/12/25 06:41 PM
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Thing is, the hot girl left early, and I spent a lot of time with the others. I think in general you're right, though. In the future, that'll be the idea... I wanted the one girl way more than the others. Oh well, I'll have another FWB ideally.
/r/seduction15/12/25 06:40 PM
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This is why assuming attraction is so important... Half the time, you misread her signal. Half the time, she doesn't know how to send the signal (and she thinks she was being sooooo obvious). So just go approach, chat her up long enough until it's obvious she's disinterested, and then exit, gracefully and respectfully
/r/seduction30/11/25 12:25 AM
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Absolute rules like this have cost me a lot of opportunities with women. I'd say, give them one or two chances.
/r/seduction29/11/25 08:25 PM
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He said "older age" as a 23 year old... I'm 35, I love dating fun girls and sleeping with them
/r/seduction19/11/25 03:50 AM
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A post this basic breaks the subreddit rules. Please read the sidebar. It is full of gold, better than any comments you'll get on this post.
/r/seduction01/11/25 08:06 PM
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Definitely, and part of that would be non-judgment from their female friends. Younger women slut-shame the shit out of each other.
/r/seduction25/10/25 04:14 PM
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I think that's an overly simplistic view of something far too complex.
/r/seduction25/10/25 04:13 PM
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This is weird, man. There are all kinds of girls... good girls, shy girls, absolute freaks... who wait a while before fucking.
/r/seduction25/10/25 02:15 PM
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Guidelines are fine.
/r/seduction25/10/25 02:14 PM
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Imagine a world, a world where women don't ruin their friends' happiness...
/r/seduction25/10/25 01:26 PM
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So, this statement could be more of the same... like "if it doesn't last forever, why do it at all"? All these people are waiting for perfect, and never enjoy "good", "pretty cool" while they're waiting for perfection. No wonder they're miserable.
/r/seduction24/10/25 02:25 PM
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I really appreciate "Gee"'s attitude. Too many people want perfection or nothing.
/r/seduction23/10/25 10:13 PM
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They're telling you what? That they actually do lead? Sure, I'd expect Sweden to be as fucked as America or worse when it comes to flirting/dating
/r/seduction23/10/25 02:05 PM
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Fuck off.
/r/seduction22/10/25 07:24 PM
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Yes, just go to the right countries
/r/seduction22/10/25 06:12 PM
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I work remotely for US company. Citizenship takes about 10 years, without marriage. I have a student visa, and should have an investor visa soon (which is a path to citizenship)
/r/seduction22/10/25 06:02 PM
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I'd say learn a little before also, but yes, learning while immersed is very effective
/r/seduction22/10/25 12:44 AM
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You definitely should learn Spanish, but plenty of people don't, and just make English-speaking friends. I think that's kind of rude, though.
/r/seduction22/10/25 12:43 AM
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I love it here. I moved here 6 months ago. I lived here for about 6 months in 2018 and loved it then, too. I'm 35 now.
/r/seduction21/10/25 10:05 PM
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In Latin America. I left the US for Colombia because the people/dating suck in the US. Sounds like you're looking for wife material... in the US, hot latinas are usually like other hot girls, stuck up. In Colombia, most people are really down to earth, approachable, friendly, even when they're crazy beautiful.
/r/seduction21/10/25 06:01 PM
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You just do it. It doesn't always work, but when it does, you get bonus points for having the sack.
/r/seduction12/10/25 04:40 PM
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Do you know that they actually had sex?
/r/seduction12/10/25 02:56 PM
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Haha hell no. Young women have their heads full of complicated bullshit ideas about sex and love, and judgmental cock-blocking friends besides. They're the worst.
/r/seduction12/10/25 02:00 PM
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That's not a big age difference.
/r/seduction06/10/25 01:14 AM
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They don't really highlight the rejections, keep trying.
/r/seduction18/09/25 03:08 PM
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Yup, hate it. I want my forever girl, and put all this to rest. Sad. Dating used to be fun.
/r/seduction18/09/25 02:51 PM
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Misandry is strong these days.
/r/seduction14/09/25 01:18 AM
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I'd trust the commenter here, OP. They were there. They are them.
/r/seduction14/09/25 01:18 AM
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Talk to me slowly in a low voice. Look me deep in the eye. Touch my arm. Give me a hug that lasts too long. Sit too close to me. After all that, and you feel the vibe sizzling, invite me to go somewhere. Could be anywhere, even just outside the door for a kiss in the dark...
/r/seduction14/09/25 01:16 AM
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I think slightly older women (and people) generally understand better what matters when it comes to sex and relationships. And it ain't height.
/r/seduction10/09/25 05:15 AM
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What the fuck is this comment?
/r/seduction08/09/25 01:50 PM
3

Move to Bolivia, where you'll be average or tall
/r/seduction08/09/25 04:11 AM
2

Yes
/r/seduction07/09/25 09:53 PM
2

I followed this sub more than RSD years ago. It's helped a lot. I at least know how to manage when a girl is interested in me, and I've had a few badass seduction moments, and a few encounters I caused entirely myself. I'm not a seduction god or anything, but I'm glad I put the work in.
/r/seduction27/07/25 04:00 PM
2

And how'd it all go for you? Talking to girls after learning from him, I mean.
/r/seduction27/07/25 01:43 AM
1

What do you mean by "attracted to her"? You mean how she looks? If a girl doesn't look that good, but I like being around her, and there is sexual chemistry, I sleep with her. Because attraction is about more than looks. Some of the best sex I've had has been with girls who didn't look great.
/r/seduction24/07/25 04:21 PM
1

Who the fuck do hot girls on Tinder meet up with, then?!
/r/seduction24/07/25 05:40 AM
3

Be affectionate, be flirtatious, have fun. Ask him if he likes this, if he likes that. Ask him to tell you how to fuck him. How to suck him. Where he wants to cum (you might have that conversation before sex, I've realized recently I like handjobs and blowjobs more to cum better than intercourse with a condom) Don't do anything you don't want to. But just ask, explore. It's really hot to have a girl be curious and passionate while she's pleasing you. Aside from all that... don't worry. He's prob…
/r/seduction22/07/25 03:36 PM
5

Why are you looking for all the ways you fucked up? Dating culture is awful in America these days. Why isn't it her who fucked up? Why didn't she value what you had?
/r/seduction22/07/25 03:17 PM
-6

OP, I'm 35. About years ago, I realized women in their 30s are way better. They know who they are, and what they want. The same is probably true of men.
/r/seduction18/07/25 12:45 PM
4

Leave your phone in the trunk of your car. It forces you to actually interact and be present.
/r/seduction17/07/25 06:30 PM
2

In my experience, 5 minute long approaches aren't as good as insta-dates, getting a coffee immediately, spending time and getting to know her.
/r/seduction16/07/25 03:20 PM
4

Think about how much time there is in the 16 waking hours we have. Divide that by 100. That's 9.6 minutes per approach. If you don't eat, shower, do anything other than approaching. Wouldn't it be better to talk longer to the girls who are responsive and interested? No one is consistently approaching 50-100 women per day.
/r/seduction15/07/25 02:59 AM
3

You were talking to a crazy person. Why do you expect logic or predictable results?
/r/seduction12/07/25 03:29 AM
19

I disagree that it was her opinion. She was probably just being hateful.
/r/seduction11/07/25 08:43 PM
8

Never say never, but I generally agree with OP on this one, especially the idea that chasing hurts your self-esteem. We all want to be Buddha, or the perfect stoic. Noone ever gets there. I'd love to have the Perfect Strength you describe. I never will. I will always have insecurities/fears. Not caring when you shouldn't care helps.
/r/seduction05/07/25 05:15 PM
9

We live in weird times, OP.
/r/seduction02/07/25 07:09 AM
1

Good to know you still hook up with them after they bail haha. I figure I can still sleep with some of these girls.
/r/seduction01/07/25 01:35 AM
6

Girls (in America, at least) have no fucking idea how to flirt. You just blindly try things and if she doesn't give you the cold shoulder, she MIGHT be into it.
/r/seduction30/06/25 03:19 AM
0

There's a book called "She Comes First". It's about making her cum with your mouth, and also your fingers. Many women prefer cunnilingus to penetration. Anyway, make her cum before you do.
/r/seduction30/06/25 03:18 AM
1

OP, in what city(ies) are you hooking up with these girls?
/r/seduction29/06/25 07:01 PM
7

You just have to start doing it. Do it 1 time, and it's way less scary. 2-4 times, and it's like it's nothing.
/r/seduction29/06/25 03:39 PM
1

Bitches be bonkers
/r/seduction29/06/25 03:36 AM
20

Overthinking this is what you fucked up
/r/seduction14/06/25 08:33 PM
2

Yeah, I appreciate your perspective.
/r/seduction11/06/25 06:29 PM
2

This is about what OP prefers. Some women like tongue.
/r/seduction11/06/25 04:30 PM
2

Colombians and Brazilians are much more level-headed about sexuality. Very few Americans are actually sexually liberated. We oppress ourselves, for different reasons than decades ago, but oppress all the same.
/r/seduction09/06/25 07:01 PM
24

Yeah, women at that age have less bullshit reasons to deny themselves sex.
/r/seduction09/06/25 04:52 AM
1

How was China? Did you date hot girls?
/r/seduction06/06/25 10:42 PM
1

Which cities did you live in, and how did they work for you?
/r/seduction06/06/25 10:41 PM
2

I hooked up with a hard 9 who thought it was crazy that I was interested in her. Beautiful curly black hair. Skinny waist. Fat ass. I'm a blond American, she's Argentinian. OP, some women find you much more attractive than other women will. Don't self reject.
/r/seduction04/06/25 01:15 AM
1

I get very few good matches in the US, but get some okay ones in Colombia and Brazil. For me, in person is way, way better.
/r/seduction30/05/25 06:18 PM
1

It mostly does, especially when talking about lowerinf them to get laid more
/r/seduction05/02/25 04:46 PM
14

Came to say this. Although I'll disagree with the last bit: you never know how good the sex is gonna be until you have it. Good sex has a lot less to do with looks than most guys realize.
/r/seduction05/02/25 04:12 AM
1

They are more respected among most people, they've acheived something difficult.
/r/seduction25/12/24 02:35 AM
3

Because they are, bud. Young men, and young women, usually have no idea who they are, what they want, or what they like.
/r/seduction01/11/24 04:46 PM
3

I think she's just not ready yet, and she's still interested in you. And she knows you want her, which can be good.
/r/seduction28/10/24 10:18 PM
-1

Great post with stories as examples, thank you
/r/seduction23/10/24 07:27 PM
3

"Better than the dull pain of a life of ignorance", to paraphrase the famous quote
/r/seduction30/06/24 11:40 AM
-1

I just met a girl who asked me for my instagram so she can connect me to her boyfriend. He doesn't get out much and doesn't have social media. She's connecting us because we both play similar music. Relationships happen absolutely randomly. Pickup just tries to control that process, however futile.
/r/seduction01/09/23 01:55 AM
2

Girls get scared easily (as maybe they should). She's probably not trying to waste your time. I'd give it another shot
/r/seduction16/08/22 10:45 PM
1

Where is "here?" Are you talking about Argentinians that moved to a different country?
/r/seduction01/08/22 01:25 AM
1

Have you been to either Europe or LATAM? I've been to both. Some countries in Europe are more open than the US, some are far more repressed.
/r/seduction01/08/22 12:25 AM
1

This is a very specific situation about a woman disguised as a 7 who wasn't really. I'm talking about fairly attractive women that you have a fun, sexy vibe with. Not this.
/r/seduction26/07/22 10:02 PM
1

I generally avoid "the scale," but it's useful in this thread, particularly.
/r/seduction26/07/22 05:21 PM
0

I think the idea is that because of abundance, you don't try too hard.
/r/seduction26/07/22 04:16 AM
3

Maybe you should ask yourself why you want to sleep with these women. I don't care who sees, who thinks what. I sleep with girls because I like those girls.
/r/seduction26/07/22 04:14 AM
9

New band name: "Whales of Abundance"
/r/seduction26/07/22 04:12 AM
5

Super agree.
/r/seduction26/07/22 04:10 AM
2

I guess everyone has a different idea of what a "7" is, and while ED is not uncommon and a difficult thing for many men, if looks are the deciding factor... ...yeah, you might have porn brain.
/r/seduction26/07/22 04:09 AM
2

Good stuff man, care to say anything about the photo with the girl, beyond the usual social proof concepts?
/r/seduction26/07/22 04:08 AM
1

Not sure why you got downvoted (except for the last sentence, I think 10s can be great) But yeah, I think we've all been brainwashed by porn to think that good looks = good orgasms, and while it helps, it's not enough on its own
/r/seduction26/07/22 04:06 AM
6

The girl has to look good on some level, and there also has to be chemistry. Would you rather sleep with an enthusiastic 6 you're really vibing with, or an indifferent 8 that you forced a conversation with, and who was lazy in bed?
/r/seduction26/07/22 04:03 AM
6

Thanks for sharing. I think it will make you better at sex, if you're dedicated to the art
/r/seduction26/07/22 04:02 AM
3

I can only speak for Brazil and Colombia if I'm honest, but I feel pretty confident that LATAM in general is much more sexually open than the rest of the world. I'm sure it's still messed up in some ways, but less ways than the rest.
/r/seduction23/07/22 11:11 PM
5

Dating in general seems to be pretty fucked everywhere except latin america, in ny opinion
/r/seduction23/07/22 03:19 AM
1

Hahahahahaha buddy. American here. We are centuries behind latin america. Everyone is. Go to Brazil, Colombia or Argentina.
/r/seduction06/07/22 02:57 AM
17

Tinder always makes me depressed (until I go to South America). I delete it when I get back for my mental health. Feeling lonely is OK, but your self worth shouldn't involve your sexual experience. Attraction is complicated, and not based on things that actually matter, that make you you. (For example, "what if we saw souls" and "you can't fuck a personality"). Remembering that helps me.
/r/seduction01/07/22 03:43 AM
230

You could stop being an asshole
/r/seduction28/06/22 09:22 PM
4

I like the second time response.
/r/seduction26/06/22 07:39 PM
42

No one on seddit can answer this question for you. Only you can answer this question, and to a lesser degree, your friends. Use your social circle. The way YOU answer this question is by flirting with her a little bit... getting close to her. Holding eye contact. Kino. If she responds well, she probably likes you, and you can keep escalating. Read the stuff in the sidebar.
/r/seduction26/06/22 01:45 PM
3

This is not a field report. I've seen unattractive guys do very well with picking up women.
/r/seduction25/06/22 12:56 PM
1

You enjoy the ride, and accept that you cannot control her actions or her emotions towards you. Just be grateful to her and for her, for whatever amount of time it lasts. If it ends, let it end.
/r/seduction24/06/22 08:26 PM
0

This is the experience I'm having on Tinder as a blonde man in Brazil... just no super hot girls, unfortunately. Lots of 8s, though.
/r/seduction21/06/22 12:54 AM
2

I've had days when my approach was good and I was confident, and women were much more interested than when my approach was weak. It seems that the first impression can decide outcomes.
/r/seduction20/06/22 12:41 AM
1

Tinder is generally garbage. I uninstall it as soon as I get back to the US from South America.
/r/seduction19/06/22 03:07 AM
8

What? That's so random. I could get hit by a car in the crosswalk. I could get electrocuted by my laptop. I could get burned alive by my hot shower.
/r/seduction18/06/22 01:34 PM
25

False, American girls are TERRIBLE at making their intentions clear. Edit: I'm in Brazil and the difference is staggering. THESE women will let you know.
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:41 AM
2

Sounds like textbook PUA stuff on her part.
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:40 AM
1

Some cities/towns are weird. Maybe that's it.
/r/seduction27/04/22 09:06 PM
37

Yes, to women.
/r/seduction27/04/22 03:57 AM
4

I would become flirty friends with her friends, at least... probably without fucking them for a while.
/r/seduction29/03/22 12:46 AM
1

I'm a 7 or 8 maybe, girls sometimes initiate with me, but not usually the girls I really want.
/r/seduction24/03/22 01:59 PM
13

It's definitely related, and we should be more informative than a google search... although r/sex is better. It's related because keeping her coming back is the most important step of seduction.
/r/seduction24/03/22 01:51 AM
1

Use very light contact with the clit. Ask her what she likes.
/r/seduction24/03/22 01:49 AM
61

Don't act like a pornstar and jackhammer the shit out of her. Focus way more on foreplay... 20-30 minutes of foreplay, kissing and touching her everywhere. Less is more with the clit. 5-15 minutes of penetration. Cuddling and postplay after.
/r/seduction24/03/22 01:48 AM
5

Spend way more time on r/sex
/r/seduction24/03/22 01:47 AM
1

Agreed. What fun is there if there's no sexual tension?
/r/seduction22/03/22 03:10 AM
2

Yeah... there's this girl I dance with who's not the most attractive in terms of looks, but she's so positive, and smiley, and has this seductive eye contact... couldn't stop thinking about her today.
/r/seduction21/03/22 11:27 PM
7

You should keep going for the hotter girls, and also go for less attractive women. You'll learn more that way, have more fun, and find things you appreciate about women beyond physical appearance
/r/seduction21/03/22 06:20 PM
10

Hahahaha what a boss move by the guy. ​ I might have asked, "oh, are you dating one of these girls?" And then if not, then proceed to her number/insta Good on you for trying
/r/seduction20/03/22 03:29 PM
2

Stop thinking so much about her status, your status, your ego... ...and just go have fun at a party
/r/seduction18/03/22 06:16 PM
6

I've been recognizing the following things: 1) I'm always working to make my life better, and I mentor/help others to do the same 2) I'm fun, relaxed, easy to be around 3) Women who get romantic with me get really attached... because I'm affectionate, caring, and put effort into pleasuring them
/r/seduction11/03/22 05:43 AM
6

Who are we to say she doesn't want/deserve casual sex?
/r/seduction11/03/22 05:22 AM
14

Seriously. Just go to the date, and then take her to your place or hers.
/r/seduction10/03/22 03:49 PM
3

Disagree, all you need is to be beautiful
/r/seduction10/03/22 04:00 AM
11

I disagree. I've slept with sex workers before, and the complete apathy on her part is a turn off. I like erotic massage, though.
/r/seduction10/03/22 01:13 AM
0

Seriously. To the people who subscribed, read a single post, and whined about how seddit is full of bad advice... Unsub, and fuck off
/r/seduction04/03/22 05:28 AM
9

I'm curious what signals you are sending. A smile? Eye contact? Try what this girl did to me: As I was leaving and I said bye, she hugged me and said "Divine little thing." That's a real signal.
/r/seduction04/03/22 01:23 AM
1

Stop thinking of her as a hot girl and start thinking of her as a person
/r/seduction01/03/22 05:48 PM
1

Maybe, but people think I look 27
/r/seduction01/03/22 05:41 PM
1

Sounds like you've sacrificed a lot already.
/r/seduction28/02/22 07:17 PM
4

I'm not sure where you live... but everyone in the US who wants a vaccine has it. Why would we continue to wallow in isolation? It's time to move on.
/r/seduction28/02/22 07:09 PM
1

Yeah, I've unknowingly approached a lot of girls with boyfriends in the US, and only one time did a guy get really angry. Maybe it's different in India... or maybe it's all in your head. The only question that really matters is this... ...are you going to step into fear and change your life, or stay scared of things that might not exist?
/r/seduction28/02/22 07:04 PM
5

Salsa is an example, choose any dance you'd be into. It's important that you enjoy it
/r/seduction28/02/22 05:07 PM
3

What passions, goals, pursuits do you have? Those will bring your life some meaning. From your comments, it looks like you deal with some pessimism... I highly recommend Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman, past president of the APA
/r/seduction28/02/22 03:06 PM
7

Partner dancing
/r/seduction28/02/22 03:03 PM
3

Partner dancing
/r/seduction28/02/22 03:03 PM
7

Partner dancing. There are lots of men, the ratio is off (more men), and in classes you rotate partners every 4 minutes or so. A little eye contact and smile go a long way... Yeah, if you can find an activity that makes you happy regardless of the social aspect, that's what you may need to find
/r/seduction28/02/22 03:02 PM
367

I'm 31. I'm loving my life and the activities I enjoy... where I constantly meet new beautiful women. I honestly don't know why it's happening, but I have sexual energy with a lot of them. I think it's because I'm contagiously happy, fun, dress well, and just use a little bit of eye contact...
/r/seduction28/02/22 05:58 AM
2

I kind of do, I was trying to preserve my virginity when I should have been having fun (31M)
/r/seduction20/02/22 06:59 PM
3

Man, I can't flirt when I'm sad and self-conscious. I need to be in my power. When I'm in my power, so many women love interacting with me. Find the places that brings that out in you. There are tons of hot girls that have never and will never set foot in a club that have similar interests as you.
/r/seduction19/02/22 07:43 PM
2

Guy, do you even like clubs? If not, don't go to clubs. I go to partner lessons weekly, see the same girls, take them by the hand, and am flirty with many of them. It doesn't have to be a bar or a club. Find a community activity you enjoy. Don't try to fuck ANYONE, just enjoy building connections and a bit of flirting (with no agenda) and get to know some girls (AND guys). You need to have fun. You need to find security. After that, it will be way easier to go meet random women.
/r/seduction19/02/22 04:17 PM
1

Agreed, it makes you feel strong, masculine.
/r/seduction19/02/22 04:03 PM
2

I've known plenty of guys that get girls who have no tone to their bodies. Muscles alone will not take her home with you.
/r/seduction19/02/22 04:02 PM
0

The more you overvalue it, the more it will evade you
/r/seduction18/02/22 05:33 AM
1

Is any of this based on your own experience, or just what you've read online?
/r/seduction17/02/22 04:40 PM
1

Why would you suggest stroking her leg when she might have trauma? OP, trauma is exactly what I thought when I read your post. If that's the case, the scenario may be like this: she genuinely likes you, she's afraid of sex, and will need to build up more trust than another woman might. If you like her, stick with it. Show her that you're safe... that you like being with her whether you're having sex or not (although eventually you'll need sex). Try physical touch that is comforting and intimate,…
/r/seduction16/02/22 04:50 PM
3

Absolutely. I just approached so many women in the palace of the Saudi Royal Family.
/r/seduction15/02/22 09:01 PM
66

She's definitely referring to sex. Did you sleep with her?
/r/seduction09/02/22 07:17 PM
1

If you can tell she likes you, it's not bad. Go for it.
/r/seduction25/01/22 06:21 PM
2

I came here to say something like this, but nailed it. But yeah, basically... turn the heat up more slowly
/r/seduction04/01/22 04:47 AM
1

All the positive qualities OP described can be found in the pinned posts about "what it means to be an alpha." And they get into fake alphas, too.
/r/seduction30/12/21 08:07 AM
1

What a strange question. Surround yourself with communities and individuals with values similar to yours. You can change this percentage dramatically by doing this, assuming you're not materialistic yourself.
/r/seduction29/12/21 06:09 PM
3

You're right, many steps were skipped, such as bumping into her, brushing arms, standing a little too close to each other. Nothing should feel risky or like "a lunge."
/r/seduction13/12/21 02:57 PM
13

My response to this is, "Hey, that's cool, we totally don't have to have sex. I like hanging out with you, cuddling with you, making out with you... all of that is enough for me." And I really mean it. It takes the pressure off me.
/r/seduction13/12/21 02:54 PM
24

Agree with the patience. I'm not in a rush, and she ends up begging for it. I'm still fingering her, eating her pussy, and she asks me multiple times to put a condom on before I give it for her. Don't try to fuck her... ...try to turn up the heat slowly... let it simmer. Then bring it to a boil.
/r/seduction13/12/21 02:52 PM
2

31M here. Super agreed. Being able to afford a hotel room helps, too. This being said, I do well now because I learned some fundamentals when I was your age, OP. Really, I was never better at generating sexual tension than when I was 22... but I didn't really have a strong identity/personality like I do now.
/r/seduction09/12/21 03:32 PM
-3

Honestly, in what way do you think you're helping anyone, even yourself, by whining?
/r/seduction08/12/21 08:10 PM
0

Seddit has degenerated into a place where pansies whine about how getting laid is hard. Pitiful. If you're not interested in learning to seduce, in opening yourself to rejection, get the fuck off this sub.
/r/seduction08/12/21 07:54 PM
1

I just keep it simmering... I haven't asked to have sex recently, she always asks me. And I keep making her wait. Just keep it simmering, dude. Keep making out with her, touching her body in all the right ways, and let her beg for it.
/r/seduction07/12/21 03:17 PM
3

So get off the apps and approach. And lose the anger, dude.
/r/seduction06/12/21 09:20 PM
1

I was joking. It's something I realized goes through my head, and sounds stupid/funny when I say it out loud. I've approached strangers plenty of times.
/r/seduction04/12/21 12:52 AM
0

The more attractive the woman, the more enormous and terrifying the BF
/r/seduction03/12/21 10:47 PM
3

It's normal to develop feelings for someone you sleep with.
/r/seduction25/11/21 02:21 PM
11

You sound like a mind reader
/r/seduction22/11/21 12:51 AM
1

I somewhat agree, somewhat disagree. Know who you are and what you value. Women who have similar values will appreciate that about you, and vice versa.
/r/seduction21/11/21 05:05 PM
1

She's a smoking hot girl WHO COLD APPROACHES. She made her own opportunities, and (maybe) someone else moved faster than you did.
/r/seduction17/11/21 07:00 PM
3

Yeah, money will cure the loneliness
/r/seduction16/11/21 06:41 PM
12

But you had to be relaxed and accept it for it to work
/r/seduction12/11/21 11:38 PM
8

It might not work with you, OP, but I've had really positive responses from women I approached in malls/grocery stores.
/r/seduction11/11/21 08:05 PM
-2

This is not an answer to the question
/r/seduction10/11/21 08:40 PM
3

You remember that, just as your attraction to a female has little to do with how great a person she is... ...so a female's attraction to you has little to do with YOUR worth.
/r/seduction10/11/21 08:40 PM
1

I wouldn't bring her to your dad's house. Guaranteed awkwardness. Go to hers, if anything.
/r/seduction07/11/21 07:44 PM
1

Just don't look back on this opportunity with regret, my friend
/r/seduction06/11/21 10:58 PM
1

Then hang out with her regardless. Should you be fighting to keep them together? If she's asking you to give her a reason to break up, what chance does that relationship have, anyway?
/r/seduction06/11/21 09:44 PM
1

I think you've been listening to bad advice from "keyboard jockeys" on this sub who know nothing. She's made it clear she wants you multiple times. Your plan is to freeze her out until she comes to you... essentially, continue the path of inaction. It's very simple, friend. She wants to fuck you. Just spend a little time with her, and go back to your/her place afterwards.
/r/seduction06/11/21 07:01 PM
1

Guy. This is SO simple. Invite her to come over and watch Netflix with you. Or go do anything with her. Don't worry about the top level comment. But seriously, too much more inaction and she'll probably lose interest.
/r/seduction06/11/21 03:53 PM
1

Yes, a big farce and there's no logic to it. Which is why a person should never base their self-esteem on how attractive others find them to be.
/r/seduction05/11/21 02:18 PM
10

If she can't handle warmth and cuddles and compliments... do you WANT to be cold and distant?
/r/seduction30/10/21 10:41 PM
2

I like nice people, including girls. If a guy or girl is being an asshole, I stop spending time with them
/r/seduction28/10/21 01:24 PM
2

Oh OK. Well, you're 20, and she's probably young, too. Young people usually have no fucking idea what they want. I've had way more success with women in their 30s, both in my 20s and my 30s 😉 they've typically given up on lots of bullshit ideas that ruin everything by that age
/r/seduction27/10/21 05:29 PM
2

It's not you, it's her. But you got insecure about it... when it didn't have anything to do with you. And you snapped at her. A woman always has the right to say no, without anyone getting angry. You snapping was a beta move, dude. Don't take shit personally.
/r/seduction27/10/21 05:11 PM
8

Yeah, he might have gotten upset, then gave you the cold shoulder. People just need to understand... sometimes people don't text back for a day.
/r/seduction27/10/21 12:34 PM
4

Something good happened, and you're bummed out that more good things didn't happen afterwards. You are suffering, not because of pain, but because of FOMO. Contemplate this. If your biggest goal in pickup is to talk to a stranger sometime in the next 4 years... I'm not sure what to tell you. It's like a pool of cold water. Don't tiptoe in. Dive in.
/r/seduction26/10/21 05:34 PM
1

Dude, why are you not making a single move on this girl? Why do you not have her number? Maybe she feels unattractive because you haven't done anything to progress the situation.
/r/seduction22/10/21 11:36 PM
2

OP, do these girls know each other? Do they go to the same school? If so, this plan will crash and burn
/r/seduction20/10/21 03:36 PM
4

I think Hitomi Tanaka would beg to differ
/r/seduction18/10/21 04:24 AM
1

Eye contact with a beautiful woman is intoxicating. Acquire the taste.
/r/seduction18/10/21 04:18 AM
22

OP, I never learned how to meet girls in clubs, and haven't needed to. Don't try to meet girls in environments you dislike. Meet them doing activities you enjoy.
/r/seduction17/10/21 05:29 PM
1

Can you elaborate on playing games in relationships? Does the book teach you how to play these games?
/r/seduction16/10/21 05:29 PM
2

This girl told you she likes the emotional things you said to her. Definitely, a person can say it too early, when the girl doesn't feel the same way yet. But why would she tell you she likes it if she doesn't like it?
/r/seduction13/10/21 05:10 AM
2

I suggest you read more r/sex and r/relationships
/r/seduction13/10/21 05:08 AM
0

Dude... if you get into a relationship with this girl, what then? Are you going to keep hiding your feelings?
/r/seduction13/10/21 02:44 AM
0

Holding back your feelings...? You think that's a good thing? You're sick in the head, man
/r/seduction13/10/21 01:33 AM
1

The secret meeting... ...it happens in a place, far far away from Gringoland... ...in South America...
/r/seduction12/10/21 10:25 PM
1

Super agree will all 7 points.
/r/seduction12/10/21 09:55 PM
13

Oh my god, this terrible post got upvoted. How far r/seduction has fallen. Women have told me I made their day when I approached them at the grocery store. Others didn't like it. Both went on with their lives.
/r/seduction11/10/21 01:18 AM
6

Oh my god, so what's the point?
/r/seduction10/10/21 10:54 PM
2

No way does that have to be friend zone, dude. A girl used studying to seduce me once. Just work with the usual stuff, eye contact, a little light kino. Focus on the vibe, not where you'd categorically place studying.
/r/seduction01/10/21 07:51 PM
2

She might have wanted a ONS to begin with. Why didn't you finger her? My advice: spend more time reading r/sex
/r/seduction30/09/21 09:55 PM
8

This kind of advice is how you end up sleeping with some girls, but not make friends with any girls.
/r/seduction30/09/21 03:56 AM
16

And I would definitely make a friend.
/r/seduction30/09/21 03:54 AM
1

Definitely this. But also, be good at flirting, escalation, etc. I had more epic moments before I became a prize, because I was good at flirting (about 8 years ago)
/r/seduction04/08/21 01:27 AM
98

How to answer this question: Talk to her 2a. Get rejected 2b. Or not Don't self-reject.
/r/seduction03/08/21 05:47 PM
5

Damn, way to go on those savings, honestly
/r/seduction27/07/21 07:50 PM
2

r/sex has been more useful to me than r/seduction recently
/r/seduction25/07/21 01:51 PM
1

Also, Learned Optimism is probably the most important book I ever read.
/r/seduction16/07/21 12:22 AM
13

Talk to girls. Just do it. Look up Exposure Therapy. It's a powerful way to get over fears, simply by facing them.
/r/seduction16/07/21 12:21 AM
2

I agree with your first paragraph there. She at least likes him. To assume she wants to fuck could be a bit much, though.
/r/seduction09/07/21 07:52 PM
2

She called him back because hanging out with OP was preferable to breaking her door down with a sledgehammer.
/r/seduction09/07/21 04:55 PM
4

Just do it. Every time it gets easier.
/r/seduction28/06/21 04:54 AM
3

I think this applies more to younger women, at least in the US. I've found that my direct approaches work better on women in their 30s and 40s
/r/seduction27/06/21 07:01 PM
1

I hear you, but if you get too attached to exact, prepared responses, how authentic will that be?
/r/seduction25/06/21 01:14 AM
0

I agree that it's not ideal, but it's better than never.
/r/seduction15/06/21 10:45 PM
2

I'd say confidence is actually the personality side of the initial attraction coin... you'll need a lot more than confidence to build a meaningful connection
/r/seduction14/06/21 04:54 PM
19

These mindsets are essential, but I think they derive from your lifestyle. Try all activities at least once, probably twice. Get involved with lots of groups, make lots of FRIENDS. JUST friends. Once you have a fun life you enjoy, you'll feel a lot less needy for romance and sex.
/r/seduction09/06/21 08:17 PM
1

People filter others by a lot of dumb shit when they're online. Face to face, you can let them feel a rare energy and confidence.
/r/seduction05/06/21 01:56 PM
7

Sounds like you did well. But who cares if it is/isn't your fault?
/r/seduction04/06/21 01:45 PM
3

New attraction fades each day. Can't really fight that sometimes.
/r/seduction04/06/21 01:23 PM
80

I'll decide that for myself... very nice.
/r/seduction26/05/21 03:09 PM
3

Move on because she doesn't smile back? Many girls are just awkward or afraid of eye contact. You don't have to give up that easily
/r/seduction24/05/21 01:24 PM
1

Cool =]
/r/seduction12/05/21 09:10 PM
3

I remember when I gave up my religion, and the mild identity crisis I had. Interesting.
/r/seduction12/05/21 01:08 PM
1

Well, I agree that you should always improve yourself. I just mean that I don't have anxiety anymore about making the perfect first impression every time.
/r/seduction12/05/21 01:07 PM
27

I wouldn't say there is something wrong with a woman if she rejects me, I'm either just not her type or she didn't get to know me well enough. I think blaming women for rejecting men is dangerous, and frankly is a pillar of rape culture.
/r/seduction12/05/21 01:06 PM
128

I realized something else recently... You don't NEED to do everything right. You don't NEED to be a master of seduction (although it certainly won't hurt ;) ). Just be you, talk to girls, and you'll find what you're looking for.
/r/seduction12/05/21 04:07 AM
2

"Bars, clubs, and tinder" Some of the places I enjoy least. I'll keep approaching in the places that I wanted to be anyway.
/r/seduction09/05/21 05:01 PM
1

Even if you're thinking that, it will probably still rub off on you. It's OK to feel that way if it means you're growing and solving the problem you're talking about.
/r/seduction07/05/21 01:51 AM
1

I grew up the same way, but fun jobs with silly people made me more that way. That's definitely one way to do it... spend more time with playful shit talkers and learn from them.
/r/seduction06/05/21 09:40 PM
2

The point is that you write your own answers.
/r/seduction06/05/21 09:38 PM
10

As a man who rejected much of stupid gender roles as a child, I can assure you that emotions are not "women's language."
/r/seduction14/04/21 01:27 AM
3

"See your interest as a minor threat..." why is this? I've never understood this.
/r/seduction13/04/21 02:34 AM
1

I'm in South America. Our taxi driver was telling us about his 13 yo son, and his 19 yo girlfriend. "Just use condoms, son," he said. Who is he to mess around in their lives? They're already grown.
/r/seduction18/03/21 04:46 PM
1

No. Walking up to a woman in person with eye contact and talking to her will almost always be more seductive.
/r/seduction16/03/21 01:24 PM
1

Good luck! I'd say talk to her for at least 10 minutes, ideally 20, before asking her out. That's not when you have to leave, either. But I wouldn't just walk up to her and ask her out right when you see her. Remember: Eye contact!
/r/seduction10/03/21 02:38 AM
2

I agree with this other comment. Online is weak, in person is strong.
/r/seduction09/03/21 03:05 PM
2

You don't need a reason, a specific way or method. You want her. It sounds like she wants you. That's the only reason anyone needs.
/r/seduction09/03/21 02:54 PM
2

Sounds like she obviously likes you. Just keep talking to her, more eye contact. If she keeps looking at you, talking to you, she's very likely to go out with you. Which would be worse: 1) You ask her out, no one really hears, and even if they do, they just witnessed you express interest in a beautiful woman, or 2) Do nothing, remember this for the rest of your life as the beautiful woman who probably wanted you, but you were too scared to pursue?
/r/seduction09/03/21 02:51 PM
3

Honestly, a lot of the same stuff. Be confident, look me in the eye, get close to me, kino. There's probably a bunch of fools here saying that girls don't have to try, but I think if a girl threw herself at him without any class, he'd be turned off.
/r/seduction08/02/21 02:27 PM
1

"Too messed for their opinion to matter" I love approaching, but some people have scars, and their opinions DO matter
/r/seduction29/01/21 09:57 PM
2

"Will only attract people who are either vulnerable, or who lack ethics and principles themselves" This is part of why assholes become misogynists... the women that tolerate them kinda suck themselves
/r/seduction22/11/20 08:33 PM
3

I don't remember specifically now things that I said, but I remember changes in facial expression, big changes in vibe.
/r/seduction05/11/20 06:13 AM
11

Not true. I'm attractive, and I've been flirting with girls, everything going well, and then I messed it up by saying/doing creepy things.
/r/seduction04/11/20 11:13 PM
3

If you're good-looking but can't talk to women or express yourself sexually, every now and then an opportunity will fall into your lap, but it will because you were chosen, not because you chose her. It helps, but women have a more complex attraction. Sure, some women care more about looks. But what KIND of look do they like? Don't worry about all that, man. It's not a big issue. Look up the guys from RSD... some of them are pretty normal looking, but man can they get girls. That's not to say I …
/r/seduction15/10/20 02:31 AM
1

Hey folks, some are waiting for the rest of the books to come out. This is a major spoiler alert, as in the books, Daenarys hasn't even reached Westeros. Please stop with GoT memes.
/r/seduction03/10/20 01:49 PM
2

Interest in you and a red flag aren't contradictions.
/r/seduction29/09/20 07:00 PM
1

Interesting. Sounds like you could be the person for the job.
/r/seduction29/09/20 06:59 PM
15

There's probably a lot of overlap with this list: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/cortx/heres_a_little_list_of_iois_feel_free_to_add/
/r/seduction29/09/20 04:10 AM
6

Not helpful bud
/r/seduction29/09/20 04:10 AM
2

"If you get her, great, you'll probably be thirsty again in a couple of days." Ah, crucial to understand this. Outcome independent because success isn't really that fulfilling. Never thought of this.
/r/seduction18/09/20 02:03 PM
8

Thanks for posting this. This is what happens when guys misdirect their bad feelings about being rejected AT the girl. It can start small... "She didn't text you back? What a bitch." But it's really all the same, unfair expectations that women are obligated to want us back.
/r/seduction07/08/20 06:03 AM
4

Dude, literally that long. She was super cool about it, and I focused on the present rather than getting in my head and embarrassed. We fucked about 6 more times over the next 24 hours. Got up to about 7 minutes eventually. Some girls just have that perfectly shaped pussy...
/r/seduction01/08/20 04:50 AM
10

Me either dude. I never get high around women anymore. Fortunately the last girl was understanding when I lasted 40 seconds, but she's a rare gem.
/r/seduction31/07/20 11:22 PM
1

Bold move. Atta girl =] Thanks more making flirting more mutual!!
/r/seduction22/07/20 03:37 PM
1

I asked a girl what she thought of my headphones. She smiled and said they looked dumb. I walked away so excited that you can just talk to hot girls you don't know... I probably could have continued that convo. My suggestion to you: just do it. "How" doesn't matter. There's not an ideal method that makes it easy. You have to get uncomfortable.
/r/seduction07/07/20 07:20 PM
2

I think it would be awkward, regardless of which gender "propositions." But a woman coming on to me? Looking me right in the eye? Standing a little too close, touching me on the shoulder or back? Asking me to go somewhere with her? Hell yes, please.
/r/seduction06/07/20 11:16 PM
1

Hell yeah dude. I need to get into this. Just waiting for fucking lockdown to end...
/r/seduction06/07/20 11:11 PM
1

I hope you got more phone numbers bro, because none of those men are having you around their girls ever again hahaha. Awesome report. Puts me in state. A little more technical detail next time would be appreciated.
/r/seduction06/07/20 01:49 PM
1

So is this day 6 of constant approaches?
/r/seduction06/07/20 03:38 AM
1

Sorry Seil. Didn't mean to anger you by trying to bring science into things.
/r/seduction27/06/20 06:32 PM
0

By source, I mean do you have an article or book or something backing up your claim.
/r/seduction27/06/20 03:13 AM
9

What's your source on good ass and titties being good for reproduction? I heard that breast size doesn't correlate with milk production.
/r/seduction26/06/20 10:03 PM
2

Thanks a lot for your perspective.
/r/seduction26/06/20 06:43 PM
7

Haha. God, how we gringos (Americans) fuck ourselves with all these convoluted ideas about sexuality... so easy, straightforward in Colombia. You ask a girl out, she says yes, and asks you to bring a guy for her girl friend. The girl that was hooking up with my buddy was inviting girls for me to meet. Meanwhile, in America... women 23 and under are all working so hard to make sure none of their friends get laid! I literally had a girl's roommate banging down the door WHILE WE WERE FUCKING after …
/r/seduction01/06/20 04:53 AM
19

Yeah, I don't think it's really all that different, except that she's probably more comfortable with her sexuality than a younger woman, and is less likely to tolerate stupid manipulative bullshit that is sometimes recommended in seduction. I mostly hook up with women in their early 30s. It's basically a more straightforward, more balanced seduction that is mutual.
/r/seduction31/05/20 09:25 PM
1

If you take all the time you would spend working out and shaping your body (probably 10+ hrs/wk) and just worked on talking to girls instead, you'd attract exponentially more women.
/r/seduction31/05/20 06:24 PM
0

For me, it simply got easier over the years, as I impoved the rest of my life and had other shit to look forward to. That being said, I recently read Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman. It teaches a simple method for not taking things personally (or permanently, or pervasively) that works INSTANTLY like magic. Most important book I ever read.
/r/seduction23/05/20 02:15 AM
1

Some people are really good at this. There was a really insightful post on it recently. I SUCK at it. I know the same girl would love me if I approached her confidently and locked eyes with her. For me personally, this is my Tinder strategy: Waste as little time on Tinder as possible, and go meet women face to face (after the pandemic).
/r/seduction29/04/20 11:30 PM
1

Perfect, thanks. Pretty much what I was doing before shelter in place.
/r/seduction23/04/20 09:09 PM
22

How do you build your social circles? I just moved to a new city. I was doing really well before social distancing... going to lots of events that interest me. I made a lot of friends quickly, I'm happy to say!
/r/seduction19/04/20 07:18 AM
3

Super agree with this. Turns girls on hard. They know why you've locked eyes with them, why you keep touching them.
/r/seduction13/04/20 08:18 PM
2

So... how do you challenge her?
/r/seduction23/03/20 12:56 AM
1

I think the golden age of r/seduction has passed. Oh well. Great posts from real masters are still here.
/r/seduction12/03/20 03:37 AM
0

Maybe not shameful, but it isn't helpful for me or most people.
/r/seduction10/03/20 01:26 AM
9

Hahahaha. I do start calling pornstars "goddesses" and "perfect," etc.
/r/seduction10/03/20 01:25 AM
4

You didn't fuck up. She did. You guys had great sex 6 times and then she went all crazy and ruined it.
/r/seduction15/02/20 05:16 AM
8

Author?
/r/seduction12/02/20 07:10 PM
1

Other correction: Gringo society. But not really, it isn't that bad in the states. Although I'm in Chicago now. Cold climate, cold people. Ultimately, though, if your confidence, posture, eye contact, smile are good when you approach, you'll see some different reactions.
/r/seduction06/02/20 06:32 PM
5

A gringa is a female gringo haha
/r/seduction06/02/20 02:37 AM
11

Correction: Gringas are flirtatiously retarded. But let's be honest... a lot of the guys on this subreddit are or were once just as bad. Check out South America sometime... girls there know how to show you they're interested.
/r/seduction05/02/20 11:29 PM
17

Sorry you gave up on yourself =/
/r/seduction30/01/20 01:28 AM
3

Challenging has nothing to do with how hot she is. It has to do with how into you and available she is. She's into you. She's available. Just do it.
/r/seduction09/06/19 09:01 PM
11

She's trying to fuck you. She's doing everything a North American girl can do without being judged. Touch her. Move your face close to hers. Slowly, gently, but surely. The kiss just happens after that. A girl will move her face away if she's not feeling it.
/r/seduction09/06/19 08:59 PM
8

Good god, I'm the only person who disagrees?? OP, you did establish boundaries. You made it clear you weren't interested multiple times. You shouldn't need to yell and scream, or full on ditch someone. To CuteJessica1989, she DID GET UP AND LEAVE AND HE FOLLOWED HER!
/r/seduction08/06/19 05:36 PM
3

Jesus, so many shittalkers on this thread. Obnoxious. The detail you've offered here is helpful and explains a lot. Can you elaborate on this? How did you let her know you were culpable? "I made sure she knew that all that went down was my fault, that it happened beyond her control. This relaxed her, and let her trust the process."
/r/TheRedPill28/12/16 03:43 PM
1

She needs privacy to avoid being judged. Take her across the room, to go get tacos, a different bar, etc.
/r/seduction30/08/16 09:51 PM
1

Check out some of the ugly PUAs out there... Mystery, RSDTyler, etc.
/r/seduction19/05/15 03:58 AM
3

Me too!
/r/seduction09/03/15 12:31 AM
1

You sound like me two years ago. Honestly, if you start going out and talking to random people, it will do wonders for your confidence and your social skills. Even if you don't get laid for a long time, like I didn't, you will still grow a lot. Also, last year, I tied the amount of video games I played to the amount of time I spent practicing harmonica. (I'm pretty good now =]) This year, I've tied video games to both harmonica and learning how to build websites. So read up on alpha male behavio…
/r/seduction01/03/15 04:44 PM
2

This is fantastic. Your post really communicates well that kind of vibe you want to have. At the end of your post, you mention how the obvious chemistry impacted your aggressive, playful behavior. This definitely happens with me also. If I were you, I would be very conscious of logistics on the next date. Keep all the venues close to your/her place, find some excuse to bounce to either. For example, some pictures from some trip you took, some wine you have at home, old school video game she used…
/r/seduction01/03/15 04:30 PM
1

Do a search. There's a lot of great posts on this. I used to be really good at this. I could talk myself into high confidence.
/r/seduction28/02/15 07:53 AM
4

For the record, you don't go from 0-60 with a kiss. Light kino, get close to her, keep eye contact... if you're close to her and looking her in the eye and your face is close to hers and she's not moving away, chances are she's down with it.
/r/seduction20/02/15 12:45 AM
1

I want some fat ass
/r/seduction19/08/14 06:10 AM
1

Perhaps you're projecting sexuality too quickly.
/r/seduction11/08/14 02:59 AM
1

Thanks for the tips!!
/r/seduction11/08/14 01:31 AM
1

Do you dance with girls in the club? If so, how do you approach them?
/r/seduction10/08/14 06:05 PM
1

Exactly, this is why trying to talk to girls in clubs is a no-go. Although last night, a girl asked me to dance. I screamed "WHAT" twice before I knew what she was saying haha.
/r/seduction10/08/14 06:02 PM
1

walk up, introduce yourself, and ask her to dance. Have you tried this? I have. With 100% failure haha. I'm trying to figure out this dancing thing, but it's definitely a nonverbal communication thing.
/r/seduction10/08/14 09:19 AM
2

Haha damn dude, I'm jealous. Did you think having her check in with her friends could have caused you to lose her to them?
/r/seduction10/08/14 08:19 AM
1

She was probably crazy and it's OK that you didn't make sweet love to her
/r/seduction10/07/14 07:28 AM
2

No, it's perfectly logical. If I got herpes, my reaction would be to tell potential sexual partners. Therefore, my sex life would change. I don't want the woman I'll marry to worry about getting it from me. I value that more than momentary pleasure. Basically, I'm going to try to have friends with benefits who have been tested. Or even just girlfriends.
/r/seduction07/07/14 05:59 AM
2

Many people are under the assumption that if you can't see symptoms on your partner's genital area, that they can't get an STD from them. Many also believe that if a condom used, they are 100% protected. They are wrong, and are therefore not aware of the risks.
/r/seduction06/07/14 08:51 PM
1

For most people, herpes doesn't cause symptoms. For others, it causes bad outbreaks which can be embarrassing, painful, and/or emotionally traumatizing. A lot of these people are going to be responsible and honest, and tell potential partners they have herpes, whether or not they have symptoms, currently or at all. And some of those people are going to lose out on relationships and hookups. So because many PUAs and other douchebags decide that it's OK to not tell girls they hook up with that the…
/r/seduction06/07/14 08:49 PM
2

The ONLY way you can do all in your power to prevent passing it on is find some way to determine whether you are shedding the virus right before you have sex. If you're not testing yourself for shedding before you have sex, then no, you're not doing all in your power to prevent passing it on. It may have effects on the health of the girls you sleep with. While your immune system may have the power to suppress it and render it asymptomatic, the girls you may infect may have a weak immune system t…
/r/seduction06/07/14 08:44 PM
1

It doesn't affect guys in a serious way, huh? What about girls? I'm more concerned about passing something unwanted on to someone else. Shouldn't they be considered in this?
/r/seduction06/07/14 05:22 PM
2

Or who already have documentation of testing ready.
/r/seduction06/07/14 05:20 PM
1

So you've come to peace with giving other people HSV-1? Can you explain how this is ethical?
/r/seduction06/07/14 05:20 PM
2

I've read about how to reduce outbreaks as well. However, asymptomatic people still shed the virus. http://www.webmd.com/genital-herpes/news/20110412/genital-herpes-silent-spread
/r/seduction06/07/14 09:17 AM
3

The stigma is the issue. If you're going to be honest, you have to explain that you could possibly give them the virus, which may cause them to lose interest.
/r/seduction06/07/14 09:09 AM
1

In the article, it was mentioned that men found women with larger pupils more attractive, and that women preferred men with medium pupils more attractive. What if the lighting of certain venues affects pupil size, and therefore attraction?
/r/seduction07/06/14 09:48 PM
2

Approaching her from behind scares her.
/r/seduction30/05/14 06:53 PM
5

Good job but really? |In the end I fucking won and she lost...she gave up her only source of power on day 1 since she couldn't resist...that made me feel good.
/r/seduction25/05/14 05:33 AM
2

What you call chips, we call french fries. What you call crisps, we call chips.
/r/seduction25/05/14 05:28 AM
1

This limits you severely. Approach anyway, even though you currently GAF. You will immediately give much less of a fuck, and after a few times, you'll NGAF.
/r/seduction09/05/14 04:37 PM
1

It's not necessarily a shit test. She may have really just not liked that.
/r/seduction09/05/14 04:36 PM
2

Sleeping at a friend's house isn't a good excuse. 1) Your car in an isolated parking lot 2) A walk in a park, bang in the park You can come up with other ideas, I'm sure.
/r/seduction09/05/14 04:35 PM
1

She might just be busy. Give it a few days, and maybe invite her to something fun you're doing, especially some activity involving your shared interests.
/r/seduction09/05/14 04:32 PM
1

Spin Nightclub, for the Lightning in a Bottle Pre-Party! Coolest club I've ever been to!
/r/seduction07/05/14 06:23 AM
1

Thanks miss!
/r/seduction07/05/14 06:20 AM
1

I agree that you can't convert those to numbers/dates. But honestly, numbers and dates are the hard way to get laid, I think. Same night F-close is easier. And much easier with the dance/makeout strategy.
/r/seduction07/05/14 06:18 AM
1

Thanks a lot, straightforward and informative.
/r/seduction07/05/14 06:16 AM
2

Do confident, ballsy moves on girls. It will make you feel confident and ballsy.
/r/seduction14/04/14 12:32 AM
1

I don't know how long ago that was, but that was a good moment to escalate sexual tension. When a girl tries to make you naked and take your towel from you, it's a very good sign. I might have followed her into her room.
/r/seduction09/04/14 06:06 AM
1

How did you see her naked?
/r/seduction08/04/14 07:06 PM
-1

If you're already on the date, you might as well try.
/r/seduction08/04/14 05:11 PM
0

Pssshh I think that's stupid. He got laid. That was the goal. Allllthouuugghhh.... I don't fucking play games. When a girl acts disinterested, I take her seriously and next her. But if I had known I could get laid, I would have tried.
/r/seduction08/04/14 02:43 AM
1

A girl I picked up at walmart asked me, do you usually pick up girls at walmart? I told her not walmart specifically, but wherever I see a girl I find interesting or attractive. She said she didn't mind and found me very charming.
/r/seduction08/04/14 02:20 AM
1

I think you should have a deep, strong voice in general... mostly by speaking from the chest, but that you should lower and slow your voice more when you say something sexy to a woman. Reserve especially sexual tonality for the right moments.
/r/seduction08/04/14 02:19 AM
1

Worked for me. Bitches be downvotin' because they hate they idea of removing their dick from their hand. I strongly recommend this approach, OP.
/r/seduction08/04/14 02:18 AM
1

Yeah, honestly you're right. Although it's difficult, she takes 3 hours to respond to texts sometimes.
/r/seduction30/03/14 04:53 AM
0

I disagree. This girl pretty much told me she wants to rebound with me, and that she feels bad for flaking. I'm not going to deny myself sex just because she flaked.
/r/seduction30/03/14 04:52 AM
2

Look him in the eye and touch his midriff, arm, lower back, leg, face... see how he responds. If positively, continue making these moves, if negatively, stop.
/r/seduction25/03/14 05:16 PM
3

Haha I don't know why this got downvoted, this is hilarious
/r/seduction25/03/14 01:52 AM
4

"I hardly know you"
/r/seduction25/03/14 01:51 AM
2

So its definitely a text game problem. I know it is tough to build rapport over text, so I have stopped trying to do so. I have been trying to keep things short and concise by going quickly to setting up a date. But I either don't get that far, or have a ton of flakes. This is what Seddit would have you believe, but all my successful dates have some comfort building during texting. It's not complicated... you just talk and flirt a bit. I think this advice about never texting just to text caused …
/r/seduction21/03/14 04:20 PM
1

I'm committed to 2 minutes of self-talk every day. I just did and I feel amazing.
/r/seduction20/03/14 10:04 PM
1

I disagree a great deal. 1) Pre-selection from the other girl was huge 2) Not paying too much attention was very good, it made her chase him 3) "Not you" was alpha as fuck, leader of men 4) Kino at the coffee shop Not to mention, attraction is half the battle. Escalating smoothly and discretely is where the seduction happens.
/r/seduction20/03/14 09:43 PM
2

I just turned around and pointed at him and said 'not you.' YES
/r/seduction20/03/14 09:40 PM
7

I agree that many things are repeated. However, if you've read everything and aren't getting laid, then it probably means you haven't implemented these things. I recognized this in my own life, and go back and reread much of the material to internalize it. There's a big difference between having read something and taking the advice.
/r/seduction20/03/14 09:27 PM
1

I think your example I dated a crazy bitch Just goes to show that other girls, whose situations you may not understand, may also want to talk/date after a time, and that persistence therefore does have value. Sending out a text to a girl who ignored you the first time costs you nothing, and may result in a date/fuck.
/r/seduction20/03/14 09:25 PM
2

I've gone out solo many, many times. Wingmen and friends are definitely beneficial, but ask yourself the same question I asked myself when I started going out: Are you going to let that stop you from getting good with women?
/r/seduction13/03/14 08:54 PM
1

I would really advise looking up "kino" in the search bar, as well as googling it. It can build attraction, it can build sexual tension, and hell yeah it can get a girl wanting a kiss when she didn't before. I've never heard anyone imply that kino isn't that helpful. Do you get datea, man? Do these phone numbers you get become something? I've gotten plenty of phone numbers that go nowhere.
/r/seduction11/03/14 01:23 PM
1

Can you elaborate on these "other means" of conveying intent? While I agree that kino can be risky, it can also be high reward. I'd rather get 10 no's and 1 yes than get 11 maybe's.
/r/seduction10/03/14 08:35 PM
1

Hey man... she established her boundaries and I respected them.
/r/seduction10/03/14 07:21 PM
1

No my friend, you should almost always use kino. I was using too much, but my intentions were clear. The problems here were: 1) Her friend 2) The guy she's seeing, who I learned about at the end. This one was hard to win. But I lost, rather than not really committing to play the game. I think bold kino is better used when a sexual frame is established from the start. If you try to start as "friends," and then go heavy kino, you're going to have issues. But I've certainly had instances where I ma…
/r/seduction10/03/14 06:32 PM
1

I agree that I was overescalating. However, I think what you describe is underescalation. You can absolutely kino before you've made sexual conversation.
/r/seduction10/03/14 05:26 AM
2

It's finding the WHY behind biographical data. Does that makes sense? Finding the reason for things in her life.
/r/seduction09/03/14 08:39 PM
1

I think it's awesome. I imagine you say it in a half-joking tone
/r/seduction07/03/14 09:38 PM
1

Well played sir. I just feel like girls sometimes try really hard not to get laid, even though they want it. WHY haha
/r/seduction07/03/14 09:24 PM
2

Can you describe more specifically how you overcame those last few hurdles? "You can't come in," "You can't stay"?
/r/seduction06/03/14 11:02 PM
2

I would recommend not completely avoiding talking about yourself... It's important that the person you're talking to feels like they are getting to know who you are.
/r/seduction06/03/14 10:46 PM
2

She'll pick up on this insecurity. How to have bigger balls? Make moves like this, and you'll become comfortable with them. I firmly believe that women respond to men with huge balls. I've been told this by girls I've picked up before. I highly recommend this video. If you put on this demeanor, and go out and pull all the moves he does in the video, 1) Your balls will expand 2) Your cocky attitude will solidify 3) Girls will instantly reject or accept you... and then you're good to go.
/r/seduction05/03/14 09:54 PM
2

Just sitting down demonstrates said courage and outcome independence. Move to the next level.
/r/seduction05/03/14 09:43 PM
1

You might ask if she's with someone. But don't offer a pretense that you're taking the chair elsewhere. Really, you should demonstrate that you don't give a fuck either way who she's with.
/r/seduction05/03/14 09:42 PM
4

You probably will. I have more success with women I find really attractive than a "warm-up set." It's like the woman can feel my interest, or lack thereof, and that excites/bores her. Does rejection bother you? If so, I recommend you go out and get rejected a number of times to numb yourself to it.
/r/seduction05/03/14 08:41 PM
1

I would recommend just sitting down, without the pretense that you're taking the chair somewhere else.
/r/seduction05/03/14 08:39 PM
3

This is great advice. I also recommend talking to everyone: the lady in the cafeteria, the bus driver, the cashier, etc. It will make you feel good, and make you more social.
/r/seduction05/03/14 08:39 PM
7

But whenever I turn off my filter, I blurt out everything I think of, especially questions, like, "are you in a hurry?" or "Was that creepy?" "At least I tried, right?" "How old are you" (immediately) Those are stupid right? Yeah, they are. But it's still important to turn off your filter. Honestly, what will happen with practice is that you'll subconsciously internalize your filter, and you won't have to think about it. As far as blurting shit goes, just slow. down. Speak. Slowly. Let the tensi…
/r/seduction05/03/14 08:37 PM
4

This was an unlucky day. There's no reason not to approach when you're out shopping. She's right there. Don't let these freebies slip by.
/r/seduction05/03/14 06:52 PM
7

You can absolutely develop this skill. I was the MOST awkward person in school. I'm still kinda awkward, but have lots of qualities that make up for it. A lot of charisma comes just from practicing. Some qualities that combine into "charisma": 1) Smiling (HUGE) 2) Deep Voice 3) Speaking slowly 4) Funny (comes with practice) 5) Interesting things to say A lot of this will just flow out naturally when you're feeling confident, and feeling good. It's like insecurity locks you up and refuses to let …
/r/seduction05/03/14 01:51 AM
1

Nice, thank you.
/r/seduction04/03/14 09:08 PM
1

Could you elaborate on "concentrating your thoughts to the soles of your feet?" I think it means you focused on the sensation in your feet as you walked to take yourself out of your head. Can you describe how you bring up sex? Does it have to be relevant, or do you just randomly start talking about it?
/r/seduction04/03/14 06:10 AM
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It seems from the conversation that you got closer to her "Oh, you smell good!" Is this the case, and part of your escalation? Can you describe your kino escalation?
/r/seduction04/03/14 04:11 AM
2

I think you already know from your past experiences that approaching is how you conquer AA.
/r/seduction24/02/14 06:49 AM
3

Only you know the context.
/r/seduction24/02/14 06:45 AM
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What do people think about not trying to conceal erections? Pretty sure they turn girls on when grinding or making out. I've thought about making no effort to conceal them.
/r/seduction24/02/14 06:44 AM
2

Do you reject attempts to friendzone you by asserting that you are not friends, and that you are interested in her physically?
/r/seduction23/02/14 07:15 AM
5

Can you provide examples from your own experiene of this? A mini-FR, if you will?
/r/seduction22/02/14 10:40 PM
2

Become shameless. Only you can make you feel shame. I must disagree with Throwaway. Yeah, she has to talk to you. But it doesn't mean she won't like you. It seems you are looking for the most optimal situation, waiting for the perfect moment. Stop that. Instead, focus on breaking through every mental barrier you have, and approach even when things could be awkward.
/r/seduction22/02/14 10:31 PM
1

Of course man. Message me any time.
/r/seduction20/02/14 05:40 AM
1

Thanks man, although I'm not so sure. I think it was awkward for both of us, as we had trouble making a connection. I'm not sure I'll contact her again, especially with the first girl being so cool.
/r/seduction19/02/14 11:22 PM
1

You pulled that statistic out of your ass
/r/seduction19/02/14 06:03 AM
2

It sounds like you have more information regarding this. Care to divulge?
/r/seduction19/02/14 05:57 AM
2

Spend more time in set. Get to know them AND let them know you. Don't number close. Date close. I've found that the more I desire a woman, the better chance I have of attracting her. I'm not sure why, but I imagine I subcommunicate that desire more to women I find very attractive. Talking to people all day builds social momentum and makes you confident. Have written goals. You can't forget something that's written down, all you can do is conciously give up on them, something I cannot do, and I i…
/r/seduction17/02/14 11:38 PM
1

Was this your experience? It was not mine at all. I asked a girl what she thought of my big studio headphones around my neck. She said they were stupid. I was estatic. I had broken through the barrier. I could talk to anyone.
/r/seduction16/02/14 02:34 PM
1

I've been there, man. I've been doing better recently. I became less desperate/invested/outcome dependent, started having more fun, and re-focused on body language, tonality, eye contact, and smiling. When I first started going out, I got a lot of positive responses from girls because these fundamentals were fresh in my head. Now that I'm focusing more on them again, I'm getting more positive responses.
/r/seduction16/02/14 05:47 AM
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http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001677.html I highly recommend this thread. Kino will take some calibration. Get used to failure, to rejection, to coming off the wrong way. It's the only way you'll ever be awesome with women.
/r/seduction16/02/14 05:22 AM
2

Get used to it. bl1y is right on. Honestly, PUA is not usually a quick-fix (though it is for some guys). It's a skill you develop. It takes a lot of time and effort. But the rewards are very much worth it.
/r/seduction16/02/14 05:19 AM
3

The first is the hardest. Every approach hereafter will be easier.
/r/seduction16/02/14 05:18 AM
1

ambitious coping strategy for scarcity of time that necessitates that I hit every club and talk to everyone, Wow my friend, we are too similar. When I lived in Nashville, I would enter a bar, talk to the girls I thought were cute, and leave. Flying solo 99% of the time. I had a route, going down 2nd ave, around both sides of broadway, and back up 2nd.
/r/seduction16/02/14 05:16 AM
1

Revisit pages 238 and 239 of Models. Those pages discuss talking about her, and about yourself.
/r/seduction15/02/14 11:18 PM
1

I love all the observation. I need to focus more on this.
/r/seduction15/02/14 11:16 PM
1

In the venue, I was more concerned about my personal enjoyment, and less so about pick up. His goal was to have fun. Alcohol facilitated that. Therefore, he stayed true to his values for the night.
/r/seduction15/02/14 11:16 PM
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I think you've answered your own question. I tend to eject at that point – usually after only a few minutes, and I'm sure with too little comfort to get a day two. You said you can talk to girls about their passions, that's great. Maybe you need to connect your own passions with theirs, and share as they share. Maybe they feel like you know them, but you've shared too little about yourself and they don't feel like they know you. I think you hit the same road block I did... it took me a long time…
/r/seduction15/02/14 10:46 PM
2

This is what I see: You give a fuck about what other people think. That's the only thing that's stopping you.
/r/seduction15/02/14 10:40 PM
2

After much deliberation in classroom council LABEL THAT MAN A SCUM!!!!
/r/seduction15/02/14 10:39 PM
3

"Spread your legs." Ok, look, you can afford to kino with weak calibration, while not really understanding what you're doing. You're not going to scare anyone, maybe creep a girl out a little bit. This line could really scare someone if you weren't sure how turned on they were. Calibration can be general or specific. I propose having a deep understanding of IOIs, understanding what her eye contact and sexy smile means. I wouldn't use this line until after I've put my hand down there, and probabl…
/r/seduction15/02/14 10:37 PM
3

This is the kind of move you need to be certain of before you make it. Your calibration needs to be on point first.
/r/seduction15/02/14 02:27 PM
1

You can learn to be completely honest and bold and smooth.
/r/seduction13/02/14 01:55 AM
1

I am trying to stop entirely. I have some read some inspiring reports of 100 and 1000 day abstinence reports recently, they may still be on the front page of r/nofap . Could you provide links to studies regarding fapping and prostate health?
/r/seduction11/02/14 04:23 PM
1

Definitely number one and two, but don't stop there. This guy knows what he's talking about.
/r/seduction11/02/14 02:26 AM
2

It was. But guess what? Old seddit is still there! The most powerful thing on r/seduction is the search bar!
/r/seduction11/02/14 02:26 AM
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I had a similar fluctuation of success. I think I've realized that I became very outcome dependent, as you feel you are becoming. Maybe you should take some time to read a lot of the inner game stuff in the sidebar. Really meditate on it, and become it. To answer your question, I discovered the seduction community maybe 9 months ago. I have grown a lot as a result, in terms of body language, confidence, outcome independence, general productivity, and I've been on dates with some cool girls. Not …
/r/seduction10/02/14 01:53 AM
1

Of course you'll get more numbers that flake. But you'll interact with women who smile at you, respond well to your kino, and just generally prove that women love you, and that there are many of them.
/r/seduction09/02/14 08:05 PM
1

I wish I could remember the post... but I can give you something much more powerful. Use the search bar. Search "flake," or "flake text." The search bar is amazing. Search for FRs, kino, F-Close, building emotional connection, building attraction, threesomes, etc. It beats the shit out of checking seddit daily and finding a worthwile post or two.
/r/seduction09/02/14 10:02 AM
3

Well, at least you fucked a girl with huge tits 3-4 times. Not the worst beta story ever.
/r/seduction09/02/14 08:11 AM
1

No really... You just said there are all sorts of ways to "NGAF." And then you described your cousins looks. That is not a way that most men can "NGAF."
/r/seduction09/02/14 08:05 AM
1

Damn, I can't wait to live in a big city... so many girls, all the time. You could probably approach 10 hot women in an hour.
/r/seduction09/02/14 07:57 AM
1

I recently watched a really great video that defined confidence as a lack of self-consciousness, or self-judgment. Basically avoiding all thoughts about how you're being perceived, and just focusing on the present moment. Here is the Video.
/r/seduction09/02/14 07:30 AM
2

nofap is the balls. More time (that you aren't wasting), more sexual desire, more appreciation for women, more motivation, more confidence. Such an awesome life hack.
/r/seduction09/02/14 06:43 AM
4

I find it funny that your drunk writing is more coherent than your sober writing.
/r/seduction09/02/14 06:40 AM
3

I saw a post about that recently, and I really need to try it.
/r/seduction09/02/14 04:44 AM
2

Haha damn dude, are you sure you're a beginner? ;]
/r/seduction08/02/14 11:41 PM
0

Texting back the next day like that.
/r/seduction05/02/14 04:29 AM
0

Maybe too soon, friend.
/r/seduction05/02/14 03:51 AM
1

I think if you just share common emotional experiences, that will help. She talks about A, you tell her about B and how it was similar, etc. Maybe you can build a connection without getting attached? Honestly, if you fear getting attached, I feel like that will only end the relationship sooner.
/r/seduction05/02/14 03:08 AM
1

Struggling to "expose" yourself... do you mean open up, be emotionally vulnerable?
/r/seduction04/02/14 05:50 PM
2

I imagine this varies from task to task, but I can see that. Telling your friends that you're going to approach 3 girls tonight can make you feel accountable.
/r/seduction04/02/14 05:49 PM
1

Explain
/r/seduction03/02/14 08:05 PM
1

I had a slump recently. I conquered it by rereading the sidebar, and really seeking to internalize the information. Hope this helps.
/r/seduction03/02/14 09:35 AM
1

This situation has occurred billions of times. Surely every single one of those didn't happen for a single reason. More likely for a variety of reasons.
/r/seduction02/02/14 04:11 AM
1

Actually, I think a girl could throw this out there to see if you're ok with it. Like she doesn't want to cheat without you knowing that's what it is.
/r/seduction01/02/14 10:45 PM
2

I think sometimes it can mean that she needs to throw that out there and see if you're ok with it.
/r/seduction01/02/14 10:45 PM
0

Nice. Yeah, there's always those little subtle details only the author of an FR knows about.
/r/seduction26/01/14 08:30 AM
3

I feel like you should have asked her how she felt about you, maybe she thought of you as more than a friend?
/r/seduction26/01/14 06:07 AM
2

The men got off pretty easy too... Don't you think that people who torture other people should get like, 20 years? Or a life sentence?
/r/TheRedPill24/01/14 07:09 AM
1

Argentinian
/r/seduction23/01/14 06:56 AM
3

For one thing, it seems like you're more of a good kind of awkward than a bad kind. It seems that this awkwardness can amuse people. And I don't think it will be a dealbreaker in getting you laid. Haven't been laid in a few months? Better than me dude lol.
/r/seduction22/01/14 06:03 AM
2

So elaborate on this progression. Tell me how I would "lead all the way," and how this would be easy.
/r/seduction22/01/14 12:36 AM
2

Hmm, tell me what you mean? I think she just was a bit sexually reserved.
/r/seduction21/01/14 10:19 PM
6

I started removing it and she didn't want to. Didn't push the issue anymore.
/r/seduction21/01/14 10:18 PM
1

Touch them. Smile. Make it easy for them to advance with you.
/r/seduction21/01/14 07:35 PM
1

Those things often create dramatic change in how people respond to you.
/r/seduction21/01/14 07:45 AM
1

Perhaps you need to deepen your voice, speak more slowly, and maintain alpha body language. Is it possible that you speak quickly, in a higher pitch voice, perhaps with rapport-seeking tonality?
/r/seduction21/01/14 07:27 AM
1

Physically escalate/Use compliance tests. Play with her hair, touch her cheek or her neck. If she's receptive, she'll be receptive to a kiss as well.
/r/seduction20/01/14 01:44 AM
1

Yes, a direct approach can be the wrong approach. But it's better than no approach. When I'm not sure how to make an indirect approach, I try to go balls out and make a direct one anyway, even though the given situation (i.e., around all her friends) makes it unlikely to be effective.
/r/seduction18/01/14 07:00 AM
1

I'm a bloody ski instructor who's broke. And I'm so free, and can do what I want. Do you really think either of our situations run counter to being powerful?
/r/seduction18/01/14 06:58 AM
2

Oh my god. Communicate power before, or at the same time that you communicate desire for her. This is what I used to do, but forgot, and have stumbled upon recently accidently. My rough patch is over.
/r/seduction18/01/14 06:54 AM
0

When I switched scales, I started banging 4 more girls per month
/r/seduction17/01/14 07:01 AM
2

About her reactions to you, her opinions of you. You should be considerate (at least in my book, some have success with being a douche). With life, you shouldn't let little things phase you. Non-reactivity.
/r/seduction17/01/14 05:09 AM
7

Dude, that's gold
/r/seduction12/01/14 06:56 AM
3

Don't open with "when I was tripping acid." Good job approaching dude, that takes balls. Speak. Slowly. with pauses. It will give you time to formulate an intelligible response that doesn't sound rushed or nervous. Next step? Approach more girls. After getting an approach out of the way, the next one is easier. Keep approaching. With her specifically? I might make eye contact with her and smile, and gauge her response. If she smiles back rather than looks away awkwardly, I might go talk to her a…
/r/seduction11/01/14 08:01 AM
2

Just curious: How good are you at sex? Do you give girls multiple orgasms per sex session? If not, learning to make girls cum 5 times a session could cause girls to stay. Check this out: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/124628 Also, would you be willing to share how you seduced these four women, how often you go out, how many approaches you make per week? Thanks!
/r/seduction08/01/14 01:32 AM
1

You know, I had this question before. I guess over time I cared less and less, and just accepted that flakes happen and don't matter that much.
/r/seduction01/01/14 09:04 PM
1

How did you escalate kino? In FRs, you want to provide details of the date
/r/seduction01/01/14 12:54 AM
1

I'm very interested in the method you use to put yourself in state.
/r/seduction01/01/14 12:36 AM
3

This is it right here. You must pursue your passions. I just started working at a ski resort, my roommates are cool, we know some cool girls, and we joined a dodgeball league. Quite the social circle right there. Some other things that will introduce you to new people: 1. A new job 2. A new city 3. A club you join 4. A sports league Get out there and do new things!
/r/seduction28/12/13 06:31 AM
3

An IOI is an indicator of interest, a sign from a woman that she is into you. They can verbal (questions about your dick), they can come from her body language (facing toward you, smiling) or if she kinos you or not. Kino is using physical contact. Touching the girl on her back, her arm, her neck, legs, face, etc. Probably the most powerful seduction technique. Google it and master it.
/r/seduction27/12/13 12:56 AM
1

I might say "about a quarter inch long." A girl asking about your dick is a blatant IOI... are you using kino? I would think sex would happen easily if you were using kino on girls who asked you this.
/r/seduction26/12/13 09:10 PM
2

"Come back and execute the three second rule" that's not the three second rule. Following the three second rule means you approach immediately. No drinks, no planning. Most of my approaches, I walk up to a girl without thinking about what I'm going to say, and wait until they look at me and say something. I suppose something witty might be better, but wit should flow organically and be unplanned, in my opinion. Try my method a few times, if only to overcome AA. You can think of great lines after…
/r/seduction26/12/13 09:08 PM
1

Seducing in Spanish seems exciting to me. I'll be forced to speak bluntly, and seduce mostly through subcommunication, i.e. kino, eye contact, sexual tonality, smiling
/r/seduction26/12/13 09:04 PM
1

I would recommend seducing girls at work only once you've become really good, and can do it subtly.
/r/seduction25/12/13 08:31 PM
0

It was back in college. A girl with a boyfriend. She was trying to unzip my pants with her teeth. Difficult to resist.
/r/seduction25/12/13 08:20 PM
2

If a Psychiatriast (read: legally sanctioned drug dealer) can convince you that you or your child has a "disorder" and needs their drugs to solve the problem, then that's just more money in their pockets.
/r/TheRedPill17/12/13 01:44 AM
1

Put this in the sidebar.
/r/seduction07/12/13 09:01 AM
7

The vagina is the best place to start for sure
/r/seduction04/12/13 09:08 PM
4

Numbers are worthless unless you build attraction/connection anyway.
/r/seduction26/11/13 04:24 AM
1

I think this is the best way to handle it. don't let the situations stress you out, and probably the worst thing you can do is mention it to him or her. Your fling may be ending, but it will probably last the longest if you don't say anything.
/r/seduction23/11/13 05:46 AM
1

Sweet, see you wednesday night
/r/seduction17/11/13 06:53 PM
1

Yeah dude, join us.
/r/seduction16/11/13 04:38 AM
1

Please illuminate.
/r/seduction16/11/13 04:37 AM
1

Yeah, you're repeating lol. It disables your anxiety from setting in.
/r/seduction16/11/13 04:36 AM
7

Google this: "vin dicarlo escalation ladder pdf" and download and read. While ASD is definitely going to be an issue for you since these girls are in your social circle, escalating kino well can overcome this.
/r/seduction15/11/13 03:18 PM
1

When a girl's friends leave her alone with you... They're all giving you the green light.
/r/seduction15/11/13 03:14 PM
2

Lol sidebar dude http://www.reddit.com/r/GothamSeddit/
/r/seduction15/11/13 03:11 PM
2

I can definitely give you a tour!
/r/seduction15/11/13 03:10 PM
7

I'm still battling AA, so I rarely talk to strangers, so no daygame for me yet until I get this handled. Daygame is how you handle AA. Go out and approach girls until you stop giving a fuck. The 3 second rule really helped me. Basically, you have to decide whether or not to approach within 3 seconds. If you haven't committed by then, you've already pussed out. Don't even worry if you don't know what to say. Just say something, even if it's stupid, just to get over AA. Every approach, no matter h…
/r/seduction15/11/13 03:08 PM
3

You can night game in more laid back bars, more quiet bars. Although the girls there may not be as wild.
/r/seduction15/11/13 03:06 PM
1

Dude, shut up. This is EXACTLY the kind of FR we need. Every little detail, every little action contributing to success. This is what giving back looks like. Don't shut a guy down for contributing to the community.
/r/seduction10/11/13 05:15 PM
6

You said nightgame leads to 1NS and 2NS rather than FWB. What setting do you game in that's more likely to net you a FWB?
/r/seduction07/11/13 04:42 AM
3

I decided it was more fun to use OK Cupid to see what I would have to say to get kicked off
/r/seduction06/11/13 03:07 AM
3

The rest of the class? Definitely not insignificant.
/r/seduction06/11/13 03:07 AM
1

Real solid, dude. Keep it up.
/r/seduction28/10/13 07:42 AM
1

"I just overthink things too much." Maybe she thought a lot about you, created this idea in her head about how things were going to go, you know?
/r/seduction27/10/13 06:23 PM
1

"Met this particular girl last week, in line at the bank. Made her laugh, got her number, had one phone conversation where I asked her out for drinks. Skip forward to last night. I picked her up and took her downtown. We had already built up a lot of comfort in our short phone conversation, so we continued some inside jokes on the ride and I started light kino on her leg and arm." It would be really great if you could describe the specifics here.
/r/seduction27/10/13 06:20 PM
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I don't understand why posts like these with actual techniques and game only get 6 upvotes while posts talking about how you don't need women get 600. Seddit needs a revival.
/r/seduction27/10/13 06:17 PM
2

I disagree, I think he was in the friend zone from the beginning.
/r/seduction27/10/13 06:11 PM
3

I came here to say this. Talk to LOTS of girls. Not just one.
/r/seduction27/10/13 06:10 PM
3

Plausible Deniability. Talk about something fun to do at her place earlier in the night (movie(although this one is pretty obvious), Wii, Music, etc.) And later use that as an excuse to go back to her place. You can also bounce to another location before bouncing to her place (ice cream, food, etc.) This way her friends won't know anything about it unless she wants to tell them, so she can avoid judgment completely and not worry about how she's perceived, allowing her to act on her sexual desire…
/r/seduction27/10/13 06:03 PM
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If she wants to spend more time with you, you'll be saving the guy who's engaged to her from being married to her. Wouldn't you rather find out before you marry a girl that she's not committed to you, rather than after?
/r/seduction27/10/13 05:59 PM
2

I think it's uncommon for a girl to have never been approached in a bar, which explains her shock. I don't think that many guys have initiated conversations with girls in bars.
/r/seduction27/10/13 05:55 PM
1

Loud bars/clubs ARE loud, and trying to talk to a girl can be annoying for that reason. Your primary method here is body language, eye contact, kino.
/r/seduction26/10/13 04:37 AM
1

Speak really loudly, and make good eye contact.
/r/seduction26/10/13 01:56 AM
1

Sure, not approaching is failure. But look at it this way: You went out. You tried to approach. Better than staying at home and not approaching at all. It seems like your negative view of failure is hurting you the most. It's ok if you don't approach. I mean, you should approach, but don't get so down on yourself when you don't that it fucks you up mentally.
/r/seduction26/10/13 01:56 AM
1

It won't really help you. It may give you the wrong idea that 5s are easier to pick up than 9s. Which is false. Go after the girls you want. Every approach will chip away at your Approach Anxiety.
/r/seduction25/10/13 02:34 AM
1

Or even just a 3 day challenge. I've tried to talk about this on seddit, but no one listens. You will become way hornier and sexual, and your AA will weaken significantly.
/r/seduction24/10/13 11:53 PM
1

Haha yeah, with my super-alpha boss. He won.
/r/seduction24/10/13 05:23 AM
2

At least build strong inner game, overcome Approach Anxiety, and stop giving a fuck about others' opinions. These will give you far greater rewards than women.
/r/seduction24/10/13 05:17 AM
1

I've been sarging for about 5 months now. My progress hasn't been quite what I want it to be, though I have gotten a few dates. If I don't give up and continue sarging for 5 years, will I become a master?
/r/seduction23/10/13 06:32 AM
1

Thank you for posting this. This is why I will win. Even if I had never discovered seddit, I will win because I'm addicted to growth.
/r/seduction21/10/13 05:04 AM
1

I have gotten a few dates with quick closes. One happened in a grocery store, and another was a girl at the auto parts store whose number I asked for after I bought parts. How do you talk to a girl in a grocery store for more than a few minutes? Both of you have things to do, clearly.
/r/seduction21/10/13 03:44 AM
2

2 dates in 5 years? Why were you out of the game for so long?
/r/seduction19/10/13 05:39 AM
1

You don't like music...?
/r/seduction18/10/13 07:40 AM
1

You can do this now. You already have the mindset. You just need to "dig" into her personality... by asking the right questions. When she says something interesting, be interested, ask her more about it. With this girl, we were just right for each other, personality-wise. That made it easy to connect with her.
/r/seduction18/10/13 05:34 AM
2

Whoa haha
/r/seduction17/10/13 08:33 PM
12

Nothing guarantees sex. Women are not a formula.
/r/seduction11/10/13 09:56 PM
0

Yes, we are all special just because we exist. Even the guy who's a damn couch potato. Some people may be more awesome than others, but everyone is awesome, just for the fact that we are mere matter that has five senses, thought, and emotion.
/r/seduction10/10/13 06:58 PM
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whoa, we can only love ourselves and have high self esteem if we abandon logic? This is SO untrue. We are an extremely complex arrangement of atoms, arranged in such a way that we can THINK! that we can PERCEIVE! We are nothing but basic matter! And yet we FEEL and DESIRE! Love, emotion, language, thought, belief... none of these things even existed until life did! Is this not miraculous? Is this not worthy of love and esteem?
/r/seduction10/10/13 06:36 AM
1

please do us all a favor and post FRs...?
/r/seduction10/10/13 06:31 AM
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wow dude, opium?
/r/seduction10/10/13 06:28 AM
2

When you get to a place where you know your life would be awesome if a girl never touched you again... then you will know your self-worth. Invest in yourself.
/r/seduction10/10/13 06:24 AM
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The best advice I can give you is to just experiment. This isn't a hard science. You just touch someone to connect with them. Sometimes, people teaching this stuff can get too analytical and specific. You know how to touch a girl's arm, or her back, or her shoulder or leg.
/r/seduction10/10/13 01:29 AM
1

absolutely false. Did you even try a youtube search? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Edh2GQHZmtI&list=PL2-BvCdBRecNz5HTzEGS4b_rbNtj2LqYb
/r/seduction09/10/13 04:59 AM
1

1) Talk to yourself, out loud. Talk about why you feel the way you do. Really flesh it out, have a dialogue. This will help you understand your own feelings better, and get to the root problem. 2) With negativity, you just have to blast it with positivity. It doesn't have to be relevant, anything and everything that makes you feel good. But there will still be residual negativity that will overpower your positive thoughts if you don't keep blasting away at it.
/r/seduction09/10/13 04:56 AM
1

There's nothing weird about kino. You just do it. It's only difficult for you because you're not used to using kino.
/r/seduction09/10/13 04:44 AM
1

You want to be taken seriously? Take yourself seriously. You should be more concerned with your opinion of yourself than your friends' opinions of you. And if the girl you want to approach can't see past stupid jokes, then that's too bad. Next.
/r/seduction09/10/13 04:40 AM
1

Very helpful, I definitely was projecting things onto this really hot girl I met two months ago
/r/seduction06/10/13 09:41 PM
1

I think she was originally attracted to you. But then you took to long to approach her, and so she lost interest. I think you need to work on your inner game. Cultivating strong inner game can be as simple as reading about inner game a lot and thinking about it a lot. Strength is a choice. You may need to alter your mindset some, but that's fine. Question: Is it possible that the internships and jobs you worked on conditioned you to be beta, because of the power structure there?
/r/seduction06/10/13 12:41 AM
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A girl's gotta go home sometime, doesn't mean she isn't interested. Guess how you stop being pissed? Go out and approach a shitton more girls, get a shitton more numbers, and a lot of those will still flake but you'll have a few dates. Abundance and outcome independence.
/r/seduction05/10/13 06:30 AM
1

I came to say this... it's not that big of a deal. Now if you let them get away with your knife, then you demonstrated a low investment in yourself, and a very high investment in them and their opinions. Just get your knife back.
/r/seduction05/10/13 06:20 AM
3

You're back, bl1y!
/r/seduction04/10/13 07:13 AM
3

oooooorr Throwaway is making a funny joke
/r/seduction04/10/13 07:13 AM
1

Is it that far away? I'm just saying it could greatly benefit your social life. Anyway, if I were in your shoes, I would give her lots of kino and eye contact, and invite her to do fun things, like coffee, but from the coffee bar bounce to the park or another venue, and another, and then take her back to your place
/r/seduction03/10/13 04:33 AM
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This girl almost sounds like an fPUA, approaching guys and making cold reads about their names. I recommend not going to her workplace. This girl is into you. If she's touching you and sitting by you each class, she's interested, at least on some level. You should consider friendzoning this girl (or girls in the future) and tease her about inviting you to parties... the hot girls in your life will multiply
/r/seduction02/10/13 07:49 AM
2

approach anxiety- take massive action, and approach any girl you would want to hook up with.
/r/seduction02/10/13 06:51 AM
0

I think it has a lot to do with being really good at sex.
/r/seduction30/09/13 07:09 PM
2

Thanks for posting your success
/r/seduction30/09/13 07:02 PM
3

I would advise not being too forward with girls at work
/r/seduction28/09/13 09:04 PM
1

Don't worry... I'm pretty active. It's just hard. I just wish I saw more girls I find attractive.
/r/seduction26/09/13 02:08 AM
1

Well, you've gotta do that. I feel like cities make seduction a lot easier...
/r/seduction25/09/13 05:59 AM
1

Where do you like to day game? The past two days, I've gone out to malls, and I found very few cute girls that I really wanted to talk to. Where do you go to find lots and lots of cute girls? Comfort zone is not an issue for me.
/r/seduction25/09/13 01:01 AM
1

"Hey, you're cute and I wanted to meet you." Pretty much all I use
/r/seduction24/09/13 05:28 PM
7

the pain of hard work vs. the pain of regret
/r/seduction24/09/13 07:35 AM
4

I'm about 4-5 months in. By this I mean that I discovered the community about that long ago, and began going out and doing a good bit of night game. 1) Much more confident and secure in myself. 2) I exercise regularly, just an ab workout and pushups with my feet elevated, which doesn't take much time at all and I look great 3) I can walk up to a woman in a grocery store/mall/bar and start a conversation and convey my intent to her. If you talk to enough girls you find attractive, some of them wi…
/r/seduction24/09/13 05:39 AM
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Posting your mistake FRs can be just as valuable as successful ones, thanks a lot
/r/seduction24/09/13 12:39 AM
1

...Number close??
/r/seduction24/09/13 12:35 AM
1

I just made 5 approaches at a mall and then my favorite grocery store. Most girls were pretty unreceptive, and claimed to have boyfriends (meaning either they legitimately had boyfriends, or I didn't do a great job). However, the last girl I opened was receptive and held eye contact with me, and I got her number.
/r/seduction23/09/13 11:50 PM
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Yeah, here's to hoping that a guy opens indirectly, and she then asks the guy out on a date. Fat chance. That being said, that IS a funny opener, and could be followed up with direct statements of intent ("You're cute," etc.)
/r/seduction23/09/13 11:46 PM
1

Use upbeat, enthusiastic tone to build attraction Use deep, sexual tone once you know you have significant attraction to escalate Thoughts?
/r/seduction22/09/13 06:31 AM
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That's when you step in
/r/seduction22/09/13 06:08 AM
1

Oh wow, I misunderstood as well
/r/seduction22/09/13 05:28 AM
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Haha guys have done this to me many times when I've approached their girl unknowingly. Honestly, I walked away amused, and impressed with his alphaness.
/r/seduction22/09/13 05:27 AM
2

Look man... if you had a blast with plenty of ONSs... you are not at square one. You gained from your development of skills. This might just take some time. Rejection can suck.
/r/seduction20/09/13 09:39 PM
3

Don't ask for the time too many times. After you ask for the time, progress toward a real conversation. You can literally walk up and smile and say "Hello" or "Hi, you're cute and I wanted to meet you." It doesn't have to be fancy.
/r/seduction19/09/13 07:26 AM
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A piece of advice for the early parts of your journey: Had you approached two more sets, you would have still found them difficult, but much easier than the first set, and certainly doable. The next set you approach the next time you go out will be easier than your first ever approach, but more difficult than an approach on the night of would have been. Again, certainly doable, but my point is... The first approach of the night is the hardest, but it warms you up, gets you going. Get this first …
/r/seduction19/09/13 07:23 AM
1

It was three/four days after I discovered the online seduction community. I approached a girl on the street and asked her her opinions about my headphones. She said they looked dumb. I laughed and said thanks and walked away. But it was my first approach. And I knew that if I could walk up to a girl and talk to her, that my opportunities to meet and seduce women were virtually endless.
/r/seduction18/09/13 04:19 AM
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So you meet a girl, and she's cute but not all that interesting, and you don't display a ton of interest/investment. Sounds legit to me, sounds congruent. You meet a girl who is cool, and interesting... but you ACT like you don't give a shit, and then when you do, they don't want to date you anymore... Perhaps they don't lose interest because you care about them, because you're invested, but because you're being incongruent
/r/seduction17/09/13 07:20 AM
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You can number close. You just need to build attraction and a connection. That can be done in 5 min.
/r/seduction16/09/13 04:24 AM
1

Thanks so much for posting that link! excellent!
/r/seduction15/09/13 09:04 PM
1

Very good work, man. Some advice: You could have gotten her number 10 minutes after talking to her. Do this early 1) to convey intent 2) in case you get split up unexpectedly. It doesn't really have to be that early, but I think it's better/flows more naturally than getting the number when you're parting ways. Had you WANTED to go back to her place/your place, here's how you might go about that: 1) "Hey, it's too loud in here, come outside with me so we can hear each other" put your hand on her …
/r/seduction15/09/13 08:56 PM
1

I'd say this works in maybe 1% of "friend zone" occurences. If she says you're just a friend, not much you say will convince her otherwise.
/r/seduction11/09/13 07:54 PM
1

explain what you mean by avoid the cold approach and warm her up first. This really just sounds like a cold approach to me.
/r/seduction10/09/13 05:57 PM
1

I have to say... whether you're comfortable making a cold approach or not, you absolutely should do it. Why? Because there's a certain number of attractive women that are in your social circles, that you will be introduced to, that will give you IOIs beforehand, etc... But there's virtually an unlimited supply of beautiful girls out there if you're willing to talk to someone you don't know.
/r/seduction10/09/13 05:56 PM
1

you should talk about this after you bang him, not before
/r/seduction09/09/13 04:16 AM
3

How do you recommend getting into the party scene? I just don't get invited to parties (I work at a restaurant far from my home and I'm not in school)
/r/seduction08/09/13 11:08 PM
6

He himself said he's attracting lots of girls, albeit girls he's not that attracted to.
/r/seduction08/09/13 11:06 PM
3

Thanks, as always, for showing us how it's done. I have a big question for you... I almost exclusively go out alone to talk to girls/have a good time in my city. I go to the touristy area, where I can barhop constantly (helps with outcome independence, obviously). Do you think going out solo hurts you significantly?
/r/seduction08/09/13 11:02 PM
4

haters in the houuussseeee
/r/seduction08/09/13 11:00 PM
7

There's a difference between insecurity and vulnerability. Insecurity is a lack of confidence. Vulnerability is opening up and being honest about something most guys would be too insecure to talk about. Vulnerability displays true confidence. Source: Mark Manson, Models
/r/seduction08/09/13 08:28 PM
2

By standards, I mean a girl that I'm attracted to. Not super hot, not a goddess, but I'm definitely not going to hook up with a girl that I'm repulsed by or feel no physical attraction to. And where I am, there aren't enough cute girls on OKC to get laid consistently and maintain those standards. That being said, I do use OKC and I've talked to a few girls, and one looks like it'll turn into a date soon. I advocate OKC... I just don't want people to get the wrong idea about OKC, that they can ge…
/r/seduction08/09/13 08:18 PM
1

What did you "conquer?" Oneitis? Meaning this is a girl you would have had oneitis for, which you avoided, but are maintaining an emotional connection?
/r/seduction08/09/13 05:30 PM
2

Haha I couldn't help but think of trailer park boys as I read this
/r/seduction08/09/13 05:28 PM
2

Have confidence in yourself. Be confident that you can approach. That you can approach and have an awkward conversation and not really give a shit. Like I said, getting over AA involves approaching over and over again. Just do it.
/r/seduction08/09/13 05:09 PM
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First of all, stop the negative self talk. Immediately. It is making you worse. As for when it clicked for me? Never. I just made myself approach single girls, groups of girls, mixed sets, over and over again, and eventually it became easy. It probably will not "click" for you, and you won't have an "Aha" moment. You just have to get out there and fucking do it. Fail over and over again, but just do it. And each time, it'll get easier, and you'll get better, until you approach a girl who's locki…
/r/seduction08/09/13 04:46 PM
7

You have to be in a big city for OKCupid to be a source of consistent sex... that, or you have to lower your standards significantly
/r/seduction08/09/13 04:40 PM
1

OKCupid seems legit so far, but fling, adultfriendfinder were all scams with fake accounts messaging me to get me to buy a full account
/r/seduction08/09/13 04:38 PM
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Conversational Threading: Take bits and pieces of what they say and talk about them. 1) Last night we saw this guy dressed up on the street, I think he was trying to get money from people by being entertaining (Street performers, money, entertainment, dressed up) 2) This summer we went to the beach, it was this small little town with lots of cute little shops and it wasn't overcrowded. (summer plans, beach trips, small town feel, cute original shops, overcrowding) As you can see, both of these s…
/r/seduction08/09/13 04:37 PM
2

You could try just sitting down and smiling, being friendly, using some words (even if they don't understand). Kino, take them on a quick date to get ice cream/whatever. It's definitely a challenge, but I've read of people managing this before
/r/seduction08/09/13 04:31 PM
73

Now that's some high tech seduction
/r/seduction08/09/13 04:27 PM
1

Did you get a date from the girl?
/r/seduction07/09/13 04:47 AM
3

You don't start as a natural. You practice being spontaneous. Developing this skill takes a while, but it is not impossible. Seriously, do you really want to interact with women by using words that aren't even yours? Does that not feel robotic and disturbing?
/r/seduction06/09/13 05:57 AM
2

She has mad game
/r/seduction06/09/13 03:59 AM
2

Honestly, I feel like just reading over alpha traits and mindsets, etc., and focusing on cultivating them is the best way. Just think about them and emulate them.
/r/seduction06/09/13 03:50 AM
1

Kinda sounds like you've been practicing mindfulness.
/r/seduction04/09/13 05:20 AM
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In a sense, yes. The core parts of what make you you do not have to change. As far as being secure, confident, and more concerned with your growth than the opinions of the women you talk to... yes, this all needs to change. And not just so you can seduce hot women. Being more invested in your own opinions of yourself than others opinions of you just makes you a man, period. It will permeate all your interactions with others for the whole rest of your life, and give you a lot of peace. I highly r…
/r/seduction03/09/13 09:20 AM
1

If she's nervous herself, it can be a bad move
/r/seduction02/09/13 06:57 PM
2

Spend more time in set and build more attraction and comfort.
/r/seduction02/09/13 06:55 PM
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It doesn't sound like you were in the friend zone at all. It sounds like you failed to escalate gradually. You don't massage a girl and then ask if she wants to have sex. You massage her back, then her legs, then you echo her moans with a light warm breath on her skin... Kiss her neck very lightly... You escalate. You never ask to have sex.
/r/seduction02/09/13 06:54 PM
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It's possible she detected an overinvestment from you. In the future, you must always maintain a higher investment in yourself than you do in others, including girls. Source: Mark Manson, Models
/r/seduction02/09/13 06:48 PM
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| Having a social life and women are great things in life but if you can't live without it then you will never be happy I'm not sure this is possible. There must be some kind of balance. I seriously doubt anyone could be happy if they had literally no human/female contact.
/r/seduction02/09/13 06:46 PM
1

I actually am reading that, thanks!
/r/seduction02/09/13 06:36 PM
2

No. If he likes you, you'll know. If he doesn't, you'll also know. Cut straight to the chase.
/r/seduction02/09/13 06:30 PM
3

"I feel empty inside" lol. I guess it could also come across as trying to show her how much you love P&R, a little too hard. It's no biggie. Next.
/r/seduction01/09/13 07:05 PM
3

You should stay friends with her, but definitely move on and pursue other women
/r/seduction01/09/13 01:17 PM
1

Tell him you like him.
/r/seduction01/09/13 08:32 AM
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was coming here to say pretty much this. Some say it's a good idea to exit the conversation at its peak, when they're enjoying you most
/r/seduction01/09/13 08:30 AM
3

Did you really watch a P&R marathon? Because that would imply you have nothing to do.
/r/seduction01/09/13 07:00 AM
1

Eye opening. Thanks. Are you reading Models? I'm 80 pages deep.
/r/seduction01/09/13 06:37 AM
2

Plausible deniability, sir. http://www.pualingo.com/pua-definitions/plausible-deniability/ Something you can do is just ask her: Hey, let's go outside and get some fresh air, where it's a little more quiet and we can talk. From there, you can take her on a mini date, to go get food or whatever, and from THERE, away from her friends, ask her to come back to your place.
/r/seduction01/09/13 04:46 AM
2

Damn man, I had this same situation happen with a girl, she was into me, went out on a date, we kissed... and then nothing. I think I demonstrated over-investment to her, trying to hard while texting, etc. It sucked, I was into her, wanted to keep dating her. But oh well. I went out the other night and met some more beautiful women, got a number. Which hopefully will congeal into a date.
/r/seduction01/09/13 04:36 AM
2

Where was this, a bar? Did you guys build a connection, talk about commonalities?
/r/seduction01/09/13 04:33 AM
1

Find something to tease them about when you meet them, and refer back to that when you text them
/r/seduction01/09/13 03:56 AM
1

Well, the follow up just involves going on the date. I'll text her earlier that day to confirm (as she requested), and if she's into me she'll be there. In which case, we're both attracted to each other, and we just have fun and get to know each other, and of course, I escalate kino and convey intent. At this point, it's just a matter of whether she wants me or not, both of which are fine. The point is that I continue to approach girls in this way (although with more conversation, comfort buildi…
/r/seduction31/08/13 01:44 PM
1

It isn't needy. When you say something like this, it expresses interest, but also opens oneself to rejection. You wouldn't open yourself to rejection if you weren't ok with the idea... so it's non-needy.
/r/seduction31/08/13 01:39 PM
1

Man, I'm waiting for this to start happening.
/r/seduction31/08/13 05:05 AM
1

Kino her. A bit sexually. Touch her back and tell her "I find you attractive as well" with strong eye contact and good body language.
/r/seduction31/08/13 04:54 AM
2

Girls will give you their number whether they want you or not. You need to build attraction first. Try to spend more time talking to these girls before (and/or after) you get their number. I've gotten a lot of numbers that lead to nothing, and you will too. If a girl won't talk to me/set up a date with me, I move on and talk to new girls.
/r/seduction31/08/13 04:49 AM
2

Even in an LTR, you should invest in yourself more than her.
/r/seduction31/08/13 04:38 AM
1

I sure hope so! That's the idea. Oh man... that juicy, juicy ass. I want.
/r/seduction31/08/13 04:26 AM
1

Yeah, I mean, that's what I try to do. Indirectly open the group, but then focus on the girl and be direct.
/r/seduction31/08/13 04:22 AM
1

Well, when I ask her which sounds more fun, and she picks one, she's picking a date with me. Kind of a compliance test, I got the vibe from her answer that she did in fact want to go on a date with me. I see how telling her what you want to do would be strong and leading, but I did that anyway after I asked her what her preference was.
/r/seduction31/08/13 04:19 AM
1

I feel you on the "I am the prize" stuff, the idea that she should chase me. I feel like approaching her a third time may have been detrimental, a little tryhard/needy. For the record, I did another approach like this, equally direct and short, on an HB9 recently and went on a date with her. She said she went out with me because it was direct, which she appreciated, and because of my smile, and it took big balls.
/r/seduction30/08/13 08:30 PM
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From the article: "*Please do not read this article if you’re a woman, especially if you’re in the above category as you may be offended. *" Hahaha. I've been reading Mark Manson's Models, and describes two kinds of confidence: True Confidence, and False Confidence. Both involve being more invested in yourself and concerned with your own opinions than the girls you talk to, however the method of acheiving this mindset is different: True Confidence: You build yourself up and invest in yourself mo…
/r/seduction30/08/13 05:58 PM
3

Rapey is an exaggeration, but yes, you were definitely pushing boundaries that she set. It's ok. You learned a lot from this interaction, and you can do the same to another girl, while respecting her boundaries.
/r/seduction30/08/13 05:24 PM
2

Accept that they are further along in their development than you. Be ok with this fact. They shouldn't make you feel beta just because they are alpha. The only way I can think of them making you feel beta is if they say something, and you disagree in your mind but bitch out and agree verbally. Assert yourself. Yeah, you've got a lot to learn. But who gives a fuck. Walk up to people and chat 'em up. "You will either step forward into growth, or you will step backward into safety." -Abraham Maslow
/r/seduction30/08/13 04:33 PM
2

A girl did this to me. I smalltalked with her over text, told her some things. If a girl asks you this, you probably didn't build enough comfort before the number close (I talked to her for 2 minutes before she went outside), and she's giving you an opportunity to build that comfort. If you don't build that comfort, there's a good chance she'll flake.
/r/seduction29/08/13 08:33 PM
5

Crawl into bed with dying, alone old men to give them love at the end of their life... Just brought me to tears... what a beautiful woman.
/r/seduction29/08/13 07:19 PM
3

Please, explain logically why having sex on the first date is wrong. Tell me about the people it hurts and wrongs.
/r/seduction29/08/13 07:03 PM
2

Can you explain what you mean by "breaking rapport?" I've heard this term before, but never understood it. Comfort building is also something I struggle with. How do you acheive this?
/r/seduction29/08/13 07:02 PM
2

Yeah, and I straight up told her. I guess I was trying too hard to be tactical, I wasn't actually that turned on, I thought saying something ballsy like that would show I'm comfortable talking about sex, and arouse her.
/r/seduction29/08/13 06:56 PM
2

I agree completely, and that's what I'm asking: How do you straight up communicate your desire for a woman without coming off needy or tryhard?
/r/seduction29/08/13 06:55 PM
3

I had no idea people were coming over. I insinuated we would have sex later, talked about sex in general, etc. I touched her legs, her stomach. At the beginning, she was more chasing me. Once we went on this date, I was more chasing her, and she was resistant. We kissed for all of two seconds before she pulled away, but she was into it for those two seconds. Very strange, like she wanted me but felt like she needed to pull away lest she be fully seduced. Idk. It just really sucked and was really…
/r/seduction29/08/13 08:06 AM
1

I was responding to Jeebus1. He was suggesting the only way to kino was if you are good looking. Confidence is what matters.
/r/seduction28/08/13 10:49 PM
2

I disagree with you on being good looking. Always kino, no matter what.
/r/seduction28/08/13 08:49 PM
1

Don't facebook approach. Approach girls in person. You will start out having plenty of dead conversations, but you will gain experience and get better. Don't give a fuck. Ask girls about themselves. Whenever you can, make a light teasing joke out of what they tell you.
/r/seduction28/08/13 08:48 PM
1

Girls like guys with big balls. Approaching on crutches takes big balls. Just do it. Be confident. Roll your shoulders back until they form a straight line with your back. Raise your chin up, not too much, but enough. Rest your arms on your crutches.
/r/seduction28/08/13 08:45 PM
2

I recently moved into my new apartment, and I grossly underestimated the time and work it would take to set it up. She's probably being legit. Don't offer to help. It very well could come across as needy. Wait 5-7 days. She told you she wants you. Just wait it out, and go out and meet new girls in the meantime.
/r/seduction28/08/13 07:29 PM
1

I AM THE PRIZE
/r/seduction27/08/13 06:31 AM
7

...definitely doesn't apply here. Whether they reunite or not has no bearing on the connection they shared.
/r/seduction25/08/13 11:58 PM
2

My problem right now is that I can approach all day, but have trouble turning girls on/making them want me. I'm studying lots of outer game, however. I will overcome this soon.
/r/seduction25/08/13 05:46 AM
2

Do NOT forget the books and lines. Study all forms of pickup, and reject what "isn't you," and internalize what you like. Learn compliance tests. Learn how to use plausible deniabililty. Believe me, there is much more to seduction than inner game. When you think about it, inner game is only in the mind. Inner game is powerful because it affects how you act, how you speak (which is OUTER game.) Kino, body language, and eye contact are actually all outer game techniques, because they are actions, …
/r/seduction23/08/13 05:12 AM
1

Yes. If a girl kinos you first, you absolutely must reciprocate. Generally you should initiate kino first. Kino is normal. Push your comfort zone until it's natural for you.
/r/seduction22/08/13 08:17 PM
2

haha, supplication eh? Have you set up dates before, man? Girls flake sometimes. And there are ways of reducing how often that happens. In this post, /u/puaCurveBall (Lead Moderator on Seddit) describes what he calls a proper number-close, or timebridging, and is what I described in the last sentence of my post. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/kcedb/a_common_blindspot_to_success/
/r/seduction22/08/13 08:08 AM
1

And yet you were alpha, whether you tried to be or not. Did you kino her?
/r/seduction22/08/13 12:40 AM
3

It could mean that she's not interested, it could also be that she feels nervous.
/r/seduction22/08/13 12:12 AM
1

4 and below, I find unattractive. 5 is a girl I'm neither attracted to nor find ugly. Just kind of... sexless. 6 is a girl I'm fairly attracted to. 7 is a hot girl. 8 is a very hot girl. 9 is a surprisingly hot girl, the kind of girl you don't see more than once a month (unless your in the right places.) a 10 is jaw-dropping hot. You rarely see a girl like this.
/r/seduction22/08/13 12:09 AM
25

You shouldn't TRY to be the center of attention, or TRY to lead. Don't fight for this position. Just be comfortable, relaxed and in control of yourself.
/r/seduction21/08/13 06:39 PM
2

Kino her, maintain strong eye contact, say seductive things, and see how she reacts.
/r/seduction21/08/13 06:37 PM
1

I have to say, I think you can build attraction with a girl who isn't attracted to you from the get-go.
/r/seduction21/08/13 06:33 PM
14

Try to be specific when you set up dates. "Dinner sometime next week" is likely to flake. "Let's meet at Calhoun's at 6:30 PM on Thursday" is much less likely to flake. I've also heard mPUAs describing the date in fun detail in order to paint a picture for her about how fun it will be.
/r/seduction21/08/13 06:27 PM
2

Wrong. This video is one continuous shot, although it does fast forward through a rejection (without hiding it). http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ddjZf7Nqbo0 Sasha approaches multiple girls over the course of about 30 minutes.
/r/seduction21/08/13 04:34 AM
1

Dancing is a good one. Go take dance lessons, lots of girls will be there
/r/seduction20/08/13 03:48 PM
4

I bet you could have number closed, or date closed
/r/seduction20/08/13 01:43 AM
1

Well, I'm sure that makes OKCupid alright. There are only a handful of cute girls on OKC where I live, and even fewer really hot girls.
/r/seduction19/08/13 08:20 PM
1

Style, hygeine and good body language will take you up a few notches. A girl who I recently went on with told me she agreed to go out with me (after only two minutes of interaction) because I was cute, had a nice smile, and because my approach took big balls. So obviously, being alpha as well.
/r/seduction19/08/13 03:48 PM
1

That was my question, are you in a densely populated area?
/r/seduction19/08/13 08:53 AM
5

speak loudly from the chest, project, speak like you mean it. edit: oh also, when the girls you approach are from out of town and they tell you when they're leaving, I like to say "Well that doesn't give us very much time"
/r/seduction19/08/13 08:38 AM
2

I would recommend reading the content in the sidebar. Read about body language and inner game. Get some hobbies. Find some things you're really interested in, whether they be music, something athletic, creative, etc. But develop that skill, and enjoy it. These will grow you as a person and add a dimension to you. I don't know what kind of job you work. But you might look into serving/bartending/delivery, all relatively easy to get into (with some persistence, of course) and the pay ranges from $…
/r/seduction19/08/13 08:35 AM
1

So how do you break into new social circles and get invited to stuff? I can walk up to girls and hit on them, but I need to build my social life, I feel that this will get me a great deal more success
/r/seduction17/08/13 06:21 AM
1

alpha friendzone
/r/seduction16/08/13 05:02 AM
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This is just my theory, and haven't really tried it yet, but I thought about simultaneous kino, strong eye contact on both. Maybe even pull the two girls in for a group hug. Once you've built enough attraction, start verbalizing your desire: "You two are so sexy" "I want you both tonight" etc.
/r/seduction12/08/13 05:01 PM
1

You say it's not a confidence issue, but it clearly is. I imagine your body language, tonality, and eye contact are also weaker. You need to get out and fail just to become more outcome independent. The less you try, the worse you get. The more you try and fail, the better you get. You've been successful before. You can get there again much faster than you did the first time. Do not give up. You have the power to seduce HOT women. Do NOT cheat yourself out of that. Talk yourself into confidence.…
/r/seduction12/08/13 04:58 PM
1

You get outside your own head, and your thoughts about what others think of you, and instead think about the people you are with, and what they are saying
/r/seduction12/08/13 06:39 AM
6

Specific PUA techniques are not always natural
/r/seduction08/08/13 07:15 AM
1

Alright, so you're saying that making a deep connection not only makes you boyfriend material, it makes you FB material too.
/r/seduction07/08/13 03:25 PM
1

Do you take girls on a specific kind of date or on a variety of dates? Do you find that certain dates are better than others?
/r/seduction07/08/13 08:21 AM
-2

NEXT! Although let's be real, different women respond differently
/r/seduction07/08/13 08:11 AM
4

I prefer "When are you free this week?" If she likes you, she'll tell you. If she doesn't like you, she'll act like she doesn't have free time. Straightforward, and you know how to proceed. Follow up with "Let's meet at place X at time Y." Take charge, lead the interaction.
/r/seduction07/08/13 08:02 AM
0

I think it should be obvious that you would only do this after having kinoed her a lot, i.e. legs, lower back, hair, face, etc.
/r/seduction05/08/13 01:47 PM
2

Convey sexual intent. Make strong eye contact. Kino. A lot of seduction material goes both ways with regard to gender.
/r/seduction05/08/13 06:13 AM
1

Read alpha material, study it, emulate it. You can cultivate an alpha mindset while sober for sure.
/r/seduction05/08/13 06:11 AM
3

Keep practicing. OPEN EVERYONE! Like, start up a conversation with cashiers and bank tellers. Try being fun/funny. As you begin to open people in general, opening girls will get easier.
/r/seduction05/08/13 06:08 AM
1

Speak slowly. Use silence to give them a chance to talk.
/r/seduction04/08/13 07:13 AM
4

It's good to be perceptive like this. However, if I see a really hot girl who hasn't been drinking, I'm still going to approach. I just want to caution people from thinking that girls that fit outside these parameters are unapproachable. Of course there are sex-hungry girls that are at times in groups larger than 3. Of course there are horny girls that don't like alcohol. While confining yourself to these rules may increase your odds, I'd rather approach lots of girls and get more numbers/dates …
/r/seduction02/08/13 07:51 PM
1

Now saved to my phone... thanks bruh
/r/seduction01/08/13 08:32 PM
6

If she's holding it, she wants to hold it, and you're holding her interest.
/r/seduction01/08/13 04:24 AM
1

If you want someone to tell you that it's not your fault that you're beta, that you're right, you should just give up, then get off seddit. Seddit is for people who actually want to try to get better. It's not a place to complain and demand agreement that self-improvement is impossible.
/r/seduction30/07/13 07:01 PM
2

Don't worry about this guy. Obviously, you can talk to women you know (a lot of guys can't). This will translate well as you develop a confident, powerful, comfortable approach with lots of practice
/r/seduction30/07/13 06:59 PM
1

I would say that while cold approaches are your weakness, you absolutely must develop that and make it a strength. Definitely hook up with girls you can attract in your social circles. But think of it this way... there are tens or hundreds of girls in your circles But there are thousands or millions in your city that you don't know. It's this massive pool of girls you can tap into, and believe me... just because of the sheer numbers difference, you're suddenly going to have access to much more b…
/r/seduction30/07/13 06:57 PM
1

Something I had to work through was DGAF about people's opinions of you or your actions, while still caring about those people and their feelings. I still think doing what you want without concern for others' judgments of you is alpha.
/r/seduction30/07/13 06:25 PM
2

I think everyone can be alpha. Being alpha means outcome independence, DGAF attitude, laughs at things that would piss other guys off, self-amused, speaks loudly and confidently... all of these things are attainable by everyone, including women. I'm actually really attracted to DGAF alpha girls
/r/seduction30/07/13 05:28 PM
1

Nah, I was pretty much doing everything wrong, and I was very driven and motivated to be with hot women so I worked on myself, most of all my inner game.
/r/seduction30/07/13 04:11 PM
-1

Respect a woman's boundaries sir
/r/seduction30/07/13 07:56 AM
2

You can even warm up with the staff, just make friends with everyone. jokingly tease a few people in a nice way
/r/seduction30/07/13 07:14 AM
3

You win over each set. Your cover isn't blown. You're a cool guy who wins people over and helps those people meet each other.
/r/seduction30/07/13 07:06 AM
1

This is all I do, solo sarging. I barhop in a loop for 2-4 hours at a time. Helps foster an attitude of outcome independence. Yeah, people ask me if who I'm with, but I just don't make a big deal, "yeah I just stopped downtown after work" no big deal
/r/seduction30/07/13 07:03 AM
1

You are fundamentally awesome in the fact that you are a human being. You are an extremely complex arrangement of atoms. So complex that you are able to have five senses, heal yourself automatically, be able to think and feel emotions, and be aware of other people and feel and know those people. That we can make sounds with our mouths to communicate thoughts to another human. I just feel like humans, and life in general, are fundamentally awesome
/r/seduction30/07/13 07:00 AM
13

Dude, totally go out tomorrow and day game. Open girls and guys... make friends. On your lunch break or right after work. Even if you have no time other than work, just be social and talk to lots of people and be personable. Warm yourself up, get yourself feeling good.
/r/seduction30/07/13 06:53 AM
3

Learn how to find the humor in, and laugh at, everything. Getting rejected is fucking hilarious if you view it the right way, from a place of real outcome independence.
/r/seduction30/07/13 06:49 AM
1

For one, it's an IOI. Two, it shows her that you don't put her on a pedestal, that you see each other as equals. Three, if she feels the need to validate herself, she probably likes you.
/r/seduction30/07/13 05:12 AM
0

Some things ANY guy, regardless of culture, upbringing or anything else, can do to be alpha: 1) Look a girl right in the eye, and don't break eye contact. She breaks eye contact with you. 2) Kino. 3) Speak slowly, with a deep voice that comes from the chest/lungs, rather than the head/throat. Use neutral or breaking rapport, rather than trying for rapport tonality (pitch stays the same or decreases at the end of a phrase, rather than increase) 4) Lead the girl conversationally, and physically. G…
/r/seduction30/07/13 04:19 AM
3

For example, once a girl said she liked to try new things, while we were eating crawdads. She said she only liked to eat the tail. I said if she was adventurous she'd eat the whole thing, which she did. I was kind of surprised I had that much pull lol. So with this girl, you might make a joke about her trying to hit on you, and then say something about how she's too much of a "good girl" to have you, causing her to prove herself as a bad girl (you need to have her interest to pull this off) Even…
/r/seduction30/07/13 04:07 AM
0

I didn't say it was easy. I said it could be done. All those things you mentioned? Yes, they still can be overcome. If you want to try and prove to someone that you're a beta and you always will be and there's nothing you can do about it, I honestly don't give a shit. The only person you need to prove anything to is yourself. But that would be alpha.
/r/seduction30/07/13 04:02 AM
1

Try playfully challenging her, and see if she tries to validate herself to you
/r/seduction30/07/13 04:00 AM
0

Wrong. I lived most of my life as a beta male. When I discovered seddit, esp. the inner game section, I changed how I acted and I how I viewed myself, and now I am alpha. People don't transcend beta life because: 1) They don't know how 2) They don't care enough to make an effort, or 3) They don't know why they should (what it does for a person)
/r/seduction30/07/13 03:41 AM
2

Yeah, all smileys and exclamation points. She said both sounded fun, even if she wasn't very good.
/r/seduction29/07/13 03:15 PM
21

1) Mention cool venue early on 2) Bring it back up later, assume close, tell her you're taking her there 3) Get her number Love this. And now part of my repertoire.
/r/seduction29/07/13 03:14 PM
1

Well, that was my concern. And honestly, I don't think those things were enough, I think that combined with the fun teasing is what did it. Number closing is easy, but I was a little surprised she texted back that night and was so eager to set up a date the next day. I just wanted to share that it can be done, when I myself wasn't sure it was going to work out.
/r/seduction29/07/13 02:59 PM
1

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kd3Rs9FxguA
/r/seduction29/07/13 06:12 AM
0

Being average is a choice. Being unique, and alpha, is also a choice. Average isn't something you're stuck in. It's something you can choose to transcend.
/r/seduction29/07/13 05:26 AM
13

The way I see it, is that you are interested in the outcome, but not DEPENDENT, it's not going to hurt you if you don't get the outcome that you want. Obviously you have a goal. It's just that if you fail, you can meet someone else and try again.
/r/seduction29/07/13 04:14 AM
1

I find it easier if you open a few members of the group, then talk to the girl you want more. You can't make advances that are too overt or too sexual unless she's alone (if you make her want you enough, she'll go elsewhere with you)
/r/seduction29/07/13 04:05 AM
7

I make my intentions clear very quickly. But sometimes you may have to hold off (or be subtle, so that only she knows) when you're in a group, esp. a group whose dynamic you haven't figured out yet. The other night, I went out and approached a mixed 6-set. 4 guys and 2 girls. I start talking to everyone, but mostly the HB 8 who's there. I do some light kino on the arm. At some point I tell her she's cute. A guy sitting across from her says "She is cute. We've been together for two years." This w…
/r/seduction29/07/13 03:04 AM
3

Just touch her arm or her back when you talk, or joke or tease her. Girls love this. You can only do it when you've just met. If wait more than a few minutes, and especially if you wait until the first date, it's going to be a little awkward. You don't move from the friend zone to the guy she wants. You establish yourself when you meet her as a guy she wants.
/r/seduction29/07/13 02:54 AM
1

I think this could be pretty creepy.
/r/seduction29/07/13 02:52 AM
3

I don't know how disabled you are, but to kino a woman you won't need to "reach out" if you're close to her like you need to be. I don't know how you're disabled, but even if it was a wheelchair you can still get close and make a joke and bump her leg with your arm, you know.
/r/seduction29/07/13 02:52 AM
3

Sounds like you're just super seductive.
/r/seduction28/07/13 01:05 PM
2

When a girl gives you a kiss goodbye, she wants you to ask her for her number. Since you didn't do that, add her on facebook, and ask her out on a date.
/r/seduction28/07/13 01:02 PM
1

Ok dude, just take every negative hypothetical and act like it's fact. No, actually, I approached 3 mixed sets last night, some of who I added on FaceBook, hit on a guy's girlfriend right in front of him (I stopped when he mentioned they were dating, but without apology, as I had done nothing wrong), approached about 20 women, and got three numbers. All without staring at tits. No sir, having pent up sexual energy does not make you a chode. It reduces your approach anxiety almost to zero. Instea…
/r/seduction27/07/13 03:11 PM
1

Grocery stores, and walmart.
/r/seduction27/07/13 08:46 AM
1

I didn't say anything about needing to quit masturbating. I had success before I quit. What I'm saying is that I've had a huge stat boost as a result, which, though not absolutely necessary for success, is nonetheless extremely beneficial.
/r/seduction27/07/13 08:18 AM
1

Go through my comments/posts, and you will see from my contributions to other subs that I am an atheist. When guys get horny, they often masturbate 1)because it feels awesome, 2) to reduce the horny feeling. Obviously, retaining that horniness and sexuality can be advantageous to seduction.
/r/seduction27/07/13 08:17 AM
52

This is an inner game issue. Blushing in and of itself isn't that bad. The fact that you freak about the fact that you are blushing, escalating to sweating, bad body language, lack of focus, that's the real problem, that you feel like blushing is this huge deal and you take things downhill from there. All that being said, read inner game stuff in the sidebar. You can create confidence in yourself. Do that.
/r/seduction26/07/13 08:35 PM
2

Dude, when a girl shows that much interest, i.e., stands in the ocean with you for 30 minutes, there is one way you can fail: by not trying. You should have had her come with you to your car and asked for her number. Always ask a girl for her number, giving her yours is kinda beta. If logistics make it easier, you might give yours, but pretty much always you need to ask for hers. Also, escalate. She let her body bump into yours. She kept getting closer. If a girl escalates more than you do... yo…
/r/seduction26/07/13 03:18 PM
1

Lol sounds suicidal and impractical
/r/seduction23/07/13 09:11 PM
2

I would contest that you can only dance when you stop giving a fuck and let loose
/r/seduction23/07/13 06:51 PM
1

Yeah man, do whatever. Friend groups chill at the hot tubs, the different eateries... Don't just make one friend group, make a bunch.
/r/seduction23/07/13 06:50 PM
2

I've recently learned (as an awkward white guy) that all it takes to have killa dance moves is to not give a fuck and do what you want.
/r/seduction23/07/13 05:55 PM
1

aaaaannddd super duper in state and huge balls.
/r/seduction23/07/13 05:55 PM
2

I think it would be way cooler to come up and be like, "Hey, do you know this guy? This guy is fucking AWESOME!" Insta social proof for you, the guy, and the girl, and you could take an awkward situation and make it fun. Just be sure to initially focus more on the dude.
/r/seduction23/07/13 05:36 PM
1

Miss, please keep posting these. You offer insight not even Casanova could have provided.
/r/seduction23/07/13 05:31 PM
1

Open everyone. Not just to open, build a connection with these people. Here's why you'll be successful: Everyone else on that cruise wants the same thing you do, to meet people (of the same and opposite sex) and have a great time. Be the one who initiates, they'll be happy to meet you.
/r/seduction23/07/13 05:20 PM
1

Why should you be intimidated? This is silly, man. You read and study and practice. You master kino, body language, etc. and then read and study and practice something new. It's like having a project you want to work on, and opening a toolbox and getting intimidated because there are multiple tools/strategies/solutions that can be combined for a very successful result.
/r/seduction23/07/13 05:18 PM
3

"So, I start talking to her, telling her not to worry because I got her joke. I told her it was the funniest thing I heard all night" Try not to overcompliment, it comes off as beta, approval seeking behavior. Also, talking about your wife cheating on you is seeking pity, which you don't want to do either. In any case, you did good, because you pushed your comfort zone and moved up some. Keep reading seddit (right now, you most need inner game, read the sidebar) and keep approaching. Notice how …
/r/seduction20/07/13 10:28 PM
0

you seem to misunderstand "alpha," sir
/r/seduction20/07/13 07:02 AM
3

definitely start with "uh"
/r/seduction20/07/13 06:58 AM
1

I can recognize that Brad Pitt is attractive.
/r/seduction19/07/13 07:09 AM
-2

Conversation threading Being a value Giver Being an alpha male
/r/seduction17/07/13 01:05 AM
1

She'll be good social proof for you
/r/seduction11/07/13 06:56 PM
1

Find something about which you can tease her (in a playful nice way). This one technique will add to your game. Also, I recently learned about conversation threading: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/wz2nf/conversational_threading_never_run_out_of_things/
/r/seduction11/07/13 06:45 PM
0

Girls like a good looking guy, but he's worthless to them if he isn't in control of himself, relaxed, powerful, with a DGAF attitude. Girls would rather be with an alphamale quasimodo than a goodlooking spineless bitch.
/r/seduction09/07/13 05:55 PM
3

Yeah, those looks? Those looks say "Come talk to me after class." Just smile seductively (imagine yourself fucking her for this facial expression) tease her, touch her on the arm and the back. And remember, you shouldn't treat a 10 any differently than you treat a 5. Don't put her on a pedestal. Even though she's your professor, you have to act like she's another girl you're flirting with.
/r/seduction09/07/13 04:55 PM
4

Don't stop thinking... just shift your focus. "I wonder what she's like..." -TofuTofu
/r/seduction09/07/13 01:26 AM
1

http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001677.html A guide to kino
/r/seduction08/07/13 06:37 AM
1

I'm not sure that you can really pass this, you more prevent it ahead of time by conveying intent from the very start. Don't start in the friend zone and work your way up.
/r/seduction05/07/13 03:10 PM
4

the path of the seddi warrior
/r/seduction05/07/13 08:31 AM
0

you might ask her why she's so unconfident
/r/seduction05/07/13 08:30 AM
5

You have to get over this fear of talking to groups. If you limit yourself to girls who are alone, you're going to have a difficult time. Besides, you'll rarely find a beautiful girl who's not with friends. You must push yourself and expand your ability. Approach 3 groups of girls the next time you go out.
/r/seduction05/07/13 08:28 AM
3

I would say that "how attractive you are, and how this affects your dating" is the worst thing to think about or focus on. It can only create limiting beliefs that prevent you from reaching your potential. You must realize the difference between "good-looking" and "attractive." Women want an alpha male more than they want a good looking guy that's a pussy.
/r/seduction05/07/13 08:26 AM
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If girls are saying this, it could be because you're waiting multiple days to escalate kino. If a girl likes you enough (and you've made real conversation with her so that you know each other better) she's not going to say this. This objection is more a symptom of a lack of attraction and comfort than anything else.
/r/seduction05/07/13 08:22 AM
1

I imagine that deep meaningful conversations are what this man is asking about, how to create such conversation. Any thoughts?
/r/seduction29/06/13 08:08 PM
1

Yes, keep eye contact. Analysis paralysis may be a result of anxiety or nervousness. Your anxiety and nervousness will die gradually, but not too slowly, as you approach more and more people.
/r/seduction27/06/13 03:55 AM
1

No one has ever picked up a girl unless she was interested in them. You seem to give yourself no credit for their interest. I'm sure that at least a few times, it was more than your race or good looks, whether it was the good time you were having, your confidence when they approached you, etc.
/r/seduction27/06/13 03:53 AM
29

Why don't we make it optional?
/r/seduction27/06/13 03:44 AM
2

Keep practicing man. If you're serious about this, you will continue to approach, and learn, and master seduction, and you will seduce women. 1) Convey intent. You do this by facing your body toward hers, look her straight in the eye (she breaks eye contact with you, not the other way around [a lot of girls will hold contact for a long time]) smile, and escalate kino. Don't give up. You can do this.
/r/seduction22/06/13 04:00 AM
3

You said she sounded confused, "You too?" Sounds like she wanted you to continue, or at least number close her. Remember, there are never any consequences of failure. As men, we generally regret more not having tried than having tried and failed.
/r/seduction22/06/13 03:56 AM
2

Don't waste your money. Seddit is free, and it's a fucking gold mine.
/r/seduction22/06/13 03:43 AM
1

A lot of PUAs/members of the seduction community have taken steps to 1) Work out and make their body look good 2) Groom well 3) Dress well and most importantly, 4) Exhibit good body language, including posture, smile, confidence, and strong eye contact, all of which women find VERY sexy. Seriously, your confident attitude can REALLY boost how attractive you are.
/r/seduction22/06/13 03:42 AM
1

1) Definitely escalate kino with every girl. At first, it might feel weird to you (and therefore, probably to them also) but after a while, it will become totally natural and you'll do it without necessarily thinking about it. Arm and back at first, then legs, then stomach, etc. 2) You can and should approach multi-sets and mixed sets (mixed gender groups). Even if you feel uncomfortable, do it, because it will expand your horizons and enable you to approach them next time comfortably. Any time …
/r/seduction22/06/13 03:38 AM
1

Hey man, good job on pushing your boundaries, expanding your horizons! My main suggestion is this: You should have found 5 more girls to approach. You had just warmed yourself up, stretched those cold approach muscles a bit, so you were that much more ready for the next try. Second, it sounds like you were nervous (totally normal). It sounds like you sort of spoke without thinking a few times, you were rushing to get words out. SLOW. DOWN. Take your time, let there be some silence, and think thr…
/r/seduction22/06/13 03:26 AM
3

I absolutely do not think that TofuTofu would advocate rape, or escalating beyond a girl's comfort level, but honestly, he worded this poorly. It freaked me out a bit when I first read it. And yes, newbies could totally push the envelope way too hard.
/r/seduction22/06/13 03:14 AM
1

That is ROUGH! Hope he still uses the money he already raised for the book...
/r/seduction22/06/13 03:12 AM
1

Yes sir!
/r/seduction18/06/13 09:14 PM
1

I don't think so at all. Being alpha is different for each person. It's just being confident about who you are, not giving a damn about rejection, living powerfully, etc.
/r/seduction17/06/13 06:39 PM
2

The way I see it, you can be either beta or alpha. Both are still you, they are just manifestations of weakness or strength. When you choose to be alpha, you have no fear of showing people who you really are, or telling women that you desire them. You remain your unique self, and just be confident and strong about it.
/r/seduction16/06/13 08:40 PM
1

You can overcome this. It's a very minor thing. If you don't make it a big deal, it won't be.
/r/seduction10/06/13 04:27 AM
2

read these links: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/gjqim/the_definitive_seddit_inner_game_collection/
/r/seduction07/06/13 11:16 PM
1

yes please, elaborate
/r/seduction07/06/13 06:13 AM
1

Slouching conveys something about your personality, as does standing up straight. Maybe don't stand up all the way, but don't lean in to listen to girls for sure. Talking with a chest voice is as simple as taking your breath from your lungs, rather than just using the breath in your throat. Try it out, you'll hear a difference. (It's also the only real way to talk to girls in a loud venue)
/r/seduction05/06/13 02:55 PM
1

If you don't care about body language, then you will likely not have success.
/r/seduction04/06/13 04:53 PM
2

Speak slowly. Let your voice come from the lungs rather than the throat.
/r/seduction04/06/13 04:48 PM
1

I'm sure you'll relearn everything quickly. Go over inner game stuff, alpha traits, etc.
/r/seduction04/06/13 01:34 AM
4

1) Body language: STAND UP STRAIGHT! As tall as you can. shoulders rolled back. Don't tuck in your chin. 2) Chest voice, not head voice. A voice that comes from the lungs is more powerful, deep and masculine than a voice that comes from the throat. 3) Stand close to the girls you want to attract. It will make touching very easy and natural. 4) Touch them on the arm, the lower back, and progress from there. 5) EYE CONTACT. Lock eyes before say anything. DO NOT break eye contact until she does. Ey…
/r/seduction04/06/13 01:24 AM
1

exactly, this and abundance mentality. You need these.
/r/seduction04/06/13 01:16 AM
1

Maybe it's confidence? Do you look girls in the eye? Talk slowly, with a chest voice?
/r/seduction04/06/13 01:14 AM
1

I do the same thing/have had the same reactions at work, I get serious and look angry apparently lol
/r/seduction03/06/13 07:18 PM
6

Very few males change themselves to be better for women. A TON of women work out to be attractive for men.
/r/seduction03/06/13 07:14 PM
1

Keep on trying, man. Just try to escalate kino more gradually, and get to know these girls better. When a girl is clearly rejecting your advances, don't push it. Have you studied body language, and alpha characteristics? Read about these in the sidebar.
/r/seduction29/05/13 06:31 AM
1

When you speak, you probably speak with a head voice. It's quiet. Speak with air from your lungs, a chest voice. You will be and sound much more confident. Don't use weak words. Avoid "maybe," "probably," asking for permission, etc. I got confident by going out and walking up to random girls. Even by just talking to guys, just to get comfortable with cold approaches to people in general. When you walk up to a girl and smile and look her in the eye (do not break eye contact, she'll hold on as lon…
/r/seduction29/05/13 06:17 AM
1

First thing: You NEVER go full retard. (Some movie quote lol) No, but anyway, you can literally say anything to a girl. You can talk about chairs. You can talk about pokemon. You can talk about the water quality in the pool. It's not so much about what you say... it's more about the eye contact you make, the sexual look you give her, the 6 inches between your faces (yes, get in close).
/r/seduction28/05/13 11:07 PM
2

You should be proud of yourself for approaching at all. As you make more cold approaches, you will become more comfortable and less nervous. In this interaction, if you had talked to her for a little longer first, you would have had more chance of success when asking for a date.
/r/seduction28/05/13 03:07 AM
70

The confidence is not in the fact that you are perfect or can seduce anyone (although, you should be confident that with practice and application of techniques/mindset, you will be able to seduce the most beautiful women on earth) The confidence is in the fact that your emotional state is independent of others' reactions to you. Try to adopt this mentality. It may feel weird at first, but it will become very real and it will vastly improve the quality of your life, even if you don't include the …
/r/seduction28/05/13 03:04 AM
6

With the threesome, what do you think contributed to your state? My guesses are: 1) Genuinely having an awesome time and not giving a fuck, 2) Being in super high state 3) RIDICULOUS social proof (ironically caused by the girls that fucked you) Any thoughts on this?
/r/seduction28/05/13 02:56 AM
7

You don't need an excuse to get close to her, in fact, girls like it more when you get close just because you want to.
/r/seduction27/05/13 03:27 AM
1

Look women you are passing by in the eye and smile. You'll be surprised how long some of them will hold your gaze and smile back.
/r/seduction26/05/13 09:20 PM
1

dude... STDs are pretty widespread. You need to be careful. I'm looking into vaccines myself
/r/seduction22/05/13 05:29 AM
12

Look a girl in the eye. You do not break eye contact with her, she breaks it with you. Get physically close to a girl. You'll be able to tell that a girl likes it. Stand up straight. Don't look at the floor, look at people, and don't let your eyes dart away, that is weakness. Take up lots of space. Smile.
/r/seduction20/05/13 04:14 AM
1

I've been trying to "knock her off the fence" recently. This definitely worked here. She was way more into me after. You're definitely right about the hotel. I was thinking my car (which would be kind of trashy) or close to the river near where I parked. Hotel was a big mistake.
/r/seduction20/05/13 03:28 AM
0

I knew she loved it because she held eye contact, and stayed close to me, responded to further advances and because she made her own advances.
/r/seduction20/05/13 03:27 AM
2

It was close to 4 am at this point. While this was a peak experience for me in terms of seduction, I have an abundance mindset and I was very tired, so I went to bed. Still tired lol
/r/seduction20/05/13 03:25 AM
1

It sounds like you need to walk up to a few girls and say hello. Honestly, I warm up by talking to everyone, including older women and guys. It'll get you comfortable with talking to people in general. You must learn outcome independence. Now that you are approaching people you don't know, you have many times more the options for people in your life. You must have an abundance mindset, because there are thousands of different girls you could talk to on a given day. Don't worry about the result. …
/r/seduction18/05/13 03:50 AM
1

Abundance mindset, sir.
/r/seduction18/05/13 03:13 AM
1

Yeah man. Don't be frustrated. You did a great job, you approached a 10 and flirted with her. That's all that matters. You repeat again and again until you get what you want, all the while developing your skills.
/r/seduction18/05/13 02:59 AM
1

I would text her "Hey, great meeting you the other night. What's your schedule look like this week?"
/r/seduction11/05/13 03:53 PM
2

just escalate kino between everyone. have a damn pillow fight. flirty, physical games.
/r/seduction11/05/13 09:31 AM
1

absolutely
/r/seduction11/05/13 09:30 AM
1

You be offensive and provocative and tell him to get off you. I bet she would have loved that shit.
/r/seduction11/05/13 09:29 AM
1

The other night at the bar, I started turning away, and she noticed and said she was almost done. She finished posting to instagram and was off her phone until I left.
/r/seduction10/05/13 01:49 PM
1

Yeah, that's weird. And not what I do. I walk up to women I find attractive and talk to them. Simple as that.
/r/seduction10/05/13 01:46 PM
2

"sarging" is named after a PUAs cat, "Sarge"
/r/seduction10/05/13 01:45 PM
2

I'm going out Saturday night, you should join
/r/seduction10/05/13 01:44 PM
0

Who says I use routines or lingo?
/r/seduction10/05/13 01:44 PM
1

The man should not be uncomfortable with the eye contact.
/r/seduction10/05/13 01:43 PM
3

You're right that I wouldn't be asking this question if I was doing it right. I've had a lot of success with it so far, but you can't just lock eyes with your coworker every time she passes by you throughout the day. Just need to tone it down, Use that eye contact when I'm speaking to girls at work.
/r/seduction10/05/13 01:43 PM
2

Let's do it. I'm hitting the bars saturday night also.
/r/seduction10/05/13 04:09 AM
-3

It's an attempt to get sedditors together so we can work on the art of seduction together.
/r/seduction10/05/13 04:09 AM
2

Thanks CuriousDude!
/r/seduction10/05/13 04:08 AM
1

I don't know what "active" pick up is. All I do is walk up to girls, super confident and use body language and use kino. oh yeah, smile. But yeah man... nothing weird or scripted or manipulative
/r/seduction10/05/13 04:07 AM
0

I'm gonna hit the bars saturday night around 11 or 12
/r/seduction10/05/13 04:06 AM
2

Let's all meet up.
/r/seduction10/05/13 04:05 AM
2

Let's meet up downtown and talk to hot women
/r/seduction10/05/13 04:05 AM
-1

What do you think about sarging together, man? Or a group of sedditors?
/r/seduction10/05/13 04:04 AM
6

The 3-second rule: If you don't decide to approach a woman when you see her within three seconds, you're not going to approach her. You have to just go for it, and be outcome independent: you aren't concerned with the outcome of this social situation.
/r/seduction10/05/13 04:01 AM
2

That's awesome man. Try to keep texting and facebooking to a minimum. If anything, let her come to you from now on. You can't build attraction via these media like you can in person (no kino, no body language, no eye contact). Too much texting/facebooking can kill the attraction. Wait till you see her again, then use that powerful body language. Look her straight in the eye, she breaks eye contact with you, not the other way around. Be a damn alpha male. Oh, also, you noticed that she was fashio…
/r/seduction08/05/13 01:46 PM
2

You need to build attraction before doing something like this. This is strong kino. You need to escalate kino from the ground up... beginning with hand touches, brushing her arm, a light touch on the back... etc... and escalate. If a girl screams, there were other signals she was sending you telling you she didn't like it BEFORE she screamed. You should have paid attention to those. More important than any of these moves is INNER GAME. You need to have an alpha male mindset (you can find posts o…
/r/seduction07/05/13 09:35 PM
1

You be alpha. You come onto her strong with body language, eye contact, and kino to communicate physically and non-verbally that you want her. You lead her from one place to the next. If she notices that an alpha male, reeking of confidence and sexuality, is moving her closer to his place, it just speaks more of his confidence.
/r/seduction07/05/13 09:16 PM
5

TofuTofu shits gold
/r/seduction07/05/13 05:25 AM
1

definitely, but at the same time it showed you a new strategy you can use
/r/seduction07/05/13 04:35 AM
2

You have game, sir. But yeah, you should have continued kissing her. Next time, go from kiss, to your hand on her neck, to hand on her waist, slowly move up to her breast, and if you're feeling good about it, head between her legs. Basically, just keep escalating kino.
/r/seduction05/05/13 07:55 AM
1

dat outcome independence
/r/seduction05/05/13 07:53 AM
1

I love this! A lot of times, seduction happens the same way M to F, or F to M
/r/seduction05/05/13 07:52 AM
-5

That's pretty alpha, bro
/r/seduction05/05/13 07:51 AM
1

upvote for nothing but your awesome name
/r/seduction05/05/13 07:39 AM
1

Question, do you use routines? Do you use the same lines with different girls? Do you neg girls? I'm looking for a PUA that picks up girls without being fake, without being a douchebag. Is that you?
/r/seduction05/05/13 07:37 AM
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