I'm rusty with my game. Last night things didn't turn out as expected and while a bit disappointed, I'm glad to get back in it, see what went wrong, and share my insights.

So last night I texted a girl I hooked up with years ago, since I was visiting family in the city she lives in. She didn't even remember me, but after some chatting she offered to let me buy her a drink that night. She kept double-checking our plans to make sure I wasn't flaking, and we were meeting halfway between our towns an hour apart. All this, with the fact of how easily I fucked her the first time, made me think this was in the bag before I got there.

We got to the bar, and sat at a booth. She sat on the opposite side. After ordering a beer, I sat on her side. I moved forward with kino progressively, but quickly... and throughout our whole conversation, she wouldn't give me eye contact.

The bar closed, and we hung out in my car for about an hour. She moved to the front seat and wouldn't come back. It was confusing because I had made it clear that I wanted to make out with her first with body language then with words (after she said she wouldn't come to the back seat because "we're not hooking up")

Toward the end she was talking about how I met her in her "whore phase" and she had changed her ways, then tried to show me pictures of her nude modeling (but I quit porn, and I told her so). At first I thought she was just using me for attention, but then I realized:

I just never gave her enough room for there to be sexual tension. I came on too hard and too fast.

All I really needed to do was sit on the other side of the booth, work on eye contact before kino (I kind of smothered her) and build tension that way first, then use bits of kino at the right time for best effect. I think making out in my car would have happened naturally after that, and sex.

Anyway. Maybe this is all very obvious. Or maybe you're struggling with the same problem. Hopefully this has offered some growth to you!