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| 10 | Why does being hyper feminine translate into bimbo for some of tiktok? I don’t understand this trend and the point. I love pink, purple, dresses, typically “girly” things. However, I don’t see how degrading ourselves with a misogynistic term that has no positive meaning would ‘take back our power’.The internalized misogyny isn’t about the idea of femininity or dressing one way or another. In this case- It’s the idea that women are responsible for men’s behavior via the way we dress. They’re responsible for their own behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 11:53 AM |
| 280 | Why does being hyper feminine translate into bimbo for some of tiktok? I don’t understand this trend and the point. I love pink, purple, dresses, typically “girly” things. However, I don’t see how degrading ourselves with a misogynistic term that has no positive meaning would ‘take back our power’.This rhetoric does nothing but continue the cycle of holding women accountable for men’s actions, attitudes, misogyny and hate. Pandering to the male gaze is so internalized even ‘woke’ women fall victim. If women are fighting one another, men get a pass on changing their behavior and cognitions. Men hate fuck women. That’s the problem, end sentence. We continue to hold our standards and hold ourselves and other women accountable when we see internalized misogyny. We call out patriarchal BS. We … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 02:01 PM |
| 10 | As if these messages themselves don’t prove my point in my previous post… this is still misogynistic and sexist.I’ll take ‘wordsalad that I think makes me look insightful and makes a point for 100, Alex’. If they’re going to take the time to message, you’d think that it would be well laid out and concise. Even the messages are low effort. 🤷♂️ all he’s got is basically ‘mah penis tingles therefore woman is object. Mah penis no tingle for dude therefore he not object’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 04:11 PM |
| 447 | Is he an asshole or is it Aspergers?Could it be autism? Sure, that could be an explanation. And- if you leave their company feeling invalidated, unheard, alone, dismissed.. the explanation doesn’t matter. Your feelings matter. Bottom line- there are men who fit your criteria of high intelligence and won’t leave you with negative feelings after spending time together. If you’re asking- can I look at his behavior in a different light, more understanding around the possibility of neurodiversity etc- yes of course you can. That’s a be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 05:24 PM |
| 87 | It’s that time of the month, ladies! I mean when men on PPD try to justify creeping on 18 year olds, of course.….When part of his justification for lusting after children/teenagers is that they act like children (‘they’re not going to listen to what you tell them anyway’). And it still doesn’t seem wrong in any way.. You might be a predator. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 09:52 PM |
| 196 | Same dudes who have/want to have casual sex will look down on YOU for having a history of it. The hypocrisy. Yet another reason to stay away from casual sex AND slutty guys, they're hypocrites with insane Madonna-whore complexes and STDs/STIs who think they're a prize to be won.She could get promoted to girlfriend if she’s able to prove she’s nice and does domestic labor. She doesn’t want to be your girlfriend if you’re still in the FWB is what I want mindset. Want a girlfriend, do some self improvement and set your own bar high enough to stop putting out low only enough effort for casual sex from the women you describe as only fuc$able. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 09:06 PM |
| 203 | Ladies please don’t do this. You deserve your dream ring!That upgrade will never happen. Ever. And we all know that if he wanted to propose, he would have already. He’s coasting on this and biding his time, knowing she will keep lowering her standards to keep him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 09:21 PM |
| 19 | UPDATE: on 46 y/o coworker claiming to be 34.Overreact? Does he mean - others might have expectations of behavior that align with his age? I’m confused. Do we expect more from a 40 ish than a 30ish? No. So really, the only thing he wants is to be able to shoot his shot at women who are not age appropriate. Douche. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 12:23 AM |
| 35 | As I was reading this... I was thinking "He must be significantly older than her." But she handled it perfectly. 💅 👑She handled that situation perfectly. 🤴 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 05:55 PM |
| 191 | “Merry Christmas from me and my family, whom I hate!”This trend is disgusting. Even worse is that women are taking the professional photos and promoting it on their business pages. And the women participating.. the internalized misogyny is being passed to their children too… so sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 05:34 PM |
| 40 | NVM screeching about losing money in a divorce 🤣🤣🤣 get wrecked. They always blame the woman for a failing marriage and make her out to be LaZY as if she did not raise kids and do housework full-time. She DESERVES some equity.1/2 of the shared bank account (doesn’t state that this is the only bank account, joint asset) Half of 2 homes (joint assets) Know what this doesn’t say? 1/2 of any business ventures or other assets held by him, investments, retirement, cars, planes, boats, other accumulated assets. One would imagine that this is where the monthly alimony is justified by the courts. Marriage has joint assets… why is this news to anyone? LVM and their victim complexes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 03:38 AM |
| 20 | Looking out for women's safety should be the norm.Probably staged, but it sets a good example for men of how they could be allies and hold one another accountable. Ish. Some white knight shit along with it which adds some ick factor… but it’s at least showing that men can be aware of other men and not overlook shit behavior. Maybe? I’m torn about how to feel here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 07:45 PM |
| 48 | Opinions on dating a man whose dad is a serial cheater?How did the mom or wife handle the infidelity? And, what is the man’s relationship with his dad, now? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 02:04 AM |
| 12 | This is considered a success? Guy never initiates giving oral sex, only wants to receive, then presses his junk against her mouth, she needs to keep asking for him to go down on her and he laughs at her and calls her demanding WTFGuys DonT Know wHat Women WaNt We have to stop believing this BS. If someone is so clueless that a partner would want to be - turned on - satisfied - respected And that their own orgasm isn’t the only one that matters, why bother? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:43 PM |
| 28 | This is considered a success? Guy never initiates giving oral sex, only wants to receive, then presses his junk against her mouth, she needs to keep asking for him to go down on her and he laughs at her and calls her demanding WTFRight - ‘pressed’ it to her mouth. This is written by a dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:38 PM |
| 96 | This is considered a success? Guy never initiates giving oral sex, only wants to receive, then presses his junk against her mouth, she needs to keep asking for him to go down on her and he laughs at her and calls her demanding WTFDescribing it as eating like a buffet is dude bro talk without a doubt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:37 PM |
| 5 | I have no wordsDoes it matter why she wants the towel? She does not need to justify using an item, bringing an item on a trip, whether it’s a need or want, how it helps or doesn’t, etc. She needs to justify this to absolutely no one, and not need to even mention it to anyone else. I’m not sure that it’s relevant to bring up why a different towel is good for different hair (though we all know it is). The issue is the lack of respect shown to another human being and thinking that it’s okay to undermine and sabot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 08:13 PM |
| 88 | Imagine trying to pick up women by negging about living in a van down by the river. Yikes!Forest Jesus 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 07:03 PM |
| 14 | Have you recently met any man who was actually willing to wait to have sex with you under YOUR TERMS?Two actually, when I was dating (now in one LTR). But, they were sprinkled between non-starters like- wanted to pick me up for the date and warned me that he had an interlock device on his car, one who wanted first date to be at the park so his daughter could play, married men, or on first date guys who said they were poly/enm 🤢 Keep your head up, don’t settle :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 11:40 PM |
| 45 | Anyone else become disillusioned with their male friends?Going through a divorce years ago- ended each and every male friendship I thought I had. Male friends/ friendly acquaintances they made passes in person, via DM or poked around at whether I was ready to date again. Married friends thought they would try to get the inside scoop on reasons for divorce so that they could either give me ‘advice’ or set me up with their friends. Many were people I’d known for 20ish years and had only friend vibes ever with… never different. Not flirty, nothing. Bound… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 10:30 PM |
| 14 | Please don’t enable menIt doesn’t matter. The bottom line is that, according to the information we have, he took exactly zero steps towards independence. Instead he waits for a replacement to her labor. Could she be manipulative/enabling/codependent? Yes. Likely so. Narc tendencies? Likely so. Maybe the new wife is leading him towards independence? I have no patience or empathy for grown men with no backbone. Again- both can be true at the same time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 07:06 PM |
| 31 | Please don’t enable menMaybe a not so popular opinion to follow- The mother is understandably grieving (not in a sense of death) the loss of her previous life and now this change as well. I think many people would feel used by their child as an expendable placeholder in similar situations. But, she WAS enabling him and he took full advantage of her enabling nature. I do see her actions as enabling because she didn’t go for a short time until the man could get through some grief and rebuild, she went to stay and likely… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 06:11 PM |
| 268 | Grown ass 30+ year old men taking highschool/college girls way too seriouslyThey really think they can groom these young women into accepting low standards. Or as they see it ‘set them straight’ about men thus making them accessible to them. 🤷♂️ Just more predatory behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 06:39 PM |
| 15 | How many red flags can you pack into 1 profile? LET'S COUNT!I’m busy and don’t want to waste time/I do have time. If it’s fun. Email not fun. Email no boobies. Email only for you to feel safe. No fun because mah penis is in pants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:37 PM |
| 109 | Men tend to complain about women being fatter in person vs. their dating app pics... Well in my experience TOO 👏 MANY 👏 MEN 👏straight up LIE about their heightThere are studies that show men overrate their attractiveness compared to women, and that conventionally unattractive people overrate their attractiveness compared to conventially attractive people. I agree that some of these guys on dating apps know they’re misrepresenting themselves and do so on purpose and that trend is backed up by those studies. When I tried using online dating back in the day, I was blown away by the amount of men who thought they looked younger by 10plus years or would li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 07:27 PM |
| 273 | A weird form of negging, but I can’t quite put a finger on what I should call itThis, with a mix of infantalizing. If you’re ‘just a girl who needs a man to protect her’ then his job is easy. You have no mind of your own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 09:02 PM |
| 10 | ladies whats some red flags that tell you a man is low key sexist?Ask him how a male friend or relative’s life changed when their spouse was pregnant, and/or the baby was born. Or, ask about how their friend/family member’s life changing after marriage. The responses are telling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 01:30 AM |
| 8 | Always Google Your DatesMatched with ‘Jeff’ , a divorced engineer with no children who lived 45 minutes away from my city. After one rushed date in city between our homes, googled and found he was ‘John’, who recently made our local paper for opening a microbrewery with his friend. Does have an engineering background so that was at least true. He was/is? married with a child and lives in the same city as me. There was not going to be a second date regardless of the outcome of googling- He only wanted a FWB and was push… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:56 PM |
| 11 | This scrote has an affair, wants sex from his wife and fames it in a way that makes it seem he just wants her to be happy and wants sympathy because she won’t sleep with him?!? This is from his point of view so who know what’s really going on in this relationship...Man- cheats on wife. Man- doesn’t accept sexual boundaries. Also man- confused about why she doesn’t want me to touch her body or be in her space. 👍🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 03:06 PM |
| 24 | Men scientifically conclude porn doesn’t affect their perception of women 🤡https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/976730/The_Relationship_between_Pornography_use_and_Harmful_Sexual_Attitudes_and_Behaviours-_literature_review_v1.pdf Well, here’s 1 recent study contradicting that ridiculousness. Here’s another https://www.researchgate.net/publication/288905229_A_Meta-Analysis_of_Pornography_Consumption_and_Actual_Acts_of_Sexual_Aggression_in_General_Population_Studies And another https://digitalcommons.uri.edu/cgi/… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 04:23 PM |
| 48 | A big reminder about "female privilege"Over 90% of the time, child custody-related decisions are decided without any court involvement. Around 4% of divorced men seek out custody via courts. 🤷♂️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 09:22 PM |
| 184 | A big reminder about "female privilege"Men are NOT!!! less likely to get custody of their kids. They ARE less likely to ASK for custody. That’s a bunch of BS that is not supported by any research. I love your post otherwise, well stated and validating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 07:49 PM |
| 4 | She realized she’s basically single but with more choresThis one hit home 🙌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:48 PM |
| 15 | Alli Grace on TikTok- not my content. Kinks can be straight up red flags. We should be talking about ‘kinks’ and how using that specific term for harming women in any way is a smokescreen, at best. ‘Don’t criticize my kink’ is often gaslighting.👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 05:01 PM |
| 106 | Another cautionary tale of the dangers of choosing a LVM: they will not hesitate to hurt you to sexually please themselves, even when you might be literally dyingHer boobs made her sick, has a mastectomy that she told him has her feeling insecure (and I can imagine that’s the tip of the emotional iceberg) messing with her self image and he wants her to get another surgery- not just implants but HUGE implants...to please him. Throw the whole man out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 02:00 PM |
| 15 | Why couples counseling doesn't work with an abuserYeeep. Tried couples counseling with the ex. While I’m glad we tried, the lack of self awareness and ability to account for his own actions was so blatant, it helped me to realize the extent of his gaslighting. So, overall, it did help ME with the relationship (that it had to end and I wasn’t over reacting, I wasn’t being disrespectful <his most favored gaslight> , and wasn’t lacking), that emotional abuse was absolutely present and I wasn’t imagining it. I recall leaving the second session just… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:23 AM |
| 35 | He wanted a traditional woman, but still wanted to treat like a traditional man. That's a no for me dawg.Didn’t you hear? Women are responsible for men’s decisions, ego, morals, feelings, mental and emotional health, physical health, social skills, coping skills, and character. If he cheats, it’s clearly because of a fault in the woman. /s 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 02:49 PM |
| 10 | Men seem to have a creepy level obsession with women’s fertility.This rhetoric over primal breeding instincts is pathetic. It’s thinly shielded justification for being shallow and misogynistic, immature. Sperm ages and becomes less healthy. Science, people. There is no benefit to women in choosing an older man if we want to have children. ZERO. ‘Last year, the journal JAMA Psychiatry published a study about paternal age that included this design, and, to put it mildly, the results were alarming. The study used a full census of births in Sweden from 1973 to 20… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 12:02 PM |
| 31 | 🙅🏻♀️Wait, you -don’t- want to be his free therapist? Strange. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 01:23 AM |
| 10 | How many of you dated a narcissist who was into "ethical non-monogamy” and/or Polyamory?I haven’t so can’t comment with any experience. I did do some google research about it at one point and the results were not as I expected- no more personality traits, abuses, etc were found in non-monogamous vs monogamous people. I’d never enter a non-monogamous relationship for a multitude of reasons- health worries, mental and emotional load, just not aligning with the values or attitudes, etc. It is not appealing. I’d feel like I’m settling for trash. It’s just not worth my time. I’m maybe m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 01:37 AM |
| 176 | We should all be like this!!!!We all should support one another! Yes💕 But, why would a cheating boyfriend be with this level of effort? You could use that time into bettering yourself. He’s not worth it. Nah. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 04:14 PM |
| 7 | Fucking Ain't Fair, Act AccordinglyBeautiful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 01:46 PM |
| 91 | Hey Males, Instead of being offended at us calling you "Scrotes" you should try and reclaim the word so it's Empowering. You can try slipping it in casual conversation to signal you're cool like "Me & all My Scrotes about to hit up a party" or "What Up My Scrotes?". Let us know how it works out.Read this while drinking some wine, snorted loudly while laughing. 😂🥂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 12:09 AM |
| 3 | Hey ladies, I need advice about dating on OLD.Under menu for me, but if that doesn’t load for you , maybe it would on another platform? (From the FDS website maybe?) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 07:06 PM |
| 27 | Hey ladies, I need advice about dating on OLD.Asking you to a bar on a first date is low effort and kinda tacky, IMO. The FDS handbook talks more about why to say no to first dates like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 06:51 PM |
| 59 | Got it twisted when I called him out on his overly sexual flirting with me. Then I get this at 5am. Now he's going to have to wait longer now bc that's his "making it up to me"🙄 gosh, that’ll show him to respect you /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 12:50 AM |
| 22 | Question for women 25yo+ who dated an older man (35+) in their teens or their early 20s: how do you feel right know about this man and the relationship?At 17, dated a 26 year old. I can’t properly explain how, as I got into my late 20s, the full ick factor kicked in. I can’t imagine at that age being attracted to someone so young. They don’t even register in that category. It’s gross. I can say that he absolutely was perverted for pursuing me and things going as far as they did. He met his now wife, who had daughters around that age (16, now his stepdaughters) and I winced ever time I saw them, wondering if he saw them as off limits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 06:36 PM |
| 15 | Ladies, we have to keep talking about how as women there is an engrained expectation that we should starve so that others always have a full plate. -Everyone eats or no one eats-Right? I’m a mom, just like many of the ladies here. This mentality is not okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 02:25 AM |
| 7 | Please don't.🙌🏼 He won’t love the kids you have with him more than his other kids just because you’re the mother. When they show you they’re garbage parents, believe them. If they wanted to be involved they would be. If they wanted more custody, they’d be seeking it. If they cared about these kids, he’d be involved. He’d be providing support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 01:37 AM |
| 22 | Ladies, we have to keep talking about how as women there is an engrained expectation that we should starve so that others always have a full plate. -Everyone eats or no one eats-https://ericalayne.co/24-self-care-practices-for-mothers/ https://www.christinekeys.net/5-self-care-tips-for-moms/ https://ergobaby.com/blog/2018/11/10-beauty-style-hacks-to-feel-like-a-put-together-mom/ This one suggests cleaning the house as self care : https://www.liveabout.com/ways-to-take-care-of-yourself-as-a-single-parent-2997931 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 01:30 AM |
| 63 | Pickmeishas hate us just as much as LVMSome people are happiest when they’re miserable = that entire sub. And I do understand the mentality. I was like some of them for years. #wastedyouth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 03:16 PM |
| 2 | I’ve been seeing this post all over ig lately...not sure what to think about it. Thoughts?I’d appreciate someone who is living in this condition if they’re hustling to move up and on, saving, working through college, whatever to level up. If you don’t come from money, this is what you do rather than borrow more than needed in college. You penny pinch, save, while you’re investing in yourself. Wouldn’t date them, and think they need a carpet cleaner (so cheap to rent), some grown up furnishings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 01:02 PM |
| 6 | OP says her bf won’t stop making sexist comments and of course the answer is to cOmUnICaTeIt’s equally ‘communicate’ and also ‘raise him to be a better man’. Sickening. It’s not a woman’s job to teach a man how to be a decent human being. Not the mama. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:16 PM |
| 3 | This is 80% of men on dating sites now and I'm so.fucking.tired. Even when I specify in my bio that I'm strictly monogamous they'll still try to message me?Well, because you don’t know what you’re missing, and also don’t know what you want. He can explain it to you. DUH. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Can a HVM be a single dad?There are just too many reason someone can be a single parent for me to exclude them as potential partners. Cautious of course, but case by case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 05:04 PM |
| 6 | They hate it even when women act inside what's considered "our duty". It's always about control, being the breadwinner. Her "trad life" has been a tool of opression for centuries, but God forbid she uses this same trad life to make her own decisions without approval.For a legally binding surrogacy, a spouse goes through psychological exam, medical tests, and has to sign a contract. Each state has different legalities, etc. IVF involves medications for weeks before and after an embryo transfer. Even if traditional surrogacy, unless it’s bound to be a shit show, there’s a contract in order to determine parentage intention. Total troll post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 12:26 AM |
| 11 | Women aren't funny? But most of your favorite male IG comedians base their craft on impersonating women.Half the stuff they laugh at they attribute to men... but it’s written by women. Short list.. -the office - 30 Rock - Mad TV - SNL - Rick and Morty | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 02:41 PM |
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