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Both, the momentum and training your brain that "this is safe" from cold approaches will make you better for a warm approach or even another cold approach that turns warm. If you're decent looking and appear confident it's not hard to get the conversation and her warmed up. Most dudes here need to practice simply socializing with women and cold approaching provides that practice.
/r/seduction16/07/26 10:23 PM
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Ah yes, a well thought out rebuttal, very good.
/r/seduction07/04/26 05:43 PM
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This is how I know you don't game. There's many ways to open or be noticed besides just looking good. Imagine you go to a bar and you know everyone that works there, the girls that work there are flirting with you and giving you free drinks. Being sociable and high status is way better than being good looking. If you're both, then great. But if you had to pick which one is more effective, then charisma and high status is better. A dude that is 5'4" and 25% bodyfat and normal looking, but every o…
/r/seduction07/04/26 03:55 PM
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Lol, I love that the nuanced and well thought out response gets down voted. I for one, agree with you. I've seen plenty of fat dudes have success with women, people just don't want to think too critically about this shit for some reason. I've also seen plenty of tall, handsome, jacked dudes do terribly with women. Looks only gets your foot in the door when first meeting, then you need game/rizz/charisma to progress at all. And you need confidence throughout to persevere when you inevitably get s…
/r/seduction06/04/26 11:56 PM
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If it helps, it's not really about what you're saying but how you're coming across with your subcommunications. The way to get better with sub communications while talking to beautiful girls is to...talk to beautiful girls to the point that it's not a deal where your "mind goes blank" Kind of like exposure therapy for someone that is afraid of elevators or snakes. So basically, you have to force yourself to go and talk to her, use social momentum to get going. Start by talking to yourself in the…
/r/seduction03/03/26 05:25 PM
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You shouldn't start socializing by starting talking to the cutest girl you see. You should start socializing on the way to the coffee shop, or go somewhere else to "warm up". Ask random people how they're doing, try and crack a joke with an old man. These things are easier. Trying to talk to the cute girl at a coffee shop when you haven't spoken to anyone at all that day is like trying to go from just waking up and not warming up to sprinting at full speed, it's just not going to happen for most…
/r/seduction27/02/26 05:40 PM
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Late 30s, I consistently still attract some younger girls in their early 20s, but I typically don't go for them. They mostly wouldn't want anything beyond a one night stand, FWB situation, or sugar daddy situation, def not doing a sugar daddy thing lol. Age should not be an issue for you. Obligatory: dress well, be in shape, basic hygiene. Beyond that attraction will be coming from your sub communications when you're interacting with people. Do you look like a guy that gets a lot of girls? Are y…
/r/seduction26/02/26 10:19 PM
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Approach. Stop thinking about this so much and actually go out and approach people.
/r/seduction02/02/26 04:23 PM
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Yes? Do you have a point to make or are you just saying dude and not learning anything?
/r/seduction02/02/26 04:20 PM
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You are MISSING the point yet again. OF course people care about looks, but it's not exactly what makes girls wet. Pre-selection, leading, being dominant, physicality, all of these things matter. You can be a beautiful man and have no game or charisma and turn a girl off as soon as she talks to you. I know because that was basically me in my early twenties. Vocal tonality, how deep your voice is, is she ovulating or not, all of these things matter too. But generally speaking, having good game tr…
/r/seduction02/02/26 04:19 PM
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Ya exactly, and just goes to show how much looks don't matter when attracting girls. We're talking about a super handsome and fit dude here, still got rejected. Then when he has social status and pre selection, prob barely got rejected.
/r/seduction30/01/26 07:01 PM
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You guys are missing the point. Yes looks matter of course. But applied charisma AKA GAME IS BASE attraction for women. Stop projecting male attraction mechanisms onto women. Women are attracted to the charismatic, high social value, pre-selected dude. This dude could be ugly, 5'3", have a scratchy voice, whatever. If this dude is pre selected and has game, he's beating me and every other chad looking dude every single time.
/r/seduction30/01/26 06:58 PM
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No such thing my dude. Everyone gets rejected. Even Christiano Ronaldo(sp?) got cheated on I think. Move past this insecurity and just talk to girls.
/r/seduction29/01/26 11:30 PM
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If you can hold your frame of "I'm having fun and am super amused and having the time of my life." Regardless of her reaction, eventually most girls you talk to will adopt that frame and start having fun with you. Perhaps not on the first couple of approaches. But you will build a social momentum if you keep it up and by the end of the night every girl will be at least somewhat giddy to talk to you, share in your good feels and super confidence. This probably won't happen if it's your first nigh…
/r/seduction20/01/26 07:18 PM
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As someone who is pretty experienced at meeting girls from dating apps, this is a great filter. I've done the extra texting and talking with girls who simply aren't that interested and make excuses. The date itself was never worth it and I left earlier than I thought I would. If the logistics are a legit excuse like she's visiting her parents or something and is gone for a few weeks, but the convo is great and she's sending you pictures then continue on and schedule when you can. For some reason…
/r/seduction13/01/26 12:25 AM
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It’s all in your head of course. It’s how your brain is telling you to act based on what it perceives your status to be based on feedback from everyone and past experiences. You don’t have a lot of reference experiences of you succeeding with some from cold approach. Or if you do, you should be focusing on those and remembering how you did it. Start small. Approach an old lady and ask how she is. Ask a random what’s up and keep walking. Do this as many times as you need to to keep going until wh…
/r/seduction10/01/26 01:09 AM
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TIL, men have sexual desires and are often perceived as creepy. This is why learning to channel your sexual desire into politely approaching and talking to people is/should be the goal of this subreddit. Inherently making men less creepy in the process. Some people are just going to be creepy no matter what though.
/r/seduction22/11/25 10:02 PM
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Thank you, brother
/r/seduction07/11/25 07:01 PM
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What if we're passionate about picking up girls, lol
/r/seduction07/11/25 05:49 PM
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You will. Move past it and approach another girl when you do get rejected and ignored.
/r/seduction31/10/25 09:43 PM
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How often do you go out? How many girls do you approach? Your comment makes it seem like you don’t even do game. Girls go home with guys all the time.
/r/seduction25/10/25 03:43 PM
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Dam, all these years and that's all I gotta do. Insane.
/r/seduction23/10/25 11:47 PM
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Stroll up like I own the place, hands on hips. “Hey, my name’s George. I’m unemployed and I live with my Parents. (Over exaggerated wink) you look like a girl from New York City, mid town Manhattan.” She’s either rejecting me immediately or laughing and enjoying it.
/r/seduction07/09/25 12:25 AM
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Well first off, look as hot as you possibly can. A favorable hip to waist ratio, nice hair, nice lips, big doe eyes, perky boobs and ass. These are all universal attractive traits that all straight men are into. Dress nice, a tight fitting red dress screams "Come flirt with me." Hit the gym and be as fit as possible, which means eating healthily and sleeping a lot too. Now that we're super attractive girl in a tight dress or wearing something cute with makeup on, look approachable. Look at a guy…
/r/seduction30/08/25 06:35 AM
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If her attraction is 100/100 for you she’ll bang you in a dumpster.
/r/seduction28/08/25 09:05 AM
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How?
/r/seduction28/08/25 09:04 AM
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That’s exactly what he stated in his post, paraphrasing, “screen for logistics hard.” It’s plausible af, not sure why everyone’s dogging him.
/r/seduction28/08/25 09:04 AM
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Idk what’s with the negative attitudes about your writing style, like who gives a fuck lol. The content is fantastic. Especially as someone who just moved in with their parents and used to live in the heart of beach town San Diego. I’m now in the burbs, fairly far from any action. Used to live right next to a huge bar/da club. I have a hunch that most dudes simply can’t even come close to pulling off what you’re doing and so try to downplay it by saying “dam man weird writing style.” As a means …
/r/seduction28/08/25 09:01 AM
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Don’t let the fact that you haven’t reached your ideal physique hold you back from talking to girls though. Learning game should be priority 1 as it’s the most important aspect here. Learn game and get healthy/aesthetic at the same time.
/r/seduction15/08/25 06:54 AM
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Oh, like that part in my reply where I said he's going to be a casa Nova on his very first approach. Oh wait, I didn't say that. You said it and attributed it to me somehow. Obviously no one is gonna have great game on their first time out. My advice was to read mystery method, get in shape, and approach.
/r/seduction14/08/25 01:59 PM
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Right, like I said in this post and like 20.other posts on this subreddit. Go out and talk to women. Having high testosterone helps a fuck ton though, ask me how I know.
/r/seduction14/08/25 01:53 PM
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Oh and use dating apps as well. Just realize that the in person approaching and talking to girls will help your game overall, so if you do get a date from hinge, you have some experience to not suck on the date.
/r/seduction13/08/25 04:58 AM
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Lol, I love the people here telling you to go to church and to rethink your mindset. This subreddit is called seduction, c'mon dudes. For me, having a baseline of lifting heavy, getting enough sleep(8-9 hours in a dark room), getting some sunlight every day, and Paleo/diet that support optimal hormones is almost vital to success. I would recommend supplements like creatine, protein, multi vitamins, tribulus, and estrogen blockers. I also personally don't drink caffeine anymore as it hinders my s…
/r/seduction13/08/25 04:57 AM
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I've gone out and been a big partyer and gamed up girls in my 20s and now into my late 30s. I've also been in 2 long term relationships as well, so effectively "left the game". It's not hard to do if you find a girl you love. If you don't have a potential long term girl, why would you care about "getting out" of the game? Lol. Ya man, threesomes with hot girls are just so played out. I absolutely am so sick of getting my dick sucked by gorgeous girls, just so boring. Enjoy being single and getti…
/r/seduction12/08/25 06:32 PM
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This isn't the fucking mafia, just stop going out and talking to girls, lol. Wtf is this post? Your looks have faded at 30 years old?? What is your lifestyle that you look terrible at 30? Jesus.
/r/seduction12/08/25 05:48 PM
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I mean more like almost all girls have the capability to get involuntarily turned on/attracted to other sexy women being sexy. Hence the videos making them wet. That doesn't mean girls will report that they're bi or lesbian, or may not even act on it. However the girl that says she would never do something like that would probably end up having a threesome with a girl if she was in the company of her celebrity crush and he wanted to do it. Girls are a lot more flexible with their sexuality. Havi…
/r/seduction12/08/25 02:17 AM
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I'm just curious how much experience you have with women in general, because it's honestly more like 90%. There's a study showing that basically all women became aroused when watching girl on girl porn.
/r/seduction11/08/25 10:03 PM
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It seems that this is basically just a1-a3 for sexual chemistry and then c1-c3 for romantic investment. Unless there's something else for a specific romantic portion which I'm assuming would go somewhere after comfort and sex has taken place, perhaps before sex and after sex. If there's more to this than generating comfort after attraction has taken place, please elaborate.
/r/seduction11/08/25 08:18 PM
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If you have to ask, I wouldn't push sittong next to each other. Again. First date, so you two aren't super comfy yet. It should be obvious based on her body language and you two have already kissed/been fairly physical and you can feel the sexual tension. If that's not there, don't be pushy, just be charming and build attraction. You will have to be bold at some point and initiate physical touch, but this can be light like playing thumb war, shaking hands and holding eye contact for just a bit l…
/r/seduction09/08/25 12:51 AM
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You should do nothing regarding the girl, she's clearly not interested. As far as what you should do moving forward, you should NOT being trying to game girls at your place of employ. This is why encourage dudes to go out and approach girls at bars/clubs/wherever, where you can practice. What's the one thing creepier than learning how to talk to girls? NOT learning how to talk to girls, because it manifests in this weird, scarcity, creepy behavior like you just described. I'm sure you weren't co…
/r/seduction08/08/25 11:13 PM
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Yes, you want to be showing off how well you look, your positive body language, flirting by holding her hand, playing around with her hair, etc. All at appropriate times to show that you're a socially savvy guy that understands when to do all of those things. AKA you're not a creep, you're the opposite, an attractive dude. It's much easier to do this when you're not just sitting down across from her and eating. That part happens after you establish enough attraction for each other. At which poin…
/r/seduction08/08/25 09:18 PM
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tl;dr: by not doing dinner the first date you're effectively screening girls that are looking for a provider type transactional relationship. You're avoiding awkward long dates where you don't like each other and just leave. Basically wasting your time and money. And you're making it more flexible where you can start by playing pool, move to get drinks at another bar, and maybe grab a bite to eat somewhere else. Making the first date more fun and more dynamic with the movement that gives you the…
/r/seduction08/08/25 06:10 PM
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Use hinge and bumble. And get off the phone and go approach girls IRL as well. You're limiting yourself to only using Instagram.
/r/seduction23/07/25 04:16 PM
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Yup exactly. Ironically, the fact that you're not bringing anything up will actually most likely make her think about you more and want a relationship more, potentially. Depending on the type of person you are. It's possible she just sees you as nothing more than a fuck buddy as well, I just don't know you well enough. But there you go, just don't even bring it up.
/r/seduction17/07/25 09:14 PM
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If that's what you want just don't bring it up. Eventually she will probably give you the "what are we?" Question, at which point you'll just have to tell her you're not looking for a relationship. At that point she'll either leave or try to win you over, depending on how much she likes you.
/r/seduction17/07/25 08:48 PM
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Just don't bring up other girls, and ideally if this is a girl he really likes, which it seems that it is. You probably shouldn't even be entertaining other girls. But ya, don't bring up other girls with a girl you like. That seems like a given. Would you like it if a girl you were dating mentioned she was seeing/fucking other dudes?
/r/seduction17/07/25 06:50 PM
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Wow, that's a gay looking shirt.
/r/seduction17/07/25 06:48 PM
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This is the part where it helps to treat her EXACTLY like one of the other girls that you don't care about on your roster. Don't completely ignore her, but if you continue to treat her special before she's invested more into you, she will ditch you. Key point here being BEFORE she is more invested into you, because it sounds to outside readers like we're sociopaths recommending ignoring her and being manipulative. We're not, we just know what turns women off generally. Anyways, do not give her s…
/r/seduction17/07/25 05:29 PM
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The quotes are a dead giveaway.
/r/seduction14/07/25 03:48 PM
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Well we need details at this point because you're fucking something up. Probably women are shit testing you and you're just not catching it. Most men are in a logical headspace and not in a free flowing "let's let loose and have fun" head space when girls shit test them, and they fail without even realizing it. You fail the shit test, girl gets turned off even though she was once turned on and friend zones you or ghosts you. You're either failing shit tests left and right or you're showing 0 int…
/r/seduction10/07/25 09:33 PM
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Can you go to the gym and work on getting a better physique aka not being as unattractive? That should help with Confidence as well. Being that you have asperger's you'll have to force yourself into social situations that you're probably not comfortable with. I believe Owen from RSD mentioned that he may have autism/asperger's so watching his earlier or just his videos in general should help a lot. Owen Cook on youtube. Reading mystery method and models by mark manson should help as well. Mostly…
/r/seduction09/07/25 11:19 PM
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Yes you probably have missed a lot of opportunities. This is why we cold approach. We don't know for sure if girls are 100% into us and going to be super receptive. I assume all girls I approach will be at least somewhat interested in me. Is that actually true? Probably not. Does it help my attitude and ability to talk to girls? Yes. Why don't you go up to those girls that are giving you those subtle signals and communicate with them, lol. See if they actually like you instead of asking us reddi…
/r/seduction30/06/25 03:13 PM
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What are you defining as success? If you walk up to a girl and flirt and she laughs and you get to enjoy the company of a beautiful woman, that's success. Which basically happens every night you go out and cold approach once you get a basic level of confidence and social skills. You need to learn to enjoy yourself when you're going out, it's not a grind, it should be mostly pleasurable. If your only reason for going out is to just get laid, that's more of a perspective issue really.
/r/seduction26/06/25 04:49 PM
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Coffee and tea shop, playing pool and ping pong, picnic date with snacks, walk on the beach.
/r/seduction25/06/25 09:31 PM
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I'm very good at initially attracting girls and getting them hot and bothered. Some girls anyway, some girls think I'm dumb and reject me right away. Not that good at maintaining relationships with them, not that I don't want to be. My goal is to be better at relationships and settle down with a girl I'm compatible with. Cold approach, if you're persistent and keep doing it and getting better at it, will give you the best initial seduction skills. You learn how to improv, take rejections like th…
/r/seduction20/06/25 11:22 PM
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You've got to get comfortable and confident in talking to strangers, especially women obviously. Only in this relaxed and confident emotional state will a woman be open to maybe flirting with a complete stranger. Cold approach is hard and most people don't do it for a reason. Most likely, based on your question, you'll have to go through hundreds of approaches before you'll start to get pretty good at this. As you approach, some girls will like you, but you'll probably mess it up and not underst…
/r/seduction17/06/25 09:38 PM
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Just approaching a girl and saying "hello." She knows what your intentions are brother, it's not difficult to figure out, pretty intuitive actually. During this process you should be at ease, confident, and having fun with it.
/r/seduction17/06/25 03:34 PM
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Nice. Makes sense. I just recently was dating a girl who I thought was very into me. Was calling me honey, babe, etc. Went on 5 dates, ended up banging on the 4th date. Seemingly out of nowhere her texts got very cold and dry, texting me like a co-worker and she's in HR or something. I was probably being predictable and asked her out again very quick. I'm just curious what's going on here, I usually understand, but I'm kinda clueless with this one. All of our in person dates were great, I'm pret…
/r/seduction13/06/25 06:31 PM
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In your words, what does this look like in the early stages of dating a girl? Not texting back all the time? Texting infrequently? Scheduling dates infrequently? Just not caring as much?
/r/seduction13/06/25 05:48 PM
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I second this, I would also like someone to objectively review my shitty text game.
/r/seduction10/06/25 06:54 PM
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If you're not letting yourself learn because of it, it's getting in the way. Your post makes it seem like you're not exactly where you'd like to be at with women, but maybe that's not the case? "If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid" - EPICTEUS
/r/seduction05/06/25 05:26 PM
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Your ego is getting in the way here. Im Not an expert by any means, I'm just older and have lots of experience with talking to women. I'd love to take advice from anyone who would give it to me. Why not learn from anyone willing to teach you? Lol, no I feel no shame in my game. And with social momentum the rejection like you described usually only last the first 2-3 approaches. Sometimes even the first approach turns warm pretty quick. Maybe it's different in Ireland, girls aren't as open to bei…
/r/seduction05/06/25 02:15 PM
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Even if you eventually meet your girl from online dating. Talking to girls IRL will give you the improv/confidence/sub communications that you need to go on a good date with someone you met online or through your social circle. There's just not really a downside to investing in it, except for in your head. Or if you just do the same thing over and over and get no results and don't ask anyone what you might be doing wrong.
/r/seduction05/06/25 03:46 AM
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I would get rid of the walk of shame and call it more of a badge of bravery/balls. It takes courage to go up and talk to a random beautiful woman. I think approaching is one of the things that stops most men from being good with women and actually getting the girl they would like to have in their life. Go out by yourself then. Don't be afraid to look like an ass, you will. But you'll also meet cute girls who are very interested in you. Ask yourself if it's worth it to look like an ass for severa…
/r/seduction05/06/25 03:45 AM
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In very densely populated cities, it simply doesn't matter. You're so anonymous in a large club in a large city, no one cares at all what you're doing. I'm assuming you're from a smaller town then? Where everyone talks about everything that happens? Then, yes that would impact your game much more I'm sure. Most people are too worried about how they themselves are being perceived and are too drunk as well.
/r/seduction02/06/25 09:57 PM
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Wait, what is "normal means" if not talking to someone to get to know them lol? Is there some ritualistic dating experience in Ireland I'm not familiar with? Do you induce telekinesis with women by standing in the corner and drinking a Guinness?
/r/seduction02/06/25 09:54 PM
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"I tried some physical type openers that I learned from 'gambler' tried to 'force an IOI' with like a silly dance move that she noticed a smiled about. SO I approached her and asked her how she'd been (his opener.) She of course said 'we don't know each other'. I was like 'you've already forgotten me?!!. We met at (can't remember where I said. )'. She was like 'nope'." LOL, some girls just aren't down for this type of flirting. Either you weren't very confident when you said this and it came off…
/r/seduction28/05/25 07:00 PM
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"Approached a girl and opened with 'you're not fooling me. I can see those devil horns under your halo'" Does this feel congruent to you? Is this something you'd say? I have a feeling you're just saying this to say something, which is fine. But learn to adjust to saying something that amuses you. If it's this, then cool. Just realize a lot of young girls are going to give you dear in the headlights look, lol. Also remember 70% of communication or whatever ratio is body language and vocal tonalit…
/r/seduction28/05/25 06:59 PM
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That's funny. I had a girl straight up tell me she had sex with someone else that morning and she's going to see him right now. We just went on a 4 hour date where we played pool and in bought her like 3 margaritas and a bunch of tacos. She kissed me and I watched her sexy ass drive away to suck some other dudes dick at 10pm on a Friday.
/r/seduction25/05/25 09:47 PM
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Lol yes. I've been both dudes. I never do dinner dates on the first date.
/r/seduction24/05/25 07:16 PM
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Yes, the way around it is having a strong frame than them and them falling into your way of thinking. Your reality. But yes. There are some people who are just on power trips with huge egos, cluster b individuals who should be avoided at all costs.
/r/seduction24/05/25 07:13 PM
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As an addendum, save the dinner date for after you KNOW she likes AND desires you. Two distinct and different things. You can like a person and not desire them sexually, and you can desire them and not like them as a person. Make sure she likes you and desires you. Like you've banged already or almost have banged, etc. Then go ahead and take her on a nice dinner date.
/r/seduction24/05/25 07:10 PM
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First, I would never listen to the opposite genders advice on dating . That goes both ways. Second, if she doesn't like you enough to want to see you on a low investment date like coffee, she is probably partially just screening for if you're a provider type dude. Aka make you wait for sex/pay for dinner dayes type of thing. Keep in mind most girls have put out for a dude after 45 mins of meeting him when she was on vacation in Cancun. Yes, this includes even the girl you're thinking of that "wo…
/r/seduction24/05/25 07:08 PM
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Yes, it's projection of what women are attracted to, masculine accomplishments. It's why women will put their accomplishments like Master's degree from Harvard or whatever, because that's attractive in a man. Masculine achievements and such generally don't get our(men's) libido going even if it's generally socially attractive that someone has accomplished something in their life. It's all about primal health and can she birth healthy babies. Hip to waist ratio, youth, feminine traits. Probably w…
/r/seduction22/05/25 09:45 PM
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"An example would be say I approached a girl at a restaurant eating with her friends." If you're new to this and don't know what you're doing, don't approach girls/people in a restaurant or similar venue unless the girl is just REALLY checking you out. It does come off as weird and people are trying to enjoy their meal. Go out at night to da clubs, bars, social venue of your preference and flirt with women there, courteously and like a gentleman. Or go out during the day somewhere if that's your…
/r/seduction20/05/25 03:35 PM
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You should absolutely cold approach, It will make you better at flirting and improv in general. It will help your game when you actually talk to the girl in person. The hottest girls I've ever got with was from cold approach, not tinder or hinge.
/r/seduction16/05/25 09:54 PM
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As an addendum to this, look up mystery method chart and be sure to follow those IN ORDER, they are important and generally every interaction is going to follow these rules. A1-A3, C1-C3, etc. Read them and understand them, Ask questions here if you're unsure. But for now, you should be focusing on A1-A3.
/r/seduction16/05/25 09:52 PM
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Me: “You look like you’re doing some shopping to relax from college.” I live in a college town and this is just an assumption to start the conversation. It’s not important. Her: “I have a boyfriend” or “blah, blah, blah.” Me: “I happen to be finishing up my degree too…. Blah, blah, blah” After 2-3 minutes (perhaps more depending on the conversation), I’d say something like: Me: “Alright. It was nice talking to you. I don’t want to take up too much of your time, but I’d like to see you again.” At…
/r/seduction16/05/25 09:46 PM
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Her: “Thank you. That’s really nice.” At this point, I basically blanked out and forgot all lines and advice. Lol man, no worries, we've all been there. Good on you for having the balls to talk to her. Most dudes wouldn't. Me: “Ok, If you want, I’d like your number so I can take you out on a date.” I said this and I was super nervous. I know this wasn’t the right thing to say, but as I stated earlier, this was my first approach and I blanked out. Her: “No thanks, I have a boyfriend.” Me: “Alrigh…
/r/seduction16/05/25 09:43 PM
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As a prerequisite to a great night out, getting good sleep, gym or some sort of physical activity, and plenty of good food should be considered. Having said that, if you don't get all of that down perfectly, don't use that as an excuse not to go out. Right now, being new to this you need to put on blinders to anyone telling you that "this is weird" or "this isn't you bro" or any other bullshit like this. Absolutely grab the bull by the horns and keep getting stronger until you can push him back.…
/r/seduction16/05/25 09:38 PM
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Lol ya, I've been hit in the field metaphorically for sure. Just not in the exact way you mentioned, most dudes that try to steal girls are chodes/have no real experience. They just think because they're taller or whatever that it'll be easy. I've had girls stolen from me for sure, but I wasn't in the zone at the time. I appreciate the post, it's informative. Keep em coming.
/r/seduction14/05/25 10:45 PM
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Have you never pulled a girl to another bar away from your friends or just gone out by yourself?
/r/seduction14/05/25 10:26 PM
7

I mean, sure but "a high-status, high-charisma, or high-tension disruptor doesn’t steal her" is very very very unlikely to happen. So much so that I wouldn't even worry about it. I've literally had it happen to me maybe once in my ~15 years of cold approach. At worst you're competing with him, at best, she shuts him down automatically because like you said "You’re in the zone about to bag a 10. You’ve hit the mack daddy zone and she’s eating everything." And also, I would probably rather make th…
/r/seduction14/05/25 10:02 PM
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I have an issue with the premise "You’re in the zone about to bag a 10. You’ve hit the mack daddy zone and she’s eating everything." IF you're really in the zone and she's reeally that into you. This dude coming in isn't going to do anything at all except have her move closer to you and probably shut him down by herself, you really wouldn't even have to do anything. Her: "Thanks, I have a boyfriend." Her: "Oh cool, nice to meet you" or even "fuck off." Unless he's like her celebrity crush or jus…
/r/seduction14/05/25 06:44 PM
45

Need a little bit more context, how do you know this dude? If he's a rando commando, why are you even paying attention to him and being polite? If he's her gay bestie, then it just depends how into you the girl is. He probably was not oblivious to what your intentions were. He might have thought he's trying to protect her. This really depends on your read of the girl, and if she was actually into you. Which you may be reading wrong, I'm not sure. If she was super into you, she would have found a…
/r/seduction13/05/25 06:31 PM
2

Yea, this is known as a warm approach and you should basically always initiate a convo in this scenario. Just ask her about her coat or whatever and go from there. In the future you'll be able to spot this immediately and go in.
/r/seduction09/05/25 07:38 PM
5

It's not confusing. WATCH PEOPLE's ACTIONS, not their words. Watch people's actions not their words. You offered to take her on this trip, probably in the hopes of being in a relationship with her. It sounds like you just need more experience with women in general. Feel free to ask away about any nuance or situation you had with her and I'll do my best to answer. Or with any other girl. And yes, she is probably ghosting you, or at least doesn't see you as a lover. She probably is banging someone…
/r/seduction08/05/25 03:59 PM
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Brother, if you're not being romantic and not banging, she's not your girl. You're basically in the provider/friend zone. Why would you go on a trip with a girl that you're not banging? Let this be a lesson for you.
/r/seduction08/05/25 03:56 PM
0

I disagree, mystery method is a solid framework for anyone trying to get better at game/seduction etc. His A1-S3 model makes sense if you take the time to understand it for what it is. I'm sure it could be improved upon, but it isn't obsolete at all. Not everything in the book is fantastic, but at least read the part I mentioned.
/r/seduction01/05/25 08:00 PM
1

Yes, the process becomes enjoyable in and of itself when you get used to it.
/r/seduction01/05/25 07:57 PM
2

I would read mystery method and really take your time to understand and apply the concepts in that book. Don't skim over it. In fact I would pause and go and approach a girl trying to do something he mentions in the book. The game is more of a story than a how to get better at game. Never read models so not sure about that.
/r/seduction01/05/25 06:38 PM
5

Lol yes, it's not a mystery, unless we're talking about mystery method. It's just talking to girls.
/r/seduction01/05/25 04:08 PM
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Well sure, but like 90% of the dudes 0 game or anti game. If you have any modicum of experience or game you'll do very well. Unless you look like an absolute troll I suppose. Lots of good looking, buff, tatted dudes. But they mostly posture and wait for girls to make a move. If you're aggressive about approaching and building social momentum, you'll beat the tits off of them. I'm in PB area. Downtown is also great for night game. North park as well.
/r/seduction01/05/25 03:48 PM
46

I live in San Diego about 4 blocks from the beach and the summer time is an absolute pUsse paradise. Local girls, college girls, girls on vacation from all over the US and Europe and Brazil. And of course the weather is amazing. I'm late 30s and have no problem interacting with girls that are 21-mid 30s.
/r/seduction01/05/25 03:39 PM
3

You'd have to have a better instagram than hers if you're trying to just DM her or use your insta to DHV to her. Most of us don't have that and don't care. And besides, in person charisma will charm her better than instagram. If she can see in person that you have friends, you're confident, funny, not hesitant in a social setting. You'll blow the tits off the dude that has an amazing instagram and is just standing there trying to look cool. I've bedded quite a few "infulencer" type girls with ju…
/r/seduction01/05/25 03:34 PM
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Yea, don't get me wrong, Instagram can be a good tool to have. Especially if you actually are good looking, have a ton of social proof on there, have a zillion followers. It could also be a net negative if you look like a loser with no friends and no followers. Overall though, in person charisma and looks are king.
/r/seduction01/05/25 03:29 PM
12

In person game and charisma is better than having an Instagram at all.
/r/seduction01/05/25 04:46 AM
14

Did you read my entire post?
/r/seduction01/05/25 04:44 AM
2

What about 24.9k followers?
/r/seduction01/05/25 01:29 AM
2

Just be cautious if your spidey sense is tingling. You'll weasel it out of her sooner or later, whether she's a hooker, trying to scam you, steal from you, filming you for a prank/instagram etc.
/r/seduction30/04/25 10:53 PM
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Get very good at game Get in the best shape you can physically, mentally, emotionally, spritually, etc. Approach influencer girls in places like LA, San Diego, New York, etc Repeat until you have an influencer girlfriend. Dump her and forget about this post, because it's a stupid goal and having an influencer girlfriend probably isn't that great.
/r/seduction30/04/25 10:50 PM
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Ya, this just seems like a huge rationalization for not actually approaching and working on your game. Let's entertain the argument for a minute and grant that it is true, there are women out there trying to bait you into something. The better you are at game, reading body language, calibrating, etc. The better you'll be able to sus something like this out and walk away. More of an argument to get better at game really.
/r/seduction30/04/25 09:41 PM
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Of the 13 years I've been doing pick up, I've never had this scenario happen to me one time. Including last Saturday when I went out to a country bar. Weird thing to go into detail about. The closest thing I've ever had to a confrontation was hitting on some dude's girlfriend and I apologized and walked away.
/r/seduction30/04/25 08:17 PM
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Do you not have bars/clubs/grocery stores, public venues to go to. I'm assuming you're somewhat of a beginner which means you'll probably crash and burn a bunch, but you still need to approach. You don't really want to approach at school if you're not sure you'll most likely do well.
/r/seduction30/04/25 06:36 PM
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In this case it would be the individual girl's perceived status of you. Your ex might think you're a 0/10 but the girl you're flirting with in the bar right now that just saw you get 2 dime piece's numbers might think you're a 10/10 in that moment. And then when you text her way too much and act needy she now thinks you're a 3/10. Hopefully her perceived status of you would be influenced by your actual status. But if you're by yourself and acting super confident, approached her with no hesitatio…
/r/seduction30/04/25 05:41 PM
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You can have looks, status, money, 9% bodyfat, perfectly formed facial structure, be 6'5", etc etc and it won't mean anything if you can't CONVEY these values to a girl. The act of communicating this (usually very subtly, not by outright stating you have these values) to women is called game or rizz. This is what attracts girls. It's why you see seemingly ugly dudes securing very hot girls, they've got game, whether they learned it or it's just a natural part of their personality, having learned…
/r/seduction30/04/25 05:31 PM
3

Honestly, I think this might be good for you. A metaphorical fire under your ass to get out there and at least do some exposure therapy in regards to approaching women. Are you extremely anxious approaching women that you can't do it? Or is it just the sexual sex part of women that you're anxious about. I would assume both. The only way you'll ever get better at this is to go out there and start approaching women. It sounds like you can probably have your roommate as a wingman lol. I would serio…
/r/seduction25/04/25 03:16 PM
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Fantastic work. Now take this and pair it with building momentum. Why stop there? You've already proven to yourself that nothing bad at all happens and it hardly takes any of your time to approach a beautiful girl. If you had any time after that I'd say go out to a bar or mall or somewhere else you can approach more. After about the 5th approach you hand trembling should go away and you'll be acting a lot more confident, aka you'll be a lot more attractive. Once you approach a girl you like and …
/r/seduction02/04/25 05:38 PM
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Yes, and you almost always regret not approaching later in your mind.
/r/seduction02/04/25 05:36 PM
2

Ok sure, you're talking about the top .01% of males on the planet. I'm sure some girls will approach world class athletes. Even in this specific case though. Most girls would not directly approach him in public, but would rather hang around him in proximity and look as pretty and approachable as possible. Probably making as much eye contact and noise around him as socially acceptable. Girls generally don't approach men directly and state their intentions as far as being attracted to them and wan…
/r/seduction02/04/25 03:29 PM
2

If girls are approaching them it's because they've social status not because they're extremely fit. And the girl version of approaching is often just standing and looking pretty in proximity to high value dudes. Girls generally don't open dudes, even high value ones, they're nervous.
/r/seduction01/04/25 09:33 PM
3

Sumo wrestlers in da club, approaching all the hotties.
/r/seduction01/04/25 08:47 PM
1

Nothing man, that's it, you went "all the way". Feels good, doesn't it? Learn from it and go do it more until you find a girl you like.
/r/seduction28/02/25 10:11 PM
1

Honestly, what works for me is the Sardaukar ritual that you see in the Dune movie on Salusa Secundus. But FR: -As much sleep as you can get in this sleep deprived reality -Gym/physical activity -Sunlight -Eating red meat/fruits/veggies/fish -Socializing as much as your schedule allows(cold approach and social circles)
/r/seduction31/10/24 03:14 PM
5

3 Days, I would delete her number. She just flaked on you, she's not into it. Go meet other girls.
/r/seduction10/10/24 10:14 PM
6

Am 37, albeit in very good shape. I eat Paleo and lift weights 5 days a week. Very strict with sleep schedule as well excepting some weekends. I've been "gaming" for about 10 years now off and on, 6 years if you don't count my serious relationships. I'm single now and content with my dating life, although there's room for improvement for sure. I still mess up a lot and kick myself for it. You have to celebrate all of the small victories like getting her number, or getting to kiss a super hot 9/1…
/r/seduction01/10/24 06:52 AM
3

Other women.
/r/seduction14/08/24 05:37 PM
0

No idea who that is. Do you have a link or some kind of Synopsis?
/r/seduction16/07/24 04:15 PM
2

lol I'm just imagining OP walking up to a girl in a bar with his arms spread wide into the air, his gait in a horse stance, eyes wide open and smiling just staring at the girl and saying nothing. This would actually be a great approach to kill approach anxiety.
/r/seduction27/06/24 05:28 PM
3

I appreciate the focus on logistics, that's very good you're considering it beforehand. However, being that you are a dating n00b, you should really be focusing on your game overall starting with your appearance, your scent, wearing well fitted clothing, body language, vocal tonality. Do you have all of that locked down to the point where you don't even have to think about it? AKA Unconscious competence. Focus on the above and ask questions on here if the date goes south so that you can improve …
/r/seduction20/06/24 04:12 PM
0

With no other signs of attraction from her and mentioning, and especially if she's insisting on a dinner date, that's a clear sign of low attraction. If she's super attracted to you, anything you propose for a date would be accepted. So again, lots of nuance here. You absolutely can make a dinner date work, but for the OP specifically, from this girl specifically, probably not.
/r/seduction13/06/24 08:18 PM
0

Yea, that's pretty much what I said, did you read my comment in it's entirety?
/r/seduction13/06/24 08:16 PM
0

There's nuance to this. The reason he's adverse to the dinner date is that SHE suggested it right off the bat with no other signs of attraction toward him(I'm assuming). Sure you can take her on a dinner date and it's possible to generate attraction and comfort but it's an uphill battle and also draining you finanically. Given his experience he is very unlikely to generate the amount of attraction needed for a 2nd date to even occur. Best move here is to do something more fun like bowling, mini …
/r/seduction13/06/24 06:50 PM
10

lol, post some field reports?
/r/seduction04/06/24 11:27 PM
2

Her intention was to bang you, you idiot, lol. I'd ghost you too if I went back to your hotel room and you didn't bust any kind of moves on me.
/r/seduction11/04/24 04:49 PM
1

So did you approach anyone else that night or was that your only female interaction of the night? This reads like you don't really go out and cold approach too often.
/r/seduction03/04/24 04:44 PM
13

You really can't, you'll have to wait til you're 31.
/r/seduction13/03/24 09:44 PM
1

If she straight up said you can stay the night then yes, go for it. You should be fine, don't be nervous. Also, be cautious as you've never met her, small chance it could be some weird shit like stealing your money. Good luck.
/r/seduction08/03/24 10:05 PM
1

The amount of attraction you need to pull of a same night lay is substantial, don't beat yourself up for not pulling it off. You got further than most men. And judging by your attitude you will make it happen in the future, wether that's getting a cute girlfriend or casual sex is up to you. Some advice, keep doing what you're doing with the rapport, eye contact tension. All great. However, Seed in several things that you can bring up later that have plausible deniability written into them. For e…
/r/seduction04/03/24 09:45 AM
1

Shave head Tattoos take steroids JK, just be the best version of yourself and talk about whatever you want. The fact that you find it interesting and are really into it, will pull other like minded individuals into. With the added side-bonus of this being a passive screen for people who don't 'vibe' aka don't have a lot in common, with you.
/r/seduction29/02/24 09:58 PM
3

If you look like an absolute gugenheimer, then ya sure maybe. But you're "losing social value" very temporarily to random people at a bar lol. Who gives a shit? You're mostly going to be just a background NPC in most people's night. Go approach and make someone's night, or get rejected terribly and embarresed with your ass beat, and the bouncer comically picks you up and throws you out of the front of the bar, yelling: "AND STAY OUT!" Jk that second part never actually happens. Go out by yoursel…
/r/seduction29/02/24 09:55 PM
1

Also, anyone reading this, if you're new and starting out. The concept of warming up socially is something that helped me tremendously as well. Start off by talking with friends, or if you're going solo, just comment random compliments or things to strangers passing by. "Nice hat" Lovely Coat", just anything. Often times it will escalate to a full blown conversation. The next time you want to talk to someone, it won't be nearly as hard, you'll have less anxiety about it. Eventually you'll reach …
/r/seduction15/02/24 11:22 PM
3

Going out solo to busy nightclubs and bars and approaching ALOT. Remembering where I went well and remembering where she suddenly lost interest. Googling that and reading up where I went wrong and how to fix it. There's a series of online posts by a dude named YaReally that taught me A lot as well. I can link it to you if you need it, DM me. It can be hard when you're first starting out because you just get rejected constantly. But don't let it dissuade you, eventually you will get a girl's numb…
/r/seduction15/02/24 11:18 PM
1

Yea you've got that completely backwards, most dudes aren't cucks. So it's safe to assume he's not into it. Besides, if he was into it, wtf would he leave? Wouldn't he want to stay and witness as much as possible?
/r/seduction07/02/24 04:40 PM
4

Right, he's so into it that he moved away from her, looked defeated and left the venue. Brilliant analysis.
/r/seduction31/01/24 09:25 PM
1

Ok well caveat, because at some point, yea if you become so dam successful that you're famous, then sure, you won't even need that great of game, girls absolutey will approach you and it will be easy. But for 99% of us, that isn't the case and isn't a practical way to approach this.
/r/seduction05/05/23 09:00 PM
4

I fully endorse this message of self-improvement and generally being a more attractive entity. However, I want to reiterate something I'm constantly typing out on these threads. The best way to get better with women is to....Suprise, go and interact with women in a man to woman fashion. It's possible to be broke, not that great looking, and still be very good at seducing women just by having excellent body language, verbal skills, knowing when to escalate. The BEST way to do that is to talk to w…
/r/seduction05/05/23 08:57 PM
13

If your seed can't penetrate a basic condom YOU'RE BETA AFFFFF
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:26 PM
18

LMFAABO Brother, if she didn't conceive your child within 3 seconds of existing within a 5 mile radius of you, you're OMEGA AF. Get cucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 05:42 PM
9

Ok, you can do all of those things without actually getting married though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:31 PM
5

M 200+ I absolutely do not regret it. Some of the best experiences of my life and I look forward to more. I do not have an issue attaching to my current girl and we are down for other girls. I think the issue about not being able to attach to a future partner for people with high notch counts comes from an exceptionally painful and traumatic breakup. Where one person simply cannot get over the person "that got away" so to speak. This would make high N count people more likely to have that person…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:27 PM
1

Awesome. Question: Were you/Are you open to most guys(or girls?) hitting on you? DO you have a type? Are you the one initiating conversations with attractive people or are they? Just curious how most of these went down.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:05 PM
1

Lolz
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 04:05 PM
1

Nah, he's right, any man that wants to be a house husband is def pretty low value, no woman would respect him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 03:27 AM
1

So 10% of couples have a "house husband" living arrangement and are happy with it? I really doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 03:24 AM
0

That dosent mean that those relationships are good and that their women desire them greatly and are fucking their brains out. Ok fine its 99% true.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 03:13 AM
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No, that's very true. Men in marriages that do work and bring home the bacon still lose their wife's attraction because he becomes boring and there is no pre-selection, etc etc. Attraction would fall off super quick if the woman made all the money. She would end up resenting him subconsciously and start calling all the shots. Would end in cheating/divorce. The only exception would be if she was just ultra submissive and he somehow still maintained his frame. Anyways, no I wouldn't want to be fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 11:36 PM
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(no threat of her losing sexual attraction so long as you upheld your end) - not possible. A woman could never look up to a man that was a 'house husband'
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 11:29 PM
1

Ya exactly, money really can't buy you love(or lust)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:14 PM
2

Yes, makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:13 PM
1

Yea, and I'm saying that broke dudes that have game are more attractive to women than billionaires.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:00 PM
1

Some* women want to be a HIGH VALUE man's sidepiece*. And then eventually would prefer it if he just committed to them and remained high value. ​ But ya, "as a man who has his shit together would have too much attention and time divested toward his "purpose", and/or certain goals, hobbies, passions, and interests he has. They don't want to be the #1 most important thing of his life, they want to be 3rd or 4th on the list at best." 100% yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 04:22 PM
4

Lol wat?? I'm about to be a 36 year old man, and I've never had more options than I do now. My girl is the hottest girl I've ever had, and I could easily replace her with a hotter and younger woman. I make a goodly amount of money but wouldn't consider myself rich at all. In fact, my girl makes significantly more money than I do and pays for me a lot. Money does nothing to actually turn women on and make them attracted. It's all about charisma, social status, body language, height, looks, compet…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 04:18 PM
1

For what it's worth as a dude that has dated multiple women in the past. I never thought it was needy or unattractive if a girl texted me multiple times without me responding. Give it some time and then text, he will miss you at least a little for sure.
/r/seduction24/09/22 12:14 AM
4

He's probably dating multiple women at the moment, you could still text him again and see how it goes.
/r/seduction23/09/22 09:40 PM
5

Well to be honest, something that you did or behaviors that you exhibited turned him off and he didn't have the balls to tell you what it was. Or, more unlikely, his ex or another girl suddenly came back into the picture, so no time for you anymore. Or, super unlikely, he is a sociopath who enjoys hurting other people in this manner. Examine how the sex went, did he enjoy it? Are you sure he did? Examine other things that went down, were you showing red flags that are not conducive to a long ter…
/r/seduction23/09/22 09:04 PM
1

So there's this old concept called DHV, demonstrating higher value, that is key to being attractive to women. This comes in the form of well, being a man of high value. If you DHV in front of her or she hears about it through friends or social media or whatever. She will then be attracted to you despite whatever she thought of you prior. Women's feelings change moment to moment. But wtf does being high value ACTUALY MEAN? it depends on people's value sustem, but generally someone who is very ski…
/r/seduction20/09/22 04:45 AM
2

As far as how to keep it going with her, cuz I know that's what you want to know. Try to let her know very casually that you are seeing other women, and that you don't care at all about if you see her or not. This will get her interested in you again. Aside from that, it looks like she might just be done with you given that she didn't want to see you again last time you texted. Don't say this directly to her, but post stories on instagram or whatever social media you use where she'll see you, of…
/r/seduction16/09/22 06:11 PM
0

Absent father too Also, HUGGEEEE RED FLAG. I would not date any woman seriously or give a shit if she acted cold toward me if I knew she had serious daddy issues. Girls with absent fathers have serious issues that make them a huge liability for a serious relationship. Since you're posting on reddit about her you obviously have some feelings for her. Highly advise continuing only a casual sex relationship with her and not taking her seriously. Also now that know this this I guarantee you there is…
/r/seduction16/09/22 06:06 PM
2

lol it makes sense. She's most likely seeing another guy or guys that has caught her interest more than you. Don't say anything to her, wait for her to initiate and act aloof when she does contact you. Start dating other girls at the same time. Don't pay attention to her.
/r/seduction16/09/22 05:51 PM
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