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Imo that's a beautiful and unique thing to do, you just made that dudes day. Looks like he had some McDonald's and Old Crow out of the deal lmfao!
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 05:00 AM
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My children have been closer to me than ever before imo so I'm sorry you are going through this. If she truly is a Narc, eventually your daughter will come around. Something I noticed is it seems like my stbxw truly isn't the supermom she pretended to be now the disillusionment for me has set in. My oldest (11 years old) is comfortable at my house, only needs to do the basic chores I expect from him and I talk/treat him like the little man he is. He respects me, and I do him. My stbxw apparently…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 04:56 AM
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I feel this in my bones. I played with OLD and I was absolutely fucking floored by the amount of single moms. It's a epidemic now.
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 03:20 AM
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I had sex with my stbxw roughly less than a week before d day, and it was the most horrifying lay in hindsight I've ever had. She literally fucked her AP the night before, completely unprotected mind you, according to her messages I found later. I'd rather trust a common street whore in not giving me VD over that bitch. Luckily after some tests I'm clean, I intend to stay that way. Let her get herpes and God knows what else from that piece of shit. I'm sure the temptation to have your needs sate…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 07:25 AM
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I wish I would have known this to be true 11 years ago. I would have never married the stank biscuit. 100% correct in what you said.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 05:27 PM
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I actually fucking hope for this lmfao! After deep introspection and advice from others, what I had was FAR from fucking normal. I felt like meat in sex, a roommate at home, a wallet to pay for half the bills. All of this shit she accused me of, but really (and there is A LOT of shit that points to this) that's how she thought of ME! My problem too is I'll be blunt, I married my high-school sweetheart, and I thought I was happy doing so, despite all the bullshit. There absolutely were good and m…
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 05:58 AM
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Idk who did the video on YouTube, but they broke that shit down and explained the reasoning for it. It's hilarious but true.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 12:21 AM
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She hated beards as well. First thing I did was grow a nice short beard, I look fucking fantastic and get compliments all the time. I think there is something some women do as a control mechanism to purpose fully sabatoge their husband's, maybe a fear of them getting snagged by other women?
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 12:05 AM
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I actually eat clean pretty much by default, and don't weigh a stupid amount. She used to pile on carbs to any meal and I always tried to push for greens. Reason why she's barely lost any weight and I'm starting to feel my abs again. Don't miss that shit at all, and I'm not a health snob by any means, just like feeling like a Man again.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 12:03 AM
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I truly wish I could completely shut her out, but between kids and needing every edge I can get for court, it's almost impossible. I think once court is over, I'll be able to allow my wounds to heal and turn into scars. That's my hope anyway. I already don't care so much about her friends and potential lovers, but I do for the kids sake. She's got bad decision making skills, always has (not like I was some godlike mastermind, but I truly feel like I was her foundation and conscious for years), a…
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 06:17 PM
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I feel ya man, I really do. I've broached her possible mental illness (not really probable, I know she's got issues, but they are undiagnosed) to my therapist and I've learned most therapists avoid talking about that subject. She literally has all the traits of a covert narc, and yeah, I was too deep into the madness to see her true self. The gaslighting, hypochondriac stuff, attention seeking whenever she could get away from it, chronic off and on depression, really introverted but not (doesn't…
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 06:13 PM
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For what she did to me for years, I shouldn't have loved her, but for some reason I did. Sometimes I wish I had a heart of stone, be less vulnerable that way.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 05:46 PM
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I have yet to go to court, but I suspect that's when I'll hit a milestone. There are hints she's gonna try to accuse me of absolutely made up bullshit, because I actually have some damning evidence of all sorts of bad shit she's done, stuff that could seriously make her life troublesome. My lawyer is super confident that I'm gonna be fine, better than fine, and while we will see what happens, can't really disagree with him. I just thank God that I'm a fairly calm and rational person, and not a P…
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 05:44 PM
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I never checked out, I realize, the evidence of affair hit me like a dump truck. I'm still reeling from it all, I guess. She was my future and one real love. In hindsight, I realize she was toxic as hell in a lot of ways, but the good times really resonate in my mind. She never gave me a chance to grow into the man I needed to be, constantly in survival mode with just enough love to keep me sane. The respect, however, was never really there. Never got to truly relax and enjoy my life, enjoy my k…
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 05:39 PM
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I'm going to keep trying to find a local divorce group, almost all of them here seem church based and while that's not necessarily bad, it is when most are at weird mega churchs.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 05:23 PM
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This scares the hell out of me honestly. I know it will always be there, and I don't know how to compartmentalize it. I'm trying, to adjust to my new life riding solo with two kids (that I pray to God will be with me 50% of the time). I was a kid when we fell in love, went through a ton of hardships together, built something from nothing and she destroyed it all. In a way, I understand the divorce but the kids being weaponized, underhanded bullshit, smear campaign, and of course the absolutely r…
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 05:21 PM
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I think deep down I "want" an improved version of our marriage. Not wanting to get back together, not what we had before, but for me to fix my regrets (things I didn't do rather than done) and find the good times again. I also know that's complete bullshit, a fantasy. Even more messed up is I can't make sense of what it was that kept me going in the marriage. There were periods of good, sure, but more often not it was a mixture of bad and plain just humdrum bs. Guess my brain is still attempting…
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 05:13 PM
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I know nothing honestly if she is dating, I suspect she is. Her AP was a truly nasty dude who can't be around the kids legally and supposedly they aren't together. Don't believe her, but she's got a collection of dude "friends" on standby potentially, again who knows. I guess there is some jealousy if you can call it that, hell idk what to call it. What I do know is I don't really hate her, but I refuse to keep getting shit on. My kids deserve better than for them to be pawns in a game of bullsh…
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 05:06 PM
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Don't fucking do it! Don't let the words of some crazy bitch scramble your brain, your son needs you, you can make it! You are in a ton of pain, I get it, I was in a ton of pain, fuck I still am! My stbxw had a fucking affair with a dude who spent 5 years in jail for child porn, and my kids were around that motherfucker. She fucking gaslit me, emasculated me, fucking hated me because I was depressed from years of her fucking abuse. I got up to almost 400 lbs from eating like shit and the occasio…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 03:21 PM
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I'm 4 1/2 months into my messy divorce with a woman I was married with for over a decade. Do therapy, gym therapy, self care, try to get out of your comfort zone constantly, and fucking survive this. My stbxw exhibits cluster B personality disorder traits, and was a manipulative lying monster. I was told by someone close that's known her for about as long as I have that she could say a hundred things and everyone would be a lie. It fucking hurt to hear them say their unfiltered opinion on her an…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 03:08 PM
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Yeah, the cult of being a narcissistic bitch
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 04:45 PM
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Did the same man. Always tried to make sure my stbxw had the nicer vehicle for the kids sake if anything else. After the divorce, I'm buying what I want and I'll never do that shit again.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 08:30 PM
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One of the giant red flags with my STBXW was her stockpile of "Guy Friends" she had while retaining only a handful of female friends. Didn't mind it because we were married for so long and had kids, plus I trusted her. Boy was I wrong. Found out very recently she an affair with a dude who was the baby daddy to her guy friends sister. Can find more details about the dude in previous posts but this was some Jerry Springer level of bullshit. Now I'm sure she's trying to get dicked down by a few of …
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 10:18 PM
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It's not worth it man, as so many others pointed out. Was with my STBX wife for almost 16 years, married 9, and some of the best moments in my life with I shared with her. We built a life from practically nothing and had two sons together. Thought that even with problems, we could always endure the bullshit as one. Boy was I fucking wrong. After finding out that she had an affair for at least 4 months, I struggled hard to maintain ANY relationship with her, including some sort of friendship. Aft…
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 08:42 PM
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As far as I know, it was just one time prior to marriage and yeah, even in hindsight that should have been the end of it. The emotional cheating was after marriage and almost a decade later after marrying, the actual cheating. Probably could have stated that better in the op.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 12:46 PM
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My gut tells me she will never get better and probably worse. She's taken zero responsibility for her actions, and our whole family on both sides are appalled by it. I just hope she's stable enough for the kids sake, but I'm 100% done with her bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 08:38 PM
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Plan on doing so
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 02:45 PM
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