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Aw shit I’m sorry it manifests like that for you. I suppose being open and honest is good then, but just understand that as a woman with a disability (I refer to myself as disabled, but not everyone sees what they have as a disability or they prefer person first language, my bad here if I mess up) if a man can’t be considerate of what you’re going through in addition to everything else, then that man is dead weight - full stop. @actualblackmermaid on Instagram is super pro-FDS and talks about ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:37 AM
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Hey I have PTSD too, if I’m close to someone I just say that I’m feeling anxious, and then act like it isn’t a big deal. The moment you start apologizing profusely for having emotions (this only applies if you weren’t abusive or awful) you open yourself up to ableism :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 02:30 PM
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most men do not feel shame in the same way that we do as they’re socialized not to, so there’s nothing to create a negative feedback loop with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:00 AM
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I get it!!! You could help introduce him to cultural things. That might help make it even.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 10:36 PM
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Hi, I’m from a racist hometown. He needs to be active in his anti-racism at a level that is beyond “oh hey don’t do that”. He needs to actively unpack, and continue to unpack, policing in his town, land recognition, consumerism, racist rhetoric, military glorification, his education, waste disposal in the area and more. He needs to BE working on that. Im sure he loves you a lot, but he needs to understand that there isn’t a reality where he can sweep things under the rug and be a moral person. A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 09:10 PM
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Ew this was all over my Facebook. I really don’t have time for men that, who have an entire system stacked in their favor in literally every country, can’t support themselves and me. It’s not even that I need it, I just don’t have time for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 11:17 AM
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Hey thank you a lot for this - I’ll check that book out. Any other tips for PMDD?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:35 AM
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He’s conflicted and also it’s a power thing. I would let this one go. It’s not in the rule book but if he’s the one y’all will grow separately in the right directions and it’ll work. How it is now? Nope :( I’m sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:48 AM
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okkk can we pin this please?? I’ve been so nervous about newcomers to this sub getting it twisted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:12 AM
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yup yup yup. This 300%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:36 AM
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too quick :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 11:18 PM
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Proposal: we put this man on a jet and send him directly into space
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:43 PM
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He doesn’t respect that if he tried to negotiate your boundaries. Nexttttt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:20 AM
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OMG!!! he MESSAGED me and was like “you seem decent, stay away from FDS.” Like, shit, thank you for saving me from almost losing your approval 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 05:01 AM
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I would look into any doula groups within your community - they should be able to provide you with proper training. I would NOT recommend doing a quick online training, as a lot of hospitals have groups they already prefer to work with. Not able to support myself with this type of doula work, but I know doulas who do quite well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:31 PM
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It might! I think the benefit of providing emotional care to humans is that you create this very clear “No, stop, I have to maintain space to take care of my clients/patients and myself” towards any fuckery you come across. Some people naturally have that barrier, I’ve had to build it. Maybe fostering and working in a shelter would be a combo that would go well! I’m sure fostering by itself had a lot of subtle benefits to you, like routine/mood/companionship :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:04 AM
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Oh my goodness I’m trying to imagine that. Just for clarification for you/anyone else: An abortion and loss doula provides emotional support for those looking to get an abortion, or those who have experienced a miscarriage. I got into it because I’m into supporting reproductive health, and then discovered that as I did doula work I stopped doting on and spoiling people who were highkey toxic for me. 10/10 would recommended getting needs met via friends/volunteering
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 04:45 AM
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My favorite response is to get all clingy out of no where and kill the feeling of a chase 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 04:29 AM
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We aren't together, we tried being friends but feelings got in the way on and off on both sides. I suppose the best thing to do is to just accept that it's a no as of right now and leave it alone. Thank you, though :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:49 PM
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Absolutely. Your time is precious, and there’s no shame in being curious/strategy. Maybe screen guys based on how well they take care of themselves until you get a better sense of where you think you’re at, or until it doesn’t bother you anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 03:37 PM
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I honestly wouldn’t bother with that. It isn’t healthy to place yourself of a scale that is built on systematic oppression of women and people of color. That being said - what you can do instead of worrying is care for yourself. Exercise, eat well, spend time with people you love, focus on skincare and nourishing yourself. That’s what makes someone beautiful. You’ll naturally attract whatever your “level” is when you put out that vibe. This being said - if you are interested in looksmaxxing and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 03:13 PM
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hey I looked up how to send fake mailer-daemons so he thinks that you no longer have that email. Whenever he messages you, which he'll probably try 2 or 3 more times and then be gone forever, do this (obvi PLEASE try it with a friends email first) - "Here's how you do it: 1. Hit Reply. 2. Edit the subject line by adding the words DELIVERY FAILURE: ahead of the original. 3. At the top of the body, simply paste in the quoted text below. 4. Enjoy your life."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:09 AM
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Oh I went to the thing he said to google, not sure if that’s his actual post or not. Still, fucking terrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 02:55 AM
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I looked up his profile and can we talk about the fact that it looks like he took a nude photo of her WITHOUT her permission??? like dude, really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 02:49 AM
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Ok true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 01:30 AM
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Nah I date women and I'm exhausted with having to be friends with my exes, and my exes exes. The dating pool is too small to not be civil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 12:03 AM
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I haven’t built a marriage or LTR from FDS but: keep that same energy - meaning, continue to take care of yourself, enrich your own life, etc. If he’s worth shit you nurturing you will keep only benefit whatever dynamic you have
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 08:11 AM
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First off take a minute and cut yourself some slack. It seems like you have a lot of environmental factors playing into this exacerbated by this garbage fire of a human being. Second, I’d focus on stabilizing your situation. Proper eating times, the right food, sunlight is major key here. Throw yourself into finding employment - maybe you could grab a temp job. I’ve been there. I once had a really traumatic break up with someone the same week a friend died and my cat fell out of a window. I was,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 07:28 AM
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Ah, I didn’t read fully. OP, I know this is really hard when you love someone, but your gut impulse drove you to post in this forum. This dynamic has a lot of red flags, and even if he does magically shape up momentarily, it won’t satisfy you nor will that trust be regained fully. Do what’s good for you and you only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 11:32 PM
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Girl, that’s not your man. Are you aware of any of his friends?? The only way I see this being not shady is if he has actually 0 friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 09:57 PM
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Ah! Yes! So proud of you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 11:58 PM
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Wowwww thank you so much for this. Having the exact language to describe an oppressive experience/dynamic is incredibly important. Thank you thank you thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:26 PM
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Finish university Develop a healthy relationship with my body Continue to paint/write Build my freelancing portfolio Stay in my bag Continue to work on my mental health
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 08:16 AM
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