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It's a long read, but this guy handled it perfectly. She returns from the bathroom, sits beside me, and immediately says "Are you a virgin?" I reply "Wanna find out?" she says "Just tell me." without hesitating I say "Yep" like it's not a big deal.
/r/seduction16/07/13 06:07 PM
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Girls working as a cashier and hairdressers. How do I do this? I'm pretty sure that picking up your stylist while she's working is VERY difficult. I've had many. Every one a very attractive female. Their job involves lots of emotional and physical intimacy. They know this and can remain unattached since it's their job. Unless you bump into one at a more typical 'pick up' situation, that's a different situation.
/r/seduction16/07/13 06:01 PM
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Have this attitude- "This is strange, but I'm going to roll with it." It will really help you out. You like this girl, you liked the family, but bailed for some reason anyway? You really need to learn in these situations to focus on how you can achieve a positive outcome. When the voice in your head starts telling you "This isn't going right; time to bail" figure out how to get it to shut up.
/r/seduction16/07/13 05:55 PM
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She returns from the bathroom, sits beside me, and immediately says "Are you a virgin?" I reply "Wanna find out?" she says "Just tell me." without hesitating I say "Yep" like it's not a big deal. This my friends, is exactly the right way to handle the "I'm a virgin" question. Well done, well done.
/r/seduction16/07/13 05:15 PM
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You know how someone will make a really bold statement/question? The other person will have some crazy reaction like "Holy crap what did you just say?" Then the first person gets all weird and laughs or pretends it was a joke or something. Don't do that.
/r/seduction16/07/13 05:01 PM
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Those are the people who should wear wayfarers. Some people can pull off aviators.
/r/seduction15/07/13 01:37 PM
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I was on the other end of the 'getting glowstick splashed in the eye' I felt really bad because my friend was screaming. A lot.
/r/seduction11/07/13 05:08 PM
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Everyone here is bagging on t-shirts. I'm going to share my opinion expecting some feedback. When you're wearing a shirt/tie, ALWAYS wear a t-shirt. It fills out the shirt, makes the color look correct and helps with your sweat. If you're wearing a shirt that you could wear a tie with, still wear the t-shirt. Shirts with buttons on the collars are not for wearing ties. Still wear a t-shirt. If you're going to wear the color open as appropriate with this kind of shirt, get a v-neck. If you're wea…
/r/seduction10/07/13 07:01 PM
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You can never go wrong with Wayfarers or Aviators. Properly fitted of course and reasonably professional.
/r/seduction10/07/13 06:49 PM
3

You should always wear a t-shirt under an 'office' shirt.
/r/seduction10/07/13 06:48 PM
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"I'm finally off night shift next week, you should come join me for a drink to celebrate." Change that to "Come join some friends and I for a party"
/r/seduction10/07/13 05:23 PM
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OP may have posted some pretty bad advice. But he did get a great discussion going with lots of good comments and solid examples. The thread deserves upvotes because of that.
/r/seduction10/07/13 04:21 PM
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Really only one rule - don't stare at their breasts. That's a scarcity behavior. This. You're going to have to work really hard at this. I'd even go so far as to position myself so I'm not really able to see them. Like sit next to her instead of in front. Spend some time just looking at how things are on that beach. If you're from the US and this sort of thing is uncommon to you, you'll have to really research what's appropriate there. Have fun in Spain. I spent a week in Fuengirola a few years …
/r/seduction10/07/13 04:08 PM
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This is really good general advice, but not applicable to this particular case.
/r/seduction10/07/13 02:02 PM
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Yeah, I noticed that.
/r/seduction10/07/13 01:45 PM
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That stuff isn't dangerous. Just keep it out of your eyes. That's when it gets unpleasant.
/r/seduction10/07/13 01:26 PM
2

Can we please stop using it? I've never liked it and never used it. I'd much prefer something more general that takes into account that these HB's are actual people. Lots of good discussion here on the original purpose, utility and "correct" usage of the HB system. I think many commenters have good points on those topics. It doesn't matter what it's supposed to be. This system has become something else- objectification. To the untrained eye, saying "I was gaming an HB8" just sounds not at all li…
/r/seduction09/07/13 02:18 PM
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I've never really used it. Instead I just name them something relative. At least it's much less dehumanizing.
/r/seduction08/07/13 09:46 PM
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Just slightly more than a peck.
/r/seduction15/02/13 01:50 PM
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I completely disagree. The vast majority of guys are clueless and racked with approach anxiety. Going out and appearing available only attracts the few guys who actually can manage a pick up. She has seen it doesn't work in her case so she needs to take action. There's nothing wrong with a girl approaching guys.
/r/seduction14/02/13 10:09 PM
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Ever since the day you were born, you've learned things. You learned how to chew your food, roll over, walk,use the toilet, ride a bike, read, and type. Sometimes you just figure it out and others you get some sort of training. It might be another person shows you or you read a book. The point is: It's totally ok to read a book about how to pickup. It's something you want to learn so you study it. It's no different than if you wanted to learn to code, you'd read a book about computer programming…
/r/seduction14/02/13 04:28 PM
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Look her in the eyes, smile softly and give her another quick closed mouth kiss and continue on.
/r/seduction14/02/13 04:23 PM
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I think your screw-ups are relatively minor here. That's the thing with saying you can't stay long is that you actually have to leave. I've had that problem too.
/r/seduction14/02/13 04:20 PM
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You did everything right, just need to get her out with you. Keep it up and you're set.
/r/seduction13/02/13 08:19 PM
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"you really pull that hairnet off nicely." This is awesome. You're on the right track with it. Just keep working and maintain this attitude and you're get better quickly.
/r/seduction13/02/13 08:04 PM
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She's texting you because she wants conversation. That's a good thing. Don't go crazy with it but certainly respond. Ultimately you should ask her out.
/r/seduction13/02/13 08:01 PM
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IMO, those are slightly on the lame side.
/r/seduction13/02/13 07:59 PM
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The generally accepted tactic on flakes is to just drop it if she flakes with no or a lame excuse. If she has a good excuse, give her another chance. If she reschedules on you, then go for that.
/r/seduction13/02/13 07:06 PM
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Everyone is in the same boat. (pun intended) They're all there to have fun, and nobody knows anyone else. People are much more receptive to just talking to anybody.
/r/seduction13/02/13 07:04 PM
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"hey I'm coming to pick you up at yyy time" (the day of) This is the greatly preferred method. If you already have a commitment to the date then early the day of should be sufficient.
/r/seduction13/02/13 05:11 PM
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The conversation should go something like this: "Hey, let's hang out. "ok" "Cool, give me your number and I'll get you the details" "ok" "I'm going to xxx place at yyy day/time. I'll pick you up" "great"
/r/seduction13/02/13 04:56 PM
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"Hey, let's hang out"
/r/seduction12/02/13 08:54 PM
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Just saying it direct can work. Get your kino, eye contact and confidence right and see what comes of it.
/r/seduction12/02/13 08:41 PM
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You've made a good start. Now you have to bring in step two. Add in a DHV story and keep doing it until you're equally good. Then, step three.
/r/seduction12/02/13 08:38 PM
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You have been really successful talking with this girl in person. You've developed physical comfort as well. I'm going to say you should continue with that success. Get a date where the two of you can have some alone time. Don't suddenly play the slow game with her. At least not yet.
/r/seduction12/02/13 07:09 PM
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Can someone rehost this on imgur for those of us behind firewalls?
/r/seduction12/02/13 07:04 PM
2

Eye contact!
/r/seduction11/02/13 10:03 PM
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She sounds Asian to me. Anyway, get her number, but be sly about it. You're going to have to do it in a way where it's kinda private between the two of you. If it's too 'out in the open' then she'll be weird about it.
/r/seduction11/02/13 10:03 PM
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The one bad apple always ruins the bunch. Plus, what that guy said, I'm not sure I could come up with a situation and proper frame where that would ever work. Really it's the same for any skill. You start off bad at it and (hopefully) get better.
/r/seduction11/02/13 09:43 PM
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The "Friend Zone" is where a guy puts himself, not the other way around. It's his way of expression the results of the female's decision. It's easy to blame the girl instead of taking responsibility that it was his fault. Let's look at what Friend Zone usually means. A guy will do all those things they think they're supposed to do to make the girl like them. They've been fed this whole meal of ideas like 'Just be yourself,' or 'treat her nice and she'll love you for it,' or 'do whatever she want…
/r/seduction08/02/13 10:50 PM
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I haven't hooked up with an ex very much, but each time it was amazing. Nobody had even touched her in a long time so when I hugged her it was game on. It can result in some disasters too. She's your ex for a reason. That reason may not apply anymore or it might. Just be careful. It's easy to get your feelings wrapped back up in that relationship instead of focusing on others.
/r/seduction08/02/13 08:29 PM
2

Just make something up. Maybe use your initials?
/r/seduction08/02/13 08:24 PM
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It's absolutely normal. It's uncommon because so many guys are just afraid of it. Thus you learned that it may not be normal. You must unlearn what you have learned.
/r/seduction08/02/13 07:46 PM
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You just do it. Girls know what's going to happen when they put themselves in situations where sex would be a natural outcome. They do that on purpose. If a girl is making out with you, putting her hands on you, squirming around a bit, especially her hips and feet, then she's down for it. You can basically use any tactics you want in transitioning from making out to fucking. Start moving ahead with your tactical plan and you'll be fine. The only thing stopping you is you. Don't rape the girl, of…
/r/seduction08/02/13 07:39 PM
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..even though my success rate will vanish. That's your problem. You truly believe that you don't "deserve" more attractive women. I understand the desire to put effort where you see the best odds for results, but you have to change that way of thinking. Women desire you. Pretty girls don't really have significantly different sexual cues than ugly ones. Don't evaluate your success potential based on the looks of the target.
/r/seduction08/02/13 07:32 PM
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This girl has the potential to get you so laid. I had a friend who mostly lesbian. She could get a girl's number easy. All that cheesy shit guys say to girls completely worked for her. Anyway... Hang out with her more. She's amazingly effective social proof and obviously not shy about helping you out. She can bring you girls no matter where you are.
/r/seduction08/02/13 07:23 PM
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I'm going to go back and make some notes when I get a chance.
/r/seduction06/02/13 05:32 PM
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That's because women don't really understand what they actually find attractive. 'Tall, dark and handsome' just their way of expressing 'confident, capable, mysterious, and attractive to other women.'
/r/seduction31/01/13 09:49 PM
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I prefer to call it Nightmare Difficulty
/r/seduction31/01/13 09:46 PM
2

People asking ME for pointers? The biggest confidence boost you'll ever get. "Boy, I'm on the shot. Please, just plow me" The most arousing red flag I've ever heard. I've heard it before too. It didn't end up well.
/r/seduction31/01/13 09:13 PM
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If you've only been on say two dates with a girl and you're not looking for an actual relationship, then this would work against that goal. Long conversations are BF/GF kinds of things. If you've been on two dates and are interested in a relationship, this could kill attraction and make you seem needy. If she's not sure what she thinks of you yet, it's a gamble because you could say something to turn her off. If you're at the point where you really want to get to know her more in depth, then thi…
/r/seduction29/01/13 07:32 PM
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It's really hard to have a meaningful conversation through text. I recommend against it. Calling a girl you've been on a few dates with to just talk for a while could work either way. You'll have to decide if your situation makes that a good idea. Have you been on more than a few dates? Does she genuinely like you? Do you feel the same? Are you looking for an actual relationship? Is she?
/r/seduction29/01/13 06:54 PM
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I've done it twice in a cemetery, once outside just off the side of the interstate, the Victoria's Secret dressing room, a Macy's dressing room. and in a hotel room with my parents on the next bed.
/r/seduction29/01/13 04:33 PM
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Those damn Argonians. So hard to read!
/r/seduction29/01/13 03:21 PM
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Either way, she's there and you get her number or you don't. She's not an enemy army that you want to push out of their positions to attack. She's just a girl. If she's working, hopefully it's not busy. Just chat for a minute, say, "Give me your number," chat some more, and leave. Text her as soon as you leave. "Wow, I just walked up to this sexy bartender and she gave me her number. I hope she doesn't expect me to put out on the first date."
/r/seduction24/01/13 07:11 PM
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She saved you the trouble, which worked out for you this time. You do need to be more up-front about it so it won't become an issue next time. There's no shame in being a virgin. Virginity doesn't mean anything anyway. If it's causing you anxiety, then acknowledge it and move on.
/r/seduction24/01/13 05:08 PM
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Thanks. I did engage both girls and their other friend when she showed up. Asking the one if I can talk to the other is great. I'll have to remember it for next time. This place was so loud that talking wasn't really an option. Though it would have been great much later for "Let's go some place more quiet."
/r/seduction23/01/13 10:23 PM
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Thanks. One thing, I have absolutely zero problem assuming attraction. In fact I just assume too much attraction. I escalated, not the way I would have liked, but still some. The whole interaction wasn't very long
/r/seduction23/01/13 08:33 PM
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Thanks, feel much better now. It was however, a REALLY LAME kiss. In nearly all situations, buying a girl drinks is a bad idea. However if it's her birthday, well, I was just an ass.
/r/seduction23/01/13 08:02 PM
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You could get all science nerd and watch him and note his behavior. Then ask him. "I saw you do ... Tell me about it." I would have no problem explaining it to any of my friends.
/r/seduction23/01/13 04:16 PM
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If you all are going to be in a group of friends, please be under the radar when flirting with her, and especially getting her alone. It will make all your friends really uncomfortable if you come on too strong right in front of them. Do some easy and quick isolations and some secret kino. You want to be touching her in an unambiguously sexual way, and one where it doesn't look like anything to anyone else.
/r/seduction23/01/13 02:30 PM
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You got a girl to come with you...for 3 days...I would be really proud of myself. This is so true. So many of us think that success means "I got laid" and that's the only way to look at it. We need to realize that getting laid is a string of several successes and start acknowledging those when they happen.
/r/seduction23/01/13 02:28 PM
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Sounds to me like you're just nervous about doing the actual deed. She is giving you the benefit of the doubt by coming back again. That's a GREAT sign. Girls want sex and this one wants you. I hope you've talked about your upbringing some, especially to mention you were focused so much on school that you never really had opportunities until now. If she understands that, then you really need to tell her you're a virgin. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed, just very factual about it. She'll understa…
/r/seduction23/01/13 02:24 PM
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Glad I could help. I too missed many of them and wondered about it later.
/r/seduction23/01/13 01:59 PM
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Bad thing is it's so painfully obvious how you blew it when you finally see it. Good thing is now you know what's going on.
/r/seduction22/01/13 10:11 PM
4

Haters gotta hate, Lovers wanna love, I don't even want, None of the above, I want to piss on you. --R. Kelly
/r/seduction22/01/13 04:15 PM
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And you handled it perfectly. Well done.
/r/seduction22/01/13 04:14 PM
1

Try this. Go to a club somewhere wearing something like you just came from a elementary school party. Tell EVERY girl you meet, "Hey, it's my birthday. Give me a kiss."
/r/seduction22/01/13 04:11 PM
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I've told girls they look like someone before. It's often failed for me. The times it failed were generally like this, "Hey, you look like my friend sally." "OMG! I hate that girl so much! How could you say that! She's such a bitch..." When it's worked it went like this, "Do people ever tell you how you look like someone." "No." "Really because you look so much like Zooey Deschanel." "Wow, she's so pretty. Thanks!" Or, if I think she's heard it a million times, "When random guys come up to you a…
/r/seduction22/01/13 04:08 PM
2

My roommate brought two girls home from the Waffle House. Lisa and Jenna. He's actually into Jenna and Lisa is just hanging around. I walk in a bit later sit on the couch and completely ignore all of them. Next night, I'm off watching Kung-Fu movies with another friend. Lisa and Jenna show up. Much later roommate calls and says "Hey, where are you, those girls are here and Lisa asked about you." I respond, "I'll be home when the movie's over." Two hours later I show up and sit on the couch right…
/r/seduction22/01/13 03:07 PM
1

Get her to lean across the bar so you can talk into her ear. Then, just kiss her.
/r/seduction22/01/13 02:52 PM
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I have my entire stack on my phone. Share this.
/r/seduction22/01/13 02:39 PM
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This is some good shit. Would have been useful this past weekend too. Maybe next time.
/r/seduction22/01/13 02:35 PM
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I really hope you got that girl's number. Sounds like she would have given it to you easy. I wouldn't go to her bar to run game on her. Stop in, maybe have one drink, get her number and say "I'm out with my friends right now. Let's meet up in a day or two."
/r/seduction22/01/13 02:33 PM
1

Part of me would initially be very turned off. Then I'd think about it a minute and expect you to be amazing in bed.
/r/seduction22/01/13 01:59 PM
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Will do.
/r/seduction22/01/13 01:59 PM
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You lead by example and set up each situation so that he would succeed. You created the tone for each setting, which allowed him and his girl to get where he wanted to go. Good for you. Create situations where actions are expected or where they are completely normal and things go a lot better.
/r/seduction18/01/13 09:12 PM
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If your dorky friends are hurting their game, then talk them into helping it. They can learn the same things that you have. Show them how. You can always put your group on pause, go say hi to some girls using the "just hanging with some friends to night" line as a time constraint and disqualification.
/r/seduction18/01/13 09:07 PM
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Richard La Ruina's video has lots of good info on how to use nonverbal communication for this situation.
/r/seduction18/01/13 09:04 PM
1

If a girl says she has a BF, I generally ignore it until she get insistent about it. Then I believe her and drop it. Either she does have one and isn't open to you or she's really standing strong about not wanting you. Both ways it's not going to work.
/r/seduction18/01/13 08:58 PM
1

Moving to a larger place where you don't know anyone can make it really hard to find a new social circle. Most of the people you meet initially will be co-workers. They can be difficult because they already have their lives going and not so much space for another friend. Certainly try to make guy friends and move on from there. You could always try to throw a housewarming party. Print out invitations and give them to everyone you meet. Just walk up to every girl you see and say, hey, I'm having …
/r/seduction18/01/13 08:57 PM
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Dude, this has to be dead right. I had an opportunity for a MMFF long ago and totally screwed it up by doing everything you said not to. I ruined another MFF the same way. Neil Strauss has the Dual Induction Massage technique to get a three way which seemed ok at the time. Your method just sounds so much better. Hope I get a chance to try it out.
/r/seduction18/01/13 08:52 PM
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Yeah, I guess the numbered list didn't work out that time.
/r/seduction18/01/13 02:05 PM
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NP. It's much less intimidating if you have a plan and focus on small chunking the steps and goals.
/r/seduction17/01/13 10:12 PM
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I can't recall off the top of my head. It's been updated with some new examples and new content. I just don't like it because it sounds so "updated" and they removed the classic nature of it. That book was written in the time of Standard Oil, and the original US Corporate giants. The update is the equivalent of editing Star Wars to make Greedo shoot first.
/r/seduction17/01/13 09:57 PM
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You know what I love here? That someone can come here, write a long "My life sucks so bad, I'll never become anything" posts and get 133 responses saying "No, no. I did it. It's hard put possible. You just have to try." It's so amazingly positive and encouraging. I eventually learned all the troubles I had meeting girls were in my head. So, my life is set on Nightmare Difficulty and you're playing on Inferno. It's still possible. In fact, you know it's possible because it happened to you at some…
/r/seduction17/01/13 09:47 PM
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Dude, that book is coming up on 100 years old. It's bound to be outdated in example. In theory it still stand strong I believe. Remember it's about making friends and being social, not picking up girls. Ok, so remembering birthdays isn't as big a deal as it used to be. That being said, you should remember something significant about that person that you can recall later. You really should re-look your "i have higher value than those guys" ideas. They're not helpful and make you sound like an ass…
/r/seduction17/01/13 09:22 PM
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When I was in the theatre, we used to do these exercises before going on stage. They really got your energy up and work wonders for me still. I'm at the point now that whenever I'm about to "go on," I just have so much energy I can't even stand still. Basically what they were: 1. A few body relaxation exercises. 1. Some focused, diaphragmatic breathing while concentrating on each breath. 1. Then you'd essentially jump around a lot, shake your hand and arms and make some crazy loud noises.
/r/seduction17/01/13 09:15 PM
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I'll give you that, it is pretty lame. However it's enough to stand out in a crowd of etruscan helmet haircuts and backwards ball caps.
/r/seduction17/01/13 01:49 PM
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This advice is really aimed at the college kid who is wearing: an "ironic" t-shirt, dirty cut-off cargo shorts, and ratty flip flops. As cheesy as it sounds, it has to be better than that.
/r/seduction16/01/13 10:14 PM
1

If by awesome you mean it has wolves howling at the moon, then no, they are bringing pussy right to you!
/r/seduction15/01/13 06:56 PM
4

Don't wait. Do it now.
/r/seduction15/01/13 04:37 PM
1

We built up a good attraction for each other and there is sexual attraction towards each other. You must do something about this. It'll die if you just leave it. You need to ask her out on a proper date and develop a relationship with her.
/r/seduction15/01/13 04:21 PM
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I never want to be option number 2. ... she'd know I'm lying. This is a good way to stand up for yourself. I like it. If you really believe it, then it's not a lie. Say it and mean it. I knew from our first sushi date that you were never interested Say something like "I realized we're not really into each other." instead. You can sorta be my wing woman next time we go out. This is good too. Not sure I'd phrase it like this but you're on the right track. Thus my response from your options would b…
/r/seduction15/01/13 03:38 PM
2

I've noticed lots of people avoid eye contact. There's so many people who never get any that they don't even try anymore. Make an effort to look these people in the eye if only to say "thanks." Cashiers, bartenders, shop people etc. Those are the best ones to start on. Eventually you'll start noticing people doing it to you more.
/r/seduction15/01/13 03:26 PM
1

I'm going to second the idea of LMR or even ASD. There's also the chance that "no guy has ever been as nice as I am to her" means friendzone. Really I wouldn't do anything different. Escalate normally except when you're getting really into a make out or something say things like "I wanted to take it slow"
/r/seduction15/01/13 03:24 PM
2

I've never been able to bring a girl "home" A while ago, I was like this too. I was so embarrassed that I liked girls. I didn't tell my parents that I had a GF or was talking to girls. I don't really know why I felt that was exactly. Maybe it was because we just don't talk about stuff in my family; maybe it was because my family/religion etc made me feel like it's wrong to want sex. Eventually I just gave up on it. I still didn't tell my family much but I started to believe that it didn't really…
/r/seduction15/01/13 03:20 PM
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I told him that i'd actually been working with one pretty intensely for years, and that I'm proud of the leaps I've made in my ability to communicate. First off, this is amazing. You really know what it takes to learn something difficult and have the determination to stick with it. I can't possibly have any understanding of your situation or what you're going through. That said, I do know that coach just wasn't able to work with you because he didn't know how. People don't like admitting their l…
/r/seduction15/01/13 03:11 PM
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I text her almost right away. Something like "I just met this cute girl. I hope she's not disappointed that I don't put out on the first date."
/r/seduction15/01/13 03:03 PM
1

Just look her in the eye and kiss her. Don't make it seem more intimidating than it is.
/r/seduction11/01/13 10:08 PM
2

"I'll get the second round, you get this one."
/r/seduction11/01/13 09:53 PM
1

Well, the slutty girls part was mostly a joke. But I'll check that place out.
/r/seduction11/01/13 09:44 PM
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they both go to the washroom. And we pushed their table away. Fucking awesome.
/r/seduction11/01/13 09:14 PM
1

A variation on the Apocalypse Opener of sorts.
/r/seduction11/01/13 06:34 PM
1

A variation on the Apocalypse Opener of sorts.
/r/seduction11/01/13 06:33 PM
1

Man, you really did good with this one.
/r/seduction11/01/13 06:31 PM
1

You have to use your left hand. Just reach around and pinch the clasps and slide them apart with your fingers.
/r/seduction10/01/13 02:59 PM
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I likely would have been successful with "Hey, stand up."
/r/seduction08/01/13 10:42 PM
1

In that particular situation she was joining the group by sitting there. She was already friends with some of the other people I was with but she just sat there and kinda camped out. I should have just gotten her more involved in the situation. I just locked up when it came to how to get her off that stool so I could "lock-in" as I had been previously.
/r/seduction08/01/13 10:42 PM
2

What u/cheeseblockz is saying is pretty much what I meant. I just worded it poorly. Go to the party and work your normal game with her. Take lots of breaks from her to talk to other girls. You can do Push/Pull this way. Push her away by breaking contact with her. Pull her back when you meet back up again.
/r/seduction08/01/13 10:39 PM
0

The same way you would with any other girl.
/r/seduction08/01/13 06:38 PM
2

Of all the advice on how to hide your shit, I think truecrypt is probably the best option. I'm sure you can figure it out. If not, there's youtube. Easier wold be to just put all that stuff on a Flash Drive or external HDD. Stick it in the drawer somewhere and leave it alone. From another point of view, don't be so quick to sanitize your PC. I don't think most girls these days expect you to never watch porn or have pictures of old GFs. It's probably ok to have pictures of you with different attr…
/r/seduction08/01/13 06:37 PM
15

Just go around to all the groups of people and introduce yourself. Chat for a minute, and then split. You're not hitting on anyone at this point; just making friends. After you've met most everyone you don't have to do cold openings anymore. Also, everyone will assume you're doing that same thing to everyone else and it won't be like you're that guy.
/r/seduction08/01/13 06:26 PM
2

I'm standing on the inside corner of an "L" shaped bar. I have some friends I met on both sides of me and I'm in the middle. I'm standing because sitting down makes me boring. A girl I want to game sits at the stool right in the corner of the "L." How do I get her off the barstool so I can engage and bring her into the rest of the group?
/r/seduction08/01/13 06:16 PM
1

If you're getting it "wrong" then you're doing it wrong. There's something you aren't aware of probably in the presentation that you are screwing it up. Some of it just comes from knowing what to say. Also, as you meet more people, you'll find that people in/from certain situations have similar traits. I won't just do the cold read right away. I take a few minutes to get to know the person first. Then you can pick up on some of these clues.
/r/seduction07/01/13 09:18 PM
1

I think her reaction, while not following the same script, had the same as your intention. She believed she could turn you down romantically but you'd still be interested in her enough to follow her around. She wanted you to still flirt with her because it makes her feel good, but also didn't want to expend any effort. What you did was show her that you're not going to be her little "follower" who would boost her ego just because. You threw her whole concept into disarray and she's not sure what…
/r/seduction07/01/13 05:01 PM
2

This is some good shit too. Have to use it soon.
/r/seduction07/01/13 02:08 PM
1

walking behind them, ... slowly peeking at them Yeah, that's creepy. I pull up a chair and just say "Good evening ladies!" I like "Wow, this placed is packed. I'm going to sit here with you girls." I think this is evidence that what you say doesn't really matter that much. You were confident, funny and had a good exit. gl;hf
/r/seduction04/01/13 04:02 PM
1

You're hung up on one girl. Stop with the subtle hints. Take obvious actions.
/r/seduction04/01/13 03:58 PM
1

You're friends are the ones being crazy. You're doing it right. Make sure to throw in a "my girlfriend used to ..." so there's no ambiguity about your sexuality. That's the only thing that would make someone else uncomfortable. From what you said, it sounds like you are well on your way to having instant and tremendous social proof in that bar. I'd keep it up.
/r/seduction04/01/13 03:25 PM
51

I send her a text the next day I like to send her a text within a few minutes. Bring up something relevant, or keep it fun. My standard line is "Hey, some girl just gave me her number. I hope she knows I don't put out on the first date." Use nick names or something as an emotional trigger I like this too. I'll just pick something really silly that sounds like something a second grader would say. You really have to stop drinking. If you're drinking, the you won't be able to learn anything because…
/r/seduction04/01/13 03:22 PM
2

If you're cool with the kid, the mother will follow. Mothers are very proud of their kids. They also have a different mindset than single girls. They are focused on providing for the family and putting that kid first.
/r/seduction04/01/13 03:18 PM
1

You'll have to make an ethics call if this is a situation you want to exploit or not. "Damaged" girls like this can be lots of fun. Except they don't know how to have fun anymore. So, you have to show her a fun time. If it's been enough time, she's probably lonely because nobody has even hugged her in months. She'll desire human contact. So give it to her. If you get friendzoned, that's cool. Remember you have good social proof and you can get that endorsement, "Hey, my friend mathrix really hel…
/r/seduction03/01/13 07:59 PM
-2

"Man, that sucks. We'll try another time." Give her another shot if you think it's legit and see what happens. If she blows you off, then move on.
/r/seduction03/01/13 07:56 PM
1

It crushed me a lot ... It sucks; we only lasted a few months but I regret nothing. This is your big takeaway here. It's hard not to feel crushed, especially when it's your first real girlfriend. What you can tell yourself now is that you got this girl: "She was pretty, tall, great T&A, great in bed, smart and funny" You're the sort of guy who can score awesome girls! You got one, you know how you did it and now you know better how to keep her. You can do it again.
/r/seduction02/01/13 03:17 PM
2

stroking arm/hand/leg just does not feel right It feels weird because you're making it weird. You can't be timid about it. I've had lots of luck just picking up her hand and holding it by interlocking fingers. Resting your hand on the thigh is great; it's unambiguous. If you do it like it's totally natural then you're good.
/r/seduction02/01/13 03:07 PM
1

Best to do all this when the place isn't busy. Evenings early in the week work well as to a bit later in the night. First you have to get recognized. Just going to the same place frequently is the big part of it. Bringing in groups often will also get you recognized. I used to go to this Mexican place A LOT. I'd be in there at least 5 times a month. Every week, I'd bring in between 4 and 6 friends from school for "study group." Second you just start conversations with them. Ask them about themse…
/r/seduction02/01/13 02:58 PM
1

This whole thing may just be a difference of style. As mine appears different than yours. You very much CAN dive in the way this guy did. I'll give you that, in the way that anything is possible in the right situation and with the right attitude. What I was more saying is that if you're cuddling on the couch and haven't kissed or anything yet, you just can't go sticking your hands down her pants. You have to turn her on to the point where she puts her hands in your pants or puts your hands in he…
/r/seduction28/12/12 10:04 PM
1

I finally figured it out when I got a pair of engineer boots. They're not "real" motorcycle boots because of the heel height and shape, but they do make you walk with much more presence.
/r/seduction28/12/12 03:25 PM
1

Maybe I'm depressed, or stressed or both. This is probably it. What you're feeling seems like an indicator of a larger problem. That's been my experience at least.
/r/seduction28/12/12 03:12 PM
8

FYI, this is the first person I have ever cuddled with Score! That's amazing man. I remember mine. I had no idea what to do so we just held hands and looked into each other's eyes. big mistake - Didn't kiss her True. You had several GREAT opportunities. Making snow angels? Come on man, that was one. You're having so much fun, laughing and playing. And then when she told you to change? That was another great one. I started to move my hand closer to her pelvic region. She ... said no You can't jus…
/r/seduction28/12/12 02:56 PM
1

These are all good. I'd add: Darts Billiards Build-a-Bear(?) That make your own ceramics place Mix up your icecream on a big frozen rock place Shopping Bowling
/r/seduction27/12/12 08:26 PM
3

Pick up is a tool. It's not a goal in itself. Much like a rifle can be: war materiel, dinner, self defense and murder, pickup can be a way to make friends, a way to get laid a lot, or a way to find your future spouse. It's all in how you use the tool. Use it for your own purposes. What if ... you've lost your chance with the one girl you've liked in months? Anyone her will tell you not to focus on a particular girl because there are like 3 billion others in the world. Once you see pickup as a to…
/r/seduction26/12/12 05:32 PM
1

All the x-country girls I've ever met were tall, thin, in great shape with perfect tans and amazing legs. YMMV is right.
/r/seduction26/12/12 04:20 PM
1

I watch this video often. It really lines up with my style.
/r/seduction20/12/12 07:50 PM
1

I'm standing on the inside corner of an "L" shaped bar. I have some friends I met on both sides of me and I'm in the middle. I'm standing because sitting down makes me boring. A girl I want to game sits at the stool right in the corner of the "L." How do I get her off the barstool so I can engage and bring her into the rest of the group?
/r/seduction20/12/12 07:31 PM
4

Looks to matter, but not in the way you think. Girls care less about the guy who is super hot then you care about the super hot girl. The point of working out and getting a good style is really just about making you feel awesome about yourself. Seriously walking out the door when you can say "man i look good" is a great start. Girls don't care much about fashion either. What they do care about is that you look like you make an effort. Get clothes that fit well and are a consistent style and that…
/r/seduction20/12/12 07:27 PM
1

Other girls will secretly ask her about you. Prep her on what to say. Something like: "Oh, he's just a friend. He's super fun so we hang out sometimes." "He has high standards."
/r/seduction20/12/12 07:25 PM
5

after highschool everyone vanishes So true. I graduated and started college. I had a few classes with a few of those really hot "popular" girls that I'd been too intimidated to talk to. Since they were essentially on their own again, I became pretty close to a few of them.
/r/seduction20/12/12 07:03 PM
3

Richard La Ruina has some good advice about how to do this and make it not weird. Check out this youtube video.
/r/seduction20/12/12 06:41 PM
2

I prefer to shoot the women first. But for serious, it's kinda a somber topic so you have to relate it as a funny story.
/r/seduction20/12/12 05:30 PM
1

Threw that one in for comedic effect. But, it is a life defining experience.
/r/seduction20/12/12 05:27 PM
5

Was a soldier. Iraq. Twice.
/r/seduction20/12/12 05:26 PM
3

Same. I don't bring it up much.
/r/seduction20/12/12 05:25 PM
0

I do this conversation kind of stuff. Here's my secret. Actually it's the secret behind quite a lot. Seek out amazing experiences. I've done all of these. Go to concerts. Go to great art museums. See the Grand Canyon. Visit China. Go skydiving. Go to war. See a marathon showing of a movie series. Now you have all these crazy experiences that you can retell. You can't do it like bragging, let it come up naturally. Someone says they had a strange experience traveling. Reply "Ooh, I visited china o…
/r/seduction20/12/12 04:19 PM
8

Hey, I was there once too. It's all relative. You can do everything you see here just tailor it a bit to your situation. Can't go out to bars? Hit the football games instead. Try soccer and cross country too. X-Country girls are always hot. Try to get a job that requires you to welcome/greet/talk to people. I was an intern at a radio station. That was good for DVH. If you're the host at a restaurant, then you can just be friendly with everyone. That'll train you to be the person who can say some…
/r/seduction20/12/12 04:08 PM
1

It's totally a good idea to look back critically at your attempts and actions to determine how well the worked. Don't frame it like "Why did i..." and instead look at it like "When I did ..., what happened?" If it worked, improve, if it didn't figure out how to fix it.
/r/seduction20/12/12 03:53 PM
2

Don't compliment a date, especially when you first see her. Remember every guy in the world is operating on that same pattern. You need to be different. If you feel a compliment is on order, pick something that she did to herself. "You picked out a great necklace tonight" Or, pick some skill she learned. "Wow, you know all the ballet positions." I compliment girls all the time, just not ones I'm out with. When I see a hostess with great legs I'll tell her. On the way out I'll make eye contact an…
/r/seduction20/12/12 02:48 PM
1

Now, you just have to actually do it! I want to hear your results.
/r/seduction19/12/12 02:55 PM
1

I see what you're saying. We certainly didn't ask each other questions back and forth for an hour and a half. In between each question you have the opportunity to follow down the story behind one of the choices and relate one of your own too. Like you said, it's a starting point. Once your storytelling is done, it's easy to just say "your turn" or something.
/r/seduction19/12/12 02:48 PM
2

I'm an enigma wrapped in contradictions!
/r/seduction19/12/12 02:32 PM
1

It's boring if you don't ask a good follow-up question. It's also boring if you ask boring questions like movies, foods or colors. Shoot for stuff like "amazing experiences" or "awesome places you've been." Once you get there it's easy to have a conversation about the answers so it's not a two way interview.
/r/seduction19/12/12 02:31 PM
4

Yeah, it's everywhere. But, I never thought to use it in this context. It's also a filter to detect redditors in the wild. If they are able to leave the basement that is.
/r/seduction19/12/12 02:27 PM
14

due to a lack of self confidence and a couple of excuses, mainly being that I'm too young (20) to apply these methods. Dude, you're not too young. You're at the perfect time in your life and at the perfect location to do it. You showed yourself that you can just do something so inconsequential and get results. Build on that.
/r/seduction18/12/12 09:58 PM
1

I'll give you that. It's situational and for the sake of brevity, and since this was over a week ago, I didn't include every piece of conversation. It was more of an outline. I do use the "I don't bite... i'll show you" quite a bit and if done right it works. I don't just jump in and grab her. It's a bit slow. With the right delivery, facial expression etc, you can straddle the line between a little uncomfortable and somewhat exciting.
/r/seduction18/12/12 09:43 PM
6

Well, not exactly. I proved that it does work in one circumstance and it doesn't work in another. You failed to understand the parameters of the experiment.
/r/seduction18/12/12 09:14 PM
12

This will now be included in almost every interaction I have with another living creature. Including both horses and ducks.
/r/seduction18/12/12 09:12 PM
1

There's some value here. Thanks
/r/seduction18/12/12 09:07 PM
-1

I don't flirt with the help I hired or supervise, that's just a lawsuit waiting to happen.
/r/seduction18/12/12 09:02 PM
-1

You have a valid concern. If it's one of those places with overprotective guys or just lots of male servers here's what I'll do. Make friends with the dude who is your server. It's really easy there. Once you do that ask about the other girl. I've even had servers introduce me. I used to work F&B so I'm perhaps more aware of how restaurants run.
/r/seduction18/12/12 09:01 PM
-1

To that end, I perfected the "Disco Nap." After work I'll take a nap until maybe 8pm and then head out.
/r/seduction18/12/12 08:59 PM
4

Just walking up to a random stranger and doing it would be a big personal space invasion. Even perhaps a bit rapey. I to start it with "come here, I'll show you." Once she agrees she's inviting you into her personal space.
/r/seduction18/12/12 08:58 PM
1

It is weird as fuck. If, you do it at the wrong time or in the wrong environment or don't lay the ground work right. It's SUPER weird if you don't commit to it and get all freaked out by it. Girls will pick up on everything you do when you do this so you have to be really comfortable and confident.
/r/seduction18/12/12 08:55 PM
0

I'll give you that. I tried to summarize at the end. You may have to look at your unique situation and see what you can apply.
/r/seduction18/12/12 08:52 PM
1

You're right. This one is somewhat situational though. Servers at a more "family" kind of place don't flirt to get tips. Staff at sports bars do. With those girl what I'll do is just start off by saying "Hey, I know it's impossible to pick up waitresses, but you seem really cool." Then it's ok to be super flirty, you acknowledged that you aren't even trying. I did that another night and would just randomly bump into my waitress and dance with her etc. It's social proof.
/r/seduction18/12/12 08:49 PM
-1

Agree with most of what you have to say. You make some good points. I worked F&B for a few years myself. Here's how I address some of your issues. being aggressive to the point where it distracts me from what I'm there to do, make money, is another True. I make sure to never get in the way of work. That's why I go at 9pm on a Sunday, or 3pm on a Wednesday or something like that. If it's busy and I make a small connection, I'll go back when it's not busy. Your work time is just as valuable as min…
/r/seduction18/12/12 08:47 PM
7

I know, right!
/r/seduction18/12/12 08:34 PM
-2

Shopping. Girls love to shop and if you do it right, you can make it a game to try on at least two outfits or things from a bunch of stores.
/r/seduction18/12/12 08:27 PM
3

Thinking about the "Would you rather" game is what led me to develop this. You're right on with the question. That follow on question is where the real guts are. You can also elaborate on the story behind why you picked one too.
/r/seduction18/12/12 06:04 PM
2

What would you like more info on?
/r/seduction18/12/12 06:02 PM
2

Here's my take on it. Assuming you're right handed. From standing, you deliver the line "here I'll show you." You have to move in close, preferably during the setup. Get just to the boundary of her intimate space. Face her, and look into her eyes with a slight smile while taking a slow breath. Almost like you're going to kiss her. It's like you two are in your own personal bubble and nobody else is there. Reach around her back/waist with your left hand. Keep your right hand flat. Start with your…
/r/seduction18/12/12 06:01 PM
3

Trust me, she's just as anxious about it as you. She has absolutely no idea what to do or expect as well. You could just acknowledge it like "Hey, this is a bit weird isn't it?" and start off talking like that. If she says anything that you'd take seriously that could be an insult, assume she's making a joke, laugh a bit and then give it right back to her the same way. Don't be insulting with it though. You need to have a play for when you get to her house. If you want to make out or whatever, b…
/r/seduction18/12/12 05:40 PM
-1

Hey, let's compare notes.
/r/seduction18/12/12 05:24 PM
5

I have three or four in my suitcase anytime I travel!
/r/seduction18/12/12 05:22 PM
3

It's just a tool to use. I wasn't really trying to get anywhere with the first one and the other two didn't go for it because I screwed up the whole process by rushing into it. You point out the need to "be sexual with topics" which is completely true. You can guide the conversation that way if you wish. Feel free to try it out and report back.
/r/seduction18/12/12 05:22 PM
5

I rushed into it with both #2 and #3. My idea is that I did it too early and they just weren't really into it. On the one it worked really well with, we had already been out to lunch (she was in a class I was attending) and we had been talking in class. I started it basically as soon as we sat down and we did it the whole time. I didn't lead it or anything because it was the first time I'd even done it and was just seeing how it goes.
/r/seduction18/12/12 05:20 PM
-1

Yep, you have to do it right and it really works better standing because you can get closer. There was some actual conversation between "...of a hair puller" and "I'll show you." I left it out for brevity.
/r/seduction18/12/12 05:16 PM
1

Here's what you do. Go to a bar on a random Monday. Sit down and tell the bartender, "I want to try some drinks and see what I like." Have some idea what your preference is but don't be afraid to go outside them. Whatever it is, know that one drink and order it like you know what you want. You'll only look like you have no idea what you're doing if you start asking a bunch of questions in front of other people. A standard drink is 12oz beer, ~6oz Wine or 1.5oz Liquor. It takes an hour to "sober …
/r/seduction05/12/12 09:19 PM
1

It also has to be made in Bourbon KY. Otherwise it's just a sour-mash corn whiskey.
/r/seduction05/12/12 09:14 PM
1

I was in bed making out with this girl. We'd pretty much gotten all but completely naked. I was on top of her. I pushed up so my arms were straight, just far enough from her face that I could focus my eyes on hers. Looking right in her eyes, I said "I want you." She laughed. I gave her the ಠ_ಠ face and replied "Don't laugh at me, take off your panties." We then fucked for at least a full hour straight.
/r/seduction05/12/12 06:55 PM
1

I got to this point by working to the point where I'm happy with my life. It's full. I seek out cool/unique experiences. I enjoy most of my job, have some good friends and so on. I even don't try to make more friends because I don't have room to support more friendships. Once you realize you have what you need, then you can become not-needy.
/r/seduction05/12/12 06:50 PM
1

the phrase "yeah, ill see you around though?" is ... used when people feel guilty about a lie or rejection When viewed as a whole, you have a strong argument. I'm looking at it from a different perspective. First I read into it a little more like this "I'm kind of interested in you, but not enough to dump my BF for you." Instead of "You're a loser, get away from me." Second, my focus on the interaction was more of a "What did succeed?"
/r/seduction05/12/12 03:50 PM
1

They guy who played Boromir also played Eddard Stark in Game of Thrones. The mix-up was intentional.
/r/seduction05/12/12 03:37 PM
1

This isn't a rejection by any means. She was interested in you but felt obligated to another guy. That's totally normal. You can't expect every girl to be unattached. Remember how Neal Strauss talks about "Small Chunking?" That's exactly what you did. And, you did it well. You opened a girl, held a conversation and went for the close. You opened pretty well (chunk 1). Held a conversation (chunk 2) ok. You closed (chunk 3) not so well. But you know what? That doesn't matter. You succeeded in your…
/r/seduction04/12/12 10:38 PM
2

Good job Eddard Stark
/r/seduction04/12/12 10:31 PM
2

I spent some time in F&B. That may be been where I got this. I'm nice to everyone. I smile at cashiers and say "how are you" to grocery baggers. I say "thank you" while looking service people in the eye. I say "Good Morning" with a big open attitude to little old ladies. I hold the door open for a mom with a stroller or small child. I wave at everyone in my neighborhood. Being nice has never done me wrong. Nobody has ever mistaken me for a doormat. Never have I been wishy-washy with my decisions…
/r/seduction04/12/12 10:29 PM
2

I always interpreted it (perhaps incorrectly) as "Be cocky, but be funny about it." Don't take yourself too seriously. If you say or do something cocky, make it seem a bit tongue-in-cheek. That's been my general style/demeanor for a while now.
/r/seduction04/12/12 07:24 PM
7

The coin was made in the fires of Mount Doom. Only there can it be unmade. The coin must be taken deep into Mordor and cast back into the fiery chasm from whence it came. You must do this.
/r/seduction04/12/12 02:52 PM
-1

If you're wearing a shirt with more than a few buttons on it, wear a t-shirt. Nobody wants to see your nipples through your dress shirt.
/r/seduction28/11/12 07:55 PM
1

No idea, But I really liked reading it too.
/r/seduction27/11/12 09:10 PM
4

I think you already know the answer to your problem. Just learn to speak louder. Theater and voice classes will teach you to project your voice without shouting. Maybe there's something on youtube. The whole reason it works is because you have to appear so confident in what you're saying that you don't look like you're going to wimp out on it. So, you have to speak like that too.
/r/seduction21/11/12 08:38 PM
5

Neil Strauss in one of the Annihilation Method videos, says never ask for the number and then just walk away. It makes you look like you're just talking to her to get her number and you don't really care. Stay around and chat for a few minutes after. rawnectar points this out from her perspective
/r/seduction21/11/12 07:49 PM
9

Agree, context is important. Even if it fails 100% of the time for you it still teaches you to just not care.
/r/seduction21/11/12 07:42 PM
1

Many times a woman will work to get a guy to do something by setting the conditions she expects the action to occur in. Think when a girl says "ow, my back hurts" that she may be saying "come over here and massage my back." Women aren't stupid, they know what things mean and want the same thing you do, they just aren't as direct about it.
/r/seduction21/11/12 07:36 PM
2

Damn you and your making sense and using the scientific method and all that shit!
/r/seduction21/11/12 07:28 PM
2

Possibly The two girls you approached all of a sudden looked like they were having fun. Other girls noticed and thought "Hey, they're having fun, let's go have fun too!"
/r/seduction21/11/12 06:40 PM
33

There's this thing called the Apocalypse Opener. It's basically what you're talking about but a bit more detailed.
/r/seduction21/11/12 05:36 PM
1

It's sad that your mother is against you going to a psych doctor. It's going to take some work for sure in that case. Just keep up with it and maybe she'll come around eventually. Meanwhile, find a way to get it yourself. Trying to play a character is a good start. Take up running. Get some good shoes and just jog out the front door. Check out /r/running. Plenty of people found it helpful. All in all remember, you have already made a huge success. DJ Fuji, in this video, makes a great comment ab…
/r/seduction20/11/12 10:23 PM
2

Hey, I read this whole thing. Here's my thoughts: You don't need pick up, you need therapy/medication. I had some of the same feelings: Low interest and paranoia.You were abused and have a horrible family. Pickup may help, but isn't the answer alone. There are people with worse situations then yours and others who have it much better. That is a constant. You've already made a huge step in acknowledging it and seeking an answer. Don't expect it to be easy, because it won't be. But, expect it to h…
/r/seduction19/11/12 10:19 PM
2

You had anxiety about the first part and you conquered it. Now, you're having the same anxiety about the second. Conquer it the same way.
/r/seduction19/11/12 10:09 PM
2

Dude, you had severe panic disorders and decided the best way to get over it was to just talk to 200 girls. And you did it? Fuck yeah that's awesome and you're awesome! Don't worry about your results so much. Try to only work on one step at a time even. Break it down into discrete steps and just only care about one until you see enough progress, then just work on the next. Simply track your progress.
/r/seduction19/11/12 10:08 PM
1

She doesn't need to hold the conversation, all she has to do is open and look pretty. You will still have to "pick up" the girl from that point, but having her there at least for some part of it will be a huge help.
/r/seduction19/11/12 09:54 PM
5

Get her to help you meet other girls. Don't hook up with her.
/r/seduction16/11/12 04:24 PM
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