| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 72 | Every time I talk with my girlfriends I can’t help but feel relieved | LEVEL UP | UshiiMoe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 08:57 AM |
| 27 | Tell me if I’m being too picky? | UshiiMoe | /r/askFDS | 01/11/20 04:57 PM | |
| 26 | [VENT] Man fails to understand why his GF is upset | RED FLAG 🚨 | UshiiMoe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 04:46 PM |
| 8 | Vent Post: Dealing with my inner pickmeina over the weekend | UshiiMoe | /r/askFDS | 30/11/20 07:06 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 26 | “yOuR wAy ToO qUiCk To JuDgE”He’s like “wait slow down so I have a chance to emotionally manipulate you 🥴” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 07:55 AM |
| 14 | I know this is weird but it happened a lot in high school.I wouldn't be too stressed about it, although I can understand why you may feel concerned though. Society puts a lot of a persons value on whether or not they're dateable and puts too much value on how many partners one has had. That kind of mentality is harmful, especially towards women. As if you need a man/person to complete you as an individual. Honestly keep focusing on yourself and do not let your friend's negging get to you. If a person comes along the way and displays interest in you jus… | /r/askFDS | 31/12/20 07:12 PM |
| 8 | 'Us men, we are hunters. The harder the challenge, the grater the reward'. 'Thats why we see her as a prize'. Someone really stamped on this scrotes 👌tiny peepee by simply being desirable and sought after🤣I honestly don't understand his point. You waste an entire paragraph negging her and bragging about your "awesome" sex so you can feel proud at the thought of impressing a random?? My guy is acting like a king when he's clearly just one of her pawns | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 09:07 PM |
| 6 | This comment thread reminded me why reddit is a terrible place for advice. This woman got cheated on and some of the comments are advising her to go to counseling before considering divorce. FDS would never.🙄He didn't want to throw away everything they had but he literally just threw it all in her face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Weird vetting tip: Do not let him take you on a date to a chain restaurantOki doki | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Weird vetting tip: Do not let him take you on a date to a chain restaurantThank you this really reassures me I definitely need to relax and take it easy. So far we’ve mostly been texting but he’s always eager to call or video chat but I’m typically tired at the end of the day I’ll try to be more excited and less nervous 😖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Weird vetting tip: Do not let him take you on a date to a chain restaurantOh thank you for mentioning that gives me more to consider! I would like to assume a meal based date although he did speak well of the atmosphere and felt that I would really enjoy it Which I feel that I would but I’m wondering if I’m being too uptight. I do enjoy going to new places I haven’t been to this restaurant before but heard a lot of good things about it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Weird vetting tip: Do not let him take you on a date to a chain restaurantGood point I appreciate your input! This is one of the few men that I’ve been able to consider decent so far so I’d hate to allow myself to let things slide subconsciously just because he’s nice We have yet to schedule a video chat but once he arranges that then I think I’ll accept a date here when the time comes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:48 PM |
| 2 | You don't even have to try to weed them out on OLD, you just breathe at them and they melt into incels mid-conversationIdk but good men don't typically have to try so hard to convince someone how good they are | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:06 PM |
| 6 | How the F do I start online dating as a 23 old Female virgin?Yes I agree with all this! OP you really need to study the handbook to help get yourself to a better state of mind. Being a virgin or a prude isn't a negative thing. You have to set your boundaries to not tolerate any nonsense a LVM will throw at you regarding anything promiscuous. Block them and move on. Stop wasting time on these individuals they're draining your energy that you could be putting towards yourself. (also congrats on the soon to be engagement u/Sea_Soil !!!) | /r/askFDS | 01/12/20 06:37 PM |
| 17 | Concerns for my best friendThese are all qualities of LVM Trust your gut. He's rushing into a relationship, comparing her to other women (Killing her self esteem), and speaks over her. This is a setup for a codependent relationship that are very hard to get out of. It's hard watching your friends experience a low quality relationship. I have a pair that are in relationships with LVM and its frustrating being in the same room with their husbands because I dont want to start any issues but watching how they interact with my… | /r/askFDS | 30/11/20 05:52 PM |
| 6 | Today, for the first time in my life, I told a stranger, "This is none of your business"He had the audacity to call you arrogant when he felt entitled to your attention. Good for you! You stood your ground and didnt let this scrote intimidate you. Keep it up we're rooting for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 06:45 PM |
| 3 | "iT's JusT a jOkE""He would never say anything so cruel to me", umm he just did.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 06:15 PM |
| 14 | I'd rather eat my eyeballs than comply with this kind of bullshit at any occasion, much less on my wedding dayAll I can say is that my heart feels so sad for her to feel as if she is second in her relationship to his friends.. I remember my ex would always fake "running away" at any mention of marriage or those bouquet tosses at weddings and it would hurt me just slightly inside. I tolerated it because it was "funny" and I was "cool". Honestly so glad I'm over that life now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Blocked/deleted ex from years ago but he reached out via email. Any tips?Trust your instincts! Ignore and continue with your life, you dont owe him any friendship. He has family for that. The audacity to think that he's entitled to your time after 8 years | /r/askFDS | 23/11/20 10:07 PM |
| 30 | online dating...Yes an immediate red flag for me. Basically comes off as an excuse to be disrespectful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Providing support for a man struggling with family health issues (earlier stages of dating)?That's awesome keep it up! We're here if you need anyone to talk to c: | /r/askFDS | 20/11/20 07:22 PM |
| 18 | Providing support for a man struggling with family health issues (earlier stages of dating)?I would give him space. You of course are free to be sympathetic towards him in his hard time but I feel that this situation could end up with him being dependent on you for comfort. Not that you wouldn't want that but this early could lead to him seeking you for therapy with out a defined relationship. You tried to discuss it and his response tells me that he is understandably dealing with too much right now and does not have the emotional energy to share for a relationship. So overall, dont in… | /r/askFDS | 20/11/20 05:01 PM |
| 22 | Wow!This sounds absolutely toxic. He talks about it as if her ex "marked his territory" and "claimed" her. Way to show her you value her as an actual human being and not property. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 11:13 PM |
| 19 | What are the signs a man is pornsick?In my case it was more subtle or maybe I ignored the signs, but with my ex I now realized his issues when speaking about topics. like Blow Jobs and anal, I explain my distaste for them and he would be surprised because he assumed that's what women just do. We were both each other's first and I was aware of him watching porn so reflecting on it now I see that his first exposures to sex really affected how he viewed intimacy and relationships. He pressured me into having sex, he wasn't aggressive … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 06:11 PM |
| 2 | Please never compromise your education and career for a guyTHIS! I think about this every day now after FDS. I'm frustrated at allowing myself to become distracted but I'm happy that I'm working towards myself now for a better future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 05:23 PM |
| 36 | How a real HVM prioritizes the woman in his lifeWell at least you didn't say Joker and Harley Quinn lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 10:04 PM |
| 7 | Tell me if I’m being too picky?Will do, being my first experiences after reading FDS I find myself in conflict with my old mentality. I just feel guilty for being so aggressive about my approach even though it’s the most secure way not get involved with LVM. I used to be so patient with them and gave a lot of passes. But I’ve removed them all now. I’ll be sure to go back and block the one who looked me up just in case, he hasn’t messaged me since but never too careful! | /r/askFDS | 01/11/20 06:06 PM |
| 12 | Tell me if I’m being too picky?Thank you A lot of this is trying to fight old ways | /r/askFDS | 01/11/20 05:22 PM |
| 12 | Tell me if I’m being too picky?I appreciate the clarification thank you | /r/askFDS | 01/11/20 05:20 PM |
| 12 | Can you tell me how other men most often objectify you?I'm glad i'm not the only one who finds comments on my appearance superficial | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 10:36 PM |
| 4 | Do not be flattered by booty call texts!!Mad because he was called out lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Gag.Apparently he cant afford to receive them either. $430 a month? Must be nice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 07:51 PM |
| 5 | Apparently I wasn't actually having fun because I didn't drink.If he can't be entertained without alcohol then he probably isn't as fun to be around as he thinks he is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:10 PM |
| 1 | A man who is into you will make firm plans when it comes to being around you and take initiative. “You can come if you want” is not it.Yes I used to accept this till I realized there's no value behind it. Essentially they do not care if you are there or not, so why go out of your way for someone who doesn't matter? Spend your time around those who appreciate your presence and want you there. Don't accept this weak response and leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 04:35 PM |
| 20 | What is with Snapchat?its a slick way to hide messages and receipts anyone who is obsessive of using it over text messaging or calling i feel is a red flag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 11:12 PM |
| 13 | Boyfriend is way too attached to his family, should i break up?I feel that if you are stressing over a man that you aren't married to then it's best to move on and make plans to go back home with your family. He has already shown you that he prioritizes his family above you. You clearly value a man who values you. This will seem to be a forever conflict in your relationship, you have to ask yourself if this is something you want to tolerate. You have every right to have that expectation out of a man that is willing to provide you the attention you request. … | /r/askFDS | 20/10/20 07:01 PM |
| 52 | ‘If a guy truly loved you he would do xyz’ a phrase that makes me think ‘why not me’. How do we reframe thisDo not take responsibility for his actions or lack of. You have no control of what they will and will not do nor their intentions. Do not go into a relationship expecting change. You accept them as they are red flags and all. You accept them as that individual that will not be changed, so when you see these issues come up remember what you value and make the decision to proceed or not. Because they will never go away. Overall this man was not good, he withheld information from you and decided to… | /r/askFDS | 13/10/20 08:16 PM |
| 25 | Boy bye.Thank you for pointing that out. I myself have never really paid attention to other men and never realized why it bothered me a bit when my ex would comment on another women's appearance. It was never a feeling of jealousy but I now sense that it was disrespect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 07:30 PM |
| 4 | STDs, pregnancy, stealthing, the joys of hookupsI hope she reports his rapist ass and sues | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 04:44 PM |
| 207 | Be balanced ladies 😂ok but can he cook? or does he eat cereal & hot pockets for breakfast lunch and dinner jeez a woman has to be well rounded but a man can only be half assed at one thing? No thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 09:18 PM |
| 16 | [VENT] Man fails to understand why his GF is upsetYes and Jill has the excuse for him that how he was raise keeps him from understanding people’s emotions like ya I guess but no one is this emotionally stupid to not see you’re acting like a jerk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 05:02 PM |
| 8 | LISTEN to what your date says and make note of it- if they say something that doesn’t sit right, follow your intuition!Oops LOL Wouldnt have made a difference anyways, I'm not doing last minute plans any more sowie! Its so funny because in his defense for me "figuring" out his birthday he said that he had to find out himself as well. Since I actually have it on my profile for public and I know for sure it is because I got a lot of messages this year(I had always had it hidden up till this year) I asked how and he just sends me a screen shot of our convo of that day. It literally reads Him "HBD?" Me "Why the ? lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 11:20 PM |
| 9 | LISTEN to what your date says and make note of it- if they say something that doesn’t sit right, follow your intuition!Thinking about it, yea I agree Reading back the convo he mentions that “it shouldn’t be that hard to solve” so with that joke coming after it does set me off a bit and seems like a minor red flag He’s always seemed really nice so I can’t imagine where pettiness would come from, but whatever I’m not about to waste my time analyzing Thank you for responding! Your input helps me feel validated for my experience | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 09:31 PM |
| 13 | LISTEN to what your date says and make note of it- if they say something that doesn’t sit right, follow your intuition!I was just thinking of 2) myself. Should we not tolerate a man who teases you? I'm still working through the handbook its a lot! For context I've been speaking to a guy casually, he seems to be interested as he tends to reach out first lately. We're friends. Anyways we were talking about birthdays and I asked him what his was and he sends me an equation. I laugh and say ah I'm so bad at math I haven't practiced since high school etc. (I really am bad a math I've always had a hard time processing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 07:42 PM |
| 4 | I did a post on MY personal penis preferences and dudes on Reddit were ready to rope themselves over it. I don’t ever want to hear EVER again how women are “insecure” and “crazy” ones for being NOT OK with Porn.Honestly your post comes off so positive and nowhere does it seem like you're trying to insult anyone for their size you were just stating what works and feels best FOR YOU. Literally anyone giving you a problem about your preferences is projecting. Like get over yourselves. The world doesn't revolve around your dick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 03:36 PM |
| 11 | Older fathers 35+ associated with increased birth risksI agree it seems we are always the one with the responsibility of burdens to bear | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:23 PM |
| 3 | Of course the pick me gets upvotes while the WOMAN gets downvoted for acknowledging her worth and stating facts.Oh poor him of course he doesn't want to go he's being forced by his friends ;( Is going back to the hotel not an option?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 04:42 PM |
| 13 | Deleted all my dating apps after this. This guy sent me a picture of a plate of pasta that he cooked and had some weird purple lights in the background. I asked him why I told him I had some like that but for my plants. He had to steer the conversation and make it sexual 😖*Talks about insomnia* LVM: "So do you sleep nakie ;) ?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 09:30 PM |
| 4 | I’m out of words.Why is it always women being labeled as over dramatic when its men who do stupid things and get angry because we had the audacity to call them out on it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 08:05 PM |
| 4 | Don’t wait for closure- especially from an LVM, he isn’t worth it. The best way to move on however... just leave and never, ever look back. Show him he ain’t shit!👋Just started doing this for myself. It's been really hard since I just ended things with my ex and he was my best friend a really kind and generous person. Unfortunately our relationship burnt out and I was just dragging it out as long as I could. I didn't want to cut him off but I know for me it's the best. It's been 4 days since and its sad when I think about it but my friends have really been here to support me <3 I hope he's doing well too, I know he has his family so I wish him luck And of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 07:03 PM |
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