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Valor0us/r/seduction21/07/19 02:19 PM
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I live in NYC and the dating scene is good for men if you have your life together. If you're just looking to sleep around, it's probably the easiest city to do that in the US.
/r/seduction06/07/26 07:57 PM
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This dude was socially awkward due to growing up during COVID, so he took the peacocking part from pua and went all in. Trash strategy.
/r/seduction15/04/26 08:13 PM
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Interesting that you'll hear this from 98% of women and it's a global phenomenon too.
/r/seduction05/04/26 09:14 PM
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You're only practicing and finding out what that person enjoys though. There aren't 2 women out there that will come from the exact same thing. Ultimately learning how to read your partner and communicate is going to be what leads to better sex. You could sleep with the same person every day for 8 years, but if the communication is bad, the sex is also most likely not at the level it could be.
/r/seduction03/04/26 11:48 AM
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This is literally just a woman communicating. Where's the test? Lmao it's no wonder the dating scene is so trash. Women communicate simple concepts related to monogamous dating and dudes are on the Internet dissecting it like they need to reconstruct a hydrogen bomb.
/r/seduction04/02/26 01:25 PM
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Poor guy has never run into a woman that's trying to get choked, spanked, and railed for the night XD
/r/seduction05/10/25 04:34 PM
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I do, but I'm getting a little sick of it. Too many women can't even communicate clearly these days so I have to plan the date, pay for it, keep the conversation going, and more likely than not she won't even say thank you.
/r/seduction26/08/25 07:26 PM
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You can have a small apartment and have millions in the bank. You can have a Rolex and be drowning in debt.
/r/seduction22/06/25 02:13 AM
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I don't. I wouldn't even interact with a woman like that in a romantic sense. This guy does though, so I can't imagine what he treats them like. Doubtfully well.
/r/seduction30/04/25 11:44 AM
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Be real. A 3 or 4 you won't even glance over at. If you're treating an attractive woman like that she has some serious self esteem issues and you are a manipulative POS.
/r/seduction30/04/25 11:41 AM
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-treating her like she is a 3 or 4 while giving her good sex and maintaining my frame/confidence Really confident behaviour treating a woman badly just to mess with her mind enough to put out for you my guy.
/r/seduction30/04/25 11:23 AM
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Copium
/r/seduction21/02/25 07:20 PM
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NYC it's hard to take a girl home from the bar? NYC girls are the type that pick guys up at the bar. Try bars like mother's ruin or beyond the pale by Soho area. Also Carmelo's in Bushwick I had a girl chat me up and later whisper in my ear "so, are you going to take me home?"
/r/seduction21/02/25 07:05 AM
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Maybe. No girl wanted anything to do with me in middle school or early high school. I've put in tons of work into my career, physique, and personality. It pays off.
/r/seduction22/01/25 12:04 PM
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Happens to me regularly. I can't go out on a weekend without some woman approaching me.
/r/seduction21/01/25 02:11 PM
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Yeah, obviously looks can help. I am saying attractive men get approached. Your vibe can be attractive. Your lifestyle can be attractive. Your knowledge can be attractive. Looks are but one component of attractiveness.
/r/seduction20/01/25 01:36 PM
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I didn't say either of those things in any of my comments. You clearly don't understand English well enough to communicate or don't know how to read. I'm done discussing this with you. Have a good one.
/r/seduction20/01/25 01:19 PM
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OP is correct because self proclaimed attractive men exist? Let me tell you a secret: the women decide if you're attractive or not.
/r/seduction20/01/25 01:08 PM
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OP says you can have a six pack, a good job, and a nice apartment and women won't approach you. I'm just pointing out that's completely inaccurate. Yeah, if you're unattractive then women won't approach you as men won't approach unattractive women either. Cope with reality how you want.
/r/seduction20/01/25 12:56 PM
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This is entirely bs. If you're attractive, women will come to you. After 34 years on this earth I can tell you a woman that seeks you out will be the easiest woman to date.
/r/seduction20/01/25 12:46 PM
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I found the guy who hasn't gone on dates in NYC. A dinner date with drinks and tip will run you $200 at a nice place.
/r/seduction06/01/25 05:29 AM
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If you're in a city like New York you'll get a handful of women from Latin American countries trying to match with you using passport mode. They want to leave their country and leverage their looks to do it.
/r/seduction18/12/24 03:35 PM
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I had a girl that wouldn't stop going on about astrology last night. I actually take a condescending yet playful approach about it and it hasn't steered me wrong yet. I think astrology is all bullshit, but for some reason a huge percentage of hot girls are really into it. Invite her back to your place and let her know you have a good windowsill where she can charge her crystals. ;⁠)
/r/seduction24/11/24 12:39 PM
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Online dating seems to pick up once you hit your late twenties because the pool of women interested in you will keep getting bigger. From 29-34 now I've had the most success because my matches are aged anywhere from 20 to 36. At your age most of the women interested in you will be 19-23.
/r/seduction22/09/24 01:47 AM
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You need to take initiative and organize the date. When she says let's hang out you message great I'd love to take you for coffee, drink, museum date, art gallery, etc on this day at this time. Also, don't use maybe in statements. Of course you're going to enjoy each other's company. That's assumed to be the goal on a date
/r/seduction18/09/24 08:11 PM
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I've been on hundreds of dates and never gotten this question once. What are you sending them before you get this?
/r/seduction18/09/24 08:03 PM
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So why don't you take 25+ hours to respond sometimes? I communicate with one girl I'm seeing casually slowly like that. She still shows up to every date. Sometimes if she sends something that doesn't need a response just leave it at that. See if she texts you first in a few days or a week. That way you'll really know if she wants to meet up/talk.
/r/seduction11/08/24 05:23 AM
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1 in 15 is baaaad. What a waste of time and money. If they expect an expensive date just move on to the next. Big cities give you options.
/r/seduction25/06/24 11:35 PM
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Way to take accountability of your own actions like we always demand women do, right?
/r/seduction12/06/24 05:07 AM
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There's so many single women out there. Why bother doing this if it's someone you work with? Not worth it at all unless you're already on your way out from that employer. Think with your head, not your dick.
/r/seduction12/06/24 04:43 AM
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Since the pandemic I'd say Miami is only a smidge cheaper than NYC. The only benefit in Florida is you have no state income tax. Either way, at 42 if you can't afford to live in NYC and save, travel, invest then you should focus on getting your money up imo. Other guys in NYC and Miami will be running circles around you and they're 10-15 years younger
/r/seduction05/06/24 01:23 PM
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You have a good paying job, but NYC is too expensive? If you can't afford NYC, then dating in Miami is going to bankrupt you.
/r/seduction05/06/24 12:20 PM
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Yeah, I was in Asia for a year spending time in Thailand, Japan, Korea, and Vietnam. Between going out and dating apps I could take a different girl on a date every night if I wanted. I work while I travel, so that at least kept the dating to just weekends. Many women in Asia either prefer white guys or want to have sex with one to see how it is. You have me a little concerned though. 5 months? I'm going to take a few weeks off and hopefully I'll feel better. I'm going to be living in one city f…
/r/seduction13/05/24 04:21 AM
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I'm happy to read something like this. I'm going through something similar after nomading around the world for a few years. I was super determined to date as many women as I could wherever I went and wound up sleeping with a lot the last year and a half. Now I feel so burnt out with dating and having sex with no connection. I just turned 34, so maybe it's just my turn to go through this realization. Sleeping with many women is glorified in our society for some reason. It doesn't lead to happines…
/r/seduction12/05/24 09:05 AM
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Did I wake up in 2015 or are you really making a post in 2024 that is regurgitating things dating couches were making videos about a decade ago?
/r/seduction06/04/24 04:30 AM
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I can confirm. Japan and South Korea women would be approaching me at the club. Learn a little bit of the language and you're set.
/r/seduction20/09/23 07:17 PM
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You're not going to impress anyone other than idiots by faking anything. There are women out there that will find passion for introverted hobbies attractive too. I've met many before. The problem is that most people that like those hobbies don't have social skills and come off as creepy to women.
/r/seduction09/07/22 06:09 PM
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I've literally had women go on dates with me in hopes of getting a ride on my motorcycle. Women date men for many reasons. I like to date interesting women and thankfully live an interesting lifestyle to attract that. If you're fine dating Sally who lives 2 miles from where she grew up and her hobbies include watching Netflix and eating brunch then be my guest. She'd bore me to tears.
/r/seduction08/07/22 07:33 PM
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I'd say the most interesting man in the room is one who's reputation precedes him. Showing up at a party where you don't know most people and they come up to you saying, "hey, you're _? I heard you do __" is infinitely more interesting than walking around the party asking people questions.
/r/seduction08/07/22 05:39 PM
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You can also try getting girls interested by Being interesting
/r/seduction07/07/22 09:09 PM
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The pendulum just swings back and forth on these strategies. Not too long ago everyone was preaching to not care and that'll get you laid, now it's care only about getting laid and you'll get laid. At the end of the day, just work on being attractive in every way possible. That will increase your odds overall. Some guys put sex on a pedestal because society has socialised them to be that way. I just turned 30 and I look back on that attitude and have to chuckle a bit. Just as any activity, the m…
/r/seduction03/06/20 02:15 PM
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Idk, weigh your options on this. I was sleeping with a girl in another department at my old job for months. We kept it between us and it was a good time. Is it risky? Yeah, but that's what makes it fun.
/r/seduction04/12/19 06:19 PM
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Recently learned this as I let my ex move into my condo with me. Any money she contributed to the mortgage went right back into dinner dates and extra groceries. She watched TV all the time and constantly had a complaint about something I did or how I act. I don't get how any man would put up with this behavior. Anyway, single now and can do whatever I want however I want in my own home. The way it should be.
/r/MGTOW08/08/19 08:12 PM
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The one I use for the tinder question is: "I meet so many high quality women in my day to day life that I thought hey, why not try out some lovely dating apps as well." It's a comical response that shows that you don't solely rely on dating apps to meet women. Usually gets women curious because I'm sure most guys respond to this with something lame.
/r/seduction21/07/19 02:07 PM
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This will be an experiment for me, but so far her and I have slept together 3 times and no convo like that has come up at all. I think you have to set a premise with relationships like this. If you only booty call her and don't hang out outside of that, it's going to play out differently than if you're going on dates and introducing her to your friends as you're casually hooking up.
/r/seduction04/07/19 11:12 PM
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If you both agree it's casual why can't you bang a girl you work with? I've been doing it for weeks with a girl in another department and so far have had no issues.
/r/seduction28/06/19 10:28 PM
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I kind of went through something similar in the last month since me and my ex broke up. For a week I worked on myself and got my confidence back up and then I just started flirting with any attractive girl I found. If girls don't seem appealing then just take time for yourself and they eventually will. For me, it happened pretty fast. It sounds like your situation isn't ideal for meeting women. Maybe focus energy on moving somewhere new or getting a car, etc? I live in a city, so it's easy for m…
/r/seduction26/06/19 10:06 PM
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A cool feed and some followers will definitely help. If you're trying to snag a chick that has thousands upon thousands of followers then you're probably going to have a tough time. There are plenty of gorgeous girls that don't take social media that seriously that might have 1k-2k followers and they'll still notice if you're liking a photo or dming her. I have 450 followers, so nothing crazy. I travel and do photography as a hobby. So that makes my feed a bit more interesting. If you're life lo…
/r/seduction26/06/19 12:36 AM
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I do it all the time with women I don't know. With good resultd. Do you follow her? Does she follow you? Good litmus test is to follow her. If she follows back, that's a good start. If she follows back and likes a photo, you should def dm. If you follow and she doesn't follow back, I'd find move on or try to game her in person.
/r/seduction25/06/19 09:50 PM
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I just learned this lesson too. I was at the point where I was dating half a dozen girls at a time when I fell in love with one of them and left that life behind. Fast forward almost two years and we break up. The first thing I noticed is that I did indeed put her first eventually. Making her happy and the thought of a family with her took presedence over my current goals and aspirations. It's a tough lesson to learn. Also, I'm never letting a girl move in with me unless we're on the way to gett…
/r/seduction25/06/19 05:02 PM
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The fact that you assign numbers to people to begin with is a bad approach. Is that all these women are to you? A person you can put on a scale? I just turned 29 and can guarantee you that if you work on yourself and aren't needy then after every girl that doesn't work out you'll find a more attractive and amazing one. That's how it's been my whole life. You can't be needy though. You have to be confident and know that even if you don't find a girl then you'll be fine. Try traveling alone or doi…
/r/seduction30/04/19 11:45 AM
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I've had social anxiety since I was a kid too. I'm sure 90% of the people on this sub would say the same. You have to catch yourself when you start thinking like this and fight it. It's not helping you accomplish anything. Look into meditation or better yet go see a therapist for your anxiety. It'll improve your life, I can guarantee it.
/r/seduction29/04/19 09:14 PM
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Dude, you are overthinking this like crazy. You must be really insecure about finding a new girl. Yeah, guys hook up with their exes all the time. If you go no contact after dating then usually after a month or two one party reaches out to the other. Maybe you get coffee, maybe you get a drink. Maybe that leads into a hook up. Maybe it doesn't. With the rate that you overthink shit I wouldn't be surprised if she never wants to see you again. That behavior gets old fast.
/r/seduction29/04/19 07:04 PM
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That's when you're seducing a woman, not when she has already dumped your ass. If you're going back to her to try to get laid it shows you have no other options and makes you even less appealing.
/r/seduction29/04/19 05:29 PM
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You're a loser with no other options, obviously. The funniest part is so far she has given you no sign that she even has minimal interest in you.
/r/seduction16/04/19 06:17 PM
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I commented last time and I'll comment again. Plenty of single women out there. If you're going out of your way to pursue people in committed relationships then you don't respect yourself or them and in the end that's exactly the opposite of what seduction is supposed to teach you.
/r/seduction16/04/19 04:32 PM
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But that partially popped collar is going to get you HOTTER girls!
/r/seduction26/03/19 11:54 AM
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American women? No, sorry, just the ones you happen to attract or hang around.
/r/seduction11/03/19 08:39 PM
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That's the thing. Casual sex is a massive gamble. It might turn out to be a really intense and amazing experience or it falls flat. That's why a LTR is great. You know what you're getting and ideally you've found someone that gives you the amazing experience you want to keep going back to.
/r/seduction11/03/19 08:37 PM
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If you were a priority, she'd respond to you. You didn't make a good enough impression. Better luck next time and keep your chin up because this happens to everyone.
/r/seduction25/02/19 06:48 PM
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There are plenty of single attractive women out there. This isn't the subreddit for human trash, but if that's what you are head over to r/adultery and ask this.
/r/seduction11/02/19 06:21 PM
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Look at the frame here. She is the one that will go out and then invite you along if she feels like? You like waiting around like a dog that has nothing better to do? Make a plan, invite a woman, follow up the day before the date. This one probably already thinks you're spineless. Go find a new one and actually show initiative in the interaction.
/r/seduction08/02/19 10:39 PM
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You being a cheating scumbag is effecting your current relationship? Imagine that. You don't deserve either woman. Learn some respect.
/r/seduction08/02/19 10:35 PM
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Anything is possible. She might grow out of it and get her life together or she might wind up a 40 year old that still parties. It's impossible to say. The main way I like to look at it is to ask what my odds are. What are the odds that she will be what you want in 6 months, a year, etc? It does sound like you're just in that part of your life where you want less commitment since the girl talking about children concerns you. That's totally fine too. I feel like most guys have a phase where they …
/r/seduction20/12/18 11:23 PM
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I'm not married, but party girl isn't going to be a long term keep. That stuff catches up eventually and if her life is a mess it's going to take a lot to get it sorted. If you want long term, go with the one that you can sustain a healthy relationship with long term. Your feelings for any woman will come and go, but her mental state and values are what you need to be able to live with.
/r/seduction20/12/18 12:39 AM
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I'm going to go against the grain here and tell you that as long as you screen her to make sure she is mature then you should totally pursue her. A work event is a good place to strike up conversation or invite her to some friend get togethers some weekend. Dating in the workplace is definitely risky, but people that tell you to absolutely avoid it obviously never had a fun office fling.
/r/seduction15/11/18 10:39 PM
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Mild social anxiety? Your post makes you sound completely socially unaware. Work on your social skills. Just the way this post unravels makes me feel uncomfortable, so I can't even imagine the response you're going to get from women in person.
/r/seduction08/11/18 06:06 PM
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Just act friendly. A simple hello or how's it going would be fine. Don't hold a grudge. Rejection happens. Just move on with your life and find the next girl.
/r/seduction05/11/18 10:37 PM
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It's different from man to man. How can you possibly think there's a blanket response to that? Some guys have no interest in older women while others will always steer clear of younger ones. Some don't mind at all. It depends on the guy.
/r/seduction24/09/18 04:40 PM
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You have some reality lessons to go through my friend. From experience, just about every attractive girl is being pursued by some guy. Either step up and be the best to get her attention or live in fear of competition for the rest of your life.
/r/seduction29/08/18 12:04 PM
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Coffee meets bagel
/r/seduction29/08/18 12:01 PM
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I think this all comes down to tonality and vibe. There are ways to say, "hey, give me your number," that are creepy and some that are playful/flirty.
/r/seduction16/08/18 05:53 PM
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Because back then your social circle range had a much smaller scope. How many more women to you have as options due to online dating and online resources like this subreddit? Is it possible you'll be an awesome girl at work? Sure. Is it worth the drama if it doesn't work out? I and many others would argue that it's not.
/r/seduction14/08/18 12:19 AM
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Plenty of other places to meet attractive women. I'd steer clear of dating girls you work with until you leave the company or vice versa.
/r/seduction13/08/18 05:18 PM
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What are you going to ask next? How to catch a fish out of the ocean?
/r/seduction09/08/18 10:15 PM
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I didn't need an explanation of his comment, I'm arguing against it. You all are sitting on a seduction subreddit making excuses to not approach girls because they're more bound to be messed up in the head than others. Generalizations and excuses. They get you nowhere in seduction.
/r/seduction02/08/18 12:47 PM
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You respond to literal questions with a hyperbole? If someone posted on a home improvement forum asking how to switch out a vanity in their bathroom and they are clueless about it you'd think you'd help by saying something like, "you're better off just buying a new home instead of attempting that. It's complicated." That's asinine.... and not helpful at all.
/r/seduction02/08/18 09:30 AM
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Exactly. A higher chance meaning an easier time doing it. I'm not sure what your scale is, but if your perfect 10 is say... Scarlett Johansson or some woman of similar attractiveness then I'm pretty sure your likelihood of dating and or sleeping with Jennifer the attractive cos-player who goes to cons on weekends is way more attainable. By miles. Also, there are attractive girls that are into star wars just about everywhere. I'd say 80% of the women I've pursued in my life vocally talked about h…
/r/seduction02/08/18 04:22 AM
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That logic makes absolutely no sense. A perfect 10 is easier to date than an anime chick? A woman that has every man drooling over her is easier to nab than a chick regularly surrounded by socially inept, awkward dudes with little to no sexual experience? I think you're putting attractive anime girls on a pedestal as 99.9% of dudes at these conventions tend to do and that's why they want nothing to do with you.
/r/seduction02/08/18 04:06 AM
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She can see who watches her stories man. You're being a grade A creep. She's not responding to you for a month or a week at a time? You should have already disqualified her
/r/seduction01/08/18 08:22 PM
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I'd say always offer on the first date. If she wants to pay just be sure to ask if she's sure and if she says yes, then don't fight her on it. For the second date if you paid for the first you can just ask, "hey, are you cool with splitting this?" when you get the bill and you should be good to go.
/r/seduction30/07/18 05:51 PM
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I always pay for a first date unless the girl is absolutely set on paying for herself. I feel like that lays good groundwork showing that you are open to taking care of a girl and taking her out. Beyond that you can set your own rules for it, but always paying is going to run you into debt pretty quick, especially if you're dating a lot. Edit: don't be afraid to have her pay if she offers. That happened to me a few times. Sometimes women with money (established, in her 30s) will want to pay.
/r/seduction30/07/18 04:43 PM
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You missed your shot. Wait until you see her again to snag a number. If you add her on FB it'll work against you especially considering you're older than her and should know how to take the lead and grab the number from a girl you're interested in.
/r/seduction27/07/18 08:18 PM
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Kraków is my families hometown and your advice is pretty accurate. The last time I was there I was at a wedding and went home with one of the bride's friends not even 3 hours after meeting her. You have to know how to dance though. That's the one thing I'd add.
/r/seduction23/07/18 07:46 PM
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In other words they are saying you are entitled, blame others for everything, are controlling, and lack empathy. Is that something you'd want to be around?
/r/seduction20/07/18 05:01 PM
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Toddv's channel is great. His videos aren't too long and provide a lot of information. You can also just put them on in the background because other than infield footage it's just him talking.
/r/seduction16/07/18 05:23 PM
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"some kind of beverage" and "jet lag is a mofo"? You're 26 years old. Stop talking like a middle schooler if you want to get laid.
/r/seduction10/07/18 08:45 PM
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Your post isn't about me. It's about you. You asked for advice and I gave my two cents. Take it or leave it.
/r/seduction29/06/18 04:57 PM
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I'm 28 now and when I would run into girls this age they were generally pretty immature. The main advice I'd give is to reinforce your patience. Once you hear a few of them tell you about their life that consists of an office job and getting wasted all weekend you might not be as attracted to them anymore. That's my experience though. If you want to go younger then 25-28 year old women still looking amazing and have hobbies and jobs of substance. Also, girls on tinder might find you a bit creepy…
/r/seduction29/06/18 03:57 PM
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Good thing I unsubscribed after watching that video. You handle feedback just as well as you clean your camera lens.
/r/seduction27/06/18 02:56 AM
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Dave, did I say you never do approach videos? No. I'm giving you feedback on this specific video because I didn't feel like it was at the fullest potential. You can take my two cents that there are other ways to improve your videos or downvote me and get butthurt. Up to you.
/r/seduction27/06/18 02:04 AM
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Not to hate, but I really don't get this fad of vloggers making top 5 tip videos with none of the advice put in practice. If approaching women is a strong point for you then why didn't you do it on the video? The nightlife in Osaka is amazing for that. People like Todd v just destroy channels like yours because they not only show you how to put it in practice, but also go beyond just reiterating information that has been on this sub again and again and again.
/r/seduction26/06/18 11:37 PM
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If she's on and off with some guy it's really easy for her to pepper in attention when she wants it from another guy (you). She said she doesn't view you romantically. How much bolder can she spell it out?
/r/seduction26/06/18 09:46 PM
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You're judging and creating expectations without talking to her at all, which is a habit you'll want to break if you want to get better at approaching women. I have always loved approaching women that look mean, personally. If you can make her smile with the exchange of a few words then you're on the right track. Open up with something that points out that she looks angry. Since it's driving school something simple like, "how did you wind up here because you really don't look happy to be here," …
/r/seduction25/06/18 01:23 PM
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You already sound pretty invested, which isn't a good sign since you don't even know her well. If your Instagram makes you look like a fun and adventurous guy, then give it a shot. Otherwise if you look boring on there it won't win you any points and you're better off making a good impression in person and snagging a number.
/r/seduction13/06/18 10:06 PM
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Do this entire sub and all men in general a favor and never use the phrase, "bagging our prey," when it comes to women ever again. I'm pretty sure every vagina within a 20 mile radius of you just dried up because you typed that out.
/r/seduction12/06/18 07:09 PM
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Ask if she wants to grab coffee sometime and then exchange numbers. There's literally nothing embarrassing about that at all.
/r/seduction31/05/18 05:48 PM
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More than anything you should be looking for a job, hitting the gym, and ditching pot. Seduction will become 10 times easier for you if you do.
/r/seduction18/05/18 08:37 PM
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She probably had some other guy giving her attention before and chose to pursue him over you. Now it probably didn't work out with all the other guys she might be talking to and was reminded of you being into her, so she's going back to you for validation and attention. This used to happen to me all the time. I usually just don't respond. More likely than not, she just wants some male attention until some other guys start pursuing her.
/r/seduction18/05/18 08:10 PM
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Down to wiggle, obviously.
/r/seduction18/05/18 08:01 PM
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Guy says to not appear cheap and then is the type of guy that buys girl he is pursuing a Bud light. 😂
/r/seduction18/05/18 03:13 PM
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Buy her a drink or two? I wonder how many women have gotten drunk on your dime and then you still didn't get laid.
/r/seduction18/05/18 02:46 PM
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Ignoring them won't get you very far, will it? Just don't go out of your way to make plans with them or contact them. Don't let them be the focus of your life.
/r/seduction14/05/18 04:04 PM
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My most complimented ones are Eros by Versace, Luna Rossa sport by Prada, and Bleu de Chanel. You can get a bottle of any of those for $50 to $80 and they last you a good while. Scentbird is a good way to try them before you invest as well.
/r/seduction01/05/18 02:15 PM
0

You're 25. It's time to get out of mommy and daddy's basement.
/r/seduction30/04/18 07:41 PM
1

I think I followed one and one of them followed me. I think you're overthinking this though man. That's a lot of questions for a simple sliding in the DM situation. There's a reason why sliding in the dms is referenced in our culture. It happens all the time.
/r/seduction24/03/18 01:22 AM
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You mean area? Yeah, I live in Chicago so only pursue women that live in or close to the city. Whether or not they're single is up to your own ethical approach. Personally, I never went for girls that were in relationships just because I think it's a quick way to find a lot of drama.
/r/seduction23/03/18 03:12 AM
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I've had really good results on insta. Here's an example of two women I dmed without knowing them at all. https://imgur.com/a/GXU4m Everyone has their approach, but I usually try to complement them on something (other than looks) that they are passionate about and then my approach revolves around keeping her guessing whether or not I'm into her. I've noticed that girls that notice they've already got you snared are the quickest to go cold. I never say a thing about looks the first few dates. Jus…
/r/seduction22/03/18 11:32 PM
3

I'd say complimenting her looks that quickly is giving all your power away. You'll look like just another thirsty guy right off the bat. If she responds positively see if she wants to grab drinks or coffee and then away you go. I really don't get why anyone would recommend you compliment her looks so early. Gorgeous women get those compliments all day. Stand out and pique her interest. Be subtle in showing you're into her.
/r/seduction22/03/18 10:30 PM
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I'm a lifelong gamer, a nerd about fitness, computers, a weirdo that watches anime, and does photography for fun. We're quite alike, aren't we? The difference is that I don't see any of those things as a downside. You thinking that your personality makes you weird is what actually makes you less attractive. Own your personality and what you love. If you're talking to a girl and all you mention is that you play video games then that's boring. If you invite her over and have her race you in Mario …
/r/seduction07/03/18 03:28 PM
2

You learned your lesson with living with a woman? Yeah, with just one. If your attitude is to lump all women into one category then that's already a fatal flaw right there because saying something like that literally has nothing to do with the topic at hand here. Not all women are the same, so if your ex made you cynical I'd suggest taking time to sort out those feelings. Not to stir animosity, but your last comment does make you sound like a grump. If that attitude bleeds into your conversation…
/r/seduction02/03/18 12:00 AM
1

You lying about your age tells me that you're insecure about it. Being insecure is the last thing you want to be if you want to attract women via tinder or otherwise.
/r/seduction01/03/18 05:37 PM
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Don't pay attention to this guy. He's drawing conclusions from barely two sentences of text. Stupid.
/r/seduction01/03/18 05:24 PM
1

This does sound kind of creepy. I'd grab a drink at the lounge and work game on the women there if any of them strike my fancy.
/r/seduction27/02/18 04:13 PM
3

If you're going for any old bimbo girl out and about then sure. If you're trying to attract successful, interesting, strong, quality, and confident women then I don't think your fucboi mentality will get you far.
/r/seduction27/02/18 04:11 PM
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Why are you getting so defensive? Someone is giving you a legitimate response to your question and you have to jump up and defend yourself like they're attacking you.
/r/seduction02/01/18 08:31 PM
1

Not what I'm saying at all. I'm saying you're going to build zero attraction as a man with no mission and nothing interesting to say. That all doesn't just appear out of thin air. Demolish your life to nothing and tell me how well attracting women goes for you.
/r/seduction27/12/17 03:21 AM
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Yeah, what he needs while his life is a mess is to also be dealing with rejection and approach anxiety. That'll just throw him in a bigger hole. He just spent 9 years not pursuing any women. He needs a foundation first, then he'll be better equipped to master seduction.
/r/seduction26/12/17 10:31 PM
2

Beautiful women hear they're beautiful all the time. If you want to keep a girl interested, don't mention a thing about her looks until you're seriously dating her. If you ask her to coffee, she knows you're interested. No need to smother compliments on that.
/r/seduction26/12/17 08:22 PM
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The thing is that seduction involving approaching women and dating women is not going to go well for you until you get your life sorted. You're post breakup and confused. Women will smell that from a mile away. Now is the time to build up a career, hobbies, interesting adventures. Approaching women will happen in a year or more and that's when you'll be able to find success with it.
/r/seduction26/12/17 05:20 PM
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She probably gets dms that say exactly that several times a day if she's an attractive girl. It really depends on context, but I've had success touching base with her on something she likes. For example, if she has yoga pose photos then I'd kick off with telling her I've been trying to learn a certain pose the last week and see if she has pointers. If you don't have something to go off of, I'd just say something painfully obvious to stand out. Even something like, "I'm guessing your name is____.…
/r/seduction12/10/17 07:31 PM
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You need ass eating skills before you even think about hitting festivals lol http://m.worldstarhiphop.com/android/video.php?v=wshhc7IGOByuqRMK7c4s
/r/seduction12/10/17 06:48 PM
3

Sipping a drink over the course of an hour or two should leave you just fine to drive. Op shouldn't be getting drunk either considering that looks pretty bad on a first date or any date for that matter.
/r/seduction14/09/17 09:02 PM
2

Grab a drink and take your time with it. If things are going well, half jokingly and half seriously tell her she's driving you home. If she's into you, she'll do it. Then you invite her up for round two of drinks once you get there. If she won't give you a lift home, she's not that into you. On to the next one.
/r/seduction14/09/17 08:59 PM
1

You'll have to elaborate why you don't like touching people. Is it because it makes you uncomfortable or you think it'll make them uncomfortable? If it makes you uncomfortable, you can work on that. Just do something simple like touch her shoulder for a moment. As you get more comfortable with it, you can try holding her hand when you walk or lead her through a door with your hand on her lower back. If you're worried about making the girl uncomfortable then just be socially aware. If she looks u…
/r/seduction13/09/17 09:43 PM
1

Why is tension being mentioned like it's bad thing? I would say post photos if it feels natural, but definitely don't go out of your way to post a ton of them. If girls see you getting attention with other girls it'll pique their interest. It'll only work against you if you're working on starting a serious relationship with a girl. Then it's time to keep the snapchats with cute girls at the bar to a minimum or she'll think you're not committed.
/r/seduction30/08/17 02:37 PM
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Just from your post I feel like you're looking at seduction with too many guidelines to follow. Some women care more about looks, some less. There's no set percentage of what matters more to all women. You should never look at women as objects. Look at them as fellow human beings (why does this even have to be stated?). If you want to get to know a fellow human being, you ask them out and talk to them. Find interests. Share stories. If your intent is to find a gf, make that apparent. If you want…
/r/seduction25/08/17 03:19 PM
1

A case of oneitis. It happens to the best of us. Have more women that you're dating or talking to and it won't effect you as much mentally. It'll take time to build up to it, but the peace of mind you'll have once you get there is worth it. Imagine not caring about rejection because if this hot girl doesn't wind up in your bed tonight then another one will. Just be honest with women. You'll be surprised how many of them are ok with casually dating and sleeping with you. You just have to communic…
/r/seduction23/08/17 05:34 PM
2

Saying that before meeting her seems like you're jumping the gun a bit. I normally drop something like that after a date when I'm asking a girl to head back to my place. "after party at my place? We can have a drink, watch a movie, make out." I've used that about a dozen times and had positive results each time.
/r/seduction21/08/17 07:38 PM
1

I don't think I've seen anyone on this thread mention eye contact. If you're at a bar or club, make eye contact with the person you're attracted to and throw them a smile and look away. Hopefully you'll make eye contact again after a few moments and then he'll approach you if interested. Your current approach sounds pretty bad, IMO. Though, most women I know will just ask a male friend to sleep with them in your situation. If you're attractive as you say then most of your male friends want to sl…
/r/seduction21/08/17 07:30 PM
1

Ah, sorry. I thought you were making a joke saying she's a man like you Lololol. Work on that self esteem, brother. Hit the gym, pick up fun hobbies. I've been there. It's tough, but you'll make progress if you try. I guarantee it.
/r/seduction15/08/17 12:05 AM
1

If you get sexual too quickly and she stops you, you stop. That'll show that you're respectful and understand her boundaries. There will be women that want to go further with you and you stop at kissing then I'm sure there will be another guy fulfilling that need for her by the time she hangs out with you again. Good luck lol
/r/seduction14/08/17 10:19 PM
1

I'm serious. Girls love taking a ride on a motorcycle and girls that like tattoos usually REALLY like them. It gives you an edgier look, but def only pursue if having a bike and body art is something you like too. Both are a big commitment/expense.
/r/seduction14/08/17 02:51 PM
1

Get a motorcycle and some tattoos.
/r/seduction14/08/17 01:43 PM
1

I'm sorry, are you seriously suggesting you don't go beyond a kiss the first date? What is your reasoning?
/r/seduction13/08/17 07:14 PM
3

If you're using tinder you should be setting up the date the night of or the next day. A week from now she'll probably forget about you if you stop talking on the app and if you continue texting her then you'll have little to talk about on the date. You've put yourself in a situation where you don't have much room to build attraction plus tinder girls tend to be super flakey because they're talking to 10 other guys on there.
/r/seduction11/08/17 04:44 PM
1

Thanks for taking that completely out of context and wasting your own time.
/r/seduction10/08/17 07:18 PM
2

I run into this once in a while. The best thing to do is try to look at your nervousness as excitement. They're pretty much the same feeling (even the physical symptoms are identical), but one is from a negative outlook and the other is from a positive outlook. Harness that energy to show up to the meet up feeling confident. Another thing to remember is that this girl is just another human being. She's just like you, so don't make it anything more intense than that. I remember how I felt the fir…
/r/seduction10/08/17 05:16 PM
1

I didn't mean to come off as hostile. It just really seemed like your initial comment was putting OP down for thinking that IG could be an avenue for meeting some girls and that's a bummer to see on this subreddit.
/r/seduction05/08/17 08:34 PM
1

In both your comments you are taking one type of woman and pasting that mindset on every girl in the same situation. There are smoking hot girls out there that aren't IG models and have a couple hundred followers that will gladly talk to and meet with an interesting looking guy on IG. You saying all women think the same way when they're on tinder or when they're on IG is just ignorant. Every woman is different. Just like you can have a mediocre looking girl be confident to ask for your number at…
/r/seduction04/08/17 09:21 PM
1

I'd say I meet more high quality women on IG in comparison to tinder. If your IG isn't showing you doing interesting things then you're not interesting. You sound like someone who isn't pulling girls via social media or otherwise.
/r/seduction04/08/17 09:00 PM
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I have actually used Instagram quite a bit. I'm big into yoga and will end up having girls follow me because their friend mentions me or I come up in conversation. Here are some ways I open via dm with girls I've never met https://imgur.com/a/GXU4m . I just try to connect with them on something they enjoy and usually within 10 message exchanges I have a number and a date set up. Not guaranteed to work, but if your life looks interesting on insta then girls will be into that. Good luck!
/r/seduction04/08/17 08:49 PM
1

Cześć. Jak tam z dziewczynami w Niemcach? W Polsce było strasznie spoko haha
/r/seduction27/07/17 07:16 PM
2

I was just in Poland for a few days. While there I always used polish as I am basically fluent. Girls generally found the slight accent I have cute as well and it usually drew them in once they found out I'm from the states. One girl invited me home not even an hour after meeting me haha. It shows intelligence when you at least attempt to use a language other than your own.
/r/seduction27/07/17 01:40 PM
2

I think the first option is most definitely the best bet. You're young, you'll meet plenty of other women if this one doesn't choose you. Why not enjoy the time with her for now? You lose nothing. If she chooses someone else then you already know it wasn't meant to be.
/r/seduction12/07/17 06:43 PM
1

You're basically saying you just hang out with girls in group social settings and you only hang out with one if you like her. That's what I did in high school because I just didn't know better, but honestly that's the most passive way to seduce a woman if you can even call that seduction at all.
/r/seduction04/07/17 12:46 PM
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I never have a date that lasts less than 3 hours. Why would you only date one woman unless you're already in a committed relationship? You're more likely to meet a better match if you're getting to know more than one. To each his own, but as someone that used to focus on one girl at a time it's really not a great approach towards getting better with women or finding more high quality women to have in your life.
/r/seduction03/07/17 07:58 PM
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If you're dating 3-4 other women how do you find the time to see them all that many times? Plus, most adult women will be too busy to see you that often (and you shouldnt have that much free time either). I'd say once a week is solid. You can build on the relationship, but still give her the chance to miss you.
/r/seduction03/07/17 05:32 PM
2

I feel like if she's into you then getting her to your place is the easiest thing. Towards the end of the night just drop: after party at my place? It'll be either a confident yes or a skeptical yes. If you are within walking distance just flirt the entire way there. Grab her hand, lead her, put your arm around her. It's usually good to ask something like what she finds Sexy in a guy. Get her mind in a frame where she'll be thinking about what turns her on. If she drove there. Once she says yes,…
/r/seduction08/05/17 05:11 AM
2

I'll be in Amsterdam in the middle of July. A little far out from now, but I'd be interested for sure!
/r/seduction03/05/17 09:35 PM
2

Work on overcoming your social anxiety. The alcohol helps, yeah, but if you practice approaching people sober over time the anxiety gets easier to overcome. I'm almost a year sober and I've been working on this a lot. Otherwise just limit yourself to a drink or two.
/r/seduction14/04/17 12:59 PM
1

Check out this Ted talk: https://www.youtube.com/shared?ci=e3WB8F3EOFE
/r/seduction11/04/17 08:27 PM
2

I took salsa classes at Latin rhythms and they were great! They also hold dancing socials every two weeks or so on Saturday nights where you can go and practice.
/r/seduction31/03/17 03:42 PM
1

I actually just had a lesson in this. The girl and I would get together for dates and we would have a blast, but in between we send each other literally just a text or two to set up a time and place to get together. Every girl is different.
/r/seduction14/03/17 06:30 PM
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