Is this a shit test?

norwegiandoggo · 2024-09-18T13:41:45+00:00

This "problem" happens because you asked them on a date without specifying the activity. So they want to know what activity you have planned.

It's not a shit test. It's just normal communication. You have done a poor job at communicating what kind of date it is that you're taking them on.

Why do they care? Most women want to dress and put on makeup that is appropriate for the occasion. A fancy dinner date may require a different outfit than going bowling.

They may also want to know you have a plan - and that you're not some loser that asks women out without having a plan. Because that is a going to be a lousy date that she would probably not go on.

I avoid this problem by simply saying "want to get a coffee sometime?" when I ask them out. Then they know the activity is getting coffee. Problem solved. I have never gotten that question anymore since doing that.

BravoPUA · 2024-09-18T19:47:33+00:00

No. Thats just basic planning.

The date should be a DHV date that helps her say yes to a night out with you.

Something cool/fun/new/ exciting.

Even if cheap and lowkey.

Conjoined_Triangles · 2024-09-18T13:43:45+00:00

I've always taken that as a question of are we doing anything else other than going to a bar and drink. Usually when I get a question like that I just say we go do whatever activity at a given place. Most of the time I will just suggest drinks at a bar and if they pass I move on to another girl. Some girls just have no interest going on a regular date, so they ask what the plan is before agreeing to anything and pass if it's not exciting enough for them. The recent date I had asked this and I told her we're going to a street festival and find something interesting to eat/drink and she was cool with it.

I just prefer seeing girls with higher investment, I'm sure you could say the right words to get this girl to come out but if she's not receptive to making plans concrete then it's likely she's fatigued by dating and it wouldn't be fun go out with her at the current moment anyway.

New-Temperature-4067 · 2024-09-18T13:32:09+00:00

They are polling to see if its interesting enough to go to in my experience. but that was a decade ago. curious to see what others think of this.

1PettyPettyPrincess · 2024-09-18T18:31:44+00:00

I must be missing something. It seems like you’re confused about why someone would want to know plan details before committing to a time/day for said plans. Can you clarify what you think is the “shit test”? I’m assuming asking for plan details isn’t what you think is the “shit test”.

As a woman, if a guy I didn’t know responded to me asking about date details in a flippant and “funny” way I’d not go on that date. It would seem like he was avoiding the answer and that’s a really weird thing to avoid.

Valor0us · 2024-09-18T20:03:41+00:00

I've been on hundreds of dates and never gotten this question once. What are you sending them before you get this?

Alphagreen_97 · 2024-09-18T13:36:47+00:00

Don't use dating apps.

Don't get me wrong, you definitely can have success on there but you're literally competing against hundreds if not thousands of other guys. Plus, many women on there are either just trying to get validation or wasting men's time because they got dumped by Chad and are bitter and resentful.

Much better to just approach women, in my experience higher quality women and much better results simply because almost no men approaches correctly or at all. You will leave a much better impression than the Simps giving her compliments on her app. There is no emotional impact when you write a message, only if you talk face to face

Leewaak · 2024-09-18T13:42:04+00:00

Never had this happen to me. You said yourself once or twice so just know its rare

I would think that they were just bored and enjoying the convo but weren’t planning on meeting up, so when you brought it up seeing how they were enjoying the convo they tried to give you a chance but you had to make it a very good exciting enjoyable date for them to accept. Which means they weren’t interested in meeting up from the start, but if it was an offer they couldnt turn down then sure

Next time it happens just move on. Most girls arent like that

Title	Is this a shit test?
Author	appolonysian
Upvotes	12
Comments	32
Date	September 18, 2024 1:20 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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