I’ll keep this short:

When I match with a woman on an app, I keep things date oriented and pushing for a meet up. This is both to actually ensure something happens and to weed out attention seekers.

Sometimes I run into a “I’d like to chat with you here before setting something up” or we’ll set up a date and she’ll continue asking questions over text after we agree on a time and place.

In both cases, it seems like a losing situation: I have had many instances where as soon as you start that “get to know you” back n forth, they ghost and/or flake on the date they had been down for in the beginning. That’s what has led me to be so direct from the jump.

Is there any winning here? If so, how? Just answer super slow?

And don’t say “move on.” It’s an obvious option, but I’m trying to maximize my returns here.