| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 26 | So, you messaged a girl after (you thought) a great first date and no reply. What now? Just give up? | Conversation | VelvetSinclair | /r/seduction | 10/10/25 05:56 PM |
| 24 | Never hear about "negging" anymore. What other ideas that used to be popular here have become outdated? | Conversation | VelvetSinclair | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 05:48 AM |
| 11 | How would you change your approach/lifestyle/strategy if you were looking for a high quality girlfriend, rather than living the PUA lifestyle? | Lifestyle | VelvetSinclair | /r/seduction | 10/08/25 12:25 PM |
| 5 | Is it generally normal for people in your culture to talk to strangers? | Lifestyle | VelvetSinclair | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 10:51 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1 | I pretended to be rich on hingeI recently got a girlfriend and was finally gonna unsubscribe from here So glad I didn't haha | /r/seduction | 10/04/26 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Has stopping masturbation and porn helped you approach women?It made my balls hurt | /r/seduction | 08/04/26 03:49 PM |
| 1 | Best hobbies or jobs to get girls?Surf instructor | /r/seduction | 06/04/26 09:34 AM |
| 5 | She said "I've never done this before"... Do they usually say that?Did you do something during sex that most guys maybe don't do? I think most guys are pretty bad at sex. The bar is on the floor | /r/seduction | 05/04/26 09:08 PM |
| 110 | Always Remember That Women Treat Men Differently Based On Their Level Of Attraction…..On that point though, if you can get into the habit of being friendly and chatty with just about everyone, striking up a conversation with a pretty girl suddenly won't feel so daunting | /r/seduction | 01/04/26 08:52 AM |
| 2 | How much does being muscular actually help with attraction?People who exercise are healthier and look better We're not reinventing the wheel here | /r/seduction | 20/03/26 07:35 PM |
| 22 | How much does being muscular actually help with attraction?Try to put on as much muscle as possible and stay as lean as possible If you try that for a few years, you probably still wont look like a body builder or have 4%BF Your words reveal lack of experience | /r/seduction | 20/03/26 09:53 AM |
| 6 | Do you guys go through your girl’s phone? If then how?Never needed to never wanted to | /r/seduction | 19/03/26 05:07 PM |
| 1 | How did your last approach go?Pretty good Gonna get engaged soon | /r/seduction | 17/03/26 07:07 PM |
| 4 | Should I text between setting up the date and the date itself?Text to confirm it's still on. That's all. Before the date, you don't even know her. What you wanna text about? At the same time, radio silence has led to miscommunication for me. Just keep it brief and casual | /r/seduction | 17/03/26 03:49 PM |
| 0 | If you had to pick a career to meet women, what would you choose?Male pornstar | /r/seduction | 13/03/26 10:08 PM |
| 1 | I don't understand why online-dating has such a negative stigma here95% of hot women go for 5% of the guys So... For 95% of guys it sucks And for 5% of guys it's amazing | /r/seduction | 11/03/26 09:16 PM |
| 3 | Confidence comes from within? It make you more attractive? You actually believe this?Dude, look at Jack Black Short, fat, hairy, not especially attractive in any way People love him Women love him He's a fun guy to be around And he's not putting it on, he's very genuine and he cares a lot and he wears his heart on his sleeve But yes, eating better, getting some exercise, dressing better, grooming yourself, etc... these things will help. You can totally transform your body in a year or two. You really think a confident short guy who exercises, has hobbies, dresses well, etc... yo… | /r/seduction | 08/03/26 08:27 AM |
| 5 | Dating apps seems to be a lot easier if done rightLike 95% of women's likes go to 5% of men Just be one of those men | /r/seduction | 04/03/26 08:34 PM |
| 25 | Women don’t approach because they are more sensitive to rejectionIf a man was "approaching but not directly" you'd call it not approaching | /r/seduction | 03/03/26 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Have you noticed a prejudice against you based on nationality in seduction?I'm an British East Asian guy. I work out, etc. Keep my style good. I'm not ranting, but I do get less juice for the same squeeze as my white British friends, all else being equal. What about with Asian girls in the uk? Honest question | /r/seduction | 20/02/26 09:35 AM |
| 2 | How I Get Girls To Come Straight Over (My Full Framework)There's no way chatgpt could generate English this bad | /r/seduction | 16/02/26 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Y’all going out tonight?Everyone who goes to a bar on valentine's day without a boyfriend/girlfriend is hoping to get hit on It's the easiest day of the year I pretty much exclusively use apps (they work for me and also I'm a coward) and even I went out last night and pulled | /r/seduction | 15/02/26 02:04 PM |
| 3 | Daygame 2025 stats revealwe are comparing apples to oranges when we are comparing cold approach and apps. The skillset is different and the experience is different. You might prefer one or the other, more power to you Yeah, I agree with that I've read that 90% of girls match with just 10% of guys in apps or something. Lucky for me I'm one of those guys 🤷♂️ | /r/seduction | 01/01/26 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Daygame 2025 stats revealFun idea. I use apps, so here's a comparison: Approaches: 0 - I send about 10 likes every day Dates: 22 different women. Obviously some I dated multiple times. Also have three more already set up for early Jan. Apps: 3 dates from Hinge, 1 date from Tinder, 18 dates from Breeze Lays: Also 4 - Again, some multiple times as we dated for a while So... I put in much less effort and got similar results? I'm not really looking to rack up numbers though. I'm looking for a real long term relationship. Th… | /r/seduction | 01/01/26 04:40 PM |
| 2 | 20+ Hinge dates , 0 second dates [ SF ]I still don't know what your problem is Your post made it sound like you're getting no second dates with girls you want to pursue, and you're asking what you're doing wrong in the dates But now you're making it sound like you're meeting loads of girls but you don't even want a second date with them, and you're asking what you're doing wrong in finding what you're looking for | /r/seduction | 28/12/25 06:37 PM |
| 1 | 20+ Hinge dates , 0 second dates [ SF ]To women this reads "I don't know what I want OR I want casual sex but I'm not being honest about it" Why would a girl who meets the standard of your exs waste her time with that? | /r/seduction | 28/12/25 12:05 PM |
| 2 | 20+ Hinge dates , 0 second dates [ SF ]but I'm open to something serious It's not really fair but 99% of women will ignore this part if you're looking for something casual I'm still confused with your issue than Your post made it sound like you're getting no second dates with girls you want to pursue, and you're asking what you're doing wrong in the dates But now you're making it sound like you're meeting loads of girls but you don't even want a second date with them, and you're asking what you're doing wrong in finding what you're l… | /r/seduction | 28/12/25 11:12 AM |
| 1 | 20+ Hinge dates , 0 second dates [ SF ]You nowhere mention what you're trying to get out of Hinge Looking for a serious long term relationship or no? Generally on hinge that's what girls are looking for I think. If you give off the energy that you're looking for the same thing, you can do well. But yes, it's a slower game than one night stands in clubs or whatever the cold approach guys do. Personally I'm looking for something serious, but still we usually have sex on 2nd or 3rd date. Waiting ages to even hold hands sounds a bit craz… | /r/seduction | 28/12/25 11:04 AM |
| 3 | Be honest, if a girl calls you cute instead of hot/handsome it isn't about attraction right ?Type "cute guys" into Google images and ask yourself if women would want to fuck the guys you see | /r/seduction | 28/12/25 10:59 AM |
| 2 | how do you have more confidence in your body ?I really wouldn't worry about boobs Big, small, whatever... If you're physically fit, that's the main thing that will affect how attractive your body is If you're physically fit and you have big boobs also, a lot of people are going to love that I'd you're physically fit and you have small boobs... A LOT of people are going to LOVE that If you're out of shape, then... Well fewer people will love that but some people will still love it Just focus on the things you can control and work towards imp… | /r/seduction | 06/10/25 09:35 PM |
| 4 | Short kingIf 1 in ten girls are going to be into you, then you have to approach ten If 1 in a hundred girls are going to be into you, yeah you have it harder, but you approach a hundred and get the same result For some people this is a sprint, for others it's a marathon, but the finish line is the same Work on yourself with the things you can control. Also, I saw some research that suggested women are mostly attracted to lean mass. A taller guy is generally going to have more of that than a short guy. Ind… | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 11:38 AM |
| 76 | Where to look for a sex casual friend?Statistically, the guys who have the most sex the most regularly, are the guys in committed long term relationships | /r/seduction | 02/10/25 02:33 PM |
| 37 | Why do women lose interest when I start actively pursuing them?I think this advice gets confusing because people don't know what chasing means Like, should you never approach a girl, never message her, never make a move, never escalate? Because that's all chasing? Of course not So when people say you shouldn't chase, what are they saying you shouldn't do? | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 02:52 PM |
| -1 | Am I allowed to tell you verbatim what various books tell you to say and do in interactions?Which books are the most worth reading And least? | /r/seduction | 26/09/25 07:56 AM |
| 1 | What does she mean by 😮Could be either or neither | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 10:11 AM |
| 1 | Why would a man follow predominantly women on Instagram? And they all look the same.. ie; Blonde, Tall, skinny.Men like looking at pretty women | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 05:36 AM |
| 9 | Stop measuring interest by how fast she replies. It's ruining your dating life.Okay but how much time If she leaves you on read for a week... Is she still interested? At some point you've been ghosted. That happens Is it ever okay to send a follow-up text. E.g. Your last message was a bit vague and she didn't reply "Sounds good, let's that next weekend" Okay, four days go by no reply. It's Thursday now. The weekend is coming up. You text again? Or just give up? | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 07:15 PM |
| 4 | Any guys 5'4" or shorter doing amazing in dating ?I see this advice given a lot I've even given it myself But... How do you actually do it Like, just make smalltalk with coworkers, cashiers, people at your hobby, etc...? That's all it takes? I don't want to be the guy who just talks all the time for no reason. Who never shuts up even if he's got nothing worthwhile to say. And I've known plenty of popular and charismatic people who pick their moments to speak, so just talking all the time seems like the wrong call Not sure if I should be doing s… | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 04:37 PM |
| 1 | How to seduce and build a great relationship with you, dear menI need a guy to make the first invitation move or I'll of course think he is not interested in me It makes perfect sense Men want women to make the first move or they think she's not interested Women want men to make the first move or they think he's not interested We're in exactly the same situation, so you're getting the same advice If a guy was on this forum complaining "I never ask anyone out and I'm getting no dates, what am I doing wrong?" We'd tell him to try approaching. Same for you "Bu… | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 04:07 PM |
| 1 | How to seduce and build a great relationship with you, dear menI show my interest by making him many compliments, laughing at his jokes and keeping the eye contact consciously a bit longer than usually. Like giving all the signs. Yeah he has no idea Girls who like boys do all those things Girls who don't like boys also do all those things So it's meaningless In fact, sometimes girls get offended when you think they're interested just because they did those things. "Not every girl who smiles at you wants to fuck you, creep." This movie captured it especially… | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 03:33 PM |
| 31 | How to seduce and build a great relationship with you, dear menIf she's attractive, she makes it clear she's romantically interested, and she has a good personality, then I'll marry her That's really all it takes Most women don't do at least one of those things Try saying "I'd really like to go on a date with you" Men aren't complicated If you just "show interest and be nice" he will likely be completely oblivious to the fact you want to date him | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 10:51 AM |
| 6 | What to talk about when making conversations interesting with a date?Sometimes yes, but sometimes girls are just awkward. Maybe because they're shy or something. I've dated girls who weren't great at conversation early on. My last girlfriend was like this. Actually, I ended things basically because I was bored of doing all the heavy lifting whenever we met up. But she was still keen on me. Just need some social intelligence to figure out which scenario you're in. | /r/seduction | 23/09/25 02:55 PM |
| 5 | What to talk about when making conversations interesting with a date?But sometimes the conversation can just die Sometimes a girl gives a really nothing answer and I find myself thinking "what the hell can I ask about THAT?" Like she has no plans for the weekend, she finds her work just fine but doesn't seem excited to talk about it but doesn't really know what she's like to do instead... It all becomes kinda bleh Or if we've been on the same topic for a while, and it's kinda boring, like work or something, and it's not really creating attraction or interest It's… | /r/seduction | 23/09/25 09:02 AM |
| 1 | What's more seductive, an innocent face or an openly flirty one on a woman?Either, as long as she's enthusiastic | /r/seduction | 23/09/25 06:41 AM |
| 102 | 5 Tightly Guarded Secrets of FemaleWe don't guard our secrets that tightly though | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 09:02 PM |
| 14 | Why do you guys keep using Dating Apps?About 90% of likes from women go to just 10% of guys Lucky for me, I'm one of those guys | /r/seduction | 21/09/25 07:31 PM |
| 6 | Women do make the first move, approach and quite literally throw themselves at a guy they are interested inSure they do that to some guys But if you're not one of those guys, then it's on you to act | /r/seduction | 19/09/25 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Gathered courage and talked to my gym crush. Turned out that she's older than me. Is it over or I should play my shot?Off topic but how did you approach? Gym approaches seem the most difficult to me | /r/seduction | 18/09/25 09:43 PM |
| 295 | got 300 likes on a Thailand dating app with women aged 18-24. 0 Likes on Tinder in Europe. im in my 30's.People keep saying "most of them are ladyboys/hookers/only after money/etc..." OKay, if you remove 99% of them, that's still 3 women in thailand and 0 in europe | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 10:31 PM |
| 8 | Men, how do you want to get seduced by a woman?Just be straightforward Let us know how interested you are Not with a secret language of eye contact and body language and bullshit Like, just say it | /r/seduction | 14/09/25 08:09 AM |
| 1 | When do you usually initiate physical touch on a first date?Just read her body language. If she squirms or seems uncomfortable, then leave it out for a while. Give her time to get more comfortable with you. If she still seems comfortable or touches back or smiles then she's all good. It doesn't have to be short. You can put your hand on her for the whole time you're asking a question, like you're keeping her steady while you're trying to figure something out. *Hand on arm/lower back "Wait, that really happened? You're not fucking with me?" "Haha no it re… | /r/seduction | 12/09/25 06:29 AM |
| 2 | When do you usually initiate physical touch on a first date?I use it like punctuation marks "What? Haha, no way that happened!" *shoulder touch If she seems into it, escalate. If she doesn't, that's fine, give her time to warm up. | /r/seduction | 11/09/25 06:30 PM |
| 7 | Ignoring flirty cashier to wake interest. What could go wrong?Sounds like she's just enjoying her day | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 04:57 PM |
| 0 | Toronto is hell if you're a normal black dude tryna dateI didn't say anything about what women deserve But obviously dating will be harder if you're unfit That's got nothing to do with being black or being in Toronto | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 04:41 PM |
| 4 | Toronto is hell if you're a normal black dude tryna dateWhat do you mean by "normal dude" Vs "athlete stereotype" Do you mean you're out of shape? | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 03:35 PM |
| 47 | When she says “im going home” during night gameWhat did you expect her to say? That's where most people go after a night out | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 11:20 AM |
| 7 | Guys that can regularly get FWBs and hookups...What's your lifestyle like where you're coming across so many single women to hang out and chat with? I think this is a big factor many overlook | /r/seduction | 09/09/25 07:09 AM |
| 2 | Cannot tell for the life of me if while dancing they are just having fun or trying to hit on meAlso, if they don't reciprocate, that's not a death knell Some guys are afraid to escalate, because if she doesn't respond, they think it's all over. Like you're going all in at poker or something But it's not like that She might just not be comfortable with that level yet, so that's fine. Back off a little, keep it chill, wait for her to come to you Of course, if she does make it clear that she's not interested then don't waste your time on her. But there's a difference between stop, and slow d… | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 08:33 AM |
| 8 | Women simp on whole another levelHow tall And what behaviours do you think lead to this aura | /r/seduction | 05/09/25 04:08 PM |
| 6 | 8 noob level tips to get you started in the game of datingDepends on if it's baggy because that's the style, or because it doesn't fit A lot of men wear clothes that don't fit and they look like shit | /r/seduction | 05/09/25 06:32 AM |
| 1 | Why is there so little eye contact on the streetsAre you saying there's little compared to... What? The USA? The past? | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Pegging AthensFetlife? Fetish meetup groups? This seems more like a question for the fetish community than this sub | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 11:45 AM |
| 17 | I’m having a crisis in my 20’s…Yeah don't worry OP, there's plenty of women in nursing homes | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 10:22 PM |
| 1 | After a first date, when is the best time to text a woman for a second date or re-initiate contact?No, it's fine | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Avoiding dinner first date — how would you guys handle this?Get small plates or charcuterie with wine | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 03:05 PM |
| 2 | After a first date, when is the best time to text a woman for a second date or re-initiate contact?Honestly, if she wants to see you again, then it doesn't matter But too soon can be a bit needy and too late can send the wrong message like you're not interested You can't go wrong by saying the next day Ideally, you'll be referring back to the date you planned with her in-person on your first date | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 02:57 PM |
| 15 | Should you date with a girl who you don't find physically attractive in her pictures?Generally no but sometimes you can get a reverse catfish You need to know how to spot them. Is it an unattractive girl or does an attractive girl just have shit photos? It's great to get a reverse catfish because you're competing against fewer guys, and she's probably not Instagram obsessed | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 12:13 PM |
| 4 | I'm dead afraid of approaching women, how can I get better.Try approaching other strangers Try approaching women you aren't attracted to By approach, I mean striking up a convo, not trying to get their number To start with, as the time, say your phone died, ask for directions you don't need Then you can tack stuff on the end, like a compliment or another question A lot of guys who are afraid of approaching women never zoom out and realise they're afraid of approaching EVERYONE. But the stakes are lower with everyone else, so start there | /r/seduction | 31/08/25 08:11 AM |
| 3 | 5 hints to escalation!If you don’t make the first move then she will and it usually starts with her talking about her boobs first. Then thats your hint to ask her about her size. Once she tells you the size then it’e safe to say “i bet they’re beautiful too, may i see them?” Which results in her taking off her top, unhooking her bra and peeling it off in front of you Bruh what Maybe this has happened to you, but... usually? | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 08:48 PM |
| 2 | Girls only lust after me, but have no interest in datingWhere are you finding all these girls so interested in sex but not dating It's the opposite experience for me This from cold approach or OLD or what? | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 10:16 AM |
| 1 | You shouldn’t ONLY be texting a woman in the beginning!Okay but multiple women I've dated have complained about me doing that Some even stopped seeing me, although I can't be sure it was for this alone Can it be taken too far? | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 05:57 PM |
| 2 | You shouldn’t ONLY be texting a woman in the beginning!gleam (social skills trainer on phone) Apple only, apparently | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 04:12 PM |
| 2 | You shouldn’t ONLY be texting a woman in the beginning!I try not to text much and use texting as a form of setting up dates or activities Multiple women I've dated have complained about me doing this. Some even stopped seeing me, although I can't be sure it was for this alone Yet it's commonly given dating advice for men What gives? | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 04:11 PM |
| 5 | How Valuable Is Being Morally Upstanding With Women?I think having a fun and interesting life is what's important If that means you spend your time doing charity work, volunteering, and you genuinely enjoy it and have friends there, then great If it means you do salsa dancing, are in a running club and play in a band, that doesn't help anyone else, but it's still really cool If you stay home all day playing video games, that's not so attractive | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 12:00 PM |
| 1 | Is it generally normal for people in your culture to talk to strangers?Also in UK (London, where people are famously closed to strangers) So you still cold approach? In public, at bars, at night, at day? How do you deal with the social climate here? | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 09:57 AM |
| 5 | Is it generally normal for people in your culture to talk to strangers?So do you feel similar to me when you read some posts/comments on this sub "Uhh... we don't do that here" I often think when Americans give advice they think is universal | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 07:33 AM |
| 4 | Is it generally normal for people in your culture to talk to strangers?I agree, but wishing society was different doesn't make it so | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 07:32 AM |
| 1 | Girl told me she’s not able to date right now but still trying to see meSome girls just like the attention You chasing her boosts her self esteem She may not even realise she's doing it If not that, then find out if she's dtf | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 09:29 PM |
| 11 | Question: if I (woman) want to be picked up during daytime, how do I make myself available?A woman has a much lower chance of being rejected, or accidentally coming across as creepy or dangerous As a guy, you have to be constantly aware that you're not making the woman feel unsafe. That kills your approach and more importantly it's just not nice You can say literally anything to most men and they're not going to feel afraid. Worst case scenario they're confused | /r/seduction | 27/08/25 09:54 AM |
| 3 | Should I pay evrything on a date??First date? Yes. Unless she insists otherwise. Some women can feel like they are being bought, which they don't like. Generally though, yes. After that? I would offer to pay, since I make a decent amount more than the younger women I'm dating, and I tend to choose expensive venues. But if they prefer to pay, we can work something out like I get the food she gets the drinks. Or I pay for the tickets so she pays for dinner. But a lot of women make decent money and genuinely want an equal relations… | /r/seduction | 26/08/25 07:22 AM |
| 3 | If a woman is nervous around you - turn on or turn off?Never a turn off But I might misinterpret shyness as disinterest | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 03:29 PM |
| 46 | Why liberals get more casual sexRight wingers / reactionaries / traditionalists are much more likely to view sex outside of marriage as sinful Widespread acceptance of casual sex came in during the sexual revolution, which was strongly tied to left/liberal or countercultural movements | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 01:46 PM |
| 24 | How many women are you currently seeing at once? And is she aware that you're dating multiple people?Really don't understand how people can see so many women at once I've got hobbies and shit to do. I can't just date girls all the time. I'm dating one for now, but not exclusive yet, so still going on other occasional dates Even then, having three dates a week scheduled, whether they're first dates or tenth dates, starts to interfere with my life too much | /r/seduction | 17/08/25 04:06 PM |
| 6 | How do you not be boring?Just wanna say, really good comment This is why I stay subscribed | /r/seduction | 15/08/25 02:17 PM |
| 29 | Which book worked for you the most?Models by Mark Manson | /r/seduction | 13/08/25 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Romantic Attraction GuideDon't believe you Unless you were deliberately trying to write a parody of an AI | /r/seduction | 12/08/25 06:33 PM |
| 7 | Romantic Attraction GuideThis is SO ChatGPT | /r/seduction | 12/08/25 02:29 PM |
| 12 | How Soon Is It Appropriate To Ask A Woman To Hangout After Matching On App?Within 10 messages | /r/seduction | 12/08/25 11:31 AM |
| 2 | How do I start conversations when profiles have so little info?What would be a better line? | /r/seduction | 12/08/25 06:11 AM |
| 1 | How do I start conversations when profiles have so little info?What would be a better line than: "Hey how's it going? Up to anything interesting this weekend?" | /r/seduction | 12/08/25 01:29 AM |
| 0 | How do I start conversations when profiles have so little info?What is a better line that a guy should be sending Right now there's only one opener in the thread and it's mine So "How's it going? Up to anything interesting this weekend?" Is the best opener in this thread about good openers right now | /r/seduction | 12/08/25 01:15 AM |
| 2 | How do I start conversations when profiles have so little info?What would be better? It's the one I've had the most success with, but always happy to hear an improvement | /r/seduction | 11/08/25 11:59 PM |
| -4 | How do I start conversations when profiles have so little info?Hey how's it going? Up to anything interesting this weekend? | /r/seduction | 11/08/25 11:34 PM |
| 0 | How would you change your approach/lifestyle/strategy if you were looking for a high quality girlfriend, rather than living the PUA lifestyle?You mean women prefer when men don't just want sex? | /r/seduction | 11/08/25 04:36 PM |
| 2 | The Masculinity TrapThe other side though is guys who look like absolute weak pushovers. There's a balance women are looking for when it comes to masculinity Evolutionarily, a man could have sex with as many women as he liked. The more feminine they looked, the better. Simple. But a woman had to be more selective. Having a child is a big investment Choose a man who's not strong enough to protect her or her children, and she might may the price BUT choose a man who's dangerous to her and her children, and that's als… | /r/seduction | 11/08/25 02:02 PM |
| 3 | What's your way of asking a woman over to your place for the first time?What do you mean come in before you go out? Like, she came to your place before the date? | /r/seduction | 10/08/25 10:27 PM |
| 1 | What do you do on a date if...I dunno. Do you have a cup of tea before bed? While you're focusing on a project? Morning routine? Then mention it while you're talking about those things Personally I have a different kind of tea depending on what kind of mood I want to put myself in. Same for playlists. So even if we're talking about music I can bring up the tea But I'm English, so bringing up tea isn't really unusual | /r/seduction | 10/08/25 09:47 PM |
| 2 | What do you do on a date if...Heavily depends on culture though Some places, or girls from those places, will take more or less time Agree that at some point you just need to call it quits though | /r/seduction | 10/08/25 09:22 PM |
| 1 | What do you do on a date if...That's fine. A woman wants to know you're interested. Making your intentions clear rather than trying to be sneaky is honest, straightforward and non-creepy. It gets creepy when the guy keeps pushing the point. Shows low social intelligence and lack of respect for boundaries. If she's not comfortable enough with you / trust you enough at that point, pushing harder will KILL any trust you have built up. Kinda depends on what you're dating for. If you're looking to have sex that night then... idk.… | /r/seduction | 10/08/25 09:19 PM |
| 0 | Are We Dating the Same Guy FB Groupsyou think all 'women' are perfectly mature and objective No I don't? Didn't say that Also, why is women in quotation marks? Are we not talking about women? | /r/seduction | 09/08/25 03:37 PM |
| 9 | Are We Dating the Same Guy FB GroupsYeah. I think that's the general assumption though. A guy who wasn't interested in her for her personality was just sticking around for sex, and then once he got that he lost interest. And I'm saying that there can be another explanation. A guy who's totally loving her personality sticks around for it, but then has sex that's so bad he loses interest. Everyone always assumes it's the first but for me it's always the latter | /r/seduction | 09/08/25 03:36 PM |
| 14 | Are We Dating the Same Guy FB GroupsYou can usually figure that out before you fuck them though | /r/seduction | 09/08/25 10:53 AM |
| 20 | Are We Dating the Same Guy FB GroupsIdk if they have low morals I imagine most women are there because they're safety conscious But some women will abuse such systems to spread gossip and lies, which hurts the men and also makes dating less safe for other women because then these systems become unreliable Really shitty | /r/seduction | 09/08/25 10:20 AM |
| 45 | Are We Dating the Same Guy FB GroupsI'm looking to seriously date, but if the sex the first time is awful then I'm not going to repeat and I'm not going to waste time I'm sure these girls think I was just in it for the sex The reality is, that's what drove me away Ever notice how some women seem to just keep dating guys who only want sex? And other women make the guys they date stick around? Maybe some women are just bad in bed 🤷🏻♂️ | /r/seduction | 09/08/25 10:18 AM |
| 1 | Getting a girl backIt ends with saying something It starts with working on yourself | /r/seduction | 06/08/25 10:08 AM |
| 1 | What Are Some Common Misconceptions That Guys Have About “The Game” or Seduction In General?I never thought of them as mutually exclusive | /r/seduction | 06/08/25 09:01 AM |
| 2 | What Are Some Common Misconceptions That Guys Have About “The Game” or Seduction In General?It won't do the work for you, that's for sure But it helps its like a multiplier maybe. If you've got zero game then you can times that by a hundred, it's still zero But if you're halfway decent while you're out of shape and dressed like a slob, getting lean and dressing well will probably see you do better | /r/seduction | 06/08/25 12:06 AM |
| 360 | I left my date because she wants me to payFeel like top commenters aren't reading the text I always pay, unless she really insists otherwise But if she straight said to my face "I want you to pay for me" I'd be outta there Fuck that | /r/seduction | 05/08/25 09:13 PM |
| 7 | What Are Some Common Misconceptions That Guys Have About “The Game” or Seduction In General?At the same time though, I see a lot of people discounting the things they can do to make themselves more attractive Being handsome is part genetics, but it's part fitness, diet, grooming, fashion, etc... You're not necessarily hopeless without that stuff, but holy shit it helps | /r/seduction | 05/08/25 07:55 PM |
| 1 | No success on dating apps and little to no success in the wild.Get to 10% BF asap, keep training for hypertrophy, and try those dance classes you mentioned Even besides the opportunity to meet women, I've found dance classes probably have the best ROI as far as dating goes (apart from cold approach maybe) It gives you a fun hobby and makes your life more interesting It'll make you fitter, it's essentially LISS cardio It gives you a skill you can use in other situations It's an opportunity to practice being confident, intimate and physical with women If it's… | /r/seduction | 05/08/25 05:41 PM |
| 2 | Photo with platonic female friend on dating profile, yes or no?If it's clearly a photo with friends, yes If it could be misconstrued as someone you're flirting with, no | /r/seduction | 05/08/25 10:51 AM |
| 4 | Lose weight guysCashew nuts and yfood | /r/seduction | 05/08/25 07:10 AM |
| 2 | How do I [F22] slowly start talking to attractive men casually ?If an average guy wants to bag hot women that's fine If an average woman wants to bag hot guys, that's fine. Good for her If an average man wants to bag hot women, but refuses to work on himself, make friends, or talk to people he's not attracted to, then he's probably going about it the wrong way Common advice given to men on this sub is to focus on self improvement. Women are attracted to men who work on themselves, who have their own hobbies, goals and interests. More common advice for men is… | /r/seduction | 03/08/25 08:20 PM |
| 5 | Simple basics: 4 common characteristics of guys who do well with womenYfood and cashew nuts | /r/seduction | 29/07/25 06:42 AM |
| 7 | Simple basics: 4 common characteristics of guys who do well with womenYup 4x per week If you don't lift you just get fat, no muscle. That's not a bulk, that's just overeating If you bulk fast, you put on muscle fast, with a lot of fat If you bulk slow, you put on muscle slower, but it's lean gains What's best depends on you and your goals | /r/seduction | 29/07/25 06:39 AM |
| 31 | Simple basics: 4 common characteristics of guys who do well with womenFor me, a bear mode bulk for 8 months did the trick Went from being the skinniest guy at my work, to all the guys asking me to show my biceps and asking for workout tips BUT I got fat as fuck in the process. Need to cut down again for women to actually see the gift that's under all that wrapping A lean bulk will be slower, but there'll be less unattractive "downtime" in the middle | /r/seduction | 28/07/25 11:45 PM |
| 41 | Simple basics: 4 common characteristics of guys who do well with womenI've seen women describe Henry Cavill in Man of Steel and Daniel Craig in Casino Royale as dad bods Women, generally speaking, do not understand FFMI or BF% That's why they want to be "toned" A woman may still sleep with you if you're unfit, but having more muscle and less body fat sure as shit won't hurt (for 99% of guys at least) | /r/seduction | 28/07/25 11:43 PM |
| 15 | Have you witnessed any case of leftist men being more successful at dating?Generally I've found it to be a benefit Women don't want to date a maga shithead or a misogynist For random sex it might be different, but I'm after a relationship | /r/seduction | 28/07/25 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Are there dating coaches that will fly. out to where you're at?Meditating and working out are stuff you do on your own Get a hobby where you interact with beautiful women a lot Social dance is a good way. You're basically forced into physical contact with a variety of attractive ladies, and you develop an attractive skill at the same time i am, noit fun to be around Need to fix that | /r/seduction | 28/07/25 01:54 PM |
| 5 | I don't have women to meet in my city.What city? | /r/seduction | 28/07/25 09:18 AM |
| 2 | Stop OverthinkingNope, don't think that's ever happened to me | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 08:32 PM |
| 2 | Stop OverthinkingWhat should I be looking for And where should I be looking? | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 05:49 PM |
| 2 | Stop OverthinkingI figure it's because I'm not so tall. Only 5'8 | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 05:40 PM |
| 13 | Stop OverthinkingLiterally never happened to me in my life Get compliments all the time. I've been told I look like a model by different groups. Guys ask me to show off my biceps because I lift. But for some reason I never detect any interest from women. | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 04:37 PM |
| 7 | Talking to girls gets easy—once you actually understand the world they live in.I agree What are some concrete examples of how one might "be that guy" Like, you're realising all this stuff. What do we actually do to act on it | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Why can't I have success with women?OnLine Dating | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 01:29 PM |
| 29 | Do you avoid porn?I watch porn I've been surprised, after you get to know them for a bit, how many women are open to discussing porn and trying things out that they've seen In my experience, women who watch porn are drawn more to the kinkier stuff, which suits me fine I guess they're turned on less by the visuals and more be the ideas, like domination, punishment, restraint, etc... This may be very much influenced by the type of women I date though. YMMV | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 11:44 AM |
| 1 | Why can't I have success with women?Have you tried OLD? I think some guys are better suited to that I never had success with cold approach in my life Currently getting 3 dates a week OLD. Not matches or likes, in person dates. | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 09:19 AM |
| 3 | Why can't I have success with women?Who tells you? | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 09:17 AM |
| 4 | Why can't I have success with women?Hello, for some time now I have been wondering why I am not successful with women. For about a year I have been improving myself in every way. I joined a mentoring programme, I go to the gym, and I try to look better in every way. I am constantly talking to people, whether on the street or in the mall, and I am trying to improve the quality of my game. So far, I have not been on a single date or picked up a girl from a club. I am already wondering where my mistake is. I put in so much effort and… | /r/seduction | 26/07/25 09:17 AM |
| 25 | Weird shit with girl i meet (Vibe)Strange experience with a girl I met (Vibe) Hey everyone. I'm 25, and I met a 19-year-old girl on Tinder. We met five times over the course of a week and a half. She messaged me every day, even told her mum about me. I met her sister once when I gave her a lift home, and on another occasion I met her cousin. She even gave me a little animal figurine of hers, and on one of our dates I won her a toy. On our last date, she invited me to hang out with her and her cousins. The next day, she texted me… | /r/seduction | 24/07/25 12:29 PM |
| 31 | Self-Improvement is Making me Worse with WomenNot giving a fuck whether she likes you or not is the number 1 thing that attracts women Or number 2 maybe. Being physically attractive might be number 1. That's difficult to fake when it is actually the number 1 thing that you give a fuck about One thing I'm trying is to improve at remembering things about others. Not trivia, I mean like stuff they're doing. Then I can text a friend "how did the house viewing go" or "how's Bilbao" and it shows not just that I was present when they were talking … | /r/seduction | 23/07/25 05:53 PM |
| 7 | Best way to get a FWB as an average guy?They specified "progress, looks, money, game" Being fun to be around comes under game Women wanting to fuck you comes under all of that | /r/seduction | 22/07/25 02:51 PM |
| 60 | Best way to get a FWB as an average guy?If other women want to fuck you and you're fun to be around, then you're above average | /r/seduction | 22/07/25 02:07 PM |
| 1 | How to leave him exhausted/ sore after bed?Pegging | /r/seduction | 22/07/25 10:56 AM |
| 2 | I always need to imagine someone less than me when I need that extra bit of courage.I'm not female And my comment is a game of thrones quote, so I don't really see the issue if a woman did post it | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 07:08 PM |
| 1 | I always need to imagine someone less than me when I need that extra bit of courage."Can a man still be brave if he's afraid?" "That is the only time a man can be brave." | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 08:20 AM |
| 5 | Mental fatigue from going to bars and clubs alone because friends are either unavailable or don’t have that much social energyBut they take about two weeks of daily pill taking to reach full effect You can't just take an antidepressant for the weekend | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 10:10 PM |
| 9 | Counter-Intuitive Lessons From The Field, Pt. 2- "Hot Girls" Are Average GirlsNice post, but is it really a lesson from the field? | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 07:30 PM |
| 5 | Being good at conversation sets you apart from 90% of guys — and it’s a skill you can actually trainMy city going through a heatwave rn, that actually is a decent idea | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 07:24 PM |
| 91 | Being good at conversation sets you apart from 90% of guys — and it’s a skill you can actually trainA very small icebreaker like handing out cigarettes is a good idea. Sometimes that's all it takes On nights out I always bring a few sticks of gum. Offer them to people when it's too loud to hear and they always smile and start dancing with me. But that's not really great for starting convos and I don't smoke. What are some other ideas? | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 05:18 PM |
| 0 | Do women really like men who are players, or have opinions?I cited three studies to back up my claims | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 08:08 AM |
| 1 | Isn’t Seduction Charisma?It's general but it has different facets Like, intelligence can be general But just because you're good at solving equations doesn't mean you can write a novel | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 06:07 AM |
| 1 | Isn’t Seduction Charisma?Also physical appearance, unless you count that under charisma Danny Devito's a charming guy, but he's never getting Ana De Armas into bed Different kinds of charisma too. Just because you give a great speech or make friends easily at the pub, doesn't mean you're good with women. | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 05:46 AM |
| 1 | John Elite PUA Dating Coach ReviewThis comment does not make you look good | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 11:27 AM |
| 37 | Do women really like men who are players, or have opinions?Studies have found that women judge potential partners on visuals EXACTLY the same amount as men They're just conditioned not to talk about it A man wanting a beautiful girlfriend is considered a fact of life, people shrug. A woman wanting a hot boyfriend is shallow, slutty, superficial, etc... so she just says "he gives me the ick" or "I'm not feeling a romantic vibe" Based on anecdotes, this is not what you might expect, but it's been looked into objectively and extensively and the results are… | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 05:37 AM |
| 6 | How To Tell When A Woman Is Unsatisfied In Her Relationship?Wait, why are you trying to tell as an outsider? | /r/seduction | 15/07/25 04:50 PM |
| 12 | How To Tell When A Woman Is Unsatisfied In Her Relationship?Too much arguing and not enough sex | /r/seduction | 15/07/25 04:27 PM |
| 14 | Who is up for practicing flirting with me lolThis is a good use for AI like ChatGPT Not because it will be effective, but because literally no human wants to practice flirting with you | /r/seduction | 14/07/25 01:58 PM |
| 4 | Intuition about girl feeling safesocial dancing Interesting. I've been considering this myself lately. Might have to give it a look! | /r/seduction | 13/07/25 11:54 AM |
| 2 | Intuition about girl feeling safeWhat kind of place? It's a bar you mean? | /r/seduction | 13/07/25 11:43 AM |
| 9 | Intuition about girl feeling safeHow do you find it, approaching girls in their 20s, when you're in your 40s? I'm beginning to feel self conscious about my age, and I just turned 30. Interested to hear your perspective | /r/seduction | 13/07/25 11:30 AM |
| 15 | Intuition about girl feeling safeCan you explain what you mean? Are you just saying that you backed off a little when it seemed like the girl was nervous? Also, you say you're in your 40s? How old are the women you are dating? Just out of interest | /r/seduction | 13/07/25 10:50 AM |
| 0 | Can putting standards in your dating app bio (ex. No _, must be at least _) make you seem like a higher-value male and give you more matches?You can express it, but there's plenty of things you can express on a profile "No fat chicks" is unlikely to make you look really cool or whatever you have in your head Why even ask for advice if you're going to then argue against the bleeding obvious | /r/seduction | 11/07/25 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Can putting standards in your dating app bio (ex. No _, must be at least _) make you seem like a higher-value male and give you more matches?Knowing what you want is fine Going around telling other people what you want to make sure that they know what you want and they know that you're someone who knows that he wants... That's another thing | /r/seduction | 11/07/25 09:28 PM |
| 4 | 10 Rules To Becoming Good With WomenThat's just a quirk of Reddit's markdown formatting | /r/seduction | 11/07/25 05:24 AM |
| 2 | John Elite PUA Dating Coach ReviewYou say you've had previous coaches? | /r/seduction | 10/07/25 09:48 PM |
| 2 | Anyone in Vancouver?There should be a sub or a sticky thread specifically for finding wingmen | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 08:40 PM |
| 13 | Is Models by Mark Manson still recommended reading in today's dating scene?It sounds like you haven't read Models You're saying "ignore those books" and then saying the same things as the book we're discussing | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 06:51 AM |
| 3 | Comprehensive begginers guide to understand flirting and how to start doing the basics properly.And this isn't even on some consent culture BS either A lot of consent culture stuff is actually worth reading up on and conducive to picking girls up, despite what many men think One part of that, is a lot of women are going to be more read up on that sort of thing than you. So if you act like you're oblivious, it's easy to make an ass of yourself An example would be "kino escalation". I don't see that mentioned so much nowadays, but it's basically the idea that you gradually escalate how you t… | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 01:32 PM |
| 0 | 'no game, game' - is it taking over?I saw a youtube channel of some new pickup guy who apparently has a tonne of 'reciepts' of very hot girls he's banging, and his channel is based on roasting PUA's infields. He takes infields by coach kyle, austen summers, james tusk, Todd V and many others, and laughs at their attempts - the overriding them being 'be normal! stop with all of these cringy game techniques!! that's why she rejected you!' Please say the channel Apparently this guy who roasts PUA's (not sure I want to say his name or… | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 12:24 PM |
| 2 | The ONLY post you need to read to attract girlsExude Not elude | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 09:00 PM |
| 3 | Why does this always happen to me?It's too much for the first words out your mouth | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 06:15 PM |
| 3 | Why does this always happen to me?She gave you hints that you should ask about her Instagram before you spoke to her? | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 06:10 PM |
| 4 | How to make her like us back(Actual advice — no magic, no spirituality)I wasn't disagreeing with OP, just pointing out that the post didn't contain any actual advice One major way is to be willing to act/speak in spite of fear. That includes walking away if the situation doesn't serve you. See, this is actual advice. This is stuff you can do. | /r/seduction | 02/07/25 11:26 PM |
| 7 | How to make her like us back(Actual advice — no magic, no spirituality)stemming from my personal expiration I stand corrected | /r/seduction | 02/07/25 02:40 PM |
| 43 | How to make her like us back(Actual advice — no magic, no spirituality)There isn't any actual advice in here. Advice is "guidance or recommendations offered with regard to prudent future action." But your post has no guidance, recommendations or actions. Like, imagine I was giving advice on baking and I said: You need to feel like you’re someone who bakes seriously. Who doesn’t eat bread that's flat, flaky, or pathetic. If you don’t respect bread—game over. You need to feel like a chef while you're working. This isn’t about posturing—it’s about your presence, your … | /r/seduction | 02/07/25 02:29 PM |
| 16 | Do you think you can bypass women’s standard with game/personalityActually one of the best comments I've seen here | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 08:37 PM |
| 6 | How to Respond When a Girl Deletes a Message Before You Can Read It?OP did you send a photograph of the hedgehog? | /r/seduction | 29/06/25 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Do any other men feel like it's impossible to make the first move?If you think you can kiss her, you probably could have ten minutes ago | /r/seduction | 29/06/25 07:21 AM |
| 1 | What's the one thing that improved your Flirting/Teasing/Being interesting stats?That is a good example, thanks | /r/seduction | 28/06/25 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Can a nice guy actually become a bad/confident guy?Read the book "No More Mr Nice Guy" It's not what you think. It's written by a psychologist and it's all about working on yourself. About how being a Nice Guy isn't good for you, those around you, and isn't healthy or even really nice. Also, the opposite of a Nice Guy isn't a Bad Boy. It's a Good Man. A Good Man will stand up for himself and what he wants or believes in. When he does this to a woman when it won't please her, it shows her that he's strong enough to stand up for her when the time … | /r/seduction | 28/06/25 05:42 PM |
| 1 | What's the one thing that improved your Flirting/Teasing/Being interesting stats?I'm pretty good at being interested in everything when someone brings up a topic of conversation, I've explored it, usually more than the average person I could say this too I think Living an interesting life But this part... Could you expand on what you mean? You just mean travel/hobbies or what? | /r/seduction | 28/06/25 07:36 AM |
| 1 | Why do women like older guys so muchYeah, idk if it's the colours dude Think it might be something else At 29 I was cleaning house on Hinge. Had them rolling in. Turn 30 and it's like a light switched. Crickets. It's why I'm looking more into cold approach or social game. | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 08:15 PM |
| 7 | Why do women like older guys so muchActually, I have people pretty frequently mistake me for being in my 20s Everywhere Can you be more specific? | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 04:45 PM |
| 58 | Why do women like older guys so muchAs an older guy, where these women at? | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 03:38 PM |
| 3 | I did 50 cold approaches in 45 days — here’s what actually helpedIt's 50 more than most guys do their whole life | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 07:14 PM |
| 11 | Here is how to respond to tests such us: "Shound't you have a bigger apartment at your age?"Okay, but people who's lives haven't gone the way they should still need dating advice | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 01:48 PM |
| 15 | Here is how to respond to tests such us: "Shound't you have a bigger apartment at your age?"Here's one I used recently that works on basically any shit test: "Are you negging me right now? I'm not going to sleep with you just because you insult me. My self esteem is higher than that!" You have to say it in a positive and jokey way. Girl I was talking to found it hilarious. I realised later that you can use it for basically anything, so if nothing comes to mind you can fall back on this. | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 01:46 PM |
| 6 | Should I Give Them My Number or Should I Be Getting Theirs?Also, treat texting women like vampires, only when the moon is out Wait what? What's your logic here! | /r/seduction | 20/06/25 05:35 PM |
| 64 | The Top 10 Reasons Why You Get Rejected By WomenAre you just using ChatGPT to paraphrase Mark Manson on a daily basis? | /r/seduction | 20/06/25 11:46 AM |
| 1 | Any tips on dealing with awkward moments with girls?How about that the tongue is the fastest healing part of the body, or that a bee has five eyes | /r/seduction | 20/06/25 05:42 AM |
| 0 | Any tips on dealing with awkward moments with girls?You could tell them that Ants won't cross a chalk line or that Mangos are related to cashews and pistachios. | /r/seduction | 19/06/25 11:00 PM |
| 3 | Advice Needed: How to know when to settle downIf I were you, I'd put a ring on it Not after one year, but I'd start taking it seriously Just don't take that as an excuse to take it easy. You still need to be the man she was always attracted to. Keep working on yourself. Seduction never ends That's just me though | /r/seduction | 19/06/25 06:15 PM |
| 7 | Sensation touchingWrong subreddit | /r/seduction | 18/06/25 12:17 PM |
| 5 | One of several thoughts that go through my head as a single dad trying to attract women. Does scent matter?Idiot question but I guess that's why we're here: What do you do with the lotion? You rub it on your skin after a shower? Or just your face? After shaving? | /r/seduction | 16/06/25 08:06 PM |
| 33 | The Most Attractive Male Body(at which point it's often too late for her to back out😂). Because of the implication? | /r/seduction | 16/06/25 07:20 PM |
| 1 | How worried should I be about this girl’s past?This whole post is really judgemental and gross If it bothers you, then don't date her If it doesn't, then do How worried you should be is up to you, not us | /r/seduction | 16/06/25 05:16 PM |
| 6 | A Question Regarding First Impressions: Should I Talk to Girls Who Aren’t Interested at First Sight?And don't try to "convince" maybe girls Express who you actually are so they, and you, can quickly decide whether they're a yes girl or a no girl. There are better and worse ways to do this though | /r/seduction | 14/06/25 09:32 AM |
| 4 | Dealing with my PTSD and Anxiety when it comes to womenIf you genuinely mean PTSD and you're not using that word lightly, then seek therapy That not a burn or a gotcha, it's genuine advice | /r/seduction | 13/06/25 10:39 PM |
| 3 | Some men only know rapport building;Wait, is your example meant to be an example of what to do or what not to do? And what's the counterexample? | /r/seduction | 13/06/25 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Tips for club game in Europe?Peep the vibe. Enter the vibe. How do you do that? | /r/seduction | 13/06/25 06:51 PM |
| 1 | What exactly is a situationship?Yeah, correct But that's just one way this can go In this case it ended with him leaving In other cases it ends with her leaving | /r/seduction | 12/06/25 07:57 PM |
| 4 | What exactly is a situationship?The situation is that he doesn't want to commit and she wants a commitment Women break things off all the time in that situation And men do to, like in these examples | /r/seduction | 12/06/25 06:23 PM |
| 1 | How Do I Keep a Girl Interested in Me While Chatting?You should NOT keep sharing those You should NOT be sharing regular daily stuff You should NOT try to share specific stuffs in which she is interested You should arrange to meet. This is the third time I am telling you this | /r/seduction | 11/06/25 09:47 AM |
| 0 | How Do I Keep a Girl Interested in Me While Chatting?You are your lifestyle. Her being attracted to you means her being attracted to being a part of your life. They're not different things And I don't know what you mean by "keep messaging her with specific things." Arrange to meet. That's it. | /r/seduction | 11/06/25 09:40 AM |
| 2 | How Do I Keep a Girl Interested in Me While Chatting?In person? There's a lot to say But in messaging? Don't. Use messaging to arrange a meet in-person. If she's attracted to you, she will make it easy for you to see her. If you keep messaging her ANYTHING, it makes clear that you're not an attractive guy with a busy and interesting life. So why would she be interested? This isn't a hard and fast rule. Women are people and people are complicated. But it is a general pattern. | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Interesting scientific viewpointWell I'm just conveying what Manson's ideas are, to clarify But if you take him at his word, then yeah, sort of? But there are better and worse ways of doing this, all related to how validated you are by her response If it's not really like it's just you finding out. She's finding out too, depending on how (or whether) you reveal what you're all about I'd really recommend the book. I don't know if I agree with 100% of it, but it's the best dating book for men I know of, and I've read a few | /r/seduction | 09/06/25 07:08 PM |
| 3 | Interesting scientific viewpointIn Mark Manson's model, a maybe girl is a girl who hasn't made her mind up yet Your goal isn't to convince her, that's needy You don't need her Your goal is to express who you are, and your interest in her, honestly That will turn her into a yes girl or a no girl Both are fine If she's a no girl, then you shouldn't have been with her anyway And if she's a yes girl, well then great That is following his advice in book, at least | /r/seduction | 09/06/25 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Why should I approach?He said, "Hey, sister, it's really, really nice to meet ya" I just met this 5-foot-7 guy who's just my type Like the way he's speakin', his confidence is peakin' Don't like his baggy jeans but I might like what's underneath them If pop stars are singing about how much they love guys your height, your height is fine. I'm 5'7. Does it make things harder? Sure. But a marathon and a sprint both have the same finish line. Also, get fit as fuck. There's some research showing women are more interested … | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 06:48 PM |
| 18 | Start your game BEFORE your date arrivesThe easiest way to practice being confident and charming around pretty women is to be confident and charming around everyone Even when not on a date | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 11:24 AM |
| 2 | Does a disabled man have a chance?You only need to find one bro For some it's a marathon, for others it's a sprint But they all get the same gold medal | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 08:44 AM |
| 4 | Gay Guy Wanting to Experiment with GirlBro sometimes I feel really down about myself I feel like I'm the stupidest person on earth or something This comment made me feel a lot better, thanks | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 06:46 AM |
| 7 | If a girl is looking 👀 at you across the room... What should you do?🤔It's not always applicable, but you can gesture "come here" Not with one finger in a creepy way She'll shake her head or shoot you a quizzical look She might even gesture for you to come to her If she does, gesture again If she won't come to you, ignore her. At least for the moment. Go back to whatever you were doing. You can always approach later Demonstrates massive confidenc, non neediness, shows that she can't have her way with you Works a charm, but not for every situation | /r/seduction | 07/06/25 10:39 PM |
| 1 | I fumbled a gorgeous girl(btw my friend is gay, so he knows all these things about the energy and the vibes and all the things that are foreign for a straight guy). This stereotype is entirely true God, maybe I need a gay wingman | /r/seduction | 07/06/25 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Does Accent play a role? (good or bad?)Generally speaking, I think people find accents sexy. Anything different from what they're used to is attractive. If you want to reduce it to make communication clearer, I think that's good. But no, it's a bonus, if anything. | /r/seduction | 07/06/25 10:35 AM |
| 2 | “If she likes you she’ll make it easy” isnt always true is it?Not never, but it shouldn't be counted on | /r/seduction | 07/06/25 07:18 AM |
| 3 | “If she likes you she’ll make it easy” isnt always true is it?By "make it easy" they mean they'll make it easy for you to initiate Whether that means approaching, asking for her number, setting a date, kissing, going back to yours, etc... It doesn't mean they'll do the work for you It doesn't mean they won't test you I'm a teacher. I want my students to get better at maths. So I make it easy for them. Instead of throwing them the hardest problems straight away, I show them how to do some easier ones, then I give them time to practice, I provide scaffolding… | /r/seduction | 07/06/25 07:17 AM |
| 13 | How to win against physically attractive guysYou ARE one of the attractive guys. Physically or otherwise If you don't have that mindset it's already over | /r/seduction | 06/06/25 04:52 PM |
| 3 | What is the difference between quiet and mysteriousOkay so I've bought my purple coat and on my way to the tattoo parlour Where the women at? | /r/seduction | 04/06/25 03:28 PM |
| 20 | I don’t need a pickup line. I need a man who knows when not to speak.Can you give examples of what you mean? | /r/seduction | 03/06/25 09:32 PM |
| 16 | Men of Reddit who have successfully gotten plenty of lays through cold approaching? What have you learned and what is your most effective methods for doing so?Example situational comment? This is honestly where I have the most trouble "Wow, busy here tonight!" Like, no shit. It's a bar on a Friday What sorts of things do you say. Obviously I can't copy 1:1, but to get a general idea | /r/seduction | 02/06/25 02:06 PM |
| 1 | Is it still possible to recover?She doesn't want to be your friend. It's just something people say sometimes | /r/seduction | 01/06/25 04:30 PM |
| 10 | UK Cold Approach AdviceI would also be interested to hear people's opinions on this Roughly 75% of redditors are in the US Would like to hear what people from the UK think about cold approaching My guess is that it's more normalised in America, but idk | /r/seduction | 01/06/25 03:59 PM |
| 3 | The Warren Buffett Mindset That Helped My Student With WomenThere's a ttrpg, forget which one, where you're only awarded xp for failures So if you try to open a lock and succeed, you open the lock but learn nothing But if you try to pick the lock and fail, well the lock stays shut, but you learn more about lock picking for the next time It's pretty genius. Means you only get stronger when the content gets too hard for you Similar to progressive overload in the gym. If I lift something I can lift easily every week, I'm never getting stronger. It's pushing… | /r/seduction | 31/05/25 10:03 AM |
| 2 | If you have a shaved headPoor wording That's on average But yeah, there are plenty of women who like it Best advice is always to dress/look however you want, and attract the people who are attracted to that The advice is really for only if you couldn't care less The linked video goes into more detail | /r/seduction | 31/05/25 08:49 AM |
| 5 | If you have a shaved headhttps://youtu.be/okFLkoJXXqo?si=XIyMyvSDDcAHNWAs Generally, women seem to prefer a middle ground of masculinity in a man Too feminine, and he's seen as weak, not able to protect Too masculine and he's seen as too dangerous, the sort you need protection from Shaving your head definitely increases the masculinity of your look, and is generally seen as unattractive in women. But some lean muscularity wouldn't hurt imo | /r/seduction | 31/05/25 07:31 AM |
| 1 | How do i make it obvious that im looking for a serious relationship as a female?I feel like every guy that approaches me is trying to have something casual or just hook up with me. That would be odd. Sounds like a problem with your feelings about men more than anything. Plenty of guys are looking to settle down, and overcoming this untrue perception is their biggest barrier. How can i make it very clearly obvious to guys who im talking to my intentions Oh well that's easy. We have this way of conveying thoughts from one person's brain directly into another person's brain. I… | /r/seduction | 29/05/25 05:09 PM |
| 30 | Does anyone empathise with this dilemma when you just meet a girl?“Hey, I know this is random and we’ve just met, but would you want to grab a coffee sometime?” “Well, if you’re local and you’re up for it, I’d grab a drink with you sometime.” | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Looking for tips on where to try my luck next as a 35m Brit.You're in the US? | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 01:43 PM |
| 1 | To all the dating gurus How to show a intrest in a girl without looking creepyThe number 1 thing is persisting after she's made it clear she's not interested If you flirt with a girl you thought was interested and she makes it clear that you misread, and you back off. Fine. Not creepy. If you flirt with a girl u thought was interested and she makes it clear that you misread, and you continue to flirt with her, won't leave her alone, message her... We're veering into harassment now. Plus, it gives you a bad reputation with any women she knows and any women nearby. Creepy! … | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 11:16 AM |
| 7 | What camera for approaching womenDo NOT do this | /r/seduction | 25/05/25 07:34 PM |
| 2 | More approaches from last nighthttps://youtu.be/AK26bXWrOvo?si=i5Igsz84oN9_S_mS | /r/seduction | 25/05/25 07:33 PM |
| 18 | More approaches from last nightSo you just go up to women repeating the same lines regardless of context? Oblivion NPC hookup strategy | /r/seduction | 25/05/25 11:23 AM |
| 2 | How many of you have ONLY met women to date using apps? I want to hear from youNot exclusively, but it's been working very well for me You know from the moment you meet that she's interested in you, she wants you to flirt with her, she finds you attractive, etc... Once I'm past that barrier I'm golden I've heard that only a minority of men get a majority of the attention from women on these apps. Guess I'm one of the lucky ones 🤷🏻♂️ | /r/seduction | 24/05/25 07:34 AM |
| 68 | My female friend told me 'I rejected him when he approached me at the bar, but the way he carried himself after I rejected him made me change my mind, so I gave him my number.'Not only that, but becoming known as a persistent creep like this can ruin your chances with other women I once went backpacking for three weeks. There was this gorgeous girl I thought was flirting with me so I flirted back a bit. She subtly made it clear she wasn't interested so I backed off. No problem. I'm still good with the other women, a year afterwards. We meet up and hang out. I didn't end up dating any but I've expanded my social circle. Another guy would not leave that girl alone. Text… | /r/seduction | 24/05/25 07:31 AM |
| 3 | Paid coaches or bootcamps worth it?People get personal trainers, nutritionists, etc... Is that an easy way out? | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 01:57 PM |
| 28 | Met a 45 y.oMain difference is the age | /r/seduction | 22/05/25 06:22 PM |
| 11 | The subtle power of vulnerability in attraction: why showing a little cracks your confidence can boost your gameThink of dark souls Is the player who always has their shield up, only ever attacks when they know it's safe, creeps round every corner at a snail's pace... Is that player confident? They're never vulnerable. They never allow themselves to be vulnerable. It's the naked, sprinting, dodge rolling, backstabbing, type that's confident. Always vulnerable to attack, because they're confident enough to know they can be vulnerable. They can let their guard down because they've got nothing to hide. Eithe… | /r/seduction | 22/05/25 06:17 PM |
| 1 | What's the play coach?I haven't seen this sentiment expressed on the sub before, but it has been my experience I think the viability of cold approach depends a lot on the culture It might be perfectly normal to go and speak to a stranger in one city and not another | /r/seduction | 22/05/25 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Why Women Hate Nice Guys - An In-Depth Explanation On Why You Lose OutYour post assumes all men just want sex | /r/seduction | 21/05/25 07:13 AM |
| 1 | What people actually mean when they say ‘you shouldn’t focus on girls until you have built your self up’Sorry, I forgot we shouldn't include third world countries with poor infrastructure I guess we'll have to ignore the Americans | /r/seduction | 20/05/25 06:50 AM |
| 3 | What people actually mean when they say ‘you shouldn’t focus on girls until you have built your self up’You think people who live outside of America are a minority? That's 96% of the world's population | /r/seduction | 19/05/25 01:06 PM |
| 4 | What people actually mean when they say ‘you shouldn’t focus on girls until you have built your self up’What dumb metrics Plenty of people live in places they don't need to waste money on a car. Maybe in most of America that's a minimum, but that's not universal Abs? I had abs before I started my most recent bulk. Now I'm bigger than ever, but I've lost them in the process. So I just cut out dating until I finish my cut? You think every guy in the world who's doing well with women has a six pack? | /r/seduction | 19/05/25 06:19 AM |
| 8 | Dancing is PeacockingGo to dance lessons If you go to something like salsa, it can also help with anxiety around getting physical with women I was ruining my chances, couldn't find a natural way to escalate touch, but you kinda have to learn to touch a woman in a natural and comfortable way if you're gonna dance with her... for certain styles at least | /r/seduction | 18/05/25 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Question about climaxTry not masturbating for 48 hours beforehand If the problem persists, extend that If you're using a condom, try using a thinner one or a bigger size | /r/seduction | 18/05/25 05:29 PM |
| 10 | Why “I Just Want a Relationship” Is a Dangerous GoalI feel like if someone asked me what I want and I said, "I want to be in a relationship,” then what I mean is, "I want to build the skills to be able to enter a great relationship." Yes they are different things. But if someone asks me why I'm learning to fish and I say, "I want some fish" I really don't need a lecture about how I should be learning to build the skills that will get me great fish. Yeah, that's why I'm learning to fish. "Why did you join this course on nuclear physics?" "I want t… | /r/seduction | 18/05/25 11:00 AM |
| 22 | 30+ datingLearning to use full words and punctuation will help on apps more than being 30 will hurt | /r/seduction | 18/05/25 12:20 AM |
| 1 | A lot of guys who lack confidence have this fantasy.Thanks for helping | /r/seduction | 17/05/25 02:04 PM |
| 0 | A lot of guys who lack confidence have this fantasy.Not really annoyed. If they can't answer that's fine. I'm just clarifying what I'm after. Google it, lots of articles, look on youtube, stuff on reddit.... Yes, I am on Reddit asking about that stuff right now Bro, don't get annoyed when a random reddit person is asking for dating advice on the subreddit for dating advice | /r/seduction | 17/05/25 01:03 PM |
| 0 | A lot of guys who lack confidence have this fantasy.Hmm okay well thanks for trying It's just not really actionable advice I understand that social impressions are difficult to describe, but auras and energies aren't actually real of course This presence you describe is created by his appearance, words and actions But unless you're actively looking for it, it's very hard to recall specific things that left an impression. People remember how you made them feel more than what you did. | /r/seduction | 16/05/25 10:50 PM |
| 4 | A lot of guys who lack confidence have this fantasy.I said that I doubt this 5'5 guy had a rotating door of women passing through his bedroom just because he had good physical and mental health I didn't deny that having good physical and mental health helps a lot with emanating charisma | /r/seduction | 16/05/25 10:11 AM |
| 7 | A lot of guys who lack confidence have this fantasy.I don't think I said that. Re-read my comment | /r/seduction | 16/05/25 07:19 AM |
| 14 | A lot of guys who lack confidence have this fantasy.If how to attract women is already a given, then what is this sub for? Also, I doubt this 5'5 guy had a rotating door of women passing through his bedroom just because he had good physical and mental health | /r/seduction | 16/05/25 06:57 AM |
| 11 | A lot of guys who lack confidence have this fantasy.I know that, but it's not exactly useful advice Like, specifically what did he do that made him "emanate energy" Doubt he was radioactive or something | /r/seduction | 16/05/25 05:55 AM |
| 22 | A lot of guys who lack confidence have this fantasy.Need more details on that guy Wdym charisma? | /r/seduction | 15/05/25 10:28 PM |
| 0 | Is it a red flag a woman, you're not in relationship with, is still in contact or hangs out with an ex?It's a red flag if she refuses to break it off. Plenty of people stay friends with their exes. I have. But it's commonly understood how that will look to future partners. | /r/seduction | 15/05/25 08:03 PM |
| 10 | Creating the Dating Life You Want: What Worked for MeIt seems like they put down their own thoughts and then asked an AI to express them in a clear way. Personally I think that's fine. It's when the ideas themselves are ai generated that they become meaningless. Using AI to help with clarity, perhaps when not speaking in your first language, is a good use of the tool. | /r/seduction | 15/05/25 02:10 PM |
| 1 | How do I even be "clear with my intentions ""I want you to be my girlfriend" is weird because it doesn't make any sense. Why her, if you don't know her already? It comes across as "I want someone to be my girlfriend, and you'll do." If you don't know her well enough already, then you don't have enough information to make that call. Later on when you do have that information, it makes more sense. I guess "I just wanna fuck" works more or less the same way just on a shorter timeframe. | /r/seduction | 10/05/25 11:56 PM |
| 1 | Going the Zyzz routeHow can you say it's overrated as a fit guy for most of your life? It would take someone who's been an unfit guy and a fit guy to tell the difference | /r/seduction | 09/05/25 06:35 AM |
| 15 | Stop using Instagram to get womenI pull baddies bi annually through insta Verified thirst, she reply with a picture Talk like a player, but the stats paint a fixture Every leap year, I’m back in the mixture She sent heat, I misread, tried to kiss her Now I'm on Reddit, alone with the liquor | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 05:03 PM |
| 5 | 10 reasons, excluding looks, preventing you from being good with womenMost would apply, yeah | /r/seduction | 04/05/25 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good way to approach women?“Hi, random question—do you know a good coffee place around here?” Try that on like, 5 people. But tbh, if you're even asking a question like this seriously, I do not think your social skills are good enough to cold approach. Try hanging out with friends, getting some social hobbies etc... first. Get a handle on the basics of how humans interact and what's okay to say. Or try "Hello, I noticed your breasts. Would you like to marry me?" | /r/seduction | 29/04/25 03:44 PM |
| 1 | What would you say if another guy commented on your approach?"Hey man, solid daygame set. Your inner game was tight even though she threw a shit test." "Uh, thanks? I was just asking if she wanted to grab a coffee." "Nah bro, you held frame like a champ, textbook kino escalation too." "I guess? I wasn’t really thinking about it like that." "Trust me, your cold approach was demonstrating high-value, just bad luck with her ASD kicking in." "Sure..." | /r/seduction | 28/04/25 05:51 PM |
| 5 | For the guys who don’t want to cold approachSo many people will try and tell you that being attractive doesn't make you attractive "Women don't actually care about that..." Like women are some other species I listened for too long | /r/seduction | 25/04/25 01:39 PM |
| 17 | 23M. Today's my birthday. And I am ashamed to admit that..I mean, arrange to meet her again as a date, not as bumping into her at the library Make clear that you are asking her on a date, not asking to be her friend And if she says no, she says no. You can be proud of yourself for asking in-person. It's not awkward if you don't make it awkward | /r/seduction | 20/04/25 09:31 PM |
| 15 | 23M. Today's my birthday. And I am ashamed to admit that..Making out isn't always on the cards Probably best you could have done is cut it off before it got boring and make plans to see her again | /r/seduction | 20/04/25 08:49 PM |
| 26 | 23M. Today's my birthday. And I am ashamed to admit that..Offered her gum—she took it with a smile. That gave me a bit of courage. So, I asked her if she’d like to step out and talk for a few minutes. To my surprise, she agreed instantly. We ended up walking for 5 miles—yes, I got blisters, wrong shoes. But the conversation started well. She seemed curious. Even bit her lip once, which I thought was a signal. You're already ahead of 99% of your peers | /r/seduction | 20/04/25 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Is it true if you are physically attractive man, women generally approach you first and make a move?It's happened to me once So not generally, no | /r/seduction | 20/04/25 02:48 PM |
| 15 | Is it true if you are physically attractive man, women generally approach you first and make a move?put themselves in your line of view Would you consider a guy to have made the first move if he did this, and only this, for a girl he fancied? | /r/seduction | 20/04/25 02:47 PM |
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