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Dont ask her anything op and lower your smv more than what it already. is. Thats why you have us on here. You need to realize that for women attention is everything. They need it. Crave it. Desire it. They love orbiters and everyone who gives them validation because internally it makes them feel amazing. Who knows why this chick doesn't see you as more than just a friend. But regardless the key. here is you went for a kiss. I always advise if you are interested in a girl you make a move. This is…
/r/askTRP05/01/19 08:07 PM
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You know how I know you still have a lot to learn? You are playing victim card Get out of here with that. Sure others will have more advantages than you in regards to wealth, looks, height, race, etc but thats life. You have no control over those things but you do have control over what you do next. Are you going to blame the world and follow the path of sheep or are you going to be a man and work harder than everyone else in the room to achieve the results you want to achieve? The world doesn’t…
/r/TheRedPill05/01/19 03:56 PM
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Let’s not get carried away. While I do agree with your premise that inner masculine strength is incredibly important, you need to focus and improve your aesthetics as much as possible. I don’t care how alpha you are. If you are a fat slob it’s going to much harder for you to attract a high quality girl because that is intially what she is basing your smv on. Your looks will get your foot in the door with women and make them interested in you. So make it a point to lift and be in the best possibl…
/r/TheRedPill05/01/19 12:30 AM
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Nothing will change with this guy. People like him like to play the victim role when in reality its his fault for being a weak pushover who allows women to walk all over him. Until he admits he needs to grow as a man and make a sincere effort to learn, this will happen again.
/r/MGTOW04/01/19 11:03 PM
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Stop giving a fuck if you get rejected after initiating sex. In fact, stop trying so hard to give her attention and always asking her if she is ok. Its not your job to make her happy. Its your job to make yourself happy. You realized you messed up by blowing up at her like a child. Good. Now pull back a bit and stop counting how many days it has been since she has come back around. Just by keeping tabs on that it indicates neediness on your part. In due time she will come around. She is your wif…
/r/askMRP04/01/19 07:17 PM
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Do things because you want to do it. I tend to hold the door open, to both men and women, whenever possible just because thats how I am . I could care less what the person thinks of my gesture. I am not doing it to elicit a reaction Most of the time people will say thanks, and thats it. However ultra feminists do exist and you will encounter them. But honestly who cares what they think. Pay no attention to their response, and keep opening doors ​ ​
/r/askTRP04/01/19 08:26 AM
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Never let a girl walk all over you nor let them have their way all time time. By doing so, you are basically putting her on a pedestal and signaling her SMV is much higher than yours. Women want a man who isn't scared to tell them no and to put them in their place when needed.
/r/seduction04/01/19 08:11 AM
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Grow up man and move on and just cut her out from your life. You are right, obviously this girl is not your friend and was just resentful you were going to hook up with a much hotter girl. Understand that as you go through life, and your SMV constantly climbs, this will occur many many times. Instead of being angry, be proud. Be proud that you can make women feel that they will never have a chance with you. But trying to "fuck" with a girls head is just immature. You are a 26 year old man. Be be…
/r/askTRP04/01/19 07:55 AM
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Don't ever feel the need to explain yourself to anyone....ever. Especially to a girl you are dating. Her shaming you just shows you how little respect she has for you. Be proud of your decision to switch jobs and do something you feel will make you happier in life. You don't need her approval. Relay to her how excited you are about your decision and if she ever tries to disrespect you again, tell her there is the door and she can leave
/r/askTRP04/01/19 07:40 AM
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6ft tall and chiseled face. Height and low body fat percentage are two attributes universally recognized by women as being objectively attractive in todays society. Its no surprise you are getting female attention. If you start lifting and fill out your frame, you will be getting much more.
/r/askTRP04/01/19 04:51 AM
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A women’s first perception of you is based solely on physical factors. Your smv is her eyes is judged by your appearance. It would be naive to think otherwise. That’s why the sidebar advocates lifting and eating clean and being in the best shape possible. However looks alone is only one factor. Your masculine behavior/attitude is just as important. If you are good looking beta, your girl will grow tired of you and her hypergamy instincts will kick in and she will cheat on you. But if you aren’t …
/r/askTRP04/01/19 02:38 AM
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Comments like this one motivate me to write more and help others learn from my mistakes. I'm glad you enjoyed my post.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/19 12:33 AM
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We all have been there brother. Without a masculine role model in our lives, it’s easy to fall into the Disney/cosmo fallaciy that is laid out for us and what mainstream society wishes for us to follow. I’m happy you learned a lot. Never lean on your SO for emotional support. Ever. Even if she says it’s ok to be vulnerable don’t give in. She is not nor ever will be your mother.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/18 09:16 PM
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Like the saying goes, experience is your best teacher. I applaud you for teaching your son the realities of the world and making sure he understands the true nature of male female dynamics The world needs more men like you who take pride in teaching their sons these things. Best of luck to you.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/18 08:56 PM
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Another great comment. You can't just pick and choose what parts you want to fit your narrative. You have to own it You want a submissive women? Well then you better be the strong masculine force leading the relationship. Polarity is the key. Embrace your role as a man and act like one. Congratulations by the way on your successful marriage. Thats wonderful to hear.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/18 06:51 PM
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Exactly. Your post should be one of the top comments. Never go by a girls words but rather her actions. How she behaves after I lay down the foundation of what I will and will not tolerate will determine whether I stay or leave. If a girl doesn't respect you she will not change her behavior. If thats the case, leave. However, as is the case with my girl, she reverted back to her former sweet feminine self. I gained back her respect, without her really even knowing what I did, and I'm getting eve…
/r/TheRedPill27/12/18 06:42 PM
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I was able to regain frame and control because I was aware of what I was doing and I didn't let it drag on for too long. I left that day and reverted back to my old self instantly. Your mind is a very powerful tool. The next few days I made sure to prioritize myself first, tell her no when she wanted me to do something and I didn't, and applied a little dread game (going to the gym more, not being as available as much, etc). The longer you let yourself continue down the path of supplication , wi…
/r/TheRedPill27/12/18 06:30 PM
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Pretty much this. Try your best to act stoic and be the emotionally stronger force in the relationship. Look her dead in the eye, after you get your phone back, and calmly tell her "Never to do that again". And walk away.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/18 06:19 PM
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Yeah, it was very disrespectful but I have no one else to blame but myself. Hindsight is 20/20 but the takeaways here are that you must always be comfortable saying no to your girl, setting boundaries, and be willing to walk. Had I done that at the time, there is absolutely no way she would have dared acted like that. Never give your girl the keys to your kingdom nor sacrifice your happiness for hers.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/18 06:16 PM
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Haha good analogy. The basis of their arguments are centered around emotion, rather than logic, like it is with men. Its a lose lose proposition and it will lead to nowhere.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/18 06:08 PM
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I don't want you thinking that you can't display affection to your girl without her losing attraction. That is not the point I'm trying to convey. Your girl will not be turned off by that (unless you are way too emotional). What she will be turned off by is allowing yourself to become a doormat. A pushover who always does what she wants to do. A man who is afraid to say NO to her. A man who acts like his girl is the last girl on earth and proceeds to give her all the power in the relationship. T…
/r/TheRedPill27/12/18 06:04 PM
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I am happy to hear you found TRP and learned from your divorce . Kudos to you for making yourself a better man and learning what needs to be done in your next relationship.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/18 05:57 PM
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Respectfully disagree. In my experiences AWALT and even the most innocent sweet virgin girl next door can and will disrespect you at some point in the relationship, if you aren't fulfilling your role as a masculine man in todays society. Its human nature Of course, some women are more prone to disrespecting their men than others but that is a different story altogether. However I absolutely agree with you that you must learn to set and have boundaries. Never and I mean never be afraid to say no.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/18 05:50 PM
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this x100. Clear, succinct, and precise.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/18 05:45 PM
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Wow. This was an incredible response. You are absolutely correct. There is no end game...ever. Relationships, career, lifting, etc. Never get complacent. Just when you think you have all things figured out, you realize there is so much more to learn. So much more ways to grow and evolve. If you Take your foot off the pedal, you will eventually lose everything you worked hard for. This is a lesson that we as men need to apply in all avenues of our lives.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/18 08:15 AM
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Well said my friend. Its the fear of being alone that causes us to act in ways unimaginable. It taught me a very valuable lesson and I hope others reading this will not make the same mistake as I did.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/18 05:57 AM
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I really feel for the younger generation in college these days. The atrocity of me too and this culture that we live in is toxic and destroying men’s lives. I’m glad you are not letting this matter be swept under the rug. I also agree you should pursue a civil matter in court. Whether you win a monetary judgment or not, you will hopefully gain a little justice by putting her through the system while at the same time adding more credibility to your name I wish you nothing but the best op
/r/MGTOW21/12/18 06:15 PM
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The only way to really have an abundance mindset is to truly not give a fuck. Are you bored and idle? Well get off your ass and find things that interest you and do it. Enjoy life. Don't make women the center of your happiness. If you do things that make you happy, you wont even care if a girl hasn't responded to you yet. Always remember as men, we are the prize. Act like one.
/r/askTRP21/12/18 08:22 AM
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Hey man, thanks for sharing your story. I’m glad you found value in what I wrote and I’m happy to hear you learned from your divorce and things are going much much better for you. Be you. Be the leader. Own your shit. Perfectly said
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/18 08:42 AM
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If you want any chance at saving your marriage you need to start respecting yourself more man. She has completely lost respect for you and as a result you are mentally becoming weaker and weaker. You are 100 percent operating under her frame. You need to mentally check yourself out of this marriage. You need to act that you don’t care if the relationship ship ends. Apply dread game. Be stoic. Start working out more. Reclaim your masculinity and show her you don’t need her
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/18 11:18 PM
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Totally agree with you. We must take responsibility for the things we wish to change in our life. There’s no point in wishing things were different. You must act to get the results you truly want.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 05:15 PM
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Yeah many years ago in my college days but that was during my blue pill conditioning stage. After swallowing the pill, I never had one. I was content with spinning plates.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 05:02 PM
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Wonderful post. I am glad I found this sub because of intelligent discussions like this...compared to the main sub filled with very young adolescents. We as men must be the emotionally stronger one in the relationship. Anger doesn't solve anything. In fact if you argue with your significant other, you will prove to her that you are fundamentally weak since you are allowing her to get to you. If she is throwing a tantrum, always remain cool and be stoic like a rock. Speak calm and assertive. What…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 08:08 AM
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Thanks man. And I absolutely agree with everything you wrote.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 07:59 AM
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Thats great to hear man. I've come to realize we as men have two options. Operate under her frame or operate under yours. There never can be two leaders in a relationship. We as men have to be leaders in the relationship and we must show that we will never tolerate disrespect. The women in our life have to see that we are willing to walk away if pushed to far. They must fear this and if they do, they will respect the hell out of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 07:53 AM
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Great question. For me personally it wasn't so much a comfort issue but rather a fear of abandonment and a lack of an abundance mindset. Finding and replacing a plate is easy. Finding a LTR however that met my unreasonably high standards was not. After swallowing the pill I didn't think I even wanted to be in a relationship ever. I was quite content with the 18-24 year olds and cycling through them. However, after I fell in love with my gf, who had all the intangibles of what I was looking for i…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 07:48 AM
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Love this. We as humans tend value things that we have to work harder for. Since grandma never knew exactly where she stood with grandpa, she had to constantly work hard to ensure he was happy with her. In turn, the more effort she made, the more she ended up loving and appreciating him. Feminine energy at its finest.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 07:08 AM
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Def agree. 15.00 is a small price to pay to ensure a clean break. In this era of Metoo, you can never fully trust a girl (who knows where you live) and you want to do as much as you can to limit hostility and resentment.
/r/TheRedPill08/10/18 07:24 AM
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This is incorrect. There is nothing beta about wanting to please your women and ravish her body sexually in every single way possible. This is of course assuming its not a one sided affair and she also takes care of your needs as well.
/r/askTRP25/08/18 06:56 PM
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Not really sure why this is a problem OP. This girl may be self conscious, may have had a traumatizing experience in the past, etc. When she says I'm not ready...she means that. You are getting everything a man would ever want. Just go with the flow and when she is ready for you to reciprocate she will tell you. Don't force this issue upon her.
/r/askTRP25/08/18 06:51 PM
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Nicely done with the agree and amplify on the mom of 8 who weight 315. You responded in a playful tone and it made her laugh which is very attractive. This was no shit test. She just wanted to see if you guys were on the same page.
/r/askTRP25/08/18 06:48 PM
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The phone is the least of your concerns. Consider it a sunk cost and block contact with her. The more you allow communication with this girl, the more you open yourself up to a plethora of potential fake claims i.e. (false rape, stalking, etc) She has shown her true colors.
/r/askTRP25/08/18 06:35 PM
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Absolutely. If the roles were reversed and you were going alone with some girl, your gf would lose her shit.
/r/askTRP24/08/18 03:17 PM
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Its his gf. A situation like this warrants a next. You can't ever tolerate disrespect. Keeping her around just for sex after she does this to you? Have some more self respect for yourself. Once you moves past the plate stage to a ltr, you don't downgrade. You breakup. Having this girl still in your life in any form screams to me a man with no other options. A high status man would start fresh with someone new.
/r/askTRP24/08/18 03:12 PM
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In any interaction, regardless of gender, you are either controlling the frame or you are in someone else is. Powerful people only respect and value other powerful people's judgment. In this scenario it is rare for a truly powerful person to meet someone who he considers an equal. It is analogous to the hot girl in the room. She is used to having men supplicate her and do whatever to please her. When you act differently unlike 98% of other people, you will pique their interest.
/r/askTRP16/08/18 05:00 PM
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If you want to maintain frame and gain respect from other powerful people, you have to act like you belong and aren't intimidated by them nor trying to seek their approval. Start working on Strong eye contact and always use a firm handshake. Speak slowly. Subtle things like that indicate power and theres no greater aphrodisiac then when a powerful person meets another powerful person. You instantly gain respect and this is what you need for them to take you seriously.
/r/askTRP16/08/18 06:11 AM
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The only thing you need to ask yourself is can you tolerate being around her for such a long amount of time? 2 weeks in a lot. Get out of this ridiculous notion that you are going to go down there and game other girls on the side. In theory that would be awesome, but you are going to be spending all your time with her. Now if she pulls other girls for the both of you, thats your best scenario. If you have the mental fortitude to just ignore any thing she says regarding getting back together, you…
/r/askTRP17/07/18 11:26 PM
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That’s an interesting perspective. I agree with you. Thanks for sharing. If the effort isn’t worth the end result, she won’t pursue you. But the mere fact that you are making her work for your attention unlike 99% of men out there will increase your SMV exponentially in her eyes. She has no other choice but to start viewing you as a higher value man. Which in turn makes her have to work harder for you.
/r/TheRedPill17/07/18 05:17 PM
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Sometimes these things runs it course. She is a plate. Let her come and go as she please. Don’t confront her. Ignore her and move on to other plates. If you guys were in a relationship I would offer different advice but you aren’t.
/r/askTRP17/07/18 05:00 PM
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Its clear that women want to chase a guy and have to earn his time and commitment to a relationship This x 100. Humans place a higher value on things we have to work harder for. A woman wants to feel she has earned your commitment. She wants a challenge.
/r/TheRedPill17/07/18 05:48 AM
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This is great to hear man! You are absolutely right. It teaches you to respect yourself first and foremost. It’s not a bandaid or a quick fix system. It’s a system of values and beliefs that will impact your life in ways you never could imagine possible. All for the better
/r/TheRedPill16/07/18 06:13 PM
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Thats not true. Women enjoy a man who can make them laugh. They just don't like men who are corny and come across as someone seeking their validation and approval.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/18 08:49 AM
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You did really well man. You handled a lot of things perfectly which indicate to her you were not some a submissive man who she could have her way with. I preach the value of frame constantly. You are the one in control. You are the chooser. Not her. You replying to her worship remark clearly showed to her that she was dealing with a man of high value. She now realized she had to work for your approval. You are now the challenge. She can't help but be attracted to you because of that.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/18 06:58 AM
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Never allow any girl to feel she is having an emotional impact on you, until her feelings are engaged. Especially a girl who you just met a day before. She viewed you as the fun and exciting guy who she talked threesomes with. You lost her when you said you wish you met her earlier and then asking how her day was. She is probably thinking damn, this guy is starting to get feelings for me. If she senses you like her more than she likes you, you are done. If you do talk to her again, keep it light…
/r/askTRP16/07/18 12:10 AM
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Come on dude, you don't need model like atrributes to attract women. Yes looks help. There is no denying that. You will have a much easier time getting your foot in the door with women so to speak. But I argue your masculine strength is the most important factor in attracting women (confident, assertive, willing to put her in her place, doesn't tolerate disrespect, abundance mindset, etc) You could be a ripped model but if you exhibit weak beta behavior and generally act like a doormat, it won't…
/r/askTRP15/07/18 11:47 PM
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If you truly were red pilled, you would use this situation to your benefit and plate her on your terms and nothing more. Who cares if she is this guys sloppy seconds, she is a plate and nothing more However, just by what you wrote, you seem to have oneitis with this chick. In that case you won't have the mindset to properly plate her. Your feelings will get too involved. Move on from her.
/r/askTRP15/07/18 11:39 PM
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Re-read my post. Of course he doesn't owe his time, resources or validation. Thats why I suggest he does leave if she is being disrespectful and doesn't apologize. But to not address the situation and just tell her he's driving her home without letting her know what the fuck he is mad about is childish and passive aggressive. Confront her about it. If she apologizes great. If she doesn't and is still rude leave. If you think thats what a beta cuck does then we clearly don't think alike
/r/askTRP15/07/18 11:26 PM
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What is exactly disrespectful? She didn't kiss you on demand like you wanted her to? She is not your sex slave dude. Or was their additional bad behavior like her being rude with you, etc? if all it was was that she didn't want to kiss you, instead of trying to "teach her a lesson" you have to be a man and communicate directly with her and ask her whats going. If something is bothering you, be a man and confront it. Be direct and state whats on your mind. Listen to what she says. Don't act like …
/r/askTRP15/07/18 10:16 PM
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Guys, get it out of your head that you need to be an asshole to get the girl. You can be a good man with a great character. However you must have a backbone and not tolerate disrespectful behavior. That doesn't make you an asshole. It makes you a man that women can't have their way with. Big difference.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/18 11:48 PM
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By not giving a shit it subconsciously indicates to the girl you have an abundance mentality mindset. If she doesn't perform and meet your expectations you will walk away. This is extremely powerful and very attractive to women..
/r/TheRedPill14/07/18 11:45 PM
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Yes and no. If you are just dealing with a plate, then absolutely do not allow her to talk to you about your emotions. I think this advice is applicable to 99% of men reading this. You are young. You are not her emotional tampon. If however you are in a LTR or in a marriage, she can view you as a complete stud and still will want to rely on you for emotional support. In a way you are correct, she is trying to add beta elements to your character to go along with the alpha frame you have already e…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/18 06:07 PM
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I don’t take offense to your statement. Before I was RP aware I too didn’t believe this stuff was possible. But it is. Feel free to send me a message if you need any advice
/r/TheRedPill14/07/18 03:17 PM
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If you are genuinely not a troll and need some advice I would love to explain this concept to you. DM me. It seems like you have a lot to learn
/r/TheRedPill14/07/18 03:11 PM
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Women are attracted to men who make them feel emotions. Sadness, happiness, Anger, whatever. Alpha males excite them because they are unpredictable. They are sexual. Its a like a drug they can't get enough off People who get placed in the friend zone, beta males, don't elicit any sort of emotion with the girl. They are safe and predicable and boring. We all place value in the things we have to work harder for in life. When a guy develops deep emotions in a girl and invests more than she does, he…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/18 07:44 AM
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I agree that the only person who will ever have unconditional love for you forever is your mother. However the love between a man and his biological children cannot be overlooked. Men will take a bullet for their kids. Its the reason most RP men would ever entertain marriage. To procreate.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/18 06:58 AM
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Its the unfortunate truth that people have to fail on their accord for them to ever truly seek change and growth in their life. You are wasting your time and effort trying to help your friend. Its inevitable he will get hurt even more but hopefully that will be the wakeup call he needs to overcome his BP conditioning.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/18 06:50 AM
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Well said my man. Have a set of core beliefs and defend it at all costs. Only associate with those that have respect for you and what you believe in. This is your universe and you choose who you allow in it.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/18 05:54 AM
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Good post. Escalating sooner rather than later should be required reading for everyone who uses online dating. I preach the exact same thing with all my friends who ask me for advice.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/18 05:36 AM
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You know another universal truth that applies to all women? They want a man with a masculine frame to counter their feminine energy. AWALT. Don’t let modern day feminism make you believe otherwise.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/18 03:44 AM
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I was feeling extremely bad for you up until the part you wrote she is a stripper. Cmon man, you cant turn a hoe into a housewife. Hypergamy is real but you are basically playing with fire with a girl in that profession. Might as well saying you were dating a pornstar. What do you expect? You must look back and cut ties off immediately with this girl. Prepare for her to beg you to come back or even she may throw "why were you looking at my phone" hostile accusations. Work to become the best poss…
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 11:07 PM
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You are being very naive OP. You cant really think this girls n count is less than 4 because her friend said so? Has it ever registered to you that she is lying to her friend regarding the true number? You are right judge a girl by her actions not her words. She seems into you, but she also seems into other men as well. She agreed to meet another guy on IG. Cmon man. She owes you no exclusivity. She is a fwb and she is acting like one. If a girl wants a relationship with you, she will bring it u…
/r/askTRP13/07/18 10:04 PM
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I appreciate your insight. I respectfully disagree just in the sense that if you truly believe you are the prize and no girl has an SMV higher than you, then anything you say to her can never be internalized as weak. It really comes down to your intentions for complimenting a girl. In this case I wanted to elict a response from her to quickly move the interaction in the way i wanted to. From my experiences, if a highly confident elite women perceives you as a high status alpha male, and you give…
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 08:39 PM
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This is my first ever post on this forum. I only edited it to defend its truth because I naively thought I could change people's minds regarding its validity. I have since realized that people are going to believe what they believe and nothing i say will alter that. And thats perfectly fine. Also, great example you gave to your plate. You held your frame in that instance and didnt back down from your opinion. She respected you for that.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 08:16 PM
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My pleasure. Hope it was helpful
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 06:43 PM
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I have had a lot experience man. But it all comes down to me being truly confident as to who I am as a person. I am totally fine with people not liking me. Ive learned to accept others will judge me, disapprove of my actions, etc but their opinions mean nothing to me. In fact, I believe if everyone likes you, you are inauthentic and doing something wrong. All that matters at the end of the day is if my actions coincide with my beliefs and morals. If they do, then I can live with myself. Once you…
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 06:41 PM
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You nailed it on the head. Prototype is a good word. All their lives they have had men put her on a pedestal for literally no other reason but because they have a nice face, gorgeous tits and a sexy little ass. The reason why my response had the effect that it did on her was because I did not worship her. My actions indicated my SMV was much higher than hers. For a girl who normally thinks she is gods gift to earth, when she meets a man who puts in her in her place, she is speechless. And can fi…
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 06:35 PM
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The goal of mine when giving a compliment is to increase the sexual tension. Obviously other ways to do that is through kino, teasing, etc but in my experiences when you couple that with a bold statement like with what I wrote, she will have no other choice but to view you as a confident sexual alpha male
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 06:26 PM
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Haha, a neckbeard virgin. I like that one.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 05:56 PM
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Thanks. Yeah I quickly am learning people will believe what they want to believe. I can't change their mind.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 05:40 PM
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In her eyes my compliment probably did seem beta to her. In my eyes it didn't. (Note my compliments are only used to up the sexual tension) She shit tested me to see if I was an alpha or beta I passed with flying colors.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 05:33 PM
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This is the reason why I wanted to share my story. I am so incredibly happy that this post made an impact on you. Always believe in who you are as a man. Never lose site of that. If you ever have any questions or need some advice, feel free to send me a DM. Its people like you that make writing this stuff all worth it.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 05:12 PM
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I respectfully disagree. Most hot women believer their SMV is higher than most men they meet. If you flip that switch around and show that in fact your SMV is higher than hers, she will be dumbfounded. That rarely happens to her. You are the chad in her eyes at that moment.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 04:53 PM
5

haha this actually made me laugh. They really should have because I was quite proud of myself for handling it the way that I did.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 04:47 PM
3

Thanks man. Yeah a girl who has a huge ego is dying for someone to stand up to them. Its so rare they find a man who can do that.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 04:40 PM
5

Thats awesome to hear! I really wish when I was your age I knew what frame was and how valuable it is with achieving success with women. The fact you stood your ground to this lady shows you have complete confidence in yourself and a sense of masculine strength that is rare these days. Women find this extremely attractive.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 04:34 PM
1

Thanks. No, it only took me a few seconds to think of it.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 04:29 PM
4

I'm happy you got up from that relationship and left. You can never allow disrespectful behavior from anyone in your life. You have to value yourself first and foremost. Women will never love you if they don't respect you. Always remember that.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 04:26 PM
1

But thats not what happened. Looking back on it I think she had some sort of narcissistic personality disorder. Maybe thats why she reacted the way she did to my strength.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 04:24 PM
2

Glad to hear you have also had success responding to shit tests in a similar fashion.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 04:18 PM
2

This is my first ever field report so I'm not sure how to balance between sounding "fan fiction" and making a post that others enjoy reading. In any event thank you for finding value in what I wrote.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 04:14 PM
4

I appreciate you taking the time to read this and seeing value in what I wrote.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 04:10 PM
7

Thank you and I agree with what you wrote completely.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 03:59 PM
4

I do agree with you she was an outlier in the way most girls act. And so was my response, but it was warranted in her case. This was an extreme example which still shows the power of frame.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 03:56 PM
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I will agree that most women are not that overt. This was my first time in 33 years I ever was shit tested like this before. But it happened and hopefully people can learn from this
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 03:37 PM
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I'm so glad you found what I wrote useful. I'm happy to help.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 08:06 AM
23

I like to turn the conversation sexual after a while. Complimenting helps me segway into that. i.e. wow, your ass looks incredible in that dress, your eyes are fucking gorgeous, etc. I want to see how she reacts. My time is valuable.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 07:51 AM
119

Never explain your actions to her. You are the man. Do what you want and own it. Remember at all times, she should be trying to win your approval. Not the other way around. Also fyi: don't ever look downward when talking to a girl. Look her straight in the eye. This shows dominance.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 07:42 AM
6

Nicely done man. Would suggest in future not doing a lunch date. Worked this time but you want to avoid doing things friends would do
/r/TheRedPill12/07/18 10:05 PM
3

The power of the take away. Tell her “nevermind. I don’t do maybes”. Frame is now back under your control. She is just treating you as an option. Don’t allow that
/r/askTRP12/07/18 08:29 PM
1

This x 100. OP listen to what this man is saying. Couldnt have said it any better.
/r/askTRP12/07/18 07:26 PM
1

You cant do anything my friend. Worrying is pointless. You have to go live your life and always work on yourself and maintain your frame at all times in the relationship. All you can do is put your best foot forward and maintain your SMV. If she wants to cheat she will. That is why most advocate against being in a LTR or married. Hypergamy is something out of your control.
/r/askTRP12/07/18 07:23 PM
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Haha hey man, props to you for at least approaching this girl in the park and opening her up. Yeah, your game was extremely weak but you are learning and thats what it is all about! You clearly need to work on leading the interaction. Once you were starting to lose momentum, thats when you should have escalated and turned up the sexual tension. Playful kino, teasing, etc. Standard stuff. You never wait until the end of the date to kiss the girl. You do it when she is least suspecting and she is …
/r/TheRedPill12/07/18 01:51 AM
2

She told me she's done with cheating and will do anything to make it right I'm pretty sure I don't have to tell you this but don't for a second believe this nonsense. Sure she may be done with cheating now since her Alpha Chad got tired of her ass but you will always know in the back of her mind what she is capable of. I am sorry you are in this situation OP. Like others have mentioned, don't react with emotion. Your focus and attention should be on the well being of your children. You may have …
/r/askTRP11/07/18 04:35 PM
3

I'm glad you were able to look back and see what went wrong. With dating you want to ensure that the girl is more into you than you are into her. Its a sad reality but if you accept the fact then you will see what needs to be done in order to maintain attraction.
/r/askTRP10/07/18 08:04 AM
4

Depends how long you been seeing the girl. One instance of unmasculine beta like behavior can cause a woman to instantly lose all attraction towards you, if it occurs during the first couple of dates. Women have so many options and orbiters in their circle that they don't need to teach a man how to be a man. They can move on quickly to another prospect. If you two are in a relationship and she has become emotionally invested in it, she won't leave you after one instance of unmasculine behavior. …
/r/askTRP10/07/18 07:48 AM
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You need to stop caring if she thinks you are an asshole or a dick. Maintaining frame is creating your own reality and having you decide what you will and will not tolerate. Some people are going to hate you for it just because you are setting boundaries. Its out of your control how she reacts and frankly it isn't important. She won't however think you are beta. Thats for sure.
/r/askTRP10/07/18 07:29 AM
2

Plausible deniability is correct. You are the man so you are the one who has to lead her to your place without making her feel cheap. Say something like "Hey, lets get out of here and grab a drink at my place". (She can justify that in her head that you just want to grab a drink). Act confident. Be confident. Assume she will want to say yes.
/r/askTRP09/07/18 05:09 PM
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OP, I am sorry you are going through this. I really hope you can take a step back at this situation and see how controlling and manipulative your finance is. This behavior is unacceptable by any man, red pilled or not. No women should ever put up with such verbal abuse. A true man does not wish under any circumstances to make his lady uncomfortable nor cause her to fear him. I wanted to give you advice from a red pill male perspective. We are very straightforward and value being direct and hones…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 08:30 AM
2

The other option is to make up with them and apologize Please do not do this under any circumstances. You have nothing to apologize for. Yes blowing up at your friends isn't a good look because a man should strive to be as cool and calm as much as possible, but these guys disrespected you plain and simple. You need to have respect for yourself man, first and foremost. I know you are young but in life you have to accept that people in your life will come and go. Your job as a young man is to have…
/r/askTRP09/07/18 07:17 AM
4

Once you get the knowledge ingrained in your head and start slowly accpeting the realities of the world around us and how AWALT, you will realize everyone here is not "douches" but rather men who choose to prioritize themselves first and foremost and aim to become the leaders that women want to have in their life. The beautiful thing about being a man of strength, which you will become if you choose to follow these principles, is that you can create the life you always wanted and surround yourse…
/r/TheRedPill09/07/18 06:44 AM
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It’s all an act. Women care about how society views them and thus they are more than happy to take ig photos of them “volunteering” showing the world how noble and honorable they are but in reality they are only doing it for selfish reasons. It’s the same reason why so many women on the surface portray themselves as absolute feminists where men and women should be in equal but in reality, if you talked to them 1v1, most will tell you it’s bullshit They just want to conform and fit in to what soc…
/r/askTRP09/07/18 12:01 AM
4

I actually like dealing with these women. But they aren't for the faint of heart. If you want to attract them you need to be in your masculine and own that shit. If you are someone they can't shake from their frame you will be a unicorn to them simply because its extremely difficult for them to meet someone like that. Someone that can stand up to them and put them in their place at a moments notice. In their eyes. you are the equivalent of a HB9 with a gorgeous face and a tight little body.
/r/askTRP08/07/18 11:34 PM
2

Matty anon gave some spot on advice. Its clear that this plate of yours sensed weakness with your inner strength and thus the shit tests begin. I don't know why anyone really wants to have female friends. They aren't your friends dude. Use them as a fuck buddy sure but the moment you consider someone your friend, your beta like tendencies will come out and you will start thinking its ok to use them for emotional support. The moment you do that, you are toast. Women want a man of strength. Not so…
/r/askTRP08/07/18 11:13 PM
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Personally, I don't think there was any need to go out of your way to push him to the ground. You easily could have looked at him and said something along the lines of "hey man, don't you ever do that again". Simple. Powerful. That is you in you masculine presence. Now if you told him that and he didn't apologize and instead got into your personal space, then your actions would have been warranted.
/r/askTRP08/07/18 10:59 PM
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All you can do is show characteristics that you would with your mother. Be warm, humble, smile, act extra polite. Such things would be terrible to do for attracting women but in this situation it will work. Especially in the industry you are in (helping and caring for others). Employers want to ensure you are team player. Especially if those interviewing you are women. A true man knows when to turn up his masculinity and when to turn it down a notch. This is a situation you would turn it down.
/r/askTRP08/07/18 10:28 PM
2

Being a man is about facing challenges and conquering them So true. That is why its imperative that men view failure not as a negative but rather as positive. They should view it as a learning experience which will get them one step closer to achieving the success they seek. This gives men the intestinal fortitude to overcome obstacles in his life and have the mindset that they can handle anything that life throws at them. This is power. This is strength. This is masculinity at its finest.
/r/TheRedPill08/07/18 06:02 AM
1

Why are you worried? If you portray any insecurities, she will sense that shit a mile away. Chad doesn't care if the girl is taller him. To him, he is indifferent and has the mindset that she needs to qualify herself to him no matter what. Act like you normally would with a shorter girl. Remember dude, you are the prize. Not her.
/r/askTRP08/07/18 05:51 AM
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