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Now I’m wondering, how many of those are male and how many are female? 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 02:15 PM
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They don’t realize we can’t tell them apart. As if a murderer can’t be charming and kind and sweet to your face and build up trust beforehand. Ted Bundy himself made himself look approachable and sweet in order to kill. We literally can’t see which men are a threat to us. Are we supposed to shrug our shoulders and hope we don’t die? I’d rather just not date then lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:26 PM
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I’d say worse. Not that I like momma boys, but mommy haters make my skin crawl. They have such contempt for their mom and they let that bleed over onto all other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:28 AM
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I feel like men who feel threatened by FDS are losers who have struggled to get laid even with PickMes all over the place, and now that women are shaking off their old PickMe-ways, they know they’re gonna get laid even less. Can you imagine how scared they must feel? Let’s use an analogy that men will understand, since they already think of us as property anyway: Being a PickMe is like having your vagina on sale, 95% off, and these men still haven’t been able to afford it. Now we’re back to dema…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:29 AM
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I can never quite understand how throwing sex into the mix makes it okay. Like… Choking a woman during any other time is wrong, but when you’re aroused by it then it’s fine? WHAT. And how on earth is it somehow possible to be a “loving partner” and to also get aroused by your partner’s suffering? It’s so contradictory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 03:03 PM
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I feel like the sweet spot is when a man is enthusiastic about marrying you (proposes within a year or two), but you’re the one pulling the breaks on the wedding. That way he is enthusiastic about marrying you (so you won’t end up a forever girlfriend), but you’re also not rushing into a marriage with a man you’ve known for a year or two. It’s what I did with my ex. He was so eager to marry me because he knew I was the one (sike, I left his ass lol), and I was still able to cut ties with ease. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:21 PM
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Right? So nasty! Bieber is LV as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:40 PM
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From now on I’m gonna non-ironically call myself a high quality bitch lol. For real though, I’d honestly divorce a man over a poem like this. Not even kidding. How did he fit so many red flags into it? Porn damaged? Check. Misogynistic? Check. Grown child? Check. Girl, whoever you are, there are men out there who can write rhapsodies and gorgeous prose, and you’re dating THIS? Run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:16 PM
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I’m in Europe but yeah I doubt it was legal 💀 that man was a huge piece of shit and he was mind blown and surprised when I dumped him, can you imagine? 😂 the longer time that passes, the more I realize how shitty he treated me. So glad to have seen the light!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:14 AM
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And you too love 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 11:46 PM
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Thank you ❤️ I’m honestly just so damn happy when I think about it, because I’ve gotten so far. Back then that was my normal and now I wouldn’t dream of letting someone treat me that way. It makes me so happy that he literally doesn’t know me anymore because I’m an entirely new woman on the inside, with a confidence I didn’t know was possible 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 11:29 PM
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That’s why they want women with low body counts too. If you’ve been sexually active with other men, they don’t feel like you belong to them in the same way - they think of us as used, as second hand or left overs. It’s incredibly creepy, especially that they can’t seem to understand it or admit it to themselves. We’re people, not belongings! We will not be waiting on a shelf, untouched like a product in a store for them to pick us up. We’re also not less worthy after having had sex! Do they not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:17 PM
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Same with my ex 💀 having sex with him made me want to die, towards the end I was disassociating the entire time, just letting him use my body. I told him it hurt. I told him I didn’t want to. I told him it wasn’t good for me. Yet he kept wanting it, and I was scared he would cheat if I didn’t put out so I let him use me. Some lube was all he needed in order to pretend that I actually wanted to have sex with him. Delusional 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:04 PM
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It’s difficult to explain without telling which business I’m in, but we’re required to provide services for him. What he’s been doing isn’t outright harassment so he could easily pretend to be innocent. However, it’s pretty evident he’s been showing up with no “real” errands, and the way he’s been seeking me out definitely creeps me out. My colleague said it seems like he’s looking for reasons to come over, that he hasn’t been doing this before and that he isn’t usually here this often. So I’d s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 09:45 PM
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Girl, my ex gleefully told me about how he (without my knowledge) recorded 2 hours of us talking, making out and having sex when we just starting seeing each other, and then he cried because he was expecting me to find it CHARMING? Or CUTE? Or fun?? I don’t know what kind of reaction he was expecting but he was so gleeful and giddy about telling me (“I have a secret”, “guess what it is”) and when he told me, he was behaving all giddy and coy at the same time (“don’t be mad, I just wanted somethi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 09:31 PM
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He also assumes any man we meet and talk to wants to fuck us, which speaks to how poorly he views women and how desperate he is. He only talks to women in order to get laid, because that’s all he thinks we’re good for. And it’s also further proof that male attention isn’t worth much. When a man talks to me or smiles to me or compliments me, I just assume he wants to get his dick wet 🤷‍♀️ booooring!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 09:01 PM
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Can’t call the cops on him 🥲 and ewww... that’s so weird and scary! Yeah, why is it always us who have to change our ways to avoid creeps? How about they stop creeping instead? 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:15 PM
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I’d love that kind of freedom 😂 unfortunately, if I was rude to this man, I’d probably lose a valuable customer and risk my job 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:11 PM
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At work, where I’m supposed to be professional? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:45 PM
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Unfortunately we have to provide them with service, so we can’t ban him outright. One of them will talk to him and explain that he’s only welcome with “real” tasks, not smaller ones that he can do himself from home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 11:10 AM
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He’s a paying (well paying at that) customer that comes to my work place for minor tasks. I can’t deny him his services, and neither can my coworkers, unless he does something outright rude. It’s a grey area since I’m clearly uncomfortable but he could easily feign ignorance if I were to try to report it or ban him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:55 AM
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You’re very right, if it escalates then I can definitely report this. I’ll make sure to remember that 🙏 The only issue is that he hasn’t been doing anything worthy of reporting yet - unfortunately I can’t report him for making me feel uncomfortable, for being overly social and flirty, etc. I will keep avoiding him, and if he doesn’t get the hint in the long run, then I’ll either keep avoiding him long term or I’ll grey rock him. I think those are my only choices for now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:36 AM
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Girl, I feel for you so much. I’m so sorry you had to go through that ❤️ these men are so entitled to us, they can’t imagine us as people, we’re just supposed to take whatever they fling at us. Know that you are worthy of MUCH better behavior and that no man is allowed to treat you that way, and stand tall tomorrow if he returns. Remove yourself, call for a coworker or for security, and keep yourself safe ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:31 AM
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Feel free to use it whenever, although I hope you don’t have to describe many men you meet with that word 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:25 AM
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Ah, you’re right, thank you! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:17 AM
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Right? I feel DISGUSTING and disgusted simultaneously. If an old lady, covered in warts and with boogers hanging out of her hairy nose, with tits dragging across the floor, smelling like pee or worse, if she stared a man up and down, tried to touch his arm, tried small talking and asking odd personal questions, if she stopped by their work place often and people started picking up on it, if she ogled men the way they ogle us - they’d be so damn uncomfortable. If it happened once, they’d maybe la…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 09:27 PM
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Yeah, no, that would be highly unprofessional of me unfortunately. During opening hours, every client is welcome and he hasn't done anything worthy of getting banned. It's just so uncomfortable that he's been coming in to have me do very, VERY basic tasks for him that he could probably do online on his own instead, just to interact with me. As for staying vigilante, eh. If I spot him, it's a matter of looking busy for a moment, that I'm cool with. But the idea that he's been enjoying these momen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 08:28 PM
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Me too, I was honestly touched when they told me to stay far away from him. They truly had my back there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 08:15 PM
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Oh my god, this sentence but for all men summarizes how I feel since finding FDS. I love not having a dependent anymore, I feel like I used to be mom to a toddler and now I’ve gotten my freedom back. There’s no way in hell I’m dating again anytime this century lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:34 PM
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I feel like they always cherry pick what to mention from on here, and that they also remove our motivation behind what we write. For example: “hurrdurr, FDS claim to be independent women but they want men to pay for them on dates, such hypocrites!” We’re independent. We don’t need men to pay for us on dates. But we’re checking if our date is a generous person, or if he’s a cheap asshole who in the long run will bleed us dry (my ex for example was a huge gold digger. He lived at my place for free…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:28 PM
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Can you imagine equating not getting laid with suffering? Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:17 PM
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Yup. I’ve already shared the story about my grandmother - depressed, on antidepressants for decades, felt too old to divorce my grandfather despite him always bullying her and still having to baby him every single day. Her two sons? They knew nothing about her depression. Her grandson? He knew nothing about her depression. Me, her granddaughter and the only woman in the family who she could open up to? I knew because I could tell, but also because she trusted me and told me. My grandfather proba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 11:18 AM
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I truly feel the same way. My ex wanted consistent sex so he pretended to love me consistently, but I know he never loved me. I’m so sorry this happened to all of you, everyone deserves better than to be treated that way ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:51 PM
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Most men don’t care about romance. At all. As a romantic person, this realization hit me hard after joining FDS. Men don’t naturally want to be romantic - they always have an ulterior motive because they use romance as a tool in order to get sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:55 PM
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My LVX came from another country to mine. He of course only brought belongings that could fit in his bags. Then he lived with me and bought larger things and upgraded what he had, and when he was moving out (we were still together and on good terms when he moved out), he fully expected me to handle his things for him. He expected me to pack and ship his moving boxes for him. I’m 5’2 and not very strong. I argued with him about it because it was his things and him who decided to buy the crap, not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 04:00 PM
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If we did, girl, I’m so sorry ❤️ both of us deserve better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:01 AM
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Tickling for sure. My ex would tickle me all the time, for far too long as I was yelling for him to stop, kicking and screaming and trying to get him off of me. He also punched a hole in a table when gamer raging. Pretty sure I dodged a bullet an atomic bomb with that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 06:35 PM
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Exactly! I feel like they’re very manipulative and capable of pretending to be HV but nope, nope, nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:01 PM
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I’m Swedish and not blonde lol. I’d say the Swedish look is more in the face than in our hair color.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 01:37 PM
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Swedish men can be nasty though. They’re often very quiet until you get to know them, and then the entitlement, the misogyny and the LV traits show up. Don’t be fooled by their looks 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 01:34 PM
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If it’s not about her pleasure, what is it about? Access? If he can’t have access to her vagina, she shouldn’t either? I’m struggling so hard to understand his underlying motivations for doing something like this. Men are absurd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:17 AM
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Do you know these men intimately? They might watch porn, have been very LV when they were younger, etc. A lot of low value behavior shows up when you get to know a man intimately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:07 PM
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💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:20 PM
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I can’t even imagine. You’re doing an amazing thing though!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:38 PM
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100%!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:37 PM
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Oh my god, I love that you told them that! And yes, they seem to think any woman in the world can just wake up and go out and find a sugar daddy and make mad cash from their vagina. It’s not quite that simple, and while I definitely don’t agree with sex work, I hate how men undervalue sex workers and their effort. Sucking on their nasty dicks sure counts as work 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:11 PM
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Okay now I feel like we all need to answer this one lol. Mine are, in no specific order: cauliflower (baked in the oven ❤️), broccoli (only with toasted sesame seed oil and sea salt though, otherwise I’m not into it), bell pepper, soy beans and onions. But a definite shoutout to corn on the cob and radishes. Oh and honey roasted carrots. And sugar snap peas. And regular peas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:53 PM
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Exactly! Women have pleasure to give, and men don’t, so women can put a price on their genitals whereas men can’t. And they salty af about it 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:01 PM
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And we rarely (do we ever?) hear men call those men whores or sluts - no where near the same amount we hear them call women those words. Hypocrites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:00 PM
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Oh my god, it just clicked for me that he killed off all the moms 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:45 AM
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What gets me the most is that men judge women for selling sex as if they would never. But if they had the option to get PAID to have sex with women, you bet your ass they would do it. They would be prostituting themselves left and right, if women demanded dick the same way that men demand pussy. They just can’t stand that women can make money off of sex, while they themselves can’t 🤷‍♀️ Men are hypocrites and judgmental, and we should stop fucking them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:42 AM
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This. They learn from their mistakes - and they think their mistake was getting caught, not the cheating itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:53 AM
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I need a ball-o-meter. I can’t stand low hanging, swing balls 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:26 PM
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Nothing turns me off more than an unemotional man. They seem so constipated 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:22 PM
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If she doesn’t leave, she’ll be a statistic. We need to normalize leaving men when there’s any hint of danger. Giving men the benefit of the doubt when they’ve hinted at being dangerous is reckless, naive behavior that endangers lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 11:53 AM
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I was thinking that when reading it - how does one impulsively buy a house? You don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:06 PM
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LVM also want to spend that money on their other interests - gaming, porn, cigarettes or alcohol, you name it. No wonder why they hate paying for women, it probably translates to “This vagina woman is too high maintenance and cost for me, I can’t afford my porn and Battlefield and dinner all at once, better find a pussy lady who prefers coffee dates”. High value people, not just men, enjoy treating others, even if it costs much. My mother wanted to treat me to a cute graduation gift (bye bye uni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:51 AM
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I’m starting to wonder 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 04:40 PM
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Bingo - our needs, thoughts and feelings aren’t welcome. I was supposed to talk to him more after we broke up, to help give him more of a closure, but then he asked if I broke up with him because of my period... nope, and now you’re blocked, asshole. And then he whined about me blocking him. Dude isn’t the smartest 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:46 PM
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They’re probably in denial. I used to think all of my exes were hot once, but now I’m embarrassed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:45 PM
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My ex was convinced it wasn’t his fault when I broke up with him. He asked if my parents made me break up with him? No. He asked if I’d met someone else? No. He asked if it was because I was on my period? No. He asked if it was because I had too much in school? No. I didn’t want him because of his behavior. Apparently that’s impossible to compute, even though I had attempted to break up with him 3 times prior. Their egos just can’t take it when we don’t want them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:18 PM
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Men saying there was no intimacy = I don’t buy it. There most likely was intimacy going on. And if it wasn’t, it was because the other woman said no - we all know the man would’ve gone for it 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:48 AM
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And giving blow jobs increases risk of cancer in the giver. So dick is literally giving us cancer 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:55 PM
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Jesus Christ... :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:20 PM
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Wait... $5 a month? Holy fuck, they’re selling themselves online for cheaper than a McDonald’s meal? Not even per selfie but per month? Oh my god, I’m out of words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:15 PM
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Very simply put: he wanted to please me without knowing how and took any sign of displeasure or instructions poorly, so I didn’t dare to tell him that I wasn’t pleased and chose to shut up to keep the peace - but I also wanted him to stop having unsatisfying sex with my body for almost an hour at a time, so I faked orgasms to make him think I was “done” and so that he would orgasm and leave me alone. Google it. There’s tons of info about why women fake. For me, it stemmed from wanting to protect…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:46 PM
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Better than nothing... oh gosh. My ex pestered me for sex all the time. I literally didn’t want to have sex with him towards the end. I would literally struggle with food poisoning in the bathroom from both ends rather than have sex with him. Vaginal sex is rarely pleasurable for me 🤷‍♀️ Never fucking a man again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:22 PM
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I think this is way more prevalent than we think. When I faked orgasms, my ex felt “proud” because it was his dick that “gave” me them - he did it. But when I started demanding real ones and rubbed them out myself, all of a sudden it wasn’t as fun for him. He wasn’t getting his ego stroked, so why was I supposed to feel pleasure? 🤷‍♀️ And that is one of the key reasons we want generous men - truly, genuinely generous men. Because if they don’t feel happy when giving, they’ll only take.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:47 AM
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Girl, I’m so glad you’ve changed! You deserve fulfilled potential, not to wait for change that never happens ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:11 AM
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I’ve done this with every man I’ve dated - I assumed they were all gentle and sweet on the inside. After seeing their true colors, I was so confused - how could I fall for them? How was I so blind? But I was seeing these men through a wonderful filter and when I removed it, their uselessness became visible. Romanticizing men can be done consciously and unconsciously. I was doing both, and now I’m done with both 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 08:03 PM
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Haha I trust you! I only meant to joke about the nOt AlL mEn thing 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:50 AM
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Girl trust me, not all of men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:56 AM
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Some Swedish men are decent but honestly, I’m done searching for one 🤷‍♀️ if I wanna gamble and attempt to win a lottery, it’s less time and effort to just buy a lottery ticket lol. I’m gonna chase a high value career and high value hobbies and if I meet a HVM during that journey, then sure, but I’m not searching for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:11 PM
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This was a big one for me. He wanted sex all the time and I was insecure and felt scared that he would look for someone else if I didn't give him what he wanted. I put out so many time when I didn't want to, but without telling him I didn't want to, in order to be the perfect girlfriend. He got so upset if I told him I didn't want to or if I behaved like I wasn't into it. So I had to behave like I loved it everytime even when I wanted to die. I honestly hated having sex with him towards the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:37 PM
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Thank you so much for your compassion, and for this post ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:39 PM
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Exactly! He thought I should magically be in the mood anytime he got undressed, even when he stopped working out and gained weight and started looking like a different person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:26 PM
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I was a mom to a porn addicted unemployed, unhygienic and lazy gamer. He wanted sex all the time. Not once after the first month did he properly woo me and I was never turned on by him. But I didn’t realize he was at fault, so I kept calling myself LL and look at subs for tips on how to fix it. Oh my god. Of course I won’t be turned on by someone who acts so unattractively! He was actively unsexy and I blamed myself for not getting turned on by his lazy, nasty ass. I wish I could gather up all t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:16 PM
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They literally steal your life expectancy 💀 before marrying a man, ask yourself if he’s worth cutting off years of your life for!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:11 PM
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Exactly! I get that lasting long was a response to dudes coming in 2 seconds, but damn, being unable to come and just going, going, going is another kind of hell. I think the longest time I had sex was 2 hours - and I hated 1,75 of those hours but didn’t feel comfortable to tell him to stop because “he deserves to come, I don’t wanna stress him” 🙃 my ex also bragged that he used to fuck for actual hours with girls prior to me. That time I remember asking him how they weren’t hurting and bleeding…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:51 AM
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I wish I did this. My ex would take forever in bed. I should’ve put a 20 minute limit and said that’s my limit, so sex ends there no matter who orgasms or not. If you wanna finish yourself off after, go for it! But I’m never again letting a man use me for over an hour while I’m uncomfortable and wishing he would just be DONE. It’s so inhuman. He literally used me as a sex toy for his own pleasure and disregarded me entirely, and yet he wonders why I dumped him. So stupid 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:25 AM
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If we want a man, this is the kind of man we should get 👌 but no one ever needs a man, thank goddess!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:20 AM
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Do it! Whoever he is and whatever happened, I’m 99% sure that he doesn’t deserve another minute of your time. He’s worth dropping, hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:34 PM
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I had the same experience - I wanted to explain all he did wrong, tell him that I’m not the crazy one, curse him out for all the evil things he did to me... Instead I’m just gone from his life. He grows more pathetic with time in his attempts to reach me (he keeps writing to mutual friends or through new emails and I just block, block, block) and it feels so good to deny him access to me. He coerced me into sex for over a year but wants me to give him closure? Nope, I’ve given him more already t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:11 AM
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You know it 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:29 PM
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Haha I promise! Don’t get your hopes up though, I’m saving all my money for an apartment before any tattoo dreams are realized 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:21 PM
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Low key tempted to get this tattooed on me so I’ll be unable to ever forget it, what a fantastic phrase!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:18 PM
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That’s literally what they do - men outsource their emotional labor to any woman in their life and has been doing so for hundreds, if not thousands of years. And then we all stand around and ask ourselves why men and women are so different? I think this is one of the main reasons I’m so angry with men: they have the capacity for emotional intelligence but they’re refusing to use it 🥲 brains are wasted on (not all 🤪) men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:08 PM
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So many men marry women to have a caretaker in their old age and then they torture their wives into dying early and they’re left alone anyway. It would be funny if women weren’t the ones paying the price.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:30 PM
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Ah fuck, I got furious over that last part, royally fuck your ex. They always put the blame on us! Such assholes! He would rather defend a complete stranger than his own partner 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:03 AM
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If physical touch was his love language, wouldn’t he want you to grope him rather than the opposite? Your love language is how you want to be loved and treated. So if physical touch isn’t your love language then being groped will not feel like love to you. He was using the concept wrong, probably in order to touch you more than you were willing to be touched. Fuck that :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:53 AM
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I don’t think you can know who a man truly is for at least 2-4 years And even then: people can change. People change all the time. Key thing is: changing is easier when it’s for the worse. Changing for the better - that’s hard. That’s why we should never expect a man to improve because he’s more likely to get worse than he already is. Imagine marrying someone and then realizing the man you married is nothing like the man you first met. Being married to a man you never wanted, sharing finances an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:08 PM
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Hopefully! Although length isn’t a good indicator of the quality of a marriage unfortunately 😓 I too hope Hanks is HV, he seems like a good person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:59 PM
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It also shows that even the Hollywood dream men that we’re supposed to fawn over aren’t necessarily HV (personally, I doubt any of them are). Full of themselves, narcissistic, surrounded by people pleasers and yes sayers... it’s a breeding ground for selfishness. I doubt any Hollywood man is a decent partner 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:32 PM
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I have, and thank you!! Now only defending it left 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:01 PM
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Hi queen, I’m so glad you read it ❤️ I don’t know you, but I know you’re worth so damn much and that I’d be lucky to ever meet you. Please have a great day and refuse to forget your worth, okay? ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:41 AM
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True, utter bliss 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:37 PM
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Currently: my stubbornness. We are finishing up our thesis this evening and submitting it. We’ve been at it all day. I kinda want to lie down and sleep for two weeks but we have some stuff left and I’m not submitting it before I’ve read through it all. Just a few more hours to go. Just a little bit more, then it’s over. Oh my god I can’t wait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 07:24 PM
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Haha thank you ❤️ and right? That last part... I forgot it (read: repressed it) because it weirded me out so much. Then I remembered it a while back and I cringed with my entire body. HE SNIFFED DEAD HAIR COLLECTED FROM A HAIR BRUSH 😭😭😭 Dude has mental issues, who does that?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:09 PM
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Anytime, love 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:14 PM
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I love the realization I had a few years ago: uniqueness, worthiness, loveability, they are inherent. You don't have to try so hard. You have them already. You don't have to prove them. You don't have to do anything. On your worst days, you have them just as much as on your best days. When I understood that, my old habit of chasing validation slowly started to erode because I no longer need someone to point out that I'm this or I'm that to feel unique, worthy, loveable. Receiving compliments is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:49 PM
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Oh my god, I'm in the same boat - a year later you're still feeling it? Fuck, I was hoping it would wear off after a few months. I swear, being pestered for sex all the time is the least sexy thing that exists. My ex felt like a dog, always humping my leg, always whining for his toy (my vagina). Disgusting. I became so sex averse that I literally didn't want to touch him at all. I had so much sex with him even when I didn't want to, and it was still never enough because he always wanted more, mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:34 PM
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I bet the majority of men say they have sex a lot when in reality they’re masturbating. They don’t want to seem like losers who are beating off in their mom’s apartment 24/7 so they pretend to have rough porn sex all the time. They don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:04 PM
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Oh and to add onto the warning signs thing: I realized he coerced me into sex a lot - so why should I feel bad for manipulating him out of my life? And I remembered that when we first started dating, I somehow excused the fact that he gathered up my hair from a hairbrush and kept it to sniff when we were apart. Would a reasonable, healthy human being do such a thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 07:59 AM
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The story of how I kicked my ex out: he lived in my place, came from another country, had nowhere to go and I was full of "I can't kick him out, where will he go? He has no money, how will he be okay?" In retrospect - that's not my problem. But at the time, I was struggling to cut the chord. I ended up encouraging him to go home to his country for "his" sake. Honestly, I feel like I planted the idea in his head and then encouraged him to go home as if it was his own idea and it was so manipulati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 07:20 AM
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Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:26 PM
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❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:54 PM
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😂😂😂 Girl, I’m sure your teeth are gorgeous! And your ex got his karma ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:21 PM
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Girl, you’re so right - some of them realize how porn impacts them and that’s the only reason they’re willing to quit - for their own sake. Assholes all of them ☺️ And thank you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:19 PM
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Oh thank you! ❤️ It just randomly popped into my head when reading your post, I had to let it out 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:18 PM
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Porn is not needed for masturbation and men who cling to it desperately feel immature to me. They can't possibly masturbate without porn, they don't even want to imagine it - even though it's the way people have always masturbated before porn was created. With no porn, you're forced to rely on your imagination and possibly erotica for stimulation, and honestly, porn feels so lazy and immature in comparison. For me it's kinda like comparing a good day dream or a good book or novella with an Adam …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:44 AM
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My ex had very crooked, crowded teeth and he expressed jealousy over how nice my smile is and how straight and even my teeth are. He never wanted to smile with his teeth because of his insecurity. Lo and behold, half a year into our relationship he starts calling my teeth yellow 🙄 so that I would be insecure too. I have asked people if they are yellow and everyone’s been shocked by the notion because no, my teeth aren’t yellow. Insecure bastard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:57 AM
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Oh my god, I’m so glad he’s your ex fiancé 🙏 thank you for sharing. And yes, we’re trying so hard to tell them nicely and they’re not listening - no wonder we’re turning angry!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:52 PM
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And because they themselves don’t see the truth. They think women want their dick all the time and that she’ll like it and that she did like it but regretted it afterwards because people will look down on her for being easy or a hundred of other justifications. Some men can’t comprehend that women aren’t like them - we don’t think about sex all day long. We don’t want to have sex with a stranger just because they smiled at us or sat next to us on the bus. Not to mention all the porn that depicts…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:31 PM
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I honestly think I’ve only been with guys who were faking a connection. I don’t think I’ve truly been made love to by a guy, despite having been in long term relationships. It’s so depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:11 PM
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Thank you for sharing ❤️ it’s so infuriating... It pains me so much that they say these things to young women. You deserve respect and they gave you the exact opposite. It’s so angering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:09 PM
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This is my biggest issue with sex. I don’t want to be used for pleasure 🤷‍♀️ maybe if it was an even and balanced exchange between giving each other pleasure, but that’s not gonna happen with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:33 PM
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Oh god you’re so right! They assume their desire and wanting and needing is love. It’s not. Men truly are broken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:39 PM
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First of all: mindfulness. Anytime I fantasize or day dream about a man (I’m a huge day dreamer so it happens), I call myself out: “oh, daydreaming about the dude you saw yesterday huh? You’re giving him too much credit with these fantasies, you know he’d be barely 10% of the man you’re imagining.” Then, if you have his social media, check who he follows. If it’s porn stuff - then perfect, just imagine him at home wanking off furiously to depraved stuff online and realize he’s damaged beyond rep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:37 PM
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When sex was too vulgar to be sung about or non-radio friendly, they instead used to sing about passion and love making and the fire they have for their woman. Blablabla- just men trying to talk about their sex drive, boner and “god I wish I was banging her right now” in an artsy, socially appropriate way. The vast, vast majority of men don’t love the way we do. I doubt they even could if they wanted to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:31 PM
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You’re so right. Jesus Christ, I can’t believe they called you that, I’m so sorry you had to hear that ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:10 PM
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Excuse me while I projectile vomit. We are not people in their eyes, we are sex toys 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:58 PM
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What does a spinner mean? Do I want to know? 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:43 PM
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It’s so funny to me that men feel they have the right to have children. The creation and birthing of a child is done by a woman and is therefore never his right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 07:46 AM
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I feel like TRP comparison comes from how TRP wants to manipulate women into giving them what they want: sex, and what people think women want (from men): money. So when we at FDS recommend no coffee dates or walk dates because a man investing money in you is good and shows that he thinks you're worthy, etc. - then they apply their own logic onto us. They think we're trying to manipulate men into paying for our dinners. So TRP = men manipulating women for sex and FDS = women manipulating men for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:41 AM
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I never break it off, I hate getting banana on my fingers and getting sticky, but if someone's around, I make sure to take the first bite aggressively lol. I literally open the banana and CHOMP. No slowly moving it towards my parted lips~ Nope, open it and BITE. If a dude is watching, I want him to think of a rabid dog rather than a blow job. Hasn't stopped men from sexualizing me though, they just focus on something else... Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:16 AM
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This. Despite shaming us for opening our legs, they expect us to do it and hate us if we don’t. What’s the male equivalent of that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:32 PM
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Nah, not if they’re not awake to experience it, and not if it was probing of their assholes lol. Men are soOoo scared of their buttholes 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 10:57 AM
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Imagine if it was reversed - that men were fondled or probed without consent. You bet there would be an outrage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:33 AM
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I definitely think there’s importance in being sexually compatible, but I think men create incompatibility. They have such DEMANDS. A laundry list full of kinks and positions and degrading actions and holes they want to do. If you don’t, they complain. If you do but not often enough, they complain. If you do but not enthusiastically enough, they complain. If you do and too enthusiastically or if you want it too often? Ugh, too needy and you’re making him feel insecure in his ability to please yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:28 PM
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My ex asked me to book him laundry times 💀 he was unemployed and spent all days at home. The booking can be done over the Internet. But no, my job 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 09:59 AM
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I did this too. My ex was the opposite of who I made him out to be. He was rude, selfish, only driven by his own wants and needs - but I kept telling myself that he was a good person underneath it all, and that he truly cared about me. Lol. He literally only cares about one person in this entire world: himself. This is why I’m never putting a man on a pedestal again. From now on, I’m not looking to explain away a man’s behaviors. From now on, I’m pessimistic rather than optimistic, and I’ll alwa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 07:07 AM
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I mean, I could get behind starting the week off with sexy men 👀 in fact, it would make Mondays suck a lot less
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:38 AM
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I’ve talked about how I live on a campus before. The other day, a woman got robbed here. At 9 in the evening. My first reaction was to be relieved - she oniy got robbed, thank god. Secondly - 9 o’clock. Women aren’t allowed to go out at 9 anymore? Someone commented later that “duh, she got robbed, it could’ve happened to a man too, this isn’t a women’s issue”. But I disagree. The robber was apparently around 17-18 years old. He probably saw this woman and thought that she was easier to prey on. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:20 AM
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You don’t get it - he has to look MANLY. They’re sitting on a blanket in a park, that’s not very manly is it? How will his friends know what a badass he is? How can he show them he has a penis?? Ah yes. A cigar. Now he’s added something of “worth” to the picnic, now it’s all good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:40 PM
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That he got DUMPED by his fiancé last week at that! And a week after the breakup he was making new emails to write to me that he still had hope for us and would wait for me 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:15 PM
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How a LVM grieves: He downloads tinder the day after you break off the engagement 🤡 I really thought that man was HV once lol. He forgot his email logged onto my computer and one day a week after the breakup I went for gmail - and there it was, stating back at me before I could even realize what I was seeing: a Tinder confirmation email. Now, correct me if I’m wrong ladies, but surely it isn’t high value to attempt to grieve the break off of an engagement inside some other girl’s vagina? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:42 PM
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And no need to apologize, we know men are shit, it’s only the rare cases that are good. 😂 I mean where’s the lie 😂 tusind tak for this exchange sassy Heather 🥰🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:23 PM
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Hey girl! Sorry, I didn't mean to put down Scandinavian men in that sense, I'm sure you're vetting him properly and there are indeed gems in these countries, so if you found one, let him put a ring on your finger if that's your thing! So glad that you're being your best version of yourself, somehow that stuck out to me as the best part of your comment. You low key sound fantastic haha! Lots of support to you and your so far HV Scandi man, "jag håller tummarna" (Swedish version of keeping my fing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:04 PM
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Hello fellow Scandinavian 🎉 it’s so common to wait many years before getting engaged or married, it’s crazy. I know multiple couples who have kids together but aren’t even engaged yet, and then the women say things like “one day he’ll get to it”. YOU HAVE KIDS TOGETHER. That is a bigger commitment than marriage! Girl, you can divorce his ass whenever but you can’t replace the father of your children. God, it’s so infuriating hearing these kinds of women discuss their dream proposals. Girl, by th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:14 PM
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The word pedoscrote is just 👌✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:36 AM
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A q-tip that has been in many ears is -> 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:49 PM
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Nope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:56 PM
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Exactly! Men who want to get married is low key a red flag - he wants his bangmaid locked down and exclusive, and when the marriage is finalized, then he can let himself go because divorce isn’t something to be taken lightly and he can always gaslight her into thinking that she hasn’t tried hard enough 🙄 I’m never marrying which is funny because I got engaged a month before I found FDS lol. Broke that off quickly. I want to be able to leave any man whenever, for whatever reason. He punches a wal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:13 AM
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Bonus points if he was pissing you off on purpose right before saying it 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 07:13 AM
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I feel like we’re brainwashed into thinking marriage is sooo different these days - but it really isn’t. Marriage doesn’t equal romance - many men marry just to be taken care of. Marriage doesn’t equal faithfulness - that never stopped a scrote. It doesn’t even equal financial support like it used to. There’s just this intangible idea of “love” as a reason for marriage that is so much deeper and emotional than anything a scrote could ever feel for you. Men aren’t capable of true partnerships wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:43 AM
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Thank you! Sweetheart ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:19 AM
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I swear the stereotype of women not being visual creatures is there because we don't have much to look at lol Damn 😂 it was self preservation all along!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:08 AM
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Hooooly fuck that makes so much sense! Also damn, if rubbing a clit wasn’t so sexualized (I mean... it’s sex 😂) then imagine meeting up for a girl’s night, wine and movies and just some casual clit rubbing 😂 damn I wish I was born a Bonobo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:07 AM
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I did too! We're so many it seems! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 06:45 PM
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😂😂😂 oh my god I love that you made him the 3rd wheel ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:54 PM
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Beautiful rules 🎉 “Sex stops if I’m not getting anything from it” is a lesson I should’ve learnt many years ago!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:40 PM
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I hope other women who feel the same way you do can feel encouraged by your story and message. I really hope so too! I just realized I haven’t seen much talking about this before here, and if someone else had said this to me before I came to my own realization, it would’ve changed so much for me. And yes, painful or uncomfortable sex is not acceptable, and yet most of us are brainwashed into accepting it 😭 I hope all young girls find this sub and learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:31 PM
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❤️❤️❤️ Yeah fuck that dude. You deserve all the orgasms in the world!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:17 PM
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Hey, thanks for chiming in ❤️ and yes, I think all of these women wanted to help me which is sweet. But honestly, not enjoying PIV makes it so easy to stay away from men 😂 so I feel like they missed my point haha! Oh well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:16 PM
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And you too 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:13 PM
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Hahaha very true 😂😂 thanks ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:39 PM
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I’ve tried that too. Thing is, I struggle with orgasming on top, and if I ride it’s only for his sake. I don’t enjoy being on top, it doesn’t make his penis magically feel good for me, it makes my legs cramp if I’m up there too long, and I have an easier time orgasming from my clit in other positions. So I kinda hate riding 😂 but thank you for the tip ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:36 PM
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Yessss! I feel like in every relationship of mine, I’ve been a performing monkey in order for my partner to be happy. But what about my feelings about penetration? Well, not one of those dudes cared 🙃 so why was I trying to hard for them? Why let them penetrate me if they know I don’t like it and they still want to? And for your last point - Satisfyer pro 2 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:33 PM
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Hey again ❤️ and thank you for reading this post too! I’m glad you liked it 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:32 PM
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Oh my god THIS! Or acting like crazy cat ladies are lacking something in their lives, etc. They are probably happier without your nasty STD penis in their vicinity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:31 PM
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Thank you ❤️ Most penii are not the most pleasant thing to look at, we can stop pretending they are LOL And yes please! They are literally not pleasant at all to look at IMO 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:30 PM
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Very good points!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:27 PM
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They truly have become so undesirable! Thank you for the validation honey ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:27 PM
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They truly don’t know! Thank you for reading ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:26 PM
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Yes queen! Sex, while it’s about pleasing both, should be on your terms. Women are taking the biggest risk in every way and we’re also more likely to come out of it unsatisfied. If he doesn’t want the kind of sex that you want, then he can have sex with someone else, his loss 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:26 PM
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I was gonna quote the best part of your comment and nearly quoted all of it lol so I’ll just say - I 100% agree with all of it. The male gaze and male validation was the only reason I wanted to hook up with men. PIV made me bond with men I didn’t even like. And the kind of sex women would truly benefit from, it barely exists in this world. You put it all so eloquently 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:11 PM
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😂😂😂 Also make a game out of yelling clit louder and louder with my friends until one of us fails!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:44 PM
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God I nearly spit my preworkout out, you’re right, crap haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:33 PM
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You have a very scary point there, I agree, porn has definitely had a hand in it. Not to mention - having access to naked women 24/7 must be shit for men’s ability to regulate cravings and sudden “needs”. I’ve heard countless stories about men watching porn at work for example. So if a man has a sudden impulse to attack or hurt a woman, he also doesn’t have the ability to hold himself back...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:18 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:15 PM
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Oh my god, yes! I feel like I’m supposed to admire dick in a way I don’t admire anything lol. I think I may start admiring my clit that way tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:15 PM
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That’s hilarious 😂😂 Girl, casual sex is suuuch a bad deal, you’ve made a fantastic decision 🙌 And thank you 😂❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:58 PM
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Hey thanks for your comment! It’s so true, you “crave” it beforehand but when it’s actually happening, it’s no where near what you expected!! I swear, dick being nice is the biggest lie there is. Dick is soooo boring! And the farting feeling. Oh my god. I swear, my ex couldn’t understand why I didn’t want to have sex if my stomach was a little upset. DUH because I knew even more pressure would make me fart like a fucking trumpet. Ugh 🤦‍♀️ Also, no dick since 2018 is GOALS. I’m honestly gonna cel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:47 PM
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Reading this has reminded me how terrible sex is 95% of the time, though, and suddenly I'm wondering why we've put up with it so much of the time. This cracked me up tbh haha, I feel you. I'm so done putting up with it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:26 PM
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Very good point! It’s so weird, I feel so validated 😂 You’ll get there. Time and acceptance, that’s the solution. Thank you too ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:15 PM
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Beats me 🤷‍♀️ (Sorry, such a bad pun, I had to)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:13 PM
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😂 Glad it resonated with you, clit gang on the rise 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:12 PM
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My heart hurts for you ❤️ thank you for opening up about this, don’t apologize. I think it sounds very logical that you’re responding to your trauma - how could you be relaxed enough around men to be aroused properly, when there’s so much distrust? It’s nearly impossible. For me, I would say that male behavior definitely impact how sexy I find them (aka most men become unsexy because they are crap), but even if I trusted a man, I doubt I would actually enjoy his penis physically or looks wise. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:12 PM
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Thank you for the tips but there’s nothing wrong with me and I don’t really view it as an issue to be fixed haha! My vagina works very well. As long as I’m aroused, everything is painless and easy. It’s just that I don’t experience any pleasure 🤷‍♀️ and so I’ve come to terms with the fact that penetration doesn’t actually benefit me in any way and in fact, I don’t like it. If at best, it’s neutral, then it’s not good enough 😂 especially not when focusing on my clit instead will give me actual, e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:07 PM
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The first time I touched one I nearly puked Sorry for laughing but that’s hilarious. It’s exactly how I feel these days - don’t bring it close to me, I will vomit uncontrollably 😅 Thank you for sharing. It’s really interesting hearing how many of us experience this, we’re not alone ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:01 PM
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Wow, that’s really interesting! And it really shows how different it can be - you can orgasm from giving men oral sex whereas the idea of giving a man oral sex makes my vagina want to commit sudoku 😅 I don’t have any sexual trauma, but I was having a lot of sex for over a year that I didn’t want to and that made me very sex averse. But my libido has returned and I’m back to myself now, and I also found dicks slightly repulsive before my sex aversion. So it kinda feels like I’m finally admitting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:59 AM
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Giiiirl, you put it so well in the first paragraph! That’s exactly how I feel too! Like nothing is supposed to be inside there, and like your body is mildly uncomfortable from this foreign object lol. And I’m glad penises don’t repulse your. It makes a lot of sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:54 AM
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I love this comment, thank you ❤️ PIV sex is so male centered, it’s ridiculous. I remember being with my ex and any time he penetrated me, I thought “welp, there ends my pleasure 💀” because any fun I had was during foreplay or oral sex. And the penetration could last for 30+ minutes of me just... being used. I swear, my vagina became dick averse after that. And THANK YOU! I was shocked that people kept asking if I’m gay. Like... you’re telling me that all heterosexual women find penises beautifu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:53 AM
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Oh my god, this comment... You’re so damn right. And now I’m mad. Fuck these men, seriously, they’re such scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:46 AM
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Nope, not vaginismus, someone else already asked. There’s nothing wrong with me, I just don’t feel pleasure from my vagina 🤷‍♀️ I can be perfectly wet, relaxed, comfortable and everything, and I still don’t FEEL anything positive. Those times when I was referred to as tight was indeed when I wasn’t aroused enough, but during times when I’ve been aroused it hasn’t been better. I don’t feel pain, it’s like when you put in a tampon, it’s just not nice 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:45 AM
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It's a miracle that women still want to have intercourse with men I'd say. It truly is. I feel like many of us are running out of patience and willingness to put up with it. I know I’m done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:16 AM
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Yesyesyes 🙌 sex with scrotes isn’t really sex! They’re just using our bodies instead of their own hand 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:34 AM
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Oooh that makes a lot of sense! That would also explain why so many newbies struggle with the idea of being single for the rest of their lives. Good point! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:55 AM
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Where’s the lie though 😂 penises are EVERYWHERE 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:54 AM
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THANK YOU! They were the first comments too, I was wondering if I posted this to the wrong subreddit lol. Here I am, stating that I’ve tried a bunch of different things and find penis useless, and I’m being told that something is wrong with me? 😂 I low key feel like I’m blessed. Men literally have nothing to offer me so they have nothing to tempt me with 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:50 AM
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Or I’ll just stay away from guys, I doubt I’ll see many penises then 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:37 AM
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Or when they say stuff like “you want this dick huh?” Eh no actually I don’t, keep it far away from me please 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:37 AM
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I remember someone commenting nearly the same thing when Ellie Goulding released Starry Eyed. Someone had commented on her MV that it was refreshing to see an artist not show skin or something along those lines, talking about how everyone else seems to strip down, bla bla bla. I remember realizing that yeah, most famous artists that are women are rather undressed, whether in photo shoots, music videos, up on stage, or on social media. It’s like making it in the industry as a woman is nearly impo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:35 AM
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Right? 😂 I feel like you captured my entire rant in your comment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:26 AM
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The penis would still look so strange and ugly. It would be the least attractive thing about the guy, easily. Like, I’ve met men with clean penises thank god and two of them definitely had “ideal” penises in that they were huge and frankly, something you’d model a dildo after but... they just look so animalistic and strange and ugly in my eyes? Like I’ve never seen a pretty penis in my entire life. I’ve seen beautiful muscles and faces and bodies overall but a beautiful penis? Never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:25 AM
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I totally agree with you. Sex isn’t love making, it’s porn damaged. I wish the same to you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:14 AM
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😓😓😓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:06 AM
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Ahhh bless you 🙏 thanks, all these comments got me a little worried 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:05 AM
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I feel you ❤️ Date yourself, that way you know the love is there 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:30 AM
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YES! I remember when I started masturbating, that I though penises must be really pleasurable. I was very disappointed 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:29 AM
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Your attitude towards your quirk is really good though! I’m glad it’s working for you, ADHD truly can turn anything, even a hobby or sexual pleasure, into a project. So glad you’ve found your way ❤️ And I agree, I think it’s just how my body works. My vagina isn’t where I get my pleasure from 🤷‍♀️ and since dick is also unattractive to me, I really feel like dating a man who wants lots of PIV sex isn’t for me. Dating an asexual man or gray ace could potentially be a thing, but honestly, I’m not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:28 AM
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I don’t have vaginismus either, no. I’m not in pain when having sex (unless I’m very non-aroused, then of course it can be painful). When I say discomfort I’m not talking about pain. I just feel uncomfortable with dick in me, kinda like when you’ve put a new tampon in before your body gets used to it being there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:09 AM
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two hours of oral sex (my husband enjoys it and doesn't pressure me), lots of foreplay and only then is penetration fun. My god, the mere idea makes me tired 😅 2 hours?! Yup, I’m not fully aroused with men anymore. The only times I’ve been fully aroused have been in the beginning of relationships, when the NRE outweighs the unattractive penis, but even when I’ve been super wet and eaten out and orgasmed, dick still doesn’t give me any pleasure at all. If a man treats you like you're precious and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:52 AM
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Thank you 🙏 Women are fantastic but I’m not sexually attracted to women whatsoever, so I’m definitely not gay and these comments kinda made me feel like people are missing the point. I find men sexually attractive overall but their genitalia is just 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:47 AM
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I don’t find women sexually attractive at all though. God, I wish...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:38 AM
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Yup. I’ve looked into sexuality a lot actually, because I thought maybe I’m not into men then? Or maybe I’m asexual or something? It was very confusing. I’m heterosexual, I have a sex drive and it’s only men that turn me on. I imagine men when I masturbate. But then their dicks and behavior turn me off. It’s so strange, it’s like I’m 50% turned on by men and 50% actively turned off by them. So I’m not going to date a dude ever again, and instead just fantasize about well behaving men with their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:26 AM
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This. It bleeds onto EVERYTHING. Suddenly everything’s jerk off material. Suddenly we’re not people anymore, we’re walking porn to them 💀 and since women in porn are instructed to show interest in men at the slightest thing, like “oh no I can’t pay for my pizza, how else can I pay you? 🥺” they think we want it if we as much as smile to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 06:12 AM
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She’s 19? Damn, that pic makes her look way older, I would’ve never guessed that she’s still a teen! Jesus...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 08:15 PM
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My neighbor hit on me a while back. He’d be knocking on my door in 30 seconds if I asked if he wanted to fuck. Getting laid as a woman is nothing to brag about, it’s soooo easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 11:49 AM
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First date to be honest. He was such a train wreck and a narcissist, and I was such a PickMe. I wish I could rewind time and just laugh at his face when he gave me his number 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 11:43 AM
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I’m out of hope lol. I’ve stopped hoping for a man, what’s he gonna give me? 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:26 AM
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OH MY GOD that’s BRILLIANT! Way better than “I have a boyfriend/I’m pregnant/I have chlamydia” 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:22 AM
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Right! Huge muscles aren’t attractive to me; if I’m having a man then I want a lean guy with some muscles so he isn’t entirely soft/skinny fat, but gym bros actively turn me off. The look and the behavior is just 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:18 AM
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Me and my ex watched a show where there was a build up of tension between two characters. Finally, they started to kiss - I sit there thinking “ahhh finally they admitted it to themselves and each other!” My ex shouted “yeeeeeah look at X, getting that punani”. As if he hadn’t noticed the emotional connection between the characters. Or more likely, as if he didn’t CARE. Asshole. I remember asking if pussy was all he cared about and he told me to take a joke, his favorite saying 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:27 PM
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Told my ex about my former battle with bulimia. Guess who started picking apart my eating habits and food choices? 💀 I remember struggling with balancing sugar (either I ate lots or I ate none) and one day I decided I would go get a piece of pastry and enjoy guilt free as a form of middle ground - one piece, not 5, and then not restricting afterwards either. I told him I was gonna get it on the way to the store and he told me “no you’re not.” I ended up having to rationalize all my food to him. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:14 PM
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She had the right to break up whenever even!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:39 PM
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They don’t care if we don’t get wet. That’s literally it. My ex never got me aroused because sex was still possible if I wasn’t aroused, so why bother? If our sex life had been reliant on me getting aroused, there wouldn’t even have been a sex life. He didn’t care at all about me getting turned on. And it angers me so much in retrospect that I put up with that, because I blamed MYSELF for not getting wet 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:47 AM
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🤢🤢🤢 And as small girls, we’re brain washed to want men and to see them as a amazing. Spoiler alert: they are not. Fuck them for doing those things to you and your family and friends. Jesus Christ. No one deserves ANY of those, even less all of them. This is so infuriating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:09 PM
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Hahaha I was just gonna say, my ex ticked off all the above except for going to the gym 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 08:30 PM
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Holy shit, you just unlocked 2 memories of flashers for me. Once when I was going to school as a child, me and my friend couldn’t figure out what a man was doing in the forest, and she finally said “let’s run, he’s not wearing pants”. I remember I could see him partly from behind a tree and I could see what he was doing with his hand but I couldn’t make sense of it. We were maximum 10 years old. And once when I was a teenager and out walking with a younger family friend, an overweight man came o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:17 PM
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The comments are literally clowning her for that comment. They are laughing at her for thinking anyone cares about her personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:24 PM
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The issue is whether he has actually stopped or not. My ex said he stopped watching porn after I told him about how bad it is, showed him information about it, bla bla... a few days after he bragged about not watching porn anymore and how he felt like a different person and how could other men watch it, I was trying to google something on his phone and it suggested his last search: Shantel Dee deepthroating on pornhub. Lovely 🙄 poor woman looks like she’s fucking suffering and that gave him a ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:59 PM
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Girl, you’re right! It’s like untreated raw fish that someone made crappy gas station sushi out of and is now claiming to be ✨healthy✨ except you’ll have worms before you’re even done digesting it. Except dicks are nastier because SPERM IS NASTY and I hate it with a passion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:48 PM
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My trash bag is HV, unlike men ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:38 PM
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And STD risk. I need high compensation if I’m to accept dick risk tbh 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:37 PM
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I shoulda thrown my trash bag at him but eh, my trash is out of his league ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:22 PM
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You’re right. Men aren’t changing because why would they? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 01:45 PM
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Dick truly is everywhere, even when you don’t wanna see it. I live on campus and people are partying outdoors because apparently the corona virus doesn’t exist outdoors at all so it’s fine to party, right? I opened my door earlier to take out the trash and a party goer was peeing right by the trash room. Like literally, dick out just a stone throw from my flat, peeing into a bush. Dude put that nasty thing away 🤢 or at least throw it away in the trash room where it belongs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 01:08 PM
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Yes! I’d say the majority of us here on the sub have been PickMes or used to have PickMe tendencies, but have changed for the better. This is why I give women the benefit of the doubt: women can change. Men? Not unless they’re fictional characters 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:56 PM
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Also, men lose fat easier than women, they are able to have a lower body fat percentage than us and they build muscle more easily. They literally SHOULD be fitter than us. What’s the excuse? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:06 AM
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I did read your post. I’m not looking to fight, I merely pointed out that your recent dating as described in your post above isn’t FDS. I hear you, you don’t find my comment helpful, you’re doing good without my input, alright. But this entire thread is full of other women raving about your experience and last time I checked, accepting coffee dates and keeping men unblocked so that they can come back for second chances? That’s not FDS. I merely wanted to point out that there’s a lot of overlooke…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:17 PM
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Flawless method 😂 girl, you just reminded me, I met a gorgeous dude a while back and the day after, he followed me on Instagram and liked an old picture of mine. A part of me was like “oh? 👀 so you like looking at me too?” And so I took one glance at who he follows on Instagram and unfollowed him straight away. Soft porn everywhere 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:40 PM
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I am not a greater expert than you, in fact I’m not an expert at all. But your dating in this post isn’t following the handbook or the Female Dating Strategy at all. I’m glad you’re confident and proud though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:37 PM
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I’ve started feeling the opposite after FDS - I feel and look amazing and I love that men aren’t allowed to take part in it at all. Men aren’t allowed to touch me or enjoy or even talk to me unless I want them to. They can find me irresistible all they want and then go home and cry wank about it 🤷‍♀️ I love that I no longer feel obliged to smile at or try to impress or try to look sexy for men. Fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:32 PM
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After 8 months he is not ready to commit the emotional and physical connection I need with consistency and exclusivity, so we split. 8 months without exclusivity? Why entertain a LVM that long? He asks for FaceTime and Zoom and phone calls and will clearly be multitasking his attention with others. Others, as in other women? That’s a no from me. Karl pushed too hard for physical connection too fast, then doesn’t attempt emotional connection for days at a time. Another no. A HVM would never push.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:19 PM
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This! Keep on reminding yourself how men truly are. You’re romanticizing men and putting them on a pedestal. You’re painting a picture of men that is way, way too flattering. Even if they were in love with you, they sure as fuck wouldn’t end up being Prince Charming after finally admitting it. They’d probably fuck you once, then say they have post nut clarity and that they were never in love. Or they’d be cheap and stingy and ask if he really has to buy you dinner, won’t coffee work? Or he comes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:40 AM
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Hey, thanks for clarifying! I’m glad you’re still vetting, we’re all just highly critical because we care about you (even though we don’t know you haha) and because you deserve a man who takes your feelings seriously ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:33 AM
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Girl, he’s not HV with issues, he’s LV. A HVM wouldn’t need to be convinced - he would be interested in hearing about your perspective rather than denying it. Vet him harder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:07 PM
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You put that beautifully!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:04 PM
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I love you lol, this is brilliant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:03 PM
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So, so sick. And the way they don’t check up on her, the way they all just discarded her for hours afterwards... monsters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:52 PM
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She just wants to go home, and they’re abusing her. That poor woman, I can barely watch the clip, that is so inhumane. Imagine not being able to properly understand what’s going on, not being able to explain or ask or communicate, all while being abused and hurt... I can’t imagine what that must’ve been like, how scared she must’ve been, her pain... They treat her as if they’ve made their mind up that she’s a bad person with bad motives. I don’t care if she stole and seemed aloof and disregarded…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:44 PM
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Exactly!! Fuck them for pressuring us, they are assholes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:04 AM
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They really should - and include lots of examples to wake us up. I feel like men in their entirety have been glamorized and romanticized to a dangerous degree. We need to shatter the illusion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:08 PM
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Jeeeeesus Christ, that is so fucking disturbing. I’m so sorry ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 02:29 PM
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Jesus Christ, I kinda wanna beat up your ex, he sounds like a massive fucking tool 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 02:14 PM
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I’m impressed honestly. How do you fuck up such a straight forward request?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 01:16 PM
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You know it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 01:12 PM
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This is so profound. You’re right, sometimes we need to experience it in order to properly learn. No man will be able to coerce me into sex ever again. Thank you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 09:53 AM
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Girl you’re real good at this, I’m howling 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 09:05 AM
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Oops, Wrong Hole Again! 😂😂😂 those mfs think they are so smooth with this one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 09:01 AM
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Fuck foreplay ft. Just Use Lube Sexy when she cries I did the dishes (Where’s my blowjob) Don’t need no body wash Therapy (Ain’t got no time for that)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:40 AM
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It is, it’s so painful. Sometimes I still hold on to the fairytale, read about fictional men and fantasize and pretend, but then I quickly pull back and remind myself. All these fictional men with emotional intelligence and altruistic motives? They’re written by women. They don’t exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:29 AM
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Thank you love ❤️ You speak the truth. Even if there’s no reason, even if it’s just a gut feeling that says “no, don’t do it” - that’s good enough. I feel like my body knew he wasn’t a good person and rejected him long before my brain caught up. And yes! How on earth can they even be aroused by an unwilling partner? It’s so crazy and sick to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:27 AM
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YES!!! Right? They are literally saying “my wife says no to sex with me in all kinds of different ways but I WANT SEX SO WHY WON’T THE HAG GIVE IT TO ME”. Like dude, you don’t have to stay with her. Leave. Even if she loves you, even if you think you love her (spoiler: you don’t, you rapey mf). Leave and see if you can find sex elsewhere - most likely, you won’t because again, you’re rapey and disgusting. But don’t stay and try to force her to have sex with you! It’s not excuses, it’s a NO and y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:27 AM
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Modern media has also ensured that women give men the benefit of the doubt. “He cheated BUT he had good intentions/was thinking of me the entire time/it was reasonable because x”, whereas men in reality don’t have good intentions. They don’t lie, cheat, manipulate, hurt and use us from a place of “I love her though, deeply and truly, and I’m working on changing myself after all these mistakes to be the best for her”. They treat us like shit because they can get away with it, and if they can’t, t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:23 AM
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But then they know how to bullshit the next girl. Next time he’ll write something like “I don’t mean to disrespect your time, but are you free to hang out already tonight?” They are not clueless, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:01 AM
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Prrrrreach girl! 🙌 this is exactly it, I should’ve tossed him out the very first time he pushed me. And thank you, I’m also so glad I ditched him ❤️ But that’s also the thing - I knew all of this, that I shouldn’t have to have an excuse, that no should be enough. I was just too PickMe to say “no, I don’t want your dick” or “no I don’t want to have sex with you”, because he took those things so personally that I tried to skirt around saying “no I don’t want you” - hence all the excuses. In order …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:03 AM
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Oh my god, that is so uncomfortable! I can’t believe he tried to make you have sex with the door literally open 🤢 these men are SICK! So glad he’s your ex!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:59 AM
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Exactly!! Gos, he’s still wondering why I broke up with him. During our relationship, I was so scared of hurting his feelings that I tried to put it gently and never outright say that I didn’t want to have sex with him, I tried to skirt around it. Now I wish I had just once told him that dude, I literally don’t want to have sex with you. Ever again. I blocked him instead though, which was more satisfying 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:57 AM
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And penises are so ugly! I’m sorry but whether soft or hard, they are nasty to look at 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:51 PM
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I mean, thank god we don’t have that much testosterone 💀 I’d rather be small than an aggressive freak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:48 PM
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Exactly! Can you imagine these poor women? A sugar daddy knows the sugar baby will leave if his money runs out. These women probably loved him and bought him gifts to make him appreciate them more, see them, love them back. They were well meaning PickMes and he used them ruthlessly. I hate that society raises women into believing in true love. Most men don’t believe in romance or true love, not really. Instead they use our desperation for love and romance against us. Society plants a seed of vul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:44 PM
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My ex proposed to me after a year, while in his early 20s. I remember thinking that was a good thing, that he knew already that he wanted to settle down with me and was willing to bet wholeheartedly on me. Lol nope. He realized that through me, he had a steady supply of sex, financial safety, confirmation and attention, compliments, etc. He was lazy. It’s like he walked into a clothing shop, needing a top, and grabbed the first t-shirt he could find and said “Perfect!” He didn’t want the hassle …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:37 PM
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They probably refer to women getting expensive gifts from sugar daddies, but fail to realize that this dude was actively deceiving women left and right. It’s nowhere near the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:25 PM
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Good thing he’s blocked now! He doesn’t deserve your attention 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:28 PM
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Girl, never reply 💀 block and delete, now he’s thriving on the fact that you got upset!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:55 PM
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You can do it, I believe in you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:59 AM
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Skål för orgasmer 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:58 AM
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Lol. I’m gonna rub out 5 in a row tonight in his honor ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 11:59 AM
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Me too 🙏 thank you for the validation haha 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:52 PM
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Right? I remember being outraged, how did all the cute things we did all day not count as intimacy? I thought we had a beautiful time together but apparently he was just waiting to get his dick wet the entire time 🙄 I remember feeling so small, reduced to nothing else than a vagina. Never letting a man do that to me again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:04 PM
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My ex complained once, when we had less sex, that we were never intimate. I told him we were intimate all the time - cuddling, sharing secrets and talking about sensitive topics, kissing, taking long walks together just to enjoy each other’s company... apparently that doesn’t count as intimacy 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 09:55 AM
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Thank you! And good thing you did 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:34 AM
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Exactly!! Haha sorry, now that I read it again, I feel like I just repeated what you wrote. But it’s so absurd that he took our concept of HVM and just... ignored our definition of what a HVM is 😂 a HVM isn’t just a successful man, it’s a very specific kind of man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:02 PM
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And I love that some of these posts are literally “okay so I have done a lot wrong, maybe even everything wrong, I literally have had multiple different addictions and she thinks I look like a crazed lunatic when I get angry with her and I let her take care of all the housework, but I’m still the victim and isn’t she such a witch for divorcing me? Guys? Surely you agree?” Like, what? Like the dead bedroom place, where dudes constantly write “she doesn’t want to have sex with me :( I try to have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:00 PM
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In short, he dates/preys on much younger women, he made catcalling all about himself, he thinks that after MeToo men can no longer talk to women without being called rapists, he’s very vulgar because he’s probably porn damaged... He’s just a very good looking LVM to be honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:01 PM
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He’s thinking about what he considers a high value man - completely forgetting about women existing lol. And the entire “attractive & successful = HVM” is so stupid, how could they ever come to that conclusion from our subreddit? We have literally agreed that Henry Cavill and multiple other celebrities are LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 10:33 AM
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Nice job! Quick question though, what's an OOP? I tried googling but I keep on getting computer programming stuff, I doubt that's what you went to court for lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 01:02 PM
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🤢🤢🤢 That is so disturbing, holy shit. You bet he was hoping for feet pics 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 09:22 AM
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The funny thing is: who are they then? Who is this “who they really are” that we’re supposed to fall in love with? If they relax and don’t try to impress us through money and dates, then they’re just themselves: lazy, unhygienic, non ambitious gamers who still live at home. What is there to fall in love with?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:46 AM
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Oh my god, they must sexualize the crap out of your tallness right? The same way they sexualize my shortness. Ugh they’re so sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:40 AM
180

I’m the short woman always asking tall women for help haha, I love how they light up when I ask for help ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:45 AM
17

My ex also has so many nudes of mine. At first it bothered me, but now it doesn’t - if they get out, then he’s the bad person, not me. And if he keeps them, then he’s the one who will keep photos and remind himself of the good times and who will struggle with moving on and forgetting, whereas I easily deleted all pictures and have moved on quickly and with ease. I’ve also learnt to never send nudes again, which has been the best lesson of my life. I’m never sending (or taking for that matter) a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:42 AM
10

Girl, we had the same experience. So glad we’re both free from that now ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 06:40 PM
7

It’s indeed a scam, And CONGRATS ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:12 PM
51

I love that they’re trying to paint us as unattractive by including a picture of a woman pinching a fat roll. First of all, as if the rest of Reddit isn’t fat? But a larger FDS woman will present herself well anyway and look gorgeous while larger. She will still take care of herself and be hygienic and beautiful. Your average fat male redditor will wear the same t-shirt, basketball shorts and cum stained socks for 3 days in a row before considering a shower 🙄 Secondly, I was of a normal weight B…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:31 PM
29

Likewise! It doesn’t help that I met “party boys” (not knowing they were party boys) in school, had them flirt with me outside of a club so outside of the typical hookup atmosphere, and then later went home with them after a night of clubbing - because I thought they were genuinely interested. Except they weren’t, they just knew that I was more likely to sleep with them if they portrayed themselves as interested in a relationship, rather than a hookup. Each time I felt tricked. I fell for it jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:10 PM
149

I live on a university campus where most people are pretty young, and all my friends are around 20-25 and eager to date. Before the pandemic, how did they find dates? By going clubbing. They’d meet a guy while partying, make out with him, possibly go home with him, and then sit on needles for days afterwards, asking me if I think he likes them, why hasn’t he called yet, surely he felt the connection too, surely they will go home together next weekend too and then she can ask if he wants to go fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:50 AM
81

Men: “My only dealbreaker is teeth brushing. As in, I won’t do it.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:50 AM
3

Another example: the clip currently trending on here, where a woman’s brother tells her ex that shows up to harass her that “now is not a good time”, whereas the woman herself steps up and curses him out and threatens to call the police in order for him to leave. Men are absolute shit at protecting us, and more often than not, it’s men we need to be protected from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:07 AM
6

A lifetime of none of my favourite things. Brilliant. You captured my future if I had gone through with the engagement with my ex in a single sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:06 AM
10

Holy shit. My ex always hinted that he wasn’t sure if he was straight or bi. He once told me he let a gay friend fawn over him for months before we met. He literally just wanted attention and confirmation. And I used to think maybe he wasn’t a narcissist. Nope, full blown narcissist alright.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:48 AM
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Men’s dating is about finding anyone, whereas women’s dating is about finding someone worthy. They keep on harping on about how dating is easier for women so why would we need dating advice on how to find men? We don’t need help finding men, they’re everywhere. Of course we don’t - we need advice on how to be selective. And unless they are the 1%, men have never needed to weed out women throwing themselves at them, so they are showing their inability to put themselves in our shoes and understand…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:19 AM
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That’s the thing: these LVM don’t view buying someone food as basic decency. They are so cheap! I would buy a friend or family member food with ease, happily, just because I can. In fact I’d be happy to treat them. But these men hate buying things for others since they are so self absorbed. It’s pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:43 AM
13

Oh my god, yes! My ex wanted to talk about his computer game (never dating a gamer again 🙄) for hours despite me barely understanding a thing, because he wouldn’t even explain the context for me properly. But I remember I once tried explaining what my book was about and he straight up didn’t want to hear it because “I haven’t read the book so I won’t understand anyway”. Dude, if I can sit there and try to understand your hobby, how about you at least pretend to care about mine? 🙄 but no. Even pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:31 AM
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This divide is the reason I haven’t tried to get back into dating. I refuse to have the kind of sex that men like. I want slow, sensual, loving, soft and pleasurable sex and men want to pull my hair, slap my ass, choke me, put fingers in my mouth or ass, jackhammer me... like no, stop. It’s not nice. It’s not sexy. Sex with men turns me off. They are so selfish and brutish in bed that it makes me cringe. Just once I’d like to meet a man who genuinely wants to have only vanilla sex with me and so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:44 AM
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The only issue is I would never trust a guy to 1: actually use birth control pills rather than saying that he does in order to not have to wear a condom and 2: be organized enough to take his pills correctly. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:56 AM
23

This is so true. My ex (who coerced me into a lot of sex) insisted he never coerced me at all, that it was all in my head. Towards the end we decided to take a sex break and that he wouldn’t initiate anything at all, no matter how long it might take. Personally, I was already done with the relationship and counting down the days until he would leave but it was fantastic to not have to have sex with him at the end. He was very manipulative so I believed I couldn’t “throw him out”, and I’m so happ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:58 AM
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It’s pretty much a modern slur or hate word for women. It’s the opposite of a compliment 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 07:49 PM
54

Ugh exactly! My ex was openly misogynistic when I was begging for his attention, but when I started pulling back and reconsidering the relationship, all of a sudden he wanted to discuss feminist issues and sexism and how he could be a part of the solution. He called girls thots if they wore crop tops for over a year, but suddenly “woke up” to the fact that women are treated like crap when I started questioning us. It was never real. He’s probably calling me a thot now and explaining to his next …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 07:14 AM
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”...til death do us apart 💕” Except both of you still have at least 3 decades worth of working left before you’re even retired lol. Maybe men view “til death do us apart” as “til you grow your first grey hair and your soul dies when I complain about that one hair because porn stars don’t have grey hair so now I won’t be able to get hard and disappoint you in bed anymore”. Sounds a bit more accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:20 AM
4

I too felt better quick, for me it took a week. Now I can barely make myself feel empathy for him or miss him if I try, because I’m so relieved that he’s gone. Dude’s still making new emails in order to reach me and he still thinks he can manipulate me into replying... Nope. I don’t even read what he sends, I just block and delete over and over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:49 PM
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I was told I had yellow teeth, that my breasts were saggy and deflated (duh, I’ve lost weight, of course they are), jokes about my height... Jokes on him. I’m gorgeous with these flaws. Him on the other hand? Not so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:08 AM
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Haha personally I do find it to be a lot of work. I’m very low libido and I hate unexpected sex to “relax”, I never understood how people could use sex to unwind. It’s work! And thank you! ❤️ just make sure to ask yourself if you’re satisfied too, not just your partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 07:55 PM
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As someone with a low libido, trust me, it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 05:01 PM
7

Yes definitely. I kept my ex’s sister and mom unblocked and ended up engaging with the sister and regretted it so much - now she’s demanding closure instead of him, except she doesn’t know what an asshole he was so she’s putting all the blame on me and finds me atrocious for blocking her brother. No. Just block them all. Friends too in my case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:10 AM
61

If I want a thumb in me I’ll do it myself. Oh my god I need this on a welcome carpet in my apartment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:56 AM
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Hi! Don’t apologize, and it’s not stupid :) I hope this gives you an idea of how it can be, but it’s different for everyone! Personally, I prefer 2-5 minutes per position maybe and around 2-4 positions - longer if we both enjoy it, shorter if we don’t or if one gets tired. I want to orgasm once before penetration and then once or twice during, and I need a few minutes in between orgasms so maybe an orgasm per 5 minutes. I also prefer slower and calmer sex, so I’d take 20 minutes of slow and sens…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:33 AM
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Ugh, I hate when men last long. PIV sex does nothing for me, so having a dude pounding away for 30+ minutes for his own pleasure while I get drier and drier and while he applies more and more lube in order to keep going for HIMSELF all while insisting that I moan so that he can enjoy himself... I am never doing that again, not for anyone. Sorry, I got carried away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:52 AM
102

Wait what? He doesn’t get to cum in her without a condom anyway, so why not just use a condom?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:40 AM
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Oh this one! Or a version of it that my ex used: “don’t remind me of that, I hate that I did that, I feel so bad when you remind me, I’m not that kind of person, it hurts so much when you bring it up and remind me and I can’t change what I did so you’re just hurting me for no reason, boohoo 🥺🥺🥺” He could turn himself into the victim at any time. He literally cried when I got upset after he recorded me without my consent. He cried when I caught him lying about his ex, lying about his age, lying a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 06:10 AM
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Girl, same! My ex is literally whining right now to anyone of my acquaintances that hasn’t blocked him yet about “what did I do wrong?” - but if he was still living in this country, then he would be standing outside my door right now demanding answers like a creepy stalker. The disconnect is REAL, if he was here then I would literally be afraid of going anywhere alone, but he views himself as a good person? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 06:03 AM
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Yes! Any good deed is proof that they’re good people, and any bad deed is an exception. And then the reverse applies to us women 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:22 PM
4

I did this a bunch during my breakup. Wrote huge mails that I then just trashed because he’s not worth the satisfaction. It helped putting things into words and describing how I felt, and then it felt so good to deny him access to me ever again ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:21 PM
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Oh my god, this made it click for me. Men like this view themselves as static and unchanging.They once formed the idea of themselves as a good person and no matter what they do after that point in time, they still see themselves as good. Their shitty actions are excused as exceptions. That’s why my ex was such an ass and somehow still believed he was a good person. He was probably thinking “I did record her without consent and I did lie to her and I did put her down and I never did chores, but u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:18 PM
4

My ex had such a high libido compared to me and being a PickMe back then, I used to go along and let him have sex with me just to get him to calm down. I remember always turning my face away so he wouldn’t see my distaste and boredom while waiting for him to be done. The last times we had sex, I remember thinking “I hate this, I just want to stop, I don’t want to do this, please just finish, get off of me, leave me alone” - yet I was brainwashed into thinking I had to do it in order to KeEp mY m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 07:11 AM
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Ex who treated me the worst: negged the shit out of me. Told me my teeth became yellow from drinking coffee, despite having yellow and crooked teeth himself. Anytime I had a pimple he blamed my eating choices, even though I stayed on hormonal birth control for his sake and even though he had the worst skin I’ve seen. Always joked about my height despite lying about his own. Harped about my eating and work out habits, despite me losing 22 lbs and him gaining 24 lbs during our relationship. Told m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 07:04 AM
43

There’s an attractive man that works at my local grocery store. Every woman I meet has her own nickname for him. We literally are all fawning over the one attractive dude this city offers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 06:48 AM
6

At most, I’d orgasm once per occasion when having sex with my ex. Often I’d have to rub one out myself, and then he’d get in the way of me rubbing out another so I learned to settle for one - if I was lucky. He also wanted to have sex all the time so I had way more and way worse sex than I ever wanted and then, naturally, I developed a sex aversion. Towards the end I was refusing sex entirely because it felt like my libido had just quit on me. Today I masturbated for the first time since breakin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:49 PM
11

Very true, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:22 PM
28

Honestly, I don’t grieve not being able to have male friends anymore. I don’t feel bummed at all. I have such fantastic girl friends and keep on meeting fantastic women everywhere, to the point where no man would be able to measure up. They wouldn’t be able to support me or make me laugh and I wouldn’t do that for them either. With girls, it’s so easy because the cards are on the table - no, I don’t want to befriend them to have sex with them, I want to befriend them because they seem awesome. E…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:55 PM
9

It’s the scrotes that are eavesdropping 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:31 PM
13

Beautiful 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:47 PM
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Exactly!! And even if it may be pleasurable to please your partner, it’s still not pleasure in the regular sense. It’s PickMe behavior to pretend sucking dick is soOoOo pleasurable. Like when some women are called “cum sluts” and beg for their sperm - no, I’m 100% sure that none of them enjoy the taste. None of them do. Ask any self proclaimed cum slut if they would put some sperm on their toast or in their tea, and they would all cringe at the thought. Sperm is not tasty, blow jobs are not plea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:45 PM
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Can we please acknowledge that giving blow jobs isnt inherently pleasurable to women? Back in my PickMe days I always said I liked giving blow jobs and that they gave me pleasure because they gave my guy pleasure 🤡 no. They hurt. They hurt my jaw, my lips, my tongue, my throat, if I use my hands too then my hands hurt too. Sucking dick is WORK and it sucks. I get no satisfaction what so ever from giving blow jobs. It’s an entirely selfless act from my side if I give one. I have barely anything t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 10:35 AM
25

When I dumped my ex, he asked if I was joking, then if I had met someone else, and finally if I was breaking up because of my period. 🙄 he just couldn’t take it that I was breaking up because of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:04 AM
3

Thank you! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:12 AM
8

Right? It was like we all purged him from our lives together. It felt oddly therapeutic watching my dad search for the block button lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:55 PM
24

Yes! My family is large and yet every single person in my family took me seriously and blocked his number and his ass on Facebook and Instagram the second I mentioned how he treated me and that I was scared he would reach out. Even a friend of mine today told me she saw that I removed all our pictures and our engagement from Facebook and she instantly unfriended and unfollowed him because she wanted to show solidarity. How on earth did I end up with such wonderful people in my life? They are suc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:19 PM
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That’s definitely not my point, and I’m sorry I didn’t clarify. I simply experienced that my friends were treated as less vulgar because they had smaller breasts than me, and I noted that my breasts that were out of my control ended up impacting how people saw and treated me. Big or small, all breasts are wonderful and I believe everyone should love theirs 💕 thank you for filling in where I was lacking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:11 PM
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Damn, I was one of those girls. My teacher (woman) told me to not wear tank tops anymore because it was impacting the boys. My small boobed friends wore tank tops that showed more of their boobs than me, but mine were somehow more offensive and vulgar so they told me to cover up. I remember wondering what’s so wrong with my breasts? What was wrong with having big ones? Up until then I’d always heard that women are supposed to have big ones, and yet there I was, being told to cover them up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:03 PM
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Didn’t tell anyone of his friends or family, but told all of mine and now that I broke things off, all of my family collectively blocked and deleted him too 🥰 we FDS-ed him as a team, and he’s been trying to reach out to many of my family members in other ways but they just reply no when he asks to talk to them and then block him. My family is the absolute bomb 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:52 PM
20

And it was such an afterthought for him: “damn, need to get her a gift, all stores are closed today except for the grocery store, which aisle contains stuff that girls like? Bingo, hair care. Just have her pick something, perfect, then that’s done.” Little did he know that gift giving is my love language and that the effort behind the gift is what makes me feel loved 🙃 he literally would’ve made me feel more loved if he simply didn’t get me anything, now he made me feel like a nuisance. Fuck him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:48 PM
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Lol my ex asked what I wanted for Christmas gift in a grocery store, in the hair care aisle, the day before Christmas. I pointed at a hair conditioner finally, he paid for it, then on the way home he asked if he had to wrap it since I already knew what it was. Romance 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:39 PM
8

So true! They will lie in order to get into your pants one last time or to get more attention or to just paint themselves as the victim. There is no closure in talking further with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:43 AM
13

Literally broke up with my ex-fiancé this Saturday because he’s a narcissist without empathy. It took me so long to understand, I kept thinking he was loving and soft on the inside, that he had pure intentions, that he did have empathy. Nope. There’s none in there. Any “empathy” of his was fake and not genuine in the least. And I used to think he loved me, yeah fucking right, that man isn’t capable of experiencing love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:36 AM
24

Some men complain about only having sex once a week/every two weeks/once a month. Some complain about having no cuddles or kisses. For me and my ex, we were so intimate and yet it wasn’t enough. For others in a dead bedroom, there’s no intimacy at all. All I’ve learnt is that blue balls don’t exist, and a man pushing for sex is selfish and rapey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:11 PM
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YES! My ex complained we were never intimate. We were always intimate - we just weren’t fucking daily. He didn’t view us cuddling, kissing, hugging, speaking about intimate topics, sharing secrets and stories as intimate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:30 PM
10

Dumped my fiancé yesterday. My anger issues, my overreacting, my low libido... They disappeared with him. Bye bye!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:32 AM
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Wait what? I meant if you’re the one talking to him, not the friend. And of course the guy isn’t important - in what way did I suggest the dude is important what so ever? And yes, I do agree entirely. But in the moment, tricking a dude to stay in a spot so that you can leave safely is worth it. I’ve had men try to follow me when I try to use excuses to get away in a club. Literally telling him to stay in a spot and making him feel like that’s the key to getting into my pants has before been a st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:07 PM
5

Yup! Arguing/talking back gives them attention and knowledge about what to say to the next woman. Blocking is far superior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:41 PM
22

Holy shit, that Ariana picture... As another woman who tends to look younger than my own age, I try to look more mature. I’m 27 and if I’m not wearing makeup, I get asked if I want a child’s ticket if I grab the bus. So what do I do? I wear blouses and dress shirts, strong eyeliner and red lips, I wear my hair sleek and styled rather than playful - mostly so that people, both (LV) men and women, will see me in a more accurate way and take me seriously. If I styled myself the way she does, I’d pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:16 AM
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Definitely time to block him sis 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:58 AM
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You know he was thinking it’ll make him sound poetic and artistic. “See, I know a form of poetry by heart, I’m literally a poet!” Yeah, and the mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell so I’m now a marine biologist 🤓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:57 AM
15

Men LOVE drama, but they don’t use that word. They just gossip away and say they were “talking”. I remember when I was telling petty stories in school, I was told I was gossiping so I stopped - then the boys asked me why I stopped talking to them, why I’m not telling them things anymore, all while still talking petty shit themselves without being told they were gossiping. Men love drama and they love to gossip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:54 AM
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Block him directly next time instead. He probably loved getting your attention anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:49 AM
15

And they’re painting it as a goal. When famous celebrities - who can date roughly whoever they want - go for girls 30 years younger, then their young fans look up to them for it. They too imagine themselves almost 60 but with a young woman by their side. It’s ridiculous. If you can date whoever you want - why on earth would you go for someone who you can’t relate to? Someone who will inevitable be immature in comparison to yourself? Someone who you won’t enjoy conversations with, but who you can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:46 AM
19

Oh my god you’re right. I used to think Gerard Butler equaled a good movie, but damn it was a long time since that held true IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:40 AM
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Not sure if this is a good idea (since it may give him the idea that yes, she did like me, I wasn’t imagining things, she wanted to find me again, she even said so but I usually added something like “stay right here so I’ll be able to find you again” or “don’t go anywhere and don’t forget the topic, we weren’t done yet” and maybe add a little wink. Giving the dude hope and making sure he stays perfectly where we left him, waiting for me to return. Then he wouldn’t see us grab our coats and leave…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:36 AM
5

She reminds me of Scarlett Johansson, especially this meme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 02:52 PM
19

Oh my god, you’re so right. From now on, men will have to earn my respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 07:57 PM
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Flush him down the toilet, he sounds like a turd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:16 PM
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Soooo true! I also watch these quite a lot, but mostly to be shocked by how insane some people are and to open my eyes to the evil that exists in the world. Funny thing: I once, back in my PickMe days, wondered why there were so few female serial killers and so many male ones... 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:14 PM
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And even if the porn is just two people having sex, nothing obviously violent about it - can you even then know for sure that both are consenting? That the video wasn’t uploaded behind her back? That she’s of age, that she’s not trafficked, that she wasn’t forced to do it without a condom, that she wasn’t in pain? You never know. Porn uses and abuses women in smaller and larger ways, and neither are okay. If I masturbated to someone who was in pain or trafficked or pressured into a certain act -…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:12 PM
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I’d love to see advertisements doing the same to men to highlight how ridiculous it is. Make back and chest hair seem like an unnatural, disgusting thing and if they don’t wax/shave often enough, they’ll be called disgusting and unhygienic and told they’re letting themselves go. Or insisting that even a trimmed beard is still gross and needs to be shaved. You bet men would hate having ingrown hairs, stubble and razor burn all over their backs and chest. They’d hate not being seen as attractive i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 09:46 AM
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Everyone in this thread is on fire 🔥 these comments are cracking me up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 09:39 AM
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Dingdingding, that’s how they caught Ted Bundy, dental records. These nasty shits online probably look up to him 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:29 AM
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”Sink your teeth into it” 🤢 A figure of speech I hope, but still - what a disgusting use of words. If a man ever describes being intimate as brutal, violent or hurtful, they’re damaged beyond repair. They have no idea how to make love. That saying also reminds me: I watched a tv show and took a liking to one of the actors. I went to his Instagram to see what kind of person he is - and on his insta, there’s a sketch of a woman’s body where a piece of her butt is taken out of her in the form of a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:54 AM
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This just in: men don’t value romance, romantic relationships or women. Getting their peepee wet is however of utmost importance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:20 PM
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When I was dating, I used the love languages bullshit to my benefit. I told him gift giving and acts of service were my LL because I didn’t want him touching me even more (porn sick, horny 24/7), because his compliments always sounded a bit calculated and disingenuous, and because we were already spending so much time together - and all of a sudden, this scrote started coming home with flowers (second time ever in over a year long relationship), and randomly helping me with things. A definite im…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:50 AM
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This was the first thing I thought of, I was surprised to see so many positive comments. Polanski was 43 and raped a 13 year old. I don’t care if he cured cancer, he’s not worthy of applause.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:14 AM
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Exactly - a man who has toys already, has also used them already. Unless he’s a virgin and bought toys to fantasize about, he bought them to use with someone else. Think about it. If you introduce sex toys to a relationship, you talk with your partner first before buying one. If a man has toys when you meet him - that means he had the toy talk with another woman before meeting you. And how will you know if it was used before? You might never know. It’s a huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:05 PM
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That might be why so many men leave when their partners get sick and can’t/don’t want to have sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:58 PM
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Ah yes, that’s how boundaries work 🙄 please tell me you smacked him in the face with a dictionary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:51 PM
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An ex of mine used sex toys on me that he bought for (and most likely used on) his ex. When I found out that he bought them back when he was with her (obviously intending on using them with her), I exploded on him. He had the guts to pretend it wasn’t that big of a deal and like he couldn’t understand why someone would be upset by that. But he knew. He must’ve known all along. He just didn’t care because he thought he could get away with it. Men like him don’t care about respect - they see the r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:47 PM
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Thank you love 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:53 PM
1

I’d like permission to be a specialist please :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 11:45 AM
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Who doesn’t know how to write a grocery list? There’s no wrong way to do it - grab a piece of paper or an app on your phone, write down what might be needed like milk and toilet paper ffs. How helpless can a man be? Aren’t they supposed to be the logical gender? Writing a grocery list is too difficult?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:28 AM
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A baddie is from now on someone so focused on herself that she won’t entertain low value, no matter how loud it is ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:50 PM
2

Thank you for doing the research!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:59 PM
18

He’s talking about male babies getting killed as if it’s the end of the world and an unthinkable reality. But the reverse happened not long ago in China, when girls were mass-aborted and somehow, I have a feeling that this guy didn’t care 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:38 PM
8

Edgar says having his name removed and erased is emasculating. No honey, it’s dehumanizing and shitty because your prior identity gets wiped. It sucks. It’s not emasculating - it’s shitty whether you’re a man or a woman. It’s “emasculating” (read: painful) for women too. Way to put a gender on something hurtful - only men are allowed to be hurt by this, hurrdurr. They all reason like children, like they are special and better so they shouldn’t have to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:29 PM
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Being okay with the idea of being single for life is pure freedom. I know I’ll always have family through my brother and my cousins. I know I’ll always be able to make friends. I know I’ll never be alone, which is not the same as being single. I genuinely don’t need a man. And when I stop romanticizing them and consider the truth - that finding a HVM is like winning the lottery and that men I meet are most likely LVM who I’ll end up baby sitting instead of dating - then I don’t want a man either…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:34 AM
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The mere fact that women who do have sex and embrace it become sluts in the eyes of men - that proves that sex is negative for women right now. Engaging in casual sex hurts us. It makes men, half the population, respect us less. Dressing sexy, behaving sexy, anything a woman does that implies she’s willing to have sex makes her a whore in their eyes. Women are trading a moment of pleasure (and most often, not even that) for permanent disrespect, harm to their reputation and future prospects, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:27 AM
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Aha, craving dick is actually craving intimacy and wishing he’d make love with me? That makes so much sense. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 04:22 PM
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Oh my god, I’ve had the same experience. Dick literally doesn’t feel good for me. At best, it’s neutral and I just have an odd feeling of having it inside me - but at worst it’s hurting and stinging and painful. And my orgasms are worse with men because they don’t take the time to make me come multiple times, and if I do it myself with them then they feel emasculated. So masturbating is a 10/10 experience, sex closer to a 2/10. Guys only focus on PIV and that gives me 0 pleasure. Dicks are absol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:58 PM
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I’ve literally been told that once, the “it’s just fucking”. Men don’t experience sex as an emotional thing. They don’t bond or grow affectionate or loving from it. Women literally risk so much having sex with men, but they don’t view it as anything more than pleasure for their peepee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:33 PM
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You wanna know which sex stigma I wish could be broken down? The stigma against vanilla sex. The stigma against romantic sex. The stigma against being boring for liking the missionary when you can have eye contact and kiss. The stigma against not wanting to be pounded from behind like a dog or not wanting to be slammed against a wall or be treated like an object. Vanilla sex can be wonderful, but I have barely experienced it because men don’t want it. To them it’s boring - and surprise surprise,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 08:08 PM
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Jeeeesus! I’m so sorry you went through that :( what an asshole!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 06:37 AM
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Thank you for the validation lol, it screwed so much with my head that I at times believed that yes, I was sleeping in too long. If it’s a Saturday and I have no plans, sleeping until 9 is not too long! I can’t believe he was such an ass about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:39 PM
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Thank youuu 💕💕 and yes, it’s truly freedom! I wish you all the best!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:26 PM
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Exactly 👏 that was me! And I finally found a way to let it go - by refusing to feel guilty about food, refusing to label food as good or bad, eating anything I craved... and of course a LVM tried to “help” me by sabotaging me, despite me repeatedly explaining to him that his help was unwanted and unhelpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:03 PM
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Third here. Somehow sleeping beyond his idea of acceptable meant I was being lazy and that he was entitled to be noisy and wake me up. He even pretended he did it for my own good. Never mind that I was a full time student under a lot of stress, often unable to fall asleep at night, and he was unemployed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:50 PM
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This! I eat intuitively - so some days I crave sweets more and therefore eat more sweets. A guy would constantly tell me that I was being unhealthy, that I was eating bad food, that I would get diabetes... He knew I was recovering from an eating disorder. He was actively hurting me with those comments but felt entitled to say them anyway because it was “fact”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:46 PM
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I make more dog sitting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:20 PM
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The article brings that up. Men benefit from getting married and women benefit from staying single. So... if all women decide to remain single, it would be a giant middle finger to men and their life expectancies. Interesting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:01 AM
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And even then, men are called silver foxes and described as sexy if they have grey in their hair or beard. A woman would be told that she’s letting herself go if her greys started showing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:45 PM
16

Robyn’s song “Who’s that girl?” is about this, such good lyrics!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:07 AM
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Can you imagine an old tribe of humans, back when we lived in caves, somehow celebrating the men who acted promiscuously? I can’t. All I can imagine is a tight nit network of people, everyone knowing each other, everyone with their own spot and importance to the tribe. All women valued and important, and courted by their potential mates in order to find a good fit. Casual sex probably never existed back then - it carried too much risk and also social consequences. Casual sex has historically bee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:20 PM
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Exactly! Once before, when I was struggling with a low libido, my partner asked if I didn’t desire him. He was behaving super poorly and assumed his looks would not only smooth things over, but would also turn me on. Nope. He could’ve looked like a god and it wouldn’t have been enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 09:37 PM
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Things not being sexual - yessss! I feel like this is the main difference between male and female arousal. Men get turned on by a woman showing skin, undressing, dancing, licking her lips, doing noticeable and sexual things. Women notice details - if a man puts his hand on the small of her back, if he either insists on following you home (might not be a safe option tbh) or asking you to text when you get home to let him know you’re safe, if a man remembers what your favorite dish/color/flowers/a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:53 PM
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Could be that she was heartbroken he wasn’t who she thought he was. I’ve sure been heartbroken about realizing men I believed in weren’t even worth the gum under my shoe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 12:35 PM
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“I won’t do it again... unless I’m horny of course.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:49 AM
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Exactly! We’ve been telling men about these issues for decades. His post reads to me as if he’s been thinking “ehh it can’t be that bad, they’re probably overreacting, women are emotional after all” and then when it happens to him - then he finally takes us seriously. Not good enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:45 AM
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Right? Dick does nothing for me, literally. If anything, it hurts and causes a burning feeling. I orgasm much better alone, when I take care of myself. Sex with a man can’t measure up to masturbation for me and I never crave sex with a man. Intimacy and romance though? Yes. During all my years of being single, what I missed the most was hugs and cuddling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:02 PM
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We should 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:29 PM
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They hold themselves to a different, lower standard. A guy once told me he had slept with 4 times the amount of people that I have, but still frowned when I told him my number. Fucking 40 girls is apparently better than 10 guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:39 PM
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I’ve noticed this - men don’t want to hear about how morally wrong it is. They will literally stop listening or discredit the person if the amorality of porn is brought up. They don’t want to know about the abuse, rape and sex trafficking that porn causes. They don’t care. On NoFap forums, the fact that porn is harmful to them, their penises and their brains is always mentioned a ton. Then, they might throw in a “and by the way, porn literally abuses women and ruin their lives” but it’s never th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:52 AM
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I actually have two men in my life who do their own cleaning, which I compare men to. My father is a very good cleaner. He likes metal details on his interiors, so he’s always dusting off lamps, decorations and appliances to keep the metal shiny. He hates dust, crumbs, stains, you name it. He hates wearing socks indoors so he cleans the floors often. He has favorite brands of cleaning supplies and if I ever have a difficult stain, I can call him and get tips on how to get the stain out best (for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 11:39 AM
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Haha me too ❤️ and damn... I bet your ex’s mom was wishing for some silent alone time too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:40 PM
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Hahaha now I can’t stop imagining him just screaming randomly all day too, now that would be a nightmare haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:31 PM
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He’s just not a silent man. Drumming his thighs, humming, singing, making small sounds, talking on the phone, alerts going off on his phone instead of silent mode, and more - and he likes having music or a video on in the background no matter what he does. So it’s just never fully quiet unless I’m alone. The other day he left for an hour and I marveled at how soundless my surroundings were.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:16 PM
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I miss it... Live with my fiancé and man, it’s just never quiet unless I’m home alone which is so rare now during the pandemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:00 PM
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I feel like kink shaming became a thing to protect perversion. Literally nothing else. Soon there will be “don’t gamer shame me” if you ask someone to turn off their computer after 8 hours of gaming, “don’t unemployment shame me” when asked to apply for a single job this month, “don’t tax evade shame me”, bla bla bla. Why shouldn’t I shame someone who’s into disgusting and harmful shit? Just say it like it is - please don’t call out my bullshit because I don’t want to be held accountable and it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:02 AM
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Same with a guy I once wasted time on. He told me I’m so out of his league that he didn’t even think I was interested in him, but then started picking on my looks in no time even though we barely knew each other. He knew he was ugly and wanted us to be even, except - I’m not ugly. So he tried to make me feel ugly instead. When I noped out, I met another guy. A mutual friend told me that the ugly guy stalked my Facebook, found the new guy, showed his profile pic and said “surely I’m more good loo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:55 AM
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❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:26 PM
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Didn’t Chris Watts, the guy who murdered his wife and daughters, also keep insisting despite repeated rejections?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:06 PM
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Always support HVW ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:06 PM
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Bingo. They are missing the days when we weren’t equal, when women couldn’t vote or have bank cards. The mere idea of asking a man for money and not being able to just buy it myself makes my skin crawl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:05 PM
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Your poor grandmother! Karma came for him and set her free ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:07 PM
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And Joe Rogan lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:55 AM
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While it’s morbid to congratulate someone for their husband dying early, I’m happy your grandmother got to have it that way. She must’ve been very happy! And thank you ❤️ I’m going to make her proud!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:54 AM
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What a fantastic read. She has a beautiful way of putting things into words. Paraphrasing: Our ambitions, if they are outside of beauty and shopping, are seen as inconveniences - that really struck me. We have a safe selection of hobbies and interests (and these will still be made fun of, of course) and if we venture outside of those boundaries, we’re difficult and too much. How dare we not settle for what men want from us? And the fact that she likes the new girlfriend, although also pointing o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:12 AM
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Exactly, it’s celebrating not even mediocrity, it’s celebrating barely getting by. Why aren’t we applauding men for barely functioning in a society that is built for them and caters to them in every possible way? Their lives are so hard 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:20 AM
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It truly is heartbreaking. Women of prior generations took so much shit and saw no light at the end of the tunnel. Divorces, break ups and living single are heavenly things that we take for granted. I know she was scared of leaving him and of surviving alone, but I wish she would’ve done it. She deserved happiness. Thank you so much for reading!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:18 AM
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Thank you for reading, and for your kind words ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 08:37 AM
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Also, isn’t having a job the absolute lowest bar to set, ever? Today existing costs money. In order to live, we need to work. It’s like saying “find a man that breathes” or “find a man that eats”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:39 AM
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Last time I checked, money matters 🤷🏻‍♀️ it just happens to be the most valued thing in our society and what makes our society tick. It’s the sole reason why most of our homes, appliances, clothes and food exists - because someone needed money and created something they could sell in order to make money. Money is also what will keep a roof over our heads, food in our bellies, keep us safe when we’re old and unable to work, cared for if we’re sick... how does money NOT matter?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:37 AM
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Nice change! I think this is the key - to stop caring what they think. My goal is to not care one little bit and pretend I don’t even see their comments, because they aren’t worth it. It’s like the new posts on here about how we shouldn’t post the raging scrotes. It distracts us from ourselves! Why spend time reading about whiny boys when we can discuss our boundaries or new years goals, our progress in healing, great women through history, our favorite shows right now, hell, anything else? It’s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:03 AM
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I never knew about some porn issues before coming here. I knew about guys not getting it up, but not what a deathgrip is and why a dude has to jackhammer for an hour in order to orgasm. I thought I was the problem - not the fact that when he masturbated, he was squeezing his dick harder than any vagina ever will so my vagina literally didn’t do much for him. We had sex for such long sessions because I was so eager to please him, but I remember wishing we would have a quicky just once. It was unu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:57 AM
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I know it’s a typo but the FDA really should set standards for men. In my dreams...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:33 PM
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Girl, if our sub is banned we will all find our way to the webpage and if it doesn’t work, we’ll find another forum that we can be on. There’s no going back. No one can put a lid on all of this energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:32 PM
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I love how they insist we’re all ugly, old and fat. I’m sure there are some queens on here who aren’t youngsters anymore, some who aren’t great looking and some who are bigger than they’d like to be - and so what? We’re not here to look good. We don’t need them. Their opinions don’t matter. Let them insult us and try to make us feel bad. Their words are rain and we’re all twirling umbrellas above our heads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:29 PM
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Happy New Year my queens ❤️ finding this place was the highlight of 2020 for me. Thank you for saving such an awful year for me! Let’s leave the year of the virus behind us and welcome the year of the vaccine! I hope everyone of you stay safe tonight and enter 2021 with even higher standards ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:30 PM
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He did it because he wanted to abuse her and because he knew he could get away with it. That’s why so many men want power - because then they can get away with their deprivation without being held accountable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:25 AM
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And one thing that bothered me is that the show takes every single chance they get to show her in as little clothes as possible. She’s constantly shown while switching outfits or barely clothed. If she’s so amazing and smart and cool, why do they have to undress her all the time? 🙄 but I guess they had to do that in order for men to watch a show about a female main character, otherwise it would be too boring for the scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:41 AM
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This picture was posted in another sub and it struck me that the first comment was roughly “but what about dads??!” Can’t even praise moms for a minute 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:20 AM
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That’s why I love FDS. Back in the day, that comment would haunt me too and scare me that maybe I would end up alone forever. Now I feel secure. Even if there is no man better than your ex in this world, we’ll be okay. We won’t settle for his shitty ass. We’ll be single queens and reign without the distraction of an abusive ass 💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 09:14 AM
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Or when they’re “honest”. I’ve never met a truly honest man, only men who want to say hurtful things without getting backlash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 09:00 AM
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It’s coming love! With time, more and more women will embrace these ways. It will be beautiful to see!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:49 PM
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Wow girl... You’re one hell of a fighter. And I’m so glad you know you won’t have to fight for others anymore. Right for yourself from now on, not a man. You deserve to be as happy as all the men you’ve taken care of, they can start putting in some effort for your sake now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:58 PM
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It’s so damaging! I can’t believe I’ve been putting myself through it, I wouldn’t let my worst enemy deal with it. Sex when you don’t want it, while also having to be enthusiastic for the partner even though you still don’t want it, is ridiculous. I’m never trying that hard again for a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:58 PM
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Why is he in the picture tho? Only women include themselves in their pictures to get more likes and to stroke their egos, didn’t he get the memo? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:16 AM
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I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to correct you actually, it’s just such a good way to emphasize that he’s a rapist. Anytime his name is written out, the word rapist should be included. It should be repeated everywhere. He’s living a comfortable life full of freedom funded by his wealthy father who believed his son only had “20 minutes of action” that night. He was smiling when he was caught. Rapist Brock Turner should be his full name from now on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:12 AM
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The Stanford Rapist Brock Turner I believe you meant, easy mistake to make. What puzzles me about that case is that somehow people didn’t believe the two male witnesses. Even when backed up by men, we’re not believed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:28 AM
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Blaming our bodies - yes. I have a low libido and a huge red flag of mine is when a man sees me as broken for not wanting more sex. I used to take pills that were supposed to make me more horny and I tried reading erotica and becoming more sexual somehow, but I just became sex aversive instead because there was nothing wrong with me. I can’t make myself want more sex and I shouldn’t want more sex - my body knows and decides. But he wanted more sex than me and somehow that meant me and my body we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:23 AM
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Exactly! Not to mention how easy it is - instead of writing a CV and handing it in at work places and going through interviews and potential rejections, they already have a phone and can start posting pictures whenever. There’s no direct rejection involved. For an insecure young woman who’d like more money, OF can seem like a quick, easy and maybe even safe (from rejection) way to make money while also getting “approval” and compliments from men. It’s a trap. They barely make money from it and t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:09 AM
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I think having an OF has been glamorized. Instead of sweating in a McDonald’s kitchen and hoping you don’t meet anyone you know when serving trash food, you can now instead take a few pictures of yourself from your very own home and be an entrepreneur! Men love it! You’ll be so popular and everyone will shower you in compliments and you get money from it! It’s such a great deal, take some selfies of your pussy and you’ll be drowning in cash and compliments! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 09:15 AM
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This was my experience. I’m maybe a 6,5 (of course I’m not an objective judge though), he was barely a 1. Fat, unkept, barely brushed his crooked and yellow teeth, super bad hygiene overall, looked so damn awful. I had been keeping myself locked away from people due to my eating disorder but then got better and started working at a new job, and all of a sudden, years of longing for a romantic partner hit me all at once and I felt so desperate for someone (before FDS). He looked at me one time an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 08:12 AM
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I noticed this when flying a few years ago. I had just started weight lifting and was excited to lift up my luggage to the overhead compartment (I’ve struggled with OHP and wanted to enjoy my progress lol) but an old man took it out of my hands and threw it up there and then turned to me as if expecting me to thank him and shower him in gratitude. All I could think of was who gave you the permission? Don’t touch my stuff. On the way out, I got it down on my own with no difficulty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 08:19 AM
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It's like they don't consider them people. I had an ex who watched porn and it infuriated me already back then, many years ago. I asked him what the difference was between jerking off to random people online or random people in real life like a depraved perverted lunatic (had that happen twice in my 26 years). He said they (online) weren't real so it didn't matter. He also said he would never jerk off to someone in real life because that was wrong. So he realized it's wrong and shameful, and he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:42 PM
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And the nice girl/guy trope comes from someone who feels entitled to sex by just being nice. We’re not wanting sex, we’re turning it down. We’re not whining about not getting laid, because we could get laid. We whine about a lack of decent men because we can vent freely on here, but if the rules were to not trash talk LVM, then we would discuss self improvement instead because our lives don’t revolve around shitty men. Our lives revolve around us. We’re the opposite of nice girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:38 PM
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I love that the call us female incels, they couldn’t be further off. We’re voluntarily choosing to stick with high standards and if that means celibacy, then so be it. We could be having sex but we’re choosing not to and we love it, we love respecting ourselves and not settling. We’re turning down dudes we don’t want. How is that being incels and nice girls?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:37 PM
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I'm 26 and I wish I had found this forum back when I was 12 to be honest. Goddamn this place has done wonders for my self-esteem and how I see the world. You guys showed me how to be my own validation, rather than to rely on a man for it. Thank you <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 07:50 AM
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Eh, they still get to waste your time then and to live in your head rent free. Just block and delete. Thinking about LVM and caring about hurting their feelings and about making them feel pissed off isn’t high value, it’s only a waste of time and effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:44 AM
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They want affection but they’re refusing to give it. Fucking hypocrites. If you’re emotionally unavailable, you shouldn’t be dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:35 AM
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”Born to make you happy” by Britney Spears. We don’t exist for men’s happiness 🙅‍♀️ Edit: or “I’m a slave for you” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:29 PM
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More like he had a gambling addiction and debt, so maybe he couldn’t get an account 🙄 I honestly don’t know why, but when I heard he had debts I wasn’t surprised at all. Gambling, alcohol, drugs, he was down for any quick and easy “feel good” he could come across. Working on himself? Nope, never. He’s a waste of space, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 06:16 PM
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Right? He also called me immature lol. Did I mention that he was almost 30 and didn’t have a bank card? He always wanted to pay, always, because he was embarrassed if a woman paid for him. That is, until a place didn’t take cash. All of a sudden, he faded into the background when it was time to pay. On my birthday. And also didn’t thank me afterwards. It makes me both furious and disgusted now in retrospect. The shit I put up with...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 05:58 PM
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Oh girl, I just remembered: a guy I met didn't have soap nor a hand towel. He would barely brush his teeth. He was too embarrassed to buy toilet paper in the store so he repeatedly took toilet paper from his workplace. He literally always took (read: stole) a roll home from work. He also used hair spray as deodorant and Head&Shoulders as body, face and hair wash. He literally had empty Head&Shoulders bottles covering the floor of the shower because he never threw them out. I remember feeling dir…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:32 AM
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They're so close to getting it right - Poor Scarlett, yes! Poor Scarlett for having to be close to such a perv!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 10:27 AM
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Imagine all the things he could be doing to keep himself in nice shape. He could literally still be swoon worthy if he put in the effort. If he dropped the excess weight and instead started lifting, if he took care of his hair, beard and skin, he'd probably look like a fine man still. But no, he's relying on the lie that men age nicely and so he's letting himself decay in front of our eyes. Imagine if an actress did the same, just stopped caring about her looks. Do you think she would still get …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:40 PM
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From his own text, she sounds so unenthusiastic about fucking him yet it’s his dream scenario, it’s disgusting. And the sentence about her laying back and letting him take it 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 07:51 PM
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I remember listening to Britney’s “Born to make you happy” as a kid and desperately and deeply wishing I’d one day get to love someone that much, that it would explain my very existence. I was wishing for my own love. If only I could’ve looked at myself in the mirror and told myself that I don’t need to find someone. I was born to make myself happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 04:30 PM
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Girl, don’t ever excuse yourself for being proud of yourself, at the very least not on this sub 💪 women are overly humble about how awesome we are all our lives and it makes us crave and seek validation around us. It’s time we own it! We’re fucking fantastic. And I know your spouse is damn lucky to be yours! So good on him for stepping up, and may he always see what a treasure you are ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 08:02 PM
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Of course, change is possible. But your spouse is the exception, not the rule, and did something that LVM would never. I’m very happy for you! Your spouse clearly understands how valuable you are ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 07:42 PM
25

Prrrrreach! And if, if by some magical wonder, he does indeed heal during the relationship with your help - then all of a sudden he’s too good for you now, because apparently his issues were keeping him in your league and now he deserves a better (read: more attractive/younger/less opinionated/more sexual/etc) woman 🙄 it’s a losing battle!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 07:22 PM
62

Right? No wonder women date actual trash, we’re brainwashed into thinking dating is our sole purpose 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 06:58 PM
46

If you think he wants to be healed, don’t date him! HVM don’t go into a relationship expecting to be healed. They know it’s their own responsibility to heal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 06:36 PM
3

Same! I remember saving numbers as “DON’T ANSWER” - but outright blocking them somehow felt rude and unacceptable? Never again, I’m blocking anyone who bothers my peace ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:50 PM
13

She sounds like an absolute sweetheart 😍 And yeah, I have a thing for red dogs. In my wildest dreams, I end up owning one of each at the same time 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 04:07 PM
8

Personally, I will train my dog to only attack after a command and I’ll never give a command around a child. I also don’t think I’ll be around many kids. But I’m sure there are resources on how to handle such risks and that professionals can help you out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 04:06 PM
18

Okay now THAT’s a massive dog breed right there 🤣 personally, I want a Ridgeback for sure, and in the future, also a Vizsla. I’m a sucker for them. But I gotta say I’m tempted 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:42 PM
47

When I get a big dog in the future, I’m getting it professionally trained to attack on command. It will be like having a big best friend and a weapon in one. I’m planning on having a Rhodesian Ridgeback (huge mfs).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:57 PM
3

You’re a lifesaver. Thank you so much!! I’ll do exactly this. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 05:21 AM
41

I can’t stand that he brings that part up, that it wasn’t that messy. Really? Undervaluing and discrediting her work, after she dealt with his fuck up without complaining? He should be grateful, and instead he’s bragging online to strangers 🙄 Bet his wife is used to these kinds of things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:19 PM
7

RIGHT? I remember being so puzzled and wondering if I was overreacting. He was literally so lazy that wildlife was moving into his apartment lol. Wouldn’t surprise me if there was a bug infestation too tbh. I’m so ashamed of what I used to put up with, but more so ashamed that a human being could choose to live that way. And I’m never disrespecting myself like that again, this place has shown me the light 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:13 PM
9

Oh my god you just reminded me of a LVM I used to know. He never closed his window for some reason and there was a literal wasp nest in his roof! He shrugged his shoulders and said the wasps were gone and decided to just leave the nest up there. And I somehow thought I was a mess at the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:47 PM
3

This is definitely an option I’ve been contemplating. We live in different countries and will barely meet unless it’s for special occasions. I feel like I would blow up her family and happiness and then leave her to deal with the consequences, and I’m scared she’ll resent me instead of him for it. And since we live so far away, I feel like I wouldn’t be able to support her properly either. The last thing I want is for her husband to come between us and ruin the relationship I have with my fiancé…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:12 PM
6

I’m not sure if she’s a pickmesha... a part of me worries she’ll blow up at me instead of him. Even then, she should know. Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 04:05 PM
4

Could they hold it online maybe? I hope things get better for you soon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:35 PM
13

I need advice. A married family member with a newborn child hit on me yesterday. I'm so creeped out. I've decided to gray rock him no matter what, in person and text, and to always make sure that my fiancé is literally between us if I have to meet this man again in the future. What else can I do? He hit on me in such an "innocent" way that he could claim he wasn't hitting on me and instead blame me for misunderstanding and having a dirty mind, so I feel like I can't tell his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:13 PM
79

Repeatedly begging a man to be introduced to his family... Sure, this is fake, but still. Imagine having to beg to be introduced to his family. Nope, he should be elated to bring you home and to show off his woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 09:47 AM
10

The new gf already had the child, a girl named Lyra. And yeah... It's sooo creepy that he had a child with someone who could be his own child. Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 01:51 PM
18

I hope so too... I remember reading about her excitement on fb when she got into the acting school in the US. You could really feel her joy. And now she's risking getting weighed down by this ugly old dude :( I hope she's happy at least. She literally looks like his pretty accessory sometimes in their pictures and it pisses me off so bad. She should be alone and the star in those pictures. Instead she's there to look pretty by his side...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 10:06 AM
14

I literally know his new girlfriend. I feel so bad for her. She's such a sweetheart, she deserves much better...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 09:43 AM
58

Oh my god. Just realized her ex Michael Sheen is dating and had a kid with someone I know. Someone who’s literally half his age. 25 to 50. Anna, noooo 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 06:18 AM
7

I can't imagine how scary that must've been, but I can say you for sure made the right choice! You deserve much better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:18 PM
49

“Her tits have been in extreme pain for weeks now. I bet the one thing she’s missing and longing for is TITTY BONDAGE 🥳”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 12:43 PM
23

Oh my god, what an ass! Ex husband now right? Either way, I’m so sorry you had to deal with that, any human should know better than to act like that. Crazy...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 12:41 PM
110

Why isn't he choosing to look away? Is he really too weak to not look? Stronger gender my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 12:29 PM
103

Anyone else thinks she doesn't want to ask because she doesn't want an answer? Without an answer, she can delay it for as long as possible. If she asks the doctor, there will be a day where her partner will pushing for it and where the excuse of her breast reduction won't be applicable anymore. I can almost hear the guy: "The doctor said it's fine from now on! I've literally had a countdown to today! If the doctor thinks it's okay, then why not? What's stopping us?" And if she even suggests she …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 12:08 PM
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I forgot to return some pants and had to do it yesterday before the time limit ran out, but I was tired from school and wondering how on earth I’d survive a full school day and then getting all the way to the shopping center (30 minute bike ride one way) to return them. My fiancé asked if he could do it for me, biked over there, fixed everything despite not speaking the language himself, and then couldn’t understand why I was thanking him profusely. He took such a heavy load off my shoulders, it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:54 PM
5

Ah yes, men being thirsty over us impacts our worth, ladies. The amount of men who look at us impact our worth. Men on tinder impact our worth. Men impact our worth soOOoooOo much. You know what? Fuck off. I have innate worth AND I’m a good person on top of that. What men think of me doesn’t impact my worthiness one bit. They’re not the judge - I am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 06:56 AM
6

It’s going to be so difficult. Why put yourself through that? If she got an abortion, she could instead have a clean slate. Go to therapy, meet a better man (or just stay single, way better), get a sperm donor if she wants a child, etc. She could live a much easier life. Why choose to live it on difficult mode? Why choose to have a child with an abusive mentally ill man? How does that sound like a rational, smart choice?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:31 AM
47

"...just looking for someone to talk to and show me their titties." Ah yes, you're looking for a therapist and a prostitute all in one and also for free. Piece of shit. I hope he never matches with anyone, how repulsive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:46 PM
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Porn is cheating. They are masturbating with another girl in mind. They are masturbating to her body, her sounds, her face, and yet somehow it isn't cheating because they don't know the girl in person? They are pretending their hand is her pussy, but it somehow isn't cheating? I want a man who desires only me. Maybe a fleeting moment of "wow, she's attractive" if he runs into someone gorgeous, but not a "now I'm gonna go home and find a porn actress who looks like her and wank off and imagine my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:11 AM
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They are gorgeous! Fantastic job 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:07 AM
6

Ding ding ding! I would always be so confused when I was treated like absolute crap by a man. I couldn’t understand how anyone could be so rude. Well, they have no other reason to be nice to you than to get sex from you - and when I turned them down, they no longer had anything to gain from being nice to me. I have always felt that I didn’t quite understand how men think and work, and now I know that’s true. Their drive for sex corrupts them. They’re animalistic in a way, and I’ve just never und…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 10:48 AM
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Of course 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:42 PM
7

Personally, I ask myself how I would react if a friend told me about it. Would I tell her to be alarmed? Then I’m alarmed and act accordingly. Again, this is how I do personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:43 PM
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Right? We’re so used to chasing and being PickMe’s that we’re not seeing our own worth, and questioning how we can be worthy of a HVM. I think this will pass with time as we grow as women and make ourselves more and more valuable, and as we grow more confident. We’ll never be perfect, but we’re amazing and we’re working on being even more amazing. Of course we deserve HVM ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:19 PM
2

Ooooh! I’m so sorry haha! You’re right, why are we encouraged to do so? We live in a crazy world
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 01:36 PM
4

Men should watch out for red flags too of course. But women are at bigger risk and should be more careful with which men we choose to trust. A man may end up with a crazy stalker ex, but a woman might end up kidnapped and dead. Both should of course watch out for red flags and by doing so, both the crazy stalker and the kidnapper/killer may be avoided.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 01:32 PM
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The “I’m not perfect, how can I expect perfection?” is a thought I’ve had too after finding FDS. It’s a tricky one. I don’t think women and men can be compared like that though, as if we’re made the same. If I were to exhibit some form of red flag behavior, I wouldn’t be a potential family killer, a potential child rapist or a potential pervert who was trying hard to keep my true identity hidden. And men can be those things and keep that hidden from their woman, sometimes for years and years. So…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:37 PM
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You believed men are better than they are. I think we all wish this was the case. But we can see the truth now. Learn from your mistake and remember that you were doing the best you could at the time with the best knowledge you had at the time ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:08 PM
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Great reminder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:16 AM
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Is my post not visible? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:15 AM
1

Oh my god... Now this is straight up insane. That sounds exactly like the nastiest old scrotes in the world. I’m so sorry you have to deal with them 😭❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:09 AM
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If we make a scrote playlist, this will be at the top lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:58 PM
1

Exactly! And she’ll be thinking “I don’t want to do this”, “I wish we were using a condom”, “I feel like I’m missing out on the safety that a condom would provide”, “why can’t he just wear a condom for me?” - and hopefully she’ll dump him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:19 PM
1

Jeeeesus Christ, that’s disgusting 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:18 PM
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Right? He’s completely missing that any pleasure of his from not using condoms would be paid for in pain by his girlfriend! So damn selfish. She’s clearly having a ton of sex with him and trying hard to please him, and yet he keeps on pressuring her to give even more. How about some fucking gratitude for what he’s getting? Also, I’m so sorry about how scarring your abortion was. It’s something no one should take lightly. Since it was necessary, I think you should give yourself a big pat on the b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:16 AM
2

Such a great song. Thank you for posting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:55 AM
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I love that he mentions abortion as theoretical. Because he knows it would be awful if it did happen. Because he knows an abortion is too much to ask for, just for his pleasure. Because he knows. This dude thinks so highly of his own pleasure that he would rather risk his girlfriend having to go through with an abortion than to continue with condoms. He even says the condoms aren’t that bad. The selfishness, the callousness, the audacity. ”Honey, I know you’d do anything to avoid having to go th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:51 AM
3

Imagine having to marry and sleep with the man who killed your father and brother. And imagine then having the strength and power to not self destruct, but to instead kill the bastard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:25 AM
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Thank god, yes! And it’s so funny isn’t it? We acted wrong but we had good intentions. We wanted to impress men, not just get into their pants. Men who act wrong never have good intentions. Men who act right often don’t have good intentions. And to think that we wanted to impress them before 🤡 after finding this forum, I just want to make my fellow women proud. It’s so empowering to not even care about men and their opinions for once!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:11 AM
3

You’re so right. I was raised to apologize if I hurt someone’s feelings, and so I’ve come to expect people to apologize when they hurt mine. But so many times, my feelings would be hurt and I would be left with no proper apology, still upset, explaining why I wanted one, and then only to be made fun of for wanting an apology. “You care soOooOooO much about apologies”, “you sure are hung up on apologies”, “what’s the deal with you and apologies”, “it wasn’t that big of a deal, get over it”, “do I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 05:35 PM
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Exactly! And they are not even close to worth any of the effort 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:16 PM
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Ugghhh thank you ❤️ it literally makes me shiver when I think of it. I was so desperate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:16 PM
6

And then, since his clothes don’t come out ruined, is only been a long way of showing and exposing what he did - which again shows that he should be DUMPED. Such a selfish prick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:15 PM
2

Thank you so much for replying! There’s something so soothing about hearing others experiences and that I’m not alone. Thank you so much ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:14 PM
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During my PickMe days, I thought if I asked they’d find me cool and brave and unusual, “not like other girls” 🤢 Nope, never. They found me desperate and their replies showed it. So glad I stopped after a few failed attempts, it makes me cringe now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:13 PM
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Oh. My. God. This is so damn similar it’s scary!’ One final question: did he also make fun of you for expecting a proper apology? For asking for a better one if he gave a shitty one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:11 PM
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Exactly!! By the way, was this person normally bad at apologizing and refusing to admit they did something wrong if it was a smaller thing? And then when they did something that was too bad to ignore and they had to apologize, that’s when you ended up comforting them? Because same. Either it was a joke or not a big deal which didn’t deserve an apology, or the apology was so heartfelt and painful that I had to comfort him for hurting me 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:59 PM
2

Yeah I think you’re onto something. Definitely bragging for the bro’s. That honestly makes it worse lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:35 PM
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Or making themselves into victims after apologizing. I can’t stand having to comfort someone who’s done me wrong. If you feel guilty - good, you should.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:33 PM
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Right? Ugh. I remember my brother joking about how when he runs out of clean socks, he buys new socks instead of doing laundry. But my brother was making fun of himself at least, he wasn’t trying to brag. That was back in his university days and now he’s much better. I’m so confused why this dude thinks he did something GOOD. If I was his wife and found out, I’d leave him. It speaks volumes about who he is that he would even consider such a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:32 PM
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Right? I’ve found that most of my clothes and textiles can be washed at the same program. If I’ve worn a lot of whites I may wash them separately with some bleach - but most often I don’t. Most often I barely sort my clothes at all - I chuck them in, wash them and hang them up to dry. It’s so damn easy. I feel like calling laundry today difficult is a joke - laundry back in the day, that was difficult! That was goddamn manual labor. But sure, complain about this huge machine that does all the wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:11 PM
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This blows my mind. Instead of doing his fair share of work, he's willing to sabotage their laundry? Ruin clothes just to get out of his own work? Imagine how painful being his wife: finding your blouses and pants stained and ruined, feeling the heartbreak of never wearing your favorite pieces again, and being met with a "Oops, guess you shouldn't have told me to do the laundry, huh?" Imagine if it was this way with everything. Don't want to do the driving? Crash the car. Don't want to walk the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 07:41 AM
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"No." As if her accent is wrong. As if his is right. As if his head is so far up his own ass that he can't make a lighthearted challenge with his (hopefully soon ex) girlfriend without behaving like a condescending ass. The way he seems to cringe at her pronounciation is just the worst. Why is he judgemental when he looks like that? Edit: he reminds me of Sid from Ice Age, anyone else see it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:33 AM
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Warms your soul... Guys want to warm their dicks, that’s what they care about. They will take you anywhere as long as it’s cheaper than getting a prostitute 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:09 PM
1

😘❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:42 AM
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“You should definitely walk the fuck away from me and don’t look back. Or I’ll see you looked back and keep trying to take advantage of the situation.” And this is why the best choice is to block. They’ll try to wiggle their way back into our lives and they’ll find and use any loophole or opportunity we give them. Blocking is the superior way 👊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:32 AM
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You’ll get there ❤️ this entire sub is about learning to set and stick to boundaries so just practice and learn from everyone here, and soon you’ll be bulletproof against abusive men. They won’t find a way into your life ever again 💪 and that is a wonderful feeling! And give yourself some understanding - you probably didn’t choose to be abused, you just fell for the wrong people repeatedly. You didn’t mean for things to go badly. You did what you thought was right. And now you’ll learn to do eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:11 AM
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Jesus Christ! Some men are dumpster fires 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:07 AM
1

Thank you for letting me know! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:06 AM
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1 man, my fiancé. No other man has truly wanted to make me cum. For their own ego, yes, but not for my pleasure. When a man asks afterwards if you came, he wants to stroke his ego and nothing else. It’s all look at what I did and what I accomplished. He’s not planning on diving down between your legs and giving you an orgasm if your answer is no. He would never think oops, she didn’t get the full experience, she should have pleasure too and go down on you when he’s gotten what he wants. Sex for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:16 PM
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Let’s crowd out any guilting and shaming with self-love 🥰🥰🥰 I think many of us forget why we used to be pick me’s and why we made mistakes or even why some still make mistakes - because we want love and we want to feel good. We’re not doing it from a bad place. But now we know better and we can get better and act better. There’s no use in hating ourselves for our pasts, we did what we thought were right at the time. That’s what separates us from LVM. When we make mistakes, we grow from them. Sha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:54 PM
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❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:41 PM
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This is also why visualization is a powerful tool in the other direction. Say you want to quit eating sugar. Visualizing yourself shopping and walking past the sugary isles with ease, visualizing yourself turning down cake and visualizing yourself not liking sugar can help. It’s like you’re training in your head before the real test. And of course men use this in the wrong direction, for disgusting visualizations instead of useful ones. I really shouldn’t be surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:34 PM
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And now you’re never going back 🤩 which means you’re forever free of shitty men 👊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:22 AM
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Any time love 💕 we really do need to forgive ourselves. Spending time and energy on our past mistakes is not benefitting us. We only have now and our future and there is where our focus should lie 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:16 AM
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Oh my god. They let literal, actual sexual offenders examine and work on women and their genitalia? Jesus Christ. I shudder to think of how deprived those men are and what goes on inside their heads during an examination. And I can’t believe to this day that I didn’t say something during the examination. A quick “What are you doing?” And then a “That’s a lot of fingers” would have called him out. It’s ridiculous we even have to care about any of this. We can’t even trust doctors now? Crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:44 AM
6

By the way, how do I put on a flair on mobile? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:21 AM
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I had an infection down there last year and went to get it checked out. Doctor was a man. He couldn’t get the tool inside me that would “pry me open” so he used his gloved fingers a lot - pushing them in me, pushing me open, holding me open, etc. The female nurse by his side didn’t say a thing so I assumed he wasn’t doing anything unusual, but I always wondered afterwards where the line is drawn. It was a lot of finger action. He also commented on how tight I was 🤢 I left feeling so disgusting b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:57 AM
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I’d say they are yellow flags. I’m definitely not wearing rose colored glasses and I’m keeping a very close eye on any behavior of his just in case. It’s a little too personal to post on here and I’m a little cautious about getting identified so I won’t go into details. But thank you for the offer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 11:14 AM
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Thank you 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:26 AM
5

Oh my god, I can’t even imagine! That sounds like a nightmare. I’m so glad you get to work with younger ones now, less of the old scrote headache 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:08 PM
3

Lol amazing. For some reason I imagined you just going “AAAAAAAH” at his touch instead of something more reasonable like “don’t touch me!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 07:24 PM
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Right? He’s willing to do so much for us. Although we definitely didn’t have a FDS proof relationship all along, and some parts of our relationship now makes me raise my eyebrow - hence why I’m still vetting. I wish I had found FDS sooner lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 06:04 PM
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Ahhh I’ll take it! I can’t wait with the confidence that I will have by then, after practicing FDS for years 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:39 PM
4

Right? Get out of my space, I don’t need you. I swear, some men need us to need them in order for them to feel good enough. They don’t want to see that we’re fine alone because they want to be needed. Nuts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:17 PM
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I met mine while he was my waiter at a restaurant abroad. He gave me his number after both of us couldn’t look away from each other during my entire dinner and we ended up spending a few full days together (I was solo traveling) before I had to return. I was a complete PickMe back then but he, outside of a few minor things, have been consistently great. Our first date was ironically a picnic. He wanted to show me the city, but I’d already been there often and instead asked him to show me the nat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:22 PM
2

You’re so right. And I gotta say, I loved this little convo 🥰 I’m so happy to have found this place!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:09 PM
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You did good though, give yourself credit! 🤩 At 20, I was a full blown pick me who chose all of her interests based off of what a dude might find interesting about me, and hiding any other interest I had so they wouldn’t know about it. But worst of all - I wasn’t even dating anyone. I was acting like a huge pick me without even dating. I was molding myself to fit males’ tastes without even having male pressure on me to be like that. I just chose to be a pick me. Ughhh, never going back. I’m neve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:00 PM
7

Preach!! Keep putting them in their place 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:31 PM
8

So infuriating. It’s like the world revolves around them and they don’t have to apologize because they are the main character 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:29 PM
10

Holy cow that’s disgusting 🤢🤢🤢 I hope you blocked the shit out of him girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:28 PM
10

Jesus Christ. I feel you - imagine being like 40 or 50 (🤩) and just doing your thing in life without male input. I can’t WAIT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:15 PM
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Exactly. There’s noooo way he did anything wrong, he’s a man! Never mind that it’s so easy to just not pay attention for a moment and end up close to a stranger, and how easy it would be to just say “oops, sorry about that!” Nope. A man can’t do anything wrong and therefore he never needs to apologize 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:14 PM
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Hugs, it’s a difficult time. And I agree, she’s sooo clever! The way she interacts with the audience is so impressive, she thinks out funny things so fast. She seems like a blast to be honest, the kind of friend you’d always want to hang out with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 01:48 PM
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I know right? I behave so extrovertedly when I’m around nice people but when people suck, I magically turn into an introvert lol. Or more likely, I don’t crave social interaction with rude people. It was a huge insight for me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 01:45 PM
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They have no concept of personal space at all - or maybe they do and just choose to ignore it? Scratch that first part - they definitely know and choose to ignore it. Old pervy creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 12:00 PM
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Or both lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:18 AM
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”He is the best man I ever met” - Jesus. If this is the best man you’ve ever met, why would you even want one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 10:59 AM
5

Imagine staying devoted to a murderer. Imagine thinking so lowly of yourself that your energy, time and love is worth spending on a piece of shit. Then remember the option: spending all that energy, time and love on yourself. Even if you’re a diamond in the rough now, you’re still a diamond worth all the effort. I choose myself 💎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 10:42 AM
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“Working on”, “seal the deal” 🤢🤢🤢 so romantic and genuinely loving of him 🙄 Not a “I’ve been seeing her for some time now, I’d love to see our relationship progress to the next stage” but WORKING ON. As if she’s a pain in the ass to hang out with and he’s only doing it to get into her pants. Seal the deal, as if nothing before getting into her pants count as valuable to him. He doesn’t give a shit about her as a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:51 AM
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This is why being picky with friends is very important too! My friends help me, genuinely, and care about me. When I was in elementary school and high school, girls were so catty and competitive, always trying to undermine each other, and I felt like a freak because I never wanted to be social with my “friends”. No wonder, they weren’t friends at all, they would’ve thrown me under the bus for the sake of any 1/10 scrote in the world. I’m never inviting that energy into my life again. Block and d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:45 AM
15

It’s a very good movie to watch actually, although very morbid. She had a solid friend and neighbors - they instantly knew something was off about Chris. And being able to pick out the red flags while hearing about how they met is an invaluable thing. Any time we practice seeing and pointing out red flags in movies or other people’s lives, we get better at it and might catch them faster in our own lives. Practice makes perfect after all. I’m so glad this discussion came up, I thought of FDS the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:40 AM
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Pretty much every speech said “couldn’t have found a better guy” or some version of it. They all praised him as the very best she could’ve found and that they were so happy for them. The “very best she could do”, ah yes, a family murderer, of course 🙄 what’s the takeaway from this? That single women = alive women 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:32 AM
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Watching this right now, god I love her. Drawing a parallel between men and dolphins was amazing. #notalldolphins
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:56 PM
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