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idk the Old Testament isn’t very restrictive of mens sexuality If they are Christians, they should be going by the New Covenant given to us by Jesus Christ, not the old one that God gave to the Jews as recounted in the Torah. The Pharisees asked similar questions of Jesus, e.g. "well a man can divorce his wife at any time if he so chooses, right? It was sort of allowed in the Old Testament times, so it's OK?" Jesus replies: He said to them, “Have you not read that He Who made them in the first p…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 12:49 AM
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1:28:00 is spot on, love the self-awareness! It was interesting to see the areas where Koko and the other two kind of agreed (e.g. about developing yourself first as an individual before jumping into a relationship, but the end goal for Koko was a lot more materialistic and self-centered - it wasn't even about "happiness" but "having lots of money and being independent" as her main goal 🙄). Also isn't it interesting how Koko refused to say what she does for her BF and to speak her opinion about …
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/22 06:19 PM
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If you found a man that you can grow with and build with, look at what you have, not what you don't. Finding a man who is loyal, who will value and protect his woman is a prize. This is solid gold. Love the way you phrased this. I agree based on the descriptions as well.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 08:12 PM
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Love it! Very cute!
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 04:38 PM
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This is a great answer. +++ Btw, how did you get your fiancé to stop drinking soda? I love my BF but his habit of soda and unhealthy energy drinks is concerning especially since he also wants to lose weight!
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 03:43 PM
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I cannot upvote this post enough. I went exactly through this with an LTR man I was "settling" for; first disrespect grew in me, and I could feel the disrespect from him because he felt emasculated. I realized I needed a man who is inherently very masculine and "red pill" in life, and when I found that, the feminine in me skyrocketed. I also constantly feel like I want to be on my A game because of my immense respect for my man - I am actually afraid of losing him, while I was definitely not afr…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/22 01:36 PM
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Thank you for asking the questions. Hope I can provide some clarity, although your bext bet is to read the RPW Wiki on the sidebar. Regarding the goal or cause: RPW isn't a political ideology; it's a toolbox. It's a set of ways to approach dating, relationships, and your own self-improvement that are based on evolutionary psychology. In a nutshell, the basis of RPW is that improving yourself (physically, spiritually, emotionally) and your attitude and approach to life will improve your dating, r…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/22 01:29 PM
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I personally could not date a non-Christian because my faith is an integral part of me despite not regularly practicing (i.e. attending Church). I tried to date an atheist/agnostic and it was just super hard. I also want to be on the same page about what faith to raise our kids with. Side note, but do you guys consider two different denominations of Christianity such as Catholic-Protestant or Protestant-Orthodox inter-faith? I personally don't (especially Protestant-Orthodox) but what do other C…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 07:19 PM
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Most PhD students in my program I know aren't "swimming in money" but they sure as heck will be after graduating with the degree. You can get by on a grad student salary with no problem (and with savings left over) even in an expensive city if you live simply and watch your finances. That being said, you should be OK with not having the option to make big purchases (e.g. most grad students can't afford cars or mortgages), live above their means (e.g. luxury brands), or frivolously spend during t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 12:53 PM
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Heartwarming :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 07:59 PM
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Why do you feel not appreciated in the way you'd like to sometimes?
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 07:56 PM
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My bf and I are both 100% on the same page about not living together before marriage (even engagement). :-) Thanks for your perspective!! I love testing recipes on him indeed, I just love the creative part of cooking!
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 07:55 PM
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That is amazing, thanks for the perspective :-)
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 07:54 PM
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Thank you! :-)
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 07:54 PM
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Thanks. I'm definitely wary of poison dripping and have been refraining from telling my friends of all the details of my relationship, especially the ones that are most RP like this one.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 07:53 PM
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Takes me out on dates he thinks of himself (and pays when he does), always picks me up and drops me off when we go anywhere, leads the relationship (offers increasing gestures of commitment every time I see him), helps me with personal finance (he's a guru, I'm a bit of a noob).
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 07:51 PM
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Hmm, I'd say close to 50/50 but becoming slightly more trad in the past year. Modern aspects include: overly educated (two graduate STEM degrees lmao oops), have traditionally "masculine" hobbies (e.g. hiking, sports), can be outspoken about my beliefs, 3 person n-count, not incl. my current BF (from two previous LTR and one short term relationship that I thought would be LTR but it crashed and burned... and it also led me to a spiritual path) Trad: faith - Christian (in a spiritually guided rel…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 07:43 PM
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Agreed! I don't want to keep contact with them but I also feel "bad" especially in the case of my long-time friend. I'll try not to overthink it and just enjoy my love life :) And so true about single guy friends! Happened to me way too often with them!
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 09:46 PM
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Well I was the one who broke up with my ex. With my "friend" it was different in that I thought we had something special but he clearly wasn't going to pursue me so I just dropped it and never looked back. Thanks for your insight :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 09:45 PM
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Love this! Thank you! I definitely can't do #1 with the 2nd guy because he lives abroad at the moment, and no way would I want to see my ex AT ALL haha
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 09:44 PM
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Tell the other "friend" the truth. Tell him he missed out by 1.5 months. It sounds like a tough pill to swallow, but there is a certain honor in taking an L gracefully like this. He fought, and lost, and now he needs to regroup. I think he'll take the reality of the situation better than you trying to play games saying you're "busy." Thanks for all of your post. Great insight :) This bit especially - my "friend" doesn't even live in the same country as me (but he had a desire to move here before…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 09:43 PM
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It made us actually miss each other and made when we actually saw each other much more special. Love this! I feel this too!
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 08:14 PM
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100%! I definitely prefer that. I guess I was curious how texting has evolved for other people since it used to be important to me to feel "connected" to an SO, but honestly not anymore, because it's more about what happens in person :-)
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 02:53 PM
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We are both 27.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 02:35 PM
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Honestly I have projected more with my friend than the new guy. We're taking it super slow (nothing physical even after 4th date but lots of flirting and innocent touch...and two of our dates were 6-10 hours long lol). There's no way the new guy is dragging me down - he already inspires me in ways that the "friend" never did, and in the context of RPW, he is a lot more masculine in lifestyle than my "friend" and makes me feel feminine in a way I have never quite before... I appreciate the concer…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 04:07 PM
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Thanks again for your reply. Yeah I'm pretty much over him since there is another guy I've started going out with who I am pretty crazy about. It's looking like my friend still wants to stay in touch though - he asked to video chat to "catch up"... I'll just try to gradually phase out and it still feels rude just ignoring him completely after a 16 year long friendship :/
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 11:53 PM
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Culturally we are way more similar than anyone I've dated since we come from the same culture/country lol I think you're right though he's just closed off emotionally, and also has a lot of emotional/relationship baggage tbh which is not really my problem...
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 03:33 PM
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Noted and I 100% agree.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 03:20 PM
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Thank you! You too! :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 08:16 PM
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Yeah, totally get all that. I was just saying why HE might be feeling guilty. I know we each have equal responsibility. But I also know that the type of guy I really want to build a family with wouldn't sleep with someone who they weren't emotionally attached to and saw a long term future with. I mistook him for that guy.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 04:04 PM
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says that you have a giant thing for him I thought I did, and maybe I did, but his behavior following the fling was actually a huge turn-off. Like my question now was more about whether or not I should try to maintain the friendship or not. There are multiple yellow flags about him I ignored because I thought that because we were friends for so long, I could skip the vetting process. In other words, he's not who I thought he was, since the version of him that I had in my head would not have sex …
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 02:13 AM
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He may feel guilty? Yep. He is probably feeling guilty that he led me on to getting physical, knowing full well that I wanted something romantic. When I expressed my feelings about our time together (a week later) he brushed it off which was very cowardly of him, and honestly was kind of a turn off for me. It just sucks that such a long friendship has to end like this.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 12:57 AM
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Agreed. I guess I was hoping even if it "didn't work out" between us, we could just really remain purely platonic friends like we were before. But maybe I was fooling myself thinking it was purely platonic to begin with. It's like the When Harry Met Sally debate... Looking back now I realize he was never fully transparent with me, only when he was in a really bad place (like a really bad breakup) or tragedy or injury etc... But yeah, I agree, no point in having him around esp. when a new man com…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 12:51 AM
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Yeah. I tried ignoring him for ~2 weeks but he kept texting me every 2-4 days and finally I gave in and texted back. He was like "Oh is everything OK?"..... Like he was confused why I wasn't responding right away. Ugh...
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 12:47 AM
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Also, how would you drop the friend, especially if he keeps contacting (even if you don't respond - probably for ego reasons)? Would you tell him outright or just try to phase out of his life gradually/drop contact?
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 04:55 PM
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Honestly I sort of agree. Even personally, when I now look at this guy and think "Is this someone I would want as a role model for my future children?" in terms of any potential LTR with him, my answer is "no". If I had a friend like that I would just drop him off the face of theEarth because I would view it as disrespectful to my husband. Yeah...
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 04:22 PM
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