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Basic QuestionViriliterAge/r/askMRP04/11/16 04:12 PM
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Basic QuestionViriliterAge/r/askMRP05/11/16 05:07 PM
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ViriliterAge/r/askMRP17/10/16 05:39 PM
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Me, too. I'm solidly in those danger stages of MRP. we give men dynamite here so they can remove obstacles in their lives but many of them use it to blow their families up instead. Yes. All the tools here are fantastic, but they are dangerous if you are unable to wield them wisely. I've been finding that out the hard way. Using fogging, STFU, all the WISNIFG techniques, can be really great . . . But those techniques can be used by stupid faggots, not just true men. And if you're a stupid faggot,…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 10:22 PM
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Good recommendation. I have even more shit to own than I wrote out in this post, and it can become overwhelming. Didn't wake up at 5 today due to staying up late last night to watch the election. But, I made it to the gym, although late. Now I'm trying to get shit done at school.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 09:26 PM
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First OYS report. Captain Grade D- Definitely fit definition of "drunk captain" -- literally, lately. Spent two or three days last week not going to school, just drank and fucked around at home. Wife continues to take care of household responsibilities much more than I do, and I'm certainly not making up for it with the effort that I put into my schoolwork. The last couple of days I've made a point of taking care of things when I see them: dishes, folding laundry. I finally completed a minor hom…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/16 11:24 PM
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he doesn't know what he wants or what his mission is. This.
/r/askMRP08/11/16 11:05 PM
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"she wasn't even allowed to move out of the house" - she was an adult, she could do whatever the fuck she wanted. In theory. But, it's not my weird paranoia that FIL brainwashes his kids. After my wife, he has 10 others, all of whom live at home. Four or five of them are adults who would love to leave, but are terrified to. He tells his kids "I love you and I never want you to leave." Leaving is betrayal. FIL is not physically abusive, but I've never run across anyone who better fits the definit…
/r/askMRP07/11/16 04:25 PM
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Yes, I think there is a conflict between what I want to do and what I think I should do. Problem is, too much introspection often leaves me even more confused. Plus, I've made too many decisions to go back and do some of the other things I thought I'd like to do. Did too many drugs in my youth to join the military. Got married, so I can't become a monk. Definitely need to quit drinking. For a long time. It seems like you need her more than she needs you and that has to change. This is true. I th…
/r/askMRP07/11/16 03:52 PM
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I mentioned my reasons in my post. (1) FIL tries constantly to keep my wife in his sphere of influence, or to drag her back into it. This is one of his moves. He doesn't care so much about having her and the kids over; he cares much more about making sure she isn't staying with my family. Any influences other than him are bad. (No joke, she wasn't even allowed to move out of the house until we got married--when she was 24. She tried, once. It was bad.) (2) We have (she has) done a good job being…
/r/askMRP07/11/16 03:40 PM
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That's weird. I'm 5'8'', why?
/r/askMRP07/11/16 03:30 PM
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Well, shit. I think you're right. A big part of me is just being a coward about calling him. But, it is also true that FIL will use that call as another stick to beat my wife with, and I don't want that to happen.
/r/askMRP05/11/16 09:53 PM
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OK, I will do this. She's reluctant to use "ViriliterAge doesn't want me to do this" as an excuse, because her folks will accuse her of letting me walk all over her. But, I think I just need to make that the rule: "Tell your parents that I don't want you/my kids doing this, and if they have a problem with that, they can call me." Unfortunately, I don't have a good solution if I put my foot down but my wife caves in to her dad anyway. OI? Consequences?
/r/askMRP05/11/16 08:02 PM
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No, I've got student loans, and my parents have been helping us out financially, too. Not an ideal situation, I know, but fortunately it'll all be over in a year. I'm reluctant to accept anything, ever, from FIL, because with him it's always one giant covert contract. He's a mechanic, but having him help fix the car "for free" turns into an open-ended obligation for wife to do what he wants out of "gratitude."
/r/askMRP05/11/16 07:40 PM
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Well, the kids going with her is a no-brainer. She's a SAHM, and I'm at school almost all day. The only other solution that's coming to mind is to have her drive back and forth twice a week, rather than stay overnight for 3 days. That's just a lot of gas money and a lot of time in the car with two little kids. Your kids. Your wife. She's to forsake all others remember? You need to get reacquainted with your spine man. So, what do you suggest? I've explained why it could be a bad idea to call FIL…
/r/askMRP05/11/16 07:14 PM
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No, no, I wasn't dissing your argument, just expressing my frustration. I think you're right; I wasn't kidding that I was going to make that my motto. Discipline is a choice, not a feeling.
/r/askMRP05/11/16 07:05 PM
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Unfortunately, calling FIL myself would raise a host of problems. See edit above.
/r/askMRP05/11/16 05:36 PM
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Wife really doesn't want me to call FIL: see edit above. And, the medical treatment isn't super serious. It is something we could easily delay for a while, but we figured we'd get it taken care of now instead of waiting for our insurance to be even worse than it already is. So, it's not like she's debilitated.
/r/askMRP05/11/16 05:25 PM
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These are great suggestions. I'd have to think hard about how to modify and add to them to address my own problems. That, I'm afraid, is part of my problem. As /u/RuleZeroDAD suggested below, I really need to think through my core habits and do some serious soul searching. And, so far, I've been trying to put patches on things. I've learned enough about my soul to be scared shitless of looking too hard at it. A big step would probably be to become more detached and less caught up in my own ego. …
/r/askMRP05/11/16 04:47 PM
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All right, that's going to become my new motto. ...except, now I'm feeling motivated to do things because they suck. That's bound to wear off, and then where am I? You can't just snap your fingers and become disciplined.
/r/askMRP05/11/16 04:41 PM
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Yes, that is actually "working smart." It also requires working hard, in the sense that you actually have to put in the work to plan, prep, etc. Which requires motivation, or, better discipline. Also, I can't believe it took this long for someone to call me a faggot.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 05:57 PM
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For me, at least, "working smart" is a way to skate by with minimal effort. Enough to pass, maybe even pass well because I'm moderately smart, but not nearly enough effort to do something I'm proud of, something that represents my best. For most of my life, I've been succeeding, despite my best efforts to fail, because I can "work smart." /u/RuleZeroDAD - I'm going to give your questions some serious thought. Thanks for staying on my ass.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 05:45 PM
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Working on it. But all to often, "What does not kill me makes me stronger," turns into, "What does not kill me leaves me maimed and broken." Still, today's a new day. Picking myself up, trying to push the black away and get my shit done. Thanks.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 05:34 PM
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That's really true. I get motivated and kick ass for a few days or weeks, but then the motivation wanes and I can't keep it going. Being disciplined has been a struggle for me for a long time. In some ways, I think it's due to an "all or nothing" attitude, which makes it hard to keep small gains. Like, I didn't go to the gym and spent all day drinking and being a faggot, so now why should I even bother flossing my teeth? That may seem like a non sequitur, but most of the suggestions I read for b…
/r/askMRP04/11/16 05:32 PM
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I'll give this a try. Thanks.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 05:29 PM
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That's good advice. Failure can lead to a depressive cycle. Or, depression can lead to a cycle of failure. It's really easy to wake up and think, "Fuck, I really blew it yesterday. I'm just going to crack a beer or 12 and sit out today, too." Sometimes I wake up thinking, This is it, I'm going to take a shower and get the fuck out of here. Then, I wind up back on the couch, never getting outside. Just leaving the house would have been a victory.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 05:29 PM
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Thanks, man. But what do you do when you fuck up and don't stick to your plan? How do you cope with the repeated discouragement of not following through?
/r/askMRP04/11/16 04:22 PM
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See this post from the main sub. So much good info.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 09:11 PM
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I can vouch for drinking a gallon of whole milk a day (GOMAD). I have a hard time putting on weight, but then I committed to GOMAD on top of my normal daily meals. I gained 8 pounds in two weeks. The gains were impressive, but it was mostly fat, and I thought it was happening too fast. I started worrying about stretch marks, so I quit GOMAD and just started eating a lot more. Still gaining, just not so fast, and without 50% of my daily calories coming from fat.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 08:58 PM
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Good job, man! That's an uplifting FR. I don't have an answer to your question; I'm just getting started, too. It certainly sounds like you're off to a good start. I just wanted to give you props.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 06:49 PM
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Well, that's a pretty good guess. I think FIL does think that, and my wife has just about confirmed as much. I've tried talking with him, throwing a ball around, that kind of thing. It works for a while. However, he doesn't really know how to relate, and still tries these weird I'm-joking-but-I'm-really-not power plays. I recently stopped playing along with those, but apparently that's made me come across as condescending and rude (according to my wife). I don't want to be rude, but I'm not goin…
/r/askMRP18/10/16 04:46 PM
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Look at Catholic schools. I bet 95% of young women graduation from those would call themselves atheist to their best friends. Alas, another reason to avoid Catholic schools. Even Abp. Sheen, way back when, said something like, "If you want your children to lose their faith, send them to Catholic school. If you want your children to fight for their faith, send them to public school." I've tried putting my foot down in the past, but it usually blows up in my face. For instance, the last time we ta…
/r/askMRP18/10/16 03:27 PM
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I don't think MRP is going to work on this one. Your wife is in her father's frame. They are enmeshed. I don't see her leaving his frame even when he's dead. You will never be the captain. Well, that's grim. I hope you're wrong. I think bringing in 3d parties is a good idea. I've thought about having the two of us talk with our pastor together, although she's reluctant to air our dirty laundry in public. She is adamantly refused to couples' counseling, but maybe that's just as well.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 03:20 PM
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OK, fair, I was kind of being a whiny bitch. This is a victim puke, after all. But, whining aside, it does seem like countering such a domineering FIL is going to require some different tactics than just out-alphaing some random manly-man.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 12:34 PM
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OK, what? Surely you're not suggesting a real man manipulates, guilt trips, and emotionally abuses his wife and kids to get his way. So what do you mean? My goal is to become more alpha than him, so my wife stops being so attached to him, but to do so in a way that isn't as fucked up as his methods (which are bad, but I'll spare you examples right now).
/r/askMRP18/10/16 12:40 AM
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Why the fuck would I be a troll?
/r/askMRP18/10/16 12:28 AM
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The Church is a gigantic shit test. What do you mean? Remember that I am a believing Catholic, even if a remarkably bad one. So, if you just mean that religion is a crock of shit to control people, I'm not interested. But, if you meant something else, please explain.
/r/askMRP17/10/16 11:52 PM
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I looked through /u/thefamilyalpha's posts, but I can't find the one to which you're referring. Do you know what it was called? I think you're right, in general. FIL has imprinted himself on her brain far more thoroughly than I could. I've got a lot of work to do to out-alpha, or out-dominate him. Unfortunately, I don't want to pull the same emotionally abusive, guilt-tripping bullshit that he uses on his kids. So, it's not really a fair fight. I not only have to be manlier, I have to do so with…
/r/askMRP17/10/16 10:16 PM
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Oh, jeez, the stuff with my sister. So, it basically started when my then-fiancee and I decided my sister didn't need to me a bridesmaid at our wedding. I didn't straight out tell her that we had decided not to include her, but just let it slide like a non-confrontational coward. When my sister found out that not only was she not included, but all of my wife's 10 siblings were included, she was rather pissed. Then, wife (W) didn't approve of sister's (S's) lifestyle: she drank too much, and live…
/r/askMRP17/10/16 09:38 PM
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Great advice, thanks. At least she doesn't know about the drinking.
/r/askMRP17/10/16 09:28 PM
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She has solid frame. That's why she's winning. Yes. And my frame sucks. How the fuck to I start strengthening it? I'm worried about going super-alpha right off the bat and fucking the whole thing up. So, where do I start?
/r/askMRP17/10/16 09:26 PM
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OK, nice analogy. But how do I start winning races? Yes, yes, start lifting. OK, will start again. But after that? What stage am I at? Do I just STFU right now?
/r/askMRP17/10/16 09:25 PM
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You owe me $100. Actually, I've noticed he's the one who won't make eye contact with me these days. I'll shake his hands, look him straight in the eyes, and he just looks off to the side and doesn't even get out of his chair most of the time. But, you're right, I am a fucking pussy when it comes to talking with him about shit. I'm non-confrontational through and through, which I guess is a nice euphemism for "coward." I know I even have an advantage over him, namely, he's scared of pissing me of…
/r/askMRP17/10/16 09:24 PM
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My wife understands receiving commands, but the only one she will receive them from is her dad. She has told me that she "has a hard time with" or simply "doesn't agree with" the biblical idea that the wife should submit to her husband, despite how "traditional" she wants to be. Her daddy says she shouldn't submit to me, anyway. She and I have been through the ringer on this question a few times, and it's ended badly for me. (In fact, I've noticed that a relatively common problem in our circles …
/r/askMRP17/10/16 09:19 PM
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That's some good advice. But, I don't think I'm strong enough yet to tell her it's my way or the highway. If it's a fight, I am unlikely to win. I may not buckle, but we'll end in a bloody stalemate. And I'm confident that she'd just leave and take the kids to her parents' house if I told her she could walk. How the fuck can I hang onto the kids, if I'm out at school or at work all day long? So, given that I can't win a standoff just yet, what should I be working on? Besides lifting-- will start…
/r/askMRP17/10/16 09:11 PM
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My wife would actually love to work again; she's been pretty bitter about having to stop working so soon after we got married. I actually have strongly discouraged her from working, on the theory that her job is to take care of the domestic duties while I work for the family outside the home. Should I rethink that theory, in your opinion? She will almost certainly try and get a job once the kids are in school... if they ever get there. My worry about her getting a job now is that the only people…
/r/askMRP17/10/16 09:07 PM
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I'm a major procrastinator. This is good advice.
/r/askMRP17/10/16 08:59 PM
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Agreed. Wife: "But there's no reason for them to have to think about those things when they're so young! That's just wrong! They shouldn't have that in their heads until they're older! Plus, kids are so easily manipulated that they'll just do anything their friends tell them to do. After all, you drank and did drugs and had sex, and you went to school!"
/r/askMRP17/10/16 06:18 PM
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Thanks, that's a kick in the ass I needed. Your comments raise 2 further problems: Parochial school: My wife distrusts parochial schools more than public schools. Her dear daddy was in a Catholic high school and swears that it was more fucked up than public school. She's so far been unwilling even to meet with principals or even consider it. Mindset change: It's fairly accurate to say I've been reactive, not proactive, for most of my life. How the fuck do I make that change? When I think about t…
/r/askMRP17/10/16 06:16 PM
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