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| 5 | How is this supposed to work for guys who have ADHD?I have ADHD and it's a strength. You can be more creative socially, and you're better at holding girls' attention than most because you know what it's like to get bored easily. This comes in handy in chaotic environments like bars and nightclubs. | /r/seduction | 18/07/26 10:27 PM |
| 2 | An escort gave me confidence: report on self esteem,ED +field reportThe prostitution thing *can* work for some guys, but for others it can only make it worse. Double-edged sword. Tread carefully with that for any guys reading. The biggest issue I have here is when you said "a prostitute is cheaper than having a girlfriend" which is not how it should be at all but that's more of a debate for an economics sub than a seduction one. The economy is shit currently. | /r/seduction | 06/07/26 08:41 PM |
| 2 | How do you deal with hostile women who use not being attracted to you as an insult?Look up the old-school cocky-funny stuff. It works well with girls like that. You can't be too cocky and not funny enough, and you can't be too funny and not cocky enough. You need the right %age of cocky and the right %age of funny at the same time for it to work. When you combine cocky and funny it communicates all the right things. Especially with a more "alpha" girl like that. But aside from tactics, just don't let anything she says have any effect on you. It's not even really about cocky/fu… | /r/seduction | 06/07/26 02:29 AM |
| -2 | only attracted to women who are as fit as I amCold approach if dating apps don't work. However I still get hotties on the apps. I have Tinder platinum which allows you to hide your age. I set my age younger and then hide it, and put my real age in my bio so I'm not lying. The point is just to be able to show up in their results. When you have good pics, you're hitting Mystery's attraction triggers, you still get a lot of matches from that. | /r/seduction | 05/07/26 05:20 PM |
| 7 | only attracted to women who are as fit as I amI've known guys in their 50s who pulled girls in their 20s all the time. A guy I know is a dating coach and he helped one of his clients who was in his 60s bang an 18 year old waitress. As long as you're taking care of yourself and remaining in great physical shape, and you have good game, the age thing is def all in your head. Some girls have a hard rule where they don't want to date guys 30+ years older than them but honestly not even the hottest ones from my experience. That said, girls in th… | /r/seduction | 05/07/26 05:17 PM |
| 16 | only attracted to women who are as fit as I amIf I were you I would just date the girls in their 20s and just say fuck the social stigma. I'm 38 and I date girls in their 20s all the time. Sometimes there are stares but it never even bothers me anymore. You only live once. | /r/seduction | 05/07/26 12:54 AM |
| 1 | Tokyo/Yokohama+1 for Shinjuku it's SO good for game. | /r/seduction | 29/06/26 03:33 AM |
| 1 | I've been doing pickup for almost 15 years and now I feel convinced that its a scam and/or a waste of time?Something tells me you have never sought out guys who were very good at this. That's your first mistake. The guys who are best at this are not the ones teaching it usually. You need to see them in action and verify their skill for yourself. | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 06:58 PM |
| 11 | How to get laid if i dont drink alcohol?Go to the bar and order seltzer or tonic water with a lime and bitters. Tastes just like alcohol, if you're talking to a girl and she takes a sip of it she'll think it's alcohol too. It helps just to have something in your hand and be drinking something. You won't even remember you're not drinking alcohol. Also, still tip the bartender for it when you order in case that needed to be said. | /r/seduction | 06/06/26 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Best current PUA system? (Better than ToddV?)You own who you are, what you're about, and then you let the chips fall where they may. Women are not these complex beings that require you to push pull and do all the stupid mental gymnastics stuff Todd V poisonously teaches. They're looking primarily at whether you believe in yourself, whether you're proud of yourself, how you feel about yourself and whether you believe you're worthy of her and you together. And they have a heightened ability to sense those things, to sense your intentions. So… | /r/seduction | 30/05/26 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Best current PUA system? (Better than ToddV?)Todd V gives you the recipe and then tells you to add arsenic. | /r/seduction | 30/05/26 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Best current PUA system? (Better than ToddV?)NO. Teasing energy and push-pull will NOT get you farther with hotter girls. In fact many times it accomplishes the opposite. More authenticity and a developed self to the point where you can act like your normal fucking self around her even if she's hot, is the key to hotter girls. Hotter girls are surrounded by guys who try all this stupid gimmicky bullshit where they think just because she's hot, she needs all these extra mind games but she can see RIGHT THROUGH IT. Believe me I've been aroun… | /r/seduction | 30/05/26 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Best current PUA system? (Better than ToddV?)Todd V pedantically overanalyzes. It's not a good system. You don't need to microcalibrate yourself into mental masturbation you will inadvertently drive away the girl. Just because a system has more "moving parts" and nuances does not mean it's a better system. In Todd V's case, it's quite the contrary. His system has you focusing on too many subtleties that don't actually matter. Like oh how do I set up xyz frame so she can think I'm not this person I'm afraid she'll see me as. Knock it off. I… | /r/seduction | 30/05/26 09:09 AM |
| 1 | anyone ever been to an orgy?Idk in order to get inside an orgy with hot chicks at it you gotta know people man. Otherwise you'll show up and it'll be fat women or just women who clearly don't take care of themselves. | /r/seduction | 27/05/26 03:27 PM |
| 2 | Help. Girls become upset and feel betrayed when they don't become my girlfriend.Yeah some girls will only hear what they want to hear. Part of it is about finding girls who are looking for only physical, part of it is in how you come off/not giving off boyfriend energy. | /r/seduction | 18/05/26 11:06 AM |
| 2 | RSD is Back!Oh man they're about to poison a whole new generation of men with "high-vibrational energy" | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 02:43 AM |
| 1 | My most vulnerable post here so farI have been freelancing and building online businesses since 2014. | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 10:26 AM |
| 1 | My most vulnerable post here so farSure man not on IG a lot mostly use it for business. But just followed you @ drewcer | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 10:25 AM |
| 10 | My most vulnerable post here so farUh yeah welcome to the game lol. I try to tell the guys who can't approach and live in this giant vacuum of fear and pain and overanalysis that it literally becomes addictive. I've known tons of guys who got hardcore addicted to it. Didn't do anything else. Guys who ended up broke and homeless because they didn't want to do anything besides pick up girls. It's the most addictive thing in the world. And your biology is wired to seek it out to pass on your genes, so nothing else matters. For me I … | /r/seduction | 09/05/26 01:14 AM |
| 4 | For those who are very experienced with women, has dating made you trust them less?I treat every girl like she has to prove I can trust her before I will blindly trust her. It's a good method. I have been dating women before who told me I was closed off and they wanted me to open up. I don't do it though. I just laugh at them like it's cute that they think that. As a well-informed man, you can only "let in" women who have proven themselves. And even then, it helps to have an element of yourself as a man that you never reveal to your woman. Don't get tempted, no matter what a w… | /r/seduction | 23/04/26 03:55 PM |
| 2 | Men with high bodycount. Your experience?My bodycount is in the mid triple digits. Age 37. I think that's bullshit. Throughout all of human history people have concocted religious and spiritual reasons to dissuade others from procreating. It comes from hunter-gatherer times when the tribe was small and so were your opportunities to mate. So if you could successfully dissuade others from spreading their genes to the next generation, it would raise your chances of doing so. In the modern day we don't live in tribes anymore and that's no … | /r/seduction | 20/04/26 12:56 PM |
| 3 | so my friend introduced me to a girl whom he was chatting on hinge and offered me to set me up with her and i said ok.Do I need to call the CIA and tell them their alien escaped bro it's called a normal human dating process just tell her what you want. | /r/seduction | 14/04/26 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Dating intentions for MaleI fucking hate people who say this. No. Your buddy is wrong and probably never gets laid. Women like it when you put it all out in the open and show them your intentions. Like wtf were you planning on breaking it to her later that you want to bang her? Ffs, learn direct game first it will get you more girls than you can handle. ONLY after you learn direct game, and have your cup runnething over with women, that's when you can start integrating indirect game. Do not use indirect as a reason to hi… | /r/seduction | 07/04/26 12:20 AM |
| 2 | How to balance between girls and having a lifeThis is one of the great conundrums of our time. I don't have an answer to it. I'll just leave you with the wise words of the prophet Kanye: "I don't know what's better: getting laid or getting paid. I just know when I'm getting one, the other's getting away." | /r/seduction | 07/04/26 12:04 AM |
| 1 | I really want 8s and 9s but I only can attract 5s and 6sSo true. Most guys in this sub are just coping. | /r/seduction | 31/03/26 05:46 PM |
| 3 | I really want 8s and 9s but I only can attract 5s and 6sI'm not on their radar Okay I hate to be the guy who bears the bad news all the time on this sub but I gotta tell the truth. You're NEVER gonna be on their radar until you fucking approach them dude. No one will just "end up" on a beautiful woman's radar without approaching her. Unless you have some position of influence or leadership which is also a good option. But approaching them is the easiest and quickest way to do it. They literally don't even respect a guy who can't do that. After that, … | /r/seduction | 31/03/26 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Does fucking 4s or below help you in any way with getting 5s and up?No it doesn't. Any girl who you would wince as you put your dick in, don't fuck. | /r/seduction | 30/03/26 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Base level attraction matters — no game can override itNobody knows who that guy is. His game is obviously very intermediate. Trust me if you're a newbie you have no clue what good game looks like. You're looking for the wrong things. That said, nobody bats 1000. If you are going out at all, you understand that rejection is part of the process, and that it means nothing about you. | /r/seduction | 26/03/26 09:39 PM |
| 1 | How would you schedule first dates in a cold, expensive city with plenty of free time?Drinks or coffee. If you can't afford drinks or coffee you need to get a job bro. | /r/seduction | 26/03/26 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Base level attraction matters — no game can override itDude those videos already exist. They used to be on YouTube but they got banned from the platform. But I assure you, it would be nothing new if I did it. | /r/seduction | 25/03/26 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Base level attraction matters — no game can override itThen you weren't fucking doing it right man. Simple as that. | /r/seduction | 25/03/26 01:41 AM |
| 25 | Is getting hot girls still fun if you’re a late bloomer? Like a virgin in your 20s or older?You're 23 and you think you're a late bloomer. That's hilarious. | /r/seduction | 21/03/26 07:12 PM |
| 1 | How the game works?If you want to never improve and just spin around in circles for years - and certainly feel like you're improving, but never actually get any women - then go with adam lyons and gambler. Mystery is the OG. A lot of his stuff I think over-complicates the game. It's much more straightforward in reality than he makes it. If you read mystery, I'd pay attention to the attitudes, concepts, and the principles he is operating on rather than the specific strategies. His Revelation book is better than The… | /r/seduction | 21/03/26 06:56 PM |
| 7 | Looksmaxxing is either true or false. Either way, it's terrifyingI didn't read any of that but I can tell you it's probably stupid. Focus on what you can control, fuck the rest. | /r/seduction | 19/03/26 10:44 PM |
| 2 | This is WAY too easy now!Yup. Keep going bro. | /r/seduction | 19/03/26 05:33 PM |
| 1 | I have zero self-esteem. Like nothingYeah, there is no such thing as being able to attract 100% of women. I have personally gamed with some of the best guys in the world at this. And they all still get rejected. Anyone who claims they're batting 1000 is lying. | /r/seduction | 19/03/26 04:14 AM |
| 1 | I have zero self-esteem. Like nothingOk so you do a good job on shit. That's a start. I think you're downplaying the good qualities about you. No homo. Literally if a girl refuses to sleep with you, your thought process needs to be like, "Damn, her loss. I do a good job on shit and people compliment me all the time on that." Like there's no objective reason women want men. It's all subjective really. If you pride yourself on something you do, they will like you. It literally doesn't matter what that thing is. They just feel it comi… | /r/seduction | 18/03/26 09:06 PM |
| 1 | I have zero self-esteem. Like nothingWell I don't know anything about you so I can't tell you what it is. But you gotta be on the lookout for dope shit about yourself man. Someone had to have given you a compliment at some point lol. | /r/seduction | 18/03/26 08:50 PM |
| 2 | I have zero self-esteem. Like nothingIf it's any consolation, the dude who recommended you bang the girl he banged originally saw you as equal value to him. I don't think you even saw that. He completely thought it would be normal for you to bang that girl too, and wanted to be eskimo brothers with you. The idea that she wouldn't be into you came completely from you, and you alone. I think that's worth pointing out. So yeah, your negative self-esteem is all in your head. Maybe you have childhood experiences that caused or something… | /r/seduction | 18/03/26 07:51 PM |
| 1 | I need some help with texting😅Move it toward an in-person meetup over text. Also don't wait to text her, right after she replies is the best time to text her again because she's in front of her phone. | /r/seduction | 18/03/26 07:36 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys learn game?Mystery Method is more of an end-to-end system, although I think it overcomplicates the game a lot. The tips from youtube are often trash. You need to work on things that actually apply to your sticking points, not just whatever Bobby McPUA is talking about this week on his youtube channel. Most often you have to pay for those things. Free resources will only get you so far. | /r/seduction | 18/03/26 07:32 PM |
| 1 | I hate him, but am I wrong for wanting some of the kind of attention that Clavicular is getting?Your comment is extremely retarded and short-sighted. Men have gotten laid for millions of years without knowing why. Just because they don't know why doesn't mean they weren't inadvertently doing a behavior worked to attract women. In fact that's what the entire evolution of our species has been built on. Since tribal times women have selected mates who had no idea why what they were doing was working, but it was. Additionally men who were celebrities in popular culture have always had women gr… | /r/seduction | 16/03/26 09:48 PM |
| 1 | I hate him, but am I wrong for wanting some of the kind of attention that Clavicular is getting?Dude clavicular doesn't even know why what he's doing is working. It's not because he's tall and pretty. Trust me. I am not unattractive but I'm much older than him (37) and have 15+ years more experience than him cold approaching. I have literally been looking for that motherfucker out in Miami because I want to steal girls off of him in front of his whole livestream audience. Back in the day one of my mentors in the game used to steal girls off of Todd V while he was shooting infield and still… | /r/seduction | 16/03/26 05:49 PM |
| 2 | be honest with me....is it over?yeah you know I didn't really like the subtle art of not giving a fuck either. For such a promising title it didn't deliver very much at all, it felt like it was entirely rehashed pop psychology and internet memes. | /r/seduction | 15/03/26 06:01 PM |
| 2 | be honest with me....is it over?Lol the only women who are against age gaps are 40+ women because they don't want young women to steal all their dating prospects. Even the married ones do this because it's a biological instinct. If you're 24 you have a long time before age gap relationships can be a reality for you dude lmao but to any older guys I think the most important one is to just not "try" to be or act younger. Show up as a guy who is at a later stage in life than her and is owning it, and who wants to invite her into … | /r/seduction | 15/03/26 05:52 PM |
| 23 | be honest with me....is it over?Like motherfucker just get out there get into a party area and talk to women it's so much easier than you think. I'm 37 I'm in ft lauderdale right now and I just made out with a 23 year old blonde girl on the ft lauderdale strip. Don't be telling me it's over for you, most guys don't even know how to talk to girls until they're at least 30. Get the fuck out there and talk to girls the more you do it the better you'll be. End of story. | /r/seduction | 14/03/26 11:36 PM |
| 0 | If you had to pick a career to meet women, what would you choose?I was in speech pathology and was literally the only guy in my master's degree program. Also I loved being a TA, it gave me automatic status with undergrad girls. I'm not working in the profession anymore, not that I don't like it, I just wanted to be more entrepreneurial when I got out of grad school and went a completely different route. It's more of a DHV to girls you cold approach when you're a self-starter and know how to be entrepreneurial. I want to say, be careful what you wish for going… | /r/seduction | 14/03/26 01:09 PM |
| 2 | Thinking of visiting Madrid or Barcelona?oooooh barcelona... you're making me jealous just suggesting it. | /r/seduction | 13/03/26 04:52 PM |
| 3 | lets say you live in the suburbsNo man you're always in the field. I have approached at target many times before. Often there are hotter girls at target than any other store. Idk what it is, the fucking picture frames attract them there or something. | /r/seduction | 13/03/26 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Spring break hookup guide cheaplyhaha my game is largely mindset + personality + moving the interaction forward & having a plan. Nothing guys on here haven't seen before. But I may have some down time to write it all out in a little while I nurse my fucking sunburn. I have banged 3 girls this week and 1 last weekend. All of them above an 8, one was a solid 9. Ft Laudy is soooo good right now. | /r/seduction | 12/03/26 06:48 PM |
| 1 | What Are Some Misconceptions That You Learned About The Dating Game?The dating game is pretty much nothing BUT misconceptions from my experience. | /r/seduction | 12/03/26 06:05 PM |
| 0 | Miami exposed how bad validation seeking really is.I don't know if you needed someone to tell you this but you did Miami wrong. | /r/seduction | 10/03/26 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Spring break hookup guide cheaplyI am in Fort Lauderdale right now and it's arguably better here than in Miami right now. But my point is, I'm not following any of this shit and I'm still getting laid. | /r/seduction | 10/03/26 09:20 PM |
| 3 | Kissing and making out on date is rookie moveLol listen bro. You can make out with a girl and then in the next breath tell her you have no sexual expectations as you invite her back to your place. That works very very consistently. Making out does not automatically mean sexual expectations unless you don't talk about it and set the record straight. Stop preaching this shit you have no experience with. | /r/seduction | 10/03/26 09:19 PM |
| 5 | Kissing and making out on date is rookie moveThis is retarded advice, making out is fine just it has to go somewhere. You're focusing on the wrong thing. What's more important than analyzing how heavily to make out with her is making sure you can get her to a private place to fuck with plausible deniability and making sure the "slut" pressure is taken off of her. This part is totally factually incorrect and just OP mentally masturbating: Making out like a teenager on a date is a rookie move. It shows you would totally have sex with her if … | /r/seduction | 10/03/26 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Man approached me on the street and asked if I was married… why so forward?Yeah it's an efficiency thing. Seeing as you don't know which women will be available before you approach them, it's a numbers game to an extent. Before long, approaching girls just feels like opening a door to see what's behind it. You open some doors and the girl isn't available. Why would you beat around the bush to figure that out? Cutting to the chase is better for everyone. | /r/seduction | 10/03/26 03:58 AM |
| 4 | College server: are we overthinking this?Most guys posting advice on here don't get laid. Do direct approaches. | /r/seduction | 07/03/26 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Previous high interest girls “forget” they ever had high interest for no reason?Female attraction is dynamic. Men don't understand it because when we're attracted to a girl, there's not much that she can do to make us lose attraction unless she gains 400lbs. And that takes a while. So for men, attraction is static. It changes very slowly. But women can lose attraction on a moment's notice. Because their attraction is based on your behavior. It can flip on a dime. It would be like talking to a hot girl, she does something, and it suddenly makes her gain 400lbs. That's what i… | /r/seduction | 05/03/26 02:56 AM |
| 1 | How the game works?Read the Mystery Method dude. | /r/seduction | 28/02/26 02:38 PM |
| 8 | First time Japan as a couple. Where can we meet girlsShinjuku or Shibuya. I traveled all around Japan, I was pretty adaptable to their culture. A lot of women in Japan are not open to dating or sleeping with foreigners outside of big cities like Tokyo or Sapporo. I banged 2 girls in a week in Shinjuku (area of Tokyo). Explore the nightlife there. There's some nightlife in Shibuya as well but from my experience it felt more lively in Shinjuku. You have to do the approaching and move the whole interaction forward every step of the way, as it's a pre… | /r/seduction | 25/02/26 06:54 AM |
| 3 | Does content creation make me less attractive?If you're trying to gauge how much girls like you by how much they view your IG stories, you're doing it wrong and you need more social interaction. Fuck IG altogether. Get girls out in real life and go on dates with them. | /r/seduction | 23/02/26 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Let’s Bring Back Pick UpHey man I'm doing my part. I do notice I lead by example for some guys. A lot of them can't unglue their eyes from social media long enough to notice it happening. I think though that as more and more of the Internet gets filled with AI slop over the coming years, we'll see a resurgence in social interaction outside the home. And people going out again. | /r/seduction | 23/02/26 03:21 AM |
| 7 | Am I a bitch?Don't seduce girls you aren't attracted to. You're just doing that because it's easy, and you didn't value it for the same reason. Truth is, you're not really doing "seduction" at all. If what you're saying is true you just took advantage of a chick who probably doesn't get a lot of attention from guys. Literally anyone can do that. The point of learning this is to get the girls you thought were out of your league before. And prove to yourself you're worthy of more than you thought. | /r/seduction | 23/02/26 03:15 AM |
| 4 | Insecurity about my age?Lol that's funny. When I was 28 I started feeling awkward about being older. But now that I'm 37 and still doing it I've gotten used to being older and it's a huge advantage when I go out. If there's one thing I've learned in the game it's that you can turn anything into your advantage. | /r/seduction | 10/02/26 02:43 AM |
| 1 | Does the after party ploy really work?Lol I'm not trying to be political by saying that. I'm referring to types of women who might consider themselves creative or open-minded for lack of a better word. It's not a really good description because it's more of the mindset of non-monogamy, or the kind of feminist who thinks it's empowering to sleep around. That type also has septum piercings a lot, green or blue hair, majored in something artistic in college, etc. You know the type I'm talking about. And I'm not hating on them either. I… | /r/seduction | 07/02/26 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Does the after party ploy really work?The after party thing was WAY overplayed in the 2010s because of RSD. You'd go to the bar and overhear five guys like "Oh yeah I've got an afterparty!!!" lol. It doesn't need to be an afterparty. I'd argue it's been so overplayed that you shouldn't do it at all. BUT it's not optimal to straight-up "ask for a shag" as the other commenter said, unless the girl is one of those woke "sex positive" types. All other girls, even if they desperately want to sleep with you, will very rarely agree to just… | /r/seduction | 07/02/26 06:23 PM |
| 13 | Dating advice for submissive guysLol what has this sub devolved to. | /r/seduction | 07/02/26 06:06 PM |
| 1 | What exactly is 'The Game' ?The Mystery Method isn't even his best book. Read Revelation. It's where all the juice is. | /r/seduction | 01/02/26 01:12 AM |
| 2 | Base level attraction matters — no game can override ityes, thats exactly the problem for most. Most guys can't even get enough initial interest from a variety of women to have a chance at anything further than that. They can't get in the door to show their leadership qualities and all that shit You don't even know how frustrating this is for me. Essentially if you are experiencing "I can't get my foot in the door" it means you're not being a leader enough. If you think you're doing all the "things" that work, but they're not working, then you're no… | /r/seduction | 31/01/26 10:00 PM |
| 1 | Base level attraction matters — no game can override itObviously not, or they wouldn't be posting crying that they can't get women. | /r/seduction | 31/01/26 09:41 PM |
| 7 | Base level attraction matters — no game can override itThis comment is full of so much cope and bullshit I can't even fathom it. Women do not experience attraction like men experience attraction. Women carry the babies. Their genes are basically guaranteed to go to the next generation. Men aren't equipped with the ability to birth children. Their genes are not guaranteed to reach the next generation, unless they can attract a woman. Our brains have been wired by evolution to feel attraction based on that simple mechanism for millions upon millions o… | /r/seduction | 31/01/26 04:37 AM |
| 1 | Base level attraction matters — no game can override itThis is a wholly untrue post but I don't have the patience to type out why you're wrong. You have to just read the fucking mystery method, go into the field, try it, and see it for yourself. Attraction can ABSOLUTELY be created when it wasn't there before. A LOT of the time. Especially when you display certain traits/qualities and separate yourself from all the other chodes out there. But there are so many dudes on this forum hell bent on this deterministic bullshit. I'm not going to argue with … | /r/seduction | 31/01/26 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Those of you who don't get rejected...Getting rejected is nothing personal because nobody can form a real opinion about you based on 2 seconds of interaction. So when they're rejecting you, they're not really rejecting YOU. They're just rejecting how you appeared to them. Which, to the extent that it's based on the girl's own preconceptions and biases, is outside of your control. To the extent that it's based on your appearance, vibe, body language, voice tone, eye contact, etc - it IS in your control. So control what you can to rai… | /r/seduction | 30/01/26 01:58 AM |
| 1 | Bad 2025, almost 40, missed opportunities, feeling lost, depressed and sexually frustratedCan vouch on early 20s. Not all of them, but I'd venture to say the majority of them if your game is dialed in. (Most 40yo men don't have dialed in game though and have let themselves go). | /r/seduction | 30/01/26 01:49 AM |
| 1 | If there's any problem with the "assume rapport" idea, this may be itYou're in no position to claim that every chode out there is deluded to think he can't get with the girl he wants. Yes I am. He doesn't have to actually do it yet, he just has to believe it. I genuinely didn't think guys would so viciously defend their right to believe that women aren't attracted to them lol. God, is that toxic! Knock it off! With women, most of the stuff you believe becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Hard to communicate why without going much deeper. But until you try it, you'… | /r/seduction | 29/01/26 01:30 AM |
| 1 | If there's any problem with the "assume rapport" idea, this may be itHard to know what's going on. All you need to see happen is for a girl to reject you like that once, then do something that generates attraction and watch her change her tune. Attraction is behavioral for women. Which means it's dynamic. Ever-changing. It can flip on a dime depending on how you act. For men, attraction is pretty static. Our attraction for a woman can't really change over the course of a night. The inexperienced guys often assume female attraction is the same, but it's not. You n… | /r/seduction | 29/01/26 12:54 AM |
| 1 | Juggler - Charisma Arts Bootcamp uploadHaha wow this is old school! | /r/seduction | 27/01/26 02:31 AM |
| 1 | How do you have "fun" while in nightclubs?Maybe I'm being a stereotypical narcissist player but most of the guys "sharing information" on this forum I don't have time for. Because it's not coming from experience or the field of play. It's coming from their imagination. I'm not saying that's you, I didn't even read what you wrote. But it's a symptom of coming back to this forum from time to time and being disappointed by the takes over and over again. Because they're not based in reality. The guys who claim they have experience with wome… | /r/seduction | 27/01/26 12:08 AM |
| 1 | If there's any problem with the "assume rapport" idea, this may be itI think you're overanalyzing it. My genuine hope for you is that you will one day understand how to assume attraction from the get-go. It literally makes a night and day difference. | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 11:54 PM |
| 1 | If there's any problem with the "assume rapport" idea, this may be itagree to disagree buddy. | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 02:10 PM |
| 9 | Bad 2025, almost 40, missed opportunities, feeling lost, depressed and sexually frustratedI guarantee you that if you had just approached other women when that girl started straying from you in Europe, and you made sure she could see it, she would have come running back to you. | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 02:07 PM |
| 1 | If there's any problem with the "assume rapport" idea, this may be itI began this thread by saying I assume attraction every single time. And it was immediately attacked by guys with zero experience. I am okay with embracing dichotomies. Most people aren't. I have been approaching women since 2009. I have probably had more experience than you. I don't know how else to give you an idea of my skills without sounding like I'm bragging. Have a good day. | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 01:58 PM |
| 1 | If there's any problem with the "assume rapport" idea, this may be itBelieve me there are plenty of "coaches" who suck and don't know what they're talking about. Literally the big advantage of game is that you can leverage the fact that women are less attracted to visuals than guys, and more to behavior. If you refuse to believe that then I really don't give a fuck about proving it to you, you're cooked. I can tell just by looking at how you say things that you've never approached a woman in your life. So you're speaking entirely from theory and pontification ins… | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 01:44 PM |
| 1 | If there's any problem with the "assume rapport" idea, this may be itThe 100m analogy is rubbish. This is nowhere near the same thing. What you are saying is basically that a person's internal delusions must never be challenged, even when those delusions are handicapping their performance. Women become attracted to men largely based on their vibe and behavior, not their physical looks. Their brains have 10x more white matter than ours do for this reason. That's why the belief creates the reality in this situation. Lots of guys in this thread pontificating though.… | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 02:19 AM |
| 1 | If there's any problem with the "assume rapport" idea, this may be itFirst of all when girls reject you they almost never say, "sorry you're not my type." Most often it's an availability thing, they're taken, or it's a girls night, or whatever. Even if they're really saying it because they just don't like the cut of your jib, it's never helpful to internalize it and take it so personally like you are. When a girl rejects you she can't possibly know ANYTHING about you. She's only known you for 3 fucking seconds how can she judge your entire god damn character? Is … | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 02:00 AM |
| 1 | If there's any problem with the "assume rapport" idea, this may be itI don't think so. Not when you really know how this works. The girl doesn't know your history. She's not looking at your resume and calling up all the girls you've hit on before as "references," asking them how you did with them. All she knows about you is how you are acting IN THAT MOMENT. So IN THAT MOMENT, are you going to adopt the mindset that gives you the highest possible chances of getting her attracted to you? Or are you going to pretend like the girl is psychic and can see into your pa… | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 01:43 AM |
| 2 | How do you have "fun" while in nightclubs?Well sure, I've pulled girls off of guys with tables many times before. Especially when I was younger and broke, I never bought any of that shit and still pulled from the club all the time. Now that I'm older and can afford it, I don't mind splurging on a table. But I don't do it because I think the table will get me girls. I do it to enjoy myself with friends. And to be quite frank, as long as you have good game (I am no spring chicken to this) the table absolutely DOES make getting girls in th… | /r/seduction | 25/01/26 10:11 PM |
| 2 | How do you have "fun" while in nightclubs?I see what you're saying. All of their attention is not focused on watching men when they go to the club. I never intended for that to be my point. And yes, they do go to have fun. But for a lot of the girls who go there, they would prefer the environment to be more intimidating so that they don't get approached by beta guys. Because beta guys will be scared and self-conscious of that setting. In other words, the environment helps filter out the guys they don't want. And with that kind of enviro… | /r/seduction | 25/01/26 09:12 PM |
| 1 | How do you have "fun" while in nightclubs?So basically you're saying I'm right, but I'm just scaring all the newbies by telling the truth. You're taking what I said way too literally. I never said girls are "watching" men at all times. But it is true that once you lower your value in front of everyone at the club, and the girls see it, it will be more difficult to display higher value later on. So it is true to an extent. If guys' anxiety become amplified because they know women are all watching them, then that's something totally separ… | /r/seduction | 25/01/26 08:48 PM |
| 4 | If there's any problem with the "assume rapport" idea, this may be itI don't just assume rapport, I assume attraction. With every girl I approach. And you know what? Some of them aren't attracted to me. It's not a let-down. I just stop giving a fuck and open another one. Assuming the best case scenario is hands-down the most effective over a large sample size of approaches. I've proven it, I know a lot of other guys who have proven it, it's basically the gold standard at this point. From what it looks like you are just pontificating in your head and not proving a… | /r/seduction | 25/01/26 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Building a Rotation: Being a Player is the only realistic way men can find LoveI agree with this except, it's not just modern dating. This has always been the case. | /r/seduction | 25/01/26 07:21 PM |
| 2 | How do you have "fun" while in nightclubs?Both of those things can simultaneously be true. But trust me, the nightclubs NEED women to go there or there won't be any men there. And the only way they're going to get women to go there, is if they make it a place that women WANT to select a good mate in. The loud music, the lights, etc etc. Of course, it wouldn't be a good place for a woman to select a mate without very good plausible deniability about why all of that stuff exists in a nightclub. So that's included too. You can either belie… | /r/seduction | 25/01/26 06:44 PM |
| 1 | How do you have "fun" while in nightclubs?Oh my god haha you are misinterpreting what I'm saying. Have you ever studied pickup at all? Or do I have to spell everything out for you? They're not there to "watch guys struggling" or be cynical about men. That's not what I said. When you are with a woman you have just started dating, you can tell that she watches how you react to things when she's first getting to know you. Not only in the club but everywhere. On dates. When you're interacting. Women zoom in their attention to how you handle… | /r/seduction | 25/01/26 06:35 PM |
| 2 | How do you have "fun" while in nightclubs?I'm not reading that. Congratulations. Or sorry that happened to you. | /r/seduction | 25/01/26 06:15 PM |
| 2 | How do you have "fun" while in nightclubs?Ughhh I genuinely had no clue there were so many clueless men about this in the seduction subreddit of all places. Listen. It goes like this. Men are the ones buying a lot of overpriced drinks. So they need to get men to come and spend money. But they won't be able to get men to spend money if there are no women. No one wants to spend money at a penis party. So they need to get women to come. And the hotter the women who regularly show up at your club, the more "exclusive" you can make the club,… | /r/seduction | 25/01/26 06:13 PM |
| 8 | How do you have "fun" while in nightclubs?I mean yeah bro by all means go where the girls you want most are hanging out. I enjoy the club scene and the girls I meet there. I like when they get all dolled up. I like that it allows you to have rapid interactions boom boom boom one after the other, you can't do that in daygame. And I like the environment when I'm in flow and have a lot of momentum. But you do you. I agree that if it weren't for the girls I wouldn't go. | /r/seduction | 25/01/26 01:52 AM |
| 84 | How do you have "fun" while in nightclubs?I might get hate for this but nightclubs are designed to be intimidating to low-status men who can't handle a little bit of chaos. That's specifically why women go there. To watch how guys react to the environment, if they interpret it as stressful or fun. | /r/seduction | 24/01/26 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Why approachingYou younger guys REALLY need to get a handle on reality! Think of it this way: Long before the internet, and long before we had enough abundance of resources as a species to get everything handed to us without doing anything, humans lived in a tribal setting on the Savannah of Africa. We spent millions of years evolving in that tribal setting. And only 5,000-10,000 years in modern civilizations. Which is not enough time for evolution to catch up to living in civilizations. So it follows that all… | /r/seduction | 24/01/26 12:47 AM |
| 1 | What's the best style for 2026 that attracts most women?You have to find the style that fits with your personality. And then experiment, look for ways to make it unique and yours. And most importantly, don't look like you're trying hard or forcing anything in a cringe way. There are certain things I've noticed a ton of girls like that guys tend to avoid. For example, if you're wearing dress shoes, get some with broguing. So many men avoid choosing shoes with designs like this, they get boring ass no-design shoes. But women appreciate it way more than… | /r/seduction | 23/01/26 04:34 AM |
| 0 | Where can i find Night clubs in istanbul???The mods in this sub literally don't exist. I tried messaging them so many times and they just ghost. | /r/seduction | 22/01/26 08:51 AM |
| 1 | F22 f4mYou are in the wrong sub for that. At least I hope you are. | /r/seduction | 11/01/26 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Is there any way that telling a girl you're gay could actually help get you laid?"Helped you" how? Just made you feel more confident? Because that's a trap. What tangible results have you gotten with women specifically? I'm literally hesitant to say it because it will look like an advertisement for him. But the results he got me were so good it made me realize how much bullshit all those other coaches have been spewing for years, just to string you along and keep guys paying for stuff with zero results. It's John Anthony. He gets a lot of hate on here. But I am literally nev… | /r/seduction | 10/01/26 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Is there any way that telling a girl you're gay could actually help get you laid?Owen's a scammer man. Read the book The Game. That's his true character. I'm telling you I know guys who game circles around Owen. He's not good. He sells you a bill of goods. Keep following him if you want but don't say I didn't warn you. | /r/seduction | 09/01/26 10:06 PM |
| 4 | Be very careful of who you tell about game.Oh yeah dude. Even guys you meet on here, watch out. Be careful who you let into your PUA life. Some men can't handle it, they don't want to do the work to become more attractive and better at this. So they sabotage the shit out of you. I have too many stories to count. Feminine men are even more manipulative than even women are. Fuck 'em. The good news is when those guys talk shit about you like a bratty highschool girl and you show it doesn't affect you, you get even more attraction from women… | /r/seduction | 08/01/26 04:46 PM |
| 0 | I'm getting annoyed with people "framing" Miami as advanced mode when it's basically a clone of Seattle's situation.Dude there are plenty of hot girls in Seattle. I was there a few months ago. But Miami has much higher quality. No question. | /r/seduction | 23/12/25 02:35 AM |
| 1 | How do youcreate a bed that women don't want to leave?High thread count sheets. | /r/seduction | 23/12/25 02:32 AM |
| 27 | Anyone got a quick way to estimate a girls age during daygame?Lol ask them. With a bit of a skepticism look/narrow eyes. That's what I do. | /r/seduction | 19/12/25 06:45 PM |
| 1 | How to approach girls?It wasn't an insult. Your statement was objective proof you've never cold approached a woman in your life. I can tell you're not speaking from any real-life experience whatsoever. And so is the fact that you think I need an "argument." As if this is something that should be pontificated about. I know your type. You argue theory all day. And you never approach. Keyboard warrior through and through. Pickup is a game of pragmatism, not theory. If you don't believe me, go get 50 approaches under you… | /r/seduction | 19/12/25 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Just venting for a sec (dates never go as I want to) (CRAVING FOR ADVICE PLZ GOD)As a guy with AuDHD you should learn how to access your "second brain" aka your gut. And I'm not blowing smoke up your ass with this, it's scientifically proven. There is actually a significant amount of neural processing that goes on in your gut, it's second only to the neural processing in your brain. And it governs a lot of the more base reptilian emotions you feel. Like when you're exposed to a food (or a girl) you want to devour. That feeling you get is coming from your gut. And you need to… | /r/seduction | 19/12/25 05:18 PM |
| 1 | How to approach girls?Tell me you've never cold approached without telling me you've never cold approached. | /r/seduction | 19/12/25 04:20 PM |
| 1 | I lost my mojo helpGo get some momentum, get back into the game. https://media.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPTc5MGI3NjExeXZ4Y2RuYjh6NWR0ejRic3UyYjl3MGUyamo0Y2g3djBjMmE5b3I4YSZlcD12MV9naWZzX3NlYXJjaCZjdD1n/mD44sZCdqtR3AbChoB/giphy.gif | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Forever the initiatorIdk try dressing sexy or something. Try giving him some supplements. Thailand butea superba, tribulus terrestrus, epimedium root, peruvian maca, tongat ali. And a little bit of ginseng. All available on amazon. They make me unable to think of anything else but sex. I'm 37 btw. Or, you could try doing psilocybin mushrooms with him. If it's legal in your area. That often increases bond and physical touch. Make sure setting is comfortable and low-stress before you do. You could also try taking him … | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 05:51 PM |
| 2 | How to approach girls?The opener doesn't matter. All guys who are good at game know this. No girl is like, "Well I would have slept with him but his opener sucked." And no girl is laying in bed with you like "oh man, that opener... that's the reason I slept with you." Just open the conversation. That's all you need to do. Even hi works. | /r/seduction | 15/12/25 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Started talking to a professional athlete. How do I keep him around?I mean you can do certain things to increase the probability of him staying around but you can never guarantee it'll happen. His choices are his choices. | /r/seduction | 15/12/25 09:22 PM |
| 1 | My lust towards my hg is killing meDude if the authorities haven't already found this post and you're not already getting beheaded I'd recommend getting out of Saudi Arabia and maybe checking out the UAE or Egypt or something. Tbh Istanbul is supposed to have a lot of hot girls and if you go further west you could end up in Romania or Croatia where the girls are 👌 SO fine. I picked up a Romanian girl when I was in Italy and had an exceptional time with her. I still think about her sometimes tbh lost touch but she left an imprint … | /r/seduction | 14/12/25 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Is there any way that telling a girl you're gay could actually help get you laid?I'm not talking about how the women's faces were blurred. I'm talking about him claiming those videos were genuine reflections of his seduction skills. No. State is nebulous and you're better off if you carry the belief that no matter your emotional state you are the very best option a girl could have. If your "state" is "low" according to Tyler, women won't be as attracted to you. And it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. An inner game handicap, that he's literally installing into your head so… | /r/seduction | 14/12/25 04:41 PM |
| 2 | you think when girls go on a trip they're getting smashedSexual jealousy feelings evolved in our species for an important reproductive reason. In the book The Dangerous Passion by David Buss, he found feelings of jealousy in humans are triggered with 90% accuracy. That's an indicator worth your consideration. It also means there's a 10% chance you're wrong, and your jealousy feelings are lying to you. In this case Buss would say this is just evolution being hyper-vigilant. Because being wrong 10% of the time is worth the evolutionary trade off. But ye… | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Is there any way that telling a girl you're gay could actually help get you laid?He's a marketer first and foremost. I've heard stories about how he used to shoot those infield videos that most people would never consider ethical or honest in a million years. I've slept with more girls than most guys on here and I've never used "high vibrational energy" to do it 😂 Tyler makes men WORSE at pickup, not better. | /r/seduction | 13/12/25 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Is there any way that telling a girl you're gay could actually help get you laid?Yeah it's not a good idea to listen to pretty much anything RSD Tyler says. | /r/seduction | 12/12/25 08:52 PM |
| 4 | Assuming emotional connection and sexual chemistry, will asking a girl to be exclusive turn her off, or do they typically like it if the guy initiates that discussion?Dude some of these replies are NOT good. It turns women ON when you GO FOR WHAT YOU WANT, and make it known without shame or hesitancy. So when you do it, don't pussyfoot around it. And don't make it a "big thing." Best if you bring it up super casually like, "We should be exclusive." and then if she's like "Oh really?" or kind of challenges you to see if you're serious or something, be unapologetic, matter-of-fact. Like "Yeah. What do you think about that." DON'T be like "Would you perhaps be i… | /r/seduction | 12/12/25 03:47 PM |
| 0 | Anyone else just burnt out from dating and this whole seduction circus?I never thought I would achieve some end-all-be-all nirvana moment of spiritual enlightenment in the game. I've been in it 15 years, still not stopping. Admittedly I was raised by a narcissistic mother and collected a fair amount of trauma from that. A lot of guys in this niche had overbearing mothers or female caretakers. But I have a lot of meaningful memories and experiences with women over the years. I don't regret putting effort into the game. Still get a lot of satisfaction out of it. I le… | /r/seduction | 12/12/25 01:10 PM |
| 1 | Married in a rutI guess you just don't have the autism in you to handle it. | /r/seduction | 04/12/25 12:09 AM |
| 1 | Married in a rutTo play devil's advocate I bet the dungeon master bangs way more nerdy chicks in his lair than the common elf does. | /r/seduction | 03/12/25 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Which one would you recommend ?Ahhh I got my start with double your dating and it's great. The Game is more a story. I guess you can learn a few things from it but it's not in any way comprehensive and you'll walk away with more questions than answers. Mystery is where the real meat and potatoes is at. I wouldn't recommend everything he teaches but pay attention to what he says about: Attraction switches Compliance model Microcalibration Also his teachings about how to have conversations with women were revolutionary for me. … | /r/seduction | 03/12/25 07:17 AM |
| 1 | How do I make cold approaching a habit? Where are the most reasonable places to approach?Don't think about it. Just do it. It snowballs. | /r/seduction | 03/12/25 03:07 AM |
| 72 | Married in a rutThis suggestion will sound counterintuitive but I swear to fucking god if you do it it will work. Focus on something else for a bit. I don't know what you're passionate about in life. Maybe it's a sport or a musical instrument or carpentry or something. But go do it/get back into it from when you were younger. Get people together to do it. So if you play the guitar or something get a guitar meetup group going and maybe find some other guys to play in a cover band. Whatever it is you do, start or… | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 01:40 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone here have any advice for attracting hood chicks?Go to wherever the blue collar areas in your town are. Also look for the strip clubs that haven't raised their prices from inflation yet and still charge like $20 for a dance. | /r/seduction | 01/12/25 04:00 AM |
| 1 | Smallest step to take to start to approach?Literally just take a step lol. Then take another one. then another one. Until you're in front of her. And then you open. No amount of thinking can make it easier. You just need to do it. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 10:40 PM |
| 1 | As a man Is receiving a gift from a woman her form of seduction? How and why?For some women gift giving is their love language. Same with men. Personally, my love languages are touch and words of affirmation. So I don't always pick up on the gift thing. But when some girls really like you they just shower you with gifts man. It's a symbol of their feelings for sure. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Do you go cold approaching alone? I'm especielly interested in night game.I still do it sometimes. You can't rely on your friends to want to do this. Some of my best nights I've had going out alone. When you're out alone especially you need to reduce the time you're not in set. Ideally make it 0 or close to 0. Get used to just always opening someone new. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 07:48 PM |
| 26 | Lost My Game: Are Women Less Expressive Than Before?Choosing signals are retarded. Maybe she didn't even see you. Waiting for a "signal" is waiting for permission. Women want to bang the tribal leader, not the guy who's waiting for permission to make a move. Forget about girls' body language until you're in set. You can NEVER predict what will happen after you open. You just have to open the girl and find out. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 07:32 PM |
| 0 | Dating coaches - David Meessenok buddy | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Do Daygame models work?It's all in how you're carrying yourself. She can tell by how you enter the set. And if she's not available she'll tell you. The problem with one-word answers is usually that you're not being direct about your intentions. "Stacking" implies you planned out everything you were going to say before hand which is cringe af. The girl can tell. Women have higher social acuity and 10x the white matter in their brains that men do. They have a social intuition on a level that is invisible to men. I have … | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 06:28 PM |
| 0 | Dating coaches - David MeessenYou know he just won a defamation lawsuit against the guy who made a video smearing him with all the stuff you just listed, right? They decided in the court of law that none of it was true. If you have all his products and they're not working for you then you did something wrong. VERY common with guys who buy PUA products. They don't follow all the instructions and then whine about it because they had defeatist attitudes from the beginning. Nothing can fix a defeatist attitude. You have to actua… | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 06:18 PM |
| 2 | I rejected by a girl in my class because “she didn’t wanted any relationships right now” what this supposed to mean?It happens man. Just take it for face value. And keep on truckin. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 09:42 AM |
| 1 | What would a guy with good game would say instead of the typical lines that others use?If you want a line you're doing it wrong. Evolution has built what to say into you. You have to be in alignment with your authenticity first and foremost. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 09:40 AM |
| 0 | Dating coaches - David MeessenDepends on where you're at, what your situation is, and what kind of outcome you want to achieve. I'm gonna get hate for this but I keep saying John Anthony's system makes the most sense. The reason being he focuses on volume and getting you to authentically have abundance using efficiency. Instead of displaying fake "signals" that you have abundance. Which often backfire. Also he shit talks all the rest of the coaches so I will undoubtedly have lots of downvotes on this. It is what it is. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 03:02 AM |
| 2 | Do Daygame models work?Personally I don't like the gimmicks of the London Daygame Model. Although I've had wings who used it and swore by it. In daygame I open, vibe, set a date and get the number. Super simple. Go for an insta date if she's free. I'm very authenticity based because 1. you never run out of material that she's never heard before 2. it's actually coming from you and not some pre-scripted routine. Learn to be socially-calibrated and that's basically all there is to it. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 12:43 AM |
| 10 | 💩 How To Pass Every S*** Test In Existence (not click bait)These guys who obsess over shit tests and act like they're cracking cold fusion are cringe af. All she's doing is testing to see if whatever you just said came from who you authentically are, or if you're really in alignment with the persona you're putting on. Best thing to do is carry on the same way you were before the shit test occurred. Give it zero credence. Literally no more needs to be said on the subject. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Anyone consulted a psychosexologist? Been facing some issues of EDThere are natural supplements I'd suggest trying before pharmaceuticals like viagra: Tribulus terrestrus MACA root Fasting There are more but I forgot what they are right now. Some days I wake up, drink bulletproof coffee to get into ketosis (coffee + c8 MCT oil + grass fed butter) and then don't eat all day. I have some of the most gargantuan erections on those days bro it's like my penis is the incredible hulk. I really think there's something to this. In prehistoric times humans didn't eat fo… | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 06:47 PM |
| 2 | I feel like I don’t know how to pull a girlNo one is paying attention to what you're doing. In social settings, everyone is focused on themselves. Kick start a conversation by becoming better at free association. Practice at home: say a sentence, then take one word from that sentence and say another sentence. Then take a word from that sentence and say another sentence. See how long you can keep this going. This is literally what super talkative people do bro. They lower the bar for how good what they're saying has to be. And they just s… | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Dating Coach?No it's worth it 100%. Just make sure you're learning from someone who actually knows the game. There's no "government regulatory board" to make sure someone selling dating coaching is actually competent at what they're doing. Consequently you'll find a lot of scammers selling this stuff. Look for testimonials and make sure the guy you're hiring has gotten the types of girls you want before putting money down. | /r/seduction | 26/11/25 08:44 PM |
| 14 | When seeking a casual relationship, do you let them know before or after the first time you sleep with them?I don't. The ones who are most serious about an LTR will ask you straight away on the first date. The ones who are open to a variety of things might feel it out first. If they ask point blank I frame it like "let's see where it goes." I'm genuinely not opposed to getting into an LTR with a girl, but for that to happen it has to be worth it for me to cut off every other girl. And a lot of times I hate to say this but they don't bring much else to the table besides sex. I can get companionship fro… | /r/seduction | 24/11/25 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Please rate my conversation openers/pickup linesI try to manage my approach anxiety by just being over-prepared with some opening lines / threads of how the conversation might flow. The moment I read this I knew you were doomed bro lol. My advice to you is not to prepare at all. Throw yourself into the conversation and let your gut direct you. Most men are cut off from their gut by early childhood experiences/schoolteachers reprimanding you/etc. It makes you want to filter what you say because you've been taught your authenticity isn't enough… | /r/seduction | 24/11/25 07:37 PM |
| 1 | I wish I could just be upfront about liking a girlI'm not sure how you have been casted for love island and you're having difficulty getting 7s bro lol. It seems like you're doing something wrong with the long-term retention portion. I don't know what that is. Maybe you should be more vulnerable and let your authenticity shine through more. Maybe you need to show more interest in her. Mystery used to have a routine with girls after he'd already slept with them where he'd call them (before the days of texting) and be like, "I hate you." And the … | /r/seduction | 24/11/25 07:23 PM |
| 114 | Are the pickup gurus getting rejected frequently still?Nobody is batting 1000. The pickup gurus are definitely still getting blown out. I've met two guys who have large youtube channels and saw them in action. I won't say who they are. But yes, they get blown out. The difference is they don't let it discourage them or affect their emotional state on the next set. | /r/seduction | 24/11/25 12:47 AM |
| 1 | How do you actually flirt sexually without coming off creepy or too aggressive?Make harmless sexual jokes at first to get the ball rolling. That way it's not directly *about* her, but you're just making a sexual innuendo or twisting something she said even just using "that's what she said". If she laughs, you can keep that vibe going. If she acts nervous or doesn't laugh, you can backpedal from that and it still won't be some egregious thing. You froze up because you're trying to act like it's some logical puzzle and it's not logical. It's emotional. Guys who are accustome… | /r/seduction | 20/11/25 11:52 PM |
| 5 | How do you stay confident when someone you like gives you mixed feelings?Your confidence should not be based on how they act. It should be based on the fact that you know you're the shit. And then you just put it out there and if someone can't see that you're the shit it doesn't change the fact that you're the shit it just means they have a weird way of looking at things because it's blinding them from your dopeness. And then you just move onto someone else who can see your dopeness. | /r/seduction | 20/11/25 11:35 PM |
| 1 | A non generic approachI personally hate that opener. If you're approaching her, she knows you saw her. And she knows you wanted to say hi. It's honestly such a stupid opener. But to be honest it was probably your nonverbals that were screwing you over. And your nonverbals come from your beliefs about yourself. But I agree with her. I wish that opener never existed. I've used "Hey can I meet you really quick" because it's a pattern interrupt. Girls never answer with "yes" they always say "what?" lol. And then you just… | /r/seduction | 08/11/25 02:20 PM |
| 3 | My Date Said "No." I Pivoted & Closed a Hotter Lead.Lmao at "nesting signal." This post is just bursting with autism. | /r/seduction | 08/11/25 11:43 AM |
| 8 | Reflections on trying to do cold approaches in Japan as an introvertI just spent 3 weeks in Japan getting a feel for the game. The culture there is a bit different for sure. Shinjuku in Tokyo is where I had the most success. More girls there who want to date foreigners. | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 09:45 PM |
| 5 | How do you feel after sexLol you fucked a girl with a bf and you're wondering what's making you emotionally conflicted? Maybe try fucking a girl who doesn't have a boyfriend. | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Need to changeIdk hard to tell what you're doing wrong without seeing you do it. If you're not being shy or under-confident you're probably doing too much fake shit. Try leading with authenticity. | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 01:14 AM |
| 1 | do women ever take iniative and lead?lol no. I mean sometimes they do but you'll be disappointed if you're expecting them to. | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 08:34 PM |
| 3 | Older male can't really do what I usedI don't know what you mean by older but I'm 37 and still killing it. It will help you to get fit and new exercise habits will also help to take your mind off the ltr separation. Other than that the best thing you can do is just jump in bro. Start approaching. When guys get out of ltrs they often feel on the "outside" of the whole social scene. In old school pickup there was a concept called "me and them" vs "us". There can be lingering feelings you have that you're not part of "the group", or "t… | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 08:29 PM |
| 2 | Getting ditched by girls at barsLol just get the number and get a commitment to hang out as quickly as possible with girls like that. The makeout is a bonus but she's just vibing. Get her into a headspace where she's talking about what she's in the dating market for. A girl like that is probably just like oh casual fun/nothing serious so be like, "cool me too" and then suggest meeting her at a casual fun not serious place and nail down a time when she's free in the coming week. You can't always keep her friends from pulling he… | /r/seduction | 20/10/25 05:50 PM |
| 3 | Getting ditched by girls at barsIsolate, I don't bother with dancing at all Screen for logistics to see if pulling her that night is even possible ("what are you doing after this? Who are you here with? How do you know each other?" etc) Get the number earlier with the context that you want to meet her "in real life" for a date The phenomenon you're experiencing is called "conferencing." When girls conference together they not always but often convince your girl not to be involved with you. You can remedy this by: Preoccupying … | /r/seduction | 19/10/25 04:50 PM |
| 3 | Dating app photographyThere are good and bad photographers and photo sessions. The best photographers know how to capture your essence and with an attractive vibe that makes girls swipe right. It's best to ask the photographer for samples and give them templates to emulate of the kind of work you want done. | /r/seduction | 04/10/25 10:40 AM |
| 1 | Help me get back into daygame/improve my gameOk buddy the good things here are the things going against you are all changeable. I truly believe that for some women if you frame being in prison like this experience where you learned a lot and like of course it sucked but you came out wiser - there are girls that would 100% be into that and interpret it as a DHV. I know a few prisoners who couldn't get hired after they got out and just said fuck it and started businesses. They're doing very well. You should look into that. The social skills … | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 09:33 PM |
| 1 | The RotationLol how much time do you have. I've juggled 5-7 before but it's a full-time job. 3 is a good sweet spot to be able to have other things going on in your life. Plus I like to do cool shit with them too, take them on dates and what not. | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 08:57 AM |
| 2 | Pro Tip: Make friends with womenLol is this what's passing for dating advice now? | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Is Pickup Dying?Dude tbh I have no clue what people are complaining about in Seattle after being here 2 days. The girls are a little more how you'd expect here, like it seems like there are more girls with septum piercings than not lol. But definitely TONS of cuties in this city. I wouldn't mind spending longer than just a couple days here. I talked to many 8+ girls. Maybe a couple 9+ depending on what your interpretation of that is. Cool city though it's my first time here. Wish I could stay here longer I was … | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 02:57 AM |
| 3 | Ive had enoughI don't know what the context is but it sounds like you started liking a girl through social circle and were mad when she didn't reciprocate it. Pinning all your hopes for dating success on your social circle is a LOSING man's game. What you need to do is start cold approaching. And not just spam approaching. Actually figuring out what you're doing wrong, from guys who are good at cold approaching, and working to improve. How to square up your body language and voice tone. How to lead an interac… | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 08:49 AM |
| 4 | Is Pickup Dying?It really does suck that nightlife is dying. I'm doing pretty well online nonetheless. But nothing compares to nightgame when it's good. Ft. Lauderdale and Miami are still good for nightgame. I'm in Ft. Laudy right now and there have been hot girls out every weekend. I have no problems finding 8s and 9s+ when I go out. I'll be in Seattle next weekend and I'm gonna try there, but I'm not getting my hopes up it seems like it sucks. When I go back to Michigan/Detroit area there are certain specific… | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 08:39 AM |
| 2 | Negative voices in the mind...You force yourself to do it and prove to yourself it's just your imagination. | /r/seduction | 20/09/25 11:06 AM |
| 2 | When a friend says he’s not into a girl — then starts subtly competing for her attention. What's the approach?Ignore it and ignore him. Stop hanging out with this person unless it's unavoidable. | /r/seduction | 19/09/25 08:36 PM |
| 3 | I (19M) think this girl in college likes me back — how do I move things forward?ok dude I don't know what the canteen is or if that's like a college dining hall thing but you do it by making the canteen or the date activity the conversation topic to transition seamlessly. It might look something like this: You: Do you like juice/ice cream Her: blah blah yes You: Cool we should get juice/ice cream at the canteen, they have the best juice/ice cream it's xyz, for example "it's squeezed/churned by amish people and you know the amish people make the best juice/ice cream because … | /r/seduction | 18/09/25 03:59 PM |
| 1 | What to do when you have multiple date options? How do you go about your selection process?Uh. The hottest ones are prioritized. Or the ones who seem most down to do whatever sexual thing you want to do. | /r/seduction | 18/09/25 02:40 PM |
| 2 | How Do I Let Go of Outcomes and Completely Internalize Non-Neediness?When you approach a lot and get a very large sample size you begin to see that women's reactions to you are not consistent. Meaning there's no possible way they could have anything to do with you at all. When you genuinely don't give a fuck about validation, the paradox is that that's when everyone starts loving you. Practice self-love and self-validation. I know saying that sounds like a bullshit "live, laugh, love" poster hanging on someone's wall. And the act of doing it feels kind of weird a… | /r/seduction | 18/09/25 02:14 PM |
| 1 | My Last PullGood job focusing on what's important. Logistics, escalation, none of the bullshit. I assume your vibe was on point too because you banged her. I'm gonna be traveling to Japan in a couple weeks for the first time. I'm stoked to explore there. | /r/seduction | 18/09/25 01:51 PM |
| 7 | CHILLING IS THE KEY!!hahaha Charles Bukowski is a legend. Man that guy was an awesome human. Completely fucked up and alcoholic and dysfunctional, but awesome. His writing is one of a kind. His gravestone has the words "Don't try." Wise words. | /r/seduction | 18/09/25 01:43 PM |
| 9 | I’ve realized I hate the process of trying to find women to date, and I hate the process of maintaining romantic relationships. Anyone else? What is your dating life like? How do you navigate this?Congratulations, my friend! You have the exact fixed mindset of a guy who will stay in the same stuck spot in his dating life for years while constantly complaining about it and claiming it should be different for him without him doing anything, because he's special. What's the address where we can send your reward plaque for this achievement? I'll put it this way. I assume you work a job. If your boss told you to work for him for FREE, simply because he wants you to work, but hates paying you, … | /r/seduction | 18/09/25 01:27 PM |
| 2 | What would be the best phrases to talk to a woman?Phrases? Lol "Donde esta la biblioteca" You don't need anything fancy don't think of it like a performance. I prefer free association. Comment on something she's wearing or the atmosphere. Something where she can tell it wasn't planned and she can view your brain authentically formulate words and ideas in real time as it's happening. Women love that stuff. | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 01:06 PM |
| 1 | Hostel vs Airbnb?If you're willing to open a lot go with airbnb. | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 01:00 PM |
| 2 | Need help with a GirlI mean you didn't give very much context about this situation bro but I would say you should just say hello to her, make eye contact, do something communicative where you are acknowledging her presence and letting you know you are aware of her awareness. Also when in doubt just say fuck it and add her on snapchat. But for the record talking to her in person is the better move it's how humans have interacted for tens of thousands of years and very few of them died from doing it so I think you'll … | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 09:29 AM |
| 1 | Push or pull?If she told you she needed space then don't interpret that as her playing games with you. Give her space. IMO push/pull is a counterproductive thing to tell a newbie to do for the exact reason you're saying here. Guys just do it blindly and don't calibrate to the girl's emotional state or the connection, which is really the most important part. Rather than push/pull, learn microcalibration. Read Mystery's book Revelation. It's in there. | /r/seduction | 16/09/25 07:20 PM |
| 2 | Men, how do you want to get seduced by a woman?Mystery is always attractive. Depends on who you're going for though. Some men are more easily wooed than others. | /r/seduction | 14/09/25 12:33 AM |
| 1 | I’m having a crisis in my 20’s…Yea I mean I moved to Miami for that exact reason. For the record I still spend part of the year in Michigan though and have no problems there either. In fact sometimes it's even better in MI because the girls aren't as distracted by constant stimulation like they are in Miami. I just genuinely wish more guys didn't have such a defeatist attitude. It's gotten so bleak man and it doesn't need to be. Good game requires belief. And belief has been beaten out of men. Nonetheless this dude ended up P… | /r/seduction | 09/09/25 09:52 AM |
| 3 | How do you build self worth?Confidence comes from competence. Competence is knowing what to do next. I think hypnosis can help. But TBH the biggest needle mover is taking action on things in the real world. Get small wins for yourself daily. Something you can do and succeed at, that is a little bit outside of your comfort zone. That shit can snowball over time. | /r/seduction | 09/09/25 08:19 AM |
| 3 | Would this be considered bad advice for pickup, or not?Nah just go direct. Girls can tell when you do that bs. | /r/seduction | 09/09/25 07:38 AM |
| -1 | Has anyone purchased Mike Haine's Friends with Benefits program.No that's sales copy. | /r/seduction | 09/09/25 07:28 AM |
| 1 | I’m having a crisis in my 20’s…Nope 100% inside the US... incels like you make it a lot easier for me to get women here. I can tell you've never approached a woman in your life. | /r/seduction | 09/09/25 03:08 AM |
| 1 | I’m having a crisis in my 20’s…I don't buy girls gifts I don't take them traveling unless it's a main girl. You're a retard. | /r/seduction | 08/09/25 05:05 PM |
| 1 | I’m having a crisis in my 20’s…I've been in the game since I was in my 20s. Didn't lose my virginity until I was 24. It came from a lot of pain. It's a skill game, you can learn how to do it just like getting good at chess or any other skill game. Now it's just a way of life 🤷🏻♂️. It's not hard once your game is dialed in. But most guys on this subreddit don't even approach. They assume it's this impossible magic voodoo or that I must have celebrity status. Not true. If you've never seen real game you don't even know what's … | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Brazil - FlorianópolisUh I know a guy in Florianopolis who is absolutely killing it. Some of the most beautiful women in the world over there. | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 01:21 AM |
| 2 | Men who have sex with lots of (attractive) women, how did you do it?Now the hotter ones have more options like onlyfans, sugar daddies, etc. There are still hot strippers but man... they used to be WAY hotter. | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 09:48 PM |
| 2 | Men who have sex with lots of (attractive) women, how did you do it?I think those things used to work better than they do now. My opinion is that people like Todd V aren't even in the game anymore in their personal lives and are still selling what they've always sold with zero innovation or consideration about how mainstream consciousness has changed. The most immutable pars of game are being able to DHV, and get her compliance. Get her compliance when you talk to her, when you isolate her away from her friends, when you get her number, when you make out with he… | /r/seduction | 05/09/25 07:32 PM |
| 22 | Men who have sex with lots of (attractive) women, how did you do it?You have to get yourself around them. That's the first step. For me I started out learning strip club game back in the day and started to get to know a lot of the industry people. This was in like 2012. I became friends with the girls who worked the door at the strip club and they'd let me in free. Back then, strippers in general were way hotter than they are now. Once you get comfortable around really hot girls and you're not intimidated by them, you have that for life. So I'm never intimidated… | /r/seduction | 05/09/25 08:14 AM |
| 1 | Girl flaked the first time — now she’s back. How do you play it?Make sure to find out why she flaked. Sometimes it's a genuinely legitimate reason e.g., her grandma died, she has an ovarian cyst, her dog broke his leg, etc. Sometimes she might be vague about it like "I had a work obligation" and she doesn't get any more specific than that. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt but if it happens again I cut her off. I'd do something much lower investment and if she pushes for something nicer (a lot of girls do) tell her you can't risk it because she flaked on… | /r/seduction | 05/09/25 04:32 AM |
| 1 | How to go from sexual chat to meeting up?Sexual chat is overrated. You lose girls this way. They feel slut shamed and would never meet up irl after that. | /r/seduction | 05/09/25 02:47 AM |
| 33 | Cold approach will NOT save youCold approach is still very effective. I believe most people are looking at the wrong factors. Especially on Reddit, it's obvious most people here haven't cold approached a single day in their lives. Cold approach is still very much alive and well. But contrary to what a lot of guys on here think it's not just walking up to a girl and saying hello. That's just the first part. | /r/seduction | 05/09/25 02:46 AM |
| 12 | At what age did you find yourself pulling the most women?I'm 37 and doing better than I ever have before. There was a bit of a lull between 34-35, I gained a little weight and was in a relationship. But now I'm back on top of it man. I think you get way better after you turn 30. And the more I do it, the better it gets. | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 11:21 PM |
| 4 | Let’s Settle This Once and For All…I have had success with both online and cold approach and cold approach is hands-down the winner. Tinder/bumble/hinge WILL give you a "rating" or ELO score or whatever, and limit the hotness of girls you can get just based on that. Ultimately it's an algorithm that is not optimized to get you the best women. It's optimized to give you a "level" and only show girls at that level. Cold approach is harder. You need to learn more strategies, ways of communicating, etc. But it's far more rewarding. Y… | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 08:49 PM |
| 1 | 130 Cold Approaches In: Is This Worth It?More girls for me I guess 🤷🏻♂️ | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 08:43 PM |
| 1 | After a first date, when is the best time to text a woman for a second date or re-initiate contact?Ideally set up the second date in-person while you're on the first date. "When are you free next? We should do xyz I wanted to try it." Absence does not make women more interested. It will make her forget about you. A lot of those early PUA guys were giving that advice in the context of how text messaging was in 2009 but now it's changed. The present-day guys who are giving that advice are just regurgitating it and not speaking from actual experience. Trust me I've been in this game a long fucki… | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 01:16 AM |
| 0 | I’m having a crisis in my 20’s…I'm 37 living in Miami and have a sizeable rotation of regulars all ages 19 - 28. I go out on weekends and meet new girls all the time as well. You have time. Just decide what you want and go for it. And if it ever changes, don't feel like you have to stick to that forever either. Miami is not a cheap city to live in so I'd recommend doing something where you can afford it too. But yeah. I love Miami. The girls are very hot. The partying can be a bit much sometimes. I don't drink a lot either. B… | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 01:08 AM |
| 6 | 130 Cold Approaches In: Is This Worth It?This guy doesn't understand cold approach. It's about the location you're approaching in as much as it is the strategies you're using after you approach. Man it really feels like pickup is dead when I read some of the comments on this sub. | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 01:00 AM |
| 3 | 130 Cold Approaches In: Is This Worth It?Scrap those stats. They won't help you. It's not just about doing approaches. It's about your vibe, strategy, how you move it forward. It's also about where you are choosing to go out. With good strategy and focusing on LOCATION you can have a much higher success rate. Also, fuck daygame. I don't know if that's what you're doing but it's such a bad return on your energy. I daygame approach opportunistically if I'm out shopping or something and see a girl I want to meet. But I gave up daygame as … | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 12:58 AM |
| 1 | 3 women in under 48 hours in NYC…So wait... your success story is that you approached three women in 48 hours? Jesus. Seduction has gone so downhill since the pandemic. I remember the days guys would post detailed field reports of sleeping with three women in 48 hours. | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 03:00 PM |
| 6 | What do I have to do to date/sleep with girls "out of my league"?Yeah stop doom scrolling and start approaching women I hate to break it to you but your current opinion is based on nothing but what the algorithm has been optimized (by you) to tell you. Which is exactly what you're most afraid of. That short guys like you just don't stand a chance. You click on everything that says it, your view time is longer on every clip that says it. So the fucking algo is like this motherfucker stays on our platform and we can show him more ads when shit about SHORT GUYS … | /r/seduction | 03/09/25 02:51 PM |
| 2 | How to ask out a college junior girl ?Dude if she's on a call don't be a dick and try to interrupt just a confident, friendly wave + eye contact + smile as you pass by her goes a LONG way. I used to be driving around college campuses and if I saw a girl who was hot walking on the sidewalk I'd just wave confidently and smile as I was driving by in my car. The girl would sometimes act confused like she wasn't sure if she met me before lol but they would always wave back. The confident, friendly wave + smile is so underrated for situat… | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Bars ARE one of the best places to meet people.Yeah man I don't know what it is with this generation of guys in their 20s, maybe it was the pandemic right when they were coming of age but man... some of you guys don't go out to the bars or socialize and it shows. | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 08:24 PM |
| 2 | 5 hints to escalation!Are you uh... fucking gilfs bro? Is that something guys on here are going for? | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 08:21 PM |
| 1 | Same-Day Hookups – How Did You Do It?By that time it had gotten more sexual and there was more physicality. I still broke the touch barrier early on back at walmart. It wasn't like zero to 60 all of a sudden. I grabbed her hand while we were watching community and she scooted up by me on the couch. Once you're sitting next to a girl on a couch it becomes very easy to escalate in most cases. Still some girls will give you zero overt signals that they want sex because they're expecting you to take the lead on everything. They just wa… | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 08:07 PM |
| 1 | If a woman is nervous around you - turn on or turn off?Nah it's cute. | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 04:42 AM |
| 1 | Looking for books from mysteryA lot of stuff Mystery said was spot-on. The compliance model, the attraction switches, microcalibration from his Revelations book is something I still use. But a lot of stuff he got way off. Group theory for example makes game tedious and you get diminishing returns on your effort. And the M3 model overcomplicates everything. Mystery is good for theory though. I still think everyone should read it to get an understanding. Just know that some of the stuff in there is not the most effective. | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 02:49 AM |
| 1 | What helped get you over your approach anxiety?3 second rule. No amount of thinking beforehand will make the approach go better. In fact thinking will prevent you from approaching. You have 3 seconds to approach or the world blows up GO! | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 02:46 AM |
| 5 | Do you guys treat "short term, open to long" any differently in the chat messages?no. | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 02:38 AM |
| 2 | Same-Day Hookups – How Did You Do It?You can tell from the vibe. When you open initiate physicality immediately. Touch her (with confidence) on the shoulder or something to see how she reacts to it. If the vibe is on, it's on. She'll escalate quickly from the beginning. She'll take your hand walking somewhere, she'll let you put your arm around her, etc. Make sexual comments. They can start out more innocuous if you're testing the waters. I once approached a girl in the library of all places, she wasn't wearing a bra and had nipple… | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Someone please help meList out the wins you've had in your life, no matter how small. Keep them front-and-center of your attention. Does not help to focus on why everything is shit. You actualize what you focus on, not what's really true. So focus on why you're awesome. Cool traits you have. Skills you like about yourself. Accomplishments. Dope shit you've done. Remind yourself of the shit that makes you awesome. You're in college studying computer science. You're around LOADS of hot girls. Those are opportunities. N… | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 01:19 AM |
| 12 | How to hide from "polite society" as a fuckboy (need help)Back when I worked a job I fucked multiple girls at my work with the understanding that neither of us would tell anyone. Once I got the hottest girl at my work alone. She was hesitant to go further with me because she was worried about the work environment finding out and it being kept a secret. I told her, "I already slept with another girl from our work and you didn't even know about that." She asked me who it was. I told her I wasn't going to tell her out of my respect for my agreement with t… | /r/seduction | 27/08/25 07:37 PM |
| 25 | How to hide from "polite society" as a fuckboy (need help)First off I don't believe being a fuckboy alone is the best strategy even if you only want to get laid. Women like a guy who's a bit of a dichotomy. I give the fuckboy vibe for sure. But then I tell girls I have a master's degree, I've started multiple successful businesses, I have a lot of interesting travel stories and ideas and thoughts about my passions like psychology. It adds dimension to your character and makes you far more appealing than a one-dimensional "fuckboy." A fuckboy is easy fo… | /r/seduction | 27/08/25 07:24 PM |
| 6 | Question: if I (woman) want to be picked up during daytime, how do I make myself available?Be hot. | /r/seduction | 27/08/25 12:57 AM |
| 1 | Why are guys so hung up on "not having anything in common"?Bars, clubs, tinder, daygame, cafes, the beach, basically anywhere. | /r/seduction | 25/08/25 01:38 PM |
| 1 | SaudiEveryone with experience getting laid in saudi arabia is... a little predisposed right now 🪦 | /r/seduction | 23/08/25 09:38 PM |
| 1 | any suggestionshaha I'd make a joke about qualified immunity to being held accountable for hitting on her or something. The handcuffs are too obvious I wouldn't touch that at first. But maybe down the road if she's receptive I'd make a joke about her handcuffing me. Still, low probability move. But have fun with it if you're gonna do it. | /r/seduction | 23/08/25 09:30 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with brutal shutdowns? Are they preventable?Props for not being boring but the best dancer opener sounds a little gimmicky to me. They can tell you're overthinking it. You don't have to take brutal shutdowns personally because the girl doesn't know enough about you to make an informed judgement about who you are from 1 second of interaction. I have been around and can tell you there is no one on earth, even in the "best of the best PUA" circles, who doesn't get brutally shut down from time to time. The difference is they don't take it per… | /r/seduction | 23/08/25 09:21 PM |
| 2 | social circleI don't focus on social circle imo it's a waste of time and limits how many new girls you can meet. Especially if you're waiting for formal introductions to every girl. If you're not and you're just introducing yourself, then that's basically just cold approach with extra steps. I get that when you have a friend in common it might make you feel more approachable to the girl but you can literally just psych yourself up to approach girls who are strangers and imagine you have a friend in common. B… | /r/seduction | 23/08/25 09:15 PM |
| 16 | Anyone try pulling a stripper?Yes it might be part of my trauma to love strippers lol. It's the most fun thing in the world, until it isn't. If you like roller coasters you might like dating a stripper. The sex is exceptional. The emotional fallouts can be draining. Although some strippers are very stable emotionally and can actually be very dope to hang out with. You do learn a lot about hot girls in general dating them. The skill transfers over to dating other hired guns. | /r/seduction | 23/08/25 09:02 PM |
| 13 | Why are guys so hung up on "not having anything in common"?That's weird I'm 37 and the average age of girls I date is 20-25. | /r/seduction | 23/08/25 06:00 PM |
| 1 | What's the best AI site/app for openers and text gameThat's a massively wrong assessment. He gives mystery credit where credit is due. I do agree with him that the mystery method isn't as optimized for the modern-day, even though it was a total breakthrough back in the day when he came out with it. A lot of mystery's methods are outdated. People don't understand that John's MO is optimization and efficiency, not sparks flying out of your ass. | /r/seduction | 22/08/25 09:39 PM |
| 3 | What's the best AI site/app for openers and text gameAI texts are recognizable. They all use the em dash too much and phrase texts with stupid shit like "Here's the kicker, Amanda" I don't know why he gets hate on here but John Anthony's program Leads Machine has gotten me laid from tinder more than any other program has ever gotten me laid in my life. And I'm 37, I've been into pickup/seduction much longer than most people on this forum. | /r/seduction | 22/08/25 06:52 AM |
| 2 | On first dates that seem to go well, about how often are women inviting you back to their place?Women don't often invite back. There are some circumstances though, like if we're meeting closer to her place, and she knows that, and she's down, and she understands the plausible deniability portion well enough to feign "oh I ubered here and need you to drive me home" or something else like that. | /r/seduction | 22/08/25 06:42 AM |
| 1 | How do I stop building women up in my head?Lol date a lot of them. Set multiple dates per week. It's easier now than it's ever been to do this. | /r/seduction | 11/07/25 08:32 PM |
| 2 | Girl literally told me “ur ugly as f”I would have just laughed and then never interacted with that miserable woman again. Another thing I used to do when women threw shit like that at me was act like it was a compliment and I was flattered, like "Thank you!" Only works if it's in person and not over text because you have to subcommunicate signals that the insult didn't even register with you. Also requires you to have method acting chops a bit. But it's a great pattern interrupt and wigs them the fuck out. The more experienced you … | /r/seduction | 11/07/25 08:29 PM |
| 26 | Inner Game | This twitter post is a plague on the mindset of the current young male generationLol that shit is poison. Some of the guys I've known who have dated super hot women were like 5'9 or below. Focus on what you can control, and don't worry about the rest. You'll absolutely shock yourself. | /r/seduction | 11/07/25 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Dating a 40 year old woman with a 16 year old kidI just want to say I'm about to turn 37 and the thought of dating some 40 year old women makes me shutter. I remember when I was 27ish the same thing happened to me. I had a friend who was in his late 30s, had a party I went to, and a lot of older people were there. He told me some lady in her 40s was into me. I just ignored it because I couldn't have been less attracted to her. Learn to approach or get good at online dating and get more leads coming in. When you do, whether it's worth it or not… | /r/seduction | 02/07/25 06:36 AM |
| 3 | Chatted in line, it escalated, but how to close?First, I'd have been honest about the meh food. Girls appreciate authenticity. They hate guys who plaster smiles on their faces to appease everyone else when that's not how they're really feeling. Second, I'd have called out the spoon feed. Like, wow you're skipping to girlfriend mode already huh? We haven't even been on a date yet! And she's like, oh we're going on a date now huh? And that's usually how it goes. You don't have to be as presumptive as I am about that though. It fits with my pers… | /r/seduction | 02/07/25 06:23 AM |
| 1 | Are there any PUAs that are fat/obeseBack in the mid 2000s Hypnotica gained like 100 lbs and got laid like crazy just to show guys it could be done. Those were the days when dudes really committed to the skill set. Now all the pickup 'influencer' types have zero skill. The other guy who used to be an RSD coach was fat too but I have skepticism about him actually having any skill. He never had infield and used a loooooottt of marketing. | /r/seduction | 29/05/25 06:42 PM |
| 1 | What Makes a City "Good" for Dating? Or for Single Guys?imo you can't go wrong with either one. I had zero problems with logistics last time I was in chicago. You can set yourself up for good logistics though no matter what city you're in. When you have good game it's hard to do literally anything else when you're in either one of those cities. pickup is so fun. | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 03:07 PM |
| 2 | What Makes a City "Good" for Dating? Or for Single Guys?Dude Chicago is GREAT. It almost feels like easy mode to me when I'm there. Lots of hot girls especially in the River North area wearing outfits with their sideboobs hanging out around the summertime. If I recall Lincoln Park was really great too last time I was there a few years ago. NYC objectively speaking probably has more hot girls in total. Not that you'd run out in Chi. But NYC is just bigger and has more reasons to attract them. If your demographic is younger women in their early-mid 20s… | /r/seduction | 21/05/25 07:58 AM |
| 2 | What Makes a City "Good" for Dating? Or for Single Guys?Yeah I know the feeling still. I moved to Miami to be around hotter girls. The people complaining that the dating scene in Miami sucks though will probably be miserable with dating wherever they end up. | /r/seduction | 21/05/25 07:53 AM |
| 2 | What Makes a City "Good" for Dating? Or for Single Guys?Lots of hot women. NYC is great if you're a masculine, socially-calibrated guy. Because there aren't many of those guys in NYC. Every area has hot girls. And every area has people complaining about how horrible dating is in that area. If you choose to believe something first, you'll find the evidence to make it true. | /r/seduction | 20/05/25 09:02 PM |
| 1 | How do you get the ACTUAL 10s?Move somewhere where there are more 10s. I moved to Miami for this reason. | /r/seduction | 10/05/25 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Do you think the Mystery Method still works in 2025?No you missed a lot I'm not gonna spell it out for you but John's strategies rely more on moving the interaction forward and less on gimmicky shit that usually hurts more than helps. I'm not saying the dude's perfect but that shift was a big one in my game. Edit: Along with embracing the DHV of being unapologetically yourself. It works better than most things you can try for being high-value. And allows you to game circles around dudes when they run out of bullshit "routines" or things they read… | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 12:49 AM |
| 2 | When did cold approach get easier for you?The sooner the better tbh. Whenever you see a hot girl train yourself to instinctively make eye contact with communicative intent like you're about to say something. You can do that nonverbally in like .01 seconds. And that makes her expect an open from you. But if she really doesn't see you and walks by, just open her as soon as possible after that. Not ideal to open her from behind according to textbook game. But if she just walked by me I'd be like "Oh hey" as if I forgot something or just no… | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 11:59 PM |
| 2 | When did cold approach get easier for you?You're out, and you see a hot girl who you would bang. From that moment, you have 3 seconds to approach her. Not 5, not 7, 3. No thinking. It's like jumping into cold water. Never break the 3 second rule. Pretend your mom will get cancer or some horrible shit will happen if you don't approach her in 3 seconds. | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 10:47 PM |
| 2 | Bait car womenI'm only bragging because there are way too many guys on these forums who have zero wins or success or experience posting "advice". Plenty of lurkers too, and I want to help guys who were like me starting out to succeed. It doesn't help anyone when it's the blind leading the blind. These guys who have never gotten results with women are teaching other men to have impoverished maps of reality. The truth is once I discovered all this stuff was learnable I detached ego from it entirely. Getting hot… | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 10:40 PM |
| 6 | What should i do ?!Then you ask her if she likes something else. It's not a rejection of you it's a rejection of the thing. If you read the mystery method girls don't comply with you solely because you're "alpha". Being alpha is the part most guys need to focus on because they lack it the most. Which is why they see an uptick in results after they quote unquote "become more alpha." But you can overcompensate in alpha qualities too. Which a lot of guys do after they first see it working and think "being alpha" is a… | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 10:28 PM |
| 4 | What should i do ?!I have used this exact pattern to date hundreds of women over the years. It's been massively field-tested. They don't say no if they're attracted to you. What it's doing is building what - in the old-school - they called a "Yes ladder". Every "yes" a woman gives you begets more yesses later on in the conversation. It's building compliance. Not mandatory. But higher success rate from my experience. | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Bait car womenI don't even know what the argument is anymore I'm getting a lot of trolls on this comment and I need to get back to work. But from my experience, the best thing to do is not to try and figure out what kind of games the woman is playing. It's to make YOUR game better and focus solely on that. When you get good enough, women drop whatever games they're playing instantly because they get sucked into your world and your reality. | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Bait car womenNo disagreement there. The question is: what are you gonna do about it? | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Bait car womenI can personally guarantee you it wasn't easy for me. The difference between me as a newbie and these schmucks is that I never made up conspiratorial bullshit to explain why women reject me. I've always looked at my own presentation and how I was communicating to see how I could improve. Without taking it personally. OP's attitude is toxic. I'm calling him out. You're bringing up some scenario that was never in question. That somehow if a hot woman is into you, it's too good to be true. That min… | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 09:54 PM |
| 6 | What should i do ?!Yeah you're overthinking. This is the easiest close for me: "Do you like X?" (X can be coffee, drinks, wine, date activity type shit - though if she's a fitness woman maybe she doesn't drink so heir on the healthy side) She will likely respond "yes". Especially if she already said she finds you attractive. "Cool we should get X together this week I want to get to know you better :)" Use the smiley face if it's over text or just smile authentically if it's in person. Then you go into "when are yo… | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 09:47 PM |
| 2 | Bait car womenYou are either lying or missing important context. I have been doing game 15 years, encountered every possible scenario and I have never seen that happen. If you want to avoid risk then lock yourself in your home and never go outside. Even then you risk someone breaking into your house and stabbing you to death. Risk is a part of getting anything worthwhile. Rejection won't kill you. Most of the time if you get rejected it's because the girl is unavailable for some reason outside your control i.… | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Bait car womenIt's called game dude. Some of you guys don't even understand the basics. That's fine though, more girls for me! | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys approach looking rough or you try to look your best?Look put together. Don't obsess about it though or you'll look like a gay dude. | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 08:59 PM |
| 2 | When did cold approach get easier for you?After 15 years in the game I have approached and dated some true stunners. And I still get approach anxiety if I've been busy working and haven't done it in a while. I notice after 3 days or nights out in a row approaching, momentum really starts to pick up and I become unstoppable. If I haven't cold approached in a month I have resistance but it comes back pretty quickly. 3 second rule is king. | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 08:57 PM |
| 10 | Bait car womenHoly shit dude you have zero game. And you'll never "get" any game with that attitude. Read the mystery method, work on your vibe/presence/DHVs. Nobody is out to get you. Yes, you will get rejected. No, it's not a conspiracy to set you up and "shame" you. Yes, women are more on-guard and harsher in settings where flirting is expected because they get blasted in the face with sausages when they enter those settings. BE the guy who is the exception. I am 36 and pulled the hottest blonde 21 year ol… | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 08:26 PM |
| 1 | I'm doubting style is -that- important.Style really isn't that important. The most important thing is that you look put together. After that with too much style you border into "gay best friend" territory. Or try-hard. Back in 2012 my wing used to wear a full fucking suit out to the bars to talk to girls because he was trying to "peacock" but that dude didn't even understand the theory behind peacocking, so he fucked up the practice of it. And he never got laid. I find it funny that guys glaze over books like the mystery method witho… | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good way to approach women?I have used "Wow you're really pretty I want to meet you" It works great. But don't say it like you're applying to a fucking job interview dude. | /r/seduction | 29/04/25 05:55 PM |
| 2 | Is Rules of The Game a good read?haha I did the whole challenge waaaaaaay back in the day. it probably helped a little, it was more fun than anything though. The short stories were fun too. As far as helping your game, I think there are better things you can do to improve it like actually talking to women. | /r/seduction | 15/04/25 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Shit Test RepertoireThis subreddit is (supposed to be) about doing the things that actually work pragmatically, on the field of play. Not pontificating into theory that doesn't move the needle in practice. Speaking from about 15 years' experience in the game, you are failing shit tests precisely because you are treating them as if they are chess. They are not chess. And they do not require any complex mental gymnastics. Literally solving every shit test can be boiled down to: "don't let your personal vibe get inter… | /r/seduction | 15/04/25 02:09 AM |
| 1 | Shit Test RepertoireOnce you start passing them, you never "fail" a shit test again. I don't even notice them anymore. I just pass them unconsciously. I even think viewing it as this whole "test" you have to "pass" is the wrong frame and causes guys to fail them. | /r/seduction | 14/04/25 08:42 AM |
| 2 | 2nd date, kino, makeout how to escalate?Make it known that you're leaving if you haven't already. Don't be too outcome-dependent. Whatever happens happens. Make sexual jokes here and there throughout the date. See if she laughs at them/how receptive she is to them. Invite her back to your place for an innocuous reason. | /r/seduction | 11/04/25 09:04 PM |
| 7 | What is the frequency/vibe of sex addicted women?Women in nurturing professions (teachers, nurses, daycare workers) are typically a lot more promiscuous. That's not a hard rule for the pedantic people reading this about to comment underneath me. | /r/seduction | 11/04/25 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Shit Test RepertoireWell, that's all you need to know. You don't need to have a repertoire lol. | /r/seduction | 11/04/25 02:07 AM |
| 1 | How to know when to approach a female?Nah girls can tell all this stuff is contrived. Say whatever comes to your mind bro. Authenticity is attractive. | /r/seduction | 10/04/25 04:54 AM |
| 1 | Preparing-- Getting into the right mindset before approaches?The right mindset is whatever mindset you are in. As long as you believe it's the right mindset, it will become the right mindset. And your mindset doesn't matter anyway. Because if you see a girl you like, you will never be able to wait for a different mindset to approach her. She'll be gone, out of your life forever by the time that happens. So when your perfect woman is in your proximity, you have NO CHOICE but to approach her in that mindset. The best thing you can do is convince yourself th… | /r/seduction | 10/04/25 04:47 AM |
| 2 | Shit Test RepertoireShit tests are not some magical thing where the girl is trying to pull a "gotcha!" They occur because she became attracted to you and she's trying to throw you off to see if she can make herself un-attracted to you. To make sure the initial attraction wasn't just a happenstance accident. She usually does that by giving you something you could potentially act like a pussy about. If you don't act like a fucking pussy, get butthurt, or show a beta attitude, then she becomes even more attracted. Don… | /r/seduction | 10/04/25 04:37 AM |
| 3 | Do you think the Mystery Method still works in 2025?He's got lots of haters because he's a hater but his strategies are more efficient than anything I've tried 🤷🏻♂️ and I've tried a lot. | /r/seduction | 08/04/25 02:09 AM |
| 9 | How to know when to approach a female?3 second rule. Once you see a girl you like, approach her within 3 seconds. If you wait too long you'll start overthinking and self-sabotage. Say whatever comes to your mind. She doesn't even really care what you say, she'll just be glad you're taking on the burden of keeping the convo going at the beginning. I literally opened a girl the other day and started rambling about burritos until she got into it because it literally doesn't matter. When you're 30 minutes into the set and she agreed to … | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Am I the only one that’s worried about becoming old and ugly?you gotta walk before you can run man. | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 06:48 PM |
| 1 | What the hell do you talk about on the first date?Stop trying to filter yourself. You're not expected to "perform." You don't need pre-planned questions. If you were talking to your dad, you probably wouldn't think twice about what to say in a conversation. You're looking for someone who meshes with your authentic personality. If you have guards up and only say pre-planned things, you'll never even give yourself the opportunity to do that. There's a natural, authentic version of you that you display when talking to people you know well. Do that… | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 04:02 PM |
| 6 | Best dating apps for hookups for a guyI've hooked up from pretty much all of them. Hell I once messaged a girl on yelp and hooked up from her off of there. They all work. It's about how you portray yourself on the app first and foremost. | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 03:18 PM |
| 7 | Do you think the Mystery Method still works in 2025?Read Mystery Method for the theory and foundation of how all this works if you're a total newb at this. Pay special attention to the attraction switches. They're still very relevant. Mystery's general M3 structure is technically right, but he overcomplicates it into insanity and details a bunch of truly unnecessary steps. Still, Mystery is an OG. Mystery Method is for understanding theory. When it comes to practice and pragmatism, look more into Rob Judge or John Anthony. | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Am I the only one that’s worried about becoming old and ugly?You can still get results in your 20s by adopting the right mindsets I'm not saying you can't. Work on just living your life with stoic philosophy in mind. Read Marcus Aurelius. You don't need steroids. The right ideas your brain is "running on" can change it drastically. IMO the biggest needle mover is focusing on Mystery's attraction switches: - Preselection - Leader of men - Protector of loved ones - Willingness to emote (in a calibrated way) - Successful risk taker / adventurous lifestyle Th… | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 06:16 AM |
| 1 | How can you deal with being turned onYeah you should start to investigate those feelings that come up thinking women don't want men to feel turned on. They do. They get super excited when you get turned on in their presence, especially if they're already making out wit you. | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 01:45 AM |
| 1 | Unpopular seduction opinion: numbers game is so bad.It's not a numbers game it's a strategy game. If you've only ever dated 7s, and want to go for 8s or 9s, you're not going to do that immediately. You have to work your way up with how you communicate and learn the right strategies. Mass approaching with the wrong strategy is just reinforcing the wrong strategy. Women do like hookups as much as men. Even more so sometimes. They don't do it with just anyone because of the stigma and the biological risk to them. If you can erase that stigma, they l… | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 01:43 AM |
| 1 | How can you deal with being turned onShe probably feels turned on too. That's the point. You come from a hyper religious background? | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Am I the only one that’s worried about becoming old and ugly?You aren't as nervous about everything, you're more masculine, more mature, sure of yourself, girls find it more attractive that you have your shit together and you don't get thrown off emotionally like guys in their 20s do. | /r/seduction | 07/04/25 12:33 AM |
| 7 | Do you try to escalate on the first date?Hold hands. Initiate physicality that is socially acceptable. Put your hand on her back leading her through the doorway. Give eye contact a split second longer than you normally would. Talk about something cool that is back at your place. The view from your balcony, a funny show you like, your dog, a rare and interesting object you have. Later toward the end of the date, tell her you want to show it to her and invite her back to your place. Tell her it's not for sex/you have no sexual expectatio… | /r/seduction | 06/04/25 01:39 AM |
| 1 | Am I the only one that’s worried about becoming old and ugly?I'm 36 and every year it gets better dude. I'm dating hotter girls now than I could have ever pulled in my 20s. Tons of girls prefer older guys. Just take care of yourself, don't get fat, etc. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 11:15 PM |
| 3 | need someone to explain me why it happens (regarding cold approach)A few strategic things for you to improve this process: When you're talking to them in person after approaching, ask them if they like coffee or a certain drink (I say wine or margaritas in the US, I'm not sure where you're from and what's a popular date activity in your country.) When she says "yes" tell her "We should get some this week." Important: do not ask "Do you want to get some." You're not asking. You're establishing the leading vibe even though it's still a suggestion, and you're usin… | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 06:10 PM |
| 1 | looking better/more confident going out = less indicators of interest?I think in general when you put less effort in (but still look presentable) you get the most results from hot girls. That said, don't make IOIs the thing that makes or breaks your game. Approach, start conversations, get numbers, set up dates. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 05:35 PM |
| 6 | How can you deal with being turned onLol own it dude. If she's making out with him and he's turned on, she was probably turned on too. It's called the circle of life. They talked about it in The Lion King. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 05:32 PM |
| 1 | What do you say when she asks what type of music you like?Lol dude just tell her what kind of music you like. Especially if you have a story about a band or artist you've followed for a while, talk about what makes you connected to their music and their outlook on life. Girls love that stuff. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 02:02 AM |
| 2 | Mid 50s doing cold approach?I know a guy who was 72, and he picked up a hot 18yo waitress and banged her. Granted he looked like he was maybe in his early 60s. But still. If you act creepy, it will be creepy. So don't be creepy. Learn the right systems and strategies to move your interactions forward. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 01:58 AM |
| 4 | Are black pillers and incels taking over this sub?The black pillers and incels are running on delusions. That toxic mindset is making them miss out on so many hot girls. Their loss. Don't make it your loss too. | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 01:52 AM |
| 1 | What kinds of things do you say to her when dancing so that you can escalate and try go in for a kiss?There's too many variables on the dance floor, it's a horrible place to escalate/talk to a girl. Especially with loud music drowning you out. Isolate her away from the dance floor to vibe and escalate. | /r/seduction | 04/04/25 02:25 AM |
| 8 | Be friend with women!I think this has more to do with you being more comfortable with it when there's low pressure and no expectations. Friendzoning a girl is not seduction. Eventually you'd have to un-friendzone her if you want to seduce her. Learn to become comfortable stating your intentions from the get-go. Otherwise you might as well just be girls' "gay best friend". | /r/seduction | 04/04/25 02:21 AM |
| 1 | Do yall think you can date 10'sLol I don't know why these comments got downvotes. It's true. I've met so many guys who will literally call a 7 a 10. Some of these guys need to go talk to girls at E11even in Miami. Or some of the higher-end clubs in Scottsdale or San Diego. Then come back to their midwestern towns and see if they still think suzy around the block is a 10. | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 11:49 PM |
| 2 | Do yall think you can date 10'sI have been in this game a very long time. I went through a phase maybe 8 or 10 years ago where I blew myself away with the hotness of girls I could attract when I really dialed it in. It's an amazing feeling when you get your first 9.5 (I don't believe there's a such thing as a 10). Frankly, it still feels amazing to me. But it's less surprising now as it was back then. I can say with certainty that if your goal is to bang 10s, make it your goal, and learn the systems and strategies that create… | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Long term struggle with a girl that I really click withGo with option B. Also, date a lot more girls. Like, a lot. If you totally forget about this girl, it will be for the best. But judging by her behavior she'll probably be back in one way or another. Personally I wouldn't focus on labeling her attachment style or trauma. She told you she could disappear at any minute, and you ignored it. She never lied to you about anything. You let your emotions blind you and set your expectations purely on something that was created in your head, not in the rea… | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Is she into me or using me?m IIt doesn't sound like it's over to me but it also sounds like you screwed it up previously. Best thing to do in these scenarios is get some space from her, make your life bad ass, see other women, then invite her back into it when it's no big deal to you. To do a post-mortem, I think it would have helped if you were more explicit about your intentions to bang her earlier on. Doesn't mean telling her. Being more physical in your interactions and making more innuendos in conversation. Holding eye … | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Need help dirty talkingJust tell him what you authentically want to do to him. Like you already know what dirty talk is best. You're just not used to sharing those thoughts out loud. Get comfortable sharing your secret sexual thoughts and desires with him. | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 03:57 PM |
| 1 | When she says "you're very forward" is that good or badI like to respond "better than being backward" and then just continue talking about whatever I was talking about. | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 03:17 PM |
| 252 | I did ItSee, so many guys don't approach because they're afraid of rejection. But you never regret approaching AFTER you do it, no matter what happens. Even if the girl says she's unavailable for some reason. You are ALWAYS glad you did it. Congrats bro. | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 03:13 PM |
| 3 | How important is age?Age is an advantage. I'm 36, been 'in the game' so to speak since my 20s and as I've gotten older I've only dated hotter girls and become more skilled at this. I still date women in their 20s and most have no problem with my age. I'm pulling girls that are of a hotness level I never could when I was in my 20s. Every now and then you run into a younger woman who takes issue with it and doesn't want to date you solely because of your age. It's really just a personal preference thing tbh. Some girl… | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 01:47 PM |
| 1 | Lurker situation. Need help!!Not necessarily. It's a female fantasy to be the girl who gets the "player" guy who has a bunch of options, to drop his options and commit to her. It's in all the romance novels like 50 Shades Of Grey and what not. I don't know if OP wants to do that but that's for him to decide. I have had a long run as a "player" and have often had girls who convinced me to commit to them and drop entire rotations of girls I was seeing. But it has to be worth it to me. Also depends on where you're at in life. … | /r/seduction | 31/03/25 06:37 AM |
| 1 | Lurker situation. Need help!!Only if you don't really mean it 😂 | /r/seduction | 31/03/25 02:56 AM |
| 1 | Lurker situation. Need help!!Oh you didn't say that part. If she senses you're a player, that could be a reason she said no before too. I've had girls who were literally obsessed with me but said no to my advances because they thought they wouldn't be "special" to me if they hooked up. If that's the case, and she sees you as a player, the strategy is to go for emotional connection and subtly let her know you notice unique things about her, "that are not like the other girls," so to speak. It would explain the notes and the … | /r/seduction | 30/03/25 04:37 AM |
| 1 | ArrangementTell her you still need time to figure it out. | /r/seduction | 30/03/25 03:54 AM |
| 4 | Lurker situation. Need help!!A good hint to drop is to just bring up in conversation an activity, like "Oh there's this really cool place that has awesome coffee or drinks." You can take some liberties to build it up a bit how awesome it is. I've told girls "This coffee is literally crafted by the hand of God. You have to try it." But that's just my personality. If she's intrigued and tells you she wants to try it, then be like "We should go there and grab some, I'll show you the best drinks there." Kind of makes it so the … | /r/seduction | 30/03/25 03:52 AM |
| 14 | Early 30s looking for advice on cold approach as a beginner.Early 30s is still reasonably young. I'm 36 and approach girls in their 20s all the time. I've been doing it since my mid-20s and honestly I get way better results in my 30s, with hotter girls. You have more life experience, more social experience in your 30s and you don't get butthurt and bent out of shape about stuff like guys in their 20s do. And girls in their 20s find that attractive. The main thing to remember is that girls will treat you how you act. If you act weird, like you're not supp… | /r/seduction | 30/03/25 03:03 AM |
| 10 | For those that improved their dating profile pictures, how much of a difference did it make in online dating?Makes all the difference in the world. Test them for attractiveness on photofeeler, and put the best ones on your profile. You'll be shocked at what pictures girls rate as most attractive. It's always a huge surprise. | /r/seduction | 30/03/25 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Do any of you guys use explicit sexual texts/convo with women you’re talking to? How does it work for you?No. Too risky. I say this as someone who used to get sexual over text all the time, and had a lot of success sleeping with girls from Tinder that way in the past. But I lost a lot of opportunities that way too. Some girls like sexuality right off the bat because the boldness turns them on. But those girls would meet up with you anyway even if you weren't sexual via text and just went for the meetup, then got sexual with them in-person. Nowadays, I see the purpose of text as simply to move the in… | /r/seduction | 28/03/25 06:22 PM |
| 1 | Seems like me and my (ex) girlfriend are splitting up - what mentality/mindset should I develop?Bro, approaching is like jumping into a cold swimming pool. There's no way you'll know the temperature and prepare yourself before you do it. You just gotta jump, then acclimate to the temperature afterward. It's funny, you never actually regret approaching a girl. Even if the girl turns you down - it's usually just because she's unavailable or not looking for anyone and has nothing to do with you. But you'll regret NOT approaching a ton. So take the leap. Throw yourself into it. There's no way … | /r/seduction | 28/03/25 05:46 PM |
| 12 | What's a good spot to meet a woman and still have some funCoffee shop. Or drinks. Don't overthink it. | /r/seduction | 28/03/25 05:07 PM |
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