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| 1 | Where can I meet women because hobbies aren’t workingMore people like muscles than dad bods. Don’t go by exceptions, go by the rules. Also hit the gym regardless man, it’s good for you and your health. People get on their A game when they workout. | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 08:21 AM |
| 1 | How to get rid of needinessOkay, then stop being needy lmao. If it’s that simple for you. | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 08:18 AM |
| 2 | Should you leave girls on read if they send a message that doesn't require an answer? Particularly on snapchatWho cares if it’s cool or not. If either of you cba to carry the conversation from time to time initially, then like lol, it is not going workout either way. The conversation is going to die anyway, and if there ain’t an out on Snapchat, then you read zone them. | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Trying to get a hold of reading signals.You are actually right, it is different for every girl. Although you came to the right conclusion, also just another tip, don’t take everything that a girl says literally. Their feedback is always nuanced and doesn’t actually represent what the key issue was. When someone says you go off too strong, all it means is that the girl wasn’t as interested in you as you were with them. They just went on a date with you to sus things out and they were in the “maybe” camp, where you went on a date with t… | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 08:41 PM |
| 1 | Trying to get a hold of reading signals.You will bro, you will. “In due time, not right now”. This just means that it will take time, practice and determination to learn and hone in on the skills, to become the charismatic slayer you desire to be. Rome wasn’t built in one day. Besides rejection is always a part of the game, but be proud that you got a date set up! Keep getting more dates and you’ll soon learn the basics to conversational game. | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 08:33 PM |
| 15 | [deleted by user]Look man, I feel you. It’s been so long that you couldn’t find a woman that you can call dearly your wife and have a family, it feels like the game has burned you out. But you don’t have to call it quits. Since you are in the military it’s actually often harder to find someone that sticks. Since you often will be on long deployments with the risk of death, most women actually tend to avoid that. It doesn’t mean it’s the end though, as there are many military families which exist!! Take a break y… | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 08:22 PM |
| 2 | Any advice on how to avoid the "i just didn't feel the spark"“Did not feel a connection or spark between us.” That could mean a lot of things lmao. If I were to guess, it’s either a failure in escalation or the date was just simply not as enjoyable for the girl. In some very rare cases, the girl may actually mean what they say: you weren’t a compatible match. If that were the case you can’t do much but move on and find someone more compatible. However, most of the time just one of those classic sayings girls use to reject nicely. Like not finding the “spa… | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 08:00 PM |
| 1 | What are some mantras, mottos or quotes you tell yourself?“You only find out once you get past fear.” Fear only stops you from finding out what can be and what will be. Fear is nothing man, don’t let it stop you on your path to getting laid. | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 12:20 PM |
| 62 | What actually classifies as “simp behavior”?Look, a Simp is basically a person who is giving more and getting less in return in terms of attention and affection. For example, you aren’t a simp if you initiate cuddling all of the time, if your girl does the same back to you. You aren’t a simp if a you buy a girl a gift, and she gives back you a nice gift. You aren’t a simp if you give her all of your attention, if she gives all of her attention to you. The thing is it’s only simp behaviour when it’s really an uneven exchange of value, and … | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 10:44 AM |
| 1 | I think I got yellow feverLmao. If you live in the west, you honestly have an advantage lol. Just chat them up and get interested in their culture. If you live in other parts of the world such as Asia, then you have a valid point. They don’t prefer black people over there because they are rare and don’t come around as much, but there people out there who get interested and if you flirt with them you get in. Just one thing though, you want Asian women, go to a rave, basically it’s the same shit as going into a club but th… | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 10:27 AM |
| 115 | Just saw a friend pull a girl home and I'm dumbfoundedTbh bro, doesn’t matter. You can have this superpower as well, you will just have to chat girls up. Also people get frisky after a night out drinking anyway, so the chances to seal the bag is higher. Why don’t you try it, see how it works out for you ;) | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 10:24 AM |
| 3 | If you say hey to a girl and she says hey back but doesn't smile at you, is that a sign that there is no attraction or interest?Attraction or interest is formed in many different ways. A simple smile won’t exactly tell you anything. People just smile to be friendly. All you can really do now is talk and find out stuff, but you may have messed up the first impression since you didn’t go and chat her up after you said hello. Is it still saveable? In this case it can be saved since nothing has actually happened. Well only one way to find out, chat her up and see what’s her reaction. | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 10:22 AM |
| 1 | Help with my ex-best friendDon’t. Once you lose contact it’s already game over. Also with best friends it’s kind of the worst kind of friendzone. Don’t expect much man from this. It’s better to leave this be, find another girl and escalate it a lot more earlier. This is going to be a burning L, but it’s one important lesson. | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 10:18 AM |
| 14 | Ever fail to escalate early and she got cold?Don’t worry bro. Be proud of the fact that you dated a baddie and almost got the W. Now go find another, even bigger baddie and get the bag with that one learning from your mistakes. Also you can initiate stuff on the first date as well, just gotta feel the vibe you know what I’m sayin. | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 10:15 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Usually starting and maintaining conversations with any woman is hard anyway, you aren’t alone in that. The only thing you will have to figure out is how to start it, and that’s the hardest bit. Honestly I’m more in the camp of how you say things, is more important than what you actually say. You can say “what’s your plans for the weekend” way more confidently with charisma and get better results than being monotonous. That can help maintain conversation. Also maintaining and starting conversati… | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 09:57 AM |
| 2 | Unpopular opinion - A relationship lasts longer when the girl is more obsessed with the guy than the other way round (which is the popular opinion(Yeah this opinion is popular lol. Although to add onto it, and to simplify it, it’s all just really about the girl being obsessed or not. Like it doesn’t matter if the guy is or is not obsessed, if the girl isn’t obsessed one bit, the relationship is as good as dead. | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 09:47 AM |
| 1 | Unpopular hot take: Most men are totally okay with waiting to have sex, but we're under pressure to make moves or else we'll be friendzoned.Yeah, usually women aren’t the ones to make the moves anyway in regards to anything in dating. The only times I ever see women make a move is when they are really really into that one guy they had a crush for a really long time where their fantasies just erupt and they cannot control it. Otherwise women are usually too scared to initiate or due to societal expectations, they just let the man do the work, and that’s just the reality of the game. Men have to approach, men have to flirt, men have t… | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 09:43 AM |
| 1 | Where can I meet women because hobbies aren’t workingLook man, again the community thing depends on variables particular within that community. So I cannot comment on what is particularly happening, if it’s all looks or if there are other blockers. Often different communities have different social rules and approaches to how dating can be achieved. In communities I have been in, dating is seen as unnecessary due to the professional vibes put off (for no reason for a university society lmao), so people aren’t in the dating mindset. But other commun… | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 09:27 AM |
| 1 | Where can I meet women because hobbies aren’t workingHey man, depending on your age there could be many options. However I’m going to assume that you aren’t in school and stuff. Honestly either you expand your hobbies and keep working at it, basically try new shit and enter new communities, maybe it’s just that the groups you are currently associated with don’t have a high concentration of singles ready to mingle. However that’s more of doing the same with different groups of people, and you are obviously looking for other shit. Now you talk about… | /r/seduction | 22/10/22 01:06 PM |
| 2 | How do I stop limiting myself?All good brev | /r/seduction | 22/10/22 12:52 PM |
| 4 | How do I stop limiting myself?College is the perfect environment to get a big social life and crew but it takes some work and strategy. Those who are the social butterflies get involved into fraternities, community groups and college societies. These environments basically allow you to meet the same group of people constantly unlike meeting people in classes where the interactions are most likely to be temporary. You can meet most of these people, get close to them and then eventually get invited into their parties and their… | /r/seduction | 22/10/22 07:36 AM |
| 4 | I really want her but don’t know what to do nextDon’t do anything. Leave it be. Look it seemed there was a failure in escalation from my understanding. You guys just went on one date, where were the other dates? Since you guys are in med school (unless you do another course) I understand it’s hard to make up for time, you guys could’ve at least hung out more in person on campus, had food or something to further in-person escalation. Unless this was impossible then it may be the fact that she never really liked you that much. I think the girl … | /r/seduction | 22/10/22 07:23 AM |
| 1 | I’m a mid twenties kissless virgin and I feel like I will lose everything good in my life that I’ve worked hard for if I don’t get laid soon.Believe in yourself. Believe in the mission. Believe in the results. “In due time, not right now”. You’ll get it man, don’t worry. Nothing will stop you. And you’re welcome. | /r/seduction | 22/10/22 06:09 AM |
| 3 | I’m a mid twenties kissless virgin and I feel like I will lose everything good in my life that I’ve worked hard for if I don’t get laid soon.Look man, life isn’t set up together if this mindset is breaking you apart. Also you entered university again and are not currently at a high paying job. So you still have a to go at it again to get back to another high paying job. High grades don’t come from no where. Well what more is there to do? I mean for me personally there is fitness, making a business, travelling to gain interesting stories, making new friends, learning new things? The thing is look I get it. You made it out alive from o… | /r/seduction | 22/10/22 05:59 AM |
| 3 | I’m a mid twenties kissless virgin and I feel like I will lose everything good in my life that I’ve worked hard for if I don’t get laid soon.Dude, don’t put all of your worth and value all into losing your virginity, and do lose that attitude soon. Seeing your hustle to get numbers and get laid, I see you have the mentality to do bigger shit unlike most guys. Fourty-five day cold-approach challenge, that’s some dedication. The thing is coming from a background such as yours (I do some come from a background as such although a way more supportive and open one, still conservative af though), it does put you at a disadvantage but only t… | /r/seduction | 22/10/22 05:35 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Eh? I guess this is one of your first few ventures with girls and you may take what people say literally. Look man, yes there are nuanced situations and this one may have a very slight chance that she will “think about it later and get back to you”. But 9/10 times when someone says that, it’s just an indirect way of rejecting someone without any form of confrontation. Most women are not usually comfortable with rejecting someone because they are acutely aware of how one feels when being rejected… | /r/seduction | 22/10/22 01:48 AM |
| 3 | Should I hide a political book because a girl will come watch a movie with me?I see. Just hide the book then. Once you get enough one-off dating experiences though, then filter out the ones that align with your beliefs. | /r/seduction | 22/10/22 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Should I hide a political book because a girl will come watch a movie with me?Eh? Usually most people don’t read books and are not necessarily going to know every book or political personality on the planet. I’m assuming you live in the America since you mentioned Ben Shapiro, so I’m going to speak from an American lens. I know he is popular amongst conservative communities and is rejected a lot by the left, and I’m assuming she is on the opposite side of the spectrum. If she really is that politically in-tune and gets offended to opposing views, hide the book. Otherwise … | /r/seduction | 22/10/22 01:26 AM |
| 2 | I don't know if I want to be with my GFI ain’t gonna repeat what the others said, they said it clearly. But what I am going to say is something else. Look bro your girlfriend to be frank has gotten away from not doing shit to you because you have offered very little consequences. If she is not going to do foreplay with you, why the hell are you giving her unlimited foreplay? This should’ve been dealt with from the beginning with a strong conversion saying that this is unfair for me not getting what I want from our sex life, but you g… | /r/seduction | 22/10/22 01:11 AM |
| 1 | I am able to sleep with a lot of women but only because they approach me. I have no game whatsoever. What should I do?Look bro, you are in a very lucky position, and tbh you actually know what to do. You are just going to have to actually try from ground zero and actually initiate proper conversations with these women, and face the idea of rejection to learn game. If you want any sort of comfort, the thing is, once a girl is interested in you, it’s so much easier to talk to them with having very little game. In their mind they already think you are the shit, so use that to your full advantage. You could literal… | /r/seduction | 22/10/22 12:57 AM |
| 5 | Why does it take you so long to respond to texts?Not a woman here but have dealt with many women (and men) that didn’t respond properly, and talked to them about it. Honestly most of the time if anyone takes a day to respond, they have no interest to talk to you at all, no matter the context. As others have said on this thread, most people only respond quickly to “certain” people quickly most of the time. Also some of us like to play “texting” games where we purposely wait a few minutes/hours to not seem “desperate”. There are outliers, althou… | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 11:49 PM |
| 2 | Feeling bitter.I think you were missing the point..? When most people think of Chads, Tyrones or whatever you want to call them, they think it’s unobtainable and complain about never being a Chad or better than a Chad. You literally can become higher value if you work hard for it, I just said that through improving yourself. You can become a Chad lol. I just don’t like the term because people have a complaining/give up mentality when it comes to thinking about chads 😂🤣. | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 07:32 PM |
| 1 | How I figure out what's off-putting about me to some people?That’s understandable man. Do what you feel comfortable with. At least I’m glad you understand the risks and certain archetypes that you could look like in front of other work colleagues, so you are all good. Also fair enough, if you do indeed believe that it isn’t necessarily them and it has something to do with you, then it could be the case. Just remember it’s a very fine line to when it’s your vs their problem. Yeah take small steps and observe how people react. You can also observe other pe… | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 02:10 AM |
| 1 | Caught my bf masturbating to a soccer gameWrong sub-reddit lol. Anyway I don’t know what you’ll achieve with posting this??? Honestly just have a healthy conversation with him and don’t judge him if he is indeed gay/bi. Also have a non-judgemental healthy conversation about your sex life and see if there is anything missing from his side for you to be pleased, and anything missing from your side for him to be pleased. | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 02:02 AM |
| 3 | Feeling bitter.Lmaoooooo. Look bro I understand what you mean by “Chad”, and yes attractive people do have it easy, it’s facts. But there no point complaining about it or discussing it, if you think that this “Chad” shit is unobtainable or because of this, it puts you at a big disadvantage lol. You will be dealt a certain number of cards, and you have to accept them as a man to make the most of what you got. Why I said the concept of “chad” is a bunch of shit is because how people interpret it, thinking that a… | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 12:33 AM |
| 4 | Stop chasing her before becoming an annoyanceSure man, but that often occurs rarely. It’s good that you leave things on a good note, but never do nice things because something great may happen in return. However to be frank, the way you just said that is like you have some inkling of a hope. I understand man, look your choice, please let that go and move onto the next woman who will give you a better time. Trust me you’ll feel way better about it once you achieve it. | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 11:07 PM |
| 1 | How many times in your life have you been rejected? How often do you have dates?No worries brev | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 10:47 PM |
| 0 | Feeling bitter.Don’t beat yourself up lol. Forgive yourself man it’s all you can do, also your friend got buried, you ain’t going to be in the best of moods anyway. It’s okay to be phased as well, it happens. Just breathe in and out and just celebrate your boys win, and make it up to your boys that you will win with them as well. When the boys win you win, and when you win, the boys win. Tis simple. Use this stuff to inspire you to conquer shit. | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 10:41 PM |
| 17 | Stop chasing her before becoming an annoyanceHey dude, that’s some healthy advice I found on the page (lol) and I absolutely agree with you on the most part except the part on “resuming” things. Like as a fellow romantic and as someone who used to romanticise a heap of things, reality is most of the time once shit doesn’t work out, it never works out. I don’t know if you are trying to talk about this from a “being in a failing relationship” or “talking to someone perspective”, but like either way, it’s often better to focus on new people a… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 10:33 PM |
| 2 | How I figure out what's off-putting about me to some people?Hey man, I think you are thinking about this too deeply. Some people are obviously nice to you and want to know you, and some people are just not well, assholes if what you are putting out here is the truth. However I’d advise against going for workplace relationships (if you are at all considering it). Any wrong move and your source of income can get cut, you never ever want to risk that most of the time. If you are still going to do it, be extremely careful in what you say or do in the office,… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 10:30 PM |
| 11 | Feeling bitter.Look bro, I get it, another man is getting women easily and you aren’t, it can make us feel incompetent and not feel like a “chad”. Also the whole concept of chad is wack of shit. Look I’ll tell you, most girls don’t actually like sharing a man they are deeply into lol. It’s just a rare case that your friends chick encouraged it and is maybe into that kind of thing, OR, they actually acted that way to show they don’t care but deep down inside they do. Any way I don’t know about that whole situat… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 10:09 PM |
| 3 | How many times in your life have you been rejected? How often do you have dates?Dude, you are doing better than most men in getting consistent traffic lol, appreciate that. As the others have said about online dating being bs (yeah for the most part lmao), and that rejection is part of the game, yeah it is. All men get rejected a lot until they find some success. Anyway my perspective is a bit different on the nuance of rejection. Just try to analyse what’s actually causing it before coming to any conclusion. If this is consistent there are often behaviours that we may do w… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 09:52 PM |
| 1 | So, when do girls start thinking it is offensive to not make phisical moves?I don’t know if you are truly asking when someone feels offended, or when to properly ask haha. Honestly some people can get offended when you ask them if you can make a move, lol. It boils down to each situation and how people are really feeling. As other people have said it simply, it’s usually not offensive to ask for consent early on or later (it’s actually really great that you do) and if you respect them saying no, it’s all good, nothing to be worried about. To be honest though, if you don… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 02:48 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Lol, this classic situation. I mean, this can be very situational, and sometimes they could be genuinely busy that they can’t meet up with you, but if they were interested in you or even wanted to be a genuine friend even (lol) they would’ve made time for you anyway. This is just another nice way of rejecting someone’s advances, and fair play. Also you may think things are going good, but don’t assume that they feel the same on their side, maybe it ain’t going good for them and they could be hid… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 02:35 PM |
| 2 | Autism Spectrum success stories?Look man, don’t think that it’s all over just because you have ASD, actually depending on where you sit on the spectrum or how it inhibits you, it can give you an edge. For me, my ASD has enabled me to understand and construct behavioural patterns to understand people before they even understand themselves and how they feel. I have used this to my advantage to get to places, to be socially accepted and get a few girlfriends myself. However this comes at the big cost of me having to conciously th… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 02:12 PM |
| 1 | What to do after a fail approach?Look man, you did your part and you have the confidence to cold approach and tell someone they are gorgeous, so be proud of yourself. Otherwise what to do after a failed approach. Honestly just some unrelated pieces of advice, cold approach people in situations where you are unlikely to see them again. Now you did it at your gym, and they will be a constant distraction, and you’ll try to cover up your feelings by putting a facade or some shit. I’ll tell you this, who actually gives af. Like they… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 01:52 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Look man, great first dates or not, they aren’t necessarily your call. Also people making the decision to continue, can be based in complete logic or total non-sensible reasoning lol. You’ll realise sooner or later that somethings are within your control (such as how people perceive you, how you talk, escalate and all of that), and that somethings are out of your control (a girl liking you back or ghosting or not ghosting you). People here talking about the thing about mystery, behaving in a cer… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 01:46 PM |
| 1 | How do you pass the "I am too pretty for you" "I don't see what do attractive about you" when you're clearly good looking and she is interested too???Man, These “shit-tests” are just a bunch of immature bs. Honestly I’d say don’t deal with such women if you are looking to go long term but if you have a different objective then here is one answer. If these were texts, just heart react to the message and don’t say anything back. Since these questions are often asked by insecure people, their insecurities usually flare up and they start to think wtf they did to get ignored, because most guys usually respond and never ignore. This usually fixes t… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 01:29 PM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]I don’t have much to go on here, since you don’t like cold approach, and I don’t know what’s the situation with the person or people you are interested in? I’ll just assume that there is someone you are talking to or about to start having conversations with. There isn’t such thing as an appropriate time or window. Like honestly it all depends on the circumstances and the interactions you have with this woman, and asking out in different ways and times can end up in so many ways lmao. Honestly if… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 01:18 PM |
| 1 | How to get rid of needinessNeediness usually comes from a lifetime of not getting healthy affection and probably having to be “needy” to get it. You’ll have to sort out and get to the bottom of why are you exactly needy, then take it step by step to determine what you need to do to be independent and love yourself. This is a journey and isn’t an easy one. What I personally did initially is just do things that distract you and make yourself productive, like go on a walk, go to the gym, make yourself pre-occupied with somet… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 01:10 PM |
| 1 | Trying to get a hold of reading signals.Hey man, Appreciate the effort to better yourself, that’s one of the most noble things a person can do in their life. Anyway in terms of “reading signals” and “signs”, there really isn’t any conventional rules you can follow that apply to every single situation. Communication is nuanced and varies from person to person, the assumptions they make about communication and so on. I have met people who give off rejection vibes but we’re interested still, yeah… Honestly just keep in mind of simple rul… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 01:05 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Late to the party but, consider this. You think someone on a dating app, is serious about getting into a relationship? Especially apps like Tinder, it’s mostly hook ups. That’s just one aspect, are you actually providing value to women when they talk to you, like do you provide a sense of stability or have personality. Getting hook ups vs relationships are two different things and are engaged differently. I don’t know your full story but here is the thing, you will have to change your approach w… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 12:53 PM |
| 1 | Is it wise to rub one out before deciding whether you’re actually interested in meeting up with someone?I mean, depends lol. Like you kind of have to gather what kind of person are you. Will this girl still be sexually attractive after you rub one out, or will you just get post-nut clarity and forget about. Or are you the kind of guy who gets out of control when honey and does some sus stuff. You have to assess yourself how you react when you didn’t rub one vs when you didn’t. In my personal opinion, if what you are saying is true, well I don’t think it matters. Just see how it all goes. People on… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 12:47 PM |
| 3 | I’m not a big flirt with guys , I find I’m to shyIt takes practice and putting yourself in situations where to you learn about the nuances of flirting. The only way to really find out is just put yourself out there and talk to guys you are interested in and try things out. Shyness is natural, but is overcome by becoming comfortable in the uncomfortable :). | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 12:42 PM |
| 1 | Question: do guys here legitimately believe women have to be "earned?"Hey, Look honestly this concept comes from popular red-pill culture, that seduction is somewhat of a “game”. This is just an interpretation of how the framework lays out dating. In your experience you found it quite different and it’s possible that women come to men. Although this often occurs rarely in most men’s experiences, which makes them relate to more of the “game” framework. Your circumstances may have lead to just be naturally attractive to women and that’s why they approach you, and ap… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 12:40 PM |
| 1 | Questions you always ask someone you’re starting to know, and what do their answers typically say about them?Look man, I understand that rule and theory is quite popular, and I do believe it’s true most of the time, although it has its limitations. I mean I don’t want to get to the specifics of it but a relationship is a two-way street, sometimes the daughter is actually a really great person but they have the worst father on the planet which makes them feel bad about everything. It isn’t always the girl being at fault here, this stuff is nuanced. Also just another thing, there are some ground rules wh… | /r/seduction | 20/10/22 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Is there any hope after a woman with initial high interest loses it?Hey there! Don’t bother with it. Honestly once you get that kind of rejection there really is no point trying to fantasise some “strategy” to get them to like you back. Like whenever you rejected a girl, did you ever consider them again? Unlikely, right? So basically, all you can do is move on. If you want to be their friend (which is impossible as of the moment since you still desire some sort of hope escaping the friend zone), only do it because you actually want to be their genuine friend. If… | /r/seduction | 18/10/22 01:24 AM |
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