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DiscussionWaffleBurner96/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 08:56 PM
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Thank you for this important and motivating information
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:33 AM
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You wrote a seven paragraph essay about why women shouldn’t (or “can’t”) have casual sex the way men can because they won’t find a partner. Why? The truth of the matter is that there are plenty of men out there who literally do not care one bit about n count. When women have a gigantic pool of men to choose from, a percentage of men not finding their n count acceptable for an LTR doesn’t actually matter when it comes to finding a partner. To add to that, both low n women and high n women general…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:08 AM
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I have a great sex life and a great marriage. Your madonna whore complex might be something you wanna work on if you want to get married some day, otherwise your sex life is gonna be mid.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:46 AM
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I would be sad if my husband asked to paternity test our daughter, but I’d get it done if it made him feel better. We’d also have a conversation about what I did to make him not trust me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:44 AM
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Yeah, no. I slept with a shit ton of people and still had men talking about futures with me. I got my happily ever after AND all the casual sex I wanted. Sex is still fun even now that I’m married. Stay mad about it though; I’m sure your future virgin tradwife is swooning right now
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:36 AM
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Guy who sells feet pics
/r/ExRedPill18/08/22 11:48 PM
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Slightly above average
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 10:01 PM
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Idk man, it’s 2022. I don’t know of many women that stay home anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 04:11 PM
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It’s a personal thing. I’ve found that daily posting somewhere relatively public helps me to stay on track with my goals
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 03:15 PM
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Most people think that they need to be assertive or demanding to get what they want from their partners, instead of trying to give more in order to get more. Most people are addicted to social media, and this has negative effects on the psyche. The women in my unit fail their fitness tests, despite having lower standards on some parts. We are emotional (though we try to hide it.) Our voices are higher pitched. We are less respected even though we get promoted faster than the men. My goal is to w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 03:10 PM
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Not like other girls
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 03:03 PM
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If you put things in your shoes to make you taller and that pleased your girlfriend, or made you feel more confident, put-together, or productive, then that would be equivalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 03:03 PM
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Yes. That’s why it’s an ongoing operation
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 03:00 PM
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Operation NLOGMaxx has commenced. Objectives: -Maximize happiness of the husband. -Differentiate self from other women in the unit to reduce sexism. -Break addiction from social media. -Increase mental health and self esteem. Day 1 update: Yesterday I lifted, shaved my legs, put on make up and a dress, meal planned, and grocery shopped. Today the plan of action is to lift and either run or swim, complete at least two loads of laundry, and meal prep for self and the husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:16 PM
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Relations
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 01:59 PM
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I wanted to interject here with the fact that these issues can be more common in age gaps simply because younger people don’t know as much about life in general as older people, so there is opportunity to take advantage of the younger person. Like you said, this doesn’t make age gaps inherently bad, but it’s a way people can be bad. This is coming from somebody who has dated significantly older men since a young age, and is married to someone 25 years older.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 01:26 PM
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People have called me a pick-me. I don’t care, cuz I married a wonderful, sexy, and wealthy man and I’m happy AF.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 01:14 PM
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All dating preferences/discriminations are valid
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 01:11 PM
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There was a guy in high school I had a crush on for like, years lol. I tried to flirt with him often to get him to ask me out, and even was so desperate as to “accidentally” send him a snapchat in cute underwear and then pretend like I meant to send it to someone else. Eventually when we were alone, he explained that he saw me as like, his little sister. I got family zoned… I checked up on his social media the other day bc I was curious how he is doing, and he just had a baby with his highschool…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 01:08 PM
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C. I try not to make friends with dudes that I’d rate above a 6.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 12:56 PM
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How many times have you been married?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 12:30 PM
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What is meant by sexual “values?” I had lots of casual sex. I had sex within relationships. I know that sex with someone with whom you’re in love is better than sex with strangers. I don’t believe that having many sexual partners decrease’s anyones value, renders them incapable of bonding, or makes them more likely to cheat/divorce. (There are other associated factors, of course, but the promiscuity isn’t the cause in and of itself.) I’ve tried lots of things. I liked lots of things. I’m open to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 12:25 PM
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Lift, make money, dress well, learn how to be charismatic, develop self-confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 12:06 PM
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There are some that do that. There are some who don’t do that. Don’t date the women who make you compensate and wait. We can even make a ditty out of it if you want, since it rhymes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:56 AM
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Go for it! Your dream body awaits
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 08:32 PM
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You don’t have to look like a chad to get casual sex. The people who are 1s probably are getting neither sex nor relationships. That’s just how it goes. But even if you’re a 3 or a 4 facially, if you just gymmaxx, somebody will like your body enough to want to fuck you. You might not be getting models or stacies, but you can definitely get some horny beckies, you know what I’m saying? If you’re a 4 and you have a Stacy making you woo her and wait for sex, sorry bud, but she’s using you. You have…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 05:37 PM
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Now you’re just being obtuse
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 05:28 PM
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That’s clearly nonsense It literally isn’t lol. Ask any exercise scientist. Everybody is capable of building muscle, improving their fitness, and changing their body composition. Women are sexually attracted to fit and muscular men. Men who exercise and build muscle are more likely to get casual sex. You can tell yourself and others that lifting doesn’t help all you want. It doesn’t make it true. That’s why its the c word. Eta its legitimately baffling to me that anyone could think a scrawn/fat/…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 05:16 PM
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I don’t whine. And there’s a difference between whining and warning other men about it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 05:12 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 05:00 PM
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Sex is LEAPS AND BOUNDS EASIER to obtain for attractive people. Yes. So work on your physical appearance. Duh. there is an abundance of men all over the place that will not become attractive no matter how much time they spend in the gym or how well they eat. Cope. There are lots of men with self-limiting beliefs and poor self discipline who don’t even try to put on some muscle and lose their chub. They end up here complaining about women not being attracted to them and trying to logic them out o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 04:58 PM
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Mm hm. They wanna have their cake and eat it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 04:51 PM
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Okay, so? Level up then, or lower your standards. I’m not sure what the value of discussing this issue beyond that is
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 04:48 PM
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OP’s doesn’t have a point. People meet, they fuck, they start dating, they marry. This happens all the time. Clearly there are women who want to both fuck and marry men out there. So just pick one who aligns with what you want. I don’t know what these men are doing when they’re dating previously promiscuous women who won’t sleep with them and then going on the internet to complain about it. Just pick somebody else. And if there aren’t women willing to have casual sex with you, go to the damn gym…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 04:35 PM
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There are women who can and do enjoy sex with men without needing too much or any commitment or “wooing” on the man’s part. You acknowledge that there are men who sleep with women and let relationships form from that. Logically it follows that there must be women (the other halves of those relationships) who operate like that as well. So the point is that, instead of complaining about women making men with whom they want relationships wait for sex, men should just date women that don’t make them…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 04:29 PM
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Wow, very eloquent. You are truly a master of debate
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:44 PM
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I would never marry a man I wasn’t fundamentally and viscerally attracted to
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:32 PM
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So if people don’t want to fuck you, just go to the gym. It’s that simple
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:20 PM
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Not all of us do that though. There are women that enjoy relatively casual sex. @
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:19 PM
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Men get what they are able to They are able to get women who feel comfortable having sex with them right away and are also open to dating them. ETA: If you’re consistently getting fuckzoned (or pumped and dumped as a man), you might wanna try working on your personality
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:36 PM
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It’s at least a significant number
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:47 PM
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There are women who are comfortable having sex right away who are still open to relationships, you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:46 PM
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I’ve never had that problem and I don’t think many other women have that problem either. I have heard men talking about not wanting to date women that sleep with them right away on here, though. (They sleep with them.)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:14 PM
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I generally didn’t go on dates with men until I could approximate their worth. Like I would ask them what they do for a living beforehand and take in info about their lifestyle. If they would casually mention other assets they have that hint at them being worth more than I previously guessed, then that was major green flag for me. Few things are sexier than a man with investments. But I also think outright talking about it is a little cringe. Like, let’s at least pretend we don’t care about that…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 12:20 PM
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Well, you could date girls that want to sleep with you right away, and it could turn into an LTR/marriage.I don’t know why some men have this dichotomy stuck in their heads that women who sleep with you right away and women they date long term are two separate sets of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 12:16 PM
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Lol. I really appreciate the way you phrase things sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:44 AM
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I just spoke with my husband, who’s a lawyer and more knowledgeable about these things. He said that generally health insurance plans are cheaper as family plans as opposed to individual coverage plans, and that insurance companies don’t issue family plans to unmarried people, especially if you’re insured through your workplace. So that definitely fucking applies. To have step-children you need to be married. You literally cannot get medical coverage for significant others to whom you are not ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:28 AM
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Look, im not trying to convince you to get married. Do whatever the fuck you want. Extra paperwork and legal authorizations, individual insurance plans, however you want to do your life-long-partnership-that-is-exactly-like-a-marriage-but-you-just-don’t-want-to-call-it-that. All I’m saying is that there are certain benefits to getting legally married. It can make things smoother. And clearly you weren’t listening to what I said at all, because I said that my husband got on my health insurance, n…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 12:43 AM
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Its more so that the partner who has an estate can ensure the surviving spouse receives their inheritance without having to continually update a will. Often times hospitals will say “Family only,” especially when there’s extenuating circumstances like a pandemic. A spouse can also make decisions on behalf of the sick/injured spouse, whereas a bf/gf cannot (I think.) Parentage can be established, but it’s extra paperwork. It was required that I was married for my husband and his step children to …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 12:09 AM
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Estate heritage, ability to visit in case your spouse is hospitalized, automatic assumed parentage, shared healthcare..maybe some other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 11:49 PM
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My husband is actually older than both my parents lol… I don’t think I’m attracted to anyone who’s under 35, personality wise. And physically, men can stay in good shape long into middle age. Even after he’s not able to hold so much muscle, I’ll still love him as a person. And I’ve slept with plenty of people i liked as people but not as much physically in the past, so I think i’ll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 11:47 PM
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People fall in love and plan lives with each other
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 10:26 PM
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I didnt get to read your hate comment
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 09:17 PM
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Most of the judgement we got irl (which was very quiet) was split equally amongst men and women. Online (more outright, obviously) is almost exclusively women
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:20 PM
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He had been in a bad marriage with another woman for 23 years and had separated from her when we met
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:18 PM
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25 yo presently married to a 50 yo here. We have been together for over 6.5 years now, and have a 1 yo. 18 is too young to get married. Id say if my daughter was dating an older, wealthier man for at least 3 years and wanted to marry at 21, she would have my blessings, so to speak. The only things that matter are how she’s being treated, whether she’s happy, and whether he can give her everything she wants in life. ETA: I would be considerably more opposed to her marrying a scrub that was her ow…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:06 PM
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Having feelings for someone else and still spending time with them counts as cheating, in my book. Should that add to n?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:28 PM
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I think trad couples are usually sexually conservative, but i personally don’t think that’s a requirement of the label
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:27 PM
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A lot of people believe you have to do the whole “virginity until marriage” thing as well to call yourself trad. But idk how else you would define it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:13 PM
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The women stay home, have the babies, do all of the housework (cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc.) and most of the childcare, and the men work and pay the bills. The man is the head of the household and has final say in the decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:08 PM
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B
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:04 PM
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I don’t count anything short of PIV or PIA towards my n
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:03 PM
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Very few people actually intend to get divorced, but many grow dissatisfied for whatever reason and divorce anyway. There are often big negative consequences for men who get divorced, and rewards for women who divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:30 PM
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I’m sort of trad-lite. I met my husband in a bookstore
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:28 PM
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If you were thinking of divorcing your partner, with whom you have children, because you don’t feel loved or happy with them, would you do it, or just stay together for their sake? Which would be worse for them, having to split their time between their parents, or having a only a loveless marriage as a model? ETA: i am so happy to hear all of these “I’d at least try to make it work” answers
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:27 PM
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What do you think would go wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:22 PM
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Yes we do lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:22 PM
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I would be mad if my partner violated my boundaries, but I wouldn’t break up with him if we had kids
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:20 PM
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Who says/thinks that?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:13 PM
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Make me 😌
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 03:09 PM
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Thats why making rules instead of just evaluating rapport and chemistry with partners in the first place is dumb. That’s what I mean by playing games.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 03:03 PM
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Wdym?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:28 PM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 01:49 PM
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No. I would just tell him I’m flattered but married and not interested
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 01:30 PM
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Getting the ouchie stickers releases endorphins
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 01:00 PM
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I carry because I know from my limited MCMAP training that I’d get my ass beat in a fight
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 12:59 PM
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People here overcomplicate dating so much. “Men won’t LTR women who have sex with them right away,” or, “Women value men who don’t offer commitment tight away more.” Who really thinks about that? Not the majority of people. People meet, have sex when they’re ready, and if they like each other, they commit. Only children play games like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 12:58 PM
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I would change “silence” to “peace.” People like talking to their partners; if they don’t, they’re not a good match. “Peace” would also encompass emotional support. You could also use a synonym that starts with s to preserve the alliteration
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 12:02 PM
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Women are pickier for sure. It’s easier for us to get into relationships, so if one isn’t exceptional, we move onto the next. Women are also prone to becoming dissatisfied with their marriages and initiating divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 12:00 PM
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They’re just haters
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:21 PM
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So then that’s preference and not written into the Quran
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 10:02 PM
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Usually when he initiates it gets me in the mood too. So… hardly ever?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 09:59 PM
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Veganism isn’t a magical diet that is guaranteed to make you thin. The thing that makes people fat is an overconsuption of calories. If you eat 3k calories in vegan oreos every day, you’re still going to be fat (unless youre burning that many.)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 09:56 PM
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I thought polygyny was an acceptable practice in Islam?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 09:40 PM
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Wow okay
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 09:37 PM
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That’s how you get your wife to stop blowing you for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 09:31 PM
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Dont you think youve got some selection bias playing into your worldview there?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 09:30 PM
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💯
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 09:30 PM
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Women are unable to remain faithful? That’s news to me
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 09:14 PM
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If he’s eating well, hydrating, and has pineapple, then yes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 09:10 PM
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Depends what the dude eats. If he has a shitty diet or smokes it tastes awful. If he eats well, hydrates, and has sweet fruits like pineapple… it’s kind of tasty?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 09:08 PM
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The “vast majority” of women have definitely not done sex work lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 08:52 PM
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Name names
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 08:42 PM
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Because that’s what literally happens
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 08:40 PM
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I did sex work. Still got married to a sexy, wealthy, wonderful man. However, talking about it drove away all of my potential female friends. Men seem to be cool with it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 08:37 PM
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That’s what happened to me too… You should try to go out and do things IRL. It’s nice out there
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 08:27 PM
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Swan! How are you? We miss you on the server
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 08:10 PM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 08:09 PM
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I’m 25 but my husband is 50
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 07:23 PM
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Ex Wife forced their daughter to go to a play instead of lunch with Hubby, and then neither of them told him until he came to pick her up. Then he asked Ex Wife (very politely) to remind their daughters to inform him of any schedule changes, and she tried gaslighting him about never coordinating with them in the first place (when in reality he communicates with the girls during the week and texts them first on the weekends, but since their mother let’s them stay up til all hours of the night, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 07:23 PM
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Then you’re right, baby rabies are scary!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:24 PM
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Most of the women I interact with here are in their 20s. We need a PPD census
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:23 PM
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Find RPW made cleaning feel sexy to me… we had to hire a cleaning lady for a bit after I had our kid and caring for her took up so much of my time and energy, but now I’m back to it, and I’m so happy I can spare that expense and contribute to the household in that way again :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:20 PM
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Okay, so I’m obviously not happy that my husband’s ex wife is giving him shit and pisses him off, because I hate to see him unhappy. BUT I’m super happy I get to be supportive to him during this time, and she’s sure as fuck making me look good in comparison 💅
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:10 PM
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I don’t think she’s wrong. They’re both 5s in my opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:07 PM
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It kinda does
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:04 PM
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But… i am his wife ?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:51 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:45 PM
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I love men, and I’m sure fucking glad to be a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:20 PM
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Gottem lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:18 PM
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23
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:15 PM
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They’re not putting forth any effort though. They only raise their standards and reject the best quality of men they can get, always finding fault with them and thinking they can do better. They think they’re entitled to perfection and yet they’re critical and pessimistic, and that’s why they’ll never be happy or satisfied. Whereas RPW specifies that you have to actually work on yourself and within your relationship in order to maximize the quality of men you attract and your happiness with them…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:23 PM
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Are you married?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:00 PM
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Men don’t want to spend money to support women and they don’t want to date career women because it emasculates them. They just want women to be satisfied with low earners so low earning men have a chance at having a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:18 PM
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It’s not cognitive dissonance. Sexual dimorphism is attractive from an evolutionary psychological perspective. If you start looking at things from a femininst, sociological perspective, that doesn’t make me cognitively dissonant
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:01 PM
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Well you can’t help it if you’re average height or tall as a woman, even if you’re not fat. Curves don’t really have anything to do with it ETA: since you abused the block function to prevent me from responding— Doubt. I think I’m svelte and gorgeous, but I still like feeling small around/against/compared to my man. Sexual dimorphism is sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 12:59 PM
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None taken. You’re probably right. It’s something i’ve been trying to deal with for a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:46 AM
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I know that that logically makes sense, but I have a bit of a psychological preoccupation with being like, excellent, and if I’m less than that, the negative voices tell me I’m pretty much worthless
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:40 AM
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I’ve never asked him for a numeral rating… he says he thinks I’m very pretty that he loves my body, and I do believe him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:26 AM
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Toxic masculinity is traditional gender role stuff that harms men. Women wanting to feel small because sexual dimorphism makes our brain chemicals go brr isn’t misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:05 AM
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I got 99 problems and a bitch ain’t one all of them are men
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:52 AM
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Most women are not trying to be FDSers. FDSers are miserable, lonely women with sky high standards, a hatred of men in general, and zero motivation to work on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:51 AM
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5’4 is average height for women, not short
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:47 AM
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We just like feeling small
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:46 AM
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Natural hair color is like, gray in the winter, goldish blonde in the summer; currently it’s a dyed strawberry blonde. My eyes are blue with a gold ring around the irises (central heterochromia) and I think I’m like a 34B.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:41 AM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 11:20 PM
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Manipulation?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 11:13 PM
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“Pair bonding” is a made up term, just like “sin,” used to influence other people to behave in a certain way that is pleasing to the inventor.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 11:01 PM
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For sure. I’m somewhat careful
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:54 PM
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Reddit and discord
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:46 PM
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Well that’s why slut velocity matters, see. Like I got to 50 in a space of like, 2 years (from 17 to 19) and while I took care to reduce my STD risk, many potential partners weren’t willing to wear condoms or get an STD screening, so they were nexted. I feel like that’s a pressure for unprotected to which a lot of people would succumb. So someone with a similar slut velocity would get rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:45 PM
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Between 4 and 8
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:37 PM
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Have you seen me?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:35 PM
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Shhh dont tell them our secrets
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:32 PM
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IME, men put up with way too much shit in LTRs for them to have “high standards.”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:26 PM
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TFW you think you’re a 10 but everyone else rates you significantly lower :(
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:23 PM
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I think I would pass on someone with an n over 50 (similar to mine) just because there’s a greater chance that person had risky or unprotected encounters. But it also kind of depends on their slut velocity (how long it took to accumulate their n count) because an n of 50 over the course of 5 years is a lot different than an n of 50 over 2 years, for example. I think under 5 is too low for LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:18 PM
1

Those are a different breed of people than the ones that wait a predetermined amount of time, like 3 months or whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 08:26 PM
2

Bringing flowers every night sounds super extra
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 08:23 PM
1

SA is a specific exception
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 04:25 PM
1

Me neither. Sexual compatibility is extremely important to me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 04:23 PM
1

But were they happy marriages? Were the people in them sexually satisfied? How many ended up sexless?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 04:21 PM
1

What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 04:18 PM
1

By “into him”i mean “sexually attracted to him”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 04:06 PM
8

One thing I repeat often is: If she can resist sex with him for 3 months, she’s not that into him. Agree or disagree?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 04:04 PM
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But its not the only condition. You also need temporal precedence and proper controls for other variables to assert a causal relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 04:00 PM
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If she can resist sex with him for 3 months, she’s not that into him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:55 PM
1

What kind of sex work? Porn? Sugar dating? Prostitution? Massage parlor work?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:51 PM
1

Yeah. He’s already shit on her boundaries
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:50 PM
1

Gonna inherit my husband’s/husbands’ money, invest it, and then travel a lot, before settling down on a self sufficient farm. When I’m too old to care for myself said farm, I’ll hire assistants. I don’t want my family to have to change my diapers; they have their own lives to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:48 PM
2

Are you sterilized?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:44 PM
1

2 for me, for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:42 PM
2

What are all the things he has to do? Besides wedding planning and execution. Genuinely curious, because ai didn’t have a “real” wedding and all we had to do was paperwork for a marriage license and certificate
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:41 PM
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Not PPD ignoring the difference between occasional porn consumption and porn addiction
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:39 PM
1

Women don’t like seeing men doing idle tasks that they don’t like (video games) or men wasting money on toys (figures)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:36 PM
3

Damn, 7 years wasted… really failed at building a better beta
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:30 PM
2

They just roommates
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:25 PM
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Hmm. Ill have to look out for that next time. Im usually the one staring
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:25 PM
1

No man is perfect. But you can make yourself a list of prerequisites and then try dating men who meet them. But also you should continually improve yourself as well, so that optimal, near-perfect men like you back.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 03:23 PM
1

Reject modernity
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 01:32 PM
1

Try exercising instead
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 01:32 PM
1

Yes please
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 01:31 PM
1

Name names
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 01:30 PM
1

Im so confused. It’s not normal? Courage to stand up to you… when you agree to roleplay his fantasies? Wat
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 01:29 PM
1

Good luck! Hope it goes smoothly
/r/RedPillWives13/08/22 11:16 AM
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Im introverted and I fucking hate any time I have to stay in barracks or share a hotel room with other people. I need alone time
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 12:57 AM
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Hook up level- sex. No feelz Boyfriend level- sex. Feelz Husband level- sex. Feelz. Time and labor (housework, childbearing, childcare, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 10:24 PM
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Thanks for the advice and for listening; it’s helpful and it means a lot!
/r/RedPillWives12/08/22 05:30 PM
1

Only time “equality” ever benefitted me was Title IX, as an athlete in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 03:29 PM
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I have planned cost-free dates, yes. Only man I’ve ever spent my own money on is my husband though. But he pays for basically everything in our day to day life
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 03:14 PM
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I just got told that if I don’t pay for my own meal on a date I’m not behaving like an adult with agency and I’m being a leech
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 02:18 PM
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The anger part comes in when they call other women who don’t go halfsies “leeches,” or try to tell them to “behave like an adult” “with agency.” Like, why not just pay for your own shit and not worry about what other people are doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 02:17 PM
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I think PPD has an exceptionally high percentage of women who believe in going halfsies
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 02:09 PM
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Because I don’t like spending money. Either a dude could take me on a cost-free date, or he could pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 02:08 PM
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Men are easy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:53 PM
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It seems like it’s mostly women who are against it— younger women who are grossed out by older men and can’t conceive of other women their age being attracted to and happy with older men, or older women (probably subconsciously objecting to older men preferring more youthful women) asserting that it’s predatory regardless of whether the older partner is genuinely good to the younger
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:50 PM
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Lol. Women on here are big mad about other women letting men pay for dates
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:30 PM
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I had the agency to let men buy me meals
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:29 PM
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No, cuz I only ever went on dates where the other person was willing to pay for our meal. I just didn’t go out to eat with anyone who wanted to go halfsies. (There’s always the option of cost-free dates.) You can be as mad as you want about it, but it doesn’t make going halfsies necessary, or letting someone buy you a meal immoral.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:28 PM
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Part of adulting is being financially responsible and avoiding unnecessary expenses. Like paying for a meal you didn’t have to
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:20 PM
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Why do that when there are men who are happy to buy you a meal?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:12 PM
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I’m at least gonna make sure I can get to the gym alone and at a regular person time today
/r/RedPillWives12/08/22 11:25 AM
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I need to vent, and maybe some advice. Hubby invited me and our 14 mo on a trip to a state 6 hours drive away. I was sort of reluctant to go because it’s difficult to care for our daughter on the go when we upheave her whole routine, and I just got back on track with my diet and exercise. But I thought, summer is ending, and I haven’t gotten to spend much time with Hubby lately, so why not? Well, I procrastinated getting ready for this trip, so naturally this morning I woke up and had a sink ful…
/r/RedPillWives12/08/22 04:37 AM
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Im not wasting anymore time on you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 03:43 AM
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Old news
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 03:07 AM
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It’s not wrong to hang onto them, long as you dont share them without consent. If you commit to anyone in the future, she may want you to delete them
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 01:25 AM
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I mean… at least the kid got cared for
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 01:23 AM
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Idk, my therapist didn’t start thrashing my husband for dating me when my bipolar disorder was poorly managed, or when my postpartum rage/depression/anxiety started. He said it was good that I had someone who was so supportive, understanding, patient,and helpful. I wouldn’t have even tried therapy again if it wasn’t for my husband. I probably would have committed suicide, actually. There’s a difference between [“] I was in an abusive relationship[“] and [“]I am in one[“] Lol, yes, yes there is. …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 11:07 PM
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Why would a grown healthy adult in their 30’s or 40’s want a relationship with an abused mentally ill teen without it being predatory? Because they might be kind, smart, funny, empathetic, athletic, attractive, persistent, resilient… you know, all the same reasons someone might want a mentally healthy partner? Mentally ill people and abuse victims still have aspects of themselves that make them worthy of love. Are you disagreeing with that ? You also said that someone mentally ill can explicitly…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:50 PM
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Alive and as stupid of a “reason” as ever
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:25 PM
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I am not claiming that older people in AGRs specifically select for mentally ill/traumatized individuals; you are making that claim. I’m saying that older people in AGRs aren’t precluded from genuinely loving, caring for, and helping their younger partners. Don’t get it twisted. Again, I’m asking you to really, genuinely try to consider the idea that people can be good to one another. Why do these people… [not] see them on their feet before pursuing a relationship? Because that’s unnecessary? Ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:23 PM
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But the only thing that matters is whether that person’s brain is “fully developed,” right? A 24 yo is no more an adult than an 18 yo Is there a maturity gap between you and your husband?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:17 PM
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Have you considered that abuse victims and trauma sufferers might prefer older partners themselves, and that’s the reason why it’s often the case that the younger person has been abused? Not that the older person is always intentionally selecting for them? You should 100% not be pursuing a relationship with someone in a vulnerable position. Nonsense. They deserve love and romance too. You should not take advantage of their vulnerability, but you can’t argue that caring for someone and seeing the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:13 PM
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So if a 24 yo’s brain isn’t fully developed and neither is an 18 yo’s, what’s the issue with them dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:06 PM
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But before you said age gaps are not okay specifically if both people are not over 25. Why didn’t you just say you’re against all age gaps in the first place? Or do you actually acknowledge that people under 25 can be treated as adults?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 09:55 PM
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I would be okay with someone helping a virgin dude through his mental illness/trauma, spending his money with his explicit consent, and generally being a good partner to him. That’s like, a standard relationship. Again, you’re stipulating that there’s using and abusing going on, but in many age gap relationships, the pair just function like any other couple. Just because there may* be differences in experience doesn’t mean the older person is necessarily taking advantage. People can be good to o…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 09:53 PM
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But neither of those are over 25. So how can the 24 yo take advantage of the 17 yo? Clearly his/her brain isn’t fully developed yet
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 09:48 PM
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But why are you calling it “taking advantage of them” if the partner is being a good partner and helping them through their trauma/mental illness? I feel like you just think older men are gross and age gap relationships aren’t for you, so you’re calling all age gap relationships predatory and wrong. It’s like homophobes trying to explain why homosexual relationships are “wrong” but not being able to give legitimate reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 09:32 PM
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What if the older partner helps the younger cope with their mental illness and/or abuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 09:27 PM
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What if both older partners are kind, caring, and genuinely good partners to the younger ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 09:22 PM
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Do you think it’s okay for a 24 yo to date a 17 yo?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 09:19 PM
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If you had to pick?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 09:19 PM
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Q4 age gap relationship haters: Which is “worse,” a 28 yo dating a 17 yo, or a 19 yo dating a 45 yo?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 09:04 PM
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What’s your least favorite thing about your wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 08:58 PM
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The Foid City Riveters vs the Dudeville Bunyons
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 08:32 PM
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Nice. Do your kids have any opinions on the age gap? Or do they just not notice?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 08:29 PM
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Effectually, sluts make the world a better place
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 08:08 PM
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If you had to pick a mascot for men and a mascot for women, what would you pick for each?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 08:05 PM
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Yeah, my dad was much less fond of my older partners too…what illegal activities did you do?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 08:03 PM
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I just like being normally-confident-and-collected men’s undoing. Even if I have no interest in them
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 07:52 PM
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Do people give you shit for it irl? What did her parents think?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 07:22 PM
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I got anger issues, man
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 06:24 PM
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I don’t think I have much in common interest wise with my husband, but it’s okay. I can do the things I like by myself, or make some friends with the same interests if I could be assed. So Id pick person B.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 06:23 PM
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There’s this sergeant in my unit with super striking icy blue eyes to whom I loooove talking, cuz he gets all flustered from the eye contact hehe
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 06:12 PM
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How did you meet? Were you initially like “no way, jail bait?”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 06:08 PM
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What caused you to seek out a 16 yo for a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 04:11 PM
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Yes. I haven’t heard anything about small doses of testosterone affecting young female children’s health. All of the information I could find on sex hormone imbalance is focused on pubescent and menstruating girls and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 03:13 PM
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18 and 19 yos are adults
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:21 PM
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You’re in an age gap relationship? What’s the age difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:20 PM
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You got the whole post?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:14 PM
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Gotta eat to support growth tho
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:10 PM
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If 3 different men tell me, unsolicited and in the same day, that I should grow my hair out, does that mean my haircut is ugly/growing out weird?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 01:55 PM
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160 isn’t that heavy for particularly tall women (?)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 01:53 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 01:50 PM
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What makes her tradcon and not a ragebait content producer?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 01:46 PM
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Yes, but babies don’t produce sex hormones. They’re mainly exogenous. It might even “balance out” all the estrogens we’re getting from microplastics
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:49 PM
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Idk, my kid eats a shit ton and she’s 98 percentile for height and 28 percentile for weight
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:48 PM
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Is it just testosterone, or all sex hormones? Because babies often develop temporary breast tissue when nursing as a result of their mothers’ hormones
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:47 PM
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Feed him more
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:22 AM
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I dont think it would though, since she’s nowhere close to menarche and it would be a small dose
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:07 AM
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I got on the fancy bioelectrical impedance scale that Hubby bought us, and it told me I have above average bone mass, presumably from the period of time in my life when an ovarian cyst doubled my testosterone. This is advantageous to me because it allows me to support more muscle mass than the average woman. So I’m breastfeeding, right? Which means my 14 month old is getting some of my hormones… I had the thought that I could attempt to naturally boost my testosterone for the remaining months I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 09:02 AM
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Yeah… you have to be in a good position to set and enforce your personal boundaries or it can certainly take a toll
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 06:39 AM
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It’s not uncommon, no. But to be clear, I had a mood disorder before I started doing sex work, so that wasn’t the cause of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 06:27 AM
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Idk what the point of doing everything but PIV is
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:21 PM
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Mostly the money, but partially because I had poorly managed type II bipolar disorder and I wanted a lot of sex when I was both manic and depressed. Also probably a little because I had high testosterone
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:20 PM
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It would be a form of social selection. Men with the ability to procure more wealth in order to provide for more women would likely reproduce more.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:16 PM
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I think it would be difficult for people with normal libido to abstain until marriage though
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:15 PM
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Most people who crave junk food have it occasionally. I don’t think people who can wait a long time to have sex really want it that badly. Not wanting a baby would qualify as “fear of repercussions.”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 08:10 PM
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Yes, that too
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:47 PM
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Yes. Nobody can tell them they can’t be half naked in the street
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:36 PM
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I see
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:32 PM
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Is it more so that you believe premarital sex is wrong, or that you want someone to mutually share your firsts, or both…?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:29 PM
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What kind of stuff does she want to try?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:27 PM
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Why
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:20 PM
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I did sex work. Often times I felt super lucky to be able to have sex (which I would have done regardless of whether I was getting paid) and make a ton of money doing it… other times, I had to compartmentalize to be mentally okay afterwards
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:19 PM
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They are empowered with the ability to make choices about how to clothe themselves and how much to show/not show. They also might feel powerful because of the validation and privilege they get from others being attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:17 PM
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Do people give you a hard time irl about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:15 PM
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I am convinced that women who successfully wait til marriage to have sex are either low libido, fearful of repercussions (like, worried about sin, hell, judgement, being “impure” or “dirty” etc., and that’s likely to follow them into their sex lives), or have an iron clad will. Men who successfully wait are also those things, and/or high inhibition. Tell me if I’m wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:15 PM
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No. I’m not single and I don’t keep orbiters
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:06 PM
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Better to be bald and jacked than bald and fat/skinny
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:05 PM
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At least they profit from it, ig
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:14 PM
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Ohh. That’s why they were speaking like that
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:13 PM
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3x a day is too much for anyone; you’d have crazy BV and yeast infections. 1-2x a day is more reasonable, but still a lot. The only time I want sex that often is when I’m ovulating (or in the past, when I had high testosterone from PCOS.) I find my husband sexy af, but there’s not anything he could do to make me want sex 3x a day. You might consider polygynous relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:42 AM
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True. But these women were having trouble even forming sentences and conjugating verbs, man. It’s an embarrassment
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:33 AM
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Well, women have the babies right? And it’s beneficial for them to stay home if they want to breastfeed and enjoy their kids’ littleness. So if you have multiple women in the same family, they can split the childcare and housework. One woman can watch multiple kids, and the other(s) can do the cooking/cleaning/laundry. The husband goes to work. I believe that more parents/caretakers around are generally better for children than fewer. Less stress and a more efficient home all around. Since women…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:29 AM
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They don’t say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 10:40 AM
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If her bf is okay with that shit…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 10:39 AM
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I have a hypothesis for why polygyny is good, but it has nothing to do with men lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:52 AM
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That couple has a cuckoldry fetish for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:51 AM
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I just tried to listen to Fresh and Fit for the first time, and I had to turn that shit off. The women sounded dumb af and were making our gender look bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:48 AM
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I don’t find TRP to be misogynistic at all
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:47 AM
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Nobody in porn is a 10
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 12:28 AM
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Me. I will never get fat
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 12:23 AM
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Who’s Liv? Ive sent nudes on the discord lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 11:38 PM
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Have a downvote
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 10:21 PM
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Ladies and gentlemen, can I have your attention please… That’s it. I just want attention
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:50 PM
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The fit one is less likely to be obese in 5 years
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:46 PM
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My vote is for facebook
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:44 PM
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Yeah, most women do nowadays. But I do know of some who think it’s “degrading.”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:24 PM
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They dont ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:21 PM
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Ig that makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:21 PM
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I think it’s a matter of “settling down with” vs “settling for” people
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:20 PM
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Spamming today, but— Why do men have their panties in a twist about being called “husband material?” I love my husband to death, I think he’s amazing and a sex god and the best partner I could have asked for. I wouldn’t have married him otherwise. So why is “husband material” virtually an insult?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 08:09 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 07:47 PM
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Q4men: would you LTR/marry a woman who would never, ever give you a BJ, but was an exceptional partner in all other regards?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 07:42 PM
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No. Not worth the ill effects on my health
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 07:24 PM
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Cute
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 07:21 PM
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I see but… do you regularly have that much drama going on in your life, that someone would need to do that for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 07:09 PM
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I haven’t seen GoT, but isn’t this example just… being faithful? Plenty of women are faithful partners
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 07:00 PM
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Is it weird to wear your partner’s dirty tee shirts around the house because they smell like him? 🙈
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 06:46 PM
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I know there are women who can’t breastfeed, but a) I can, and b) many, many women just opt to formula feed because they think it’s easier or they worry about their boobs sagging or whatever. They don’t even try. And like, idc cuz they aren’t my kids, but I would never not at least attempt to breastfeed my own. You’re the one who started this whole thing with your asinine repetition of “you can’t tell the difference” when that’s not even close to the point. You go to the mums who were struggling…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 06:35 PM
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What would be an example of a woman “sacrificing her emotions for a limited period of time” to help you? Eta: who downvoted this? I just asked a question to better understand where he was coming from ffs. That’s how conversation works
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 06:08 PM
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That part confuses me as well. How can you have both she/her and they/them pronouns? Are you a woman or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 06:07 PM
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So being willing to sacrifice one’s life is a condition required for love, iyo?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 06:02 PM
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Interesting. I have another couple of questions, if they’re okay to to ask: How often do you feel temptation to have sex? How would you rate your libido: high, average, low…?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 05:44 PM
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F, probably 12 or so, when people started dating and nobody wanted to date me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 05:39 PM
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Why women specifically?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 05:38 PM
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Are you worried at all about not knowing if he’s not caring about your needs or satisfaction until after you start having sex, at which point you’d be married? I’m really curious because I basically went with the complete opposite method, which was to sleep with every prospect immediately and let relationships form afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 05:31 PM
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Yeah, for sure. But there are definitely gonna be age-gap-haters eating this story up
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 05:16 PM
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But not the best
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 05:03 PM
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Slap “female owned business” on your operation and rake in the cash
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:52 PM
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How long do you give them to “learn?”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:34 PM
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Soft disagree. Women’s bodies start deteriorating past 25, but it can be minimized with proper self-care, and you can still be a good partner to someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:25 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/television/comments/wg5oaf/demi_lovato_calls_out_former_boyfriend_wilmer/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf From what it sounds like, she approached him and initially got rejected. Then once she was legal, she got what she wanted. Now that she’s older, she wants to be mad about it. But like, did he abuse her, or just date her?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:23 PM
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Oop, Freudian slip + mum brain lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:18 PM
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You should have your partner pull out before ejaculating inside the condom anyway, inspect it for leakage afterwards, and not have PIV sex when you are ovulating or close to ovulating. It’s fairly easy to ascertain what part of your cycle you’re in by paying attention to your body (not just a calendar.) There are also ovulation tests and temperature tracking you can do (but they have to be done daily.) HBC isn’t necessary and fucks up your health. It’s also prone to failure if you miss pills or …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:17 PM
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Nothing is foolproof; not even abstinence bc you can still get raped. Doing multiple forms of BC is your best bet, especially if they dont fuck you up
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:12 PM
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You’re leaving your kids behind for 2 months?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 04:00 PM
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Oh no
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:58 PM
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I was actually annoyingly horny when I was pregnant
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:56 PM
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Why not just seek plan b if the condom breaks, and avoid PIV sex when youre ovualting ir close to ovulating? Hormonal BC doesn’t protect against STDs
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:56 PM
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IUDs can be very painful and also damage the uterus. Condoms and FAM ftw
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:54 PM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:54 PM
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I already have my one true gigachad
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:50 PM
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Oh my gahd. Brutal proof of the wall
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:47 PM
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Sick burn lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:45 PM
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Finances should be allotted according to needs. For example, if she’s spending money on groceries for the family, gas to transport the kids to extracurricular activities, home goods to make the house warm, safe, and inviting, etc., then yes, of course. I don’t think SAH wives/mums are entitled to money they want to spend on only themselves. If the husband wants to gift it to her, that’s fine, but she ought to be appreciative at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:44 PM
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I def think it’s possible to be a secretly promiscuous woman. But there are for sure women who you can just tell sleep around by the lifestyle they live
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:38 PM
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Is this question for men only? Because I wouldn’t care if my daughter dated older men once she’s 18. But id be damn sure to make sure she knows how she ought to be treated, and that she is being treated right.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:34 PM
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That’s called codependency
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:30 PM
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*Rebut
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:20 PM
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Good
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:14 PM
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Yes, but not with you
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:09 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:06 PM
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I think some people have it, and some people don’t. There are aspects of sexual compatibility that just can’t be taught
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:02 PM
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She’s not the best even after how long? The men keep saying “as long as she’s willing to learn,” but what if she never does?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:00 PM
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So staying together is more important to you than maximizing present sexual satisfaction?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:41 PM
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So only make loyal female friends who carry. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:37 PM
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How long do you give them to improve?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:35 PM
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A man that wants an obedient, feminine, woman, while having a body like that? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:34 PM
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I’ve never understood this. What if you put in the time to get to know someone, and they’re shit in bed? Then you’ve wasted it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:31 PM
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Yeah, I slutted it up and had no trouble finding men who were into me. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a single comment here from a promiscuous woman saying she’s having a hard time finding a romantic partner. Def a revenge fantasy
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:13 PM
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Q4All: What is your gender, and could you be happy in an LTR/marriage with somebody who isn’t your best sexual partner ever?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:05 PM
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Ive been seeing more and more comments from people wanting to use sperm donors or surrogates to become single parents
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:02 PM
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Moral of the meme: don’t trust men without beards
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 11:57 AM
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Very upstanding and well groomed
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 11:55 AM
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Lol. This was like the best thing ever when I was younger
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 11:50 AM
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What benefits do male friends give men that female friends don’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 11:45 AM
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You mean Christianity? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 11:43 AM
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It’s more about how and why he’s having sex with that many partners. Someone who’s been having sex for say, 5 years and accumulates 50 partners, that’s only 10 a year. That’s not a rampage. Someone who’s had 4x the amount in the same timeframe? That’s 40 per year. Not really practical to get tested between each new partner, at that point. They’re less likely to be responsible and wear condoms every time. They’re also probably partying and having sex while under the influence, and you know people…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 11:38 AM
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All I’ve stated were facts. But yeah, when there’s another formula shortage and pandemic, hit me up to tell me more about how you can’t tell the difference amongst BF and formula fed kindergartners 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 10:51 AM
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Great news
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 10:46 AM
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My husband is 5’9 and 185 lbs. I’m still investigating if he’s on TRT or not, but he says he isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 12:33 AM
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If we start holding promiscuity against men, it’s gonna negatively impact our ability to be promiscuous
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 09:50 PM
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Thats where you were connected to your momma
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 09:42 PM
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It definitely does
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 09:22 PM
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Too small, too hairy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 08:40 PM
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All I’m saying is that I would breastfeed MY children. If you or anyone else reading feels “shamed” by that, that’s a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 08:30 PM
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I don’t expect men to be happy about not getting the sex that they want. Nor do I expect them to date women that make them feel bad when they compare their pasts; all personal preferences are valid. I don’t understand the need to shame random strangers for their choice to have multiple sexual partners. Like, do they expect strangers to sacrifice their pleasure for them? It doesn’t get them more sex; in fact, according to almost all the women in a previous thread about lying about n count said th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 06:11 PM
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Why do the differences have to be long term? Why do they have to be noticeable by other adults? The point is that I would never want my kid to be sick if I could have prevented it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 06:00 PM
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No, i summarized your argument correctly. It just makes no sense. Both men and women increase their risks of STDs by having more sexual partners. I don’t think high n women are more likely to cheat than high n men
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 04:49 PM
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I don’t have exact stats, so I can’t give you a definitive number. All I know is that there’s many women responding to questions on reddit about paying for dates who want to go halfsies. I’m having a hard time refuting your “argument” because the basis is illogical and irrelevant to the topic
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 04:47 PM
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So… because men have lower standards than women.. women shouldn’t freely enjoy sex with whomever they want? Is that your argument
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 04:29 PM
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Neither men nor women are locks
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 04:24 PM
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No; 50 is about my limit because of STD risk
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 04:23 PM
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There are plenty of women who plan dates and want to go halfsies with men. But I also feel like you’re comparing apples to oranges here. Sex is enjoyable for both people. In order for men to have casual sex, women must also be willing to have casual sex. That doesn’t really have anything to do with who plans or pays for the dates. Would it be correct to assume you see women not having sex with many partners as a sort of compensation you expect for paying for/planning dates? Like, you see chastit…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 04:22 PM
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I don’t think most women really care about n count. It’s more so that the fuckbois make women feel like they’re being committed to and cared about, and then the fuckbois not actually committing to them or caring, or cheating on them, that women take issue with.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 04:11 PM
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You tell me why it’s more socially acceptable for men to have sex with many partners than it is for women
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 04:07 PM
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It’s not though
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 04:00 PM
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We want to enjoy casual sex the way men do without being shamed for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 03:58 PM
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No, ive read some shit that basically said you should never let a woman know exactly how much you care or she’ll lose attraction, and there were men agreeing with it. Also the stories about men being broken up with for lack of emotional availability/intimacy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 03:54 PM
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Maybe I’m just greedy bc i need actions and words
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 03:49 PM
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My husband’s ex wife used to tell him she’d be more interested in sex if he did things like unload the dishwasher or the laundry. And of course because she starved him of sex he was eager to do those things, but of course that didn’t help their DB because she just hated sex and wanted to weaponize it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 03:32 PM
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Why does it matter how many people a partner cheats on you with? If they cheated, they cheated
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 03:24 PM
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🤯 super insightful
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 03:21 PM
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I mean, if you’re not afraid that’s great. I was using “you” in the general sense though, to refer to men who are afraid of verbally expressing their affection. A) my toddler fucking hates her playpen and will scream her head off if I put her in there, and b) even if she did willingly go in there, I don’t want her to hear her parents having sex in the other room
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 03:20 PM
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It’s perfectly okay to show affection in different ways, yes. But if you’re afraid to say anything remotely mushy, that’s an issue. We did the urgent, “it’s been so long” sex the night I got home. Can’t exactly do it in the kitchen in the AM anymore because we have a toddler
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 03:14 PM
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You have to actually lift, not just wish
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 03:09 PM
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The gym will, honey. But you need to actually go and lift
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 03:08 PM
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You can go to the gym and make your shoulders wider
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:58 PM
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Exactly. And their bitterness will increase, and then women will be turned off by the bitterness, and they’ll be permanently alone… vicious cycle
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:56 PM
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Dunno, but they need therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:55 PM
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You know you can build up your delts, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:51 PM
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Why is it good for health?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:49 PM
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Right. Its super concerning. Sex is a nice thing for both genders to enjoy, not a currency or a chore
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:47 PM
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What i mean is, somebody out there is gonna think “Oh if I say ‘I’m so glad to have her back,’ she’s gonna think i need her more than she needs me and lose attraction because scarcity mindset” or whatever kind of PPD overthinking happens. Or like you said, not being able to be simply direct for fear of her response. Like it just made me happy and I was already horny for him; I didn’t go “ew what a sap” and dry up, you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:44 PM
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If it would make you feel any better, you could try to see it as others wanting you to feel good about yourself because you’re worthy of feeling that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:41 PM
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Why doesn’t she leave?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:31 PM
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Elaborate
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:19 PM
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Toxic masculinity is masculinity that is harmful to men, like feeling the need to repress your emotions or not doing/having things you’d enjoy (certain hobbies, fruity drinks, skin or nail care, etc) because you believe they are too feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:15 PM
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Idk, I’d find that kinda hot. But id find it hot if a woman could do that too
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:03 PM
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No worries Hopefully this is allowed: https://imgur.com/a/3ejjgXS
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 01:57 PM
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Sugar dating was fun and exciting for a while, but it was definitely way more dangerous than being in a monogamous relationship. People who pay for sex are statistically more likely to have STDs than people who don’t. You could get sold into sex slavery if you meet up with the wrong guy (I almost did. Thanks, Heathrow Airport security team.) I’ve thankfully never been beaten by any of my clients, nor any of my romantic partners. Also, when you’re trying to extract money from a client, you have t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 01:48 PM
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Breastmilk has antibodies in it, so that the children who drink it get sick less often, and recover faster when they do get sick. It’s not a “cure all” but to pretend it doesn’t help and formula is the same thing is obtuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 01:43 PM
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Jesus christ what a cunty nutjob
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 01:39 PM
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This morning my husband gave me a big bear hug and a kiss and said “I’m so glad to have you back!” (i’ve been gone for two weeks for military service.) And after the tingly happy butterfly feelings subsided, I just felt sad because I thought that there are men on this subreddit that will never say anything like that to their partners, even if they felt them, for fear of their partners losing attraction to them for stupid PPD-related reasonings.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 01:35 PM
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I think you’re spot on
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 01:30 PM
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Obviously not… “Providing good insight”. Ah, I see the problem. You’re mistaking red pill women (the people) for r/redpillwomen. You ought to try browsing r/redpillwives instead; that subreddit is run by women, not men. Also, we don’t think that every man who is or claims to be RP is worth submitting to. Men are individuals with varying degrees of RMV and must be evaluated as such. for doing something so blatantly damaging to her life What are you talking about? What are you assuming is “damagin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 11:12 PM
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One of the red pill women told you to.. fuck or fight her partner ? I’m not sure I’m understanding you correctly. Your old man husband who’s… what 25 years older than you? M’kay. Nothing off kilter going on in that internal landscape. There isn’t. Our relationship is amazing. I understand age gap relationships aren’t everyone’s preferences, but they are mine. Right, because bottles and formula don’t exist and… NURTURE. Lol The ability to breastfeed is a gift from nature. Not only is it a wonderf…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 10:36 PM
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Your entire sub prioritizes dumbass men. All redpill/tradcon men are, by definition, dumbasses. No, no it does not. The members are explicit about good vetting practices and only submitting to worthy men. Also, not every woman on RPW is traditional, and not every RPW js conservative, nor is every one of their partners tradcon/RPed. Like me, for instance— I slept around with hella people before I settled down with my BP husband, whom I subtly redpilled myself, and both of us are political centris…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 09:28 PM
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Nah. Babies young enough to nurse don’t understand why they’re sick and feeling crappy. That ought to be minimized where possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 09:09 PM
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There is a proven decrease in incidence of illness from breastfeeding, as compared to formula feeding
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 08:24 PM
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Thats a good question
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 06:29 PM
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I could never give one child the benefits of breastfeeding but not the other(s) and still be at peace
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 06:27 PM
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Not the death of my DESIRE and RESPECT for a dumbass man. So, a) you should not date dumbass men (vet better), b) if he wasn’t a dumbass when you starting dating but you’re calling him a dumbass now, you’ve already lost respect and desire for him, and you should leave the relationship, and c) refraining from attempting to control your man is advice for women who want to keep their relationships alive and healthy. She’s doing precisely the bullshit your tradcon cult recommends Uh, no. You’re only…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 06:21 PM
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I do lift, but I’m more wiry than bulky
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 03:41 PM
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Uh, no. We don’t actually advocate for women being doormats. We know that often times the only person we can control is ourself, so we advise women to take an honest look inward first when there are problems in their relationships. You can either do that, or leave your relationship. We do encourage positive femininity and masculinity, and male-lead relationships, because we believe that women tend to be happier and more attracted to their partners that way. However, if women want an exclusive re…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 03:38 PM
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Probably around 20
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 03:23 PM
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Im a bit under 5’5 and 136 lbs. Very lean (probably around 20% bf), very small boobs. Probably doesn’t help that I cut my hair short (didn’t feel like doing a sock bun for two weeks of military service in a hot climate. Gonna grow it back now.)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 03:23 PM
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Absolutely not
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 03:08 PM
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I feel like my body looks too masculine and skinny, but I don’t want to get fatter. But if I put on more muscle I’ll look more masculine. Ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 02:41 PM
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There are emotional issues best resolved in therapy or counseling (mood or personality disorders, general mental illnesses, trauma, etc.) and there are things that you should be reasonably able to expect your partner’s support on (day-to-day frustration, sadness, grief, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 01:58 PM
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Do you need data to determine everything about human nature? That’s why I said “sometimes.”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 01:15 PM
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We have four dogs and 3 fishtanks
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 12:29 PM
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My husband is 50 and doesn’t want any more, and I don’t think I’m mentally well enough right now to handle a toddler and a newborn. I also want to focus all of my attention on the one I have, and be an empty nester by 42. Plus I’m sick of breastfeeding
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 11:29 AM
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Like a perv. A really obvious up and down lol 🙈
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 11:05 AM
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I already believe that, but I also loved having a baby and i want MOAR
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 11:04 AM
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A bit under 5’5 A 4 or a 6 in US sizes; smaller if vanity sized. Edited to include small or medium, XS in vanity sizes 136 lbs (Converted: 164 cm, 61.6 kg)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 11:00 AM
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This is such a sad view. You shouldn’t need a romantic partner except to get your romantic needs met (like non-sexual touch, romantic affection, emotional support, etc.). Both men and women should be able to care for themselves. Both men and women enjoy sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 10:52 AM
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Are they though?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 10:48 AM
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Has anyone successfully and relatively permanently resolved their recurring baby rabies? Like without just having more babies? Advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 10:46 AM
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Would you wait to have sex until a relationship has formed? That was not my strategy in the past. I slept with whomever I wanted, and if we liked each other for more than sex, we’d form a relationship. For me, sexual compatibility is really important, so it was also helpful to figure that out immediately with each new prospect. It worked out well for me. But I understand not every person is like that. From a man’s perspective, idk if waiting for relationship for sex is always the best idea. A wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 10:32 AM
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Red pill women would wonder why she’s doing all that but hasn’t initiated the conversation about exclusivity (if that’s what she wants) with him yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 10:23 AM
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All I want is for people to stop talking shit about age gap relationships between consenting adults before they actually ask questions about the health of that relationship. Just because there’s an “experience gap” doesn’t necessarily mean the older man person is taking advantage of it and using it to control the younger person. And stop saying “YoUr BrAiN HaSnT FiNiShEd dEvELoPiNg UnTiL 25!” as an argument about older people dating under 25 yos. They’re developed enough to be able to make decis…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 10:15 AM
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Correction: women can remark on other women’s clothing choices irl only. On the internet they’re gonna get cancelled for not supporting other women
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 09:59 AM
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If it makes you uh… feel any better, my husband’s previous wife lost her virginity to him and still deadbedroomed him. I think that sometimes the reason why low n women are low n is because they don’t like sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 09:53 AM
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This website is terrible to navigate. It’s not organized like a journal article is
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 01:21 AM
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Muchas gracias
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 01:15 AM
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I was interjecting that it’s not a justification for high n/low RMV. The low n women said they tended to keep that info to themselves because they don’t like men fetishizing them for it, or because they feel entitled to their virginities. They want men who like them for them, not for their n counts. I suppose you could hide the fetishization if you’re wise enough to keep your mouth shut about it, but idk how you’d find out that information without asking the pertinent questions that put low n wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:43 PM
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That’s wholesome
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:36 PM
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I’m not gonna change my stance if we split. I don’t want someone’s money if I’m not giving them anything in exchange. Especially if the divorce wasn’t friendly; I’d want as minimal contact as possible, and asking him for an alimony check would be humiliating. I don’t even like asking him for money now. Child support is necessary, expected, and enforced, yes. Neither of us think that is a problem, and it’s not like he’d put a limit to how much he’d spend on things that our daughter needs anyway, …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:34 PM
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It’s not. If you count men only, 11 other men being as good as him would make him 72.5th percentile. (If I’m doing my math right.) He is better than 100% of the other men I’ve been with, so with the way math works, that’d be 97.5th percentile, but alas, I was making a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:29 PM
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🫢
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:21 PM
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It was both low n women and high n women agreeing that virgin chasers and men who prefer low n women were less desirable
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:20 PM
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Elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:18 PM
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Hm, they don’t give all the stats, or any info about sampling methods…The latest data set is from 2010 (12 years ago), and supplies that 32% of women surveyed said they had 6 or more partners. That’s nearly a third. It’s probably higher now, as society has gotten more liberal. I wonder why they grouped the data the way they did, instead of clustering people with >5 partners together. I mean, they saw relatively little difference between 2 partners and 9 partners in terms of likelihood of cheatin…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:16 PM
1

Dick so good he breaks math
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:11 PM
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No, 100th percentile means there’s no one better in the data set.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:50 PM
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Can you link it? I only go away one weekend a month and two weeks in the summer (and my mum takes her for the two weeks because Hubby has to work.) Most months I make less than $250, and that’s money that I put toward personal “wants” and student debt. He pays for everything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:37 PM
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Well, he’s in my 100th percentile, so.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:35 PM
0

You said the average is 4-5 partners before marriage, but whats the standard deviation and variance from your source?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:34 PM
1

In another post/thread? ETA: I do most of the diaper changing and childcare. My husband takes over just fine when I have to go away for my monthly military service.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:25 PM
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There are many men who think 10 is much too high
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:23 PM
3

That makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:22 PM
2

That’s probably true
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:21 PM
1

…Your husband?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:20 PM
2

Maybe counseling would help? Self love is really important for overall health.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:18 PM
1

Based
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:17 PM
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Youre making a lot of assumptions here. Personally, I’m a SAHM and I’m really grateful that my husband can provide me the opportunity to spend more time with our daughter while he works hard to provide for us. He still spends most of his time with us when he’s not working. I would never deny our child access to her father, or her father access to her. Children need their parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:16 PM
2

Excellent answer
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:06 PM
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He is, really. I don’t have to lie to him. Every time we have sex, it’s amazing. Like it really blows my mind that I get to go to bed with him every night
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:05 PM
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Q4M who want virgin or low n women for LTRs: What do you think you bring to the table? Why should relatively rare women, and those whom you view as “high value,” choose you as a partner? On that post about lying about sexual history, there seemed to be a relative consensus among women that men who desire low n women tend to be undesirable partners themselves. What do you make of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:02 PM
10

100%
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:58 AM
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I think no alimony is a stretch. But my prenup allots me a maximum of 10k in alimony if, god forbid, my husband and I were to divorce. That would be more than enough to live on for a couple months while I found somewhere else to live and a way to make money. I don’t feel entitled to his assets if I were to stop being his wife. I also think he would be willing to help me out if I ever really needed it, even after divorce, because we have a child together, and he wouldn’t want our daughter to live…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:54 AM
2

That’s amazing but also scary
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:50 AM
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How do you know it doesn’t bother him? Because he’s with me, and he told me it doesn’t bother him. He said that the only thing he cares about is that I’m faithful to him now, and that he’s glad for my sexual expertise. He asks me questions about my history and doesn’t get upset about the answers, and he said that he thinks men who care about sexual history are generally insecure about being cheated on, left, or being compared to other men. If you gave him the exact same treatment, but your n-cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:45 AM
1

Huh. Never happened to me
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:28 AM
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It just doesn’t bother him. Just like some people feel neutral about spicy food, and other people think black pepper is too spicy. He had a previous wife who lost his virginity to him, and she hated sex and deadbedroomed him. He went to the opposite extreme and things are working out much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:18 AM
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I used to sugar date. At first, to make myself more marketable, i would lie about my n count to clients. Eventually I realized that the men who cared the most were not men I wanted to spend time with, and that if a real relationship ever came about from the sugar dating, it would be best to be honest from the start. So I stopped lying about it. I told my husband everything and he is fine with it all. He feels special because he knows he is the best out of many.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:11 AM
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Thanks for sharing. That’s really interesting, and shows that things aren’t black and white
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:01 AM
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If you have a spouse that’s good and faithful to you, enjoys sex with you, does her half of the responsibilities, and her past doesn’t bother you, how is that any different than a man who has all the same things with a low n woman? I understand that it’s not your preference, but not everybody is the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 10:59 AM
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Why? He’s happy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 10:27 AM
2

Okay, but he means it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 09:57 AM
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What if I told you my 6 n husband doesn’t care that my n is 50, and has told me he appreciates the sexual finesse the experience gave me?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 09:15 AM
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That’s what I thought. The whole conversation was making me feel crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 08:56 AM
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Re: 5, somebody asserted yesterday that if a woman doesn’t “break her rules” for you, then you should next her, in the context of talking about people really loving one another. When I disagreed, and said that boundaries are normal and healthy and should be respected, this person doubled down, and another person told me I’d never experienced a “healthy” relationship. (I’ve been with my husband for 6.5 years and we have like, zero issues.) So I wanted to ask others
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 08:45 AM
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We we talking about it on the discord yesterday, and people were giving some wild answers, agreeing with each other, and telling me I didn’t know what a “healthy” relationship is like. That really bothered me because I had a parent who used to gaslight me constantly. So I wanted to ask a wider audience what they thought. It has helped me feel less crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 08:39 AM
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I don’t even know what that means or how to respond to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 08:35 AM
2

Have you ever considered that there are men who genuinely do not care about their partners’ n counts, or genuinely appreciate them?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 08:15 AM
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I wouldn’t say prescriptive, necessarily
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 10:55 PM
2

How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 10:08 PM
0

I also would pass on girls that gave up sex on the 1st date so her 1 month rule impressed me. I’ve never heard that before
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 10:03 PM
1

What were some of your rules, if you don’t mimd me asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:42 PM
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That’s what I said, about boundaries! But two people disagreed with me so I wanted to make sure I wasn’t crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:09 PM
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We were talking about them on the discord and people were giving wild answers and agreeing with each other, and it was making me feel crazy, so i thought id ask a wider audience
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:06 PM
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Im not in my 30s, but I’m presently married and was promiscuous from 17-19. My “strategy” ig you could say, was just to sleep with people i wanted to sleep with and if I liked them for more than sex, I would let a relationship form. So I tried to sleep with my husband the first date (he said “no, let’s wait.” Can you believe it?), and we still have an active and kinky sex life over 6.5 years and one kid later.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:02 PM
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I cant stay friends with men that make their desire to sleep with me known. I’m married and I don’t keep orbiters.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 08:57 PM
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Or hes a really poor caretaker of them
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 07:04 PM
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You have to either supervise your kid’s play or play with them. Also, toddlers nap for a max of like, 2 hours a day, and generally during that time you have to be doing other things, like cleaning up their messes, doing their laundry, or getting the next meal ready. When young babies nap, that’s time that you need to sleep because you’re not sleeping at night, either
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 04:59 PM
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This is like talking to a brick wall 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 04:33 PM
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I mean, you might be in the air conditioning, but it’s not like you get to sit down much. I’m on my feet pretty much all day long caring for my toddler and household
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 04:30 PM
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You cant just look after your kid for part of the time
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 04:28 PM
1

I would still cook, because I like to cook. Maybe some of the grocery shopping
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 04:27 PM
1

A site would help the virgins find them though, and they should be supportive of that if they’re into helping virgins ascend to sex havers
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 04:23 PM
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You’re not understanding what I mean here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 03:43 PM
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I’m talking about women who like casual sex with male virgins. Like they like how easy it is to get them off, or giving them their first sexual experience and making it “special,” or they enjoy the validation that the virgin cling gives them afterward. They typically don’t care about the dude’s personality or his looks. Not women looking to date low n me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 03:06 PM
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Look. There’s a subset of women who’s fetish is taking male virginities, right? It’s rewarding to them. They are a very small percentage of women. So the idea is that you make and advertise a website that attracts those women and incels, and then they link up with one another. Boom, inceldom lessened. Have you ever seen fetlife?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:48 PM
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No, tinder is full of women who are picky because they have so many options. The incels aren’t getting matches. The site would be for women who specifically want to have sex with virgin men, and incels
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:21 PM
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There’s a poor ratio of men to women on Tinder anyway, let alone ratio of incel-fuckers to incels. The idea of the site would be to concentrate incel-fuckers in one place
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:12 PM
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No; it would be free for everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:02 PM
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And the women felt like they were in a relationship and wanted sex with the men, too. Be mad about getting dumped, but it doesn’t make sense to be mad about sex happening when you wanted it to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:49 PM
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Yeah, nobody likes being lied to. Being upset about not getting a lasting relationship when you wanted one or were told you’d have one is reasonable. But if you wanted to pay for a date, and you wanted to have sex with someone, and you did either or both of those things, what is the problem? Why are you mad about that part of the equation?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:47 PM
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Why don’t they just logic themselves out of feeling bad about it? It’s not like they can go back in time and take the sex back.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:35 PM
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This too!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:32 PM
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Yes. Either you wanted to pay for her food or you didn’t; you shouldn’t expect sex or a relationship just because you paid for it. Take bishes on free dates, if you don’t want to spend your money on them. Everyone is trying to blame everyone else for their choices and it’s dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:30 PM
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No, it’s not okay to be dishonest about your intentions w/ regards to dating someone. But it makes no sense to be retroactively upset about having sex with someone that you wanted to have sex with at the time, when you felt your conditions for the sex were met, and calling it “pumping and dumping.” Just say “he lied to me,” not “He pumped and dumped me.”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:27 PM
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I am on the pill for medical reasons. He’s not supposed to be screwing other people. People cheat all the time in committed relationships, and birth control fails. Condoms are never a waste of money. Use them if you wouldn’t have a kid with someone presently and don’t want STDs. If the condom breaks, take plan b. Listen to your body’s signs and symptoms for ovulation; don’t rely on a calendar. If you have watery or thin, stretchy CM, you’re ovulating or close to ovulating, and you shouldn’t have…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:15 PM
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You keep oscillating back and forth between “these women were told they’re in a relationship” and “the relationship wasn’t discussed.” Pick one. If the relationship is discussed: you felt comfortable enough to want sex with the person you believed you had a relationship with. Why are you mad about the sex part when the relationship doesn’t last? If the relationship isn’t discussed: You’re an idiot and you need to learn how to communicate like an adult. That’s not the other person’s fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 11:47 AM
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You shouldn’t be having sex when you’re ovulating or without condoms anyhow, or having sex outside of marriage if you couldn’t bring yourself to have an abortion. You should also probably have new partners get tested before you fuck them. Pregnancy and STDs shouldn’t even be a concern. They happen in whether you’re in a committed relationship or not if you’re being an idiot about it. Why are you dating people that would shame you to your mutual friends, and why are you friends with people who wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 11:24 AM
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If you don’t feel comfortable having sex outside of a relationship, and you don’t explicitly discuss whether you’re in a relationship when you have sex with someone… how can you possibly be mad about “pumping and dumping?” If you feel like your relationship id far enough along— even if your partner has shitty, dishonest intentions— that you feel comfortable having sex, and you have the sex, and then the relationship ends, there’s no reason to retroactively feel bad about the sex part. It’s perfe…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 11:15 AM
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But if you feel comfortable enough in your “relationship” to want to have sex with the person, and you have the sex… why are you upset about if afterwards, even if your relationship ends? Yeah, it’s shitty of people to lie about their intentions, but there’s no reason to be so hurt about having had sex with someone you wanted to have sex with
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 11:09 AM
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But then you just got dumped. The sex part is a separate thing
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 10:29 AM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 10:08 AM
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Pump and dump isn’t real. If someone wanted to have sex with someone, and they did, how could they mad about it? They got what they wanted. What they didn’t get was commitment from that sexual partner, and instead of recognizing that just because you fuck someone doesn’t mean they owe you a relationship, they shift the responsibility of their choices to that sexual partner and call it this thing (pump and dump) that makes the partner look bad. It’s fucking stupid. Fuck who you want and fuck who …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:48 AM
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Normally I recommend to women to work on their bodies and social skills. There’s no reason to be a femcel
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:43 AM
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Why do you think partners having equal n counts is the best?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:41 AM
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People love to blame “metabolism” for weight gain instead of acknowledging the fact that they stopped moving as much and started eating more calories.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:36 AM
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What is fresh n fit?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:34 AM
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Someone ought to make a site where women who like taking male virginities can link up with incels
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:31 AM
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You’re entitled to your opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 08:09 AM
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Age gap relationships arent for you if you cant handle the occasional father-daughter mistake from strangers
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:28 PM
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Side tangent: One of my favorite things on instagram is seeing mothers of little boys doing Montessori style activities with them. This usually includes cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. Even though I feel like things work out better when women stay home and keep house and men go to work, it’s still really important for boys to learn how to do those things themselves, because there will be a point when they’re living alone and they’ll have to do them, and then they have the option to split housew…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:24 PM
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Thank you for making me aware of this sub. Will hatebrowse like FDS
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:14 PM
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I’m gonna bet it was the super tight spanx, not the cape
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:10 PM
1

I’ll try that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 02:39 PM
1

Based
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 02:38 PM
1

Seems like a magic trick
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 02:38 PM
2

Nah. Shit’s fun as fuck. Everyone should go to the gym though, for function fitness.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 02:38 PM
2

I don’t have any logical reason but it just seems childish to me
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 02:36 PM
2

That’s not how I was expecting that comment to end lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 02:33 PM
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I kinda fudged it with the neighbors bc when I was suffering from postpartum rage, the dogs would escape from the yard and I’d be wandering around the neighborhood screaming for them and cussing with a baby on my hip, so now everyone knows I’m psycho… the dog park might be alright.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:49 PM
2

Nah, sports are great for every age. Exercise and socializing in person are good things
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:46 PM
1

The responsibilities should be evenly spilt. If one person is paying the bills, the other one does the housework and most of the childcare. If both partners are working, the housework and childcare should be split based on how many hours each person works. (Obviously both parents should care for the children at least sometimes, as this is good for bonding, and parents need breaks sometimes.) My husband works his ass off to provide for our family, while I stay home with our daughter. I woke up wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:40 PM
1

Red pill doesn’t have anything to do with that though
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:15 PM
1

I was using the term “pre school” like, before they go to school… ive been trying to get my kid into daycare for like, months. They’re all full and on waiting lists
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:10 PM
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I’m pretty sure you can’t just lock your spouse out of the house that they probably are both legally entitled to (unless they prenupped). And you like, shouldn’t, as an adult. That’s immature af and they may not last too long
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:50 PM
1

Eventually, ig. Not if you got a preschooler though
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:45 PM
3

he’s women
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:27 PM
1

Do what you want. Just know that I’m judging you
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:23 PM
1

How do you go about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:19 PM
2

I got opinions man
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 11:54 AM
2

No fr. I am super introverted. Socializing just drains me
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 11:45 AM
2

I don’t even think I’m lonely, I just feel like I should have friends
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 11:38 AM
4

Hold on I gotta BS a reason Okay, I got one: movies are for cuddles, and music is for dancing and productivity
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 11:19 AM
2

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 11:18 AM
1

Adults shouldn’t play video games. Like once you’re past 22
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 10:57 AM
2

RIP SAHMs
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 10:36 AM
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Good to know. Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 10:35 AM
2

Is there anyone here that had to learn how to make new friends as an adult and succeeded in doing so?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 09:26 AM
4

Someone was calling you edgy
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 09:23 AM
2

Men simultaneously give women pussy privilege, and shame women for capitalizing on it. But they would do the same thing if they had the option. Why wouldn’t you? When i was younger, sugar dating was like the best thing ever, like exploiting a bug in an atm machine.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 05:04 AM
1

I cant stand men my age. Theyre not stable
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 04:59 AM
1

Misogyny
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 04:58 AM
1

I said “don’t cmv”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 04:58 AM
1

Can’t disagree 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 04:57 AM
2

I have one and that’s good enough for me
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:49 AM
1

25
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:48 AM
2

By not having a son 💅
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:03 AM
0

Even match
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:02 AM
1

Wanna be friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:01 AM
1

Can I get a TTDW? (Too tate didnt watch)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:01 AM
1

Does it?? Mine must be higher than I thought
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:58 AM
0

Society is fucked
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:54 AM
1

virgin with an n count of 4 How does that work?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:51 AM
1

My husband is 5’9. That’s average.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:49 AM
2

Congrats. What gender is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:48 AM
1

O.o
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:45 AM
1

I wanna get my postpartum loose belly skin removed
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:42 AM
1

35+
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:39 AM
1

I have a preference for much older men
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:39 AM
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I have found that ball tightness doesn’t actually correlate with age. And men don’t age like women; as long as they exercise, they don’t get loose skin
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:37 AM
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I never see women here saying they can’t get whomever they want bc of their sexual history
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:35 AM
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Older men are superior. Don’t cmv
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:31 AM
0

Finally a dude that gets it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:26 AM
1

I told you in previous comments that he cries in front of me. That’s part of emotional intimacy and falls under “opening up”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 10:14 PM
1

Ok but periods are actually gross and you shouldn’t subject other people to it. Emotions aren’t gross
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 10:11 PM
1

I had a lot of pride in being one of the best and working hard for what I achieved, and some of that is waning because I’m realizing I wasn’t actually “one of the best” and that I may not have actually worked as hard as I thought. I wouldn’t say that I’m upset by that, I just feel like my sense of identity is… damaged?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 09:29 AM
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An embryo/early fetus is “alive” by biological definition, and “human” by nature of having human DNA, but it isn’t a person or a miniature version of a whole baby. The majority of abortions are performed when the fetus is hardly more than 3 layers of tissue. You can’t even find it in the blood you pass if you go for the pill method. It’s not conscious or aware of it’s own existence, and it’s ability to become a baby is entirely dependent on whether it is permitted to remain inside somebody else’…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 09:25 AM
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Believing that all or almost all men or women are one way or should be one way and basing your choices and actions off that belief is the basis for sexism. That is what this sub is all about
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 09:16 AM
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Finding out that your potential life partner can’t handle your emotions and having to end the relationship isn’t “getting burned.” Those women are not good for LTRs; you’re saving yourself from a lifetime of emotional constipation and reducing your risk of mental illness. Emotionally supportive women are not “unicorns.” There are enough of them out there that you don’t have to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 09:12 AM
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There are literally so many women out there. Men here are giving up before they even get started. Believing you have no options changes your behavior to make you less attractive to women, and decreases your options. Your choices are not “heartless and insensitive women you can’t be emotional around “ or “nobody.”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 09:09 AM
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Yeah, no. I married someone who does care about my happiness and emotional well being, and I care about his. I got him to open up to me, and our relationship is better for it. I am so grateful for him, and I love him to death. I hope you find the same someday.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 09:06 AM
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Nah, the point of a shower is to get people of either gender clean. I’m not out here sniffing women, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 06:18 AM
1

Sure, just date your homies then. Obviously you have a deeper emotional connection with them than your LTR, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:31 AM
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Real men shower daily
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:14 AM
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I wonder how often men are just settling for women who don’t want them to have feelings because they believe it’s super rare or impossible for women to actually care, when that’s not necessarily true.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:11 AM
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But the women with whom you have LTRs and marriage should care, and there are women who do want and/or have that level of emotional intimacy with their partners
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:07 AM
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Yes.. you kind of have to share your feelings progressively, I suppose. Test the waters. If a woman can’t give you emotional intimacy appropriate to the amount of time you’ve dated, it might be best to cut your losses and move on
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:06 AM
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I wish you the best of luck and healing
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:03 AM
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Theres this semi-see through white knit top I have that my husband loves to see me in with no bra
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:56 AM
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Okay, gonna be a weirdo for a sec, but men smell so fucking good when they’re fresh out of the shower That’s it. That’s the tweet
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:50 AM
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I’m at least glad to hear that you’re not willing to settle for women like that. I hope you find a really kind and caring one. You mentioned therapists. Are you presently seeing one? They can really help a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:49 AM
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Im genuinely sorry that happened to you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:43 AM
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I did ask, and you didn’t provide that detail. I incorporated the example you did provide into my response. PPD is not an unbiased place. Almost everyone here is sexist in some way or another. Just like there is a disproportionate number of men who are very vocal about not wanting to date high n women, there is a disproportionate number of women who are vocal about getting the ick when their partners open up to them. Maybe that one woman you were dating was not willing to listen to your feelings…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:18 AM
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Nobody is perfect, but some people are way closer to it than others. You can’t have that scarcity mindset that TRP always warns men about, and you can’t just lower your standards on important things and expect to be happy and well within your relationships. Yes, you have fewer options than women of the same SMV do, because women are pickier. No, that doesn’t mean that you’ll have to forego sex or relationships entirely with women if you want to find one with whom you can be emotionally intimate.…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:13 AM
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Well nobody really wants to hear about ex drama like, on a first or second date. But if you’ve been dating for a hot minute, like several months to a year, and you wanna bring up a way that an ex treated you and how it made you feel, you can do that. Or if it’s other big things, like grief from a relative dying, or frustration at being passed up for a promotion at work when you’ve done everything you could have, for example. There are genuinely so many women on this earth. Not all of them are go…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:46 PM
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I don’t think that’s healthy men for to do at all, and I will never understand why they wouldn’t just pick a partner who is emotionally intelligent and supportive. There is so much value in that, but I guess it would be hard for many men to understand if they haven’t experienced it. You’re supposed to be each other’s rocks, and your safe places, and your homes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:39 PM
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There are plenty of women who like football and lifting. If there aren’t any social events related to those, you can try expanding your hobbies. Have you ever tried yoga? It’s super good for you, and very female dominated.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:19 PM
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Okay, so people go to parties with the expectation and desire of hooking up. You should try meeting them elsewhere, like at social activities organized around an interest of yours. That way you already have something in common with them, and it’s not a completely cold approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:09 PM
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How long into the relationship do you show emotional vulnerability? And about what? I just think if you date a woman and she can’t handle you acting like a human being instead of a robot, you ought to move onto the next one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:08 PM
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Except for I don’t think the majority of women are like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:56 PM
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I don’t think that’s true for all women. My husband cries in front of me. I still love him and feel attraction for him. I cannot imagine how shallow and loveless an LTR has to be for it to be ended by emotional expression. It should be deepened by appropriate emotional vulnerability and support, not ended.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:56 PM
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No, I don’t. RP preaches positive masculinity and not putting women on pedestals. Feeling the need to suppress your emotions at the risk of your own well being just to please women is toxic masculinity and prioritizing women over yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:54 PM
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Are you only trying to meet people from your school? In what settings are you meeting them?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:51 PM
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You don’t stop deserving or needing compassion as an adult. I am so concerned for people if they’re thinking like this. I am alarmed
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:49 PM
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I don’t think that’s how the human psyche works, dear. You’ve had your bodily autonomy violated, your safety compromised, things that you’ve worked for taken from you. It’s perfectly normal to have strong feelings about that, and to allow yourself to experience and process your emotions. Anyone who tells you otherwise is not a good person.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:44 PM
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You should probably seek counseling instead of pushing your feelings about your traumatic experience deep down. That’s how people become mentally ill
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:39 PM
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Your partner is supposed to care about your happiness and well being, and should want to help alleviate your suffering. And you should be willing to do the same for him or her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:38 PM
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Why is it necessary for your life partner… to have love and compassion for you ?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:34 PM
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Don’t date women who make bad rules
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:32 PM
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I’m going to assume you’ve never experienced anything truly sad, extremely frustrating, or traumatic in your entire life. Eta: and if you have, you’re repressing it in a way that’s gonna come back to bite you in the ass some day
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:31 PM
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The point is that you should be able to freely express your emotions and seek comfort in someone who is supposed to be your life partner and have love and compassion for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:26 PM
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Human beings?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:21 PM
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Sounds like someone wants me to drink kool aid
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:18 PM
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Wait til you consider men 35 and older
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:16 PM
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If hooking up until you fall in love with someone isn’t your style (as opposed to falling in love with them and then having committed sex), just… don’t do that? There are plenty of people out there that want what you want. Love is achievable.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:12 PM
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I’m really sad that this subreddit is telling men they can’t ever cry around their LTRs or wives
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:08 PM
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Because at that point in my life, my body basically couldn’t decide if it wanted to be male or female. So it chose somewhere between the two, which made me like… a crappy dude
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 07:03 PM
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Best I ever ran was 18:05
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 06:37 PM
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They still run 5ks like, 3 minutes faster
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 06:36 PM
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I used to run track and cross country, and I was proud of my abilities. But I realize that if I was competing against men, and not just women, I’d just be mediocre. Also, it may not have been that I worked so super hard for it; I had a massive ovarian cyst that was secreting androgens, and twice as much testosterone as a normal woman. So it’s like, doubly invalidating.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 06:10 PM
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Liar
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:36 AM
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You said “basketball” first
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:26 AM
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Don’t go back and edit it :/
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:13 AM
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All good friendo
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:11 AM
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I did
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:56 AM
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Because I told you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:54 AM
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I asked my husband to do those things to me. Before he was vanilla and was hesitant to do them. But now he enjoys it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:53 AM
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Not even a little… dribble?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:51 AM
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That seems like a very, very sad subreddit
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:42 AM
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You knew this already, decoy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:34 AM
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The what days of your period?!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:28 AM
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Protecc not attacc
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:27 AM
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I started crying on the bus in front of the Marines I’m supposed to be leading because a country song about family that I used to listen to as a child came on the radio. Embarrassing. But also I really fucking miss my family.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:25 AM
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Like I said, some people don’t respond well to normal requests. They have a hard time seeing past their own feelings to their partners. Both the man and the woman in that situation have needs— the man to decompress, and the woman to talk about her day. The conditioning I described is one way to get both people’s needs met when one isn’t willing to compromise for the other. It’s not to diminish her excitement; it’s to let the man get into the proper frame of mind where he can reciprocate her ener…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 11:26 PM
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Nobody should use it to decrease somebody’s excitement over something. That’s messed up. It would be useful if, for instance, you get home from work everyday and your wife instantly runs up to you and starts talking a mile a minute about her day, and you need a minute to decompress yourself. In this instance, if you directly ask her to give you some space when you first get home, she might get huffy and accuse you of not caring about her feelings and call you all kinds of names. (is that a matur…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:58 PM
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I’m sorry that happened to you, and sorry that so many people will discount your experience and feelings on the matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:23 PM
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Intentional sex deprivation is a big one. Of course many women are loath to admit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:05 PM
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Meh. I don’t need your judgement and moralizing. I don’t care if you think it’s “good” or not; I’m explaining to you how and why it works, because it seems like you have some misconceptions about it. Giving someone less attention and affection when they’re irritating you isn’t abusive. It’s not comparable to eating disorders; it’s like people doing something like intermittent fasting to manipulate the number of calories they’re taking in order to affect change in their weight. People subconsciou…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:00 PM
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Those people are not people you can have a healthy relationship with then lol It’s literally every person. Nobody likes criticism. So just manipulate because being an adult is harder No, it accomplishes things that you can’t always do with open BP communication, as well as saves you time and energy you would spend criticizing and potentially arguing with your partner. *Husband, not boyfriend. I think we’re fine. Like I said, it’s a last resort for when the situation is serious and I need him to …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:33 PM
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I won’t kinkshame you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:15 PM
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But communicating like an adult is better Not necessarily. People don’t like being criticized, and are often likely to resist changing if directly asked to do so. When you become colder in response to things you don’t like, the other person is conditioned to change subconsciously. When I choose to do it, it often saves us time on arguing, because he comes to the conversation already apologetic and knowing the situation is serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:14 PM
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Are you willing to share your specific example?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:10 PM
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There ought to be legal restrictions, imo. But then people might resort to getting pregnant and keeping the child from their father, or impregnating women without their consent. One of the best things about being a parent, ime, is having someone who is half you and half the person whom you love very much. You get to watch your loved one take care of your kid too, and it’s just so special in a way that’s hard to describe. I’m tearing up just thinking about my husband interacting with our daughter…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:46 PM
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Women do fuck around without consequences. We find the judgment dumb and hypocritical
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:05 PM
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Do you have a specific example?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:03 PM
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Men should definitely not be made to support children that were born of their rape. That is the one exception I would make to child support. 1) Children don’t choose to be born. They are subject to the harshness of the world with little means of self defense or provision— they are highly dependent on adults. They deserve the absolute most support their creators can offer, and I firmly believe that children should not be made outside of stable families. If a person can provide excellent financial…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 05:58 PM
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You don’t think women can get pregnant without choosing to have sex? Even if they do choose to have sex and accidentally get pregnant, the pregnancy still occurs in their body, not men’s. Therefore they get an additional choice about whether the pregnancy gets carried to term or aborted. You can surrender parental responsibilities and leave your child fatherless, but you have to at least financially support the human you created. Children should not suffer for the choices of their parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 05:46 PM
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Thanks for the explanation. Ig there are various degrees of stonewalling. Like I would never recommend to anyone to completely ignore their partner if they’re being annoying— that’s childish and gonna end your relationship real fast. But I think just reducing the amount of attention and affection you give your partner when they’re behaving in a way you don’t like is super effective. Just like, taking your temperature down a few degrees and being a bit colder. I have self-described daddy issues a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 05:43 PM
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What’s gray rocking?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 05:15 PM
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Your ability to decide when you start a family is literally whether or not you nut inside of a female. Your reproductive rights aren’t being violated by the existence of abortion
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 05:12 PM
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9/10
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 05:09 PM
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I am taken though Makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 04:50 PM
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Don’t have to worry about unwanted pregnancy or get sterilized yourself. Duh
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 04:44 PM
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I think having an absent father (or lacking a replacement father figure) almost always has some negative effect on the human psyche, and that it manifests differently in different people. What needs to be addressed and how is dependent on what effect it has had. I can agree with you on the second half of your comment, that therapy is a safer option than having a man help you through your self esteem/worth issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 04:41 PM
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There are many aspects of TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 04:16 PM
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I think there’s a difference between clinging to someone and needing them. Clinginess is like, never giving your partner time to himself, texting him constantly, giving and needing too much affection, whereas needing someone (at least what I meant in this context) is that you fear breaking up with them because they’re not easily replaced, and/or you’d be distraught or alpha widowed by the break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 04:15 PM
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Women don’t like men who need them. But a woman needing a man she’s dating is a massive ego boost for the man
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:57 PM
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Based
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:52 PM
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“Daddy issues” doesn’t mean crazy. It just means you have a damaged or absent relationship with your father.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:51 PM
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Nvm I just looked it up in the rules
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:49 PM
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What is witch hunting?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:40 PM
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Women with daddy issues either go for leader + provider types, if they are seeking men to replace the absent or damaged relationship with their fathers, or “bad boy” types, as a means of rebellion against fathers that are either too controlling or don’t care enough about them. Typically the men they go for will be older than they are. They will crave attention, validation, and a sense of love and safety, which can be weaponized against them by bad men (dark triad men), utilized by neutral men to…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:30 PM
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I would fucking hate to live in an all-female society. Just no thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:27 PM
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Caught the ick twice. First time was for my first boyfriend— he was being too whiny and clingy. The second was for an older gentleman whom I dated non-exclusively. He liked to make up silly and romantic songs and poems, and at first I thought they were charming, but after I had sex and dates with a few more people, they became a massive turnoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:19 PM
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A lot of times people will assume that you’re hurt by or mad at them, when you really feel disgust or pity. This makes them feel like they’re “winning.”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 12:09 PM
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Whatever makes you feel better, catchphraze
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:27 AM
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It’s been like this my entire life. Girls being clique-y, me not wanting to participate in the underhanded politics and minefields of conversations, their coming together to make me feel unwelcomed and unliked for no discernible reason. School, the soccer and track teams, the knitting club, bootcamp, my workplaces… the boys and men were much friendlier and kinder to me. They’re easier to figure out. I had a couple of close female friends, but they were pretty masc brained and kind of lonely lone…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:25 AM
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I do not care about being friends with the women on here. I’m disillusioned with the quality of people on here and considering quitting. That is what I said, that is what I meant. Dont try to twist it around and be like YoU oBvIoUsLy CaRe ThAt ThE wAhMeNs ArE BeInG MeAn tO yOu!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:08 AM
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“Mean” makes it sound like I’m playing the victim. I said they’re bitter and nasty.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:49 AM
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I havent been commenting a lot recently because I got super pissed about like 4 of the PPD women scuttling out of the woodwork to try to gaslight me about this one story I shared.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:43 AM
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I don’t hate my gender. I love being female. It is extremely advantageous to me. I like my body and my parts and being feminine around my husband. I love being a mother. I don’t feel restricted in the least; I feel empowered. My perspective of other women is my own and is based off of my experiences with them. There’s only so many times you can try the same thing before you have to admit you’re wasting your time and being foolish.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:02 AM
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If I dont fucking mesh with women, and you accept that, WHY do you keep trying to get me to “challenge myself?” I don’t want women who are similar to me. I want male friends. The other dude is full of internalized toxic masculinity which he would benefit from resolving.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:54 AM
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Specifically I don’t care if I am ostracized by the women on this sub. That is consistent with asserting that they are bitter and nasty.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:51 AM
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I’m away on military duty, so unfortunately I couldn’t pack many books. There are some military history books I could get ahold of, but non fiction isn’t exactly my fav genre either
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:49 AM
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Again, I listed it as a reason why I don’t like 👍 women, which is different than asserting that the characteristic is bad in general. This whole sub is based on generalizing genders. You’re in the wrong place if that upsets you. I don’t believe that I am really any different than other women. I see my fem brainéd-ness come out often when I have disagreements with my husband and he has to patiently explain to me why I’m being irrational and arguing like a woman. That’s okay. I don’t have to like …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:46 AM
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Hubby bought me one called “The southern book club’s guide to slaying vampires” a couple months ago, and ive never gotten around to it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:29 AM
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The only two things I said were that a) I don’t like women, and b) that the majority of women objectively are not capable of running at my pace and having a conversation. It is more likely for me to find platonic male friendship than it is for me to find a woman who both runs as fast as me and is appealing for friendship. I don’t give a shit about the women on here. I don’t want to be your friend and I don’t care if you want to be my friend or not. Why the fuck would I want to associate with nas…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:27 AM
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You’re the one taking “fem brained” as an insult, not me. There feminine-brained people and masculine-brained people (this is backed by neurological studies on trans and cisgender individuals; women have certain features in their brains and men have others, and typically trans individuals will have the opposite features their sex usually has.) I didn’t say fem brained is bad, just that I personally don’t like it (which, somebody asked me to elaborate on.) I don’t mesh well with women. I don’t wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:22 AM
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@ me next time
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:28 AM
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God people on this sub can be so bitter and nasty. Maybe I should try a book instead. I dont know, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:26 AM
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It’s called “hand tip,” if you search for it. I use it like a hairflip emote
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 12:20 AM
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💁‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 12:13 AM
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That depends what you mean by pickme. Women who bend over backwards for a crumb of male attention in a cringy way? Or women that just treat their men like people deserving of love? Because if it’s the latter, I’m proud to be that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 12:09 AM
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No; it’s the male figures in a young girl’s life not giving her enough positive attention that make a pickme
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 11:20 PM
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Same. Helicopters all around
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 10:14 PM
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My husband and I lived like a married couple for around 5 years before actually getting married. I was actually 4 months months pregnant on our wedding day. The only reason we actually went through with the legal marriage part was so that he and my step kids could get on my military health insurance plan. Otherwise, we were content as we were.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 10:05 PM
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They need to go a psychiatrist immediately because there are no whispers. They’re all in their head
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 09:58 PM
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“You cant change… what has happened to you?” What does that even mean? This post is garbage already
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 09:22 PM
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“Moo” is your clue
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 08:33 PM
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You should either break up with your partner and sleep around then, or try different things with your current partner and continually get her feedback. Cheating is wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 08:33 PM
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Cheating? Absolutely not
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 07:24 PM
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It ought to be super obvious from my comment history, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 06:07 PM
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Yes, but many women prefer men that are already experienced enough to be good, and won’t give average men a second or third chance
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 06:01 PM
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Another day of men thinking other people can automatically discern their partner’s n counts 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 05:59 PM
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Maybe she’s the worst of the women who find you attractive and not the best
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 05:39 PM
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Ikr?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 05:28 PM
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7 inches
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 05:00 PM
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I might not be completely straightforward about the reasons why I want him to test. But that is my plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:34 PM
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Who said anything about nagging? I’m gonna find out the truth, express my concerns, and then he’ll decide whether he wants to continue using.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:31 PM
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He’s steroiding to get more sex That’s questionable. … but that doesn’t matter because you don’t care anyways. Right, I don’t. It’s also irrelevant if his health issues bother you because that’s what he wants and you shouldn’t question it. I disagree. In your type of relationship, your job is to stfu and serve harder I’ll shut up about things that won’t leave my daughter fatherless.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:26 PM
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A) that’s not cheating; that’s operating within the bounds of my consent. Cheating would be having unprotected sex, having sex with exes, or having sex with mentally unstable or STD infected partners. B) I don’t see what it has to do with what we were talking about before
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:16 PM
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We’re familiar with each other’s bodies; we know them in and out and what both of us like. He gets super hard and his penis is just the right size and shape to hit the a and g spots. He says the right things at the right time, knows when to speed things up or slow them down, and if we’re having kinky sex, when to… well, lets just say when to be “mean” and when to be “nice.” Penetration lasts the right amount of time, I generally get off as many times as I want, and we don’t have to go additional…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:02 PM
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Essentially crying derives 0 benefit Humans cry to release emotions. You can’t be a robot all the time. You should know if your partner is at a point herself and that your relationship is lengthy and deep enough where she can see you cry and not be turned off before you cry in front of her. For example, if you just met her, do not cry in front of her. But if you’ve been dating for like, a year or more, and you know she loves you, then it’s probably okay. It will deepen your relationship. Emotion…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 02:50 PM
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She’d need to have access to lots of written material, like cook books. Would you “allow” her to go to the library?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 02:33 PM
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She’d probably ask you a lot of annoying questions and need you to drive her places
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 01:16 PM
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Been there for about a year now
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 12:06 PM
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Like, he was SA’ed as a child and heavily abused by his father. That’s heavy shit. I can only hold him and say “I’m so sorry love. You’re safe now. I’m here for you” whenever he has flashbacks. His therapist can help him beyond that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 12:05 PM
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My husband cries in front of me. I’m still attracted to him. I would rather he cry and let it out and get my support than shove it deep down until one day it explodes and/or he kills himself… That being said, he doesn’t cry over insignificant things or constantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 11:55 AM
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Addressing u/melody_of_ as well here: Somebody said in a different thread that women who don’t want to see any sort of emotional vulnerability from their men aren’t emotionally sound/mature themselves; they have issues that they need to deal with before they can have a healthy, deep, and meaningful LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 11:52 AM
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Right. When my husband and I first started dating, he was used to bottling up all of his feelings because his ex wife didn’t gaf about them. I had to encourage him to open up to me about stuff. Now he feels comfortable sharing things with me, and it has deepened our relationship. He also goes to therapy to talk about things like trauma, that I can’t “fix,” and to which take a lot of energy to be sympathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 11:46 AM
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The rest of us are thirsty for DRAMA
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 11:36 AM
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Eastuss did not take it. He mocks you. Will you stand for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 11:30 AM
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Explain
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 11:17 AM
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Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 10:40 AM
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The kid still existed. You’ll remember him/her the rest of your life
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 10:40 AM
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You don’t get bullied as an adult
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 09:52 AM
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That’s a hard question, because my husband is my best sexual partner ever, and I married him. If, god forbid, we ever split, I’d have an extremely hard time replacing him and feeling satisfied with my sex life. But before I met him, I remember dating men who weren’t my best ever. I didn’t really think about it much; I just cared that the sex was good. But I also didn’t have many serious, exclusive relationships. I don’t think men would feel it’s important, given the number of virgin and low n ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 09:23 AM
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Making and loving a person who is half you and half your partner is kind of romantic. You’re connected in a way that can never be undone
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 09:16 AM
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He def should have asked earlier in that relationship if it was a problem for him. It’s not nice to waste 4 months of someone else’s time
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 09:06 AM
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Think I’m just gonna approach this one like a normie and talk it out like people. You’re trying to pillsphere too hard and it’s incoherent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 12:45 AM
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…Or he’ll feel like he got away with lying to me and think that I’m gullible and do it again with different issues instead of just communicating with me, because that’s how people are
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 12:33 AM
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If he’s lying, I’m not the one blowing up the relationship for calling him out on it. I have fucking eyes. What are you suggesting, that I ignore what I see and the likely lie and just… let it go? Let him think that it’s fine to lie to me? You seem to have a lot of fucking criticism and no advice In reply to your edit: idk why he might be lying to me. That’s what I want to talk with him about. I’m not a controlling person at all
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 12:10 AM
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I wanted to add that him doing something that hurts me isn’t my fault, and I’m not just going to ignore it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 11:59 PM
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Best case scenario is that he’s not using steroids. Worst case scenario is that he lied to me and is using them, we talk about it, and he makes a decision about whether he wants to continue to use steroids. Being RPW doesn’t mean you have to be a doormat about things that are important to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 11:56 PM
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Him possibly having a heart attack and leaving me to raise our 1 year old by myself is a minor thing? Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 11:53 PM
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I just responded to that in a different comment. RPW is two-fold: keeping yourself as high value of a partner as possible (meeting your man’s needs and taking care of him, keeping your body attractive, remaining loyal, controlling your emotions and reducing irrational behavior, etc.) and building your man up (encouraging positive masculinity, letting him take the lead, being a safe place for him emotionally, etc.) so that he’s always attracted and attractive to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 11:51 PM
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I was considering remarking on how big he’s gotten and asking for test results to see if he’s just got “naturally” high T levels. That way if it’s indicative of steroid usage, I can confront him about lying to me and we can have a discussion about why he chose to lie, and I can express my concerns about the steroid usage. We don’t fight much at all; we could resolve it easily and quickly. If they were normal, I can marvel at how genetically gifted he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 11:45 PM
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If you notice your wife typing on her phone a lot, and you ask who she’s texting, and she tells you a friend, but then every time you’re sitting together she angles her phone away from you or sets it face down, would you trust her? You’d ask to see, right? So if my husband says no, he’s not using steroids, but he suddenly starts putting on muscle faster than he’s ever before, especially in the traps, at 50 years old, and he’s unusually horny, I have reason not to believe him and to ask to see bl…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 11:40 PM
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I’m not trustful of him bc shit aint adding up
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 11:28 PM
1

Basado
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 10:57 PM
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No; if I’m going to ask him, he can go by himself. Id just want to see the results.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:48 PM
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I dont know what you mean
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:46 PM
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1 previous. I would say my attachment is secure.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 08:46 PM
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Ive gotten some good responses, i think
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 08:31 PM
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He doesn’t give a shit about my sexual history. And it was 40 men, 10 women. His last wife was a virgin when they met and she deadbedroomed their relationship. I don’t believe there is a woman on earth good enough to deserve him, no. But I know that he has invested in me and loves me beyond sex, and I work hard to continue earning his love.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 08:20 PM
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The average man is neither fat nor bony. He showers regularly. He has neatly kept hair, but it’s not cut in a particularly stylish or flattering way. He keeps his modest house or affordable apartment relatively clean, but might do something like leave a dish in the sink or miss the dirty hamper occasionally. He like sports, cars, comic books, some other generic male hobby, and isn’t an alcoholic but enjoys beer on the weekends. He makes eh, 60k or so a year working a 9-5 with limited upwards mob…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 08:17 PM
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Nope. If I wanted to fuck a man, I just did it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:58 PM
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I’d feel better if he didn’t lie to me about it (if he is) and explain why he made the decision to use steroids— like talk about the data-shown risks and stuff with me, and why the benefits outweigh the side effects. If he is lying, that means he doesn’t trust me to have a reasonable conversation about things that affect our family like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:42 PM
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Yes, and I don’t like it. So when I stop hamstering I’ll come back and read it again and make a decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:37 PM
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We’re married with a kid. I’m not gonna go pursuing anyone else. If we got issues, we’re dealing with them, not jumping ship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:28 PM
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Not ignoring. Storing until the emotional responses subside and I can think reasonably.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:24 PM
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Of course. And I am very, very grateful. But his having money means we live a very comfortable and sometimes cushy lifestyle. That’s why I say “we” are well off.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:13 PM
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He hasn’t “had his fun” for 50 years. He was married for 23 years to a woman who emotionally abused him. He spent a large chunk of his life getting an education and professionally establishing himself in order to provide for his family. He deserves everything he wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:11 PM
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I just know that I would be mad if I told him the true answer to a question and he asked me for proof, especially if I had to take time out of my day to provide it. But I also have issues related to having been gaslit a lot as a child, so idk if he’d be different
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:45 PM
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What specifically makes you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:42 PM
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I’m gonna tuck this answer in my pocket until the hamster tires itself out, because I recognize that it makes sense but I don’t like it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:41 PM
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He’s allowed to have sex with whomever he wants, long as he wears protection and any partners are sane, STD free, and not exes. I don’t worry about him leaving me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:39 PM
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Maybe I’ll love on him real gud first— get the house spotless, make a delicious dinner, give him a massage, and then float the request
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:37 PM
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We are well off
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:33 PM
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Yes, 6.5 wonderful years.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:29 PM
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Absolutey
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:28 PM
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They’re not small, just taut. They’ve always been that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:27 PM
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On the bluer side of things… don’t you think spouses owe it to each other to take care of their health? So that they’ll be around longer and the healthier one has to do less work to care for the less healthy one?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:25 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:21 PM
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You can keep your judgey emotes to yourself, please and thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:20 PM
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Kinky noted
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:19 PM
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They’re very taut
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:19 PM
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Yeah, that’s why I was trying to figure out how to figure this problem out tactfully and tactically. I want to have my cake and eat it too
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:18 PM
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Well I didn’t know if they would just test for testosterone and his could just be in the high-normal range, which would be ambiguous and not prove or disprove anything, or if there would be other signs if you look at other hormones, but I didn’t know which. Or if there were specific drugs you have to ask for a test for.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:16 PM
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25
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:10 PM
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He was already pretty muscular for an average person, let alone a 50 yo. He gained nearly 10 lbs in a couple months and not much of it is fat (maybe 3lbs or so.) His traps also got huge. Def not newbie gains. Thanks for the info
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:09 PM
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Imma be looking at his booty like 🧐🕵️‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:03 PM
1

You had me in the first half
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:02 PM
1

I was hoping to get some seasoned red pillers and maybe one or two purple pillers to balance them out
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 05:57 PM
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My 50 yo husband recently put on a lot of muscle in a short period of time, and his libido has increased. I asked him if he was using steroids and he said no. I have not found any evidence of him using it, nor does he have any visible side effects… I don’t want him to increase his risk of cardiovascular disease, as he has a family history and moderately elevated blood pressure from stress already. I would like for him to get a blood test for proof that he isn’t juicing, but I don’t want him to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 05:49 PM
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Eugenics are only bad because of the infringement on people’s freedom to have kids, like when a government rules that people with given characteristics can’t reproduce. In the past this has manifested as forced sterilization of the “undesirable” population. If a group of people with a given characteristic don’t want (more) kids for themselves, their choice is not eugenics. Again, just because abortion is made more easily available to the group doesn’t mean they have to have abortions.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 04:31 PM
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You keep crying “eugenics,” but again, nobody is forcing women to get abortions. Have you ever considered that individual black women’s own health, happiness, and ability to care for the children they already have might be more important to them than attempting to become a majority population?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 08:54 AM
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Abortion isn’t killing babies. Abortion prevents early fetuses from turning into babies, or allows a woman to opt out of carrying a nonviable pregnancy to term and delivering a baby who’s not going to live because of birth defects. The majority of abortions are a choice made by women who can’t afford a(nother) child, can’t care for a(nother) child, don’t want a(nother) child, don’t want their rapist’s child, are put at risk for health conditions by their pregnancy, or some combination of those r…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 12:31 AM
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Tf does planned parenthood have to do with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 09:46 PM
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Who tf is asking high school students about their sex lives?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 09:42 PM
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What about you do you think is undesirable?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 08:47 PM
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But what if you were just straight up not attracted to skinny women? Like never have been, never will?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 02:08 PM
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I wish people would fuck off with the age gap hate
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 01:06 AM
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Eh. I’m starting to feel like garbage at not even 26. I don’t think 50 is going to be glorious
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 12:55 AM
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We should conspire to gaslight men into thinking all (and I mean all) women have super high n counts and are lying to their faces if they claim otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 12:47 AM
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I remember thinking my husband was a bit of a butterface the first time I met him… now I think he is the most handsome man in the world. I think that’s what love does. I was attracted to his body from the start though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 12:16 AM
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Yeah, I would say most of the time. It’s hard to imagine a couple in which neither are more leader-like.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 10:17 PM
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Pinyayta piñata.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 09:23 PM
1

Yes, and the more passive person is the beta
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 09:22 PM
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Beta is being passive in a relationship. It’s letting your wife push you around and use you. It has nothing to do with your wife’s sexual history, especially if you intentionally selected for a woman with a particular sexual history (aka, maintaining your standards.)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:35 PM
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Prenups don’t override CP. prenups are meant to protect assets owned prior to the marriage Money is an asset. Businesses make money. Prenups can protect assets acquired during the marriage. Either way, it doesn’t matter. Men need to be better informed and do their house buying and career establishing before marriage, and we need to normalize prenups to protect those assets, in light of the present unjust laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:25 PM
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You said that prenups don’t cover assets acquired during marriage, which isn’t true, because money is an asset. And I’m not downvoting you lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:18 PM
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The money a business makes after marriage is an asset that you can proactively protect via a prenup.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:04 PM
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nope
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:01 PM
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Yes, either parent can alienate their children from the other, or make false allegations against them to attempt to keep them from the other parent. It’s wrong no matter who’s doing it. Typically we talk about women doing it to men, however, because women initiate the majority of divorces. There is no problem with men marrying women with less wealth or education than them if they sign prenups. It’s just that the current social climate discourages people from signing prenups. We’re taught to get …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 06:59 PM
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I just talked to a lawyer and that’s what he said, that prenups cover assets acquired during a marriage, even in CP states. That’s the link he sent me. Child support is completely different from division of assets and alimony.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 06:48 PM
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Keep scrolling to the part about prenups
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 06:33 PM
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Prenups don’t override CP. prenups are meant to protect assets owned prior to the marriage You’re wrong though I do agree that people need to have better reasons for getting married and better understand the financial aspects of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 06:01 PM
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That’s convenient. People who make lots of money shouldn’t be treated fairly too?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:40 PM
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Community property laws
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:39 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:38 PM
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Neither CP nor alimony are gender specific Hence the paragraph in parentheses in my last comment. Yes, divorce laws are laws. Some laws are unjust. We should talk about unjust laws and what people can do to combat them, like signing pre nups. We need to normalize prenups so people aren’t afraid to talk about them with their fiancés for fear of angering them. It doesn’t matter if it’s 10% of the time or 1% of the time; if you have to give your ex spouse more money than they need to find a new pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:38 PM
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It’s 2022. If women want to upgrade their skills or educations, they can do it while also being married. The partner who does not initiate the divorce should get only what they pay for during the marriage, and enough to live off of for a relatively short period of time. And that only happens with like, middle class people. The wealthy men whose wives divorce them have to pay them a ridiculous amount of money. Like, minimum wage is $15 an hour now. Why can’t they get a job until they find a new m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:31 PM
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Parental alienation is still a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:24 PM
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Yes I’ve heard of community property. It doesn’t mean it makes sense. If a man pays for almost everything, why should a woman get half of the things he bought? The infrequency of alimony being awarded has nothing to do with whether or not it should be awarded, nor whether a man is getting the shit end of the stick in a divorce. Men can get custody of their children, but their ex wives can engage in parental alienation. Especially if the children are old enough to choose whose house they want to …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:22 PM
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Taking half of the assets a man made alone during their marriage and having to pay a significant portion of his paycheck to a woman for not being his wife anymore. Sometimes taking their kids away from him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 04:59 PM
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Divorce rape
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 04:47 PM
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It’s kinda one thing to say “I don’t want a partner that I know has been with men, or who makes me imagine him with men, because I’m not into gay sex” and another to say “I think bisexual men are more likely to cheat and make me feel bad about my gender.”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 04:41 PM
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Why would you be in a relationship with someone you’re not attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 04:35 PM
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Ok, so, I am a bisexual woman. If my husband were to say to me “I don’t want you to sleep with women anymore,” I could be satisfied with just him for the rest of my life. I wouldn’t hurt him by cheating because I love him. I think it is at least a little biased to assume no bisexual man could ever be satisfied with or loyal to just one woman that he loves. From a rational standpoint. Of course. I am not advocating for anyone to ignore their preferences. Nobody is owed sex or a relationship. I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 04:30 PM
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This is why you don’t start a family until you have a lot of savings to use as a security net. I’m a stay at home mum, and if my husband was like, disbarred, we’d probably have to downsize our house or liquidize some assets, but we’d be fine financially for a good while. We’d start a different business. I could get a menial job at that point, or go active duty in the military, but then I’d have to chuck my kid in day care full time and the cost of childcare would be barely less than what I would…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 04:20 PM
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You asked me “what about (insert demonstrably harmful categories of porn? Is that okay?!” And I explained why they are demonstrably and objectively harmful. You came after and shat on non monogamy, people who engage in non monogamy, and those people’s relationships, asserting all kinds of absolutes and assumptions. You have not provided any concrete evidence why voyeurism, non monogamy, and all the other kinks you think are soooooo despicable are harmful. Like I said, I am just explaining to you…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 03:48 PM
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I’m in the military. Today for PT we were flipping these massive tires. I could barely flip the tire once, while all the men could flip it with relative ease. Obviously my pride was injured, so I was internally trying to justify my weakness by thinking “Well, they’re just much heavier than I am. Mass x force and all that.” But then i asked a dude how much he weighs and he is less than 20 lbs heavier than I am. So much for that theory. I know for certain I’d be shit in a fight against men. I am r…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 03:06 PM
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That’s hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 02:59 PM
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I’m familiar lol. They also sag with age though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 02:43 PM
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That all just sounds judgey and hypocritical. I’m not gonna respond to that
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 02:42 PM
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I mean, homosexuality was in the DSM-4; it’s no longer considered a mental illness. If nobody is being hurt by voyeurism/exhibitionism, I don’t see why it’s morally wrong. There’s no need to “get away with it” if you’re doing it in private and not against the wishes of your partner, and aren’t addicted. Nobody needs visual aids, but sometimes they’re just nice. Sometimes you see things you didn’t know you liked. When I say amateur porn, I mean like the home made stuff. Its filmed outside of a st…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 02:04 PM
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No, because it’s not interfering with his productivity, and he could stop if he wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 12:40 PM
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It wouldn’t bother me if my husband watched it every day, as long as I’m still getting my needs met and he’s being productive enough to support our family. Sometimes when he’s in his office, he pulls cam websites up while he’s working, or he’ll watch it in the shower in the morning. I can’t say I understand it, but he gets shit done and our sex life is great, so I don’t care. But he also goes through periods where he doesn’t watch it at all. An addiction is definitely a problem though. ETA I’m m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 12:37 PM
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I mean, if you feel like that’s a way to respect her, that’s kind of you. Do you know if it would actually bother her for sure? Is it a PIA to abstain from it?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 12:28 PM
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I’m not. And the level of insecurity you have to have to not want your partner to watch porn is ridiculous. Idk how people can live like that
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 12:24 PM
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Once you become a parent, there are more important things in life than looks. I think self-worth being tied to looks is always going to be an uncomfortable human condition. It may be worth working with a counselor to reduce it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 12:14 PM
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Some things are nice. I have bigger boobs (at least until I wean) and wider hips now, which is nice. It makes my waist look smaller. I am covered in stretchmarks now, and because I made a 10lb kid, i have a ton of ugly, lose skin on my belly, which obscures my ab definition. My abs are also separated now, which bugs me a bit… I think once I get out of the military and my kid is a bit older, I’ll have my extra skin removed. But I think I feel more at peace with my body than I ever have, because I…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 11:57 AM
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Perky breasts, tiny waists, and smooth, unmarked skin are attractive because they signal youth. Younger women have longer fertile periods… Saggy breasts can be an indicator of breastfeeding, which decreases fertility (Bfing helps to space out pregnancies.) Things like wide hips and ample breasts signal fertility and ability to carry pregnancies.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 11:44 AM
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It changes your body for sure. Ruined is a little bit of an exaggeration.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 11:41 AM
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Based
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 11:29 AM
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People are also less healthy. 1 in 3 women have PCOS. Men’s testosterone and sperm counts are declining. Sub-fertility can make it take longer to conceive. 75% of Americans are overweight or obese; obese women have riskier pregnancies, and it costs more to feed your families if you’re overfeeding them. Pregnancy overall is just miserable and hard on your body. I also think that people are becoming more focused on the few kids that they do have. It’s difficult to care for so many and make sure th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 11:27 AM
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If you don’t want your partner anymore, whether or not you stay with them depends on a) how much you care about them, and b) whether or not the cause of your loss of wanting is fixable. For example: your previously slim wife gains a lot of weight, and you can’t sleep with her anymore. Is she willing to work with you to get her diet and exercise routine back on track? Go to the doctors to check for underlying health conditions? If the answer is no, your relationship is probably over. Relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 10:33 AM
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There definitely are women who date and get married to men who consume porn and then (attempt to) forbid them from doing so. It is bizarre. But you could set that parameter upfront, like you said. I just think a lot of men are going to lie about it and do it in secret.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 08:48 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/w5q4g9/help_me_understand_why_you_all_feel_hurt_when_a/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf This one. It is filled with so many insecure women and prudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 08:30 AM
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I had stuff to say, but I think we’re just entirely different. It’s never going to make sense to me why some women won’t date men who watch porn or why some women won’t “let” their men watch porn. If you can find happiness in an extremely limited dating pool, good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 08:28 AM
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Someone asked why women who won’t allow their partners to watch porn are like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 08:20 AM
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Yes king 💅
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 01:01 AM
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It was nice of him to avoid falling on her or spiking her
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 01:01 AM
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Omg that anti-porn thread was terrible. Why are women. How do they even
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 01:00 AM
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It’s nice to be bisexual, isn’t it? But straight women don’t have that choice. And most men watch porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 12:57 AM
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Why is voyeurism “mentally ill?” My husband and I have gone to sex clubs to watch and be watched before. We like it. But that’s different from creeping outside of someone’s house non-consensually. When you say it’s not “normal,” what do you mean? The majority of men use visual aids when masturbating. I do think people have a point when they talk about the abuse in the porn industry. It’s impossible to know for certain that the participants are there consensually. On the other hand, there’s amate…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 12:53 AM
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That’s not realistic at all
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 12:15 AM
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What about when she’s away, or sick, or on her period, or tired, or preoccupied about something?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 12:11 AM
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My husband watches some hardcore porn, and yet he still gets rock hard every time we have a deep and emotional discussion that brings us together. (Intimacy boners. I love them.) I think there’s a difference between porn addiction and casual porn use.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 12:08 AM
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What if your partner could get those girls, but he doesn’t want them, and that’s why he’s with you? Maybe you have virtues beyond your looks that he loves about you. The porn actresses are just a masturbatory aid, not people he cares about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 12:05 AM
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This is what I was thinking. Also that SilentDawnn was picking some extreme examples. Like, not all men watch extreme porn categories, or necessarily even think about the actual actresses while they masturbate, or save a bunch of porn links and vids, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 12:01 AM
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Things like money are just search parameters; if you want to have a particular lifestyle, like one in which you take lots of vacations or become a stay at home parent, you need to be with someone who can afford to give that to you (or have means to make the money yourself.) If you could develop all the intangible aspects of an LTR or marriage with anybody, why would you start dating someone who couldn’t give you the lifestyle you wanted? So the money becomes a parameter that weeds people out fir…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:51 PM
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And fed him like a baby bird 🤢 I just googled
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:44 PM
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Oh. That is fucked up
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:17 PM
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I do have anxiety, but it’s not courteous to be In people’s way when you don’t have to be. We’ll see how this goes
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:01 PM
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B is valid. If you try to enforce A it might backfire and maker her a rebellious superslut
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:51 PM
1

It’s possible!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:45 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:43 PM
1

Poor bloopies
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:43 PM
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What is she doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:42 PM
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If people sense your courteousness, they will almost always respond with their own. That is not true at all. Im the type to scramble to get out of people’s way and apologize for impeding them. I keep to my side. That’s part of why I get so pissed when people are just straight up unaware of sidewalk etiquette: how can they be so unaware of themselves and others? I’ve had to stop walking in front of men before because they won’t just fucking walk behind their buddy on the sidewalk. What do they wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:26 PM
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Ice and benedryl, homie
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 09:39 PM
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Well the woman should be doing all the housework and childcare if the man is working to pay the bills
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 09:39 PM
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Every post is like that
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:10 PM
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Walking to one side of the sidewalk isn’t blocking it though. Other people will walk right down the middle and not move aside when passing, or they’ll walk 2 or three abreast. It pisses me off. Yes, my problems are small lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:05 PM
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I have to be 6’4 or else I have to step half off the sidewalk?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:03 PM
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I want to know if it does or not. I often find myself pissed at others who take up the whole sidewalk just because they’re completely unaware of themselves and others. I’ve had to push my stroller off the sidewalk and onto the grass to get around people before… but it’s a person thing, i think; not a male thing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:58 PM
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Even if I don’t smile? I feel like I usually give off “don’t talk to me” vibes
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:44 PM
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Go find a man who doesn’t care. There’s plenty of them. And be upfront when questioned
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:35 PM
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A dude from here doubted my eyeballing ability, so I agreed to look at his dick pic and guess his size. I was within a quarter of an inch. I am probably a little autistic, and often practice estimating things like weight, length, amounts, and distances and follow up by actually measuring them. It’s the same with the many penises I’ve seen and experienced. I only believe what they tell me re: their size when it appears to be correct from what I can see.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:31 PM
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Break up with her, since it bothers him that much, and actually ask his future partners about their sexual histories
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:23 PM
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Found this interesting post on askfeminists (I’m not a feminist but the reddit algorithm thought it would be funny to start showing me that sub.) I have a lot of sidewalk rage, so I think I’ll try it. Gonna make direct and intense eye contact though, not stare at a fixed point in the distance like a couple women commented.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:21 PM
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There’s no way that bioelectrical impedance (I’m assuming that’s how it works) from on point on the body is accurate. The most accurate bioelectrical impedance tools have at least 4 points of contact
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:52 PM
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Is it expensive tech?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:33 PM
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Why do you want to “adjust women’s preferences” in the first place? You just acknowledged how miserable people are when they attempt to ignore their preferences. Do you just want women to settle for men they don’t like? Nobody likes being settled for
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:30 PM
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I think convincing women how lying about n count is dumb and backfires would be more convincing to them than attempting to shame them into stopping. The carrot, not the stick
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:28 PM
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I dislike socially interacting with other women partly because I think the conversations tend to be vapid and boring, but I can’t accept the fact that I’m boring. Is this cognitive dissonance? pokemon butterfly meme
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:21 PM
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Its hard to measure accurately
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:18 PM
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Idk man, there’s a lot of women who complain about men trying to imitate porn stars while having sex with them. Some of the porn addicts must be getting some
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:59 PM
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She didn’t want to blow him; if he takes that to mean he is somehow worth less than a self-described BPD pass around, that’s on him. There are probably other promiscuous women who would suck him off
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:34 PM
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Yeah, i know that statistically rape is more likely to happen with people you know, but i think when it’s immediately apparent you dont want sex with a man and he’s approaching you, assumed to be interested in sex with you, it might activate the fear of rape more quickly. I don’t think its rational at all
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:28 PM
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Nobody can make you ignore your preferences if you don’t want to, dude. Just date who you want. Like society shames whores, sluts, and golddiggers; that didn’t stop me from sleeping around and sugar dating, because I like sex and I like men with money. Guess what? Now I’m happily married to a wealthy man who doesn’t gaf about my sexual history. You do you boo boo.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:25 PM
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Number one is not dressed like a classy lady
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:11 PM
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Lmao 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:09 PM
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Over-consumption of porn isn’t bad for people because it’s on a computer screen, it’s bad because it puts unrealistic expectations for sex into people’s heads (positions, what people are into, how people talk to each other during sex, instant gratification, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:02 PM
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She didn’t put him “beneath” her by not blowing him. Jesus christ
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 04:58 PM
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Some men just genuinely do not care about women’s n count. Like literal apathy. And it’s not because someone shamed them into it; it simply just does not bother them. If you do care, fine. Don’t date high n women. But I don’t know why PPD men continue to insist that ALL men care. They don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 04:35 PM
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I wouldn’t say any of the commenters OP pulled were exactly “proud” of their preference, but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with expressing it. Like, somebody asked them about it (I think, right?) Now, if you are actually proud, and go out of your way to talk about how much you don’t want bi men, I’m pretty sure you’re homophobic. Preferences in and of themselves aren’t bigotry.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 04:24 PM
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Look, do you have anything that you’re grossed out by? Blood? Boogers? Stool? It’s like that. Some people respond to certain sex acts in that visceral way, with disgust. It’s definitely not neutral, but they don’t necessarily feel that way because they’re making a value judgement on people who do it. They just can’t do it themselves and/or don’t want to imagine their partner doing that with someone else. That’s okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 04:15 PM
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Saying “Gay sex is gross to me” is much different than saying “gay sex is gross [in general]” (and implying that it shouldn’t be had.) The same way that many gay people don’t like thinking about heterosexual intercourse; it grosses them out, but most of them aren’t saying straight sex in general is gross or thatpeople shouldn’t have it. It’s literally a personal preference; not a value judgement. There are people who are homophobic and do make value judgements, but simply saying “I don’t want th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:41 PM
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Women (not all, but a lot) watch non con, degradation, and BDSM porn too. They also participate in it in real life as well. I think it’s fine to have violent fetishes as long as you’re engaging in them in a safe and consensual way, and not siccing them on people who don’t want them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:43 PM
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They are the same
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:37 PM
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Yes, it’s equally “hypocritical,” but I think it’s fine to have your preferences. For me, I barely make any money. I would only ever date wealthy men, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:37 PM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:30 PM
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-We don’t have terms like “manlet” for tall men Lanklet
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:59 AM
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My preference is men at least 5’9 and not taller than 6’2, with 5’11 being ideal. My husband is 5’9. I don’t think I would date a man shorter than 4”-5” inches than myself. It would feel emasculating to me (make me feel unfeminine in comparison)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:57 AM
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Idk why people can’t just hang out with one another and invest in each other as much as they want to. It shouldn’t be this super complex strategy that you have to consciously think about. I’m also failing to understand why anyone finds “easiness” unattractive. Like if a man is super into you and wants to spend his time, money, and attention on you, great. If a woman is super into you and wants to have sex with you right away, also great. Right? Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:48 AM
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That’s been my experience with therapy too, but I’ve overheard my husband’s sessions with his therapist and it’s like the ones on TV… it’s really hard to find the good ones bc they’re all either not accepting new clients or too expensive :(
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:44 AM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:36 AM
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Timed planking is much better way to assess overall core strength
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:34 AM
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I feel attacked
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:32 AM
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I am very, very good at eyeballing. But Hubby and I did measure his.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:28 AM
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Not everybody likes fornix stimulation. I didn’t like it with anyone else except my husband, because of the way his penis is shaped/angled. I think maybe a lot of women don’t know exactly how big nine inches is. That’s like 3/4ths of my forearm. I have not had trouble finding men who are 7 inches erect
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:41 AM
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Normal and valid. For the purpose of the question, assume that she is usually in the mood, but occasionally isn’t due to tiredness or preoccupation
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:38 AM
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Sometimes people just get tired. Especially if they have kids. Or they have other things on their mind that significantly reduce arousal
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:37 AM
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What if she just has the sex until you get off, but shes doesn’t necessarily want to orgasm?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:36 AM
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She’s not gonna not enjoy it. She just might not get off
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:36 AM
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Q4M: How would you feel if you sexually initiated with your wife/LTR, and you knew she wasn’t really horny, but she accepted your advances relatively happily? Like, would never deny you having your sexual needs met as a principle, and has “duty sex” but doesn’t give off “let’s get this over with” vibes?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 09:18 AM
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Right? Like who is detailing their entire sexual history to their friends? Especially to friends that would potentially embarrass you in front of a man you’re dating
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 09:07 AM
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I told my husband everything
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 09:06 AM
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Im pretty sure 9 (9?!) inches is too big for the majority of women. Vaginas typically aren’t that deep. I don’t think most of us like more than 8, as too long of a penis hits the cervix the wrong way. Very uncomfortable. The ideal is probably in the 6-7 range— above average, but not too rare to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 09:05 AM
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I read your whole post and I replied to it. You said what you said. I’m not quoting anything you didn’t say in my response. I told you you’re wrong and why.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:52 AM
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“Wouldn’t consider” and “not attracted to” are basically the same thing. Stop trying to paint expanding your sexual preferences as a “healthy” thing. Unless you are lonely and desperate and can’t get any partners with your current preferences, those preferences don’t need to change, and attempting to do so because you’ve been convinced that if you just underwent a couple rounds of sex you feel distinctly icky about to get over your “unfair” standards, maybe you would enjoy it— that can result in…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:47 AM
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Maybe you’re not mad, but you did suggest people should sleep with those they aren’t attracted to. That can cause trauma. I am pointing out to you that their preferences are perfectly fair and why that is, and why it’s not necessary to attempt to change them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:30 AM
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I’m not talking about jobs. Im talking about dating and sex. What’s fair is that everybody gets to set and enforce their own standards and preferences. You’re not being treated unfairly when people don’t pick for for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:23 AM
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I literally interpreted what you wrote. There is no other way to interpret asking people on the internet with “unfair standards” to have sex with people they’re not into. They aren’t unfair standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:15 AM
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When things are fair, people get their share of whatever they’re entitled to. You used the term “unfair standards” in reference to people’s dating/sexual preferences. They’re not unfair because people are not entitled to sex or relationships with anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:00 AM
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I don’t want him on them :( Even if all that gorgeous delicious muscle mass goes away. They’re not healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:56 AM
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That’s cool. You do you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:55 AM
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Traps popping of like that is the first sign of steroids That’s part of the reason why I accused him of using too! I do want to ask him for a blood test, but idk how to do that without making him mad about not trusting him… I’ll let you know if I do ask
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:26 AM
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R u mad bb?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:23 AM
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;p
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:22 AM
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Probably as attracted as they are to Chad, at least at first when the love is strong and the sex drive is still high. It seems like women tend to lose attraction for their husbands as time goes on— they have kids, her hormones change, maybe he gets fat, she gets nitpicky and naggy and he betas instead of alpha-ing… the best way for women to be satisfied is to go the “build a better beta” route, in which she takes a provider type, lets him take charge, encourages positive masculinity, and general…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:21 AM
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He doesn’t. I’ve pestered him about it several times because even I was shocked at the amount of muscle he recently put on. He would have acne, gynecomastia, needle marks, mood swings, shrunken balls, some kind of symptoms. And he doesn’t. Nor has there been any waste evidence in the house, the outside trash cans, his office..no used needles, no med bottles or caps, labels, reciepts, credit card charges, nothing. He just eats a lot and lifts heavy for 1.5 hours most days.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:14 AM
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Not the ones who don’t have multiple sexual partners, no. But every other women. I don’t ever take AWALT to literally mean “all,” just a vast majority of women. Exceptions vs rules and all that. I don’t think most women who marry a provider type feel they are settling. They just get tired of LRV Chads and want someone responsible and agreeable to raise children with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:54 PM
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I did. You said “unless jack starts illegally cycling steroids and ruining his health and fertility, he is no way getting closer to the standard.” If a 50 yo man can do it naturally, so can you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:51 PM
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But we do engage in AFBB. Women doing AFBB isn’t even a bad thing, so why is it misogynistic?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:49 PM
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I have no money, but no need for money. I get modest income from my military service, most of which goes to student loan repayment. My husband provides everything to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:48 PM
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Sometimes I’m away for military service. Sometimes I’m on my period. Sometimes you want sex, sometimes you want to masturbate. Sometimes he watches just for entertainment. Sometimes we watch it together. It’s all good. He doesn’t need to lie about it, so if he is, what is he hiding?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:47 PM
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It’s not. I don’t feel like I deserve him. He does so much for me already, and right now im moody af because of postpartum hormones
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:38 PM
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Waist-to-hip ratio
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:37 PM
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If a man can’t afford everything we need, he can’t afford me. The only times I pay for dates is when Hubby forgets his wallet or when I want to get him a special experience as a surprise/gift.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:25 PM
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Other men enforce it too, not just women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:20 PM
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No, cuz he’s lying
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:17 PM
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Why do you think we want tall men? We need to breed to get taller
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:17 PM
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-3 points for bad WHR and zoomer look
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:15 PM
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I don’t hate it, but if my husband starts being too nice to me, it makes me feel guilty. I much prefer doting on him
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:12 PM
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Everything on the grill is phallic shaped
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:09 PM
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My 50 yo husband is jacked without ‘roids. What’s your excuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:05 PM
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Maybe women find unattractive guys to be creepy more often because they have more subconscious fear of being SA’ed by them? Like all SA is bad and traumatic, obviously, but maybe it’s worse with ugly men as opposed to attractive ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:01 PM
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Strong jawlines, dark, shiny eyes, symmetry, some fine lines, eyebrows that aren’t thin, a good, dark beard.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:50 PM
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Horny women would never give up casual sex with hot dudes
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:47 PM
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Yes. I’m a bit under 5’5. That would make a “significantly taller” dude approximately 5’11, imo. 4 inches taller is enough to be acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:46 PM
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Sorry Eastuss, i meant to reply to OP, not you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:41 PM
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I would like to point out that I am a high n woman who supports people’s right to discriminate against high n women and bi men in terms of sex and dating. But otherwise you are spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:35 PM
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Most TRPers are focused on getting casual sex, not LTRs
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:33 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:18 PM
1

So.. women would become the men?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:17 PM
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Ive only heard a few men who supported going back to the 1800s, and they were blackpillers. TRPers don’t really care if women work, have bank accounts, or vote. If you’re a dude and you use RP principles correctly, you could have a submissive wife who pays half of the bills, if you wanted. Or just find one who wants to stay home. Or just have casual sex and not ever get married. TRP is focused on “self” solutions, not trying to change society
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:15 PM
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There’s no such thing as “unfair standards.” Nobody is owed sex or a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:07 PM
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I like to feel small, and I’m average height. So like 5’9 to 6’2 is an acceptable range for me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 09:37 PM
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I can definitely see that. Plus you get microdosed with testosterone when you work in a male dominated field
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 09:11 PM
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I don’t like assholes. Confident men? Yes. A little crude but in a funny and not mean way? Yes. Actually a dick to people? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 09:08 PM
1

Do you believe in Santa Claus?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:50 PM
2

Maybe i should get stilts
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:49 PM
1

Sad
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:45 PM
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Loll
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:33 PM
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TRP isn’t misogynistic in and of itself
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:30 PM
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It’s hard if you’re managing the household and the children at the same time, especially the younger they are and the more you have. You gotta meal plan and budget, haul your brood to the grocery store, cook and feed your family, take care of the kids’ hygienic needs, dress them, take them to health care appointments, school, extracurricular activities, clean the house, do the dishes, sometimes take care of your pets and lawn if you got em, wash/fold/iron/hang the laundry… all while making sure …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:27 PM
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I like when men I’ve dated have been significantly (7+ inches) taller than me, but I don’t like when men I work with are much taller. Feeling small is nice in contexts where I want to be submissive and feel protected, but not in contexts where I want to be equal and respected and where I’m supposed to be in charge of other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:16 PM
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Okay, so as far as we can tell, there’s no way for humans to change their sexual/dating preferences. Therefore, it doesn’t make sense to call people all kinds of isms and phobias like they could just make themselves like people with certain characteristics but just won’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:09 PM
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You ought to confirm your partner’s sexuality before you get married if it warrants breaking up over
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:33 PM
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Well do you have some intel on how to change your preferences? I’m sure the human race would love to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:25 PM
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You can’t prove a negative. For example, you can’t prove unicorns don’t exist. But we haven’t found them yet, so we behave as if they don’t. We haven’t found a way to change our preferences yet. We currently lack the ability to do so. Therefore we shouldn’t accuse people of homophobia for not wanting to date/sleep with bi men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:19 PM
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Ok, let me take that back; that was an invalid argument. A better one is that the way things go is that we operate based on things that we have proven, not on things that we haven’t. Would you kill your dog just because you haven’t proven he’s not gonna eat your face in your sleep?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 05:59 PM
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Because if you’re inherently repulsed by dark skin, you’re not going to be able to have intimacy with that woman. Some things are just hard dealbreakers for people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 05:57 PM
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If it were possible to change your preferences, conversion camps would actually work.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 05:40 PM
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If a woman has one search parameter and that is that a man must have money to date her, that means she’s pretty open to lots of people. I think what you mean to say is that it’s wrong if golddiggers only like someone for their money and don’t have genuine feelings for other aspects of the person, the same way some men only care about sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 05:40 PM
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1) yes. 2) yes, and we have no control over the social environment, either. 3, 4, and 5) Preferences might be a product of bias, but also they could not be. Even if they are, it’s okay to have biased preferences specifically when it comes to sex and dating because you don’t owe anybody else sex or a relationship. People can be firm about their preferences without having bias that harm people. Not being open to dating/sex with someone who has a given characteristic doesn’t make you hateful or big…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 05:25 PM
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“I am grossed out by gay sex and the thought of my partner having gay sex. I wouldn’t date or sleep with bi/gay men” — a preference
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:53 PM
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Being a golddigger doesn’t mean you can have genuine feelings for your partners and treat them well. It just means you want someone wealthy who can provide for you. It’s a dating search parameter.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:11 PM
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You can argue that they cannot control their fear response in the moment, and they shouldn’t be training themselves to ignore their gut in potentially dangerous situations. I’m not making that argument. Crossing the street to avoid a black man is different from not wanting to date or have sex with him. One is harmful and wrong and the other is not. A sexual/dating preference in and of itself is never bigotry; it’s not a conscious decision you make, like choosing to cross a street; it’s a biologi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:45 PM
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People don’t control the social environment they developed in, though. That’s a collective thing. Not finding somebody attractive doesn’t mean you make judgements about their intelligence, cleanliness, or safety. (It is absolutely okay to not be attracted to somebody because of their loudness.) If you’re still treating people well, not wanting to date or have sex with them doesn’t make you, as a whole person, hateful or bigoted. If you do treat them worse, that’s definitely something to correct.…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:52 PM
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People tend to get more unhealthy as they age though. If you’re trying to plan out your life timeline and decide to wait, the risk of having health issues that make pregnancy more difficult increases. Either way, cellular repair rate decreases with age, so if you’re trying to heal a diastasis or regain pelvic floor function, for example, it’s simply going to take longer, even if you don’t necessarily notice it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:19 AM
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shrugs Nobody controls what they’re turned on off or on by.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:54 AM
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Yeah. Before I met Hubby, I accumulated an n of ~50 in two years. It took some time for the urge to seek new and different partners went away. Maybe a year or so. Now I’m just so familiar and comfortable with Hubby and his body and preferences that getting with any other men would just be.. strange. I don’t have any desire for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:27 AM
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People have no control over what they’re attracted to
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:20 AM
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All the healthcare in the world doesn’t heal your body faster after pregnancy. That’s something it does on it’s own. And when I say “heal,” I mean that you can functionally operate, your organs go back into place, your bleeding stops, your core muscles and pelvic floor regain their strength, etc. Not getting a flat tummy again and your stretch marks fading. (I’m starting to think you’re not a parent.) Modern healthcare also currently can’t prevent risk factors associated with geriatric pregnanci…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:01 AM
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Having preferences for who you will and won’t date isn’t hateful. It’s not racist, fatphobic, homophobic, sexist, or whatever else people will try to tell you it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:46 AM
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Monkey branching is when people (generally used in reference to women) look for new relationships to “swing” into before exiting their current ones. (Think of a monkey swinging from branch to branch; he holds onto both the previous one and the next one at the same time before he lets go of the previous one.) AF/BB (alpha fucks, beta bucks) is the concept that women sleep around with “alpha” men (physically attractive, typically have casual sex, are confident/assertive, wild, etc) before settling…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:39 AM
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That’s why you find yourself a financially stable older man and have a baby with him in your 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:33 AM
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It’s easier to recover from pregnancy and birth when you’re younger. You also have more energy when you’re in your 20s vs your 30s and 40s, so it’s easy to care for and physically play with your children. Plus, you have more years to be alive and in your children’s life. It’s not just about the number of children you can produce, but about the quality of parenting you can provide to your children.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:31 AM
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No. Here’s why you’re wrong. A study finds a positive correlation between ice cream eaten and car accidents. Does this mean if you eat ice cream you’re going to crash your car, possibly injuring other people? Does it make you a bad person to eat ice cream, then? No, because the ice cream eating isn’t what causes the car accidents. It turns out that people eat more ice cream in the summer, and also drive more places in the summer (leaving more opportunities for crashes) vs the winter months. Ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:01 AM
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The original statement fat_papaya made was that more sexual partners is “inconvenient” for everyone because it causes bad things like divorce, in response to the assertion that AFBB isn’t morally wrong, just inconvenient for men. So, with that being the basis and context of his argument for why the AFBB is morally bad is a misrepresentation of the data, because sleeping around has not been proven to cause divorce, it is only positively associated. There may be additional relative factors for why…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 11:57 PM
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Interesting. Do you feel that sleeping with bad men is a reward, of sorts, for people who don’t deserve it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 11:42 PM
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Gonna paraphrase so I don’t have to retype every question: Should the number… be as close to equal as possible? That’s up to you and your partner. I haven’t found there to be any benefit to dating high n men vs dating low n men, however, as long as they weren’t very low or very high n men. Mine and my husband’s n counts are severely mismatched (~50 and 6, respectively) and our marriage is wonderful. Would it be degrading otherwise? Why would it be degrading? What would you prefer for yourself? N…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 11:26 PM
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The solution is age gap relationships. You get a mature man who’s financially stable and willing and able to provide for your family when you’re in your 20s, when pregnancy is easiest and your fertility is at it’s peak.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:53 PM
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It sounds like you have some internalized shame about this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:50 PM
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Good question. Correlation is a necessary part of proving causation. All causal relationships will also be correlated. BUT just proving a correlation isn’t proving causation. You also need to have temporal precedence (one variable occurs before the variable it causes) and controls for additional variables (those that offer alternate explanations for the correlation.)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:47 PM
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For those who go halfsies on dates, or for the women who insist on paying the whole bill, at what point do you discuss/disclose this to your date? Before you meet up? When the check comes? And what is your date’s typical reaction when you bring it up?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:37 PM
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They need several years to figure out how to take care of themselves, apply makeup, and style themselves better?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:33 PM
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Why are one night stands, faked orgasms, and unsolicited nudes “deceptive and exploitative?” Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:30 PM
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I don’t think dating has been ruined at all. It’s very easy to get men to take you to expensive dinners and on trips and such. But, free/low cost dates can be fun too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:23 PM
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If they had a glow up in their 30s they almost certainly would have looked better if they had put that effort in during their 20s. Childbirth also gave me a nice hourglass, but thats about the only positive bodily outcome (besides my beautiful daughter, of course.)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:58 PM
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I feel you with the parental displeasure. My stepdad wouldn’t even meet my husband for a while because of our age gap
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:47 PM
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Because it matters when it’s the basis of your argument. It’s fundamentally incorrect, and women should not make decisions based on a misinterpretation of stats. It may be a vetting tool for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:45 PM
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Nope. People like sex. Casual sex with not LTR material people doesn’t make you a bad person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:43 PM
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Kids need to be kids and enjoy their childhood, not be saddled with caring for another kid. But you can help prevent childhood and teen pregnancy by educating your kids about sex and birth control, and encouraging them to come to you with any questions or need of assistance.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:32 PM
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Parenting is hard. It’s easier when you have another person who can take over when you’re stressed and exhausted. That being said, you have to pick a good and competent co-parent whose willing to split the responsibilities evenly. I had my daughter at 24. I feel like I hit the wall with that pregnancy. I think I would be happier if I didn’t care, but unfortunately much of my self esteem is tied in with looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:28 PM
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Based
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:24 PM
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Hubby and I are on a website for it. We haven’t tried it yet though… I hope it would be fun and hot and that we could make friends from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 06:53 PM
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Ive found that most people criticize the supposed maturity difference. They say that the man is taking advantage of the younger women (without actually evaluating if that’s true or not.) But the reality is that if your partner is more mature and experienced, there is great opportunity for him to teach you things and help you make good life decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 06:50 PM
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Alimony in general is a stupid concept. Why do men have to pay women for not being their wife anymore? Maybe she invested her time into caring for the home and children, but she got compensated by her husband when he paid the bills. Staying home and being financially dependent is a choice that women make. Also those poor kids
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 06:44 PM
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Fuck no
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 06:37 PM
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I like assuredness in their body language. Like you, I like a little gray and some lines. Bald spots are a bit of a turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 06:35 PM
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She’s not entitled to your friendship
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:20 PM
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Nah. The idea of sleeping with strange men has become unappealing to me. I just want Hubby
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:20 PM
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He doesn’t feel threatened by women, I guess. If I feel like I want some coochie, I just hop on tinder and get some… which is not often.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:04 PM
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Why would it be wrong? You can cut whoever you want out of your life any time, especially if a relationship is painful for you to remain in
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:37 PM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:33 PM
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I snuck around behind my parents’ backs and slept with a lot of people
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:30 PM
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I’m allowed to sleep with other women, but not men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:10 PM
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Because it doesn’t bother me, and if it would make him more sexually satisfied, why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:14 PM
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I gave my husband free reign to sleep with whomever he pleases and he doesn’t seek out additional partners. So, maybe many or most men, but not all. Now that society is sexually liberal, women often do keep a rotation of FWBs. But again, it’s certainly not all of them
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 12:43 PM
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Red pill ALL the men! ✊
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 12:36 PM
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Well, onto the next one. Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:56 AM
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Is it? I signed one. I would just explain that you don’t expect to get divorced, and that it just adds a layer of financial protection and comfort for you, just in case. If she doesn’t want to, no ring for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:53 AM
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Yeah. Men shouldn’t do that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:43 AM
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Did he sign a prenup?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:39 AM
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Men gave women all the power. Relationships don’t just fucking happen to men. Women work nowadays; just pick one who doesn’t care to be financially dependent on you and doesn’t use you like an ATM. You don’t want to be a financial provider? don’t be one. Take women on free or cheap dates. Don’t get married, or at least not without a prenup. Your romantic partner is treating you like shit? Why stay? Dump her ass for someone that treats you better. Nobody is forcing you to do anything you don’t wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:34 AM
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WHY are some of the men here acting like one day a woman just comes along and goes “I’m your wife now; give me all your money” and then treats them like garbage? Have some fucking agency. Respect yourselves, and don’t let your woman disrespect you. Don’t marry someone who treats you like an ATM if you hate the thought of being valued for your income. Don’t marry at all if you don’t fucking want to. Nobody is forcing you to do anything. Oh no, you’re sad because pussy isn’t falling out of the sky…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:14 AM
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It is about strange women, because you have a choice about whether you choose to date women like that. If you’re upset about being a BB type… just don’t be one, and stop worrying about what anyone else is doing except for you and yours. Being hurt by what other people who aren’t part of your life are doing with theirs, and then blaming them for your hurt is the definition of a victim mentality. Everyone is going to do what’s best for themselves . It’s time for you to do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:31 AM
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The emotionally hurt part comes from belonging to a worthless underclass of the human species. There’s a thing called “self-limiting beliefs” that therapists can really help you with. While I understand being a male is difficult and modern society wants you to put up with a lot of BS, I don’t think thoughts like those^ are healthy or normal, and they also probably show in your body language and detract from your attractiveness to other people. I don’t think AFBB is new. There were tropes about w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:24 AM
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This post is the one that convinced me AFBB is a real phenomenon, yes. However, men being “emotionally hurt” by strange women choosing to sleep around and then settling down with provider types? That’s weird and a problem they ought to go to therapy for. That’s an individual man psych problem, not a poor reflection on women’s character. Don’t want promiscuous women who settle for you? Don’t date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:40 AM
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It depends on whether you interact with your crush, and whether you choose to continue interacting with them. People don’t control whether they get crushes or not. They just happen; they’re not anyone’s fault. However, if you continue to hang out and talk with your crush, and you let your feelings grow and flourish instead of flickering out… then that’s crossing the line into emotional cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:34 AM
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I was pointing it out because you specified that women produce oxytocin during sex in response to me asking you “why do you think racking up bodies somehow renders you ‘less capable of LTRs’.” You claimed specifically that multiple partners reduce the ability to pair bond *with a man. Hence, I brought up the fact that oxytocin is produced in men’s brains during sex as well, and the effects that your study found it to have. You also ignored the rest of my argument as to why pair bonding hypothese…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:17 AM
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Men also produce oxytocin during sex. It’s kind of a human thing. We also produce oxytocin when we interact with cute babies or pet animals, and yet somehow people still enter into and remain in committed romantic relationships. Also, I found this quote from the study you linked interesting: In particular, behavioral studies have reported that whereas OXT tends to facilitate positive social judgments (7), social approach (8), kinship recognition (5), and altruism (9) in women, in men it can faci…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:09 AM
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How do people not catch on to their partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:53 AM
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I should probably go to sleep anyway. Have a nice night (or whatever time of day it is where you are)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:48 AM
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They may be useful for men in terms of vetting, sure. But I still don’t think sleeping around with lots of hot garbage men and then settling down with a good one reflects poorly on women’s character. Again, it only sucks for men who want low n women and who live in a culture of promiscuity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:44 AM
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Why do you think racking up bodies somehow renders you “less capable of LTRs?”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:38 AM
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I mean, it’s certainly true that you can’t sexually cheat without racking up new bodies… idk how many people are sleeping with 20 others behind their partner’s back though
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:36 AM
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Fair enough. It was never a problem for me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:33 AM
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This is the best news I’ve heard in a long time. Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:31 AM
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How often do you hear women complaining about this?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:30 AM
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Well, if something slightly decreases your pool of available men to date, but only removes people with whom you’re likely not compatible, then that’s not really a loss. Not everything women do in life is for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:29 AM
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You said that it’s inconvenient to women to because “more sexual partners increases rates of divorce and all other sorts of negative things” but again, it’s a correlation. You can say “people with high body counts are more likely to get divorced” but you can’t say “high body counts increase the divorce rate” because that’s not what those correlational studies show. There are much more rigorous standards for proving that one thing causes another. It has nothing to do with exceptions to rules. Add…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:28 AM
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The correlation between things like divorce rate or cheating and body count MAY BE valid reasons for someone to vet against high n partners BUT it is not a reason for women to not sleep around, as it has not been proven that sleeping around causes infidelity or divorce. please learn how stats work
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:02 AM
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100k is hardly better than 60k
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:35 AM
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It’s a correlation, not a causation. More sexual partners do not necessarily cause you to get divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:27 AM
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What’s not honorable about preferring himbos when you’re young and providers when you’re older?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:25 AM
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I mean, it’s not morally “bad.” It’s just inconvenient for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 11:30 PM
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I mean, obesity causes insulin resistance as well; it might be that PCOS contributes to obesity which contributes to IR, and less so that PCOS directly causes IR. But it’s certainly possible to break the mutual reinforcement cycle. Michelle McDaniel isn’t a doctor, but she is an example of someone who was overweight and had PCOS and lost the weight. She’s now very lean and fit (although she still had bad endometriosis)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 10:27 PM
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Or you could just.. not have sex with them
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 10:02 PM
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Okay, so the only good study (one with a semblance of proper methodology) I found was this one: https://www.fertstert.org/article/S0015-0282(08)01008-X/fulltext Adjusted BMR was 1,868 ± 41 kcal/day in the control group, 1,445.57 ± 76 in all PCOS women, 1,590 ± 130 in PCOS women without IR and 1,116 ± 106 in PCOS women with IR. Okay, so maybe I misremembered the stat when I said the difference is only 100 kcals. This one says a difference of 278 (but notably, has a variation of +/- 130, which is …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 09:48 PM
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Okay, so the only good study (one with a semblance of proper methodology) I found was this one: https://www.fertstert.org/article/S0015-0282(08)01008-X/fulltext Adjusted BMR was 1,868 ± 41 kcal/day in the control group, 1,445.57 ± 76 in all PCOS women, 1,590 ± 130 in PCOS women without IR and 1,116 ± 106 in PCOS women with IR. Okay, so maybe I misremembered the stat when I said the difference is only 100 kcals. This one says a difference of 278 (but notably, has a variation of +/- 130, which is …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 09:46 PM
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If someone is shaming you, look to see if they’re correct. Does your body count actually make you a worse partner? Probably not. Does your body count affect your ability to find future partners? Not too much, at least in more sexually liberal countries (and the people who care that much seem to make worse partners, ime.) So then it becomes a matter of whether or not you choose to believe the slut shamers and internalize that shame, or just laugh at them and continue doing what you like. I also t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 09:10 PM
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That makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 08:48 PM
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