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Recite multiplication tables in your head. Apparently the same part of the brain controls the muscles that restrict the bladder and multiplication. I don't remember where I read it but it has worked the few times I've needed it. I'm an engineer and good with math so I have had to get into the higher ends of the table, usually squares 13x13, 16x16 stuff like that.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 04:35 PM
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She's already cheating. She just wants you for a safety net. Do everything you have been doing to better yourself, file for divorce so you are in the drivers seat and go meet some women. Been there, almost to the finish line, divorce is final in a week or so.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 04:21 PM
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First and foremost, lift, exercise and eat right. The body fuels the mind. If you've accepted that the divorce is inevitable and the process has begun then go meet some new women and get laid. It was such a boost to my self esteem to go from a woman who could only be happy if I wasn't in her life to finding a few that wanted to do anything they could to make me happy.
/r/askTRP11/10/15 08:07 PM
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I'm built low to the ground for speed, excellent handling through the corners.
/r/askTRP25/09/15 03:51 PM
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280, 5'8, do the math on % and I get laid. Maybe not 10s but there are plenty of cute women that smell good that will sleep with you as long as you have your shit together even if your body isn't there yet.
/r/askTRP25/09/15 03:31 PM
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In a very slight bit of defense for her there was an iPhone upgrade that required use of a passlock. I don't remember if it was Keychain or ApplePay but I never used one until that upgrade. But don't take that as proof of her innocence.
/r/askTRP25/09/15 03:28 PM
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Because it works. Changes you mentally and physically. Restores your self worth. Read the sidebar, internalize it and grow. Life is better in the other side. Check my post history is you want to see how TRP can change a person in a relatively short time.
/r/askTRP11/09/15 12:37 AM
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I've noticed the same thing. My non-medical hypothesis - the fat is softened so the body can burn it now that you are lifting and eating right
/r/askTRP03/09/15 08:38 PM
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Bingo!! In a similar (though less extreme) situation and this has really helped out.
/r/askTRP31/08/15 03:26 PM
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Four years ago my dad died. It hit me damn hard. I've never understood the people that hate their dads. Mine was great and we got along fantastic. Ended up depressed which lead to health problems. I expected support from my wife, in my time of need, but yeah that doesn't happen. A year later I find out she's having an affair with a neighbor. More depression. Try to make it work for 3 more years. Earlier this year she wants a separation, I can feel myself sinking again. Researching ways to improv…
/r/askTRP26/08/15 05:47 PM
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"Fucking awesome" or "Busy as shit" Anything that can't be interpreted that you were waiting for them to text. Followed by a simple "and yours?" Then a few "cools" or "yeahs" as she rambles on about hers. Always following a 2:1 or 3:1 ratio. From time to time throw in a sexual innuendo.
/r/askTRP26/08/15 05:28 PM
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Lifting was a big part of it. The mind and body are connected. I don't think you can improve one without the other improving too. But also emotionally letting go of all the shit dragging me down. Realizing I wasn't fighting a unique battle. AWALT! I wasn't some special snowflake that God had decided to punish with a cheating wife. Another big thing was that I saw hope for the future. That I don't have to live an unhappy sexless life in a loveless marriage.
/r/askTRP21/08/15 07:15 PM
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Took Zoloft 2 years ago. Had a rough 2 years prior to that year losing a parent then discover wife's affair. I hated the way I felt on it, better to be depressed than to be numb and feel nothing and care about nothing. Weaned myself off and let the depression run its course. Started to dip back in to depression earlier this year when we separated. Luckily I found TRP which knocked the depression right out of me. Right now I feel better mentally than I have in probably 8-10 years.
/r/askTRP21/08/15 05:02 PM
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Not quite there yet, just swallowed the pill this spring. Still dropping weight. As the weight stops the target age will drop.
/r/askTRP21/08/15 01:03 AM
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Thanks all, got the answer I was looking for. Au naturelle and proud.
/r/askTRP21/08/15 01:01 AM
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Mine is similar, only on the chin for summer, but only about an inch long. Full beard from mid sept to late March. This past year I grew it even fuller since the soon to be ex only liked the goatee look.
/r/askTRP21/08/15 01:00 AM
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I think TRP helps to instill a "don't sweat the small stuff" attitude through stoicism and maintaining frame.
/r/askTRP28/07/15 06:45 PM
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Self checkout line. In all honesty the cashiers don't care. Their only concern is when's their next break, lunch or quitting time. They don't even pay attention to half the shit the run across the scanner.
/r/askTRP28/07/15 06:43 PM
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Open your own savings account for your son. When he is 18+ you can give him the money. If you want to buy a car then title it in your name and his.
/r/askTRP24/07/15 01:31 PM
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Outdoor stuff - hunting, fishing, hiking, camping Like to cook, especially smoking, trying new meats and seasonings* Also got into canning fruits, veggies and meats. * Play a little golf Tie flies for fishing in the winter as a side job funny aside to the smoking and smoking - my wife loves everything I cook. When my marriage started to implode I stopped all smoking and fancier meals. My smoker hasn't been used all year. Once the divorce is final and we are in separate houses I will get back int…
/r/askTRP22/07/15 07:40 PM
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Shooting sports - firearms or archery Hunting/fishing Hiking/climbing
/r/askTRP15/07/15 08:24 PM
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I'll tell you the exact same thing I would tell my high school son. Shut your mouth, do your job, get your letter and move on. Why introduce drama, stress and hassle where there doesn't need to be any? And what benefit does it bring you? Choose your battles and determine which are worth fighting.
/r/askTRP15/07/15 04:52 PM
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I prefer mornings for the fact that nothing interferes with that time. No surprise meetings or appointments, no opportunity for excuses. Get up, get it done, get to work.
/r/askTRP29/06/15 01:50 PM
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It snapped me out of my depression about 36 hours after finding this sub. Changed my entire outlook on life, breathed new life into me and gave me the balls to file for divorce and move on. I saw a pic on FB the other day that said "If you knew me a year ago then you don't know me, let me reintroduce myself" or something like that. My friends, family and therapist have all been astounded by my turnaround and improvement.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/15 01:44 PM
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Because parents don't want to see their kids piss away an opportunity for a good life ESPECIALLY if they are footing the bill. Swallowing the red pill means being the best YOU that you can be. Is 3.3 GPA the best you can be.
/r/askTRP19/05/15 07:29 PM
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To me, alone is a physical description whereas lonely is an emotional trait. Alone describes where you are, lonely describes how you feel. In my world they are mutually exclusive and not interdependent. I can be alone and be completely content and happy. I can be in a crowded room and feel completely lonely.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 04:09 PM
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I am you, 20 years from now. I was married to your girlfriend, well not her exactly but one just like her. Get out while you still can, not after years of frustration and disappointment, couple kids who are going to get their world turned upside down, losing half your worth and still dealing with the same shitty person for years to come because you made kids together. If you think it's bad now wait until you realize that she is probably cheating on you and you lose all trust in her and give up a…
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 03:59 PM
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Been lifting on and off for close to 30 years. SL 5x5 is the best program I have seen for quick starting success. I have tried machines and dumbbells and body wright but I always come back to barbells and plates.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 06:36 PM
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Excellent, thank you
/r/askTRP11/05/15 04:55 PM
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Yeah, I didn't find TRP until earlier this year when I was looking for ways to save a marriage that I should have ended 2+ years ago. If I had TRP knowledge 10 years ago things would have been far far different. When we abandoned the 2 bedroom house and built a 5 bedroom McMansion my conversion to the beta side was complete. I'm done having kids, won't even consider LTR with anyone with kids younger than mine, I'm looking forward to the empty nest years. Wasted too many years already, don't want…
/r/TheRedPill10/05/15 04:15 AM
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Same-ish boat here, 45, 20yrs, 6 figures, make 4x what she does. Oldest kid that will be with her is 16 so CS won't be long. Working on negotiating minimal alimony by being very congenial and accepting of a greater portion of debt and making the divorce process as smooth and quick as possible. I want her out of my life as quick as possible. As soon as none of my kids are with her I couldn't care less if she's living in a gutter. I am so looking forward to her trying the return trip in a year or …
/r/TheRedPill10/05/15 03:48 AM
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In the show it is very important to the Bravoosi people, especially the Faceless Men and is key to Arya Starks storyline. But it is not meant as a threat to "all men" more as an acceptance of the inevitable, kinda like "yolo".
/r/TheRedPill08/05/15 03:47 PM
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Valar Morgulis = All men must die.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/15 02:14 AM
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Thanks to finding TRP this will be me. I have some weight to lose but I will come through this 100x better than the soon to be X. My paradigm shifted within 48 hrs of finding TRP, MRP and reading No More Mr Nice Guy. I went from obsessing over trying to figure out what I could do to save my marriage to wondering why I was even trying. I used to think she was the best I could do, but now that I look at her and our marriage through the red lens rather than rose colored glasses I realize that she w…
/r/TheRedPill03/05/15 01:54 PM
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I for one am getting the divorce I should have gotten 2 years ago. Never could get over it, never could find a shred of trust for her. Wasted 2 years of my life trying. Thankfully I found TRP to really help me through thr divorce and see all the good on the other side. Divorce is not final yet but working on my first two plates.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 06:23 PM
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I always gave them the wife's email or phone number ;) most of the shit was bought for her anyway.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/15 10:19 PM
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It has strengthened my relationship with my kids. Helped me to break the oneitis that I had for the wife and made me realize that both me and the kids are important. I was so focused on trying to make her happy that I neglected the rest of us. I will never value another woman above my kids.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/15 10:40 PM
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Yeah I was agreeing with you and saying that while society (advertisers) want you to think that the "things" make the man it has been my experience that "things" made me less of a man.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/15 06:03 PM
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I think the complete opposite is true. As I look back on my life its seems that the more stuff I owned the more beta I became. I came to really loathe the lifestyle I had become accustomed to. The huge house and all the shit in it, pain in the ass to keep clean especially when the wife won't help "because she didn't make the mess", the RV with color TV and AC when I really just want to go sleep under the stars. One of the benefits I see for our divorce will be the ability to downsize and simplif…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/15 03:57 PM
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I both love and respect my mom. My parents were in their 40 s when I was born. They were children of the depression. She was a stay at home mom, no daycare for me and she thinks all mothers should stay at home. In today's world she isn't very smart, but in her day I would say she was. Dad never made big money, but they didn't make many money mistakes either and they shared in the decision process. She was a firm believer in traditional gender roles, but she did take the time to teach me to cook,…
/r/TheRedPill27/04/15 02:48 PM
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I've been buzzed for several years, 1/8" every three weeks, do it myself which saves a ton of money. I have a full head of thick hair, the buzz is just way more convenient for me. I'm shaving it at the end of next month for the first time. I have wanted to for years but always let my wife talk me out of it. We are in the final stages of divorce negotiations and will be filing soon. I have a fishing trip scheduled for the end of May so I will be shaving the day before I leave. This is one of my w…
/r/TheRedPill27/04/15 02:31 PM
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Not sure if this is RP or not but if she complains about the effort tell her to get in the tub or shower and you'll do it, might be some good foreplay.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 11:57 PM
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Thanks for the inspirational post, I am starting both TRP and divorce. I know there is life on the other side but it is nice to see others that have made it through.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/15 11:49 PM
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This was me 2.5 years ago. My biggest mistake, trying to work it out and move on. Should have gotten the divorce back then rather than doing it now. I was never able to trust her again and it eroded what relationship we had. Honestly our kids would have been better off too. Instead they had to put up with 2.5 years of living in a pressure cooker. Screw wasting money on the PI unless he is in a state where infidelity matters when it comes to spousal support. Get his shit together, file and get th…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 06:44 PM
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I have lifted on/off for the past 29 years. As I look back I realize that the parts of my life where I was lifting have always been the positive times, the good times. Non lifting years seem to correlate to down times. I can't say for sure which is the cause and which is the effect but there is a correlation. Maybe I stopped lifting because life got too hard or maybe life got too hard because I wasn't focused on the right things like Heath and fitness. I'm back in the gym now, and I can already …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 06:33 PM
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Yep that was my first thought too
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 03:22 PM
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Heh of all the info and wisdom provided, that was my question too.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/15 01:36 PM
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Fly fishing is probably my favorite hobby. It is great alone or with friends.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/15 06:20 PM
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Join an open golf league at the course. That way you are on a set schedule and don't have to coordinate with the other guy. Will also let you meet many more guys that may share some of your other interests.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/15 06:08 PM
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Honestly I should have listened to her when she told me to do stuff with friends and to get out of the house. Instead I only tried harder. Not only was I very beta but I'm an engineer on top of that. We see a problem we're gonna fix that problem. Man talk about trying way too hard. Just remember the child is your 1A priority, a baby can't take care of itself. Your 1B priority is you because no one is going to take care of you. She falls somewhere around the same level as your job. youll need you…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 06:46 PM
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Your story is nearly a mirror image of mine if you substitute breast cancer for ovarian cancer. If she understands what you are doing and appreciates it you might have a better chance than me, I found TRP/MRP too late for the marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 06:12 PM
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THANK YOU ALL!!! For the textual ass-kicking. I really needed it to get my mind in the right frame. Since finding this site my mind has been almost dizzy, from finding out I'm not alone in my situation to really understanding why things are the way they are and what can be done about them. As I relfect there was some anger in vindictiveness in my thought patterns. "She didn't stick with me through my difficult times so why should she reap the benefits of my hard work to improve." This is also th…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/15 01:07 PM
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Already read NMMNG, between it and MMSLP I have hope for the future for myself. I dont expect her to snap to, from the time she suggested the separation I have felt it was going to end in a permanent split. That was what I have feared the most. Because of TRP/MRP I have finally embraced that that is an acceptable outcome and may even be preferred. I'm already suffering, she's checked out, we are living separate lives, I'm lonely and spend ALL of my nights alone. We haven't had any physically con…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/15 01:00 AM
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Not trolling. I have only started but it has been such an eye opening experience that I am really questioning if I want this marriage to continue or not. Maybe I am being too enthusiastic about moving on. I guess I have no faith that she will respond to any changes I make. I have a more positive vibe about my life than I have in years. I have felt beat down for so long that I feel almost euphoric thinking that I can be happy without her. I have focused on her happiness for so long and sacrificed…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 10:04 PM
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Thank you for that insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 09:51 PM
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I am reading MMSLP now. The last time we talked, maybe a month ago, she said that nothing had changed and I was still focused more on the marriage than myself. I wanted to be sure that she understood that I am no longer in that mindset and that saving this marriage is no longer my priority. I didn't come off as threatening or setting ultimatums, I just told her that I am leaning towards ending things. The single best thing that this sub and the associated books have showed me is that there is li…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 09:23 PM
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I think you might be right. What I am struggling with right now is whether she deserves an improved me. I don't want to have this underlying feeling that I am doing this to win her back. I truly want to feel that I am improving me for me and I don't know if I can do that in this relationship. There is too much history, too many feelings and too much attachment. Outcome independence will be my biggest problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 09:14 PM
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I think a huge part of fixing me is being free. Im not in pain, the pain has passed. the future is bright, I'm relatively young, good health (poor shape), good job and a new positive outlook. I plan to continue along this path of improvement for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 06:23 PM
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Nope, just feel a huge wave of relief and wanted to share. I didn't give up on the marriage, she did.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 06:15 PM
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We've been separated (at her insistence) for 3+ months, this was long overdue, MRP helped me realize that.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 06:14 PM
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Ours isn't too bad, been going there since 2007, I think I have only ever heard the alarm go off once and that was at 5 am when the attendant was challenged to prove it actually worked. Lots of folks there that don't fit the PF model member profile. Ours does bagels I think. I'm never there at that time anyway. The smith machines really are the deal breaker. We still had a bench and squat rack until this past fall. I tried adapting but I cant. Just got a deal though health insurance that lets me…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/15 12:30 AM
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I just changed gyms. I like the atmosphere and concept of Planet Fitness but I HATE smith machines. Both local clubs have done away with barbells and benches. They have all smith machines and a rack of dumbbells. I do have a bench and squat rack at home but can never motivate myself to walk to the basement but for some reason I can motivate myself to get up at 4am and drive to a gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 07:17 PM
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I've done low carb, CKD, TKD, Fat Smash, plain clean eating. They all work if you can stick with them. I usually drop 50 lbs, keep it off for a year or so then gain that plus a few more back. Been doing that for the past 15 years. I want to explore the surgery to see if it will be a more permanent long term fix. I have a few friends that have good success.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 11:28 PM
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I've seen no difference but I haven't done any accurate measurements. I saw no effects to performance or drive either and mine was 13 years ago. The only downside is that my balls roll around more when running now that they are cut loose in there. The last line was just a joke in case anyone was wondering.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 05:42 PM
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Thanks for the advice, gives me a lot to consider. I need to put thought into how she will prove herself. I'm not going to make it a covert contract, she will know what she needs to do (as soon as I figure out what she needs to do). At last therapy session the doc noticed my change in demeanor regarding the relationship and the fact that I just want to be done one way or the other. Early on I had been more concerned about what I could do to make things better and patch things up. Each day that b…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 05:22 PM
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Thanks for the 180 plan recommendations. I have been unconsciously implementing this for the last couple weeks. It feels great to realize that you are doing something right that you figured out on your own. This was still coming from a blue pill perspective but it dawned on me a month or so ago that there is absolutely nothing I can do in regards to my wife that will save our marriage. No amount of trying to fix it will work. She wanted space to sort her feelings and see if she could stand on he…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 04:42 PM
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I honestly think she wants the old me back. I really was the leader of our family until her and my dad got sick in back-to-back years. She had breast cancer and the next year my dad got cancer. Hers wasn't too bad, couple surgeries and an all-clear but still scared the shit out of both of us. My dad was completely different. I spent 8 weeks from the time he was diagnosed watching him whither and die and it took a huge chunk out of me mentally, physically and emotionally. That was when our marria…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 04:31 PM
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I've spent too much time worrying if she was cheating or not. If she is she is, if not then all the better. The decision for us to stay together rests with me now. If I decide I want to stay married then she is going to need to prove herself all over again and there are no guarantees. Yeah I know I am married but I do plan to take some time to see what else is out there. There are some ladies from my past that I would like to "check-in on". There is one that was horrible timing and is the only p…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 04:22 PM
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The anger has kinda come and gone, a week or so I was in the mood to just nuke the whole marriage and be done with it. That has subsided. I can be around her and not be angry, just working on being indifferent to whether she is in the room or not
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 04:14 PM
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Eh, I don't really care about the room I sleep in. It won't matter anyway once the house is sold which will be first action item once the divorce decision is made.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 04:12 PM
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I'm confused. Was this in church or when people from church were visiting your home? In church I have always felt that kids should sit quietly in church from the earliest age possible. I hate seeing kids coloring and playing with cars and toys in the pew when they are obviously old enough to be sitting without being entertained. In your own home I have absolutely zero problems with a kid playing quietly while adults are conversing as long as they are not disruptive.
/r/RedPillParenting23/03/15 03:04 PM
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