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WeaknessCapital9064/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 03:50 PM
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Take out to dinner to get their mind off of it. Be someone that listens without judgement because it’s ugly when you are in it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 04:34 PM
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Get a lawyer my man
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 05:18 PM
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Do it
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 02:54 AM
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Yes my ex was a drunk
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/26 12:51 PM
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You already see the pattern clearly. The discomfort isn’t confusion, it’s the cost of breaking it. Respect isn’t something you earn through affection, and it’s not something you negotiate for. It’s either there or it isn’t. Focus on what you control: your standards, your boundaries, your actions. If those are solid, the decision becomes simple, even if it’s not easy.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/26 01:18 AM
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You got this.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/26 01:09 AM
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You loved her honestly. That was virtue. She betrayed that love. That is her character, not yours. Do not ruin your mind trying to repair someone else’s soul. Stand up. Improve yourself. And let the world see what kind of man loss creates.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 11:26 PM
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Move all money offshore
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/26 11:42 PM
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FYI - male or female, you are almost certainly part of the reason your marriage ended. When you argue just to win, instead of trying to understand what the other person is actually saying, you stop having a conversation and start having a competition. And that’s usually when relationships begin to break down.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/26 01:12 PM
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You just wrote 10 paragraphs explaining why the pattern exists while claiming the pattern doesn’t matter. That’s not a rebuttal
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/26 04:35 AM
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You’re confusing cause with observation. The stat shows who ends marriages, not why they end. The explanations you listed exist because the pattern exists.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/26 03:44 AM
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No one said initiating divorce automatically means someone caused it. You’re arguing against a point nobody made. The actual point is that women initiate around 65–70% of divorces in the U.S. (Stanford sociologist Michael Rosenfeld’s research). That’s just a statistical pattern. Pointing out a pattern doesn’t mean blaming an entire gender, just like pointing out that men commit most violent crime doesn’t mean every man is violent. Your cheating example is an anecdote, it doesn’t change the overa…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/26 05:32 PM
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Ok 👩, Of course initiating divorce doesn’t automatically mean someone caused it. Nobody said that. Your cheating example is a completely different scenario. If someone cheats repeatedly, the marriage is already broken and divorce is just the formal ending. The broader point people are discussing is that in many relationships one partner emotionally checks out long before the other realizes it. By the time divorce is initiated, one person has already processed the end of the relationship while th…
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 08:06 PM
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What stands out in this story is how long the emotional exit probably happened before the actual separation. When someone feels relief the first night away and barely thinks about their spouse after a few days, that decision was already made internally long before the conversation ever happened. A lot of men experience this in divorce; they think the relationship is still something that can be worked on, while their partner has already processed the ending months or years earlier. By the time th…
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 07:49 PM
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I agree that individuals vary, but there are patterns in relationship research. Studies on divorce consistently show that women initiate about 65–70% of divorces in the U.S. That doesn’t mean women are worse people or that every situation is the same. It just suggests that women are more likely to decide a relationship is no longer meeting their needs and leave, while men are statistically more likely to stay even when unhappy. So yes, every relationship is different, but it’s also fair to ackno…
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 07:45 PM
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I hear what you’re saying. What you’re describing isn’t failure, it’s a mismatch between expectations and reality. Most men are taught a simple rule: provide, improve, endure, and stability follows. When that breaks, it feels like the rules changed mid-game. That confusion is fair. Marriage often fails not from lack of effort, but because people are playing different games. Many men operate on duty and responsibility. Many women are encouraged to prioritize fulfillment and emotional alignment. N…
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/26 09:45 AM
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Bro divorce her and take half and alimony and be happy
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/25 10:44 PM
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same here so they looked at her income and expenses and my income and expenses then split the difference for 4-5 years
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 04:48 PM
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Its critical that the law finds arrangements that allow both parents to maintain stable housing for the children under 50/50 custody. Any plan that leaves one parent unable to afford housing isn’t workable.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 05:31 PM
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That’s not actually accurate. The attorney does frame it as a female-specific pattern by repeatedly tying the outcome to “women spending time with women,” “women talking about how their husbands suck,” and “stay-at-home moms having the highest divorce rates.” He builds his entire argument around female roles, not around the structure of the day. If the point were purely gender-neutral, he wouldn’t have singled out nurses, teachers, and homemakers as his central examples or attributed the behavio…
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/25 03:42 PM
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I agree with him on the part where idleness, lack of purpose, and too much unstructured time can wreck a person’s mindset and eventually their marriage. That’s absolutely real, and I’ve seen it in men and women. When someone has no routine, no goals, no challenge, they start drifting, and drifting people tend to make impulsive, destructive choices. Where I don’t fully agree is the way he turns this into “stay-at-home women are the problem” or that they’re somehow uniquely prone to blowing up the…
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/25 02:18 PM
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Also ask about judge ahead of time.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/25 08:18 PM
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So my only recommendation is use another ai to critically review the output so you have quality assurance
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/25 08:15 PM
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We went through mediation and she had attorney. I had to represent myself in court and I feel like they were very nice and it was easy
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/25 12:37 AM
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I used ChatGPT and represented myself
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/25 11:23 AM
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Thanks for sharing your story, it really does help hearing how other people worked through it. In my case, I gave my wife the house so I could protect as much of my retirement as possible. It felt like the only move that wouldn’t completely derail my long-term stability, even though it meant walking away from the place entirely. Still, starting over at 49 hits hard. I was ten years from paying off that mortgage and actually thinking about early retirement. Now it’s a full reset, and with the job…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/25 03:41 PM
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The hardest part of my divorce has been starting over financially at 49. I was on track, ten years away from paying off my house and actually able to think about retiring early. Now everything has reset. I’ll be working until 65, and the idea of ever paying off a home again feels out of reach. It’s a tough reality to sit with, knowing how close I was to stability and how far it feels now. Now, with the job market tanking, the future is not that bright.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/25 07:09 PM
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Man, I hear you. What you’re feeling isn’t crazy at all. When you spend years walking side-by-side with someone, your brain doesn’t just flip a switch because paperwork is coming. You’re still used to her being your person. That kind of momentum doesn’t stop overnight. This part you’re in now… it’s not about “winning her back.” It’s about getting your balance again. Right now everything feels tilted because your whole life was built around someone who isn’t standing next to you anymore. That doe…
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 04:34 PM
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It is written that it is 4 years and can not be changed.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 05:39 PM
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I had a marriage of 23 years and only have 4 years of alimony... I used AI as my lawyer and represented myself. She is full of crap.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 05:31 PM
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Once you start rebuilding yourself, you create the foundation you need to move forward, no matter what direction life takes you. My own marriage fell apart because I poured everything into my kids and my wife, and she poured everything into herself and the kids. I was giving at full volume and receiving almost nothing back. I was not getting intimacy or partnership or any real connection, and I felt exactly the way you feel now. Eventually she cheated. It did not surprise me. When you are focuse…
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 02:02 PM
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my alimony doesnt stop with a new marriage
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 01:30 PM
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When intimacy fades in a marriage, it can quietly open the door to resentment on both sides. Before that builds into something neither of you can come back from, the healthiest move is to shift your focus inward, not as punishment, not as a tactic, but as a way to stay grounded. Start pouring energy into the things that genuinely make you feel alive, confident, and fulfilled. Strengthen your friendships, your hobbies, your physical health, your sense of purpose. When you rebuild the parts of you…
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 01:21 PM
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Man, stop fighting the ghost. The version of her you loved is gone, and no amount of arguing, remembering, or negotiating will bring her back. The person in front of you now is making choices you’d never accept from someone you respected. Handle the divorce like a business deal, get what’s fair, protect your kids, and keep contact to logistics only. Every extra conversation is just giving her more space in your head. She’s in your past. You’re in your future. Don’t drag her with you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 12:58 PM
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A lot of men don’t want to admit it, but sometimes we marry for the wrong reasons. The chemistry is there, the attraction is strong, and we tell ourselves that’s enough to carry us through the years. But over time, the shine wears off. You start seeing the person behind the appeal, and sometimes it’s not someone who brings much else to the relationship. When intimacy becomes their main currency, you start to realize how little effort they put into anything else. The partnership feels one-sided. …
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/25 04:49 PM
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Just go for it... as someone that was divorced last year... there is a weird moment after your divorced that you feel guilty talking to other woman. At least for me it was hard to realize I wasn't doing something bad when talking to women.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/25 07:09 PM
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second date... he needs to hangout to heal.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/25 06:20 PM
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what state do you live in?
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 12:43 PM
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Talk to a lawyer my friend. Its half your shit plus alimoney to get her on her feet. but State laws can slightly modify so Lawyers are your friend to get an understanding what you will lose.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 01:15 PM
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dont move out until you are divorced or it will be held against you in court
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/25 05:02 PM
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just for the earning women... it rewards the one that mooched off the other. Usually its the woman but I know a lot of co-working women who got fleeced.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 06:13 PM
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Half the money she will get and with alimony and child support. Welcome to the world of being rewarded for being the family earner. It gets better... child support ends, alimony usually has an ending. You will recover in 5-10 years
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 06:09 PM
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I took mine on a 3 week trip to Italy after she cheated on me hoping to fix. At first I thought I wasted money… which I did. But I also feel I did everything I could to try to save our marriage. Chalk it up as a lesson that you must always prioritize you. You are the most important person in your life and you must always put your own needs before others.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 10:51 PM
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Divorce can take a while and sometimes due to complications even longer. Separation is all you need.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 06:36 PM
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Use this time to focus on you. Get a lawyer, get in shape, save money in a separate account. She is done with you. Mine was friendly as well after a few months she started banging randoms. It was 1.5 years of that and I dropped 100lbs and I’m moving out. Find happiness in yourself stop looking to her. Don’t do what I did, get out asap before she causes trauma
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/24 08:26 PM
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Listen to the men who are telling you it is over. I never listened even though deep down I knew they were right and I wasted 2 years of my life trying to fix it. She is gone man... get out.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 04:21 PM
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Move on asap. She is having her cake and eating it too. Imagine if rolls were reversed would she hang around for that. You deserve to have the life you want and not locked in this woman’s trap she put you in. It’s a mental cage that she put you in because of your beliefs and upbringing
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 02:31 PM
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Hit the gym!
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 08:37 PM
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See I am thinking the same thing. I am in my 40s so I need to protect myself. How can I trust that she won’t do it again. And I will be humiliated further if I take her back because all my friends know what she did
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 04:50 PM
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