Cold feet?!

Complicatedlogic · 2024-05-29T18:14:39+00:00

Nah fuck that. As soon as something else comes along for her to chase, you’ll just get humiliated again. You deserve better and better is out there for you.

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2024-05-29T18:06:40+00:00

Her plan A fell through and now she’s hoping to hang on to you until what she thinks is a better option presents itself.

The version of you she wanted? Jesus Christ man.

captainchippsixx · 2024-05-29T17:59:57+00:00

Stay the course: she had been doing more than emotionally cheating bro guaran fucking teed. Don’t listen to her words. Her actions have shown you what she is.

NoLawfulness8554 · 2024-05-29T17:15:11+00:00

Stay on track to leave her behind.

0neMinute · 2024-05-29T17:13:21+00:00

2 years? Yea that’s a chance to have tested the waters multiple times , you really believe it was only emotional after 2 years?

47omek · 2024-05-29T16:52:08+00:00

She didn't just emotionally cheat if yall basically agreed to divorce two years ago. She's been banging and blowing dudes this whole time and probably before that too, brother. She's for the streets, recreational use only at this point. Send her on down the road. She's only coming back because her primary plan fell through and she needs to hang on to you as backup until/unless she can find a new primary plan.

Reflog1791 · 2024-05-29T16:43:48+00:00

Move on. Of course she wants you back when you level up. She lost the privilege of having you in her life.

EnvironmentalAd3558 · 2024-05-29T16:41:09+00:00

Given what she has done is she really wife material anymore? Tell her that maybe you can date after the divorce. That way she will not have any future economic leverage on you.

stent00 · 2024-05-29T16:40:51+00:00

Don't even think about taking her back from the curb...

Rathakatterri · 2024-05-29T16:32:34+00:00

Move on, why are you even asking man ?

CulturedGentleman921 · 2024-05-29T16:31:23+00:00

Nah man move on.

TheBoyBand · 2024-05-29T16:26:18+00:00

I think you need to at least separate forever. Fuck her.

DecentAd5239 · 2024-05-29T16:25:34+00:00

Depends on you, and what you want. You’re in the drivers seat now. If there was no physical infidelity and you can forgive the emotional cheating then it’s worth consideration. Especially if a part of you got better and lost weight so she would see what she gave up. Usually when that happens, a part of us also want them to take us back. The grass is always greener. However, if you love her, and you’re still attracted to her, and there was no physical infidelity then you may want to give it a shot. It is also important to address how you actually feel and felt. She was looking for socializing and emotional support she wasn’t getting with you. What were you missing that you just let go? Did she use sex as a bartering device with you, or withhold it? You lost 100lbs! Awesome. Did she neglect her health, is she still physically attractive to you?
The big problem when someone imitates this to either “wake up” their partner, or have them try harder is often that partner has time to evaluate their feelings and their wants, in many cases for the first time since marriage, certainly the first time since kids. Yes technically you need to be separated a year for divorce. You want your concerns answered no matter which way you go. You don’t want regret in starting over, and definitely don’t want regret for staying in an unfulfilling marriage. Even the best ones get super rocky, sometimes for a decade or more. If you don’t see that strength in her or the marriage going forward then you have your decision. Good luck, god bless

LowMain5154 · 2024-05-29T16:16:33+00:00

Dude just move on. Too much has happened. She’s just figured out that the grass isn’t greener. As soon as you’re comfortable again it will happen all over again. As someone at the very start of this, I wish I could jump ahead 2 years and not have to go through this.

Title	Cold feet?!
Author	WeaknessCapital9064
Upvotes	10
Comments	16
Date	May 29, 2024 3:50 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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