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EXACTLY!
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 12:56 AM
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You are thinking rationally, don’t get caught up on this 50/50 bs and then neglect. Be realistic with what you can do (as you are) and btw no percentage makes you any more or any less of a parent no matter what anybody says. What matters is you showing up so SHOW UP and make the time quality.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 12:55 AM
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I wish more men understood this!
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 08:00 PM
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ALL OF THIS especially custody part at end OP
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/25 05:39 PM
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How to deal with drastic change? … easy put your kid FIRST and drop her ass, find better, its that simple. How you are even struggling or questioning the obvious choice is blowing my mind but not really at the same time with every other weekend.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 12:11 AM
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I know its support for divorced men here, but sorry bro you are the problem. WoW Edit: You need to fix and identify deep issues, as cliche as it might be love yourself first, learn to be alone instead of just bouncing around destroying people because thats what divorce does. Edit 2: This has the feel of a woman writing it, I bet you have “she’s just a friend” friends.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/25 03:11 AM
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Your current solution IS NOT the solution, read more through this forum.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 07:37 PM
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Lmao
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 04:43 AM
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Im invested too 😆
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 12:39 AM
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Theres no other comment but this, im seeing validation for it here of all places and im lmao, most or alot of these dudes have that female on the other end of this story with “a friend”
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 11:56 PM
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“I was AP back then” 😂😂😂😂😂 well you had the answer from the get go.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 09:27 PM
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And its so difficult for people even family to comprehend that the way things go down and the hyper shitty way they were/are on the way out sets the tone for possibly the rest of our lives at least in my case! Like yours, mine became someone I don’t want to ever have anything to do with again and then realising that who she “became” is who I was really married to the entire time, its mindblowing. Ive gotten the well youll stop being bitter, you’ll get over it and all variations and it has nothin…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 04:43 PM
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💯 this OP
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 04:05 PM
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Claiming he is not with you, that you dont do anything bla bla bla is typical playbook, and btw since you were amicable from the get go she thought she would doormat you again but you called her bluff, wants to get one over on you playing off your fear of family court.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 03:59 PM
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Its simple, someone got in her ear, “Gurlll you gave up Child Support, oh helll naww, go get yours!” Oh boy I can hear it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 03:41 PM
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THIS AND ONLY THIS! Edit: Why doesn’t she move out and retain half of ownership since she is the one that can’t buy out, things that make you go hmmm 🤔 how convenient! Edit 2: It’s mostly amicable until it isn’t! (Edit 1)
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 04:34 AM
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Of course shes adamant on 1/2 not logic or Math 😂 its not even surprising anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 07:38 PM
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Its not luck, its the law, its the way it works, it just happens to be the other way around most of the time lol good for OP GetCustody GetchoChildSupportKing GetchoSpousal YouDeserveit ifSheGetsNasty TakeHerToDaCleanersBoyyy Or something like that
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 10:31 PM
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💯 this OP
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 08:18 PM
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You don’t.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 04:39 PM
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💯
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 03:16 PM
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Your last line is all that was needed, the rest sounds like something the ex wife would do.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 03:39 AM
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Your response should have been “this is not a conversation to fkn have via text or in person period!” You are now talking to other woman and you seriously give a fuck how her mind is working 😂😂😂 come on man lol
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 12:59 AM
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You are leaning towards white knighting, “I just want the kids mom to be happy” NO! that is not your responsibility. Stay away from this mess
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 04:56 PM
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Lmao
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 02:13 PM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 02:08 PM
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I did too, he did the best with where he was, kid is thriving and successful, your just not caught up on reading comments I made past this.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 11:37 PM
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I don’t disagree however OP doesn’t clarify what state hes in and he also states he willingly gave most of it up to the ex so then theres that.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 11:19 PM
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Ok, well, lets be honest, you did chose, “keep thinking of that poor lil boy….” Because you gave your ex everything as you state in comment, you were not in a good place which believe it or not was good to acknowledge then, so it creates a guilt and narrative in your head that you could have done better and those repressed feelings are catching up (btw you werent in a good place, you DID do better for him) Don’t let guilt eat you, I think that even if you werent in a good place for more custody …
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 10:28 PM
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So how did you end up with W and EOW?
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 09:46 PM
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Whoever was at fault is irrelevant, what you are carrying is guilt of time you lost on YOUR OWN, the boy should have had equal time so you can’t necessarily beat yourself up over it either because you chose w/eow and it sounds like you showed up, just another take and glad you take accountability.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 05:43 PM
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How divorce ended is unclear unless we deduce that she was a typical bitch and why you only got every Wed and EOW, again maybe im wrong. My opinion why its happening now is because while your son doesnt remember much from then which I assure in time he will, especially when he has his own, time was stolen from you that you will NEVER get back and we resentfully internalize that shit to be able to heal and move on, but it comes out months even in your case years and years later. When your son has…
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 06:46 AM
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Cringey 😂
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 07:41 PM
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Next time he can just say: No.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 02:02 PM
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Please say its a joint account!
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 04:23 AM
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Oh boy, I went through this like many even the house sale getting close to foreclosing. ITS NOT GOING TO CHANGE, day by day is hard first 30 days but once you embrace the silence, the peace and quiet and just focus on whats got to get done on your end it’s bliss and launches you into the taking care of yourself. Is there kids? Has she or you filed? Can you afford an attorney? at 30 days read stories on here over and over and accept, her behavior is classic. Edit: She WILL eventually reach out, a…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 12:55 AM
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Like ASAP! OP …And if I have it correct, it’s an “amicable” divorce lol but of course it is, it benefits her, OP watch what happens when you start firmly saying NO
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 07:53 AM
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“Sounds like a bad idea” … you have got to be kidding me, I don’t even know where the fuck to start! You are lacking guidance from your CoC and Leadership, have you gone to base legal, filed, used resources cause clearly your SNCO’s suck and you are getting walked all over, you have no foresight of the MULTITUDE of issues in the future you are throwing on yourself!!! Enter new boyfriend playing house and daddy with your kids! lol 🤦🏽‍♂️ I ENSURED and ENSHRINED that my VA loan was not part of ANY …
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 04:04 AM
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This is not the scenario here, but happy for you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 10:29 PM
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Ah the “bigger man” lecture, absolutely none of our worth is based on how we treat or don’t treat our ex, they are exes for a reason and friend is right, it doesn’t even sound like theres kids involved for him to even entertain her, putting the friend “in his place” is laughable at a minimum, this was the friend that stuck through his worst btw, why didnt he tell his friend to stay in his place” while going through it that way he could simp as he pleased?
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 08:25 PM
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Am I just being a little bitch? -yes and you know it …about her? -yes …and forgiving? -yes He’s right.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 08:11 PM
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This OP!!! Games that carry on into the proceedings, there is no more talking!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 06:21 AM
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This sounds like a setup and the excuse, the smear campaign, she is projecting her cheating, Im almost willing to bet lol. Ask her to go through her phone and update us lol
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 03:30 AM
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Correct, its supposed to be a hospital scene type of thing.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 02:50 AM
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YUP its very common its crazy! They also supposedly have one if the highest cheating statistics and craziness lol now it makes sense!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 02:41 AM
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Oh, mine had cancer too, mine went on to become an RN courtesy of my Military Education benefits, once all said and done she decided that with her second chance of life she needed to find her soulmate by monkey branching 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 still blows my mind!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 02:32 AM
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They all run the same playbook its quite comical once you start healing and step back to see the bigger picture and how fkn stupid they all are.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 02:23 AM
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😂 yes its all about them their “space” “to feel safe” “harrassment” bla bla bla dumb bitch lol.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 01:14 AM
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YUP.. sounds bout right for CA
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 02:30 AM
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Ah the classic either “work husband” or “he is just a friend” update us! Edit: OP read the comments over and over and over, go to search bar on this page and search work husband, or just a friend or reconciliation and read those posts and comments over and over and over until it sinks in!
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 11:20 PM
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Yup… and to fix the last part, he needs to move and file to divorce regardless of financial situation or kids.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 10:14 PM
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You are correct, the writting seemed like one is my vs one of my, just how he refers as “the other” was weird too.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 09:04 PM
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This begs question of where is the other kids Dad? And how did you end up burdening yourself with this kid that’s not yours?
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 08:43 PM
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And he said unto her… byeee Felicia ✌🏽 Good for you OP!
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 07:46 PM
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😆 yep!
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 07:01 PM
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Through all the sappy shit you wrote put focus on this “her ABUSE and CONTROL” and forgive yourself, fix your codependency so it doesn’t happen again, your self worth is not dependant on anybody else, there is better, you are 30, it’s fresh, you will be fine.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 03:14 PM
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Ok, so don’t see it as “battling” when you posture yourself in a fighting position, you are giving her power. See yourself as getting better, the court procedure is a formality where YOU prove you are better, I started to apply my non drinking funds to monthly PETh (blood tests) I joined a gym that logs when I check in and check out which is daily, I do AA which wasnt court ordered BUT I donate AT A MINIMUM a dollar each time I go via venmo so I can document it if needed for proof, or do your ow…
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 10:08 PM
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First of all owning your mental health illness speaks volumes of you! There are a lot of men AND woman with these disorders that don’t own them, put pride, ego and malice into hurting the other party hence the “custody battle” you are doing good recognizing the actual best interest. Coping with it takes acceptance which you have started and time, continue coping by being on medication, coupling with gym or whatever self care, and being honest with family, friends and potential dates as you were …
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 06:04 PM
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100% THIS!
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 09:54 PM
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Hell yea mannn, good for you, a step at a time and if you don’t hear from this one NEXT!!!
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 07:51 PM
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Im 43 and not to gloss over how much process sucked and lost (1/2 Mill all together) best thing that could have fkn happened, I build quick and thank God it didn’t happen at 60+ and 1000 times over a better Dad EVEN with just EOW. My freedom and health is priceless!
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 08:54 PM
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YUP same damn thing here!
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 05:41 PM
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Brother, you were me! I could have written your post word by word! My stupid ass took mine back, guess what, now I have kids EOW because you know family law is just so awesome for us!
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 05:15 PM
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By desperation sound of post be would take her back, you know like there isnt hundreds of good quality woman within a 100 mile radius alone. He deserves so much better!
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 05:10 PM
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•she’s not cheating or seeing other people (lmao), so where she been 8 months? More importantly where have the kids been?
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 05:08 PM
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Oh for fucks sake …
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 10:59 PM
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Lmao this is cringey, hundreds of single woman waiting for you, don’t waste your time on a “last time”
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 09:22 PM
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Mine were 13/14 (boys) when things went down, they see so much more than you think. I used to have your mentality of they “don’t deserve” a broken home, they also didn’t deserve a broken dad, I am so much more happier, healthier, present, I get to define what family is and not that bullshit “family” I was in, we get to dictate our relationship with our kids and it’s not dependant on the mother and what she does or doesn’t do, I make my own schedule, I drive them around, sports, activities, they …
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 08:25 PM
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Welp hopefully she leaves without a hassle and OP succeeds in this endeavour and fuck her, and fuck what a Judge thinks, like it would go great with OP being the man anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 04:45 AM
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This OP
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 05:06 AM
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I’m just commenting to follow, you’ll get plenty of feedback 😅 Edit: “it’ll get ugly” she’s telling you btw Edit 2: You do know what to do, file immediately! Like schedule a consultation, don’t even discuss it with her, serve her!
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 04:33 AM
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Your attorney already told you your rights and what you are entitled to, sounds like he sucks, i’m assuming he didn’t even give you hope a judge would rule in your favor hence why you came to reddit lawyers for a similar experience?
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 02:44 AM
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I cringe at stuff like this too and I see it over and over by different men. It’s all over this post too: “Per my wifes demand” “She is only allowing” “My proposal” “The only request” Permission oriented OP STOP! The problem here is you don’t want to rock the boat and are being passive AF. You seem responsible, put together, stable, take it to a Judge, get 50/50 and let her figure out her own shit on her week.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 09:37 PM
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The engagement with this dude is weird in every thread 😆 it’s like he came here for “serious” help but virtue signals everyone here 😅😅😅
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 04:00 AM
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You would be singing an entirely different tune if this was a long term marriage with spousal support, child support, accumulated assets, retirement accounts etc, your virtue signaling is cute, either way stick out the two months and be glad this snake is getting out of the way sooner rather than later…. Btw mine was a project too, I was in your place after a year but I just had to be a man of my “word” with vows and all that bullshit, here I am after 15 years and literally lost everything. So b…
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 03:52 AM
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You don’t owe anyone shit tbh, you need to file immediatelt to get the process going. Edit: Your manhood or word is not contingent on anybody.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 03:41 AM
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You have to be? Uhm says who??? Dude file immediately!
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 03:30 AM
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FUCK.HER and more importantly YOU filed, so YOU!!!!! don’t backpeddle! Get it done!
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 09:12 PM
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It’s a resounding NO! From here: …doesn’t want to refinance.”
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 04:40 PM
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He does care even if “curiosity” and this 👆🏽
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 02:40 AM
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Yup! Never to late to run!
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 02:09 AM
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This is a 35 year marriage lol he needed to run a longggg time ago it’s at worst.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 07:20 PM
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I think you need to at least separate forever. Fuck her.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 04:26 PM
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Ding ding ding
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 03:17 AM
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YUP! exactly what I did with no fucks to give! One of the lines: Her: You are required to provide the life I am accustomed to! Me: TF I am, you are your boyfriends problem now. Peace out ✌🏽
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 08:31 PM
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Children involved, to fast, but you’re mind is made up, caution, good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/24 05:19 PM
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It’s difficult to really advise in situations like this, because it’s amicable until it isn’t. I would let her file so you can see what she petitions, if it is in fact amicable, schedule a one hour meeting with an attorney to ENSURE you are not getting the short end, once a professional confirms then proceed.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 10:04 PM
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😆 awesome to see others think alike, I thought I was gonna get lashback here, my stbxw also found out she did not want him 100 of the time allllll the time, and began respecting my time.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 11:32 PM
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You’ve gotten in trouble with her… what are you like her child? Thats one of the problems here.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 08:05 PM
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To be honest, while nothing is the childrens fault, I personally got tired of my kids bullshit too, I had the same frustration and just let it be, my ex got tired, the kid saw me and the other kids have fun then he got tired, your 7 year old is still very young and has attachment issues with mom, he will outgrow it, ignore the nasty text messages from mom, none of this is even worth your time. Edit: I started giving my youngest the choice to stay with mom, he figured out real quick after boredom…
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 06:48 PM
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Ewww thats creepy man, i’d get off social media for about a year.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/24 04:19 PM
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The real question is why she is not blocked even if off your Friends list, if you really don’t care?
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/24 03:50 PM
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LoL. Pull trigger on family lawyer, ESPECIALLY here in CA, perhaps my biggest mistake, it’s amicable until it’s not, you let a Judge decide you will be steamrolled, TRUST me, I ended up having to get an attorney to put my dumb ass overly entitled stbxw in her place.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 10:03 PM
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Not popular, it depends how it ended, for mine fuck no, this “ButT itS Da moTHer of Da ChilDreN nTeACh Em” card don’t work on me.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 03:08 AM
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Not as therapists, overall therapists will call your shit out, she’s using her friends as enablers, oh I can just hear them, HE is not stopping progress, SHE is, get it right.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/24 06:35 PM
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This marriage is over, especially once the divorced friends get their foot in! Edit: You are not the whole problem, but will be made to look like you are.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/24 05:38 PM
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I been blocked on both by the whack admins and calling shit out lmao but maybe it’s changed I don’t know.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 04:52 PM
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…but definitely broke at the end!
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 04:13 PM
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This “Go scorched earth Kinggg” is the idiotic opposite of “take him to the cleaners gurlll” divorce is a business and the legal baselines are overall 50/50 whether either side likes it or not.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 04:12 PM
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Lmao, No OP tha’s a cesspool like/an extension of r/divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 04:06 PM
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Nothing, they blocked you, wanted you out of their life, they are adults and should know better, update your will to reflect where your estate goes. You want to protect your grand children at all costs should have been your daughters at all costs, with grandchildren you really don’t have much rights if any. Remarried? Own Kids with second marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 09:11 PM
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Lmao! Duh! There is always two sides, you know like EVERY divorce because no one is perfect, its quite simple, she threw the word out 3X’s, to manipulate him, whatever he’s not telling is irrelevant now.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 10:25 PM
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Edit: After 12 years, A baby won’t fix it, you get her pregnant you’ll be financially entangled for SURE next 18 years, and in some capacity rest of life cause you never stop being a parent. Find someone that values you not easily throws D word out to manipulate you and then to discard you.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 10:14 PM
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Get out! Fast! Like I said using Divorce as a threat is TOXIC AF and no taking back, for the ones in the back wondering what else is missing to the story placing blame on you, im sure you have your part in it all, we aren’t perfect. Even marriage counseling doesn’t fix D word thrown out.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 10:12 PM
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…and follow through!
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 10:00 PM
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YUP! I completely understand. Kids?
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 09:58 PM
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Cool good for you 👍🏽 Edit: That still doesn’t change the stat.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 08:51 PM
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Not all but sure AF like 70% or so of woman that file, odds aren’t good.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 08:08 PM
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💯
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 08:05 PM
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Again once the D word is out, it’s like trying to put shit back in the horse! They count on us not pulling the trigger, begin strategizing the exit strategy, manipulating, set up the next dude as landing pad (monkeybranch) or their “Take him to da cleaners gurlll” support and file, it’ll leave you “blindsided” until you connect the dots that the plotting was going on way before because men tend to keep “trying” DIVORCE! Edit: I been on this forum 3 years, I read it over and over and over, you wo…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 08:01 PM
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I’ve seen it too, its very very rare, and most in this forum seem to dismiss them.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 06:26 AM
4

Virtue signaling soy boys lmao, oh they on here, pop up every once and a while with their bullshit but tend to be put in their place promptly. Edit: Woman on here too lurking, try to chime in too and definitely get put in their fuckin place as well, sent right TF back to garbage r/divorce its hilarious every time.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 12:55 AM
3

Oh trust me you are overall not wrong either! what I described is what I experienced, so many variables, I had to cut down my hours to ensure time I had with my kids wasn’t completely lost, of course it reduced my child support to $1800 for 2 kids, but it wasn’t “enough” mine expected the divorce with the work horse and it simply wasn’t feasible and of course I look bad because The MoThEr of Da ChailDrEn gets less never mind that she has an equal fkn financial responsibility to them.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 03:24 PM
3

Or did she use the system to get as much time to “raise” the child and maximize child support? Thats why many MANY men think like this.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 02:54 PM
1

w.t.f 😆 I had to read over a couple times, why were you walking X’s and New down any aisle with a son getting married. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 03:08 AM
1

😂 22% or so of divorces are amicable. This “selection bias” is irrelevant for men here. Gtfoh with the virtue signaling 😆 soooo mannyyy men that attempt an amicable 50/50 divorce all around are thwarted by the stupid ass stbxw or the system, people (men) here are posting real life shit! however if yours is amicable im happy for you, your part of the 22! You belong in r/divorce simp. Edit: You agreed to everything she wanted didn’t you?
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 02:54 AM
5

Oh I am! Trust me!
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 12:46 AM
7

Wife and “her” daughter as in married a single mom? Even though everybody told you not to right? Another instance of I’ll chuck this at never marrying single moms lol or marrying ever again.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 12:45 AM
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14
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 04:43 PM
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Brother, when you realize that teenagers are like this even in an intact good marriage, your life becomes so much better, relax. Opening my eyes to this normal teenage behavior, prevented me from getting into a costly custody “battle” I get them whenever I want, im HIGHLY involved and consistent in their day to day, I plan good bonding events, take them to the gym, I coach in their sports, im at every game, school events, dinners, random lunches, church, consistently text and reach out even if t…
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 06:19 AM
7

They seem to pick lawyer route most of the time.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 05:41 AM
3

My general observation over last two years is its amicable until it isn’t, amicable is usually one sided and benefits the other more, most often the woman. Im not a stbxw apologist fuck what seems to be 99% of them, she’s not necessarily wrong for speaking to a lawyer, and neither are you, as a matter of fact I highly recommend it but keep focus on equality, she wants a lawyer to squeeze more, I promise you!
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 02:18 AM
1

A lot of variables here, whats the current arrangement and is it working for the child?
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 01:54 AM
3

Bro, I wish I could be this simplistic, a simple wtf would have sufficed 😅
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 08:45 PM
8

THIS OP… once the D word is out is like trying to put shit back in the horse, gets messier 😂
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 06:12 PM
2

It’s really neither!
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 05:01 PM
10

Plus his two.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 05:47 AM
1

Edit 6: While ex is being responsible and paying maybe co-parenting (it’s unclear) *ENTER BOYFRIEND! 😂
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 04:17 AM
1

If ex did it right in stipulations! The reality is they will collectively have 5 kids, plot, they will juice ex and not marry do best to hide cohabitation just to get off and “ThRIVe and build!”
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 04:00 AM
2

I don’t know why you got a downvote but I countered to fix it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 01:31 AM
8

This is thinking with big head 🧠
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 01:30 AM
6

Plus his two!
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 01:04 AM
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Using her to smash is not the answer either, he needs to move on and find single and stable.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 01:04 AM
2

He’s not necessarily talking about your ex.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 01:02 AM
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NOPE and bro whyyyy Edit: I can see this trainwreck a mile away, maybe she’s great, but no way in hell would I risk! And if ex did it right alimony ends upon cohabitation or remarriage, you ready to pick it up? Or you will hold off on marriage to juice the ex? Edit 2: Hundreds upon thousands of single, established woman! whyyyy Edit 3: Look at your handle and work off intelligent, cause this sounds stupid AF on your part! Edit 4: She has 80% to maximize CS 💯 BET! Edit 5: Suggest she give ex 50/5…
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 12:05 AM
2

Some yal that took this toooo serious 🤣🤣🤣 with columns and headers 😅
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 04:34 AM
1

🤣🤣🤣 I made shit up too lmao
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 04:32 AM
10

That Hoe Over There (THOT) *derogatory 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 02:50 AM
7

AP- Affair Partner OM: Other Man MM: Married Man THTDCG: Take him to the cleaners gurl (just made it up) BM: Bio Mom BS: Betrayed Spouse *Note: Also Bullshit So many 😅
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 02:44 AM
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YassGurlll #BossBae #Mompreneur #Flex #YouDeserveBetter #PourIntoYoBadself #GetYoChildSupport
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 12:31 AM
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😂 they all do this, “WaNT eVerYtHinG” it’s the take him to the cleaners gurlll, get yours mentality that runs rampant with these morons! be SOO SOO GLAD there are no kids involved!
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 12:19 AM
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This is absolutelty outstanding! Im happy for you and the self respect you had for yourself, I have choice words for her as I could have written this myself, in my case its fuck her (my ex) so I won’t project it, but for you never look back, don’t confuse friendship with civility it’s two very different things, you don’t want her as a friend, trust many of us here!
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 07:47 PM
5

Damn, the coveted 50/50 by many of us, what a shame, life happens no judgement on new girlfriend but she’s a red flag and selfish all by herself, should have been striving for you to maintain the 50/50, i’ll chuck this as reason not to get involved with a girlfriend and just focus on my kids till 18.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 02:37 PM
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This the only answer lol
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 01:48 AM
2

Yup!
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 01:48 AM
4

Just when i think i’ve read it all! Two sisters oh ffs
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 09:48 PM
7

Yes… now LISTEN and follow through!!! Edit: I didn’t btw and it screwed me over even more!
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/24 02:07 AM
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You don’t have to try and make her sound worse 😂 woman like her slither and crawl in hundreds of stories on this forum go through it and read, you will find your stbxw behaviors left and right. She doesn’t want you back because she loves you. This is over. Edit: You don’t want to make her sound worse, because like many of us you want to see the best in her, but be wary because she’s shown you who she is, and who she’s always been from day one, internalize that.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/24 02:06 AM
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😂
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 06:34 PM
3

This OP
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 04:41 AM
3

Lmfao 🤣🙄no OP don’t throat punch
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 04:40 AM
4

Lmfao 🤣… no OP not this
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 04:38 AM
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I opened up a 529 and Investment accounts for both my kids and big NOPED on my stbxw contributing PRECISELY for any funny business she is notorious for, It’s my HS grad gift to them, I know I’d be the main contributor anyway and she can’t control shit or narratives that way! period! I did encourage her to do the same on her side with her boyfriend.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 05:07 AM
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😂 how do you know my life sucks? Lol
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 06:02 AM
2

😂 again good for you.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 05:50 AM
-2

Lmao ok 👍🏽 good for you!
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 05:41 AM
1

No it sounds like he’s an idiot tbh!
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 05:25 AM
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Lmao. My comments aren’t always popular, these immature posts always crack me up! Clearly not divorced yet, or healed, worked on self etc. gtfoh you sound like my stbxW “I dESerRve HaPpyNesz n StufF”
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 05:25 AM
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NOPE! e.v.e.r
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 12:44 AM
2

And this is a BIGGGG maybe!
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 12:43 AM
2

I don’t disagree.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 07:31 AM
0

Ah the classic, in a relationship before divorce is finalized, clearly cheating/cheated, maybe even stbx… this the wrong place to get opinions or sympathy especially if you are the cheating party. The destruction and despair people like you leave behind is indescribable so definitelty get your lil court ordered RO’s and whatever so stbx looks crazy and stuff you poor victims.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 07:24 AM
1

Exactly… the ones defending are downvoting 😆
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 01:53 AM
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Not dumb at all, I was glad mine served first so I could see her ridiculous demands and “wants” cause I was ready to do “BeSt for MotHeR of ChilDreN cuZ of Da KiDs” and it exposed the snake she was really out to be. Edit: THEN I said lets play! got an attorney who about fell off his chair laughing his ass off at her.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 07:34 PM
1

“yOu hAvE to SaCriFiCe..” yup 😂 and in my observance with PLENTY of cases they want more custody for lower CS!
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 03:01 AM
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Oh they love to gloss over things lol. Mine was “I know everybody (her, AP) and me have said nasty things but it’s not helping anything.” 🤣 Me: uhm, yea, go fuck off like wayyy over there.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 08:17 PM
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…and it’s mindblowing that it’s clear statistics and people actually think 👋🏽 we won’t be a statistic We ArE SpeCial tHiS TimE! It’s like the well 50% of marriages fail but what about the other 50% the OTHER 50% is further broken down to where like 30% remain together for x number of reasons but miserable AF, then another 10% married but separate for finances, flexible accomodations (open relationships, etc) then ultimately leaving like 5% or some crazy number of actually happily married couples…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 05:24 PM
1

And in some places lifetime spousal with being disabled
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 06:56 PM
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A morality clause doesn’t fix your immoral dumpster fire of an ex 😂 you’ll lose your mind trying to control it, pay no mind at her stupidity.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 12:29 AM
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WoW! Im mindblown, not sure if it’s actual research, but makes complete sense and I bet will be the most rational response in this thread. Lol.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 06:19 AM
8

Ohhh the classic “MoRe ADulTs To Wuvv Da ChailDreN” 😂 Yea I got it too and i said yea TF outta here.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 05:50 AM
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This is the only answer.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 07:45 PM
3

Exactly!
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 12:35 AM
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Of course. Like every other story. Your point?
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 12:19 AM
2

Stopped at 17 year old. This is not the place if its you🤣
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 10:59 PM
4

Def not popular and wtf 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 05:45 AM
2

WoW!… ABSOLUTELY AGREE TOO! Good perspective brother!
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 03:09 AM
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And when you heal or at least start healing and realize that who you married IS NOT who you are divorcing, it becomes so much easier.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 09:31 PM
3

This and NO period.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 08:52 PM
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Yes they all do this, I thought I was crazy and the entire problem too until I read it here over and over and over again, you’ll see all comments you get. Once you detach from it and live in whats reality it becomes all around comical, sad, pathetic, boring etc from their end where all you can do is laugh and keep it moving.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 08:49 PM
-1

💯 guilty tho 😂
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 07:49 AM
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Oh snapppp the real twist 😆 🤷🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 06:31 AM
2

Right lmao! “CoULd EveN bE DanGerOus”… oh good fkn grief. I guess to each their own but it fkn saved me and no I didn’t run to gym expecting to run a marathon a day after.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 06:36 PM
8

Well, she said outloud what most woman hold and do at the end! DON’T LOOK BACK! Block and remove from your life like the cancer that she is.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 08:33 PM
6

androgenous grandma 😆 “Threatening with future kids and custody” BELIEVE HER!
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 08:20 PM
1

Bro, it’s for sure red flags tgat we totally miss. These patterns and behaviors are imprinted into who our stbxs are, it’s who they are and it takes decadesss to manifest. My FIL was a cheater too, abandoned his own SON, my stbxw also wanted nothing to do with step brother influenced by her own step mom and it was just fkn weird to me. My FIL had a new “love interest” just “months” after my stbxs step mom passed, my stbxw couldn’t believe it! Me: uhmmm so not to state obvious but he was cheating…
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 03:26 AM
2

Yes “we would be better” 😅 it’s crazy how similar things are with these types of woman, and I read it here over and over and over.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 03:03 AM
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Mine grew up like that too! Abandoned by bio Mom, thrown on to absent Bio Dad (still absent) with an abusive Step-mom who meddled (now dead) I mean the list of dysfunction goes on, I knew all this going in hence now looking back was the biggest red flag slapping me across the face but there I was Captain Save a Ho to make it better and “save” her.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 03:00 AM
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Exactly! Consider the “lil girl” is gross, such a thinly veiled shaming mechanism, it’s NOT HIS! some dudes just glossing over the real Dads responsibility now, where’s real Dad considering lil girls feelings now? Stand your ground OP!
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 08:51 PM
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No, it’s not ok to feel like this, and why you got DVotes.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 05:16 AM
-10

Lmfao 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 05:10 AM
-5

Lmfao 👍🏽 Edit: Bro, you follow r/divorce, you are not to be entertained by any men on here. 😂
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 05:05 AM
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Lmao! You child, I don’t know if he’s AP, hence why I asked (if he was?) IF he is taking care of kids BD left, well sucks for him, more often than not its recommended DON’t Date single moms! Lmfao, you with a single mom with kids, AP, or something that it triggered you bro?
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 05:04 AM
0

Why you ok with all of this? Did you cheat and trying to make up? weird, eww.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 05:00 AM
2

DO NOT “AVOID” A LAWYER. She can clearly afford it! Take her to the cleaners #King 👑
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 04:18 AM
1

1- First of all homie, I wasn’t talking to you, I was responding to a comment! -2nd- Im Divorcing in CA, you are in a “woe is me” mentality TRUST me lol! “About to ASK” -3- YES be excited about life If you play everything right! You win!
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 04:09 AM
1

When you stand up FOR YOURSELF! You (not by choice) won’t be co-parenting well! (Update us)
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 03:57 AM
0

NOPE!
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 03:56 AM
1

WILDLY STUPID AND BY TONE OF WHINY WOE IS ME POST HE WILL… Sorry OP, you don’t know better. Read posts here over and OVER and wake TF UP!
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 03:55 AM
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I stopped at step kids. And I hope you weren’t/aren’t the AP and kept said kids you love from bio Dad… if so… God, Karma, Universe or whatever played out.. enlighten us, Captain Save a Ho?
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 03:49 AM
3

It’s for the sake of YOU! Shift the focus away from Son! Focus on YOU to get out of this to be better for YOUR Son! You focus on son: -You put up with Mothers shit “cause its better for son” -Take scraps “cause its better for son” -Provide more $$$ than necessary to Mother OR ELSE (from mother) FOCUS ON YOU
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 03:06 AM
3

Eh, I get it and understand the feeling because it’s how we felt towards wife, but now, I focus on appreciating myself, and everything that makes me feel awesome not how it others makes others feel… even old ladies.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 02:54 AM
3

This! OP Edit: don’t go down rabbit hole of you guys are special, but maybe if, or what if. CUT YOUR LOSES. Look up reconciliation statistics! Its done!
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 05:29 AM
2

And on the other side as most experience here if she “fought for them” she’d get most custody because you know “Da MOtHEr of DA ChilDrEn” even if she’s shit like yours. Can’t make shit up.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 03:04 AM
1

💯
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 10:05 PM
2

THIS! Is exactly what happened to me, it was like a surrender, and not to show the world the hurt, for me it was more so to drive the point to the x how fucked up it could really get and the consequences of reckless choices and stubborness to refuse to agree just because, like ok! fuck it! lets Go!! let it all burnnn to the fkn ground because I know i’ll rise from there and faster 😅
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 09:53 PM
3

LoL. No. Your comment is like blaming my PTSD.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 09:54 AM
5

What the fuck! Lol
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 06:32 AM
23

AH.. Yes, an insufferable bitch, where NOTHING would ever be enough, many of us had them, it’s not after we heal that we realize WOW we deserved so much better. Edit: Before or after kids, it’s who/they were entire time!
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 06:32 AM
2

Omg… the unpacking to do here bro! Jesus!
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 04:56 AM
57

Rip the band aid.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 03:20 AM
1

Yup!!!
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 04:49 AM
3

I agree OP, What astonishes me is that the people advising to forgive are the same judging us along with the ex as “not being over them” “bitter” “hateful” bla bla bla. 😂
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 04:38 AM
6

My vote is meet up so you can update us and see who guessed right out of all these commentors 🤣 so men see first hand, and we can all laugh and keep encouraging you 😂
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 02:21 AM
19

No, they are just as stupid!
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 06:31 AM
0

Yea thats your opinion and it should never respected good for you 👍🏽
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 12:06 AM
0

LMFAO it’s not inching there, it’s full blown there 🤣🤣 your right, good heads up he should head straight over there take him with you. 👋🏽 ✌🏽
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 06:45 PM
3

Yea lol
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 03:22 PM
2

Im glad someone pointed it out, because its exactly where the behaviors are coming from.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 03:21 PM
5

This! BOUNDARIES should be the keyword on every comment not “BuT DonT gIvE up on Da KiDs Tho” without even fkn reading its adults.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 05:58 AM
14

Theres a difference between doormat and “resentful asshole” gtfoh and like OP fuck that!
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 05:03 AM
17

I agree but In this case adult kids who need adult fkn boundaries and reap consequences of their behaviors, im with OP.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 05:01 AM
2

I second this and this would never go to “openly hostile” 😂🤣😅 he’d go right along with it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/23 05:21 PM
8

GIVE IT TO HER! and NEVER look back!!! Control your emotions, vent here, read stories on here over and over, secure agreements, I wish I had found this reddit group before or as mine started, but I blew shit up 🤣🤣🤣 no regrets tho it was part of my journey and now happy AF and best damn thing that happened to me, I was slready an amazing Dad now im even better.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 03:01 AM
1

😁 yea I agree with you too, we dont know what OP did, regardless it doesn’t change things split, for some they keep kids best interest centered, for most it seems not the case. One of them cheated/ing thats for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 01:55 AM
9

I wouldn’t go, fuck this “better person shit” or “suck it up man” get used to this splitting of things, what are the Christmas plans? You close enough to family to take the kids where she won’t be wanted, I know I sound petty, but it helped me center myself instead of simping (which I did for a while tbh)
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 06:53 AM
2

Yes… it really is really! And yes OP is considering othetwise it’d be a non existstant post 🤣🤦🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 03:40 AM
3

Because you allow it. Period.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 06:27 AM
0

R/Divorce_Men why don’t you allow screen shots? It’s the most realistically exposing thing!
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 06:08 AM
4

Statistics are dismal and they are out there, and if cheating, betrayal etc is involved it’s even worse! Edit: have self respect!!! knock off the begging!!! become a gray rock, uninterested, stoic. Hit the gym, better yourself and you will attract what you become, your stbx will notice and then fkn reject her! Theres hundreds of woman out there FIND BETTER! but love your damn self first!
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 01:39 AM
8

Yes, same old story, they all been “unhappy” for a while, most often than not someones in the wings, don’t push anything, your sharing is 50/50 so get it on paper IMMEDIATELY the bullshit with custody is the biggest struggle for many many men *read posts on here over and over with same scenarios and disastrous results when the man tried to “fix” things and reconcile.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 01:34 AM
0

Yea they probably set up phone numbers on apps then reach, how creepy lol, imagine if you were doing that!
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/23 11:17 PM
16

Uh block them lol
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/23 11:12 PM
14

You are messaging my stbxw types 😅
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 04:57 PM
6

Yea I agree overall, you seem calm, grounded if you feel it will help go for it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 04:55 AM
7

Lol, even if he confronts while recording, whatt? No fault, so nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 04:36 AM
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As self stated.. No fault state! Soo.. NOBODY.GIVES.A.SHIT.NOBODY! No tips. clear or naw 👋🏽 👋🏽 👋🏽 Edit: FILE, SERVE, get it the fuck over, have self respect instead of playing super duper detective n stuff!
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 04:31 AM
4

Yup I sure am, my stbxw seems to think that upon divorcing I get to foot the bill for everything kids, what these dumbasses gloss over is that upon divorcing we lose the “provider” role and “There is a presumption of law that upon dissolution BOTH parents are equally financially supporting the children” -Judge at my hearing So yes, good on your boss My stbxw is a financial disaster so im going to end up footing but I love my kids and don’t even flinch, I just want it in writing to be able to poi…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 07:52 PM
5

Lmfao. Amicable is always what serves them, read your post over a few times and tell us where it serves you. At 40% more than you, she knows what she’s doing 😆 Edit: Get what you deserve King, it’s the equality stuff they talk bout n stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 08:20 PM
7

Look, the marriage in and of itself had its ups and downs and we both played a part… it’s the bullllshitttt she put me and the kids after i’ll never EVER forgive. I forgive myself!
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 03:46 AM
9

Yes they do get you to that point of no return, obviously can only speak to my case, I want that mtfkr to die first just so I can spit at her grave, God forgive me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 03:41 AM
21

Giving a fuck about Da ThE MoThEr of Da ChiLdrEn, I should have left that bitch to the streets the minute she walked.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 03:18 AM
8

THIS is what ruins many!
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 03:17 AM
7

Oh good grief where to even start with this one! Bottom Line: Your being a dick to yourself and the child if you stay in this marriage and toxic little cycle. File, serve, divorce immediately!
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/23 06:26 PM
9

Jefe! Viejo! Cabron! Keep your dick in your pants! Finish a chapter and move on to next! Isolate and introspect first! yet have fun (I did) without commitment, this willing to “meet” if you need someone to talk to aint it, she knows what shes doing! talk to us here!
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 12:48 AM
16

Oh FFS some of you stupid ass men. 🤣🤣🤣 “Amicable divorce” bout to get twisted AF, but go ahead keep chatting 🙄
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 12:26 AM
12

She didn’t just “discover” its custody points “hEs RAciSt yoUr HoNor” oh I can just fkn hear it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 10:11 PM
24

It’s decided all of a sudden for custody points 🙄
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 10:10 PM
11

😂 they marry us, know us! and after we are racists, alcoholics, drug addicts you name it but they chose us 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 10:09 PM
10

😅 correct. Im restraining myself and commenting on commentors 😂
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 09:04 PM
5

🤦🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 08:26 PM
3

I couldn’t do this cause it’s what my ex wanted 🤣🤣🤣 I have a cake eater, wanted the AP and the awesome ex and stuff. NOPE “yal have and deserve each other!”
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 03:35 AM
3

Lmfao
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 01:35 AM
2

😅 followed by a stoic demeanor and absolute silence.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 12:13 AM
9

LoL, I can’t stand this response, he absolutely had a part, just like im sure OP, I don’t understand how anybody wants to let these low life, morally, ethically corrupt fucks just off the hook! He had agency to say NO, im sorry, please handle your divorce first.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 12:00 AM
10

This is the only answer with an AP.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 11:57 PM
10

Yup, very common, it’s happening to mine.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 03:20 PM
8

AND MEN need to stop being scared of fkn common sense hearings!
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 04:29 AM
10

No. We are all ears … shoooott *This great outstanding forum along with the trash that r/divorce r/childsupport r/custody are and will forever be, helped me figure out soooo much along the process. Edit: Here you can even cuss and not be descent to each other and getting muted or comments deleted cause “feelings” if someone acting up 😆
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 12:23 AM
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Yea well thats cool, good for her, now take it to a hearing so a Judge can force it, tired of these fkn idiots “ohh, I don’t agree” with no plans or resolutions to resolve that just drags shit along.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 10:48 PM
5

This was my exact thought.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 02:13 PM
2

YUP! All of this 👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/23 09:25 PM
8

DO NOT STAY ON THE MORTGAGE!
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 07:53 PM
1

NO
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 05:50 AM
3

Closure was the way she left, those mutual friends aren’t your friends now stirring shit up THREE years later, I say it in the kindest way possible… MOVE.TF.ON Edit: find new friends
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 04:19 AM
8

Ohhh nooo you were ready! Just read your post over and over. File and execute!
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 02:15 AM
2

Naw man not smarter, we all function amd handle things different, there were still mistakes I made along the way.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 02:30 AM
1

Ohh lol not a regret! I advice it from experience! I documented TF out of everything.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 02:28 AM
3

Unless he gets ahead of it—- hitting him, in front of kids and all! OP How old is kid that tried to defend, i’d run that charge up so fast its not even funny!
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 02:15 AM
10

Those are not your friends! Hang out with your girl and focus on developing that instead of ditching her so your ex’s feelings are protected, fuck her feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 03:26 PM
6

Don’t get stuck in semantics. FILE… immediately! And get your hyphy on! Don’t let another minute go by!
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 05:12 AM
3

OMFG, good! How long was marriage??
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 05:08 AM
2

Yes I noticed Oakland. Greetings from Sac Town!
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 05:07 AM
4

LoL, bro what state you in? Im assuming CA from your handle. No it doesn’t matter whos fucking who here. Part ways, file and get rid of this trash. Kids?
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 05:05 AM
1

I feel your pain bro I do! Mine took off with AP as well. It doesn’t matter who cheated. Whats the buy out cost? Im assuming your military cause it was a VA loan.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 03:35 AM
5

I went/going through this (CA) get used to the idea that it’s community property here, you will give half, the sooner you swallow this pill the better amd quicker that you get rid of your Dependa, you’ll spend more money litigating. Thankfully for me the house was in SC so it wasn’t a crazy amount, she only gets like 14K mehhh! Lol. Can you keep the house? Did she leave? Are the kids there? No kids? A lot of missing variables!
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 03:29 AM
2

OP, I don’t blame you either. This comment encapsulates my thoughts. It’s the long game, They WILL seek you out, trust and believe. How old are kids?
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 03:17 AM
1

Ohhh it does!
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 08:31 PM
0

There is no other way to interpret!
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 04:23 PM
18

Those are the best 😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 02:11 AM
19

Yes you can lmao… then the comments are off da chain with the other BITCHES with yaH Go GuRll get YOuRs … and then LiVe Ya BeSt liFe B! Edit: GetCho ChiLD SupPort, the Kids Deserve It “” Edit II: Who ever the mods are here, thank you! I would have been blocked elsewhere with my crude IN YOUR FKN FACE comments 😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 02:04 AM
0

Actually, you have gottt to be a military Dependa, Mil background of some sort female over here on divorce men, def not a fkn dude! Please tell me im right!
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 08:43 PM
0

Lmfao, your a dude that would give up the house, I didn’t, go away now!
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 08:29 PM
0

STFU!! I know this… and we fight it! Or stuck with it for life!
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 08:27 PM
2

Well mine only got 29% of my retirement, none of my VA, so what tge fuck ever dude, I negotiated and happy.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 08:25 PM
2

Well im going through this right now, information is directly from DFAS to my attorney, also on their website, VA Disability is not an asset, it can be apportioned which is a pain in the ass process if in arrears for CS and possibly apportioned for spousal support, so not sure where your info is from but thats one of the many problems, we are expected to just give up on shit without questioning and why your comment is bothersome.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 08:22 PM
0

Military retirement is federally protected, BUT States can award it depending on settlement negotiations.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 08:13 PM
2

And then the stupid ass mods block or mute you 😂 cause well they probably woman or simps whoever they are.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 08:57 PM
3

Oh FFS with some of yal. Millions and Millions of good woman out there. Dude! So you wanna let her go fuck off in the dating world and making yourself plan B! CAuSe TwiN FlaMe and LuV, come on! Edit: You did the right thing and DONT’ look back, find yourself worth first and then someone that matches that.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 05:41 PM
3

Mine comes from a divorced dynamic, my parents are 38 years strong and made no difference… it will be absolutely horrible depending on how you control YOU! You can’t control and worry about what SHE does, it’s where I fucked up big time! Edit: My man, your biggest concern is YOU and get it through your head the quickest way possible!!! a healthy you focuses and centers decisions on child! Dont forget this!
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 04:42 AM
2

LoL. It’s not hard to tell! Go through this entire forum post after post, comment after comment for about an hour for stories like yours! Rip the band aid! You will be alright! Edit: TRUST and believe there is a lot of shit she’ll be worrying about, its why single moms suck (most) and the statistical disasadvantages kids go through if you walk.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 04:34 AM
3

It’s all of the above. Just end this! Immediately. You will be respected.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 11:33 PM
6

“I dated a girl who wanted nothing to do with my Son” this by itself has more red flags than Communist China sprouting off of it and was a case closed!
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 11:46 PM
6

Let the cheater live with consequences of her choices, they will never live in peace.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 11:26 PM
7

I don’t think it necessarily passes, but it just becomes a part of your reality and you learn to cope. In my case it’s teenagers (14/13) so I don’t fear this other dude imposing his ways or “values” because my kids know EXACTKY who the fuck Dad is and forever will be. For you man, do whateverrr you gotta do to ensure 50/50 custody.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 10:08 PM
1

Cool good for you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 05:33 PM
7

Move on and celebrate on Tuesday with a divorce party.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 03:38 AM
11

It’s definitely not worth your time, it is selfish, immature and stupid. Focus on you and when they are with you. This was one of the things that kept me in a spiral for months. It seems mind blowing, but its not, they all do that! Go through this forum and you’ll see the same topic over and over and over. Pay no attention to what that garbage lil human being is doing, it backfires later.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 06:24 PM
1

He doesn’t have to show her or owe her shit lmao, no OP not this, doing your own thing doesn’t mean you are not moving on or not doing better as a person by “sucking it up” does nothing for you, this comment belongs in r/divorce
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 07:30 PM
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Nope not wrong, you are completely justified in your choices, I was in same situation. Don’t allow the BuT itS bEst For ThE ChilDrEn crowd to guilt you as if nothing ever happened and you just gotta suck it up. Its exactly whay they want for you to break your boundary so they can say, SEE were better friends, its how God or whatever delusion they have meant it to be. F*** that. Edit: Best for children is a healthy, strong, fit, healthy Dad without the bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 04:24 PM
3

Definitelt up in the moment, like wtf!!!! Then I shift to indifference, like meh, whatever. It took A LOT of work!
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 05:05 AM
5

Yes Sir, exactly like this! Definitely don’t discount the moments of down, but the moments of up become more and more.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 04:58 AM
15

Yes I went through it, took about a year to get out of this stage of grief, this forum helped a lot tbh, all the crazy eventually becomes comical.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 02:19 AM
2

The financial devastation is the worst period hands down and i’ll argue with anybody lol (and concede to SAHD’s)
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 07:03 AM
15

Divorce was one of those things that helped me unpack decades worth of realizations like this! You mentioned stepfather, divorce is generational a lot of times too.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 03:55 AM
6

Oh hahaha just registered it 😂
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 09:59 PM
4

You make up your mind and walk!
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 09:54 PM
1

OPs post is just another cope used to justify their behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 08:39 PM
2

Oh shit, this true as hell too lol!
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 01:48 AM
8

I see your perspective and get it… but fuckk no, who they show you and how they leave at the end is EXACTLY who TF they we’re the ENTIRE fkn time dont be fooled.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 01:11 AM
1

WoW!! So much to unpack here… makes me wonder of you were first AP she left the “crazy” ex husband for them she cheated on you… is this a you lose them how you got them?
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 07:23 PM
7

Trust me I get it, but you can’t control her choices and once and the sooner that sinks in for you a flip switches and your life and relationship with kiddo becomes better.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 10:25 PM
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Stop worrying about what she does, giving up time with them is a burden she will carry later! Worry about what you do, the relationship your establishing, plan your own epic trips. You got this. Edit: These decisions they make has long lasting impacts that can’t be seen till wayyy later when our children reject them or a relationship, it bites them in the ass later, its called the long game.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 10:05 PM
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LAWYER UP… PERIOD… CA, TX, SC, WI, NV… if you can afford it…. DO IT…. TRUST ME! Edit: After reading the rest of it.. “Take her to the cleanerss gurlll” in your case King 👑 It’s what she would be advised. Don’t settle for anything less than 50/50 split, be level headed, don’t waste time on hearings CA is community property.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/23 02:56 AM
4

YUP
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 04:00 AM
2

Thank you Sir! I just madeee so many mistakes with this process so when I see men getting caught up in the emotions of scorched earth is just I want to shake them through my phone!!! Like FOCUSSSS 😆
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 05:19 AM
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Scorched earth is stupid and wasteful when there’s state legal guidelines ie: community, equitable or whatever else. Scorched earth is what woman do with their entourage of “take him to the cleaners gurll” attorneys get involved, exploit on the drama, take shit to hearings and trials which drains your bank account and yal end up 50/50 anyway like any good Judge would rule. Save yourself the damn drama, go in to an attorney level headed and cut this piece of shit out of your life as fast as possi…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 03:49 PM
2

Redditors and mods I assume get so pissyyyy when a womans trashbag behavior gets called out its hilarious tbh 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 02:58 AM
3

This is pretty much on point, mods are usually trash in those spaces it seems, then they mute you when you message I was lmao!
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 09:30 PM
3

Yea for real, lol they are such trash.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 09:29 PM
4

I’m always happy to hear stories like this. Im on year two of detachment, divorce about to be finalized that I thank God for, but still naww im good lol.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 03:25 PM
3

Oh Good Grief I don’t know where to fuckin start and I always have shit to say!
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 04:55 AM
2

Yes, these types all become super duper moms 💪🏽 CS $$$
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 04:20 PM
3

Finalizing Oct, but been separated from that slob over a year.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 09:39 PM
4

My parents were the same, Hispanics are awful at showing up unannounced lmao, but I think my Mom caught on to how uncomfortable i’d be when they just showed up and knocked, so she started giving me a heads up like hey were coming into town in a few hours which would catapult me into a cleaning frenzy to make things at least presentable. 😅😅😅 it was hard to mask dog piss smells though 🤦🏽‍♂️ Edit: I did take dogs out when I was home after work lol
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 09:17 PM
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Yup! And trying to have guests over was like an anxiety inducing FML I gotta clean ohhh after work btw, “SAHM” gtfoh bitch was napping all day or “working” her MLM bs.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 08:40 PM
1

So yea wow, where to start… first off sobbing in bed dude come on! … im not saying men shouldn’t cry or show emotion, I have, but like damn, find your balls.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 06:38 PM
1

Nope.. theres caveats if he marries in Texas. So he eventually can!
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 03:12 AM
7

Yes you need to run. Also an idiot 😂
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 03:09 AM
1

I hope its uncovered and they both dump you for the loser that you are, this “WoE is me Move On WIth mA liFe” “im a MoNStER” like someones gonna feel sorry for you aint it!
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 09:56 PM
2

I went through same, I hear you.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 09:48 PM
0

Here ….So at least DV allegations and “emotional abuse” would be legit 😅🤷🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 08:39 PM
7

This is not the forum to get support on an affair or cheating on your wife. You are disgusting.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 08:26 PM
3

Same… how they leave is an olive branch or a burned bridge.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 01:00 AM
6

Correct, this is me but with my stbxw, I wouldn’t spit on her if she spontaneously combusted.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 11:31 PM
10

Every case is different. It depends a lot on how they leave. My hatred is deep rooted where I don’t want anything to have to do with her everrrr again! and im talking weddings, grandchildren time sharing, separate birthdays etc is at play and im happy to know I can give myself that peace. Edit: I control the hate so it doesn’t consume me and I thrive, but the hate is readily available to dish out and make her miserable and accountable for her choices!
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 10:25 PM
2

Yes we are, just here checking in as the unhinged crazy ex 😆
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 05:55 PM
6

Yup! Especially when they come on here with self righteous bs.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 03:19 PM
8

Yea nawww, but ok lol.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 03:17 PM
9

Same lol.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 01:38 PM
1

Oh I know! I re-direct them to r/divorce with more their kind 🤷🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 05:32 AM
1

It’s always so annoying that after so much feedback, common sense comments, real life experience from men etc OP’s of posts like this don’t circle back like “ohh shit, damn ALL you are overall on Target, yea fuck this broad” or something lmao! They probably choose to be off in lala land STILL thinking, there is just something “special” about us and we will make it 💪🏽 we were besties! when in reality very veryy few do reconcile VERY FEW.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 12:58 AM
2

Damn man, hearing stories like this is gut wrenching and eye opening how in the grand scheme of things im blessed that mine went down as kids teens (14/13) are self sufficient, see right through so can’t be as easily poisoned, Im 42 with a full life ahead (not that yours is over of course) I have family support, finances ok’ish through it all, I just couldn’t imagine a gray divorce either. The system just seems to wreac havoc on most men.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 12:23 AM
6

No, you are not! You can give her notice to pick up by (insert date) and documented or it’s going to be dispossed of. Edit: Some simp inevitably, “buT It Wont look GoOd to dA JudGe” or “BuT itS dA MoTHer of Da ChiLDreN” I personally gave no fucks! and nothing happened.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 11:59 PM
2

Yep, I feel exactly like you do, I only have 4 years of CS and I always think, mannn I can’t imagine men divorcing when kids are like toddlers and be tethered to a fkn piece of shit for soooo long!
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 11:18 PM
1

It’s the same story, they want what THEY want, they take no consideration of your time, drive, gas expense, how its unstabilizing, robs you of time with them as if situation wasn’t shit already. You are right in everything you listed, I got to a point with my stbx where it was a NO and take it to a hearing if you want. For example mine wanted them in before and after school care I said NO, im available for them before and after school and i carried on with pick ups, spend time with them and drop…
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 05:11 AM
1

Yea shes an idiot… stand firm.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 05:04 AM
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BIG NOPE Edit: Yes curiosity got me and it became the biggest mistake of my life taking her back, clinged on to hope and all that other “best friend” delusional bullshit going through your head for her to cheat again with same AP. (Unsure if yours cheated). Edit 2: You seeing someone else, exploring possibilities what in the fuck could your ex have to offer! Keep that motherfuckin door shut and don’t SIMP!
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 11:46 PM
9

Well, i’m that guy. Good FUCK HER!
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 06:09 AM
1

You took time to put this much better than I did and why I edited my comment to say this has nothing to do with bio Dad.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 01:06 AM
1

😆
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 11:04 PM
3

Im pretty sure it’s better with kids out the house, but there will always be the shadow of the other man, bio Dad, other dude that had dick up her too, whatever else, just it’s an inevitable presence/existence.. shared birthdays etc, uhhhh no thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 10:56 PM
3

You got this King, I read you signed up to a gym, do it first and foremost for you! They’ll then come flocking to you, weed them out and you PICK a nice SINGLE lady and fkn crush it! Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 10:51 PM
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Im sure you’ll get sympathy comments, but i’ll chuck this to reason #1,465,869 why i’ll never EVER date single mothers, fuckkk that. Edit: This has nothing to do with bio Dad btw!
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 10:38 PM
1

🤣 mISosgyny mUCh
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 01:50 AM
5

It’s something like the other 50% that remain married like 30% of that remain miserable, stay for kids, finances, etc. there was even a further breakdown of the rensining 20% lmao. I should find that article.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/23 01:10 AM
6

Right! TF is so hard to get about this.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 07:04 PM
4

This is the mentality. Your free, and so am I,
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 01:32 AM
8

Same lmfao… but it’s already collapsing, he gon learn you can’t turn a ho into a housewife.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 01:12 AM
19

…and then doing it for someone else to put up a front, until they go back to their ways. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 01:07 AM
4

Doing my best to be gentle cause this has got to suck! But THIS IS the post for I will never ever raise another man’s child/children! Edit: Or date single mothers NOPE Edit 2: If you did do a good job, which sounds like you did your best, one day you will get the response that you want and the time, teenagers are selfish by nature, as someone said fickle, that daughter will have her own kids one day, mature, she will remember who was there. Edit 3: I hope you weren’t first AP, cause STBXW sounds…
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/23 02:59 AM
2

Yep.. and by FAR no debate hands down the BIGGEST MISTAKE of my life! And i’ve done a lot of shit 😅😂
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 06:30 AM
3

Yup! I learned the hard way. I will Never EVER advise another man going through this to ever take them back!
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 04:11 AM
1

Whats RP, FDS?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 12:20 AM
2

I tried different ones too until I clicked with a good one, but in the mean time drunken sessions with friends did wonders as well 😂 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 12:20 AM
2

The last part is precisely why I didn’t even waste time, when people have their mind made up against something you have to leave it where it’s at, kind of like when a woman has made up her mind about leaving because grass is greener. The rest of your post is great though.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 06:28 AM
4

This is a great response and I couldn’t have said it better. It’s not something OP is open to and that’s ok and why I said to each their own.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 06:25 AM
1

Agreed.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 05:57 AM
6

To each their own, therapy helped me, and im still kicking ass.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 05:57 AM
50

She’s gone, she’s dead, the woman you fell in love with is no longer there. DO.NOT.TAKE.HER.BACK.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 03:47 AM
1

Oh I don’t disagree at all, it’s a fucked if you do, fucked if you don’t, i’m now a fucked if I do and file, serve, ghost drag it until done.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/23 02:03 AM
1

THISSSS OP - C E A S E - A L L - S E X U A L - A C T I V I T Y
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 09:40 PM
4

Yuppppp
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 08:20 PM
2

Exactly this….. distance
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 07:52 PM
3

Probably not, but it’s a wrap for mom here in a year when he’s 18, frankly sounds like it’s already a wrap lol…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 07:47 PM
1

Correct!
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 06:13 PM
2

A N D F I L E - A S A P 😬
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 06:12 PM
3

OP you got over 46 comments… are you reading/listening??? I had the red flag first year in… 13 years later its the biggest fuckin mess of my life to untangle with kids, good times!!!
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 06:04 PM
1

Fuck nooo on making nice, there is no reason in this scenario…. he needs out NOW!
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 06:03 PM
3

Like he needs to file for Divorce and Legal Separation ASAP!
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 06:01 PM
3

“Sad part is we ‘both’ still deeply love each other” NO WAKE UP!!!!!! “When I met her she wasn’t materialistic” well now you know her true colors! GTFO LIKE NOW NOW! Edit: oh, and fuck her Dad.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 05:59 PM
1

YUP!
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 03:54 AM
6

Well man, fuck her and her brother cut your loses!
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 02:46 AM
11

My family was ruthlesss they drew a hard line and cut the bitch off like a disease! But were loyal Mexican, blood first so I didn’t have to do anything and couldn’t expect any less 😂 Edit: STBXW tried to sell her side of the story, no one was having it. Period!
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 02:40 AM
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This. I also did not want to pursue the litigation route or someone that promised the moon, I defined my expectations of what the rule of law is in a community state (CA) which was 50/50 across the board and nothing more or nothing less. If the other party wanted more THEY can spend im doing so!
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 01:03 AM
6

…and the worst fuckin thing is that there are probably hundreds and thousands upon thousands X 1000000 of simps just like him allowing this shit, and again why women are getting away with bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 07:09 AM
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I think he deleted profile, but yes why they are fkn stupid and not only that but motherfuckin simps like this is a lot of the reasons why women just go around getting away with bullshit. Edit: The other problem men that take the piece of shit back, and I partook in that and own it, started to get burned woke TF UP and threw it away myself! never again.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 11:06 PM
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W.T.F are you doing dude, Jesusss Christ 🤦🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 09:28 PM
2

WoW.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 04:37 AM
4

For me it is, I cannot speak for you, you get to decide that, for me getting into another relationship, rebuild etc for someone to be like ohhh nevermind! Yea my twin flames over here peace out ✌🏽 ohhh let me take half btw … fuckkk noooo!
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 06:25 AM
9

You are not alone! Trust me… and for me NEVER E.V.E.R again! It’s cheaper to pay for sex if I had to go there! And while im at it… actually cheaper to pay for cleaners, maid, meal prep services, babysitting etc etc etc 😬😂🤷🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 06:18 AM
2

😆 OORAHH! that would be (CF) Chair Force!
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 05:58 AM
8

Def didn’t help 😑😆 that wasn’t the problem, neither was my mental health, military, ptsd, work etc etc etc now sober and happy AF!
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 05:53 AM
19

Ohh and you know … narcissism… once you recognize those behavior traits it’s hard to unsee.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 04:35 AM
5

No, it’s always the husbanda fault!
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 06:16 PM
2

My stbx used my disability against me (Vet) 😂 im like ok you are right, so I quit my job, now im a retired veteran, stay at home Dad just focusing on my mental health, gym, kids and their needs, she has to work.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 01:58 AM
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No. It’s irrelevant. It creates more questions than answers. Real Question here is have you fuckin filed to get rid of this piece of shit out of your life? Edit: I contacted one, you go down a tunnel and waste time so im talking from experience, it did nothing for the process but prolong things.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/23 07:52 AM
1

This. 😂
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 04:47 PM
9

Yep different scenario same damn mistake of taking her back. THIS is the shit men that come on here to post “BuT I LoVe heR, shouLD I giVe her anotHer Chance” aggravates TF out of me like NOOOOOO LISTEN TO USSS HERE once they are gone they are GONE! Reconciliation statistics are horriddd!
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 03:12 AM
2

YUP
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 03:09 AM
3

Of course she would.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 03:49 PM
9

Oh it would fkn piss me off too… like really sherlockkkk TF away from me!
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 03:12 PM
9

Ugh is correct! Another one 😂🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 02:17 AM
4

If you let her control the process yes… but if you man the fuck up NO, you better file and serve immediately to establish residency and jurisdiction. Like FUCKIN LISTEN to everyone here that will say the same! Comment after comment.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 06:29 AM
3

Ok so listen, be a fkn KING and a savage and stick to the divorce! These type of woman cannot change!!! I could have written your post WORD BY WORD! to give you a glimpse of what I went through, I took her back, within months she was cheating again, but came back smarter! I ended up losing everything! Couch surfing with family while she “happily” went back to the same dude to play house with the damn kids. Im no contact forever! And I thank God my kids have overall agency to stay connected cant …
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 11:43 PM
1

NO! Awful idea, but your mind is already made up to give her a chance it doesn’t matter if you get 1000 comments telling you otherwise, you will cling to the hope like I did or the comment that gives you the slightest validation to. Im not going to waste more time, I fucked around and found out… you are too.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 11:28 PM
8

Yes HUGE red flag I missed too, now looking back of course!!! I mean that was like Communist China punching me square in the face red flag. 🇨🇳
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 06:49 AM
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Mine left hers too, she got to fat and they needed to be resized anyway, so engagement ring I chucked out the car window one day, wedding ring/s I threw away, bottom of the ocean now 😆 but that was me. Edit: and im talking resized to like size tire.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 06:38 AM
2

Not ALL the time tbh, but vast majority seem to be insufferable cunts, cake eaters and give me give me give me entitled types.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 05:07 AM
2

Im STiLl HEReE … uhhh ok 👍🏽
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 03:34 AM
5

i saw comment before any comments but held back to see other comments first to check my crazy, NOPE not crazy… I love it when b**** get laughed TF out of this forum 😂😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 02:30 AM
2

Ughh… Get rid of this garbage woman cake eater. Thats it. Edit: and gtfo r/divorce lol that place is garbage.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 02:16 AM
10

I do believe in energy shifts, I had them, just something was always off.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 08:31 PM
1

NOPE
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 02:13 AM
4

This is like a save and bookmark lol it should also be pinned! 😆
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 11:02 PM
2

YES undoubtedly yes a big mistake.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 06:52 PM
1

“Her friends” fuck her friends and what anybody thinks lol.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 05:09 PM
2

It’s exactly what she’s doing, it all ties together and it’s disgusting.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 03:00 AM
6

LoL. She sounds like an idiot. 😂🤦🏽‍♂️ child support only goes back to date of filing 😅 oh good grief.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 10:36 PM
5

I do, I hate her with the heat of 1000 suns! f.o.r.e.v.e.r Do I allow the hate to consume me, no, not at all.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 09:11 PM
3

Yes!!! Exactly and what OP says “im walking away honorably, doing right thing etc etc etc” is what fucks most men over in the first place!
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 09:08 PM
1

LOL who is “they” “they’re waiting”
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 08:25 PM
5

Like GTFO REDDIT NOW!
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 08:19 PM
1

R/divorce is full of trash! 😅😂 I finally got restricted on commenting 🤣🤣🤣 left it a couple times anyway 🖕🏽😆🖕🏽 them!
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 02:22 AM
2

And run with that! Get it on paper asap! Edit: How old are kids?
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 01:03 AM
1

We all do when we get caught up in the emotions of it all because we want to showcase what a piece of shit they really are, trust me, I know! But when you finally detach it’s all standard. Now im unsure of your circumstances and whether you have a criminal record or not, kids involved etc, it’s all standard, if you have an attorney even better. Edit: They know deep down they are a piece of shit! You don’t have to prove it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 01:00 AM
2

I used to get so caught up in the texts, the emails, the but this the but that… One day I was rambling on in a hearing and the Judge said: “Dad, listen, I know you want to be heard, hearings are very time limited and Im hearing you but the topics you are bringing up would be relevant in a trial, by the way Dad we are also in a 50/50 state.” It opened up my eyes so WIDE but in a strange way he made me feel heard and told me without saying I see right through your stbx, and also told me “a trial i…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 12:49 AM
2

It will! And the loss of that income to her is poooffff shit gets real.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 08:59 PM
2

Yep.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 08:56 PM
5

The same plus affairs, grass is greener n stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 02:26 AM
1

As a matter of fact now that I think about it what the fuck is a collaborative group lol
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 08:08 PM
2

Totally agree bro, when the fog lifted I realized I didn’t hate my job or people, I hated my disgusting, leech of a bitch wife and it bled into every aspect of my life. Now I can’t be bothered either!
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 06:47 PM
3

Yea it was bad news for me 😂 damn it hahaha and there can be 1000 of us screaming at OP but in his state of mind, they are different and special and there is hope!
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 06:30 PM
4

😂 it’s all so predictable 😅
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 06:26 PM
4

If you leave the house has she agreed that she will take over mortgage/rent/bills or naaawww your the “man” and your responsibility so she stays comf?
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 06:00 PM
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I just read your headline, I know the rest is the predictable story. Tell her to go kick rocks, better yet don’t even respond, to bad so sad. Edit: ok, I read it, CALIFORNIA SOLO KING! We welcome you! 😅
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 05:29 PM
15

See OP, nobody here gonna give a damn what she thinks, we allll will ask the same .. why are you leaving the house??
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 06:19 AM
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NOPE did nothing wrong. An attorney guarantees she doesn’t walk all over you and manipulate your emotions so she gets everything she wants, that’s what “amicable” means to them lol. Stick to your guns, LISTEN to your attorney and not ANYBODY ELSE! Edit: And why are you moving out? Is there kids? Edit 2: “She’s saying that by talking to a lawyer you don’t trust her” and she is correct DON’T! btw there is somebody in the wings already! Edit 3 lol: NOT A SURPRISING REACTION. Edit 4: She left an add…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 06:15 AM
2

Why is she asking for attorney fees, have you been difficult?
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 07:27 PM
3

I used to be scared lol, just the legal jargon was intimidating by itself, then I just didn’t give a damn Im glad im divorcing in CA to be honest, the numbers just don’t workout for my stbx even for spousal.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 07:20 PM
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Your STBX is crazy AF LoL. Not screwed at all, how long was marriage, please tell me you have an attorney, he should have laughed at her request! Her request is the typical girlfriends, family and toxicity of “take himm to the cleAnersSs gurlll get yoURs.” 🙌🏽 😂
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 07:04 PM
2

No, don’t wish that OP… it makes it worse!!! Just taje her for her word, file and be done!
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 06:24 PM
5

You are right… This is abuse, OP you need to serve her immediately. Mine did the same damn thing and strung me along, “offered” the separation so we have space to figure “ourselves” out meanwhile in an entire whole affair relationship. Im not saying yours is with someone already but don’t be surprised. Get rid of her, you deserve better.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 06:22 PM
3

Good for you! They hate accountability!
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 06:00 PM
3

Lol.. they neverrrr want to do anything with the remaining debt! Mine is doing the same, like she can’t believe debt is split.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 05:51 PM
1

Yea, whatever category, I just know I now have peace.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 11:43 PM
2

LISTEN TO YOUR ATTORNEY!
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 10:04 PM
8

It’s actually not horrible advice lmfao.. why you triggered danggg 😂 HeReS yOur DoWnVote YoU AskEd FoR 😆
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 09:10 PM
1

Lmao.. uhmm NOPE!
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 06:24 PM
1

Dude I like this view! I guess I don’t give a fuck period 😂
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 06:03 PM
3

Rigjt now suck it up, just nod your head to SNCO’s next few days, have attorney draft with you and send a fair custody schedule don’t settle for any less than you can! Im hoping you have support for daycare and can do week on and week off 50/50 bottom line. Once sent she will tweak it im sure but ensure it’s fair. Once signed and agreed fly it up the flagpole. Edut: She’s using the Command Card, they all do that. Use it back!
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 05:59 AM
3

Ahhh a Dependa! And your typical fkn SNCO’s (supervisors) or whatever without a fkn backbone to stand up for you. Don’t worry I had those, but at least I stood up for my troops, good grief! Soooo what you do is whatever official agreement you have in writing, you STICK TO, you give a copy to your command so when she calls bitching they have it in black and white, PREFERABLY official agreement sent to your CO via yoir attorney! Thats what I asked from my troops, it’s what I used to tell Dependas …
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 05:45 AM
3

What your doing wrong is letting her call the shots and walking all over you, Supervisors? TF! YOU ARE THE FATHER! are you reading!!! How old are you? Do you have an attorney?
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 05:34 AM
2

Your fourth choice is to not give a fuck, some call it indifference. Work and focus on YOU.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 04:50 AM
2

Not a joke at all, but also funny, you see, once I stopped giving a fuck what my ex thought, what a mediator thought, what a Judge thought how I would “look” and ONLY gave a fuck what the standard rule of law is in a community state and hired an attorney, shit became so easy, ex couldn’t manipulate me for shit, couldn’t use the kids to try to control me, her life became pretty fkn miserable, and it was great to see. Edit: The pleas from ex to try to work this between us was quite hilarious! She …
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 04:33 AM
2

Ohhh and once you are alright with being the bad guy because you know the truth… its fkn game over for them!
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 01:55 AM
1

My dude, your life is about to change for the better, you just can’t see it yet!!! Heauxxx like these belong in the streets, nothing will ever be enough, e.v.e.r! You have an attorney? Oh… “I don’t want to be the bad guy.” It’s an affair I fkn feel it in my gut! Edit: FOCUS ON YOU who doesn’t deserve THIS…. The four year old will adjust, but take care of you to be the best for her. (Child)
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 01:48 AM
1

My boy is 18 in 45 months (yes im counting 😆) There isn’t a day I don’t reach out, show up in every possible way I can, check in, do things etc to avoid this scenario of OP, at 14 he already sees through mom and boyfriends bs, mom was to late to try and manipulate. Once my boy spreads wings it’s a wrap for Mom and I will have the flip of the switch, I had to focus strategically on the long game. So with OPs son I am having a fuck him too vibe but that’s just Retired Marine me lmao, and why I agr…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 11:32 PM
1

I totally get this, and I usually always agree with you! The boy is a victim, but he is now an adult with agency as well with FULL cognitive abilities to discern bullshit from truth.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 11:23 PM
1

YUP!
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 11:22 PM
1

Oooffff If I had a son ghosting me… My response would be: boyyyy you better fkn figure it out, grown ass man playing Momma ghosting games until i’m needed, just NO! Gtfoh! Can’t pay for College, join the Marine Corps like I did!
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 11:21 PM
1

Thats what they all do, go for “all” of it, until a judge slaps their greedy ass back to reality, im divorcing in CA, my attorney just rolls his eyes at her stupidity, greedyness gets them.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 11:12 PM
5

Oh, completely agree, luckily there was a redditor like you that I finally listened to, wenr no contact, got an attorney and wrapping it up without her bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 04:58 AM
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It’s common, they are insufferable, they have to make us look like the bad guy to justify their shit choices.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 04:25 AM
7

This OP. I can’t even stress it enough OR KNOW HOW TO CONVEY IT BUT: THIS T.H.I.S This OP FILE ASAP A.S.A.P You are now in love with a vision! She’s gone!
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 03:48 AM
3

Im not judging you King, I was too but quickly snapped out of it and started serving the same energy back and just being a dick, guess what she wanted back and NOPE!!!
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 01:31 AM
4

😂 I like the rock bottom visual OP you should laugh too and move it the fuckkk on along.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 01:23 AM
5

Lmfao, I mean everyone has their attachments to stuff, but I burned everything, including her wedding dress, threw engagemen rings away and wedding band,sorry bro, burned every photo physical and digital, but I so fknnnn wish rocks were my problem 😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 01:22 AM
5

Correct! Her new man present or future can take care of that! Edit: I bet present already 😂
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 09:55 PM
2

Period OP… she’s on crack!
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 09:39 PM
3

Not sure who initiated, I mean pretty sure but not 💯 and Don’t worry King, you’ll get past this sappy part to, now get to the part of fuck her!
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 06:42 PM
4

I can’t even wrap my head around even starting to date, so the thought of hitching again and adding responsibilities with more kids, buying a house for more room AGAIN makes me personally cringe lol, however it seems you had a “good” or as good as it could be divorce, and it makes me happy for you. Im curious on replies you get.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 01:24 AM
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Do not delete anything!
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 05:39 AM
5

Your not angry or jealous, just passive and dumb AF. Edit: I was too and then I woke TF up, so not judging you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 08:29 PM
21

You can’t control it. PERIOD! and fkn listennnnnn to the countless men who will tell you the same here. Focus on YOU, your relationship with your kids and thats the FKN.BTTM.LINE! Edit: It’s what made me spiral, and it wasn’t the best outcome, so im not just talking out of my ass.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 06:28 AM
4

He’s gonna stay hero lol.. look at comments he engages with “My RoCk BotTom” wtf ever with some of these dudes.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 05:53 AM
5

Yes she would, it’d be “amicable” n stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 04:32 AM
2

Like wtf aren’t men getting!!!
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 03:43 AM
20

You’d be crazy and i’ll add stupid if you settle for anything less than 50/50 all around house and everything.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 12:29 AM
1

OP is getting shit, I get it, I started to go through it and just NOPE, cut it off asap! This through divorce, I know it would carry after NOPE!
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 05:02 AM
1

Is he? Lol, what did you do?
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 04:34 AM
3

Im going to go on a limb and assume you got the “LeTzS be FrANdS” and you accepted! Dude, look at the feedback, soak it in, this is embarrasing just delete it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 04:22 AM
3

*who IS controlling the situation for her benefit.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 04:20 AM
10

I just don’t get it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 10:27 PM
3

You could be couch surfing at your parents for a year like I did 🤣 so you way ahead, so that should push the remaining 15% lol
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 05:46 PM
4

Hands down 3 my man! wisest move!
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 05:38 PM
1

Yes start the clock no matter where you are, it’s the best thing my ex could have done 😂 cause she didn’t know what the fuck to do after, took me retaining an attorney to finish it. She thought it was a flex move or something.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 02:49 AM
17

Good for them!!! They’d be getting a divorce like right about now! 😅
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 10:28 PM
7

Oh I feel you, and my life was destroyed! but im on the come up and will have no fuckin mercy!
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 09:56 PM
2

I had to step back and read your post with logic of where you are coming from, initially reading it the way it landed was excusing their shitty behavior and what they (not all) do to us, however I agree with you to an extent, it is human nature to get on the defensive and yes WE start doing shit in reaction to their choices and then vilified for it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 08:40 PM
9

And additionally feel emboldned by this other man to stand up for them because of twin flame stuff or something like that… Edit: Then the entourage of friends with you go gurllll applauding and enabling their shitty behavior, said friends mostly divorced or with failed relationships. 😆 Edit 2: Additionally they KNOW family law and system is skewed in their favor more often than not, all they gotta do is scream the DV, victimhood, woe is me, emotional abuse yada yada yada.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 08:18 PM
3

I want to comment so bad on all the pitfalls and reasons why you should proceed with divorce attorney but your mind is made up and it would be projecting my experience onto you, your fkn around and going to find out, I wish you luck! Edit: I did the same NO MATTER WHAT ANYBODY WOULD TELL ME. In my mind I was VuLnErAble, SpECisl, we were in it to win it 💪🏽 I ended up couch surfing an entire year 😆😆😆 Edit 2: AT the very least get an official legal separation.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 05:44 PM
2

He is going to!
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 05:39 PM
2

Yup.. ask me! 🤦🏽‍♂️😆
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 05:38 PM
9

Yes normal, sounds like pure bliss!
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 01:22 AM
6

Im going to assume she bombed the marriage, if so protect the children and fuck her! Just my opinion, I would have no mercy! Edit: Take full custody
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 01:11 AM
0

😂
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 12:06 AM
11

I been mostly left leaning lmfao… sorry couldn’t resist 😆😆😆
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 11:19 PM
9

You are so fresh out of it and I get it, I felt same when I started no-contact. Now I don’t even think about her and divorce isn’t even done yet… so here’s to your healing and your come up and your eventual mannn fuck her! It will come 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 08:18 PM
2

Yep…. DoNt W ALl JuSt Want To bE LoVed.. NOPE! gtfoh 😂
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 09:52 PM
9

Nope, not anymore, this hopeless romantic bullshit is what got me to the deepeat darkest lowest place I almost didn’t come back from. 😂 I love my damn fuckin self and it’s what gotten me where I am now 😂 im healing, doing better than ever, great relationship with my kids, do whatever and whoever I want.. Edit: Also in therapy before anyone suggests it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 09:50 PM
3

Good for you man! And baby steps is an understatement!!! It is incrediblyyyyy frustrating, I had to dig every ounce of patience with divorce process and when dealing with an entitled stbx is oooffff…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 07:17 PM
1

The path is already bad for you, you are outnumbered, passive and cautious (nice) I would have blown their ass up by now ALL OF THEM but thats me 😅
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 05:54 PM
4

Yep!
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 05:50 PM
1

Feeling bad for the kiddos is what kept me stuck in the cycle of toxicity! Once we separated, I grieved, hit the gym, started focusing on myself! Now im in shape, read, reconnect with friends, picked up hobbies my relationship with my kids is 100x better and get taken care of 100x better… the kids saw me rise and now see the origin of toxicity vs “Daddy has issues” they were being fed.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 05:33 PM
2

Not sure if you are married or divorcing/divorced but back then I said the same 😅
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 04:31 AM
26

This! And never EVER on my knees again, to ask or beg a bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 12:50 AM
3

YUP! This… it’s where I fucked up and should have fuckin destroyed her and fuck that “ThE MoThER of YouR ChilDreN” bullshit I kept on getting fed, I should have left her in the streets where ahe belongs, alas a huge lessssonnn learned to never ever fkn entangle myself and “Marry”
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 06:27 PM
5

I should have listened to my fuckin mother 😭😆😆
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 11:24 PM
25

At least not anywhere! Lol
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 11:22 PM
2

I stopped giving a shit what an attorney or a Judges opinion was especially with child support where its a black and white state formula, for me if it wasn’t court ordered I wasn’t giving shit. For example I was giving my stupid ass idiot around $3200 a month, once I stopped the gravy train and shook out child support officially my CS numbers officially became $1475 a month, even the judge aknowledged I was giving to much, he even imputed her fat ass for 40 hours a week at minimum wage, he saw r…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 10:46 PM
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Of course she blames you… she’s trash just like mine 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 good for you
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 09:58 PM
2

Yes this… Once one gets over the “fear” of what some bitch ass Judge thinks, it’s a wrap amd it’s on 😆
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 09:03 PM
2

Correct… With a baby and even child/ren as young as 8 and overall the impressionable years 50/50 is ABSOLUTELY the hill to die on!
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 05:41 PM
3

Don’t be sorry lmao… she the one that is fucked!
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 06:26 AM
3

Im sure it wasn’t, you have the patience of a Saint… I lasted bout two weeks and blew shit up 🤣🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 06:05 AM
3

First successful story I hear around this topic… its a huge risk! Im happy AF for you! Hang tightttt 😂 you got this!
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 04:30 AM
2

I know, I keep up with your posts whenever you engage. The delusion of grass is greener always flops and backfires. Im happy for you!
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 03:54 AM
2

OP This and ONLY FUCKIN THIS! Edit: OP the path you are taking “makes sense” because well were logical and looking for best outcome and your special and yals relationship is/will be different, but no offense you are taking an atom bomb and muktiplying it by 1000 Edit 2: Oh, I was special, now im couch surfing, guess who has the kids?
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 02:15 AM
1

Of course 💰 lmao… mine did the same and got away with it, but struggling like mtfkr now 😆😆😆 me im doing epic shit and enjoy kids.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 02:12 AM
0

Wtf right 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 11:29 PM
7

Agreed! hence the no common fkn sense, consideration or regard of her choices, so keeping it “mysterious and deep” is better so she doesn’t face consequences.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 07:27 PM
3

Yup
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 07:02 PM
5

🤣🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 06:52 PM
9

Cue in “Yasss Qwween” from her
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 06:48 PM
39

No, they’re just idiots with no common sense, that want to sound mysterious and deep.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 05:41 PM
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50/50 period, hands down, no questions asked, stbxw can go pound sand, work less, be involved. Edit: Oh, she can get a fkn job too.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 05:35 AM
3

Yes, it was exhausting, so im just a fkn dick now, which keeps her and boyfriend quiet and shut the fucked up!
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 03:05 AM
2

😅😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 12:53 AM
2

Very true actually! Lol
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 12:28 AM
1

It’s what I look forward to this second year 😆
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 09:50 PM
2

I don’t take offense, it’s my opinion you have yours.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 04:45 PM
1

Good for you.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 06:48 AM
9

Lmfao of course they care about that $$$$
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 06:04 AM
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Good in doing what’s best for you! But harddd fkn NO for me and I guarantee many. I took an entire year to master being by myself and that was powerful, perhaps the hardest thing i’ve ever done. This next year I might search, I might not, if I find someone/something I know what im willing to accept and what im not. Your alternative perspective is a recipe for disaster proven by the second relationship divorce rates and the well known rebound failures the risk is to high and advice I would never …
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 06:01 AM
4

Please update when you file so we can cheer! 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 03:02 AM
2

This would be my line in the sand!
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 03:02 AM
8

E.V.E.R OP 😅
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 09:38 PM
2

NOPEEEEEE don’t lose that 50/50
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 08:00 PM
11

She can kiss your fkn ass and fight you in court, that move would not be in their best interest period, do what you can to pay an attorney so that beyotch can go pound sand and put in her place. If you play your cards right you got this. Good luck OP! She can gtfo out of yals life, move to CA and SHE can visit, fuck her and don’t be punked or intimidated! Edit: oh, and update us when you win so we can celebrate with you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 07:35 PM
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They count and think they going to do whatever TF they want until an attorney is involved, mine panicked when I hired, she knew going pro se she could not bias a Judge with her God Damn tears, an attorney makes it black and white.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 09:34 PM
14

Mine looks like Mama June, I been looking like a snack. 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 06:29 PM
6

Bitch. F*** her I hope you doing better than ever!
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 06:26 PM
9

Omg! 😂 not funny but WOW!
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 06:18 PM
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Fuck her 😅🤣🤣🤣 these insufferable hesuxxx I swear. Hard NO OP! Boundaries
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 12:11 AM
1

It was to late for my ex to influence, I had been a primary for four years already, so when I gave them to her, my boys were to attached to me, they 14/13 they know whats up.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 09:53 PM
1

YUP
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 09:47 PM
8

If you had other plans and she knew about them, take your kid on your parenting time, and she can go pound sand, fuck what anybody thinks.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 09:46 PM
1

Yup 😂 its what I did and kids kept reaching out. Not sure how old your kid is, mine are teens.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 09:44 PM
1

Bo, I know the family hes csmoing with, very close, I know what he wants, And why I asked if its what the kid wants.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 09:39 PM
2

Omfg…!!! Fuck man thats insane!
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 09:39 PM
1

I never fought (was about to) she wanted full physical, I said ok 👍🏽 she got tired 😂🤣😂 now its balanced.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 09:33 PM
1

I just had my kid ask me if he could go on a camping trip, he was asking cause he knew it was my weekend, I said of course you can! grant it it wasn’t my Birthday, but even if it was I would have. Is it what the kid wants?
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 09:30 PM
1

Lol no worries man, you sound like you know your worth leave her with the rat fuck and the dumpster fire of hers. Theres hundreds of thousands of woman out there that are worth a shit.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 08:40 PM
1

I did read of course… “The only reason I would is so…” is entertaining it. Again no offense, carry on.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 08:33 PM
2

Nooooo… and you are entertaining it and its sad no offense.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 08:19 PM
2

That was me brother, I get it! Now I have to share them with “mom” which is ok in and of itself but I know who she is, not who she painted herself to be, its comical.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 03:23 AM
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I’ll do it for you, Its a gloriousss I told you so! I bask in great stories like this, they sound like absolute trash 😁 keep kicking ass King.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 02:26 AM
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Not only that, she would have introduced already!
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 04:35 PM
2

I know just when I think i’ve read everything!
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 02:17 AM
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They all do that! Relax man, you can’t control that behavior and it will send you spiraling like it did me, and ohhh I spiraled 🍻 😅 be the stable one, as long as kids aren’t harmed, it all backfires on them, believe a lot of us here. Edit: Yes you have a right, process it, feel the feels, let it pass! YOU CAN’t control it!
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/23 02:26 AM
3

Yup, totally agree!
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 07:09 PM
6

LoL, ok im not crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 03:31 AM
6

Same 😅
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 12:22 AM
3

YUP
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 02:50 AM
3

I was jaded for a long time, I was projecting my own issues onto others here, at times I still do. It has taken me a solid year to be on healing side of things, Im no contact with my ex, it’s just the way things went down. For you just be careful, be wary more often than not staying friends keeps us strung along with hope and its most often to the benefit of the person leaving, have boundaries, you are going to be ok. Mine is as UGLY as it can get but i’ve survived.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 07:54 PM
5

Bro once you are past the shock that it’s really gone down, it is amazing!
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 07:44 PM
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Yup. I had the same thought and a physical cringe reaction, same old story, same old bs. Im not ragging on Op, but theres just always soooo much more than “I just don’t feel in love anymore” that didn’t spring up out of nowhere, I bet if he digs at LEAST an EA is unearthed. Edit: She is no longer a friend but a coparent and he can just be civil, just can’t see it yet!
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 07:42 PM
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This Op! This is where we get stuck and people say whats a judge going to think, I learned to say fuck the bitch ass judge and I cut everything off, it’s where these heauxxx take advantage of the gravy train and drag it out. When I cut everything off all of a sudden it’s let get this done because CS and Spousal support hinges on the process, now TWO years later I finally hired an attorney to wrap it up, put a bow on it and bye byeeee Felicia 👋🏽 ✌🏽 Edit: Attorney is not wasting ANY time we are dr…
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 04:10 AM
2

I went no contact (even with kids) third party communication, had no time to entertain her bullshit. Additionally it was fueled by her boyfriend so I fuckin dared her to make shit worse, she knew better. With you and evidence if its solid evidence I would file myself and anytime she comes to YOUR house now she can bring a civil standby.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 02:19 AM
9

Yes and it seems they all or at least most do this when they leave.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 02:12 AM
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Stand your ground, don’t give a flying fuck! You are right! Edit: This custody exchange location is an unintended consequence of her bullshit and now have her eat shit by sticking with it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 12:19 AM
1

Yup!
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 10:42 PM
5

Absolutely this and it’s what the wayward spouse man or woman forget! That the truth surfaces and that kids grow up then develope autonomy and agency to really figure out what really transpired!
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 03:39 PM
1

This OP fuck her Dad and hes brood and what they think!
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 11:54 PM
1

This period OP!!!!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 10:12 PM
9

Mine absolutely do, like you my kids were getting the “Dads not sending any money” but they know.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/23 09:14 PM
1

Well thats your experience and sounds like it sucks for you, maybe your lawyer did suck I don’t know. I did what works for kids and what they wanted, they are happy and works for me.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/23 05:12 PM
1

Ohh yea totally get this too.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/23 04:24 PM
4

You didn’t lose everything King, It feels that way, we are parents for the rest of their lives! Now im going to assume you were an efficient SAHD (were you?) your daughter will discern the difference between you and mom, believe it! Don’t wallow in sorrow or feel sorry for yourself, get creative with how you manage your quality time with your daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/23 06:12 AM
1

Yea totally agree, and trust me I believe 50/50 is good but when you’re dealing with an idiot other parent, the back and forth of kids with their stuff (mine hate it) something has to give, i’m happy to see my kids daily and its my dynamic of being a present DAILY force, overnights mean nothing to me besides child support reduction and thats whatever.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/23 05:32 AM
3

Damn man that’s crazy, what state? Mine was chomping for that spousal support but it’s not going to happen for her. Numbers just don’t work in her favor.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/23 05:01 AM
6

Exactly, my boys are already hinting at moving in with me later.. in their words “lets just be patient Dad” 😅
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/23 04:26 AM
14

Bahahaha she is so fucked if you play this right! Good for you King!
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 08:53 PM
10

This too OP
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 06:25 PM
4

This OP!
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 06:24 PM
6

Why are you even there in the first place?
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 03:48 AM
3

Absolutely, and I identified I was a codependent and trauma bonded as well, not anymore though!!!
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 03:24 AM
3

Its crazy man, I did push back on therapy for a while, like naw I don’t need it, I “got” this, we just need this etc. but at end of day therapists validated allll my red flags about her and my own, it was freeing. I love therapy now lol
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 03:20 AM
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LoL, yes I was the one that was unstable, etc etc etc and needed therapy, boy was she right 😅😂 it opened up my eyes! Now im happily divorcing!
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 02:24 AM
9

NTA… and let me guess you did therapy and she didn’t?
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 02:18 AM
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GET YOURS KINGGGG TAKE HER TO THE CLEANERS… it’s what her entourage would say or something like that 😅 Edit: Im retired military, of course she went for the bennies!
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 05:36 PM
3

PERIOD!!!
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 05:31 PM
5

Debts are split, so for example I pay 17K in status quo private school for two kids, she owes me 1/2.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 02:56 PM
2

Pretty much, mine didn’t understand the longer she dragged it the more it benefitted me, because eventually she owes me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 02:20 PM
2

😂 same
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 03:22 PM
11

I’ve posted about the clusterfuck that page is lol
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 04:28 AM
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Men Going Their Own Way
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 04:27 AM
4

This.period!
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 10:43 PM
5

I went through this as well, and honestly hindsight I know it sounds jacked up but it kind of helped me get over the divorce trauma hump and anger I was misdirecting, I see them more now, have a better relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 11:31 PM
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S.E.P.A.R.A.T.E is an underststement.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 05:31 PM
1

Lmao! the insufferable OP 😅
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 03:59 AM
8

Prenup, better yet don’t, get a truck a dog thats more loyal so you start where a lot of us on here ended at 😅 No but for reals a clearly defined prenup should be enough, but even then those are disputed precisely for the pedestal you talk about.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 03:42 AM
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Yup!!! 🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 02:15 PM
14

LIKE ASAP OP….. like gtf off reddit and file asap!
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 03:17 AM
1

I do agree.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 03:01 AM
4

AT LEAST!
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 11:53 PM
1

Ok thats good in a sense, I don’t know man don’t just write everything off.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 07:43 PM
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If I was to start dating a woman that disclosed your history it would be an immediate peace out, i’ve learned the hard way!!! once a cheater always a cheater. So much to unpack here and im trying not to come off as a troll and just rude so i’ll reserve more thoughts as to what I think.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 07:03 PM
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-Nobody cares about #1 -YOU.NEED.AN.ATTORNEY this woman is walking al over you trying to play the guilt card, period. Edit: If she makes more, get your spousal support to really throw a wrench in negotiations, you port then you get spousal support, simple. Im curious on other takes though.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 03:41 AM
1

Exactly this, but it’s logical.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 09:53 PM
1

Yea your right 👍🏽
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 09:50 PM
1

Good God men are stupid, we do it to ourselves, while this right up there I have seen worst ideas though (And proposed them myself until they backfired)
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 05:52 PM
5

Is this a GF ex or Divorce Ex? if GF ex this is not the place we will ruin you! And we probably should lmao, lets start with your age?
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 06:11 AM
2

Well theres your answer my man!!!
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 02:20 AM
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Dude, forget them, my question is why TF are you even hanging out/around them? I could never lol Edit: Im sure theres a reason, to each their own and not judging you either.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 12:24 AM
2

Exactly! Just be done. You say she’s already alienated kids, any man OR woman that does this is frankly just nasty! am wondering though, if YOU needed to rent the house for the kids do you think she would? OR would she want to sell, take the money AND the kids?
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 12:05 AM
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Boundaries, define them, enforce them, I personally wouldn’t even let her knock on my door. Are you all up in her business? Have you met every sitter?
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/23 10:23 PM
1

Stop feeling like a horrible person, embrace it! because you are, the cringe is off the charts on this one and this reddit site is probably not the place to come seek validation “woe is me, im so awful.” What you exoecting from most of us a “nawww broo, you good, go live your best life.” Or something. Gtfoh
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/23 10:20 PM
2

Ohhhh then theres that too! It was suggested on here previously.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 09:15 PM
1

I havent ventured into FB land haha but I bet it’s a good chuckle. Someone else said same with r/custody not being to bad, I scrolled main page and I agree, I think I just engaged wrong posts maybe or dumb users.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 06:24 PM
2

Oh nice I didn’t know it existed, thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 05:45 PM
3

Hey there, yes I overall agree with r/custody maybe it’s some of the posts i’ve interacted with. Def the vibe in r/childsupport though. Either way, men should follow it, there is insight and more often than not a lot of men just remain ignorant.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 04:54 PM
2

First of all if he rents shes saying he wouldn’t have to pay her alimony, second no one is forcing her out, it’s part of the divorce process with division of assets so each party can move on, third an eviction WOULD be forcing her out with two kids that would not be favorable and in my opinion fuck what the courts think at that point it’s what the kids see (depending on age) fourth she can have a carousel of men in her own place and set that example for kids but not in Dads house. OP: Sell and s…
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 02:21 PM
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NOPE. Even if she can afford it, can she? Im guessing no since alimony is clearly on the table! Either way It keeps you entangled, lets say she can’t make a payment, then what, your on the hook and its money out of your pocket because “BuT Im ThE moThEr of ThE ChilDren” if theres children, so many scenarios and you leave out circumstances of divorce too, this is an “amicable” scenario because it serves her, until it doesn’t.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 05:57 AM
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🙋🏽‍♂️ yea that WAS me 😂 learned the hard way no matterrrr how many horror stories I read on Divorce Men lmbo clearly im on the healing side of things where I can laugh now but holy shit what a ride and eyes WIDEEE OPEN!
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 12:33 AM
2

You are correct, he’s basically telling OP to fuck around and find out. I fucked around and found out myself when I could have simply left that trash in the streets.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 11:26 PM
1

True with your aside because I would jump on a deed of variation precisely so my stbx keeps her grubby hands off 😅 just being honest. *Not an attack OP lol, just facts, but not sure how inheritances work in Englans, If inheritances are considered marital property then i’d take my 1/2 too.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 07:33 PM
8

You’re not just a bail guy, but she is 🚩 🚩 🚩 everywhere! 😂
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 02:07 AM
3

YUP
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 02:03 AM
1

Were in divorce men, so for me just best for him and f*** her, but I respect your opinion.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 11:48 PM
3

Based off his post, it’s actually most fair to HIM to pull the trigger and not be tied to this teenage woman child, so she can move on and tie a sucker down and HE can live happily ever after.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 11:01 PM
3

THIS!!!!! lol
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 10:58 PM
4

There is noooo getting on the same page with the woman being described, it’s like a common theme with divorces, we need to swiftlyyyy change the norm of woman initiating, I wish more men woke the fuck up!
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 10:58 PM
6

Exactly this!
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 06:32 PM
28

Men waking up before bringing kids into mix, PERFECT! Go for it, you won’t regret ridding yourself of this anchor. File and update us.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 06:32 PM
13

Its f*** insane man… like my stbx literallyyyy thought she was gonna wander off into LaLa Land with a boyfriend and keep a provider 😂😅😂😂😂 Judge: M’am, there is a presumption of Law that upon dissolution, both parents provide equally, im imputing your income” Me internally: DUHHHHHHHH 😅
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 05:03 AM
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Without even reading: She’s delusional 😆 ok let me read now. Edit: I was correct, delusional demolish her and focus on kids, if shoes were reversed she wouldn’t even flinch to f*** you over!
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 03:34 AM
1

Agreed!
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 05:04 AM
7

NOPE… The law does not gaf what you did, what she did, sell, untangle yourself, move forward and focus on you for kids. This was a control tactic of my stbx “but the kids’ “what will the kids think” “But Im tHE MoThER of YoUr ChILdrEN” guess what the law dgaf! Edit: Btw, my relationship with kids is stronger and better than ever!
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 09:49 PM
1

So if there was no custody battle no appointments? I’d personally happy if my ex did this (she doesn’t) I end up having to do it but its not for a Judges pat on the back, please don’t take it personal, I was going down the custody battle path but nothing good comes out of that. Once I stepped back I just continued parenting as I was with or without her, the kids will see who shows up.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 03:38 PM
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No! In this post you have what every man would kill for, the home, the custody, the monitored comm, etc. Has she done self work, introspection, maybe, if so keep it amicable and civil.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 03:46 PM
1

YUP!
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 03:12 PM
2

They will think you abandoned, at least the seed or thought will cross their mind that seed will be watered by what sounds to be mom. This is a hard one. Edit: I had to come back, your using your job to justify, is your job not available to where you are close to them, is GF from East Coast? if so, then yes you are in fact leaving them for a woman. (Not judging) just it seems your looking for validation of some sort and post is vague-ish. You don’t even bring up long distance custody! What effor…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 05:06 AM
3

It always is their undoing, mine did the same did and said everything dirty for me to get EOW… Judge blessed it, I didn’t, I told her “want them most of the time, have them ALL OF THE TIME”, because I see them more with visitation, they teens and reach out on their own every single weekend to hang out so I hang out, whats Mom gonna do say no 😂😂😂 now b**** is struggling, I get my daily fix of seeing them and carry on happily. She don’t know what the fuck to do! Edit: Yes I pay the Child Support, …
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 12:18 AM
1

Correct! And then it gets poppinnnn 😂
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 05:50 AM
20

That whole thread and comments is apallinggggg w.t.f 😅
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 01:54 AM
3

Get rid of this trash OP. Thats it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/23 03:36 PM
3

Regardless, NEVER AGAIN ANYWAY 😂
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/23 04:11 AM
3

I felt this to my coreeee stay true to yourself brother, like you I had multiple jobs, still pay everything kids just ughhh . Semper Fi to myself going forward cause people are shit.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/23 02:59 AM
1

YUP!
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 04:27 AM
4

Same, don’t simp like I did, it f**** me over even more…. File so she knows you are not playing, follow through and DROP HER LIKE ITS HOTTTT!!!! This point forward choose YOURSELF for focus on the kids… this woman is about to take you to the deepest darkest hole you could never imagine.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 07:18 PM
2

Because she knows hes responsible for the bills. So shes dragging it and taking advantage of his kindness and counting on him staying in the fog.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 03:55 PM
7

You don’t need her mtfkn permission to divorce, you live in limbo because you want to, take control and file immediately offer a fair MSA to part ways and default judgement. She sounds like a fkn cake eater.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 02:18 AM
3

Curious too… 👀
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/23 04:16 AM
1

THIS… and oh boy if I could go back and counsel myself too! 🤦🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 08:37 PM
1

Your are correct in your assessment, I witnessed four hearings before mine and the Dads were non represented too but getting slaughtered! I could feel the intimidation and hesitation to speak their mind. I have experience manhandling higher ranking officers from Military experience as a SNCO so for me a judge is a nobody that just writes my orders based on facts amd numbers and if I don’t like them I come right back to appeal. I kept wanting to step in for some of these Dads man it was sad AF.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 05:18 PM
1

I agree with this, but I don’t see it any different than moms getting favoritism through the garbage Family Law system that is clear to all. So if a Judge is gonna lean to my side for anything i’ll take it! I will point out that when I presented my case I wasn’t loking for Vet bias. I said your honor this is black and white, heres what I make, heres the extra I do, now do your thing and he did!
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 04:46 PM
4

These heauxxx are scandalous. I ended hearing with, your honor thank you for your time and listening, My attorney will finish this, he asked who my attorney was, So I gave name.. Judge is like ohhh I know him, great choice, my stbx burst into tears and literally wimpered I need an attorney too your honor 😂😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 03:50 AM
3

Hell yeah brother! My stupid stbx used everything against me PTSD, alcoholism, mental health all her issues projected onto me, everything is back firing spectacularly!
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 03:19 AM
13

I bet nothing but going to wait lol… someone is lined up, I just feel it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 08:19 PM
2

This without a ahadow of a fuckin doubt!
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 07:38 PM
1

FUCKKK HER….! 50/50 across the board nothing more nothing less! And take her to the cleaners if you can for all of us that got screwed 😅! She would without hesitation.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 02:11 AM
2

😂😂😂 Similar income here what was your outcome??
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 01:19 AM
2

YUP
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 08:48 PM
2

I will save and reply to this in a few years, I think about a decade.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 08:14 PM
3

You did NOT drive her to shit!!! Don’t do this to yourself and snap out of it asap! Semper Fi! Edit: and get rid of this fkn Dependa asap, find yourself worth! Its there, trust me! Oorahh!
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 08:04 PM
1

These insufferableeee fkn heauxxxsss just don’t stop. Why im staying single and never again!
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 06:45 PM
11

E.V.E.R again.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/23 05:36 PM
1

Sometimes you have to!
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/23 06:19 PM
5

Oh FFS
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 12:34 AM
1

WoW… so much to unpack!!! LoL! Go for it OP! Im rooting for you. Whats women say “You are not responsible for his happiness” “go libe your life gurlll” or something like that… trust and believe if tables were turned you’d be dropped faster than you could blink! I want to see a win for you and update!
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 04:15 AM
4

LoL. Sounds like whats going on is juvenile AF! it’s written all cutesy… she was cruel the way she cut him off… so keep fucking around and find out… love yourself first, have some damn self respect. Theres hundreds and hundreds of good woman out there to be simping on this one that walked out on you and now walking all over you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 03:16 AM
1

“Codependent hope” is your answer—— NO, file
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/23 02:09 AM
2

This! And you’ll see the true colors come out, woman and their lil circles know the longer you stay the more you will owe! Also do not leave marital home!
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 10:13 PM
7

F.I.L.E like now now!!! Fuck finding someone to value you, taka a year to yourseld and love yourself first!
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 10:11 PM
1

YUP!!!!!!!!!!!!! OP 👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 05:58 PM
1

FOR.DAMN.SURE
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 03:55 PM
2

Hi there are you me! Lol Im no longer waiting.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 03:48 PM
5

You wanting to check sex offender stuff is normal, it’s logical, makes sense. I did the same.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 12:09 AM
3

EXACTLY.THIS
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 02:15 AM
1

Separate rooms!
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/23 05:51 AM
3

LoL… “she’s willing” and I bet it’s “amicable” my dude I think theres enough comments.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 02:36 AM
2

Wtf… just leaving this alone.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/23 01:56 AM
2

Yup! I feel this entire post… And I can’t stand motherfuckers especially married people with time will heal BS, when they don’t understand the depth of the entire thing. Time might heal things but for me the deep rooted hate will always be an underlying emotion !
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/23 11:32 PM
14

Like what the fuck with these men of I don’t know where i’ll be living and bull!!! My stbxw suggested my move out, im like mtfkr I pay the bills, the rent, etc etc etc you better go pound sand and HARD! Then I proceeded to move her shit into the guest room, new lock for MY master bedroom and well she eventually left with AP 🤷🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/23 05:40 PM
7

Thats what I mean, SHE wants the divorce, I just have a gut feeling wants the easy access, not with you but the benefits of you in a way, a different have her cake and eat it too, in my case amicable was everything that beneffitted my stbxw until it didn’t and things wildly took a turn 🥴🤣😂
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 06:29 AM
8

The red flags all over this. Im not even going to start. But following for others perspectives.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 05:17 AM
3

This much better, in my case If I could move across the globe I would 😂 so across town works.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 04:21 AM
19

This is weird, a perfect set up, easy access, babysitting, no half way meet ups, hey can you fix this, car issues, mow the yard, etc etc etc… and then the boyfriend or girlfriend steps in akward! don’t know yals dynamics and if amicable or not, sounds great for the kids, but for me its the physical manifestation of “lets be friends” 😂 in my case hellllll no!
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 04:02 AM
1

This! I was the same, until I wasn’t enough calling her bs out!
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 12:34 AM
8

Outstanding…. The hindsight luck was not having kids with her, that would have changed EVERYTHING!
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 05:53 AM
7

Covert control using the children.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 02:19 AM
2

Kids do start seeing, its sad but its also validating in a sense. I’ve always hated the “kids are resilient” they are resilient because they can’t process the nuking of the rest of their life until THEY alone have the cognitive dissonance and piece it all together, my stbxw doesn’t get it won’t be favorable for her and AP oh well!
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/22 06:36 PM
3

Thissss! The DGAF! Especially the end with son not wanting to be smothered by mom, theres a huge shift once 14 hits! It becomes about the Dad, they start figuring things out, i’m sure my son won’t be running to mom for relationship advice while in an adulterous relationship herself, its comical. My stbxw is crazy like this being the “protective” parent gtfoh im letting testosterone kick in 😅
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 05:21 PM
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This is what I consider the long game, I think so many men get caught up in the fight of the custody battle, the anger that consumes you all the emotions dont get me wrong I got stuck in it myself but very very shortly and then I snapped into future outlook,. They lose in the end. Edit: Howeverrr what did help me the most is that my kids are teens, overall autonomous at 14/13 soon and see right through things so theres no fighting about facetimes or calls nor a concern that they’d be brainwashed…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 03:22 PM
3

Yes this!
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/22 08:00 PM
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Don’t need luck, but thanks. This gon go a few more months and you’ll see my update.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/22 06:40 PM
0

Everything is proveable beyond a shadow of a doubt.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/22 06:38 PM
0

Bro, every case is different again im not worried, trust me… living conditions alone are 600sqft apt with two teenagers, an AP, two dogs and a cat, kids failing school, missing medical appointments, dental appointmemts, mental health, no sports, not status quo… oh and broke… its a long list. Is temp custody you couldn’t change your experience? Just curious. Not to mention kids are at an age where they can chose. Theres nothing more permament temp orders unless you stop fighting..
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/22 06:22 PM
-2

It’s to late for that. Trust me, shes lost.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/22 05:22 PM
1

We both arent represented, its temp custody this hearing will dictate the need for an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/22 05:16 PM
1

Ok, im a Marine so im already going in pretending im a confident backbone of the Marine Corps Sgt speaking to a SgtMaj or a Commanding officer 😆✅
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/22 10:08 AM
1

Yea lol.. whatever
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 05:24 PM
2

She don’t want to get on it lol its ok judge will make her.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 02:39 AM
1

It’s whats gonna make her and AP fuckin wake up. They gave me a were not talking to you but in court.. im like ok, let me grant your wish!
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/22 02:31 AM
2

Im there. She keeps threatening only talking in court, well lets go then!
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/22 01:49 AM
1

Oh im not spending that much. Just a good litigator to get it done the fastest way possible.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/22 12:04 AM
1

Its kind of the mentality im at. Ive tried everything.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/22 12:01 AM
2

I hear you brother, im in the art of war mentality because im looking for equality and my rights. She is in the fight to cause more pain mentality, not me, going scorched earth legally is what will get her to calm the fuck dowm.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 09:45 PM
8

CORRECT!!! and she thinks I wont go there!
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 06:42 PM
2

Im there, don’t want to burn money but im not rolling over. This is crazy 😆 like w.t.f
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 06:34 PM
1

I have always heard this, I didn’t want it to get to this, but there is no amicability when you put an AP in the middle of my communication and kids like gtfoh!
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 06:22 PM
3

Oh theres plenty bad, trust me, but overshadowed by good. Got consultation scheduled, she’s actually the one that has more to lose here, and in reality, its the kids that lost! Fkn ughhh such an idiot.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 06:18 PM
2

I wasn’t tryimg to get into debt, but i’ve come to a point where enough is enough this been going on for a year 1/2… I need a bulldog attorney which I have a consultation with to just obliterate her ass with everything surrounding the children.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 06:01 PM
5

Fuck this man, im like healed and done and this keeps fuckin dragging..
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 05:59 PM
3

My stupid wife filed because she thought it was an advantage, now she don’t know what the fuck to do with me because im on top of it with motions to compel, discovery, finances, officiating CS, scheduling hearings etc etc etc… she’s drowning trying to stay afloat, build her relationship, has and witholds kids, trying to finish school… its a train wreckkkk and im like letssssss gooooo finish what you started dumbass 😂😂😂 im sooooo over her Divorce is kinda fun now. Disclaimer: been through a lot e…
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 04:02 AM
5

Im where you are at, just at 6 months though can’t wait for years.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 03:47 AM
1

Oh im not conceding custody, its just a temporary hearing, divorce still got a few months to go. Its more so an im not worried IF I lose it, which is impossible.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 02:33 PM
1

One going on 13 one on 14. You know what, parents make it hell, im not.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 04:26 AM
2

Yes I totally agree, 50/50 is just not a reality through proceedings and im ok with that, trust me, circumstances will change and I know it. I’ll get a knock one day that they ran away from home, to my home 😆 it’s what teens do.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 04:24 AM
3

Thanks man, its been a long road to get to this point, she wants me to have them every other weekend (its about child support $$) im like I don’t fkn think so, I will rather do a daily visitation schedule and see them daily, then wait around for only 96 hours a month, yea ok.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 03:22 AM
2

As a matter of fact, back in June, he sent me an email if we could talk because he was worried about her. That he was coming in peace, bla bla bla.. I was like wtf
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 01:26 AM
13

Yes she was, like -115lbs at one point type.. 290lbs now, naww im good, rather go to Popeyes Chicken.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 01:23 AM
2

Lmao, It crossed my mind, but they aren’t my type 😆😆😆😆😆
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 01:21 AM
7

Lmfao
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/22 11:50 PM
12

Haha no he’s not, hes a damn downgrade thats 38 years old and fixes garage doors (not judging line of work a job is a job) but fuck him anyway lol
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/22 11:50 PM
16

Helll yeahhhh its taken me a longgg time to have clarity ovet entire situation, taking a year off work to focus on me, be best for my boys even if just daily visitation was the best gift for myself, I made myself a SAHD my teens will just catch up. *USMC retired and VA disabled if your wondering how I took a year off im on month 6/6 😬
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/22 11:42 PM
3

Omg sameee I don’t know what was ever true or fiction its so mindblowing!
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 03:16 AM
2

WoW!!
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 03:05 AM
19

And im willing to bet her last husband or X was the problem too!
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 02:45 AM
1

Hey stranger, so who said im accepting lol
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/22 09:29 PM
1

See heres the thing, this isn’t even about a custody battle for me, I’ve had the kids as a primary parent 100% with me for the last four years, they are boys (13/12). Only reason she has them back is because I dropped them off as I transitioned back to where she lives and I guess saw it as opportunity of HA!!! Which is stupid lol. I live with family where they also have space, I requested basically a 70/30 split its what works for them as best interest and me to fix myself. I would pick up Frida…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/22 03:03 PM
1

Ohhh she definitely has this 😂
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/22 02:54 PM
1

Custody evaluator amd I know because thats all that was discussed.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 07:46 PM
1

No, mediator did say it wasnt final, plus it was just for custody, not MSA or final divorce, we havent even done discovery (finances) that’ll be fun.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 07:44 PM
2

Mediator writes a report on recommendations that gets reviewed by judge.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 07:19 PM
3

Its pretty much where Im at, actually not even telling her anything anymore, we are both self representing and im prepared with everything, a written statement/script so I don’t veer off, all my childrens documents, medical, dental, school etc and not accepting anything less than 50/50. IF judge doesnt see right through her, then I will fight with an attorney and its as simple as that.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 07:03 PM
2

It was mandated. So of course I went with best of intentions figured hey it will probably ground us, but I was dead wrong lol
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 06:36 PM
6

Oofff… my sons are 13/12, I am pretty much in your same predicament! And apparently my 13 year old starting to act up over there so it’ll be interesting.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 05:57 PM
2

Its the custody hearing based on this mediation, we are months (at least two) from finalizing.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 05:33 PM
2

The hearing is in two weeks.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 05:24 PM
1

I got hearing in Nov, im contesting mediator and to go back to the table. Every other weekend is unacceptable.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 05:04 PM
2

Didnt sign anything, waiting on report.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 03:57 PM
2

Correct!
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 03:56 PM
6

Its normal and part of process, you will find yourself worth, give it time, I went through same. What helped me finally make it click is figuring out allllll the red flags and making a connection that her cheating had NOTHING to do with Me! Obviously infidelity in my case that im not even ashamed of admitting anymore lol good riddance, AP took the trash out for me.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 11:14 PM
1

Im very conflicted with this one. I hired an attorney to prepare, respond, set up court dates, etc. im very well prepared, I do pay for consultations, mediations etc so i’ll see how it goes, if I see she’s stupid at mediation then back to attorney for hearing.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/22 03:01 AM
3

I was just sayingggg this to my sister!
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 01:49 AM
4

You are complete and utter garbage… you have deep rooted issues that need to be addressed first you are monkey branching to the next exciting thing and going to destroy another life, just like my X. How bad does it need to be? I hope the worst for you! You can’t even start to comprehend the devastation you will leave behind you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 07:41 PM
7

Same like w.t.f Edit: where were you to smack me about 8 months ago 😅😂
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 11:54 PM
3

My God the bs with these women don’t stop 😂
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 02:14 AM
2

Fuckkk this, nawwww lmao
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/22 06:02 PM
2

No your not wrong PERIOD, boundaries, do you, worry about you and your child F*** cheating X. Im already not going to my kids weddings in like 10 years or so just the church. 😂😂😂 (im still fresh lmao)
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/22 03:11 AM
4

Yup!!! And I will bet my assss you tried everything possible to make sure it didnt get to an ugly place but was seen as just trying to control her , yeah? No ir just me 😂 I fuckin hate mine too but daily I get more and more indifferent.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/22 11:01 PM
5

Omg. File like immediately!
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 10:48 PM
19

Your damned if you tell her: Your making shit up, your turning him against her, bla bla bla Your damned if you don’t: Cause it would be right thing to gently tell her. I wouldnt tell her 😆
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 10:19 PM
2

Same, every picture of hers on my phone, digital files, frames etc… dumped, I didn’t needs those negative vibes and reminders of that trash.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 03:57 PM
2

Give it time for the wedding ring lmao, mine are scattered, both wedding and engagement yes i took em and are somewhere in the bottom of ocean 🌊 😅
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 02:44 PM
9

Here: 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 I ignored her shit talking for entire marriage, same scenario as yours amongst many other things once you start peeling the layers, and here I am divorcing but happy AF!
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/22 05:18 PM
12

This! OP its also my stbxw with AP he just doesn’t see it yet but exactly this will happen. Stbxw wanted me to keep the “provider” role, me I don’t think so, i’ll provide the legal child support your boo can pick up the slack! Im not paying for your cheating, sorry!
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 09:02 PM
9

This is weird, It would be a hellllll noooo from me and not because i’d feel threatened but because i’d give myself self-respect and boundaries. I’m not even dating yet, still going through a divorce but THIS would be something I wouldn’t accept in a new relationship, I accepted “guy friends” not even x-husbands in the old one and well here I ammmm 😆😆😆
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/22 06:59 PM
6

Yes and you better fuckin get on it because shes going to get ugly. Believe meeee or all of us commenting lol Serve her, lock the children to not be moved, document document document oh and shes an idiot!
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/22 06:51 PM
2

Its exactly what I did 😂 gtfoh bitch I pay the damn bills! “TF you think you are I said let me guess “ThE moTheR of My ChiLdRen, want out bye Felicia I can pack for you!”
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 11:03 PM
3

Share when your ready and on your timeline. We all have a story ooooffff do I have a story!!! and it cant be better or worse than yours its mine. Just a day at a time!
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 06:14 PM
5

I stopped paying the bills and only provided an estimate of what child support would be to stop the status quo. Mine can drag it out, AP has started to pick up the financial slack so the longer that goes it shows their shared finances therefore reducing alimony IF ITS EVEN AWARDED. I wrapped a noose around their neck they are tightening themselves and can’t get out of 🤷🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 08:18 PM
2

Not unless shes a fuckin bitch like mine and judge can see right through her and her stupid games, for example im having to communicate via email through lawyer EVERY SINGLE TIME and something comes up daily because she refuses to communicate which COSTS a lot of money, so lawyer is tacking on legal fees onto her.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 04:38 AM
16

I stopped covering and enabling especially with teenagers (13/12) that aren’t stupid, my cover and enabling would make me look like a liar to them. Im playing the long game, she’s lost them already just doesnt realize it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 10:14 PM
1

Ok i was trying to figure out what the legal name fir it, Someone else called it a special master.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 04:16 PM
1

Oh man thank you for this!!! I thought tgey were just interviewed by like a mediator or something.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 04:13 PM
2

They will be considered, I will push for it, push for a court interview, pushing for a health and welfare inspection of both households im going allll in!, including mental health evaluation of both parents.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/22 06:28 PM
3

Yup, they already see trust me. This experiemce has made them closer to me to be honest (out of their mouth.)
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/22 03:11 PM
2

Yea its pretty much what I do right now, visit after school, lunches, text, facetime, talk etc through this limbo phase. It drives her nuts cause she wants me to ask permission, im like yea NO! Hahaha
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/22 03:08 PM
3

My lawyer is very good, sees through her games, my kids are teens they know whats up, they frustrated with the situation at moms, they will be interviewed by courts, Im in California. My lawyer requested a change in judge I originally had who is known to be biased. At end of day it will shake out the way its supposed to, im not spending thousands and thousands for the same outcome biased or not if it makes sense. Im telling you THERE is NO WAY shes taking full legal and physical in my case ZERO.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/22 09:13 AM
3

Im not worried, I been the primary parent, sole provider last 4 1/2 years with receipts, theres no chance in hell shes taking full custody. Im not worried at all.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/22 09:04 AM
6

Im about one month into proceedings as well, its me requesting temp custody to see kids, its her AP controlling situation (per my teens) I had taken a month off to sort out alllll paperwork and finances but being ghosted now, its an ugly one (her side) lol… im just being patient to let it shake out legally I guess. She also requesting full legal and physical ($$$) but thats not for me to win its for her to lose
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/22 08:59 AM
4

Let her go, work on yourself find someone worth a shit out of the billions of people. I just cant figure out where we’ve gotten as men SIMP-ing after some ofvthese awful woman.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/22 11:16 PM
1

Hey im curious, what do you mean wired for tax purposes? School me lol
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/22 06:21 PM
5

Ok wasn’t sure on the 25K being refundable but now agreed on the missing out on money part, close, turn around, sell, LOCK funds in a trust fund like I did and have it adjudicated to the child!
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/22 04:28 AM
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Knowing what I know now, I would not close! I would dig my heels innn and refuse to sign! it would create a bigger mess and animosity as an asset to be split because she couldnt buy you out, why would you want a house that has bad energy, is the 25K refundable, if so split that, save yourself another $12K and put it down on YOUR home! YOU make the decision, be assertive!
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/22 03:46 AM
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Agreed on this ^
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/22 12:43 AM
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She had NOOO choice but to sign for proceeds to go into trust fund, it was glorious, I could feel the rage from the other side of town where shes at.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/22 11:36 PM
7

Wowwww. Is divorce filed yet?
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/22 10:52 PM
11

That is a correct assessment. Im awake though.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/22 10:17 PM
3

I bitched, moaned, complained, talked tried everything! She would fix herself a few days and back to the same, every single time!
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/22 05:27 PM
5

Additionally theres no cheating… yet
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/22 03:08 PM
21

This sounds like my life entire marriage, GTFO now like NOW.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/22 05:27 AM
1

Ooofff man this sucks. One of my fears was kids turning on me, they teens though, they know whats up.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 04:10 AM
2

Yep agreed, she’ll have to do with whatever comes out of my retirement and disability which won’t be much. I know affairs don’t matter, it doesn’t even cause a blip in my radar, the entitlement is still stupid.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 07:47 PM
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Its just crazy to see how common this is, didn’t think i’d get feedback or responses, I guess its validating.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 07:26 PM
2

Yea ok!
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 07:22 PM
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One of the problems with woman like this is arm chair lawyers or AP’s… I can hear it… “go get him gurllll, take him to the cleaners, get yoo money honey.” 😅😅😅
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 06:27 PM
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With an affair partner lmao… Yup its also been used hahaha
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 05:28 PM
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NOPE. Well in my case at least. Well actually not even theres no group chat. These insufferable AP’s though lmao.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 01:25 AM
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WE ARE MARINES! It destroyed me too and one day I dug in for my inner DI ooraaah PI and unleashed the beast! She didnt’t know what hit her… SCRUBBBBBB you know!
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/22 11:56 PM
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All these garbage women are the same, no logical thinking or foresight on the financial impact, its infuriating.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/22 03:40 PM
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Yep, I knew. Fuck her, like mine.. to bad for her. you keep doing you!
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 05:04 AM
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Anddd im going to make the assumption shes the one that left!
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 03:57 AM
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I have man, first discard I was devastated, blindsided, shocked!!! I said everything good bad and ugly I could get off my chest with these garbage people. Could it be used against me, yeah probably, but I got no fucks to give. This second discard its on! And they have no way to control me through the kids, thats why I removed myself entirely to stop the entanglement and engagement with them and just going legally, some say the road to redemption and vindication is long, that comes for me later, …
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 09:27 PM
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And thats a “normal” after divorce relation, affair marriages are even worst, thats why my current situation with divorce and the other two is just crazy to me, they left me a wake of financial and everything destruction cause they are each others “person” FFS! Lol
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 04:13 PM
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It will be, in outpatient now, heading to a 90 intense impatient program through VA shortly, just making sure im leaving things in order.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/22 03:50 PM
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I planned in May that I was going to take 6 months to a year off for my mental health, I have two pensions that can cover CS and Alimony (if awarded). This was planned with her of course, a month later she decides to go back with AP throwing my mental health in an even deeper hole. Im going to continue with my plan to take time off, ptsd amongst other issues and now divorce oooffff im lucky im not a suicide statistic, judge might not look at not working favorably but he/she can go F herself too,…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/22 03:36 PM
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Oh man thatd be great to sort out, mind if I DM you some figures?
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 10:26 PM
2

Dissomaster?
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 10:21 PM
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DUDEE it already happened last year, they imploded hahaha. Now their back cause I guess this time they are or got better 😅
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 05:52 PM
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Maybe different lawyer perspectives, what I know is that im not trying to get to court or litigation, im trying to settle things in mediation for best outcome for kids that doesnt completely destroy me financially.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 05:15 PM
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Cali, yes it matters, reduces Alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 05:12 PM
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Its taken me a longgg time to get to resolve, a year pretty much. I was devastated last year when she left me and kids, this year I see it as a betrayal on the kids because I was the rejector in reconciliation FUCK NO im not plan B, and whatever God, Karma, Higher Power or Laws of attraction has for them is going to be brutal and I dont have to do anything.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 04:49 PM
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I read it, it was good, im now tapping into it and yal also read No More Mr. Nice Guy!
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 04:38 PM
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And I had to find a way for hard proof in discovery that they’ve shared finances and transfer each other funds, they can deny but now I have picture of my check, my bank transaction and the 13 year old knows it was for him lmao.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 04:37 PM
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Shes not out of her mind, shes an idiot that wanted her cake and eat it too, she humiliated me, manipulated, stonewalled, covert narcissist piece of shit.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 04:29 PM
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I honestly did not think they would hahaha
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/22 04:15 PM
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If its starting out ugly, it’ll be uglier later! At least her true colors showing and not the “lets be amicable” bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 11:58 PM
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FILE!!!!!!!! ASAP!!!! our stories are similar. DM if you want to, I had sane scenario and made CRITICAL mistakes!!!! FILE
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 09:41 PM
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For me under four however and unfortunately its happening in their teens but they will be fine and be able to discern right from wrong and formulate their own thought process what really went down AND be able to learn from both of our mistakes. HOPEFULLY they will able to pick the right woman not one that just takes.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 02:22 AM
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Lmfao yes yes he did try to tell us hahaha.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 05:02 AM
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Before this divorce trauma, I have service connected ptsd, I have alcohol addiction (recovering), sexual abuse (by men into my teens) that im working out as to what really happened. I don’t have the mental capacity to be working full time and handling everything, my pension will be enough for child support and probably some alimony but im ok with that, im quitting my job, im taking a year off, im with family, in therapy alllll to get back on my feet for my boys and get back into the work force, …
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/22 04:00 PM
2

mfw?
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/22 01:15 PM
6

Yea I agree, but im at peace with it. Ive had a great week.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/22 03:11 PM
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I got rid of everything 😂 except debt, here you go take 1/2. Whatever shakes out with CS and alimony will eventually end.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/22 01:47 AM
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Honestly I have thought about this a lot. 1 I do not believe in marriage anymore as a society its been so watered down, its such a huge risk! I will push for a pre-nup like A motherfucker, if they ever marry (which I hope they don’t) the minute I see wifey wants to be a stay at home mom it’ll be an immediate deeeppp discussion with them! I will tell my boys you will end up with a car, a dog, couch surfing like daddy did, so just get a truck a dog and cut the hassle 😂😂😂😂 just fuck hos and get off…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/22 01:43 AM
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Cali, no-fault and I reminded. Im like it doesnt matter wtf I did, said, texted or didnt say or do. It was definitely a downgrade!!! Its so comical now, She left a year ago (which I’ll admit I was blindsided and a mess) and went back cause she “lost hope” of plan B (me). Lmfao. So I call him plan C to his face or husband-in-law hahaha
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/22 01:36 AM
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Lmfao they were recording, im like good, record, listen to my voice over and over! I did not consent btw, if your recording that means you want litigation, your not ready to go there! I am, but im not even fighting custody, EDUCATE yourself on divorce process. Lmfao 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/22 01:28 AM
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Thats the other thing with me, APs boundaries were HIS, she could only talk about the kids! There was no coparenting, nothing no matter how much effort ai woukd exert. Its like mtfkr were in the middle of a divorce back TF off! Theres other things to discuss in proceedings besides the kids, but she listened to him and stonewalled oh well.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 08:33 PM
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She also wanted you to fix yourself projecting and not fixing herself.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 06:02 PM
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Then cheated? And it was all your fault?
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 06:01 PM
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The stonewalling is fkn the worst abuse in all this.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 05:55 PM
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Agreed, there comes a point where its enough! Luckily my boys are teens and know whats up, I prepared them to know im stepling back and to look at it as a deployment. I talk to them daily until the legal system shakes all of this out.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 05:54 PM
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I just had to do the same damn thing! And made it clear, so what does she do, e-mail me the very next day because she needs something from me lmao.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 05:49 PM
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Man some of these stupid petulant woman, its same scripts over and over.. OHHH but don’t let them need something!
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/22 04:37 PM
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You dont!
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/22 08:36 PM
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WoW
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 08:08 PM
2

You think so, I think they’ll implode again.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 02:03 PM
3

Its a total mindfuck that Im slowly getting away from
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 04:07 AM
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It used to infuriate me where I would lash out, but that too was unproductive, so I just manage the bubbling anger and go to gym or distract myself otherwise oooffff…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 03:28 AM
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As I look back, its both reasons you stated, sheshuts down with conflict of any kind, so im just conditioning myself to it is what it is.. it’ll come back on her later.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 03:12 AM
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we’ve moved so both of us are on same zip code. Its what I ended up doing (4 hours away) but I remained unbothered for them.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 02:21 AM
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Be a jerk, force sale, invest, get the alimony! F the other group!
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/22 07:12 AM
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Im done setting myself on fire to keep them warm. IT WAS HARD to let the kids go! Hard AF… but they gotta see with their own eyes! I know a lot of dads are fighting for custody and im the opposite with basically having them if I want… but i’ve been pushed ENOUGH! She knew her control over me was through the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/22 05:51 AM
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This lol
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/22 05:45 AM
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We did it mutual too. Resentment builds. Same bank account? Im taking or reading the infidelity was from her side, if so she’ll discard you the first opportunity, believe me you’ll be left like WTF! If things are friendly right now! File, rip band aid off. I ended up losing everything, imcluding kids, now couch surfing till im on my feet all because lets be “AmiCAbLe”
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 02:12 AM
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“Just as friends” serves her not you! No kids! GTFO and run!!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 02:00 AM
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This first…. Then spend the shit out of it (smartly) I payed childrens tuitions, opened savings accounts for them etc.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 11:52 PM
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Wow!
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/22 05:55 PM
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Oh yeah man, it was my mistake too.. i fell (dui).. and sure enough now its held against.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 11:34 PM
5

I was in same situation but with kids…Be glad theres no kids involved!!! Move on, be free!
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 09:58 PM
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Correct, and I knew that going in. I think part of it was response to the trauma and the last holding hope to not raise the kids in a broken home, even though they HAD BEEN in a broken home for years already. I knew the chances of her affair relationship lasting was also very very dim, but i'm curious what they are now with both of them giving it a second shot now that relations are even worse lol... only time will tell.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 02:51 PM
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Noooo fuck her! Protect your peace! I fell into “ThE mOtHeR of mY ChiLDreN” bullshit. Its a hook!
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 06:11 AM
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Lmao
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 02:36 AM
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YUP… same here!
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 12:45 AM
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Preachhhhh for other men to read!!!!! (I didn’t lol)
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 11:51 PM
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It won’t work out because if you have any dignity and self respect you will not settle to be a simp plan B. No offense though, I was allowing myself to be plan B until I said fuckkkk noooo!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 10:45 PM
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Lmao yea I was an idiot too, even dismissing the divorce case hahaha.. oooffff!
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 10:32 PM
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What everyone said… and someones lined up!
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/22 08:39 PM
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Fuck these type of woman I swearrr! Mine is back with AP and refusing to communicate about anything but kids…lmao until she needs money , good lord…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/22 01:30 AM
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Then she will have to give them up while in basic, but get this done and over with… DIVORCE!
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 03:07 PM
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Yes Sir I did, my biggest mistake was giving reconciliation a thought, but final and last lesson learned.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/22 06:51 PM
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Mannn this shit is a Lifetime script, I coukd legit sell it hahaha.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/22 06:27 PM
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Long story short, the first month after she left I was focus of attention because I was in a rage and kept volleying back and forth between them. I then went no contact and they began to “live” the relationship became abusive, controlling, etc… he lived in fear and paranoia that this big bad Marine was just lurking, that she was secretly contacting me, etc. this dude had cameras installed and began demanding her to be a wife, their finances became tight cause they werent able to squeeze money ou…
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/22 07:13 AM
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Unfortunately yes. Divorce in process.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/22 05:25 AM
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Precisely why no contact works. Even coparenting with this idiot is null and void, parallel parenting will do.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/22 04:30 AM
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Correct! Its where my mindframe is at.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/22 04:16 AM
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Brotherrrr a child that took me to the lowest point of my life, re-opening the door, helping her back on her feet after her and AP collapsed hurled me into making God awful decisions and worst mistake of my life! I still don’t think they gonna make it, this second shot they giving themselves is even a worse scenario but Oh well!
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/22 01:02 AM
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Oh yea man i’ve heard stories! This AP is a coward though, scared and intimidated by me hides behind her etc. still staying the fuck away from them, last year they blindsided me and I was angry, this time im at peace and indifferent, this site has helped so much.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 06:16 PM
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Definitely a piece of work, I already know co-parenting is not going to work, im focused on parallel parenting and doing the custody exchanges. I cannot worry about what goes on in their household because it is out of my control, my kids are 13/12 the best I can do is be the best Father I can be when they are with me.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 06:01 PM
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Yep, I learned that the hardddesttt damn way possible, but it’s ok onward and upward.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 04:19 PM
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Its so crazy, she left AP to try to get back to me lmao and now he’s taken her back like holy shitt hahaha!
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 06:21 AM
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If I were a betting man… she’s got Someone lined up already.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/22 12:01 AM
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Just finished reading it, yes life changing!
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 04:18 AM
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At least one (me) lol fml…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 07:08 PM
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Thats the pattern here! But enough, my biggest mistake was getting stuck with the kids not being raised in a broken home, but now realizing they had beeeennnn in a broken home a couple years.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 07:04 PM
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It was second time 😩🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 06:50 PM
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I threw everything away, downsized and moved three hours away by the coast kids in tow. Left family, a big house and all the bad memories. It was an attempt to start fresh and It allowed me to get out of the fog and anger I was in, it allowed me to get on a healing path and really figure out what the priorities are and its myself to be best for kids, New job didn’t turn out the way I thought it would, so now im moving back home with family, taking a year off work and doing a HARD PAUSE to take c…
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 10:46 PM
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Damn brother, I feel this. Also the same, empathetic, logical, the struggle is real!!!
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/22 11:34 PM
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I tried the moving thing, the gym thing (alcoholically functioning) I mean like I was throwing a beer down before working out ugh.. literally a single dad, upholding two households, an elementary schedule, a middle school schedule, Drs appointments and on n on n on… its just to much.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/22 10:12 PM
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Oraleee pues 😀
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/22 10:05 PM
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I just did this, deleted everything, post Aug 2019 when shit went down, started yesterday actually. Did keep a few where kids are in that I liked. You’ll know when you are ready, its taken me 11 months and its cathartic.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/22 06:35 PM
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I got two boys so no painted toe nails here 😂😂😂 but good stuff man, sounds like you get your time in!
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 12:57 AM
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I didnt even give her a chance to stay in house. I was in luck that my lease had been expired for months, I reached out to owner IMMEDIATELY re-signed under my name while her and her boo set up a new apartment demanding alimony and child support even though I had kids… I said fuck yallll i’ll wait till the courts tell me what your “entitled too”
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 11:56 PM
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Sorry but hopefully your x and AP fall apart like my story, I have ill will towards people like that, in time they will cheat on each other, they deserve each other. As far as kids, dont know how old they are but they will realize who fucked who over in time, dont give up on them. Im sure you had your own flaws like myself that led to doenfall of the marriage… BUT it does not excuse the way they chose to do things.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 10:29 PM
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Joint bank account? Lol
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 09:52 PM
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Its been six months, im in a better place. Her fantasy world fell apart.. to bad so sad. Meanwhile im moving out of this stupid lil shit hole city im in, to the coast leaving it all behind to start fresh with my boys.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 09:17 PM
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Oh yours had “new female besties” too lol. Let me guess girl night outs and stuff like that.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 08:49 PM
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W.T.F right 🤣🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/21 07:49 PM
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Funny because: You are engaging in a divorce MEN page Men here are supporting each other, you’re clearly a woman, so your self righteous tone of “so yah you are replaceable” is typical and disgusting. Completely missed the point of (OP) of course! With all this free time! Why are you trolling a divorce MEN page. FFS!
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/21 06:54 PM
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Hire someone LMFAO. 🙄🤦🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/21 06:41 PM
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One of the first things I did was schedule therapy for the kids. I started hitting up the VA crisis line every friday, they slways have somebody on standby. Then I scheduled official therapy. It’s interesting, my stbxw always diagnosed me with narcissism, bipolar, personality disorders etc… projection much!!! Yes she comes from disfunctionality, broken hunan being way before I cane into picture, and was I, except i’ve recognized the internal turmoil and issues and fixing it to love me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/21 09:03 PM
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Im a fuckin Marine, you fuckin up, imma let it be known, no coddling here… hindsight, yes I could have handled comm better.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/21 07:31 PM
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Her affair partner AND friends oversold! Come to find out affair partner is now unemployed. Going from 160K income (by myself treating her like a Queen cussing her out here and there tho tbh lol) to $0 has to sting!
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/21 07:28 PM
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Brother, and that is what my problem was… I was allowing her to push the buttons and giving a reaction. Once I started No Contact EXCEPT for the kids cause it makes it impossible, there has to be exchanges, thats when I centered myself and took control of ME!
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/21 07:10 PM
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I fuckin love this lol..
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/21 06:21 PM
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(Not ragging on you) but men in general fuckin fighttttt…. So many men get told to go, leave and there they go… you set the precedent. Fuck that. Bitch you fuckin leave motherfucker! Edit: Couldnt handle/control me, she ended up walking away with affair partner a year later… adiosssss Edit 2: You have trouble holding a job, separate topic and for whatever readons but ok, is she the money maker? Get that spousal support till you are on your feet!
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/21 06:10 AM
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Lmao, my stbxw tried that shit. I said, bitch are you fuckin crazy, I pay the rent, I pay the bills, see your way out and take as many days as you want. Good luck getting a court to take me out of marital home. Immediately called an alibi to come over to house and witness no domestic violence bullshit they like to pull and informed her I was setting my cell phone on constant record. She took the L and left!
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/21 06:06 AM
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WoW. So im retired Military, and you described to the T, my relationship with my stbxw that last four years (13 year marriage). Only difference in your story is my stbxw walked off with an unemployed douche bag and I have the resources. This is also the hardest thing (going through it) hit me up on pm when you get a chance brother. Semper Fi!
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/21 05:10 PM
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👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽 THIS all of it. Believe that logic goes out the window. Do NOT leave the marital home! File and serve first.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/21 01:53 PM
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It fkn was man, then I started texting my Mexican sisters cussin em out and draggin myself 😂 while in living room with them and they were bout to jump in a car and go beat some ass so I had to disclose 😆. As far as gettin in her FB or gmail, I was good its her private stuff that I always respected, if theres somethjng in there it can be done through discovery phase. I ended up just takin SIM out and locking it away.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/21 01:38 PM
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Happy Birthday!!! What you gon do for you today?
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/21 10:13 AM
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Whatever bait she was giving to get the 10% of broken me she wasn’t getting. Lol 🤷🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/21 02:49 AM
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Yes sir I will. I’ve set it up so it happens right after we exchange kids, my kids and I will be walking away with our backs towards her so they don’t witness as due process server snatches her ass up with “are you so n so, ‘yes’ you are SERVED”
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/21 02:47 AM
1

Thank you Sir, im on it!!
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/21 12:01 AM
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Thanks man, i’ll need all the luck. Def got the edge and the status quo, her walking away is not my only ace, I got an entire deck!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 11:42 PM
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Mine lined up 5 that I know of after digging and connecting dots and one finally took the bait 😂 thank you dude good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 11:20 PM
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Oh I thought it was just me 🤣 Then shit went down and I got the (in my case cause there’s kids involved)“you’re the father of ‘my’ children, I will always love you” THEN you don’t follow their plot/plan, they get pissed, demand and the true colors come out: “GIVE ME spousal support, child support or I will take you to court and take kids away.” In my case- Me: Bitch, you walked away from marital home abandoning kids lesss gooo !!!!! 🙌🏽
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 11:19 PM
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4 years!!!! Ughh.. I loved the rest of the comment though its what I look forward to thought it was just in my head!!!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 08:44 PM
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Agreed. Wish I had found this group sooner, and you know whats shitty that during marriage I alienated myself from friends and family so when she discarded me and kids, I was left with no one to turn to. Of course family stepped up to support which made me feel stupid lol… Post was a food for thought, previous commentor had good info and there are exceptions of married couples that have made it work men going through it just gotta figure out if they are exceptions, is all. Kids are in therapy it…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 08:30 PM
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Run and FAST NOW. I waited way to long.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 07:38 PM
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Correct!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 07:28 PM
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Oh god it would neverrr everrr work for the majority, ever! It didn’t work for me (us) the point is there are exceptions as you stated. There are men on here that are just starting off, they need to figure out IF they are an exception.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 07:06 PM
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Fuck yea they tank it 😅🤦🏽‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 06:54 PM
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I agree with this too, but its not completely flawed there are married couples that can make it work, i’ve witnessed it in person and read success stories. What I don’t agree with is the kids are “resilient” and highly debatable, they are outwardly resilient maybe, internally is another story.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 06:31 PM
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You know man, for the longest time she kept pushing me to therapy, I have many Many issues i dont deny them, but so does she, she just wanted ME fixed… uhmmm and you!!!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 04:32 PM
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Yes Sir! Post walk out I been traveling with kids to different places I wanted to go to as a family but she never had time, hiking, biking, Tahoe, kids go to gym with me, waterparks sometkmes just watching movies.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 03:57 PM
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Oh totally agree on that second outcome, i’ve seen it time and time again. She gettin served this week!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 03:55 PM
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Here!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 07:22 AM
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FILE!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 07:11 AM
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It doesn’t matter (my lawyers opinion) and it feels soooooo good to be first! For me it was like an ok! Here you go, Fuck youuu🖕🏽
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 07:10 AM
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This is great and I agree, however in my case I was improving, I was doing therapy, I was cooking, I was getting fit, I was, I was…. I was! But it was never enough. It takes two to fix a broken marriage, when only one side is being demanded on and things cant get in sync, the product is divorce AND YOU MY FRIEND ARE BETTER OFF! Keep doing you. Edit: had you done these things during marriage to possibly save it, would she have been improving herself? Edit 2: The past is the past, cant change it! …
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/21 07:03 AM
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Speaking of I need a financial advisor, this lady of mine ruined my finances during, I almost fixed and now fucked everything after. You got a website, business, consulting times etc? 😬😬😬
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 05:51 PM
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WOW!!!!! This just got me going again lol. Primarily because of her 7-8 bff FB, arm chair lawyers. Grrrrrrr
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 04:20 PM
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Oh man I agree, Im so gkad ai found this group, im getting so many ideas. Systemic change is hard, its part of how shit is set up, Im a firm believer in shits gotta change in the aspect of say ai become a divorce attorney, a divorce coach, etc, and I help Dads for a better outcome, to dig dads out of this ugly dark hole we are thrown into and im able to turn them around, make their life better, thats the change I talk about, advocating and standing up for ourselves, so my original post missed th…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 02:40 PM
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KILLLL… was not with 1/4, served with First LAR, 1/3, 2/3, DI, MARFOPAC, MARFORK, USNA, Recruiting Houston. Retired lol I was fkn DONE. Anyhow, yea I agree now on the divorce coaching and looking into that, first I gotta get through my own minefield. I agree about the system brother, im a teacher now with summers off so I got nothing but mthafuckin time, its a fuckin disaster its no wonder fathers ghost their children after divorces we simply are reduced to a financial transaction with Disneylan…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 01:24 PM
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Its veryyy apalling, My stbxw never worked, but how the fuck you gonna walk off with another man and be like I need alimony support, and I want all your benefits except you, uhmm!! Now the child support thats never been an issue, ive sent money with kids weekends they have gone to see her until we mediate officially and how system skakes it out to whatever support im legally required to provide. I wasn’t gonna let her bully me and be like I need money to set up my new place and get it ready for …
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 12:26 PM
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Im now following you, I think you will be a great source of knowledge. Sent PM also.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 05:17 AM
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Oh lmao. Im focusing on Marines, i’ll have a constant flow of clients 🤣 (bad joke too) to either coach or represent, fuck it would be awesome, Over 18 years I saw so many just fucked and draggeedddd because they were young or older and didn’t know what the fuck had hit them.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 05:14 AM
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TBH.. until you brought up the Divorce Coach I hadn’t really delved into it, but im going to now because you’re right its needed by so many men that just lose it until they find Divorce_men on reddit like me to find clarity 🤣 and I agree its needed so thanks for that! I apologize I took it as a parade rain lol.. right now im just grasping to ideas, goals and aspirations to move on because i’m driven! I didn’t know mediators was a shitty job hmm.. What you mean by world?
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 05:09 AM
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Yes im sure every divorcee does. But not every divorcee has 4 degrees, dealt with Marines divorcing left and right, since the Corps has one of the biggest divorce rates in the service at the top Drill Instructors and our 18 hour work days for three years, not every divorcee is successfully retired at 36 or worked with JAGS at Annapolis. I’ve got remaining life goals and ambitions that have circled back around. Ive worked overnight shifts from 10PM to 6AM then gone to my active duty job from 7AM …
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 04:49 AM
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Good on you man, your my inspiration now!
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 02:47 AM
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First week was rough, theres only two instances where I hinted and said i’d forgive for sake of kids because I grew up with family values, she didn’t, shes product of abandonment, divorce, step parent abuse etc etc etc…. My RAGE was watching my kids suffer and missing mommy and not fully understanding what the fuck she just did to them! I jumped and scheduled them therapy appoibtments solo, together and with me. I was raised as the okdest of four sisters, I have more motherly instincts then this…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 02:19 AM
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W.T.F right!!!!! And you NEVER think its going to happen to you. I saw divorce in our future the last year together… BUT NEVER THE WAYVTHIS DIRTY CUNT DID ME… I have my role in it too! And I take full responsibility, I coukd have walked MANY MANY TIMES, especially once breast were removed from BC so many leave after that, I ensured her it wasn’t an issue for me. I even went and got a vasectomy so she wouldnt have to hgo through another surgical procedure, I was fuckin 37!!!
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 02:15 AM
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I did not know that, I just knew about Epstein Credit. Ill look into that now!
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 02:11 AM
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👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽 THIS … exactly what im doing!
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 10:44 PM
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Yes that e-mail was similar in sentiment.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 10:40 PM
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Thank you. Even though I was on an emotional roller coaster within the first 10 days: *I removed her off joint account *Signed a 6 month lease on marital home under my name and kids. *Removed her off credit cards *Printed out my credit report (a day after walkout) *removed her off my AT&T account *Accidentally ended up with access to her phone when AT&T rep cut her off and we had to put number on a new SIM, both rep and I said, oh shit 🤣 *Blocked her off everything, her phone number was authenti…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 10:32 PM
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Yes Sir… a very good Dad on top of it all!!!
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 07:51 PM
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Thank you so much, this is by far the hardest thing I have gone through! Id rather go to Iraq and Afghanistan back to back, I’m a combat hardened, Marine Drill Instructor Id rather be a DI and train back to back Platoons for three years. But I am a motherfuckin survivor, i survived childhood sexual abuse (by men) Ive survived the military and the beat downs that come from it, ive battled depression, anxiety, absent parents cause they were working their ass off to provide. I still made something …
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 07:41 PM
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Does not work, I was a provider, I was active duty with up to two part time jobs to keep her home and children in private schools. I was paying for her education until she walked. We were married 13 years and tw months. She does not grasp severity at all. She had a plan to keep me as a “friend” and it backfired.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 06:15 PM
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Her anger came when I took the GI Bill bennies away and awarded remaining 26 months to kids. Now shes strapped with 80K in student loans POST official separation date (her debt) future nurse, she better get ready for my child support back pay. Fuck around and find out!
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 03:41 PM
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They werent that baddd tbh! They had logic but would start with like Listen Cunt, 😂
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 03:35 PM
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A lawyer is hired, theres plenty we can both use against each other, but in a no fault state (CA) it’s irrelevant for debts and assets, she can possibly use rage emails i’ve sent to play the “unstable part” but at this point with no contact and divorce looking like it will finalize around Nov, I should be fine. Im in therapy, my boys are scheduled for therapy, I handle the boys healthcare, education, wellfare and can prove it, I got shit on lock!!! She fucked with a Ret Marine Vet this time. She…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 03:31 PM
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Oh it is!
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 03:21 PM
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She is! I already got the threat: “Don’t forget I know how much you make, I can request a lawyer and pay with ‘our money’ a judge will see right through. Don’t forget its based on the life I am ‘accustomed’ to.” My mouth f…n dropped.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 03:18 PM
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Whos the author of book??
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 03:08 PM
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OP a Christian man courted my wife, he swooned her, he gave her the 10% where I lacked and no it wasn’t sex, anyway, they bagan an affair, it progressed and she walked away on her kids and I. I’m still picking up the pieces of our destroyed life. Move on, theres plenty of woman out there, if she breaks up with the boyfriend and you find out, maybe then give it a shot. Until then be better. Of course if you destroy their relationship, at least they arent married or have kids. Be wise!
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