When shit hit the fan and she left, I think the worst advice was “the kids” “focus on the kids” while it wasn’t ill intentioned advice, the focus is SELF for the kids!!! I continued to take care of the kids. They were fed, school, sports, entertained etc. but I wasn’t present, fam should have taken the kids (in my case) then after a two weeks of undivided support by friends and family, everybody resumed their lives leaving a huge unbearable void by myself… and i started to unravel, drinking, hungover, sleeping, rinse, repeat… but the kids “needs” were being met…I had to move and get away, it was crazy. I am now on a sober path, working out and present. Does it make sense?