Reconciliation rant…

akihonj · 2022-05-25T18:48:27+00:00

Yeah don't be that sucker for a second time, let her go off and kick rocks.

crypto_keeper88 · 2022-05-25T18:51:34+00:00

You can't turn a Ho into a house wife! Get out!

DeJohn123 · 2022-05-25T19:00:16+00:00

I have a female cousin who constantly does this to her ex husband. Every time he gets a new job, gf, works out, gets a raise, what have you -- she barges her way back into his life. She uses the kids as leverage saying it's "what's best for them."

Needless to say a few months later she's gone and he's rock bottom again. She's been estranged from our family since we don't support this crap.

New_Flounder6372 · 2022-05-25T19:25:51+00:00

Sorry to hear that man. But a positive I can see is that you reconciled and tried NOW you know that you don't need her EVER again. Stay strong my friend good times are ahead

tanotsurewhattodo12 · 2022-05-25T19:42:36+00:00

Yah.. you are way nicer than me. I wouldn't have done it the first time. Fuck that. Not saying you are wrong/bad.. but knowing that some other dick was in her.. and then trying to make that work.. just sex alone would be impossible for me. But a 2nd time.. what.. gtfo (her). She will FOREVER be a person that uses like this.. don't accept that for anything. Kids are WAY better off without this crazy shit going on.

dday_throwaway3 · 2022-05-25T22:53:14+00:00

Never take an ex back when the ex leaves you. She got dumped by her new man and you are her Plan B. Never allow yourself to be a consolation prize. When a woman who has previously broken up with a man, or rejected him outright, comes back to him later, it's incredibly disrespectful. It's her telling that man "I tried to do better and couldn't, so I guess I'll settle for you". Even if you get back with her, she will always see you as that weak man who let go of his principles just for her. It’s not romantic, it’s soy. Never go back to those that rejected you because you have now what they rejected you for not having back then. You’re more than just utility. Have some dignity. You’ll never be able to trust her, and other women will treat you better.

Eve-3 · 2022-05-25T18:48:48+00:00

Good job! Hold strong!

Sorry she did you so wrong but I'm glad you see it now and are moving forward.

Gxl4 · 2022-05-25T21:02:54+00:00

Proper garden tool. Leave her were she belongs for your own mental health. The streets that is.

Raising kids in a half-broken family were the two have no respect for each other is even worse than were the two split up and show the kid(s) healthy feminine and masculine energy

All the best! Stay strong, guys age like fine wine if they work on themselves

xjeeperx · 2022-05-26T01:20:08+00:00

Better for them to be in a home that only broke once. Not over and over again. Every time I start to wish for reconciliation, she shows me exactly why we divorced in the first place and it immediately changes my mind.

Potential_Ice_9564 · 2022-05-26T02:47:18+00:00

She’s sick, be strong.

Character_Hippo90 · 2022-05-25T21:24:15+00:00

Stay strong. You’ve conquered a hard battle, so let nothing sway you.

TraditionalThing8279 · 2022-05-26T01:20:50+00:00

Yikes man. I'm glad my ex doesn't do this. Every time she acts nice and friendly out of nowhere I end up mad and push her away.

pegleg_legal · 2022-05-26T01:38:51+00:00

Its exhausting.

This. 1,000 times this.

Ridethelightning1987 · 2022-05-26T01:44:27+00:00

Have this post in the back of your head when you slip into old habits. Every step forward is a good step. Means it’s not where your at and on the way to the man you want to be

stent00 · 2022-05-26T00:39:39+00:00

Never take back the garbage once it's been placed on the curb... True fact

Kwen_Oellogg · 2022-05-26T04:03:34+00:00

You got this brother. Tell her to keep her nasty ass over there in the other pasture.

Stay strong.

----Poseidon--- · 2022-05-25T20:13:40+00:00

Marriages between AP's have a 75% fail rate. So I have to ask people who go legit after infidelity:

-Why isolate yourself in a marriage with a 3/4 chance of failing

-Isolate yourself from your friends, family, and kids repeatedly justifying a poor life decision

-Dealing with a bitter ex for the rest of your life

-You have a far better chance of reconciling with your ex than a functioning relationship with AP

All to get your narcissistic supply.....

Kwen_Oellogg · 2022-05-26T04:07:28+00:00

Buy the book No More Mr. Nice Guy.

It really changed my life.

CommanderOfCheese45 · 2022-05-26T16:09:04+00:00

Mine was begging for me to come back. I said no, repeatedly. She promised she'd be better behaved, blah blah blah. She went right back to total nastiness the next day. Complete no-brainer for me to never take her back.

TP_Crisis_2020 · 2022-05-29T07:55:14+00:00

In the BPD world, they call this move the "hoover".

Title	Reconciliation rant…
Author	TheBoyBand
Upvotes	46
Comments	37
Date	May 25, 2022 6:44 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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