Can I ask why so many of us get wrapped up in the custody battle game. I opted for visitation just so I could stop the stupid custody games with stbxw, it was like her carrot stick and cutting the string off gave her no power! I see my kids more with visitation whats overnights really do they sleep, if its during school year mornings are a scramble then they are in school all day. I dedicate every evening to picking them up after school, do something active, quality time, bonding then get their ass home for their mother to feed them and do the evening scramble, EOW just did not cut it for me as i’d rather see them daily then wait around. The child support is (CA) $1475 a month for two kids which I don’t think is awful, kids reach out on their own, their mother wanted to “fight” for full physical and reactively I was gonna “fight” back but then im like holy shit this is stupid and like 30K, I’d rather invest in them and im like hereee you goooo! Now she’s struggling, trying to work, rear two teens, maintain her boyfriend both breaking their backs to pay bills and im like whatever, it just works for me, where am I wrong?

Edit: I was primary basically single Daddying from ages 8-13, I got the Golden years to influence. I do understand a custody battle for a lot of you with lil ones, I do get that and fight the good fight! But you can be a very present force with visitation.