WeekThink Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
24	Finally officially divorced		WeekThink	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/23 02:37 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	How much did you spend? 33k for the divorce, including the hiring of a GAL. 50/50 split for everything. 80:20 custody in my favor. Never had to go to court; just had to keep scheduling court dates to keep things moving forward and get the ex to agree to terms.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/06/24 07:08 AM
5	20 Months Post Separation, 7 months after divorce final Well-spoken! It is so freeing to get out of a toxic marriage and be able to be "yourself" again. You have been set free!	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/24 03:04 AM
1	Medium is the Message or Good Excuse No, I don't regret how things ended up occurring. it resulted in me being primary parent to my kid and her getting visitation my trauma from the infidelity is completely gone It resulted in legal proof of infidelity that resulted in no alimony.	/r/askMRP	05/07/23 12:37 AM
5	Medium is the Message or Good Excuse Honestly, figure out what your gut is telling you here. If your gut is telling you something happened, then something happened. I get the need to want proof before you act; otherwise, you may be throwing away a healthy relationship. I had to play detective and piece together information over 8 months....and in the end I had to bluff her into a confession. She was intent on taking it to her grave. Bluff ie: convince her that I knew she cheated I divorced her......life is better!	/r/askMRP	22/06/23 05:45 AM
1	Fucking killing this single dad life Right on man! Win it for your kids! My D is finalized, and I am the primary custodian of my kid permanently!	/r/Divorce_Men	14/06/23 04:17 AM
3	Walkaway Wife In my opinion every state should have "AT FAULT" Divorce. There should be penalties for cheating or substance abuse. IE: no alimony and a 70:30 split of assets. Trust me that it wouldn't be "easier" if she cheated; infidelity is hell. Divorce is hell by itself, you don't want both. Focus on your kids and yourself. Expect absolute crazy from your STBX, you have no idea what to expect and it can get crazy. Keep a log of everything you do with and for the kids; it helps with custody	/r/Divorce_Men	14/06/23 03:36 AM
2	What's the worst thing she did in your marriage that helped the Judge see her true colors? File an order appointing the GAL you chose. Don't let the court choose your GAL as you might get someone bad. So basically ask your lawyers and other lawyers who the best GAL would be for your situation. Then you would need your lawyer to file a motion appointing the GAL. You will need your ex-spouse to agree to this, so hopefully their lawyer advises them to	/r/Divorce_Men	27/05/23 09:00 PM
1	Finally officially divorced Get recommendations from your law firm on who would be best for your situation. Don't let your STBX choose the GAL.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/05/23 02:12 AM
1	Finally officially divorced It doesn't create a controversy if the cheater chooses to not fight the allegation. Mine did not fight the allegation. As far as the asset split, she agreed to me offering 50:50 split and that part went smoothly. She was entirely convinced that I had managed to hide money overseas; but my discovery proved that I in-fact did not hide money anywhere.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/05/23 02:11 AM
10	Finally officially divorced Thanks! It started with her going out to bars with single female friends 2-3x a week and coming home after the bars closed completely hammered. I noticed she started wearing frilly undergarments and went out of her way to shave down there. My gut told me something was up; but of course, I ignored it. This culminated in me abruptly being woken up at 4am one night. She wasn't home and her phone location didn't make any sense. I made contact with her and she was hammered, said she would come home. …	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/23 04:37 AM
7	How did they react when you told them you want out? With my ex, it was a slow burn that started as no reaction and after more than a week, it turned into a complete mental break. Expect and plan for absolute craziness!	/r/Divorce_Men	08/03/23 03:37 AM
2	She’s on a path of destruction Well I saw it with my ex. She went from no credit card debt to 50k+ worth in about 6 months after I filed. Some people lose their mind with divorce	/r/Divorce_Men	25/02/23 01:49 AM
3	Does anyone want to actually reconcile? I did want to reconcile. We were 4 months into R and she kept crossing boundaries....long story short they aren't boundaries unless there are consequences. The last consequence I implemented was filing for divorce. I honestly am happier now than I have been in a while. Yeah it sucks that she destroyed 17 years of marriage; but this is the reality my kid and I live in. Reconciliation takes 2 people actively working to rebuild a relationship, and I am in control of 1 of those people. I am responsi…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/02/23 04:38 AM
3	I feel like I'm being played by her lawyer Without an agreement in place, you don't have to give her the kids. It's the wild west until a temp order is setup. SO DENY HER! TELL HER NO. And if she shows up audio record everything; protect yourself from an RO You've had them for a year without her; don't start giving her access until u have an agreement in place	/r/Divorce_Men	14/02/23 05:39 AM
6	A week ago, She left and took my 2y/o autistic son and filed a no contact/restraining or against Me and moved into her moms. She hasn’t filed for divorce yet, what does that mean? Use a credit card if you have to, and then file to have her cover your attorney fees moving forward. Debt is split 50:50 anyways. You are out of work so it is reasonable to ask for her to cover your atty fees	/r/Divorce_Men	08/02/23 05:47 AM
1	Help, I am lost and don’t know what to do. I am seconding the reading of No More Mr Nice Guy! Covert contracts are a real thing in your case.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/01/23 03:02 AM
1	She spent 30k in 2 months..... Mine went from $0 credit card debt to $62,000	/r/Divorce_Men	06/01/23 04:19 AM
2	Rights as homeowner when not living in home It makes my STBX furious and she acts out when I tell her NO; they don't know how to handle it	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/22 04:17 AM
5	Rights as homeowner when not living in home This 100%. Your STBX and even mine will continue to try to order us around. Gain some self-respect and put your foot down. You literally owe her nothing at this point as far as niceties go. Did She take the kids out of state?	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/22 03:27 AM
8	Getting married Mine was a "Christian girl" and she still cheated on me and lied about it.....so No, Christian or non-christian doesn't matter in the context of marriage	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/22 01:52 AM
1	Life before temp orders/dv/epo It does get better! Keep being the best father you can be and things will get less stressful all around. My unfaithful STBX has an alcohol problem as well but no DV arrest. I found it better if you minimize contact with the EX. And early on individual counseling should be considered mandatory; many workplaces have Employee Assistance programs where you can get counseling services for free. Orders stating no alcohol when around the kids need to be enforceable, otherwise there is no point; check o…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/12/22 03:48 AM
10	[US, IL - Living in house] Moving out gives her leverage for custody. Don't do it. Also it sounds like she might be trying to get you for a false DV charge; so audio record every interaction.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/11/22 06:12 AM
25	36 years of age, Epileptic, and Two kids... Oh yeah, I'm a keeper. First off, is it possible that she wasn't with her cousin? Is it possible that she has been having an emotional or physical affair? Depending on what state you are in, it might matter financially. If she is cheating, do you still want her to stay? Don't accuse her of cheating; but it may be in your interest to see what evidence there is to be found; to confirm if cheating is happening. If cheating is happening gather as much evidence as you can. It may be advantageous to have a consult with a la…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/08/22 06:50 PM