Werevulvi Archive

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5	Repost: How some people are "naturally skinny" Both my parents have always struggled with their weight, but not to any huge extreme. Growing up I had no trouble maintaining a healthy weight, eating foods that were... kinda bad but not straight up fast food. Like a lot of bread, pasta, cheese, not a lot of meat and veggies. There were also fairly frequently sweet snacks on the weekends. My family also has a tendency to celebrate everything with very high calorie indulgance foods, and they hate exercise, but live fairly active lives just becau…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/07/26 11:14 AM
2	Fellas, is it discriminatory for women to experience attraction? Discuss Dunno about young men who are very desperate, but I've absolutely been turned down by many average men, and they visibly turned up their noses and backed away. Almost comically, in hindsight. So men absolutely get repelled by women they find unattractive, and act weirded out. I think maybe you're just not imagining an ugly enough woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/26 06:59 PM
1	Women, when you ask a man to take out the trash, what is the time limit for the man to do that? It's been ages since I lived together with a boyfriend, but if I was in a relationship and sharing living space, if I'd ask him to take out the trash, I guess I'd expect he'd to it at any time that day. And yeah a "no" is an okay answer, although I may wonder why. But like I get thatcsometimes I have to let the trash sit for an extra day because I just don't have the time to deal with that on my way out that particular day, and I'm unlikely to go outside just for taking out the trash. But if it …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/26 02:24 PM
2	Q4W: Would you participate in or use a dating app that had no pictures of the person you are talking to? No, I would not. Although personality absolutely matters, so does looks. I think for me it's kinda 50/50 looks/personality though. And I don't think I have crazy standards. Like there are balding 5'2 men and janitors I have found genuinely attractive, just going about my day irl. But that doesn't mean that there aren't some specific janitors or 5'2 balding men who I don't find attractive. And that's kind of important. But also on the other hand I wouldn't want for my date to be disappointed in h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 01:47 PM
1	how interest are you about what men like? I think most women here just don't wanna change for men, and I think they mean from a personal integrity standpoint. As in, they don't wanna lose themselves in the process of prioritizing men's needs. Thing is I wouldn't want that either, but I don't see it that way. Like I'm fine with changing aspects of myself that are either not integral to who I am as a person, and/or will lead to a healthier lifestyle anyway. But I also don't see quite as many traits as truly integral to who a person is. Li…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 05:23 PM
2	how interest are you about what men like? I spend time learning about men, although a lot of that is kinda coincidental. Like when learning more about fitness and how to exercise correctly, I ended up watching a lot of male fitness influencers, and coincidentally learning a lot about what men find attractive in women, and what they'd wish women do more of, through that community. Because a big reason men get into fitness is to attract more women, so that topic is gonna come up a fair amount. Or when learning more about traditional value…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 10:39 AM
6	Men do reject women at similar rate, it’s just different. I've been rejected for my genetic facial features, even by men who are average or even below average. I mean traits like the shape of my nose, jawline, etc. I've been a healthy weight most of my life, and I'd dare say that neck down I do have some pretty good genetics, with stuff like hip to waist ratio, slim waist, big butt, etc. But my face just didn't hit the genetic lottery, and that has negatively affected my dating pool. Of course today it's probably a lot more common for women to get reje…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/26 08:20 AM
1	Who's worse: a man who pays for sex or a man who lies to get laid?? Generally I do think lying to get laid is worse than paying for it. At least the payment route is honest and up front. The transaction is at least to some extent mutual. There is a desire for consent, even if in actual practice the consent is questionable. But with lying to get laid then consent isn't really even considered. What matters then is just that the guy gets what he wants, not whatever the girl wants or doesn't want. So although I think both actions aren't great, yeah I do have more re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 12:52 AM
1	Why doesn't accurate information bring women more comfort I appreciate that. I kinda guessed what I said would not be popular, but it's purple pill debate, so you never know for sure.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 12:33 AM
-3	Why doesn't accurate information bring women more comfort Yeah I don't know, I got calmer and more confident when I learned a lot of those women's disadvantages were mostly just down to women's own personal choices. Like of course I pay "pink tax" by choosing to buy makeup, the pink shave foam bottle, clothing intended for women, etc. And of course women who work fewer hours, choose to get pregnant and take long maternity leave, etc would earn less, and so on. But I think most women are just driven more by emotions than I am. Of course I can sometimes …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 05:22 PM
1	Is a man being nerdy a turn off? No, it doesn't really matter to me, although within reason. If it's bordering on obsession or addiction, that might just make me wanna run away. But I mean I like some video games and action movies more commonly enjoyed by men, so there's some potential for it to be an interest we actually have in common, just probably I won't be as intense about it. But that's fine, I have some hobbies I can get nerdy about too, like sewing, embroidery, playing piano, and whatnot, and I don't expect a boyfriend…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 12:52 AM
4	Dating the ugly girl won't save you. Maybe depends on the situation, like are we talking about someone's looks match here, or not? Is the guy truly desperate to get laid, or would he be fine with longer times of celibacy for the sake of focusing on women he's actually attracted to? Because that changes the answer. Like if you have trouble attracting women you're attracted to, then you know what the options are, and it's up to you which one of those options you choose or don't choose to try. All us random plebs on the internet can d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 07:21 PM
1	Do you believe women should cater more to men/be less selective? Not really, but sometimes I do get frustrated with women who clearly only shoot for men who are honestly way prettier than they are themselves, and then have the guts to say "where did all the good men go?" Like seriously? It just comes off as some kinda hubris. I dunno what the solution is, but I don't think it's force. Maybe they just need to be a bit humbled, but I dunno.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 12:49 PM
2	Does slut-shaming prevent women from having more active sex lives? I think slut-shaming is a big issue causing women to generally feel more shame about their sexual needs, but I also don't think just removing slut-shaming fully resolves the issue. Because orgasm gap and risk of pregnancy are also big reasons women are generally less inclined to want casual sex. So like it is physical/biological too, not just social/psychological.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 10:22 AM
4	Woman, would you date a detrans man? Why or why not? I'm a detrans woman myself, and yeah I would totally date a detrans man. Like I figure we'd relate and probably understand each others perspective on gender more than people who've never transitioned would. Even though I get that it's not the exact same thing for males vs females. Although I lean right wing myself, so I may not be compatible with your hyper specific example just due to that. Besides, I'm 37 so quite a lot too old for a 21 year old. But as a general concept, or if we moreso assum…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/26 12:02 AM
2	So what is the true? You should believe that sometimes labels are just redundant. If a label applies to vast majority of women, then it's not a quirky sexual orientation like "demisexual" and definitely not a minority, it's just basic female sexuality at play. And people too eager to label everything with some quirky sexual identity need to touch grass.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/26 08:11 PM
2	What is a realistic weight/body goal? I haven't had kids, I'm still looking for a man, and by the sounds of it I'm older than you, at 37. So we probably shouldn't even be having the same goals with regards to weight, body composition, etc. But, I think the most generous answer is you ideally should be somewhere within the healthy weight range for your height, sex, age, all that stuff. So bmi somewhere between 18,5 and 25. As many people like to point out, the bmi isn't perfect, so you can also aim at a body fat percentage somewhere …	/r/RedPillWomen	10/06/26 04:16 PM
1	Do you hide parts of your sexuality from your partner? A few things, yeah, but nothing that's actually important. As an example I don't typically share with a partner (or anyone else for that matter) what I tend to fantasise about sexually but have zero interest in doing in reality. I may also keep some embarrassing sexual blunders in the past to myself as well. History of std's that I no longer have. That sorta stuff.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/26 07:24 PM
1	Has anyone here ever managed to change their type? I haven't stopped being attracted to my original type, but I did broaden my attraction to include more different looks in men. I don't think it was a conscious choice though, it kinda just happened. Part of that was probably just me getting older, tbh. Although that said I've always been into unconventional beauty in men, like non-western masculine ideals, scars, short men, alt styles, makeup on men, gingers, albinos, etc. But also with a mix of conventional masculinity, like muscles, broad shou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/26 09:47 AM
–	Would you consider a man entitled for wanting a romantic partner? Except I don't blame men, and I work on self-improvement to become more attractive and better girlfriend/wife material to men. So I judge men based on the same merit as I judge myself, and other women for that matter.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/26 10:18 AM
–	Would you consider a man entitled for wanting a romantic partner? There's no objective measure of qualification for dating. People have the freedom to reject anyone for any reason and no reason. Employers don't have that same freedom, they need to justify their reasons. So, apples and oranges.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/26 10:13 AM
–	Would you consider a man entitled for wanting a romantic partner? No, I wouldn't. It's only entitled if he blames the women for it, and refusing to acknowledge any potential issues he may be responsible for. And no, I don't think every man frustrated with his lack of dating success is entitled. Context matters.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/26 12:47 AM
1	Red pill dating advice is incompatible with healthy long term relationships Kinda depends on how strictly you follow that advice. The man being the breadwinner and the woman having more time to do work at home doesn't necessarily mean the woman isn't working for any money at all, or that the man doesn't ever do any work in the home. I think this is the more reasonable approach to this dynamic in modern society. And it kinda was in the past too, tbh.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/26 04:33 PM
1	Red pill dating advice is incompatible with healthy long term relationships Some of red pill advice is literally only targetting men who want casual sex. Of course that advice isn't gonna apply to men (or women) who want long term relationships. But there is also plenty of red pill dating advice that applies to long term relationships. Like for men to be strong and capable, and women to be submissive and take care of the home/children. For men to aim at finding women who are truly attracted to them sexually, and for women to focus more on a man's inner qualities than ho…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/26 05:43 PM
1	Heterosexuals: would you date your best friend if their personality was put into the body of an attractive member of the opposite sex? No, I wouldn't. Because we have too different lifestyles and future goals. My bestie loves travel, adventure, and being spontaneous, while I'm more of a "home body" who craves consistency and familiarity above all else. I feel easily uprooted and unstable when things change a lot, while she instead gets easily bored and frustrated if things remain the same a lot. Even with super simple things like what to eat, what movies to watch, what music to listen to. But even more importantly, we wouldn't …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/26 12:35 PM
–	Her giving “her best” to another man before is irrelevant. Why is kinky sex better? What if she's more passionate with you, initiates more, etc, and was more passive with the past kinky partners? Wouldn't that be a better measure of how into you she is? Just curious about your reasoning.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 12:17 PM
1	What exactly motivates women to have sex with men? While I can find some female bodies aesthetically pleasing, there's really no sexual attraction there. I don't like looking at women naked, but also I don't watch porn of any kind anymore. Although that said I find lesbian porn especially off-putting, and would rather watch two dudes going at it. I definitely find men sexually attractive visually, it's just that it's not most men. So what motivates me to have sex with men is the idea of a hot man being all over me, and me being all over him. But…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/26 01:27 PM
–	How do women who have an achiever mentality navigate life? Never heard of this before, but your link to test says I'm 3-1-5 whatever that means. It has that number 3 there though, and it seemed to suggest that's my strongest trait. But yeah, I'm definitely an achiever type of person. I guess I'd just say I'm ambitious though. So I can answer your question based on like just having that sorta personality trait. How that looks for me is generally I have trouble giving up on things. If it's something I've set my mind to achieve, I will just keep on trying …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 01:48 AM
1	Do you think BDSM is healthy/fair, either in the context of the bedroom or as a lifestyle, why or why not? No I don't think it's particularly healthy. Seems to always be some kinda cope, whether from traumas or some variant of sexual dysfunction, porn addiction, emotional issues, self-esteem issues, etc. I used to be into bdsm stuff, and told myself it was healing. Maybe for some time it was, but long term, absolutely not. Now that I've actually healed, the whole bdsm thing seems really maladaptive. It's off-putting to me, and I generally try to avoid it, even in just conversations with friends. I ge…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 12:50 AM
3	Men love and respect pick mes Yeah I get called a "pick me" a lot. It doesn't really bother me though. Just means other women get mad that I've no interest in decentering men, that I stand up for men who do/say smart things, and that I've no issue accepting harsh truths about my own gender, or the dating market, etc. Women who use "pick me" as an insult, I just can't take them seriously. Because obviously I know I'm not actually simping for men. I just give credit where credit is due, and have no issue admitting that I love …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/26 11:11 PM
1	Physical Touch Love Language Yeah there is a lot of negativity around physical touch. Women who have this love language are probably often slutshamed, and men who have it probably often get called creeps for it. Wanting/enjoying sex seems to be one of those things society expects to be kept an open secret. Like we all get everyone (or most people) want/like sex, but no one is supposed to ever say so, or show it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 10:16 PM
4	Physical Touch Love Language Physical touch is a big part of my love language. That, and actions in general. So, basically anything from hugs and any random acts of kindness, to sex. I don't care much for gift giving or verbal affirmations. I don't really like talking about feelings either. How this affects me in relationships is... honestly, it makes me feel lucky. I rarely ever have any issues finding a male partner who has the same love languages as me. It seems to be the vast majority of men wanting pretty much the same…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 05:43 PM
3	A lot of male self-improvement advice is useless because it still keeps women at the centre. I think men's self-improvement advice is far better than women's. Like, at the very least it offers some actually practical advice that lead to some actual results. Whereas self-improvement advice for women is basically just pandering, or teaching you how to be mean and rude, which isn't even remotely helpful, unless you wanna become crazy cat lady of the year. Even if the advice for men doesn't help every man, that's mostly just a problem of it being too generalized. Like if you have below aver…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/26 01:59 PM
–	Why you are interesed in dating? Yeah I have noticed in many women's groups (or groups of women) expressing any kinda desire for a relationship with a man, and/or wanting any kinda self-improvement, often gets looked down upon. Even when it's for reaching one's own personal goals, just enjoying oneself and one's own life. That's kinda strange to me. Even though I'm not a feminist, I don't see how wanting to be happy and satisfied with one's personal life is somehow going against feminist views. Like not everything women do has …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/26 01:30 PM
1	Why you are interesed in dating? It definitely helps, but I think I also need to work on my general discipline, sleep cycle, etc as well, which will also probably solve most of my problems. Because yeah I do see a link there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/26 04:18 PM
1	Why you are interesed in dating? Some of it is kinda personal, but for example I still don't have a job, and maybe would be good if I can at least get my shit together enough to become like a waitress or something. It seems me living on benefits and not working is off-putting to a lot of men in my area, even though yeah I'm grateful most men don't care for career driven women. Biggest issue there for me is really only that I have way more fatigue than the average person, but it seems to be improving little by little, through ex…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/04/26 09:14 PM
4	Why you are interesed in dating? I kinda just wanna find a life companion, a guy I get along with really well and can have great sex with, and whom I can trust and be myself around, and feel safe to submit to. But yes I'd also like it if he's strong and protective, can open jars for me and reach the top shelf. But generally overall I just want to have a man by my side I can snuggle up to, rely on, and treat like a king. And yeah sexual attraction matters for the sex part to work. I'm not having sex with my friends so that's why…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/04/26 05:28 PM
1	Do you think most guys suffer the consequences of the actions of the few that are dangerous? Yes, I think men as a whole quite often get the blame, or at least just the guilt-tripping, for what the few actually dangerous men do. Like there's some kinda "original sin" mindset behind it, holding men resposible for what their fathers or brothers did, or even way back ancestors. I've seen it happen a lot, almost on a daily basis. Mostly irl actually, although I live in a largely feminist country, so that is a factor, I think. That women's fears of potential harm (even extremely low risk har…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/04/26 04:49 PM
1	Conspiracy : We will see never seen levels off self improving in the next Years for Men, and it will get really bad. No I don't think that will happen unless steroids somehow become far less dangerous. Thing is most women are not even attracted to the very bulky, veiny, super lean look in men. Multiple studies and serveys show that majority of women prefer what men in gym culture would call a "natty physique." Like ~15% body fat with decent muscle but nothing crazy. The obsession with huge muscle and super low body fat is almost only going to impress other men. Sure, there are a rare few women who are into tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/26 07:52 AM
–	From who would you rather take advice? Both could have valuable info on finances, it's just likely gonna be different advice, because they have very different experiences with money. But that doesn't mean person A or person B has more or less valuable advice to give. Also, the more advice you can get from vastly different perspectives, the better. Isn't that why you ask all women in this sub what we think about this, and not just x, y or z specific kinda women? So, I'd listen to both, and then reach my own conclusions based on logic …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/26 08:18 AM
–	fat women are hypocrites Lol okay.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 11:07 PM
–	fat women are hypocrites I think a lot of women get told they should never change for a man, that they're perfect the way they are, etc. Usually as a cope in response to confusing beauty ideals, and different men finding different kinds of women attractive. Women have a problem with thinking their value as people is tied to if they're attractive or useful to men. So then when men tell a woman they don't think she's attractive because x, y or z, it basically brings up all the insecurities she's been trying to cope with b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 09:59 PM
1	If You’re Bi and You Won’t Date Bi Guys, You’re Being Hypocritical AF It's not hard to find women who prefer LTR and marriage, and have no interest in engaging in casual sex. It's not rare for women to want commitment. And commitment is often treated as a sign of love and security. Of course it's not all men or all women. It's a generalization, not an absolute statement. And of course when dating people should ideally focus on the individual, not generalizations or statistics. My point was that, unfortunately people just don't do that. Women keep comparing men to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 07:46 AM
1	If You’re Bi and You Won’t Date Bi Guys, You’re Being Hypocritical AF That's a matter of perspective, isn't it? The definition of misogyny tends to shift a lot depending on who you ask.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 07:11 AM
0	Men on here are contradictory Your age is still not in your control. Don't deflect from your original point, which was changable vs unchangable traits.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 02:35 PM
1	Men on here are contradictory You can't refuse ageing lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 02:09 PM
1	Men on here are contradictory You can't make yourself younger or reduce your body count though. Or undo plastic surgery. The only ones of these aspects that are actually changable is weight and makeup.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 07:57 AM
4	If You’re Bi and You Won’t Date Bi Guys, You’re Being Hypocritical AF Thank you. I see your point, maybe it's just a combination of biphobia and misandry? That it targets specifically bi men and not just bisexuality in general, I mean.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 04:02 PM
6	If You’re Bi and You Won’t Date Bi Guys, You’re Being Hypocritical AF Yes I read it. Read my last sentence again.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/26 11:14 PM
6	If You’re Bi and You Won’t Date Bi Guys, You’re Being Hypocritical AF Are we gonna acknowledge that men and women are different, or pretend we're exactly the same? Kinda can't have it both ways. Bisexuality, like sexuality in general, is different for men vs women. Men's sexuality in general is more physical, more visual, more direct, yes with actual feelings sometimes including love and care, but generally there's less ambiguity. While women's sexuality is more centered around feelings, romance, feeling safe, cared for, yeah sometimes also love and care for their…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/26 11:09 PM
2	Why do you date at all if its so terrible? I don't think men or women have it worse in dating necessarily, like that's just not a fair comparison at all. I do have empathy for men's dating issues, I would hate it to feel/be so alone, yet putting in so much work and effort to make dates happen, or only being valued for how much money I have. I totally get that must suck, a lot. It's part of the reason I don't have a high bar for those kinda things in dating. I'm just more focused on women's dating issues purely because I'm a woman, and ye…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/26 06:49 PM
2	It isn't fair to think autistic men have it worse than autistic women in dating or any part of life You're right to say it's not fair to think autistic men have it worse than autistic women in dating, but that's because higher risk in dating is not comparable to less success in dating. Also, you could say the exact same thing about non-autistic men vs women. Because women by default are more physically vulnerable than men due to our smaller bodies and less physical strength. Also, there's the pregnancy risk aspect. So even autism aside, women are just generally at greater risk of harm in datin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/26 06:34 PM
1	If your partner got randomly body-swapped, would you still want to have sex with them? It really depends. If the new body was too different, then probably not. At least sex and general age have to be the same, also weight/bmi. Other genetic and environmental factors in regards to looks are less important to me in general, and that's where personality plays a bigger role in whether I'm attracted or not. Fyi I say this as a woman who's single, so my answer could be different if I had a partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/26 10:54 AM
–	Redpillers : Are You Aware Of The Various Contradictions Within RP? Eh, just because some aspects of hypergamy also applies to men doesn't mean hypergamy as a whole isn't generally more common among women. There's always overlap in how men vs women behave. That doesn't mean analyzing these general trends is pointless. For me the red pill helps getting an in general better understanding of gender differences, but no I don't apply it in such a strict black and white way. But thing is though the blue pill really isn't any better when it comes to over-generalizing t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/26 04:04 PM
4	Q4women would you date a trans guy? No, I would not date a trans guy. I did once, it was weird and felt gay. Back then the idea allured me, but in actuality I'm just not attracted to the same sex in any capacity. I'm a detransitioner though, so I've kinda been around in trans circles a lot in the past, known a lot of trans people, etc. But nowadays I just wanna distance myself from all that and be a regular woman again, it's not a healthy environment for me to be around. Trans people's obsession with gender and being seen a certai…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 08:03 AM
3	So how do you know that a guy is not a fuckboy? Very often, men who immediately start talking about sex, asking me about sexual stuff, asking for nudes, sends dickpics, etc, before we've even met, are gonna be men who are really only interested in sex even if they say otherwise. If the guy also seems bored talking about anything other than sexual stuff, that's also a red flag. Men who try to get you to either go home with them, or get into your home, within the first few dates, are another red flag. I think that about covers the gist of it. A…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/26 10:17 PM
3	Would you be fine with not getting the "full Girlfriend treatment"? It all depends on why, because that's the thing, I don't assume men's reasoning and intentions. Or at least I don't act on my assumptions before having (kindly, gently and respectfully) asked him about it first. If he has reasonable reasons that aren't about me being "lesser" in his eyes, then yeah of course I'd be fine with it. But no I would not be fine with it if it was because he views me as lesser, less attractive, etc. Especially not if I'm treating him like a king and better than I've tre…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/26 12:15 AM
0	Good men don't push boundaries Oh okay, yeah that's fine then. Carry on. I think maybe we just had different ideas of what "pushing" it means.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/26 03:47 PM
1	Good men don't push boundaries There's a difference between initiating and pushing. Initiating means you're basically just suggesting sex by using body language, and back off if she shows no interest. Pushing is ignoring her lack of interest, and just keep going. Most women want men to initiate, but don't wanna be pushed into sexual acts.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/26 03:40 PM
3	This question is primarily for men, but open to anyone. If you woke up as a straight woman, what kind of partner would you go for? Kinda hard to imagine, but if I woke up as a straight man, I think I'd want a woman who takes good care of herself, but doesn't necessarily have to have any kinda superior genetics or anything like that. As for personality, someone who's chill, on the introvert side of things, artsy would be a plus. Which is basically just the female version of the kinda men I'm attracted to. Also fyi I don't have anything against what men are typically attracted to in women. Yeah, I can be bitter that I don't h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/26 07:34 PM
2	High value men mostly end up with high value women Yes in LTR most people stick within their own social/economic class. But this isn't nearly as strict in casual dating. Then it's not exactly uncommon to see men dating down, and women dating up. Most often mid to barely above average women dating the top 10% men. Rarely ever below average women, but no one really wants us anyway. No those relationships aren't usually sustainable long term. They're the side chicks or one night stands, basically not what most women aspire to be. But much of the re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/26 04:44 PM
9	Do you get offended if a guy you deem unattractive hits on you/asks you out? Sometimes, if he's very unattractive and more than 20 years older than me, but even then I do my best to stay polite and direct. But vast majority of men simply register as neutral to me, neither particularly attractive or unattractive, and I don't feel offended when they hit on me. Mostly I just get surprised, tbh.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/26 10:01 AM
1	Invest as little as possible early on Totally fine with me, I hate texting, I procrastinate it a lot. Calls can be fine but not too often. I easily feel smothered if a guy is constantly spamming me with calls and messages. Like I've got other stuff to do too. I meant more like being engaging and showing interest on the actual dates though. Texting imo is just for briefly checking in with the other person if necessary. Like if something important has come up or whatever.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/26 10:52 PM
1	Invest as little as possible early on Investing as little money as possible at first is a smart move, I think. That should weed out the gold diggers. But you should invest time and interest if you're actually interested in a woman. What I look for in a guy during the first few dates is basically just what his personality is like, how/if we get along, that sorta stuff. I'm not a big talker myself as I lean introvert and have some autism going on, but I push myself to make conversation with a stranger. I'm not gonna do that though if …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/26 05:15 PM
–	Experience is the most important I don't think that makes a lot of sense. I mean I have quite a lot of sexual experience but I've no issue with dating virgin men. Sure I don't have any specific preference for that, but I've been with both experienced and inexperienced men, and what made it a comfortable vs uncomfortable experience wasn't his experience or lack thereof. It was his attractiveness, personality, and how he felt about me. Our chemistry, if you like. And yeah I can enjoy "teaching" an inexperienced man about sex, tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 09:01 PM
1	What Is the cause for lack of empathy for men's dating problems? Yeah well crab bucket mentality is unhelpful. I mean it's unhelpful for men specifically, for women it doesn't really affect us much, I think. Not really. Of course it's unfair. A lot of aspects of life are. Social norms are only there to mimic the fairness we wish would exist in nature. But nature has always been survival of the fittest, and some get great genes and get to spread them to the next generation, others, not so much. Of course I'm not saying people shouldn't still try to do their be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 08:41 PM
2	What Is the cause for lack of empathy for men's dating problems? First off I generally do have empathy for a lot of men's dating problems, like men who lose all their money to some gold digger wife in divorce, men who lose custody over their children, or get baby trapped, men who get made fun of for things they can't control like being bald, short or penis size, men who genuinely struggle to find love. I have empathy for all that kinda stuff, but where you lose me is when the complaints revolve around just not getting enough casual sex, and not being able to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 09:27 AM
25	Only Mid Girls give up sex freely Well, yeah. I'm "mid" or actually below average, and I used to give up sex super easily, because barely any men want me lol. You can't afford to be picky when you're not attractive enough to be picky. This is just as true for women as it is for men. The only difference is that the bar for being considered "mid" is set much higher for men, and women are generally more okay with going sexless.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 06:33 PM
15	Your type is who likes you not who you like I think you're confusing type with league. They're not the same thing. Your league is who are attracted to you, your type is who you are attracted to. And no, they don't always match up. That's why we have different words for them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/26 07:46 PM
3	Do you offer to pay for your own food and drinks in the early stages of dating? I do typically offer to pay for my own food and drinks, unless the guy insists on paying, like I don't wanna bicker about it and I can accept a gift. When offering to pay for my own food/drinks I've no issue with the guy agreeing to that. It doesn't change how I view him. I may agree to pay for his food/drinks too, but honestly that depends a lot more on the circumstances. Like what his budget/financial situation is, what he ordered, and just overall why he'd want me to pay. Because yeah I'd hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/26 05:22 PM
3	I never really understood the appeal of thongs. What am I missing and why do women actually like wearing them? I used to wear thongs a lot back in my teens. But that was only really because I had trouble finding regular panties that would actually cover my butt properly. They were all a bit too narrow just over the butt area, so the entire back section of the panties would get swallowed by my ass. Compared to that, thongs were very comfortable. So basically I just preferred having a thin strip of fabric in my ass, over a massive chunk of fabric in my ass, because those seemed to be my only two options at…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/26 01:57 AM
1	Would you leave someone that you permanently lost your attraction for? Well no one chooses their feelings so there's no morality in that. And as for my actions, I don't think breaking up is morally questionable either. There are way worse things I could have done with that situation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/26 02:07 PM
2	Would you leave someone that you permanently lost your attraction for? I did, in my previous relationship. We had only been together for about a year though and were not married. It was getting to the point I got put off during sex. I couldn't keep doing that to either myself or my partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/26 01:28 PM
1	What do you value? I would choose option 3. I don't have a lot of money, so if I was with a man who also didn't have a lot of money, yes we'd likely be living paycheck to paycheck. And I would kinda hate that because I'd prefer a little bit more financial stability than that, like I dunno, average income would be more than enough for me. But I'm also not struggling so much that I fear not having a roof over my head and food on the table, and that is doable. So yes I would choose to forego financial stability in a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/26 12:10 AM
1	Why do women continue to pursue men after bad experiences? And why are they attracted to them? I have met a lot of men who weren't bad, they just weren't interested in me, already with another woman, etc. So basically I realize that I just made some bad choices with the bad men I dated in the past. Since then I've learned what traits to avoid in a partner, and what traits to look for. Basically I've never seen men as a monolith just because I met some bad ones. And like couldn't the same be said for women too? Like there are good and bad ones? And then what attracts me about men... just t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/26 10:29 AM
5	Does it Get Better for Women Over 35? I'm over 35, not by a lot but I turn 37 next month. I'm single and childless and not happy about that, but I wouldn't say I'm emotionally broken over it. I don't mind the harsh wording, I've been broken in many ways before. But like I have a different attitude now. Started feeling less upset about possibly never having children, and focusing more on the things in life I can still enjoy. Plus, I made it this far in life without kids and it didn't actually have much of a negative impact at all. I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/26 12:12 PM
1	What are your thoughts on make-up? I like wearing makeup, and wouldn't wanna date a guy who's entirely against it. Most often I wear quite subtle makeup though, not so subtle that it's undetectable, but like it's not a heavy look either. But like I keep my base and eye makeup light and simple, and then on occasion I will wear a red lipstick, otherwise mauve, or just a pink lipgloss. I dunno if a lot of men hate my makeup looks, but like I'm trying to go for more of a "classic" style, with some vintage vibes, and I don't cover up …	/r/RedPillWomen	02/03/26 06:44 PM
1	Do negative red pill beliefs about men exist? Of course bad men exist. The red pill point is that men aren't worse people than women, and women aren't automatically more innocent or more moral. Bad people exist in every category, question is whether some demographics have more bad people or more good people based on whatever (stereotypes, beliefs, actual facts, etc.) Blue pill has a habit of either uplifting women to an absurd degree, and/or demonizing men as a whole based on what a few bad men do. Which the red pill is generally against. I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/26 03:01 PM
5	Why do heterosexual women often have problems with not wanting to have sex? That doesn't work when not given long enough time until he's finished and stops. Most women can't stroke one out in just 5-10 minutes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/26 07:22 AM
13	Why do heterosexual women often have problems with not wanting to have sex? Depends on why he doesn't orgasm. If it's a physical ED problem he has despite the best circumstances and best effort it's no one's fault. If it's because he "death grip" too much watching porn then it is his fault, because he caused that issue himself and there's nothing any woman can do about it. If the reason is the woman is just lying flat on her back showing zero interest, then yeah it's her fault for not pleasuring the man. Mutual pleasure is both partner's responsibility. Trying to make y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/26 09:18 AM
1	What do you think the problem is with current women's media, and what do you wish it was like instead? I appreciate that! Yeah, that dichotomy can get very frustrating. Sometimes I kinda wanna scream at the screen. Thank you, I appreciate your advice. It's good to hear you found something that works! I guess I do something similar already though. I go to the gym, focusing mostly on body parts I have lacking strength or a lot of softness is, like legs, butt, back. Although I do a little bit of everything too. I avoid training areas where I don't want any extra width though, like neck and sides of …	/r/RedPillWomen	21/02/26 10:47 PM
6	What do you think the problem is with current women's media, and what do you wish it was like instead? On big thing that frustrates me is how much of women's media is essentially just women telling other women what they should or shouldn't do with their own bodies to appeal to this or that ideology. Like yeah, I generally lean more traditional and red pill so I have a bias, but I wouldn't say I'm so soaked into the whole ideologically black and white side of it, or anything else for that matter. To some extent I take inspiration from whatever sounds logical and useful, even if it's a feminist say…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/02/26 07:54 PM
2	It seems if a woman ever has a hook up, she should be expected to keep having subpar sex with strangers. Men who only care about sex and hookups and don't desire serious relationships are always gonna be annoyed and frustrated with women who quit doing casual sex, regardless of reasons. I think they probably just can't comprehend how anyone can have easy access to sex and then go "nah, not my thing." I used to be into hookups, had a not insignificant amount of it between longer, more serious, committed relationships that ultimately didn't go well. I primarily preferred serious, monogamous relations…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/26 03:40 PM
14	QFW: Do you care if the guy doesn’t dress or prepare all that well for a date, if he still picks you up and takes you there, pays for everything, and tries to treat you in a special way? Personally I kinda care more about how a guy dresses and presents himself, than if he pays or not. Because if I'm dating him, it's the guy I'm there for, not his wallet. And if he doesn't care to dress up nice for a date (assuming it's not a sports/workout event, like would be weird to show up in a suit for go-cart for example) I'm probably gonna think he's kind of a slob, tbh. And that would be a bit off-putting to me. But I'd have no issue with splitting the bill or heck even paying for the wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 08:08 PM
2	Blue Pillers here are probably more misogynistic then the Red Pillers. I dunno I see bits of misogyny on both sides, but I don't think either side is inherently misogynistic. The way I see it is there are two different kinds of misogyny. On some kinda foundational level, misogyny is people who see the sex differences and come to the conclusion that women must be basically weak and feeble-minded to varying extents. But on one hand there are those who take that mindset to think women must be kept small, delicate, feminine and please men. Maybe we could call these the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/26 01:52 AM
2	There is no reason for women to ever believe “men feel love through sex”. I may be out of the loop, but aren't most men here just saying that sex is their way of showing sexual attraction, and wanting women to "prove" our attraction to them through sex, but like it's not necessarily about love? Just attraction. And sure, maybe (romantic) love can't exist without attraction, but attraction can definitely exist without love, or care, or empathy, or any of those things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 06:40 PM
–	Do women have a thing that they want to be the only one a man does it for? For me it's romantic gestures. Like taking me out on dates, buying flowers for me (or heck, pick them from nature), telling me sweet things, etc, basically love. A man having had sex with other women doesn't bother me, but him having loved and doted other women... yeah, that can cause some feelings of insecurity in me. Especially if he gave his exes more romantic interest. That said though I don't easily get insecure or jealous altogether, I tend to trust and feel safe and loved basically by def…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 02:48 PM
–	Dating older men (like 10 plus years older) is simply a bad deal for most women I think that kinda depends on the woman's age. A 40 year old dating a 55 year old is not necessarily a major difference, compared to a 20 year old dating a 35 year old. Although it also depends a lot on the man. Like are we talking a healthy, active, still fresh older man; or an old, senile man who's one fart away from a heart attack? The former, you could live a long, healthy, happy life together with for decades to come. The latter, not so much. I mean I'm 36 and I've definitely noticed that t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 10:58 PM
2	The term "ran-though" needs to end. As much as I also hate that term, I'm pretty sure the reason behind it is men hating other men's dicks being in women, not their own dicks. Still kinda misdirected disgust though, yeah.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 10:44 PM
1	Q4W: I was surprised by all the misandry I see in this sub. Where do you think women learn to be misandrists. If you are personally misandrist, where did you learn it? How can women unlearn it? Imo I think most of women's misandry is kinda reactionary, a retaliation to misogyny, and sadly sometimes just the way women bond with each other. So I think they learn it mostly from other women. Women expect other women to hate men. But, the abuse and trauma some women go through at the hands of men is also a big reason. Then feminism feeds on victim mentality for these traumatized women, and takes power away from them instead of focusing on recovery and taking back power. Personally, I try ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 01:51 AM
0	What do you like about men? Some men are stoic though? Or do you just not like that I like that trait in men? I find it grounding when a guy can just focus on the practical reality of whatever's going on whenever I start overthinking shit and making mountains out of molehills. Stoicism isn't necessarily ignoring or bottling feelings. Sometimes feelings can get the best of us and that's not great either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/26 03:47 PM
-1	What do you like about men? I appreciate that! :)	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/26 02:16 AM
-2	What do you like about men? You mean like personality stuff? I like that men in general are more stoic and don't wanna talk feelings all the time, I more often find men's sense of humor funny, I like that they tend to be more honest and direct, men usually have the best exercise and nutrition advice, etc. Overall I like that men are generally less bullshit, and less drama, and also that they tend to have a high-ish sex drive. All that is of course compared to women on average. I don't think there's any personality trait th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/26 01:25 AM
24	What do you like about men? I like their broad shoulders, deep voices, facial/body hair, muscles, of course penises, just overall masculinity in general. Although often I like it especially with some hints of femininity in the guy as well, like maybe he has wider hips, or long hair, or a small nose, more of a slender figure, or he's short, or whatever, as long as he's still recognizably male, and generally in shape. I can find the female figure aesthetically pleasing, but I'm not sexually attracted to that. So although a l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/26 12:20 AM
5	Do you think women are the fairer sex? It kinda depends, I think. In some regards, yeah I'd say women are the fairer sex. Like, we are generally smaller and don't have as much muscle strength, we also have thinner bones, smaller organs, etc. Our genitals are also generally less imposing, physically. And to some extent this makes us a bit more fragile, and less threatening. But at the same time women can also be quite ruthless, nasty, vulgar, criminals, etc. Like in men's vs women's personalities, there isn't necessarily a strict dist…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 05:52 PM
1	Are you really break up/stop dating at time X or start to have sex? It's more of a range of time for me, like I dunno, 3-5 dates maybe, but more so just however long it takes to get to know the guy to see if we click. And yeah, that will depend on the guy. If it takes longer for him to open up, for example, it'll take longer for me to get to know him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/26 03:31 PM
1	A woman below the top-tier can either have Chad or have exclusivity, but not both Yeah, I think overall people should be more realistic about dating apps, and maybe focus on their actual behaviour than the words they're saying. Most women write too much in their dating profiles, most men probably don't read or care. I mean even totally decent men I've chatted with on online dating sites usually don't wanna learn about me through reading a lengthy profile description.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/26 07:32 PM
3	A woman below the top-tier can either have Chad or have exclusivity, but not both I added multiple examples of what I consider to be "below average" men: obese, homeless, disheveled, elderly. I also used similar words to describe the kinda woman I'd think is below average in comparison to myself, ie obese and disheveled. Would you disagree with those descriptions? My definition of average begins and ends with men who just kinda blend in, aren't particularly remarkable, average height, average income, etc. The "basic" guy, pretty much. And yeah, I see myself as an equal to the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/26 06:12 PM
5	A woman below the top-tier can either have Chad or have exclusivity, but not both Clearly, I'm not making myself out to be superior to anyone who's above average or even at average. But if you wanna take it as me seeing myself as superior to people objectively at a lower social status than myself, then yeah... go ahead. That's not entirely wrong. But just because I see bad behaviour in men of all classes doesn't mean I don't also see good behaviour in men of all classes. I don't actually need to put people into boxes based on their looks to judge whether they are likely to ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/26 04:52 PM
10	A woman below the top-tier can either have Chad or have exclusivity, but not both Just because Chads are the only guys who can get away with that, doesn't mean less attractive men don't still try the same tricks. I've had far below average men try to pull this on me, even extremely disheveled homeless drug addicts, and elderly obese men. Most recently it was a 74 year old neighbour in an electric wheelchair who tried that on me, and I'm barely half his age. Even my mom would be too young and fresh for him. I'm a healthy weight woman who's not homeless, disfigured or a single …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/26 03:15 PM
2	Ladies, when having sex with a guy for the first time, is there an ideal size that you're hoping for when you take off his pants? Yeah I think it is quite individual, and makes sense women's genitals come in different sizes too. And that we'll like different kinds of stimulation. I mean I seem to be quite sensitive, and don't like the "being stretched out" feeling at all. But I hear about other women wanting that feeling specifically. So far I've never rejected a guy for his penis size. I mean lucky for me "too big" or "too small" (to my preferences) isn't super common.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/26 03:22 PM
3	Ladies, when having sex with a guy for the first time, is there an ideal size that you're hoping for when you take off his pants? I'm generally fine with most sizes and honestly the guy its attached to matters way more, but I seem to have a preference for about 4 inches, or around 10cm (I'm European, inches don't come intuitively to me) and on the thinner side. Not entirely a coincidence because that's the depth of my vagina, which is also quite narrow and doesn't stretch much without pain. Generally the size range I can work with is 2 to 6 inches, but yeah I do actually secretly hope he's right around the 4 inch mark, whi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/26 08:57 AM
1	Women being interested in friends with benefits prevalent or no? I don't think it's common for women to want that, no. Sure it happens that some want that, but I don't think it's many women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/26 11:22 AM
3	If you were single could you really resist the interest of a high value man? I'm just as critical of highly successful men as I am of average men, but I'm also as likely to give them a chance if he looks good and we appear to have things in common. So if the high value man in question is physically attractive, has hobbies and values similar to mine, etc, yeah I'd give him a chance. But I still wouldn't give him sex any sooner, and if he turns out to be a douche or just incompatible with me, I'd dump him just the same, as if he weren't high status. Granted I've never been…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/26 08:41 AM
3	Guys who say “I want to REALLY be desired” and “I just want consistency” often reveal that they see relationships as the cost of sex, not the goal itself. I don't know. Maybe they just dunno for sure what they really want, maybe they still have a lot to learn about themselves. Most mediocre looking men will accept their position if women were consistent. I can understand that, that makes sense.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/26 11:44 PM
15	Guys who say “I want to REALLY be desired” and “I just want consistency” often reveal that they see relationships as the cost of sex, not the goal itself. I think a big issue is a lot of these guys would absolutely prefer just having hookups or fwb's, but can't find any women who want them for just sex. So they go the relationship route, not because they actually want a girlfriend, but because it's the only way they can get access to sex at all. This has been explained numerous times in this sub. Of course they're gonna be frustrated by women who wait with sex after getting to know the guy, because they're not interested in casual sex. Another pro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/26 10:01 AM
5	What are the signs that a man is genuinely desired and not just settled for as the "safe guy"? Yeah, when she's treating a guy like he's her brother or a cute puppy, I totally get that's a bad sign in dating. It's almost kinda like when a friend only ever compliments your eyes, then you kinda know they think you look ugly in the body or rest of the face lol. And thank you for explaining, that's some really important additions. That the bad part is in what's not being said.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/26 11:36 PM
14	What are the signs that a man is genuinely desired and not just settled for as the "safe guy"? Personally I have no issue with kissing and some sensual touching on the first date, if things go well and I'm attracted, but I know most women wouldn't do that either. I think, from an outside perspective (since I'm not a man dating women, I can't have an inside perspective) I tend to think a woman is not really physically attracted to a guy if all she ever talks about him is his personality, sense of humor, etc, and makes zero mentions of how he looks, smells, his voice, etc. And on the flipsi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/26 10:43 PM
2	Do you hate being a woman/wish you were a man? No, not anymore. I like being a woman now. Sure, getting periods can still be annoying, and some of the social stuff can be frustrating too, and some dating issues like being more likely to be sexually violated in some way or another. But for the most part I embrace the things that are unique to my gender, and I don't envy men anymore. I've realized they too have their struggles, and the grass probably isn't greener on either side. It's just different struggles that can be hard to see from an ou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/26 07:16 AM
1	If you could get away with it guaranteed would you commit paternity fraud I would never do such a thing. It just goes completely against my values. It wouldn't be kind to either the man raising the kid, the actual father, or heck even the child. But then cheating just isn't something I would ever do either, and that's usually how some women put themselves in that sorta situation. Loyalty matters a lot to me. So more likely (if I'll ever end up having children) it would be with an okay but not perfect man, and I'd only want for him (and me) to raise that child simply b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 11:11 PM
1	Are fully straight women who don't watch lesbian porn minority? Huh, maybe it's just my area then, or the particular women I've known/come across.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 06:54 PM
3	Are fully straight women who don't watch lesbian porn minority? I'm fully straight. I don't watch porn, but even in my fantasies there are only men. Like I'm the only woman in those fantasies. I'm put off by seeing women being sexual, kissing, etc. I've experimented with women in the past because I had some identity issues, but I didn't like it. And now and ever since I sorted out those identity issues, I only feel attraction to men. Sure, women can be good-looking in an aesthetic sense, but so can a cat or horse, or even a piece of furniture. It's not the s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/26 02:27 PM
1	Question for Women: What are the barriers that stop women from just taking the initiative and asking guys out on a date that they clearly like or have a crush on? Yeah that's probably a big factor to it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/26 09:29 PM
1	Women in today’s society use motherhood as an excuse to let themselves go No it isn't. Sure there are some genetic factors that can make obesity more likely. And we all fight against the evolutionary trait of our bodies storing and holding onto fat much more easily than it wants to let go of it, because of centuries of famines in the past. But obesity in itself is not genetic. It's simply the result of consuming more calories than you burn. Lifestyle, and how people were raised, is the main reason for why children of obese parents often turn out obese themselves as we…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/26 10:30 PM
0	Women in today’s society use motherhood as an excuse to let themselves go I'm irritated that people claim to want something but avoid any challenges that comes with it at all costs. I've met so many people (and whom I continue to see almost daily irl, at work, in my family, etc) who keep complaining to me about how much they really wanna/need to lose weight, but any kinda tips I give is immediately shot down with "no I can't do that because x, y and z." It gets very tiring eventually. It isn't even about complaining about it being hard, I have no issue with that, I do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/26 10:23 PM
0	Women in today’s society use motherhood as an excuse to let themselves go Yeah well obese people in general are full of excuses as to why they can't put the fork down and move their asses. Some will blame pregnancy, others instead put the blame on hormones, insulin, PCOS, metabolism, desk job, or heck even just "not having time" and so on. Whether they've had kids or not, most people are overweight by now, and not getting any healthier. I say this as a formerly fat person. I also used to be full of excuses. Like that I hated the taste of artificial sweeteners, or that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/26 07:27 PM
9	How to deal with some manosphere guys degrading women? Some men in the manosphere are just bitter from frustration in the dating market. What they say is not really a reflection of you, or us, it's just what they personally feel. And as much as I can understand their feelings, I don't think there's much point in listening to what they say about women. These men usually have very little (if any) experience with women, aside from whatever they see online, which skews their perception. They also tend to be kinda hard to reason with. I've tried a few ti…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/01/26 09:16 PM
1	Aight what should be the solution for gender wars ? I wish both men and women would focus on theur own shut, take accountability, and stop blaming all theur issues on the other sex. I generally just treat men as any other fellow humans, I don't obsess about what they do or don't do, I don't feel a need to change men, I don't blame them for wharever gender and/or dating related issues I personally have, and I don't compare which gender has it the worst. I lusten to men's greviences with women and show empathy, but also don't take personal responsi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/26 03:55 PM
1	Hair transplants are gender affirming care, and should therefore be subsidized in countries with socialized healthcare. I don't think either should be subsidized, tbh. And I say that as a woman with very advanced hair loss that I hate and mentally struggle with. I mean I'd say I'm somewhere between Norwood 4 and 5. Minoxidil and stabilizing my hormone levels has helped a little (and I keep taking the Minoxidil hoping for a more delayed effect) but I still have very high temples, and what hair is in between them is still struggling to cover my scalp. I wear a scarf or headband all the time to hide this disastrous …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/26 07:24 PM
1	Do you think attraction is a choice? That's a wild way to interpret what I said. I said who we choose to hang out with can influence our feelings, not that it determines them. Kinda like how the way we're raised can influence what feelings and opinions we have as adults. Like I'm saying it's at least partly environmental, which really isn't all that far from several "blue pill" theories on attraction that I've heard. It's practically the same theory, they just apply it differently. Like usually they apply it to attraction (or lack …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/26 06:02 PM
1	Do you think attraction is a choice? It's kind of a subconscious choice, I think. Like we don't actively pick and choose who to have feelings for, but on a deeper level we choose who we surround ourselves with, who we give a chance to, who we judge, what we value in a general sense, etc. And that has a huge effect on who we develop feelings for. I don't think the red pill thinks women can just consciously choose which men to get feelings of arousal for. I think what they mean by choice in dating, is who we give a chance to, who we …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/26 01:30 AM
1	If you don’t sleep with a man on the first date, what does that usually mean? I'm sure there are women like that, but I don't think they're in any kinda majority. I've only seen them online, never met them irl. Might just be shit they say for attention too, but I wouldn't know what's really behind that. Whether it’s a lie or not, the concept really short circuits men’s brains because to men sexual attraction is sexual attraction and we believe in a correlation of how quickly a woman is willing to sleep with us with how much sexually attracted to us she is. Thing is there'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/26 12:41 AM
2	Its not biphobic to not date bi men I mean it probably is a bit phobic, but so what? Personally I don't have a lot of narrow preferences for or boundaries against any specific group of men, like I'd date bisexual men, men of any ethicity, short men, etc. But there is one category I just won't date: obese men. And does that mean I'm fatphobic? Technically yeah. I do have negative attitudes towards obesity, and it does look off-putting to me likely because I associate it with health risks and laziness. Because there's an actual corr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/26 12:27 AM
1	If you don’t sleep with a man on the first date, what does that usually mean? No, I don't do hookups. I got scarred from that in the past, not worth it anymore. I date for serious relationships only. But like I don't need to have all the answers to try a relationship with a guy, and have sex. If it turns out we aren't compatible a few months in and we had sex, I can live with that. Because then at least I had reasons to think it might work, and gave it a try, and that's good enough. So I'm not like super rigid about it, or expecting miracles from the men I date. But yeah …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/26 11:27 PM
1	If you don’t sleep with a man on the first date, what does that usually mean? If I'm going out on a date with a guy, I'm definitely attracted and likely already fantasizing about having sex with him. It probably kept me up all night before the date. But no, I don't typically actually have sex as soon as on the first date. The reason is I wanna make sure he's cool, trustworthy and not dangerous first, or at least just get an idea of who he is as a person, if he has even remotely similar sexual interests as me, etc, and that's gonna take more than just one date. Maybe not s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/26 09:36 PM
5	Some people are not meant to find a partner I've seen plenty of far below average couples get married and have far below average kids, so I don't think humans are all that susceptible to natural selection. Humans have the unique ability to wanna help each other, and other species. This is why we have medicine, plastic surgery, all sorts of weight loss and fitness help like coaches, programs, dietitians, etc, and dating apps. This makes us to some extent bypass natural selection. But yes, deep down we are still animals, and if we don't fee…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/26 09:03 PM
–	Shattered masculinity by penis size comparison I prefer smaller penises, and yeah I have ended up in situations where a guy with perfect size for me asks me about it, like is it big, etc, and then no matter what I say it's a blow to his ego. Because to me big does not equal good, and I don't wanna lie to a guy's face. So I've been in your girlfriend's situation quite a bit. And it does hurt my heart, like I just wanna find a way to make the guy feel good about his size. But I get that this is not within my power. It does sadly make a lot of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/26 06:13 PM
5	Ladies, "Formal connection" is just code for using sex as a bargaining chip, and it's a total passion killer. If you don't have time to vet a potential partner, then how do you have time to be in a relationship?	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/26 02:44 PM
1	Thoughts on shy, no-experience men? As long as he's a good person, we have things in common, similar values, get along well, etc, I really don't care how much or little experience a guy has. I've been with inexperienced guys before. Most of my exes, I was their first girlfriend. It was sometimes a bit of a bumpy road, but overall not really an issue. A guy knowing what it's like to date women in general really doesn't have any more knowledge about what it's like to date me specifically. Getting into a new relationship is always a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/26 12:51 AM
5	As a man, giving women you're interested in your number instead of asking for theirs is much better. Yeah I can absolutely see that! Too bad most people commenting on your post don't see it that way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/25 09:02 PM
21	As a man, giving women you're interested in your number instead of asking for theirs is much better. I don't think this is a bad idea, actually. I'd feel safer being given a guy's number than debating with myself whether it's a good idea to just hand out my number on request. Also I would still see that as him taking the first step. By giving a woman your number, you are showing you are interested. So if she texts you, that would be the second step.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/25 08:24 PM
2	You can discuss the incredible feats of women athletes without having to say that men are stronger and better I'm not caught up on sports in general, but definitely not tennis. I mean I do have mild (ie hobby level) interests in other sports. I swim regularly twice a week and go to the gym 3 times a week. I also have practiced karate in the past. So I do get invested to some extent. That said, I would assume most people making a point about women being generally physically weaker than men, is largely because what the whole trans debacle has done with women's sports in recent years. People really have lo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/25 12:02 AM
-1	The cocky dude with a don't-give-a-fuck attitude toward life will be more attractive to women than the nice, soft-spoken man who attends therapy Yes, confidence is universially attractive. Unless you're confident about being a total slob. This is how going to the gym etc also matters. And self growth can be attractive too, but only if it's linked to growing confidence. Basically, taking good care of yourself is generally highly attractive. It just can't stand on its own, and has to be paired with confidence. It's like having a sandwhich without the bread, it doesn't work because bread is the most important thing for something to even be …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/25 09:02 AM
5	Women should not date, sleep with, or in any way sexually validate men who are conservative/right-wing Obviously if you think conservative/right wing men have harmful opinions it wouldn't make much sense for you to date them. But far from all women are feminist or so super hardcore leftist that they can't get along with moderate men who are often thrown in the same box as very conservative/right wing men. Quite a lot of people (both men and women) are moderate or centrist and generally get along just fine, even if the woman is left-leaning and the man is right-leaning. And personally I'm somewher…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/12/25 12:45 PM
1	Redpill teaches men things to avoid but is extremely damaging to having real relationships Yes, I think it's fine and important to acknowledge general facts about how the dating market works, and what will generally be to your advantage vs disadvantage, and knowing what kinda women you want to attract vs avoid. But taken to the extreme it can be detrimental for a relationship to be healthy and sustainable. You gotta be able to work together as a team at least on some level, and also maintain independence to some extent, in order to have success in relationships. Some of the advice red…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/25 12:55 PM
1	Children Possess Rights to Parental Care Or you could just put the child up for adoption. This is the normal way to sign away your rights as a parent. That might not be ideal for the child, but last I checked that's a perfectly legal practice and does not constitute as child abuse. So I dunno why you've resorted to sitting and watching the child die. I don't think anyone does this unless there's some serious mental illness or drugs involved. Yes children have rights to parental care, but it doesn't have to be the actual biological pare…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/25 07:55 AM
1	Q4W: How do you reconcile the average man's experiences with your observations? The fact that general beauty standards even exist and that some people get a lot more opposite sex attention that others, is proof of some level of objectivity to attraction. Or are you actually arguing that the "triple 6 rule" is just pure subjective coincidence? Yes culture and standards of living does influence what's generally considered attractive, but there are still general trends, through time and space. People are generally attracted to signs of fertility and health, and people who put …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/25 03:53 PM
1	Q4W: How do you reconcile the average man's experiences with your observations? These are indeed two different kinds of measures, but I haven't conflated them. At least not intentionally. Maybe my word choices reflected that poorly. I'm not talking about subjective opinions on how attractive a guy is. If someone is for ex a 4/10 I mean that objectively. The only subjectivity I talked about was whether you think "average" is a specific state of being, like I dunno, 5'9 tall, 5" penis, earning 40k dollars a year, office job, etc, or if you think of "average" as more the media…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/25 02:32 PM
1	Q4W: How do you reconcile the average man's experiences with your observations? Just depends on if you consider "below average" to be anyone who's under 5/10 or if you think of the average as moreso a range of maybe 4-6/10. But then there are lots of people who consider 4/10 to be below average and 6/10 to be above. Neither is necessarily wrong, or more correct. I can kinda see it both ways depending on the context.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/25 10:47 AM
3	Q4W: How do you reconcile the average man's experiences with your observations? These kinda subs probably do attract a lot of below average men. Why would successful men even be here? I think that skews the data. This sub is not a good representation of men in general. There are a lot of below average men out there, like it would be 49% of all men, right? That's a huge popultion. Although I do also think one issues is that most below average women are far more successful in dating than below average men are, and hypergamy is indeed a thing. Maybe not always for looks, but f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/25 12:17 AM
6	Women, what is the reason you don’t do onlyfans? (not trolling) Because I have more self-respect than that. My body is private, and not something I'd let just about anyone partake in. It's not for sale. I believe sex should be with people I trust and have an emotional connection with. Doesn't necessarily have to be a husband, but at least a boyfriend. I'm not all that liberal just because I'm a woman. My values and views lean more conservative. That said I still don't think it's right to shit on sex workers. They're valuable as people just like anyone else. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 02:29 PM
4	How often do women hold other women accountable ? Not often enough, imo. Women are generally terrible at accountability. The only thing even remotely close to that I see is women trashing on each other out of jealousy, which on rare occasion can lead to the other woman getting some self-awareness, but most of the time it's not even an accurate assessment. Like I dunno, I often hear other women telling me I'm getting too thin and that I'd be healthier or more successful if I indulged more, when in reality this is just fat women trying to sabotag…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/25 03:41 PM
–	Q4W: Have you ever done anything romantic for anyone? In romantic relationships, yes, and for men I've had a crush on. The things I've done have mostly been: initiating cuddling/kisses, offering massage, bringing food/sweets, written love letters, given compliments, offered to fix their broken clothes (I have more than basic sewing skills), showing appreciation for their efforts even when actual results were lacking, given handmade gifts, etc. Overall I like making the guy I'm into feel loved and appreciated. I get that some of my romantic gestures…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/25 06:04 PM
–	Do you like male chastity cages? Depends on the person and the circumstances, but I have used sexually selfish men as basically dildos. Wouldn't see them again after that of course, but at least I got something out of those encounters.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/25 12:56 PM
–	Do you like male chastity cages? No, I'm not into any kinda kinks or fetishes. I just tend to match the selfish men with the same kinda selfish energy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/25 11:07 AM
2	If you were alone in the woods at night, and then you ran into a strange man, would you rather it be a nerdy computer programmer virgin; or a tall muscly party boy Chad with lots of sexual experience? I'd probably choose Brad because I'd assume he'd be better at offering me protection and maybe has the resources to help me get back to civilization. Also sounds like he'd be more fun to talk to. Fyi I'm not generally scared of men, I don't immediately assume they're creeps or predators, whether they look like nerds or chads, or any other category. I judge men by their actions. If they're acting sketchy, then yeah I might start getting afraid. But as long as he's chill and friendly, I just don't…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/25 07:11 PM
0	Would You Take a Man's Treatment Without Becoming One? No, I prefer being treated as a woman. Used to think it was all sexism but now I kinda appreciate it, and I don't think the grass is any greener on the other side. Both sexes get unfair treatment sometimes, but there's usually good reasons for that. Like women getting lower pay because of pregnancy/maternity leave, for example. Not reasonable in every instance though, like male circumcision.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 02:34 PM
1	CMV: Women that are attracted to ambitious men, are gold diggers Personally I'd love to date an ambitious kazoo player tbh. But I get your point. I rarely ever say I want an ambitious man. I tend to say I want a man who's passionate. Because that is generally a broader term that often is applied to hobbies and general outlook on life, and not just or necessarily work and income. Although I'm sure there are women who misuse that word the same way too, and any other word you could possibly think of to describe people who aren't just perpetually bored and lazy a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/25 12:58 PM
1	Men don't have instant beauty tricks and it makes it harder for them! There's only so much makeup and clothes can do for women as well. The stuff that's gonna make the most of a difference is things like lose weight, get in shape, do skincare, and if your facial structure is fucked get injections and/or surgery. And these things will work just as well for men. I'm a woman with too many unfortunate features and this is what I focus the most on. Cleaning up my diet, working out to build muscle and get "toned", losing weight, improving my posture, skincare, and getti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 07:30 AM
3	Resources for ex FTM trans people Focusing on what brings us women together has honestly helped me so much! To just feel part of society in a positive and connected way, and that my detrans experience matters and is valuable as a female experience like any other. It suprised me how much other women (with zero trans experience) can actually relate to many of the details involved in that. So I definitely recommend that! Ooh, you talk about being ex-autistic? Please tell me more! I'm diagnosed autistic and always in search of anyth…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/11/25 11:36 PM
10	Resources for ex FTM trans people Sadly such resources are very scarce. We only really get media representation in regards to politics about minors transitioning, talking about tegret in general, throwing shade on yrans surgeries in general, and scientific research in this areas has been massively stifled up until way too recently. So eh, unfortunately we have to kinda fumble in the dark about this. That said I'm a detransitioner too, and I have talked about it to some extent in various comment sections at r/detrans. Like, how I…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/11/25 10:45 PM
0	If women want men to be honest about their intentions then they should stop having different standards for casual vs a relationship. You are literally describing the reason why consent matters. Like if you had hiv you'd get a lot more sex partners if you lied about it, because yeah most people don't wanna sleep with someone who has that. Or if you were a passable trans woman you'd get more sex if you never told any prospective partners that you're transgender, because most people don't wanna be with a trans person. Or, to give a far more personal example: I have a high body count, and most men looking for a serious relationsh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/25 05:43 PM
2	What Stereotypically Masculine Trait, Hobby, or Household Duty Do You Take On? Thank you! Well, actually I just pour drain cleaner into the clogged drain/sink with hot water and that usually resolves the issue. Because it dissolves anything organic that may be stuck, like hair, oils, food residue, etc. For the shower drain though that's infinitely more disgusting as I have to get in there and physically dig stuff out. So it can be annoying/gross or slight chemical warfare, but not difficult. But again depends on how badly it's clogged. If it requires removing pipes to manu…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/11/25 06:56 AM
2	Feeling caught - it’s not feminine to be single, but it’s also not feminine to chase/pursue a man - advice? There are lots of different aspects to being feminine. Most of us won't be able to ever tick literally all of the boxes. Either due to genetics, lack of desire, or just life circumstances. Besides, being single is surely an attractive trait for men looking for a partner. I dunno if this is at all helpful, but I kinda see my being single (especially in my 30's) as sort of a failure, but that helps fuel my desire for finding a husband. Like it's an area I can improve on, and this gives me somethin…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/11/25 06:06 PM
2	What Stereotypically Masculine Trait, Hobby, or Household Duty Do You Take On? Well I'm single and live alone, so I inevitably have to (at least try to) take on the masculine chores as well as the feminine ones. Although I'm admittedly quite bad at most of the masc stuff and ask my (very tomboy) mom for help with that instead. Because she's stronger, taller, more skilled in engineering stuff, and tougher than me. But... to answer your question, the few masc household chores I can generally manage on my own are: unclogging clogged sinks and drains (depending on how badly cl…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/11/25 05:38 PM
1	Would you date a bi man? Yes to all if he's monogamous and fine with just vanilla sex. I say that because I've met more than a few bi men who are polyamorous and strongly into bdsm. And I want none of that in my dating life. Also as long as he's not with me only because I have some masculine features. Thing is though I'm not really all that for the transgender thing, I'm a detransitioner and kinda put off by it because of that. But I still wouldn't mind it if he's been with a transwoman in the past. I'm straight and I'v…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/25 07:27 AM
0	Would you prefer if men put as much effort into their looks as women, or if women put as little as men? I'd prefer if men put in as much effort as women do, so the first option. I'm tired of the amount of men I meet who can barely put in the effort to wash their own asses. So I'd much rather majority of men obsessed about manicures and makeup. I'd have zero issue dating a guy who who takes forever getting ready, gets regular beauty treatments, likes shopping, etc. If anything I'd feel more understood then, like I wouldn't have to explain why my skincare routine, makeup or fashion matters to me. An…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/25 07:45 PM
1	What do you think of dating or having relationships with muscular guys? I'd have no issue with it. It's not necessarily my perfect ideal, but I absolutely think it can be attractive, and the sheer amount of work that goes into it is impressive to me. Like I admire that. I watch a lot of fitness and bodybuilding videos on youtube, and some of these very bulky muscular men look attractive to me. I would also generally enjoy working out together and planning/eating healthy meals with a partner. I'm not nearly that fit myself, but I care about eating healthy and exercis…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/25 11:47 PM
1	Ladies, be honest, have you ever tolerated a man's obvious red flags jus because he was handsome? I was kinda briefly in an abusive relationship when I was 19. It only lasted for about 9 months, and it was my first relationship. I noticed there were issues already at around the 4 month mark, but I hoped we could resolve our disagreements. But eventually I learned it was just going downhill and he kept having more and more unhinged demands, accusing me of cheating for giving my family's cats kisses, etc, so I dumped him. He was not "handsome" by any social norms standards, aside from being ta…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/25 08:50 PM
–	If a loner guy gets attention, but from overweight women only, does that mean he is not THAT "off"? Yes, most likely less attractive overall than the women he wants to attract.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/25 05:34 PM
–	If a loner guy gets attention, but from overweight women only, does that mean he is not THAT "off"? Thanks, I need some luck!	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/25 05:19 PM
–	If a loner guy gets attention, but from overweight women only, does that mean he is not THAT "off"? Yes, used to use them a lot up until a few years ago. It was a disaster I just kept refusing to give up on. I'm trying to "level up"/looksmax right now, hoping that'll help. If not, I guess I just need to be more stubborn, and approach men more.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/25 05:10 PM
–	If a loner guy gets attention, but from overweight women only, does that mean he is not THAT "off"? No it depends. There are multiple factors that can put you in a lower league. Like you could have an unfortunate face, a mental illness, really bad posture, or missing limbs, etc, and that could put you in the same league as overweight people (without those other features) even if you are in shape yourself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/25 04:54 PM
–	If a loner guy gets attention, but from overweight women only, does that mean he is not THAT "off"? I'm a woman who only really gets attention from overweight, often a lot older and visibly disheveled men. I take this to mean I'm not that hot, or something's off about me. Because if I was attractive (objectively) surely a lot more attractive men would want me? I mean that's my reasoning. Because we generally attract what we send out. Fyi I do think a lot of average men are attractive. I don't mean muscles and tall to be "more attractive" than the kinda men I attract. I mean not an absolute slo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/25 04:49 PM
1	Investments in beauty that make the biggest impact? For me I've invested most money (in regards to my looks) on skincare. Sure, one bottle doesn't cost much, but over time it adds up. And my face as a whole looks so much better now without the dark under eye circles, much less acne and overall a healthier glow. Also laser hair removal for unwanted body/facial hair. And at this point I wish I had some extra money for fillers, because I have a very flat and quite masculine face, which I feel hinders me a bit in the dating market. But really I guess…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/11/25 10:51 PM
2	Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassing Eh, I had a lot of mental health issues in my teens and 20's, plus I wasn't particularly attractive. The few men who wanted to date me quickly got tired of what a mess I was. I don't blame men though. I blame myself for not having had my shit together. But if there's anyone else I'd blame, it would be my parents for not teaching me basic life skills. Eventually I started learning those things though, and getting my shit together. Thing is it's not always easy for women to date, just because it's…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/25 03:26 PM
45	Most women aren't having sex as much as rp thinks. Yeah I'd say even for most women with high libido it isn't comparable to male high libido. High libido for a woman is basically average libido by male standards. You can also see when you look up statistics of sex addiction that 9/10 are male, and even then diagnostic criteria is very different for male vs female. I have high libido for a woman. It still barely competes with average male libido. And yeah I can go long periods without sex, as long as I can just masturbate. I don't "need" a partne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/25 07:30 PM
1	How likely would a man with these standards be to find a partner? Might be hard to find a tall woman who wants to date a shorter man. First of all most women aren't over 5'6. That's my height and most women I see around and about irl are shorter than me, only a rare few are taller. Secondly most women want a man who's taller than themselves, even if many don't have ridiculous height requirements. Personally I don't care much about height, and if anything prefer men of similar height as me, but I just can't say the same for other women. As for the other prefere…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/25 07:48 AM
1	Would you rather date an NBA player or a nerdy tech geek? Probably the NBA player because I'd prefer a man who's active, works out a lot, etc. I kinda recently got into fitness, and a sedentary lifestyle is off-putting for me now. I spend most of my free-time taking walk, working out and prepping healthy meals. And I'd like it if a partner would be into that kinda stuff as well. Even if he's not very smart I wouldn't care. I'm more attracted to men who use their bodies than men who use their brains. Also I kinda hate modern technology, I've gone analog…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/25 07:04 AM
1	Does statistics matter in dating? I don't think it really does. Even with very few specifications, like say all men between ages 25 and 35 in a spefic state or country, will still only be some maybe 2-10% of all men. So if we focus too hard on statistics, then having any kinda dating preferences at all, will feel discouraging. There are some websites that lets you click in a bunch of different dating preferences, and it'll tell you how many people actually fit those criteria. I tried that with very minimal criteria, like just an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/25 09:39 PM
1	Would u be able to date an attractive women if u were a Male?? In that scenario I'd be 5'11 and earning about a mediocre income. I have naturally more masculine features in my face, and since I used to be transgender to the point of passing as male and looking a lot like a younger version of my father, I've got a pretty good idea of what I'd likely look like if I had been male. And I think I would be a notch more attractive as a man. Except obviously I've no idea what my body type or genitals would have been like. But even when I was passing as male it was …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/25 05:30 PM
1	Do every woman go through a hoe phase? It's something I should have done a long time ago, but better late than never, is my thinking. Nope, no casual sex after this breakup. I did try once but I got rejected and I figured that was probably for the best anyway. I haven't even missed that tbh. Yeah sure I miss sex, but not love-less sex. I have been doing self pleasure though, so I'm not sure if my single life counts as total celibacy then.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/25 12:17 PM
1	Do every woman go through a hoe phase? I'm doing really well. I got frustrated with that all my relationships kept failing, so I took the time after the breakup to work on my issues that I think are attracting unstable partners. Because there was a pattern and the common denominator was me. I figured it's best not to stress that, to take my time fixing myself up, and then get back into dating when I feel like I can be a better partner myself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/25 06:09 AM
1	Do every woman go through a hoe phase? I did that in my teens and 20's. Slept around a bit between relationships as a bad way to cope with being single again. Since my last relationship ended though I haven't been interested in doing that. Instead focusing on personal growth and taking care of myself. I'm in my 30's now, and last relationship ended 6 years ago. Back then many of my female friends did that too, entering how phases after breakups, but a few didn't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/25 05:53 AM
1	Do every woman go through a hoe phase? Not every woman no, but I do think it's quite common, at least when young.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/25 05:39 AM
3	This sub’s idea of the “average man” is way off from the general population. That makes sense. I mean it's what I've been hearing. I dunno many gen z men, but there are a few going to the same social welfare kinda group I go to irl. I get that's special circumstances though and probably not representative of the average guy, but it gives me a glimpse of just how online everything is for the younger generations, and there is a lot of talk about it pretty much everywhere, how that's affecting people socially. I thought the 80/20 thing came from how women act on dating apps…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 07:25 PM
14	This sub’s idea of the “average man” is way off from the general population. I think the issue here might be age groups. This sub's idea of the "the average man" does fit the gen z pretty well. Your idea moreso fits millenials. I'm in my mid 30's, so millenial. We were kinda the last generation to grow up forced to socialize irl. The younger generations were essentially raised to socialize online. I believe this made a huge impact for the worse in their dating prospects, and their abilities to socialize irl. Or if your focus is gen z men, maybe your area is just less dam…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 05:28 PM
1	When exactly is a woman deserving? Yeah I'm used to being called that by now, just because I don't treat women like some special angels by default, or men as monsters. I don't really care if people call me a "pick me" anymore though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 05:24 AM
2	Do you think that less attractive women are more opposed to being approached? In general, yeah you're probably right. I see far more unattractive women complain about men approaching them, while attractive women seem to more often just kinda bask in that. Personally though, I've always been more on the unattractive side of average, and I've always wished more men would approach me, because it just doesn't happen often, and that limits my options. Sure, if I approach I get to target more attractive men, but doesn't mean more attractive men are gonna want me lol. That just …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/25 06:54 PM
1	How do you have so much confidence or ego? I dunno but I think a lot of the successful women worked for it too. Like dieting, working out, skincare and whatever beauty treatments to look nice, socializing a lot to learn how to behave, learning fashion and makeup to gain social status, etc. So I do think at least some of all those opportunitues are achievable for me, if I just put my back into it a bit longer. I've also always kinda had charisma going for me, so if not else I can often lean back on that. There is obviously a limit to how …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/25 01:38 PM
2	When exactly is a woman deserving? Yes, exactly. If you love and value your partner, you'd treat them as such, and then you'll likely get treated extra well in return. It could be as simple as comforting them when they're having a bad day, taking care of them when they're sick, giving them thoughtful gifts on special occasions, having adult conversations about issues instead of nagging or being passive aggressive, etc, basically treating your partner like you love and value and respect them if that's what you say you do. And ime …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/25 04:53 AM
3	When exactly is a woman deserving? Yeah, basically the only things people "deserve" is basic respect, and like not have crimes committed against them. "Princess treatment" and the like is going above and beyond. I don't think that's something you can ever fairly demand. But you've probably earned it if you treat your man like a king. And yes I think it goes both ways. I see entitled people among both men and women, expecting special treatment just because they exist.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/25 04:35 AM
32	When exactly is a woman deserving? I just think the woman should earn any kinda special treatment from a man. Likewise the man should earn it from the woman. What exactly that involves is gonna differ a lot, as people appreciate different things, but basically: be a good partner, don't be a selfish ass, and give special treatment if you want to receive special treatment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/25 07:53 PM
1	Do women understand their own "size" preferences? (Video included) Making the action work. Penetration kinda can't physically happen without equal involvement of both penis and vagina. It works for me if it works at all. It's a matter of logistics.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/25 05:59 AM
2	I realized recently I don't really care about a woman's past if she's upfront and open about her lifestyle. I think that's a very valuable insight you've had. I too wouldn't care if a man had a promiscuous past but was open and honest about it. Both being able to be open and honest in a relationship really does help prevent or resolve conflicts.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/25 09:09 PM
3	I realized recently I don't really care about a woman's past if she's upfront and open about her lifestyle. "Oh wow is that what they really look like?" I dunno, something like that. I've never been in that situation with a straight woman as a man, for obvious reasons. Just because you didn't act ditsy when you were a virgin doesn't mean other women don't, or that fake virgins don't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/25 09:06 PM
2	I realized recently I don't really care about a woman's past if she's upfront and open about her lifestyle. I'm glad I understood you correctly!	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/25 09:01 PM
2	I realized recently I don't really care about a woman's past if she's upfront and open about her lifestyle. Basically acting like you're a virgin. Stuff like acting very embarrassed about sex, pretending you've never seen a dick before, or like you have no idea how sex works. Shit that you'd obviously have at least some knowledge or level of comfort about even if you've only had sex a handful of times.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/25 06:29 PM
3	I realized recently I don't really care about a woman's past if she's upfront and open about her lifestyle. That makes a lot of sense. Honesty often helps a lot with getting a good impression of someone. Seeing their actions line up with their words, it builds trust. For that, I think honesty is something a lot of people are attracted to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/25 05:17 PM
1	I realized recently I don't really care about a woman's past if she's upfront and open about her lifestyle. You can be sweet and shy, and honest about your past at the same time. But you can't be innocent, clueless about sex and puritan with a promiscuous past.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/25 05:13 PM
–	Most women aren’t good enough for relationships for most men I've seen people do that to avoid doing laundry, or as often at least. And sleeping in dirty sheets for months.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/25 06:43 PM
1	Most women aren’t good enough for relationships for most men Yeah even if the woman only does 10% of the housework, then leave the rest a mess and live on fastfood/takeout, and the man does none of that, that's still technically the woman doing most of the housework. Seems like this is most modern households: living on fast food and cereal so no one has to cook, live in messy house because no one wants to clean, buy new fast fashion clothes all the time so barely any laundry is needed either. So your stats may be true, but that doesn't really prove that m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/25 03:27 PM
–	Why do you judge men who pay for sex way more harshly than women who have casual hookups, one night stands & FWB? Frankly I judge both pretty harshly. I used to be that kinda woman and I'm ashamed of it. But back then I was also totally fine with men paying for sex. I even considered selling sex, because "why do it for free if you can do it for money" basically. Silly me, that was before I started to value my own body and the act of sex as not something anyone should give away all willy-nilly. That said I do think paying for sex is a step below just having casual hookups. As is selling sex. But I look down …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/25 07:29 PM
–	Attraction is the first thing women have to sacrifice There are so many men who are attractive wherever I go, imo. Not just in how they look, but in how they vibe, how they carry themselves, what their voices sound like, they look clean and well-dressed, etc. I dunno any of these men personally, but I often see them about in my area, and on the rare occasion I exchange a few words with them, they seem nice and normal. They're store clerks, taxi drivers, nurses, security guards, neighbours, etc. So I highly doubt I'd have to sacrifice attraction for…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/25 05:47 PM
–	older women are easier to manipulate than younger women I think there's truth to both tbh. There are younger women who are very confident and use men left, right and center, as well as young women who have very little experience and are insecure, who are easily manipulated. Likewise some older women are more easily manipulated because they are desperate, while some older women are harder to manipulate because after having dated a lot of jerks they've raised their standards. But also overall, most people are easily manipulated by both sexes, regardles…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/25 03:47 PM
4	Do women understand their own "size" preferences? (Video included) When it's too small for penetration to be physically possible, which is generally under 2 inches, or anything classified as micropenis, but depends on the guy. If he says he can make it work, I'd likely trust that he can.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/25 05:39 AM
4	Most women aren’t good enough for relationships for most men Yes I see this a lot too. And kinda ironically I see it mostly from the women's side. Ie they complain about their boyfriends/husbands failing on some extremely petty bullshit (like they don't text often enough, or buys them the wrong gift, takes too long to afford the perfect house for them, or whatever) and then turns out the girlfriend/wife does none of the housework, doesn't make much money either, can't cook, refuses to do the man's laundry, is always out with friends, and just has zero int…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/10/25 06:54 PM
7	Do women understand their own "size" preferences? (Video included) No most women don't bring a ruler to the bedroom. I think it's more about how big or small it appears visually, if you need one or two hands to hold it, if it feels big inside, etc. Personally I know how long my hands are (almost exactly 6 inches) so I use that to guesstimate. And I prefer penises that are notably shorter than the length of my hands from wrist to fingertips. So around 4 inches, I'd say is my ideal penis size. Girth also on the thinner side. And yeah most penises I've seen irl we…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/10/25 06:31 AM
1	Are there women that actually like their bodies being praised? I've always had a big butt, regardless of what weight I've been, and I've no issue with other people liking that, or men finding it attractive. I don't go out of my way to show it off, like I don't wear leggings as pants, or mini skirts, booty shorts, or those kinda leggings that go up in the butt crack. I keep it covered like normally, but I also don't try to hide its size. I wear whatever pants and skirts I want. I know my butt always looks kinda sexual in pretty much anything I wear, because …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/25 09:19 PM
2	Do you know what makes a good gf /wife? I think most men just want a woman who takes care of herself (like showers and isn't obese, at bare minimum), is healthy, doesn't argue or nag all the time, wants to have sex at least somewhat frequently, respects his feelings and boundaries, lets him hang out with his guy friends, and isn't being a hypocrite about gender roles. At least that's kinda my interpretation, as a general sum up. Then of course different men are gonna have different preferences in addition, but I think this covers the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/25 04:16 PM
–	When you talk about your dating standards, what are you referring to? When others talk about their dating standards, what do you think they mean? I'd say it's around number 2 for me. Mostly about appearance, secondly about personality. I dunno if it's quite as much 75% appearance, but it depends on my mood for the day, I guess.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/10/25 09:11 PM
–	The horde of women lusting over the full-frontal scene in House of Guinness proves that size does matter. I might think it's fascinating and impressive, or even a turn on in my imagination, but I'd have zero interest in actually having sex with a guy who has a large penis. I've done it once or twice, back when I was doing casual sex, and I found it more frustrating and challenging than pleasurable. In actual reality it's the small to average size penises I enjoy and get pleasure from. I have a very small vagina, probably just genetics. Because I do have a fairly high body count (20-something, at 36 …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/10/25 07:25 PM
–	[Q4A] What is your definition of leagues and who decides in what are you? I typically see leagues as a combination of social class, status, what kinda job you have if any, health, etc, and how close or far you are from the societal beauty standards. There are additional things to take into consideration as well, but those are the major ones, imo. Unless I forgot something important. It's based on what aspects are generally valued or not in society as a whole. I don't think any particular person decided these leagues, or the qualifiers for each league. A lot of individ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/25 09:55 PM
–	How easy or difficult is dating for you? How much male attention do you get in daily life? I'm a bit older, at 36. I'm also not the hottest kinda woman out there, a bit below average, I'd say. I'm not obese but due to shit genetics and some medical issues I just don't meet most beauty standards. But I don't have kids or any previous marriages. I'm not actively dating currently because I'm still working on my self-improvement, but I want to find a long term boyfriend or husband at some point. Although my currently "not looking" also means I don't use dating apps or frequent the kinda p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/25 07:31 PM
–	Were the men you've dated whom you approached first more physically attractive than the men you've dated who approached you? No, there's been a mix of both above average attractive and below average attractive men in regards to both the ones who approached me and the ones I approached. Thing is though, I don't feel comfortable approaching men who are clearly way prettier than me, and I also don't get attracted at all to men who I perceive as way worse looking than me. So the men I approach tend to be in the 4-6 (out of 10) range, while the men who approach me have been in the much wider, 2-8 kinda range.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 09:59 PM
1	Q4W: Would you rather be the king's mistress or a peasant's wife? I read her comment multiple times before responding, at some point I had to just take a goddamn guess at what she could have possibly meant. Apparently I would have looked like an idiot regardless.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/25 02:46 PM
3	Do you think there are sexualized outfits women can wear in real life, and if yes, what? Yes I can see what is objectively a suggestive outfit, on like an intellectual level. That generally includes any outfit that shows a lot of skin, is very tight, or just looks like something from a BDSM scene. It doesn't attract me or turn me on in any kinda way, it's just what I've learned from living and socializing is what generally turns men on, so to a point that I recognize it subconsciously by now. I didn't as a young girl though. Back then I had no idea why my mom was freaking out about …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/25 10:15 PM
1	Q4W: Would you rather be the king's mistress or a peasant's wife? It's always interesting to me how feminists go on and on about how women should have the freedom of choice without oppression, but then as soon as a woman chooses a traditionally feminine path, suddenly the pitchforks come out. It was never about freedom, was it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/25 06:17 PM
2	Q4W: Would you rather be the king's mistress or a peasant's wife? I admire your vision, but personally I prefer a rather calm or plain life. I'd probably be very happy churning butter, mending wool socks, milking cows and embroidering pointless Christmas decorations, tbh. Sometimes I do think I was born in the wrong era. But if there was a rebellion to overthrow the king, I'd definitely want a first row seat to that!	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/25 04:07 PM
13	Q4W: Would you rather be the king's mistress or a peasant's wife? Peasant's wife, for sure. I care more about being in a loving relationship with a guy who has a great personality and that I get along well with, than just having a bunch of money, or being hyperfocused on looks. Imo quite a lot of average men are hot. Also I would never date someone who's ashamed of being with me. So this would be an easy choice for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/25 06:07 AM
–	Do women believe in racial size stereotypes? To some extent, but I get that averages for a large population does not determine any one individual's features. There's a lot of variation in every ethnicity. Also not a huge difference between the average sizes of men from each area. Half an inch to an inch difference in average size doesn't really mean a whole lot in actual practice. So yeah I believe there is some truth to the stereotypes, but that it just doesn't mean much on an individual level.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 11:01 AM
8	Male promiscuity is the source of all of men's dating problems I think it's a bit of both, men are probably naturally more horny, or at least generally desire more sexual partners than women do. But yeah, I think one of the reasons dating worked better in the past for men was because there was a focus on marriage, and promiscuity was considered shameful. When everyone was set on marriage and had no plans on sleeping around indefinitely, whether that was what they wanted or not, most people did find a spouse. But that was also because being married mattered …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/25 02:33 PM
–	Q4W: A male friend wants to hook up with you. You're not interested. He accepts your rejection, doesn't push it further, and still wants to remain friends. Do you have any issue with this? No I wouldn't have any issue with that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/25 06:52 AM
2	How many men do you think are settling for their girlfriends / wives? I completely agree. I do feel sad for the men who are stuck in a bad marriage though, even if it's "just" out of fear of losing their assets. They worked hard for that stuff. But yeah, how to split assets in the event of a divorce should absolutely be discussed before marriage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/25 06:43 PM
11	It’s not creepy for men to want to sleep with or date their friends I swear some women are creeped out by men simply existing in the same space as them, let alone approaching them. Most men I become friends with, I ask myself if I could see him as a potential boyfriend. If no I generally keep him at a greater distance, ie not getting too close physically or emotionally. Friendships with the opposite sex always comes with the chance of leading to either romance/sex or heartbreak. That's completely natural. It happens among gay/lesbian same sex friendships too, bu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/25 08:59 PM
1	My bf doesn’t like how I dress I dunno what he might mean by "too latina" as I'm not super familiar with the culture of where you're from, but if I'm reading between the lines correctly, I'd think maybe what he means is he thinks you dress too revealing or in clothes/jewelry he associates with more scandalous or hypersexual women. What little I do know about latina culture in a very general sense, is that sometimes, in some contexts, the clothing can get a little sexualized. Like, very low cut tops/dresses, very short skirts/…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/09/25 06:31 PM
1	A lot of you have really conflicting values. What are your core preferences? Okay whatever.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/25 06:46 PM
0	A lot of you have really conflicting values. What are your core preferences? You don't seem to understand aspd then, but okay. Empathy is generally much lower or selective, but people with the condition are capable of feeling it to some extent. It's just not automatic. You also don't know who his wife is or what her preferences are. There are pleny of women who'd much rather be homemakers and raising children and not having to worry about money, than sitting in some dusty office grinding away for money and then having no time to barely even see their kids. Men having pre…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/25 06:21 PM
14	How many men do you think are settling for their girlfriends / wives? Far too many, honestly. I see so many men online post about how they just stick with their girlfriends/wives out of obligation or because they don't think they can get any better. That's all really sad and concerning, and I hope that won't be my situation (for a partner) in the future. I'd rather a guy be actually happy than be with me, even if, but especially if, I loved him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/25 09:48 PM
7	The entitlement of certain autistic men is baffling Oh come on, no one is demanding anything from women. Please grow a spine. They're just wishing more women would give autistic men a chance, and are annoyed at women who don't, which is fair. And you're still allowed to refuse. Sure, you might get backlash from it, but someone getting prissy over your reddit comments isn't them forcing you to date them, or their demographic. Random internet strangers really don't have that kinda power over you, and it's just sad if you think they do. And you can'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/25 09:38 PM
–	Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club? Right, that does make sense. I have picked up on that maybe a reason why men so often sexualize women is because they want to be treated like that themselves. And I have gotten a positive response back when I matched that energy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/25 09:16 PM
0	Women do not fall for "manipulation" as much as they want to think they do I wouldn't know anything about it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/25 09:13 PM
2	Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club? I thought that was a different situation. OP talked about casual sex vs marriage. Of course I'm only dating men I'm wildly attracted to and want to fuck 24/7, and of course I'd sexualize him in appropriate situations for that. And if I'd ever compare him to my exes it would only be to remind him how much better and hotter he is, because I have no plans on dating a man worse than the men I had in my past, whether short term or long term. I have way higher standards when it comes to good sex, and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/25 02:56 PM
1	Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club? It's not that I'm unwilling to understand what men want, it's that I literally don't care about what men who only want meaningless sex want. I'm only in the market for serious, committed relationships, so why would I spend any energy on men who only want casual sex? I have no advice to give them, I've got nothing to offer. Because there will be zero circumstances where I'd ever agree to casual sex again. So there are zero kinds of men I'd put in the category for casual sex. Also because I only h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/25 02:15 PM
1	How many dates do you think you need to know a person. It usually takes me between 6 months and a year to get to know a person well enough that I'll start being able to predict their reactions, and can give a rough description of who they are. But it takes multiple years to get to know a person well enough that I can recite their childhood experiences, trace patterns in their experiences to their personality, and start finding it redudant to ask questions about them because I already know the answer. I'm usually comfortable waiting a few weeks to a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/25 09:42 AM
1	men are mad they dont inspire lust. but is the solution not so simple? Individualized tangible advice isn’t the province of internet strangers though. Which is why I said: "I'm not saying you should have to personally get to know every single one of these men. Just that being too generalizing probably isn't helpful either." Wanting to date have sex are very normal feelings but they are in the realm of “personal problems” and people can’t solve these issues for you. It stops being just a personal issue when it's an epidemic affecting more than half of all men but ba…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/25 02:43 PM
1	men are mad they dont inspire lust. but is the solution not so simple? Telling someone who wants sex/relationship to stay single is literally telling them to give up though. Yes telling them to improve and/or lower their standards is usually the options available. But we dunno what their life situation is, or why exactly they're struggling to get dates. It could be some deeper psychological issue, or that they just don't socialize much at all. Or they may not even know why. So just telling them to improve may not help much as that's too general. Likewise with stand…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/25 02:04 PM
1	Women do not fall for "manipulation" as much as they want to think they do Okay, I think both words work there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/25 11:55 PM
2	Women do not fall for "manipulation" as much as they want to think they do What they're intrigued by is the power, not by how it's performed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/25 11:32 PM
5	Women do not fall for "manipulation" as much as they want to think they do Thanks, you just proved my point better than I managed to. Yes, attraction to power is a better way to phrase it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/25 11:25 PM
6	Women do not fall for "manipulation" as much as they want to think they do Yes, a lot of women will tolerate the toxic part, if there's masculinity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/25 11:22 PM
1	men are mad they dont inspire lust. but is the solution not so simple? That's not the point. It doesn't matter what it is someone wants. We should help people reach their dreams, or at least give hope, not crush them. How would you like it if someone told you to just give up on your dreams?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/25 11:21 PM
5	Why do straight women say dating women would be “easier”? Even though it's not Probably because they haven't tried it, and just hope the grass could be greener on the other side. Especially if they've had a lot of bad experiences with men. I'm straight but have dated both men and women. I used to think it would be easier to date women, because 1) I'm a woman so I should know what women are like, and B) women are statistically less likely to be physically or sexually violent. At least that's what I thought back then. Until I tried it. And it just made me more frustrated tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/25 08:30 PM
5	Women do not fall for "manipulation" as much as they want to think they do You're right that violent men have a certain appeal to women. But it isn't the criminal behaviour that's attracting women to these men. It's that criminals in general are more confident, independent, stronger, tougher and very secure in themselves. These are traits that women generally are attracted to in men, but it also goes for non-criminal men who have those same traits but without the violent streak. These are Chad traits, if you think about it. This is why it makes no sense to compare viol…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/25 07:55 PM
2	Q4 people who believe that promiscuity damages a womans capacity to "pair-bond" --why doesn't having generally good life, good family etc. also damage a womans capacity to pair bond? Absolutely, it can happen to anyone. I have met men who struggle with pair-bonding and being intimate with a long term partner, because they don't get the kick from that relationship that they crave, because they had a lot of casual sex. And in some cases that leads to cheating, or just a dead bedroom. I do think that there are cases where dead bedrooms is the woman's fault though, not denying that. But I also think this issue is on the rise in women, because women having casual sex is becoming …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/25 07:25 PM
2	Q4 people who believe that promiscuity damages a womans capacity to "pair-bond" --why doesn't having generally good life, good family etc. also damage a womans capacity to pair bond? Because when you have sex with lots of strangers or people you don't know very well, you put yourself at risk, and you're not respecting your body. You're divorcing sex from intimacy. You're using your own body for a quick, temporary thrill, and this is usually a maladaptive coping mechanism for trying to fill a void. This is what can make it difficult to form a genuinely intimate sexual connection with a trustworthy person, when there's no thrill to be had, just closeness and trust. Same thing …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/25 09:28 AM
2	men are mad they dont inspire lust. but is the solution not so simple? This is just not a solution to this issue at all, and it makes me kinda angry on the behalf of men who struggle to find women in the dating market. They deserve better than being basically told to just give up. I wouldn't want to give any man pity sex, but even I think this is just cruel. Makes me almost miss when we were talking about sex bots and prostitutes as a solution to this. At least that was addressing the actual issue. OP, if this is the best you've got, maybe consider saying you just …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/25 10:53 PM
2	How to be softer when stuck in fight or flight? There definitely is hope! I get what you mean, I sometimes feel that way after an especially busy day, although it's not on the regular for me. But what I do on those days, after all the work is done, is to meaningfully rest. Not just scrolling mindlessly while feeling guilty for not exercising or doing even more chores. I re-watch some old tv-series, or movie, or heck even watch something mildly amusing on youtube, just to stimulate my brain with what little it can take in at that point, with a…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/09/25 10:37 PM
11	How to be softer when stuck in fight or flight? I was in survival mode most of my teens and 20's, although for me it was dye to mental health issues and trauma. What helped me finally soften in my 30's was finding ways to ground myself whenever I get stressed or anxious. For that I needed to find the time and patience to have moments to just focus on resting and relaxing, and then with that do activities that connect me either to nature or to my body in a positive way. For me, that can be stuff like talking a walk out in nature (no phone or m…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/09/25 01:55 PM
2	How many are looking for a financially equal relationship? I used to care about everything being gender equal, including finances in a relationship. But I don't anymore. Not since I started fully accepting and embracing the differences between the sexes. That there can be things men are better at, and things women are better at, and that doesn't have to be a threat to anyone's value as a person. As long as whatever each gender is expected to do, it evens out in the long run. Like the trade off is fair. So I wouldn't want a relationship where the man doe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/25 11:28 PM
8	In 2025, would you rather your child be male or female? It's hard for me to have a preference for this kinda reason. A child can be born with all sorts of challenges and issues, or acquire them later on, and we can't really know if they're gonna turn out conventionally attractive or not. The way I see it is there are steep challenges in life and dating for both sexes, and I struggle to compare them much at all. So much of it depends on how the child is raised too. But I do also kinda see your point. It would probably be a lot harder to raise a boy to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/25 12:39 AM
2	Why do women wait until the middle of the night to look for sex? Wtf? I'm tired man, I got stuff to do during the day. I want to go sleep. For me I just kinda subconsciously associate being in bed with getting sexual, and usually I'm only in bed at night.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/25 02:12 PM
–	Men are always seen as faulty and in need of improvement. you can always pick they lack x to show why they fail in dating. it seems society expect men to be perfect in every aspect of life and have no scope for improvement. Yeah this bugs me too, but I don't think the problem is that men get told to self improve, but rather that women don't get told the same. This is why I'm far more likely to listen to men for dating advice, because they're just gonna be more honest and tell me to lose some weight, quit smoking, don't dress like a sleeze, or learn how to cook. Like practical stuff I can actually work on. Although some of them just say I'm too old or have too high body count, which isn't helpful because obviously I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/25 02:08 PM
2	Not trying to be misogynistic or incelly but why do women get into relationships if at all? I've been single for a few years now, working on self-improvement so not actively dating for now until I've got my shit together, but I really miss being in a relationship. On bad days it's like I ache for it. For me it's that... I like the kinda support and guidance a loving man can give me, and I enjoy being supportive and loving with a guy like that. And yeah I'm a little bit old fashioned and more on the traditional side, so I get kinda sappy for chivalry, and having a strong man by my side,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/25 10:37 PM
4	Q4E: Do you think some men are spreading this redpill rhetoric to make more men give up on women so they increase their chances at dating ? No I don't think this is the case for the most part. Although I do think there's some truth to "misery loves company" I don't think most people who drag others down are doing it intentionally. And fyi I see that happen in every damn community and ideology. I don't think it's worse, or better, in the red pill specifically.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/25 10:03 PM
–	We shouldn't look down on people who goes through surgeries Yeah I'm not against people getting plastic surgery. I hope I'll be able to afford some of that myself some day. And yeah, I would also be totally fine with dating a guy who's had cosmetic surgery. My only concern though, is people who have seriously bad body dysmorphia getting surgery. And people who can't see how good their results are. Because while there's one thing to be self-aware you're not very conventionally attractive in these and these areas, it's another thing completely to get lots …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/25 09:56 PM
–	The standards of what is considered cheating today makes monogamous relationships and marriages not worth it People, and couples, have always had disagreements about what counts as cheating. Like for example men using porn while in a relationship, or women having male friends. These kinda things have been argued for decades. Thing is, whatever someone thinks counts as cheating is almost entirely based on that person's individual feelings. Ie what makes them feel hurt, rejected, or betrayed. And I'm not arguing that's wrong or anything, it just makes it almost impossible to set a specific universal stan…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/25 09:57 PM
3	Do you agree with Iliza Schlesinger's take on hateful undesirable saying that it's "natural selection"? I heard about this in a video response by HealthyGamerGG, on youtube. I think he had a much more nuanced and empathetic response to it. Basically he agreed that it's natural selection, but that we shouldn't leave these men behind. That they deserve help and empathy just like anyone who's a victim of natural selection one way or another. Like we don't leave disabled people behind, for example, just because they're unlikely to find someone to date. And I kinda agreed with his take on it, but I did…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/25 09:05 PM
5	Women, are you consciously aware you treat attractive men differently? If studies show that majority of people judge unattractive people negatively or more harshly than attractive people, and yet majority of women here deny that, then something doesn't add up. Either this sub is made up of exceptionally good-hearted and non-judgemental women, or they're not being honest. Which do you think is most likely?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/09/25 08:35 PM
2	Women, are you consciously aware you treat attractive men differently? People tend to reject what doesn't fit their world views, or sometimes even just what they want the world to be like.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/09/25 04:31 PM
1	Women, are you consciously aware you treat attractive men differently? They're probably ignorant about it because one hand, it's largely subconscous, and on the other hand it's not politically correct.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/09/25 02:30 PM
9	Women, are you consciously aware you treat attractive men differently? Yes I'm aware I treat attractive men generally better, because they're the ones I wanna get with, or at the very least they're nicer to look at. But I do actively try to not be overtly rude to unattractive men, like I try to be polite and kind to everyone, and I don't throw accusations haphazardly just because of how a person looks. I can't help that I think it though, like I feel offended when very unattractive men hit on me. But then I also know I have some ASPD traits that can make me a bit t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/09/25 07:15 AM
1	How should the playing field evened out for men who seek casual sex, when men and women are not equally open to casual sex? It's maybe not on a person-to-person level, but there is a lot of social stigma for promiscuous high body count women as "ran though" or "damaged goods" or full of STD's etc. I'm know it's not just men who perpetuate that stigma though. It's men and women, and when it's the ones who genuinely are monogamous and family/marriage focused I've no issue with that. It just makes less sense to me when it's promiscuous men who perpetuate that stigma, because they're ones who'd benefit from these women's…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 06:19 PM
5	How should the playing field evened out for men who seek casual sex, when men and women are not equally open to casual sex? I don't really think casual sex is a good idea for anyone, but that aside... I think men who want casual sex should focus on pursuing women who are openly promiscuous and have high body counts. These kinda women are actually really common these days, at least compared to the more traditionalist past. But unfortunately many promiscuous men don't like these women. They want to be treated as special or as an exception and not as the next cock in line. I get that, but if she's just your next pussy i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 09:42 AM
–	Would you get pregnant to save humanity from low birthrates? I mean I want to have children, but I wasted my youth and getting kinda old, so it's just unlikely that will happen. But if that wasn't an issue, yeah it would be nice to contribute to society by bringing a child or two into the world. That isn't my main reason for wanting children though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/25 10:57 PM
–	Locking a man down in your 20s is the worst advice I agree with most of your points, but in regards number 2, spending all your best years "having fun" sounds like you're either not enjoying the idea of being in a serious relationship, or you think it's not a bad idea to sleep around and get drunk a lot. It is a bad idea. It's destructive. I do agree about the self-exploration part though. Men who complain about "women not knowing what they want" better not marry a 20 year old. But true self-exploration is not trying every sex position and every…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/25 04:35 PM
1	Women, would you agree to do sex scenes/nudity in movies if you were a famous actress, and would that answer change if you had a boyfriend/husband? Yeah I've seen plenty "artistic movies" that are basically just thirst traps. I'm kinda appalled by a lot of what passes for "art" these days, but maybe that's veering into a different topic. I totally respect that, and I think both partners in a relationship should respect each others boundaries, and not go be all sleezy with other people. No that makes total sense! I also would be more upset if my bf or husband was an actor and did a passionate kissing scene, than even a sensual nudity scene. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/25 09:09 AM
1	Women, would you agree to do sex scenes/nudity in movies if you were a famous actress, and would that answer change if you had a boyfriend/husband? Oh, no I would not be okay with making a scene like that. Way too porny for me. While nudity can be artistic, there's also a bunch of people who just use the art angle as an excuse to exploit women. That's sad if no one else here would even take their bfs into considerations, but it doesn't surprise me. Seems a lot of women lack even just basic respect for their male partners. If my partner was fully okay with me doing the level of nudity/sex scenes I'd be okay with, I wouldn't think that's nece…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/25 08:10 AM
2	Women, would you agree to do sex scenes/nudity in movies if you were a famous actress, and would that answer change if you had a boyfriend/husband? You mean sex scene with a bra on? Might be okay, depending on the bra. If my partner asked me not to, I'd like to hear him out about it and I would at least consider not doing such a scene then. I might even change my mind and agree with him. But it kinda depends on what his feelings/argumment actually is on it. Because I wouldn't want to hurt him if it would be genuinely upsetting for him, or make him think I don't value loyalty, but sometimes a man's insecurities are kinda on him to deal with,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/25 07:29 AM
2	Women, would you agree to do sex scenes/nudity in movies if you were a famous actress, and would that answer change if you had a boyfriend/husband? I really have no interest in being either famous or an actress, but if I was, I'd probably only agree to sex scenes where you see nothing much, and are very toned down/mild (like some kissing and the rest is hidden under bed sheets) and only partial nudity in non-sexual scenes, like topless or from behind but not full front view. By "non-sexual" I mean like normal scenes of getting dressed, getting out of a shower/bath, being chased by some psycho character, wearing a swimsuit for a beach scene,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/25 06:56 AM
2	Q4W: Do you women ever confuse an attractive guy that is just being nice to you as him flirting with you? Then it turns out not to be the case and he was just genuinely being nice and polite with no romantic intentions? It's happened a lot to me. I've embarrassed myself so much with that lol. Although I have autism so that probably has something to do with it. Lately though I've been holding off more on thinking a guy is into me just because he's friendly or looks at me. I've learned a lot about how men who are just being friendly act. And at this point onwards I won't be making any moves on a guy unless he's more than just friendly. Last time I made this mistake though, I don't think it was just me being weird…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/25 05:08 PM
1	Women, what would your opinion be of an older woman who told you that she was attracted to young men? You should be able to know if something is a good or bad decision before making it. At least to some extent. Do you need to eat glass to know it's a bad idea?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/25 08:11 PM
1	Women, what would your opinion be of an older woman who told you that she was attracted to young men? Yes, there are some risks that are worth it, if it's anxiety or whatever holding you back from achieving something that's good for you and society, but there are still also stupid risks you should probably avoid. Because they're unhealthy, dangerous, not great in the long run, not well thought-through, bad for society, or just nonsensical. And in dating there are lots of bad decisions that can be made.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/25 11:55 PM
1	Women, what would your opinion be of an older woman who told you that she was attracted to young men? And maybe that's a good thing. Having the courage to do something doesn't mean you should do it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/25 06:42 PM
2	Do you unmatch if a guy mentions anything sexual during the texting phase when online dating? It really depends for me. Casual mentions of sexual stuff here and there doesn't really bother me even early on. But if he's going on and on about his sexual interests, brings up kinks, goes full on sexting, asks me if I'm only looking for LTR, etc, that's definitely a red flag to me and I won't be chatting with him the next day, or ever again. Like, it's one thing to talk about sexual things to figure out if you're compatible or not in that department, but if he starts asking me about my body p…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/08/25 11:08 PM
3	Do you actually lower sexual attraction when it comes to a guy you see as relationship material? No, I have way higher standards for men I see as relationship material, on all points. Like they've gotta be more attractive inside and out. If he just has an imperfect technique when ut comes to sex though, that's not really an issue for me. I mean anyone can improve their skills with more practice. I don't do casual sex anymore, but back when I did, all I cared about was that they had dick. I was frequently wuth far below average men when it was just for sex. Because then I didn't need to care…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/25 11:35 PM
0	Women, what would your opinion be of an older woman who told you that she was attracted to young men? Most older women I've ever known have atrraction to young men, like be it some actor or other celebrity. But none of them actually dated young men, because they knew that would be weird. Of course I never had any issue with that, like it's just a little weird at first. But yeah I do think older women who actually date young men are creepy. Like I'm imagining some really sleezy cougar hag who has no care or empathy about men's consent, and definitely doesn't have enough shame in her body. Just li…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/25 10:56 PM
–	Men and women (but especially men) aren't aware of what league they belong to Yeah, it is very hard to know your own league. And I'm someone who really tries to do that fairly, but even I get genuinely confused sometimes if I'm really mid or below average. Because experiences of interacting with people is not consistent. When in my home environment I consistently pull far below average men, but when I'm visiting other countries (with very similar culture as my own) I get more consistently average men interested in me. So there are probably other factors than just how we l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 10:12 AM
1	Don’t Underestimate Good Hygiene. There are plenty of women who think glasses is attractive on men. But that's assuming you wear a style glasses that suit your face, or at least a style that isn't horribly outdated or a gimmicky trend. Some glasses will make you look like a serial killer, other glasses make you look intelligent and classy. So no need to go for contacts and/or lasik, just get a better looking pair of glasses.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 08:18 AM
1	What traditional roles or habits from the opposite gender (or any) do you just fully accept without trying to rationalize anymore, you just take them as your truth? That men have a different relationship to sex, different feelings about it. Like they're much more likely to enjoy sex for the sex itself, and that's why so many of them want and enjoy casual sex. I still wouldn't wanna date a man who prioritizes casual sex, but like when in a relationship, I get it's best not to overcomplicate the sexual aspect, and not take it as necessarily negative if he's not into cuddling after sex, or that he focuses on the physical, or there's some kinda separation betwe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/25 08:12 AM
2	Would you date a man who has full custody of his kids? I'd be totally fine with that. I'm getting older, might just not have a chance to have my own kids by the time I'm ready to start dating again. So, yeah I'd actually highly welcome the idea of being a step mom. I think it could be nice. And also less pressure to know or do everything at once. Because if the dad has full custody, I'd assume he knows a lot about parenting his own kids. So I could start small, and build up to it gradually, as I gain their trust.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/25 10:58 PM
1	How do you all talk about this online discourse in real life? I rarely ever talk about this stuff with anyone irl. But then again I haven't met many men to talk with in recent years. Way back when I was still doing hookups though, I remember I had a heart to heart convo with a hookup about how feminism was ruining dating and romance, and connection between the genders. That was in maybe 2019. But it was so nice we both could talk so freely about it, because it was obvious both of us were very relieved to hear the other one agreeing. A few years later I had…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 09:57 PM
1	How are ugly couples sexually attracted too each other? I've wondered about this a lot too. I think in some cases maybe if they're an older couple, they both used to be quite attractive and physically attracted to each other when they were young, and then over time when the years took their toll, their attractions shift from looks focused to a focus on deeper love. For what they do for each other, make each other feel, all the things they've built together, etc. And maybe that makes them see each other as more attractive looking than they actually ar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 11:44 AM
1	If you hate women nagging about cleanliness, just date slobs. I'd think more likely they want a clean home, and want to date women who'd be fine with doing most of the cleaning, and thus won't nag about it. But these kinda women are rare these days. So it makes sense to me the men are frustrated with this. I dunno if it's anyone's fault per se. Like is it the women who don't wanna be traditional homemakers anymore, or is it the men who struggle to find the rare few women who still want that in modern society? No, I think it's really just a conflict of inte…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/25 10:52 PM
–	What is your environment like ? I'm aware that my area is very specific. Being a small island it's quite separated from the rest of the country, not just physically but also culturally. Also, I'm not doing any active dating for now, but I do talk to strangers a lot. The places I go to where I would have any chance to meet someone is: swimming pool, workplace, various stores, and just walking around on the streets. It seems most people in my area are elderly, although quite a lot of younger adults too. Not a lot of kids. So, po…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/25 11:36 PM
1	Why are you in this sub ? And what make you stay there ? I originally joined because I wanted advice from men on how I could be more attractive. I stayed because I learned this is one of few spaces I can actually be honest about my anti-feminist views without getting banned. And some of the discussions are interesting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/25 11:26 AM
0	"If men use you for sex, then that's all you're good for/the only thing you have to offer them." Likewise, if women use you for "your resources," then that's all you have to offer women. Men who only value a woman for sex are usually basing that on her looks, clothing choices, body language, etc, being higher/better than her personality, not on whether she herself wants sex or not. So I dunno if you wear a lot of revealing clothing or just are very pretty, but not a very interesting personality, that would put you in the "only good for sex" category. Having an education isn't necessarily interesting. And there are asexual women who dress like they wanna have sex. Either way thou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/25 08:28 AM
5	TTC and afraid of gaining weight I'm speaking out of ignorance here, since I've never been married or pregnant, but from what I've seen around, it doesn't seem like most men care if their wives gain some weight in pregnancy. They understand this is a thing that just comes with the territory. The problem seems to almost always be, when the wives/mothers don't lose the extra weight after the pregnancy. And you've lost weight before, so you can do it again. But if you want reassurance, learn a healthy diet (long term solutions) an…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/08/25 12:05 AM
–	Women's dissatisfaction with modern dating stems largely from their reliance on makeup It seems most men don't really care if women have some makeup on or not, as long as it's not heavy makeup. That seems to be off-putting to a lot of men. And even with natural looking makeup it can still be, and honestly quite often is, thick layers of makeup just made to look invisible. I mean like full coverage foundation, concealer, fake lashes, etc. And of course then if the woman looks very different without makeup, like her skin is a wreck or whatever, I get that's off-putting, and not what…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 09:53 PM
4	Dealing with being kinda mid looking with "high standards"? Uhm, I don't wanna be like that, but are you really a 7? Guys who are total 10's do quite often date and marry women who are 7's. 7, 8, 9, 10 are all often in the same general "above average" league. It's not "mid" at all, which is 4, 5, 6. That said, the real reason I responded was because I kinda sorta relate a bit. Albeit much further down the scale. I mean I'm about a 3, and only really get attracted to men who are 6 or 7. And I never get these men. Most of the time, they look a little disgu…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/07/25 08:28 PM
1	CMV: Being attracted to women is misogyny Most women seem to be feminist yeah. Still can't make logical sense out of their opinions. I mean, not even they can. Because it's mostly just based on emotion.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/25 07:56 PM
–	Have you ever been shamed for sleeping around? I was still a virgin up until my late teens, but my dad would throw a fit over me just dressing slutty when I was 13 to 17. In my 20's I did actually sleep around, and all my friends looked down on me for it. They said I'd "sleep with anyone who has a pulse" and I had a massive hoe repution. Even complete strangers assumed I had all sorts of STD's, or that I was a cheater, etc, none of which was true. It only really calmed down when I moved halfway across the country and started over. But now I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/25 12:07 AM
–	Do you think shy men wishing for women to initiate and be more proactive are against women's autonomy? No, I don't think so. I don't get the idea that "women should initiate more" would mean we should approach men we're not attracted to. But rather that, if there's a specific man we want, we should just go for it, and not sit around and wait for him to come to us, and then complain about not getting noticed, or "men bad at reading signals" while at the same time being annoyed at men approaching them. I dunno if that would be the same woman, but you know, it's gonna look like that from the outside…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 11:56 PM
1	CMV: Being attracted to women is misogyny The problem is that feminism's idea of misogyny has gone way out of hand, so to the point it's just another buzzword now. It's not misogyny to be attracted to women, unless you also think it's misogyny for a man to glance at a woman, or say hi to her. It's ridiculous. But what I think it actually is, is women's natural caution towards men (because they are generally stronger and more aggressive, which isn't always bad but can be) having spiralled into an irrational phobia, of men doing/feeling a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 11:23 PM
4	There is a serious lack of self awareness within guys who actively stereotype a singular ‘women’ Sometimes the sweeping statements men make about women as a whole are true. Like, pretty much all women want a man who has in some capacity higher status than themselves, even if some women don't set the bar much higher than their own status, so it's less noticable. But yeah, some of the sweeping statements made about women here is literally just treating women like a hivemind. Even expecting us to come to some kinda unified decision on what we want men to do. However, I do also frequently come …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 11:15 PM
2	What is considered long hair to you? I guess for me "long hair" starts at around shoulder length, but it kinda depends on the person, and on the style of the hair. Like, my hair is technically shoulder length, but it's curly so it appears much shorter, like to around my ears, because it curls up a lot. Also I have a very long neck, which makes my hair appear shorter than it actually is. I can grow it so that it appears shoulder length (technically armpit length, or around 6-7 inches) but after that point it just starts breaking off…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/07/25 07:09 PM
3	Question for Women: What are the barriers that stop women from just taking the initiative and asking guys out on a date that they clearly like or have a crush on? I do initiate at times, but it's been unsuccessful so far. Really unsuccessful, even with men I perceive to be at the same level of attractiveness (4/10) as me, same socio-economical status (lower class, like janitors, garbage truck drivers, male nurses, etc) and 5-15 years older than me. I of course only go for men within that category that I personally find attractive and have respect for, but I dunno if they think I'm making fun of them anyway. And because of that, I think a big downside is t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/25 02:06 PM
–	Do you participate in toxic masculinity tropes/ideals or the internal policing of masculinity by society? Do you engage in any gender norms at all as it relates to “protecting the patriarchy”? If so, why? I avoid policing masculinity as much as I can, but on rare occasion I'll join other women in complaining about some specific aspects about men that grind my gears. I spend a lot more time praising masculinity, but yeah I can't lie that there are some rare few aspects of it I don't like. I don't call it toxic though, because I don't think masculinity is toxic. I do engage in some gender norms. I like being feminine. Like dressing more traditionally, wearing some makeup, being accommodating and so…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/25 01:43 PM
1	women did not shoot themselves in the foot by complaining about getting approached No I completely understand that, it makes perfect sense. I also weigh risk vs reward like that. And I also have the experience of being rejected far more times than not. Although I do not have the experience of being expected to approach, and I completely get that changes the perspective a lot. Because my choices to approach and face the risk of rejection were far more autonomous than for men in that situation. So while I think I do understand a bit better than most women (who have never or rare…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/25 03:00 PM
2	women did not shoot themselves in the foot by complaining about getting approached So what? Are you suggesting men's reactions to women they're not attracted to approaching them is more noble than an ego boost at best? The most positive reactions I've gotten from men who had zero interest in me was "I'm flattered, but no thanks." And I was glad I at least made him feel a bit good about himself, because the alternative is way worse, and I really couldn't ask for more. Taking it as a compliment is arguably the best thing anyone can do in that situation, imo. Which goes for both …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/25 01:42 PM
15	Age gap relationship I have dated quite a few older men. One was 9 years older when I was 18 (he 27), one was 7 years older when I was 27 (he 34), one was 40 years older when I was 28 (he 68.) I had a thing for older men when I was in my teens and 20's. But after that last, much older guy, I started to reconsider my age preferences. Having grown up in a completely different generation can affect the relationship negatively. You won't be able to relate to simple things like what tv programs or music you grew up with,…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/25 09:53 AM
4	women did not shoot themselves in the foot by complaining about getting approached I dunno I think it's just nice to be liked, in general, even if I don't like the person back. I prefer clear communication from people, like it's much harder to interpret a nod or a smile correctly, but a "hey I like you, wanna grab a coffee sometime?" or even a "nice ass" is hard to misunderstand. I like people being direct with me, even if it's blunt. And cold approaching is very direct and clear. I have dated several men who cold approached me. Back when that was still common. Some, I didn't …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/25 08:22 AM
1	women did not shoot themselves in the foot by complaining about getting approached I can understand that. Not every woman takes it as a personal offense when a guy they're not attracted to likes them. It can just be a neutral event, or a nice compliment that doesn't have to lead anywhere, or heck even just worth it for the attractive men that approach you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/25 08:03 AM
4	women did not shoot themselves in the foot by complaining about getting approached Yes it's a nice compliment and flattering even if I'm not attracted to him. I don't find that offensive at all. Whether I find him attractive or not is not a reflection on him as a person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/25 07:57 AM
44	women did not shoot themselves in the foot by complaining about getting approached Not quite. Women who complained about men approaching seem happy with fewer men approaching as a result. It's those of us who didn't complain and liked being approached by men who got shot in the foot, by those other women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/25 11:25 PM
6	If you knew a woman/man who could never have sex, would you still marry them? No I wouldn't. Wouldn't even entertain the idea of dating such a person. If we get along well in all other aspects, then we could be friends but that's it. Sex matters to me in any kinda romantic relationship, but especially something as long term as marriage. To me that's kinda what makes the difference between a boyfriend/husband and a friend.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/25 03:08 PM
1	Why do you assume men are only looking for sex? I don't always assume that. It's only when a specific man goes on and on about my body, or sexual proclivities, that I assume his main interest is in scoring women for sex. But this has really not been all men ime, just most men online. And no I don't think hyperspecific online spaces, like a dating app or this sub, reflect the real world particularly well at all. I do try my best to judge men based on their own individual actions, but sometimes that is difficult when there are men who pretend t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/25 11:50 PM
2	What finally helped you step into your femininity? I focus on aspects of femininity that I like or look up to in other women, and then try to do my own version of that. I also see femininity as a tool, for communication, and for reaching my goals. That helps me see femininity in a more positive light, and as less of a threat, as a useful tool rather than as a personality.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/07/25 07:38 AM
1	Let's talk about Gender Theory I appreciate that! :)	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/25 05:19 PM
2	Dismissing women's opinions of men because they're based on online interactions is stupid (and intentionally manipulative). Problem with judging people based on online interactions is that people tend to form echo chambers online, which is much harder to do irl, outside of close knit friend groups. People will always act more unhinged when in a group where everyone is joined there by a single opinion or ideology. It doesn't mean that the same people really act (or even think) like that irl. Even when just put in a different social situation, most people adjust their actions and thought processes. And this sub is abso…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/25 01:22 PM
3	Let's talk about Gender Theory I'm a detransitioner, so I do have some experiences with this, and reasons to think "gender theory" is mostly bullshit. While I can separate gender from sex in a sense of masculinity and femininity vs male and female, I don't think it makes any sense to say subjective feelings should determine who is a man or woman. All the research that's been done in attempts to prove that trans people are who they say they are, have been inconclusive at best, and very similar to the findings on homosexuality,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/25 08:40 AM
1	Unless in the context of an LTR, “Physical intimacy” is a word horny people use to pretend they’re romantic. I'm sorry I shouldn't have been so dismissive. I'm also autistic and I used to be terrified of misunderstandings, even to a point of studying language (my native + English), as well as learning social cues, extra hard in hopes of avoiding misunderstandings. But it didn't help. It took me a really long time to finally let go of that fear, because eventually I realized that misunderstandings happen to everyone, and I'm not dumb for it, no matter how much people keep telling me that, or acting like…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 07:26 PM
1	Unless in the context of an LTR, “Physical intimacy” is a word horny people use to pretend they’re romantic. People will always use words/phrases slightly differently, and yes sometimes that leads to misunderstandings. In all social contexts really. Don't be scared of misunderstandings, you can always clarify what you meant more specifically if someone accuses you of being obsessed with sex or something!	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 05:52 PM
–	Sexual compatibility isn't a real thing. I generally don't have an issue finding men I'm sexually compatible with, because I have a high sex drive and enjoy all the typical stuff. But, when a man is incompatible with me, it's usually because he either has a need for kinky sex which I'm not at all into, or he greatly prefers morning sex while I greatly prefer evening sex, or he wants to change things up constantly while I prefer doing the same thing every time, or on rarer occasion it's that he's not into oral at all while I love giving…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 11:12 AM
9	Unless in the context of an LTR, “Physical intimacy” is a word horny people use to pretend they’re romantic. Well, when I say "physical intimacy" it's not a euphamism for sex. It's me trying to find a catch all term for kissing, hugging, holding hands, cuddles in general, any non-sex sexual touching, sharing bed for actual sleep, being naked together in a non-sexual way, and sex. And I'm sure I can't be the only one who uses that phrase this way, because I highly doubt I'm the only one (here) who craves the non-sexual physical connection that's associated with romance, as well as sex, or the only one w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 12:37 AM
3	Ideally, how much of your value do you think should come from sex? It entirely depends on the situation. In (romantic/sexual) relationships, I'd want my value to be maybe 50% sex and 50% personality. Basically just a good balance. I don't want to date a man who just sees me as a friend or a family member he has zero sexual interest in, but I also don't want a purely sexual relationship with a man who doesn't give two shits about who I am as a person. I want a man who loves my personality and also thinks I'm sexually attractive physically. Outside of dating thou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/25 09:22 PM
1	What do you think of a guy making you wait for sex? I'd have no issue with that. It would probably just take off pressure for both of us if we both wanted to wait. My first boyfriend wanted to wait longer than I did. I was fine with that. He was a virgin and I had been with two (three if we count rape) men before him. I wasn't very experienced at that point either, but I understood that he was nervous and wanted to be sure with me first. Fyi it doesn't really matter to me what the exact reasons a guy wants to wait with sex are. I don't think that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/25 06:39 PM
6	For straight women who date bisexual men. I used to think I was bisexual, I was bi-curious for some 15 years but then when I finally got the chance to be with another woman, my feelings about it were lukewarm at best, eventually put off by it. I also used to be transgender, but when I finally recovered from my past trauma those feelings went away and I regretted having tried to become a man. So I figured I must just have been a confused straight woman all along. But during that time I learned a lot about bisexuality and met a lot of bis…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/25 09:05 AM
1	Women who dislike online dating: have you tried talking to less attractive men? Oh I am doing all that for my sake already. I want to be happy and feel good about my body, and not be lonely. Making myself more attractive, to men and to myself, which includes mostly stuff that are objectively good for me anyway (eating healthier, working out, getting better at time management, etc) and if that can help me find a man I connect with, I'm sure all of that will make me happier as a person overall. Not that I'm currently unhappy, just a bit lonely and frustrated with the way my l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/25 11:05 PM
1	LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD I'd much rather be with the short, small dick guy. I'm 5'6 but I prefer men who are close to my height or shorter. I'm not into tall men because my neck hurt trying to reach up for a kiss. I'm not into big penises because they hurt my body orifices. But I can set aside these preferences (to a certain extent) if the guy is otherwise handsome, a great guy, etc. I always go by face and body shape. I've never rejected a guy for his height or penis size. But most men are around 5'8" tall with a 5" pe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/25 10:24 AM
2	Women who dislike online dating: have you tried talking to less attractive men? I did. Most of the men I pursued were around average (4-6/10), most of them had little to no visible muscle, some were disabled, I never take height into consideration. Yet, most of them were only interested in casual sex, or were just incapable of holding a conversation. The rare few times I found a decent man who was interested in me, he lived on the other side of the world. So I figured the problem must be me. Like maybe I was too ugly or came across as promiscuous in my profile, or I had too…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/25 09:59 AM
1	Most people, regardless of political affiliation, believe men who date trans women are gay or bisexual. People get a lot of backlash from the LGBT community and its allies for stating or even just implying that transwomen aren't actually women. In some places people even lose their jobs for it. For example Maya Forstater and Graham Lineham both had their careers practically destroyed over just stating their opinions openly on what is a man/woman. Other people just lose friends or contact with family members for being honest, which can be motivating enough to keep their mouths shut. So I don't thin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/25 07:36 AM
1	Why do you want to be in a relationship? For me it's that being in a relationship is the one type of connection where I can get intense intimacy, emotional and physical. It's not just sex and kisses that I want, but I want that specifically with someone I have a deep emotional connection with. Like I've had really close friends (I mean the kind you fully trust, feel very safe with, and know better than your own mom, not friends with benefits) but that's still a different kind of intimacy. Both truly valuable in their own right of cours…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/25 07:08 PM
–	Men being alone can be cured without enslaving women I can empathize with that. I don't think it's right for women to treat any and every man like trash, even if they went through some kinda trauma. If there's trauma, directing anger, fear, etc, towards the actual abusers makes sense. But blaming or fearmongering a whole demographic for an individual's actions is really not a necessary precaution like they keep saying. It's revenge, misdirected revenge. And fyi I've been through trauma so I know the difference between a shitty cope excuse, and hea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/25 01:02 AM
1	Out of all the men you meet in your day to day life how often do you meet a guy that you actually like? And why do most men not do it for you? I do, sometimes. They get awkward and reject me 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/25 12:37 AM
5	Out of all the men you meet in your day to day life how often do you meet a guy that you actually like? And why do most men not do it for you? I dunno, maybe two or three per week. It's hard to say because I live in a very small village, so I see the same people in the same places a lot, including strangers I recognize on the streets, at the grocery store, my general workplace area, etc. I mean I don't know them, never talked to them, but I recognize their faces from having seen them around before. Also I'm vaguely acquantanced with probably half the village. That said there's at least 5 or 10 different men in my area that I see somewh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/25 12:07 AM
3	Men being alone can be cured without enslaving women I think so too. Although I think it'll be especially good for men if society overall got tired enough of that excuse that it stops working, I think it would also be beneficial to some extent for women if they'd stop demonizing men for the slightest thing that annoys them. Because they'd be treated better by men too then. It would be funny if it wasn't so sad that this became a self-fulfilling prophecy. Sure, they deserve their karma, but I don't think the men, or the few women who don't act like…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/25 11:32 PM
3	Men being alone can be cured without enslaving women People will get tired of that excuse though. They've already started to. I'm sure there will come a time when that excuse no longer works anymore.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/25 10:48 PM
2	Men being alone can be cured without enslaving women I don't think that's entirely true. Because there have been times in the past when women did shame each other for being nasty towards men, or anyone. When it was the cultural/social norm for women to be kind and sweet, forgiving and nurturing. Women today being on average massively misandrist is largely a cultural issue. And cultural issues can be changed, if loud enough people have an issue with it. It doesn't even have to be the majority, just the loudest. I'm not saying it would happen over n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/25 10:03 AM
1	Men being alone can be cured without enslaving women I appreciate that. I know most women don't seem to care about men's well-being and happiness, but I want men to be happy and not lonely, and though I can't fully understand what life is like for them, I do empathize as one human to another.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/25 09:51 AM
1	Men being alone can be cured without enslaving women I dunno but I think it's (theoretically) possible to improve men's dating options without enslaving women. For example, get rid of online dating or massively re-make them, incentive more irl dating events and for them to be more widely available. Teach women in general to not be nasty towards men approaching them, which can be done over time by just shaming nasty behaviour. Find some kinda social punishment for women who take advantage of men for their money, and for men who take advantage of wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/25 08:59 AM
3	Finally understand when men say "I don't know why women wear/do their make up like [xyz]. It's not attractive"!!! There are plenty of things that both genders do that the opposite gender doesn't like. Although women's complaints is mostly in regards to men's clothing, a lot of women also have issues with various facial hair choices men make, and I think that's the closest equivalent to makeup on women. But men in general are usually more incentiviced to do things with their appearance that women find attractive, and are more likely to take an "x looks bad on you" as advice on how to do better. Likely becaus…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/07/25 08:21 AM
3	How plausible is the type of man you want? I don't think men are more or less resilient to rejection than women. I do however think everyone should learn to handle being rejected. How to handle it: figure out how to move on from a setback, and how to not take it as the end of the world. Maybe handle it like a job application rejection. Fyi I've been rejected by men a lot. Sucked really bad at first (I had so much heartache in my teens and 20's) but now it's just a minor inconvenience and slightly embarrassing. Why should men take the ini…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/25 01:31 PM
2	The Politics of Dating The red pill isn't about accepting being perpetually single due to shit genetics, that's black pill. The red pill is focusing on how the dating market works, and many red pillers believe in self-improvement to improve one's own sexual market value. Some red pillers hate that competition, but some embrace it as part of life, or as fuel to do better. Being red pill doesn't necessarily mean you're far right, just because it's incompatible with the far left on dating and biology specifically. There …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/25 08:00 AM
6	QFW When you hear people make jokes or belittle men for "compensating", having "small dick energy", or otherwise belittle people with smaller dicks, do you speak up? Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. Depends on the context. I don't really believe in call out culture to begin with and generally try to avoid butting into other people's conversations, but I do hate that it's used as an insult altogether. So I may at times retort that a man having a smaller penis doesn't necessarily mean he is unattractive or bad in bed, or less masculine. At least if it's said in a conversation I was already in to begin with. It's not so much trying to correct other people's s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/25 07:15 AM
1	How do you feel when men on here treat your sexual autonomy and freedom of choice like an annoying barrier to what they feel entitled to? It makes me feel like they have a point. Not that they're always right or anything, but I've always struggled with getting attracted to men I have zero chance with, and then settling for men I'm not really all that into, but the more I hang out in red/purple pill spaces, it helps me analyze where I've been going wrong with my preferences. Like maybe I have been focusing too much on physical appearance and too little on compatibility and personality traits. For my own sake, but I mean improving m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/25 08:59 AM
1	Do you place men in 3 different categories? It's hard for me to know if I think a guy is attractive or not at first glance. They almost all appear neutral to me at first. It usually becomes clearer to me after seeing him or talking to him a few times. That makes it hard to put them in categories based purely on attractiveness. Looks is just not enough for me to go on 99,9% of the time. If anything I'd say initially vast majority of men (70-80%) read as neutral to me, ie there's potential for attraction, and only a small percentage (less t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/25 08:36 AM
2	How to walk more femininely and develop more feminine mannerisms? Society is pretty good at making all of us feel insufficiently feminine at times. Some of the expectations are a little out there or even contradictory, or just doesn't fit our bodies or our personalities. So I'd say it's normal to feel a little inadequate at times. If you didn't, you'd be a narcissist, pretty much. So see it as a healthy lesson of humility. That said however, I think it's important to find a healthy balance between being feminine and just being you. We can't control our genetic…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/06/25 12:51 AM
1	Being Celibate (advice needed) I'm not religious, but I did use to have a porn addiction due to sexual trauma as well. And I got better, so I wanna share my experience with that. The harms this addiction caused me was: 1) Dependency on sex/masturbation to feel better, whenever I was upset or just needed to sleep, 2) staying the night (or several nights) at a friend's place was difficult and awkward because I couldn't go a single day without it, 3) difficulty achieving orgasm without the stimuli of porn or extreme fantasies, 4…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/06/25 09:45 AM
2	Why do some ladies do this? Maybe if they actually don't use social media they'd still want to keep in touch with you but just through a more old-fashioned kinda media. Like maybe suggest exchanging phone numbers instead, or e-mails, or maybe she has a fax machine. Or, maybe they just enjoy the conversation but still don't wanna date. Sometimes people just like having a chat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/25 09:20 PM
1	Do women only valuable from teens to early 20s? Some are just less attracted. Some are old enough themselves, or lonely enough to not care. Men aren't a monolith. Birth rates and marriage rates are all going down though, partially because people are having kids later and later in life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/25 02:26 AM
1	Do women only valuable from teens to early 20s? No but some people will treat others poorly because they perceive them to be of less value. But there's no need to discuss that. They're just being assholes. People are assholes for all sorts of reasons. That's boring, because the real reason is crap personality. Why most men are not attracted to women over 25, whether they're assholes about it or not? A lot more interesting to discuss, and still, somehow, on topic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/25 11:30 PM
2	Do women only valuable from teens to early 20s? No, OP was asking why some men act or seem like women over 25 are disgusting. That's a perspective on people who are not even in this discussion. We dunno how they were actually acting. There's nothing to verify that that perspective is the actual reality. So I responded to the part of this post that I can verify is real, as I don't have energy for pointless, wild speculations.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/25 02:19 AM
1	Do women only valuable from teens to early 20s? Sounds like you're the one who needs to re-read the OP post. They're paraphrasing (or rather judging) what other people said. The words "disgusting" etc are in quotes, because OP quoted other people. Asking "why do X people think Y people are disgusting?" is not sharing a personal opinion. And I dismissed it because that's usually not what men here who don't wanna date women over 25 are saying. What they're actually saying is that these women are "ran through" or have "hit the wall" which is not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/25 12:26 AM
1	What's opinion on women's getting a man's last name nowadays? I'm not against it, but not sure how strongly I'm for it. Kinda neutral towards it all in all. Wouldn't know for sure if I'd want to take a future husband's surname or not. Probably depends on what his name is, and what his views are on this. Because if he has stronger views on this, in either direction, I think he should be the one to decide. On one hand, I can see that both married partners having the same surname does make some stuff easier. It's helps with clarifying you are of the same fami…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/25 12:29 AM
2	Do women only valuable from teens to early 20s? Most of my response was relating to the fertility aspect. I don't think OP was calling women over 25 disgusting. I'm 36 and a woman and and I took no offense to it, because I can understand it on an intellectual level, and that it's not in my favor to get so hung up on why it's harder for me to find men to date at this age. It makes logical sense, I deal with it. People stating that certain preferences are generally more common isn't a personal attack on you, me or anyone else who doesn't fit th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/25 07:20 PM
2	Do women only valuable from teens to early 20s? I get what you're saying but this is not the only factor. The younger a woman is when she starts having children, the more children she can have before she starts getting into the higher risk age. And most people who want children want quite many of them. Also, most people who want marriage and children usually don't start having children until 3-4 years after starting their relationships, plus it takes 9 months to make the baby, and it might take a few months to get pregnant after first trying …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/25 01:56 PM
12	Do women only valuable from teens to early 20s? Women of those ages are generally the most valuable, because they're at peak fertility, health, etc. But no, if you still take good care of yourself, don't have any major medical issues, etc beyond age 30, there is still a quite high chance men will find you attractive. It's just most likely gonna be men who are a bit older. Men in their 40's and 50's usually have no issue being attracted to women in their 30's. Of course then it's gonna be even harder to find love in your 40's, 50's, and so on.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/25 08:05 AM
2	Has studying/learning about men actually made you a better partner or dater? I'm not a big reader, but I have been more or less involved in men's rights issues since 2016. That's when I first stumbled into the whole "anti-sjw" movement, and the "red pill" documentary, when that all got really big on youtube. I got quite sucked into that, and I learned a lot about men from listening to these anti-feminist male youtubers. I've kinda never been a feminist. Sure there were times I called myself that, but I was never into that ideology. So I didn't become an anti-feminist at …	/r/RedPillWomen	16/06/25 10:58 PM
4	Is a man acting "masculine" a prerequisite for you getting turned on by him? And, would you still be able to find someone who didn't act masculine arousing, so long as he looks hot? No, I've been attracted to men who are more feminine as well as more masculine, in both appearance and behaviour. I do like men who are assertive and good leaders, but also shy, passionate artists, for example. I mean usually men who write poetry, hate sports, paint their nails and hate fighting, usually aren't considered masculine. That he's healthy, takes care of himself, and doesn't bring drama to the relationship are my only actual prerequisites for attraction. And sometimes men who are more…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/06/25 04:39 PM
1	Would you date asexual person? No, sex is important to me in relationships. And if there's no sex, then that's just being friends, imo. I wouldn't mind being friends with an asexual guy, but I wouldn't commit to someone who isn't sexually attracted to me, and I wouldn't be able to be or remain attracted to them. I lose interest eventually if the attraction is not mutual.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/25 11:15 PM
1	Relationship Advice Tier List by sexual orientation Not a bad tier list, imo. I'm a straight woman and I agree that my lot are generally really bad at giving dating advice. Most of it consists of "only make yourself pretty for yourself, doing it for a man is internalized misogyny," being against traditional femininity in general, and "if it gets even the slightest bit difficult, break up." That's why I generally turn to gay and straight men for dating advice. Straight men can tell me what they want in a woman, and gay men can tell me about what k…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/25 02:07 PM
3	Women are held more accountable than men are by redpillers Eh, most red pillers are men, and men generally have an easier time seeing and understanding male perspectives and behaviours, ergo more likely to not understand or empathize with female perspectives and behaviours. The reverse is of course equally true, hence why feminist spaces tend to be full of women who excuse their own bad behaviours all while blaming men. This is just human. Most people have a much easier time relating to, understanding and empathizing with their own sex, and it is really…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/25 02:21 PM
2	Why do women not work out as much as men? Thank you, I do try my best :)	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/25 08:03 PM
1	Why do women not work out as much as men? But going your entire life not wanting to do any strength training because men will think you’re too muscly is bizarre. I don't think most women take it to quite that extreme. Sure, with the obesity rates that does mean probably a majority of people (of both sexes) aren't exercising enough, but I wasn't accounting for that. Because there's no mystery behind that. Okay you do have quite reasonable reasons for why women supposedly need more weight training. I'll take your word for it. Still doesn'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/25 07:58 PM
2	Why do women not work out as much as men? I dunno if that's a true claim or not, but I do know that strength training is important for both sexes. We should place more importance on our health than on the opinions of strangers. Perhaps, but people will never stop caring about being attractive. Whether we like it or not, sexuality does drive a lot of our seemingly unrelated every day decisions. A big reason people wanna be healthy to begin with is to be liked and seen as attractive (whether sexually, aesthetically or professionally) by o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/25 03:53 PM
2	How do you gauge the emotional intelligence of a man you’re interested in? I can usually tell by how he handles other people being upset, if he's dismissive or compassionate. He doesn't have to be invested in it, but it's usually really obvious by how a guy reacts, if he's clueless/rude/making jokes, or if he can relate/show compassion/be kind. As for what is talking too much about a passion... imo it's only really a problem if he cuts me off when I talk about my passions, dismisses my passions, or has zero interest in my passions but puts a lot of effort into making m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/25 03:37 PM
1	Why do women not work out as much as men? Having a lot of muscle or very lean body is usually not seen as very attractive on women. We usually get more praise for having softer bodies and curves (not talking about obesity, I mean like Marilyn Monroe body type.) Also women generally get more praised for thinness, endurance and flexibility, rather than brute strength or speed. Our bodies are not really built for that anyhow. So a lot of women fear they'll get too muscular or too veiny if they'd work out too much or too hard. Even though t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/25 02:36 PM
3	What would be your thoughts on someone co parenting a dog? I'd be concerned there's some unresolved drama between the guy and his ex. Either they just can't agree on who gets to have the dog, or one wants the dog for themselves but the other is not having any of that. It could be his dog and she's being unreasonable or manipulative. Or her dog and he's holding it against her. Either way this is a mess waiting to blow up in your face. He needs to resolve the dog situation with his ex before he starts dating again, imo.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/06/25 10:39 AM
2	Clothing/Fashion Advice: How to dress in the style I prefer while still being attractive to men? I'm not sure, but if I were you I'd probably focus on more general advice like modesty, wearing clothes that fit you, colors that look good on you, etc, and apply it to your own style. Sure there are some clothing styles that are pretty much defined by being for example revealing or ill-fitting, but imo most fashion styles can be modified for different body shapes, different seasons, and different personal needs. Fyi my own style is a bit different from the ultra basic traditionally feminine sty…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/06/25 10:23 AM
1	Women, in your experience how long do men usually last in bed? I'm glad to see you care so much about making your partner comfortable. It does seem to be a rare trait, in both men and women, tbh. Most people only really care about their own pleasure. I don't think that's necessarily because they're bad people or anything though. It's just easier to focus on, in all sorts of aspects of life. I mean I can sorta relate to what you're saying. I try really hard to make sure my partner is comfortable, relaxed, feel wanted, and that whatever I'm doing sexually is …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/25 05:46 PM
1	Women, in your experience how long do men usually last in bed? I agree, having good connection and attraction to one's partner is really important. I feel for the ladies too, we all know that many stay silent in unpleasant situations just to please their partners. It can be awkward to speak up in such situations especially when you don't know the guy super well, and you know he's likely not intenting to hurt you. I get what you say about men needing to be very comfortable in their sexuality to be able notice that, but I also kinda don't think men should hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/25 03:41 PM
1	Women, in your experience how long do men usually last in bed? Well it's pretty difficult for women to reach orgasm altogether. Our bodies are wxtremely picky with what kinda stimulation is needed for that to happen it takes a lot of focus to not "break" a build-up of pleasure, leading to having to start from scratch and having to build it all up again. So, while I don't mean to disregard the struggles men have during sex, or to say that women "have it worse" because I don't really think that. There are certainly aspects of sex that are easier for me as a w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/25 09:11 PM
2	If you are celibate, you can't expect your partner to not have sex with others, nor does he have to tell you No, the only time I think you are allowed to lie or withhold truth about having sex with others, is when your partner is doing the same thing, or is otherwise not being honest, or if they're abusing you. Basically when her "crime" is equal to, or worse than yours. The scenario you brought up is not comparable. She's not doing anything wrong if she's being honest about it, and not forcing the guy to be with her. I get that this may be frustrating or annoying for him, but being annoyed is not on p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/25 08:17 AM
1	Women, in your experience how long do men usually last in bed? Well, I've been with guys who lasted for literally hours, and guys who only lasted 5 pumps, but I'd say on average it's been probably around 5-10 minutes, and yeah imo that is too quick, as it usually takes 20-30 minutes for me. Age, experience, and any potential ED (whether temporary or long term issue) does have a lot to do with it, I think.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/25 08:04 PM
7	Women, would you be okay with your man getting eggs from another woman and having a baby in your womb? Nah, I would not be okay with that. I wouldn't wanna give birth to another woman's child. It wouldn't be my child, genetically. I wouldn't be against adoption, if the man already has a child from a previous relationship or whatever, but this, I don't want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/25 07:53 AM
0	I propose the following definition of "feminist": anyone caught using the term "mainsplaining" unironically. This is perhaps a bit more deep, but any time someone says they care about men's issues, but then go on to explain how it's all men's own fault for having issues like homelessness, suicidality, etc, because patriarchy, I know they're a feminist.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/06/25 09:09 AM
1	How much is 'feeling safe' a predictor for successful dating? If it's just on the first date, sure, I might give him another chance, if other things felt good. But if I continue to not feel safe, that's a gut feeling I probably wanna listen to. Not feeling safe in the long run is pretty bad, imo. One might even call it a red flag, ie something to be wary of and not dismiss. So yeah, feeling safe has to happen at some point early on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/25 07:19 AM
1	How much is 'feeling safe' a predictor for successful dating? For me, "feeling safe" is basically just getting the vibe (based on actions, mannerisms, word choice, etc) that the person is trustworthy, which I'd say is pretty important to dating. And yes for both partners, absolutely. I wouldn't go as far as saying it's a predictor for succesful dating, but definitely a good foundation to build on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/25 10:38 PM
6	Are there RedPill men, and potentially women, who are not angry about the current dating situation or the pill they've taken? Kinda depends. By some purple pill standards there are some (especially older) men who are open to dating women 35+ with a troubled past, as long as they (the women) can prove they've changed and properly dealt with any past trauma. I do understand that my hopes of having children are probably lost by now though, but I think that the amount of work I've put into stop being promiscuous, valuing monogamy, improving my over all health (physical, mental, sexual), taking care of my appearance, and th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/25 03:07 PM
4	Are there RedPill men, and potentially women, who are not angry about the current dating situation or the pill they've taken? I think you might be right about that. That if you're still angry that probably means you're still resisting red pill views, or perhaps more commonly for men: using red pill views only as an excuse to fuel anger at dating injustices, which isn't really accepting it as just the way of the world either, imo.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/25 02:38 PM
20	Are there RedPill men, and potentially women, who are not angry about the current dating situation or the pill they've taken? I was way more angry about the red pill when I still purple pill. It was when I started to let go of that anger that I started seeing the red pill in a new light, and realized a lot of it is actually just describing what I've been seeing my whole life. Even if I to some extent am the anomaly, like I've never been interested in dating a Chad. And although I'm still single, changing my perspective to red pill has made the concept of dating simpler. I now know much better what to focus on to attrac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/25 09:39 AM
0	It's impossible for women to "pick better" when it comes to infidelity. Lol of course I can't read minds. Just saying I've never had any reasons to suspect cheating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/25 08:46 PM
3	Apparently, men are more likely to hit on women they think are easy and not necessarily because they think they're attractive Yeah, I think this is true to some extent. I'm not very attractive and have tattoos (just two, and they're not always visible) and I do get hit on by men fairly often, but 99% of them it's a guy who just wants easy sex. I think these are the kinda men who go for less attractive women, not the men who want a serious relationship and someone to commit to. They seem to more often go for women who are on the same level as themselves, or more attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/25 08:17 PM
–	How often are men dating conservative extremist or far right wing women while having progressive or leftist values and views themselves? This kinda made me chuckle a bit. Right wing extremist women are kinda rare, and so are left wing men, so the odds of them ending up together are kinda low. But even if so, what's she gonna do? Force him to work all day as she stays home to cook and clean for him? Jokes aside, I hardly see how this is an issue. Left wing/liberal men are the ones who have the easiest time finding a woman who agrees with them politically. But I'm sure that men all over the polical spectrum are having sexual relati…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/25 07:54 PM
–	What role do accountability and growth play in your relationships with men I always believe people can change. The problem is a lot of people just don't want to. Like it's too much work, or they identify with the chaos they create, whatever. In these cases, usually I'm not gonna wanna bother trying to help them change either. However, if a guy actually wants to change, and doesn't let himself be hindered by those kinda things, I'm totally happy to help him in any way I can. Most notable example I can think of is I have been with a few men who had some concerning issues…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/25 03:41 PM
1	It's impossible for women to "pick better" when it comes to infidelity. A lot of people cheat, both men and women. But a lot of people don't. If you just don't hold back on sex a lot, are honest, you have good chemistry, compatibility and can resolve conflict, though, I kinda doubt the man is particularly likely to cheat on you. Biggest reason most men cheat is because they're not getting what they need from you, which most often is sex. Or the woman nags too much. Most women barely wanna have sex once a month, or cause drama about dumb shit like not getting a goodm…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/25 09:42 AM
–	How do you feel about being the "low maintenance option"? I'm not really low maintenance though. I put a lot of time and effort into my appearance, I take at least 3h to get ready for going anywhere, I spend 2h every day just doing skincare, etc. So if a man wanted to date me because he thinks I'm low maintenance, just because I don't have the most attractive face, I'm pretty sure he'd be quite disappointed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/25 09:12 PM
1	Does it matter what kind of porn a guy watches? I'm generally not a fan of porn. I stopped watching it altogether a few years ago or so. But I'm not really invested in if other people watch it or not. I feel like that's their prerogative. If it's a guy I wanna date though, I'd be very hesitant about it if whatever porn he watches shapes his sex life and irl turn ons in favor of all sorts of kinks. I'm just very vanilla and don't want any type of kink in my sex life ever again. And I would not wanna watch porn together with a partner either. S…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/25 12:50 AM
1	Would you describe yourself as an autosexual? No, I really wouldn't. I'm generally quite put off by my own body, and avoid thinking about it especially in sexual situations. I like looking sexy for a partner, but not for myself. I mostly just feel awkward in lingerie. I'm straight and not trans. Used to be, or thought I was trans, but I went back to being a woman again a couple of years ago. I was born female, to clarify. My sexuality is actually very focused on the men I'm attracted to, how they look, smell, feel, sound. Even if some of th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/25 10:18 PM
1	Do you identify as a feminist? I don't identify as a feminist, but yes I do think some level of social and legal gender equality should be upheld. Wanting equality and being a feminist is not the same thing. Someone who wants equality prioritizes both genders, and tries to find solutions to both male issues and female issues, preferably without trampling on either to achieve betterment for one. There are people who know sexism exists, but don't think women are always the most oppressed in every aspect of life. And who don't t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/25 09:06 PM
18	Why Don’t Straight Women Acknowledge That Dating Is Easier for Them? I used to not acknowledge that because 1) I had a really bad time ending up with abusive men, and 2) I genuinely didn't know men on average had such a hard time finding women to date. Nowadays I get that I was being naive and self centered, only focusing on my dating problems. Or maybe times have changed since I was a teen back in the early 2000's. Because plenty of my male classmates had girlfriends back then, while I didn't manage to get a boyfriend until I was 18, almost 19. And I've never ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/25 10:05 PM
9	Q4W: Do You Feel Guilty About Anything You Have Done to a Man? Of course. Although I always try super hard to not do or say anything hurtful to anyone, sometimes I slip up. And then these things haunt me for the rest of my life. Way back in my early 20's I used men for sex quite a lot, and during this time I made some quite appalling choices. Like once I talked a friend of a friend into sex despite he was clearly unsure about it. When he the next day was overcome with regret and demanded of me to never tell anyone, I was overcome with guilt and deeply regre…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/25 10:32 AM
–	Is this kind of motivation a good thing? I dunno how to put this into words, but I think there's a subtle difference between doing something with your body just to please men, and doing something that pleases men but which is also benefitting you. And by the sounds of it, you're doing the latter now, but maybe used to do the former. And I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to look appealing for your partner (or if single, the kinda men you want to attract) when that is sometging that makes both of you feel happy, seen, app…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/05/25 11:42 PM
8	Women are bad at estimating penis size. Some people are better or worse at estimating sizes in general. A lot of women I meet assume I must be very tall, even when I'm standing right next to them. I'm 5'6 which is not very tall, like most men are taller than me, and quite a lot of women are around the same height as me. But I also get that size is relative. I met a 6'5 tall dude who thought I was around average male height. I've met a 5'2 guy who thought I was super tall. And I get that for them that was true. And I think the same thi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/25 10:44 AM
1	Most people who complain about shallow people would be just as shallow and picky if they had the chance Most likely they aren't any less "shallow" themselves, yeah. But also I don't think wanting your partner to be attractive, or extremely attractive for that matter, is a bad thing to begin with. Like there's nothing wrong with that. Dating isn't supposed to be a charity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/25 05:55 PM
1	Most people who complain about shallow people would be just as shallow and picky if they had the chance Yeah, absolutely. The top tier people set the standards for everyone else, with beauty standards, body type standards, lifestyle standards, partner standards, etc, which ultimately translate to dating standards. Because they're what majority of people idealize, to either be or to have. And it's basically been like that for centuries. And yeah the standards/the people on top do change, but quite slowly over generations, and it doesn't change that it's the people at the top who set the standards.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/25 07:20 PM
2	What is toxic masculinity to you? I don't really believe in calling toxic behaviours a form of masculinity (or femininity for that matter) but I can and do on accasion play that game if it's what required of me to be understood. That said, the kinda behaviours I'd think could be construed as "toxic masculinity" is: violent behaviour towards women (ie grabbing, dragging, pushing, beating, punching, etc) in order to control said woman, sexual violence (ie r*pe, drugging someone to have sex with them, overtly manipulating someone i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/25 03:25 PM
2	Most people who complain about shallow people would be just as shallow and picky if they had the chance Yes perhaps they are duped in different ways, but point is they still have standards much higher than what they can offer themselves. Point is that just because someone is unattractive or below average doesn't mean they aren't "shallow" in what kinda partner they want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/25 03:07 PM
12	Most people who complain about shallow people would be just as shallow and picky if they had the chance That doesn't really explain how there are so many barely average (often below average) women with ridiculously high standards. Or how there are also quite many below average men who have similarly ridiculously high standards. In reality I think everyone has high standards, but when they fail to meet those level standards themselves, they want for everyone else to lower their standards to match what they have to offer. In rare cases they realize that's unrealistic and instead just lower their own…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/25 02:51 PM
3	Anything you do to look more feminine in Winter? I don't drive either and get cold winters where I live in Sweden. How I dress then is long skirts, at least mid calf length, and with an under skirt for extra heat, and thick wool tights underneath that. That's actually warmer than jeans. I wear classic leather boots with that, with lacing and a low heel. I don't get very cold feet though, so I stick to thin boots (not very lined) and basic thin socks. But if you get cold feet, there are plenty of nice, fem boots with thick lining. It's actually…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/05/25 10:39 AM
0	Many men don’t like women platonically and have no interest in friendships with them I don't think you're entirely wrong, as you do bring up some good points, but I think it depends on the woman's personality, what kinda women are in/around a man's life, and what his own priorities, interests, and attraction level is. Like, I've had male friends who clearly only hung around me in hopes of getting sex or a relationship, but I've also had male friends who viewed me as "one of the guys." Because that is also a thing that I think you missed. Ie there are men who enjoy having female …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/25 12:31 AM
1	How would you feel about your current or future partner asking to have different beds/bedrooms? I wouldn't mind it. Personally I like both sharing bed, and being able to have a bed to myself. There are different perks and drawbacks with both, and I think switching it up depending on how either partner feels would be a good thing. Also, I tend to sleep poorly when I have to share bed for a longer time. Especially if the bed isn't very big. Like I wake up stiff and sore, and my bedmate reports that I've been grinding my teeth super loudly. I don't typically grind my teeth, but I have chipped…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/25 07:34 PM
1	Women: Do you hate/despise unattractive incel losers who whine about women's dating standards more than actual abusers, rapists, and violent murderers of women? If so, why? Probably because I'm red pill? I'm not really pro-woman, at least not any more than I'm pro-man. I don't think female rapists and abusers are redeemable either. They are just as despicable monsters as the male rapists and abusers are. I don't excuse their behaviour by appealing to patriarchy and "female oppression." But if a woman was an absolute femcel misandrist I'd think that's abhorrent too, but also redeemable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/25 06:48 PM
4	Women: Do you hate/despise unattractive incel losers who whine about women's dating standards more than actual abusers, rapists, and violent murderers of women? If so, why? Good point. I have seen quite a lot of women using the term "incel" to describe virtually any man they don't like, which I agree is not helpful. Basically what I mean by incel are men with kind of a black pill view on life and dating, ie they think everything bad is always women's fault, and nothing they do matters. They see women as liars, deceitful, cheaters, narcissistic, etc seemingly by default. Which I think is beyond recognizing that there are certain differences between men and women tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/25 06:35 PM
2	CMV: It's misogynistic to track a woman's cycle to stay out of trouble I don't see how this is misogynistic. That women's hormone levels change with the menstrual cycle is a fact, that hormone fluctuations affect mood is a fact, so it's not misogyny to state these things as facts, nor is it to want to avoid people when they're being emotionally unstable, for any reason, including biology. Also, he's not avoiding or judging her because she's a woman, but presumably because of how she actually acts during these specific times of the month. If she hadn't, I doubt he h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/25 04:55 PM
36	Women: Do you hate/despise unattractive incel losers who whine about women's dating standards more than actual abusers, rapists, and violent murderers of women? If so, why? No I don't, but I'd also rather eat a bag of maggots than date men in either of those categories. However, I do think the average incel type is generally more redeemable and less revolting than actual abusers and rapists. So there is a chance I could date a former incel (if the worst he's ever done to women is being mean online etc) but no way in hell I'd give a former abuser/rapist that kinda chance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/25 03:47 PM
1	Dating outside of your education level. To some extent, I don't think it matters much. As long as he has some kinda intelligence/knowledge in some area. I've always been more drawn to men who are more streets smart than book smart. However, I have a very low education degree myself (did not finish high school, never set my foot at a university, I had mediocre grades in junior high) so for me it's never been a problem, if I would so choose to only date men with a higher degree, because most men do have a higher degree than me. But in r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/25 03:42 PM
8	There is nothing society nor anybody else can do to make any given individual more attractive to another. The answer is in the individual themselves. Well to some extent you're right. But what's considered attractive has changed quite a lot over the past centuries, and it varies from obe area to another. So, cultural norms changing, stigma loosening, etc, does change what most people consider to be attractive. For example, way back in the 1700's men in tights, powdered wigs and high heels was the golden standard, and for women pale skin and looking sickly. But in modern times suits, jeans and short hair is valued in men, and a tan and rosy ch…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/25 03:25 PM
1	It’s ok for straight women to only want to date straight men Yeah I guess. I straight and prefer bi men but I don't think anyone would argue that's heterophobic. So there has to be ways that these kinda preferences are not about buying into negative stereotypes about this or that sexual orientation. Unless we're gonna apply some kinda double standard that anyone LGBT can't be criticized but straights are free reign, and at least I personally don't think that's okay.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/25 07:54 PM
–	Do you think it is creepy to join hobby groups or meetups with the intent to date? Not necessarily, but it kinda depends. If it's a hobby you enjoy but the real driving factor to join a group about it is to find someone to connect with and date, I don't think that's bad. But if it's a hobby you have zero interest in and the only thing you do there is asking women to date you, that's probably gonna give bad vibes about you in that group. The point of finding a date at a hobby group or meetup is to find someone you have something in common with, ie the hobby you both go there fo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/25 03:38 PM
2	Women more prone to express disgust and take offense when a guy perceived as "below their league" shows any kind of interest It's more about attraction or lack thereof, imo. Whether the people someone thinks are attractive are in their league or not. And men are just as disgusted when a woman they think is unattractive is showing interest in them. I've gotten some really vile comments from men who thought I looked unattractive. Men are not shy from expressing disgust.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/25 01:58 PM
–	How do the women here feel about absolute celibacy? Not for life, but I'm fine with being celibate for several years when a relationship has ended. That is, as long as I get to masturbate. Sex with a partner only matters to me if there's a deeper, emotional connection. If I'm not loved I don't wanna be touched.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/25 01:26 PM
1	Whats the true minimum? Minimum height: I dunno 4-something feet. Just don't have dwarfism, basically. (I'm 5'6 fyi.) Minimum fitness level: couch potato of or near healthy weight. Like I'm not gonna fight over a few pounds over- or underweight, but I draw the line at fat or skeletal. And sure muscles are nice, but I don't actually need a guy to have any. (I'm slightly overweight but working on losing it, and I have a bit more muscle than the average woman.) Minimum income: around 10k a year. This is roughly my annual …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/25 06:06 PM
2	Men who were clear and consistent about not wanting kids are no morally different than sperm donors to me. Yeah sounds like she manipulated him into making her pregnant. If she wanted a free donor that's fine, but if she so desperately want to be a single mom, she should take the full financial responsibility for that parenting as well. Women who want their children financially supported by a man should do so with men who want (their) children. I don't understand how that is a difficult concept to grasp, but yeah seems a lot of women these days just refuse any kinda personal responsibility.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/25 03:54 PM
1	Why do women specifically seek platonic friendships with men, but men do not seek platonic friendships with women? In my experience, platonic friendships with men only really worked with men who either were happily married, or thought I was ugly but they liked my personality. Or, we tried to date but it didn't work out for either of us.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/25 11:52 AM
3	Women create Patriarchy I really think both men and women are responsible for creating and upholding that dynamic. And yeah, I think that is at least partially biological. Yes women generally prefer traditionally masculine men, but men also generally prefer traditionally feminine women. Sure, feminism has eradicated some of that, but most women still want to be feminine and most men still want to be masculine. And not just for dating, but also for identity, community, and feeling useful and respected in society. Like t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/25 04:25 PM
1	Are most women standoffish because that is their nature or is it a social construct? I think it's a little of both, but more on the social side. Being standoffish is kinda connected to being introverted, which there could be both social and biological reasons for. And there are both introverted and extroverted women, likewise with men. Then socially women are often taught to be quiet, not take up space, etc, while men being loud and rowdy is generally more excused (to a certain extent.) However, I think those of us who are more introverted are also generally having a harder time…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/25 07:16 PM
2	Would you wait for a man for a man who said he wasn’t ready for sex, or would you simply break up with him? I'm generally fine with waiting, a guy just not wanting to do it right away is in itself not a problem for me. However, to some extent it would depend on the reason. For example if he's just not interested in having sex ever, or if he wants to save himself for marriage. The latter is only because well I'm not a virgin and I don't think it's a good idea to marry someone before knowing if you're sexually compatible. The former because I kinda need sex in a relationship, because othewise I would si…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/25 11:21 PM
1	As a man, I get turned off if a woman displays too much interest early on. I generally like taking some initiative, but I wouldn't do anything rash without being absolutely sure the guy is okay with it first. I mean I might give date suggestions (I'm not super hyped about food or food related dates, but I don't expect any guy to just know that) or do very light touching (like put my hand on his shoulder or arm for ex) just to show that I'm not just mindlessly going along with whatever he wants, but am able to make decisions as well. And sure, there have been some men w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/25 02:05 PM
2	I was proven wrong yesterday regarding women and biphobia. But I don't understand the reasoning. Well, that too is something I would consider a moral conflict, tbh. I would again be more biased in favor of the black men, because obviously black men who are not violent do not deserve to be treated as though they are, as racism is something I'm very much against - while at the same time I'd be empathetic towards any woman who has that belief based on negative (or traumatic) personal experiences. Like I don't think for ex a white woman being scared of black men because she's been a victim of s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/25 10:38 PM
1	I was proven wrong yesterday regarding women and biphobia. But I don't understand the reasoning. Well, I'm a woman who has dated almost only bisexual men, with only a rare few exceptions. Also most of my male friends were bisexual, some of which I had sexual relatioms with, some which I did not. I also used to think I was bisexual myself for a long time, so I kinda have a close connection there, even faced some biphobia myself in the past. And yes, discovering that I'm actually straight after all, helped me understand how real bisexuality works, and how I wasn't bi despite feeling some sort…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/25 10:02 PM
4	Is 26 too old? Am I cooked? No, 26 isn't very old. I see women finding partners and getting married even way up in their 40's. It just gets harder with age (and if you stop taking care of yourself), your dating pool shifts, to older men and men who are done fucking around, which can be a positive thing. It doesn't make it impossible to find a good guy. If you're unhappy in your relationship, don't let your age stop you.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/03/25 01:09 PM
1	How does one stop seeking external validation? I'm glad my response was appreciated. And I can relate to a lot of what you say. Especially this: It's almost if something I like aligns with the images or aesthetics I see and like, that I don't trust that I actually like it and I am doing it for the aesthetic, even though, when I compare it to other options, I don't like them as much... I felt like that a lot too, and it took a lot of just letting my thoughts and feelings exist, to figure out that sometimes... just because I like something, do…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/03/25 10:50 PM
1	How does one stop seeking external validation? While I only had this issue in regards to a few specific areas of my life, I've always had issue trusting myself. The one thing that helped me start restoring trust in myself was to start listening to myself. I get that's one heck of a buzzword too, but to break it down: step 1) allow all your thoughts to exist in your head, not just the comfortable and convenient or easy thoughts, but also the difficult, scary, and ugly thoughts. You don't have to tell them to anyone, just allow yourself to thi…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/03/25 07:15 PM
2	Are you attracted to most redpill men? Quite a lot of them have seemed kinda repugnant to me, tbh, based mostly on their behaviour ie lashing out their dating frustrations on women basically no matter what the woman says. But some RP men seem like they are nice (ie kind, compassionate, decent) people whom I could be attracted to if I got to know them or at least saw their faces. But in conversations online it has mostly been purple pill men who've caught my attention positively. That all said, I've kinda always been in favor of men's…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/03/25 06:08 PM
3	A skeptical autistic woman whose trying to open my mind. I'm also autistic, although a bit older than you. I can relate a lot to what you're saying, but one big thing that kinda clicked for me in recent years, is that clothes, behaviours, etc, aren't neccesarily an innate part of one's personality, and can be used kinda like a language, a way to communicate with others. That's kinda how I got into red pill (although also because I genuinely care about men, their comfort, their needs, their boundaries, etc.) I mean, I started feeling more seen and resp…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/03/25 03:48 PM
2	What age ranges do you have on dating apps? I haven't used a lot of dating apps in a long time, but my dating range is roughly 25 to 45, with a preference for 30 to 40. I'm 35 and don't think I've ever lied about my age. At least not in a dating context. I think I may I have lied about it in other contexts (getting into parties, accessing porn online, etc) way back in my teens though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/25 11:39 AM
10	What does an average woman look like? Most celebs are above average. I think a better indication would be to just go to any random supermarket and see how do most women there look. Imo the average woman has very close to a 50-50 split of pretty features and "flaws." Like maybe a slightly crooked nose but really pretty eyes, for example. As for myself... well, if I judge how I look dressed and freshly shaven, I'd say I look average, like a 5 or maaaybe a 6 but that's pushing it. If I instead judge how I look naked and not groomed, I'…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/03/25 01:16 AM
4	Women on this sub, would you date someone who had a perineal urethrostomy? It wouldn't really bother me, personally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/25 05:07 PM
2	Would you let your spouse cheat on you if they treated you well and provided I can't know what I would do in such a situation, as I've never experienced anything even remotely similar. But, that said, I wouldn't just leave without at least talking with him about it first. I'd need to know why he started cheating. Because if it's something that could be changed/improved, like if he wasn't getting enough sex from me, or I had gotten lazy with upkeeping my appearance, or if he didn't feel seen/heard enough by me, for example, that might be a problem that has a solution. I m…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/03/25 03:41 PM
2	What do you think of actual bad boys? These are the kinda men I avoid like the plague. I have never dated them, not even when I was young and dumb. As far as I'm concerned these kinda men are the only valid reason for feminism to still exist in any capacity in the west. Jokes aside I'm well that these kinda men are dangerous for everyone, not just women. Although that said I have met women who do glorify these kinda men, ie actual bad boys. Even my own sister kinda does, although in her own asexual sorta way. I guess some people jus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/25 04:25 PM
1	Is effort attractive? Personally I definitely find effort attractive. Imo hygiene, having a style, caring about what you look like, are gender neutral. And I've always been more drawn to people who clearly take good care of themselves, smell good, are in shape, etc. Whether as friends or partners, or people I simply look up to from a distance. Although to some extent I do also enjoy helping/teaching a guy how to take better care of his appearance. For me, grooming is almost a hobby. So I'd love it if a guy takes as l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/25 02:38 PM
1	How to FEEL more feminine? I'm glad my suggestions were appreciated. How we carry ourselves can absolutely make a difference in how we feel about ourselves/our bodies. Sometimes when a very tall/broad woman is very graceful and gentle we don't notice her masculine features as much. And I notice I get more compliments/comments on my femininity when I'm more conscious of how I carry myself, and it causes a positive feedback loop.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/03/25 01:14 AM
1	Sharing a man? Honestly, no. I'd much rather be with a more mediocre man with a mediocre income who's actually devoted to me, and struggle a bit financially. Thing is though I'm not that young (mid 30's) so by the time I find the right guy, I'll likely be too old to have kids anyway. I would still want children, I'm just being realistic about it. So most likely we'd only be a family of two (ie a couple) which would be cheaper financially. Plus, I actually have the rare luxuary of being afforded a sorta disabil…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/03/25 01:03 AM
1	How to FEEL more feminine? My situation is very different, but my body is going through some stuff right now that makes not always feel very feminine. In fact I feel really ugly and haggered most of the time. I am working on that, but it just takes so long, so I get frustrated at times. Not enough to give up, but enough to... you know, have a bad day. What I do to curb that feeling is... well, it depends on the day. Some days maybe I will just pamper myself with a manicure and shaving my legs, other days I will invest in …	/r/RedPillWomen	07/03/25 12:30 AM
1	CMV: You should make Mr Boyfriend Material wait You can only wait for so long until even most really good men lose interest. If you know you're really good in bed and that you have a lot to offer a man for LTR besides sex, then yeah you can get away with waiting a bit longer, because you can then maybe keep him interested longer and he'll feel the wait was worth it if you really sweep his feet off the ground once you do get sexual. If you're more of a starfish type in bed, or don't have much time or energy to offer because you work so much or…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/25 02:49 PM
1	Men simply don't value women no matter what they bring on the table I think men do value women, just not for those kinda things, like having some prestigous career in let's face it: a traditionally masculine field. I think men value women for things like home skills, ie cooking, baking, cleaning, child rearing, making things pretty, being caring, compassionate, helping others (or specifically the man, but also children) in need. To some extent also staying in shape/thin and taking care of her appearance. I say this because I never made any kinda career for mysel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/25 02:01 PM
1	Casual sex is easier/better for homosexuals than heterosexuals. That's funny because it seems in my experience most men love being given head in order to get fully hard in preparation for vaginal sex. Is that not foreplay? Sure, it might not be every man, but I have hard time thinking it's not a majority of men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/25 01:26 PM
3	Why don’t women find effort as attractive as men do? I see women appreciating effort from men all the time. Be it putting effort into grooming, making money and working out, or putting effort into simply understanding women, is usually rewarded with either sex or being seen as boyfriend/husband material. Problem here is men maybe typically want women to put effort into her behaviour, how she treats the guy, etc, while most women instead choose to put effort into looking good (makeup, clothes, hair, etc) and vice versa most women want men to put ef…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/25 01:49 AM
2	How do women feel about dating reformed players? If he truly has changed, then sure, I'm open to dating a recovered former player. Because I've recovering from past promiscuous behaviour. So because I've changed I believe men (and other women) can too. I do know true recovery is rare though, so I would be careful with giving such a guy a chance. There's gotta have been quite a long time since he last fucked around, and him showing some kinda disdain for that lifestyle. A guy having previously been a player is not attractive to me, but men who'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/25 03:13 PM
6	Did The 2014-15 Discussion of "Nice Guys" And "Me Too" Cause You To Stop Dating/Talking To Men? It didn't for me, and I didn't notice any of the women in my life doing that either. Seems the ones who were really into dating prior to political events were/are still just as into dating, and the one's who were never really intested in that just kinda stayed that way, even if they at times used x political event as a further excuse to cut out men. I mean I've known women from all walks of life. Some the tradwife type, or just the marriage type in general, others more of the serial situationshi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/25 03:17 AM
3	CMV: Women are the more empathetic sex I don't think women are more (or less) empathetic than men. I think men just generally express their emotions differently. Mainly more often through physical actions like screaming, being violent, withdrawing, seeking solitude, getting addicted (to alcohol, gambming, porn, etc) through being sexual, etc. While women more commonly use actions like talking, venting, ranting, crying, etc, to express their emotions. Both can be either healthy or unhealthy. Like obviously being violent a lot or in ba…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/25 02:48 AM
1	Men can’t be feminists due to its inherent nature as advocacy for women’s rights for the sake of equality. This doesn't really make any sense to me. Feminism is a political movement or ideology, it's about what opinions you have, not what kinda person you are biologically. Although I guess it depends on what type of feminism you support. Radical feminism usually does not like it when men call themselves feminists, for basically the reasons you list, but more liberal types of feminism (third wave, "choice" feminism, etc) generally don't seem to have a problem with men calling themselves feminists, in …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/25 01:29 AM
1	Q4W: How differently do you treat a guy who is a boyfriend/husband material from a guy who is a hookup/FWB material? Boyfriend/husband material will get to stay in the morning after, I'll want to have breakfast with him and cook for him, cuddle and I'll want to hear about his day, how his life is going, help him with anything we might want my help with, and want spend time with him outside of sex. Like just do all sorts of things together, watch movies, play video games, work out, do arts and crafts, have bubble baths together, whatever we're both into. That is, on top of also having sex. That is basically wha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/25 11:57 PM
–	Do Married Women Lose Their ‘Value’ in Red Pill Thinking? Chances are they're only talking about women's sexual market value, not our value as human beings. I'd think they see married women as valuable to society and valuable to the men they're married to (assuming they treat their husbands well) but obviously a married woman is not gonna be of sexual value to men she's not married to. And, to be frank, you shouldn't really want them to value you that way, assuming you are happy with your marriage. They might still value you as a coworker though, if th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/25 11:25 PM
–	"Choose better" doesn't mean you deserve Abuse for not picking better men ,it means that anything you tolerate in a relationship is your own Fault. Problem is that any kinda suggesting women take responsibility for their own actions or inactions is called "victim blaming" these days. I was in an abusive relationship once, and ditched him after just a few months of putting up with his behaviour. I chose to stay those few extra months in hopes it might just be a temporary thing, but when it hit my limit I got out. That's what taking personal responsibility is. It's not preventing bad people from hurting you, it's saving yourself by putting up…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/25 03:45 PM
1	For RedPill Women: What made you RedPill? 5'6, why?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/25 03:54 AM
1	Is it common for women to settle for their partners, especially sexually? No, it's the other way around. I don't do casual sex anymore (because I did it as a trauma cope) but back when I did, I got serious beer goggles. Meaning the men I was with were barely even attractive at all, I was just with them because they wanted me and I was horny. My LTR's were with much better looking men. So I've always had higher looks standards for LTR's. And I still do. Except now I only do LTR's.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 09:03 PM
1	Most Women Are Not Making “Husband Material” Men Work Harder for Sex No one loves a casual sex partner. Well, maybe in rare cases if feelings develope over time, but not typically.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 06:20 PM
-2	Is it common for women to settle for their partners, especially sexually? I dunno how common it is. I've met married women who say their husband is the best man they've ever been with, and women who've said their man is basically mediocre. Personally I'm still single and childless in my mid 30's simply because I don't wanna settle. I keep working harder and harder on myself to find the kinda man I actually want. If he's not making me feel absolutely satisfied at least as good as all my past partners combined (most of them were pretty bad) there's no way I'd marry him.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 09:33 AM
1	Most Women Are Not Making “Husband Material” Men Work Harder for Sex In a sense, "husband material" men do have to work harder to get sex, because women who require trust, knowing the person, etc to give sex will have higher standards in regards to personality, behaviour, etc. For me, men I enter LTR's with kinda have to be more attractive (looks and personality) for me to want to have sex with them repeatedly, and to only want sex with them. But isn't it also kind of a reward to be wanted sexually multiple times, and exclusively? And to be wanted not just sexual…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 09:00 AM
–	Where did the whole “women love bad boys” thing even come from? How true do you think it is? Eventually most people reach a point of having to choose between either settling or ending up alone, and I don't think most people want the latter. Perhaps, but quite a lot of women don't ever get much sexual satisfaction from relationships with men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/25 11:27 PM
1	Why men shouldn’t take women’s fear of men she doesn’t know personally Being cautious, locking your door and not letting male strangers into your home, etc, is reasonable. Actually regardless of whether you're a man or woman, you should probably be cautious of male strangers, especially ones who act weird. Would I go hiking alone? Probably not. Would I walk up to a group of drunk men? Probably not. But can I walk around unbothered in my own neighbourhood in broad daylight? Sure. Can I let in a male stranger if he's a plumber or similar and I'm in need of some such …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/25 03:34 PM
1	The fat acceptance movement is not a big deal. Too many people are obsessed with hating it. While it may not be very constructive to just hyperfocus on how fat people look, most of the criticism I see towards the "fat acceptance" movement is using that as a way to talk about the wider issue of the obesity epidemic and people not taking responsibility for their own declining health, sugar addiction and lack of knowledge. Most people have an internet connection. Finding educational material is not hard. Yes, learning how to cook healthy foods, and figuring out ways to access healthy food…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/25 03:19 PM
5	Where did the whole “women love bad boys” thing even come from? How true do you think it is? I think it's kinda similar to how men generally praise the hypersexual "bad girl" women for hookups, but want the modest, virgin "girl next door" for a wife. Obviously not all men, but it's a trope for a reason. I think then similarly to that, women might generally prefer "bad boy" men who are adventurous, laid back and mostly just sex appeal for short term relationships, but want the stable, reliable, "husband material" men for marriage. Again, not all women. Most of us probably want men who ar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/25 02:15 PM
1	The Problem with Dating Apps is Average Women Aren’t As Sexually Confident and Don’t Get Attention They Want I dunno, my experience on dating apps was it was only ever the lowliest of men wanting hookups. And what I mean by that is obese, often 20+ years older, clearly unwashed men with terrible haircuts, being extremely sleezy. And by sleezy I mean starting convo with a sexual question, sending dickpics, asking for nudes, etc. Only on rare occasion would I be approached by actually average men asking normal questions, and that made me extremely happy! Even to just talk to them, even if I didn't feel l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/25 02:05 PM
3	For RedPill Women: What made you RedPill? I was purple pill until kinda recently, because I agreed kinda equally with both red and blue pill. I was never really a feminist but started considering myself anti-feminist back in 2017 when that was a hot topic on youtube. But I was still quite liberal on many points. So to answer some of your questions, my parents are the old classic liberals, and although we rarely discuss politics I get the impression that they are centrist and don't think either gender has it worse or better than the othe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/25 01:32 PM
3	Is there any evidence that conservative men prefer liberal women? I dunno, on one hand I think most men just don't care so much if a woman is liberal or conservative, as long as she's hot and have some similar interests. But on the other hand I've met quite a lot of men who seem happily surprised that I have more conservative views than they first assumed. I think maybe what most men would prefer is women who are sexually liberated and free-spirited but also not feminist. It's just that these women are probably extremely rare.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/25 12:22 PM
1	Hypergamy/women's nature falsely seen as the problem with online dating I think to some extent women are hypergamous, it's in our nature as the sex that carries the heavier burden in reproduction, to be extra selective in our partner choosing, but... problem is that dating apps make this issue way, way worse than it has ever been in organic irl dating. I'd say though that online dating in itself isn't necessarily the issue, because you can meet people on any social media. I've met partners on facebook (before it had a dating section) and old school chat forums by ju…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/25 01:17 AM
–	Why do fat women who don't exercise try to date fit men? Oh it'll probably come soon, it's only been a few hours.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/25 08:14 AM
3	Why do fat women who don't exercise try to date fit men? I'm probably gonna sound like any other red pill broken record in my response to this, but... they have likely been told by their female friends that they're "so hot" or that "what matters is what's on the inside" because whenever I rant about wanting to make myself more attractive, these are the kinda reactions I get from other women. They've also likely gotten their egos inflated by the fact that they still likely get men wanting to have sex with them. There are men who have a fetish for fat w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/25 11:38 PM
–	"Choose better" - What warning signs does Redpill think there are for abusive men? There are lots of warning signs, some even established by psychiatry. For example: lovebombing, asking for way too much money very soon into the relationship, is "too good to be true", having weird secrets, weird things upset him like for ex you hugging your pets, he doesn't want you to hang out with your friends or family, he starts making weird ultimatums based on your behaviour, etc. I could go on forever listing things, because it's gonna be different for each abusive person, but generally i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/25 11:19 PM
1	Advice on how to improve the way I speak? I have a deeper voice too, and try to speak more softly. There's a youtuber (one of the several "how to be more elegant" type channels, can't remember which one) who once said something about women's voices, and she said that no matter how deep or high, a softer tone matters more than pitch. And with the examples she showed, that made sense to me. Now how to actually alter the way you speak, it comes down to practice. I probably get the most practice from talking to cashiers at stores, because t…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/02/25 10:02 AM
1	Women who date men: What would hurt more—your male partner cheating with a woman or a man? And why? I've dated several bisexual men but never been cheated on (to my knowledge) so I can only answer in theory, but I think generally it wouldn't matter to me, but similarly to you in reverse I think I'd feel slightly worse if he cheated with another woman. Because I'm not male, I don't have a penis, so if that's what my partner was craving I can't be all that mad about it. But if it's another woman he wanted, then I'd have much more of a reason to feel like I must have failed in some way. At least …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/25 09:45 AM
1	Do you ever get tired of compliments? For me it entirely depends on the situation. I quite frequently get compliments on my hair, clothes, makeup and nails, fairly often also on my personality, skills, etc, and rarely on my body unless I'm actively losing weight on exercising a lot. It's both from strangers and people I know, men and women. This doesn't bother me at all, if anything it boosts my confidence and makes me think I'm doing something right. The only kinda compliments that bother me are sexual compliments outside of a (con…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/25 05:09 PM
–	Modern "Modesty" is just a trend and often isn't modest at All There has always been different understandings of what modesty is. Back in Victorian times it meant not showing ankles but then they had corsets and bustles to show off and emphasize curves. During medieval times modesty meant being covered from head to toe in loose fitting garments and covering your hair. During the second world war, it meant wearimg knee length skirts and form-fitted shirts/jackets that didn't show cleavage. So no I really don't think the current idea of modesty as "form fitti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/25 01:23 AM
1	Cleanliness and respect I'm single, but I've always had issues with my clothes ending up everywhere in piles. I've been doing a lot of self-improvement in recent years teaching myself how to keep my home clean and tidy, but the clothing piles keep happening. It helps me to first understand why this keeps happening: I wear many layers of underwear to protect my visible clothes so they don't get dirty as quickly. This is good for the longevity of the clothes and good for the environment, and great for my energy levels to…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/02/25 10:09 AM
1	Stating that sex and intimacy for men is a need, isn’t a proposal for sexual slavery. This is a common strawman that women propose because it would be ethically uncomfortable to acknowledge this being true. This is exactly why I have no quarrels with agreeing with these men that sex is a need, because I don't equate need with requirement. But also because I feel like sex is a need for me as well, even though I'm a woman, but without ever demanding any men to provide me with sex (not that I would need to, but that's beside the point.) Thing is though, I see "sex is a need" more like "sexual release is a need" which does not actually require any other people to participate, unless you're physically i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/25 09:14 PM
1	Women , would you hook up with/date someone who doesn't share your political beliefs? I lean conservative, and would date liberal men as long as they aren't extremist left wing. I don't do hookups anymore, but back when I did, I didn't give a rat's ass what their political views were. I was there to fuck, not to discuss politics. Although back then I considered myself left wing, so my views have shifted quite a bit. Back then I only drew my line at self-proclaimed neo-nazis. Because there was such a guy, back 15 years ago at a local club, and it was just really off-putting about …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 07:13 PM
1	The Age Gap "Issue" Is a Modern Invention Historically, most people married around age 20, and people marrying before age 18-ish was generally looked down upon. Dating and having sex in your teens before marriage was considered a sin in most of the western world up until quite recently. Places like the US and Europe were largely Christian and social norms surrounded Christian values, which was that marriage was for adults and sex was for married couples only. Yes, people were considered "adult" at a much younger age back then, but that …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 03:19 PM
1	The Age Gap "Issue" Is a Modern Invention I dunno what kinda history you've been reading, but age gap relationships have always been frowned upon, with a slight exception of 1930's up to recent years. Before that, age gap relationships were only reluctantly accepted for the rich upper class elite, but even then there are tons on recorded accounts of kings and whatnot being being called scandalous for marrying a barely adult woman, and the younger woman being scorned for it as well. Heck, even ancient roman leaders were scolded for wooin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 12:40 AM
4	For women that treat dating transactionally, do you think you are partially responsible for the commodification of sex and dating? I see dating as somewhat transactional, but not quite like that. Like, if I have a low income but am happy to cook and clean, I will expect a partner to provide more financially but less with domestic chores, if I'm good at sewing and mending clothes I would happily make sure he never has to go around with broken or ill-fitting clothes, but I'd also expect him to contribute with something he's good at or can do more easily than I can. If he wants a submissive partner during sex I'd expect him to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/25 06:40 AM
1	What are your thoughts on vasectomies? That makes sense to me. A permanently sterilizing procedure is not comparable to using a device that only offers temporary infertility, which can be removed at will. I don't understand women who are so reluctant to using any of the gazillion different types of birth control we have at our disposal, and want to put that responsibility entirely on the man, when we're the ones that get pregnant. I think we have way more of a reason to want to take responsibility for that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/25 06:06 AM
1	What are your thoughts on vasectomies? I'm neither really for or against it. I can see good reasons for men to do it if they really don't want children, to protect themselves from being baby trapped, but I can also see good reasons against it for young men who may wanna focus on just casual sex now but who may want to become fathers when they're older. I have basically the same opinion on women getting their tubes tied. Although there is a big difference in alternatives of birth control for men vs women, and that if pregnancy happens…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/25 05:56 AM
–	You can't complain about women not being nice to men and then justify men being creepy to women that are nice to them. Well as I said I have been rejected quite a bit myself, and most of those men were being kind. Like they said "sorry, I'm not into you that way" basically. And from that experience I always reject men the way I'd prefer to be rejected: simple and direct, no cursing or screaming. Usually I will say "you seem like a nice person, but I'm not interest in you sexually or romantically." It's only if they keep insisting multiple times that I might loose my temper, which I by principle don't do unless I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/25 04:36 PM
1	You can't complain about women not being nice to men and then justify men being creepy to women that are nice to them. Men who just think I'm into them when I'm really just being polite has never been an issue imo. I just reject them as kindly as I can and we go our separate ways. They aren't doing anything wrong by simply being attracted to me and acting on that. Heck I've been attracted to men, expressed that and gotten rejected as a result. It happens. How else are we supoosed to know what anyone else feels about us? And I'd think this is the kinda men that many men here defend. My problem is men who for what…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/25 07:57 AM
2	“Women live their life on easy mode” I don't think either gender necessarily has it harder or easier over all, but I can definitely see there are some areas of life that I kinda have it easy for being a woman, in a sense. Like for example I can rely much more on my looks to get things my way, and that's despite I'm pretty average. I don't have nearly as much pressure to get or find a career, I could choose to be housewife instead, it's arguably easier to learn basic domestic chores than to get an education and high earning job, and…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/02/25 12:57 AM
1	Many People On This Sub Think RedPill Is Wrong Simply Because You Can’t Apply Context It kinda really depends on the topic though, doesn't it? Most men here seem generally more interested in talking about the 18-30 year old women. Unless they're talking about "older women" or "women their own age" which of course excludes the guys in their teens or 20's. Pedantics aside, I'm not gonna disagree with your own experiences, and I'd even go as far as to say that yeah... most women in that category are probably gonna fit your description. It's the "last run" for us in regards to our fe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/25 08:54 PM
2	Many People On This Sub Think RedPill Is Wrong Simply Because You Can’t Apply Context I'm pretty sure the topic of "women only date top 20% of men" goes for either all age groups of women, or whatever age group the man who brings it up is dating, which is usually gonna be the 18-30 year old age span. More generally it'll probably be all ages of women. And in that topic it doesn't really matter if the women are single or not. In fact them not being single is more proof of whether or not they're dating the top 20% of men or not. So I'm not sure what this has to do with what OP is t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/25 08:23 PM
1	Guys here seem to want to berate women to choose better but then coddle undesirable men. I think it is fair to say that there are indeed some men here who just want to be coddled instead of recognizing their own flaws and working on them, and on that trach coddle men who act poorly. Just like there are feminists here who just wanna blame men for all their issues instead of recognizing their own flaws and working on them, and likewise coddle other women for the slightest inconvenience they may face in dating. Because people in general are lazy and selfish, and would prefer to be rewa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/25 03:25 PM
1	The true RP position is that male friendships, not romantic relationships, are the answer to the male loneliness epidemic Well, there's truth to both sides. If you rely on your partner to fix all of your loneliness, risk is you're going to overwhelm her, and she won't have much time or energy left to her own friends and family. You'll burn her out, essentially. But if you rely solely on friends and family to solve your loneliness, your partner is instead not gonna feel needed or like she can truly connect with you, and you might as a result not feel loved or desired by her, because you cut yourself off from that co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/25 10:51 AM
3	CMV: Confident, smart women intimidate males This might sound silly, as I'm a woman and about to quote another woman on why I think this is incorrect, but bear with me... I stumbled upon this youtube channel a while ago (forgot what it's called, sorry) a female dating coach. She's a bit older, and coaches both men and women, helos them make dating profiles, has private talks with them, etc. I liked her vibe and tge stuff she was saying so I ended up kinda randomly watching a bunch of her videos. Anyhow, in one of her videos she addressed t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 11:10 PM
0	There should be a requirement to flair your sexual orientation when debating on this sub Usually I try to make it clear that I'm attracted to men and what my relevant dating history is, whenever I make a comment. But it's not always easy to know what someone else might think is or isn't relevant, and some info is just contentious to a point I don't always want to remind people about it, like n-count and whether someone is a virgin or sexually experienced. And I think people here being able to protect their integrity to avoid getting called rude things for their sexual orientation or…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 06:15 AM
2	Telling a man he'll have to wait for sex because you don't want to get "played" by him is a bad idea. Just because (some) men value "no strings attached" casual sex the most highly does not mean women (typically) do. This is a compatibility issue, not an attraction issue. But just because it's rare, doesn't make it the best. I do value men's time and bodies just as much as I value my own such. I do empathize with sex being a need for men, it arguably is for me too as I can barely go a single day without an orgasm. I also understand that being touch-starved is a thing. I would never do something …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/25 10:08 PM
2	To women who had sex on a first date in the past - would you date a guy who openly says he prefers to do this prior to meeting? Thank you, I appreciate that :)	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/25 09:14 PM
6	To women who had sex on a first date in the past - would you date a guy who openly says he prefers to do this prior to meeting? Yeah no I have no issue with men being honest. That in itself is a good thing. Even if I don't like what they're honest about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/25 09:09 AM
12	To women who had sex on a first date in the past - would you date a guy who openly says he prefers to do this prior to meeting? No, I wouldn't. Because I regret having done that in the past and I've no interest in repeating my past mistakes. If the guy is too impatient to wait 2 or 3 dates for me to get to know him well enough to see if we click irl and that there aren't any major red flags, then that is a red flag in itself. What else is he gonna be impatient about? Would he freak out as soon as I get my period and need a few days break from sex? Would he start complaining about a dead bedroom if I'm sick with a fever f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/25 07:17 AM
0	CMV: younger males should stop with the "HagMaxxing" Well, I'm more centrist so I kinda just like taking whatever I like from each side, but also... I've had a lot of issues with my sense of identity for a long time, like all the way up to my 30's basically. I switched styles a lot, and no matter what I wore I never felt like myself, and never liked how I was perceived. I hated the kinda attention it got me. So at some point I tried a different approach: if I instead focus on dressing the way that garners the kind of attention I want, maybe that c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/25 03:48 PM
–	About "pity sex" - I'm not sure women can't help men, because I know that men CAN help women. Personally, I actually enjoy helping and gyiding men to become more comfortable, at ease, trustikg, etc sexually, unless we're talking some extremely deep rooted, complex issye that really would be best tackled by a therapist. If I really like a guy, him being shy or inexperienced is not often an issue. And fyi I have been in this situation more than once, and I even believe that helping a partner become a better or healthier person is hugely beneficial to creating a tight and deep emotional bon…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/25 01:58 PM
1	Why is Pregnancy Talked About Like It Should Be A Punishment for Women Who Had Sex? Look if you wanna argue that murder is not a violation of human rights, or that death is not the most severe health issue, go ahead, make your case. I'm just saying don't be surprised when people think that's immoral and think there should be laws against it to protect people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/25 11:45 AM
0	CMV: younger males should stop with the "HagMaxxing" Perhaps. Although I have met women on the conservative side who have a similar mindset about their clothes. Only difference is they're trying to make it universal for all women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/25 09:00 AM
1	Why is Pregnancy Talked About Like It Should Be A Punishment for Women Who Had Sex? This is just guesswork and assumptions, e.g. "feelings over facts." No, it is a fact that not using birth control the way it's intended is the biggest reason for why it fails. If used as intended, things like IUD, condoms, pills, etc, works 97-99% of the time, but they're listed as only working some 70-80% of the time, because this is not how these methods are used in actual practice. So you make assumptions of every single woman who has or wants an abortion, and then proceed to believe that abo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 11:03 PM
1	CMV: younger males should stop with the "HagMaxxing" Because it's beneficial for me. It helps me get treated the ways I want in society, I can use it as a way to help gain respect, and makes dating easier. It's useful as a social creature who's a heterosexual woman. Also because my sense of style overlaps a lot with what men often like on women. Dunno if that's because they like it and I want to be liked by men, or if it's just coincidence, but probably a mix of both.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 10:17 PM
0	Why is Pregnancy Talked About Like It Should Be A Punishment for Women Who Had Sex? What "bad decision" did they make, specifically? Having protected sex with their partners? Most likely not taking their birth control, or getting it checked/replaced regularly as prescribed. This is the biggest reason for why birth control fails. Should you be the judge and jury for all desired abortions? No, I think we as a society should debate and hopefully come to an agreement about what is and isn't moral. I'm not on the side that likes to silence and punish people for wrongthink. This idea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 10:11 PM
1	Why is Pregnancy Talked About Like It Should Be A Punishment for Women Who Had Sex? Choosing to have sex and who to have sex with falls under bodily autonomy making it one of our rights, abortion also fits under bodily autonomy as it refers to medical decisions we can make about our own body and health making it a human right I already started that sexual consent is a right, not sure if you misread me there. If the mother's health is at risk, she should be teated for that. If lifesaving treatments of mother ends up in child's death, that's sad but should be legally okay. Just b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 10:00 PM
2	Why It’s Easy To Be A Misogynist Nowadays. If disliking people for their actual behaviours is misogynist now just because they're women, then feminism has completely lost the plot. These traits you describe are not inherent to being biologically female, and you're not making it about that unfairly either. You are simply disliking how some women act. That's not sexism. Wanting women to be kind, polite, compassionate, etc, is not sexist. People claiming otherwise are probably the real misogynists, because they're ones implying that women b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 08:05 PM
2	Women care more about feelings than facts. Yep, most women care more about feelings, or will even claim feelings as facts, without any actual scientific evidence for that claim. Like for ex feminists claiming that the reason women need safe spaces from men is because women don't feel safe around random men. It doesn't seem to matter how much I try to argue that are women any less safe around male strangers though? Meaning statistics of violence in public spaces, and male on female violence specifically. It doesn't seem to matter because …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 07:00 PM
1	CMV: younger males should stop with the "HagMaxxing" I wouldn't worry too much. Older women are generally better at filtering out fuckbois. Because we've been around and learned, and know not to get fooled by lovebombing or sex on the first date. Fyi I'm 35 (I'm kinda average and look a couple years older than my age, but I take good care of myself and try dress in ways men like) and have been approached by men in their 20's trying to trick me into something casual. But I know right away when a guy isn't genuinely interested in me as a person, and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 06:44 PM
0	Why is Pregnancy Talked About Like It Should Be A Punishment for Women Who Had Sex? Pregnancy is a natural consequence of sex, not a punishment. Thus it doesn't make sense to consider abortion a human right. What is a right is for people to choose to not have sex. Also everyone has a right to live. If you consent to sex, then tes you should also consent to the possibility of ending up pregnant, or in case of men, impregnating the woman. Although birth control and sterilization exists, so I don't get how this is such a big issue. Basically I agree with the red pill on this parti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 06:33 PM
7	Using sex to get a (good) man or keep a man hardly ever works. I think it depends on how long you wait. Waiting a few weeks/dates to get to know the guy at least well enough to gauge what he's actually interested in, if you're compatible, etc, I think isn't really extreme enough in either direction to be a huge issue for either side in most cases, especially if the dates are inexpensive or the bills are split. But if you wait for several months or 10+ dates, plus demand expensive dates that he has to pay for, I wouldn't be confused if the guy feels taken ad…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/25 06:09 PM
2	Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men? I'm glad what I said was helpful for you. Genuinely! Yeah, a lot of women do juggle all sorts of often contradicting social standards. Like "be sexy" but also "be modest" and "don't be frigid" may not make a lot of sense especially for young women who are still trying to figure out who they are, what they stand for and how they wanna present themselves to the world. And a lot of us do internalize those seemingly contradictory standards, and yeah it gets extra messy when trauma is involved. I don…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/25 01:53 PM
2	Way too many guys on dating apps are clingy and most likely conflate that with being a good lover. That might be true, I haven't thought of that!	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/25 01:35 PM
5	Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men? I used to think that back in my teens and 20's. It felt like an attack on my personal style. And yes my style back then was mini skirts, ripped pantyhose, tight tops, boobs up to my chin and heavy makeup. Truth is I was very uncomfortable with being sexualized for my curves and femaleness in general, so I oversexualized myself as a backwards way of coping with it. And I didn't want my cope taken away from me, because I didn't know how else to be okay with being a woman. So when my first boyfrien…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/25 09:51 PM
–	You cant claim “Men take responsibility more” in a sub where men cant be blamed for anything. I'm not talking about victim blaming, you are. I don't get why so many women are obsessed with being victims all the time. This hyperfocus on the 10% of men who are abusive is such a scapegoat. Even though men are abused to the same extent, but I guess that doesn't matter, because a vile man existed so let's spend the next 500 years talking about that instead.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/25 07:30 PM
–	You cant claim “Men take responsibility more” in a sub where men cant be blamed for anything. That's just a retaliation to women blaming men to an absurd degree. Neither side is acting particularly mature in those discussions, I think. It's always just "women bad because x, y and z, take responsibility" or "men bad because a, b and c, take resonsibility" never "I'm/we're bad for x, y and z, we should take more responsibility for it, and also the other gender should take responsibility for doing a, b and c." Much easier to rag on other people for what they can do better than rag on your o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/25 08:07 AM
–	You cant claim “Men take responsibility more” in a sub where men cant be blamed for anything. Wanting for well adjusted men to take responsibility for and essentially babysit abusive men is not gonna go over well, no. Just like men wanting for well adjusted women to take responsibility over and babysit abusive or mentally deficient women is not gonna go over well either. Each person is responsible for their own actions, whether male or female. If you choose to see an entire demographic in a negative light because of a few bad apples, that is not the responsibility of the good ones to fix…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/25 07:13 AM
1	Perhaps women no longer being attractive to men as they get older is a good thing. It sounds like we might have similar experiences with that! I can relate to a lot of what you say. I appreciate the way you see your upbringing as having had both positive and negative effects. I can see similar results for myself. I do feel quite confident, and self aware (although never self aware enough, the more I learn about myself the more I understand how much more there is to learn) although I think I see the self as more both separate from and intrinsically connected to the material rea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/25 06:58 AM
2	Perhaps women no longer being attractive to men as they get older is a good thing. I'll respond to your replies separately just in case I'll rant over the character limit with a single reply. First of all, I really appreciate that you see me in such high regard. That doesn't happen often, and it makes me feel quite honored. Secondly, it's totally okay you reference other comments I've made in this sub. I generally think my autism is relevant in regards to how my dating life is going, and my perception of social gender norms and sex differences, which is why I have brought it u…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/25 05:24 AM
2	Perhaps women no longer being attractive to men as they get older is a good thing. I appreciate that :)	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/25 08:25 PM
7	Perhaps women no longer being attractive to men as they get older is a good thing. I don't see how it's a good thing, unless you're using it as a way to filter out men with questionable morals on women's value? Women "going their own way" thinking they'll be happy dying alone is kinda just sad to me. What's so wrong about women wanting to be attractive to men? We want men to be attractive to us, no? That's a fair deal then. No sexism detected. And don't we want a society where people care about each other and put in effort to be pleasant and likable to other people? If so how …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/25 04:47 PM
1	Women who complain about being infantilized should police other women for wanting to be infants I'm not really into the whole "policing other people" thing. If people wanna act stupid, that's up to them, as far as I'm concerned. Also I'm not a content creator of any kind, I barely even make posts on reddit, and take like 2 selfies a year. I just comment on reddit and youtube, and on rare occasion in facebook groups, that's all. So I don't even see this "girl dinner" etc content, because I avoid short format content spaces like tiktok, instagram, twitter, or whatever. Although I have heard …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/25 02:52 PM
0	Some men will always be unappealing to all women in a romantic sense. When I'm on dating apps, or heck just perusing my local grocery store, I easily find at least 70% of men attractive. So there, I proved you wrong.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/25 08:43 AM
1	Women Don’t Like Dating Apps for Only One Reason Strange, because that is not the reason I don't like dating apps. For me the initial experience is disappointment. First, I have a look around, and decide most (maybe 70%) of all the random men's profiles I come across are worthy of a chance or two. I get positive feedback only from the remaining 30% or so. I decide "okay, I can broaden my view, maybe I overlooked these men at first glance" so I chat for a bit. Turns out their first question is something related to sex. I try to steer the topic …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/25 08:39 AM
-1	Some men will always be unappealing to all women in a romantic sense. Yes, evidently there are men who never find a partner, because they never manage to be appealing to women. But the same can be said for women. And thing is these are people who are far below average. I'd say when you're below 3/10 or so, you're gonna have a really hard time meeting societal standards for attractiveness, even if you try really hard. Although even in some of those cases it is for lack of trying, like for example people who are extremely obese and stuck on making excuses until they…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/25 01:59 AM
2	The issue with promiscuous men wanting non-promiscuous women is about his hypocrisy around pious conservative values Yeah, this is a big pet peeve of mine. I'm a centrist (leaning conservative) so I don't see conservatives as either an opposition or "my team" and same for liberals. And thing is I have no issue with conservatives who have solid values that they follow themselves and expect a partner to follow as well. Ie conservative men who are against casual sex, porn, etc, preach that sex is only to be between husband and wife, or whatever, and then also expect their women to be on board with that. It's not …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/25 02:00 PM
2	Is it common for women to have had a negative experience with an autistic man in their life? I'm also autistic and tend to be generally drawn towards men who are also autistic, but I have dated both autistic and neurotypical men, and in my experience there hasn't really been any dramatic difference in who's worse at respecting boundaries. However, it does seem like men who are autistic are possibly more likely to have a poor or skew understanding of boundaries. Fyi I'd much rather date a guy who's just ignorant about how boundaries work with no ill intent, than a guy who doesn't give a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 05:48 PM
0	Sexual double standard is irrational I agree that it's a double standard when based on gender, but it's not really if based on difficulty. The problem is when men assume how hard or easy it is for any given woman to find sexual partners, or assume that she doesn't put in effort to be attractive. Truth is more women do put in effort to be attractive and sociable than men do, on average. And is that's so weird then when that pays off? Secondly, I gotta disagree about morals being objective. It's something we as people often like to b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 10:14 AM
5	There are 2 harsh truths that men and women have accept sooner or later. I think most people (yes including most men) do have the capacity to become attractive, at least like moderately attractive, and attractive enough to get an average woman on the hook. Maybe not right away, or with just some new clothes, but with a better haircut, hitting the gym, eating healthier, improved hygiene, and a new wardrobe, after a few years of working on that, I don't see why not. At least when it comes to attracting average women who actually want to get married, and not the above a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/25 05:09 PM
1	Whats a way for a man to understand periods and make it easier for women? Well different women will have different needs in that regard. Also depending on her individual pain levels, flow degree, mood swings, etc, as these things vary a lot from one woman to the next. As for myself, I get really heavy periods with pretty bad pains, and at times also really annoying mood shifts. But my biggest issue with is really just how much it limits what activities I can do when on my period. Like most forms of exercise and physical labor is out of the question. So if I had a part…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/25 03:11 AM
6	There are enough single men that women never have to beg for orgasm. 5'8 isn't below average on the bell curve. You have a huge confirmation bias that I can definitely confirm. I know that. I meant "below average" as in fat, often no job and face looking like roadkill. Kinda hard to describe the latter without just making a bunch of subjective flaundering, like I just did. Point is these men were not attractive to most women, and barely even attractive to me, and most men wouldn't talk fondly of them either. They have privilege to be selfish and not mutually work…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/25 06:12 PM
8	There are enough single men that women never have to beg for orgasm. I don't understand this assumption. Most of the selfish men I dated were below average with a mediocre income or no job, height somewhere around 5'8 give or take an inch, poorly dressed, overweight. Just because a man isn't super rich and above average in looks and height doesn't mean he's necessarily any less selfish than that "top 20%" of supposed douchebag hotties. More desperate to please women if that means the few women he scores are actually wanna stick around? Sure, I'd believe that, but…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/25 05:42 PM
1	Why do we as a society make up these random fallacies about women? I think it's because: 1. Far more men than women watch porn a lot, or get addicted to it. Before videos, soft porn magazines where almost always targetting men. Historically it's usually been men who required their partner to look a certain way, while women were more concern with money and protection/safety from a partner. 2. Women are more likely to randomly cry and be vocal about how they feel, while men are more likely to remain level headed, except when angry. Yes this might be more so down …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/25 11:42 AM
5	Genuine question; what do you want me, a random guy, to say/feel when you brought up a problem about men and/or gender inequality? I don't often bring up that kinda stuff, but when I do, what I wish from any random guy reading my rants is for him to just not be like the bad apples. To have empathy for other people and be a good man. Then if he's more traditional or liberal I don't really care. There are good values on both sides of the political spectrum. I don't expect anyone to become some kinda activist or give tons of money to charity or whatever. Because I don't do that. All I really wish is for more people to lead wit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/25 12:45 AM
2	CMV: Women have no issue with the ''right;; objectification Eh, I don't generally complain about objectification, but there's a time and a place for it. In private, at parties, in dating apps, etc, I don't mind because that's kinda expected. Even if it's someone I'm not attracted to, it's not usually gonna upset me. But if it's in a grocery store, at work, at a hospital, etc, being objectified feels kinda bad because it's just not a good time and place for it. So, it's not actually ever objectification that bothers me, it's tactlessness. Not even gonna a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 02:36 PM
0	Many in the manosphere believe women should not have the right to ever leave a relationship Clearly he wasn't as nice and amicable as he portrayed himself to be. Although we can't know how either of them acted during the marriage. Perhaps he was very demanding and controlling, or perhaps she was, or maybe both were good people to begin with but irritated each other to a point where he became violent. I dunno if there's any use in speculating. Divorces can end badly for a lot of different reasons. I don't think her murder was in any way justified, as the only kinda murder I would possib…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/25 09:39 PM
–	Whats your opinion on what men think the female gaze is? Some do, yeah. I didn't specify how much taller than themselves.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 08:13 PM
–	Whats your opinion on what men think the female gaze is? Literally I have that amount of muscle though, from just cleaning my home regularly and dragging my heavy groceries up the stairs a few times a week. So I don't actually expect any more from men than I get to offer myself, nor do I think that amount of muscle requires a lot of work. It's easy enough that most women can achieve it. I dunno if that changes your view at all though. But yeah no I have no interest in dating literal couch potatoes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 08:12 PM
–	Whats your opinion on what men think the female gaze is? But I clearly said that I don't care if a guy is muscular or not, and then I said it seems most women indeed do care about that. How is that contradictory? I thought it would be obvious that my personal ideal is different from that of the majority of women. What I mean for myself is, a guy who's just neither very overweight nor very underweight (a few pounds above or below healthy weight is fine, I don't nitpick) and has enough muscle to not get out of breath after walking up a flight of stairs.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 08:05 PM
–	Whats your opinion on what men think the female gaze is? I'm sure there are lots of women who have those kinda criteria. I've heard it enough times myself on tiktok or whatever. But personally I've never really cared about any of those kinda things. An attractive face, healthy body, and stable income, for sure, but he doesn't have to look like a midel, have a muscular physique or be rich. What matters to me the most in regards to appearance is probably... beautiful eyes and a charming smile. And that he looks like he takes care of himself. Ideal heigh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 07:22 PM
1	Would you support men having the right to “abdicate” a pregnancy? I'm pro-life, but yes I think men should have the right to "abdicate" a pregnancy, just like I think women should have a right to give up their child for adoption. Because it's the closest equivalence for this as well as abortion for men, and either both having these options respectively, or neither, does make sense to me in an ideal society with gender equality. That they're not the exact same thing I don't think matters, because male and female biology is not the exact same either, especially …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/25 07:00 PM
1	When people say men’s issues are “mental health,” what exactly do men need to get mentally healthy that’s different from what women need? It's not that men necessarily have completely different mental health issues, but rather that each established mental health condition shows itself in a gazillion different ways and causes about as many different issues depending on individual circumstances. Although some issues/conditions are more common among men or more common among women. For ex Anorexia Nervosa and Borderline Personality Disorder are generally more common among women, while PTSD and Antisocial Personality Disorder tend to b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/25 04:29 PM
12	Do you actually think life would be easier if you were a man in this age ? Well I actually used to identify as transgender and changed my body to the point of passing as male for over a decade. Although I get that's not the same thing as actually being male, it did at least let me know what it was like to be perceived to be male in many social contexts. Also fyi because I am heterosexual I was perceived to be a gay man during my trans phase, which does add a little extra complexity to my experience, for whatever its worth. That experience, combined with what I've heard…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/25 01:57 AM
1	If you cant admit you want a hookup, dont get angry you cant get immediate sex from your date. I agree but I think the problem is most women either aren't into hookups or are not up front about wanting that, and a lot of men want just sex. So as a result there's a conflict of wants. Women having trouble finding reliable men who genuinely want an LTR for more than just sex, and men having trouble finding women who just want casual sex. This leads to men trying to get hookups from women who just want an LTR and women trying to get commitment from men who just want sex. Obviously the key is …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/25 03:02 PM
1	Q4W: how common is it that women masturbate without an object of desire? For me it's not common at all. It's only on very rare occasion that I can build all the way up to orgasm without any kinda object of desire and it takes a lot of effort and concentration. 99,9% of the time I need to latch onto some kinda object of desire to build up and reach orgasm, be it an actual person, a character or just a scenario in fantasy. I think I'm uncommon with that though. I know I objectify men sexually to an extent that's rare for women. And yeah because of that I don't really m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 03:42 PM
1	What % of men fail to meet reasonable hygiene or grooming standards? I've dated both older and quite young men (ages 18 to 68) over a time span of roughly 20 years (I dated the 18 year old when I was 19, fyi) and vast majority of them had pretty bad hygiene. I mean my first boyfriend didn't think to wash the entirety of his hair in the shower. I could smell sweat on several if them even when they claimed to be newly showered, and several had dirt stains on their clothes. Although not all of them had absolutely atrocious hygiene. I mean, having a small dirt stain …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 04:59 AM
1	RP/BP ppl on PPD say women should choose better, but they really don’t want that. I think it's probably not that deep. Men who have bad luck (or bad odds, however you wanna see it) in the dating market are probably mostly just frustrated and lash out due to that frustration. That does not excuse them being nasty towards women, but it does explain it, I think. But yeah I think in some cases they don't really want women to "choose better men" but rather they just want us to choose them, and most people are gonna think of themselves as good people even if they aren't. Very few p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 08:30 AM
6	Both men and women who want to be strict about condoms are kind of screwed in the dating world. Eh, I never preferred using condoms but also never been against it, so I've mostly just left it up to the man to decide. I've just been very lucky with not getting any std's or pregnancy from unprotected sex, and that made me feel like the risk is low. I know it doesn't really work that way, but pattern recognition is what it is, I guess. It's easy to take the risk of pregnancy after already having had a bunch of unprotected sex that never led to pregnancy. It's easy to think it's unlikely to ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/24 08:51 PM
2	Older men pursuing younger women while belittling other women Yeah, it's such a weird accusation. Sure, sometimes women can be catty towards each other but like... I really don't think that's the most common reaction at all. And ime, women are far more likely to have each others backs (especially if it's in regards to men's actions) than to be overcome by jealousy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/24 05:26 AM
2	Way too many guys on dating apps are clingy and most likely conflate that with being a good lover. Not sure if I should take this as a compliment or insult. That aside, we can't know who, or what gender people are up or down voting any particular comment or post. It's an anonymous voting system. How can I know it wasn't just you who downvoted me, or any other women in this sub who are annoyed with men who want dating advice from women? But even if there are men downvoting me, so what? There are men here who explicitly ask women for advice, and there are men here who just as explicitly say wom…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/24 04:22 AM
1	The way redpillers talk about girls is offensive and often just outright wrong. Yeah, when I was young (late teens, early to mid 20's) I was looked at with scepsism and concern for being into older men. Because most women that age aren't, and do not see the appeal. I had to explain over and over that I just found older men more sexually attractive visually, because no one understood my point of view. I was an outlier, not the norm. All of my female friends thought I was weird for it, and they were concerned that older men who wanted younger women were all creeps. Like in th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/24 10:05 PM
5	Way too many guys on dating apps are clingy and most likely conflate that with being a good lover. One thing I think helps finding that balance is to mirror how much affection the other person gives out, or just a little bit more if you're expected to lead. Might help to think of dating as a series of stages, unlocking things little by little over time. Maybe also a good idea to ask (preferably happily) married men how they manage to play their dating game right. But basically I think the balance is to keep the ball rolling, but slowly and consistently.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/24 03:56 PM
4	Way too many guys on dating apps are clingy and most likely conflate that with being a good lover. Sure it's not our problem per se, but if we want men to change and improve, we are literally taking on that responsibility in hopes of improving our own dating, no? Men's problems in dating and women's problems in dating will unavoidably overlap because of the simple thing that men and women are dating each other. So if we want to improve our own dating prospects, isn't it just logical to say we also gotta help each other become better partners?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/24 03:50 PM
3	What's wrong with being misogynistic? Why SHOULDN'T men become misogynists? Not wanting to be around unpleasant women who dismiss your feelings, struggles, pains, achievements, etc, who are mean, belittling, rude, etc, is not misogynistic. You don't need to love and support every single woman, or constantly kiss our feet. You don't have to excuse misandry. You don't have to like or support feminism, you don't have to agree that a patriarchy even exists. That's just ideology and not wanting to support an ideology does not make you hateful. But is it really too much to as…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/24 03:36 PM
1	RP says men should have their shit together before they get married which I totally agree with. But shouldn’t women also have their shit together before marriage? Very rarely is it something that she can work on or improve. Often the emotional baggage and mental illness is something that develops due to life and relationship experiences. You're also talking about rare cases. This is not true at all. The only reason a lot of people don't improve in this aspect is because they don't want to, think it would be too hard, or don't even see a problem with their emotional reactions to begin with. Those who do see they have a problem with that and wish to work on…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/12/24 09:57 PM
2	Would you date someone from the purple pill debate reddit ? Sure. There are quite a lot of men here who seem totally reasonable, kind and compassionate people. Although there's also quite a lot of men here who seem to do nothing else but whine about how awful women are. So it's quite the mixed space in here, imo, but that's the beauty of it!	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/12/24 12:38 PM
1	Is it true that women give sex to have love? That the end goal for women is emotional bonding, not any sort of physical fulfillment? Well I think you're kinda right but also wrong. It's not that I can't possibly enjoy sex for the sake of the physical, it's that it can only ever be half as good as sex with an emotional bond. Kinda like... eating food that hasn't been spiced at all, or drinking coffee or tea that's gone cold, or watching a movie with a stranger, etc. Like, not awful, but not nearly as great as it could be. Most things that I enjoy doing together with another person, be it sexual or otherwise, is just a lot bett…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/24 02:28 AM
1	Why would an attractive pornstar, an attractive model or a beautiful and attractive woman have trouble to get dates and serious relationships? They probably see them as promiscuous and most men who want an LTR or marriage don't want that with a high body count woman, because they see that as a sign she may cheat or just be unhappy with staying with this one dude forever. Obviously, this isn't necessarily true for models and women who just look like that, but I they do have a point in regards to porn stars. I get not wanting to share your woman with a bunch of other men, even if it's in a "professional" way. I mean I'm not sure if I'd w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/24 02:57 AM
1	Redpill or any other similar content is pure grift While I agree the red pill movement has a lot of grifters, possibly even more per capita than most other movements (probably because it can really pray on people's needs in current time) I don't think it's all bad, in principle. At it's core, preaching self improvement and accountability is not bad. I do that too. It even has kind of a point that attractiveness is usually the driving aspect in dating and that to some extent dating is transactional. Like, we all want something out of dating, and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/24 02:37 PM
0	Q4W: Do you think it's sexist/misogynistic/problematic for a man to fully avoid and decenter women? Depends on why. If he's just fed up with dating difficulties and/or had one too many bad experiences with female friends, I wouldn't think that's misogynistic, just sad, and I'd wish he'd get better, for his own sake, and meet better women who aren't awful people. But if it's because he thinks all or majority of women are awful people not worth having in his life, then yeah that's some sexist bullshit for sure. Fyi I feel the same way vice versa about women who decenter men. It's either just tra…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/24 12:27 PM
3	If Cinderella is the fairytale of a low SMV woman capturing a top 20% man. Then what is male equivalent fairytale for men's struggles? Yeah most of the classic Disney movies are based on really old fairytales with some fucked up background stories. Cinderella probably was too. But they were modernized and re-invented to better fit a modern (well, 20th century) audience.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/24 10:55 AM
0	If Cinderella is the fairytale of a low SMV woman capturing a top 20% man. Then what is male equivalent fairytale for men's struggles? I mean it's a Disney movie. You can interpret the plot however you want. I always felt connected to that movie growing up, and I certainly didn't get any arranged marriage vibes from it. And I really don't think most children watching it are gonna make that connection either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/24 09:55 AM
3	If Cinderella is the fairytale of a low SMV woman capturing a top 20% man. Then what is male equivalent fairytale for men's struggles? Beauty and the beast. He is a literal monster at the start and up until like the last scene, while the woman he ends up with is considered very attractive. She even chooses him over the chad type character Gaston. Sure, at the end the beast turns out to be a handsome prince, but Belle didn't know that by the time she fell for him. Not really a fairytale but also Spiderman. Peter Parker starts off as a loser nerd who struggles with dating until he eventually gets with the pretty and far more succ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/24 08:57 AM
–	Women, do you want liberty or security? We were talking about dating and marriage, quite specifically. Not all human rights in general. I didn't see the point of listing 500 caveats of how it's different for rights that don't pertain to the topic at hand.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/24 10:25 PM
–	Women, do you want liberty or security? I dunno I wasn't the one bringing up voting for other people. Obviously voting in itself is harmless and a good way to keep a state democratic. Tbh I'm not sure why you brought up voting altogether. It doesn't really have much to do with danger one way or another, and most countries in the west do allow their citizens to vote, so it's not against the law to vote either. How is it comparable to dating/marriage in any kinda way? Obviously not every law pertains to preventing or punishing people ca…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/24 04:29 PM
–	Women, do you want liberty or security? Except that is against the law, as it takes away the other person's right to vote. Rights can't override other people's rights. The same goes for dating. You have the right to your own autonomy but no right over someone else's, because that infringes on their right to their autonomy. Your example goes against your own argument. The reason we don't legally allow voting for someone else is the same reason we don't allow forced arranged marriages. It doesn't make any sense to be for one but against…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/24 10:25 AM
–	Women, do you want liberty or security? When they break the law, typically. Ie, when their personal choices become a danger to other people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/24 09:58 AM
–	Do women actually care if a guy is under 6 feet? Seems a lot of women do care, but I personally don't and never did. If anything I'd say I have a very slight preference for men who are close my own height (which is 5'6) solely because that reduces neck pain when reaching for a kiss. But having to reach up or down for a kiss is seriously an extremely unimportant issue in the whole grand scheme of things. So ultimately I don't even take height into consideration in my dating. Don't care if he's 5'2 or 6'8. Although I often still want to know his…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/24 05:32 AM
1	Feminists fearing and resenting men they never met is called sexism (II) Fear doesn't have to lead to prejudice. I did use to fear men for a fairly short time, maybe a few years, after a particularly bad series of trauma hitting extra hard, and shortly before my recovery. I did not hate men or treat them badly during that time. I simply felt a need to avoid interacting excessively with men I didn't trust, and took a break from dating men. That's it. No lashing out or treating men like a monolith. No loading my personal issues onto them. Taking personal responsibility…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/24 02:54 AM
3	Why does the perception that "most men are physically unattractive or below average" exist among women? I make a distinction between "conventionally attractive" and attractive to me personally. For instance a lot of celebrities are conventionally attractive, which means I can recognize that objectively, these men are good-looking, but I'm not necessarily attracted to them personally. They all end up looking kinda the same. It's the same crew cut or skin fade and the same straight white teeth again and again. And that kinda bores me a bit. The kinda men I find the most attractive have been all over…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/24 04:47 PM
1	Would you want to continue a relationship with your partner, if they expressed a desire to sleep with someone else? I don't need to know, it's normal to still find other people attractive while in a relationship, and even to get swaying thoughts during rough times. But if he (my hypothetical partner) felt the need to tell me anyway, I'd wanna know why he felt that way. Then depending on the reason behind, the relationship may or may not be salvagable. Basically, I don't wanna invest in someone who is clearly unhappy with what I've got to offer and fantasises about being with other people. But I don't think it…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/24 04:28 AM
1	Q4W: If a man is unwilling to get into a physical fight for you, is he not a real man to you ? No, I'd actually appreciate it way more if a man takes a non-violent approach to resolving conflict. The only thing that would be a problem, and indeed quite unmanly, is if he'd never step up in any kinda way and is a total doormat. Although there are specific situations where I'd not be against a guy acting like that. It really depends on the guy and his situation. Like he could be disabled, or just really small and thin, or something.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/24 08:15 PM
1	Q4A: What are you looking for in a partner? Ideally I want marriage, but a serious long term relationship would be fine too. As long as it's monogamous and a serious investment of some sort. Ideally I'd want to have kids (just one or two) but I'm getting too old for that so I'm okay with with a relationship not leading to children. So I kinda want a guy who wants kids but would be fine with it if it doesn't happen. Alternatively I could date a single dad and just invest in being a step mom instead. Aside from the basic stuff everyone want…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/24 08:09 PM
0	LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD Yeah, that might be true as well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/24 06:59 PM
3	LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD I don't think anyone's denying that having exceptionally good looks is helpful in dating. The point that a lot of women tend to disagree on is that less attractive men can't get any woman at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/24 03:57 PM
1	LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD I think so, yeah. I'd say both are an 8 or 9.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/24 03:50 PM
4	Do liberal women dress more modestly than conservative women ? Dressing at least somewhat "sexy" in stuff like form-fitting clothing and showing lower legs and a bit of cleavage is kinda just what a lot of society considers "feminine" at this point. And I think that's why more conservative women dress that way. But also because women's formal attire has always been form-fitting (well at least since the 1500's or renaissance) first with corsets, and then with more modern shapewear and tailored outer clothing. Up until around the 1980's. After that more loose…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/24 06:09 AM
1	Women feel they don't need men despite needing men; Men feel they need women despite not needing women. And in the future we may have stem cell technology to grow organs from scratch so organ donors are already useless? 🙃 We can get back to your question of women's usefulness in reproduction after robotic wombs because actual reality, if they do. Until then it makes no sense what so ever to talk about society as if these things already existed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/24 08:18 PM
0	Women are simply lying about this pretty consequential thing I agree it's absolutely pathetic. I mean personally I want to have resonsibility over my own well-being and how my life is going, even if it's going downhill, because to me that's what gives me agency, and agency gives me freedom. To me, victim mentality stunts growth and takes away agency, and I'm all about agency and personal growth. At most I can admit that I sorta get the appeal of perpetual victim identity, on some extremely superficial, theory level. Ie if having victim points gives you po…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/24 06:32 PM
6	Women are simply lying about this pretty consequential thing Yeah, tbh I wish more women could be sceptical of feminism and treat men like fellow humans instead of as "oppressors" but then again I also have serious trouble understanding what's so appealing about being a victim. Like to me that's a horrible thing I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. But I guess each to their own...	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/24 05:23 PM
2	Has online dating produced more positive or negative effects for you and why? Mostly negative. I'm only interested in serious relationships, and nowadays I won't touch an online dating service with a ten foot pole. In my past experience it seems most men on there have zero interest in any kinda serious dating, they're way too forward about sex, and keep asking me about nudes, and don't seem to wanna meet up irl. And the few times I've found people online for actually serious dating, it wasn't even on a dating site, and they both lived very far away. So the way I see onlin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/24 03:47 PM
3	Are you really "doing it for yourself"? I think you're very right about that. But I also think the issue is that external validation often gets confused with vanity, low self esteem, body dysmorphia, and people going to extremes to reach some kinda perfection. Then in contrast "doing things for yourself" is seen as the healthier option. But yeah I don't think it's even possible to do pretty much anything in life in complete isolation from societal standards. And I agree it's not a bad thing to want external validation. As long as you'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/24 01:07 PM
1	If you were a billionaire, would you still pursue a romantic relationship/marriage? Why/why not? Yes I would, and yes the reasoning would amount to "love." Basically genuine human connection, companionship, and not just being loved but also having someone to give my love to. Overall this is why I don't even care if I never become rich in any capacity (whether on my own or through a partner's income) because the things I value the most in life cannot be bought with money. So yeah I'd rather be broke for life but happily married/in a relationship, than be rich and alone. Unfortunately I'm bot…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/24 12:42 PM
7	Are you really "doing it for yourself"? To a certain extent, yes. Whatever I wear has to meet my own approval and be aesthetically pleasing to me. I don't follow trends I think look bad, I'm not afraid to wear things considered "outdated," and I don't force myself to wear something that feels uncomfortable. But, comfort for me is not just about soft, spaceous clothing, because I do often wear narrow skirts, constricting underwear, tight tops, tailored jackets with limited movement, etc, in public that I don't often wear at home alone.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/24 12:25 PM
2	Women feel they don't need men despite needing men; Men feel they need women despite not needing women. I was talking about the present time. Whatever may or may not happen in the future is not relevant to current societal needs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/24 11:07 AM
–	Is The Denial That Misandry Exists The Worst Misandry? I can't know that because I'm not a man, but I'd think things like non-consensual circumcision, the draft, unfair childhood custody battles, getting worse sentence for a crime than women would, etc, or heck even jyst male disposability in general, are probably worse forms of misandry than some obnoxious feminist thinking it doesn't exist. Also because I wouldn't think that some dude denying that misogyny exists, is the worst thing that's ever happened to me. That's probably pretty low on my list…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/24 02:53 AM
9	Women are simply lying about this pretty consequential thing Yeah, I think they're brushing that under the carpet because if truth came out that false accusations are actually alarmingly common, we (as a society or in general, or heck even just feminists) can't keep up the idea that we "should always believe women." The idea of women as the perpetual victim wouldn't hold up anymore, and much of feminism is very much riding the wave of female victim mentality. It's amazing how seemingly all roads of "bad feminism takes" lead back to victim mentality. As if…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/24 02:42 AM
0	Nice guys are just assholes who felt obligated to be nice to get pussy. Only up until realizing he's an asshole. Which isn't always easy to know, if he's good at faking being nice. How long do you think these kinda relationships last, how happy do you think they are?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/24 02:30 AM
3	Women feel they don't need men despite needing men; Men feel they need women despite not needing women. Yeah, no one is required to marry and have children if they don't want to. That's more like "personal life goals" than a requirement to survive. Although some things arguably get easier if you do marry. Like affording a house usually requires two incomes, for example. And to some extent society does need for a certain percentage of people to have children and preferably raise them well. So while no one has to, we all kinda gave that pressure on us to some extent. And by that I mean both men and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/24 02:28 AM
13	Women feel they don't need men despite needing men; Men feel they need women despite not needing women. Well if we look outside of/beyond dating and marriages, women are still needed for the continuation of the species, abd women still do most of the childcare. Not just in the home, but most people working with children are women. So men wouldn't even exist without women. Then in healthcare in general, most nurses are women, and this job is extremely important for keeping hospitals functional. It's also mostly women working with the elderly, so when men get old or sick they'll need women to help c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/24 05:20 PM
1	Nice guys are just assholes who felt obligated to be nice to get pussy. Yeah there seems to be some kinda confusion between men who are nice because they want other people to feel good, they want to be helpful and supportive and they have genuine empathy - and men who only act nice to get pussy, but as soon as the woman says or does anything they don't like they start name calling her and being nasty. Like I dunno if it's clear that Nice Guys (tm) is not the same as genuinely kind men. It's kinda tiring when it's brought up over and over that "women don't want the n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/24 03:34 PM
1	People who look for umconditional love in relationships aren't confident in their ability to fulfill these conditions Thing is, I've been told by close friends and partners that I do love unconditionally, with the reason that I'm not quick to judge people's past and always try my best to see them from an understanding and compassionate perspective, and when I do love someone, over time I notice tgat it doesn't so much matter to me how succesful they are, how they navigate their lives, that they make mistakes, etc, and I'm always quick to praise any level if personal growth I see in them. And the more free-think…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/24 04:22 AM
3	Q4W: What would you do if your male friend or partner told you he had some manosphere beliefs? Well I'm anti-feminist and purple pill so there are absolutely some red pill stuff that I generally agree with, and my bar for whatever I consider to be misogynistic is fairly high. That said I do have a limit and I think some of the red pill/manosphere view points are irrational and chronically online beliefs. Although I'm always open to hear out a person that I'm close with, like a friend or partner. I like learning about men's perspective on things. It doesn't mean I would necessarily change …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/24 12:04 AM
1	5 questions regarding your pill, please share if you can. I just agree on some of the red pill stuff but some of it is unhinged. I don't think so really. I just still think what's unhinged is still unhinged and what's reasonable is still reasonable. Sure. I'm always open to any of my views and beliefs being changed. Evidence that isn't just based on chronically online doomscrolling.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/24 03:32 PM
2	The only real form of love is unconditional love. I don't think unconditional love exists. There will always be caveats. Like if someone gets abusive or even just overly selfish, my love for them stops. My love is conditional on the other person being a good person, and I don't see anything wrong with that. In fact, I think that's how love should be. I've been in enough relationships where my partner demanded unconditional love for me to see it as a toxic trait at this point. Love is earned, sorry not sorry.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/24 03:16 PM
2	When single... Did/Do you care about what the opposite sex finds attractive? I'm currently single, and yeah, in general I care what men find attractive. Although it is only to a certain extent, if it's info I can even use to my advantage. Like for ex I have tattoos and one facial piercing, and I'm not gonna remove those to attract men. But knowing what sorta clothes, hairstyles, nails and makeup men generally tend to like on women, I do take that into consideration for how I develop my style and how I get ready in the morning. I want for it to feel natural though (as opp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/24 02:49 AM
1	How often do you fear that you'll be romantically rejected because you're not feminine enough? I used to be transgender, and now trying to reclaim my female nature. So I worry a lot about not being feminine enough. Actually I know for a fact that I'm too masculine for most men's interest. And for good reason. I don't expect them to be attracted to stuff like facial hair or a receeding hairline in a woman. It kinda puts me off to have these features too, and I don't think I even want them sexualized. Which is why I'm working on changing these features before getting back into dating. I put…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/24 03:23 PM
4	How do you feel about the average person? I am quite average, and most men I've dated have been average too. Pretty much all of my friends are average. I would have no problem making more friends with with average people (both sexes) and dating, having sex with and marrying an average man. Assuming he's compatible with me as an individual. I quite easily find beauty and satisfaction in the mundane. So for me, average people are really not all the same, or necessarily boring. It just means they have a fairly equal split between attractiv…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 08:11 PM
5	One thing that makes suspicious of some people’s experiences here is the fact that everyone in their stories always neatly fits into every stereotype. I'm not OP but some of the stereotypes for women I've seen around in this sub are: - Gold diggers. - Party type women who are perpetual cheaters with a high body count. - The innocent virtuous conservative virgin. Wants to be a trad wife stay at home mom of course. - "Post wall" women, which is usually any woman over 30, who doesn't look like a photo model. - Obese women with atrocious personalities and super high dating standards. - Feminists. Just in general. That's about it that I can think o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 02:05 PM
5	Traveling is such an unattractive and red flag trait in women I live in a tourist resort so I'm well aware of how tourism works. It's just that there seems to be a difference between the mindless tourists almost sinking my island in the summers, and my friends who avoid common tourist traps and spend months learning the language and customs of the places they visit. Sure, the travel itself may not be what they learn the most from, but the travelling is what prompts them to do some research and put work into it. Especially the ones who are really passionate…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 10:20 AM
7	Traveling is such an unattractive and red flag trait in women I'm not saying they're scholars, but also nor am I. Whether someone learns stuff from their travels or not is kinda individual, don't you think? Some people travel because they have an actual interest in learning about different cultures and languages, while some are just mindless tourists. Far from every woman is an insufferable instagrammer. That's just on Instagram (and yeah, tiktok, etc.) I'm talking about real life people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 09:55 AM
3	Traveling is such an unattractive and red flag trait in women I personally don't like travelling a lot, I kinda prefer staying at home or close to home 99,9% of the time. The main reason I travel at all is to visit friends or family who live far away. That said, I kinda wanna partially agree, partially disagree with you. As I do have friends who are very into travelling, and while they definitely are doing a bit too much escapism, that's far from the only reason they're so into travelling. A big part of it is a deep desire to learn about the world, get cul…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 09:14 AM
3	Why do so many women preach the importance of clear communication around sex then refuse to clearly communicate? Well, I preach communication because it's important. I know I struggle to communicate my own sexual needs with a partner, but that doesn't mean I'm not trying or don't care. I do care and I am trying. It takes practice and time to become comfortable with communicating such sensitive things. I dunno about other women but maybe they too are trying. There's so much social stigma around women's sexuality. We're expected to be sexually available as if that's the only thing of value we can offer men, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/24 12:08 AM
1	How much does a man’s finances matter to you? Minimum I'd accept is he lives on some kinda reliable allowance, like for ex for a disability, as long as it's stable. This is kinda Sweden specific as I'm a Swede, btw. So it's irrelevant to me if this kinda financial situation does not exist in other countries, as I don't do long distance. This is also my own financial situation, so basically I'm expecting he has the same level of and means of income as myself, as the bare minimum. And literally means he doesn't even have to have a job. My fin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/24 03:32 AM
2	Why does therapy fail men on a large scale and what alternatives are there? Well I'm a womanbut therapy did not work for me for pretty much the same reasons. So I very much want for psychiatry to be changed into different models that will better suit men's needs. I watch Dr. K on youtube and he has a lot of insightful thoughts about this that I think would speak to a lot of men on this sub. But as for actual alternatives... tbh, I wanna say that "life coaches" is a big thing. Although many of them are scammy, quite many of them still have good advice. Just don't waste y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/24 10:03 PM
7	Do you actually care about not being able to go out with your tits out? I don't care as much as I used to. When I was young I was very rebellious and would be against all sorts of rules and social etiquette just because. Now in my 30's I don't think there's any point in spending a ton of energy being mad about the ways things just are in society. I instead prefer adjusting myself to expectations, as long as I think there's some degree of logical reason as to why the expectations are the way they are. And with breasts I do get that they are highly sexualized and that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/24 08:09 PM
31	Older men pursuing younger women while belittling other women Yeah, I'm 35 and I'm not jealous of or bitter about younger women. If anything I feel protective of them, knowing that a lot of what they're going through is stuff I went through 10+ years ago, but generally I just feel neutral about other women. I don't feel like I'm competing against them. Especially not women who are either much younger or have completely different values, etc, because we're not even aiming at dating the same kinda men. Could we both theoretically want the same 30yo guy? Sure…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/24 01:48 AM
3	Above Average Men Chase the Top 10% of Women I figured it was a similar situation, just on a different scale. And like that explains why I've had men ranging from 3/10 to 6/10 hit on me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/24 04:06 PM
2	A bunch of questions for women Why do you think men cater to women? Because traditionally men are expected to court and impress women, while women more so expected to just do whatever the man wants. Exceot in recent decades expectations on women have gone down (largely thanks to feminism) while expectations on men kinda haven't. This leads to men nowadays doing more to cater to women. Why are women more in demand? Probably because women have lower libido and usually have an easier time getting sexual pleasure from mastirbatio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/24 04:02 PM
8	Above Average Men Chase the Top 10% of Women Tbh I think almost everyone wants someone hotter than themselves, and that both sexes overestimate their own attractiveness to some degree. No one wants to think of themselves as "below average" yet half the population has to be. Although I think men more likely go after women only a couple points more attractive than them, while women more often want a 10/10 guy no matter what their own attractiveness is. I'm very mid or even slightly below, and I've had men way below my league try to get with …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/24 03:15 PM
1	Men have been misblamed for the overturning of Roe v Wade; the true culprit is religious conservatives, and it's time to stop saddling liberal-minded men with collective guilt and enabling conservative women to enjoy unmerited collective innocence It's for the same reason people assume feminists are all women or that all women must be feminist. In reality, people of both sexes are on both/all sides of the political spectrum. People don't typically vote with their genitals. And wether men or women benefit from x, y or z policity kinda quite highly depends on the individual person's values, not so much on their sex. Fyi I used to be in a pro-life sub and it was almost only women in it. And most pro-choice people I've met have been men who'v…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 12:02 AM
1	Who requires more effort to keep happy in a hetero relationship? The GF or the BF? I think in general thw woman puts in more effort, and also demands more effort from the other. Probably because women in general are more used to having a lot of pressure on how to behave in relationships, ie be pretty, do most of the household chores, raise the children, do most of the emotional labor, etc, while what the man does is mainly working/bringing in money, which is mostly done outside of the relationship (unless he's working from home, I guess.) Although the man usually also puts in …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/24 09:28 PM
2	Do women who engaged in lots of casual sex, inherently love the man they wind up marrying, differently than those who did not? While I'm not married, I have been in both committed, exclusive LTR's and had casual sex between the serious relationships (when I was single) in the past. Sex with an LTR was always way, way better. I never got much out of the sex I had with hookups and fwb's. It was a spur of the moment sorta thing that almost always made me feel disppointed. Even when it was kinda good (which wasn't often, mind you) it lacked spark. That missing "spark" is mutual love and genuine care for each other, which ca…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/24 04:45 PM
3	Why do women dress provocatively if they don't like most men? While I don't have the highest standards, nor dress particularly provocatively, I do often wear just above knee length skirts low heel shoes, and tight tops that show off my curves, plus wear makeup and do my hair, while not yet being ready to re-enter the dating market. I dress that way then because: 1. I'm practicing how to better put together my outfits for whenever I will re-enter the dating market. 2. It's just my personal style/aesthetic. I want to feel feminine. 3. I want to look presenta…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/24 09:24 PM
1	RP men use dating strategies that attract specific kinds of women, which reinforces their stereotypes about women in a vicious cycle I realize I'm really tooting my purple pill horn here, but honestly I think the key is to hit some kinda balance. "Just be yourself" isn't gonna work if many of your traits are just not conventionally/commonly attractive, but also constantly putting up an act is gonna be exhausting and difficult to keep up in the long run. So I think doing a bit of a mix of the two might be more succesful. Ie be generally yourself, but play up your often liked traits and downplay your more so negative traits. Ba…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/24 11:54 PM
2	CMV: More women should join the 4B movement in the US This isn't about men vs women, it's conservatives vs liberals. Liberal women not wanting to sleep with or date conservative men is nothing new, and conservative men already generally don't wanna mess with liberal women. So this changes nothing. Because 4B is not women boycotting men, it's liberals boycotting conservatives, which has always been a thing. And liberal women boycotting liberal men as well is just stupid. Because they'd win nothing on doing that. This is the kinda thing that just rad…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/24 02:36 PM
2	There are rational reasons for working class men to dislike female empowerment; Women irrespective of their living conditions or ideology will always be hypergamous. There is no egalitarian utopia at the end of the female empowerment rainbow, just more male disposability I think these are two different issues. Women who are hypergamous only have themselves to blame when they get super wealthy and then complain they can't find a man who's even richer than them, or whatever is the thing they want more of in a man. And most men are probably better off not trying to give these perpetually spoiled women what they want. For women who are not hypergamous, female empowerment is not an issue in dating. But imo empowerment should be for both sexes, and the only problem wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/24 01:59 PM
1	Do you expect to date a person with your political beliefs? While I wouldn't call myself conservative, I'm not a feminist either, and I fall somewhere around the libertarian side of things, and I'd loosely say I'm centrist (although by my country's standards I'd be considered way more conservative than by American standards) so it's not hard for me to find men who have a very similar view on politics as me. But that said I am open to dating men who are more conservative than me, as well as men who are more liberal than me, as long as he isn't far into ei…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/24 04:23 PM
0	Women Will Be Sexy For Money, Attention But Not For LTR Love Honestly I kind of agree. I see so many women complaining about their husbands or boyfriends no longer giving them as much attention, or being annoyed by the expectation of sex, while dressing down significantly and gaining a bunch of weight. Like... no shit Sherlock? I don't get how that is a mystery. You get what you give. And yeah, the way I dress and act now when single is how I intend on dressing and acting once I get into a new relationship. And although I'm a bit overweight now, I'm worki…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/24 03:23 AM
1	Women, do you prefer passionate sex or do you prefer routine sex(with someone who knows you well)? Sounds like maybe it just a confusing situation altogether, and like maybe she didn't know how to best word it either. Also sounds like she probably just had better chemistry with the new guy. Usually a bad or disappointing sex life in LTR's is because there are other issues in the relationship that aren't being addressed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/24 08:38 PM
1	A males genetic potential can only be achieved through willpower/effort/energy and that is the formula to being desirable/aesthetically pleasing/attractive as a male Yeah, I'd agree that what a man chooses to do with what he's got is more important than just what genetics he has, but that genetics do matter to some extent. Like tall men with sharp bone structures generally have it easier, but just being tall with a Chad jaw is not gonna make you wildly attractive to a ton of women if you're also fat and lazy. Fyi my dad is really tall (6'3) but he's overweight, no muscle, has a mediocre income, is a total doormat, and dresses like a slob. Yes, he found happi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/24 01:25 PM
2	Women, do you prefer passionate sex or do you prefer routine sex(with someone who knows you well)? This doesn't make much sense to me, as sex with someone who knows you well and you can trust can absolutely be passionate, and ime that's usually what I need for sex to be passionate. On the other hand, if I'm not likely to orgasms, then I'm not gonna be passionate about the sex, it's just gonna be frustrating. So I can't even see how the second scenario could be passionate. Adventerous, perhaps, but not passionate. But if these are my only two options I'd rather have boring routine sex with a g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/24 01:00 PM
1	Has TRP affected your willingness to date? It hasn't really, no. Before I found this sub, I was already taking a break from dating due to focusing on self-improvements, especially on my appearance but also other lifestyle choices. Because I had already figured out that the reason I can't get a good man is because I'm not a good woman. And part of the reason I joined here was to learn more about what more I can do to improve. Also I had been listening to a lot of "manosphere" youtubers before I found this sub. Youtubers like Alpha M, Thin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/24 12:44 PM
1	Do you generally heed the advice that your father (assuming he has your best interests at heart) gives when it comes to interacting with men? Why or why not? My father hasn't given me a single piece of advice in regards to dating, as far I recall. Pretty sure the only serious conversations I've had with him have been about fixing computers. I just don't have that much of a connection with him. It's mostly just been my mother telling me what he's told her, which I know to take with a grain of salt. (My parents are still happily married and living together, fyi.) The only one of my parents' who's ever had anything at all to say about my dating is my mo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/24 10:06 PM
3	Do women pursue attractive men just for casual sex? I'm glad there are men out there who feel like you do. That definitely gives me some hope! That you're not all thinking casual sex is the greatest invention ever. Because honestly I'm not sure what I could possibly offer men who feel that way. I want a deeper connection. Sex preferably included of course.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/24 09:16 PM
5	Do women pursue attractive men just for casual sex? Ideally a guy would be both stable and exciting, and I wouldn't date someone I thought was boring, so I'm sure that wouldn't be a problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/24 03:18 PM
5	Do women pursue attractive men just for casual sex? Thank you, I appreciate that. Well then maybe I'd just have to prove it to him just how much he's actually way superior to the dredges of my past. And then hopefully he'll judge me by my (current) actions. I've seen so many women here talk about how casual sex is just good enough man + horny + maybe alcohol. And yet I can't shake the feeling that casual sex only happens to the best looking most alpha men because women crave them so much they'll do anything for them. It could be that there's trut…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/24 01:56 PM
16	Do women pursue attractive men just for casual sex? Well then he'd just be flat out incorrect, and if he'd not be willing to listen to my actual experiences and feelings on that, then that's just not gonna be a guy I can trust, isn't it? And if he doesn't feel he can trust me, and I don't feel I can trust him either, then that's not gonna be a relationship I'd want to pursue. But this is a big reason why letting a guy get to know who I am as a person first is really important, because then he'd probably be less likely to rely on stereotypes to fi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/24 10:32 AM
1	Do women pursue attractive men just for casual sex? I'm generally open about it. Maybe not on the first date, but I don't feel like I've got something to hide, because I know I've actually changed and am willing to prove it. Also I only really have negative stuff to say about that experience, so I doubt it's anything to be jealous of. If some guy isn't willing to give me a chance then I'd think that says a lot more about him that it does about me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/24 10:24 AM
21	Do women pursue attractive men just for casual sex? Most women are not into casual sex, no. I used to be, until it hit me how much danger and very little actual pleasure doing so was leading to. So I stopped for self-care reasons. However, during that time I was still doing casual sex, I used a Swedish hookup app, meaning it was explicitly for seeking casual sex, hookups, fwbs, playmates, that sorta stuff. It had an easily accessible statistics section: among the users, 98% were reportedly men and only 2% were reportedly women. A lot of the men t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/24 08:28 AM
–	Should A Broke 30(M) Year Old Student Avoid Serious Relationships Until His Life Is In Order? What Are Your Thoughts? Not everyone in college is piss poor or struggling with some major issues in life though. So no, it doesn't apply to every college student.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/24 04:26 PM
–	Should A Broke 30(M) Year Old Student Avoid Serious Relationships Until His Life Is In Order? What Are Your Thoughts? I think anyone with any kinda big issues in life (be it financial, health related, living situation, etc) should ideally work on those issues before getting into serious dating, no matter the gender. Although that said I think studying for a career is one of few good reasons to be broke. Clearly you're not lazy then.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/24 03:43 PM
3	The Orgasm Gap Is Mainly About Biology and The Rest is Entirely Women's Own Fault While these things like biology and reluctance to even try to achieve orgasm on women's part absolutely do play a part, that is far from the whole story. Men's orgasms have always been considered more valuable in society because it's highly connected to reproduction, and generally more visual. Women's sexuality (pleasure and orgasms) has been shamed for centuries. While this isn't individual men's responsibility, it also isn't individual women's fault. Men being selfish in bed is also not women'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/24 09:18 AM
1	Fat chicks I think body shape generally matters more than weight, to a certain extent. And a little bit of chub isn't necessarily gonna deter men, at least if you have a pretty face with not too many chins. I'm also a bit overweight, close to OP's situation, with a bmi of 29. I'm working on losing that excess weight though, and so far I've already lost almost 10 pounds. It's not just because I wanna be more attractive to men but also because I wanna feel more attractive to myself, be more confident in my s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/24 02:25 AM
0	PPD Survey Results Sure, but it's not outside the realm of possibility.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/24 04:20 PM
4	PPD Survey Results Probably slept around a lot before marrying (and subsequently had trouble finding a long term partner) or is in an open marriage. People with high n-counts do get married as well, unlike what some people keep saying on this sub...	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/24 05:23 PM
1	To women, how would you feel if your partner spent a lot of money on his past partners but is relatively frugal with you? I would probably think he just matired and got more wise about his spendings, but if he never put any money on me/us despite being perfectly capable of affording it, I'd honestly wonder if he either doesn't think I'm worth it, or if he has some huge debt he's trying to pay back. But ultimately I would just (calmly) ask him about it. Fyi I'm all about the 50/50 and being equal in a relationship, but I also think that both partners splurging on each other for special occasions is kinda expected. S…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/24 03:10 AM
2	Women are partially responsible for men not believing what women say. I notice this in other forums too. I think the issue is that quite a lot of people like to believe that because they are x thing (be it a gender, sexuality, political affiliation, a specific hobby, etc) that in itself makes them an expert on x thing in an objective sense. Like for ex "I know what women (as a collective) want because I am a woman." On the other hand it could also just be wishful thinking, ie not wanting to believe or admit or listen to negative or unrelatable things that other pe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/24 08:06 AM
2	What are some things you envy about the other sex that are NOT commonly talked about? I've always been jealous of men's ability to pee while standing up, or in a bottle. It seems so convenient for emergencies. If you're stuck on a long roadtrip in the middle of nowhere, or lost in the woods, etc, and you get a sudden urge to pee, while being female... good luck figuring out a good way to solve that. Luckily I don't often end up in that situation, but it has happened a few times in my life, since I grew up in the countryside with a very bad sense of localization, and then I always…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/24 08:54 PM
1	What's the things you consider a red flag? I'd think the "goes out every weekend" and "is someone who gets into fights" are pretty concerning, as that indicates addiction, emotional instability, possibly dangerous/violent, and potentially higher risk of him being a cheater. But not really any of the other ones. Maybe the "is currently unemployed" could be a red flag, but highly depends on why he's unemployed. Like, just recently got laid off, or is disabled, would be okay reasons.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/24 03:32 PM
2	8 possible reasons why Women don't approach Men. Most women, yes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/24 06:25 PM
1	8 possible reasons why Women don't approach Men. I've done some approaching, especially back in my late teens and early 20's. I went to night clubs a lot and sometimes did cold approach men who interested me. Like I would ask them for a dance, offer to buy them drinks, compliment them, etc. For the most part it was met with flat out rejection, and all of the guys I did end up with one way or another were the ones who had approached me. And yeah no, the men I've approached were hardly the top 20%. Maybe top 60%. Some barely even that prestigeou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/24 06:24 PM
3	8 possible reasons why Women don't approach Men. given that she had been "smiling at me all night." That's not even approaching though. That's just making herself available while still hoping the guy (you) will do the actual approaching, which is not new for women to do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/24 06:08 PM
1	Ladies, how would you feel/react to a situation like this? Sounds like the perfect date to me. A genuine guy who's fun, easy to talk to, that I'd have lots in common with, wants to split the bill, and who doesn't rant on and on about his job? Where can I find this guy lol. I'm being serious. Just not often these kinda made up date scenarios are so genuinely satisfying to read, and imagine myself in. I mean that is basically the kinda guy I'm looking for, although he really doesn't have to have some prestigeous job. And yeah I do prefer splitting the bil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/24 11:36 PM
3	Normalize saying you have a big vagina instead of "size queen" Yeah, honestly women preferring a big penis should be equal to men preferring a tight vagina. Whether that is accurate anatomy or not, I can't imagine there's no such thing as variation in vaginal canal size, because literally every other body part comes in varying sizes. It's just taboo to talk about. Because I guess a lot of people with whatever size preference way too often have a habit of bodyshaming people who don't meet their preference. And women have been accused of hypersexuality and be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/24 03:29 PM
2	Are there certain sex acts you'd perform with some men but not others due to how hot you find them? In general, no. However to some extent I'm more comfortable being more experimental with sex with a long term partner I trust than a stranger or casual fwb. It's never about looks though. If I'm attracted to a guy then anything and everything I'm sexually into will be on the table, and if I'm not attracted to him, then there won't be any sex at all. So for me, attraction is really just an "on or off" switch (depending on the guy) and not really a spectrum. I would never agree to sex with a guy a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/24 04:34 PM
2	Rich, Handsome, and Faithful I'd choose handsome and faithful. I don't really care that much about money. Never really had any riches to begin with and I'm in my 30's now so clearly I can do without that. Besides, I've loved and dated men who were hopelessly broke, and that was never the reason I broke up with them. Ugly and cheating are however things I can't overlook. Although I don't think a guy has to have amazing genetics or never watch porn or anything like those kinda extremes, I'm kinda done dating men who style/gro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/24 06:02 PM
1	Is it frustrating being physically weak compared to men? Sometimes, yeah. If I'm doing any sorta heavy lifting or other heavy physical activity, but most times it just doesn't really come up. I think I've realized over time that there's no point in me focusing on this and putting energy into being perpetually upset about shit I can't change. Because I used to be really frustrated about it, and compare myself negatively to men a lot. I'm not an athlete though. I only exercise for a hobby/for staying fit. Although I did practice karate on a more serious…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/24 12:51 AM
–	Why are there such different responses from telling men to have realistic standards vs women? I dunno what kinda women you hang out with but the kind of women I know, know of or have known irl have been consistently dating and marrying the actually good and kind type of men who look just average, with an average income from some random blue collar job. The only exception is the women who thought they married/dated that kinda guy but later turned out they were abusive. This is the exact delusion that men point to when discussing these scenarios - Women saying one thing and then chasing af…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 05:27 PM
–	Why are there such different responses from telling men to have realistic standards vs women? Are those the kinda men that get married though? I don't think so. Most married men I've met and/or heard about have been really nice or just decent people. Most women prefer dark triad anyways, they literally stay with abusers if he’s good-looking . That's not the real reason women stay with abusers though. It's usually either low self-esteem, lack of awareness of the situation, or fear of what could happen if they left. Women staying with abusers also does not necessarily mean women prefer 'da…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 05:06 PM
–	Why are there such different responses from telling men to have realistic standards vs women? I wouldn't argue against that. Whatever the reason behind nasty behaviour doesn't really matter. Nothing excuses being an ass.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 04:44 PM
–	Why are there such different responses from telling men to have realistic standards vs women? I don't think that's true. At most I can imagine maybe sexually experienced men are more likely to be selfish for whatever reason, but I've seen far more male virgins with nasty attitudes towards women. What kinda incentive do successful men have to not be genuinely nice, if that's the reason they attract women in the first place? Fyi I've nothing against male virgins per se, including dating them. But let's just not pretend that the incel community (an example of men who are nasty towards women…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 01:47 PM
3	Why are there such different responses from telling men to have realistic standards vs women? I've said before but a few guys got angry at me for saying it, women can become interested in a guy just through word of mouth, I guess they got angry because "for whatever reason" it didn't apply to them. I fully believe that men who are genuinely kind, caring and compassionate will have no issue dating pretty much regardless of what they look like. I totally agree that men exuding positive, safe and comforting vibes are instantly attractive for it. Those are definitely the kinda men who can ea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/24 04:39 PM
5	Why are there such different responses from telling men to have realistic standards vs women? Men that earn more are more likely to be psychopaths or narcissists, same with height from what I've gathered. Just using these two since they seem to occupy the top of Women in the west's priorities when it comes to choosing a partner. I've never really thought about this and I've no idea if it's true or not, but it does make sense as rich and powerful people often seem to be kinda corrupt and abusing their power. I think we need to focus more on men's characters, looking at the company they ke…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/24 02:29 PM
14	Why are there such different responses from telling men to have realistic standards vs women? I think it's because often times women who do have low standards tend to end up with abusive, manipulative, or otherwise actually dangerous men. So I think the reason many women are defensive about their unrealistically high standards is because they might think the alternative is to become a doormat and sex slave to some unhinged and actually dangerous men. Men having low standards may be unhappy, yes, but they're not (usually) putting themselves in danger by having low standards. Most likely t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/24 12:25 PM
2	When you're dating a guy who's a long term / serious prospect, how do you decide whether to hook up with him first or delay sex until you're both serious/exclusive? I have quit doing hookups altogether, but in the past when that was still a thing, I based it on... literally just what I was in the mood for. Even back then I went through periods when I was more into just casual sex because I was frustrated with the complexities of dating, and other times I was more into serious dating because I was fed up with the harsh crudeness and coldness of hookup culture. The only times it had anything to do with the guy in question was: if he was attractive but I had n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/24 10:47 PM
2	Women: What do you bring to the table? I'm currently single, but what I think I bring to the table is: compassion, empathy, a high sex drive, space and tools to help my partner grow as a person, loyalty, creativity, genuine interest in understanding and getting to know my partner, fashion advice, actual honesty about wanting to split the bill, etc. I've also often been told that I have a calming effect on people, that I have a nice ass and that I'm good at blowjobs. Additionally I have a keen interest in men's issues in society as I'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/24 02:30 AM
8	As a man with mental illness, you are worse off in the current datingmarket then a woman with the same issues. It does affect people psychologically though, ie behaviours, thought patterns, emotions, etc, which is what matters to dating. Not how it biologically/chemically manifests in the brain. Besides, a lot of mental illnesses (like depression, for ex) do have a neurological cause kinda similarly to autism. So in actual reality, the difference between psychological vs neurological condition is extremely blurry with a ton of overlap. So why exactly does it matter so much if some people choose to catego…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/24 02:43 PM
7	The problem with the paternity test debate I really don't see the issue because women who don't cheat have nothing to worry about, a DNA test will only confirm what they're saying, and women who do cheat deserve to have the truth forced out of them, and men who live with cheating girlfriends/wives deserve to know that truth. I've never cheated so I just don't see how a paternity test would ever be a threat to me, should I ever become pregnant. If anything I generally support things that punish or catch cheaters because that lot are makin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/24 01:39 PM
2	To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser? That's totally fine with me. That's something I don't think makes a guy a loser either. Most people have a hard time making genuine connections and only have a handful of superficial friends who don't really know them. It's easy for me to make genuine connections but I've learned that's a rare gift. And I genuinely like using that ability to connect with people who don't have an easy time with that. So, that's totally not a problem for me. It's not something I see as a negative character trait, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 04:19 PM
2	As a woman I don't understand woman who can't separate sex and emotion I can separate sex and emotion, I can enjoy sex for just the sake of the sex, but thing is sex feels way, way better when there's mutual love and commitment as well. Sex without commitment usually also means the man does not give a shit about your pleasure, safety or comfort. Fyi I used to be into casual sex in my 20's but then I lost my taste for it when I realized the men only wanted to use me as a cum bucket, and I kept letting them because I was too traumatized to consider my own sexual need…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 02:48 PM
4	To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser? Thank you :)	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 01:49 PM
2	To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser? I do not blame men or demand anything from them, and my complaints are not directed at men. I take responsibility for my own bad choices, and now doing my best to make better choices that I hope will benefit both myself and my future partner. But yeah, I will still think it sucks to be rejected, even if I blame myself for it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 01:48 PM
7	To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser? Yes, most women want a man who's above her own level, but I think the reasons why do matter and if the woman in question is even aware of what her own level is, and how high above her level she's aiming. Why would men not want you now? Men are not exactly demanding the same from women. No, but they are demanding something in regards to looks and mental stability. I have facial hair and no tits, which is unattractive to the vast majority of men. I have autism to a degree that my executive functio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 09:07 AM
8	To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser? Oh come on, a 4 wanting to date a 5 is very different from a 4 wanting to date a 10. Especially considering I'm already working my ass off to reach the same level the men I wanna date are at, and do not expect them to want me right now. What exactly is wrong with that?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 08:49 AM
11	To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser? I have actually done that quite a lot in my past, but every time I tried it went kinda sour for one reason or another, leading to my eventual breakup. The problem is that the male "loser" types often lack aspirations/ambition in life or their ambitions are unrealistic, leading to essentially being stuck in the "loser" category, which is not what I want. I'm constantly climbing/improving, albeit at a frustratingly slow pace, because achieving some degree of success (ie mental and physical health,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 08:39 AM
2	Women need to learn to be happy being used for sex I mean yeah... to a certain point you gotta be pretty dumb if you keep walking into the same trap over and over again, but is it really the woman's fault when it's the first time it happens? Because in order for there to be such a pattern happening, there had to have been a first time it happened, and you can't fault a beginner (at dating) for not knowing what to avoid. Fyi, I can't say I've ever been duped by a guy without knowing what he was playing at. As I used to be into casual sex while al…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/24 05:04 PM
1	How to reconcile: [Lying about sexual past] X [Men who care are not worth relationships] X [Sexual past does not matter]? Exactly what I mean. People are not statistics. If you never give people the benefit of the doubt, you're gonna miss a lot of opportunities, ditch a lot of potentially great people. Same goes for women who are quick to negatively judge inexperienced men, or men who are short, don't make a ton of money, etc. This is literally the kinda mindset that makes dating needlessly difficult for both genders, which basically this entire sub attests to. How can you pretend to wanna get to know the person du…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/24 08:14 AM
1	How to reconcile: [Lying about sexual past] X [Men who care are not worth relationships] X [Sexual past does not matter]? Yeah, that's also a risk, although I think it goes for a lot of things. Men who do that (ie say x, y and z things don't matter only to then nag about it later on) are not the kinda men I stay with particularly long. It just feels like I ended up with a totally different guy from who he seemed like during the dating phase. It's a waste of time tbh.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/24 07:41 AM
1	How to reconcile: [Lying about sexual past] X [Men who care are not worth relationships] X [Sexual past does not matter]? It's not so much that the sexual past doesn't matter, but rather that I get anxious around men who are stuck in some belief about what certain numbers of body count says about a woman's personality, values, etc. Like I've lost count the amount of times I've been accused of cheating, or dates expecting me to cheat at any moment, and it took my dumb naive ass ages to figure out why I apparently have this incredibly inaccurate reputation: apparently, I've had too many sexual partners to be reliable…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/24 01:19 AM
0	You're on a date & everything is going well, then they tell you they were falsely accused in the past... Thank you, I appreciate that!	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/24 12:37 PM
9	You're on a date & everything is going well, then they tell you they were falsely accused in the past... I'd give him the benefit of the doubt, I'd ask him to explain the situation in detail and then basically just try to listen to my gut feeling about that. If I get bad vibes from it, I'd reject him, but if I get good vibes, I'd continue dating him. Basically I know that false accusations are kinda alarmingly common. I've even myself been falsely accused of being a rapist in an unhinged conversation with a feminist online who assumed I was a guy. So like I know how unhinged some women are when not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/24 11:46 AM
1	CMV: Women who have been sexually assaulted are the female equivalent to male virgins I do see your point, but I don't think there's a perfect equivalence. The best I can think of is actually just women who are promiscuous. Because it's generally easy for women to get sexual partners but difficult for men, sexual experience is valued in men while being virgin or low body count is valued in women. So if we flip that, ie look at male virgins and promiscuous women, I'd think they're the closest equivalents to each other, as they both more or less "lack value" for the same reason. Ho…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/24 11:57 AM
2	Q4W: Would you rather reach your 40s alone or being a single mother to 2 severely autistic kids? I'd rather be alone then. While I'd be happy to have kids, having kids but no husband would be worse than being alone imo. Especially if the kids are severely autistic and just a ton of work 24/7. I'd probably give them up for adoption if I had kids like that, tbh. Even though I have autism myself, it's not that severe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/24 12:41 AM
2	Q4W: How do you feel about a guy “expressing his feelings” to you? I'm not big on talking about feelings in general, tbh. I mean I feel kinda awkward and weird about it regardless of if it's a man or a woman expressing their feelings to me, and regardless of if it's romantic/love/sexual feelings or just in general. So yeah I would feel the same about a guy going all out to tell me exactly how I make him feel. Like I don't need to know that much detail about anyone's feelings, including my own. Especially not if it's someone I'm not even in a relationship with. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/24 09:35 PM
1	Question for woman: are the good looking guys always better in bed? If you mean puts in effort to be pleasant, communicate, and for an activity we do together to bring mutual pleasure, well then yeah maybe I would, if I like his personality. Because that's my bare minimum criteria, and looking like a model isn't part of my criteria. Point is that conventionally attractive men are less likely to genuinely impress me than average men are, but of course there are exceptions. That doesn't mean I value convetionally attractive men who fit my standards more highly tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/24 09:50 AM
2	Question for woman: are the good looking guys always better in bed? Not usually. The average looking guys with insecurities about their level of attractiveness and/or penis size have been the ones who were best in bed, ime. I think they pay attention to being great in bed as a way to compensate for their looks/size, and honestly... it works and I'm not even mad about it lol. I mean one of the best sex I've had was with a chubby, balding guy who was maybe 5'7 and ranred all night about how insecure he was about his 4 inch penis. And even though he was drunk, I st…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/24 04:20 PM
1	Men don't want empathy, they want power Emotions cannot be controlled unless you’re drugged (trauma responses count too w adrenaline as a drug to shut down emotions) This is false. Ever had a bad day and then watching some funny cat videos or whatever made you feel better? Or been upset with a person and then felt better after talking it out with them? Or felt cranky and irritated and then eating something made you feel better? That is you taking control of your emotions. We aren't slaves to our emotions just because they're an automa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/24 08:58 AM
1	The most recent season of “The Bachelorette” is a perfect example of why “women should just pick better men” is terrible advice Being avoidant and not texting or calling is not necessarily manipulative though, and a far cry from abusive behaviour. Sounds like the guy either changed his mind about her or just got cold feet about the sudden marriage proposal. People change and learn new things about themselves, sometimes suddenly. That's not lying or being hypocritical. It's called having an epiphany. So this is actually a bad example, but I still wanna give credit where credit is due: some men (and some women) are absolut…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/24 09:05 PM
6	Being the safe and secure option isn't worth it most of the time I have a better suggestion: be a safe and secure option but also be honest about that you only want casual sex, and treat the women really well during those encounters. Make sure the pleasure is mutual, that there is concern for protection, and good communication about sexual boundaries. Be the kinda hookup women would brag about because you are amazing in bed and caring about sex as an act involving two people. And you show that you are "that guy" already early on when approaching women, by lis…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/24 12:51 PM
2	Misogyny is treated as a descriptor for men, and is treated as an illness for women. I appreciate that, it does get frustrating at times. But I'd guess it's somewhat similar to how much of society treats men it perceives as "weak:" you just gotta prove yourself and what you're capable of a lot more. The more responsibility and agency I take on and manage just fine, the less infantalizing, belittling and coddling I face, at least from people who aren't complete strangers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/24 10:50 AM
6	Misogyny is treated as a descriptor for men, and is treated as an illness for women. I'm already rolling in the dirt with you. I've been been speaking up against feminism's victim mentality and lack of wanting agency for women for years. I just don't have much control over what other women choose to do... ironically. Well I'm not suprised, but I guess that's sadly the only kinda agency feminist women want: the agency to whine about men breathing in the wrong way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/24 01:09 AM
9	Misogyny is treated as a descriptor for men, and is treated as an illness for women. You hit the nail on the head there. Whenever there's a woman doing anything that's considered bad (be it harmless political wrong-think or actual crimes) it's always "society made her act that way" or "pressuring of harmful gender roles caused that" or any other iteration of "this must be men's fault somehow" because god forbid a woman can have bad ideas all on her own, and have the ability to answer for her own actions. I guess they (feminists) do have a point when they say "misogyny is everywh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/24 11:37 PM
1	Defining Good "Social Skills" and 'Confidence' I'm generally looking to date men who are in the "slightly below average" to "slightly above average" range, so 4's, 5's and 6's, which means looks often isn't the issue for me as most men are within the range I consider attractive, even though I still most certainly do care about looks. For ex I care about men not being obese or having terrible grooming habits, or extremely bad skin. And I care about them looking healthy and having a nice smile. But no I do not care about height, muscle mass, b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/24 11:48 PM
1	For women, how does it feel when your dating a guy who's statistically is also dating/sleeping other women. I've never been in that situation or had that problem. I've only seriously dated average and below average men who hadn't gotten laid in years and it was pretty obvious tbh (not a negative, fyi.) The only guy I was involved with who was "top tier" and whom I knew slept with other women, was an fwb I wasn't having anything committed with. So then of course it didn't bother me what so ever who else he was messing around with. Those were wild times and I don't do that sorta stuff anymore though. I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/24 02:41 AM
5	What would you do in this situation? I'd probably be fine with it. When I was 18 I briefly dated a 27 year old, and there was nothing creepy about it. He was a bit of a douche but I doubt that had anything to do with the age difference. So if I shrug at a 9 years age gap at that age, I hardly see how 12 years is much to fuzz over. Besides, it seems this hypothetical 30 yo learned a valuable lesson from having tried to date an 18 yo. And I do care more about a potential partner's morals/values than his past actions Fyi I'm 35 but I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/24 02:20 AM
6	Q4W: Which male celebrities do you think only have success with women because of their fame and wealth? Danny DeVito. Sure he'd still be a funny guy, but without all that fame and money I doubt he'd have nearly as much success with conventionally attractive women as he's had throughout his career. Because he's always been overweight, balding and he's super short (4'10.) I get that he's old by now, but he wasn't exactly a hottie back in the 80's and 90's during the prime of his acting career either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/24 01:54 AM
2	Q4W: What Lets You Trust a Man? Most basic thing is spending enough time with him to see if he keeps his word or not. Beyond that is seeing how he treats other people, especially people he has no sexual interest in. How he treats animals/pets and children. How communicating any kinda boundary goes with him. Seeing how he reacts to disagreements. How he reacts in a crisis. But also by leading with my own example, ie showing him that he can trust me, by being open and honest, not giving any false promises, being there for him wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/09/24 10:18 AM
1	Outside of sex work your "league" is what you can get. Sort of, but there's one reason this isn't always the case: if most people think they're hotter than they actually are, what does that say about the people they're approaching? I mean for ex if a woman is hit on by a lot of men who are 4's but think they are 6's, what does that say about the woman? Is she a 4 or a 6? More likely the latter, if the men thought she's in the same league as them and overestimated their own attractiveness. Same vice versa, if a she's instead approached by a lot of me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/24 10:56 PM
-1	Paternity tests should be banned I mean I think it's immoral, but I dunno if I think it should be a punishable crime. I wouldn't be against it if it was though. I do think women who do that are deplorable. I guess I just didn't think of it as a type of fraud, but now that you mention it, that does make sense. Tbh I haven't thought a whole lot on this topic altogether as it has zero impact on my life or the lives of anyone I know... as far as I know, maybe I should add.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/24 12:05 PM
4	CMV: Hooking up as a man isn’t the same as hooking up as a woman I feel like this must be some kinda stereotype. I see this a lot on tiktok and instagram, hardly ever irl. It might be true for the above average attractive women that they can score Chads for casual sex and then realizing those Chads were all just playboys. But most average women I've known who've had casual sex have done it with average men, typically while a bit tipsy and thinking the guy looked hotter than he actually was, or they were more or less coerced into it but claim it was totally th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/24 08:17 AM
3	Paternity tests should be banned Generally I think cheaters deserve to be dumped/divorced, but that's kinda up to their partner's to decide.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/24 06:37 AM
3	Paternity tests should be banned If the woman literally went behind her partner's/husband's back about it, she kinda deserves to face the concequences of her shitty actions though. If she had trouble getting pregnant she should have talked to her husband about that back then and agreed upon a solution together. Since she chose to not involve him in that decision-making, it makes no sense why she should then also get to decide the man shouldn't get to find out the truth and then decide if he wants to be stepdad for a kid that is…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/24 11:49 PM
0	Men can't date/marry out of their league with career success and money I don't think so. Even tje man's straight male friends recognized that he was good looking. But no one mentioned the woman's looks. It was always just "she's funny" or "she has a nice personality" if they ever said anything positive about her, which I know means people don't think someone looks good.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/24 03:57 PM
1	Men can't date/marry out of their league with career success and money Yeah, exactly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/24 12:47 PM
7	The idea that straight dating is disadvantageous to women is not only false, but also extremely biased. I don't think those are the real reasons people think straight dating is disadvantageous for women. I think reasons such as: - Women are more likely to end up in a hospital or dead if things lead to physical violence, because they're not as physically strong and big. This makes both dating and being in a relationship a higher risk to physical safety for women. - Women's genitals are more susceptible to physical harm if sex turns violent, plus at higher risk of catching STD's. This isn't really b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/24 12:45 PM
1	Men can't date/marry out of their league with career success and money Generally yes but there are rare exceptions. I once knew a guy who was tall, fit and overall a solid 9/10 and he dated and later on married a bipolar, obese woman who was barely a 4/10. Even after weight loss she still looked far from his league. Maybe she was a 5 at tgat point. But everyone who knew this guy knew he had the worst taste in women. (He was part of a large friend group (of mostly men) that I was also in by that time.) He consistently dated 4's and that was just his thing somehow. F…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/24 11:31 AM
2	Men can't date/marry out of their league with career success and money Because celebrities have god tier social status which is very far from what the average guy could likely ever achieve. Being famous takes you out of the "average" category no matter how you look or what your personality is. Just like becoming filthy rich would. Fame is an additional factor to attraction and you can't possibly ignore that. This is literally why some dishevelled rocker guys high on cocaine get hot chicks despite being total messes. Because they're famous and have fans. And for man…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/24 11:21 AM
–	CMV: A man isn't obligated to step in and save a woman from being mugged or assaulted. No I kinda agree with that. I don't think anyone should have to risk their life for a stranger. It's more like a bonus (ie extra high morals) if someone does that out of their own free will, preferably for altruistic reasons. Most people like heroes. And I don't think it matters so much if it's a man or woman who comes to the rescue, as long as whatever the rescuer does is in some way beneficial for the rescued. Even if it's just calling the cops and identifying the attacker afterwards, or just …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/24 11:06 AM
–	It is unethical for men to pay for women on dates To be fair I think it really depends on the situation and what kind of agreements/expectations come along with it. Fyi I'm strongly for (financial) equality, and I don't think it's safe for women to rely solely on a man's income, because there's just so many ways that can end horribly for the woman. But... reality is that on average, men earn more than women, and most husbands have a higher salary than their wives, even when both are working. So what would be fair then imo is if they both pay/sp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/24 10:39 AM
0	Why do we men have to lie about loving the way she is? Thank you, I appreciate that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/24 10:11 PM
1	Why do we men have to lie about loving the way she is? Women are generally very sensitive about what they weigh. It's been a meme since the victorians ate tape worms to lose weight back in the 1800's. So what most women want from men about that is for you to handle it delicately. Which means sugarcoat it, and focus on the health aspect instead of on how she looks. Because basically we already know we look like shit after having gained a needless amount of weight. We're likely already ruminating about it and pinching the fat in the mirror. Although I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/24 08:22 AM
4	No hymen no diamond was a meme, but isn’t completely unreasonable if the woman expects her husband to be traditional Yeah, I kinda gotta agree that women who want a traditional husband should at the very least be traditional themselves, but the same also goes for men who want a traditional wife. Because quite often these men are not exactly the "hard earning family man" types either. They're gymbros with a porn addiction, and tbh quite often just want a housemaid and have jealousy issues. That's not traditional, that's just being a douche. I'm not a virgin myself, nor would I want to devote my entire life to c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/24 07:07 AM
–	hook ups, fwb and long term dating... I've no idea what "AF/BB" even stands for. I don't do well with abbreviations, generally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/24 05:58 AM
2	The Worst thing to happen to women was turning them into men. Ah, that explains why I can't wrap my head around this guy. A lot of what he said in the post is kinda anti-woman yet he's being all warm and fuzzy in his reply to me. Even though I basically just said it was a pointless pipedream to have. It irked me in some way and I didn't know what to respond. Basically I got weird vibes. Don't worry though, I don't easily trust strangers altogether, but especially not online. I'm just here to kill time and banter. It really sucks he's scammed people though.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/24 09:08 PM
3	CMV: Reparations for the gender pay gap seems fair It's literally illegal to pay a woman less for doing the same amount of the same work as a man does. Women can fix their own "pay gap" by simply working more hours like men do, and ask for promotions. No you shouldn't get to be paid extra for taking months or years off to raise children. That's not actually fair. This cafe is some of the stupidest things I've heard all day. Women get free drinks and free food much more easily than men anyway. How about some insentive to help women become more as…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/24 09:01 PM
2	The Worst thing to happen to women was turning them into men. That sounds great. I'll check by sometime.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/24 08:05 PM
6	The Worst thing to happen to women was turning them into men. People are gonna have different interests. If you don't have anything in common with a particular woman, of course you'd be bored by her company. But doesn't that go for a lot of men too?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/24 08:04 PM
15	The Worst thing to happen to women was turning them into men. And I wish more men could just appreciate women for who they are as people, and not just for what we can do for you (to get your rocks off.) I guess we'll both just keep dreaming.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/24 07:55 PM
–	Q4W; do you find female body more attractive or more aesthetic than male body? For me it entirely depends on the person and not their sex, when it comes to purely aesthetics. A man who's in shape, at a healthy weight, etc, is just as aesthetically pleasing for me as a woman who's in shape, at a healthy weight, etc. Likewise, a woman who's obese, everything's sagging, etc, is to me just as aesthetically unappealing as a man who's obese, everything sagging, etc. But because I'm attracted to men, I'm more likely to find men overall a little bit more aesthetically pleasing tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/24 05:59 PM
1	"Women might be pickier, but their preferences are also unique to each one of them", actually they're rather similar Maybe that wasn't my point to begin with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/24 05:24 PM
1	"Women might be pickier, but their preferences are also unique to each one of them", actually they're rather similar I dunno, maybe they are at cosplay events, dressed up as their favorite game characters? Seems to be the only kinda venue where there's a fair amount of nerdy women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/24 04:57 PM
0	"Women might be pickier, but their preferences are also unique to each one of them", actually they're rather similar I thought the average height for men was somewhere around 5'8? Anyway, I'd wager he was a couple inches taller than most other men I had met, but certainly not towering. But yeah he could have been anywhere between 5'9 and 5'11 for all I know. I haven't seen the guy in 10 years, so my memory is a little fuzzy on those kinda details. At the very least he was nowhere near my dad's height (6'3) but then again very few men are.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/24 04:54 PM
1	Men complaining in a free market where nature chooses will only fall on deaf ears I still don't understand why that should be taken out on the kids.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/24 07:40 AM
3	"Women might be pickier, but their preferences are also unique to each one of them", actually they're rather similar Why is that laughing matter? A lot of people here care about height. I was just trying to be transparent. I doubt he's over 6 feet though. More like 5'10 maybe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 11:22 PM
1	"Women might be pickier, but their preferences are also unique to each one of them", actually they're rather similar It matters because it's a proof that metal guys can get metal girlfriends. It means that if you are a metal guy, you do have a chance with metal girls even if you're not conventionally attractive. Don't get into the metal scene just to get a gf. They'll spit you out like a bad beer. What metal girls like is guys who are like them and who share their interest in the music, concerts, band merch, etc. This isn't meant to be a "get out of sexlessness" free card for any random chuck.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 08:21 PM
8	"Women might be pickier, but their preferences are also unique to each one of them", actually they're rather similar I really don't think they do though. These niche hobbies seem fairly equally common among men vs women. If anything, I think they're more common among women. Finding a goth or metalhead woman is much easier than finding the male equivalent of that. With gamers, it would obviously be the case though, as there are a lot more men into that than there are women. Gamer women are rare. Goth/metalhead women... not so much.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 08:07 PM
2	"Women might be pickier, but their preferences are also unique to each one of them", actually they're rather similar Yeah, a lot of people clearly aren't getting the therapy they need, but I'd think that's kind of a separate issue. There's a difference between settling down and settling for. Of course the latter isn't gonna lead to satisfaction. From my perspective most married, older women I know who met their partners after 30 are perfectly happy with their husbands and don't have any significant bedroom issues.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 06:04 PM
6	"Women might be pickier, but their preferences are also unique to each one of them", actually they're rather similar From what I remember there was far more casual sex going around than serious couples, but also, if one fat, pale metalhead has a gf, isn't that still a win for the guy?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 05:57 PM
–	Q4 Egalitarian minded or feminist women: If there were no men or we lived in a female-led culture, do you think you can run the society, keep the civilization alive and gather the qualifications that are expected from men (also be creative and stuff to enhance the life experience)? [There's more] That's... quite the reach. Even if that woman on some level wanted "attention from other men" that doesn't mean she must have wanted sex or romance from other men. Most likely she just likes dancing and either ignores or doesn't care about whether some random dude finds it sexy. She may even be offended if some random man did come onto her for dancing. We don't know what her intentions were. Basically, there's just so many different aspects there that were ignored, and yeah, it's a perfect examp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 05:53 PM
-1	"Women might be pickier, but their preferences are also unique to each one of them", actually they're rather similar Probably not the exact same men though. And not the same values in the woman, then vs now. So why should it concern Alex what the 30yo woman did with Kenny at age 22, if she's no longer living that life? No, passport bros exist because they think most women in their 30's who have jobs, previous relationships, and want gender equality, are used up old hags.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 05:23 PM
2	"Women might be pickier, but their preferences are also unique to each one of them", actually they're rather similar Because those among that 63% who'd be fine with dating women of their own age would likely have zero problem finding women to date/marry, once they're above 30. The cause does matter though, because there's a disparity between men of all ages wanting young women, and women not wanting to commit until they're older. Leaving both men and women kinda miserable about not being able to find the kinda partner they want at the time they want it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 05:16 PM
–	Q4 Egalitarian minded or feminist women: If there were no men or we lived in a female-led culture, do you think you can run the society, keep the civilization alive and gather the qualifications that are expected from men (also be creative and stuff to enhance the life experience)? [There's more] I'm happily surprised. Not a lot of reasonable people on this sub, gotta admit. You do seem to have a very realistic yet compassionate view of women, and that's honestly great. Yeah, I think it makes sense to embrace both our sex differences and human similarities. Like, both can exist at the same time. I really don't think all men devalue women. It's probably just a loud minority that shouldn't be having this much internet connection. Most men I've talked to have been totally capable to appreci…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 05:09 PM
–	Q4 Egalitarian minded or feminist women: If there were no men or we lived in a female-led culture, do you think you can run the society, keep the civilization alive and gather the qualifications that are expected from men (also be creative and stuff to enhance the life experience)? [There's more] If men would disappear, I think women would struggle to get society functional again, but I'm sure they would eventually. They'd just need some time to adjust. Yes, some specific tasks would be more challenging for women to do, like heavy lifting. But cranes, fork lifts, wheelbarrows, and all sorts of machinery already exists, and women can get heavy lifting done with the help of such tools. Like for ex I drag home some 20kg of groceries once or twice a week just fine by foot... using the help o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 04:30 PM
15	"Women might be pickier, but their preferences are also unique to each one of them", actually they're rather similar Yes, that's my experience too. The guys with long hair and eyeliner were always the most popular. There's a niche for almost anyone I guess. People with alt fashion generally prefer to date within their such genre. Gamer girls also tend to prefer dating gamer guys. And so on. It's kinda like with class, age and many other things: most people wanna date within their own kind. It's whenever you look outside of that, that you may be judged negatively.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 03:12 PM
9	"Women might be pickier, but their preferences are also unique to each one of them", actually they're rather similar Absolutely this. I used to go to a lot of metal bars, synth/goth clubs, etc and the chubby metalhead guys got lucky almost every night. Of course they wouldn't be popular with the sorority type girls. They were popular with metal girls and goth girls. Ime goths and metalheads were mixing together a lot. Also my goth bestie dated and married a chubby metalheal guy back in our 20's. Sure, he was tall, but not conventionally attractive in any other way, but he was really popular with both men and w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 02:44 PM
1	"Women might be pickier, but their preferences are also unique to each one of them", actually they're rather similar Probably because most women do not settle down until they're in their 30's, and they generally do so with men of the same age. They used to settle down in their 20's, but this age has been going up in the last couple of decades or so. This is probably why most men under 30 aren't getting picked. Because most young women are still busy partying with Chad or focusing on their careers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 02:37 PM
3	Do you think men not caring about your career, income and status is a good thing? I think it's sometimes a good thing, sometimes bad, kinda depending on the guy. If he doesn't care in the sense that he does not think a woman's value is diminished by her profession or income, then I have a hard time seeing that as a bad thing. Seeing someone's value beyond their contribution to society, is largely appreciated, I'd say. Because I don't think it should matter what someone does for a living, obviously within some level of reason as some jobs are just sketchy or morally questionab…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 10:49 PM
3	hook ups, fwb and long term dating... Alright, that makes sense. Thank you for clarifying. I don't think I disagree much with you then.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 10:19 PM
–	What is your experience getting casual sex versus a relationship? Much easier for me to get men who want something casual than a relationship. I get it, I'm a mess. Most men tend to be put off by me as soon as they get to know me. Working on improving that, and declining casual sex in the meantime. I used to have quite a lot of casual sex (not a lot for a woman though, maybe twice a year at most) because in my imagination it could be great. In reality though, it was always disappointing. I really kept beating that dead horse way too long... but then again I'm …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 10:17 PM
3	The vast majority of whining about society online comes from people whose personally lives have failed. It doesn't mean society is collapsing. It doesn't mean the West Has Fallen Billions Must Die. It doesn't mean that all women are evil. It just means that you suck and are looking for why While I do agree with you, they are still part of society, and even if they're not growing in numbers, their chronically online behaviour can still pose a threat to society at large. I mean just look at how for ex the tiny little transgender community managed to change laws. Just because a group is small, reality-detached and constantly willfully misinterpreting scientific data, doesn't mean they don't have power. Although I do kinda also feel like there isn't much point arguing against them. Pr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 09:04 PM
2	CMV: The requirement that your spouse be your best friend is gendered This is extremely simplified but I think in a very general sense, women favor the emotional connection/bonding they can get with men, while men more so favor the physical/sexual aspect they can get with women. You don't have to be best friends to have great sex and generally get along together. But you do kinda need to be best (or at least close) friends to share a close emotional connection. Obviously it's more complicated when we look at individual people, but I have noticed over time that mos…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 08:51 PM
4	hook ups, fwb and long term dating... The real problem is the indivual men who lie to women about wanting a relationship and then ditch them as soon as they get sex. They're the ones ruining it for the good men who are honest and actually want an LTR, and need to know if there's sexual compatibility or not before committing. To clarify I'm not blaming men as a whole. There are absolutely shitty women who ruin things for good women too. For ex promiscuous women who cheat and lie are ruining things for promiscuous women who are honest…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 08:29 PM
10	hook ups, fwb and long term dating... People thinking this is some kinda double standard, but it really isn't. When you want a hookup you have sex immediately if the chemistry is right, because then it doesn't matter if the guy sticks around or not, or if you have anything else in common. But if you want a relationship then it's better to wait with sex because you want the guy to stick around and not just leave once sex has happened. Which happens a lot. There are women who like both hookups and relationships, and if they'd always a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 04:09 PM
7	Men complaining in a free market where nature chooses will only fall on deaf ears What's that got to do with anything? I'm happy that my tax money goes to people in need. Whether I wanna give to charity additionally or not is a different issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 01:44 PM
-1	Men complaining in a free market where nature chooses will only fall on deaf ears Yes, adults should be getting benefits for survival and not have all their assets taken away, but support of children is still more important because they are physically incapable of taking care of themselves and legally unable to earn money.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 07:14 AM
-3	Men complaining in a free market where nature chooses will only fall on deaf ears They are though. Tax money pays for public education and (some degree) of healthcare for kids too. This is how we as a society do what we can to ensure as much of society is healthy and functional. Because in the long run we all benefit from as many people as possible growing up into healthy and functional adults. You don't have to be full of empathy for some random kids out there, but in order for a healthy and functional society to happen, we do need to take some collective responsibility for …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 07:04 AM
1	Men complaining in a free market where nature chooses will only fall on deaf ears If that is true, then a woman who is supposed to be supported by the state while being a single mother due to many times her own bad choices should do it on her own but the other taxpayers have to foot the bill. Is this your free market? Children shouldn't have to suffer for their parents' wrongdoing, as they had no choice in how they were born.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 06:55 AM
–	Would you rather be with a man who’s very good looking but is reserved and quiet or a mid looking/ugly man who is very charismatic and outgoing? I'd rather have option 1. I don't really value either quiet/reserved or charismatic/outgoing above the other. To me they're kinda neutral traits. Especially since most shy people do tend to open up as soon as you start to get to know them. And I do talk to shy guys all the time. It doesn't often lead to much, but on rare occasion it does led to something. Fyi my first boyfriend was so shy he literally asked our school teachers to tell me he liked me. A few weeks down the line, he wasn't so shy w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/24 01:10 PM
1	It takes a high level of intelligence to not be against dating or having children with someone who’s had a lot of sex I can kinda agree that it takes some extra thinking ability to be able to look beyond negative stereotypes and what x behaviour often leads to, ie being able to have a somwhat open mind to nuance and exceptions. But even as a woman with a fairly high body count myself, I can understand most men who want a committed LTR/marriage, being wary and cautious about dating someone with my kinda history. What's intelligent here isn't to just blindly igbore the increased risks of cheating, std's, etc, but…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 03:49 PM
6	CMV: more matches don't mean anything if they're all poor options Those who get a lot of opposite sex attention can afford to be picky. Also because when you get thousands of responses on for ex dating sites, you likely also get a larger variety of people liking you, depending on how attractive you are. So getting tons of responses kinda just leads to getting more picky, because it would be weird if you wanted to date all of them. You'd naturally compare them to each other to figure out which one is the best for you. This is probably a really crappy analogy, b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/24 11:27 AM
–	Is it the bare minimum nowadays that men go down on women? Yeah, it became a standard eventually because most men expect women to go down on them. A 100 years ago, any kinda oral sex was seen as taboo and only something a prostitute would do. Also with personal hygiene and medical knowledge improving, oral sex became less of a concern in regards to (mostly oral) health. With all kinds of sexual revolutions happening, a lot of sexual stigmas became less stigmatized. Understandings of female sexuality also improved as people started getting that women can…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/24 06:54 AM
–	Why is it so common for young women to not want kids ? I didn't want kids when I was younger, but in my 30's I started having that desire. A lot of women already answered this question, but I didn't see many who did not want kids when younger, but who later on started wanting kids. So for that I think I might be able to offer a slightly different perspective. The reasons having kids was not appealing to me as a young woman was because: I had a hard enough time even just taking care of myself, ie sleeping poorly, struggling with food, unable to work …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/24 06:40 AM
3	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD A lot of women are still kinda homophobic, and view transwomen as men at least when it comes to sex. Even I kinda see men who have sex with transwomen as bisexual, except I don't mind dating bisexual men. Point is I don't see that as straight, and I don't think most women (or most people for that matter) do. Perhaps it would make some kinda difference if the transwoman in question has had bottom surgery, but I dunno if it does. As for men having sex with transmen, I really dunno if most women wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/24 06:28 PM
26	Can't women live individual freedom and survive on their own? I don't really fear for my survival tbh. I've been living on my own in shoddy apartments in sketchy areas for my entire adult life so far. I want a boyfriend/husband out of love, companionship and safe/fulfilling sex with someone I can trust and invest in. Not because I need a man to protect me. I don't actually need protection, but that doesn't mean I don't need a man. I still have other (social, psychological and sexual) needs as a human being. Basically I don't think I function optimally alon…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/24 05:56 PM
13	Do traditional women actually fit the life style of these men? I'm not actually traditional myself, however I do like learning a lot about it and taking purely fashion advice from traditional women in my attempts to look less like a prostitute with the style I developed as a teen. So I can't help but encounter what kinda lifestyle, and in that what kinda husbands, they want. First off, I think what those kinda men really want is a housemaid they can fuck, not an actual traditional woman. Because they tend to not be into... well, that kinda "hedonism" that I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/24 09:19 AM
–	Do women take it personally when men don't want to marry/want a prenup? Tbh what I care the most about is finding a life partner. Then all the other stuff: marriage, kids, heck even living together, is secondary for me. As long as it's an exclusive, monogamous LTR with loyalty and support for each other, marriage is something I could live without, yeah. I wouldn't agree to shared bank accounts etc if there was no marriage though. We'd have to keep our assets separate to a great extent. How to own a house together would be challenging. All in all I'd prefer marriage …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/24 08:30 AM
1	"Don't judge a book by his cover"? It's happened about half the time, I think. I'm quite often proven wrong, and that's why I often give second chances after a bad first impression. I get that people can just be shy, or caught off guard, have a bad day, or whatever, basically give off bad first impression for innocuous reasons. If they still turn out to be douchebags on second and third impression, then I can much more confidently ditch/ignore them when I'm sure of it, or got some actual evidence of it and not just a vague hunch.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/24 10:10 PM
2	quick poll: would you date and/or have sex with a virgin man that is middle aged? I appreciate that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/24 06:12 PM
4	quick poll: would you date and/or have sex with a virgin man that is middle aged? Yes, I would. Assuming he'd have no issue with me having a high body count in my past. Also assuming he wouldn't have the ideology commonly attached to incels, and that he'd be open to learning about sex and relationships. I actually quite enjoy teaching and guiding men into becoming good (sex) partners. Although I don't have a ton of experience with that level of inexperienced men, my first boyfriend was a virgin when I wasn't, a casual sex partner had only ever had sex with men before me (bi-c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/24 05:08 PM
2	Would you date someone who is bisexual? I would. Most men I've dated have been bisexual or bi-curious. I haven't sought out bisexual specifically, it just kinda happened that way. But I think there might be something about me that makes bi men feel more comfortable around me, as I can't otherwise explain why so many have been so open with me about their sexuality, experiences and fantasies. I used to think I was bisexual for a long time though (17 years) before realizing I'm straight, and that experience taught me a lot about bisexual…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/24 10:29 AM
0	Not all women are like that Most women don't like being stereotyped, or assumed to behave in x way just because statistics say that's a common behaviour for women. There is truth to stereotypes, hence why I just used the phrase "most women" about a thing above. But pay attention to my wording. I didn't say "women don't like being stereotyped" because I should be taking into consideration that some don't, if I really wanna be accurate. I could also use percentages if applicable, or instead be more vague if I'm uncertain abo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/24 09:29 AM
1	Do you support no longer sending women to prison ? I don't support sending anyone to prison. But if that's not an option... honestly I think women are already getting away with lighter sentences if they're even charged for their crimes at all, and that's already plenty unfair. Most criminals aren't dangerous per se. Most crimes recorded (even among men) are petty crimes like drug possession, theft of random shit, people trying to evade taxes, etc, and not violent crimes. So if you wanna try to rehabilitate criminals, which honestly I'm all for, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/24 06:37 PM
1	Q4W: Would you be willing to receive no male attention at all, if it meant eliminating unwanted attention? I'm very sorry that you've been abused too. I understand it must have been awful. I've never downplayed male abuse victims. I've known several men with gutwrenching pasts, at the hands of both other men and women, and I've never done anything but been supportive and empathetic towards them. Heck, my first boyfriend was a victim of sexual assault, and it never struck me to dowplay his experience. Not back then and not now. Even though he too abused me. I can still separate those two, and have emp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 08:52 PM
1	Is having an income greater than minimum wage a prerequisite to dating past age 22? Or even past age 23? I think it depends on the woman, ie if she earns minimum wage or more, she's likely to have that same expectation on men she dates. And I think that makes sense. Most women don't wanna date someone with significantly less money or social status than themselves. If not else, it gives a bad image, you get accused of having no standards, etc. And at worst you might end up having to take care of a man who can't even afford his own food, which can put a strain on the relationship, or even lead to sta…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 05:39 PM
2	What Does self Improvement and agency (power, willpower, freedom, being an active individual) in life mean for a woman? I do come across quite a bit of fashion and beauty advice for women. Sometimes it's related to age, other times only related to occasion. Like for ex "women in your 40's wear this, not that" "women in your 30's do your makeup x way" "women above 50, avoid these hairstyles" "to look young, have this skincare routine" etc. Some focus more on lifestyle and give advice like "if you want a man, do these things to be attractive/elegant/classic" and usually focuses on how to sit, how to talk, how to wa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 05:09 PM
–	How problematic would it be for a 37 man to have braces? Nothing wrong with having braces at any age. It's good self-care to fix teeth issues. And his teeth are gonna look fantastic after all that orthodentry is done! Besides, I had braces in my teens because I had too much/big teeth for my tiny mouth, it was an annoying experience but I do have empathy for anyobe going through it. I wouldn't say braces turn me on, but they also aren't off-putting. It can even be cute on some guys. But mostly I just see it as a neutral thing. Like wearing glasses or a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 04:37 PM
1	Q4W: Which of the following is most concerning in a potential partner, and why? Which do you find most acceptable? I don't think either of them are necessarily concerning. Because if you make friends without trying to have any specific male-female ratio, there's gonna be times when they are only or mostly men, and times when they are only or mostly women. That's how my life has been. As a kid I only had 1 friend who just so happened to be female, as a teen and well into adulthood I ended up with a lot of friends, most of whom were male, including a whole group of gamer guys I hung out with in high school. Th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 04:13 PM
2	While it can be annoying for women to be expected to shave their legs, I think it's preferable to the complete lack of uniformity of body hair grooming standards for men So you found the one standard women have on men that's actually versatile, yet found something about it to complain about? I mean I keep hearing from men on this sub that women are being difficult for having generally the same opinions on what an attractive man looks like, ie tall, muscular, chiseled face, etc. But when it comes to body hair there's actually different prefences among women, but then that's a bad thing? I'm confused. That said, I can find both convenvience in simplicity and incon…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/24 01:38 AM
–	As an east asian woman, I don't get Western women's idea of dating and marriage I don't think it's particularly common for women to have children outside of marriage even in western countries though. Does it happen? Sure, but mostly not planned that way. There are a few women who choose to be single mothers after giving up on men, but again it's not very common. Most mothers either are or used to be married to their children's father. What you say about sex is absolutely true though, but most often, sex doesn't lead to pregnancy. Partially because of use of birth control, p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/24 09:52 PM
5	Q4W: Would you be willing to receive no male attention at all, if it meant eliminating unwanted attention? Thank you. Yeah, it's kinda unfortunate, but it is what it is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/24 10:28 AM
30	Q4W: Would you be willing to receive no male attention at all, if it meant eliminating unwanted attention? I wouldn't. I still haven't even found a guy I'm genuinely happy and compatible with, and I've been sexually assaulted more times than I can count. It wrecked me in many ways from about age 9. I've had to put in years of work to treat all those issues it's caused me, but some of the after effects are permanent. But I'd still choose to have (both negative and positive) male attention. Because that's how much I value finding love and companionship with a man. I'd rather not be alive at all than ne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/24 06:57 PM
–	Men don't actually care about sex. If they did, they'd strive to be better at it and actively learn about female anatomy. That is funny, like in an unfortunate way. I'm sorry you had to be in that situation. I do think there are lots of both men and women who are considerably selfish in bed, and not just men though. It's just that obviously we're gonna focus on the gender we're actually (interested in) having sex with. And we are biased towards our own personal experiences.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/24 12:17 PM
–	If the government passed a law saying all premarital sex had to be prostitution (even for only a small $ amount), I think men would lose all interest in it Even fewer women would be having pre-marital sex then as well. And young couples would be getting married at an alarming rate, and divorce rates would also sky-rocket. Because people would marry just to have sex without payment, and then they'd divorce quickly because that's not a stable ground for an actual long term relationship. Actual prostitution outside of marriage would likely still be unpopular, because that practice has literally millenia of stigma aurrounding it. It's not gonna go away…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/24 12:12 PM
2	Is a man who is lovey-dovey/affectionate seen as feminine or unattractive? There are plenty of things that are generally a lot more common among women or vice versa among men, and there's nothing wrong with being aware of that. Of course there's nothing wrong with men who have traits much more common among women, or women who have traits much more common among men though, and we shouldn't demonize that. You're right that it's human to have a wide variety of traits, some common for your gender, some rare for your gender, and that that should be normalized. But in this p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/24 11:40 AM
4	Is a man who is lovey-dovey/affectionate seen as feminine or unattractive? I don't think it's feminine or unattractive per se, but I can see that if a man is much more lovey-dovey than me, it can be slightly off-putting. But then again I kinda know that I'm less affectionate than the average woman, and have an unusually huge need for personal space. Sure, I do like the occasional cuddle and occasional compliment, because yes I think it's nice too, it's just that I think it's something that generally requires a special kinda situation. Like let's say I'm having a bad da…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/24 11:07 AM
2	The way we tend to put labels on ourselves and put ourselves in stereotypical categories all come down to lack of personality Labels do actually limit (or enrich) our lives and capabilities to varying extends though. Whether I do or don't have a personality, the fact that I'm female is still gonna be relevant information in a gender debate. Even if I have a lot of traits that are unusual for a female, I'd say that makes my sex just as relevant as if I had mostly just a lot of traits that are very common in women. As for political labels though, I only call myself "purple pill" because I agree with some of the red pill …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/24 09:53 AM
2	q4w: an ex-prostitute with 10 bodies, and a "regular" girl with 10 bodies both enter the dating market. Which one brings more value to a man? I'd say the ex-prostitute. A woman who used to enjoy sleeping with a lot of men but quit because she no longer sees any fun in it, is not really any different than dating a low body count woman, imo. Aside from that she'd probably have more knowledge about sex, how varied men's bodies and preferences can be, etc, but I have a hard time seeing that as a negative. An ex-prostitute probably knows really well how to please her future husband, and what gets herself going. A woman who is dedicated to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/24 09:14 AM
–	Men don't actually care about sex. If they did, they'd strive to be better at it and actively learn about female anatomy. Eventually they'll gonna hear from the women who have.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/24 06:50 AM
1	Men don't actually care about sex. If they did, they'd strive to be better at it and actively learn about female anatomy. Sure, it's definitely harder to orgasm with a total stranger, like being tense, nervous, etc, and like it's harder for me with a stranger too, but not impossible. They all managed that just fine, except the one guy who was hungover, and a few 50+ guys who knew they had ED. Of course the others could have still struggled with it without my knowing, but clearly I must have done something right because most of them did reach orgasm. Even the guy who clarified multiple times that he was less sensiti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/24 12:03 AM
2	Men don't actually care about sex. If they did, they'd strive to be better at it and actively learn about female anatomy. This is a big reason I stopped doing casual sex. Because most of the men didn't give a shit about my pleasure, and had no knowledge whatsoever about the female body. And even though I tried to teach them (I explained, showed them how I do it, showed them using their hands, explained again, etc) they somehow refused to do what I informed. It was as if their porn fantasy was more important to them than what women actually like in reality. Eventually I just gave up and either made myself orgasm or …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/24 08:41 PM
1	Men don't actually care about sex. If they did, they'd strive to be better at it and actively learn about female anatomy. Of course, but then don't complain when no woman wants to have sex with you. It takes two to tango.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/24 08:30 PM
2	The bar is on the floor for a being marriage material women I really don't think the bar is on the floor for either gender. Seems the bar has gotten exceedingly high in both directions. Some of the things you list that most men want in women are not at all easy to have as a woman. Submissive/agreeable is a personality trait that a lot of women just don't have and changing personality is not an easy feat. Obesity is an actual epidemic so it's not at all easy in modern society to get to and maintain a healthy weight. "Good values" is subjective so what one…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 09:15 AM
0	There is no real bar or standard for being in a relationship If you assume most men would want a relationship with an obese woman living paycheck to paycheck and hooked on some drug, then yeah, of course any degree of self-improvement is unnecessary. But I think most men don't want such a woman on their arms. And that's okay. Men are allowed to have standards too. I'm a woman but for a list of reasons the only men I seem to attract are literal bums, drug addicts, men age 60+, men with severe and obvious mental health issues, etc. Of course if I wanted a b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 08:47 AM
1	Why does it seem that Single Dads are viewed as 'somewhat' attractive by the average woman, while Single Mom's are viewed as 'somewhat' unattractive by the average man? Yeah. I've sadly had to let go of some female friends after they had children because it was as if their personalities had disappeared and all they talked about was the kid and being a mom. Like I can understand it must be a very taxing yet (hopefully) wonderful experience, but people without kids usually can't relate to that life. Women with older kids though don't seem to be as obsessed with being moms. I know several older women (40+) who have adult/teen children, and they're totally chill to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 12:44 AM
–	A lot of men and women are out here choosing to be with people they have no business being with and then complaining after the fact. Other statistics. Generally the number of men who have certain views and opinions is fairly close to the number of women with the same view/opinion. And opinions on promiscuity/virginity, traditional/modern relationships, etc tend to correlate with opinions on women's clothing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 03:47 PM
1	"Even if I Got a Girlfriend, She'll Always Want Someone Else" - Is This An Example of Low Self Esteem/Insecurity? If it's not factually (or at least with high likelihood) true, then yes it's an insecurity. If it is on the other hand factually true, or highly likely, like fir ex that same scenario has already happened more than once, then no this is not an insecurity. Then it's being smart, self-aware and having spotted some red flags and being vigilant of an actual issue. Thing is though... how many men actually know this for a fact, or with high actual likelihood, vs how many men just assume it based on no…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 02:25 AM
–	Low self-esteem and low confidence are good things, and a lot more people should have them. What you're describing isn't low self-esteem or insecurity though. You can have high self-esteem without an inflated ego, while aware of your flaws and what your strengths are. You can be secure in yourself while still working on problems with your body or lifestyle. Like for ex, I know I'm about 40lbs overweight, and I'm aware it isn't cute or healthy and I'd look and feel much better if I lost that excess weight. The only thing it would be good for is if a famine struck I'd be able to survive …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 02:18 AM
1	A lot of men and women are out here choosing to be with people they have no business being with and then complaining after the fact. I'm sure that for every provocatively dressed woman out there, there's gonna be a man who's genuinely into that. Because it's not like all men have the same preference. But of course if men who aren't into that keep wasting those women's time, their actual match isn't going to find them. And that goes for both the men and the women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 01:31 AM
1	What Are Your Standards and Why I'm only interested in long term, committed relationships, and my standards for that is: - not old enough to be my father or young enough to be my son - having at least a few things in common with me - does not need to agree with me on everything but has to be willing to 'agree to disagree' - no severe disabilities, ie must be at least somewhat independent - preferably have a job, but any kinda stable income (including disability benefits) is fine - must have a home of some kind, I don't care if…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 12:34 AM
–	Would you rather a man has a mask on while getting to know you in the early stages or that he is unabashedly himself and genuine? I'd rather he's genuine from the start. These are the kinda men I tend to get crushes on. The honesty is very attractive, I'm like a magnet to that shit. And yes on occasion it has led me to despise the guy because of the shitty personality he was so honest about, but it has never been the honesty in itself that was the problem. Some people just have shitty personalities, but that's an entirely separate issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 12:08 AM
1	Sex cannot simultaneously be a privilege for women while also having negative social and physical consequences. I had to think about this for a moment, but I realize that what we get out of it isn't the sex itself, ot's being able to get (other) resources from men by offering them sex. For ex: bar nights used be full of young women getting tons of free drinks from men who were desperately hoping for sex (which they usually didn't get.) There is a fair amount of women who enjoy being some older, rich guy's "sugar baby" obviously not for the sex, but for the money. Essentially, women can make huge profit on…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 12:02 AM
1	CMV: if he doesn't fight for you when you break up, he's not the one If a man's gf treats him like that, I'd honestly hope he'd leave. Because he really shouldn't be committed to a woman who's toying with his feelings as a "test." The only thing this test reveals is that the woman is clearly not committed to him if she can break up that easily. So it concludes that he has zero reason to be committed to her if she does this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 11:40 PM
–	q4w: what is your desired outcome of your relationship before entering a relationship? To have a happy, healthy connection with the guy until we die of old age. If possible, have one or at most 2 children together, otherwise raise cats together. I want a modern relationship with equal share as much as reasonably possible, where both work and both do household chores, at least to some extent. My problem at this point is that all the men who've expressed any kinda interest in me only want me for casual flings, if even that. This includes average and below average men. Thus I assume …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 11:10 PM
5	Do you think "women supporters" in general place you somewhere you don't even want to be in? literally what you describe as feminism is a straw man and what you describe as egalitarian is... feminism Feminism the ideology has become what I described. Whether any random person who has similar views to me decides to call themselves a feminist or egalitarian doesn't really matter when it's feminism the ideology that holds most of the political power. like abortion laws? like vance and trump wanting to spend taxpayer money on big government to monitor all women of childbearing age? Did you …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 05:35 PM
11	Do you think "women supporters" in general place you somewhere you don't even want to be in? Yeah, I definitely do. I'm not a feminist though. The more I've looked into it, it seems most of feminism wants equity and basically coddle women and treat us like perpetual victims who can do no wrong. But mostly I'm just tired of the victim mentality and taking away of women's agency. It kinda ironically feels more misogynistic than the supposed opposition sometimes. I also really dislike how so much of feminism is just about hating on men, and walking over men to lift up women. I don't want t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 08:51 AM
4	Traditional relationships are not the nightmare for women that people make them out to be. There are about a million options between these two extremes, which I think the actual average person goes for. Sure, most women may be sleeping aroynd in their 20's, but most of them are not more serious about it than the Chads who pump and dump then. Then most women settle down in their 30's and knowing they're not as hot as they used to be, and focus more on stability and compatibility than looks, go for a guy who's closer to average (maybe he's a 6 if she's a 5) and they either live happily …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 02:05 PM
3	Why does it seem that Single Dads are viewed as 'somewhat' attractive by the average woman, while Single Mom's are viewed as 'somewhat' unattractive by the average man? I know, but it's still an off-putting trait.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 08:47 AM
8	Why does it seem that Single Dads are viewed as 'somewhat' attractive by the average woman, while Single Mom's are viewed as 'somewhat' unattractive by the average man? I've generally gotten a negative impression of moms in general throughout my life. Not my own mom, ironically, but female friends with kids have often been insufferable. Like as soon as they get kids, that becomes literally their entire world and good luck talking about anything other than the kid. Like it seems really common that when women have kids, they lose their entire personality to being moms. This has not been my experience with dads. Sure, they often get focused on the kid and being a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 03:17 PM
–	Apparently women turn “demisexual” around average men But hasn't it always been like that since the dawn of time? Has OP asked himself what would women gain from lowering their standards? I get that you wouldn't know the answer to that, and I doubt OP even cares. So, rhetorical question.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/24 09:29 PM
–	Apparently women turn “demisexual” around average men Yeah, I really wonder how that's strange to OP.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/24 08:58 PM
1	Porn and feminist critique The biggest hindrance to people viewing womens sexuality as "valid" as mens is the inability of even feminists to acknowledge womens agency in sex and recognizing womens sexual abuse. This is it right there. I've tried to be a feminist a lot in the past but whenever I've tried to genuinely give feminism a chance, any good critiques they've had have been overshadowed by this assumption that women are somehow incapable of knowing what's good for ourselves, and it's treating us like intellectually …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/24 10:09 AM
1	What age range do males start to be seen as more of a threat and less innocent? I started having trouble with rude/disrespectful/abusive males already in 1st grade, and they were the same age as me, so 6-7. I was then relentlessly bullied mostly by boys, at times even sexually assaulted, while the girls usually left me alone, with only one exception. In my teens I met quite a lot of guys my age who wanted me sexually and went to great (immoral) lengths to get it. Growing up it was always adult men who were genuinely protective or at least just showing basic respect. This mi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/24 09:13 AM
–	Does Having Sex With Prstittes Disqualify A Man From Giving Alpha Male Advice? Yeah, I think it does disqualify them. Because sex workers will have sex with any man who pays for it, it has nothing to do with how attractive, strong or how good of a leader the guy is. Any guy could get lots of sex from sex workers, even below average attractive men. So the only flex there is to a guy having lots of sex with sex workers is that he must be rich enough to afford it (unless he's going into debt due to it.) It's not a flex on however attractive he is, however much social status h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/24 01:28 PM
2	CMV: Self improvement is just a way to try and blame men Improvement never ends people will always find a way to tell you that you arent doing enough as a man. Its a scam Yeah you can never please everyone and people will always find some shit to complain about, but that doesn't mean self-improvement is a scam. People know this and thats exactly why some dont do it. You cant get taller as a man for example. The traits most women want are immutable Average women irl really aren't that picky. I see them dating and marrying average men all the time. Just…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 10:06 PM
7	Apparently women turn “demisexual” around average men Obviously if a guy isn't particularly attractive he has to be able to offer something else instead. What's so mysterious about this? Doesn't the same go for less attractive women? Like maybe she's a great cook, super sweet, extremely loyal and always down to please the man sexually, then maybe more men would consider her wife material even if she has some unfortunate facial features or whatever. Dating is transactional, even if preferences are largely subjective. Most people want a partner they …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 12:22 PM
1	If you are in a casual relationship, or if the guy is trying to avoid commitment with the usual 'Not sure/Wanna take it slow' excuse, I think ya'll should be more impersonal and not offer anything apart from sex That seems overly complicated for not a lot of benefit. Just tell the guy up front that if he's not willing to commit within x amount of time, the relationship is over. Tell him he's wasting your time. At most, you can try to talk to him about why he doesn't wanna commit, if there's any chance he's willing to discuss that and if there's something that can be worked on. Because sometimes it can be for innocent reasons like fear of getting hurt in an eventual divorce for ex. Couple's therapy could…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 11:33 AM
1	John meets sarah and has two options I think men choosing to lie just to get sex are awful people. They're taking advantage of honest women. There are men who complain about women taking way to long in the dating process before being willing to have sex, but this is literally why most women refuse sex on the first date. Even if the guy is super hot and we're super horny for him, we still gotta wait just to weed out these kinds of manipulative liars. One thing I've learned is that guy wanting sex on the first date is incredibly susp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 11:14 AM
7	CMV: Self improvement is just a way to try and blame men I'd say the line is when you either have extremely unfortunate genetics, or some really severe disability that's simply not physically possible to improve. But even then I've seen men with missing limbs or severe burn scars become attractive enough to score objectively highly attractive women, so even then there is a chance. Just probably a very small chance. Obviously the more, and more severe, issues you have, the harder self-improvement is gonna be. But there are very few scenarios where it's…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 01:08 AM
6	Do you believe circumcision is harming males? Yes, when done without consent and/or on minors without an actual medical reason for it. I don't think it's wrong to want it as an afult, or when done for medical reasons. But on healthy children it's barbaric. It also seems that America especially has some weird body shaming going on in regards to foreskin. As a Swede, I don't get what that fuzz is all about. In my country, less than 10% of men are circumcized. I've only met one guy who had that procedure done and he was clearly not happy about…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 12:38 AM
5	“More women should start approaching men” and the average guy would still be invisible Yeah of course I'd too rather be single than date a guy with a nasty personality, controlling, abusive, or heck even just has completely different life goals and values than I do. But at the same time I'd much rather be in a relationship with an average looking man who has a wonderful personality, similar goals/values as me, etc, than be single just because Chad doesn't want me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/24 08:10 AM
5	“More women should start approaching men” and the average guy would still be invisible No, I'm saying women lowering their standards just isn't gonna happen unless they have a personal motivation for doing so. That's just human nature? We're all a bit selfish deep down. Especially in regards to dating preferences. No one's gonna lower their standards unless they personally benefit from doing so. Dating isn't a charity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/24 10:59 PM
6	“More women should start approaching men” and the average guy would still be invisible Yeah, exactly. I used to think I was a total 10 before I started approaching men (and subsequently getting rejected) and now I'm like... maybe I can be a 5 on a good day, lol. I wouldn't say my self-esteem is in the gutter, but like, I got more self-aware. On top of that I also had to consider if my approaching technique was off-putting. Although I do think men in general are less likely to be put off by a woman approaching him, even if he thinks she's unattractive, assuming she isn't being coer…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/24 10:54 PM
1	What if your boyfriend had a past history of viewing only softcore porn? Of course. I'd have zero problem with a guy only watching softcore porn. Eh, I still watch rough anal on occasion. It's intriguing in fantasy, even though I don't like it in actual reality. Because like that's the thing though. What I like inside my brain is different to what I like irl, because human imagination is not particularly accurate. It skews things like sensations, texture, smell, etc to our liking. I'm not saying you (or anyone) should watch rough anal though. Just saying that a reali…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/24 10:47 PM
18	“More women should start approaching men” and the average guy would still be invisible I kinda agree that women approaching probably wouldn't likely solve the dating issues that average and below average men have, but thing is I never thought that's why women should approach men more? I kinda thought it was because men were tired of always having to do the approaching, planning and paying for dates? If women approached men more, then it would likely even out that issue, at least somewhat. But of course, most women would still go for above average attractive men, since that's what …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/24 04:58 PM
1	What if your boyfriend had a past history of viewing only softcore porn? Personally I don't actually care if a guy watches porn and what kinds, as long as he can separate fantasy from reality, and get that a regular woman irl is not gonna be like a porn actress. I mean I watch porn too, and in the past I even went pretty hardcore with it. I've had some crazy fantasies. Not so much these days, but like... I don't really care? I get that porn is kinda just part of life these days.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/24 09:33 PM
–	Women can always secure a High Value Man if she's willing to date 5-15 years older Eh, I'm not sure about that. I'm 35 and absolutely open to dating men in their 40's, but barely any guy under 60 wants me lol. And they're not even old "high value" men. They're old average men. Thing is I'm generally fine with dating men within roughly 20 years around my age (from 10 years younger to 10 years older) and could be flexible with another couple of years, but I draw the limit at dating men literally the same age as my dad. That would just be weird. Fyi I'm a bit below average for a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/24 09:29 PM
1	Women who say “I prefer guy friends because they’re easier to handle” are Pick Me Girls. Eh, it could just be based on personal experiences. Of course there are women who are totally chill and good friends, but if you're a woman with largely masculine interests and/or personality, you're likely gonna have a harder time finding women you can relate to, compared to men. So this could be an opinion some people come to later in life because of life experience, rather than a lack of it. I dunno if you just hate the idea that there's some truth to the gender stereotypes. Women are on aver…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/24 10:08 AM
1	Who are the bottom 20% of men, according to measurable characteristics? I'm pretty far below average myself, and I feel like there's only really one category of people who are below my level. That would be what I's consider the "bottom 20%" which imo is: The homeless. I mean specifically those who are perpetually homeless, not like guys who had to live in their car for a few weeks or whatever. Men deep in some heavy drug addiction (heroin, cocaine, extreme gambling, etc.) Those with severe mental illness and/or severe physical disability, ie psychosis, bed-ridden, n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/24 08:22 AM
2	What do men want women to do when they become sexually undesirable as they age? Figured.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/24 09:59 PM
1	What do men want women to do when they become sexually undesirable as they age? I wasn't asking in personal interest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/24 09:59 PM
3	What do men want women to do when they become sexually undesirable as they age? In relation to older women's dating prospects. Did you even read the post beyond the title?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/24 02:57 PM
3	What do men want women to do when they become sexually undesirable as they age? How does that help older women? Should they be dating the young men, or what?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/24 12:29 PM
1	Q4W: To those who think men and women are equal, why have women's leagues, women's bathrooms, women's clothes, why even call yourselves "women"? Yeah I think men and women have more similarities than differences, with both being of the same human species and all that. Like we have 35 chromosomes that are the same, only 1 that is different (y or extra x.) Sure there are some obvious differences in sexed organs and there are some behaviours that generally tend to be more common in women and others more common in men, but I think those are mostly just stereotypes and socially developed skills. I think the actual biological margin is much sm…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/24 08:09 PM
1	Q4W: To those who think men and women are equal, why have women's leagues, women's bathrooms, women's clothes, why even call yourselves "women"? I think men and woman are equal psychologically and in most physical aspects, but obviously I understand that there is a biological difference between being of the male or female sex. To me "equal" does not mean "the exact same" but rather it means of equal value and of equal capacity. We have different clothes because our body shapes are generally different. Ie women's pelvis and butt/thighs are generally bigger plus we have tits, while men's shoulders, hands/feet etc are generally bigger, plus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/24 11:45 AM
2	Question; do you judge people based on the people they have previously dated and does that give you an idea of who they are? A little bit, but I'm more interested in what they learned from their previous relationships, and if there's a pattern of partner type or all very different types of people. Like I don't really care how many partners a guy has had, but if they were all some troubled type, or all those connections ended in a similar way, that might be a bit concerning to me, as that could indicate he might repeat the same kinda pattern with me then. As for myself I only seriously dated some 5 people, although the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/24 10:31 AM
–	Q4W: How often do you do the following chores? Generally I'd say I keep things clean enough to be functional and not gross, but like I'm very far from a neatfreak. Also worth mentioning is that I live alone and don't have pets or kids. But this is roughly my schedule: -vacuum: once a week, sometimes twice. How thoroughly depends on how dirty it is. There's some areas that get dirty much quicker than others. -mop: the kitchen floor once a week, the other floors maybe once a month. -dust: some surfaces maybe once a month, some surfaces barely …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/24 11:24 PM
1	How does one deal with rejection, negativity, lack of desirability, and female affection? I appreciate that, and yeah, maybe you're right.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/24 10:57 PM
5	The "unequal division of household chores" in large part arises from status competition within female social circles, which the male partner has no obligation to make sacrifices for. I think to some extent differing cleaning standards do actually contribute to this. If the husband thinks some dust in the corners and a few dirty dishes on the counter isn't a big deal, but he'd clean up if the house starts getting objectively nasty. But often times the problem is that the husband wants it clean around the house but then never does any actual cleaning, leaves food to spoil, leaves dirty underwear wherever, never picks up the vacuum, etc and just expects the wife to take care of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/24 01:30 PM
28	Women don’t wear revealing outfits for male attention I call bullshit on that tbh. Sure, it might not be a conscious choice to be sexy for men, but generally showing skin and curvy body shape is considered "aesthetic" by women and fashion industries because it's appealing to men. Most of the time if I wear something revealing it's because I want to be seen as sexy by men, or for other women to think men would like that. The only actual exception is if it's just too hot outside to wear a lot of fabric. I used to think I dress that way just for mysel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/24 10:31 AM
1	Why are so many women insulted by the idea of guys making compromises to get sex? I'm really not the one here making it about race. Besides, you're very quick to assume what my race is for some reason too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/24 08:45 AM
3	How does one deal with rejection, negativity, lack of desirability, and female affection? I think it's mostly to do with how size is treated by society/media/press more than sexual function, completely acceptable to ridicule/shame small penises, which studies seem to support; Yes, it seems society at large has come to associate penis size with men's overall adequacy as human beings. Although I still think this probably originates from women's preferences and men wanting to be desirable as sexual partners, so men who then have something that is strongly associated with lack of sexual …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/24 08:19 AM
0	Why are so many women insulted by the idea of guys making compromises to get sex? Er, not exactly. I'm just recognizing that no individual person has power to stand up against a controlling, non-democratic government. I wouldn't either if I lived under one, and I consider myself lucky that I don't. That I actually have a choice in how to live my life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/24 07:48 AM
-1	Why are so many women insulted by the idea of guys making compromises to get sex? Not sure why you're asking for convincing arguments particular people find things attractive, these are largely subconscious. Virginity isn't that different to finding someone with big eyes attractive for me, it's entirely inate. I really don't think that's innate. But even if it is, that doesn't make it automatically a good thing. Pedos claim their attraction is innate too. So what if it is? Not to mention the idea that virgin women are somehow naive because of not having had sex is also wild. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/24 07:43 AM
0	Why are so many women insulted by the idea of guys making compromises to get sex? You didn't really give a reason as to why it's unethical to specifically look for a virgin, them supoosedly more vulnerable to mistreatment wouldn't make the action itself unethical. I am assuming that a man preferring to be with a woman who's lacking sexual experience, is because her having experience (ie knowledge) is somehow a threat or off-putting or otherwise "inconvenient" for him. I'm open to hear other explanations, I just haven't heard one yet that's actually convincing. But you're pres…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/24 06:44 PM
2	How does one deal with rejection, negativity, lack of desirability, and female affection? There's truth to that current society has kind of an obsession with big penises, and puts a lot of value in them. Both literally and metaphorically. Compared to for ex ancient Greece when small penises were hailed instead (as you can see in old statues.) Kinda goes with how there's also a lot of value put in large breasts and butts in women. But in times past small breasts and small butts were valued in women instead. In a very general sense this seems to correlate with how sexually liberated vs…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/24 06:21 PM
1	From a womans perspective, do you have a hierarchy of negative aspects to men? Really unattractive, sorry. If he at least was on a weight loss journey I might give him a chance, but not with that attitude. Not necessarily an issue. I'm kinda poor myself and have been all my life, so I've come to value emotional connection, actions, compassion, a good sex life, attraction, etc way over material stuff. Although depends on if he's a lazy slacker who refuses to get a job, if he's just unable to get a job despite trying, or has a job but it's low-paying. Both latter two are fin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/24 01:17 PM
3	Why are so many women insulted by the idea of guys making compromises to get sex? What's unethical about going for virgins specifically: women who lack experience is sex also often lack knowledge in what are red flags, what they should expect, what is reasonable behaviour to tolerate from a partner, etc. Inexperienced women often fall into the trap of ignoring physical discomfort, pain, their own boundaries, etc because the guy assures them that's how sex is supposed to be. Obviously not all men, but inexperienced women are much more easily taken advantage of because they do …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/24 12:22 PM
2	The current rhetoric is that men and women have unrealistic expectations for potential partners. What unorthodox or off-label quirks or unconventional features do you find attractive? True. In my teens I had a major crush on a guy who had a large port wine stain on his cheek. It did make me feel like he had a unique beauty.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/24 08:58 PM
1	The current rhetoric is that men and women have unrealistic expectations for potential partners. What unorthodox or off-label quirks or unconventional features do you find attractive? I appreciate that. It definitely build character. Too much "perfection" and the guy just looks like a manneqin tbh. I'd much rather have a partner who looks like and is human. Small "flaws" only adds charm and beauty, I think.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/24 08:49 PM
2	The current rhetoric is that men and women have unrealistic expectations for potential partners. What unorthodox or off-label quirks or unconventional features do you find attractive? I love men who have a little but of hip and thicker thighs, and some chest. Not like obese, but slightly rounded, softer bodies in men is absolutely attractive. Also on the other end, skinny guys who also aren't muscular can be really attractive, although not like severly underweight. I have a strong preference for average and smaller than average penises, like 3-5 inches and on the thinner side. Asymmetry in the face/body can be extremely hot. Like uneven teeth, a skew smile or if one eye is a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/24 06:35 PM
–	"you are not entitled to sex. It is not a necessity" is a bad argument Like imagine if no man (assuming you're straight) would ever date you just because you can't provide for him or because you don't act "feminine" enough or maybe you're just unattractive. You think you'd still be happy going your whole life without anyone showing any sign of sexual or romantic interest towards you? If the roles were reversed women would feel exactly the same way men do. I am that kinda woman (I only get approached by drug addicts, homeless men, extremely mentally unstable men, an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/24 04:19 PM
2	Q4W: Do you think unattractive women exist? Yeah, that is my impression too. Especially in regards to below average women, it seems a lot of men here think we get plenty of male attention and must just be "too picky" if we can't land a date. My standards of "must have a home, not be severly disabled/mentally ill/obese or have a seriously dangerous addiction (nicotine and caffeine is fine)" doesn't feel particularly high lol. Anyone with even just the most basic self-preservation would have least those standards. And besides, men who can't…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/24 01:10 PM
–	Which of these men would you prefer to date? I would definitely prefer Julian as I'm also artistic, love pets, and am more of a homebody type. Emil and James also sound like great men though, and I wouldn't be against dating them. It's only really Theo that makes me slightly put off. He sounds like a player or the overachiever type that I wouldn't feel compatible with. Also I'd probably feel like a failure in comparison to him lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 01:15 PM
1	Which woman would you pick? This was oddly enlightening because immediately reading the post I figured I'm probably the most similar to Suzy, based on both personality and appearance, and it seems most men here ranked her pretty highly. That was the confidence boost I did not expect to get today lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 01:03 PM
1	If you are sexually submissive, what does that mean to you ? I'd say I'm somewhat sexually submissive. Definitely not dominant at least. What that means to me is I prefer it when the guy takes charge and I mostly just follow, I prefer positions where he is the one in control (like missionary, doggy, etc) and I don't like being on top or the one to make most of the decisions. I also like some kinks that would put me in a very sub position, just not every time or on the regular. But I wouldn't say I'm totally/very sub because I like for pleasure giving to b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 12:03 PM
1	If women wanted marriage and commitment only Yeah honestly eventually I started feeling like my sleeping around was making it harder to find a serious guy. Nowadays I'm only talking to men who want a serious LTR, and avoiding the fuckboys, and staying celibate (still masturbating though) until I find a serious partner. Because yeah, I think you're right that giving the fuckboys attention is just kinda detrimental when what you really want is a serious guy for an LTR. Although sexual frustration is still a thing in women too, and most men o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 11:51 AM
11	Women should avoid inexperienced men. Eh, that sounds like a stereotype of inexperienced men. If we're gonna avoid every type of man because of x associated stereotype there will be no type of man left to date. This kinda stereotyping is exactly what leads to women having ridiculously standards and a lot of good men being rejected based on whatever shit they didn't do. I date individual men I click with or at least just feel comfortable and compatible with, not based on arbitrary measures like how many sex partners he's had, or how …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 11:42 AM
2	Is acting as if all men are predators sexist or not? Imo this is the double stardards of feminism. Are all men potential predators? Yes, but so are technically all women too. If I had kids I wouldn't wanna leave them with a female stranger any more than I'd wanna leave them with a male stranger, but regards to teachers, daycare staff, nurses, docs, etc, you kinda gotta take some risk, assuming you don't wanna hold onto to your kid literally 24/7. If anything I'd actually be more wary with female strangers, because they can much more easily get awa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/24 06:23 PM
1	Men don't have to pay for a woman's meal on a date and the means to put a swift end to this culture is very easy. Well, yes. Sex can be a high/thrill and sex addiction is a thing, so it can absolutely be like a drug. And men are much more likely to be some flavor of sex addicts, whether they realize it themselves or not. And yeah, women don't typically lose out if one guy isn't 100% ideal in whatever way, because it's just so much easier for women to get sex from men than vice versa. No one really values it when a man is willing to have sex. It's expected, it's the norm. We're surprised if a man doesn't wan…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 01:55 AM
4	Do you think formerly promiscuous women are mostly disadvantaged in the dating market at least when it comes to getting commitment /marriage? To some extent, yeah. I'm formerly promiscuous. Spent my late teens and 20's doing a bunch of casual sex, in between a few shorter relationships that always failed some way or another. I stopped sleeping around roughly 6-7 years ago shortly before my last failed relationship started. Men often don't trust me when I inform about my past, I'm often assumed to be a cheater, they assume I must have some STD, they only want me for hookups, etc. I do have a bunch of other, unrelated, issues too though…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/24 07:46 PM
1	Do you think most men would be willing to forgive a cheating woman if she treated him well after ? I think it takes a special kinda person, ie a complete doormat or someone willing to put in work to rebuild a broken bond, to forgive a cheater, and also I think it really depends on the cheater. If it's really a one off thing and the cheater puts in a lit of effort to change and make up for it and make sure if won't happen again vs if it's a serial cheater or they did it because of lack of atrraction/compassion/respect/etc for their partner, that can make a huge difference. But in general, ie m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/24 01:47 PM
2	Men don't have to pay for a woman's meal on a date and the means to put a swift end to this culture is very easy. Yes, if you want a relationship where finances are split/shared, then I think splitting the bill on the first date is a great way to instantly show where you stand in regards to money. It will attract women who have that same desire, and it will deter women who want a provider, or who as you say just want a free meal. Honestly I don't think you'd even lose out a lot on sex opportunities because I think most of the women who refuse to split the bill are the ones who just wanna use men for their m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/24 09:51 AM
0	Q4W: Do you think unattractive women exist? Never been an issue until this very moment lmao. A lot of people have weird usernames on this site. I don't think anyone's overthinking it except you. Besides, it's not like Reddit is ever the place I'd turn to for dating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/24 08:23 PM
0	Q4W: Do you think unattractive women exist? Eh, it's just a euphamism for me being a hairy woman. Keep your porn fantasies to yourself lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/24 08:14 PM
19	Q4W: Do you think unattractive women exist? Well I wouldn't say I never get any kinda male attention, but it's very scarce and of considerably low quality. On dating apps I get maybe 5 messages in a month, and most of them are twice my age (ie 60-70 years old), obese, or extremely socially inept. Once every few years there's an above average looking guy, only some 5-10 years older, who wants my attention (different guys) but they're either severely disabled, mentally ill or wanting to experiment with a trans woman. Irl it's been literally…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/24 10:37 AM
1	Q4W: Singe- never married women, what do you want your legacy to be? How will you not be forgotten? Yeah, it seems it's become a "bad" thing for a woman to admit to feeling unfulfilled in any kinda way without a man. Like that's not feminist to say, I guess. I don't think that's bad to admit though. Humans are a social species and we've evolved to want an opposite sex partner. Nothing bad with having that instinct, regardless of if you're male or female.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/24 06:30 PM
1	Women look better in minimal makeup, and they look even better with no makeup. Yeah, I get that men don't like being deceived by the appearance of perfect, glowy skin and pronounced cheek bones, etc when it's all just makeup. And like I try to not be deceptive like that with how I wear my makeup. Most of it is stuff that's meant to be obvious like thick black eyeliner, deep brown eyeshadow and red lipstick. I do trim and dye my brows but don't put any temporary makeup on them, and the color is close to my natural hair color. Thing is I don't wear any foundation, contouring…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/24 03:04 PM
0	Q4W: Singe- never married women, what do you want your legacy to be? How will you not be forgotten? Eh, I'm single with a fairly high body count (above average but not in the hundreds) but I stopped doing that years ago and started working on my mental health issues etc, as I really do want to have a male life partner at some point. Marriage and kids is optional but I do want a long term, committed relationship. Actually I basically strive for the type of relationship dynamic my parents have, which is they're both independent yet working together as a team. That's what would bring me fulfillme…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/24 12:10 PM
1	If you could pick your child’s gender, given what you know of the world, which would you go for? I'd probably prefer a son but would be totally happy to have a daughter as well. I think I'm just concerned I wouldn't be a great role model for a daughter because of my own gender issues (I'm a detransitioner.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/24 03:20 PM
3	If men actually cared about single moms as a “societal issue”, they would be encouraging men to be stepfathers. Crime is everyone’s problem. I don’t know why we’re acting like crime doesn’t affect society. It's not a crime to be a single mother. It only becomes a crime if it turns into child abuse and/or neglect. And yes sure, anyone witnessing a crime or potential crime should contact the police about it, but it's still not the responsibility of a random stranger to literally step in as a parent. So wasting of taxpayer dollars, which is also been a problem associated with single motherhood? How is caring…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/24 02:19 PM
3	Men are entirely lacking in knowing how to sexually satisfy women This is really good advice, all in all. The only thing I wanna comment on is that specifically multiple orgasms is not really necessary to aim at on a regular basis. From my point of view (and I think for other women too) all I really want is for men to just treat the female orgasm as equally important as the male orgasm. Then how many times the woman cums per session I think is kinda less important. Also far from all women can do multiple orgasms, or may just prefer having only one, unless it's…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/24 02:04 PM
4	If men actually cared about single moms as a “societal issue”, they would be encouraging men to be stepfathers. Eh, this isn't random men's responsibility. It's either on the single mothers themselves if they decided to shut the father out of their lives, or it's on the father if he abandoned his child. Either way, these children are largely their parents' responsibility. Secondly they're the resonsibility of social services, the schools they go to, etc. But they're never the responsibility of random strangers who've likely never even met the kid. Other people's kids are not your problem, unless you're th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/24 11:20 AM
1	CMV: Women should not have to make outfit choices based on the creepiness of males Thing is we really don't have much control over other people's actions. Creeps are gonna creep no matter how we feel about it. The only thing we really can control is our own actions. So if you do notice an increase in catcalling, harassment, etc when wearing something that effectlively looks like a bikini or otherwise showing a lot of skin, and decrease in such reactions when more covered up... and you want less (or ideally no) such reactions, the logical thing is to dress according to what res…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/24 01:58 AM
2	The standards of "not fat" and "no kids" are the BARE MINIMUM, not "extremely high". Bluepillers are disingenuously abusing semantics and population statistics to try to shame men out of having any standards at all. Yeah, expressing preferences rudely is always gonna come across badly, but that goes for literally anything expressed rudely. My philosophy is that if I think my preferences isn't anyone's business, then I shouldn't be making them anyone's business. It’s only gonna get tougher for Joe and us as we continue to contribute to a system which is poisoning our food supply, turning us into mindless consumers, hijacking our brains, corrupting our financial and educational institutions, and getting us fu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/24 03:35 PM
5	The standards of "not fat" and "no kids" are the BARE MINIMUM, not "extremely high". Bluepillers are disingenuously abusing semantics and population statistics to try to shame men out of having any standards at all. For men who aren't fat themselves, I think it's an absolutely reasonable standard to have. But the average person is overweight nowadays in most of the western world (especially US) and thin women generally don't wanna date men who are chubby or otherwise not fit. The male equivalence to "thin yet curvy" women is healthy 10-20% bodyfat and at least a bit toned. So when chubby men don't wanna date chubby women it is seen as a "too high" standard because it's demanding something he isn't willing t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/24 01:23 PM
6	Having a partner with the same/similar hobbies is much tougher for men. It's not universial advice, it's said as a suggestion for a (relatively) easy way to find women you have things in common with. Then if it's specifically hobbies you have in common, or some other stuff, isn't what matters. It's just generally easier to find people with the same hobbies as you right off the bat, compared to finding people with opinions, food taste, values, etc you both share. So it's not bad advice just because it's not applicable to everyone, but I do believe it's harder to find…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/24 12:05 PM
1	There is nothing “creepy” or “predatory” about 30-40 year old men wanting to date or sleep with 20-25 year olds, it isn’t men’s fault women don’t age well Well I was kinda immature and gullible back in my early 20's and late teens, so I saw no issue with dating older men. (For ex I briefly dated a 27yo guy when I was 18.) I thought it was "cool" or whatever. But as I continued doing that I started noticing issues I couldn't have foreseen or understood when I was younger. I think my breaking point with age gap relationships was when I briefly dated a 68 yo guy when I was 28, and he was so morally stuck in the 70's that I had serious trouble connect…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/24 05:01 PM
0	Women complain about traits of high T but don't want any side effects of a low T male Yeah, exactly, it can be like that. Largely because of how the body processes/responds to DHT (dehydrotestosterone) and how much of the free testosterone the body converts to DHT. Having a higher sensitivity to DHT is more commonly the actual reason a guy has more pronounced/stronger masculine traits, than how much free testosterone he has. Also depends on which T traits generally run more strongly in his family. Like for ex some men just have higher genetic potential for a thick beard than musc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/24 03:55 PM
15	Women complain about traits of high T but don't want any side effects of a low T male Good thing then that testosterone traits are not evenly distributed in every single man, just like estrogen traits are not evenly distributed in every single woman. It tends to be kinda random, regardless of actual testosterone levels, even though those with higher T generally have a bit more/stronger of those traits. Other genetics also come into play, not just hormones. That said I personally don't really care which exact T traits a guy has, as long as it's clear he went through puberty at all…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/24 05:38 PM
1	Femininity is largely considered inferior to Masculinity and there are no good reasons for women to embrace femininity I'd consider myself a mix of masculine and feminine. I value both to some extent. Being purely feminine is not of interest to me, because that simply wouldn't feel genuine. There's more to my life than just appeasing (a specific kind of) men. Being independent, assertive, daring to take up space, etc is important to me in regards to being a strong person standing up to my own values. That's generally what I'd consider the "masculine" side of me. That I'm quite far from agreeable and I'm a bit of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/24 09:43 AM
3	CMV: Every single man can immediately significantly increase his desirability to women by rescuing cats and kittens. Yes. A very mediocre man who loves cats is instantly more attractive to me, because I love cats, and that's a mutual interest, and having things in common makes me like people. However, it won't solve any actual issues a man may have in regards to dating. It's absolutely helpful, but I wouldn't consider it an actual solution to a trainwreck of a man. Just like... for ex I notice I generally gain more respect from men nowadays since I dropped my former feminist label and started advocating more f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/24 08:20 AM
1	Men care too much about women's approval and getting laid. I kinda both agree and disagree. Men being too invested in women's approval will likely lose themselves in the process and maybe even start resenting women. Because the further you go in that direction, the more likely you are to find more and more flaws in either yourself, working so hard on self-improvement you're essentially killing yourself (body and/or spirit) for an unobtainable goal - or see too many flaws in the women, perceiving us all as flaky, golddiggers or only wanting 6 foot tall b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/24 08:06 AM
1	Q4W: The wife of an NFL Quarterback recently revealed she slept with his back up QB. Do you now understand why your history matters to many men? True, it could be read either way, I suppose. Yeah, if body count is the only information you have about a woman, it makes sense to draw statistical conclusions from that. Also, people who do cheat tend to go to great lengths to hide it, which makes it that much harder to prove innocence for those of us who don't. I'm sorry for your situation, and much respect to you if you are that honest even if this can have bad consequences for you. Most women I met just lie about it I appreciate that. I rea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/24 06:58 AM
2	Q4W: The wife of an NFL Quarterback recently revealed she slept with his back up QB. Do you now understand why your history matters to many men? Oh, so you're one of those self-proclaimed "high value" men with an ego so big it's making you just show exactly how insecure you are. Reading books about women (clearly written by just as insecure men) then claim to understand women. That you can't even handle such a simple concept as nuance. Yeah, you are really useless to try to have an adult conversation with. I'll just go with your tactic instead then: I literally have a book on women like you lol... you are in the 'Not striving to be with …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/24 06:41 AM
1	Q4W: The wife of an NFL Quarterback recently revealed she slept with his back up QB. Do you now understand why your history matters to many men? Okay that's just sad though. I admittedly had higher hopes about my fellow promiscuous women. Because for me it's super easy to just only do casual sex when I'm single and miserable about it or trying to rebuild myself from a bad breakup, but then be loyal whenever I'm actually in a relationship. It's just what comes natural to me and what feels like the right thing to do. Because I don't understand how just getting some random sex would be worth traumatizing and significantly hurting another pe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/24 09:37 PM
1	Q4W: The wife of an NFL Quarterback recently revealed she slept with his back up QB. Do you now understand why your history matters to many men? You are really annoying with these assumptions. Just ask me instead of assuming what my answers will be. So you blindly jump from cock to cock, yes? Indefinitely, yes? Or are you hoping to find a man that meets your criteria to marry? Do you even want to be with one man for the rest of your life, or are you cool with smashing and dashing? No. I seek men for a serious relationship irl by making connections, being friendly, even asking men out. But as I continue to struggle in that area, I sometim…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/24 09:08 PM
1	Q4W: The wife of an NFL Quarterback recently revealed she slept with his back up QB. Do you now understand why your history matters to many men? I think I do actually know a thing or two about it as I'm a woman with a high body count and no history of cheating. For me hookups/casual sex are just boyfriend substitutes to get something while single and touch starved. It's better than masturbation (because at least it's some degree of human connection) but only barely, as it's also usually quite fumbly. Because while I do love sex, it's just not as good without mutual love and emotional intimacy, and from what I've heard most women seem to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/24 05:53 PM
3	Q4W: The wife of an NFL Quarterback recently revealed she slept with his back up QB. Do you now understand why your history matters to many men? History of cheating is not the same as history of high body count. There are plenty of women with a higher body count who never have and never would cheat, and there are cheaters with a low body count. Someone being a virgin also does not guarantee they won't cheat further down the line. This is a question of morality, not of libido. I dunno what's up with this false correlation running loose in people's minds. Is it men who have a hard time understanding that there are ethical ways to have lots…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/24 10:46 AM
1	Is it a man's responsibility to turn a woman on? Thank you for that!	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/24 03:55 PM
1	What does a woman actually means when she says I want you to get vulnerable with me ? Honestly I relate to this so much and it's a relief to know this isn't just me being difficult in relationships but something a lot of people deal with... just the other sex. I'm straight but I did date a woman once and now we're best friends instead. But we retain much of the emotional intimacy you'd expect from an actual couple. We often end up in arguments because she "wants me to be more vulnerable" and explain everything I feel when I'm not done processing/undersntanding it or what my feeli…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/24 02:46 PM
0	if your partner wanted to check your phone would you let her or him Yeah, cellphones are extremely personal nowadays, it's not like a business only device for calling and short texts like back in the 90's. Obviously really old cellphones didn't have a lot of functions like modern ones do. No camera, no social media, no calendar, no internet connection. They basically only had calls and a ridiculous word limit for texts, and maybe some very basic game and phonebook, so they couldn't be nearly as personal as modern phones. But nowadays it's like a diary, full of l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/24 02:17 PM
9	What is creepy? For me it's mostly in the way/manner/tone a guy says something rather than the actual statements he makes. For ex back when I dated my first boyfriend, he said early on that he had some ED issues because of an anti-depressant medication he was on while we were already discussing sex and it was cleared that we both had mutual interest. That's not creepy, that's simply being informative and up front. But I've also had random men online divulge such info way before any kinda mutual interest has bee…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/24 01:42 PM
1	if your partner wanted to check your phone would you let her or him No, I wouldn't. At most I'd show him what I have on my phone while looking at it together. Like contact lists, messages, pictures, whatever I'd assume would be of interest. But I wouldn't let him go through my phone without my supervision. Not because I have anything to hide, but because it's just a lot of my private thoughts in there. Like venting and whining. Things I just wouldn't want a loved one's opinions on. Things I'd fear would be misunderstood. Like for ex I might vent on reddit or to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/24 12:46 PM
6	Society actually consistently underestimates how pervy and predatory male sexuality is Eh, you're sorta right that if someone would completely let themselves loose to their most primal instincts and impulses, they wouldn't be a civilized person, but problem is that's not a "man thing" it's a human thing, because we're still animals. Our domestication isn't a permanent re-wiring of our brains, it's just a role we act because of the agreement that if we act civilized we will be rewarded respect, rights, trust, and freedom in return, and if we don't, we get those things taken away. M…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/24 04:19 PM
1	Question for attractive women; What could an average or below average looking man do for you to genuinely desire him? Because well, while I think I have a nice body shape and a decent face, having scars instead of tits, face full of ice pick scars, severe balding, noticeable facial hair, and some 40lbs overweight, I think that unfortunately drags down my overall appearance. But if I fixed all or most of those things (not all if it can be fixed) I think I could fairly easily look more average or even slightly above. Although while I also have a rather big nose and flat cheeks, I don't see these features as nearl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/24 06:42 PM
-1	Why assume we are unattractive? It's just that it's easy to assume that people who whine a lot about dating and not feeling desirable, have a problem with their dating lives. Although I don't assume everyone who has a negative opinion about dating on this sub are painfully single. There sure are issues with the dating market also for the successful people. Like for ex being stalked by some weirdos, getting catfished, getting STD's from people who promised they were clean, etc, just all around lying, deceit and danger. But I me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/24 11:00 PM
1	Question for attractive women; What could an average or below average looking man do for you to genuinely desire him? Haha, yeah I'm sure his hardcore fans would have my head lopped off for what I said there lol. I've watched him for maybe two years. He has a bunch of knowledge on exercise and nutrition and he's very motivating to listen to, but beyond that I'm not really invested. (Although the drama is juicy sometimes, ngl.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/24 09:37 PM
2	Question for attractive women; What could an average or below average looking man do for you to genuinely desire him? If I was super attractive, I wouldn't be interested in average/below average men, no matter what they do. Why on earth would I be? No one wants to date someone who looks notably worse than themselves. I'm below average and it's not like Chads wanna date me either, and I really don't blame them. If I was Chad I wouldn't want shit to do with me either lol. The only reason I'm willing to date average attractive men is because I'm not very attractive myself, and because the rare one off average dude…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/24 07:12 PM
3	Ladies, what do you think of these women? I mean if the guy is aware of it though and consents to the situation, then he's not really a victim, even if still a bit naive, probably. Thing is I kinda doubt that the men in those kinda situations are getting anything in return at all. Is it really a "sugar daddy" situation, or a fair marriage, if he's not getting either sex or his household chores taken care of in return?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/24 12:14 AM
2	How would women feel if someday android women become more popular among men for dates and relationships? Eh, it wouldn't bother me. As you say it could solve the evergrowing incel issue, and I wouldn't want to date a man who'd prefer some perfect robot over a real human being anyway. Robots and androids do creep me out though, and I'm becoming more and more of a technophobe by each passing year. I already refuse wireless technology and stuff like VR, avoid AI and other so-called "intelligent" bots, and keep my cellphone use to a minimum. So for that reason I'm not a fan of where these kinda technol…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/24 05:00 PM
7	Ladies, what do you think of these women? Women like that make me cringe. May I say toxic femininity? She's incredibly manipulative, selfish and she's essentially taking advantage of the guy. I hope he finds out about her scheme and leaves her with no more access to his money. Although that said, it doesn't surprise me at all that people keep finding new ways to be lazy. That's gotta be some of the most human traits ever.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/24 04:22 PM
1	Women with promiscuous pasts who are sexually reserved/borderline asexual with their LTRs What do you mean by "raise your standard"? Is this based on how they treat you or looks? Both, tbh. Who's more conventionally attractive, your hookups or LTR? LTR, but not by a huge difference. Hookups were at an average of 3/10 and LTR's at an average of 5/10. I just don't understand why you give these men access to your body instead of going for a good man who's respectable? It's not like there aren't good men who also wanna hook up too if you weren't looking for a relationship at the time. We…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/24 03:39 PM
2	Women with promiscuous pasts who are sexually reserved/borderline asexual with their LTRs I used to be promiscuous and now am sexually reserved, although far from asexual. I mean once I do find a suitable long term partner, I'd want sex pretty much daily. I still feel a need to orgasm daily, and preferably with a partner although by my own hand is also okay. However, what did change for me is I stopped having hookups and now am fine with just waiting for a long term boyfriend. I also did raise my standards for who I'm willing to date at all. So I'd assume I'm close enough to your tar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/24 02:27 PM
1	Are most women not interested in casual relationships? Yeah, most women aren't into casual sex. I used to be, throughout most of my 20's and some of my late teens. During that time I had two fwb's (years apart) and maybe some 15 hookups in total. The fwb's were actually both totally great men who cared a lot about my boundaries, consent and pleasure, and they were some of the most wonderful and considerate men I've ever been sexual with. Both of them were above average attractive though, but I was not exclusive with either of them. It never really c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/24 10:54 AM
2	The sexuality of straight women is the driving force behind patriarchy While I think women's sexuality is actually a component to this, men's sexuality is as much if not more so the reason behind men's actions. You can't blame women for your own libido. That is your own responsibility and not something women owe you to satisfy. Men also made laws against prostitution and masturbation and pre-marital sex, only making it harder for themselves. So while women's actions and feelings have absolutely affected men's actions and feelings, the biggest issue with "patriarchy…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 03:07 PM
3	Q4M: Ever turned down sex with a woman? What happened? I have been rejected by many men who were just not into me. As much as it disappointed me, I just said "that's okay" and went on my merry way. I do care a lot about men's consent so I also care a lot about not ever becoming the reason a guy feels pressured into having sex he doesn't want. For any damn reason. Because honestly I think men who feel like they can never say no to sex for any reason are often also some of the worst ones when it comes to disrespecting/ignoring women's sexual boundarie…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 02:26 PM
1	Having been with prostitutes is NOT a red flag It does put into question of what the guy's morals are. If he is fine with having sex with prostitutes, he must not be overly concerned about the woman's enjoyment, if she's even into him, etc. It's a very selfish act. With mutual casual sex at least there's the possibility that the woman wanted it just as much and was also attracted to the guy, but even that is demonized to some degree. Because there's often quite the correlation between men who get why prostitutes (also men who sleep around a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 02:00 PM
1	Do you ever view men as "good breeding material", and do you find it troublesome, or gross that men subconsciously see woman that way? I've never thought of a man in that way. Sure, I want children, but it's kinda low priority for me. Probably because I know my own genetics are kinda trash so that alone means a high risk of either the kids ending up with issues and/or just me having trouble taking care of them properly. I mean stuff like autism, obesity (I mean endomorphs, I'm the only one in my family who's managed to stay at or close to a healthy weight most of my life, but not without a lot of difficulty because I do gain we…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/24 09:34 AM
3	It's perfectly reasonable to tell women (or anyone) to cover up. I generally agree with you, but problem is that people have different ideas of what is "covering enough" clothing. For some people showing ankles and elbows is "too much" while for other wearing a bikini is "covered up." But most people seem to be somewhere in between those two extremes, and when that kinda "reasonably in between" is more or less socially enforced, I really don't think that's a bad thing. And of course it should apply equally to both sexes. Like I don't wanna see another woman's…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/24 04:33 PM
1	The real reason being a pick-me doesn't work is that these women are often insecure and don't know how to push for what they want Yeah, how about actually communicating with your partner instead of following a scripts of either being a doormat or a manipulative... I dunno what's the opposite of 'pick me,' misandrist feminist? I often get called a 'pick me.' There's a big difference between A) caring about men's opinions in general because they're human beings and you want to impress someone you love, care about and respect as a person and want for him to do the same for you because you think all those things in a relations…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/24 10:13 PM
1	why do women still want to get married? Because if I had a life partner, I wouldn't be (as) lonely, I'd have someone share the ups and downs of life with, I'd have plenty of access to sex with a safe and trustworthy guy, a lot of things in life that pretty much require assistance of some kind would be easier, I wouldn't need to ask my mom to help me change the ceiling light bulbs (I'm too short to reach ans terrified of heights), we could have a house and a garden if we're two to take care of it with two incomes, I wouldn't have to sl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/24 08:13 PM
1	How are men supposed to deal with successive rejections? Well I seem to be an unusually unpopular woman, although I do believe there are a plenty of logical reasons for that... I'm a detransitioner missing a lot of feminine features with a bunch of additional masculine ones making most people think I must be a trans woman, I'm poor and can't work, I've multiple mental health issues including autism, bad posture, overweight, over 30, and also it's not like I looked like a model to begin with. Also I live in a tiny village on a small island. All of whic…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/24 01:13 AM
3	Why do women hate when their male friends confess feelings to them? It can make it difficult to make and keep male friends sometimes, I guess. But personally I don't see it as a negative thing in itself. Kinda depends on how things go after he's confessed his feelings. I've dated a few of my male friends in the past and I agree it's a good way to date. Even if things didn't really work out either of those times so far. I've also rejected the advances of male friends who I just wasn't into that way. I think most of them stuck around for the friendship though? Thi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/24 03:37 PM
7	Women destroy other Women's commitment options Yeah, I mean that's why I don't trust women any more than I trust men. Sure, men might use me for sex or take advantage of that I'm smaller/less strong, but women will backstab, manipulate and sabotage my dating chances. The way I see it is that's why the straight world is not and can never be a community like the LGBT. It's more like a hunting ground. Women competing against each other for that top 10% of men, and men competing against each other for... well, getting any woman. And men and wome…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/24 08:45 AM
1	Women have hobbies. Most of my hobbies are focused around various forms or art, like drawing, writing (fiction novels and poetry, primarily), knitting, crocheting, sewing, woodworking and making miniatures/dioramas. But I also enjoy playing world of warcraft, swimming for exercise, gardening, and lately I've taken up learning how to play piano and sing and making my own music as well. Honestly I have so many hobbies and ongoing projects at all times that I kinda struggle to keep up with them lol. But at least I'm n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/24 10:53 PM
1	Why does this generation fixate and obsses so much over "therapy"? Well, it's kinda just become more normalized and there's less stigma around both therapy and mental health issues, especially super common shit like anxiety and depression. So therapy is kinda just seen as going to doctor nowadays. And people suggest you see a doctor for the smallest inconveniences too. This can irrate me too though. I think you're right that people do preach therapy a bit too much. Like for ex when I say I'm having trouble standing up for myself in social situations and someone…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/24 09:08 AM
4	why don’t we just sex segregate? I dunno, it seems like sexism and other gender war issues just get worse in areas of the world where there is strict sex segregation. And that more sex mixing a so iety has, the better the gender equality and general understanding between the sexes. Still not perfect by any means though. But I think generally men and women forced to work together and share spaces is the healthier approach. you don’t mind sharing public spaces with ppl you don’t like, which is good, but what if they needed to int…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/24 05:48 AM
2	why don’t we just sex segregate? I'd hate that tbh. I know there are plenty of women who want a ton of sex segregation but personally I feel way more comfortable in mixed sex spaces than female only spaces. Women in groups are the frigging worst and I say that as a woman. Besides, I just generally get along better with men. Even here, it seems the few people who like what I post are usually men. Sure, there are also a lot of men I disagree with or think are cringe, annoying, etc, but thing is I don't see men as a monolith and o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/24 03:31 AM
1	How can you expect sympathy from men on abortion rights, when we never had the freedom to unilaterally opt out of parenthood after conception? No I fully agree with you. I never understood why anyone thinks paying child support in 2024 is justified when women have the exact same job opportunities as men. It made sense back when women weren't allowed to work or have their own bank accounts. Back then women were dependent on her husband's (or her father's) money to literally survive, so if it came to a divorce it made sense the (ex) husband would give some of his money to her because like it or not, he was responsible for not only making…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/24 03:46 PM
1	Do lesbians expect to go 50/50 in their relationships? I don't think gender roles just existing, or people enjoying following them is a problem. There are some gender norms I follow as well, like in how I dress and groom myself, to a certain extent. My problem is when it's demanded, or people get bullied for not wanting to follow traditional gender roles, or deemed "less valuable" for it, or otherwise pressured to conform. If it's such a good thing as you say, then people shouldn't have to pressured into that mold. It would be something people are j…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/24 06:16 PM
1	Do lesbians expect to go 50/50 in their relationships? I don't think "wanting a leader" is an innate aspect among women, but something we're kinda just expected to want, and then maybe from that expectation a lot of straight women come to like it because it can also be convenient to kinda just sit back and relax and let the man handle the difficult decisions? I dunno how that works, just a theory. It's not easy for me to imagine why other women are the ways they are when it's something that's not applicable to me. But either way it doesn't seem lesb…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/24 05:58 PM
5	Do lesbians expect to go 50/50 in their relationships? My best friend is a lesbian and I've dated women in the past myself despite later on realizing I'm straight after all. So from what I know... most lesbians just aren't invested in or hung up on this weirdly prescibed gender roles shit altogether. They just divide the chores by who prefers doing what, and/or who is best at doing what, and then share or split the stuff both either like or hate equally much. Typically both will work although one may earn a bit more than the other, and then they jus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/24 05:48 AM
3	Does self improvement truly change a man's dating prospects? Yeah, for me it makes a huge difference if an average looking guy is also average slob or actually takes care of himself. I don't even mean unrealistically huge muscles (what you suggest is something only men on steroids or with exceptionally good genetics can achieve, plus most women are not into very bulky guys) even though I'm the kinda woman who can and do appreciate all the hard work put into an incredibly well built physique. But just like... simple shit like a nice hair cut, flattering cl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/24 05:09 AM
2	A lot of men need to lower their standards I think that's a big problem in the dating market in general. It seems most people, of both sexes, have way too high standards, and then act all surprised when they get rejected. I mean yeah, I'm kinda below average attractive and on occasion I will flirt with a +8/10 guy, but thing is I expect to be rejected then. That's really just me taking a shot just in case I could be wrong about him thinking I look hideous lol. But it seems when most people do that, they aren't just doing it because "hey …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/24 04:35 AM
–	Men should avoid dating sexual assault victims Calm down now. No one here is blaming the victims for sexual assault. I'm practicing nuance. You know, the thing between extremes? If you don't lock your door and a burglary comes along, does that mean it was all your fault or that you deserved it? No, it just means your odds would have been in your favor if you had locked your door, and it's reasonable to question the judgement of people who don't lock their doors, because surely they would know the increased danger? Even though breakins also h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/24 01:07 PM
3	Men should avoid dating sexual assault victims That's quite some spicy tea, alright. Setting my own kne-jerk reactions aside for a moment, I think you do have a point. A lot of if not most women who've been through SA are stuck in victim mentality either due to lack of access to therapy and/or finding a sense of identity in being victimized as it gives then an excuse to hate on men without consequences and a reason to avoid taking accountability because that's difficult. I get so much shit whenever I try to tell such a woman that it really i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/24 04:54 PM
5	Is it a man's responsibility to turn a woman on? There are two sides to this, I think. On one hand there's the men who are excruciatingly selfish in bed, ie they don't take care of themselves (washing, grooming, dressing nicely, etc) yet expect the woman to always look her best, they only care about their own pleasure during sex and considers sex to be over when he orgasms - and on the other hand there are women who blame their every possible sexual problem on the man not trying hard enough, even things that he couldn't possibly have any contr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/24 02:39 PM
1	Women complaining about men only valuing their bodies do not realise how boring the average woman is. Men being Homosocials is only logical. Yeah I mean women in groups tend to be the worst, imo, and I'm a woman. I also get tired of the drama and neuroticism I often see in other women. (I definitely get called a "pickme" a lot lol.) I'd much rather deal with how unfunny some guys' jokes are. Although there are men who get terrible in groups too, ie the ones who constantly end up in pissing contests and do increasingly worse bets and pranks. It really depends on the friend group in question though, and the maturity level of the people…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/24 03:08 PM
1	Is it really so bad if virgin guys are forced to go for women with experience? Nah I think that's totally fine. Some women prefer men with more or similar amount of experience, but I think what most women really want is a guy who's considerate in bed, willing to listen and learn, cares about her pleasure, is being safe, respects her boundaries, etc. I think a lot of people just associate that with experience, but there's not actually any correlation. It's a mindset and has a lot more to do with personality and personal priorities, imo. Fyi I have been with several less exp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/24 06:57 PM
1	Where is the line between wanting something and acting entitled to something? It's definitely difficult for me to define in a general sense. So I'll just use some of my personal experiences as examples of what I think is acting entitled in dating/sex: When I tell a guy very clearly that I won't be changing my clothing style or quit smoking for him, etc but then he still insists I should do exactly that and gets uncomfortably pushy about it. Like dude, I lay out my cards so that you can decide if you wanna stay and be cool with it, or leave and be against it. Being against…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/24 06:36 PM
1	Do women think hypergamy doesn’t exist? Yeah I think there's some truth to that women tend to be more picky, because the reproductive burden is largely on us. But I don't think it's as extreme as you suggest. A 2/10 woman might get with a 3/10 man but she's likely gonna struggle in dating a lot and may sadly likely end up childless and lonely. Once beautiful/successful women who later on lose their beauty/status are also more frequently divorced than once handsome/successful men who later on lose their beauty/status. Single women are …	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/24 06:02 PM
2	Question for women who make rules for some guys and break rules for others I set up more rules and tests for guys who have red flags, but I still want to give a chance to prove themselves that they're not toxic. So the reason I give some men more of a hard time in dating has nothing to do with with their attractiveness level, status, money, height or any such thing, unless we're talking like a homeless guy, or a man who has some serious disfigurement, as I might give them a slightly reluctant chance too, if I felt there's some kinda spark. But 99% of the time it's beca…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/24 05:19 PM
0	Perspective on autistic dating, from an autistic woman I'm also autistic and went to a school for neurodivergent people as well. I would agree with you about being rejected, seen as a sister, etc. I've often been desexualized my men, and I've been rejected quite a lot. Especially by men who were notably more attractive than me (not necessarily chad level, but like 7/10 or higher) but also by very average looking men who just didn't want me because I'm weird, unconventional, etc. However, where I'll disagree with you is your assessment of autistic me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/24 04:31 PM
2	Autistic men should accept that autism is a serious condition and people have the right to not want to date an autistic man I agree that acting entitled to dating is just shitty behaviour regardless of whatever dating struggles someone has. Someone having a commonly "undesirable" trait does not mean other people should have to change their preferences to be more inclusive of whatever. Consent matters. Not just to sex, but also to what relationships we agree to have. I say this as an autistic woman. A lot of people seem to think my autism is greatly inconvenient and annoying to put up with in a relationship, and I've …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/05/24 05:20 PM
1	Regarding the phrase ‘genetically inferior’… While I think you have some point, like there's no guarantee which of our genetics we pass down to our children, it's a little bit silly to suggest traits like height, soft/harsh facial features, etc, have nothing gendered about them. Statistically men are taller than women on average, even though the shortest men will still be shorter than the tallest women. And generally, soft, round and curvy body traits are a direct result of high estrogen and/or low testosterone, and since men on average ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/24 08:45 PM
1	The great "checklist" bait-and-switch (why most dating advice is useless) People give dating advice like that because those are things that demonstrably do increase the chances of a guy getting a girlfriend. Because in general, (I think) a majority of women are more attracted to muscle than fat/bones, more attracted to money than poverty, etc. But it's still also true that fixing these things won't guarantee the guy will get popular with the ladies. Because there can be a multitude of reasons as to why he's having trouble in the dating market. Maybe he's underestimati…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/24 03:05 PM
1	Serious talk - do women actually segregate men into 'alphafux' and 'betabux' at first glance? It sounds like you have a healthy mindset towards that. And like there are lots of people who aren't into the super domineering types of people, and who don't wanna be like that themselves either. Also it's great you're focused on your passions and goals. That's also something I tend to really like in a guy, in general. And yeah, it is something I tend to associate with betas. Because they're less focused on getting/maintaining status and making as much money as possible, which can get a little …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/24 04:09 PM
1	Serious talk - do women actually segregate men into 'alphafux' and 'betabux' at first glance? Sometimes people end up viewing the opposite sex as commodities, but I really don't think this is particularly common in real life, no. At most, I can see how using labels like "alpha" and "beta" might be helpful if it does describe a personality type and you're not being needlessly mean about it. And for me, being autistic it does help me lean a bit on labels in general because it helps me make sense of how people can be different or similar in a lot of different ways. But I don't use it as a t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/24 12:13 PM
–	Why do men push for 50/50 relationship when women find most men unattractive? I don't see how these two things are correlated? People want equality in the relationship dynamic because more and more people are realizing that there's no type of behaviour or role that's "better suited" for one sex or the other due to biology, as women are perfectly capable of earning money, being leaders, building and repairing things, etc, and men are perfectly capable of taking care of children, cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, etc. So it just makes more sense for each couple to decide fo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/24 11:13 AM
–	Why is female body hair considered controversial/political I think the hatred of female body hair has a lot of reasons, some more annoying that others imo. First off, groomong body hair and shaving in general has been a thing in human societies since as far back as the iron age (that's from when the first rudimentary razors were discovered) but what's expected to be shaved and on which gender (and class) has changed throughout history. Ancient Egyptian's shaved their heads and faces to wear wigs and fake beards and similar adornments. They also shaved t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/24 10:47 AM
1	Is it true that if she doesn’t like you, it’s just because you don’t have enough looks, money and/or status? Those things do factor in, but it can be for a gazillion different reasons any individual woman rejects you. Most of the men I've rejected was because: I didn't feel like we were compatible, he had some really annoying habit, we had clashing values and/or life goals, he didn't want kids and I do, he hated cats, he was too old, I didn't like his sense of humor, we had no interests in common, he was being rude to me, etc. The only time I can see myself reject a guy for money is if he's literally h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/24 03:32 PM
22	Women dominated spaces are heavily thought policed Yeah, I'm in one of those female dominant subs in some kinda attempt to connect a bit more with others my own sex and deal with my internalized misogyny, and for the most part I think it's just fine, civil discussions about personal experiences, giving advice to each other, etc. All that non-controversial stuff, basically. But every once in a while someone brings up a more contentious topic, and the comment section gets filled with angry feminists who are quick to blame men for just about everyt…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/24 12:46 PM
1	If women want sex as much as men, why do they consider it “being used,” make men wait, and have the ability to go without sex for extended periods of time? I can't speak for all women, but for me it's quite difficult to get pleasure from sex unless things are done in a specific way, which is just a lot easier to make happen through masturbation. And I'm not even putting it on men to "make me" have pleasure, I do all that I can to make myself have a good time, but if all the dude cares about is his own load, I don't have a chance of enjoying it. I likely also won't have the time, as it takes me on average 10-20 minutes to reach orgasm. And that is a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/24 12:19 AM
1	Are you aware that the "i don't do casual" is a problematic trend? I appreciate that!	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/24 12:54 PM
3	Are you aware that the "i don't do casual" is a problematic trend? Women have been reluctant to engage in casual sex since the dawn of time. It's mostly because of the pregnancy risk, and that's still an issue, especially considering most men in modern time don't wanna wear condoms. But there's some research to suggest that women are in general more careful and selective because if we get pregnant, we'd greatly benefit from 1) knowing who the father is, and 2) having the father stick around to help with the parenting. While men in general don't have that drive …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/24 10:09 AM
1	Saving yourself for marriage - what is your opinion? Of course I personally see nothing wrong with marrying for love. I was just saying that even marriage has been and is currently utilized for other purposes than love, and on that track, sex as well, as some would argue that it's only for reproduction. As far as I know, the idea that people should wait with having sex until married came about because back when birth control and std protection didn't exist, and neither did parental support for single mothers, it was often hugely high risk (health-…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/24 02:27 PM
3	Saving yourself for marriage - what is your opinion? You do you, I suppose. Just don't be surprised if you end up having a lot of issues in your sex life with your future spouse. Because you'll have no idea prior what you like and dislike, how your body works, etc, so there's a huge risk your sexual needs will be incompatible with your partner's. I never cared for saving myself before marriage, and I've never regretted that I didn't. Because although I made some dumb decision in my teens and 20's, I'm now at a point where I know my body really wel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/24 12:18 PM
3	How would you feel about a man using the women’s restroom and women using the men’s restroom if needed? I actually never understood all this fuss about gendered bathrooms. I consider myself a woman and was born female, but because reasons I used to think I was transgender and transitioned to be a man. I did this for a very long time up until fairly recently, and for this I'm very lost on what the social etiquette and expectations really are for people of my own sex/gender. (Coming to this sub to learn that was probably one of my worst ideas ever, but oh well.) I no longer try to be a man and don't…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/24 07:33 PM
1	Female women, how often do you have to lie about not enjoying sexual stuff? Both are quite subjective though, and a matter of opinion. What's an achievement for you may not be for another and vice versa. So I'm stating both how I felt back then and what my personal opinion is on what counts as an achievement for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/24 02:24 AM
2	Female women, how often do you have to lie about not enjoying sexual stuff? It's just a feeling. I really don't think I'm the one of us two who's overcomplicating it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/24 07:31 PM
2	Female women, how often do you have to lie about not enjoying sexual stuff? Well, it felt like an achievement to get to learn so much about sex, how to please men, learning so much about my own body and men's bodies, being able to reach orgasm in under 5 minutes (rare for women), learning how to flirt tactfully, how to be accommodating to a partner with unusual or extra sexual needs (like ED, insecurities, or whatever), learning how to orgasm without any physical stimulation, etc. The kinda stuff that's not actually automatic, and some of which even takes years to learn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/24 03:14 PM
5	Female women, how often do you have to lie about not enjoying sexual stuff? Well, maybe young, attractive, charismatic women can easily get 20 male partners. But most of my partners were poorly groomed incel types, and the hot and average ones rarely ever wanted me. I guess that says a lot more about than I'd even care to know. But I think maybe I was just too autistic, gothic and shameless. They probably figured I'd drag a certain reputation. Bit also that one time I got an exceptionally fine man on my hook, my friends joked about "how did you get such an attractive gu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/24 01:51 AM
6	Female women, how often do you have to lie about not enjoying sexual stuff? Yeah, well I took every opportunity I got and never said no to sex, because I couldn't stop myself, up until some 6-7 years ago. I guess I'm just not very attractive lol. Even though I got a lot of messages from men, very few of them wanted to actually meet up irl for sex. Most of them just wanted me to send nudes they could wank off to, or sext. Also, that I moved to a tiny island with very little night life and a small population (back in 2012) absolutely impacted how often I could get my addi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/24 11:52 PM
–	[Q4W] Could you be with a man who used to simp for, or get friend zoned by, other women? Yes I think I could be with such a guy. I've accepted partners with way worse pasts than that. I dated a former bully once, which was quite the feat considering I used to be bullied as a child. Generally, I don't judge people for their pasts, assuming that past isn't still currently greatly affecting their behaviour and thus our relationship. If anything, recovered people tend to be some of the most stable and empathetic ones, due to their experiences and all they learned from it. And then it do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/24 11:38 PM
1	Q 4 Both - How important are things like clothes and body language to your attraction? It doesn't affect it much at all for me, especially not clothing. I tend to look beyond what a guy is wearing, and focus on face and general body shape. Also that tracks because I don't think any of my exes had an even remotely similar style, and most of them had a complete lack of style. One was only wearing baggy t-shirts and joggers. Another was mostly wearing ill-fitting jeans but often nice button up shirts. The first guy was quite overwight and the second was very underweight, but like I w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/24 11:23 PM
5	Female women, how often do you have to lie about not enjoying sexual stuff? Rarely if ever. I might keep my struggles with sex addiction to myself (I'm recovering, no longer acting on impulses, take better care of myself, etc, but the urge to toss myself to reckless abandon is still there) but I've never lied about how many sex partners I've had (it's roughly 20) or what kinds of sex I generally enjoy (which is mostly vanilla stuff, aside from a few lesser kinks) or what I don't enjoy. Especially with sex partners. Because if I don't communicate my needs, likes, dislike…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/24 09:59 PM
2	Would you guys ever settle because you can't handle alone, or are you okay with being alone, and rather wait for the right one? I'm currently alone and waiting for someone I'd be actually happy with, so yeah, I already picked that option. Been through enough shitty relationships for a lifetime, I think. I want quality over quantity. And you always have to look harder for quality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/04/24 12:37 AM
1	How many People would cheat if the PERFECT Man or Women would try to get with them, i really want to figure out this dilema, and how brutal the reality is. I'm single so kinda hard to answer this, but I have been in a situation where I fell out of love with a long term partner and wanted to see other people. I told them exactly how I felt and broke up, because I realized my desire to be with other people meant I was not happy in the relationship. And that's my principle. If I want to be with someone else than a current partner, I will analyze why I feel that way, and if I conclude I'm no longer attracted to my partner or perhaps never truly was, I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/04/24 12:34 AM
2	Would you consider the following dating complaints to be valid if they came from a man? Perfectly valid, imo. People can reject people for any reasons they want. No one has an obligation to be attracted to someone else, no matter the reason. 10 years ago I was in that kinda situation, but nowadays, not so much. I get the occasional thirsty guy in my inbox, but it's barely twice a year at this point. Now it's like... I'd be happy over getting an unsolicited dickpic. At least that's ethically sourced porn. And would make me happy knowing at least someone thinks of me that way. So I p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/04/24 12:11 AM
–	Neither genders are oppressed Technically you are correct, but problem is discrimination still happens (towards both genders) which isn't being enforced, or the perpetrators aren't being punished like the law says they should. I wouldn't say that is oppression though. But I'd think sexism can be just general unfairness as well. I'm a woman and don't consider myself (or my gender in general) oppressed, because I base that on being given opportunity, not on how hard or easy it is to obtain certain things based on sex or social…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/24 02:22 PM
1	I'm single because "they're all just intimidated" Because when not yet emotionally (or otherwise) invested in another person, people tend to care more about things they maybe wouldn't otherwise. Like for ex if a spouse one day ends up disabled, a lot of people would be inclined to stick around, compared to how many people would enter a relationship with a disabled person. Not that career and disability are comparable though. Just saying that if someone feels intimidated by a career driven woman, they may not wanna date such women initially, but…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/24 01:40 PM
1	I'm single because "they're all just intimidated" I think it's different when already involved with a partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/24 07:53 AM
0	I'm single because "they're all just intimidated" I'd assume that's a woman, looking to date men. Men just seem far more likely to be intimidated by a prestigious woman who can take care of herself, than vice versa. Rarely have I ever met a woman who's intimidated by a man having a successful career. Or a lesbian intimidated by another woman with a successful career, for that matter. I'm sure it exists somewhere, but I wouldn't think it common. It might also be ever so slightly less uncommon among men who date other men, but I wouldn't know tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/24 08:30 PM
–	Would you rather be alone in the woods with a man or a bear? Yeah, that's such a weird response imo. Like that's maybe something I could have said when I was a teen and believed in some fantasy shit about the world. As an adult however, I would obviously pick the man as my company. Even though I have been unfortunate enough to be sexually assaulted by more than a handful of men throughout my life, I too would rather risk my ass (and any other body orifice) for the sake of simply making it out alive. Because none of those traumatic situations I was in were…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/24 01:14 AM
2	A Solution to the Woman making you “wait for sex” problem. This is really weird. Why would you play stupid games with your date instead of just being honest and having sex when you both feel ready for it? Maybe ask her why she wants to wait a few dates, and tell her why it bothers you? Maybe actually communicate with your potential partners? Which is the actual point of going on dates? One thing I'll say as a woman with a high body count, is that the risk with having sex on the first date is you're likely to score a dude who just wants sex and nothing e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/24 10:28 AM
1	Men age better than Women. Fact or Societal standards/expectations? I agree it's a bit of both. But in actual reality the number of good looking old women I've seen are about as rare as the number of goold looking old men I've seen. I mean like Meryl Streep and Greg Berzinsky. Most people look pretty bad when ageing past a certain point (roughly the 60's, although varies.) Biologically, men might have an advantage in terms of skin quality, but I think women have an advantage in hair quality and weight distribution. So women can still look soft and cute at a high…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/24 04:12 AM
1	How do you show your interest in a guy? I'm terribly clumsy with that tbh. Usually I'll drop a gazillion hints and just try to get to know the guy to see if he seems to like me even remotely. Then eventually if I think he might be interested back, I simply tell him that I find him attractive and would like to take things to the next level. If I just want sex I tend to be very direct about that too, but if I want something serious I tend to try to be a bit more smooth. If I'm at a party I'll ask him for a dance or buy him a drink. That…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/24 01:36 AM
0	Do you prefer liberal men versus conservative men? Do you prefer liberal women vs conservative women? I don't think I really have a preference with that, as long he's not on either extreme end of the political spectrum, can agree to disagree and can have civil in good faith discussions about his views. I'm right-leaning centrist with a mix of conservative and liberal views, so that's kinda why I tend vibe equally well (or equally badly, depending on the person) with liberals as conservatives. All in all I care more about the reasons behind a person's opinions than what exact opinions they have, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 02:10 PM
2	I believe it is harder to find acceptance for reversed gender roles as a man. I think being gender non-conforming in general is just rarer. There is a societal pressure to conform. But I think men who are gnc get treated especially badly. Whether they're submissive, want to be a stay at home dad, want a strong protective woman, or just like wearing pretty things. I haven't yet achieved my goal of becoming a strong and career driven woman, but it is a dream I have, an in that dream I'd also prefer to have a husband who takes on the more traditional feminine roles. I have h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/24 12:30 PM
0	OK, so older men are gross and younger women only want their money... why is it assumed that women their age are different, considering how out of the game many of these men were when they didn't have money? I'm in my mid 30's, and I'm far more often attracted to men in their 40's now than I was when I was 20. As I've matured, my taste in men has matured as well. And I think that's pretty standard for most women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/24 08:07 AM
1	Do you care if there's an age gap in dating? I generally prefer dating men my own age, give or take a few years, but if I really clicked with someone much older or younger (I'm 35 so I could theoretically date a 10 years younger guy without it being illegal) I wouldn't ditch him solely for his age. What concerns me about age gap relationships is him just not being on the same level of maturity as me, or us having grown up with very different standards. Also I'd be concerned about one of us dying much sooner than the other one, as ending up…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/24 04:16 PM
2	What is a deal breaker you think the opposite sex should adopt? I think men shouldn't date women with a low sex drive if they themselves want to have a lot of sex. Sex drive is kinda difficult to change, and I've seen so many men stuck in sexless relationships. I think they'd been so much happier had they dated a woman with a similar sex drive to themselves. Possibly controversial but I don't think men should date feminists. They often care less if a man becomes a crime victim, even if they don't outright hate men. You guys deserve a woman who values you and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/24 03:53 PM
1	How do women emotionally move on from relationships so quickly? I think this has more to do with the circumstances of the relationship before/when it ended, than gender. People who are broken up with tend to hurt more and for longer than the person who initiated the breakup. People who are highly emitionally invested in the relationship tend to hurt more after a breakup. People who wanted out for a longer time before the actual break up generally "get over it" faster. I'm female and also haven't had a hard time moving on from my exes, but I've also always be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/24 11:35 AM
1	Do men not care about having female friends? I have some male friends. I don't think either of them is genuinely interested in me sexually. And I say "genuinely" because of them does enter phases of sexual frustration at times, and then he does come at me with shameless suggestions. But the vibes I get from him is that he's not really attracted to me, judging by his jokes about putting a paper bag over my head lol. He's definitely smooth as sandpaper, but I appreciate his honesty. I don't take that kinda comments to heart, because I get it…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/24 12:14 AM
2	Women’s dating preferences are creating a system of vast inequality in dating Yeah I see your point. I can't relate to a lot of the other women in here tbh.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/24 12:24 AM
2	Women’s dating preferences are creating a system of vast inequality in dating Thanks, I appreciate that. No, I was born a girl. Just an autistic tomboy lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/24 01:14 PM
4	Women’s dating preferences are creating a system of vast inequality in dating Yeah I agree many women seem to have unrealistic standards which kinda hurt both themselves and the men they reject. I don't think they should force themselves to date men they aren't attracted to either, but sometimes I can't help wishing they'd get real and either lower their standards or make sure they're in the top 10 as well. Because yeah, I think people in general have the best chance at finding someone they're actually compatible with, someone who can give them something they need and who…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/24 02:57 AM
2	Why do so many gay men get along with straight women? It's rare that I meet straight women who get along super well with gay men, but it seems a fairly large amount of gay men generally prefer having straight female friends. That said I don't think there's much mystery to this. Gay men and straight women have something men and women don't typically have in common: attraction to men. So they can relate to each other on things like what it's like to date men, wanting to be attractive to men, dealing with an abusive male partner, etc. And there's also…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/24 10:24 AM
–	Women are becoming increasingly less feminine and exhibiting masculine traits that most men find unattractive, yet due to desperation and simping they have no motivation to stop Your comment had me howling, lmao. Yeah, gender roles have changed drastically since 300,000 years ago. They're even very different in different parts of the world today. What's considered feminine in for ex Syria is very different from what's considered feminine in Norway, or Brazil, or Taiwan. There are only a few things that's expected of women cross-culturally, which is usually down to biological functions like childbirth or menstruation. But even those are generally given very different soc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 06:42 PM
–	Women are becoming increasingly less feminine and exhibiting masculine traits that most men find unattractive, yet due to desperation and simping they have no motivation to stop I would think you have a point if the reason this annoys you is because said type of women also demand men to date them, or demand men to stop preferring femininity in a partner. If that's what you meant, then I'd agree, it's completely unreasonable to demand dates from people who don't like what you have to offer, and yes I see this happen a lot. Imo you either adapt to what other people want you to be like, or you only date people who genuinely like what you like being. Ie either get feminine,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 06:34 PM
–	Despite what people here will have you believe, most couples are mismatched and women typically either date men significantly more or less attractive than themselves Well, it's actually very difficult to find a partner who perfectly matches all your different aspects. Most people I've met (whether as friends, colleagues, classmates or dating prospects) match some of my traits but far from all. So if I have the option of either dating a man way less attractive than me but is of roughly the same age, socioeconomic status, similar hobbies and values, respects me, vibe with me, etc - or a man way more attractive than me but of a much different age and either a l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/24 04:17 PM
–	Women safe places on reddit are fucking bullshit and only cause a bigger divide between men and women. I've seen this a lot too, and it worries me. Although I generally tend to avoid female spaces exactly for this reason (I prefer mixed sex spaces) so ironically I haven't experienced it much. But... a few years ago I fell down into the rabbit hole of extreme radical feminism, and it didn't take me long to notice that a lot the women deep in that mindset were being irrationally hostile towards men, and towards other women as a result of their own... dare I say, unprocessed trauma and wild projecti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/24 03:26 PM
1	Women's standards are giving men body dysmorphia Yeah, I've noticed as much, but ime the gay community is even worse on that point so I feel a lot of pressure to bulk up if I wanna get any attention at all from other men. So... I kinda think that although women generally do have higher standards on men's bodies, most of the pressure to be fit probably comes from other men and rivalry, basically. Obviously that dynamic is different among straight men, as for them it's more of a competition in who gets the hottest girl or the most women, while f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/22 04:51 PM
1	men are Hornier than women Well, I think it's part of the equation (being FTM I know that testosterone is one hell of a sex drive increaser, and men typically have much higher testosterone than women do) but that another equally important part is that women are generally more picky than men are, and there is a biological reason for this. Women's part of reproduction is much more burdening than it is for men. So while men generally win on "spreading their seed" and getting as many women pregnant as possible to effectively …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/22 04:30 PM
1	What age does it start to become 'weird' to still be a virgin? When does it go from "that's cute" to a red flag to a dealbreaker? I'd say mid 20's is where I'd start to wonder if they have some kinda issue, are deeply religious, disabled, or asexual. However, I'm 33 and date older men, and virginity would not be a dealbreaker for me. I'd be honored to be guy's first, and I'd enjoy being his guide. I have a lot of experience myself, I've a high body count due to sex addiction, and I generally like giving sex/dating advice, etc, but I also prefer just being in a monogamous relationship with intimate, passionate sex. So I thi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/22 03:35 PM
1	Which Would You Pick Second one, without a doubt. I have a messy sex/love life history myself, so I think I'd be able to understand and relate a lot to a boyfriend who was like that too. I'm not afraid of infidelity. It's not something I've ever acted upon or even put much thought into, so I believe that if a partner would cheat on me, we'd be able to sort it out, unless he'd do it because he doesn't want me anymore. But even then that's a risk I'd be willing to take. In such an event, I'd also be open to having an …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/22 02:57 PM