Westwood_1 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	Is it possible to live a happy life without a girlfriend in the long term? You have an assumption that logic and conversation can be a substitute for experience What a great comment. I'm stealing this...	/r/TheRedPill	06/10/25 05:54 PM
10	Is it possible to live a happy life without a girlfriend in the long term? Happiness is internal, not external. If you believe that other people make you happy, you will rarely (if ever) find happiness. Even worse, you will be the sort of unattractive, dependent person who repels the people you wish to attract. There's nothing magical about sex, or kissing, or having a significant other. A well-lubed sex toy and some top-shelf porn will give you every physical sensation you'd get from intercourse (and perhaps more). And the same is true of emotional connections—your pa…	/r/TheRedPill	06/10/25 05:52 PM
5	The looming 2030-2040 Millennial divorce wave People famously screwed in the mud at Woodstock… Maybe it really is this ticking time bomb, but divorce rates are actually trending down right now, and many millennials are well into their 30s and even 40s…	/r/TheRedPill	24/09/25 11:46 PM
142	The looming 2030-2040 Millennial divorce wave How would this be any different than literally any other generation? Boomers cleaning up after Woodstock and then royally fucking everything up… Gen Xers partying in the 80s but settling down in time to be incensed over Bill Clinton and Ms Lewinsky’s dress… The “greatest generation” (lol) which saw boys go overseas to fight, die, and indulge in every vice imaginable while girls left the family farm for factories and all the rest the city had to offer—but after the war, they temporarily patched t…	/r/TheRedPill	24/09/25 10:33 PM
14	Never Ask A Woman To Be Your Girlfriend Yep. Very common when dating for there to be a "What are we?" conversation - people around where I grew up called it the DTR, short for "Determine the relationship." The relationships where I did not initiate the DTR always went better than the ones where I was the one to ask.	/r/TheRedPill	07/03/24 11:42 PM
3	Is it bad your (ex) wife started dating so soon? Upvoted, and I agree with almost all of this - but it's worth saying that someone who was dumped/divorced might have some room for personal improvement. Not excusing infidelity so much as pointing out that it's one of the most brutally honest measuring sticks imaginable.	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/12/23 05:41 PM
3	Is it bad your (ex) wife started dating so soon? I think a lot of this comes down to your personal philosophy (Is it "bad" or "good" or did it just happen? Should you spend time and mental effort dwelling on your ex?). I have chosen to embrace a philosophy of maximal personal responsibility - virtually anything that happens to me or in my life is my "fault" in one way or another, in that it happened because of things I did or didn't do. In my experience, people (of both sexes) usually only end relationships when they have another decent prospe…	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/12/23 05:28 PM
13	Walkaway wife I feel like the sidebar in the Red Pill is what you need. Some of the basics include diet and exercise (I bet you’ve gotten chubby or are skinny-fat); having your own purpose and mission (which often includes hobbies/passions); recognizing and handling shit-tests; etc. Go read up, try gradually working those things into your life, and then come back. The good news is that if this happened shortly after a child, there’s a solid chance this is just postpartum life that created a new normal. There’…	/r/MarriedRedPill	19/12/23 01:53 PM
59	Did my gf cheat? Who knows? Who cares? Your trust for her is gone and that’s all that matters. Someone who is committed to you wouldn’t just dip; wouldn’t ignore calls; wouldn’t stay somewhere sketchy without letting you know; would tell you specifics about who she was with and what she was doing, etc. She’s giving explanations at the level of a middle-school girl who thinks she’s clever for vaguely saying she was out with “friends.” Axe throwing? Please. We both know that’s boring AF and expensive on a per-hour…	/r/TheRedPill	03/11/23 06:05 PM
18	Cute farm girl who’s been giving IOIs finally broke up with bf. I got her #, but she's too busy to hangout. Did I move too fast, and is my analysis correct? Steph Curry will go into the NBA hall of fame as the greatest shooter of all time (so far) and he hits less than 40% of his 3s… None of us have anywhere near a 100% success rate with girls. Not even close. Shoot your shot, if the girl isn’t interested just move on (meaning don’t be friends, don’t orbit, don’t keep trying to set the perfect situation up so that she’ll be maximally likely to say yes). Cold approach is awesome, takes way more guts than most people have. Keep trying, keep working on…	/r/TheRedPill	02/11/23 01:13 AM
-4	FR: Weddings Are Fun This dumbass doesn’t realize that it’s a good thing for a man to show up to his own wedding on time and properly dressed…	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/10/23 03:03 AM
27	FR: Weddings Are Fun “Happy wife, happy life” chuckles the chubby, henpecked husband in your reception line…	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/10/23 02:57 AM
104	Why don’t you cum inside me this time? After David and Bathsheba slept together (and it became apparent that she might be pregnant), they tried the same stunt with her husband, Uriah. Uriah was no simp, and slept outside rather than going to see (and sleep with) his wife.	/r/MarriedRedPill	15/09/23 05:33 PM
3	Being asked about past relationship experience and LTRs. In a strictly pragmatic sense, the optimal answer is probably honesty - that way you filter out people who wouldn't be a good fit for who you really are. The second-best answer is the answer that your ideal partner/LTR companion would consider to be their optimal answer. And that would probably mean some sort of disclosure with a lower number that didn't work out for reasons that aren't your fault... But here's the point - if you have to lie about that, and lie so unconvincingly that you're look…	/r/TheRedPill	27/06/23 06:47 PM
14	Being asked about past relationship experience and LTRs. I've had dates/relationships ask a similar question a lot; this is one of the areas where the rubber meets the road and you're finally able to use the skills that you've been developing with the sidebar. Have fun with it! A few suggested responses: Mirroring: "Well, how many have you had?" After she responds with x number "Yeah, I've had x number too..." Agree and amplify: "Hundreds. Thousands. Well, actually not thousands, but more than a thousand." After she pushes you and gets butthurt that y…	/r/TheRedPill	27/06/23 06:39 PM
25	Can you really see yourself with a (much) younger woman? Right on—I can understand that a little bit, and it's possible that some nuances in your outlook are lost in translation (perhaps by "foreigner," you mean someone with a different native language). If that's the case, then I'd just say: Play the game if you want to play the game, don't play if you don't want to play. If you're looking for emotional connection out of one-night stands, you're going to be perpetually disappointed Realize that someone with maturity and stability is going to be that …	/r/TheRedPill	19/03/23 07:17 PM
175	Can you really see yourself with a (much) younger woman? I worked very hard to find the mature and well-adjusted woman that I eventually married—and she's grown up a lot since then. The kind of person that your wife is will largely be a factor of the expectations you have and the sort of person you are. Most people—not just women, but most people—are social chameleons. The young women you're dating are out on their own for the first time and have adopted personas that are acceptable within their social environment. Where that can come back to bite you…	/r/TheRedPill	18/03/23 11:58 PM
15	Men in their 20s and 30s: How often do you have sex with your wife? What’s the quality of that sex? I disagree. I think it's a lot less about a hypergamic floor, and a lot more about complacency. Married life requires a lot of a man, and it's easy to let things start to slip. How many married guys work out the way they did when they were single? How many married guys continue to pursue the hobbies they had that gave them passion and were so attractive when they were dating? As that 6-pack turns into a beer-belly and the fun dates with spontaneous sex turn into boring routines and a pre-bed rit…	/r/MarriedRedPill	09/01/23 11:21 PM
84	Men in their 20s and 30s: How often do you have sex with your wife? What’s the quality of that sex? Early 30s. Wife in mid 20s. Sex as often as I want, which is typically ~5 days a week. Quality of the sex is solid. She's less adventurous than I am, but follows my lead and I find that, when sex starts feeling boring or stale, it's typically because I'm not putting the effort into mixing things up and have fallen into a predictive pattern. I never ask for sex, and rarely overtly request it. Our relationship isn't perfect, but my physical needs and many of my wants are definitely met. How did it…	/r/MarriedRedPill	09/01/23 11:14 PM
1	Break Up With Your Country I think that we absolutely need to be more involved in politics - from everything from the school board through federal elected offices. There's a reason politics is a corrupt cesspool, and that reason is that good people don't put themselves out there. I'm not advocating for a violent government overthrow, and I hope it never comes to that... And after this summer, I suspect that if there is a violent movement to tear down the government it will come from the far left. Social media might be hel…	/r/TheRedPill	25/11/20 03:49 PM
3	Break Up With Your Country Right problem but wrong solution. Ronald Reagan was right when he said “If we lose freedom here, there is no place to escape to. This is the last stand on earth.” The world is too small to hide in anymore. We need to build and fix, not run—even assuming that there was anywhere to run to.	/r/TheRedPill	24/11/20 08:10 PM
1	33 Years of Marriage Wasted You seem to be operating under the assumption that the natural state of man is the ideal one. I disagree with that premise. It is a statistical certainty that children from stable, two-parent homes will outperform children raised under any other familial situation—including plenty of "village-to-raise-a-child" approaches that have been tried and failed. This advantage is so pronounced that it overcomes any other factor, including race and familial socio-economic status. In fact, a regression tow…	/r/TheRedPill	11/09/20 04:10 AM
-2	33 Years of Marriage Wasted I’ve admitted that marriage is an incredibly risky proposition from the very start. But I also not as bad as some here seem to think. It’s not the case that every person who marries will divorce, and in fact your chances are significantly better than 50/50 if you do choose to marry. That’s all I was saying	/r/TheRedPill	08/09/20 04:43 AM
11	33 Years of Marriage Wasted First marriages and marriages are not the same thing. It makes sense that people who divorce are likely to marry again (and divorce again)—and that’s what the statics show. More than half of all marriages end in divorce, but only 40% of first time marriages end that way. As I said earlier, I understand if you don’t want to build things up. It’s easier (and probably rational) to enjoy the decline. But if you want to participate in fixing society rather than playing a minor role in its hedonistic …	/r/TheRedPill	08/09/20 03:01 AM
9	33 Years of Marriage Wasted It’s definitely like playing Russian roulette. But it also is the only way to build a family while upholding traditional mores and norms. And despite what you see on here, marriage is a more durable relationship than a prolonged LTR—the majority of first time marriages still make it. I’ll also point out that many states treat prolonged cohabitation the same way they treat marriage. You’ll definitely be in the hook for child support. You’ll also have to litigate a property split. And you’ll still…	/r/TheRedPill	08/09/20 02:45 AM
43	33 Years of Marriage Wasted Yes. Almost all problems western society currently faces can be traced to the disintegration of the nuclear family. Building a family and raising children right is an honorable thing. With the way things are right now, I don’t blame anyone who decides to simply enjoy the decline. But if you want to contribute to the solution instead of being a part of the problem, marriage is probably the best way to do it.	/r/TheRedPill	08/09/20 02:13 AM
1	FR - Breaking and fixing your shit. IMO there’s a big difference between a weeklong visit and a permanent move in.	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/07/20 08:54 PM
1	FR - Breaking and fixing your shit. Good job, man. I think we’ve all been in situations where we agree to one thing and it turns into something else. Totally foreseeable in hindsight but also an understandable mistake in the heat of the moment. Credit to you for fixing this (and being willing to end things if need be). But you both know you have the cards again and that you’re the prize. By the way, I don’t know how young you are or how interested in nightlife you are, but the Knox/Henderson area of Dallas seems to be the hot scen…	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/07/20 08:15 PM
0	How To Make Money In Economic Booms And Busts You're missing the point. Now is a great time to be buying almost anything that has intrinsic value. 2008 was a great time to be buying, as well.	/r/TheRedPill	01/05/20 03:25 AM
3	should i try to get back with her? Find someone new. It’s over. Also, read the sidebar. You don’t understand RP if you’re thinking this is a test	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/02/20 12:47 AM
1	The Economist: No sex please, we’re millennials: "The portion of Americans aged 18 to 29 who claim to have had no sex for 12 months has more than doubled in a decade—to 23% last year." I wrote that for two reasons. The first is that a t-shirt is extremely casual—there are very few situations where a polo wouldn't be a better choice. So I suggested name-brand t-shirts because they at least look like a deliberate choice. A name-brand shirt communicates a much better message than the screen-printed one from your family reunion three years ago. Secondly, I suggested name brand-shirts because they often fit better and are made of higher quality fabric. I don't necessarily need logo…	/r/TheRedPill	15/05/19 05:20 AM
1	Don't expect your girl to follow your corporate bullshit Your attempt to signal your authority, credibility, and superiority by using slurs and homosexually-charged language is laughable. If I had to guess, you struggled in school, have struggled professionally, and don't get the social or professional respect you think you deserve. You also probably have difficulty communicating with others and are likely marginalized during in-person group activities—why else would you lionize someone so obviously awkward as Elon Musk and hold him up as the social g…	/r/TheRedPill	10/05/19 05:25 PM
1	The Economist: No sex please, we’re millennials: "The portion of Americans aged 18 to 29 who claim to have had no sex for 12 months has more than doubled in a decade—to 23% last year." Sounds like we’re on the same page, then. I hope things work out for you. Living in a new location can be tough, and it’s never easy to move somewhere and start over socially. Best of luck	/r/TheRedPill	08/05/19 04:58 PM
5	The Economist: No sex please, we’re millennials: "The portion of Americans aged 18 to 29 who claim to have had no sex for 12 months has more than doubled in a decade—to 23% last year." You’ve answered your own question. If you’re not socializing and putting yourself out there, you’re not going to have much success. Good social circles don’t magically appear. Date’s don’t magically appear. Even guys in the top 20% have to work for it. Remember, you’re not a woman. Women are the ones who naturally get dates just by going through their everyday lives. Women are the ones that effortlessly develop social circles (female friends and beta orbiters). As a man that is otherwise top 20%…	/r/TheRedPill	08/05/19 04:27 PM
10	The Economist: No sex please, we’re millennials: "The portion of Americans aged 18 to 29 who claim to have had no sex for 12 months has more than doubled in a decade—to 23% last year." Dress like you make money. You should rarely be seen in a t-shirt. Wear polos or button-down shirts instead. If you do wear a t-shirt, it had better be name-brand. All shirts fit differently (every brand has a different cut for the same "size"), so be prepared to spend some time trying shirts on and finding what works for your body type. Go shopping for jeans and slacks that look good and fit your entire lower body. You want something that follows the shape of your leg, fits well in the seat, an…	/r/TheRedPill	08/05/19 04:19 PM
7	The Economist: No sex please, we’re millennials: "The portion of Americans aged 18 to 29 who claim to have had no sex for 12 months has more than doubled in a decade—to 23% last year." You’re not going to have much success on dating apps—very few men I know are able to regularly get matches and dates on Tinder, etc. That said, top 20% is easier than you might think. Statistics indicate that over 70% of American men are overweight or obese. Just get your BMI into that “normal” range and you’re already top 30%. That last 10% is on you; hit the gym, develop some personality, find a few hobbies, and work on dress/grooming. 100% doable	/r/TheRedPill	08/05/19 04:06 PM
8	Behaviour is much more important for SMV than any superficial factors Generally speaking, if you’re wearing a mechanical watch you are interested in much more than accuracy. This isn’t the forum for debating the merits of mechanical vs. quartz watches, but there are reasons for preferring mechanical watches. What is undeniable, however, is that Rolex has name recognition; to the extent that accessorizing improves your social standing, a nice watch (especially a name-brand watch) can be a benefit. This is especially true in certain social circles (where what you dr…	/r/TheRedPill	25/04/19 08:16 PM
5	Behaviour is much more important for SMV than any superficial factors Rolex are actually among the better mechanical watches that the average person can buy. They’re durable, well-made, use in-house movements, and they hold their value well. There are very few other watch brands that can boast all four of those qualities. In my mind, the biggest problem that Rolex has is that they are the default “nice watch,” so they end up getting purchased by a lot of people that don’t know and appreciate the watch. In that way, they’re a victim of their own success - but the o…	/r/TheRedPill	25/04/19 07:11 PM
56	Behaviour is much more important for SMV than any superficial factors I'm into watches. And I've definitely had women notice. Most of the time, it's just a passing "Nice watch! I love the band/color of the face, etc." But when a woman knows a watch by brand, it's generally a bad sign. If a woman can identify a JLC Reverso, it's probably because she's gotten good at picking out signs of a good provider.	/r/TheRedPill	24/04/19 07:51 PM
11	The "Other" Guy I've seen women that are incredibly loyal. Fewer and fewer with each generation, though (and it's hard to tell – especially at the outset of a relationship – which are which).	/r/TheRedPill	24/06/18 03:38 AM
1	How my dad held frame and saved himself from divorce rape Nope. Varies from state to state, but it's actually fairly common for prenups to reference alimony and either 1) lock in the current alimony laws; 2) waive alimony (which courts occasionally ignore if it would create "inequity" at the time of divorce) or 3) establish an alternative alimony scheme. Additionally, prenups commonly identify what property remains individually held, what property will be jointly held, and how future assets will be held.	/r/TheRedPill	20/06/18 03:41 AM
1	How my dad held frame and saved himself from divorce rape No sweat. And good luck. It's a hard thing to be religious and start a family in this world and I wish you the best.	/r/TheRedPill	19/06/18 10:55 PM
3	How my dad held frame and saved himself from divorce rape Yes. You're still on the hook for child support, and any conditions about custody won't be enforced (since the state does what is "best for the children" on a case-by-case basis) but stipulations about property are enforced. And that includes alimony.	/r/TheRedPill	19/06/18 10:24 PM
12	How my dad held frame and saved himself from divorce rape You have to look at marriage within its societal context. In Biblical times the culture was much more masculine and marriage was more binding. A woman caught cheating on her spouse could be killed; women didn't initiate divorces, and when divorce did occur, the man kept his property. And because the church was the state, religious definitions of marriage (and the religious expectations attached to marriage) were civilly enforced to one degree or another. The word "marriage" continues to be used …	/r/TheRedPill	19/06/18 10:18 PM
1	How my dad held frame and saved himself from divorce rape This is so incredibly true	/r/TheRedPill	19/06/18 10:03 PM
60	Morality wont save you from Hypergamy Whether or not conduct is a "winning strategy" is not relevant to the question of whether the conduct is moral. In fact, the lives of the world's greatest moral teachers seem to suggest that morality leads to temporal poverty and persecution. Christ and Socrates – arguably the most influential philosophers and moralists in western society – were both killed for their teachings. One of the foundational premises of western philosophy is that pursuit of morality and "the good" isn't meant to be mat…	/r/TheRedPill	22/05/18 03:17 AM
48	AWALT example: Bluepill Gymbro tries to white-knight a single mother He stopped lifting because he stopped eating. Hence, he looks like he lost some fat – he hasn't been eating. That, combined with the emotional roller-coaster of getting dumped right on the verge of a major LTR milestone, is the reason he hasn't been at the gym. I'm not defending him, just explaining where he is emotionally. You seem to think he couldn't find anything better to do than stop lifting. In reality, he probably had difficulty doing anything (including eating and sleeping) for the last…	/r/TheRedPill	15/05/18 03:15 PM
2	I need your help TRP - I may have done something stupid. Disclaimer: This is not advice, and I'm not qualified to provide legal advice. If I was in a similar situation, I would: 1) Realize that there is no evidence that the fetus is mine, and that the evidence's cost is prohibitively expensive; 2) Recognize this for the attempted shake-down that it is; 3) Not respond to her at all	/r/TheRedPill	08/05/18 06:17 AM
3	Can you believe this fucking shit? This. He encourages his because it gets him off, Skyped into one of their sessions, and then acts indignant when the marriage goes sideways.	/r/TheRedPill	06/05/18 12:38 AM
1	Can you believe this fucking shit? A simple “wrong” would have done just fine...	/r/TheRedPill	06/05/18 12:26 AM
1	Became Vulnerable as per suggestion given by The Models and TRP Good job cutting it off, but still...	/r/TheRedPill	05/05/18 03:45 AM
2	Became Vulnerable as per suggestion given by The Models and TRP Why in the world are you posting this here? This isn’t RP.	/r/TheRedPill	05/05/18 03:19 AM
2	How OneItIs can mess up your game. Don't let it get to you. Thanks, man! Live and learn...	/r/TheRedPill	04/05/18 02:29 AM
1	How OneItIs can mess up your game. Don't let it get to you. Yeah, it’s a weird thing. But it’s definitely real.	/r/TheRedPill	02/05/18 01:45 PM
2	How OneItIs can mess up your game. Don't let it get to you. Thanks, man. Appreciate it.	/r/TheRedPill	02/05/18 01:42 PM
54	How OneItIs can mess up your game. Don't let it get to you. I went years before feeling it. Then I got hit with oneitis like a ton of bricks. Somewhere, in the back of almost everyone's mind, is this conception of what the perfect woman is like. When you meet someone who checks all your boxes and seems perfect – and, even better, initially likes you more than you like her – it's an incredible feeling. Everything "clicks;" everything you do with them is fun, no matter what you're doing; you literally couldn't imagine a more perfect person with whom to for…	/r/TheRedPill	02/05/18 02:45 AM
1	Prom Afterthought Feedback My guess as to why she acted the way she acted: You went as friends. She didn’t want to give you the idea that she was into you, so she went overboard communicating that she isn’t into you. She intentionally sat with her friends, intentionally didn’t get dinner with you, and intentionally didn’t dance with you. She might “like” you as a friend, but she doesn’t like you. With all her friends there, she was probably extra cautious about giving any signals that she was into you. Now you get to deci…	/r/TheRedPill	29/04/18 03:14 AM
7	The truth about quality women who complain about being single and "can't find a decent guy." A modern-day prophet. Weird	/r/TheRedPill	25/04/18 03:27 PM
3	The truth about quality women who complain about being single and "can't find a decent guy." Fascinating stuff. Can you remember the guy’s name? I’d be interested in reading up on his work	/r/TheRedPill	25/04/18 03:23 PM
43	What our fathers can teach us, and what they can't. It's undeniable that women behave differently now than they did 50 and 70 years ago. But I also think that men act differently, too. There's no way that your grandfather was both a WWII Navy Pilot, and a whipped, placating husband. There's no way that your dad (a guy who was so manly that he took on the responsibility of a family at 18) put up with the henpicking that people take for granted today. The women were different, sure. But so were the men. That's the point of TRP. We're here because w…	/r/TheRedPill	24/04/18 08:22 PM
603	I white-knighted and paid the price... Never be the white knight. I’m sure she appreciated you sticking up for her. Seriously. But you’re a random guy, and Cunt is her “friend.” You embarrassed Cunt and potentially started something by calling Cunt out, so Sara had to patch things over as soon as you left. Sara knows her place in that social hierarchy, and needed to assure Cunt that things weren’t going to change because of what you said. So yeah, you did something nice. And predictably, you made yourself the foil for the tension within that “friendship.”	/r/TheRedPill	22/03/18 05:31 PM
–	On Marriage Ultimatums Would you consider a marriage with a pre-nup? I'm a pretty conservative guy and I like the ideals that marriage traditionally represented - even if it was rarely that way in practice (I want the kids, I like the idea of a lifelong relationship/growing old with my best friend). Marriage seems one-sided, but perhaps a contract could even some of that out?	/r/TheRedPill	09/07/17 04:30 AM