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DISCUSSIONWhatIsThisAccountFor/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 03:30 PM
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Feminism should be on the side of unable women as well, but I think that’s more of a disability rights issue than it is a feminist issue
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/26 10:38 PM
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If at 3 months in you still want to get to know other people then you shouldn’t be with that person. That conversation should have been a breakup Choose guy 2
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/26 10:40 PM
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Why are you dating a second person after dating the first for 5 months? 5 months into dating you’re just cheating at that point aren’t you?
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/26 10:24 PM
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Men don’t like the super dramatic makeup. Men like the subtler “natural” makeup. Dark lip colors, heavy eye shadow etc. men don’t usually like very much. If you ask a man who claims he doesn’t like makeup to point out a woman he thinks is beautiful, most of them are going to say something like Emma Watson (who clearly wears a lot of makeup), because they don’t know what makeup actually looks like unless it’s the super dramatic kind of
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/26 10:44 PM
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Sometimes relationships can work after a break from each other. With that being said… when did you two start dating? You’re 21 years old with a 17 year age gap. Were you legal when your relationship began? He might be a creep
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/26 04:39 AM
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So he is 44 with no savings or independence from his mother dating a woman 15 years younger than him? Sounds like Peter Pan syndrome to me. He is looking for a woman to replace his mother in his life. That woman could be you if you stick around!!
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/26 06:44 PM
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If a man can’t figure that out through general conversation then he’s either emotionally unintelligent or gets off on trying to put women down.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/25 12:02 AM
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is this my best bet at a good life? Does this sound like a good life to you…? Like what about this life would be good? Are you so desperate not to go to school and get a job that you’d give up your freedom, youth, and future children to a man 25 years older than you who won’t even stay faithful? If this isn’t rage bait… cmon girl. Like be real with yourself. You are being an absolute moron right now
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 06:53 AM
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communicate in a way you think he will understand best. Explain to him on terms he is familiar with how much labor you are performing. Outside of that, unfortunately I'd say there is nothing else you can do. It's really up to him now, he's already gotten you in a position where you have no negotiating power, it also sounds like this is the version of a relationship that he prefers. The unfortunate truth is that if he doesn't listen to you, you should have simply married another man.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/25 07:15 AM
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The reasonable expectations are the expectations you two agree to as a couple. I know couples where the father does most of the child rearing, I know couples where the mother does. It’s something you honestly should have discussed prior to having children. It sounds like he’s gotten his wish and trapped you into a situation where you have no negotiating power. All you can at this point do is plea what you can and pray he listens to you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/25 04:33 AM
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You like this man on paper, but do you like him as a person? Like outside of his accomplishments and achievements, outside of his looks and wealth, are you happy to lay in bed with this man at night? Do you enjoy speaking to him? Do you admire his mind? Is he attentive to your thoughts and does he value your opinions? To me it sounds like you’re dating a man who wants a wife that he can show off, more than he wants a woman to build a life with.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/25 08:21 PM
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So it sounds like you broke up with him for very valid reasons. Are you confident that he’s done anything to fix any of the things that caused issues in your relationship? I don’t see how this works out long term. It seems like you have pretty fundamental relationship dealbreakers. You think he’s a bigot, you don’t like that he owns guns, and he had a small penis which you cannot use to satisfy yourself. It also sounds like he doesn’t put in work to satisfy you either. So what are you hoping cha…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/25 04:32 AM
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or they use traditional values to be edgy a holes This doesn’t go away in adulthood. Most men who want you to be financially dependent on them are going to expect you to earn your keep as a housewife. How that comes depends on the man, but don’t believe that you’ll be getting pampered for free. There is always a price, whether it’s sexual, or labor oriented there will always be a price.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/25 07:05 AM
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The games are working on you. Don’t trust a man who flaunts his wealth in your face, they’re never going to be good people
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/25 07:00 AM
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He showed you his bank accounts and investments on your first date?
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/25 06:59 AM
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Probably not to men like you if you have to ask this question lol
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/25 08:18 PM
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That’s why you date, to figure out things like this.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/25 11:03 PM
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text the man you want in the way you would want to communicate during a relationship. If you like constant texting, text often. If you don't, don't text often. If the man you want doesn’t like that you probably just aren’t compatible communication wise.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/25 07:49 AM
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People who treat other people cruelly without reason aren’t kind people at heart. It’s worth calling her out, but if she can’t humanize the people she’s doing this to, ultimately the words will fall on deaf ears
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/25 11:34 PM
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Marriage, putting your name on the deed of a house, common law marriage. Yeah, pretty much marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 07:15 PM
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Most men who want you to stop working, only want that in order to control you. Don’t stop working until you have something that will legally cover you in the event of him leaving.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 04:01 PM
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You’re right, not every man can. If you want to bet on that be my guest. Ya you can be a secret gf if you want. Why not just be a sugar baby in that case though?
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/25 03:06 PM
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Read the last paragraph of my comment. Men can tell when a woman is a gold digger and will treat her like one. Dating around with a bunch of men will get you a negative reputation. They’ll treat you badly after you gain that reputation. There are nicknames for girls like these. “Communal gf”, “homie hopper”, or just “bop”.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/25 05:50 PM
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Regardless of whether you believe the “spread his seed” stuff, humans aren’t animals. We have culture and society. Most men don’t want to be cheaters. And how many times do those rich men abandon those model wives for younger women? If that’s what you’re looking for, there are plenty of sugar baby subs/apps to choose from.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/25 09:31 AM
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The goal is to find a man you want to be with who loves you and cares for you and provides for you. When you factor in actual human nature it’s extremely unlikely you’ll find that by using men to get to “better” men. If the genuine only thing you care about is money then this works. If you care about loyalty, respect, and affection, it doesn’t. Despite what the internet will have you believe, men are just about as perceptive as women are. They’ll clock you for a gold digger pretty quickly, and t…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/25 09:13 AM
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because he is loyal, and provides, and loves me But does he like you? Is he nice to you? Does he care about your feelings? Does he listen to you? Does he care about your opinions? Does he care about your sexual satisfaction? Spaces like ours tend to really over value the on paper traits of men and women, and overlook the actual values that foster and cultivate love and connection. It sounds like your man makes good money, and decided to commit to you. It doesn’t sound like he cares about your fe…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/25 10:33 PM
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Communicate that you’re looking for a serious relationship early. If it scares the men off, good. They weren’t looking for the same thing you were anyway. They won’t waste your time
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/25 09:43 PM
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The unfortunate reality about young female influencers is a lot of them are high end escorts. Hard to have a relationship when you’re selling sex. “Brand deals” aren’t paying 21 year old girls with 200k on tiktok enough to live in nice NY/LA apartments and travel overseas 4 months out of the year. It’s rich men flying them out and paying them thousands for sex.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/25 10:56 PM
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encourage women to pick winners. Don’t build with men because builders can leave you in the dust for a younger Stacy Ok, so this is more of the Shera mindset than it is the life partner mindset. Yes if your relationship is based entirely on looks, your man is going to leave you when a better looking woman comes around. The point of this sub is to find a man that won’t leave you. If your relationship view is this narrow then you should only be dating men 10+ years older than you who aren’t very g…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/25 01:03 PM
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Dont do this. Your man should trust you, if he doesn’t then he needs to learn to because there’s no reason at all you should be forced to sit around at home instead of earn 100k extra of disposable income. Like if you worked and put 50% of your earnings into a retirement fund you and him could retire within the next 10-15 years, instead of waiting til you’re like 65-70. It’s just an objectively bad decision from your husband. Does he have a reason not to trust you?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/25 09:35 PM
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You’re just older now. You’ve outgrown the target demographic so the media campaigns don’t resonate with you anymore. Celebrities are not becoming less popular at all. Trump just got elected president and Elon has a cult following along with an actual government position. Taylor Swift just finished the most profitable tour in world history. Baseball players are getting 500m+ contracts, LeBron is a billionaire. If anything celebrities are only becoming more powerful and politically relevant than …
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/24 01:30 PM
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He clearly doesn’t like you that much if he stopped talking to you
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/24 09:10 PM
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You sound like a sugar baby or prostitute. Considering $300 a “small gift” and asking outright for $100 is so desperate. Men will avoid you like the plague, and men who don’t will have 3 or 4 of you on rotation.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/24 09:08 PM
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You exist for the purpose that you decide matters to you at the time! Don’t let someone else decide your reason for existence. Life is about making the best of what you can. Not everyone is lucky or privileged to start off with good note, but I believe if you try hard to be good and work for what you want you can be happy.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 04:12 PM
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I think most men who love their woman would go pick them up. Unless you were like an hour or more away that is
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/24 09:04 PM
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Now to add to the title; whenever i’m getting to know a guy that i find physically attractive, I never show my true personality. I consider myself as a weird person so what i always do is never initiate a conversation, never talk about myself (unless they ask me because i’m instantly wired to think that they wouldn’t care about my hobbies or personal life anyway) and i just sit there all smiley hoping that they’ll continuously lead the conversation. I don’t even ask them about their life because…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 08:27 PM
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You can be in a relationship without being beautiful. I think being beautiful before getting into a relationship means your partner will expect you to retain at least a baseline level of beauty indefinitely. Being beautiful gives you a TON of options, which means you’re more likely to get “better” partners, but being ugly does not cut options off from you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/24 12:50 AM
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but I feel insecure about being in a committed relationship at 24 when none of my friends are and everyone seems to be partying it up in NYC I think you need to decide what you want. You’re posting in a sub where dating around for fun isn’t really the norm, so I’m a little confused on what you’re weighing with these options. Do you want to hook up with multiple men? Are you not that attracted to your man? Like I don’t really understand the idea around needing to be single so you can party unless…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/24 07:20 PM
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How often do you two see each other? A couple of things in here make me think you aren’t seeing each other that often. when I surface sensitive topics he won’t answer immediately and claims to need time to think or want to talk in person How long would it be until you see him in person to talk? Do you see him like 1 day a week? 2 days a month? 3 times a week? It can feel like avoiding if you only see him once every 14 days or so. he only calls me for 5 minutes or so then says he has to go Again,…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/24 06:41 PM
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You started dating this man 3 months ago and you already need a break? That’s such an insanely bad sign for the success of this relationship. 3 months in you should feel excited and happy, not tired and like you need a break
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/24 09:03 AM
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Go to places where you would expect to find older guys. Gym, bars, sporting events, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/24 07:44 PM
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This is a lie men say when there is something else wrong about you that they don’t want to say outloud. It can be a bunch of reasons, but here are some of the common ones: 1) he’s just not that attracted to you. Men have different required levels of attraction for women they would have sex with and women they would date. You’re attractive enough for sex, but not attractive enough to date 2) there is something about you they don’t like, but know you wouldn’t/couldn’t fix it for them if they broug…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/24 03:00 PM
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Fertility rates are not lower, contraception rates are higher. People can have kids at the same rate we always have been able to, now we just are able to prevent it easier and many people don’t want to under the current socioeconomic landscape.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/24 05:03 AM
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Women in the 50’s, and even the 80’s-90’s needed men because they couldn’t really advance enough in the workforce to support themselves. Women today have the same righta men do and can earn the same money men do, so there is no “need” for men anymore. The problem is that women’s desires and expectations of what a man is supposed to be have not changed very much. Women still believe their man should make more money than them, make decisions for them, plan all dates, pay for everything, propose, l…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 02:05 PM
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It sounds like you like the attention but don’t want to date a 20 year old. That makes perfect sense and is fine. I think unless you prefer the idea of your life with them in it compared to a life without them in it, you should probably avoid a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/24 06:26 PM
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SMV exists as much as any other concept does. SMV can be replaced with "attractiveness" in most cases, and you'll have the same conversation. In my experience "SMV-Theory" is generally used by uneducated, blue-collar guys to try to convince blue-collar women that they should be financially dependent on them... Or for more accomplished men to justify dating much younger women So the thing about this is: the spaces where you see men using terms like "SMV" are generally going to be very redpill ant…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 05:47 PM
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People don’t talk about the positive things their partner did after a breakup in most cases. They’ll usually only mention the negative things the breakup partner did and the positive things the person you’re talking to did. If a woman was loyal and faithful, why would the person mention that after a breakup? They would only mention it if the person cheated in my opinion
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/24 03:28 PM
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Well if you’re in that class then you should know where your peers spend their time. Where do your parents’ friends’ children hang out? Go there.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 01:20 AM
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The thing about “not having a problem with 2 either”, it’s not about whether you have a problem with it, it’s about whether the men do. Men who are born into wealth are not usually willing to date women who don’t also come from wealth. There is a level of classism among men as well, until they age out of the player age range. But even then, if they manage to age into their mid 30’s and remain single, they’re still either looking for their peers, or significantly younger women. I know men who wer…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 01:16 AM
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Men who earn this much are either from very wealthy families, or older. I’m assuming you’re in your early-mid 20’s. If you want a self made man making as much as you’re alluding to, you probably need to date men in their mid 30’s at the minimum. Men in their mid-late 20’s, even if they’re making 200k+ aren’t going to be rich. They simply won’t have worked enough time to accumulate the wealth that a man in his mid-late 30’s had. Most women who are in relationships with high earning men are in one…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 12:36 AM
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You won’t make long term friends living somewhere for 6 months at 28. Maybe at like 18-23ish, but not 28.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/24 12:52 AM
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By this sub’s standards I think most would say no. But in real life, I think it’s a good idea if you’re financially secure and mentally prepared. Have you considered coupling up with a man who earns less than you? Sounds like you could be the breadwinner thru pregnancy and if you did that you wouldn’t have to go thru things alone. Also, your current man said he doesn’t want more kids. Does that mean he doesn’t want any more biological kids or that he doesn’t want to raise any more kids? Because …
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/24 06:09 PM
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I think the best way would be to discuss cultural background and family pretty early on. It seems like your cultural background is really important to you, since it’s not your race and not something you’re willing to abandon. I would go after exclusively men from a similar background.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 10:11 PM
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Your last two partners have had signficant issues with your culture/race. That is a pure failure on you for choosing to be with someone who can’t respect of value you as a person. You should not be with people who show contempt or reluctantcy toward who you are either racially or culturally. Are you a minority dating white men?
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 08:28 PM
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No lol. No man will turn down a woman for being too perfect. If they say that they’re lying. “Too perfect” could be code for boring. Like you always try to say the right thing, or you’re not sexual enough or something.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/24 12:43 AM
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This is not a domestic abuse situation. You grabbed his hand and he slapped yours away. You started this situation by grabbing him and trying to forcibly stop him from doing something. If anything you would be the aggressor in this situation. Should he have pulled his away or pushed yours away instead? Ya, but he was just in a motorcycle accident and is probably in a lot of pain. You said it didn’t even hurt. Like he didn’t hit you, this isn’t “he hit me”. There was no violence behind this actio…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/24 03:36 PM
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every time I go and check the comments, I see men commenting “you’re expired”. That’s your algorithm, you gotta stop interacting with that kind of content. no bro you’re just into minors Liking women between 18-25 is in the most literal sense not being into minors. I get people love to throw around words like pedo, but unless they’re with women below 18 they’re in the most literal sense not pedophiles. And no, women don’t expire at 25. Studies say that most women are most attractive between 21-2…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 06:45 PM
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You didn’t do anything wrong, he just is not a good man. The only thing you did wrong was putting your trust in someone who was not worthy of it. The most important part of this sub and dating in general is making sure you choose the best person for you. If you’re not ok with the way he’s treating you he just isn’t the best person for you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 04:48 AM
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Your man is emotionally and financially abusing you. I am almost without question sure that your name is not on that property deed. If you want to stay with him then that’s your choice.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 02:27 AM
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Lol wtf is this rage bait. Such an obvious troll
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/24 01:23 PM
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Haha I am male. Sorry if that breaks your rules. Don’t worry I am in a committed relationship. I won’t be DM’ing you or anything. I think just try again with him. Communicate your issues and tell him how it hurts you when he calls you bad names. Long distance relationships don’t work very well unless there is a pretty good plan to end the long distance part though. So try to get that done
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 09:00 PM
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Your relationship is long distance. Do you two see each other? How old are you both? It sounds like he’s very immature. I don’t know what the “being mean” means really. Is he saying you’re a bad girlfriend, or does he call you bad names like bitch or slut or something?
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 08:29 PM
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You shouldn’t submit to a man that doesn’t respect you. You should choose a man that listens to you and respects who you are as a person. If that’s not your man, you have failed the first step of your relationship, and you need to do an entire relationship makeover to feel good about being submissive.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 06:05 PM
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You should try again with your ex it sounds like. Yes true love is real. This sub boils it down to a more formulaic way of viewing love, but at the core of every relationship there has to be love or else the relationship will not be a good one.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 05:55 PM
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22-26 […] good career (not interested in men who work 9-5 but work their own hours and therefore in more control of their lives) Yes. You’re looking for a man without a job that makes a lot of money below 26. You’re not looking for a man with a “good career”, you’re looking for a man with rich parents (trust fund baby). People who own successful businesses work longer hours than 9-5 workers. You’re describing a “career” that doesn’t exist. my preference stems from my father who I admire and resp…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/24 04:02 PM
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Men around that age are probably looking to get married, so don’t date younger. Probably aim for early-mid 30’s men. Focus on being the best version of yourself. I know a lot of the time in this sub people focus on cooking and cleaning, but I would say it’s just as important to have some kind of hobby or passion to be a HVW. If you like chess, or hiking, or Pilates, or video games, or anything, it makes you 10x more interesting to men. I think a lot of especially high value men like to know that…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/24 07:41 PM
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Your man is using your belief in red pill ideology to manipulate you into being subservient to him and grateful that he allows you to share his presence. Your man is cruel, unkind, and has disdain toward you. If you like that in a man, stick around! You asked him to stop calling you a bitch and he told you to stop behaving like one lol. That is not a compassionate, kind or caring person. That is someone who hates you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/24 02:57 AM
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Ah I see what you mean now. Well for that to be the case we have to assume this woman’s man is an invisible man. I guess I am lucky because I am tall and played sports so I didn’t have much of an invisible phase. If her man is either tall or good looking then odds are he is not invisible. If he comes from a middle class (or better) family and has friends he probably isn’t invisible either. I think the man you are describing is the man most would consider incel. The man who is a overweight, not v…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/24 03:58 PM
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Then there is no point for women to attach themselves to a man. All people know success breeds further success. As a man becomes successful and starts accumulating wealth, then he will only become more attractive up until his mid-late 50’s if he takes care of his body. Women in their late teens and 20’s will always be eventually replaced if this is how you think, because they will either age out, or someone hotter and younger will age in. If you’re 35 making 120k with 500k NW, dating a 23 year o…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/24 03:38 PM
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never date a man during his building phase Lol that is some of the worst advice I’ve ever heard. Men value women more who stick with them when they aren’t a catch than they do women who like them when they are. If the way you look at men in general is through stats on paper, then ya she’s right. Once he gets more successful he can trade you in for an upgrade! But if that’s how you view men and relationships in general, then you will always be an object, and replacement is inevitable with age. Me…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/24 03:11 PM
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I have to say that u am a generally unsatisfied person This is a you problem then. You need to work on this. Your partner can’t fix this for you by abstaining from sex. This is YOU being unsatisfied with your life in general, and it doesn’t sound like it’s because of your fiancé. This entire post is riddled with contradictions and a whole lot of nothing in terms of reasoning. You need to decide for yourself why you even want anything you’re suggesting. Are you just bored? Because if you’re just …
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/24 07:54 PM
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This post seems a little fake to me imo. Like you’re working 8-5, doing all the housework, and cooking, paying for his grad school, and he’s upset cause you’ve gained enough weight to seemingly go from around a size 0 to a size 4ish? You say you’re still wearing size small clothes lol. And you’re married and able to fully support this ungrateful mooch at 22? And you posted exclusively in subreddits to try to bait out a response that would be more likely to side wit him than you I just don’t beli…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/24 11:43 PM
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I think men should plan the first dates usually, but in an LTR it should depend who has more specific preferences. No one likes to plan a date then have their partner complain about everything along the way, makes people never want to play a date again.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/24 05:45 PM
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I would suggest that he gets you a hotel and flight. I think if you’re traveling to meet him for the first time and staying at his house then that’s a little much. All these people saying he should travel first.. I mean ya ideally sure, but he’s significantly older than you, and has offered to pay for your travel. It sounds like he has a job where he can’t just leave whenever he wants. If you have a more flexible life, should you not be the one traveling?
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/24 05:41 PM
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He won’t be able to cancel any bookings he pays for if the booking is in her name regardless. This request would cause a lot of unnecessary distrust that you don’t want to start a relationship on.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/24 05:38 PM
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I see a lot of discourse in this sub and online in general about how modern 50/50 marriages are harmful They aren’t. This sub is a preference, not an absolute truth. If a 50/50 marriage works for you, then that’s fine! The modern world makes having a breadwinner/sah spouse dynamic very difficult. Realistically the man would need to earn upwards of 150k in most states to make this a comfortable arrangement when children are included. You’re describing your marriage and it seems like you’re enjoyi…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/24 05:34 PM
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I think it’s hard to come to terms with the idea that not everyone is going to love you, or even be able to fall in love with you. That’s what makes love special, you can’t just love anyone, you can only love certain people. So when you find one of the people who you can build love with, it makes it that much more special. Your love is meant to be built with another man, and that’s ok!
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 08:50 PM
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These details don’t add anything she didn’t address. You weren’t played, you just dated a man that didn’t like you that much for a very brief time. Not everyone is going to like you. Maybe you’re very pretty and men don’t normally turn your down or something, but this is a normal thing in dating that not everyone wants to be with you. Some people simply won’t like you that much.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 04:16 PM
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the general consensus is that yes, it’s definitely a red flag A modern day American man is extremely likely to consume porn in some capacity. Saying that this is a red flag, means you’re ruling out probably upwards of 75% of all men. I come back and feel gross and not very attractive to him Everyone is allowed to feel however they want to about anything, but I think you feeling insecure because you don’t look like a porn star is more of a reflection of your personal insecurity than it is of his …
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/24 08:56 PM
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Most of being good in bed as a woman is just giving good bj’s. Listen to podcasts or watch a YT video and you’ll be fine. Other than that most of actual sex is the on the man unless you like to be on top. How loud or quiet you should be is dependent on the specific man you’re with. Sex is about pleasing the person you’re with, not as much about a standard blueprint of how to act. Ask your man what he likes, and if you’re comfortable with it, do that. And give good bj’s, that’s p much it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 08:54 PM
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Saying you want to be submissive and saying you want him to be a leader are two different things. You can be submissive without him telling you what to do. If you want him to make decisions for you, that’s a different conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/24 06:42 PM
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My mom is taller than my dad. They’ve been married nearly 40 years. She is a stay at home wife and has been since I was little. It can work, no one can decide for you whether it works for you or not tho.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/24 05:45 PM
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I know it’s an unfortunate truth, but you not being allowed to date and leaving your options for ever seeing each other to places close to your university probsbly has him feeling like “we’ve been doing this for 1.5 years. Why?” I know I wouldn’t be ok with being my girlfriend’s secret boyfriend for 1.5 years lol. That’s probably embarrasing to tell his friends.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/24 10:32 PM
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Some men only want women who fit into their lives exactly as they envision them to. I believe as men get older they only become more entrenched in that ideal. Sometimes if you can’t get yourself to fit in his life as he wants you to, he won’t make changes to make things easier for you. Some men just expect women to accomodate them and never the inverse. It’s possible he may be that kind of man. But then again, I only know from this post anything about your relationship. He could be amazing in ot…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/24 12:57 AM
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Oh wow, ya that is very different! So he could fix his financial situation by retiring and getting a new job couldnt he? Or is it that if he starts a new job he gets less retirement? His financial situation sounds extremely fixable. I am a person that only works to make money though, not for pleasure or passion so it is hard for me to understand people like this. I understand that people who work for passion and people like me just will fundamentally disagree on a lot of things because of this. …
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/24 10:36 PM
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he could be retired but he loves what he does . concerns: his financial situation These two things are directly conflicting statements. He can’t be retired if he’s worried about his financial situation. For both of those to be true is an impossibility. expressing that my love language is gifts and thoughtful stuff Ok this might be controversial, but I very intently believe that “receiving gifts” is a not love language. You’re saying you express love by other people buying you things? So your lov…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/24 07:15 PM
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Oh well that could change my opinion! But you post says: whomever shows up at the right time and place
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 06:07 PM
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You sound extremely entitled and spoiled saying this. I hope you realize this is a really bad way to think about your partner lol
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 05:18 PM
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No. OP said men will marry when they’re ready. I said men will not get married when they are not ready. But like who doesn’t marry when they’re ready? That’s a stupid statement in general, because it’s not like women get married before they’re ready lol. Most people don’t do things before they’re ready. She is saying a man will just marry whatever is around when he is ready, which so the dumbing down part. I don’t agree with that.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 01:15 PM
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he doesn’t really spoil me. He pays for dates and gets me flowers sometimes and gets me food here and there and some gifts here and there but I pay all my bills What do you consider “spoiling”?? It sounds like he spoils you. Why are you acting like this is nothing??
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 01:10 PM
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I think this dumbs down the idea of men in general to think this way. For a man marriage is not the same thing it is for a woman. For a woman marriage is mostly security, for a man marriage is mostly responsibility. I think there are many factors that go into whether a man would marry a woman or not beyond just whether they’re “ready”. But I do agree that a man will not marry a woman if he is not ready.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 11:55 AM
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the men I was very strongly attracted to ended up being unreliable idiot duds This is a self sabotaging thing people do, it’s not a coincidence. You aren’t attracted to men who happen to be unrealible duds, you are attracted to specifically unreliable duds because they are unavailable and “safe” in terms of you not getting hurt. If the guy sucked to begin with, no harm when he leaves! You need to do some internal work to fix this.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 03:39 AM
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Do whatever works best for your relationship. If you and your husband both make good money, going 50/50 on living expenses isn’t a bad thing. It’s whatever you and your man want your relationship to be
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/24 10:27 PM
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So what I am getting from this post: You want a faithful man. Yes ok, pretty standard request. You want a Christian man. This seems pretty non-negotiable for you, right? Are you in a church? That would be my very first suggestion. And if you already are in one, try to find a new one with more people around your age. Most medium to large sized churches I have seen have a pseudo dating scene in the “young adults” events. You want a conservative man? I am getting that you are turned off by non-cons…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 06:55 AM
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What a guy follows on social media doesn’t mean much about what he wants in real life. Men are naturally going to gravitate toward bikini pic posting if model type women in terms of social media. They will stop once they realize it hurts their chances with women or their woman. Social media isn’t really a “social” thing for men, but for women it’s often an expression of their social life. For men it’s just entertainment.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 03:03 AM
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All men like things slightly different. If he wants better bj’s he needs to tell you how to give him better bj’s. Ask him what he likes, and if he can’t tell you then tell him that until he can, he shouldn’t complain.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/24 02:28 AM
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Teaching work ethic, honestly, respect, and discipline.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 03:37 AM
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I think this is a result of you being into bdsm. All the bdsm content I see is based on men being very imposing, large, almost dangerous people. You have probably internalized that to view men into bdsm exclusively as large imposing dangerous men, rather than kind, caring, affectionate men. Kind men can be dominating, but I think to enjoy bdsm on the level you prefer, the man probsbly needs to have a little bit of sadism in him, which kind men likely won’t have.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/24 09:41 PM
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“Fly to see me”. So he isn’t local? You never have to accidentally run into him? Just stop answering him. Sounds like you don’t even know him and don’t really want to
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/24 09:02 PM
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Good thing he did this 3 months in instead of dragging it on
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/24 04:06 AM
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By taking care of yourself in a way that makes you proud of your looks and body. Exercise. Eat healthy, do skin care and hair care, spend time in the sun (but not too much direct sunlight), participate in activities that involve using your body.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 09:29 PM
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I’m not entirely sure what you’re asking. Are you asking if you want a relationship? Also when you’re say you’re “not settling”, what are you referring to? Like are you not settling because the guys around you are degrading and objectifying you, or are you not settling because the guys are 5’10 instead of 6ft? Like you SHOULD settle on some things, and if you’re still single after all this time then you need to settle most likely. Your standards probably aren’t realistic. Let’s look at standards…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 11:38 PM
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The number one way doesn’t mean the majority of people are finding relationships. It just means that’s where the most people do.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 12:21 AM
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Exactly. All men with functioning brains know how damaging it can be to negatively talk about their woman’s weight. Of course he’s going to be supportive and loving regardless, she’s his wife.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/24 09:50 PM
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Oh you’re a med school student. Saying you’re graduating from “university” makes me think you’re either Canadian or european. I hear dating is different over there, but for the most part it’s the same everywhere. Dress in clothes that flatter your body type, wear makeup that has the “makeup no makeup” look, and try to be in places where the men you would want to be with would go to (gym, Park, Famer’s market etc.)
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 10:42 PM
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There is no information about your here. Are you very socially awkward? Do you leave your house? Are you employed? Do you have friends? Are you ugly or fat? Like could be many things
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 09:50 PM
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I agree that there is more focus on the negative when it comes to black people in popular media/news. We have to remember that the news in the US is controlled by like 3 total companies, and those companies are all family owned and passed down for generations. Segregation was only legislated against 60 years ago, and people are living longer than ever. These people who own these major firms very likely had racist upbringings, if they aren’t just 80 year old white men themselves with racist belie…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/24 08:14 AM
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Oh you’re talking about pop culture figureheads? In terms of single parents, I would say most famous people (especially music/acting industry people) have children without being married. If you want to look for family oriented role models you shouldn’t be looking at rappers and athletes. But you specifically referenced Cardi B, and is she not married to her children’s father? I mean I don’t like Cardi and I don’t think she’s a good role model, but she is married to her children’s father is she n…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 10:28 PM
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I’m not really sure what you’re asking here. Is this race baiting? Statistics on a group of people don’t represent you individually. Anyone who believes that is prejudice at the minimum and racist at the maximum.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 03:19 PM
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Hmmm… are you in a more southern state? Maybe this is a bigger issue in more conservative cultures. I am in a 50/50 conservative/liberal area and my friends aren’t heavy on either side so maybe if you’re dating conservative self proclaimed alpha male types they get insecure when women make more.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 12:32 AM
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How old are you and how old are the men you’re dating? I know every man in my circle would consider this a positive unless the woman couldn’t talk about anything else.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 11:45 PM
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Don’t look so deeply into it. Holding hands makes them feel good, and it’s a terribly innocent thing to do lol. Worrying about what is and isn’t cringe is going to take a lot of joy out of your life. Don’t worry about others’ perception of what you do, just do what you like to do (unless it hurts other people of course).
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 07:37 AM
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I think it’s more the other way around. Most women won’t actively choose to be with men that earn significantly less than they do. Your situation sounds like your career is a large part of your personality. Do you tell men how much money you make on dates?
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 02:25 AM
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You are 29 and you “find intimacy kind of cringe”. It sounds like you’re a combination of chronically online, emotionally immature, and unrealistic in terms of what you expect from men (or people in general). Your man should be someone you like to spend time with just as much as they are someone who meets the checklist of positive traits. You are clearly the problem. Maybe therapy will help.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 04:07 AM
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He meant they’re not married yet lol. That’s not a red flag it’s just telling the truth.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/24 03:15 AM
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Read the second long paragraph to yourself out loud again. You are criticizing everything about him as a whole, then by the end you’re saying you’re back to being made for each other. You don’t like this man. You may love him, but someone that likes their partner wouldn’t have this laundry list of negative very important traits of the person they’re with. The way you change is you need to like your partner, and I don’t know how you re-learn that when you have all these things you hate about him.…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 05:57 PM
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If he breaks down crying and screaming relatively often because of you to an extent so extreme that you have to disassociate and attempt to forget it even happens, how can you claim you’re this deeply aligned? You also say in your post that you used to be extremely sexual and you used to be more inclined to follow his lead, then he essentially changed you into a person that you don’t want to be. How are you deeply alligned on everything except ded when you’re telling us that your entire relation…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 05:54 PM
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Is he saying that as in he won’t have the finances for a couple more years, or in the sense that he is hinting he wants you to get a job?
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 03:02 AM
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when I bring that up he says “you need to wait” Wait on what? Ask him specifics. If this is actually very important to you and he doesn’t want to be married then you need to find someone who does want to be married.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 02:32 AM
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Why is guy 2 even an option? What is the good part about him? Guy 3 seems pretentious and it sounds like he doesn’t like you. Guy 1 seems like the best option. Money habits are bizarre, but learning to save is possible if you give him a good reason for it
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 02:37 AM
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Obvious troll post lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 03:01 AM
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since I have no trouble talking to men otherwise, I noticed that some of these men end up mistaking my casual/friendly conversation for something more Men have to assume most women who speak to them are attracted to them until proven otherwise, or they’re single forever. Attractive men don’t have to do this, but regular and unattractive men do. As for how to talk to men you like: you need to just practice. Try and fail. That’s how you improve at most things unfortunately
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 02:03 PM
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Sounds like your man is kind of manipulating you. There are studies that show most men find women in that age range most attractive, yes. But most men won’t actually date women in that age range when they’re past even 35ish. Your man is just kinda being mean to you if that’s the main thing he’s reinforcing to you. If he doesn’t value companionship in your relationship then he probably shouldn’t be your boyfriend
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 04:56 PM
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I’m practically a slave to the person I love for their acceptance Most people don’t realize this can also be problematic. If your only sense of fulfillment comes from the person you love, that person will very often feel overburdened and emotionally drained.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/24 08:34 AM
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It’s hard to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and understand that there is more to a relationship than one or even a couple instances of disrespect.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/24 02:45 AM
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Oh you’re speaking for yourself lmao Honestly idk. At school? If you don’t meet her in school then I genuinely don’t know where. Maybe a club? And her parents are going to hate you, so she better REALLLLLY love you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 11:20 AM
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By meeting a woman from a wealthy family early in her life is the most likely option. Outside of that it’s pretty hard to do. Most women want a man at least equal to them in social status when it comes to earning potential.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 11:01 AM
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If you only value to a man is your looks, then yes you should absolutely worry about losing him to another woman. Are men very into looks? Duh. Does that mean men have no value in companionship? Absolutely not. Find a man who you can make happy outside of when he looks at you. I’m not talking about cooking or cleaning or being submissive, or even sex/blowjobs. I’m talking about laughing together, smiling, sharing interests, supporting his hobbies, similar beliefs, life goals etc. Find a LIFE PAR…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 04:16 AM
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RPW doesn’t really have a stance on porn usage so idk what you’re blaming lol. I would say most women here would prefer their man not to use porn, but RPW guidelines do not help in the prevention of porn usage from your man. That’s just something that is individual to every man. Your man not being attracted to your post pregnancy body also doesn’t really have anything to do with this sub. That’s just a regular obstacle many relationships have to deal with in life. No amount of teaching or prepar…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:30 AM
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If you mean the way you should act differently: I’ve always thought of marriage as the precursor to starting a family and buying a home together. Some people do these things before marriage and to me it doesn’t make a lot of sense. In the literal sense of the difference. You are legally recognized as a couple, and if one of you leaves, the higher earning partner will be financially liable. It gives the lower earning partner a security blanket. You are also able to make medical decisions in emerg…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/24 04:49 PM
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What it means to be a wife is to be married. What it means to be a good wife to your man is something only your man would know.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/23 11:37 PM
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This is probably most of the issue. If you’re dating men around the same age most of them aren’t serious yet. Look around at your friends n their early 20’s and how their relationships started (if any of them are in relationships). Guarantee most of them probably didn’t start with “real dates”. You have to date men in their late 20’s/early 30’s usually for them to start getting serious about dating in general. Men in their early 20’s usually don’t know what they want yet.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 03:46 PM
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How old are you two? I mean a lack of interest in your life is a red flag imo. Your partner should want to know things about you
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 03:43 PM
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You’ve been dating him for 6 months and you buy all of his food and cook for him every day? His bank account is blocked so you are now paying for everything I assume? He’s a leech. Leave him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 03:32 PM
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I hate to say this, but your previous lifestyle seems almost entirely unsustainable. If a man you’re with believes whole heartedly in manifesting instead of hard work and perseverance then you’re kinda missing the point of this sub. Men who women in this sub strive for are the ones who make things happen, not the ones who hope the universe gives them permission to do it. Your beliefs are generally associated with less education, which makes sense that your boyfriend’s education progressing coinc…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 02:59 AM
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There will always be shitty people in the world, that’s just the unfortunate truth. Your father is a shitty person that believes a wife and a daughter exist mostly to make his life easier
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/23 04:42 PM
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You clearly don’t like guy A. Stop toying with him when you get bored and just choose guy B.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 06:22 PM
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Expecting your partner to teach you things you don’t know is not unreasonable. It’s very normal actually to share general information with one another. Expecting your partner to guide you through every decision you make in life under the burden of them being older is em cumbersome and will eventually exhaust him. He will never want to have children with a women he feels like he needs to raise himself.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 03:55 AM
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In your early 20’s? Ya of course. It takes like 5-10 years to build a career and net worth. Most people graduate college around 22-23. So if you’re dating men below 27-28ish you’re probably not gonna find a ton of successful men. You have to find men who will become successful at that age, not ones that already are.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 02:51 PM
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idk I have this terrifying fear of being in a boring relationship Is your relationship your only source of excitement in life?
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/23 03:26 PM
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I mean… what do you expect? Sounds like he’s a very good communicator and told you the truth. This is a you problem. You need to believe your husband when he tells you how he feels.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 08:30 PM
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Every time you feel this way, imagine how much this makes you similar to your mom
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 02:07 AM
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I told him that I don’t see marriage as a goal in itself, but if I met the right person I’d love to get married Stop trying to be a cool girl, and say what you actually mean. You don’t see marriage as a goal, but you’re worried about this man wasting your time in regards to finding your husband? You clearly care about marriage a lot. Stop trying to lie to yourself and him to seem more chill.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/23 07:19 PM
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Do you text him good morning? Seems like the easiest way would be to text him good morning. The response to good morning should be good morning back. You’re 5-6 hours behind him, so I’m assuming you go to sleep maybe 1-2 hours before he wakes up. Just text him good morning before you fall asleep. You’ll wake up to a good morning text in response.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 05:45 PM
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Mention what you are and how you behave. Mention you want children, mention you enjoy cooking and cleaning, mention you only plan to be a teacher or something with low income/lax schedule. Talk about yourself, not what you want him to be. Talking about what you want him to be comes off as demanding.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 09:16 PM
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In your edit you’re telling people the virginity part is not the important part… but that’s the only reason your boyfriend is trying to make this trip happen lol. It’s like you’re not connecting the dots. You have put a price on your virginity. The price is a stay in a nice hotel/resort. Your boyfriend is aware and wants to have sex with you, so he’s taking you to a resort. That’s the reason for this trip to him, to essentially win your virginity.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 04:53 PM
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I mean it’s a good idea i guess if he’s insecure about that, but the waiter is going to know it’s your card when they read a woman’s name instead of a man’s lol. I guess it would be for the other people in the restaurant?
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 07:53 PM
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am I crazy to do this? Honestly kind of yes. I think this will be very awkward to explain to a man you meet in the next couple of months. Would be a huge red flag for me if I were dating a woman but her ex was paying her monthly, I would think surely things aren’t over between them.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 06:47 PM
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Gonna be honest, if you’ve been using 3 dating apps for 2.5 months and you’re not interested in any man long term, either the options are terrible or you’re being too picky for your SMV.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/23 02:25 PM
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Yes. Men who want stay at home wives will majority want children. It’s not impossible, but the idea is unreasonable, yes.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 01:59 AM
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Be honest with yourself. You’re only interested in him and tolerating this because he’s a doctor. He doesn’t care about you, he says these things because it doesn’t matter to him whether or not you stick around. If I had to guess I’d say you’re a lot younger than him too from this post. He’s probably actively having sex with other women.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 06:42 PM
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What are you talking about? You went on one date with this man 1.5 years ago, and you don’t even have his phone number? Like come on. Have some self respect lmao. This guy doesn’t like you, and he told you after your first date. Most guys on dating apps swipe right on anything that is female. He probably doesn’t even remember it’s you til you message him.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 11:21 PM
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Frugality and luxury are opposites. You either indulge in luxury or you are frugal. That doesn’t mean your entire life has to be one or the other: you can be frugal in some ways and luxurious in others, but there is no way to frugally fly first class and stay in a 5 star hotel. That would be a luxury trip.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 01:31 AM
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So would you rather have some of the luxury scaled back in favor of more retirement? Or are you saying you don’t want to give up the luxury, but also want the retirement?
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 12:50 AM
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I am honeslty not very happy with how much he is making, and if I were to marry again, I would go for someone with more moollah. We are doing well overall, all the bills are paid, we have fun, and a good chunk goes to investments Can you elaborate on this? Do you wish you could buy luxury cars and handbags? Do you wish you could fly first class? If your bills are paid, you have money for fun, but you’re thinking about how you should have married a wealthier man, there is something wrong. What ar…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/23 11:11 PM
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Are you ok turning a blind eye or not? Very few people are, the vast majority are not. If you are not, don’t stay.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/23 03:34 PM
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This is more than domestic violence, it’s torture. He’s locking you in your room and beating you when he lets you out. You’re a prisoner. You need to go back to your country. This will only get worse over time.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/23 03:15 PM
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Some people are trustworthy, some are not. I’m my opinion tho, anyone that goes clubbing/partying 3 nights a week outside of college is not relationship material lol
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 09:25 PM
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I’m sorry, reading this back it was a little harsh. I think if you do genuinely care about his hobbies, but you have trouble staying focused when he talks then it could be an attention span thing. Attention span for a lot of people is something you can train and improve. It just takes consistent effort. A couple ways to increase your attention span can be reading books, learning intensive hobbies like playing instruments or making clothes. Meditation, and yoga are also great ways to improve your…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/23 12:04 AM
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You should care about his hobbies and interests because you care about him… If that’s the ONLY thing he talks about that’s one thing. If you’re just not interested in what he cares about then you’re simply being selfish by not listening. Also, if he you’re not diagnosed by a medical professional with autism, then you’re not austistic. Don’t use that as an excuse, you’re just looking for an easy way out rather than doing self improvement by learning to be a better listener. My partner loves croch…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/23 09:00 PM
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Well pretty much I’m saying that because you choose the wrong man, it’s going to be pretty much entirely in his hands to change things. You have to hope that he cares more about you than he does about his own desires, there isn’t much you can do.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 03:17 AM
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Sorry to be blunt, but you have an 8 month old with a man you’ve been dating for 2 years? So you got pregnant around 6-8 months into your relationship and kept it? He is unemployed, you got pregnant before a year of dating, you live together, you’re not married, and he’s lazy. You have failed every vetting portion of this sub. is it possible to turn this around? Maybe, but very unlikely. Your foundation is really terrible.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 06:51 PM
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Unless you live in a Sharia Law country, this shouldn’t matter. But I think this is a troll post.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 05:29 PM
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Don’t date a man that doesn’t want a relationship with you. That’s where your conversations should stop. He doesn’t need to commit immediately, but if he isn’t at least open to a relationship, you’re wasting your time.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 12:16 AM
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The disgust you feel is social conditioning. The idea that men who date younger women wouldn’t be able to date women their own age is almost entirely false, and mostly pushed by single, disgruntled women in their 30’s. For men over the age of 30ish, it’s signficany easier to date women their own age. It’s actually much harder for men over 30 to get 18-22 year old women to commit to them, or even give them a chance. Now there are definitely older men who specifically target naive younger women be…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 07:27 PM
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Ok so dating without intent of it being long term is a thing that people do, and is something you could do. Dating to make friends? That is a terrible idea and will absolutely 100% not work at all lol. Don’t think you will gain friends from casual dating. These men will only remain “friends” with you if sex is involved. If you want friends you need to meet other girls, not date men. If you just want to be more social, you should join a Pilates group, or a crochet group, or a runner’s group or da…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 12:07 AM
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Depends. If your diet includes mostly chicken nuggets and pizza, candy, fast food, soda and beer it will probably be a turn off. If your diet includes like avocado toast, omelettes, sushi, fruits, salads, and water/wine it might not be a turn on, but it is a green flag.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 07:16 AM
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I know what the church teaches, I grew up in the church, but having sexual urges is not a sin. Whether you view masturbation as a sin or not is one thing, but having sexual urges is normal and healthy. All humans have sexual urges. Honestly the obsession you feel with them is probably a combination of it being so gatekept in your Christian upbringing, and being so taboo. It’s not like you are supposed to be completely devoid of sexual urges, then you get married and POOF, you just have them. The…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 12:12 AM
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I would never ever suggest someone to stay in a relationship with an abuser. Mental or physical, if there is abuse you should leave, even if not to save yourself, just to save your future kids from the same treatment. I personally think when people leave after just “falling out of love”, they’re making a bad choice. Just falling out of love is not a real thing. Love takes work, patience and commitment, and no relationship will be easy all the time. If you fall out of love, it’s because you stopp…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/23 09:56 PM
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After a while, just apologizing isn’t enough. If you don’t change the behavior you will not receive forgiveness forever.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 06:24 PM
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Bad and incorrect advice. Stress can severely inhibit libido, and does in a lot of men.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/23 09:03 PM
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I know he doesn’t do stuff on his own, he used to but he stopped at my request This stuck out to me. Why did you request this? If you don’t live together I think this is an overbearing request imo. If he’s never really initiated then that’s just how he is most likely. It doesn’t seem like there was much of a change. How old are you two?
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/23 08:58 PM
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He replied to one of my comments saying he was a fan of a specific instance he referenced of a 76 year old man dating and marrying a 16 year old girl. There is something wrong with this man. Whatever ideology he subscribes to, it’s definitely not in line with this sub lol.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 09:06 PM
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In this specific instance, mentioning when you meant to cancel a subscription makes you more likely to get your money back. I’m sure there are others, but here it seems like he just wanted to get the highest refund
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 08:00 PM
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I’ve noticed that most of the time women don’t really have problems with their boyfriends playing video games, they have problems with their boyfriends being obsessed with video games. How much does your boyfriend play? When he does play, are you able to talk to him at all, or do you have to just kind of sit and wait for him to finish?
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 01:12 PM
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he likes the 2000’s Victoria’s Secret look; the Adriana Lima body Ok… who doesn’t like that? Lol. No disrespect to you, but he’s not getting an Adriana Lima. Also how long ago did you give birth? It takes like 6 months-1 year to get something similar to your old body back, and realistically you probably never will get your old body back in the same way. Child birth changes bodies in general.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 07:01 PM
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Dating multiple men at the same time is a pretty good way to make sure none of them propose to you lol.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 02:37 AM
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I’m so sorry if this is against the rules to say, but this post is absolutely like a BPD Schizo post. Like you sound absolutely insane lol How the hell do you expect to get a man to propose to you while dating other men? Is this a troll post?
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 02:25 AM
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Hm. Ya I think it is very normal for people to discourage sex work for women, especially the women they want to be with. I don’t see anyone encouraging that outside of men online who will never meet the woman irl, and pimps/freeloaders who don’t Care about these women long term.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 11:07 PM
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honestly it’s so good to see men growing some balls finally and refusing to just allow their girls to give into greed and materialism I don’t know where you live, but where I live every man I know would say no to this lol. MAYBE 1 or 2 would not, but I don’t know a single man that is in a relationship with a stripper or onlyfans girl, or even a woman with a past as a stripper or onlyfans girl. Where and when has this not been the norm?
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 05:19 PM
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Does your lip filler look very noticeable or does it look relatively natural? If you get very plastic-looking work done you’re going to attract a different audience than you would with a natural face.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/23 06:46 PM
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I work in Government contracting, I have 2 fake years of experience on my resume and no one has ever verified them. I make over 100k now partially because of my fake years of experience. I will say that I actually did work for my fake experience years’ companies, but I just extended the actual experience a little bit to make things look better. What field do you work in? We never check references at my org, and any other org I’ve been with. Only if there is a potential red flag, or a connection …
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/23 08:49 AM
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Do not put your financial livelihood in a man who you are not married to. This sounds like a bad situation for you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/23 05:02 AM
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I'm not saying she is being smart necessarily, but I encourage everyone to lie a little bit on their resume. no one really cares if a year or two are forged, and people very rarely check references.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/23 05:01 AM
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Why do so many women confuse a strong man with a cruel man? Your man is cruel, not “alpha”. Yelling at you for not understanding him immediately when English is your second language is not a symptom of an alphamale, it’s a symptom of an asshole. Calling you names and belittling you is not a symptom of high testosterone, it’s a symptom of a superiority complex, lack of impulse control, and lack of empathy. Your man is mean to you. He’s not an alpha, he’s not redpilled, he’s just using these terms…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 11:31 PM
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Oh ya there are a ton more, these are just the ones I remember off the top of my head lol. I would say like 50% of the celebrity relationships I know are signficant age gaps
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 09:40 PM
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I think a man over 25 dating a 16 year old is weird tbh. Like at least wait til she’s 18, it’s just weird af. Maybe in Europe or something it’s more normal but in the US? I think most men doing that would probably have no friends in their life, cause who would let their friend do something like that lol. I think once the women is 23ish it’s kinda whatever. Like a 40 year old dude dating a 23 year old is weird, but a 23 year old dating a 32 or 35 year old… idk it’s whatever to me. The fully devel…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 12:21 AM
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Call me progressive or feminist or whatever, but I think if you’re over like 35 and you’re dating 16 year olds you’re probably a creep. That seems very predatory. 76 and 16 is so fucking weird lol. Maybe not a pedophile depending on his area and the time I guess, but I think that’s a bad look. And he died when he was 96, so she would have been widowed at 36. That’s still more than half of her life to live. She’s probably still alive now lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 09:30 PM
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He thinks telling you that he put your shoes on the rack would disburb the harmony of the marriage? I thought you meant that he said asking you to do it would disturb the harmony of the marriage. Tell him that you believe it would help the harmony of your marriage
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 09:27 PM
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Imo that is very weird. I don’t really have a favorite example, I don’t really fetishize this stuff, but I would think that man is probably not something to admire. I would guess the girl was just waiting for him to die. What 16 year old would ever date a 70+ year old man if she had any sanity? Just seems really weird imo. Best case scenario for her if she really loves him is that she’s a widow in her early 30’s. At that point she’s either just stupid or looking to inherit his money when he dies…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 05:31 PM
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Cavill dated a 19 year old when he was 33, and he’s not married to his current woman. I don’t think he’s the best example to use lol. Chris Evans is dating a 25 year old and he’s 42. Kevin Costner has been married to a woman 20 years younger than himself for 20 years. Ryan Reynolds started dating Blake lively when he was 33 and she was 22. Jay Z started dating Beyoncé when she was 20 and he was 32. Matthew Mcconaughey started dating his wife when she was 23 and he was 36. Jason Statham started d…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 01:49 PM
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have you told him that you want him to inform you when he puts your things away?
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 08:37 AM
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Are you…. Upset your husband helps you out when you forget things? Doesn’t seem like he minds at all. I don’t understand the problem. This just sounds like a kind, supportive man lol. What is the problem?
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 05:14 AM
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This is the other side of complete submission to your partner. Most people who choose this route will eventually experience something like this. You need to decide what level of submission you’re comfortable with. Are you actually ok with him having the final say or do you need more autonomy and decision power in the relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 04:08 PM
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For early 30’s to go after teenagers looks predatory. Like a 32 year old dating a 19 year old would be seen as weird by most American cultures. Once you reach a certain age it’s more normal. Like a 45 year old man dating a 32 year old woman wouldn’t be seen as weird. The respectable family, or being broke thing idk. I would say most girls who dating 30+ year old men as teenagers probably don’t have the most stable upbringings.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 06:44 PM
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If you’re referring to Fboys then you’re probably not talking about people in committed relationships. The attractiveness threshold for men to have sex with a woman is wayyyyyy lower than the attractiveness threshold for men to have a relationship with a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 11:05 AM
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Nearly half their age in their early 30’s? I mean ya I think most early 30’s men aren’t going to date 15-18 year olds realistically. I would say men in their early 30’s are usually looking at 21 as the bare minimum age they’re consider. Most are looking for 23+ years old imo. Socially if you’re like 31 dating an 18 year old it doesn’t look good at all for the 31 year old. I would say if you’re 18-20 you should be aiming for 25-28ish if you’re looking for an older guy. 30 can work, but in modern …
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 03:19 AM
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You’re 20. If you’re dating men that are also 20 they’re not looking to get married yet. If you’re dating men that are 30 then there’s a better chance, but some men in their 30’s who date exclusively under 21’s are creeps. You’re very young, it will take time. You should find something that brings your joy outside of marriage in the meantime.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/23 12:19 AM
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Ok I was wrong, but there is a difference between being anti feminist and viewing anything feminist as something you absolutely cannot agree with. Like the post says, and like the community has agreed, the vast majority are in support of women voting and being allowed to work in this sub. That would be a feminist belief. The feminism most here don’t believe would be the stuff like all men are trash, women are physically equal to men, or men are just as good at taking care of infants as women etc…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 10:22 PM
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Sex is not dirty, especially when it’s with a partner you’re committed to. If you were raised religious then I could see that believe being something you ascribe to, but if you are not of religious background then sex is not a dirty thing. It can be an expression of love, just like kissing can.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 04:00 PM
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So you’ve had sex with one guy? I don’t think anyone, even a rpm would call you a whore based on that.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 03:55 PM
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No it isn’t. It is a pro-gender differences in regards to dating sub. Most of the values do not agree with modern feminist values, but the sub is not anti-feminist. If there is some overlap between feminism and this sub, it’s not because the sub is feminist, it’s because the two things happen to overlap.most feminists will look at this sub and be against it though, this is not a safe space for feminist values. If you look at everything with the view of “oh that’s feminist, I can’t agree with tha…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 03:52 PM
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It only works either if it is 50/50 once the child is born, or there is never a child involved imo. Some people want it to be this way, some don’t. For some it works this way, for some it doesn’t. We don’t have a lot of historical data for these kinda of relationships because until around 70 years ago it wasn’t even possible for this kind of relationship to exist. Up until our parents’/grandparents’ generation women couldn’t have equal jobs to men.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 02:54 PM
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He’s 22, you’re 21. You probably don’t have careers yet and are barely are living away from your parents. Be patient
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 07:27 PM
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I think it is fine to watch porn in a relationship if your sex drive is higher than your partner’s. I do not think it is ok to follow some camgirl and watch her live streams. Or pay for custom content from some onlyfans girl. I also don’t think men who describe women of their past in the same way they would a fleshlight is a positive thing. That just means whenever you breakup or get into a big fight he’ll refer to you the same way. It’s disrespectful to women as a whole imo.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 03:02 AM
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I wouldn’t expect him to come back to you. I’m sorry this happened to you, but there isn’t much to be done about it now. Move on and try to find someone new. You had already been separated previously, so the marriage clearly wasn’t on good terms for quite some time. Plus, you are older than he is, and he went for someone almost a decade younger than you. I don’t personally think that was a coincidence. As for the “I’m not into white women” claim. Any man is going to say that if you ask him and y…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 03:01 AM
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but not many guys would dare get her into an LTR because she is too out of their league for them Well… I’m sorry but I just disagree. I know zero very pretty women that have less than 5 men who would drop any plans for a date with them. I get the socioeconomic argument, but that doesn’t really work either because those women just date people within their socioeconomic class. Like their social circle is filled with these men, whether it’s hanging out at a country club, being an equinox member, sh…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/23 05:14 AM
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Extremely pretty women with no attention from men do not exist. If you are not getting attention from men, you either are not as pretty as you think you are, or you are not in places where men have the opportunity to interact with you
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 09:27 PM
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Ok so no person will be happy in an asexual relationship unless they are also asexual. I know many people (moreso women) only really feel sexual attraction with someone they love and feel comfortable with. Have you ever been in a relationship at all? I also know many women are raised in a way that kind of stigmatizes sex in general. Many women are raised to feel guilty for feeling sexual urges. These ways of raising young girls might have seeped into your subconscious. Or you could just be asexu…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/23 09:09 PM
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have men fall in love with me before I see if they’re the right fit and keep myself emotionally protected This… doesn’t happen. This is like romcom, fairytale, middle school activity. You are (most likely) a grown woman. Grown men aren’t going to just fall in love with you without you giving them anything to fall in love with. Unless you are madison beer, Bella hadid, Adriana Lima level beautiful, AND you have a large social circle of single men/are actively dating many men, this just doesn’t ha…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/23 10:10 PM
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Well, let's recap: You know your short hair isn't preferred, but don't want to change it. You know makeup would improve your look, but you don't want to wear it. You know what attractive clothing looks like, but prefer to wear men's clothes and don't want to change it. You know your argumentative personality is not preferred, but don't want to change it. Summary: You know what your "problems” are, but you're too stubborn to work on yourself and change anything. Now this isn't a problem if you ar…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/23 07:31 AM
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The idea that if you vote red you’re masculine and if you vote blue you’re feminine is so simplistic and honestly archaic. i vote blue because i believe healthcare should be a right and affordable to everyone, not because I want men to wear dresses.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/23 06:33 PM
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If the issue is similar why do you need a coach again? Would a therapist not give you the type of advice you need? I feel like most relationship coaches are scams.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 04:57 PM
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I was about to say it’s definitely the sprinkle sprinkle girl lol
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 05:35 PM
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Ok so realistically, if you’re 35 the odds of you even being able to be below 18 bmi is like extremely minuscule. 23 bmi is not too big to attract someone at all. You’re in a very all or nothing mentality. Just try to get in better shape and maintain a healthy weight.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/23 03:01 AM
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HVM means a man that many women want. 95% of men can’t use dating apps this way because women just won’t match/respond with them. If he can, he’s a HVM.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/23 01:52 PM
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Don’t go back to him. He seems like a pretty terrible boyfriend and business partner.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/23 04:20 AM
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Yes. Most women between 18-25 don’t want to date men in their 40’s. But the difference is that as men age their range of viable women increases compared to the opposite for women. So women between 18-25 can really date anyone they want. This is the female prime when it comes to dating. You could find a man between 18-25, or you could find a man in his 30’s or even his 40’s. But these women mostly prefer men between 25-33ish. A man between 18-25 really can only date women between 18-25. And reall…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/23 12:24 PM
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What point am I missing? You close this post with mentioning of a man ever makes you question his love for you then he isn’t the one for you. These are all ways that you believe express to find out how much a man loves you. I don’t think I missed the point
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 02:12 PM
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they are willing to do anything for the woman they love This is not true. If a woman requires her man to do something he believes is fundamentally wrong, Degrading, embarrasing etc. and he is a man who knows his worth it doesn’t matter how much he loves her. He will not do it. there won’t be a hesitation or fear of commitment Again, wrong. Men who are confident in themselves and confident in what they want aren’t going to immediately commit to a woman just because she’s pretty. They will figure …
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 02:25 AM
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staying close to me the whole time. Dancing with me, holding me. Male/female “just friends” don’t do this. That’s why.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/23 06:00 PM
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Sugar relationships are not like regular relationships. This man probsbly thinks he owns you more than he thinks you’re in a relationship. Your dynamic is not like the dynamic that people on this sub would be able to give you good advice for.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/23 05:57 PM
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I am desperate for money because my family doesn’t support me financially DO NOT GET A PSYCHOLOGY DEGREE. Get a computer science, cyber security, engineering, or accounting, degree. You won’t need to get a master’s degree for any of those undergrads and they will hire you right out of school. If you do computer science specifically you will make at least 70k immediately out of school in most of the US (if you live here). Best jobs until you graduate are probably babysitting or some Secretary/per…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/23 05:54 PM
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It seems like your issue isn’t that you’re over 30. It’s that you work a dead end job and stopped taking care of your looks, and let your social skills erode.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 06:27 PM
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I think she gsps can work, but I think situations like yours don’t have the greatest chance of working. Everyone defines age gaps differently. Like most people won’t really consider a 32 and 40 year old dating an age gap relationship, but most people will consider a 22 and 30 year old an age gap relationship. I think anything below 10 years is pretty manageable. Once you pass 10 years, I’d say every 5 years becomes more difficult to work. Once you get to that 40-45 year old age range you’re deal…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 06:08 PM
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Your children are their own people. You can lead them wherever you want, but if they don’t think you’re worth following they won’t. Tell them what you believe, then show them through your shared life experience why that would be good for them. Let them choose after that.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 11:19 PM
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Some people are ok with pasts like yours, some aren’t; that’s just life. Let him make his decision and either move on or move forward.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 11:15 PM
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I agree, but I think that’s more of a personal preference thing. Like I know guys that use that word occasionally and they’re good people. But i definitely agree guys that use it a lot I think are almost always just bad men.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 06:20 AM
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it may not be a super comfortable life I’m pretty sure this woman is looking for a super comfortable life. If you’re in a relationship where you’re living paycheck to paycheck and one partner isn’t working… there is no way that relationship lasts. The couple will break up eventually. It’s just destined to happen.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 11:51 PM
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So…. Lie and date a man with no confidence lol. I don’t agree with this advice at all. I don’t ever suggest people to deceive their partners. I think you’re looking for diabla or whatever that use men for gain sub is.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 04:52 AM
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Ya that’s why I said 80-90tb percentile of your living area. In New York that’s probably closer to 150k. In Missouri that’s probably closer to 80k.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 08:45 PM
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that would be 143,000 a year I think you’re looking at household income statistics, not individual earners. I just put 120k into this: https://dqydj.com/household-income-percentile-calculator/ calculator and it said 87th percentile. 80th percentile is right around 95k according to this. If you’re right, and my percentile numbers do actually end up around 143k then ya, he doesn’t need to be that high of an earner. But between 95-130k depending on location would be right around where I was thinkin…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 05:02 PM
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Possible? Sure. Likely? Absolutely not. First of all, you will need to find a man that makes in the top 80-90th percentile of your living area. That’s the only way this lifestyle would work realistically. Then once you factor in your age range and whether they’re in a relationship/marriage or not, the actual available men are probably closer to 0.5% if not lower of all men in your area. We haven’t even discussed whether he is physically attractive to you or not. Then you have to realize every ot…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 10:38 AM
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If you want to get married sooner, date older men and/or join a religious group.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 02:17 AM
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So the ultimate question of this post is pretty much can you keep an attractive guy without having sex with them til you’re married? I think the odds aren’t super high, but it’s possible. If you’re willing to give blowjobs and stuff like that I’m sure there are guys who would be ok with that. Would be way easier in religious circles tho.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 02:10 AM
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I think the commenter is saying; if part of your trust in your partner’s relationship views was caused by a man that turned out to be abusive to his partner, shouldn’t that raise a red flag in your partner’s credibility? Especially if he doesn’t denounce the man following his incident? I don’t think it’s a coincidence that crowder, a man who is openly confrontational and hostile toward people who disagree with him was abusive to his partner. If your husband is similar to him in that way, it shou…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 03:24 AM
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So you’re saying you’re asexual? I don’t know anyone who is asexual, but can you explain to me the idea behind not wanting to have sex with him, and also not wanting him to have sex with anyone else? You’re essentially asking a man with a healthy libido to convert to asexuality. This will not work long term, I can 100% guarantee you this relationship is already doomed.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 03:10 AM
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At work being competent is more important than being submissive. People probably think you’re indulging a kink or something if they notice you being overly submissive at work.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 07:21 AM
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So he doesn’t initiate conversation or make the trip to see you? I noticed you didn’t mention anything sexual. Are you having sex yet? From this comment it sounds like he just doesn’t like you that much… but beyond that, bringing a hand written card every other week is probably overwhelming for him. That sounds kind of excessive.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/23 01:25 PM
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it’s an aweful feeling to know how much I’m trying but not receiving the same back Describe this to me in a literal way. Tell me what you do that you feel is so much more than what he does. If it is really unequal it shouldn’t be difficult. You mention thoughtful gifts and reservations in your post. Is there anything else?
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/23 07:57 PM
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he has always paid for dates and initiated everything in the relationship I’ve started to grow resentful of him for not making as much of an effort as me You say how grateful you are for his effort just to turn around and say he’s not putting in enough effort. Also comparing “I do more than you for us” is a great way to always be unhappy in your relationship. If you are unhappy, your unhappiness should not be a result of how much he does compared to you, it should be whether he makes you happy o…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/23 06:13 PM
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I mean it seems like the most important part about his hesitation is that you live very far froim one another, and he'd rather drive 20hrs than get a flight. It doesn't seem very practical or realistic that you two stay together given that barrier.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 09:17 PM
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my friend has the typical blue pill mindset that constantly arguing with your partner is somehow okay or even "hot". I don't think this is a blue pill mindset... Your friend is just a crazy girl lol. She desperately wants marriage and kids so I think it would help her to leave him and change her mindset ASAP. Plenty of "blue pill" people are married. Plenty of "red pill" people are in limbo relationships with no timeline. At the end of the day, if they're both in a life situation that is ready f…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 09:11 PM
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"hey (boyfriend name here), can you not complain so much about these things all the time? Negativity is contagious and it's starting to get to me. I want to feel happy and positive about our relationship, not negative!"
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 09:06 PM
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He's very sweet, caring, great job, provider mindset, fun to be around After reading your list... I fear you're falling into the "using sweet or nice as an adjective with no supporting sweet or kind behavior to back it up" syndrome. You can't describe people as sweet when they aren't sweet people. Is he sweet, or does he just call you pretty and spend money on you? They are not the same thing. 1.) That men are biologically wired to cheat, and that women are not, thus he understands why men cheat…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 08:55 PM
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Andrew Tate? I mean I guess by a literal sense he would be considered “high value”, because he is rich, famous, fit, and tall… but I think most women who have any level of common sense would see nothing valuable in him personality wise outside of his money and potential residual fame. I think he’s mostly a dick and people who fanboy him are societal rejects lol.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 02:58 PM
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Mostly shock value content with very little actual valuable information. Most of the useful stuff he says, you can hear from any male podcast person other than Tate. The useful stuff is basic common sense, everything else is purely for clicks and views.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 02:47 PM
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You’re telling me this 36 year old man posted on his public Instagram about hooking up with a group of girl friends? He’s a scum bag. This is a weird man, and he will be a terrible partner.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/23 05:31 PM
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If that is a conversation you don’t want to have then that’s up to you, but this person is already ina committed relationship. I’d agree that you should try to avoid unfavorable conversations in general, but when a man directly asks you, you can’t really weasel your way out of it without setting off his alarms signals
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 01:26 AM
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When it comes down to it we’re all people, and we all have an unquantifiable value intrinsically. The purpose of SMV/RMV whatever MV you wanna call it, is understanding what gives you the best ODDS to be successful when it comes to dating. There are very fat women who are with rich, successful men like Pierce Brosnan and his wife. He is extremely rich and successful, he’s handsome and charismatic, and if he left her he could get most women he desired, but he stays because he loves her. There are…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 10:21 PM
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I mean you know what is happening in your life, I can't actually see what is going on in the day to day. Do you get more interest from non-white men? Are you completely unattracted to all non-white men? Dating guys in their 40's can help, but then you're fighting harder against the "not fat" and "full head of hair" requirements. I don't think that opens up your pool a ton tbh, but it would help. I would suggest joining a church or some kind of religious group. Everyone in there is looking to get…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 03:23 AM
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I mean it is good enough, but realistically, listen to yourself. you're willing to do these things because you know that unless you are, men who meet your criteria won't consider you. You're in a really tough dating market in southern California. Definitely not impossible, but the men you're looking for are very desirable where you live. you have A LOT of competition.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 03:12 AM
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women wear heels, men usually don't. She says in her post she loves heels. She's not budging on the height, and that's fine.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 03:09 AM
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Ya you might have to be a little patient on second thought lol. That is pretty crazy to think about how few men meet this criteria. I mean if you just lowered the height requirement by 3 inches you'd add another 45%~ of all men to your dating pool tho, so it would be closer to like one in 30ish men, but that is your hard stop so... rip haha
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 02:51 AM
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I read more comments, I see you are 5’8” and 32. Those are your main limiting factors. You’re looking for a white man, at least 6ft with a full head of hair, who isn’t already taken and mostly has his life in order. You are every other 30+ year old woman. You’re every other 25+ year old woman honestly, and in Southern California I know there are a lot of beautiful women. I think in a different geographic location (other than like New York or Miami) you wouldn’t have much trouble finding a man. B…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 02:43 AM
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The only things that could potentially be picky of you are the 4+ inches taller depending on how tall you are. If you’re relatively average (5’3”), you’re fine, if you’re pretty tall (5’9”+) could be a Little challenging. Same ethnicity could also be a problem depending on where you are from geographically. If you’re black in Russia or white in Zimbabwe or something like that could be pretty tough. EDIT: you said you’re from California, so whatever ethnicity you are you can probably find someone…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 02:23 AM
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I do think my standards are high but not unrealistic… I find men who have good style and are well groomed attractive Ok well your standards that you list here are pretty vague outside of the height requirement which isn’t ridiculous. 5’7”+ is like 90% of men, so that’s fine. The real question is: are the men you match with the men that you would think most other women would match with? What determines if a man is hard to lock down is how many other women want him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 07:30 PM
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Are you religious at all? Join a church if you want to find a man, that’s usually the easiest place. They all want to get married. You say you message on dating apps and you’ve never gone on a date? Do you just say no? Like how is that possible? What are your requirements for men you speak to or would consider dating? Maybe your standards are unrealistic.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 05:45 AM
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How to level up your looks is impossible to tell without pictures unless you give more info. You have long hair, good wardrobe, you’re slim, and you do makeup. Sounds like you’re doing everything right looks wise. If you are getting multiple dates with the same man, but never relationships you’re probably just dating out of your league to some extent. But multiple dates with the same man usually means he’s at least open to the idea of being with you, so it is most likely personality based why yo…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 05:34 AM
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So you mention that you’re physically passable, and you aren’t promiscuous, but are you interesting in any way? I feel like so many women on this sub completely forget soft skills. Do you have any talents or hobbies? Are you funny? Are you friendly? Are you kind? Are you a good conversationalist? Are you open minded? Judgemental? Are you approachable? Are you knowledgable about anything? You need to be an emotionally desirable person to keep quality men. Quality men can get pretty women anywhere…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 03:02 AM
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If he has always had a problem with it then you’re probably just not compatible. Seems like you both have things you’re not willing to give up for each other.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/23 03:03 PM
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You’re overthinking way too much. He waited for 3 months, that’s a pretty long time in modern dating culture. You’re fine.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/23 12:32 AM
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I’m sorry but this is not good advice. This man is asking her a direct question, and she’s supposed to jsut reply “you smell nice today!” He’s going to think she’s an idiot if she does this. it’s complicated when you get accused of lying or hiding You’re advising her to hide. This would make those accusations true. I don’t think this is good advice.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 02:07 PM
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He is being pretty terrible about the way he is dealing with this, and I don’t really think the relationship is worth pursuing given this behavior, but you need to be honest with your potential partners. This is your past. He is allowed to be unhappy about your past. He is allowed to believe you two are incompatible because of your past. If he asks you for this information, sure you can lie, but this is clearly very important to him so it’s probably only going to hurt you both long term to lie o…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 02:03 PM
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The real answer is not to date irresponsible men
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 06:57 AM
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Idk why defining addiction rules out her having an addiction to Instagram. She could absolutely still have an addiction under this definition. I know a lot of people who are addicted to social media, it’s extremely common.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 05:44 AM
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Honestly I do think this is a reasonable request, but I think he is doing it out of maliciousness rather than genuinely wanting you to quit Instagram. If he is being genuine, it’s way easier to cheat from an Instagram dm than it is to cheat from porn. But at the end of the day, if these are dealbreakers for either of you then the relationship probably just won’t work. It doesn’t seem like either of you are willing to give it up for your partner.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 05:43 AM
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Options have lowered does not mean the there are no options. She has absolutely removed a substantial amount of men from her potential pool of partners.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 02:57 PM
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The unfortunate truth is that dating as a single mother is going to be very difficult. Most men in your age bracket don’t want children at all yet, much less someone else’s child. It becomes more normal once you enter your mid 30’s, but you’re pretty far from there. You’re realistically gonna have to date older men unless you get very lucky. Andrew Tate content is garbage. It’s all shock value and reaction based. None of anything he says actually matters.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 02:52 PM
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I think living in a van attracts other people who want to live in a van. The unfortunate truth is that van life is just gentrified trailer life. You have to shower at gyms, you have to find places to let you park overnight. You probably can’t cook much in your “home”. It’s not as glamorous as tiktok makes it seem.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 06:41 AM
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having to ask for things takes away from receiving them because it’s not organic or thoughtful This is called bad communication. If you expect someone to know how you want to be treated without telling them you’re just being unreasonable. You’re already with this guy and he isn’t doing it naturally. Either leave him for someone who expresses love the way you want, or communicate better and save your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/23 12:30 AM
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So I hate to be blunt here, but when you date someone 20 years older than you, you should expect them to be this way. Are there relationships that begin without the significantly older partner specifically seeking out the younger partner? Sure, probably. Are they common or likely? Hell no. You’re married with a child now, so you’re kinda stuck, but you should just talk to him. Ask him if he is going to look for someone younger when you get older. Hopefully he won’t, but I feel like that’s a conv…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 04:02 AM
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I would say almost certainly not. I personally rarely see anything about trans people on my social media. Maybe you do, but the amount of actual trans people in the world is so minuscule it’s insignificant in the grand scheme of competition. The amount of actual ftm people in the world is probably close to 1 for every 20,000 non-trans people. If anything I would say “the rise of trans content” you’re describing is because the only place you actually see these people is online since so few of the…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 02:48 PM
1

It was just your outfit. Your lazy clothes are unattractive to him. It’s not you, it’s just your lazy clothes!
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 10:01 AM
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So you noticed that he had recently searched for his friend’s fiancé on Instagram and you think it’s a red flag? Have you never looked up a friend’s boyfriend/fiancé/husband before? I think when men are following a lot of random ig models it’s a red flag, but looking up a friend’s fiancé is very innocent. Like I think this is a big overreaction on your part. This is your hamster is overdrive. Ask yourself why you want to believe this is some lustful purpose. I feel like you’re looking for a reas…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 10:31 PM
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Self improvement is never wasted. You’ve just learned to be better for another person instead. I’m sorry this happened to you, but it’s better you found out he is only interested in transgender people now than 20 years from now when you have 3 kids and no way to provide for yourself outside of him.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 11:37 PM
1

Most of cooking is patience and attention to detail. It takes time to get good at it. You just have to find recipes and practice.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 04:09 PM
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Ok so just gonna be honest: unless you’re really hot, you’re going to be one of the bros if you do anything like joining an MMA club. You have to be excessively womanly to not be label as a bro when you’re literally beating people up. Wear like a full hot pink outfit or something.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/23 11:02 PM
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The only thing you mention about this relationship is that he’s 32. Being 32 is not a personality trait, it’s an age. Different men value different things. Find out what he values. You could straight up ask him “what do you look for in a potential wife”?
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 08:27 PM
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We can over analyze this all we want, but at the end of the day people like to feel wanted. Man or woman, if you’re being chased, it means the person chasing you wants you. My overanalyzation version tho: social media. Social media has scared men away from approaching and pursuing women. In previous generations men were taught to be overly persistent, almost annoying when going after women. Taught to not take no for an answer. Today though, if men keep going after a girl after she says no once, …
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 05:01 PM
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well, whether you want to accept that he's had sex outside of you or not isn't really what I was talking about. I was talking about whether it is reasonable to expect someone to stay abstinant while you aren't together. You started dating when you were extremely young. people change. Not everyone is going to hold the puritan values you were raised with your entire life. He clearly doesn't. Whether you decide to have sex with him or not is entirely up to you though.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 06:47 PM
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You broke up with him and expected him to stay loyal to you? That’s not how life works. When you break up with someone they’re free to be with whoever they want to be with. am I delusional to expect the same type of loyalty I have tho? Yes. Yes you are. This isn’t loyalty. You left him, that is literally the opposite of loyalty. Loyalty would have been fighting for the relationship and staying together. You weren’t loyal to him just because you weren’t with someone else. Breaking up is disloyalt…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 08:18 PM
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This isn’t new, and it isn’t becoming more common. It’s just a trend, and most of the people “following” the trend probably aren’t in a financial position to afford this. Realistically, you have nothing to worry about. Men have been marrying foreign women for as long as foreign travel has existed.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 02:58 PM
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The truth is most people in the world are nice people. Most people only want to be happy and have fun. You can meet a nice girl with good morals anywhere. You just need to put yourself out there. If you are talking about specifically girls with the same mindset/lifestyle you have then church or another religeous group is probably your best bet.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/23 08:03 PM
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So you two aren’t allowed to see each other? I mean I would say that is a pretty fundamental aspect of love: being able to physically be with the person you love.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/23 03:32 AM
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Every person has a different perception of love. Some people only believe in love if their partner tells them they love them, and only believes how much love there is by the frequency and enthusiasm behind the problaimations. Some people only believe in love if the person shows they love you. Planning dates, spending time, sexual pleasure etc. Some people only believe in love thru body language. How they look at you, how often and where they touch you. Some people only believe in love thru turmo…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/23 02:48 AM
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There are a lot of things that can affect what you are attracted to! The first and maybe most controversial one is birth control. If you are on birth control, there are studies that many women experience a heightened attraction for feminized men when on the pill. I don’t know if you’re talking about feminine men though, but that could be it. There is also just a matter of what you want Vs what you should want. Some people don’t want what’s techincally “best” for them. Like you might believe that…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 09:33 PM
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I don’t think the majority of this sub is southern Baptist. You need to ask people who are southern Baptist to get good answers. With that being said: if this has been an issue in your dating life and it’s preventing you from getting the men you want, then you should quit.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 05:47 PM
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Some men won’t care as much as others. Accept this is a dealbreaker for a lot of men and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 08:25 PM
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Anyone can love anyone for any reason. The purpose of these types of communities is to make you aware of the most likely reasons someone will or won’t love you. You can fall in love with an unemployed fat man, that doesn’t mean your love is less genuine than the woman that falls in love with the doctor who has washboard abs.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 04:01 AM
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You’re using the word feminist like they’re the enemy lol. Feminists just believe different than us. Stop making trying to make this sub combative, you’re posting in the wrong place if that’s what you’re looking for. I have a feeling you’re combative nature regarding feminism is probably why they’re singling you out.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/23 09:46 AM
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Why does she target you? Are you outwardly mocking feminism or something? This seems like it’s honestly probably your fault and you’re just leaving out a lot of context.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/23 01:30 AM
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Hitting the wall at age 12?? This would imply that before you turn 12 you were at your peak in terms of sexual attractiveness. If that is what a woman thinks, yes I’d call her an incel. You can’t hit a wall before you are even sexually developed. Most girls don’t become fully sexually developed until 15-16 years old. The real way to say what I think you’re trying to say is just admitting that you’re ugly. from what I’ve seen where i go internet wise, a lot of guys were talking about having a 12 …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 03:17 PM
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Have you talked to him about the traits you think are feminine that he expresses? The picture thing I could see being an ick. That sounds about equivalent to a girl man spreading and scratching her crotch in front of a guy lol. There are a few fundamental insecurities that most men may never get over. Height, hair, penis size. If you’re fighting insecurity about any of those 3 things you’re never going to win. You just have to accept those are fundamental insecurities men express and try to let …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 12:18 AM
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Ok very first thing befor anything else: lately I have been driving recklessly hoping I get into a car accident Stop doing this. You’ll hurt someone else. If you want to hurt yourself, leave innocent people out of it. Now for you: if you want to a “traditional” marriage, you shouldn’t become a doctor… that makes your goal pretty much impossible. As for your husband, to me it seems like you think he’s stuck up moreso than he’s feminine. He is used to having people do things for him. That’s not ne…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 05:25 PM
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is this too revealing? How much you decide to reveal is your choice. There is no council of what is too much skin here lol. You can wear spandex shorts and a sports bra if you really wanted to, I don’t think anyone in the gym would judge you. You don’t have to dress conservatively to follow the guidelines of this sub. That’s just kind of personal preference.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/23 08:30 AM
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Well I think most people don’t really want to be physically around someone with Covid/the flu. Like if you’re asking someone to stay with you, especially someone you’ve only been dating 3 months, that’s probably not gonna happen. They don’t want to get sick too. But if this has happened twice, then you need to be honest with yourself. You’re either asking them for too much and being unreasonable, or you’re dating men who don’t really like you that much.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 04:12 PM
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What is your question? This post is a bunch of nothing with a video attached There are 21 thousand comments. No one here is going to find yours.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 08:50 AM
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then I decided to never getting back because they didn’t help me What does “dating” mean in this situations? Are you just hooking up or were you in a committed bf/gf relationship? Depression makes sense. Some people can’t handle a partner with depression. It’s sad, but it’s the truth. Covid and the flu tho… those last like 1 week each. What are you asking these men to do during that week?
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 05:59 PM
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If you look at social media everyone hates on cardio. Everyone will tell you “lift weights instead! It burns more calories”!! They’re being dishonest. DO CARDIO. There is no substitute. Modern society has us kive very sedentary lives, and cardio is the only real solution for that. Plus, have you ever seen a chubby distance runner? No one who is running 2 miles without stopping is over 23bmi lol.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 05:54 PM
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It’s time to let him go. He’s now tried to leave you twice. Further: if he considers being apart from you “freedom”, then that’s kind of all you need to know. It means he feels trapped when he’s with you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 08:40 PM
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The unfortunate truth is there isn’t a huge difference, but I would say the biggest difference is that you doing it because you want to, not because you need to. If your man needs you to make him every meal, wash his clothes, clean up after him, and take care of him, that’s mothering. If you want to, but he can do it himself and does when you don’t without complaining, that’s partnership.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 10:35 PM
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Yes RPM and RPW are very different versions of the same life philosophy. Both based on the same things, and recognize the difference between men and women, but very very different goals between the two subdivisions! I think RPM started as more of a self improvement echo chamber, and intended to phrase it in militaristic rhetoric to reach men more impact-fully…. It preaches to gain confidence, exercise, make good money, but then it gets perverted into a “women are subhuman and should obey serve y…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 09:17 AM
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You asked why? these types of comments are the exact reason why men aren’t usually permitted to post here. Stop being abrasive and learn to be respectful.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 05:44 AM
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You’re asking why the sub is gone. The reason why is the angry, resentful, and hateful speech toward women. The reason y’all decide to use the hate speech doesn’t matter, it just matters that the speech is used. There are ways to keep a space male centric other than to use degrading language toward women. It was inevitable with the language y’all were using.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 03:44 AM
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Women’s red pill is about how to get a committed, head of household man. Women’s RP is about finding men who want the same life they do, and how to be the type of women those men want. Women’s red pill mostly reveres and respects men (refers to men as captain, strong, leaders, etc.) Men’s redpill is about how to control and bend women to your will. It is about how to get as much sexual activity from women as possible, inspite of the woman’s desires. Actually almost against women’s desires, since…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/23 10:00 PM
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It sounds to me like he is trying to make your life as hard as he can until you leave your job because you can’t balance everything. This is your husband, the man you chose to have a baby with and the man you committed your life to. I assume he wasn’t always this way, right? Or if he was, why did you marry him? What caused him to change?
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/23 09:55 PM
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I don’t think any man realistically expects sex on the first date. BUT, I do believe most men will try to steer things that way if the opportunity presents itself. And most importantly: if a man isn’t willing to wait more than one date to have sex with you, he was never interested in a relationship to begin with.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/23 09:50 PM
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I know it’s a figure of speech. I’m asking why your ex did not fit the figure of speech. I feel like that’s pretty obvious from what I commented… You have a very condescending way of talking. It’s pretty nasty to read. Hopefully you don’t talk to your partners like that.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 02:38 AM
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I don’t want that. I want a real woman Your ex wasn’t a real woman? I don’t get this statement.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 01:44 AM
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Finding a man who wants to spend the rest of his life with her, and is in a mental and social space where he feels comfortable making the commitment. That’s it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 09:15 AM
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This is true to a certain extent. Most men will end up marrying a women within their social circle to a certain extent. A woman they went to school with, or worked with, or their family knew. People within your circle in those regards almost always have around the same education level (or at least a bachelor’s degree). With that being said: a lot of the older married men I know are married to teachers or housewives. There aren’t a lot of older, successful men I’ve known that are married to women…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 09:15 PM
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we have a lot in common in terms of values views and long term goals he has a house and a job with decent opportunity for growth he’s enthusiastic about seeing me and I feel ok being myself around him Ok… but do you like him? Sometimes y’all are so robotic in here. Do you like him, or do you just want him to be your sugar daddy/sperm donor? All of the pros about him are really just about you. he has a house? So I’ll have somewhere to live he has a job? So he can provide for me he is enthusiastic…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 01:31 AM
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I assume you are American too. If that is the case, it’s because america was founded on puritan religeous beliefs which ascribe to the ideology that knowing nothing about sex other than “don’t do it” is the best way to retain abstinence prior to marriage. America has yet to let go of the puritan ideology many of its laws were founded on.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 10:08 PM
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He has made it clear he isn’t ok with your past. It seems like this is a fundamental incompatibility for him. You need to sit him down and talk about this with him. If he can’t get over it, you need to leave because you’re just wasting your time with him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 03:24 AM
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A man should be buying you things because he loves you. If a man is buying you things to make you love him, he’s just buying you. You’re essentially a prostitute in disguise in his eyes if it’s the latter. If you want to be a sugar baby then there are websites for that, but this is essentially what it sounds like these men are going for.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 12:44 AM
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It sounds like there are more fundamental disagreements than just homosexuality. Difference in belief in science is gonna be way more impactful when you have to decide whether to get your kids vaccinations or not. Having a gay child would obviously be a disaster with him, but the chances of that aren’t terribly high. There are other decisions that are way more likely. Are there other things you disagree with? Interracial dating for instance: what if you’re both white and your child ends up datin…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/22 11:19 PM
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I could not submit the way he wanted me to So this might be a hot take, but ant man that demands submission, like verbally tells you “I need you to be more submissive”, is not a leader. He should tell you what he looks for, and what he desires. He shouldn’t be barking orders to you like a military cadet. The claim “I need submission” or anything in that vein just screams insecure RPM Andrew Tate wannabe. Maybe you didn’t mean it that way, but that’s how it reads to me at least. 4 months 4 months…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/22 12:18 AM
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You feel ready for marriage, but does he? There are two people in a relationship. 19 is very young to be engaged, you don’t need to rush things!
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 10:17 PM
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Ok… I’m gonna say it. I think a lot of women view this as an outlet for talking about their abusive relationship without really admitting it’s an abusive relationship. Your husband requiring you to sit silently with him while he does what he wants to do is extremely controlling. He wants all of your time and attention to be devoted to him and what he wants. When does he do this for you? Has he ever participated in any of your hobbies? Has he shown interest in anything that you care about? This i…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 04:20 PM
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Despite what people may tell you, most men who make anything of themselves have standards for the women they sleep with, and the women they commit to. The standard for the woman they commit to, however, is always higher than the standard for the women they would sleep with. I think you are right that men and women view sex very differently, but I think that is mostly because women have more to risk during sex. Sex is a very physically vulnerable activity for both people. You’re exposing your mos…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 04:12 PM
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Maybe forever tbh 😅. Her man sounds like he should have never even made it to the boyfriend stage.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 03:47 PM
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The way you stop your husband from doing this is by not marrying a man who does this. I would be very surprised if he didn’t treat you like this in private as well. Why did you marry him? This is like a very core fundamental character flaw that would make most people drop their partner without much thought.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 03:46 PM
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If he wants kids and you don’t this relationship is doomed to fail. There are only 3 outcomes here if you truly do not want kids You have his kids, resent him forever, and live a loveless marriage for the rest of your life You don’t have kids, he resents you forever, and you live a loveless marriage for the rest of your life You leave each other and find people who agree with your long term life goals. You have to seriously sit him down and say what you really mean. Don’t say it in passing, say …
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/22 07:26 AM
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If you stay physically fit and incorporate things like botox and decent dietary choices in your life, you can look good well into your 30’s, 40’s and even 50’s and 60’s if you’re lucky genetically. The thing that causes most people to age poorly, is lack of exercise, overconsumption of alcohol, and not using things like Botox.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 11:24 PM
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Ok, we’ll that’s a very likely outcome with your mindset, so I’m glad you’ve already decided you’d be ok with it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 11:21 PM
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Ok divorcing him because he was an alcoholic sounds more reasonable. I’m happy for you that you’ve managed to achieve all these things, but the way you type/speak just seems to devoid of joy or any humanism. After the husband part it felt like I was reading a resume. Very motivational speaker type rhetoric. I would say the most important things in relationships other than commitment and love are a shared sense of humor, a shared sense of purpose in general, and the desire to sacrifice for/suppor…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 11:17 PM
2

People will treat you significantly better. Obviously the people in your life, but the random people as well. Cashiers at grocery stores will be nicer to you. Servers will be more attentive at restaurants. Your coworkers will be more helpful. This is obviously only to a certain extent though. If you’re going from 23 to 19 BMI you’ll notice MASSIVE difference. If you’re going from like 19 to 16 BMI it will probably make you be treated worse. I think anything below 18 BMI-ish is probably gonna mak…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 04:44 PM
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Cheating is sensationalized online. You like one post about a woman discussing her past partner’s infidelity and you get another 20 post on your feed about more cheaters. Truth is cheating isn’t as common as the internet likes to make it out to be. But the internet will always talk about it because cheating videos get views
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 04:34 PM
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This post reads more like you’re interested in a contract than a relationship. The part about you breaking your husband of 20 years’ heart because you “outgrew him” just makes me think you don’t really understand marriage and life in general. Why do you have other “marriage proposals” when you’re in a committed relationship? Makes me think you’re more on a male side of RP than the women’s side. I think this relationship could work for you I guess. It seems like you found someone who you have goo…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 04:20 PM
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Most people are average. The man you marry will probably be average. Average is not a bad thing, and people can find objectively average people to be special to them. This is a bad mindset to have. You will never be good enough if you always think this way. You should always be interested in self improvement, but what you’re saying is self sabotage more than self improvement.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 04:10 PM
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Be direct. When you say no, don’t say “I’m not feeling it”, Say “you smell like beer. Go shower and brush your teeth first”. it’s true that we have a lot of trouble with sexual politics What does this mean? Is there more than just the smell of beer that you don’t like about sex with this man?
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 04:08 PM
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I was about to comment about the decline in sexual activity over the decades, but I didn’t think it would be received well here tbh. Glad you did first! The truth is, teens today will probably face less sexual pressure than teens of our parents’ childhood. Awareness about sexual assault, consent, age of consent, etc. are probably more prevalent than sex positivity is. Because of the awareness surrounding sexual crimes and sexually predatory activity, boys are less pushy than they used to be. You…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 04:03 PM
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Firstly, I’m sorry for your loss, I hope you are doing ok! Secondly: I thought you were going to be like 21 talking about a 45 year old man. You’re 36 and he’s 50? That’s not so terrible imo. Especially if you’re a widow. I don’t know how the children conversation will go with him, but ofherwise if you like him, go for it!
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 01:30 AM
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Oooh. Wow I have never heard that term before. I guess if you’re trying to hide your past then yes, but if you’re honest it sounds like you wouldn’t be a chameleon by that definition imo.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/22 05:43 AM
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You need to explain what you mean by chameleon. I don’t think anyone here really knows. Chameleons camouflage to look like their environment. Are you saying you’re only removing your tattoos because you want to be more like the environment you have newly joined? Are you saying you want to remove them just so men potentially like you more? Are you saying you don’t want to remove them, but you feel like you have to in order to fit in? I don’t know what you mean, but if you want to remove your tatt…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 09:54 PM
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Huh? I don’t think there are many gay people here. Most of this sub is about the differences between men and women and the dating strategy that comes as a result of that. I guess it could apply to gay people, but only if one takes a masculine and one takes a feminine role, otherwise the advice just isn’t super applicable. But if gay people do find value in this sub they’re welcome here for sure! With that being said… your actual post makes no sense. Sex trafficking? Cheating in front of you with…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 06:27 AM
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You’re right to be upset about anything that upsets you. With that being said, he’s right to feel that he doesn’t need to buy you everything you express interest in. You’re upset he bought himself a Bentley and couldn’t buy something for you. That is a selfish mindset. His money is not your money until you’re married, and even then some couples still keep their finances separate. If he is significantly wealthier than you, he might see you as a gold digger. Men that come from money are taught tha…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 03:18 AM
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If you’re lifting 5 days a week cut it back to 2 or 3 days a week. If you are certain you want to keep the same amount of times per week then do legs, cardio, core, or some body weight exercises instead of actual upper body lifting
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/22 02:11 PM
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Maybe whatever you said isn’t, but breaking things out of anger is definitely a gateway to domestic violence lol.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/22 03:21 PM
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It’s only a matter of time before “things break” becomes “he hits me”, if it hasn’t already. This is not a relationship worth saving. If he can’t handle the house being a little too cold or too hot, imagine how he would handle a crying baby. Just get out while you still can.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/22 09:21 PM
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Dating between 18-24ish is hard for men lately. Young women want to date older than themselves by around 3-5 years, and when you’re that age, things get dangerous legally. You don’t wanna be dating a 17 year old when you’re 21. Then for the girls your age, you have to compete with the 25-30 year old men who are mature, established, experienced, and have money. Dating for men before 25 is pure luck. Unless you’re an athlete, musician, social media star, Nepo baby, or something similar you just ha…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/22 11:06 AM
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Is he redpill like strong and assertive, or is he redpill like “I am biologically programmed not to be loyal, but you have to be loyal to me”? The women in this community kind of suggest not going for men who are the toxic, cheater, “women are just for sexual pleasure” version of red pill men. Most men would say just a woman with domestic qualities. Cook, clean, give good blowjobs, be supportive, stay in shape, wear clothes he likes, and try to let him lead.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 03:44 PM
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your man is not every man. You know your man and what your man likes and wants in a woman better than any of us will. Men are individual people with individual needs. Some men want a woman who cooks and cleans, some men like to cook themselves and are very organized so they don't want other people moving their things around. Some men want women who are docile, quiet and go with the flow, some men want women who have clear ambitions and goals. Your man's wants depend on your man. Just asking him …
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 02:52 AM
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This is a dealbreaker for some people. It isn’t for others. It’s fair to have both viewpoints. This is a dealbreaker for this man, and you need to leave him because he told you to your face that he will never be able to fully love you or accept you. Stop letting him yo-yo you around and cut off the relationship for good.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 09:17 PM
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The main problem with incels isn’t that they can’t have sex, it’s that they are so enraged and misogynistic because of it. So I think of the female equivalent is a type of woman who is enraged and misandrist, but not willing to improve herself to change anything. First thought would be the fat “body positive” women who still want 6 figure+, 6feet+, handsome, charismatic men. It’s still the most alarming thing in the world to me that these women are unable to recognize that height is a part of yo…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 11:36 PM
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Oh… this isn’t a man thing, this is a YOUR man thing. You married an asshole for lack of a better word. He doesn’t care about you or what you want unless it’s something he wants. Most men are not like this. Most people aren’t like this. Your man specifically is just a dick.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 11:31 PM
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Men you meet online will dehumanize you more than men you meet in person will. When you meet someone online, you’re not really meeting a person, you’re meeting a picture and some text. The person those things represent could be entirely falsified too (catfishing). If you meet people in real life these things are less likely to happen, but they still will. Not all men cheat. Some men will cheat no matter what. Some men will only cheat if they feel wronged or somehow disconnected in the relationsh…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/22 09:48 PM
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You might just be asexual. You might have no good reference for romantic relationships in your life. You might have bad experiences with the boys at your school or the men in your area You might get your ideas on sex mostly from porn. But in my opinion, more women than people realize don’t develop sexual attraction until they develop emotional attraction. I think the major motivating force behind sexual desire for women lies behind feelings of emotional connection, respect, admiration, and safet…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/22 05:24 AM
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Ya we need a mod to ban and delete this one.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 05:08 PM
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Hm. 1 hour by train is a little far. Have you discussed the distance? Maybe he doesn’t think that is sustainable when you’re that far.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/22 11:45 PM
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which I said np and that we’ll work out the finer details after thanksgiving Personally, this seems like a conversation ender. Maybe you phrased it differently, but there isn’t a lot of response to give to this message imo. Maybe he did “leave you on delivered”, but you didn’t really give him any conversation to make with that message. Also the way you describe this sounds like a long distance thing. How far is your city from him?
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/22 07:10 PM
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A quality doesn’t have to be feminine for it to be good. Women can possess qualities that are “masculine” and still have them be positives. I don’t think there is a man in the world that would be less attracted to a woman that knows how to build a picture frame from scratch, or who knows the rules for American football. Just like I don’t think most women would be less attracted to men who know how to cook and clean. You can be feminine and still enjoy masculine things.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/22 10:19 PM
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He said he wants to get engaged. I don’t think he finds the “doormat” thing too problematic. Unless he’s mentioning it as a problem, or you don’t like that aspect of yourself, I don’t see a reason to make any major changes.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/22 05:00 PM
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So… he claims to be a problem solver, but he’s the one who gets overwhelmed by problems? This isn’t a you problem, this is something you need to talk about with him. If he is a self proclaimed problem solver, he shouldn’t be overwhelmed by problems. He should be able to calmly and rationally discuss them with you. He needs to problem solve his problem solving abilities. But I would frame it as “when you get overwhelmed it doesn’t help either of us. You say it’s ‘problem solving’, but me saying I…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/22 12:26 AM
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Unless he’s not getting the bed moved it or something, it would be better to help him dust/clean his house right? In your scenario: is there a reason for you to stay at the hotel outside of staying with him? Is it far from your house? Like it just doesn’t make a lot of sense to me to stay in a hotel instead of just cleaning the house. Bring a vacuum and a duster. You’re on this sub already, so wouldn’t it be better to show some homemaking skills by cleaning the home?
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 11:18 PM
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Umm… I mean could he not just be busy because he’s on a trip for work then immediately moving? Also I don’t think getting a hotel for him should be a surprise. You should definitely tell him you have a hotel, and you should have asked him beforehand.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 08:35 PM
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Ask him what he looks for in a woman, or what he wants out of a relationship. He’ll probably be surface level at first, but you can figure out what he really wants. This sub is all about quantifiable skills and attributes that you can use to increase your suitability for high quality men, but the thing that most modern high quality men look for once you’ve met their standards is companionship and trust. If the only thing you bring to a relationship is a womb and cooking/cleaning you’re just a bu…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 08:02 AM
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Botox is something I think most people should invest in. It just makes you look better well into your 40’s-50’s and even 60’s with an cost of like 1000-1500 USD per year (only need it once every 6 months or so). And as you get consistent with it, you begin to need less as your go back. It’s a pretty good investment imo. Fillers are a slippery slope. I know women who get filler and look amazing, I know women who get filler and get addicted. Next thing you know they have bee sting lips and a jaw s…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 07:47 AM
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The entire first half of your post is talking about how terrible you are. The second half of your post is questioning what you even want. First advice: be realistic with yourself, but also in good ways. What are good things about you? Are you pretty? Thin? Tall? Good skin? Long hair? Kind? Can you cook or knit? Like to read? Good at building things? Giving in bed? Etc. Also figure out what YOU want for your life. You’re asking a subreddit what goals you should have, but you don’t even mention th…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 07:37 AM
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Would you be ok being the breadwinner? Sounds like this man will probably never make meaningful money if his first option is making social media content that he’s not even consistent about at age 26. If you’re ok being the money maker of the family, that’s completely fine. If you’re not, you’re gonna have a lot of issues in this relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 05:42 AM
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Do you not want to date the coworker? In my mind I wouldnt really want to kiss or cuddle someone that I am not either emotionally attracted to, or want to have sex with. It seems like you don’t want to have sex, are you emotionally attracted to him?
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/22 01:36 AM
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If you can only be friends with people who are the exact same as you, then that’s your fault, not everyone else’s. Broaden your scope of the world. Understand that people can be different than you without being bad or incompatible. Also there are people like you describe everywhere.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 04:36 PM
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Sounds like he has (or maybe had) a porn addiction and ruined his sensitivity with excessive masturbation… I think there is sexual therapy to fix this maybe? Maybe there is regular therapy? I am not sure but I know there are resources that could help.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 06:19 AM
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No, it isn’t. RPW is about gender roles. Believing in gender roles doesn’t make you a good or bad person, it just means you’re a person who believes in gender roles. There are definitely people in this group who use their belief in this as a superiority complex to judge and ridicule people who don’t. There are also people who use this sub to be more kind and understanding of people different than themself. Neither of the above are part of the core of this subreddit. The core of this subreddit is…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 04:47 PM
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The basis behind red pill/conservative ideology is that women stay home because of the physical toll pregnancy/child birth takes, and because they are better suited to care for young children (breastfeeding). Why do you want to be a housewife with no children? Religious men will see this as “why don’t you want children?” And non-religious men will see this as “why don’t you want to work?” Unless you have a good answer for both, you are pretty much looking for a sugar daddy in the modern world.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 01:28 PM
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Most men would say 3 partners before them is a low amount. Your man is being unusually cruel
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 05:11 AM
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Exactly. So why do you have to listen to him saying that when he also says women should be a man’s property? You could listen to literally any other male podcaster and learn the common sense stuff. You don’t need to listen to Andrew tate to figure out women like strong, successful, tall, confident men. You have to be delusional not to see that with your own eyes. The only difference is when you listen to tate you also get the “all men should cheat on their women” stuff mixed in with it too.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 10:58 PM
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Andrew tate is never a good example of anything. He’s a click bait one liner guy who says intentionally ridiculous stuff to get reactions out of people, and support out of lonely men who want someone else to blame for their loneliness.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 12:02 AM
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and Hubby took a big step up this weekend. Holding the baby while he (bubba) napped, walking with him around the mall etc. I'm sorry, but a "big step" for your husband is holding his own sleeping baby? Does your husband love your baby? It sounds like he does not want to be a parent at all. Marriage and life is so much more than being with a man that says you can be a SAHM. If you have kids with someone you need to make sure they want kids. I turned off the water and heard the baby scream crying …
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/22 09:58 AM
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I know. Like do you not care about the mother of your potential children?? Sometimes it’s the most selfish stuff I’ve ever seen.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/22 07:55 AM
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The belief that women hit a proverbial wall around 30 years old, and the attention/interest they get from men steeply declines after this point.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/22 01:36 AM
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Ok, scenario for you: You find a beautiful young woman who loves you, cooks, cleans, wants to have kids and wants to be a homemaker. This woman decides you are the one she is going to have kids with, and decides she is going to put her entire financial future in your hands. You’re RP, so you probably believe in the wall. Let’s say you then decide one day you want to leave that woman and go be with another, younger woman in 15 years once your beautiful woman hits her mid 30’s/early 40’s. What hap…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/22 10:47 PM
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as I pointed out to him, if cuddling is too tempting for him then we can’t do it anymore You have this all wrong. He isn’t celibate, YOU ARE. Cuddling is too tempting for YOU, not him. This is not a problem he is going to fix for you, this is a problem that you have. To him this is not a problem at all, this is a good thing. If you rely on him to fix this nothing is going to change. If YOU want to be celibate, YOU have to do what is necessary to be celibate. He is not celibate, he does not want …
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/22 10:10 PM
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Talk to women everywhere. You need to learn how to talk to women. I don’t know what you look like, but as long as you’re not obese, you’re probably capable of getting an attractive woman to be interested in you. Style advice: buy Converse shoes, some oversized T’s, don’t wear skinny jeans, and wear a cool, suble ring on your non-ring finger (i suggest pinky ring). These look good on everyone. Most women want a man who: 1. has his shit together: sound like you’ve mostly done that. 2. Has some kin…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 10:43 PM
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I have always disagreed with STFU in this sub personally. I’m sure when explained fully it makes more sense, but the general message doesn’t seem very helpful to relationship success imo. You shouldn’t silence yourself to elevate him. You should communicate your opinions, wants, and needs. If you believe he should lead, then you need to provide a good leader with the full picture in order for him to make the correct decisions.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/22 01:24 AM
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Ok this is nice but I don’t think he would appreciate being called “a guy friend of mine that I’m dating”. Definitely never say that out loud around him. Or to anyone really. That doesn’t make a lot of sense to me at least. And blowjobs. Definitely blowjobs. Other than that maybe cook him a meal? Watch one of his favorite series with him (and pay attention). Maybe play a video game with him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 06:09 PM
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He is abusive. You’re being abused.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 12:26 AM
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My husband is asking for full control over my personal belongings. He wants the ability to take my phone, car keys, wallet with my personal CC’s and even move me into the guest bedroom as a form of punishment whenever he feels “disrespected.” He says.. “Under MY house everything is MINE. This is exactly what people outside of this bubble think all of these kinds of relationships turn into. This is why a lot of women will encourage young women to have some form of financial independence prior to …
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 09:29 PM
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Context is important. Did this man physically assault you, or did he forget to say I love you a couple of time before bed?
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 04:44 AM
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do men go for sex more with less attractive women? Are they easier? Men will go for sex with any woman they are interested in enough to flirt with. Are less attractive women easier? I’d say probably yes because they have less experience rejecting men than attractive women do.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/22 03:47 PM
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but I wasn’t attracted to those men despite them being friendly and having nice jobs Why? he was probably love bombing me He was. If a man is in love with you after the first time he sees you, then he’s way too easily swayed. Even if he does stay, what happens when he sees someone else who he instantly falls in love with? He’s going to either cheat, try to cheat, or leave. You need to be honest with yourself: you’re not the most beautiful woman on earth you’re probably not even the most beautifu…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/22 08:45 AM
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Could be negging, could be truthful. If you were someone other than you interacting with you, would you think you are annoying?
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/22 08:37 AM
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Do you enjoy sex? In my opinion, in a relationship it’s important that both people enjoy the sex and want to have sex. I think men and women both have times when they have sex, but they just do it out of love for the other more than their own enjoyment. I don’t think every time should be that. If it is that way for you, you need to communicate what you need to your partner better.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 09:44 PM
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He was probably married, or had a girlfriend. That’s usually how these things go. Looking at your post history… he ghosted you like a month ago, so this wasn’t super recent. You only went on between 3 or 6 dates depending on your story at the time. You’re “early 20’s” even though you’re 26 in older posts. You started seeing him like 2-3 weeks after your LTR broke up with you? I can see why he ghosted you. You seem like a mess. If your “bum” ex boyfriend breaks up with you over text when you’re a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 09:41 AM
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No way y’all play RS together lmao. That’s amazing!! Farming is my favorite skill and only 99.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 07:31 PM
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Red pill content on YouTube/tiktok is just code for “angry man who gets no bitches”. Most of these men are saying things to appeal to the fat loser men who would rather blame anything other than their own shortcoming for lack of female attention. It’s how you get followers and monetize your platform, because those loser men are the cash cows who do stupid stuff like sign up for Andrew Tate Hustler University lol.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 09:04 AM
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If your only goal in an argument is being right or wrong then this is for you. If you’re goal in an argument is to hear your partner and come to a mutually beneficial resolution, then this reads like an emotionless person trying to rationalize human conflict. A relationship is about being there for your partner and caring about their desires, needs, and frustrations. If you can’t do that even thru an argument then you’re probably just not mature enough for a relationship. Communication is how re…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 08:58 AM
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It’s not hard to find people who agree with your political views… there are only really two options if you’re American, and it’s about a 55/45 ratio in the overall country. There are literally countless women who have the same political affiliation you do. Probably love bombing. Might not be, but he’s 34 and not already with someone. if he’s a good man, why? Why are you different than anyone before you? Are you that much prettier than other women he could be with? If there are good reasons, beli…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 08:43 AM
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You should avoid situations where you will have a chance to create an attachment before the man is able to see what you look like. I don’t know what your medical condition is, but I know it would be pretty jarring to talk to someone only to later figure out that they have no legs (or something alone those lines). If you can’t avoid these, you have to expect this to happen. It’s only reasonable. I am sorry, I wish things were fairer. But I am sure you will find someone for you!!
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 08:37 AM
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A strong willed man man won’t commit to you unless you’re his type. If you’re in a relationship with him then his “type” is you. If he gets with a different looking woman after you then his type changed.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 08:33 AM
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tall, blonde hair, blue eyes, plays hockey . the physical stuff is a pattern of attraction, but will eventually fade You described things that specifically don’t fade. Blonde hair? Blue eyes? Tall? Those things don’t change unless he actively changes them. I guess blonde hair does eventually gray, but even then, coloring is a very easy thing to maintain when you’re going back to your natural color. “Plays hockey” isn’s a physical characteristic. The only “type” portion of people that really chan…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 08:29 AM
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Looks are very important. A man will not ever commit to you unless you meet the baseline level of attractiveness to him. The baseline level is different for everyone, but if you are below it, the man will never treat you as more than a FWB, and will never publicly claim you. How much it matters after you hit the baseline level? Honestly not very much. The further you are above it, the more problems he will overlook for you. The closer you are to it the more likely he will be to end things. Looks…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/22 01:52 PM
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Sounds like he lied to you about celibacy. He’s just saying whatever you want to hear. Pay attention to what he does, not what he says. That’s how you figure out who a man really is.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/22 01:46 PM
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Is this a recurring theme? Does he respect your feelings?
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 04:14 PM
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There are men who feel this way, but I would argue that most men around your age won’t feel this way unless you make them feel as though they are lower for having a less prestigious job title than you do.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 09:10 PM
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What makes you think he’s pulling away? Has he expressed concern or annoyance for your health issues? I don’t think the risk taking thing should be an issue. It sounds like you were scared to swim in open ocean? That seems pretty rational
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 01:29 AM
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You mention nothing specific at all. You don’t even mention your ages or how long you’ve been together. No one can give you any actionable advice from this post.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 12:05 AM
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How often do you two see each other? I think 3 months is pretty reasonable to ask, but if the first like 2 months were 2 dates total then it might be a little odd. Personally I think after around 4-6 dates the guy should probably know whether he wants to be with your long term or not. Sounds like you’ve already passed this point. Well unless the 4-6 dates are within like a week. Then he’s just lonely/love bombing.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/22 04:19 AM
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if he wanted to he would Maybe the worst advice any person could ever give you. It’s not true at all. Think of all the times you’ve wanted to do soemthing and haven’t. There are thousands if not millions of reasons people don’t always do the things they want to. You know who always does the things they want to do? Children. Never let any one-liner advice like that rule your mind. It’s simple, stupid, and wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 01:58 PM
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Well…. Is he right?
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 01:53 PM
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it was initially what I considered to be harmless I think you need to be honest with yourself here. Was it really harmless if you looked thru “hundreds of workout and gaming” channels he’s subscribed to in order to click on the singular woman-owned account you found? You were looking for problems. Just be honest with yourself. You’re not as trusting as you think you are. ​ but just seeing that he had only viewed her lingerie videos (that weren’t even meant to be sexual in that way it was literal…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 01:49 PM
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Have you communicated that this behavior makes your uncomfortable? Have you explained why this is hurtful to you? Do you ever go up and interject in their conversation? I feel like most couples would do that. He’s your boyfriend, you can participate in conversations he has with other people if you want to.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 06:14 PM
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It’s ok to allow your man to help with household chores. You don’t have to do it all yourself!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 06:54 PM
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He’ll probably continue to string you along. Believe people when they tell you who they are. The easiest way to have a failed relationship is to try to change the person you’re with.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/22 10:17 PM
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It sounds like this wasn’t a discussion between the two of you, seems like it was kind of a demand from him. Is this normally how your conversations go? Very poor communication wise if it played out the way you describe it. Also I don’t think that’s really part of Red Pill believe to cheat on your wife? I guess I haven’t read in a long time but I am pretty sure that’s not a staple of the belief system.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 03:52 PM
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Your hair will grow back!
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/22 05:40 PM
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Well I think it really depends. Secretaries are different than cashiers imo, because a secretary is still a coworker. I think it also depends what the career field is. Men in tech for instance probably would tend to go for someone outside of their field because there are so few women within their field. I used to live in a very southern red state and I think it’s more about when the people meet rather than who. Most people seemed to marry someone they met when they were 18-22. Either that or som…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 04:45 PM
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You say you don’t want to be financially dependent again, but you want a “provider” and you have no career drive. All 3 of these statements are conflicting. You have to make a choice. Decide whether you’re ok with your man cheating. If you are, go back to him. If you’re not, stay away because he will probably cheat again. The ugly truth that most women here don’t like to discuss is that the more money/power a man has the less likely he is to be faithful. You can obviously find faithful ones, but…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/22 05:19 PM
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Probably church. Gonna be a toss up finding that anywhere else. Edit: I just read the rest of your post… you’re 20 and financially dependent on your boyfriend? I don’t think you’re going to find a lot of women like yourself for another 5-8 years… unless you’re living with some older guy and you look up some age gap groups online for younger women.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/22 05:02 PM
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if he’s paying for them that‘s low-value (in my opinion) Escorts are most often hired by the richest men you’ll meet. CEO’s, celebrities, politicians. They all use escorts. High value men not paying attention to escorts/sex workers is a purely incorrect take. Maybe they’re men you don’t personally want to be with, but it’s annoyingly well documented how much powerful men hire sex workers.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/22 04:56 PM
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They just started dating. Sounds like they aren’t even official yet… if they were already dating and she talked to him about it then that’s another issue, but they’re just talking. Maybe she doesn’t want a guy that would ever pay for onlyfans to begin with… but she also doesn’t even know if he is paying for onlyfans or just following the girls on ig
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 01:48 PM
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Eventually you have to tell him that just because he doesn’t have hobbies doesn’t mean you don’t either.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 01:47 PM
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You have to decide whether your belief on politics is worth your relationship. You said you reacted poorly to his beliefs in the past, and he doesn’t want to talk anymore probably because of that. In my opinion politics in america have devolved to a point where everything is a partisan issue to a certain extent. I don’t think there is a lot of success to be had romantically between two people with strongly aligned opposing political beliefs in America. I think if you can’t avoid talking about it…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 04:28 AM
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If you can’t get the people you’re dating to give you the commitment you want; you’re dating out of your league. This has happened 10-15 times in ONE year. The men you’re going after are not interested enough in you outside of sex to continue talking to you. They’re out of your league, I’m sorry. Look for a little lower class men, they’ll probably be more willing. Either that or join a church.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 03:06 PM
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The younger the man the less likely he is to care about how marriage oriented you are. With that being said, you shouldn’t enter a FWB relationship if you want a boyfriend/husband. A guy entering a fwb relationship with you is the same as when a girl friend zones a guy. He might change his mind one day but right now he doesn’t like you enough to commit. Instead of asking why guys are like this, you need to ask why are you into guys like this? It’s probably a case of immaturity on both of your en…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 04:40 PM
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Were you making out with another man in this profile pic or something? Jesus this dude sounds insecure and manipulative
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 04:56 AM
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He has explicitly stated that he wants this in his relationship because this is what ruined his ex wife and his relationship in his opinion. and you seem morally against it. Given the reasoning behind this, do you think this behavior makes him excited about the idea of being with you? Why would he think you’re different than his ex wife after this interaction? To me this sounds like a fundamental incompatibility. Also why didn’t you suggest less restaurant dates? 4 nights a week spending $70 per…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 04:52 AM
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Why don’t you two see each other more often?
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 04:47 AM
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You have to accept that some men won’t be ok with this and others will. There are men who don’t mind and there are men that do. It’s just the unfortunate reality.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 04:42 AM
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he also started a job with long hours and is fatigued because of it That’s the reason. There’s no deeper meaning. It’s just that. Let him nap, or eat, have some alone time, or do whatever calms him down before you make any moves. New jobs are exhausting.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 04:38 AM
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This post sounds like it was written by an AI that studied exclusively RPM/Alpha/Sigma online culture for 3 months
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 04:36 AM
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Lack of sex or attention from other women is usually the reason.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 04:34 AM
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Honestly, you’re probably right. Can you potentially get one of these men to love you and commit to you long term? Yes, anything is possible. Will you get one of these men to commit to you long term? Probably not. If they have the option to date beautiful, younger women, and they’re not already attached to you, they will probably choose the beautiful younger women. But there is a silver lining. If you date an older man you could be the beautiful younger woman. You said you’re 29. Date a 35-38 ye…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 09:53 AM
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Idk where you got either of those conclusions from my comment
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 03:27 PM
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If a woman wants a high value man’s attention and he isn’t that into her, this is often times the only way for her to have any piece of him. She will be his sexual partner until one of them finds a permanent partner. It’s the same as a low value man befriending a high value woman. He will never be able to get her sexually, so he will be a an emotional boyfriend hoping she allows him to eventually be an actual boyfriend. FWB is just the male version of the friendzone.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 03:49 PM
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My girlfriend uses BC pills and has no issues. She only sometimes has issues if she takes adderall that day, but I hear that’s a common adderall thing. Check any medication you may use. Or if you’re on Adderall, just know that can happen.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 06:01 AM
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He could mean everything he says. You could really mean more to him than other girls, but that doesn’t mean he will stop talking to other girls.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/22 05:41 PM
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So you’re going to be a doctor and he’s talking about how low the salary during residency is? Does he know how high the salary is for physicians? Also why does asking about your work hours raise a red flag? Aren’t doctors’ hours notoriously kind of crazy and inconsistent?
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 02:12 PM
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He’s insecure about your attraction to him would be my guess. Do you ever comment on how attractive other men are? Did you have a bumpy history in terms of the beginning of your relationship? I think this is a super reach on his part, but these type of comments only come out of no where if you have a man who is intentionally trying to be mean to you/manipulate you. Let’s hope it’s not that.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 06:00 PM
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Yes looks inspire commitment. If you are below a certain threshold, no amount of other factors will make him commit. If you are above a certain threshold he will overlook red flags to commit.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/22 11:47 PM
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I think of love as the desire to sacrifice for the betterment of another. Whether that sacrifice is something major like the time and financial investment of raising a child, or something as trivial as watching a show you don’t like with your partner because it makes them happy. I think everything else regarding love can be derived from that statement.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 01:05 AM
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Well if you’re seeing more posts about them, that means you’re probably seeing more problems about them…. Which means they’re not working as well as non-age gap couples lol. I don’t think that’s a sign they’re on the rise. Look around your social circle. Are most people significantly different in age from their partners? Of my married fiends I know a couple who is 30 and 26, one who is 31 and 24, then the rest are mostly close in age. I’ve noticed that usually in age gap relationships when the m…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/22 03:22 PM
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My dilemma is that due to my own insecurities I guess I just wish he met my egoic standards like more muscular and more money You say you're on spring break, so you're in school. If this guy is around your age, how would he be making a lot of money? Or do you mean more money as in wealthy family background? Unless he's like 28ish or older, there really isn't a great way for him to meet that benchmark. You need to look for qualities that will lead him into making money, not what he has right now.…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/22 03:45 PM
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Are you saying her premise is wrong or just that she shouldn't have used a famous couple? I'm saying that this example specifically isn't the best choice because there is no upgrade or even equal to dating a prince. Where was she going to go if she broke up with him? Like she doesn't have a real choice other than to just wait around and do everything she can to try to get him to marry her. In relationships where you're not dating a prince there is a chance to upgrade or find someone relatively e…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/22 03:32 PM
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I don’t think this is a good example. I think almost every woman in their early 20’s would choose to date a prince for 10 years.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/22 10:38 PM
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He's your boyfriend and you are afraid to ask to see him...? Why?
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 12:11 PM
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just be honest. It's exactly like anything else. If you put yourself out there you need to be prepared for rejection. People will say "no thanks" and all that means is the relationship wouldn't have worked out for you anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 11:59 AM
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So I think you’re getting a little too into the extreme portions of this kind of thing. I will not deny that there are women who essentially mould their existence around pleasing a man, but in the same light there are men who mould their existence around pleasing a woman. Do you think men want to do the high paying jobs capable of supporting a family? Do you think they enjoy spending late nights at the office? I think you feel this way because you see one side of the equation. I don’t believe th…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/22 03:44 AM
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He’s just using buzz words to justify being a shitty human being. Dump him.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/22 11:26 PM
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Your timeline is extremely fast. I think you need to take a step back. Aiming for 22-25 for marriage is much more reasonable. Also you’re 17. I’d hope the older men at your church don’t take your seriously. It’s literally illegal for most of them to be with you. Slow down. People treat you like a child because you legally still are. Life isn’t a sprint. Just relax. Make some friends. Find something you like to do. Have sleepovers. Record embarrassing TikTok’s you’ll laugh about 5 years from now.…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/22 05:17 PM
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I don’t like Valentine’s Day. My girlfriend loves Valentine’s Day. I celebrate Valentine’s Day to make her happy. Not everything is purely you, sometimes you should do things for others.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/22 12:43 PM
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he also never talks about our future together I hate to be the one to bring it up, but it’s probably because you’re 5 years older than him and you don’t want kids. From how he treats birthdays, valentines, and pretty much anything that would make you happy, sounds like he has no intention of marrying you.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/22 09:11 PM
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Yes the truth will always come out! I feel like this woman in this post will begin to feel very helpless and resentful if she doesn’t express herself to her husband. I think the most healthy partners are in relationships where they can discuss the feelings and logic behind their decisions, and figure out the most sustainable option between the two for their conjoined portions of their lives.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 11:45 PM
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Yes the truth will always come out! I feel like this woman in this post will begin to feel very helpless and resentful if she doesn’t express herself to her husband. I think the most healthy partners are in relationships where they can discuss the feelings and logic behind their decisions, and figure out the most sustainable option between the two for their conjoined portions of their lives.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 11:45 PM
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So this in my opinion isn't the best. Maybe people here won't agree with me, but the way you word this does not sound like you're happy about learning the "right way" it seems like you're sad that you're not really being heard. We might have conversations where we agree, but when we do disagree, I often find that he actually is right after exposing his opinion and challenging mine (usually challenges my opinion until failure because I don’t have enough argument to back it). When it comes to opin…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 02:52 PM
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Anything is possible, but the odds are low. This sub isn’t about telling you what is and isn’t possible, this sub is a sub for giving advice on how to give yourself the highest odds in attaining the type of relationship you want with the type of man you want. I’m sure there are a handful of couples who have been together for a long time and began in this way. I am more sure that there are a countlessly higher amount who tried this and failed horrifically, because it’s a very bad environment to b…
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 06:55 PM
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I mean…. You only meet up when you’re having sex and have never been on a date. This isn’t your boyfriend, this is your fuck buddy. There is no relationship here, he’s just using you for sex. Also: I would advise not to have sex with men who call you stupid and retarded regularly.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 06:49 PM
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Well ok so I have some opinions on this that are not backed by research, just something I have personally observed. Firstly: I’m just going to assume that most of these career women do not want to be stay at home moms, so they don’t need their man to financially support them. Is it feasible long term? Absolutely. The only way it isn’t is if you have a problem with it. But I don’t think there are many female doctors dating male gas station clerks. Now the whole “professional women cannot find the…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/22 02:16 AM
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Oh, completely different than what i thought it was! Well ya arranged marriage sounds fine then. That sounds a lot like what young Christians currently do in the U.S.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/22 09:49 PM
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Well… what you’re describing doesn’t really sound like an arranged marriage from how I understand them. Isn’t the whole idea of arranged marriage that you have to get married? Dating someone your parents find thru your social circle is kind of different than that imo. If you want your parents to find someone for you, that kinda depends how much your trust your parents to understand what you want in a partner. So I guess it could work if your parents know you well, and want the same things for yo…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/22 06:30 PM
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Churches are usually the best place for young conservative people to find partners. In New York tho, being a stay at home mom is kind of unreasonable honestly. Just cost of living alone pretty much rules that out unless your eventual husband is making like 350k+. So you’d have to find a rich man.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/22 04:12 PM
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Now my ex is seeing this girl named K. I’m so confused about their relationship. My ex kinda holds me around and I’m his “main girl” but he tells me that he hangs out with K because it brings him peace from our relationship. He’s pretty honest about their relationship but they spend a lot of time together, and he’s introduced me to her. They have sleepovers, but my ex tells me they don’t kiss and I just wonder what they do. He’s building an emotional connection with her and I feel so upset by it…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/22 07:02 AM
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does redpill say they can cheat on their wives? No, especially not here. But if you ask men of the redpill sub they’d probably Reply something along the lines of “marriage isn’t for men”. Those men aren’t the men that the women of this sub seek though. Whether the man literally/verbally identifies as redpill means nothing (or might even be a negative) to the women of this sub. The women of this sub seek men who are most likely to be successful economically, and possess leadership qualities. Men …
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/22 01:49 PM
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Ok so the stuff you’re complaining about to me seems to be things that still make your work load lighter. He only does half the dishes? That’s half of the dishes you don’t have to do He takes out the trash and forgets to put the bag in? You don’t have to take it out, you just have to put the bag in. He folds the clothes in a way you don’t like? This one could add more work I guess, but how badly is he folding? Are you OCD about how your clothes are folded? If so he shouldn’t be folding them anyw…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/21 12:05 AM
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You’re on a great path! It seems like he at least has some direction. Does he do a lot of work on the business? Like do you see potential for it to be more consistently successful?
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/21 03:52 PM
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It sounds like you’re gay.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 07:48 PM
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I am very well off What does this mean for a 23 year old? Do your parents have a trust fund for you? Did you sell a successful startup? “Very well off” in my head means you could have enough to support a family as is, but must not mean that to you if you’re still concerns about him supporting you. he is poor How poor? Does he work at all? Does he have a career?
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 11:49 PM
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I heard that it is not HVM quality to accept adopted kids even surrogacy I swear some people here think HVM have to be borderline narcissistic assholes. I don't see any other reason someone would believe this. HVM can desire to adopt children. ONLY high value men can even consider surrogacy, do you know how expensive surrogacy is? Also there are high value men who just don't want children. You can find high value men within these parameters.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 08:26 PM
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I even broke one of his (deceased) mother's prized china dishes and he just walked over, picked up the pieces, and threw them into the bin. Um. Do you want him to scream at you? Hit you? Scold you? Why is this a bad thing? He never makes a move of his own and I have to basically either tell him we're doing it tonight or dress in a provocative way to entice him to do something So he does make a move, but only if you dress sexy. That seems pretty standard for a long term relationship. This is RPW,…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 08:02 PM
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Gender identity would be a topic that relates to RPW, but it’s not really mentioned here because this is a dating focused sub, and I don’t think anyone here is dating anyone that has a gender identity outside of their birth sex. Red pill people are more likely to be conservative, yea, but this sub is not really a place to discuss that kind of stuff. Unless it is a core conflict or interest in your relationship with a man, it’s just not super relevant information in this sub. Interesting about Tr…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 08:58 AM
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I cannot be friends with people who support movements I know are causing more harm than good I think the belief that you are without a doubt correct is a bad one. You can always learn from other people, but you never will if you believe you are always 100% right.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 05:16 AM
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Honestly, it's pretty difficult to be a red-pilled woman in this day and age. Where I live (Australia), most women are loud & proud feminists - if you disagree with their movement, they ostracise you, believe you have internalised misogyny and/or just think you're a right-wing idiot. If you don't agree with BLM, you're a racist, privileged white girl who has no compassion - mind you, most people who say this are white women too (cognitive dissonance - woooo!). If you don't think Trump is the equ…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 05:06 AM
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we both are getting good degrees but mine is more demanding than his Why is this a bad thing? You chose your degree, and you say his is good. Why is this a negative? I’m more physically attractive than he is Again, why is this a bad thing? You chose to date him, were you never attracted to him to begin with? Who cares who is more attractive if you are attracted enough to be with him regardless? This measuring stick game is a great way to end up in loveless relationships. It seems like you believ…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/21 03:41 PM
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Men who want children usually want to get married. Men who are indifferent about children usually are indifferent about marriage. Many men are afraid of marriage. Things that scare men who would normally want to get married are: 1) The idea that the woman will eventually divorce them and take half their money. 2) Once they get married the woman will become less sexual and more withholding 3) The woman has worrying tendencies or traits she doesn’t act to fix (irresponsible spender, complainer, po…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 11:11 PM
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It sounds like you’re just sexually incompatible. You’ve been talking about this every week for years, and you’ve tried to power thru and it doesn’t work. I am sorry, but that’s really all I can think about. You and you husband just don’t match sexually.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/21 05:33 PM
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Seems like most people are upset because he had a child before his most recent one. His previous child was disabled and his most recent child is not. He thanked his current wife for giving him a “healthy” child. The other stuff seems mostly pedantic.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/21 04:21 PM
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Why are you sure that these women are “doing so little”? Do you personally know them and their relationships? This seems like a pretty big assumption to me. Maybe they do more to deserve these things that you don’t see. Maybe they make their man’s life so much better that the man doesn’t need a grand reason to reward them with gifts and treats. Don’t discredit thing you don’t know about.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 11:31 PM
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Well you dug your own grave. It's up to him whether he decides he can get over this or not. The only thing you can do is remain as truthful as possible from now on and wait to see if he decides to leave you or not.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 02:32 PM
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Getting married at 22-24 is a very geographically based idea in today's world. If you live in the US, and you're not in a state liek Alabama, Georgia, Kentucky etc. you should aim more for 26-28 marriage wise.... Unless you're dating men who are around 30 years old currently. As for how to make a specific man love you: you can't unless he is physically attracted to you, that is step 1. Outside of that it is based on that specific man's preferences, but this sub has plenty of useful advice for th…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 02:29 PM
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I seen a video from a rp YouTube account talking about how any woman over the age of 25 can't realistically think she has any value to herself above a 3 on a scale of 1-10. And they were saying how she can't factor career, family, etc into her self worth. This is stupid. People in real life don't think this way, you've strayed into the MGTOW/inc3l version of RP when you see people who believe that. Truth is the best way to retain beauty and a youthful appearance is exercise and skin care. Beyond…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 02:24 PM
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It’s the same thing as anything in life. If you don’t maintain a house, you get bugs and your appliances break. If you don’t maintain a car the engine dies. If you don’t maintain your body you lose muscle/get fat. If you don’t maintain your work ethic you lose your job. There isn’t really anything in life that you can just stop paying attention to and have it continue to be good for you… everything requires some level of work or effort.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/21 01:20 AM
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it felt to me like it might be blinding you from seeing the truth of yourself while following an unreachable, unrealistic version of yourself? This is the same mindset that keeps people from exercising, or asking for a raise, or going to grad school, or asking out their crush or whatever else. If you don’t care about self improvement, then yes I agree. If you do care about self improvement, you should be able to aim for a goal and enjoy the process of getting there. Even if you never achieve the…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/21 11:25 AM
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You asked in your title how you can become more feminine, but you ask in the body text how to get him to become more masculine. You can’t force him to be more masculine. This is the man you’re with, and expecting him to change is a losing game. Accept his passivity, or find a new man.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/21 11:19 AM
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Little things eventually add up to become big things. Maybe he didn’t like the way you communicated Maybe he was never that physically attracted to you. Maybe he was very physically attracted to you and you changed soemthing about yourself. Or gained weight. Maybe you stopped putting in the effort you used to. Maybe he didn’t like your plans for the future. Maybe he didn’t like the timeline. Maybe he just doesn’t want to be married ever. The list could be borderline infinite. The reason your spe…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/21 11:14 AM
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Go to a gyno if you’re concerned. I’m saying given the info that is available to everyone if you look it up or ask a doctor; you’re most likely fine.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 03:20 PM
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The vaccine has been shown to have no effect on fertility. If you want to get your fertility checked then go to a gynocilogist.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/21 09:27 PM
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1) No sense of responsibility. If every problem they experience is the fault of someone else then they’re not someone who is ready to grow or improve as a person. 2) Lack of financial discipline. This doesn’t mean that they have to have a lot of money to be mature, it just means that they need to understand what their income level is and how to spend within that. If the person you’re with is constantly putting themselves in debts they can’t pay, then they’re going to do that to you too. Maturity…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/21 09:52 PM
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If you are not in very religious circles this will be borderline impossible. Even in religious circles it can be a struggle. If you are willing to do sexual things that are non-penetrative then I think there is more potential. If you are not willing to do anything sexual at all until you’re married then I hope you’re a devout mormon/Christian, or marrying someone directly out of high school. Otherwise dating is going to be hell for you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/21 09:47 PM
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Unless you’re going for exclusively famous men, men don’t really have women “throwing themselves” at them. The men who have that are entertaining women who do that. If they shut it down it stops. If you’re only going for men like that then your odds of success are gonna be pretty low.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/21 06:01 PM
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I’m just worried we have different visions of what adult life looks like This should be something you’re sure of, one way or the other. This post sounds like you haven’t talked to him. You recognize he comes from a different background where he probably doesn’t have the same kind of family/friend influence that you do. Why not give him the option to have that (in you) if he wants to? Talk to him and ask him what he thinks adult life should be like.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/21 05:57 PM
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men will gladly go down in looks to go up in cooperation I don’t think this is true. Single (put together) men in the 30-40 year old age range can be way more picky than men in their 20’s. They don’t have to choose between beauty and cooperation, they can just get both in the same woman. They aren't even confined to their own age range like men in their early 20's are. Pretty much everything is easier for women when they’re younger dating wise. Everything is easier for men when they’re older. Wh…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 03:43 PM
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Can’t you just avoid scheduling things early in the day on weekends? If he works very hard during the week he probably doesn’t want to feel rushed, or wake up early on weekends. I know I wouldn’t.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 03:29 PM
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uh.... Idk if you know geography, but the south of Texas borders Mexico.... So it is a Mexican accent.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/21 03:50 AM
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She’s very pretty. Honestly I think a lot of people will view this as more “ratchet” than it is because of her mexican accent. With that being said, I don’t know any male in my life who would look at any girl posting a video like that and think “wow she seems like a catch”. When girls that pretty are single for a long time the girl is always the problem.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/21 12:33 AM
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I think most problems other than high body count are going to be overlooked if they’re fixed. But only if they’re truly fixed. If they’re just “fixed” like: “I used to have a screaming problem, and sometimes I still scream in arguments, but I’m better now” that doesn’t count.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/21 11:20 PM
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Most men watch porn. You can Google surveys and studies, it’s just very common for American men, especially men below 35ish (the most internet-literate ages). Most men won’t stare in front of their woman. Most men won’t stare at all. Disrespectful/narcissistic men will stare.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/21 11:17 PM
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I’m honestly surprised there aren’t more “video games” comments. I personally was someone who thought “why would aomeone ever care about their boyfriend/husband playing video games?” Then I started realizing that most people who consider themselves gamers are actually people with anger problems who take their frustration out on video games rather than deal with it themselves. I have noticed plenty of girls who are fine with their men playing video games, but those men aren’t the ones who rage or…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 10:18 PM
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I honestly don’t know how many calories I eat That’s the first thing you should know if your goal is weight loss. It’s really the most important thing, because if you’re eating 3500 calories a day you’re gonna gain weight. If you’re eating 2000 a day you could still lose depending on your lifestyle. Your walks seem pretty good overall! The hikes would be a huge help! Really the only way anyone here can really help you is if you give specifics: your calorie intake, age, and current height/weight.…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/21 05:48 PM
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I walk every day and been changing my diet Ok that’s a great start! How long have you been doing this for, how much progress have you made, and what is your calorie intake? The key to weight loss is a calorie deficit. You say you want to lose 100lbs, so I’m going to assume your “maintenance level” in terms of calorie/weight ratio is around the 2500-3000 range. How many calories a day are you consuming? Describe your walks by addressing the questions below: Are they outside or on a treadmill? How…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/21 05:33 AM
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He’s abusive. He’s not kind, he’s not caring, he’s abusive. Kind people don’t throw away all of the food in your house. Kind people don’t call food made for them “dirty”.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/21 01:02 PM
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If you’re talking about TRP sub, treat most of it as fiction. It’s not real most of the time, 99% of 40+ year old men can’t get any remotely good looking women under 30. As for why men are attracted most to 18-25 year olds; it’s biological I believe. Women in that age range are less likely to have had children by other men, and most likely to be able to bear healthy children themselves. Then there are more obvious, physical things like weight (easier to manage when you’re younger), wrinkles, sag…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/21 03:23 PM
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Well from this post it seems like you’re the perfect woman! But that’s clearly not the case. There are negatives to every person, think about what yours are. If you genuinely cannot come up with any negatives then the problem is most likely that you’re narcissistic. You say people admire you, does that mean they like you romantically or that they admire the work you perform? How many dates have you been on in the past year, and why didn’t they work out? Describe the men who you have met who you …
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/21 12:33 AM
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Men who promise too much too soon are usually either very manipulative or very fickle. A confident and well adjusted man shouldn’t be promising you the world within the first week you meet him. Take this as a learning opportunity. Avoid men that go overboard on affectionate claims very early in relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 08:17 AM
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I never said that’s what I thought about it But… it wasn’t a quote… It’s just a comment. How am I as a reader supposed to know that? That’s something that only you could know from reading that. saying something that you disagree with or upsets you doesn’t make it toxic This is true. But I think that most people would agree that the thought that relationships are the same as casual sex is a toxic mindset. Toxic is an opinion, not a fact. That thought can only further erode her confidence in her c…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/21 05:25 AM
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what he’s doing with you is a long term version of what he was doing before This is a terrible way to put it and I whole heartedly disagree. You can have sex with someone and care nothing about them. The fact that he cares and it is long term is literally the only difference between casual sex and a relationship. Maybe you think nothing other than marriage matters, but that line of thought is really toxic, especially for young people like her. 24 is still really young to get married in most of t…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/21 04:40 PM
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When you overlook abusive treatment to justify a relationship is the best indicator.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/21 04:42 PM
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The idea that everything you do should be solely for you is a toxic and selfish mindset. Doing things with others in mind is not bad unless it is hurting you or others.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 03:34 PM
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So you’ve been dating less than a year and you’re thinking about leaving if he doesn’t propose soon? Sounds like you’re the red flag here. You need to readjust your expectations.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 11:28 AM
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This sounds like an abusive relationship. He is being really irrational and cruel. I would not get back together with him. Sounds like you’re traumabonded.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 11:26 AM
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If you can afford it, believe that he will complete it, and see a future with him, then I’d say it’s a fine thing to do. If you are not confident about any of the above, I would not do it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 11:22 AM
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Red pill is a concept, but the red pill sub takes that concept from the perspective of an enraged male. This sub takes that concept from an enlightened woman. Men find the red pill and feel rage because it contradicts what they have been taught their entire lives. Women find the red pill and feel comfort because it confirms what they’ve been told their entire lives. The basis is: men and women are different. Men and women value different things. We shouldn’t try to change the things we inherentl…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 11:20 AM
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Looking at your post history…. You are not dating men with houses and jobs, you’re mostly dating unemployed college dropouts in their mid 30’s with really bad social/emotional red flags. I think you need to find men who actually have their life together before you decide you can’t feel love. But then again this could be the result of your age unfortunately. Most good men are already taken by the time they reach the age where they’d be interesting in dating 30 year old women. You need to be in a …
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 11:14 AM
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What you’re describing isn’t the same as what I am describing. You’re describing a lack of importance for perceived negative actions when it comes to attracting love. I’m talking about a lack of importance in perceived positive actions for attracting love. Men are lied to in the sense of “women will love you if you do X” Women are lied to in the sense of “men won’t judge you if you do X”. The things you’re talking about aren’t perceived actions that are supposed to help you acquire love, just pe…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 10:30 AM
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I’m sure some women do experience rage, but the reason women’s rage is lessened is because the “truth” (in our space) is confirming what they’ve always been told. Women are pretty often told that looks are the largest factor in finding love, so there’s not as much to rage against. For women the “wake up” is realizing that they have been lying to themselves. So if there is rage, it’s internalized rage, it’s not aimed at anything external. For men the “wake up” is realizing that everyone else has …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 10:44 PM
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Ok so, red pill for men begins from a place of rage. The reason for rage is because men are raised to believe that women cherish kindness and thoughtfulness above money and status from a romantic standpoint. Red Pill is the understanding that this is fundamentally inversed. It makes them feel as though most of the beginning of their lives have been sabotaged from a romantic standpoint. The rage intensifies as they constantly hear from women when they ask “what women want” and women reply “just a…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 10:31 AM
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The how much question depends more on the financial standing of your partner than anything
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 04:18 AM
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I don’t think most men will consider this “body count”, no. I will warn you though, that nearly every man you see romantically from now on will be expecting threesomes. Other than that, I don’t think most men really care unless a penis is going inside something of yours.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/21 07:43 PM
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This seems a little obsessive. Are you like 15? Because this sounds like the reaction of a 15 year old. If you are 15 then you’ll grow out of this. If you are a grown woman and not a child, then you need to learn not to obsess over men you don’t really know.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/21 07:39 PM
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Then you shouldn’t have an issue finding a well earning man!
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/21 10:56 PM
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People usually date and eventually marry other people from their circle. This is even more common the higher class the person is. You don’t need to be wealthy to date a wealthy man, but if you’re trying to date men from wealthy families, you likely will never get close enough for that to be a possibility. It’s more like…. If you’re not wealthy person you will just never interact with them. Are you vacationing in 5 star hotels? Do you go to the highest quality gym in the area? Do you hang out at …
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/21 06:15 PM
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They think you’re lying to them to let them down easier.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 09:29 PM
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Being of lower or equal social stats plays no role in SMV then… unless you specifically look for women who make significantly less than you
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 06:57 AM
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By this logic a woman’s social class would play no part in her SMV…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/21 10:09 PM
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Men don’t need women and women don’t need men. You should not look to be with someone who needs you, but someone who wants you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 05:13 PM
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HVW … in a man’s social class or below How would a high value woman be if a lower social class than her man? Wouldn’t that inherently make her lower value than her man? People almost always date within their own social class.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/21 06:28 PM
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The way you describe yourself is pretty telling. You’re addicted to trauma. You search for abusive and damaging traits in men because those excite you. Stable, healthy minded men bore you. You need to either accept that you will only be “happy” with men who abuse you, or work to change your mindset. This statement: partners who constantly pursued new interests and learning new things, and who made me feel alive by always bringing fresh perspectives to the table. Could just as easily be worded th…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/21 11:52 AM
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30 is not too late to regain your SMV. Start exercising. Consistent exercise will fix the weight and has been proven to increase libido.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 08:13 PM
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Ya I think the best way to ease back into dating is to ease back into meaningful social interactions. If you have close friends that usually is how people meet their significant others eventually (outside of the Internet). A friend of a friend is always easier to date than a random person from tinder.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 05:02 PM
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Ok that makes more sense. But I would suggest looking for someone at your university. Join a club or start a study group or something along those lines.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 03:04 PM
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I’ve been nun mode on and off for a year and a half (excluding the 4 months I dated someone) This…. Like…. This is not nun mode lol. There is no “on and off” with nun mode. You either are or are not in nun mode. The entire purpose of nun mode is a mental reset, if you’re not allowing yourself a true and genuine abstinent period then it’s completely pointless. It seems like your problem is that you view dating apps as the only way to date. You can meet people in real life, you don’t have to go ex…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 11:58 AM
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he has a very dry sense of humor I feel like some people use this as an excuse to just be a dick and play it off. He doesn’t have a dry sense of humor, he just enjoys making you feel bad about yourself. This is really bizarre and mentally sadistic behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/21 05:44 AM
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Most dating isn’t great. Dating in general kind of sucks until you find the right person, online dating just gives you a bigger pool of potential wrong persons I guess. I know plenty of people that had success online dating. I know a couple of couples who got married and met thru dating apps. But most girls I know will only go out with people who have some kind of connection to their social circle. So they’re not really going out with complete randos.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 09:17 PM
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I think it is definitely possible, but statistically, it’s pretty unlikely. Most of the reason that people historically marry is to build a family together. Finding a man who does not desire children will usually mean he doesn’t want to get married either. And if you don’t ever plan to raise children, I would not expect for a man to desire you to be a housewife. With that being said, it’s not impossible, it’s just unlikely. I wouldn’t say it’s because men only value looks but I would say it’s be…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 03:20 PM
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Most of those couples in wealthy neighborhoods also have kids. Like the super super majority have kids. I wouldn’t necessarily consider this to be something that would lessen her concern.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 02:45 PM
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Well it seems like there isn’t really an option given your current situation. Can you go visit your family? When you say you’re high risk, have you always had significant health issues?
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 02:39 PM
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his showers are the only time he spends alone This is the reason. I can guarantee you this is the reason. Men need alone time.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 02:28 PM
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You should try online dating. It’s really easy for women to find people they online dating. You can at the very least get some dating experience.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 02:22 PM
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men avoiding educated, empowered women in favor of naive, supportive women I disagree with this one. How are the words empowered and supportive antonyms to you? People can be empowered and supportive. I don’t think that any man truly rejects a woman for being is smart and independent unless she is also rude and condescending. But if you really believe that empowerment and supportiveness are antonyms then I understand why you’d view things this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:26 PM
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If inexperience turns you off then move on. I’d if doesn’t then this should be no problem. If he actually is a late bloomer then this could make sense. Dating when you’re in college is very VERY difficult for men who aren’t high value. Hook ups can happen, but actual lasting relationships for average and lower men in university are pretty scarce. Dating in high school is hard too, since most people other than the pretty girls and athletic boys are pretty awkward. You said he started a successful…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/21 01:06 AM
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It’s biological for men to be attracted to young girls, it’s character-based whether they do anything about it. Find a man of good character and you won’t have to worry about whether he is attracted to young girls or not, because he won’t do anything about it even if he is. It’s the same thing as men worrying about their women lusting after money and fame. Everyone knows famous men fly girls out all the time, it’s not unlikely for a pretty girl to be able to cheat with wealthy/successful men. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 10:34 PM
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The truth is most people here just won’t know. Lesbian relationships are different than straight relationships, and they’re probably different than gay (male) relationships too. Unless there are some gay women in here with experience, none of us know how those dynamics work. RP is based on the biological differences between men and women that tend to lead men and women in different directions in terms of relational preference. It’s about understanding and embracing those differences rather than …
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 10:15 PM
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Just live on your own. If you’re already struggling when talking about how much you’d pay him as a landlord then things are not going that well. It sounds like this is only the beginning of the problems you’ll experience while living together. Save yourself the trouble and wait til you’re actually engaged/married and he puts your name on the mortgage too.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 10:12 PM
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This sentiment is vastly over-exaggerated in this community. I think the idea that “if I stop caring about being appealing to my partner, he might leave or cheat” is an important one. I think the idea that “after I turn 30, my man automatically wants to trade me in for an upgrade” is toxic and simply untrue. Men don’t actually think this way, especially when they’re in happy marriages. Will he ever stop being attracted to 21 year olds? Probably not. Will he ever leave you for one? Extremely unli…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 10:08 PM
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Uh.... is this an incel sub now? This is a really incel-y post.... Like this post is probably a lie, and even if it isn’t it’s written so cringey.
/r/PussyPassDenied27/04/21 03:39 PM
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Eh I’d say she’s more rare than 1/1000. She’s pretty and fit (even at 43), and has a prestigious career with a wealthy upbringing. I’d bet she was a millionaire before George, which as a woman already makes her way rather than 1/1000. Maybe 1 in 1million is too generous, but I think 1 in 1000 is selling her short. I’d say like 1/50,000 is probably a more realistic. She’s definitely a catch, but she’s nothing in comparison to someone of George Clooney’s stature.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 05:07 AM
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Financial instability is a maturity issue. If he is bad with money that is often due to impatience which is a pretty significant maturity issue. But If his family is rich, it doesn’t matter. Why did he defer school due to covid? That makes no sense, you can still go online, and classes are easier online. He could have taken a year to get better grades with a lighter workload, that’s not a real reason to defer. Deferring school for no reason, and bad money habits. Sure he has “goals” that align w…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 01:32 AM
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I once saw a comment where a man said his wife wanted kinkier sex, but he couldn’t do it because he said loved her too much This shouldn’t be a red flag.... well maybe it should but not for the way you phrase it. A lot of “kinky” things that happen during sex are usually centered around degradation to some extent. Most men that are into kinky sex that I have known are usually pretty misogynistic. The reason he doesn’t want to perform that sex act with his wife is because he didn’t love the women…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 01:17 AM
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Why did you have to include her name in the reply lmao 😭😭😭. I burst out laughing when I read that
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/21 01:12 AM
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Well if they split and he found someone else, do you think he is not able to find another trustworthy high value woman interested in dating/marrying George Clooney? I mean... I don’t think any single woman on earth age 35-50 would say no to George Clooney if he were single lol. Hell most women 30 and below would say yes. He has literally infinite options to choose from. I’m sure there are plenty of trustworthy women to build connections with in there. I’m not saying Amal isn’t a great woman, I’m…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 09:22 PM
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the trust that he has in Amal cannot be upgraded Eh... how do we know this? He could build trust with a new woman. He married Amal 7 years ago, or 30 years into his acting career and probably 400ish million dollars into his wealth accumulation, and when he was already over 50 years old. It’s not like she met him in high school and they’ve been together ever since. She met him close to the peak of his fame and fortune. Why would her trust be more valuable than someone else’s? Most successful peop…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 08:30 PM
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If you are posting here and believe looks aren’t a massive portion of men’s value in women then you’re in for a rude awakening. I agree that isn’t that only way to upgrade though, you’re right. I’m not arguing that Amal is not an impressive, high value woman in her own right, but you’re talking about George Clooney here... this man is an international superstar worth half a billion dollars. Part of his fame is that he is notoriously attractive and good with women. Clooney could find another Amal…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 06:38 PM
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The truth is none of us know. My speculative answer? George for sure. You wouldn’t know who Amal Clooney is if she didn’t marry George. George has an estimated net worth of $500million. George is 16 years older than Amal. Not saying these things mean George for sure if the dominant one, but there is no chance in hell Amal ever upgrades from George. George could upgrade from Amal without any effort if he wanted to. I’m sure if he broke up with Amal today, he could have some some ex (or current) V…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 05:40 PM
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What do the girls who you think are worthy of a man look like (both physically and mentally)? The best way to feel worthy of what you want is to try to be more like people who you perceive as worthy of what you want. If you believe women worthy of HVM’s get straight A’s? Study more in school. If you believe they’re a certain weight or body fat percentage? Work out and watch your diet more. If you believe they’re more friendly and warm? Force yourself into social circles til you can learn to be t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 01:04 AM
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You sound like probably the worst girlfriend imaginable. You are indecisive and insecure, perpetually wasting time and money, vengeful and bad at communicating, and a leach. You don’t contribute financially or emotionally to your relationship in any position way whatsoever. I don’t ever condone cheating, but if you look at the situation you can probably understand why he did this to you. You are only a burden to him, not a girlfriend. You need to be alone so you can get your ish together. He des…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 12:31 AM
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I mean.... he’s not even secretive about it. It seems like he’s actively planning to cheat on you, he just hasn’t found someone who is willing to do it yet. A child and an engagement is a tough work around. I would suggest trying to set some boundaries on what you do or do not think is ok. Explain that you believe these things are just a stepping stone to full on cheating and would like to protect your relationship be requesting he stops. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/21 07:23 PM
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He’s clearly a very absuive man. Leave him. As for your life; you shouldn’t rely on men to support you, especially before you have children. I don’t think many men (and zero that I know) want a woman who doesn’t plan to have a job. You need to be able to support yourself. Also getting married at 20 usually isn’t the best choice. Maybe if you’ve known and been with someone since high school or something it’s a good move, but otherwise you usually just don’t know yourself, or the other person well…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/21 05:05 PM
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Hmmm.. well if he works regular hours on weekdays and has his kids on weekends, sounds like he might actually just be busy. But the most red flag in all this is him just flat out ignoring you when your asked him to meet up again. If he just explained why he couldn’t to you I would say there’s no reason for concern given all the extra info you provided.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 05:44 PM
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coming out of a bad relationship (divorce) Is he actually divorced, or is he in the process of divorce? When you met up for the overnight date, was it at his house or a neutral location? How far do you two live from one another? What is his schedule like? Why a man won’t meet up with a woman is usually because of one of a couple reasons. he just doesn’t like you that much (the most common reason) he is genuinely too busy to see you (problematic reason, but can be worked around once he decides yo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 05:03 PM
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Too bad all that intellect can’t change her sentence. Why aren’t you a Supreme Court justice yet?? Maybe you aren’t as alpha as I thought 😭
/r/PussyPassDenied04/04/21 08:28 PM
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Oh please forgive me alpha-male sama. I am so terribly sorry for infringing on your big massive throbbing intellect. I hope you can teach me your ways one day when my pea brain evolves up to your standard 😫
/r/PussyPassDenied04/04/21 08:07 PM
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Ooooh metaphysical concepts 🤯🤯. Did you just learn that one big guy? 😝
/r/PussyPassDenied04/04/21 06:29 PM
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Oh you don’t believe in science? That’s so edgy and cool of you bro.
/r/PussyPassDenied04/04/21 05:51 PM
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Looks like it does tho... because that’s literally what she got lol in the real world lol.
/r/PussyPassDenied04/04/21 05:04 PM
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I don’t think men would get more than 3 months for a one time occurance of revenge porn. Sentence seems to fit the crime imo
/r/PussyPassDenied04/04/21 04:39 PM
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I also don’t look at dating someone with higher income than me to be materialistic . I want to have a stable life and be financially free while also having generational wealth These are contradictions. If these things were truly what you cared about, you would achieve them yourself instead of looking for a man who can do it for you. I’m not saying your desire is wrong, I’m saying you need to be honest with yourself. You want to live comfortably, and you either don’t want to, or aren’t able to wo…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 12:35 AM
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It’s very common in young girls to be attracted to men who are obviously bad for you. It’s something you need to choose to either overcome or embrace. If you ignore this it usually leads to either abusive relationships with bad men, stupid fights which make a good men resent you, or just straight up cheating. It’s a very toxic mindset to have and breeds very toxic behavior in relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 12:21 AM
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There’s a reason a lot of men find themselves to be most attractive when they’re in a relationship. It’s because the girlfriend offers other women proof that you’re worthy of female attention. The hotter the girlfriend, the more valid the proof. Your strategy is very good.
/r/TheRedPill01/04/21 05:05 AM
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After looking through that sub.... it’s pretty shockingly depressing. It’s probably for the best for your mental health that you do not visit that sub anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 05:00 AM
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So you’re afraid that he will leave you without feeling anything about it one day is the main takeaway I’m getting from this. As for marriage... I mean you don’t even know if you want marriage. I don’t know why his answer would be a red flag considering you asked on the second date. Seems like a pretty sensible answer. The problems you express with him seem pretty minor. Seems like whenever you bring up an issue he addresses it pretty maturely and takes responsibility. Speak up and ask him what …
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/21 08:28 PM
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Ya this doesn’t have anything to do with that. This is just kinda of incel fuel it seems. Seems like more of an excuse to defend white men and condemn middle easterners than anything else. This is one of those posts in this sub that makes you realize we probably have a handful of mass shooter wannabes in here. Scary stuff in the comments.
/r/PussyPassDenied29/03/21 08:40 PM
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I was advising him to take on another job to make more money How would you like if he advised you to stop eating, or to get some work done to become prettier? This is the same thing. The majority of men’s dating value is in their career and what they make of themselves. The majority of women’s dating value is in their appearance. You might have different values, but it seems like you definitely approached this conversation the wrong way. If he didn’t get defensive he then that would be a problem…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/21 08:07 PM
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I think most men want a woman that makes everything we learn here not so bad to realize. I remember when I first realized that you can’t be overly nice to women to make them like you. I was actually upset. I thought for a really long time “why wouldn’t a woman want a man who is nice to her?” And it was genuinely infuriating. We know men who are genuinely nice are what’s best for women. Women know men who are genuinely nice are what’s best for women.... but women still choose men who treat them l…
/r/TheRedPill24/03/21 01:09 PM
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If money this is all you care about just make a seeking arrangement account and become a sugar baby. It’s way easier than whatever you’re trying to do here.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/21 12:51 AM
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I’m not sure why liking the pictures is the issue here and not the fact that he’s consistently talking to a girl he met on Instagram. Liking a picture? Debateable. Talking to an Instagram girl he doesn’t know? I don’t think anyone would be ok with that unless it’s a business deal or something
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 04:22 AM
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It took me a while to learn this, but I live by it now. It’s one very simple saying: It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. You could ask a girl for anal sex the first time you ever speak to her. Depending on how you say it she either laughs it off and finds you charming/funny, or slaps you and calls you a creep. Same thing could be said for something as simple as saying “you’re cute” to a girl. Or “hi”. Who you are and how you carry yourself is way more important to women than what you act…
/r/TheRedPill19/03/21 05:44 PM
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Not it wouldn’t. He probably thinks you’re just trying to get him to admit it, so you can gain your closure and move on. Fuckboys never admit they’re only in it for sex until they either don’t care whether it continues, or they’re sure you’re too obsessed to leave anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/21 12:26 AM
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he was a nice guy otherwise Huh?? What does nice guy mean to you? He was racist, and rude to restaurant staff. That’s not a nice person lol
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 06:34 PM
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at this point I don’t know why he can’t just spit it out if he sees me like that Because then you’ll stop having sex with him. If he doesn’t give you a glimmer of hope that you can make him love you, you’ll stop talking to him, and he doesn’t want that yet. At least not until he can find someone else. Guys like him know how to string girls along, and that’s exactly what he’s doing with you. “Don’t get too close to me” is the classic fuckboy statement that girls fall for way more often than they …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 06:30 PM
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Men value beauty most highly when selecting a partner, so the most beautiful women don’t have to be much of anything else to be successful in their love life. Women value status above everything else. So the highest status men don’t have to be much else in order to have a successful love life. Ugly women and low status men get the short end of the stick. That’s just life. You’re looking at the top 5% of women looks wise and thinking about all women. The women you’re referencing are not a good ex…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 05:56 PM
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Breast lifts can be done without implants, and it sounds like that’s what you would get if you were to get a procedure done. Many women get them after breastfeeding or losing significant weight. Not saying it’s necessary, but sometimes cosmetic procedures really do make people happy, and there’s no shame in that. You seem very unhappy with your current breasts and this would fix the physical problems you have with them it sounds like. But it’s your life, you should deal with it in the way you th…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 05:51 PM
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It doesn’t get better. You learn that most women like when you specifically treat them poorly. Not that women happen to end up with men who treat them poorly, but that the behavior of treating women poorly is what attracts them. It’s a very common thing, and is more common the greater the disparity between your and their social standing is.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/21 04:44 PM
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If you wanna have kids young you need to either: 1) not worry about money and just hope it works itself out (don’t recommend this option), 2) marry an older man. Doesn’t necessarily have to be some 50 year old twice divorced creep looking for a young wife, but some guy in his 30’s with a good job would probably work. I’d say this is your best option. 3) marry into a rich family. This is unreliable at best, but would work if you happen to meet a guy with wealthy parents that just want grandchildr…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 01:29 PM
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Neither women nor men are becoming obsolete. The problem is we are stuck in an old dating value system with a new dating pool of people. Women make more money, and living costs more money. So while 50-60 years ago a man’s salary as a teacher or a factory worker could comfortably sustain a family, today a man would struggle to support just him and his wife. But women still place high value in socioeconomic status even though women have the same earning potential men do in modern society. This rai…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 12:57 PM
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It’s not that men don’t care, it’s that men are less picky. Women are the picky eaters most of the time. There’s a reason the “where do you want to eat”? Joke is always about women not being able to decide. If a man chooses where to eat, the woman is likely to be unsatisfied. If the woman chooses, the man is likely to still be fine
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 03:51 AM
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Even if he did make decisions; would you be ok with the decisions he makes? Most men don’t care what they eat, as long as they eat when they’re hungry and it’s not bad. Most men only do dates to please the girlfriend/wife. Would you actually enjoy a date doing something he wanted to do? You surely know his hobbies and what he does for fun. If he wanted to go to a sports bar, or just wanted to play video games, would you go with him? Would you pick up the video game he likes? Most men genuinely d…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 11:52 PM
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Yes but the men who find it easier in their 30’s usually aren’t dating the women in their 30’s. Dating only gets easier for men with age if they are successful. Not if they are average.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 04:58 PM
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You met a couple months ago and it sounds like you haven’t met in person. That’s probably why. He sees you as a waste of time and energy. He probably has found or is looking to find someone who won’t waste his time and energy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 04:55 PM
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Yes there are bad thruths, and this sub tends to embrace those. There is a pretty heavy understanding that if a woman does not put work in for her looks and have some genetic luck then she needs to lower her expectations. If you read thru the sub you’ll see that echoed. I think this sub is more truthful than most “just be yourself!!” Dating advice you’ll find on other forums, or in other groups. Sometimes “yourself” sucks, and you should work to be a better “yourself”.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 11:05 PM
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Changing portions of yourself that you either don’t like or you have found to be detrimental to your overall success is not “fabricating”. It’s self improvement. Self improvement could be something as simple as learning not to scream in an argument, or something as complex as learning what a man views as constructive motivation vs a nagging wife/gf. If you don’t qualify for a job you want, do you just think “oh well, guess I’ll never have that job”, or do you learn what’s required? If you don’t …
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 08:01 PM
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Looks might be the most important in getting a man, but long term, looks won’t keep him. There are a lot of good looking women in the world. To keep a happy and loving man you have to do more than just look good, just like a man has to do more than just make money. But when it comes to dating it’s mostly about making sure you’re giving the right men a chance.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 07:40 PM
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The amount of American women without at least one of those traits between the age of 18-25 has got to be below 5%. The amount without one trait and also above a 6/10 looks wise is probably below 1%. I think the title of the post is pretty profound, and almost undoubtedly true, but you’re really just finding the most common traits women have in general and saying “she a thot”. This is just AWALT with extra steps. I agree with your beginning. Men struggle with women because we need to act in a way…
/r/TheRedPill26/02/21 07:16 PM
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If you keep bringing this up over and over he might actually end up reaching out again. He’s probably over her now, but you could make him change his mind with your words. You’re sabotaging your own relationship. Stop if you want this relationship to survive.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 10:43 PM
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All of these are great advice, but I’d like to emphasize that good posture is a huge portion of appearing elegant and confident!
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 06:00 AM
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Men are told from a young age that women just want men who are nice to them and have good personalities. Most of these sentiments are echoed by women, so it further reinforces the belief. Women are raised knowing that men care mostly about how they look. Most of these sentiments are echoed by men, so it further reinforces the belief. Men are lied to about what women care about from a young age while women are told the truth. Men have to learn the hard way instead of building themselves up from t…
/r/TheRedPill20/02/21 08:47 PM
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It’s no different than regular people, only difference is you should not talk politics with coworkers. If you’re getting fired or quitting consistently because your coworkers don’t like you, then you are either really terrible at your job, or just bad socially in general tbh. If you’re not bad at your job, then I’d suggest just try to put yourself in more social settings to learn how to be better socially.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/21 08:33 PM
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Ok I see what you mean, but I disagree. Middle class men aren’t disappearing, they’re just average to most pretty women (until they hit that 25-28 age range). Low class men are mostly invisible to women regardless of age. High class men are sought after by women regardless of age. Middle class men are usually pretty lowly sought after when they’re young, and peak around 28-33 in terms of attracting women.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/21 05:11 PM
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What do you mean middle class men increasingly evaporate?
/r/TheRedPill27/01/21 06:40 PM
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This already happens with age. Men in their late 20’s and throughout all of their 30’s are more sought after than men in their teens and early 20’s every time. This won’t happen because hot girls in their youth can still get pretty much any guy to at least have sex with them, and that’s not going to change any time soon. The bubble already does burst, it just bursts after the girls turn 26-28ish and realize they’re not the same hot high school/college girls that guys used to fawn over. Then real…
/r/TheRedPill27/01/21 06:00 PM
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slim body but very small boobs I think a lot of women get caught up in the size of things comparative to the shape and proportions. If you’re a small girl, he probably likes small girls. “Ideal dimensions” is not the same for every man. Some men like very skinny women with smaller features. You probably have his ideal body type. Not every man wants a Kylie Jenner or Kim Kardashian. There are a ton of men who’s ideal body type is women built like Emma Watson.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/21 02:52 AM
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if it’s healthy/slim Well then you have a different view of an average body than I do. If this is your definition of average, I agree with you. In the US, the average person between 20-30 is like 24BMI. Well you’re comparing “curvy” to “above average”. Those aren’t really the same thing. If a man can choose between a woman with his ideal dimensions and an average face, or a woman with an average face and his ideal dimensions, I believe most men would choose the ideal dimensions. But the goal is …
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/21 02:20 AM
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and I 100% think a pretty face is more valuable to men than a curvy body Eh, it really depends. Most women’s faces can be pretty with makeup, and the slimmer you are the more defined your face looks. There really are not a ton of straight up ugly people in the world. You can’t really make a bad body look like a good body, and you can never make an average body look like a great body. You can make an average body look like a good body with push up bras, spanx, heels, flattering clothing etc., but…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/21 01:59 AM
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Physically? No usually not, and especially not in the US where we are a very fat and unhealthy on average. But the reason this is said isn’t because of physical standards, it’s because of social standards. Yes men are subject to physical objectification in terms of looks, but men and women value fundamentally different things on a standard basis in most cases. Men value above everything else physical beauty. If a woman does not meet his physical beauty minimum requirements, it doesn’t matter how…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/21 11:21 AM
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If three men that you have slept with have proposed to you, why aren’t you married already?
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/21 02:43 AM
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I think it’s mostly unconscious I disagree. I think men very consciously only seek out associating with women that they are attracted to. I also wonder if there is some reflective adoration going on That is exactly what the men hope for and exactly why they befriend you. Things might develop platonically later on, but unless you’re already engaged in a common activity in close proximity to one another (or you can help one another progress somehow), men won’t seek you out unless they find you att…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 09:52 PM
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I hate to break it to you; but if you as an asian woman are friends with white men, they probably are going to be into asian women. If you were a white woman then the white men you make friends with would be into white women. Men don't usually become friends with women they are not attracted to. This is just a case of proximity bias. White people remain in ethnocentric relationships more than any other race statically.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/21 06:48 PM
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He straight up lied to me. How often has he lied to me? Do all men lie? This is a big one. All people lie. Do all men lie about infidelity? No. There are loyal men; you just don't have one, and from the sound of this post probably never have. I would try to go over to his place when he is out of town on his trip to get your stuff back, then break up with him over the phone. Breaking up in person really isn't necessary imo. Be more careful in choosing men. The men that a lot of women consider "al…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/21 06:43 PM
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I’m 30 and between 27 and now is when I have had more women interested in me than ever. Women aged 18-50. Like any age doesn’t matter (unless under 18). I think the peak age for men in terms of attracting the most attractive women possible is right around 28. If you take care of your body, have a good career (or a lot of clout), and aren’t a creep, you can get women of any age at 27-29. 30 is when the younger girls start to say “oh you’re old” lol, but most 23+ year old women still see me as a p…
/r/PussyPassDenied07/01/21 10:39 PM
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SMV is a comparison. Compare yourself to women around you and see how you stack up. Odds are if you’ve never been asked out in person or approached, then you’re not on the upper end of SMV. You’re probably average at best.... but average is usually just a case where a person doesn’t know what to do to maximize their look. SMV can also differ pretty substantially from place to place. A high SMV woman in Alabama or Missouri could be a low SMV woman in New York or Los Angeles. All of modern media t…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/21 06:41 AM
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You’re 5 months in and he’s already talking about what he’d do to a tenant at a site he worked on. Do you think this is going to get better after he gaslights and emotionally beats your down for another 5? You’re still in the early stages. Leave him while there’s as little mess to clean up as possible. Plus if he keeps making comments like that he’ll probably lose his job eventually.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/21 06:32 AM
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let me start by saying you’re only as high value as your view yourself Huh? Everyone likes a feel good message every once in a while, but this sub isn’t about feel good messages. You can perceive yourself as high value as you want, but if you don’t actually have valuable traits then you aren’t high value. A large portion of this sub is the antithesis of this statement. Self improvement is a big part of this sub specifically because we do not believe in this “feel good” message.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/21 06:25 AM
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They find you more interesting because they think you’re easier to sleep with. A man finds genuine interest in a woman’s hobbies when it’s something like swimming, drawing, cooking, origami etc. when your hobby is taking sexual pictures, they find interest in your sexual availability, not you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/21 06:13 AM
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To everyone that thinks big=get more girls, you’re wrong. The guys that get the most girls (athletes excluded) are always guys with defined arms and abs, and average to below average body weight. Being super big gets guys to admire you, being slim with muscles is what girls like.
/r/TheRedPill02/01/21 07:42 PM
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I have been with my current gf for almost 3 years, she had 1 partner before me. If we were to breakup (which I don’t think is happening any time soon), I wouldn’t have problems getting women anymore. When i was in high school and college i was prettt awkward, but now I’m good. I’m tall, make good money, and women like how I look, plus I’m still pretty young, so I just come here to chime in most of the time. I don’t take everything RP says to heart, but I don’t think I could ever be with a woman …
/r/TheRedPill26/12/20 02:21 AM
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Past behavior is most indicative of future behavior. If a woman enjoys sleeping around before you, odds are she doesn’t just stop enjoying that once you’re together. Safer to go with a girl that has never enjoyed it to begin with. As for whether it matters for guys? I don’t know, ask women. It seems to matter less to them unless the number is astronomical. A guy with a decent body count is usually just a desireable dude since women are more picky than men. If anything having a body count filled …
/r/TheRedPill26/12/20 02:13 AM
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In the eyes of men it’s a sliding scale. A 9/10 looks woman will be able to be a 3/10 in other skills and still get a high value man simply because she’s really hot. A 7/10 looks woman will probably have to be closer to 7/10 in her other life skills to land a high value man most of the time. A 4/10 looks woman could be a world class chef and amazing homemaker, but will probably have a very difficult time landing a high value man simply because she isn’t pretty. As for how to evaluate yourself: e…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 03:33 AM
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Don’t dump this on them on the first or second date, that’s a way to get labeled crazy or baggaged/damaged. When you’ve been with someone who cares about you for a little while and something regarding a history like this this comes up, I would mention it, yes. If you feel a need to mention it immediately, then you most likely have some internal growth to do.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/20 10:13 PM
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From the way you describe this, it seems like it could have a long lasting affect on your relationship. When you said you don’t want him to use it “that much”, that’s extremely vague. You said you believed he had been using it too much and then said he uses it a couple of times a week. That could be “not that much” to him, but too often for you. Overall this seems like it isn’t going to just go away. If you feel like you can be ok with it in time, try to endure it as much as you can. If you feel…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/20 07:42 PM
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Do fat women think they’re Titans or something? This picture is so weird
/r/PussyPassDenied10/12/20 01:30 AM
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why didn’t he tell me sooner Because you said you didn’t want to get married. Why would he have needed to?
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 12:46 AM
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Yes. Not opposing your “no” was his answer.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 12:43 AM
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This is a bad take. Just really bad. Never say SMV in real life please.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 07:58 PM
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The reason men prefer younger women isn’t necessarily specifically because they want to have children, but it kind of is. So every man wants the most beautiful woman he can get, that’s an obvious truth. The thing about female beauty though, is that beauty is very closely tied to youth and fertility. So a man who doesn’t care about having children will still be able to agree that the random bikini model on his Instagram feed is hot. Does he necessarily tie in the word hot with “long healthy hair,…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 07:51 PM
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What you’re describing would be considered a “trophy wife” in current day terms.... so become a trophy. Get as hot as humanly possible, and be places where successful men are. Today for a man to provide for a family on solely his income he realistically needs to make upwards of 6 figures. In our parents generation the cost of living was significantly less comparative to earnings, so this was way more feasible at a lower comparative breakpoint. Instead of being a top 10% earner, you just had to b…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 07:30 PM
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how can I set boundaries for next time and push back? So... it sounds like your boyfriend probably never liked you that much honestly. He didn’t want to commit to you til your forced him, and he didn’t respect your feeling or treat you well. In a healthy relationship, you don’t have to necessarily set hard boundaries. Your partner should respect you and not push something that they know will hurt you. Obviously if your boundaries are something specific that is not necessarily a normal boundary t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 07:14 PM
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Yikes.... I agree, you should not necessarily be loyal to your country. Your country does not care about you unless you are a very important public figure with influence. With that being said... this reads like Qanon. I don’t think most of TRP are conspiracy theorists.... but these comments kinda are proving me wrong.
/r/TheRedPill24/11/20 09:59 PM
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It doesn’t work every time, but if you look at men like Joe Biden, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, LeBron James Steve Jobs (rest his soul), George Bush, Barack Obama, Mitt Romney etc. it’s way more likely for a very successful man to remain with a woman he meets before his success than one he meets after his success. But if anything was 100%, we would all be with our perfect partner already and none of us would need or use this sub haha
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/20 09:23 PM
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guys ask the exact same question you are asking I’m not trying to be rude... but why would this ever be considered a good justification for anything in this sub? The whole point of this sub is that men and women are not the same and should behave differently to peppering attract and maintain relationships with one another. If anything this should be a reason for her to question why she is asking this of men. Not saying that men and women can’t have behavioral overlap, but justifying something as…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 09:26 PM
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It’s a sliding scale. The more attractive a woman is, the more than can get away with. The less attractive, the less they can get away with. It’s just how life is. If you happen to be super hot, odds are you can be a total bitch and no one will really call you out for it.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 09:21 PM
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having men observe your constantly might make prevent them from making a move because you’re always available Eh.... I really don’t think this is the case. What man sees a woman he wants post online and thinks “oh ya, she posted. Well that’s all I wanted from her.” If a man likes you, and sees something he likes online, he’s most likely going to reach out. More and more people meet their partners from social media these days. This is just a silly thought imo. If you don’t want rude comments or r…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 09:19 PM
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Heartbreak is a difficult thing to get over, but I would definitely reserve yourself from getting too invested in someone you’ve never met before. Everything he told you about himself could have been a lie.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 09:09 PM
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Well... this is an interesting thought. A successful man’s value appreciates pretty much perpetually with his success up until his mid-late 50’s at long as he isn’t completely grotesque looking and takes care of himself to some extent. If a man has a $500,000 at 30, and $5 million at 40, it will be very hard to say he was more attractive at 30 with an Apple Watch, Mazda, and 2,000 sq ft. Apartment than he is at 40 with a Rolex, Lambo and 5,000 sq ft home. If a woman is hot at 30, it’s almost imp…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 08:32 PM
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There is a difference between being a smartass and being smart. A smartass is a condescending person that thinks they’re smarter than everyone else. A smart person is a person who is knowledgable or experienced in something or multiple things. You can be both, you can be either, or you can be neither. Be the second, not the firsts. The second is interesting and desireable, the first is annoying and off putting. Neither “smartass” nor “smart” is a feminine or masculine trait imo.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 07:59 PM
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The TRP subreddit is filled with men who just realized that just being nice doesn’t mean women will love you. Most of them were brought up on the “just be yourself and be nice” trope. It’s really hard for them to come to the understanding that what they have believed their whole life is a lie, and the later they realize the more frustrating it is. These men are in the “rage phase”. They are angry at everything, but mostly angered that the world lied to them. Women want strong willed (and bodied)…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 05:39 PM
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you’re acting as if she needs some logical reason She doesn’t. But the people who ask her why are going to expect one. So ya it’s friendlier not to point that out, but it’s also less helpful or applicable to real life scenarios, which is clearly her struggle from the post. If her stance is the same as yours, she is perfectly free to point that out. Which I would have replied to her something like “then be more confident. If you don’t want to explain yourself, and you just believe that’s how it s…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 06:52 AM
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Another thing to note is that most of TRP posters are in their “anger phase”. This is the phase where they’ve just woken up (for lack of a better term) to realize that women don’t love them just because they’re nice and respectful. They realize that they have to make something of themselves. It’s a phase of anger because most men will realize that they haven’t made much of themselves and that they’ve been lied to by most media. The message is “just be yourself and be nice, women will love you”. …
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 06:50 AM
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Lol.... the hell is your problem?
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 06:35 AM
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she doesn’t need a man quizzing her on this .... I have been in this sub for like 2 years. I have 3 stars from good advice given by mods here. I am asking her in order to start a discussion, the exact type of discussion you’re talking about. I don’t know why you’re upset about that.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 05:15 AM
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Oh if they’re clients then the whole purpose of you being there is to entertain their BS lol. Just smile and laugh. That’s what they pay you husband for
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 05:09 AM
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I never said anything was wrong with it, I asked her to explain what her reasoning is. If you’re going to stand for something that other people don’t agree with, you have to either accept that you will be an outsider from that belief’s perspective and be confident in that, or learn to explain it in a way that can make people who oppose you think differently. If she can’t explain why, then she needs to be the former. If she can explain why than her explanation needs to be the latter.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 02:19 AM
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If that was her reason and she was confident in it, she wouldn’t be having this problem.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 01:56 AM
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Surround yourself with people who you don’t think are bullshitting so often, take everyone else with a grain of salt. If EVERYONE else is bullshitting, then you’re the problem and you probably think too highly of yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 01:53 AM
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Well then explain to us why you think men should pay. It seems like you can’t come up with valid reasons from how people respond to you about it. It also seems like you don’t really believe in it for any specific reason other than “that’s what mean do”.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/20 06:25 PM
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Look at your past relationships and analyze what went wrong. Are you too passive when showing long term interest? Are you choosing men that are projects? Are you going after men that are out of your league looks wise? Are you attractive and fit/slim? Are you put together? Do you have any interesting things about yourself other than wanting a family and a man? Are you meeting the men you date in bad dating scenarios? (Bar, club, Tinder, etc.). If the answer to any of these questions is yes then y…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/20 01:38 AM
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Fashionova has some cool stuff, but their quality is really low. I got a shirt that I love from them but the threading started to unwind after 2 washes. The models are also really ridiculous looking so it’s kind of hard to tell how their clothes will fit on your body unless you have the fake boobs BBL Instagram model look.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 08:24 PM
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“Healthy” in what way? From a relationally loyal standpoint? probably not. From a sexual attractiveness standpoint? probably yes. From a sexual performance standpoint? probably yes. From a sexual health standpoint? probably no.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 08:18 PM
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Ooh ok I see. That makes more sense lol
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 05:50 PM
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I would wait minimum 3 months. I think 6 months is the earliest you can really be confident in the statement. 3 weeks in you barely know the person, you only know the good parts so of course your feelings are racing.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 04:55 PM
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I met this guy 3 weeks ago and I’m in love . Waaaay too soon! At least wait a month or so So... one more week? That doesn’t seem “waaaay too soon” given this context. I say anything before at minimum 3 months is too soon to say I love you. I would wait closer to 6 months.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 04:53 PM
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If you reach out and he says “sorry I’m seeing someone”, so what? You aren’t talking to him right now anyway. Your life doesn’t change at all if that happens. The pandemic won’t last forever. Very little downside
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/20 03:44 PM
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Why wouldn’t you reach out to him? Seems like an easy choice with very little downside.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/20 03:00 PM
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A lot of people date people that they would consider themselves settling for. Maybe they hope that person becomes something better (for them) than who they currently are, and it never happens. Maybe they’re afraid of being alone, and there’s nothing wrong with the girl. But then in a relationship where the positive is “there’s nothing wrong” becomes very difficult to leave, so they wait around for a reason which is marriage pressure in this instance. Maybe they have low self esteem and believe t…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/20 05:12 AM
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Most women I know prefer slightly older, but very very few women I know prefer significantly older. Women in their late teens early 20’s usually prefer someone below 30 in my experience.... very very rarely do they prefer anyone near the age of 40. They might fetishize a hookup with way older men, but they almost never prefer to date or commit to men that age. I think most men know that unless they’re either exceptionally attractive or pretty rich that they’re not pulling early 20’s women in the…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 08:35 AM
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A lot of bad here. If you love him, why aren’t you willing to change some things for him? If he makes you feel badly about yourself why do you love him? Why does he outwardly express his dissatisfaction with your physical appearance? How did the topic of you being a last resort even come up! If you truly love someone you should be willing to try to change certain things to make them happy. Going to the gym is a good thing, and if it would help his attraction for you it wouldn’t be bad to conside…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/20 04:08 PM
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I just hate the idea that I’m trying to prove something to these people Think of it this way: you’re always proving something to the people around you whether you like it or not. By making your boyfriend the negative end of your humor in conversations, you’re proving to them that you’re not satisfied in your relationship. By making him a positive point of your life in conversation you’re proving that you’re happy in your relationship. By not talking about him at all l, you would be proving that …
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 06:17 PM
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Weight loss is not a sprint, it's a marathon. If you have a bald spot from lack of calories then you're probably being excessive with your caloric deficit. Either that or you have alopecia. Do not commit to any weight loss tactic that you couldn't see yourself doing for a LONG time. Once you lose the weight you'll have to work just as hard to keep it off. macros don't really matter unless you're weight lifting. If you're just trying to lose weight the only things that matter are calories and fib…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 05:45 PM
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You change the view by stopping the “butt of the jokes” stuff and starting the bragging. You are dating him because of something. Tell them about why, and how good he is to you. All they know about him is what you tell them.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 04:33 PM
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Most men who want to be friends with you probably are only friendly because they want to sleep with you. The men who will be friends with you without wanting to sleep with you will have to not be attracted to you. But if they aren’t attracted to you then they have no reason to approach you. So any male friends you make have to be centered around something, not just being around each other. Men bond over sports, video games, beer, movies, anime etc. What common things do you enjoy with men? If th…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 04:27 PM
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Men care about less day to day decisions than women do for the most part. Men usually just care whether there is a decision made. What kind of rug for the living room? Where to eat dinner? Which type of dog to get? Most men don’t really care, they just care that there is a rug, dog, and dinner. If giving input into the decision delays the outcome, they’d rather just let the woman decide a lot of the time. The difference between whether a meal is chicken or steak is less important than whether a …
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 04:16 PM
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Oh I read it wrong. I thought you said you were happily married, not unhappily married. My comment is pretty much worthless lol. I’ll delete it
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 04:42 AM
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Oops I meant “it”. That stands for interracial doesn’t it 😳. I have no problems at all with interracial dating. I’m in an interracial relationship
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 01:08 AM
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I see so many posts on here about strategy and this and that. I think TRP forgets that women really are different. A strategy with one probably won’t work for the next. The key is to just try over and over and over until you find a strategy that works with more of the type of women that you’re attracted to than anything else. Repetition. Talking to women (or people in general) is just like any other skill. The more you train it the better you get at it.
/r/TheRedPill18/09/20 05:52 PM
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WHO GIVES A FUCK WHAT THEY SAY That’s the entire point of my comments. I’m saying being called creepy is almost unavoidable in today’s dating climate, so when it happens it’s usually not an impactful claim. Trial and error + SMV maximizing. When you stop caring what they think, you start to think in terms of “what works vs what doesn’t work” instead of “does she like me?”. My previous comment literally said this: worrying about what women think is a problem. You can’t decipher it and she won’t t…
/r/TheRedPill15/09/20 01:16 PM
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There is behavior that is objectively creepy and behavior that is objectively not creepy. If you want to believe this, then sure. Women will throw around the word creepy in replacement of "I'm not interested". Trial and error + maximizing your SMV is the way to get hot women.
/r/TheRedPill15/09/20 04:50 AM
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because a lot of women are fucking retarded and you can’t read their mind anyways This is the kinda stuff that gets TRP banned. With that being said, you wrote like a 20 page book up there. You think these words aren’t going to give men anxiety just from trying to over analyze every situation? The point of what I said is just do whatever you think is best, and make sure you’re as physically and socially attractive as possible. If she doesn’t like you, you’re a creep. If she does, you’re a heartt…
/r/TheRedPill15/09/20 04:33 AM
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Too much text. The way to judge creepiness: if she’s not attracted to you, it’s creepy. If she is, it’s charming/romantic. Love letters? Creepy/clingy if unattractive. Charming is attractive. Flowers? Creepy/clingy if unattractive, romantic if attractive. Staring from across the room? Creepy if unattractive, sexy if attractive. Talking about how she’s different than other girls? Surprise kiss? You get the idea.
/r/TheRedPill15/09/20 04:12 AM
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I know it sounds retarded to wait for 10 years Yes, yes it does. Cheating aside, this man literally just said “be my side chick for 10 years, then we can get married”. He probably has no relational issues with his wife, he probably just wants a side piece. On the off chance he does have relational issues with his wife, are you willing to sit around for 10 years and not tell anyone about your love life? This is stupid. Even if we completely take morality out of the situation, you would be a dumb …
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 02:20 PM
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A year and a half and he hasn’t even tried anything? He is either gay, or straight but not physically attracted to you. Either way doesn’t look good for you
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 02:16 PM
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He will eventually leave you. Either that or he will just become very resentful and borderline abusive. This is a fundamental incompatibility. Your relationship will not survive if you cannot increase your sex drive.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 08:15 AM
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I'm a 19 year old virgin . I decided to only lose my virginity to someone that I could trust. . We had similar kinks This is the first red flag. Why are you talking about sex with someone so early if you are trying to not lose your virginity until you trust a guy? He was the first guy that I felt that I could actually trust. Did you not feel this way about your previous boyfriend, or did you feel this way only to have it change once he tried to rape you? This message reads like a very frantic pe…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 08:09 AM
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If he's interested in you that shouldn't be an issue unless you try to talk to him for 30 minutes. Taking 5-10 minutes to talk to someone during a single workout shouldn't have lasting effects, and that's all the time you need to figure out his interest and/or get his number. Most men are under the impression that hitting on women at the gym is a no fly zone, so most men will never approach you mid workout. You'll probably have to approach. Ask for help with your form or something stupid that yo…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 08:02 AM
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He didn’t want a vapid hot 20 something. He wanted a partner. Yes, you're correct. Her comment did not claim the word "every". She just inferred that any 20 something he would have potentially dated would have been vapid. The meaning of my comment doesn't change with this clarification.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 07:56 AM
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I don’t know what red pilled man means to you. If you mean a guy straight out of TRP subreddit, look for the douchiest guy you can find and he’s probably on there. If you’re talking about a strong willed, driven men... look in a gym. Start going early in the morning and you’ll find a lot of them. The most strong willed men are the ones that wake up before work/school to exercise.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 02:04 AM
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Who says that every 20 something is vapid? That’s an oddly condescending claim... you were a 20 something at one point. Men who are divorced are different than men who haven’t been married. Men who have raised children even more so. Hopefully he decides you marry you, sounds like you’re happy together.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 09:28 PM
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There is no way you can tell someone “I don’t like you romantically” without hurting their feelings. If you want to try to slowly deescalate things, that might work.... but overall most men won’t be able to accept something like this. You should be prepared to lose this friend. Most slow fade after they realize there isn’t a chance, either that or beta orbit. Would you be open to dating him if he were more red pill/alpha? If you tell him that’s what’s wrong then be prepared for him to shift his …
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 11:53 PM
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The only way this really works is if the man is not attracted to you. Either he’s gay or you’re just very physically unappealing to him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 11:49 PM
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I didn’t expect leftist pushback in this sub This sub is not conservative or progressive, it is relational. Also mentioning that a location is more progressive than another... how is that pushback? That’s just kind of a fact isn’t it? There are progressive and conservative states. Dating is going to differ in both of those types of areas. The states where more well earning jobs are prevalent tend to be progressive ones (NY, CA, DC, etc.) so if you’re looking for a high earning man, you’ll have b…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 08:56 PM
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I don’t know how you’re going about getting this info, but if you’re asking them directly, I don’t think most men are rude enough to straight up tell you “I think your dream is undesireable”. Men will find women who match them. I think most modern men who have some kind of success want women who are capable of taking care of themselves. They don’t necessarily want a career woman, but they want a woman who can pull some financial weight if necessary. I have met very few men who want a woman who i…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 08:36 PM
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I think this is a bad choice. Sports are not masculine or feminine unless you’re playing American football or rugby or something. Don’t quit your sport unless you don’t like it. Quitting the sport won’t make you more feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 01:52 PM
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I replied to another comment with the general idea of what I think men would value in women similarly to this post. Overall I think it would be attractiveness (obviously) and probably either stability or supportiveness. Probably stability though. Men that are looking for long term relationships are looking for stable women. Women who they can trust. By and far the most important thing for women to have in attracting men though is looks. The "she's a doctor" statement doesn't carry the same weigh…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 09:10 AM
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Ok. They don’t matter in the dating world then because they don’t date women, so there’s no point in including them in this. So thank you for the info, but it’s kind of useless here.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 06:38 AM
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These men don’t exist. This is the same as the myth that some women are so hot that they don’t get approached. No women would consider a physically attractive, successful man an Incel. Even if they’re straight up misogynistic, they’re just “bad boys”. It is the exact opposite definition of “incel”. Incel means involuntarily celibate. Attractive and successful men would literally have to be voluntarily celibate. Maybe you’re a guy that identifies as this type of person, but if you are I hate to t…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 05:48 AM
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Hmmm... not really sure. Maybe attractiveness and stability instead of ambition? Maybe supportiveness?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 12:33 AM
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Getting older doesn’t mean you’re done dating, it just means you can’t be as picky. Depending on where you live, most of the attractive men with high potential are swiped up by the time you’re 30. There are a couple of types of men who are options at any time for women of this sub: The typical high value man: usually comes from a stable family and finishes upper education with good grades. Plays sports and stays in shape, get a good job with a good career trajectory. These guys are always either…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 08:54 PM
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Ok... so I get that people like to separate fetishization from reality and the most common one I see brought up is a rape fetish for example. The problem with this separation is that a fetish is never just a fetish and ends there. The reason people are into rape fantasies isn’t necessarily because they want to rape or be raped, it’s because they like the idea of the control or lack of control. The reason people have scat fetishes may not be because they want to be deficated on, but they are into…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 08:24 PM
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What do you like to do? Whatever that is: join a club for it. Cooking? Sewing? Social work? Religion? Just join some kind of group
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 05:09 AM
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97 days ago you posted that your “boyfriend” is into transgender women. You also didn’t call him your fiancé. Did you get engaged and married within a 100 day timeframe, are you calling your boyfriend your husband, or are you just lying? On the off chance this post isn’t pure BS, you’ve known since before you married him that he wasn’t attracted to you. This shouldn’t be a surprise if it’s a true story imo.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 03:04 AM
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Oh I didn’t know. He was just the first example of “rich and famous ripped dude surrounded by hot women” that came to mind. I just follow him, I didn’t look into anything about him.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/20 06:04 PM
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Replace him with Tom Brady, Denzel Washington, Brad Pitt, Mark Wahlberg, The Rock, the dude’s from BTS, Drake or whoever you want. He’s just an example of a ripped, rich guy with hot women. I don’t really look into him much more than that
/r/TheRedPill28/08/20 05:54 PM
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Your job is part of your status. Status attributes to influence. Power is also relative. A garbage collector would have to be 100x more influential than a doctor to be seen on the same scale when it comes to power, yes, I agree. If you’re going after a small town girl, earning 75k might be “powerful” to her. If you’re going for a NYC model, you probably have to be a CEO or super hot actor or something.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/20 05:46 PM
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Hm. Maybe you’re right. I haven’t looked into him that much, I just know he is constantly surrounded by hot women, and he’s rich and jacked.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/20 05:24 PM
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I don’t really know what about him would be fraudulent. He makes a ton of money and is constantly surrounded by hot women. I’m sure he pays most of them just like a brand would pay any other model, but I don’t really think paying women to model your brand makes you a fraud. If you genuinely think that he doesn’t attract women thru this though, then you’re just wrong. His parties are always packed with hot women (he turns away fat/ugly women at the door) and he charges insane prices for non-famou…
/r/TheRedPill28/08/20 03:06 PM
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He was a pro poker player. I could see why people don’t consider that a talent tho. I’m not sure what other talents he may have, I just follow him for the girls he posts. He seems like he is a good business man. I don’t know how he’d pay for any of his shit otherwise.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/20 02:53 PM
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Power imo is a combination of influence and status. Pretty much it’s that people listen to you because of who you are. Whether that’s a high status job, or a charismatic personality, or being a hometown hero or something doesn’t really matter. Could be anything as long as it commands people’s attention. The ultimate form of power in women’s eyes is fame though. Confidence is just being proud and secure in what you do. Whether it’s something as basic as liking basketball or something as nerdy as …
/r/TheRedPill28/08/20 02:50 PM
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Influence over people, high status. Someone who you listen to because of who they are. It could be a prestigious job, it could be a charismatic personality, it could be anything. You just have to be able to command people’s attention because of who you are.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/20 02:48 PM
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This is a lot of text for 4 tips. Women like power, money, muscles, talent and confidence. Be good at 2 of the 5 and you’ll be able to get an above average woman pretty easily. Be good at 4 of the 5 and you’ll get a model level girl. Be good at 5/5 and you’re Dan Bilzerian.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/20 08:31 AM
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18 and 27 isn’t that weird imo. I think once the age gap starts nearing 15 years is when things get dicey. But then again I have a good friend whose parents have been married for 35 years and they met when the dad was 38 and the mom was 21. I don’t think age is as big a factor as people make it out to be. It can be once you get later in life when you realize you’ll probably significantly outlive your partner, but I think that’s about it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 02:45 AM
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Sounds like he wasn’t that into you to begin with... if he oversleeps on the day you’re supposed to go out and you have to plan it yourself... he never planned to go out with you to begin with. You made it easy for him so he went along. He doesn’t care about you.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 12:26 AM
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He could just like looking at rings. Since you’ve talked about marriage I’m sure he knows what kind of ring you’d like. Maybe he’s just thinking about how much he needs to set aside each month in order to afford the ring by graduation. Or maybe he just likes jewelry. I don’t think he plans to propose, but if he does I would just say no and ask for a promise ring instead. 18 and 19 is too young for marriage imo.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 12:24 AM
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So you’ve talked about dating before? Do you two see each other in person often? Are you having sex? Do you work together? How did you meet? I think this needs more context about your relationship overall for good advice.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 12:22 AM
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It prevents distractions.. wtf some people so paranoid.
/r/PussyPassDenied18/08/20 03:15 AM
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Some? Yes you're right. Some men will simply never be loyal to one woman ever in their lives. Most men who "aren't ready for marriage" are just seeing what exactly they can attract. If you are a model level woman and he isn't in a position where he can consistently get model level women, you have to be a terrible partner to lose that man. He will hold on to you with everything he has if you're hot enough and not a terrible person. Pretty much all (non rich/famous) men are willing to settle down …
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/20 11:53 PM
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If you're looking for a marriage oriented man, then I'd suggest dating men around 25-28 years old. Men in the 19-24 age bracket usually aren't thinking marriage outside of really small towns an hyper religeous circles (which usually pretty heavily overlap). If you're looking for someone your age interested in marriage then you should probably start attending a church of some kind and date within a small group. Or option 3: be supermodel level hot so no above average guy believes he can get a gir…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/20 09:44 AM
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Well you're in pretty deep. I would suggest cousiling. As for getting him to quit, almost no one can quit any kind of addiction completely cold turkey. It has to be a slow process. If you're looking at this as an "all or nothing" situation, you're setting yourself up for disappointment from the beginning. You should set benchmarks. I don't know how often he watches, but if he watches every day, then start out with every other day, then 3 days a week, then 2, then 1 then one every 2 weeks and so …
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/20 09:41 AM
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There was actually a study done somewhere that women become significantly more attracted to men when women know that the man is currently in a relationship. The study hypothesized that it is because the current woman has already done the hard work of gaining his commitment and perceived loyalty. There is also a thought among some women that if they can get a committed man to cheat on their woman with her then they must be irresistible. But that's almost never true.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/20 09:36 AM
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Is this a male or a female? Imm very confused
/r/PussyPassDenied15/08/20 08:52 AM
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This is almost as weird as your last post was.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/20 04:19 PM
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Well given this post, you paint yourself to be a high value potential partner. If that is the case then it’s only a matter of time. If that’s not the case, then you should try to figure out soon. With just the information in your post though, there isn’t anything negative to try to help you work around. You only mention that you may just be ugly, which was be pretty hard to work around tbh. If you’re not ugly, then just go out to high profile bars or clubs once covid settles down and someone wil…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 05:00 AM
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Well you said it yourself that your culture generally goes with arranged marriages and that you have not wanted a marriage with any of the men your parents have found. This makes me think that you’d likely only date within your culture. In your culture, are the high value men married off to young women? I imagine also in arranged married culture that it would be difficult to marry out of your parents’ class since you’d only have options among the children of your parents’ friends. Maybe if you w…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 04:33 AM
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He could be, but I think more important than trying to diagnose him is that you realize you shouldn’t be with him. Regardless of what label you want to give him, he’s a toxic boyfriend with many toxic traits. Whether he’s narcissistic, psychopathic, sociopathic, mentally abusive, or whatever other label, the ultimate takeaway is he is a bad partner who enjoys making you feel worthless and/or stupid.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/20 02:39 AM
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Ask yourself if he would be your best friend if you weren’t attracted to him. A lot of people mistake a best friend for a potential partner. I think those are two different things in most cases.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/20 09:25 PM
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This is a bad way to look at hobbies. A cool hobby is anything that you care about and can become good at. Instruments, knitting, martial arts, running, video games, photographic etc. you can make any hobby cool as long as you are knowledgable about it and good at it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/20 09:20 PM
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I don’t think he’s a narcissist, I think he’s just a liar. Sounds like a future abuser/cheater.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/20 09:15 PM
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It just depends on your man. I think it would mostly be a problem if you aren’t “available” when you’re walking around like that. I think what removes the excitement is when they think you’re available and you actually aren’t, not just the act of being naked.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 04:34 PM
2

Well what exactly are you looking for when it comes to a provider? You don’t need to be provided for right now. You seem to know how much money he makes, and in terms of provision is there really anything else? It seems like provider is the wrong word for what you’re describing. What you’re looking for is gift giving, not providing. I value generosity, I don’t expect him to buy me bags all the time and jewelry. I’ve never asked him to do anything like that So what do you expect? You are expectin…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 04:14 PM
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There is no way to say “spend more money on me” without coming off as a gold digger. You value people buying you things in a relationship. That is pretty much exactly what gold digging is. When men describe gold diggers they are talking about women that need expensive things from their partner to be happy. By the standard view of the word, you would be a good digger in this instance. Whether that is something you are ok with is something you have to decide, and if you decide your are ok with it …
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/20 10:24 PM
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This is so childish of him. Retroactively deciding between doesn’t like something is like toddler level of denial. In this instance there is nothing wrong with what you’re doing. He likes the food and it’s good for him.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/20 04:25 PM
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She’s probably a high schooler.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/20 04:22 PM
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Women that say men are trash and believe it are trashy women. Some women say it as a joke but will get infinitely more offended when they hear men say “women are thots” or “all women are the same”. The truth is that everyone has had at least one bad experience with someone the opposite sex. If you consistently have bad experiences with the opposite sex, then you need to start looking internally. Generally, anyone that believes that everyone else is the problem is usually the source of the proble…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/20 01:04 AM
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You should look at criminals in one way and one way only when it comes to dating. Ask yourself: Would you be willing to risk getting arrested for doing whatever they’re doing? If yes, then the criminality shouldn’t bother you. If no then you’re pretty much destined for failure.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 02:18 PM
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So he had ED and you fight with him because of it? That will 100% always worsen the problem. ED is often a medical issue, but for you it sounds like an anxiety issue. He doesn’t want to have sex, and when he tries he can’t because he’s only trying out of force. I think you really need to take a step back here. Fighting with a man because he can’t get it up is really never ever going to fix anything. I don’t think this guy is gonna ever want to have sex with you til you address this in a more con…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/20 11:54 AM
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What do your fights look like? I feel like if a partner in relationship is willing to give up sex rather than have sex less frequently, then your fights are taking a serious toll on him. Walk me thru a fight regarding sex between you two. This doesn’t seem like a good solution, to me. It seems more like a “maybe this will finally gets her to shut up” move.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/20 05:03 AM
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Do you think the stories of the happy and peaceful couples make the news or internet like the tragic ones do? They don’t because it’s more fun to watch drama than peace. There are tons of happy, peaceful, successful couples that you never hear about because it’s not entertaining to hear about them. Be picky with who you commit to and you’ll see good results.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/20 09:50 PM
1

It's not even a question of "I'm going to give my money to the government so they can build us roads." No. This is, "I can't afford health care, so I want the government to take money from the rich and use it to fund my health care." What if law enforcement costed money? Like police response costed money the same way an ambulance ride did? You’re just arguing that healthcare should cost money and other things shouldn’t. Should having nice roads be a right? What if it was only a privilege that we…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/20 01:07 AM
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Sounds like she doesn’t have the means to move onto a better situation... so I don’t think that would help her.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/20 06:06 PM
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I just wanted to eloborate on the healthcare one, so I’m commenting again to make sure you see it instead of editing my other one. That is a matter of policy. You are taxed on everything you are taxed on based on policy. What if liberals decided they didn’t want their taxes going to police? Would you support that or is that somehow different than healthcare? Same could be said for military, social security, roads, public service places (libraries, schools) etc. Americans don’t really get to choo…
/r/TheRedPill29/06/20 02:49 PM
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Hiring I can see the argument, sure. The US is the only developed country without some kind of universal healthcare system though. It’s pretty insane that we still don’t have that. Respect is something you can choose to withhold. Actively harassing people is something you’re not supposed to do. If you don’t want to respect someone, no one is making you. If you want to treat someone as subhuman because you disagree, that’s a problem with personal character.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/20 02:14 PM
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Idk if you’re the same guy that made the post, but I asked what rights were being taken from him, not what privileges they are asking for. You answered a question I didn’t ask.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/20 12:45 PM
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Do you think all of TRP is conservative and white? I don’t think hate speech like “kill all men” and things along that line should ever be tolerated. What rights do you think left wingers are trying to take from you?
/r/TheRedPill29/06/20 11:38 AM
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I lived in the south for a year and yes this is without a doubt true.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/20 06:39 PM
1

So you ghosted him for a month but now want him back in your life after he insults you? Sounds like a classic toxic relationship. You need to fix your values and build some self worth.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/20 10:24 PM
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So he wishes for you to be happy. He doesn’t actually care enough to do anything about it, he just hopes you’re happy independent of him. If he cared about your happiness he would put in effort to help you be happier. He doesn’t care about you. Whether you’re happy or not means nothing to him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/20 09:40 PM
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And if those men only call women selfish whores because they have been victims of those kind of women? The point isn't that one is right and one is wrong. The point is both are wrong. You see the women's point of view and can come up with justifications, but you don't see the men's point of view as justifiable even though they're just two sides of the same coin. That is why you hate men, because otherwise you'd probably hate women too.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/20 01:53 AM
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Ok, that’s fair. How about women calling men disgusting pigs for saying they’re too sexual? One is not better than the other, but both exist in the same capacity.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/20 12:27 AM
1

can you give me some examples?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/20 10:52 PM
1

These are just examples that I have heard. What are the things you are hearing?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/20 09:45 PM
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Ok when I saw this title I thought you were gonna say something crazy, but this makes sense. I’d say it more like, if you realize you’re the only initiating every conversation and meetup then you should take a step back. If you have healthy communication and are mid conversation: don’t just stop replying to him. That will make him think you’re not interested.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/20 03:03 AM
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i often feel like i hate all men . i get really emotional whenever i see men saying misogynistic things. I sometimes feel like men are just evil robots you need to realize that you are the same as what you hate. You are saying misandrist things about men. What evil things upset you that men say? usually for every "evil" or "misogynistic" thing a man says about a woman there is an equally evil and misadrist thing that women say about men. Like how fat shaming is gross and misogynistic for men, bu…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/20 11:04 AM
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Unless you plan on just waiting around forever, I would suggest complimenting him. Telling him you’d like for him to take you places or that you’d like to go places with him. Don’t make it as subtle as you’d probably like to. You’re just friends right now with a literal ocean between the two of you. Subtle is not enough to spark something here imo.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/20 02:05 AM
2

The fact of men wanting bi-polar exhibiting women isn’t true. The truth is there is a sliding scale of how much men will tolerate vs how hot the woman is. If she’s a 10/10 they’re take 10/10 crazy. If she’s a 6/10 they’re not gonna take 10/10 crazy. They MIGHT tolerate a 4/10 crazy. I just don’t think women reading this should see this as a signal to suddenly start acting crazy cause men like it. Acting crazy usually puts you into the “pump and dump” bin. Men don’t like crazy for long term purpo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/20 04:46 PM
1

He clearly lied to you, and doesn’t actually want to. The excuse “I don’t want you to moan too much” is really weird, I have never heard that one before. You have to ask him for a straightforward answer.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 09:46 PM
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Most people in their late teens and early 20’s meet whoever they date from Instagram, Tik Tok, or a dating app anyway. I think that will just increase as time goes on and no one will ask each other out irl sense you’ll have already seen them online before.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/20 06:46 PM
1

This is far too specific to be consistently successful. You’re going to burn out within the first 10 days. 25 if you’re lucky. I don’t know what you think you’re doing here, but within a span of like 2 hours you’re learning an instrument, reading 2 different books, and learning a language. You won’t become great at any of these things with that much flip flopping, you need to dedicate more time to each thing to make meaningful progress. The waking up early and working out thing is good, but it r…
/r/TheRedPill13/06/20 07:34 AM
1

Eh... I think jt’s just that the hotter girls have more freedom to be crazy, because we don’t care as much about personality when they’re hot. It’s a sliding scale what we will tolerate. The hotter the crazier, the uglier the the less crazy.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/20 06:15 AM
1

How is that the same as rioting and causing even more death Have you looked at the progress in terms of legislation and actual progress since the riots have started? There are bills being lobbied to remove the immunity shield from cops who commit crimes while on duty. The killer and all of the 3 cops who watched George Floyd die have been charged. And guess what? All of this stuff only started happening AFTER the country was set on fire. What does kaepernick co-opting a billion dollar platform f…
/r/PussyPassDenied05/06/20 12:04 AM
1

Hm. Kinda surprised at how much racism is in this comment section....
/r/PussyPassDenied03/06/20 10:51 PM
0

Like the systematic disproportionate violence that has been committed against black people by law enforcement for the past 100+ years? If they didn’t want this they should have listened to Kaepernick when he was doing ACTUAL peaceful protests 4 years ago. MLK was assassinated, and following his assassination there were 6 days of riots before legislation came thru. It sucks that it’s happening, but it seems to work a hell of a lot better than doing something that people can ignore if they want to…
/r/PussyPassDenied03/06/20 10:45 PM
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I’m gonna be honest with you, I really wouldn’t hold out hope for this guy. It sounds like you don’t talk on the phone at all, and no one is truly a “bad texter”, they’re just not interested one prioritizing their attention on you. Unless this man is around 45+years old, there’s no way he’s legitimately a bad texter. Pretty much you can’t see each other in person, so you don’t talk. That’s usually a sign he doesn’t really like talking to you.... which is bad. Seeing each other only once a week i…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/20 08:32 AM
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Do you enjoy your life now though? Playing 8 hours a day is obviously too much, but so is focusing 16 hours a day on self improvement. If your life is dedicated to self improvement and devoid of enjoyment, you will be ultimately perpetually unhappy and have the “never good enough” complex.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/20 10:30 PM
1

Ok so if you’re marrying a man who can hold his own financially, then you don’t have to give him all of your money. I don’t necessarily think that having separate accounts is a bad thing, but I do think that having a “my money” or “his money” attitude is bad. So pretty much you should be able to talk about pooling your finances together at any given time if you are both earners in the household, but you don’t need to completely give way to a man to do everything financial and never include you o…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 06:00 PM
2

It really depends. I think women with naturally more of an olive colored skin tone usually suit brown hair better. I think women of fairer skin tones usually suit blonde better. Except for asian black and brown women, those are more case by case, but majority favor darker colors. But it also just depends on the specific person. I don’t think there is a blanket color that suits all women best.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 09:03 AM
12

So you’ve been seeing him for 5 months, and depending on where you live, the lockdown has been going on for 2 months. In these past two months, what has your relationship looked like? How often do you talk and how often do you two see each other? What did the first two months look like? How often did you talk to and see each other? Have you had sex? Do you spend nights with him? It all depends on the guy, but for the most part if a guy doesn’t know 5 months in whether he wants to be with you, th…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 09:00 AM
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I don’t know of any man who would look at you and think “oh wow she’s an aerospace engineer? Ew, that’s so masculine”. The only people who that might cause you problems with are the people who are insecure about their professions, or men who will think that you may not consider them because they earn less. As for your looks: just wear professional clothes and speak professionally. All you can do is make sure that if someone takes things the wrong way that there is no base for their claims. Overa…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 08:54 AM
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You want to make less than your partner, but you are going into a field where you will likely be making upwards of 200k within 3ish years of profession. That disqualifies around 99% of men in the world. You don’t want him to lead you, but you want him to be head of the household. This is an oxymoron. Literal impossibility. You sound like the kind of girl who wants a “beta alpha”. A man that is a feminist but will “put you in your place” because it’s hot when men take what they want. You need to …
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 08:49 AM
3

Look on twitch, Instagram, YouTube, or at any award show. You will see countless women who you have never heard of before who have no marketable talents or particular skills. These same women will never have to work a day in their life, and will be able to live comfortably-wealthy if they want to. Men (and even women) will finance their entire lives, and treat them kindly for no reason other than their nice to look at.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 01:33 AM
5

if you use condoms and birth control correctly (it's pretty hard to use them incorrecly), you won't get pregnant.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/20 03:08 PM
3

Most men would say this is the case. Men are expected to earn a lot in order to attract women and provide for a family, so they sacrifice enjoyment for stability and status. Women tend to work for passion. After children in most societies, women aren’t expected to work anyway. And if they do they aren’t expected to be the one to earn the majority of the income. The burden does not fall on women for this, while it does on men. What you’re seeing is not at all uncommon. It’s actually extremely com…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/20 12:21 AM
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Referring to the 5th person as “the black dude” constantly kinda rubs me the wrong way... like you couldn’t just refer to him as M27, or the 5th guy? Really had to clarify that he was black like 20x throughout the story? As for the story... keeping information from your S/O at times like this is a bad idea. It also makes no sense that he would ride with you instead of with the other couple in this situation if your bf is so against anyone touching you. How do you ride on the back of a bike with …
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 11:59 PM
2

Did he smoke before you two got together? Why would you expect him to stop after? He’s a stoner. You’ll either allow him to smoke and he won’t lie, or you’ll tell him not to and he will lie. He will not stop though.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/20 05:48 PM
2

You have to accept that self destructive behavior, and lack of progress will disqualify you from a lot of high value men. But you can date.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/20 05:45 PM
2

I don’t do that type of sex work nor do I plan to when I’m married Do you genuinely believe that the old rich men who discreetly send you (a much younger women) money for sexual favors are not married?
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 02:45 AM
4

First piece of advice: be careful with increasing calorie intake. Don’t go straight from 1500 per day to 2500 per day. That much of an increase will not cause a smooth change in weight that evenly distributes itself and you’ll probably end up with a lot of bloat and belly fat. You’ll definitely gain a lot of fat doing that. You should gradually increase. So if you’re at roughly 1500 per day right now, increase to 1650 per day for for a week, then 1800, then 1950, then 2100 etc. it will help your…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/20 06:09 PM
1

Incel men fawn over chad more than straight women do tbh. I don’t think this is realistic. Maybe him crying about not being able to get her would be more realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 12:00 AM
2

Ok this does paint him in a slightly better light. I believe women should stick by men when times are tough, but when you look at your situation things are going the opposite way. You started off with a motivated, like minded man. He has since become an unmotivated, complacent man. Since you two have been together he has begun heading in the opposite direction. Actual success is a varied measurement, and hard to quantify, but mentality and actions is something that you should really look at when…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 12:57 AM
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Ok I read your other post. Normally I would say that you need to look at the positives in your man, but it honeslty doesn’t seem like there are many positives to be had. Your man doesn’t seem to really do anything to better himself. He’s getting fat, he couldn’t finish school, he doesn’t have a job, and doesn’t even have a license. Maybe it’s different in your country than the US, but in the US that person would be seen as a complete failure. Maybe he loves you and is kind to you, but it doesn’t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/20 11:15 PM
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Because she loves his best friend and not him
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/20 11:02 PM
2

It really depends. Overall: yes. The older you are (past a certain point) the less attractive you begin to become. That point is younger for women than it is for men in most cases. Most women’s peak in terms of attractiveness is between 18-25 years old. This age range is considering that you maintain a consistent weight/fitness level for most of your life. If you were fat/chubby for all of your 20’s, then got fit before you turned 30 then this would be the opposite for you. You could receive mor…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/20 02:17 PM
2

I don’t know why you’re living with a guy you’re attracted to and not dating, but it’s always a bad idea. I would say look for someone outside of your living situation.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/20 05:03 AM
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Crazy that they aren’t replacing her already... Depp got fired almost immediately with no proof or evidence when he was the accused. She still has a job with pretty overwhelming evidence against her. This is despite the fact that Amber Heard is a replaceable dime a dozen actress while Depp can carry a movie to the box office and back. Just makes me sad to see this kind of stuff.
/r/PussyPassDenied02/05/20 04:40 PM
2

single mother is dating on hard mode. Most men under 30 are not interested in relationships with women with children. Men over 30-35 are usually more accepting of something like that. It was a long term relationship and not an accidental pregnancy which is good, but I would just suggest not to go after younger men with your circumstance. If you've got things in order other than that then you should be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 09:31 AM
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I think most of this sub would also consider a difference between wife and girlfriend as living together or not living together.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 09:28 AM
2

Most of this sub is generalizations you’ll learn. You can choose to believe or not to believe whatever you want, but RPW and RPM as a whole base their entire dating strategy on the generalizations pertaining to male and female dynamics in traditional relationships. We claim it’s based on biology, but really there is very little way to prove that, and there will most likely never be proof that encompasses a wide enough spectrum to say it’s factual. If you’re looking for hardcore research and fact…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/20 12:04 AM
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Salary in your dating profile is a bad idea. The men who actually make more than you will probably still be turned off by it. Imo it will create more problems than good. If you’re an engineer then just put that. It’s a way to show your earning bracket without attaching a literal number to your profile. You break things off with the men because you have nothing in common. If this has happened so often you need to ask yourself what are options for things they could have in common with you? After a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 06:20 PM
4

Medical school isn't something you just do cause you feel like it. Are you sure he could even get the grades and pass the exams to do something like that? 25 is not old. When you near 30 then you should start to worry. I would say the majority of men 27 and under in the US are unmarried in this day and age.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 07:08 AM
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A few weeks ago, a very attractive, somewhat older man who works in an industry that I also find very attractive expressed some interest in me. I obviously did not reciprocate and shut it down immediately, but I haven't been able to stop thinking about it since. I was so flattered by his interest that it shook me straight to my core. For just a moment, I was being courted by an "every girl's dream" kinda guy... Handsome, older, fascinating career, impressive education, money. What makes you thin…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 06:50 AM
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for now. A man used to be a term exclusive to biological males. All it takes is one definition to slightly change.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/04/20 06:38 AM
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Hm. You posted for the first time in a year to comment a reply to this. Kinda makes me think you found me from somewhere else and didn’t want your real account linked to this post in my post history.... don’t be shy, post on your real account. Traveling opens you up to culture, yes, but there is a difference between travel for experience and travel for Instagram. Most people I have met that “love traveling” are college/post grad girls that want to go to Dubai/Ibiza, party on the beach, and post …
/r/TheRedPill26/04/20 08:20 AM
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Yes, that’s a problem, and if you have a solution to that problem then i suggest you offer it. Telling her that her bf is a jerk doesn’t exactly help her situation unless she plans to break up with him. To me it sounds like the guy is problematic in general, but most stories like this leave something out. Unless the guy is actually just unhinged, most people don’t make baseless, malicious claims about their partners. Mental abuse in relationships is not the norm. I am addressing the gap in her s…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 07:56 AM
1

Well that clearly didn’t happen, so unless you are telling her to break up with him then she should explore my suggestion and actually talk this through.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 07:47 AM
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Yes it’s disrespectful the way he asked, but the question shouldn’t really be something he has to wonder.... especially if it’s important to him.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 02:54 AM
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Your body is you. No clothing will make you feel comfortable in a body that you don’t feel comfortable in unless it hides your body. Focus on your diet and exercise. Change the source of your unhappiness instead of trying to cover it up.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 01:56 AM
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Traveling is the weirdest passion to arise in recent history. It’s not a real passion. Like a passion for another culture is a passion, but “traveling” is literally just a passion for vacationing. Like imagine if someone told you “oh I’m passionate about going on vacation”. That’s something you laugh at, it’s not a real thing lol. Netflix is literally nothing. Most girls I know that like Netflix like to just have it on in the background and not even pay attention. Like I don’t know what it is bu…
/r/TheRedPill25/04/20 10:00 PM
4

I know tons of high value men that like for their women to dress to show off their bodies. Feminine does not mean modest. A minidress and heels is still a feminine outfit.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/20 08:22 AM
5

You don't have to agree with everything to find something of value. If you agree with the leader/supporter dynamic but not with the homemaker/breadwinner dynamic, you can still use this sub effectively and judgement free. Whatever you find useful, use it. The very core of this subreddit is nothing much more complicated than "men and women are fundamentally and biologically different. Ignoring these differences leads to misery and frustration". If you agree with that, then you can benefit from th…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/20 07:04 PM
1

in all of your listed scenarios you hate yourself. That is the root of all your problems. You don't need to necessarily love yourself, but until you learn to at least be ok with yourself you will never be able to have a positive, functional relationship. Also do not up your meds without the instruction of a medical professional. That's how overdose and kidney failure happens.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/20 08:29 AM
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He's not wrong. 17 in terms of a physical makeup is barely any different than 18 or even 20. Also 23 and 17 is not a big gap age wise. There are plenty of other posters on this sub that have more significant age gaps than that. I'm fairly certain that there are almost no states that would have a couple aged 17 and 23 dating be considered illegal. If he's specifically searching out 17 year old girls, that's a big red flag and a sign that he probably wants somewhat of a blank slate to groom to his…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/20 08:15 AM
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Men don’t care about a woman’s job in the same way women care about a man’s job, This is not correct. Most men wouldn’t think twice about a woman who has a career in a low earning field (teacher, Secretary, etc.). A lot of women would completely rule out a man who is in a perceived low income field. Men care, but men care from a more “is she responsible and capable of supporting herself?” Standpoint. Whereas women care from a “if I stop working am I going to have to live on a strict budget?” Sta…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 05:13 PM
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It sounds like he’s some kind of social media influencer or instagram comedy type person. If that’s the case and you’re not on his page then he’s not committed to you and he probably won’t ever commit to you from how he talks about it. You will never be his only. If you’re ok with that then keep talking to him, if you’re not then don’t.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 10:26 PM
1

This is something that 4 year olds do. If he is an adult and doing this then this is a much much larger fundamental flaw. You cannot function on this planet without waiting in some form. Someone who would rather steal than wait in line is someone who is not mentally ok.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 09:53 PM
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Make sure your fitness and overall look is upheld. Men notice when it isn’t despite when they’ll say. Even if it’s subconscious, they notice. As for the “chasing” thing. The thing that most women fail to understand is that chasing is over once you begin a relationship. If he’s still chasing you within the relationship he will just get tired (in a literal and figurative sense). Men don’t want to chase something they’ve already gotten, and this is why you pursue men with goals. Men with no goals w…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 09:31 PM
2

This sounds like it’s definitely crossing a line. I don’t know anyone personally who would consider virtual sex as anything other than cheating.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 09:26 PM
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So you checked who he was following and went through the girls’ pictures to see if he was liking them is the answer that you’re trying not to admit. Just be forthcoming with it if you’re going to be upset about it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 09:11 PM
2

this person is always surely a catfish or bot. no one actually says this lol
/r/PussyPassDenied18/04/20 10:50 PM
1

So your mom is telling you not to get married until your get a master’s but she doesn’t plan to pay for it? Do you live in a culture where you’re supposed to live at home through adulthood? If not then I don’t really see why her words should carry much weight. Yes, it is important if you want to advance in your career more rapidly, but in the US if you have 7 years of experience with really any job that a business major helps you get, you shouldn’t have a lot of trouble finding good income. The …
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 10:35 PM
2

Ah. So you have a legitimate addiction. Therapy is definitely something you should heavily consider. I don’t know how much medication could really help a masturbation addiction. I don’t think you’re actually disinterested in sex, I think you are just too used to getting yourself off to enjoy having someone else try for you. But I am not a therapist, I’m just a random commenter on this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 04:57 PM
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Have you been masturbating from a young age? If you have been consistently masturbating since you were little then you could have desensitized yourself and forced yourself to only be able to gain pleasure from your own methods. A lot of guys with porn addictions have that problem. Either way I think therapy is important. I don’t see how your partner would ever be happy with your masturbating so much and never wanting to have sex.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 03:57 PM
2

If you don’t like masculine men then most of TRP is not going to be very useful for you. Also I don’t think you’d fall into the asexual bin if you masturbate so often. Have you ever considered that you may be a lesbian? If you enjoy the feeling of an orgasm and you don’t like sex, then maybe you just haven’t been with a man who gives you good sex? Or maybe you would enjoy sex more with a woman? Being in an asexual relationship but consistently masturbating would probably frustrate both asexual a…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 02:40 PM
2

This sounds like a bad idea. What you’re saying right now is pretty much that you’re in an open relationship with a man you don’t have romantic feelings for, and you’re considering moving in with him. Unless you want to be with him long term romantically, you shouldn’t do this. If you like jerks usually though, you should either accept that and marry a jerk, or seek some kind of therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 02:32 PM
2

It’s relative, but I’m pretty sure that everyone below the age of 30-35 thinks that 20 would be a high N count
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/20 04:03 AM
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The mindset is they sleep with plates and don’t care about plates. They commit to women who they view to be above plate status
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/20 03:34 AM
1

I think hurt and frustration is what drives most people to this place. “The rage phase” is usually the first phase of RP. People who never progress past rage are the ones who damage the idea of RP.
/r/TheRedPill24/02/20 07:05 PM
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You don’t. He has decide that’s what he wants. He has been very clear with you that a serious relationship is not what he wants. And after your previous relationship I am honestly kind of shocked that you aren’t more careful about these kinds of men. This comes off as excessively naive from you. You just stopped dating a man who was married and are moving onto a man who seems like he is hiding his entire life from you (probably because he is married). What you should take away from this: he clea…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 02:01 PM
1

It's balanced out, because there is something you bring to the table that he can't: mothering. He can't grow a child in his womb, he can't breastfeed it, and he is less suited to raising the child in its very early years. This is all powerful stuff you bring to the table. I understand what you’re trying to say, but this isn’t anything that makes specifically her valuable. This is a symptom of being female, which is something he can find in literally any other woman. Like if she is a great cook, …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 01:50 PM
1

Red pill is nothing more than a guideline for male/female romantic behavior based on what we believe is closest to what our natural biology wants for us. If you don’t believe the beliefs about the fundamental differences between the sexes that red pill lives by, then it isn’t for you. If you do, then it is.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/20 06:28 PM
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I wouldn’t say this is necessarily true. There are playful names that I and others have given to women in our lives who we had absolutely no romantic interest in. I think better signs are observing how much attention and time they devote to you comparatively to others.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/20 06:22 PM
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This is a niche I haven’t seen yet, but I assume the app will overrun pretty quickly with sugar daddies/escorts. I think just a conservative values dating app would be a better choice.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/20 06:13 PM
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dating someone consistently for 3 months is a kind of long time to not be considered a formal relationship. I guess the best way to see whether you'd be interested in a relationship with him would be to just ask yourself if you would be ok with him currently sleeping with other women. If you would, cut him loose. If you wouldn't, I'd commit to him. Also you could do the reverse. Are you still dating multiple men? If so what are you hoping to find in them that you aren't finding in him?
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/20 03:00 PM
1

Sun screen, moisturizer, exercise and diet are the main staples of effective skin care (in that order depending on how active your are outside). The type of moisturizer and face wash you should use is entirely dependant on your skin type, so it's pretty much just a trial and error thing, but if you already have good skin with minimal effort then odds are that most facial products will only help you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/20 02:55 PM
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I think you're taking this a little harder than you probably should be. Yes he didn't quite answer with the level of compassion most would expect from a S/O, but i sincerely doubt this is a new thing for your relationship if he truly thinks this highly of his mind. Most people that believe they are very smart are also very smug, so this should have been business as usual between you two. I think you are taking this too harshly because 1: he didn't say you're stupid, just that he believes he is s…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/20 07:10 AM
0

Marriage, yes. Marriage to one woman? No. Men would have multiple wives if possible throughout most of history. I never said marriage wasn’t the norm... people still got married.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 07:16 PM
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Since they would assume if it was natural they would be fighting the instinct to sleep around. Not realizing that the instinct is gone because everyone has had a drastic shift in how we view children. You aren’t really making sense. You’re just kind of contradicting yourself a lot. If you’re agreeing with me, then the natural form of human relationship would for be men (who can afford it) to have multiple wives/partners, and women to have monogamous relationships, even if they are sister wives. …
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 04:09 PM
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monogamy is natural. I’m not trying to be mean here I promise, but do you know what natural means? Everything you described in your comment is the opposite of natural. You claim it is all forced by child support essentially which is a government mandated... literally not natural at all.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 03:42 PM
2

That initial paragraph just kept getting worse and worse. At first I was like “ok, a little bit of a past, but not terrible”, then I was like “ok ok... some red flags... not the WORST”, then I was like “uhhh.... this man sounds atrocious”. If he had a rough past, that’s one thing... but he has a rough present and doesn’t seem to be learning from his mistake or to care about improving himself. He is on food stamps and still buys things he doesn’t need? Does he even have a job?
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 09:57 AM
1

I’d you have hobbies and interests, then you just need to talk about them. If you’re simply not good at speaking to people, then practice is the only way to get better. Talk to more people and you will learn to talk in a more interesting way.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 09:52 AM
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⁠Men and women in are innately monogamous and seek 1 partner their whole life Why do you claim this when throughout the majority of human history, every man who could afford to would take more than one wife? Monogamy has only been the staple version of human relationships for the past 400 or so years of the countless time that humans have existed.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 09:47 AM
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They might not grasp skin care at a super young age, but every kid can grasp fitness pretty much as soon as they learn to walk. They will copy you doing at home fitness things cause they love to copy their parents when they’re little in general. They’ll try to do push-ups with you or jump rope or whatever you do around the house if you do it near them. Personally I think you should put your kid into some organized sport right around 8-10 years old. If you are a fit person in general your kids wi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/20 06:41 PM
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Being unemployed for a year and a half and forcing your wife into carrying both the financial and at home burden is not a “red pill” thing, that’s a manipulation thing. Also being unemployed for 1.5 years is not an “unfortunate” thing. It is a lazy thing. He either needs to accept that he doesn’t belong in whatever field he was previously in, or put in more effort.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/20 06:39 PM
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I have a much less extreme, but similar situation. I am from an upper-middle class family. I don’t know explicitly how much my father earns, but it’s probably upwards of 300k. My family lives in one of the more expensive areas in the US (near DC). After I graduated I moved to alabama and lived in an apartment for $700/mo because it was the pragmatically good move for my career to live in. I just worked for a year, saved money and gained experience, then moved back to the DC area with a year unde…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 02:51 AM
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I would argue that most men already do this to some extent. I don’t know many men at all that care about going on actual dates. If they did go on a date of their choosing it would probably be golfing, or a sports bar. I can’t think of a single man I know who desires to go out to a fancy restaurant and dress up with his girlfriend/wife outside of doing it specifically to please her. Same with most other things that are generally deemed “romantic”. Something is only considered romantic if it is do…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 01:41 AM
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So pretty much you withhold all of the value you have to offer until the guy decides he wants to marry you? Most high value men will just move on. This probably works in religious circles, but not in the mainstream dating market that most people here are a part of. I mean... I just think it’s bad advice to go the route of “oh once we’re married you’ll get the real me”. You don’t have to clean his place or cook for him every night, but if you aren’t willing to do as much as cook for a guy you’re …
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 12:47 AM
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passion. Passion for what? Passion for anything. You like cooking? Video games? Exercise? Knitting? Just anything that you can share with another person. I wouldn’t say passion for things like the bachelor or the Kardashians would be the most valuable thing in terms of dating men... but just something that you could teach or share with a potential partner. cooking and supportiveness are qualities that you offer as a gf or wife or no? You can cook for a guy on the second or 3rd date. Supportivene…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 10:13 PM
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Just think about the qualities that posters here desire in men. Strong willed, ambitious, focused, leadership, consistent, assertive, family oriented etc, honest, affectionate etc. What kind of women would these men desire? Obviously looks are very important, but things like humor, passion, consistency, tidiness, cooking, supportiveness, adventurousness etc. are all valuable qualities. It seems like a lot of people who post here frame themselves as nothing more than arm candy, and baby dispenser…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 09:03 PM
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because how will I know whether he really likes he or he just likes spending time because I’m good company and pretty? .... that Is the same thing. No one is going to fall in love with you without knowing who you are. The people who say they had “love at first sight” are naive. They probably had a ton of other experiences that if they had worked out would have been the same thing. They lust at first sight, then get lucky by liking the person that looks good as well. Dating is easy when you’re a …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 07:20 PM
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Women dgaf about your body fat percentage, The actual number? Ya of course not. Very few people outside of the fitness fanatic sphere even know what the difference between 12% and 18% body fat looks like in men (is a huge difference btw). But do women care if they can see abs? If they can see the definition in your forearms? The inward slope from your shoulders to your waistline when you’re wearing form fitting clothes? V lines? Of course they do, and whether abs show or not is the difference be…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 09:21 PM
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You can be strong as an ox and still be fat. Most men who just blindly lift don’t do anything about their diet. Going to the gym and benching 350 isn’t going to get rid of the 350lbs you’re already carrying. That’s done by not eating 4000 calories a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 09:14 PM
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It is a goal, but you can’t just jump into family life that easily anymore. This isn’t the 50’s or even the 90’s where people can just get married at 21 with 50k combined salary and be fine. Being a stay at home mom isn’t really realistic until your spouse is around 30ish years old (if he is in a lucrative career field) at the earliest from a financial sense unless you plan to have your family struggle early on. So until then what are you gonna do? Are you going to be ok with struggling and pop …
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/19 04:13 PM
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I don’t know who perpetuates this “some people are too hot to approach” idea, but it’s 100% false. Hotter people get approached more. If you’re super hot everyone will approach you. It’s really really far from the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 01:23 PM
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cooking is no different than any other skill. Some people are born with an innate sense for what combines well and what will go well together. How long to cook something and all that, but those peoploe are rare. Most people are just like the general population and become good cooks through practice and repetition. Your meals might not taste good at first, but as long as you're learning why they don't taste good and improving them as yuou go, you will become a good cook with time!
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 03:04 AM
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anywhere. I'd say the besdt place to meet men though is the gym. Men who go to the gym consistently are the ones who are driven and focused. There aren't very many beta or unattractive men who are very fit.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 08:58 AM
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What is Squalor? And what are boarding houses? Is this some sort of public housing in your country? As for advice... Being 36 with a kid from another man is dating on super hard mode for you unless you're really hot. You might have to either lower your standards or be ok being alone (depedning on what Sqalor and boarding house means).
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 08:54 AM
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I’m not arguing that her decision is a good one, but if any man would willingly cut off contact with you for multiple weeks, you shouldn’t be with them. Doesn’t matter if you’re “dating” or not
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/19 03:52 AM
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About the "bulkiest" you can ever hope to be as a relatively young female weight lifter is this girl, and she is sexy without a doubt. Don't worry about it. toned strength is feminine and hot. No man will say that you look too bulky unless you are taking suppliments or trying to outlift men on bench or something.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 10:29 PM
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So there isn’t a study? I feel like there should be a credible study if it is “pandemic” level.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/19 10:03 AM
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Can you show me a study or something? This is a hard term to search for in google and I keep getting articles about female orgasms or just porn addiction in general.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/19 05:52 AM
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Children getting addicted to porn is bad, and is a sign of bad parenting. Adults getting addicted to porn is a sign of a weak mind to begin with. If it wasn’t porn it would be something else equally, or more destructive than porn (alcohol, drugs, etc.). These people are not saveable by stricter enforcement or heightened awareness, they will always just get addicted to something else in its place. Fighting against porn (made and consumed by adults) in general is a losing battle. I admire your pas…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/19 07:19 PM
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Hm..... Well I suppose this is the textbook definition of addiction, but I guess a better question would be what would bleed into the realm of harmful addiction. If this is addiction I’d say most people are addicted to watching TV. Or maybe watching YouTube or something. The point isn’t whether the person is addicted, the point is whether the addiction is harmful or not.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/19 07:07 PM
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Ok this sounds very sad, but where did porn tie into this story? I see someone who probably married too young and immaturely (I see this VERY often especially with military men). Did he have an adultery fetish, or a cheating fetish due to porn? I just don’t see the connection in this story. All I see is a man who seems like he regretted settling down so early and wasn’t mature enough to handle things better.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/19 07:03 PM
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People who can only speak negatively about their exes usually aren’t very emotionally or situationally mature.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/19 06:55 PM
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You asked for advice while giving partial information. No one will give you good advice without good information. No one knows the status of your relationship, the distance, whether you’ve met, whether you intend to meet. Whether you’re moving to each other eventually, no one knows that you’ve known this guy for years, or that this was always how he replied before you became whatever you are now. All of this matters if you want good advice. If you want him to text you more, then text him more. H…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/19 03:29 PM
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I’m sorry but this just doesn’t make sense to me. You want him to text you more frequently but you don’t want to talk more than once a month? and he has stated many times telling me to stay in touch with him more Have you ever thought that this is why he replies slowly? Because you told him you don’t want to talk to him more than once a month? If your preference is talking infrequently, why are you confused when he replies to you infrequently?
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/19 03:09 PM
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I’m not here for dating advice, just ways how to answer his text as a way to improve Ok so you may not be here for dating advice but the context of your relationship status matters for your replies to him. As stated in my post, it’s not a relationship right now so we don’t owe each other anything but it’s always been the norm for us to talk twice a month in the years we’ve known each other So... you’re just casual friends? Did something happen to escalate your relationship at some point? Does he…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/19 02:52 PM
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Your relationship is long distance and you talk twice a month? This doesn’t sound like a relationship to me, and if you’re in the getting your know each other phase then he doesn’t reply enough for that to happen. I’m not saying this is a lost cause, but I wouldn’t hold on too tightly to the idea of this turning into something meaningful.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/19 02:38 PM
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What? Also an addiction to smoking “and other addictions”? If someone is a smoking/alcohol addict then that is absolutely a good reason to breakup.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/19 05:40 PM
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Before anything else is mentioned here, I just want to clarify that in order to leave his wife for this girl, this girl would have to desire him as a long term partner, and not just a forbidden married, teacher, occupationally superior kink that she probably saw him as. Truth is that probably just wasn't the case. how come didn't he leave his wife for her? It seems to be more logical since she's younger and fitter. Is it because of the bureaucracy around marriage and divorce? Now for everything …
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 10:36 PM
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Believe me... yes I 100% agree with “the wall comes super fast”. I’m 29 and I take care of myself, so I mostly look the same as I did when I was 24-25 (just thankfully more facial hair). I’d even argue i might have improved since i have a skincare routine now and money to afford more stylish clothes, and can grow a decent beard... but the girls from my college graduating class have SERIOUSLY declined. It’s crazy to see how just 5-6 years can make girls who were objective 8’s drop to 6’s on a goo…
/r/TheRedPill04/12/19 07:45 PM
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Yet you chose not to. You stoically mentioned 2 negative traits and one positive trait for guy 1. You gushed for nearly a full paragraph about guy 2. His “negatives” were worded so positively and emotionally that most people would have perceived them as positives. I understand you want to believe they were someone “equal”, but to you they very clearly were not anywhere near equal. You try to say this was a bad choice, but given the way you talk about him it seems like you view him as the one who…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 03:45 AM
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They weren’t attractive in different ways, you just thought guy 2 was hotter than guy 1.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 03:18 AM
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This may be true for you, but I would argue it is not true for most. When men laugh at everything you say and wait for your attention no matter what it is you actually do, you don’t have to learn to be interesting or learn how to have meaningful conversation. Men will happily date dumb, boring women if they are hot enough. The hot enough ones never need to progress their social skills when it comes to dating because it honestly doesn’t matter very much. So most don’t. I’d say personality is shap…
/r/seduction01/12/19 07:51 AM
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Look at the study, the amount of men in the “very attractive” section was practically zero. The hot men still get most of the messages, they’re just rare on OKC.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 07:44 AM
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Most of that sub is just people with misogyny fetishes writing essentially fan fiction.
/r/TheRedPill17/11/19 12:05 AM
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So you spent the whole night with him, slept over, then planned the entire next day with him too? Did you ask him what he wanted to do before planning the day? Did you ask him if he was feeling better? It just seems kind of abrasive of you. Like “oh you’re sick? Let me take care of you! Ok now since I nursed you back to health I have a slew of activities for us to do today!” Maybe he is still recovering and wants to stay home. Maybe he wants some space so he can talk to his friends. Maybe he jus…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/19 04:59 PM
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Hot women can get hot men any time they want. Hot women want interesting men, and interesting starts with your look.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/19 06:41 PM
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The reason a man won’t marry a woman is one of a few reasons. life goals don’t line up This one is pretty simple. Maybe you want kids and he doesn’t. Maybe you want to be a SAHM and he wants to live a double income lifestyle. Could be any number of important things. he just isn’t ready Maybe you’re ready to and he isn’t. Initiating this talk too early can put pressure on him that he simply doesn’t want to deal with at the time. A lot of men will just breakup rather than wait til they’re ready wh…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 01:57 AM
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40 years.... There is something you aren’t mentioning. Possession of CP is not a 40 year sentence, it’s a 0-10 year sentence. This guy was probably running a child porn distribution center/web site or maybe even creating child porn.
/r/PussyPassDenied04/11/19 10:27 PM
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This is not true. The true way to describe what you’re saying is: hot girls don’t do what I do, so the only way I see them is by going to functions where the ones working the functions are the hottest ones. There are tons of hot girls doing corporate jobs. Go into any “young cultured” company and you’ll see at least couple hot girls. The problem is these hot girls don’t go to clubs, bars, random sleezy parties like you do. These girls either get married to some dude who locked them down in colle…
/r/TheRedPill31/10/19 04:14 PM
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I don’t think you need to gain weight. There are a lot of men who prefer women on the thin side. Women who say that are 100% jealous more than anything.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/19 04:45 PM
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Respect. But mostly respect for something they have either accomplished or worked for. Respect for a strong body, a illustrious career, high income etc. I honestly believe this is one of the driving factors (other than beauty) that cause men to seek out younger women. Younger women are more likely to be more respectful to older men than same age counterparts.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/19 04:39 PM
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This would be a good comparison if casual sex was as easy to get for women as relationships were to get for men. You act like love and affection is the goal. If casual sex is the goal for men, then to balance it out, men should have women constantly in their messages hoping for a relationship to balance things out, right? That’s not the case. The same men that have access to most of the casual sex are the ones that have access to most of the relationship opportunities. So for the lower tier wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 08:31 PM
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And you are one woman. Go to a school campus at any level, or to a large company. There are always 1-3 men in every group comprised of both sexes that women constantly fawn over, mostly because of a combination of their status and looks. Those men are usually the ones who women have, and desire to have casual sex with. They may only desire that in hopes of an eventual relationship, but overall they desire sex with those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 08:28 PM
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Doing laundry is such a simple thing. Literally takes like 1-2 minutes to load up laundry and turn on the machine. Unless you’re hand washing your clothes he shouldn’t be upset about that. But if this is an issue if you saying you will do things consistently and not following through then that is a larger problem that can erode trust in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 06:14 PM
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Well good thing is that it’s much easier to eat more than it is to eat less lol. So just adding another half meal per day shouldn’t be a problem for you
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 06:12 PM
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Honestly any exercise that you feel in your arms will help. There is not a specific exercise that will make you bulky or lean, there are just exercises that either hit or don’t hit your arms. You could do push-ups, curls, pull ups, bench press, pull downs. Anything you want, as long as it uses your arms muscles, and it’s hard to do, it will make your arms stronger. There is no secret, just try stuff and see what works. Also you won’t lose meaningful weight at this point for exercising. If you do…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 05:42 PM
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I don’t think this post would be removed for that question, but I could be wrong. As for the answer... I am not sure. I have not seen many cases of open relationships work, and I think that modern day Christianity would not be ok with open relationships in general. So from a religious standpoint I would say no. I think if this is the case you really need to evaluate why the man is not satisfied by the woman, not just whether he is satisfied or not. There are men who are simply never satisfied wi…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 12:50 PM
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It just goes to show he’s not a high quality man if he can’t be satisfied period. I disagree with this and find it a very strange stance to take personally. What determines a high quality man in your opinion is that is satisfied by the woman he is with? Marriage is not something you can just leave, and there are women who definitely do not bend over backwards for good men out there. If a good man is married to a woman who no longer is good to him, why should how good of a man he is be evaluated …
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 12:42 PM
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This doesn’t really make much sense. Then they both have gaps in their employment instead of just one of them. Also he doesn’t seem like he ever intended to not work, so why would he be open to that compromise? Just seems like the worst of both worlds option. She still has to work, and he has to stall his career. Like neither of them wants this outcome lol.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 03:20 PM
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Have you gained weight or has anything else significant about your appearance changed? Has he gotten in better/worse shape or changed physically in any way? Is your relationship ok? Have you been fighting more recently? Is there something he wants to do, but doesn’t because of you? (Not talking sexual here) Has his life become more stressful than usual lately? There are many factors that can decrease sex drive. I’d say one of these is the most likely reason tho.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 02:09 PM
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If you’re good with that then more power to you! But you’re gonna have to be with some low value men unless you’re a smoke show yourself lol. Men’s dating value ties in with their career and persona, not just their looks. You’ll most likely have to date a straight up loser that worships you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 06:49 PM
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Men desire sex before they desire relationships. That’s just how things are. The only way to really get a man to desire you relationally before sexually is either to find a man that is not physically attracted to you and somehow win him over (almost impossible), or date down enough to where the man believes you are the hottest girl he can ever get. Otherwise, you’re gonna have to look in hyper religious abstinence groups.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 06:19 PM
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Hm. Seems to take a pretty huge jump to genocide there. Other than that it seems like he is a man who has been hurt by women, and only experienced the women who wanted to use him because of his status.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/19 09:55 PM
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You're making the same mistake as OP. You seem to think that masculinity is defined by what women are attracted to. I've fucked women who are older, smarter, and more creative than me. It's a non-issue. ...... literally contradicting yourself. But to address the first part, I said it is masculine to fight. I said it’s not the type of masculine that will attract women worth keeping around to consistently fight. Masculinity in general is anything that is usually fueled by the elevated testosterone…
/r/TheRedPill18/10/19 09:06 PM
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Guys who start fights when insulted are masculine. In many cultures (ancient ones especially), if someone insulted you it is expected that you will get fucking pissed and fight them. Just because you like stoicism doesn't make it masculine. Sure, but this attracts a different type of woman. Women don’t want men that get in fights, they want men that are capable of winning fights and aren’t afraid to fight. Different things here. The women that like men who straight up fight random dudes are usua…
/r/TheRedPill18/10/19 07:31 PM
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You will probably live around 30 years of your elder stages of life alone IG you marry him. If you’re ok with being a 50 year old widow, and having college aged children go fatherless, then go ahead. I have a close friend whose parents are 17 years apart. She is 26 and her father is 74. He has dementia and severely declining physical health. They obviously love him, but the mother will have to live the next 25ish years of the ending stages of her life a widow.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 06:50 PM
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the only way I can get over this lost time is to actually expose this bullshit online In my opinion you’ll just be upset that you wasted time trying to convince others that RP is not the way to go. Best way to get over lost time is to use your current time better. Just live your life.
/r/ExRedPill17/10/19 02:56 PM
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Probably have discussed it too often with people of the same mindset. The same conversation can get very boring when it’s repeated so frequently. Also they have a lot of RP specific slang that you won’t understand very easily without some familiarity.
/r/ExRedPill17/10/19 02:49 PM
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You seem to be approaching this relationship the wrong way. You mention that you have mental health issues and want someone strong to rely on.... that’s not how life works. You don’t just get someone strong to rely on because you are weak. You need to be strong yourself in order to attract strong people. Seems like your relationship has been this way the entire time. I don’t know why you’re expecting him to change. You honestly should never go into a relationship expecting someone to be differen…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 04:54 AM
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in my past relationships I have never paid for anything. Ever. Ok, that’s a little much. but now I am earning a significant amount more than my boyfriend. It decreased my respect for him as a provider How much is a “significant amount”? What is the point of having a provider when you can provide for yourself? Why do you make so much money if you have no intention of using it? This just makes no sense to me. Sure have your values, but why are you doing things that directly contradict those values…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 11:24 PM
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how do I approach? By approaching. There is no secret unless you're reading into PUA type material (which does not facillitate relationships. PUA stuff only works for hookups with simple women). If she likes you, she'll be receptive. If she doesn't she won't. Get used to rejection, and keep trying until you find the right one. That's dating for men.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 05:51 PM
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I have worked in a woman managed office before and it was a complete mess. Blame was thrown everywhere every chance they got. Lectures were given on a consistent basis. Childish scolding was commonplace. There was no procedure or structure to operations. I hated it. The VP of my department is a man now, and my director is a man, but my manager is a woman (she was recently promoted after a man who was in her place left). My manager is great, and pretty hands off as long as your do your job. She g…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 07:58 PM
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No one is perfect for you. You will never find the perfect man. What you will eventually find is that you are too old to get the caliber of man that you once could because all of the good ones are either married or interested in women that don’t have a superiority/hypergamy complex. You could just be dating men you don’t mesh with, but it sounds like you wouldn’t be satisfied unless you were essentially dating Dan Bilzerian, or someone else who you’d constantly have to prove yourself to. Seems l…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 01:26 PM
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What do you want in life? Because it seems like nothing that TRP preaches will get you anywhere you want to go. You can boil any specific aspect of life down to how pointless, meaningless and frivolous it could be, but life is about all of the individual pointless things that add up to achieving whatever makes you happy/proud of yourself. Find that out and you can find out which line of teaching lends to that. If being respected, and attracting women are not things you’re interested in then mayb…
/r/TheRedPill07/10/19 02:59 AM
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Men face a wall early on by being broke, low status, etc. Once we hop over that bitch as we get older, that's when options open up to us. A lucky few who are popular in school delay hitting the wall when their popularity in school doesn't account for shit in college This is actual truth. I am a generally good looking guy (good facial symmetry and jawline) who played sports in HS. I’m 6’2” as well, so overall women seem to agree that I am good looking. I am 28 now, and when I was 12-18 I was hot …
/r/TheRedPill06/10/19 10:58 PM
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A man doesn’t take you on 4 real dates including a legitimate picnic unless he is interested. If you are afraid to text a man after he takes you on a sunset picnic, you are most likely the issue in these cases.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/19 08:07 PM
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The only way to be truly irreplaceable is to date so far down that you are literally the best option he will ever have. No one wants to do that. The idea is to make it so your man doesn’t want to replace you. Be malleable, be open to his requests, be able to let him do his own thing, be supportive when he needs it, cook for him, clean etc. make it so replacing you isn’t a worthwhile option, and you won’t be replaced in the vast majority of cases. If you’re a 6/10 looks wise at 27 with no meaning…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 11:02 PM
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It's as if the only men I attract and who seem to desire me are larger men with a low IQ. . I have a very square body and ugly teeth. I am an objective 3/10 . Even before I had kids I only had a very low paying job and I failed my education. If these things are true, then you sound like you deserve the men you attract, and that you married up. Your husband knows this.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/19 03:56 AM
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First thing you need to do is come to grips with the fact that you do want a relationship. You’re currently in denial and it bleeds through your words pretty desperately. You say you don’t want a relationship, but you say you don’t want sex without emotional connection, and you say you can’t live without sex. So unless you plan to exist in some form of polyamory, you want a relationship. The reason you are telling yourself you don’t want a relationship is because internally you don’t believe you…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 06:44 PM
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Men don’t love bitches, men love hot women. Because men love hot women, hot women have more leeway to be bitchy and get away with it. As a result, the hotter than woman is, the more leeway she has to be a bitch. Also the hotter a woman is in comparison to her husband (the less likely he can do better), the more leeway she has to be a bitch. So if a 9/10 woman is dating a 5/10 man, she could be Satan incarnate personality wise and still inspire his love simply because she’s hot. It’s pretty rare …
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 06:27 PM
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Work to change your body. Exercise and diet. Life is too finite to exist hating yourself the whole time when you can just put in effort to fix it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 09:17 PM
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And women will have sex with cucumbers. and hairbrushes. Female sex toys are WAY more common than male sex toys are, and women use forgein objects for sexual pleasure significantly more than men do. This was always a very weird statement to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 11:36 PM
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I’m not really sure if you’re asking from “how much do men care about their own personal hygiene” or “how much do men care about a woman’s personal hygiene”. I’d say a man who cares about his appearance in general isn’t going to allow himself to be presented as a dirty or unclean person. I’d say that man would expect the same from his woman.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/19 02:46 PM
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Kind of. Pretty much if you’re naturally beautiful, and fit/slim it doesn’t matter what you wear because you’ll look good in anything short of a full on Burka (and would probably look good in that even). If you’re not naturally stunning, men will notice notice when you are well dressed/groomed, but men will not notice women who are not well dressed/groomed. You’ll pretty much just be invisible to men instead of critiqued like women will do.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 02:29 AM
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You don’t even need to go to another country, you just need to go to South Florida or Costal California. The women probably aren’t as nice as they are in other countries, but in terms of looks it’s literally night and day.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/19 03:21 AM
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If you’re only talking to guys online why did you think transferring universities would affect anything? Overall it seems like you just don’t do anything social. Most of dating stems from some kind of social interaction. A lot of people meet online now, but most people aren’t just random messages, they’re messages to friends’ friends. Transferring schools isn’t going to drastically affect the type of men you meet unless you’re going from like Alabama to DC to LA or something. If you aren’t findi…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 02:14 AM
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A “strong boss type” is usually a person that most people hate. You don’t ever want to be that. My boss is a quiet, soft spoken woman who is very good at her job. She is married with kids and very old fashioned and feminine (dresses every day to the office, bakes cookies for coworkers). You don’t have to be the stereotypical “strong boss type” to get ahead in life. You just have to be good at what you do, and find the correct situation.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 01:55 PM
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I think the best way to look at it is to ask yourself this: would you be fine with your potential boyfriend seeing you without makeup or not? If the answer is no then you’re probably doing too much with your makeup.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/19 05:52 PM
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Would you be comfortable allowing your potential bf to see your no-makeup face? If the answer is yes then you’re probably doing too much.... unless you plan to sleep in your makeup.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/19 05:51 PM
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I think it’s morally wrong for women to “settle” and use men for their life goals This is an interesting comment. This type of thinking can really twist your head around when navigating relationships. Whether we like it or not, most people settle in relationships. Very rarely is the first choice our forever partner. It might not be a big difference, but your ideal man is probably a tall, muscular, high status (and paying) family man with a strong moral compass and unshakeable confidence. That ma…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/19 05:41 PM
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Gen Z is between 1995 and 2015. This girl is probably around 16 years old. She could be as old as 24, but if we’re looking at the average she’s probably not. She should be looking for the signs of a meaningful relationship, but she probably won’t be with anyone that lasts for a long time if she is around 16 and gets into a relationship right now. Youth is obviously extremely important, but I would say meaningful relationships don’t really begin til you’re around 20ish years old on average. There…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 06:08 PM
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If you’re gen Z you’re probably too young to find a meaningful relationship. If you view a man as only a dispenser for security and babies, of course you don’t see value in them. Men can look at women as dispensers for sex and see no value in them as well. Men were only valuable in the sense of financial security because women used to literally not be allowed to work jobs that provided meaningful incomes. If you look a people in terms of literal need and purpose, there really isn’t much for eith…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 05:28 PM
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I would have just been honest with him from the beginning and said something like “I know what usually happens when a girl goes to a guy’s house and they’re dating. I’m not quite ready to take that step yet but I am still VERY interested in you! I hope you can understand”. Now I don’t know how to go about this without coming off as rude.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/19 03:11 PM
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The difference between this and the men’s version is that men aren’t lying about what we want. For the most part, it doesn’t really matter how nice or mean a girl is. If she’s hot, we want her, and women know that from the very beginning. As a result they’re raised their whole lives with that idea in mind and base a lot of their choices around that idea. For men though.... women constantly push the idea that it doesn’t matter how a guy looks as much as how nice he is. Really what matters is stat…
/r/TheRedPill12/09/19 02:50 PM
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Western society has tried to remove difference in sex from behavior. Women raised in the past 30-40 years don’t have the same societal support that women raised 50+ years ago did when it comes to being feminine. It’s a lifetime of social teachings and reprogramming that women of recent history have to try to undo.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/19 05:22 PM
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It could be, it could not be. Maybe she has a mosey coworker/friend that she didn’t want knowing her password anymore because she doesn’t want the friend to see intimate pictures of you two. Maybe she’s cheating on you and doesn’t want you potentially seeing any messages. There is no context in your post other than you used to share passwords, and she suddenly changed it without telling you. Could mean nothing, could mean something, but no one here is going to have much advice from the little in…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/19 02:28 PM
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Just ask her why she did it, it’s not that complicated.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/19 02:16 PM
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I’d consider the “cyber crazy” person to be the one that asks for advice on a situation they’re lying about.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/19 01:41 PM
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so I periodically sprinkle in little white lies because its the internet and idc what people who don't know me think. That is a very important piece of info in this case. If you’re not going to be honest why are you even asking for advice?
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/19 03:05 AM
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Almost certainly. Unless you’re like 400lbs you will not be able to lose that much weight that quickly anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/19 02:46 PM
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Wow those quotes from her post history.... why would she lie about zero body count, that makes no sense when she’s had 3 bf’s.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/19 02:42 PM
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I think it comes off as actually not being like other girls, instead of trying to not be like other girls.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/19 02:35 PM
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Maternity leave is a good one. Affordable child care is not a feminist issue, it is a familial issue. Child care is not solely a woman’s role anymore (unless you want it to be).
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/19 08:05 AM
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I think it’s more of a socioeconomic equality thing. I’m not saying that people who are in different earning brackets can’t be together, but it does put a strain on both parties for sure. Either one party has to deal with the “can I afford to keep up with his hobbies?” Train of thought, or the other has to keep up with the “should I help her out financially?” Train of thought. These types of ideas can put massive stress on relationships. I think moreso than education, the high earning men care a…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/19 02:11 AM
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Feminism makes sense in 3rd world countries and some Asian countries. In the US, Canada, and most of Europe women are legally equal (if not favorable). The right to vote is important, but women already have it in first world countries. What does feminism for you fight toward? First and second wave feminism were great! Third wave feminism is almost a request for legal and social superiority it seems.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/19 12:11 AM
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He is too nice. I’ve told him it turns me on when he flirts with other women. This weekend we went to a strip club and I paid for a private dance with him and a stripper...it was a turn on for both of us but did absolutely nothing dread wise. Were you like this in past relationships? Have you ever been cheated on or have any kind of open/threesome arrangement with your current or past men? Do you want him to cheat on you?
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 11:17 AM
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There are many reasons a person could be single for a prolonged period of time, and they don’t have to be this extreme. They don’t have to be, but it’s the most likely case. Judging from her post, it’s probably one of those options.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/19 04:09 PM
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Being a Virgin isn’t a negative because she is a Virgin, it is a negative because of what makes her a Virgin. She has no relational or sexual experience at all. She has never experienced romantic intimacy. She is probably very awkward (not in a cute way). If she were actually just a hot, personable woman, she probably wouldn’t have been single for 29 years. Men don’t make it easy to be alone when you’re good looking and even below average personality wise. Either she is ugly, she was locked in a…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/19 07:40 AM
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I’d say the key would be to go at a consistent time every day. Eventually you’ll start to see a couple of men who do the same, and they’ll talk to you after a while if they’re interested. The early morning or late night times seem to be the most bold-forming.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/19 02:59 PM
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Feminism is not useful in the US. In certain countries it is very important, but if you are ever mistreated in the US because you are a woman, you can literally sue them and you will probably win a crap ton of money. Women have equal rights are are treated more favorably in court than men. The feminist movement is no longer about rights. Identifying as a feminist in the US is identifying with things like freethenipple, girls being allowed to join the Boy Scouts, the “wage gap” (which has been di…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/19 03:12 AM
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This is the type of feminism that I support. The feminism of today is nothing like this. Thankfully, there are only rare occurrences where the type of feminism you mentioned are necessary in first world countries. The state of women as a whole within the US is 100% legally equal (if not legally favorable toward women).
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/19 03:07 AM
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Has nothing to do with whether someone is nice or not. If you are not perceived as strong, powerful, successful, or interesting, women DGAF about you. You have to be one or multiple of the above to be attractive to women, unless you’re a 9/10 physically (which usually involves being strong). Most nice guys are literally that. Their personality is just “he’s nice”. You need to be something, not just “nice”.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/19 10:56 PM
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The gym. The gym is the number one best place to find driven, attractive, goal oriented men.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/19 04:30 AM
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The first time I said that his second lesson fell on my birthday and jokingly pouted Stop playing this off as a joke. You were serious, you just didn’t want to seem selfish. This is the reason you sent the angry text message, it was not a joke. Taking responsibility for your feelings and actions is a very important piece of a successful relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 03:03 PM
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It sounds like you two don’t have actual conversations. It’s just you talking to him and him not saying anything else. What kind of person has “no likings or interests”. Like seriously, nothing?? That is bizarre, and honestly I don’t believe it is even possible. He is hiding something and your gut feeling is giving you the same signals. He doesn’t sound like a good partner, and I would say that the vast majority of couples don’t drive each other to a level of screaming anger 3 months into a rela…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 07:22 PM
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We do, but to expect the average person to use correct verbiage to express their feelings is simply unreasonable. A girl that calls a guy an “asshole” should say that the guy is “not accommodating me like other men do”. But she’s not going to say that because that oozes entitlement and puts the responsibility on her instead of him. From what I have experienced: most women are afraid of responsibility. They don’t want to be held to their word or depended upon, they just want to be an aid to someo…
/r/TheRedPill13/08/19 07:49 PM
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What does a stable job look like at 18 years old? There are no careers at that age other than potentially sports. This isn’t a result of your hobbies, this is a result of your age.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 11:46 PM
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Start exercising. Run 1 mile a day, then increase that to 2 when you can do 1 in under 12 minutes. Then increase that to 3 when you can do 2 in under 20 minutes. If you do this 5-7 days a week you will lose weight. I 100% guarantee you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 07:06 PM
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Who told you that having a sense of humor means you’re less feminine? If you’re telling vulgar jokes then I’d understand, but otherwise that has nothing to do with femininity. Being loud is not really a case of feminine/masculine either. If you want to be quieter, you just need to think a little more before you speak. You can train it out of yourself with a little more mindfulness.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 06:33 PM
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If he went to an IV League school and has a high paying job he’s 100% on LinkedIn. Look him up and verify it. Other than that, even if he is telling the truth he seems bad socially.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 06:30 PM
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Ok so the first portion of this seems like a good thing... the second portion seems very oddly controlling and manipulative under the guise of “I care for you”. The problems he brings up are so minuscule. I understand the thanksgiving meal thing, but the parking lot thing and the gift thing are very nit picky and just seem very... bizarre to me tbh. These don’t seem like real issues. They seem like extremely minor details. Saying that a gift “wasn’t thoughtful enough” is just so weird. Like who …
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 06:27 PM
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I don’t think this is concerning. You know his schedule, and know his dedication. Think about it this way: do you want him to stop being as dedicated to the things that he loves in order to be more dedicated to you? A good relationship doesn’t retract who people are, it elevates them. If Soccer training is important to him (which is clearly is), then don’t try to make him skip training. Just suggest a day when he isn’t. Your birthday might be one day a year, but you can celebrate that the next d…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 02:45 PM
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It really depends. I’d say maybe2 points, but sins people can gain more than that!
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 02:56 AM
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I don’t think any secure man will be intimidated by a woman who has a good job or multiple degrees. Is your mom single? This seems very bizarre to me. Seems more like a couple times experience that caused her to take extreme measures.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 06:18 PM
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Hm. This one is confusing to me. What about RP do you find useful? It seems like these are kind of the baselines of the entire purpose around this sub. Like if you don’t want to get married, or have a man faithful to you, what do you gain from this sub? Submissive behavior? I would imagine as a liberal that submitting to your man is probably not something you’re into either.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 06:14 PM
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You’re looking at this the wrong way. You probably didn’t do anything wrong in this situation, you just didn’t do enough right to offset the wrong of you already not being his type. He never saw your as relationship material. He saw you as a rebound sex girl. You were never in the relationship bin for him. It is very possible that there is literally nothing you could have done, no way you could have acted, nothing you could have changed to be put into that bin. He did not see you that way, and w…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 02:35 PM
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I’m not even asking for a committed relationship. I just want him to call me back when he says he is Don’t lie to yourself. You want him to commit to you, that’s just the first step in the process toward the eventual goal. Either stop seeing him, or be ok with being one of many while waiting for the low probability outcome of him settling down with you.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 02:10 PM
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I disagree. I think it’s just that she is dating men with low confidence who think constant praise is desirable and self depreciation is normal.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 02:05 PM
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So let me get this straight... a guy in your friend group asks you out to a concert where it’s just you two. You go to the concert with him, then offer to pay. He says sure but only if you see him again (instead of outright asking for the money back), and you think it is a bad sign? If you don’t want to do something, you shouldn’t offer to do things you don’t intend to do. This isn’t a red flag, this is just a mistake on your part.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 02:26 AM
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This is a very interesting post. I can’t tell if you’re trolling or genuinely so bad at social skills that you couldn’t see this turning out poorly. Either way, kinda makes sense you MGTOW...
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 12:18 AM
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This is usually something you grow out of, but it’s very hard to change without realizing that you can be someone on your own as well.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/19 01:29 PM
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This seems very weird. He doesn’t listen to anything you do it seems. Also why have you already gone through his texts only two dates in? I would just move on. He won’t be a friend, but you could try I guess. I don’t know why you would want a friend that doesn’t listen to you anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/19 01:35 AM
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Not being in a relationship up to 24 is later than most, but not so late that it’s worrisome. The worrisome part is that it sounds like you haven’t ever had any friends. You say you’ve “never been to a social gathering”. That part is kinda scary and honestly would probably ward off most men. I understand having priority on family and everything like that.... but this would be a red flag to most people in the world. Try to get out and do some social stuff. Go involved at a gym or at your school o…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 01:53 PM
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I don’t think I’ve ever met a sweet person that was described as anything close to a “strict ass judge Judy ass bitch”. To me it sounds like you’re just kind of mean. Someone who is “tough on the outside sweet on the inside” is just tough to people. And when your friends describe you that way, you’re saying you’re essentially only sweet to a potential boyfriend. The way to get your ego out of the way of making connections is to shrink your ego. If your ego stops you from getting to know people, …
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 01:35 PM
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Yup. Women are just as visual, we just hide it better because we will be called “superficial, shallow hoes” if we don’t by the same types who would risk their marriage to scratch an itch. And men aren’t called superficial shallow dogs? I mean if the only people calling you that are the types that would “risk a marriage to scratch an itch” then why do you care? Women are free to be just as superficial as men, but there are so many examples that show women value status more than looks on average. …
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 01:57 AM
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I understand hating the “cheaters apologist” mindset, but biologically it makes sense. Romantic relationships are backed mostly by two things: Companionship Desire to procreate Security used to be one, but that’s a woman only thing for the most part. Now that’s more of a financial security thing that I would roll into companionship, but you could consider that as well I guess. That would only aid my side in this though. Companionship is usually a pretty equal thing for both parties. In different…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 11:33 PM
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I think relationships can work after cheating, but it depends on both parties’ mindset. Overall I’d say that when a woman cheats it is harder to come back from than when a man cheats. When a woman cheats it’s usually because she desires that man more than her current man. She would rather have him than have her man, and after she has had that man it’s hard for her to fully go back to her old man. Men on the other hand are different. Men can cheat without any kind of romantic or or emotional feel…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 02:25 PM
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but told me it wouldn’t work out when I turned down his nutty idea for a third date - an escape room!! That seems like a fun date to me! Why is this idea “nutty” to you? To answer the question in the previous comment tho: women can get men out of their league to go out with them when it comes to online dating. Unless you’re very realistic with yourself you can fall into the trap that you have where you are consistently going on dates with men who will never commit to you. You should try to meet …
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 01:59 PM
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You say “a good job/income”. There is a difference between a good job, and a CEO, Engineer, Lawyer etc. those are high end, high paying jobs. A “good job” would be something like a college professor, or a police officer, bookkeeper, corporate salesmen etc. you don’t seem to consider those men, which I think would be the type that would commit to you more often than the high end job holders would. Improving value would be fixing your weight which you seem to be doing and maybe improving your care…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 07:53 PM
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Just for reference - my last dates were head of science dept at a top uni, a couple bankers, a data scientist, a millionaire CEO, cyber security guy a 30-44. My next two dates - lawyer at a top firm and an engineer... both unattractive but I don’t care about that Just because these men ask you out on dating apps, doesn’t mean they ever intended to commit to you. All I’m saying is, you are dating on hard mode. I understand that you did put out the bad with the good in your post, as anyone should,…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 01:52 PM
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Right now the biggest issue for him is not being able to spend as much time as he'd like with me, because there's always someone (parents, sister, sister's bf) around. We do have some privacy but not as much as he'd like. But... he inherited a home. You two don’t live there, but couldn’t you just... visit there? Seems like a very easy way around that unless the place is hours away
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 03:54 AM
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Be honest with yourself here. You are 32 years old, currently you are medically classified as overweight, you do not make a lot of money, and you’re main focus in dating seems to be snagging some rich man. If a man is wealthy, he will have younger, thinner, and wealthier options than you. Age is a difficult thing to deal with, but it’s real. At a slim, broke, 22: men prove their value to you. At an overweight, broke, 32: you have to prove your value to men. Wealthy men know they have options. We…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 03:36 AM
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Dominant is a subjective term. What traits do you like? What type of interactions mean “dominant” to you? I’d say the most dominant men are usually athletes or ex-athletes. Men who are used to women’s attention are usually significantly more dominant than men who aren’t. But overall if you want a dominant man, you have to let them be dominant. There is a fine line between dominant and controlling (unless you like controlling). Most dominant men won’t waste their time with women who don’t want to…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 05:54 PM
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Oh ya I saw her post history. Or maybe you mean mine idk. She’s good looking, but there is always someone better looking. If she’s going for 9/10+ successful 30+ year old men, they’re usually not interested in girls as immature and potentially problematic as she sounds.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 05:15 PM
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This is a bit of an overreaction imo. Firstly: I don’t think dating apps are great unless you are VERY honest with yourself and your overall value on the dating market. Men on dating apps are for the most part simply lazy. They are only there because it takes effort to go out and actually meet women. High value men on dating apps have way too many options for them to consistently choose you. Women on dating apps tend to get so many matches that they overvalue themselves on the dating market as a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 03:05 PM
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And there is absolutely no repercussion for people who take advantage either. That’s the biggest issue. One side has everything to lose while the other is simply forgotten
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/19 02:07 AM
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So the very basis of this problem centers around one thing: if you are consistently having trouble getting men to commit to you, then you are dating men who are out of your league. Now as to your specific situation. Men will have sex with, and pursue (for the intent of sex) women who they literally no intention of ever ever committing to. Women are usually the opposite and will only have sex with men who they would consider committing to, which is why there is such a difficult understanding in t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/19 03:45 PM
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Without an example of your arguments there is really no advice that anyone can give you other than generic stuff like “communicate with grace”. While it’s true you should do that, it’s not actual helpful advice, it’s just feel good buzzwords. If you want actual help, be as honest and forthcoming at possible about both you and your man’s issues when you argue.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/19 03:19 PM
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Good! That’s my intention 👍🏽
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/19 07:59 PM
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Online dating is usually not the best way to meet people for long term purposes. It will involve a lot of trial and error, and it is deceiving in a way as well because the level of men that you can get go go out with you on apps is usually significantly higher than the level of men that you can get to commit to you or go out with you in real life. Online dating is very low maintenance and easy. Men usually have to put in effort to get women they want, so if the effort aspect is removed then they…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/19 03:48 AM
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what I was trying to say is that sometimes a man is initially open to the possibility of something more serious but then he changes his mind because you handled the situation badly. I think that if this happens often, then a woman should change her tactic. What I am trying to say is that this is possible, but it is not likely. And if you want to be successful dating, you shouldn't look at things this way. Prepare for what is most likely, not what is ideal. If you can't secure your ideal you need…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/19 02:02 AM
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I think you’re blowing this out of proportion. If he cuts contact with her for you, her will resent you because she is very clearly a dear friend to him. If you can’t handle him and her being friends I don’t think that your relationship will survive. He’s been faithful, if you can’t trust that then leave him before you waste any more time.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 07:17 PM
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But I have noticed that sometimes, a man insists to keep it casual with a girl (even if he seemed very interested in the beginning) and after a while commits to another girl who is not prettier or nicer to him. In that case, if it happens often, I think that the way the first girl handled it was wrong somewhere and that's what I am trying to figure out. You could be incorrectly valuating their looks. You have no idea how nice or not nice another girl is in most cases. Also personality is part of…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 05:10 PM
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If guys consistently don’t want to commit to you, you’re dating out of your league. There’s no other way to cut it, you just think you’re more valuable on the dating market than you actually are. Men will have sex with and pursue women (for sex) who they never ever have any intention of committing to. Women are the opposite in most cases and won’t ever have sex with or pursue a man who they don’t intend to commit to, so it’s often hard for women to understand men’s mentality. But this is it, tha…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 02:49 PM
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I don’t disagree that your previous relationship needed to end. I just think the way it ended was not good, and ending a relationship by cheating with your current man sets up the next relationship on that foundation. You’re already in the situation, so might as well make the most of it... but I just don’t agree with the way you got there or how you have progressed things at all. Sounds pretty problematic imo. Hopefully for your sake it turns out I am wrong, but this just has a lot of negativity…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/19 03:19 PM
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I’m glad you’re happy, but I honestly see very little RPW in here. It looks like you were in a bad relationship that spawned off of poor vetting, and left that relationship for another relationship spawned off of hypergamous promiscuity, and rushed (or no) vetting. This is already violating three pretty clearly stated no-no’s in RPW advice (vetting, hypergamy, and promiscuity). Then on top of that you’re living with your new man within months of meeting him, and you cheated on your ex. I persona…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/19 02:27 PM
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You’re thinking about this wrong. You keep using the word “need”. Most people don’t wholly need a partner. The only true need a high value man would have for a woman is children. You’re not looking for what he needs, you’re looking for what he wants. Adding to someone’s life usually has very little to do with a person’s needs outside of desperation. A man wants a woman who is positive and encouraging. Who is a homemaker and emotional crutch. Who is hot and cares about maintaining being hot. Who …
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/19 02:05 PM
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If i were to meet him before my husband Im pretty sure we'd be together. What makes you think he'd marry you? What makes you think he'd love you or see you as anything more than a plate? What makes you think you two are actually compatible? you're creating a scenario that is honestly ridiculous from nothing more than a couple of messages exchanged on Instagram.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 06:38 AM
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A couple of things that are always very important in situations like these: how old are you and your husband? how long have you two been together? have either of you had any body type changes in recent history? Have there been any lifestyle changes recently? (new job, health issues, conflict etc) Most bedroom issues have something to do with these various potential factors.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/19 06:19 PM
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Um... Metabolism is nothing more than the rate your body processes food. Digestion is another word for processing food. Digestive enzymes speed up your metabolism (which makes you process food faster and poop more). I don't know how you would gain that they do the opposite? And yes if you only take them one day they're temporary, but they're supposed to be used as a dietary supplement, not a one time use lol. Maybe I'm missing something in your thought process though. How are they supposed to ma…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/19 01:42 AM
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Pooping more makes you weight less.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/19 11:54 PM
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If he does sue her then that would be a very easy way to send a message “anyone else try this I will take you for everything you’re worth”.
/r/PussyPassDenied04/06/19 04:08 PM
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I use Source Naturals Essential Enzymes. They work well for me but I have heard most work pretty well. These ones are I think 20-30$ on amazon for 120 capsules, so very cheap!
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/19 02:20 AM
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No, but most people start to notice meanginful weight gain in their early 20’s. The “freshman 15” is a thing for a reason. Maintaining your weight will get more difficult as you age, but there are so many little life hacks to help like digestive enzymes, fiber supplements, pre-made meals, and (in more extreme cases) plastic surgery. These are all options now, but they weren’t nearly as widely accessible for our predecessors’ generations. You don’t have to be fat, but you do have to be progressiv…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 08:06 PM
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He is right to be frustrated, but there isn’t much to be done now. You should consult your S/O before something like this imo. Just changing big aspects of your overall look is very impactful on a relationship. It’s your choice overall, but you should have at least given him to option to let you know he wouldn’t like it beforehand.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 03:09 PM
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New account with no previous posts casually glosses over important information embraces pretty widely believed non-RPW behavior Kinda thinking this is a troll post. Either that or you meant to post this somewhere else. On the off chance this isn’t a troll post: LTR means long term relationship, but the way you used it seems to be in the vein of bf/gf relationship. I dont think there is anyone who would consider a 5 month relationship an LTR. What do you want? Casual sex or relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/19 09:33 PM
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I think this one should probably get deleted. But you posted during work hours so you got your 15 minutes of infamy.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/19 09:27 PM
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He’s not going to marry you. You mention things about being young and changing your mind, but I want you to know with absolute certainty right now, this man will not marry you. If you’re ok with just dating for a while with no intention of marriage that is completely fine. Not all relationships have to be the endgame type of relationship. If you are hoping to be married one day and and have you husband provide for you financially, he will never be that man for you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/19 02:18 PM
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But... black people make up 14% of the population. Both the male and black incarceration rates are very serious and valid issues in the US.
/r/PussyPassDenied21/05/19 03:04 PM
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Firstly: I get tons of attention from high SMV men on dating apps Never use dating apps as a reference point for how attractive you are. There are literally men making tinder accounts with the girl Snapchat filter and getting hundreds of matches in a day. What a man will go for on a dating app almost never matches what they would go for irl. Secondly: I think something that this sub tends to overlook is personality based compatibility. High value men can get good looking girls relatively easily.…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/19 08:29 AM
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50/50 is not reasonable because different people have different needs/wants. What is reasonable is expecting someone to reciprocate your effort.
/r/PussyPassDenied03/05/19 02:21 AM
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You left out your age, and you mention that you both stay at home and have a chronic illness. You didn’t mention your body type. Are you slim and pretty? Where are you meeting these men? If you are meeting them online, via what app? Many men will date women that they don’t really intend to commit to, you need to be dating men in your own league in order to have a high likelihood of securing a long term relationship. You sound like you behave correctly, but it also sounds like you’re dating men t…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/19 10:35 AM
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We’ve been together about a year, and he’s never posted a single picture of me, or us, on his social media. This doesn't matter. You're both over 40 years old, why do you need this kind of validation? because he got angry and said he would delete his social media before he would let anyone try to control what he posts. :( You have your answer. He posts what he wants to post, and you fighting for him to post you is going to make him resentful at best. If your partner posting about you on social m…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 04:14 PM
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Your post history seems like someone with the emotional and social maturity of a 12 year old. You stalked your ex to the point of legal intervention, you have tons of questions about pretty basic human interaction. Like... I feel like a jerk for saying this, but are you potentially autistic? If I had to guess I would say that you don’t know how to facilitate basic human relationships, and that the people around you can tell. There is nothing wrong with learning to be social, but you can’t expect…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 09:25 PM
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I say the same thing to everyone in this situation. If you are being underpaid, leave. You owe nothing more to your employer than what they pay you for. If you are truly being underpaid then just leave and find someone who values your work appropriately. I personally like to post my resume online after every increased calendar year of experience just to see what the market for my position currently looks like. You will almost never get as big of a raise internally as you would externally, so the…
/r/PussyPassDenied17/04/19 01:53 PM
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Not intentionally, but yes it is. Crying during an argument will cause your partner to come to a decision that they wouldn’t have if you didn’t cry. It is a defense mechanism that helps you get what you want, even if that’s not your intention. It will cause men to become resentful over time if every time they try to bring up an issue you cry instead of talk.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 01:32 AM
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Be as honest as you want your partner to be. No exceptions, no conditions. If you don’t voluntarily offer up information, they won’t either. If you choose to withhold information, so will they. It’s not any more complicated than that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 11:18 PM
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You’re comparing a man you know to a man you don’t. That is where this should stop. You don’t know who your man really was during his “prime”. He could have been a womanizer. He could have been embellishing his career level to his friends. He could have treated the pets he did own poorly and realized he wasn’t a pet person as a result. The man you have now is by your own accounts an “amazing man”, yet you’re trying to regress him into who he was before. Who he was before is not who he is now. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 11:10 PM
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You can only evaluate whether you are toxic if you mention the bad things you did. The only “bad” behavior I see here is you crying during arguments. That is manipulative. You need to learn to manage your emotions better, and if you are going to cry, cry afterward. Crying during an argument is a great way to never resolve any dispute. Other than that everything seems like you were good and he was toxic. But that is only your side of the story. I’m sure his would be different.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 09:40 PM
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Hm. Well I don’t know how he can maintain much of a life with that work schedule. If he’s truly spending 12 hours a day consistently on/at work then I guess there really isn’t much more time to see him outside of staying the nights with him. If you think things are progressing, then I guess there isn’t much wrong in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 09:34 PM
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To me it sounds like you are moving too slowly. Why do you see each other only once a week? Do you live far from one another? You should be able to meet for an hour or two more often than once a week. Not every time has to be a 3-6 hour ordeal. Plus if you two can’t enjoy each other’s company when there isn’t some fun or thoughtful activity thrown in the mix, you probably won’t last long anyway. If he is social, attractive, and doing well career wise, you’ll run the risk of someone in or close t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 09:25 PM
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I don't really buy that. Both genders have unique challenges that the other does not understand the gravity of. I agree with that. I didn’t say one is easier, I said that women have more opportunities. If you wanna be a house husband you gotta be good at it lol. Understandable. However, I wouldn’t consider the requirements for being a house husband to be terribly... difficult to learn. I’m not saying they’re easy necessarily, but they aren’t tasks that require a learning curve outside of cooking…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 07:45 PM
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I have known plenty of girls like you in my lifetime, and almost every one of them went back to the ex. I don’t think the people of this sub will agree with me, but I’d suggest just get back with him again. It’s been over a year and you still don’t want to be with anyone else. It’s not gonna go away, it’s always gonna be in the back of your mind. Just be with him until you actually don’t want to be with him anymore. His issues don’t sound impossible to work through. It won’t be fair to yourself …
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 06:45 PM
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I think both sides tend to undersell the other in a lot of cases, but I do believe that women have more options in first world countries. Being a housewife is a completely viable career for a woman. Being a house husband is not even close to a possibility for 99.999% of men. Even if the woman makes enough to support them both, most women would never be attracted to a man that wasn’t on equal or greater career footing than themselves strictly because of social stigma. Women have significantly mor…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 05:20 PM
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if I were a man I’d be able to stick to my current career track, have fun in my twenties, then settle for someone younger in my thirties and be set/taken care of for life This is... not standard for men by any means. Most men’s late teens/early-mid 20’s are the least valuable portions of their life overall. Men are not really worth anything unless they are exceedingly attractive, or successful. As a woman you are valuable because you exist between the ages of 16-30ish. Men have to make something…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 03:35 PM
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these are only a small minority that bash the subreddit I mean... they kinda say the same thing about themselves. RPW are just sluts trying to reform into wife material Same could be said about the entire RPM sub through the vain of “RPM are just betas trying to become alphas”. They’re hard on everyone, not just RPW. They’re just as hard (if not harder on) themselves as they are on women. The only difference is they are focused on improving men, they aren’t focused on improving women.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 03:18 PM
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I am a very anti-social person, and do not text anyone. I don’t really have any friends. And that in no way bothers me. It does, however, make me really jealous that my boyfriend is constantly texting at least 5-7 people throughout the day (mostly male friends,) even while we’re together. First thing about this post, you need to realize that you not having friends does bother you. You always demand his attention because he's the only person who you care about. That's not healthy, especially for …
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 07:06 AM
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An interview is where you are extracting information from another person. A conversation is where you are exchanging information with another person. Any question you want to ask, mention your stance on it first. If you want to ask “are you religious?” Instead of just asking them that straight up you should mention your religious beliefs. If you want to ask their political stance, mention your first. If you want to ask “what are your career goals”, mention where you currently are and where you w…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 03:25 PM
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I’d say the first thing you need in order to hold a man’s interest is: look like the woman he wants to be with. If he likes thick, and you’re thin, or if he like thin and you’re thick, it’s going to be very hard to keep him interested long term. Secondly I’d say having a similar sense of humor is almost necessary. If you can’t enjoy talking to each other without any real substance in your conversation, you won’t be happy long term. Substantiative conversation is obviously great, but you need to …
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 03:12 PM
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If he isn’t replying he probably already found someone else. If you want to compete with that, message him. If you don’t, don’t. Dating apps aren’t anything like they lead you to believe they are. Any actual attractive (career+looks) person is going to be flooded with offers. You have more competition in online dating than you ever could dream of having in real life dating, unless you go for a less attractive person.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 02:10 PM
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Because a lot of the RPwoman message is based around the premise which makes RPmen so popular. The premise that women are hot commodities when they are a young age, then they lose most of their SMV/RMV before 35. The premise that men are not very valuable at a young age, and they steadily increase between the ages of 25-35ish before plateauing if they reach successful points career wise. The woman’s dating value graph has an extremely steep incline a brief plateau, then an extremely steep declin…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 03:14 PM
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What on earth makes you think I haven't got a boyfriend? You’re missing the point here. Any woman that dates good men, and is interested in marriage doesn’t have to date “many” men. You might have to see 3-5 at most before you find one to stick with long term. If you aren’t interested in marriage or long term relationships then you probably shouldn’t be posting here. I have had plenty of marriage proposals .... what? What kind of person has “plenty” of marriage proposals? That’s not a good thing…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 02:56 PM
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I’ve dated many “good men” Then why aren’t any of them your current bf/husband?
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 11:42 AM
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Men are most attractive when they are successful. Men around age 18-22 are usually at their least valuable dating wise (unless they’re athletes, extremely attractive, or famous to some extent). This is the age where they’re too old to date down in age really, and too young to be commonly successful. So this age is where their dating pool is the most finite. For a man to wait until he is between mid 20’s and early 30’s to start seriously dating makes sense from a market value perspective. Realist…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 01:44 AM
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⁠Do not text first; let him come to you. I didn’t text my husband first until after we started living together. He actually had to ask me to initiate conversations, because I’d wait until we got home to ask small questions I could’ve texted through the day. This seems really extreme. I don’t agree with this one. Texting first is fine. Texting incessantly when you can tell he doesn’t want to talk about whatever you’re talking about is not. The whole “who texts first” thing is a game that most peo…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 01:21 AM
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What is AMITA?
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 05:09 PM
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Ok so... why do you need to wait so long to see each other? An hour really isn’t that far to go to see someone. I drive an hour each way to work every day. You could drive an hour on a regular day to see him, or vise versa without significant difficulty. As for this situation: if your sister needs you, you should be there for her. She is 13, she can’t really reasonably take care of herself for extended periods of time. She needs someone to set a good example for her, and if that someone is you; …
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 03:51 PM
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Is money the most important aspect in your view of a man? It seems like you speak highly of everything except for his money while you speak lowly of everything except your ex’s money. Yet you seem to kinda fondly reference your ex and you’re hesitant to claim your current. If money is the most important thing to you: leave him and find someone who makes more. If you care about more than money, he sounds like a good partner, better than your ex.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/19 12:19 PM
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Being a stem major doesn’t have much to do with femininity. If you don’t like it then go ahead and change majors. But if you do like it and just don’t think it’s feminine enough, there is no exclusively feminine major outside of like cosmology.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 10:59 PM
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I think your outfits are interesting and attention grabbing, but I don’t think they look attractive. Personally I’d even say they look off putting. Fashionable does not equal attractive
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/19 02:51 PM
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No one is irreplaceable. The closest thing a woman can do is be model hot without the usual drama, but beautiful women get cheated on all the time. Beyonce was cheated on. Unfortunately, there’s just a pretty high chance that successful men want more than one woman.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 02:32 PM
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I guess I’m echoing the top comment on this post right now, but the only thing about you that I see mentioned is that you have big boobs and like sex. If those are the only things you choose to point out about yourself, it makes sense that men can’t fall in love with you. From just a physical standpoint beyond big boobs and liking sex, you don’t mention your actual weight. Are you fat? If you are then big boobs won’t mean much of anything for you in the eyes of men. They will just see that you’r…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/19 04:14 PM
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This woman clearly likes him and he chose to be with you instead. If you don’t trust him enough to think he won’t cheat without you stopping him, then you have two choices really. Either leave him and stop worrying about this. Or accept that he will not be faithful and be content in his commitment to you. Consider either opening the relationship or just ignoring his infidelity if you want to stay with him.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/19 07:59 AM
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I wonder what wrong is with a man who demands that a woman he is going to marry fucks at least one other man before him. If anything this is taken as sad part of reality. Demands isn’t a good word. I say they wouldn’t prefer. But I’d say it’s mostly because sleeping with her before marrying her isn’t expected if she is a Virgin. But yes a lot of men don’t like the pressure that virginity puts on them as well. If sex life is important then it is worked on the same as all other parts of relationsh…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 02:50 PM
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