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FYI, they can get it and will. My wife likes to watch shows like Dateline and a recent one was where they had a DNA sample from the crime scene and a suspect, but not enough evidence to link him. They also didn't want to tip him off that they were on to him by bringing him in for questioning. So they put him under surveillance. they got a sample when they saw him leave a restaurant from the glass he had been drinking from. Another they got a sample when he was cleaning his car and put a bunch of…
/r/MensRights31/03/26 09:41 PM
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My guess is its partly a holdover from before DNA testing was a thing. If a man was going to go to a lot of effort providing for offspring, it only makes sense that he'd want assurances that the kid was actually his. The 18 year old young woman still living with her parents was a better bet than the one known for sleeping around. doesn't explain why men spesifically want this in comparison to women. Both men and women have pretty similar rates of considering it a deal-breaker when the # of partn…
/r/MensRights31/03/26 09:24 PM
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There's been research into this that found when you plot # of partners before marriage with that marriage ending in divorce, that after around 7 partners, divorce rates started going up significantly. Rates of affairs also had a strong correlation.
/r/MensRights31/03/26 09:19 PM
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Also, divorce rates are higher and reported marital satisfaction lower, for households where the dad is the stay-at-home parent. My guess is it's mostly because the wife has trouble respecting her husband in this set up, but it's only my guess.
/r/MensRights31/03/26 08:54 PM
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The article doesn't spell it out but has some hints such as cutting these 3 would bring the men:women ratio of athletes into closer alignment with its student enrollment ratio which is around 36% men / 64% women.
/r/MensRights31/03/26 08:50 PM
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I forget the SCOTUS decision, but the ruling was basically that the power to raise an army granted by the constitution included the power to conscript and things like the 13th and 14th amendment didn't overrule that ability. You'd need something like an amendment that specifically takes away the power to conscript. For anyone curious about the history, the closest I found to the US conscripting women came at the end of the European campaign in WW II. There was a critical shortage of nurses in Eu…
/r/MensRights03/02/26 04:06 PM
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misandry is necessary we want... men Anyone holding to two opposite things at once that is best to be avoided.
/r/MensRights15/01/26 04:17 AM
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Yep. The coffee date is just one of the tests to screen out women who aren't long-term-relationship material.
/r/MensRights12/01/26 04:55 PM
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"I was taught that if I walk into a room of 100 women, 99 aren’t going to be into me,” he added. “But one of them will be, and she’ll let me know it. This was the key insight for me that turned my dating life around (around 1998 to 2007). Instead of fumbling over trying to approach the ones I found attractive, I just observed and paid attention to who was interested in me and dropping hints. From those, I then decided if I had any interest in them. It didn't give a lot of options, but it sure wa…
/r/MensRights06/01/26 11:22 PM
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Yeah, a lot of people are attractive up until they open their mouth.
/r/MensRights18/12/25 09:10 PM
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Glad I bought my own rack and barbell to keep in my garage.
/r/MensRights10/12/25 05:11 PM
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Yeah I mean if it turns out he quit his job 2 years ago in order to show no income for child support & alimony calculations, then he probably did his homework.
/r/MensRights09/12/25 03:35 PM
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Hard to know what this guy was thinking. Other than it seems like this was probably an act of frustration and not thinking clearly, because suddenly cutting off her access to funds will only get him in more trouble (in the US).
/r/MensRights09/12/25 03:19 PM
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Every time I've seen a woman complaining about there not being any good men, she's had red flags. So the answer is pretty simple - the good men are avoiding these women. They're being screened out by the good men. Men with options won't settle for less than a good woman. So they are correct that there aren't any good men, they just need to add "in my dating pool because I chased them all away".
/r/MensRights08/12/25 04:19 AM
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It’s only a small percentage of women on OF sites also I was surprised when I read the stat on this though by how high it was. It was something like 10% of women between the ages of 18 and 28 have tried it or something around those numbers. The dick pic thing is by guys only there for the hookups for the most part. I can see how that's annoying to wade through, but that's the only portion of the male demographic those apps cater too really. Get off the apps is all I can say. They were ok 20 year…
/r/MensRights06/12/25 01:41 AM
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Yeah, it very well could be something that happened much earlier. It happened to me once when I was in a slump and dated an overweight gal who I was only marginally attracted to, but thought I'd give it a shot. I needed more practice dating anyway. She did have good character, which was something I was looking for. At one point I took her to an amusement park and she couldn't get out of the log flume by herself. That's when any attraction left cratered. It normal for guys to be attracted to some…
/r/MensRights05/12/25 08:31 PM
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This is a fallacy because it assumes two groups of men are the same. One group buying that stuff. Another doesn't and considers it a dealbreaker for any kind of long term relationship. Too many women don't seem to understand this and only react by screeching when men reject them when they find out instead of regretting their choices and warning younger women.
/r/MensRights05/12/25 08:12 PM
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Yeah stats show divorce rates are higher and maritial satisfaction is lower when the wife works and husband stays home and raises the kids.
/r/MensRights03/12/25 04:15 PM
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Men gain more mental & physical health support from being partnered Correlation does not necessarily make causation clear. It makes more sense to me that healthier men are simply more likely to pursue a relationship and be attractive options to garner interest. How can men build stronger, emotionally supportive friendships so one relationship doesn’t have to carry everything? It can be tricky to find. I've had several close male friends over my life at different points. Just takes a lot of work …
/r/MensRights01/12/25 11:45 PM
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Yeah, my Thanksgiving and bridal shower answers weren't serious in case that wasn't clear. What I think is difficult right now is that I hear young women bemoaning how young men don't try as hard any more but THEY don't try, like at all? Yeah, this was a big problem back in my dating years too (roughly 1995 to 2007). Most women just wanted me to do all the work. At least then I was able to find at least a few that would put effort in. Not sure what it's like these days to be honest. I guess it d…
/r/MensRights01/12/25 11:39 PM
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What's the romantic holiday that women are responsible for that caters to men's desires? Thanksgiving? In my family, my wife, mom, and sisters do all the cooking, while me, my dad, and brother-in-law sit around all day watching football and drinking beer. Haha. Name the romantic traditions that fall on women? At least in my area, it's common to have a wedding shower for a bride-to-be with her female friends and a common gift is lingerie unless family is there too. It's more done to make the brid…
/r/MensRights01/12/25 09:32 PM
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I've sometimes wondered why more older women don't try to warn younger ones of things they regret. There is a little blaming men in this piece, but she seems to mostly be taking accountability that it was her own choices that led her there. So for the most part, I appreciate the piece. Hopefully some younger women will listen. 'a bad string of exes' is a bit of a cop out. My translation is, 'tee hee, I liked sleeping with bad boys too much". For anyone dating with purpose to find someone to have…
/r/MensRights30/11/25 06:19 AM
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They also never bring up that 70% of kids murdered by one of their parents, it was the mother who did it.
/r/MensRights25/11/25 12:28 AM
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The etymology (origin of words) for the word "feminism" is "to take the woman's side". You can find it if you look in a very old dictionary.
/r/MensRights21/11/25 08:51 PM
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Single mother, "Why is my child support only $3.50 a month?" Clerk, "You have no idea how many kids the father has, do you?"
/r/MensRights18/11/25 10:04 PM
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I think another big piece of it is the invention of retirement. Before, you just worked as long as you could as much as you could and then one of your kids' families took care of you (as well as they could manage). My mom remembers visting her grandparents as a young girl and going upstairs to say hi to "grandma-grandma" (her great-grandmother.) Having kids was your retirement plan. It seems possible we could end up back there. If state sponsored elder care deteriorates enough I could see kids s…
/r/MensRights18/11/25 09:59 PM
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They could slowly do it now with the way things work in the west by selectively aborting boys en masse.
/r/MensRights18/11/25 09:48 PM
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They're not entirely wrong, but it seems like you'd get someone with Swyer Syndrome instead of a female. There is a gene that that makes a fetus male (SRY which is normally on the Y chromosome), but if it's inactive/missing (or presumably deactivated somehow very, very early in pregnancy) you don't necessarily get a fully functional normal female. You get Swyer Syndrome. People with this disorder have XY chromosomes but look like girls at birth so are normally assigned female. They're normally i…
/r/MensRights18/11/25 09:45 PM
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Have a ceremony or celebration maybe instead Be careful. This doesn't work in many places. Divorce courts have established jurisdiction based on people doing this and calling each other husband & wife.
/r/MensRights17/11/25 11:34 PM
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I'd add that her net worth and income are similar to yours. You can still get screwed, but the damage is at least a little less than if she's been a homemaker for 10 years. And she needs to know that she pulls a bait and switch after she agrees to keep working but then quits her job after maternity leave runs out, you'll put in your 2 week notice the same day. It's rough, but we didn't make rules.
/r/MensRights17/11/25 11:32 PM
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It depends on what she's looking for. If nothing serious / long-term, then about the only thing that matters is if he gives her the tingles.
/r/MensRights17/11/25 05:41 PM
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passive route means that we instinctively want to protect them. Eh, I think passivity often results when you realize no amount of logic will convince someone they're wrong.
/r/MensRights17/11/25 06:09 AM
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Yeah, one of the most reliable ways to give your GF the "ick" is to treat her like your therapist. If I was done with a gal, getting her to break up with me instead of doing the breaking up is generally safer, so trying this is usually the first move.
/r/MensRights17/11/25 05:29 AM
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If it is, there's an even bigger femininity crisis. It's much harder to find a woman with any kind of grace or humility these days than it was 50 years ago for example. The supposed masculinity crisis is mostly just men finally reacting to and adjusting to the changes that women have made in their behavior. The deal society used to make to boys was something roughly like: work hard, be a decent enough human being, and you'll be able to find a wife and raise a family. Since that's not a very real…
/r/MensRights13/11/25 09:19 PM
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I found it interesting reading interviews and biographies of trans men. Quite a few were sorely disappointed the "easy mode" never materialized, in fact most found it harder. Probably the hardest thing for many was how much more isolated they felt. The only thing many mentioned getting easier was they were trusted to be competent at a job sooner when they were passing as a man than when they were a woman. That just reinforces the idea that companies are favoring women, even if they're less quali…
/r/MensRights13/11/25 09:05 PM
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It's oddly freeing when you get to this point. You start not giving a shit, which ironically makes you more attractive to women.
/r/MensRights13/11/25 08:59 PM
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why women don't love us for our humour, intelligence You're underestimating this. My success in dating women went way up once I worked on my sense of humor - not corny jokes, but making witty quips based on the context of whatever was going on.
/r/MensRights13/11/25 08:58 PM
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There's a line from the movie Mama Mia, "The man may be the head [of the household], but the woman is the neck and can turn him anyway she wants." That's how the majority of relationships seem to work more or less. Even if it appears the guy is leading, he's usually making decisions just trying to keep her happy. There often seems to be an internal dissonance in women that they often don't even realize. They're attracted to men who lead well, but then will often try to take over or use various f…
/r/MensRights17/09/25 04:11 PM
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It's right in the name. The origin of the word "feminism" is "take the woman's side".
/r/MensRights15/09/25 08:44 PM
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I remember a comment by one of the guys who works on helping college guys fight false accusations via Title IX. He said the biggest thing to do to reduce the chances is don't get drunk at house parties and hook up. Other suggestions I've read are to send a text the next day along the lines of "I had a great time last night. Look forward to seeing you again." Hopefully she responds positively and then you save it to help support your claim of consent should it ever come up. Another suggestion was…
/r/MensRights28/07/25 08:52 PM
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Even 30 years, I quickly learned as a teenage boy to not bother approaching unless she was already dropping hints and showing interest. Have women today forgotten how to do that?
/r/MensRights24/07/25 04:22 PM
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Interesting that your church used that to try to blame women. It's been a long time. I vaugely remember the church I went to as a kd used that Timothy 1 passage being used to support why the husband was the head of the household. I tried to find where Paul blames Adam. Romans chapter 12 I think is where it says something about sin coming into mankind through one man (Adam). I didn't try to check if there were others since I'm not trying to start an argument, just curious how your church spun thi…
/r/MensRights01/07/25 10:02 PM
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Why? Probably the most unpopular versus are the ones that say "wives submit to your husbands". The New Testament alone says that about 5 times. 2nd most unpopular might be where Paul says a married couple should try to match the higher libido instead of the lower one. They do like to harp on husbands to sacrifice for their wives (Ephesians 5) but like to leave out the reason why that comes right after - to call out her sinful behavior and do what it takes (even if it requires sacrifice) to get h…
/r/MensRights01/07/25 03:03 PM
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That's odd. I forget where but in the New Testament, Paul blames Adam for original sin and makes no mention of Eve. The only place I can think of where Eve is blamed is in Genesis by Adam. I wouldn't doubt you that some churches do that. It's probably my biggest beef with Christianity - nearly everyone puts their own spin on it instead of trying to fit everything together and then taking it for what it says. There's way too much reading between the lines. If God really was revealing more in this…
/r/MensRights01/07/25 02:45 PM
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It should be as hard to break the parity of 50/50 custody as it is for CPS (child protective services) to take a child away from his/her parents. The biggest issue with child support is that is what funds the family court system in the US. Separating that incentive for judges to award things in a way that maximizes child support and thus the amount they skim off it would be a good first step.
/r/MensRights28/06/25 03:55 PM
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Yeah, it's a big flaw I find with most paper abortion proposals.
/r/MensRights28/06/25 03:49 AM
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Step 4: Ask her what the word misogynist means.
/r/MensRights27/06/25 10:35 PM
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Ok that makes more sense. I agree you can't blame men for failing to attract a woman. Or anyone else for that matter. You can change yourself over time to some extent, but there are limits. I changed my personality and got in shape and that helped me a lot. their just not really all that much into men I don't think that means they're not straight because there isn't another segment that most of them are much attracted to. They're just not into average men. They all want the same top men and ther…
/r/MensRights27/06/25 03:16 PM
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I don't really understand what you're trying to say with hetro women "not even really all that straight to begin with". To be honest, I don't know a lot about the non-binary community, but it seems like it could easily be harder to find someone legitimately attracted to you that you are also legitimately attracted to than the hetro community have it if for no other reason just having a much smaller dating pool. In the past the 3 options society has tried went something like this: 1. Give almost …
/r/MensRights27/06/25 03:06 PM
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To redefine what is attractive The flaw I see is that you can't negotiate attraction. Research has found that part of the brain responsible for feelings of sexual attraction develops during puberty and then loses its plasticity (ability to learn near things). It also develops in stages before that too, such as in utero. An open question is how much environment can influence that development process. A child could be raised and taught his whole life homosexuality is wrong, yet still develop that …
/r/MensRights27/06/25 02:23 PM
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I don't think paper abortion is a very workable solution because if a guy only finds out he's a father after the child is already born and the window to put the kid up for adoption is passed, it would dump things entirely on the mother (which if I'm reading you right, is your main concern.) What are your thoughts on an opt in system? Say around the 8 week prenatal visit, the father provides a cheek swab and part of the blood samples already taken for the mother are used to do a paternity test. (…
/r/MensRights27/06/25 04:12 AM
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Forced hysterectomies/vasectomies is horrible, totally immoral, and a human rights violation.
/r/MensRights27/06/25 03:49 AM
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Then just say that instead. Something like "Forced hysterectomies/vasectomies is horrible, totally immoral, and a human rights violation." I'd totally be on board with that. In fact, let me go reply to the top guy with that now if you don't mind me borrowing your words.
/r/MensRights27/06/25 03:48 AM
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What on earth are you talking about? Powers/ legal rights women have in much of the west. A man can force himself on a woman as well? That's pretty universally recognized as being illegal. I suppose there probably are several middle east countries that don't recognize martial rape though. The reverse isn't nearly as universal. The UK for example, doesn't recognize a woman forcing herself on a man as rape and it's considered a lesser crime even. A man can also poke holes in a condom to trick a wo…
/r/MensRights27/06/25 03:45 AM
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Kudos to the guys out there that give their word they won't file for child support and keep it. Legally, in the US at least to the best of my knowledge, it's not something that can be waived with any kind of legal document since it's consider a right of the child and not something the parent can give away except via adoption since then the kid has different legal parent(s). What I am not ok with is the ability of one parent to unilaterally be able to decide to dump the child fully off on the oth…
/r/MensRights27/06/25 03:05 AM
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First, thank you for continuing to engage. Everyone else who comes to the sub with a position that is strongly disagreed with by the majority would have given up by now. I maybe falsely assumed you deleted the top post, but may have been a mod removed it. I do my best to try to keep a level head even when people start getting nasty to me, but I'm human and don't always succeed. So I've been there. I do try to take responsibility and apologize when that happens. I strongly disagree with Old_Magic…
/r/MensRights27/06/25 02:49 AM
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Yeah, my job is usually one of the first few questions I get asked when meeting a new man and trying to make some small talk. I've tried to avoid asking the past 10 years or so and instead try to ask what things they like to do for fun, hobbies, things they're passionate about. It seems to throw some guys off when I don't ask what they do for a job right after I answer their question about my job.
/r/MensRights27/06/25 02:20 AM
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Yes, men can and do get child support from the mother too. ONLY reproductive right and power women have that men don't is over the pregnancy No, they also have more power/rights before and after too. Courts have ruled a man has no control over how it is used once it leaves his body. A women can take it from the waste bin, or force herself on a guy and get convicted of rape or assault and he still has no rights. If the women pokes holes in the condom, there's nothing he can do about it. If he doe…
/r/MensRights26/06/25 05:20 PM
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I said it does not dump off a responsibility to raise and care for the child off onto anyone else. Do you say this same thing about women who choose to get pregnant, carry the child to term, has no idea who the father is to get some help via child support, does not earn enough to support herself and the child and relies on food stamps and other government welfare to get by?
/r/MensRights26/06/25 05:13 PM
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Ah yes, if a woman want to be a slutty slut we should punish her by taking away her uterus entirely. There are shorter and easier ways to just say you hate women and want to punish them for their sexuality. I was kind of enjoying reading through all your comments and thinking about your arguments but you're just going off the rails now. You're just doing the old, when I've run out of logical arguments or just gotten frustrated, I'll just resort to insults and call them a misogynist or incel. It'…
/r/MensRights26/06/25 05:07 PM
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Just make sure to check the rules in your jurisdiction. Some allow recording as long as one party being recorded is aware of the recording, some require both (or all).
/r/MensRights26/06/25 04:59 PM
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Reminds me of a true story I read a while back that went something like this: A couple gets pregnant. She decides she's not ready to be a mother and plans on aborting. He says he'll take full custody of the child and convinces her to carry it to term. They get the legal paperwork lined up and she surrenders all parental rights and he agrees. Once all the paperwork was finalized, he filed for child support from her and got it. She was livid of course. Should a woman be allowed to sign a document …
/r/MensRights26/06/25 04:51 PM
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However, for men, choosing sex (protected or otherwise) IS consenting to fatherhood, even if the pregnancy is unwanted. It makes it much more likely, but isn't actually required. Courts have ruled a man has no say after it leaves his body. A woman could collect it after a nocturnal emission to get herself pregnant and he'd still have no say. There are boys out there paying child support (after he turns 18) to a woman who was convicted of raping him.
/r/MensRights26/06/25 04:39 PM
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You are correct that safe haven laws are usually written to be gender neutral. Theoretically either parent has the same option. In theory, both parents have to consent to it. Consent is by default though unless an objection is filed in time. That window often is way too short. I've read stories about guys who did file in time still running into huge issues trying to get his kid back from foster/adoptive parents. It just gets harder filing after the deadline. For pregnancies where the guy doesn't…
/r/MensRights26/06/25 03:47 PM
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hensatri is yapping about the money burden on the public. I keep hearing about how the birth rate has been declining so rapidly in many places that it's going to cause issues down the road (ratio of workers to non-workers getting too low to sustain). I really don't see this change turning things into a population explosion or probably even getting it above replacement rate of around 2.05 so I really don't see how it would be that big of a burden. Most people who want to adopt have a heavy prefer…
/r/MensRights26/06/25 03:22 PM
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I'm only arguing that it's hard to predict and that there isn't any reasonable way to be as certain as you are. I agree, it's more likely than not that the % of "fatherless" kids would go up in the short term.
/r/MensRights25/06/25 08:50 PM
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Poor guy. She sounds insufferable.
/r/MensRights25/06/25 08:39 PM
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there would be a MASSIVE uptick in the number of fatherless children. Things don't always turn out how we may expect. When contraceptives became widely available and abortion legal in the US in the 1970s, there was widespread hope that this would help reduce the number of kids being born out of wedlock and raised by single mothers. The logic being, if a woman wasn't in a secure relationship (such as marriage) to have long term commitment from the man, then should would take the steps to prevent …
/r/MensRights25/06/25 08:25 PM
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While women, in order to opt out, have to ensure that child does not exist. In the US, all 50 states have safe haven laws allowing a mother to drop off a newborn with no questions ask to be put up for adoption. Granted this doesn't happen very often (mostly due to how strong the bonding hormones are between mother and child) and the reason they were implemented were to try to reduce infanticide.
/r/MensRights25/06/25 07:51 PM
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Seems pretty similar to Rosa Parks refusing to give up her seat to protest racial discrimination. Just a protest against sexism now.
/r/MensRights24/06/25 05:02 PM
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Combat has a way of deleting part of your humanity. Some guys hang on to more of it than others.
/r/MensRights23/06/25 06:17 AM
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I’m 54. After reading through it, it seems like she's finally realizing the older she gets, the more invisible she gets to men. If you want one, pick a good one in your twenties and stick with him.
/r/MensRights23/06/25 02:15 AM
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If I remember right, some example questions would be something like, "Have you ever had consensual sex and then later regretted it or wished it didn't happen?" Yes = rape. "Have you ever had conseual sex after having a few drinks?" Yes = rape even if if the guy was just as drunk or more. "Did the guy ask for verbal permission for each escalation in sexual activity?" No = rape.
/r/MensRights20/06/25 04:04 PM
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I forget where I found it, but if you add up time spent working + housework + childcare, men on average put in a little bit more. It was actually pretty well balanced imo for something that's not going to be perfect. (e.g. 40 minutes of folding laundry is easier than mowing grass with a push mower for 40 minutes). I always figured the fairest way was if my wife and I had a similar number of hours of free time.
/r/MensRights20/06/25 03:49 PM
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The word feminism means "take the woman's side". Doesn't matter if she's right or wrong, you take her side always. Logic does not factor in at all. You have to find an old dictionary to find this original definition since they've gone to a lot of trouble to get it changed to supposedly meaning equality. But there already is a word for that - egalitarianism.
/r/MensRights20/06/25 03:45 PM
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Around 5 years ago, I browsed through a post that had a paragraph going through all 50 states. I remember Nevada was one of the best. Child support was capped and based on typical expenses instead of the parent's income. Everything is pretty cut and dried and usually not anything to really fight over in court in divorce / child support matters. Massachusetts was one of the worst where pretty much all aspects were open to litigation.
/r/MensRights20/06/25 03:43 PM
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Society should have paid more attention to the old saying, "Don't bite the hand that feeds you." But that personifies society. There's no one in charge with some kind of master plan. So it's probably more like the tragedy of the commons.
/r/MensRights20/06/25 03:39 PM
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It's been a while since I looked up the questions they asked and what they then categorized it as. So rather than risk putting words in their mouth, I'd just encourage you to do the same.
/r/MensRights19/06/25 11:46 PM
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They count a lot of things no rational person would or come close to meeting any legal definition.
/r/MensRights19/06/25 05:21 PM
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When I read stories and interviews of trans men, the strongest theme that emerges is how socially isolating they feel. Society/culture places an expectation on men (and anyone passing as one) of being stoic, bottling up emotions, not venting too much, not complaining too much, not sharing everything they feel or experience.
/r/MensRights13/06/25 06:14 PM
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Similar to how there are very tall women, some taller than most men, but the average of women's heights is lower than the average of men's heights, I think it's similar for those other attributes for women. And since they lived part of their life as one, that's their starting point. I don't see how the averages for transmen would surpass that of men born male. I suppose it's possible or any difference is not significant. Now that I think about it, with how masculine women have shifted in their b…
/r/MensRights13/06/25 06:01 AM
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I'm sure there are. I don't see that I said there weren't any.
/r/MensRights13/06/25 03:52 AM
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The definition I like is when you observe the behavior or men and women and then try to summarize and generalize the differences you see. So by this definition any man conforming to the typical and average range of men is masculine. Another definition that is sometimes helpful is considering what heterosexual women are attracted to. I forget the name of the guy in 50 shades and I haven't read or watched it, but from the bit I know, I'm guessing at least some of it would overlap with what gets ca…
/r/MensRights12/06/25 06:20 PM
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A story I remember from my American history in grade school was that a new colony wanted to be a cooperative -- all food harvested was pooled and distributed. At first, everyone worked hard, but people slowly put in less and less effort and found excuses like faking injuries. After a couple of winters where many starved, the governor of the colony partitioned the farmland between families (husband, wife, and their kids) and guaranteed that each family owned whatever they grew there and would not…
/r/MensRights12/06/25 04:29 PM
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Some say it's surprisingly strong ability to rationalize the absurd - "the hamster is undefeated".
/r/MensRights12/06/25 04:45 AM
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It's pretty simple - his life should be substantially better with her there than if they had never entered the relationship. So when a woman asks herself what she can do to make that happen, the answers and how important each thing is will vary quite a bit from man to man.
/r/MensRights10/06/25 08:57 PM
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What has brought about this change in perspective It seems to be mostly driven from feminists playing victim Olympics and trying to make sure women are always the biggest victims. I don't really understand it. My only guess is that their perspective is dead people stop being traumatized once they're dead? They conveniently ignore all the people who survive combat but carry lifelong trauma from it. After going through my grandfathers letters he wrote during WWII when he fought in Europe, so many …
/r/MensRights03/06/25 05:26 PM
28

Flight instructor for the UH-60 Black Hawk helicopter.
/r/MensRights02/06/25 08:34 PM
4

Don't be cheap, women get really disinterested if the man is cheap. Nope. Being cheap for the first couple months is one of the tests you give a woman to make sure she actually likes you and weeds out the ones that see men as an atm. My wife passed. If you're put off by it, that's perfect. That's the kind of woman I didn't want.
/r/MensRights28/05/25 05:57 AM
5

Oh awesome. Thanks for the papers. I'll make sure to read them when I get a chance.
/r/MensRights24/05/25 06:47 PM
1

probably why he won Recently, elections have been shifting right worldwide. Whatever's causing it, I don't know. But whatever is causing the shift, that seems like it was the biggest factor.
/r/MensRights23/05/25 05:14 PM
26

I wonder how many men stop trying because it's too much work to try to find any women who are possible wife-material.
/r/MensRights23/05/25 04:55 PM
17

This contradiction cannot be fixed In all likelihood, yes. The only theoretical route I've found is that research has found that what a person is sexually attracted to forms during puberty and then is essentially fixed - your brain is wired and it isn't going to really change from there. I've tried searching how much of it is instinct and can't be influenced and how much is due to the environment during that stage of life. So it is plausible if social norms changed, the next generation of girls …
/r/MensRights23/05/25 04:42 PM
2

No, just a spreadsheet in excel that took 3 minutes at most.
/r/MensRights22/05/25 07:10 PM
2

How many of their mothers split the child care 50/50. Sounds good to me. I would have loved to be a stay-at-home dad. Maybe my wife takes the 1st year while I work. I take the 2nd year while she works. Etc. Or maybe we could restructure jobs so there are some career jobs with an every other day schedule. Then I could do M-W-F one week and T-R the next while my wife works the opposite. The big problem with stay-at-home dads is research has found divorce rates are up, deadbedrooms are up, and over…
/r/MensRights22/05/25 03:54 PM
1

physical attraction matters It does. I tried dating someone once who I was barely attracted to physically. She had a lot of great qualities, but in the end, I broke up with her. Just make sure physical attraction isn't the only thing - whoever you pick for the long term (if any) is going to get old. Now that I'm nearing 50, there really aren't many women around my age I'd say are attractive. Still happy with my wife - I think because I remember when we were younger and she was hot, but if I got …
/r/MensRights22/05/25 03:39 PM
1

Why would I not find her in my circle of Master / Phd? For me when I was dating, I was looking for someone who would stay home with the kids until they went to kindergarten and had the skills to do a good job. Just my view, but I think it's better for kids this way than daycare. Anyone with a masters, phd, or even a lot of stem bachaelor's degrees (that I met) were too career oriented to seem to want to do that (and be happy about it). The other issue I saw with the women I met (with masters, ph…
/r/MensRights22/05/25 03:24 PM
0

Don we now our gay apparel. Fa-la-la, la-la-la, la, la, la.
/r/MensRights22/05/25 03:08 PM
7

Some quick searches found: Men need 2000 to 3000 calories per day. Women need 1600-2400. Right there is enough to explain the 25% red meat thing. Women commute 13 km and men 20 km. So that's more than enough to explain the cars. So this is just rage bait.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 10:34 PM
5

When the robots are driving the trucks they'll probably find a way to assign that to men too.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 10:20 PM
4

Usually the rarer gender tends to have more success. I'd say for having kids, women are the rarer gender. If a guy wants to have multiple kids, he's looking for a woman 18 to 30ish. After that, by the time you spend a couple years vetting her, her fertility is dropping off. If a woman wants kids she can pick a significantly wider age range of guys.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 05:53 PM
2

Another source of the imbalance in the dating market is the 18-30 year old women dating the 18-35 year old men.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 05:48 PM
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The point is if you include health care professions (which includes nursing) then the total stem is roughly 50/50 male/female. Everyone who is complaining about not enough women in stem removes that category from stem in order to push their agenda.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 02:51 PM
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Many of those girls didn’t have mothers in stem or grand mothers in stem, or great great grand mothers in stem. But boys have. A lot of stem fields didn't exist in our great great grandparents time. I'm old enough that computer engineering was a new major when I went to college. Quite a few people I know in stem did it because their blue collar parents sacrificed to help get them through school to have a better life than they did.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 02:47 PM
3

men already had those protections since America started So we're pretending those black guys (and gals) on the plantation had civil rights and got paid?
/r/MensRights21/05/25 02:42 PM
2

Yep you're right. I didn't a crude monte carlo with random numbers and the difference between the source data being rounded or not only impacted the final result up to about +/-0.3%. So +/-0.5% probably is the worst case. Sorry for guessing it would be bigger instead of checking first.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 04:39 AM
1

Just trying to help here. I'm too tired. The basic issue is the conclusion is 3 significant digits but some of the data used to calculate it is only 1. A conclusion of 0.5 (to show 50% with 1 significant digit) probably isn't the most interesting though. I was just trying to think of way to make sure the final result was accurately represented. Maybe it as simple as it being 49.8% +/- 0.5%. When I have to do worst case analysis for work I usually just set each variable at its min or max (whichev…
/r/MensRights21/05/25 04:13 AM
1

You're probably right that it's probably not as big of a range as +/-5%. I don't really feel like going through and crunching the numbers though. If you already set up a spreadsheet, it's probably not too hard to calculate. The 47% does look like it must be the total workforce. It's kind of odd they put that under the STEM heading.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 03:55 AM
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It might not be quite that simple. Each of the percents given in the Pew Research tables are rounded off. So if it lists 9%, that could be anywhere from 8.500% to 9.499% (whatever would correspond to the number of people being an integer). Do a min and max for each entry and then calculate the overall min and max to get a range. Odds are the range you end up will be fairly large like 45% to 55%. If that's the case, what it tells you is you don't really have enough information to say one where or…
/r/MensRights21/05/25 03:31 AM
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Yeah, sometimes when you drill down into which majors they're counting as STEM or not and you quickly discovered all they did was only include the ones where men are over 50%.
/r/MensRights21/05/25 02:47 AM
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The phrase "pay gap" is purposefully misleading. They want you to assume it's $ per hour worked when they're actually talking about the total $ earned by men vs women from wages and salaries. There actually is a total earnings gap, but it's due to choices men and women make and not from some kind of discrimination from companies. It's due to high school boys placing more importance on picking a college major that will lead to more pay. More women choose to take time off to have and raise childre…
/r/MensRights20/05/25 09:44 PM
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where I could die One thing I finally realized much later in life is that it's not just the risk of physical death. We found the letters my grandfather wrote to his wife while he fought in WWII and one thing I realized from them is that many, possibly most soldiers seem to lose part of their humanity after being exposed to enough combat. Death is still worse of course.
/r/MensRights20/05/25 09:35 PM
2

Some of them seem to get very upset over trans women too though.
/r/MensRights20/05/25 04:22 PM
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I don't think anything. Any reasonable person is going to recognize this as extremely petty.
/r/MensRights20/05/25 03:48 PM
53

The reaction is based on emotions and not logic.
/r/MensRights20/05/25 03:38 PM
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Anyone more "fit" than David Hasslehoff during Baywatch I just assume is juicing. Michelangelo's David sculpture is certainly idealized for its time, but probably about the upper limit for what can be done naturally. Maybe with a genetic jackpot and living in the gym more is possible? So yeah, it's getting utterly ridiculous. You can't really win either because if you do put the time in to look like Michelangelo's David, then she'll complain about you being in the gym all the time. It's like the…
/r/MensRights20/05/25 02:29 PM
2

Quite a few men would be happy to be a stay at home dad. The problem is divorce rates are higher and marital satisfaction rates are lower. Women have a hard time respecting their husband and getting turned on by their husband in those situations. The main exception research has found is when it's only temporary - like the guy is going to grad school full time while she works in order to earn more after graduation. Or he watches the kids for a couple weeks while she's on a buisness trip.
/r/MensRights20/05/25 02:11 PM
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Is it targeted only at single men or single men and women equally? I watched most of the video and it seemed like it was the latter?
/r/MensRights19/05/25 03:17 PM
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I'll argue there's another possibility. More men are driven to pursue those things than women for some reason. Data indicates male political candidates are elected at similar rates as female ones. It's explainable by many more men running for office for some reason.
/r/MensRights19/05/25 03:08 PM
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An engineering friend of mine from college went on to law school. One time I get a letter about jury duty and we got to talking about it. One thing I found pretty interesting is he said for jury selection, they normally try to pick people based on one of two strategies. Either a logical argument or an emotional appeal. Normally one side will realize the facts aren't on their side and so their strategy will be to try to make an emotional appeal. So during jury selection when they get to veto peop…
/r/MensRights19/05/25 01:38 PM
1

Yeah, when I was younger and more religious, just praying privately and going through all my struggles seemed to help a lot with processing them.
/r/MensRights16/05/25 05:10 PM
1

women take more time and effort I don't think that's really fair either. A good woman will match that time and effort by keeping you in that zone just below climax for a long time instead of just quickly taking care of you in a couple minutes at most.
/r/MensRights16/05/25 03:16 PM
2

Through sperm donation, a man can contribute to the future of humanity without submitting to a system that may later penalize his commitment. There is a risk here that laws could change and a donor suddenly finds himself liable for child support for dozens of kids. Pretty low risk, but it's not zero. People thought marriage was irrevocable unless there was a justifiable reason, but then no-fault came along and retroactively re-wrote all the existing marriage "contracts". So something re-writing …
/r/MensRights15/05/25 05:51 PM
2

Adopt or hire a surrogate and then hire a nanny or au pair to help with raising the kids & housework I guess. Many places that have good surrogacy laws and enforcement of contracts don't' allow single men to use surrogacy though.
/r/MensRights14/05/25 08:25 PM
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It's usually up to the guy to try to set the mood to make anything happen in the bedroom. Women seem to think "it just happens" and often don't realize how much effort the guy is putting in to try to set up the right moment to make a move.
/r/MensRights14/05/25 07:01 PM
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Cool, I'm glad you've taken the time to plan everything out. I just commented because I frequently see people make a mistake of thinking a retirement of 20 years needs ~half the savings of a 40 year one when for a base scenario of steady inflation adjusted withdrawals, it's closer to 90% or 95%. It's been too long since I looked. Best of luck!
/r/MensRights13/05/25 07:30 PM
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The waitress is probably a better bet because she hasn't gotten accustomed to spending as much.
/r/MensRights13/05/25 03:01 PM
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numbers are a lot more forgiving for retiring at 55 The numbers I've crunched don't come out much different between planning for a 25 year retirement or a 100 year one. For a stock/bond portfolio using the classic 4% withdrawal rate, inflation adjusted, strategy. If it hasn't run out after 25 years, it probably is going to keep providing it indefinitely. The main thing that shoots that to hell (in the US) is when you get to the stage of needing assisted living or a nursing home. Then the expense…
/r/MensRights13/05/25 02:51 PM
2

"Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow?" by the Shirelles is one I can think of, but that came out way back in 1960.
/r/MensRights13/05/25 02:07 PM
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40, 50, 60 that female dating is incredibly difficult compared to the male version They say this, but what they mean is dating is hard compared to when they were 18-30. Which is true. The other aspect is from the woman's perspective, often relationships/sex "just happen" and they don't realize the guy is working his butt off trying to be smooth and set it up to take things there. Also, I've heard a lot of guys say that it's harder and harder to date women as they get older because too many just …
/r/MensRights12/05/25 08:26 PM
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"Flowers" by Miley Cyrus always struck me as trying to say "I'm empowered" and "I don't need a man" but ends up just coming across as a sad cope to my ears.
/r/MensRights12/05/25 06:16 PM
3

30 years ago I struggled to get a date. The few I got, then I'd struggle to get a 2nd date. So I found some different advice and tried it. It worked. Later when the whole RP & manosphere thing came along it ended up having a lot of overlap with it.
/r/MensRights05/05/25 08:08 PM
1

People that actually look at both sides and believe in equality usually call themselves an egaltarian instead.
/r/MensRights03/05/25 05:57 PM
4

It's just pandering for votes. However, if it means the DFL starts putting a lid on misandry, I'll take that as progress.
/r/MensRights01/05/25 09:32 PM
2

Honesty & openness tends to end where punishment begins.
/r/MensRights01/05/25 09:18 PM
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That's what feminism is. The etymology of the word feminism is "taking the woman's side". Whether she's right or wrong doesn't matter, you take her side always.
/r/MensRights01/05/25 09:16 PM
1

Daring to say, "Honey, we can't afford that."
/r/MensRights21/04/25 10:05 PM
3

This author misunderstands the term alpha. Most of the things she lists as positives I would say an alpha would possess. In the end it just seems like another woman thinking she gets to define masculinity, which I find very arrogant.
/r/MensRights14/04/25 08:34 PM
4

The simplest potential explanation I can think of is that dementia is diagnosed more often when you have someone living with you every day and can pick up on the gradual changes to get you checked out.
/r/MensRights05/04/25 05:32 AM
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You can start by just checking the records of the baby's blood type. Only certain combinations are possible from the mother and father's blood types. If it's one of the combinations that aren't possible, then you already know it's not yours. If it's a match, then go on to the at-home dna test of course.
/r/MensRights17/03/25 03:53 PM
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Some of the best evidence imho is from transmen or women who passed themselves off as men successfully (such as Nora Vincent). They've experienced both sides. At least the interviews/stories I've read, they all found being a man harder. The most common & biggest struggle frequently mentioned was how they were used to having a big social support network as a woman but as a man it felt very lonely and isolating being to essentially told to figure your shit out on your own.
/r/MensRights12/03/25 08:26 PM
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No, the feminist who started it was dead serious.
/r/MensRights12/03/25 03:33 PM
3

For the myth that society treats men better or men are given more privledge in how they're treated: It's not really set up to be scientific, but the television show "What Would You Do?" runs a lot of scenarios and swaps the genders of the actors and/or people they're interacting with. They run enough scenarios and repeat them that you get to see patterns though. For example, quite often women are more likely to be helped, given more benefit of the doubt, less likely to be called out on bad behav…
/r/MensRights12/03/25 03:31 PM
2

They've whitewashed modern dictionaries too. If you find a dictionary 50+ years old, it usually has something closer to the original meaning. Modern claims that it always meant equality are straight up lies or ignorance.
/r/MensRights12/03/25 03:18 PM
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The word feminism means "to take the woman's side". That's it's origin. If they had been about equality, they would have chosen a word that meant that like egalitarianism. Convincing people it means equality is whitewashing. If women are demonstratable disadvantaged on issue X, and women are trying to bring that up to being more equal, then "taking the woman's side" and equality overlap. The trouble is they never stopped and keep pushing to give advantages to women over men.
/r/MensRights11/03/25 09:30 PM
1

Every religion needs a boogeyman.
/r/MensRights10/03/25 07:28 PM
2

It's happened to me over the past few years. I figured it was mostly just due to getting older (46) and stopping my weight lifting due to injury. I thought I'd miss it more but I'm finding it's kind of a relief to do other stuff with the time I used to spend thinking about ways to try to create the right mood with my wife.
/r/MensRights10/03/25 07:26 PM
1

Eh, everyone is a mix of good and bad, myself included.
/r/MensRights04/03/25 04:19 PM
3

Me too, but if guys want to make a guys only club, they should then be allowed to do that too.
/r/MensRights04/03/25 04:15 PM
1

I want to say no, but I know there has been a lot of research into the topic and has found some correlations, so wouldn't surprise me if I had some subconscious bias favoring height, everything else being equal. The thing is, it never really is that everything else is equal. Confidence, mastery of whatever you're leading, are much much bigger factors.
/r/MensRights04/03/25 03:52 PM
2

Roughly, it's when a women ages to the point where the men she's attracted to would rather date women younger than herself. She can't compete with them. There was a research study that showed pictures of men to women and pictures of women to men and asked them to rate how attractive they found them. Then they plotted the women's ages versus the ages of the men's pictures. Similar for men with women's pictures. It found women were most attracted to men their age up to a couple years older than th…
/r/MensRights03/03/25 03:10 PM
2

The part that baffles me is that even 45+ year old women are in denial about this. If you read old literature, the older women would warn the younger women about the wall. Well they didn't use that word then, but the concept was definitely there. I guess feminism made it taboo to discuss.
/r/MensRights03/03/25 03:04 PM
4

Yeah, even Ruth Ginsberg admitted the legal reasoning the SCOTUS used for RvW was nebulous at best.
/r/MensRights03/03/25 02:41 PM
1

Many places the more custody % you can get, the lower the child support payments become, but that usually needs $ for a lawyer to help you file for it.
/r/MensRights25/02/25 05:22 PM
2

Thanks for the article (even though the ads are horrible). For some reason I thought that phrase was much older like from Socrates, Plato, or the Illiad.
/r/MensRights24/02/25 05:41 PM
2

1 Cor 14:34 would be a fun one too Women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says. BuT iT DOesn't meAn thAt!
/r/MensRights24/02/25 02:31 PM
1

Can check the blood type first too. If the kid is a blood type that isn't possible based on his and her's blood type, you already know it isn't his and can skip getting a paternity test. (A match doesn't mean it necessarily is his of course though).
/r/MensRights24/02/25 02:21 PM
11

I guess she wasn't able to "shake it off, shake it off..."
/r/MensRights19/02/25 10:28 PM
5

You sound like me when I was your age. For the purpose of genuinely trying to help you, no, you're not doing everything right. On paper, sure, but the most important thing is if you're inducing the tingles or not. Also known as chemistry. Being anxious and shy will usually kill that. So these are bigger problems than you're probably realizing. The way I got through it was to learn to pay attention for signs women give they may be interested in me and pursue those instead of the ones I was most i…
/r/MensRights18/02/25 09:22 PM
2

Different person than you asked, but I started doing some volunteer work for causes I cared about and thought there might also be single women near my age there. My thinking was selfish narcissists were pretty unlikely to volunteer for anything, thereby weeding themselves out for me. (as long as the reason they're there isn't due to a mandated community service order, haha)
/r/MensRights18/02/25 09:07 PM
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I used to think it was pretty much for the benefit of any kids. Kids do better in almost every measurable way in stable households with both parents. Married couples are on average more stable than non-married ones. Stability being equal, married or not seems to make no difference, so if you're able to have that stability without the marriage, then that kind of takes away the last reason for it. But even there, in divorce it's often the kids that lose as whatever money the parents had saved for …
/r/MensRights13/02/25 08:38 PM
1

I tried playfully dodging their questions when they were getting too serious too fast. Usually it worked to keep them interested enough to go out again, but sometimes they just wouldn't give up.
/r/MensRights11/02/25 08:55 PM
1

Shouting at an employee wouldn't fly at my work no matter who did it or who it was directed at.
/r/MensRights11/02/25 08:38 PM
1

This kind of reaffirms an empirical observation that I've always had, men are much more likely to major in majors that have a better return of investment as compared to women, and this is also I believe a great factor when it comes to the "wage gap." I don't remember where, and didn't bookmark it but I remember reading research that backed this up. From what I remember (might not be remembering it quite right), it found men and women had the same top three considerations when picking a major. Th…
/r/MensRights10/02/25 05:07 AM
3

Yeah, it's a variation of kin punishment (which is where a society has a practice of punishing relatives or the clan/tribe in addition to the convicted criminal.)
/r/MensRights05/02/25 10:40 PM
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It's possible but rare. I remember a case where a father convinced his GF not to abort and she could surrender all parental rights & responsibilities and he'd take kid as soon as it was born. As soon as he had the kid and all the paperwork was approved, he filed for child support from the mother and got it. She was livid of course, but that's how it works here.
/r/MensRights31/01/25 08:29 PM
8

I've carried term insurance ever since my wife was pregnant with our first child. When I was younger, it was cheap enough to carry enough to pay off the mortgage, cover college, and several years of my lost net income to make sure they'd be able to stay in the house, etc. Now that I'm getting older, it's getting more expensive. But, most of their college is saved for, house is paid for, 401k + pension is big enough now to get by so there isn't much need for it. My wife suggested dropping it enti…
/r/MensRights28/01/25 10:50 PM
1

That's why most tech leads decided to go the risk-averse route and were cautious about hiring women when DEI mandates were active. My company seems to like to mostly hire new people as contractors because it's easier to part ways by just not renewing the contract. The best ones they ask to move over to employees if there's also a projection for a long-term need. Usually takes a couple years.
/r/MensRights28/01/25 10:30 PM
2

Is it possible to hire equal amount of women and men in a male dominated field without compromising quality, and if so, how? In theory you could hire 50% highly qualified women and 50% highly qualified men, but only if both of these were true: 1) The scope is a single smaller company and not the whole industry. 2) Other companies in the industry aren't trying to do the same thing (hire more highly qualified women). There are highly qualified women out there, but there just aren't enough to go ar…
/r/MensRights28/01/25 10:22 PM
3

Hmm I read in the US, mother's have to put down a father to qualify for many assistance programs, which leads to guessing or deliberate mis-identification. I have not fact checked this though.
/r/MensRights27/01/25 05:06 PM
10

I found Swyer syndrome as one that doesn't really fit the pattern of anytime there's a Y, it tends toward male. It's where there's an X and Y but part of the Y doesn't activate resulting in predominately female biology resulting in similar symptoms as Turner (single X). With fertility treatment (hormone therapy and IVF I assume since they have no eggs?), apparently they can even be pregnant and carry a baby to term.
/r/MensRights22/01/25 11:36 PM
1

Yeah, she should have found a path to get to him. I'll agree with that. I was thinking maybe the path wandered too far away and she perhaps though it best to stay with him (like 911 will try to stay with you on the line until help arrives). I just know what seems safe enough for one person is not at all for another. I was with my wife and kids at a state park and there were some rocks out in the rapids above a waterfall. It was just my family and I judged it was safe enough, so went from rock to…
/r/MensRights22/01/25 11:22 PM
1

Are you saying she should have jumped down like OP did?
/r/MensRights22/01/25 08:01 PM
3

No, this isn't really a women vs men thing. This is just how emergency services work (at least in the US, no idea on EU). Firemen are trained not only for fires, but also for getting people out of other situations safely for the ambulance staff to attend to. They're trained in basic first aid and other medical stuff to stabilize people too. My dad was a firefighter for ~25 years and most of their calls were for things like getting people out things like their cars after an accident. Usually the …
/r/MensRights22/01/25 04:30 PM
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You need a sample size bigger than 1 to be able to show a pattern to be able to say it's sexism.
/r/MensRights16/01/25 09:26 PM
4

I'd suggest using the word culture when talking about culture. Patriarchy is too broad and vague and gets a lot of guys here triggered because it's a gendered word that implicitly and often explicitly blames men. People use it to mean too many things - oligarchy, culture, social/gender norms, biological attraction, or even just a bogeyman.
/r/MensRights15/01/25 04:46 PM
1

I remember a study into this that complied the data gathered into a chart with the x axis being underweight-normal-overweight-obese-morbidly obese. The y axis was how attractive men rated them. Underweight and morbidly obese was very low, normal and overweight was high, peaking around the a little overweight zone. Obese still had a fair amount, but it trailed off pretty rapidly, although slower than going from normal to very underweight. So there definitely are men who prefer them a little "thic…
/r/MensRights15/01/25 04:28 PM
1

Yeah, I read a pretty good argument that the "winners" from swipe apps are the bottom quarter of women. The middle chunk of guys get so frustrated getting responses from women closer to their tier, that they start going for bottom ones. I hit that point and saw one for a few weeks before realizing I just couldn't do it without feeling attracted and pulled the plug. For me it wasn't the body positivity propaganda, but the "it's what's on the inside that counts" messaging. She did have good charac…
/r/MensRights15/01/25 03:12 PM
1

Are you saying the propaganda that obese people are just as attractive as fit ones has worked?
/r/MensRights15/01/25 03:05 PM
2

I'm not sure people really believe that. I suppose there are some, but I think most people know it's all just BS.
/r/MensRights14/01/25 09:31 PM
9

Hugh Jackman in Deadpool & Wolverine vs the early X-men movies was another that comes to mind. It was only one shirtless scene toward the end, but took a pretty strict diet to get body fat % under 3%, followed by dehydrating for a few days before the filming day, being monitored by a doctor so he didn't croak.
/r/MensRights14/01/25 09:27 PM
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Patriarchy is a social system in which positions of authority are primarily held by men Sure, if you look at the % politicians and CEOs are men and only consider that, it's true. It's not really a conspiracy to keep women down though, it's mostly just due to society (both men and women) valuing ambition in men and more men pushing to climb. I've been at the same company for 25 years now. Very often in my own career or co-workers people find themselves in a position to either keep pushing hard to…
/r/MensRights24/12/24 04:59 PM
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Next time, screen them heavily first.
/r/MensRights24/12/24 04:27 PM
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How do y’all deal with these kind of people? Start a new group without them.
/r/MensRights24/12/24 04:23 PM
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I would not donate because the precedence is that laws can be changed and override whatever contract you may have had at the time of donation.
/r/MensRights24/12/24 05:01 AM
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I have all the gym stuff I need at home thankfully. If I were looking for a gym membership, I'd only consider any with a no filming policy that enforced it.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 11:37 PM
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You need to understand the Biblical role of the father. He then proceeds to make up a bunch of stuff it never says... It does say "love your wife as yourself." Not more than yourself. it's a balance, but I can't remember ever hearing a sermon about balance. As a kid, my church told us to read our Bible's. I actually did and found out all kinds of things they conveniently left out. Charlie Kirk is probably thinking of the passage that says husbands should sacrifice for their wives, but like almos…
/r/MensRights23/12/24 11:05 PM
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Wait, didn't they insist men should cross to the other side of the street and give them space?
/r/MensRights23/12/24 08:56 PM
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Yet non-compulsory "donations" (sperm-jacking) are legal.
/r/MensRights23/12/24 08:16 PM
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Yes, but I don't think it's automatically the case. The woman I was dating right before my wife seemed pretty clearly smitten yet was still completely passive until I prompted her a bit. But I wanted someone who did it automatically without prompting, so I broke up with her anyway. Her roommate thought I was a jerk and chewed me out, lol.
/r/MensRights20/12/24 09:25 PM
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like crabs in a bucket - whoever is on the top of the pile closest to the top gets pulled down by the others
/r/MensRights20/12/24 04:54 PM
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no intention to reciprocate There are some out there who will, but boy is it hard to find them. My strategy probably wasn't the best, but what I did was plan and ask a woman out on up to 3-4 cheap/free dates, then wait to see if she'd plan something. If not, I just moved on. The one I ended up marrying asked me over for dinner that she made. I think that was about our 4th date.
/r/MensRights20/12/24 04:51 PM
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I'll just add this isn't just theory - research into various human societies over recorded history has found this to be the case.
/r/MensRights19/12/24 07:52 PM
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It's more than a hypothesis. It shows up in data that measures things like the percent of 20-25 year old men versus women who have had relations ever, the past year, etc. It's higher for the women and the only way that math works is if they're sharing. It could be lying too, which other studies have found is very common for questions like that, but even correcting for that, the trend is still there. It's not as strong as the Chad trope makes it sound, but it is definitely real.
/r/MensRights19/12/24 07:44 PM
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As said, it's fictional for one. But also in the movie, the line is delivered with pretty heavy sarcasm & annoyance. On the other hand, a lot of times authors will use fictional scenarios as a way to express what they really think without get blasted for it. Can't tell either way though.
/r/MensRights17/12/24 09:41 PM
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their feelings take precedence over reality The hamster is undefeated!
/r/MensRights17/12/24 09:39 PM
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The TV show, "What Would You Do? with John Quinones" gives a lot of examples too where they switch the genders and rerun the scenario. They don't really comment on the results which is probably why cancel culture hasn't nuked it.
/r/MensRights17/12/24 09:38 PM
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Most women prefer men their age or up to a few years older. The bigger the gap, the fewer women will be interested. That's the main issue. I'm no Leonardo DiCaprio.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 03:31 AM
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I've stopped dating because I've been happily married for 17 years. Personally, I think 20-25 year old women are the best range to date. And you're not too old for that range yet. Quite a few of them still have a playful attitude and aren't jaded yet. Plus it's easier to tell if they like you for you. As they get closer to 30, it gets harder to tell if they do or if they're just in baby rabies mode and they're settling for you. As they say, the good ones get taken early too.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 02:53 AM
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That's perfect. The best way to filter women is to get the ones you don't want to filter themself out. Much safer too (false accusation wise).
/r/MensRights16/12/24 02:41 AM
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Yeah, I'd plan the first few cheap/free dates, then pull back and wait to see if she'd plan something. Someone who was going to put effort into the relationship was at the top of my must have list, so I screened for it.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 02:39 AM
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You can do this even when things are going well. Push things forward, then pull back. Wait longer than usual to respond to her, etc. Give her time to miss you.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 02:38 AM
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Yep, absolutely and that's why my next words were, "It would be unfortunate". Very unfortunate indeed.
/r/MensRights16/12/24 02:28 AM
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The other way would be to require evidence. If it's just he said vs she said, it would just get dismissed at the first hearing for lack of evidence. It would be unfortunate that actual rapes would get through, but our justice system is supposed to be built around the premise that it's better to let the guilty go unpunished than to punish the innocent.
/r/MensRights14/12/24 12:25 AM
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From what I remember you are correct that the law for these things is gender neutral. The thing is only the mother can use really use it in practice. The mother is always there for the birth but the father is optional. A father can’t show up at the hospital and take the kid out of the hospital nursery without the mother and take it to the drop off but the mother can do it without the father. In theory they’re supposed to try to find if the father wants the kid before it goes to adoption but they…
/r/MensRights13/12/24 11:19 PM
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A bit of a tangent, the most plausible theory as to why women live longer that I've run into is that in birds, the males live longer and have two ZZ chromosomes where the females have a ZW. The W is smaller like the human Y chromosome. There are quite a few important things on the human X and bird Z, so having two copies is thought to keep them healthier longer. Another paper I read was looking into the theory that fetal stem cells enter the woman's blood during pregnancy and help repair/regener…
/r/MensRights10/12/24 04:52 AM
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True, but I still lost a lot of points on math exams for not showing enough work. Sometimes you could get away with a bunch of fake "work" with the right answer circled at the end and the grader wouldn't notice it didn't match up. This was back (1996) when calculators first were able to do symbolic calculus though and teachers hadn't caught up yet that they should probably just ban those models.
/r/MensRights09/12/24 07:56 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that Thanks! It turned out fine for me though. I'm just glad I recognized why my first relationships failed and was still young enough to change my approach. Been married 17 years now and it's been pretty good. She still respects me, doesn't nag, and is good to me. Can't ask for much more really.
/r/MensRights09/12/24 07:48 PM
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How can we make it safer for men to open up without the fear of judgment or rejection? One of the reasons men don't open up is that it risks triggering the "ick" in any women that witness it or hear about it. Especially for any woman he's in a romantic relationship with, current or future. I really don't know if this behavior by women is instinct/genetic or it's learned somehow by culture & society. (Any grad students out there looking for a research topic want to try to figure out which?) So if…
/r/MensRights09/12/24 12:41 AM
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Most women in 1900 didn't support the feminist/suffrage movement either. It took a lot of campaigning.
/r/MensRights07/12/24 02:53 AM
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I'm not sure when victim gymnastics became an Olympic sport. I don't find that mindset very helpful at all. I try to be grateful for what I have and look for opportunities for things I can realistically have an impact on improving.
/r/MensRights03/12/24 05:08 PM
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Yeast infections don't seem pleasant either. All I got is that I have to wait several minutes when I wake up in the morning before I can pee.
/r/MensRights03/12/24 04:45 PM
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I remember reading that this is only happening at the most selective schools. The less selective ones are seeing an increase in % men enrolled. Presumably because they can’t round up enough women who want to even try.
/r/MensRights23/11/24 07:18 PM
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Just including nursing in stem is enough to close much of the gap.
/r/MensRights23/11/24 07:14 PM
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Yep. I’ve read several of those lists and read interviews of trans men who were talking about the differences they found. The only one I really found that had some possible merit is they said they felt like they were respected a bit more and trusted to be competent with an assigned task more easily than when they were a woman. It seems very likely this could be due to DEI hiring though. If everyone knows the bar is lower for them but we have to pretend it isn’t, I can easily see it showing up by…
/r/MensRights23/11/24 07:11 PM
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For any woman you’re dating, say “no” to a simple request she makes at least once a month. If she goes ballistic or dumps you over it, then you know she’s not LTR material. Better to know sooner rather than later. The hardest part I’ve found in having a healthy relationship with a woman is not letting her take control and probably the most important.
/r/MensRights23/11/24 07:04 PM
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Good point. To get enough data, you'd have to look not just at leaders but things like how legislators voted on things like declarations of war. Poverty seems harder to measure. You can get a temporary boost with welfare programs. Longer term you need to do things like create jobs, training, and then somehow convince them to actually work instead of just being dependent on hand outs.
/r/MensRights16/11/24 09:17 PM
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One of the big things that helped me as a young adult was to stop trying for the women I was most attracted to and instead learned to watch for the women hinting they might be attracted to me. Most I ignored because I had no interest in them, but the ones I did approach always got a phone number and first date easily. I realize I was lucky in that I had enough going for me for this to happen. I feel for the guys that never have any women show any interest at all.
/r/MensRights15/11/24 06:57 PM
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Don’t take our word for it. Read stories and interviews from trans men who had the benefit of knowing what it was like to be a woman to compare with. edit: and transwomen too. Nora Vincent wasn't trans but passed herself off as a man and wrote a book about the experience. I think it was called "Self Made Man" if I remember right.
/r/MensRights14/11/24 11:40 PM
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That's always what feminism was. The word literally means "to take the woman's side" on anything and everything. You have to find an old dictionary because they've managed to convince everyone otherwise and gotten even new dictionaries to say it's about equality instead, but you can still find it.
/r/MensRights14/11/24 07:31 PM
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Exceptionally good looks often seems to ruin people from my observations. My best guess as to why is they get used to the extra attention and grace they get and then expect it and become entitled. The only woman I've know to keep some humility and kindness despite being fairly beautiful (I'd say a solid 8) back in her prime at 25 was one of my cousins. My wife has the humility and kindness, but never was above a 6 in looks even at 25. She was exactly "my type" though, so it worked for me :)
/r/MensRights14/11/24 07:24 PM
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They can be pretty good at acting like they care if she's hoping you'll propose.
/r/MensRights13/11/24 10:57 PM
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Crucified at 33? I'll pass thanks.
/r/MensRights13/11/24 10:55 PM
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At the risk of pouring gas on the fire, some languages don't even have a dedicated word for wife (or husband). To indicate someone is a wife, you'd use the possessive construction: "Bob's woman". Translators know based on context to translate it to English as "Bob's wife".
/r/MensRights13/11/24 10:35 PM
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Looks like the Equal Rights Amendment page does include that it was opposed due to fear of women being drafted in the part below that I bolded. the ERA seemed destined for ratification until Phyllis Schlafly mobilized conservative women in opposition. These women argued that the ERA would disadvantage housewives, cause women to be drafted into the military and to lose protections such as alimony, and eliminate the expectation that mothers obtain custody over their children in divorce cases. edit…
/r/MensRights13/11/24 10:13 PM
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It seems like the argument here is between registration and actually being drafted. 1972 sounds right for the last time anyone was actually drafted in the US. I still got a card in the mail before my 18th birthday back in 1996 for me to register. As far as I know that's pretty much how it happens for every male in the US nearing 18. So the US does still register everyone born male. The Military Selective Service Act as amended is still an active law and has not been repealed like the 1917 Select…
/r/MensRights13/11/24 09:54 PM
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You got me curious to see what I could find. It took some digging to find the original US draft law from 1917 since it's all been repealed, but I did finally find this page has a link to a pdf of the original and the penalty for failing to register or report for duty was up to a year in prison, or court martial if you already in the military. No mention of voting rights. If I find anything else, I'll edit it in.
/r/MensRights13/11/24 09:32 PM
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When feminism was campaigning to try to get women in the US the right to vote, the majority of women objected. One of the major reasons why was that they thought they'd then have to register for the draft too. I forget the details, but somehow the feminist movement was able to convince people to not connect the two and that women could vote without registering. So they did end the [prospect] of the draft -- for women. Take the time to find some sources for this, so you're prepared though.
/r/MensRights12/11/24 10:55 PM
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For the first few dates, keep it light and fun. No heavy subjects. If she brings one up, just playfully dodge it. I had much better success at getting 2nd, 3rd, etc. dates once I started doing that. It's all about how you make her feel, so you want to be doing things that maximize your chances of sparking that chemistry and avoid the things that could ruin it. The women you describe usually make you well aware before you even get to the point of asking for a phone number or date, so you can just…
/r/MensRights11/11/24 06:58 PM
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Good work digging it up.
/r/MensRights09/11/24 12:01 AM
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Sounds like a win to me. Some advice I took as a young man when trying to navigate the dating world was to try to set up ways to weed out all the chaff as fast as possible. Many of them were to get them to weed themselves out for you. As an example, free/cheap dates for the first couple months and the women who see men as an ATM will very likely drop you. Perfect, all according to plan. An another note, remind me again what % of women voted for Trump? Just another case of blaming men, data be da…
/r/MensRights08/11/24 10:13 PM
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Older dictionaries will give the etymology I gave you. They've just gone to a lot of trouble to white wash it and then try to convince everyone it's always been that way.
/r/MensRights08/11/24 10:03 PM
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Not making boys pay child support when he turns 18 to the woman convicted of raping him would be a start.
/r/MensRights08/11/24 09:31 PM
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The origin of the word feminism means "to take a woman's side", on everything apparently. They've gone to a lot of trouble trying to convince people it means equality, but any linguist knows that's a bunch of bologna. "Taking a woman's side" and "equality" are only synonymous if women were truly disadvantaged on every single issue, which has never been the case.
/r/MensRights08/11/24 09:07 PM
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Name a law in the United States of America that lawfully requires men to temporarily lose control of their bodily autonomy. 50 USC §451, which is the Military Selective Service Act.
/r/MensRights08/11/24 09:02 PM
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In the US, the courts have ruled that your gender assigned at birth is the only one that matters for determining if you are required to register or not.
/r/MensRights07/11/24 05:12 PM
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Yep, watch out for people/groups who use any of the SIGNs. Shame, insults, gaslighting, or a Need to be right. It surprised me how much of it there is out there once I started paying better attention and got better at recognizing it.
/r/MensRights07/11/24 04:59 PM
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If it were up to me, I would just make it a standard part of the prenatal visits. I forget when exactly, but it's something around 6 to 8 weeks you can get a paternity test using a cheek swab from the guy and a blood sample from the mother. There's enough fetal cells floating around in the mother's blood to pick them up. It's in the child's interest to know who their biological parents are for sure for medical history risks. Just make it automatic to avoid the whole, "you don't trust me" thing g…
/r/MensRights05/11/24 09:52 PM
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For the same # of years of experience, same job, same work, same responsibilities, no. If there is a difference, it's smaller than the margin of error on the research into it, so less than around +/-2%. The main factors for men earning more than women in the past several decades were them working more hours, not taking up to several years off to have and raise kids or care for an elderly or disabled family member, and weighing earning potential more heavily when choosing a career path. Total ear…
/r/MensRights05/11/24 07:37 PM
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I'm not sure how helpful that will really be. Politicians frequently just say what they think you want to hear instead of maintaining a consistent position based on personal moral convictions. Out of the quotes you cited, I don't see how any of those are helpful. The other side would probably just agree with them and not see any problem or bias.
/r/MensRights04/11/24 08:07 PM
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"Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"
/r/MensRights04/11/24 07:29 PM
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I've been at the same fortune 500 company for 25 years now in the engineering department. Yeah, the company pays lip service to the whole DEI thing, but it's still primarily the best candidate gets the job/promotion, thankfully. Both in my observations and when I've been part of the team doing interviews and making a hiring decision. The main thing that's changed is when I started there was more group hang outs among fellow employees. My department would go downhill skiing a couple times a year …
/r/MensRights04/11/24 07:25 PM
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I mostly stopped caring much when I realized that at the higher levels (governor, federal offices), they mostly just represent the elite and not the working or middle class. Sure, they pretend to, but it's just pandering. I think you still get good people who are running because they care at local levels like school board, but the positions with more power mostly seem to attract people who are attracted to power. I still vote. If one of the candidates seems to be of good character, I'll prioriti…
/r/MensRights04/11/24 07:09 PM
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If you're religious and looking for some counseling, you can try a pastor/rabi/etc. They usually only take 1 class on counseling in seminary so aren't so severely indoctrinated as someone with a counseling related major. You used to be able to look for older male counselors, before all the indoctrination took over in colleges, but they've mostly retired out now. Pastors can be just as bad however. I remember one book on marriage written by a pastor and his wife. He wrote the half for husbands an…
/r/MensRights04/11/24 05:59 PM
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The key to understanding this is to pay attention to how they respond with their actions and not so much on what they say. What they say they want usually has more to do with the flaws they find men they already find attractive. Whereas average guys usually struggle with triggering attraction to begin with. LAMPS is the acronym I remember. To trigger attraction to you need to score above a threshold in at least one of them: Looks, Athleticism, Mastery, Power, or Status. You also need at least so…
/r/MensRights04/11/24 05:32 PM
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"That had nothing to do with my teachings." I'd argue the AI bot is wrong here. After some of his teachings on marriage & divorce, many of the disciples concluded it was better to not marry at all. (Matthew 19:10). Jesus responds and doesn't deny their conclusion. The only reason in the entire New Testament to actually get married is given by Paul if a couple is so tempted to fornicate (oh no!) then he says they should get married first.
/r/MensRights04/11/24 05:13 PM
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I remember someone took a few paragraphs from Mein Kampf, but switching "Jews" to "men" and putting it up on one of the feminist subs. They loved it.
/r/MensRights01/11/24 09:14 PM
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The thirteenth amendment did nothing to revoke the power given to the US Congress in Article 1, section 8 of the Constitution to raise an Army. If you want to get rid of conscription, the best way would be to revoke that with an amendment first.
/r/MensRights01/11/24 08:38 PM
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name of real feminism definition The origin of the word feminism is "to take a woman's side". That can align with their claim of being about gender equality if women were disadvantaged on an issue, but otherwise the mask tends to fall off for anyone willing to use logic as you've found here.
/r/MensRights01/11/24 04:45 PM
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In the bigger picture, it's not new. DNA research has found around 4x as many women have passed down genes to the present generation than men for the last ~100k years. If anything, the anomaly has been the last few thousand where it dipped below this where culture and religion tried to pair people off in monogamy. We're just going back to our biology now that those norms have been shaken off. The bottom ~75% of men where undesirable then and are undesirable now just like the okcupid data that re…
/r/MensRights01/11/24 04:37 PM
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I haven't read it so am not certain, but this sounds like what "The Book of Numbers" by Aaron Clarey covers.
/r/MensRights01/11/24 04:25 PM
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What worked for me was to simply stop visiting the sites where I ran into that stuff.
/r/MensRights31/10/24 05:20 PM
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I don't really understand why so many seem to think Trump is a good option. Lesser of evils type argument I could at least understand.
/r/MensRights31/10/24 05:08 PM
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Yeah, instead of a dystopia they'd think it sounds like a good idea.
/r/MensRights29/10/24 06:56 PM
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I'd say they should read the book 1984 while they're there, but the message would go over their head. Doublethink: The ability to hold two contradictory thoughts simultaneously and believe both of them to be true. For example, the Party's slogan "War is Peace. Freedom is Slavery. Ignorance is Strength" is an example of doublethink.
/r/MensRights29/10/24 06:32 PM
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Yeah, that is annoying. It's also annoying how the pro-choice people act like they speak for all women. Somewhere around 40% of women in the US are on the pro-life side.
/r/MensRights28/10/24 09:48 PM
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Makes sense. I didn't think of that. Best wishes and thank you for your work making this happen for Calgary.
/r/MensRights28/10/24 09:45 PM
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The fist I recognized it was when I was a cashier at a retail store in high school. I realized they frequently asked me to go help maintence with brining in the shopping carts and never any of the female cashiers.
/r/MensRights25/10/24 10:07 PM
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If it were up to me, I'd be trying to figure out a good way to include "children", "kids", or similar in the name of the organization without it getting so long people just refer to it as an acronym. The simple reason would be to try to head off any feminist protests in front of it by making them look bad on the news and in the eye of the public if they did. "Kid's & Men's Shelter" or something like that. Not very catchy or creative, but short and hits the goal while still being descriptive enou…
/r/MensRights25/10/24 09:59 PM
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Did he say anything about how things scale? It seems like the smaller the scale, the better it works. If I'm in medieval Italy and a citizen of the city state of Venice and the next one over comes and lays siege, I probably feel more compulsion to defend where lets say all my relatives are and I grew up, etc. If I live in Oregon today and the British Virgin Islands decides to try to conquer the U.S. Virgin Islands to get rid of all the confusion between the British Virgin Island and U.S. ones, I…
/r/MensRights24/10/24 08:04 PM
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One parallel I can think of you didn't mention is there's a large variance in experience depending on your commanding officer or slave owner. My grandfather served under several U.S. generals in WWII. One was by far the most reckless with his men. The rest for the most part were more methodical and did their best to try to achieve their objectives while minimizing the risks to their men and number of casualties. Sometimes, they were too cautious though, like at Anzio. Being a Soviet conscript on…
/r/MensRights24/10/24 07:30 PM
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she’s in her early 30’s.. she shouldn’t have such a issue yet. she already wanted to bail.. Is she childless but want children? Early thirties women often struggle with being in a rush and wanting to move on quickly. Also, I remember science finding "crush" feelings are really just "newness". They're intense for a teenager because the hormones messing with you are new to you. At 30+ it's probably just not going to happen as intensely ever again. That said, there is a certain knack to sparking so…
/r/MensRights23/10/24 10:11 PM
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When girls enrolled in college less, the solution was scholarships for them, programs to get extra help for things like entrance exams, and retooling curriculum. When boys need help, the solution is to have them retake preschool? Someone make it make sense. It's pretty common in my area already for parents to hold a son back. I realized my son would be bored if we did that, so did not. He's probably one of the youngest boys in his grade but still was skipped ahead 2 grades in math. His coach see…
/r/MensRights23/10/24 09:39 PM
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Title IX is already gender-neutral. You are correct. TitleIXforall.com is an MRA site after all. I looked up the original Title IX law about a year ago expecting to find something very biased. It's actually perfectly fine as written. I had to do more digging in the history to find how things went wrong. It's all in how it's been carried out basically. I forget the details of when and how though. I think the bigger issues came when Obama was president. Usually the context of Title IX being brough…
/r/MensRights23/10/24 09:28 PM
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I go back and forth on whether I think she's genuine or a grifter. Probably a grifter because so many times she seems to take things to the extreme, presumably to try to get attention, more views, for more of whatever she makes off her material. With her conservative upbringing, she probably did at least start with some of those beliefs and then discovered she was getting attention from a certain demographic and then to try to get more views, tried to figure out what would keep getting their att…
/r/MensRights23/10/24 04:22 PM
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The most handsome, fit, and wealthy men don't really need to work on their character or personality much either. In fact, being a bit of an asshole can actually help trigger a woman's hypergamy. I've wondered if some women just copy what they're attracted to instead of paying attention to what men want (the kind of woman he would like to keep around for the rest of his life.) You see this happen a lot with women getting a phd thinking that makes them more attractive to men, when most don't reall…
/r/MensRights23/10/24 03:57 PM
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She just has to make sure to pick a guy that makes significantly more than she does, and she's pretty safe from that situation. But yes, you are right that it does happen. I remember a story where a woman was going to abort but the guy convinced her to carry it to term and he'd take full custody. Once the kid was born and all the legal paperwork was finalized for her surrendering all parental rights, he filed for child support and got it. She was pretty mad to say the least.
/r/MensRights23/10/24 03:09 PM
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It's actually a good test to say "no" to a simple request a woman you're dating makes of you at least once a month. If she goes apeshit, that's a woman that's going to drive you crazy if you dare get into a LTR with her. If she accepts your "no", then she has enough respect for you that there's a possibility of things working. I've done this with my wife since the first month we were dating.
/r/MensRights22/10/24 05:51 PM
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"I am the table!"
/r/MensRights22/10/24 05:47 PM
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However, modern social media feminism It's nothing new. A majority of women opposed the 1st wave movement to get the right to vote in the US. One of their bigger reasons was that voting was tied to registering for the draft. So rather than equality (both get to vote and both get to register) we ended up with with only one gender getting the privledge+responsibility while the other only got the privledge. In divorce, the default was the husband got full custody because he had 100% financial respo…
/r/MensRights22/10/24 05:45 PM
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It's not unusual. Women face a dilemma that they feel attraction to men who take the lead, are decisive, and assertive, but yet they feel a compulsion to challenge him in those areas. The irony is if she succeeds in taking over and "wearing the pants" in the relationship, she also usually loses any attraction she feels as well. This was pretty common knowledge before the feminist movement started trying to convince everyone otherwise. So there are two possibilities I see with these girlfriends/w…
/r/MensRights22/10/24 05:19 PM
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I've done some reading on various historical rites of passage. The main thing they seemed to have it common was it marked a transition from a boy hanging around women and other children and instead joining the men and older boys. A task often was involved, and varied considerably. The goal seemed to be to give the boy some confidence in being able to complete it. As well as earn some respect. All the aspects I've talked about above, I believe are good things about rites of passage for boys. One …
/r/MensRights21/10/24 06:44 PM
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Something I didn't realize for a long time until I heard it and mulled it over slowly realizing it was true is that for guys, the bar to sleep with a woman is often lower than the bar to marry one. For women, it's often reversed. Her bar to marry a guy is often lower than her bar to having enthusiastic sex with one. A lot of guys don't find out they've been deceived until she's done having kids. The swipe data that found that women rate 80% of men as below average in looks is a data set that sup…
/r/MensRights21/10/24 05:29 PM
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I used to wonder why more women didn't just go to a sperm bank. At first, I thought it was just the cost, but then I realized you normally don't get child support from a sperm bank donor.
/r/MensRights21/10/24 05:18 PM
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Us guys on this sub know this, but I have to wonder how aware guys entering college are. I graduated college 24 years ago though. Maybe a recent grad can comment who has a feel for this?
/r/MensRights18/10/24 04:35 PM
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Thanks for sharing, this was an interesting read. I wonder though how many young men go through adolescence and their college years not yet really understanding what women find attractive in men. Quite a few get confused about how it works by the feminist messaging telling them to essentially be more effeminate. Status is a big part of it, but there are other ways too - just being the most charming man a woman has ever met can potentially do the trick for example. Also, a lot of college (or trad…
/r/MensRights18/10/24 04:30 PM
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Yeah, basketball totally makes sense. :)
/r/MensRights17/10/24 03:06 PM
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Yep, they teach this principal every time you board a flight: If the plane experiences loss of cabin pressure, oxygen masks will automatically deploy. Put your mask on first before assisting others.
/r/MensRights16/10/24 08:48 PM
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Yeah, unconscious people give consent to medical assistance by default. Can't really do it any other way.
/r/MensRights16/10/24 08:44 PM
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Basketball? I play pick up ultimate frisbee occasionally, and playing 1:1 coverage guarding a woman hasn't really been any more of an issue for me compared to guarding a man with similar cardio, top speed, and cutting skill. There are some occasionally accidenty bumps but it's generally pretty low contact and hands off.
/r/MensRights16/10/24 08:35 PM
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In my U.S. state, we do have a "duty to render aid". It doesn't need to be anything more than calling 911 if you have your phone, or going to try to find help or find a phone if you don't though.
/r/MensRights16/10/24 08:27 PM
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It doesn't necessarily have to be the woman having the medical emergency suing/accusing - it could be a bystander.
/r/MensRights16/10/24 08:26 PM
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The bear might come help her for some fruit.
/r/MensRights16/10/24 08:21 PM
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If a woman has a medical emergency, well, she'd better hope other women are around to help her. I was a little surprised when I looked up my U.S. state that there is a duty to render aid here. It doesn't need to anything more than calling 911 though, or going to try to find help.
/r/MensRights16/10/24 08:15 PM
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All the women who talk like you describe, I just mentally crossed off my list of options. My dating years were ~20 years ago and even though most didn't get through that basic filter. I can only imagine it's worse now. What's wrong with a "pick-me"? My dating life turned around when I stopped going after the women I found most attractive such as having a crush and instead learned to pay attention for the subtle hints they like to drop and started asking them out - the "pick-mes". It was much eas…
/r/MensRights11/10/24 10:09 PM
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You're on the right path. The guys that have the most options and opportunities are the ones who focus on learning how to trigger the right feelings in women. They call it "chemistry" frequently. If you can do that, you can live in van down by the river and still get plenty of interest. No career or house with picket fence required. There's an old saying, "If you're in the mafia, wait to tell her until she falls in love with you. At that point, it won't matter." Now women who have enough going f…
/r/MensRights11/10/24 09:54 PM
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Yeah, I went through similar situations a few times and just kept ignoring them while being polite and cordial still. Some would keep trying for quite a while, but they all simply gave up eventually. That was all 20-30 years ago though. In this day and age it seems prudent to try to take some precautions against a potential false accusation. It might be as simple as just making a diary of every interaction with her.
/r/MensRights11/10/24 09:32 PM
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Yes, it's a bit silly in my mind to try to split everything. One thing though is there are very few people that actually like cleaning. Research into it found that it's more that things being dirty, messy, or in disarray disturbs the person and they feel compelled to fix it and then feel a bit of relief when it's fixed. So if we take turns mowing the lawn, but the height of the grass starts to bother me at 3" but my wife at 2", then she's going to be in a state of mild stress from it waiting for…
/r/MensRights07/10/24 04:00 PM
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She should try dressing herself as a man and trying to pass as one to find out what it's like. Nora Vincent and trans men usually find it's nothing like they expected.
/r/MensRights05/10/24 07:07 PM
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Reminds me of how in the US, women used to be charged more for annuity (pay a lump sum in return for monthly payments the rest of your life) than a man at the same age and in good health because they tend to live longer.
/r/MensRights05/10/24 07:06 PM
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women are completely exempt from it They're only currently exempt from registering. There's nothing really prohibiting them from potentially being drafted other than the political suicide it would be for any congressman to sponsor such a bill or vote for it. Congress almost did draft women in 1945 due to a shortage of nurses for the European theatre. One thing that's interesting too is that the Military Selective Service Act doesn't really address how to handle transgender people. It's being int…
/r/MensRights04/10/24 10:02 PM
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Yeah, my groups had strict rules against interrupting. You could ask to have the floor until you were done.
/r/MensRights04/10/24 04:39 PM
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How would you define the terms "conscription" and "a draft"? Just trying to understand where you're coming from. Sure, if the Governer of Nevada on his own accord sent letters to a couple thousand Nevada residents that they were now enrolled in the U.S. Army and to report to Fort ____ within 30 days, that would have to be illegal somehow I would imagine. Technically the U.S. President couldn't either without a draft bill passing Congress. So, yes, you are technically correct. Currently drafting …
/r/MensRights04/10/24 02:36 AM
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nature's selective breeding made it that most men are physically stronger than the average women I used to assume this too, but I remember reading genetic research that found the precursors to homo sapiens that the strength was more even and for some reason it was mainly due to the females getting weaker and not so much that the males were getting stronger. They were trying to figure out why or what triggered it, but hadn't been able to find anything yet. Their speculation was that the most comm…
/r/MensRights03/10/24 06:11 PM
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It’s been over 50 years since the US could legally draft anyone Right or wrong, in 1918 the Supreme Court ruled it's right in the Constitution itself. Specifically, the power granted to Congress to "raise and support an army" included the power to use conscription to accomplish it. So conscription has been legal since at least 1918. Any draft bill on top of that is just making use of that power and dealing with the practicalities of using it, like registering and how many were to be drafted. If …
/r/MensRights03/10/24 06:03 PM
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In 1945, the US was facing a critical shortage of nurses for the European theatre. There were several effort to raise more volunteers but none were successful. There was a bill to draft nurses, most of whom would presumably be women, and passed through one house (can't remember if it was the senate or house of representatives). While it is going through the other though the European war was over though and made it unnecessary. Most consider defeating Hitler one of the most worthy causes of any w…
/r/MensRights03/10/24 05:52 PM
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I've been in a couple all-men's therapy groups. They were good and helpful for what I was going through at the time. Everyone got a chance to spill without being interrupted, judged, or people jumping in trying to fix things.
/r/MensRights02/10/24 06:44 PM
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I dug a little and this article discusses some court cases where this has been brought up and the results if anyone is interested. https://aaml.org/wp-content/uploads/MAT204-3.pdf
/r/MensRights29/09/24 10:05 PM
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Yeah, I didn't find much when I looked a couple years ago. I searched a little more and California looks the most promising for a single guy. It's not going to be cheap though.
/r/MensRights28/09/24 08:28 PM
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Not really their fault since it's usually the parent's naming kids, but women can get away with having a traditionally man's name, but not really the other way around. Some that used to be unisex or boy's names that are almost entirly girls names now: Addison, Allison, Ashley, Aubrey, Billie, Blair, Blakely, Brook, Cassidy, Charley, Dana, Hadley, Harper, Hilary, Kelly, Kelsey, Kennedy, Kim, Kinley, Lauren, Lesley, Lindsay, Madison, Mckenzie, Meredith, Mogan, Payton, Presley, Quinn, Reagan, Reese…
/r/MensRights28/09/24 07:31 PM
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It's at least a little harder if you're the only legal guardian. Well at least, one would hope...
/r/MensRights28/09/24 07:14 PM
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I found a couple places that a single man might be able to have a leggaly enforceable gestational surrogacy. California seemed the most promising after a hour with google. Some other US states might also be an option. After that, Mexico allows it, but I wouldn't trust it there with their government corruption.
/r/MensRights27/09/24 10:19 PM
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It doesn't necessarily have to be quickly. It just means relationships with sexual partners never overlap. You end it with one before starting the next. It seems to be the most commonly held view in our culture today from what I've observed.
/r/MensRights27/09/24 10:17 PM
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Try using google I did a couple years ago and all the places I checked didn't allow single men to use it or the contracts were unenforceable. I didn't check everywhere, which is why I asked if I missed some good options. I ended up looking some more and here's what I found. There are only 11 countries that allow international surrogacy, so just that narrows it down a lot for anyone where their own country bans it. Canada - Surrogates may not be paid. So if you have a sister or a good friend that…
/r/MensRights27/09/24 09:55 PM
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There really is a conflict of interest with a private company making a dating app. If users get into a LTR, they unsubscribe. It's better for them to keep a drip going. Some governments have been throwing a lot of $ at their falling birthrates and it makes sense for me to try putting some of that toward their own dating app which can then focus on trying to make quality matches over quantity.
/r/MensRights27/09/24 03:48 PM
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Do they want monogamy again? Do you mean the old definition (only one sexual partner for life) or serial monogamy (a maximum of one partner at a time)?
/r/MensRights27/09/24 03:37 PM
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If you want biological kids. I'm not aware of any place in the world that lets a single man use a surrogate. A gay couple can in a few places. Single men can only adopt.
/r/MensRights27/09/24 03:33 PM
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In most jursidictions in the world, surrogacy is illegal entirely. The reasoning seems to be that its viewed as being predatory on the surrogate. Every place I've checked where it is legal, it's only allowed for couples where they have fertility issues or can't (such a gay couple). I'm not aware of any that let a single man use a surrogate, but could be missing somewhere. If so, please share.
/r/MensRights27/09/24 03:30 PM
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It's a marriage strike, not a work strike.
/r/MensRights26/09/24 11:58 PM
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"Secondly, it must be clearly understood that the strike is against false marriage, with the desired end being real marriage." Three US states have some version of a stronger version of marriage, mostly taking away no-fault divorce as an option, but yet very few couples (around 1%) have married under it instead of the usual no-fault version of marriage.
/r/MensRights26/09/24 11:58 PM
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I don't know what it's like in the UK, but in the US the biggest issue with rehabilitation seems to be that it is really hard to get a job with a felony on your record. Every place does a background check and will find it. Theoretically, they can only skip you if it's somehow related to the position. For example, if you were convicted of embezzling funds as an accountant, they can reject hiring you as an accountant or related position.
/r/MensRights24/09/24 07:14 PM
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I was mostly just trying to add on to the list. I'm sure you're right that discouraging birth control is part of it. US birth rates among protestants is a bit higher than Catholics even though protestants generally support more forms of birth control. Hard to say though, since most Catholics use birth control anyway even though officially the only option is charting, or whatever it's called. I think it has mostly to do with their culture of valuing families. When families are valued over doing y…
/r/MensRights24/09/24 06:58 PM
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It's only fair. Feminism has been working hard to free women from their gender norms and let each woman decide for herself she wants to do with her life. If they get to, so should men.
/r/MensRights24/09/24 06:38 PM
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Prison isn't for the benefit of the prisoners. It's for the benefit and protection of the rest of society. edit: After thinking about it a bit more, having a justice system of some kind does benefit the criminals in one aspect. Without one, what often ends up happening historically is an angry mob forms up, corners the accused, and executes them. If people feel like the justice system isn't offering some kind of sense of justice having been done, you risk that happening again.
/r/MensRights24/09/24 06:30 PM
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A lot of modern feminism seems to revolve around a permanent victim mindset. I don't see how that's helpful. The US declaration of Independence holds up that people should have the freedom to pursue happiness, whatever that is for each person, not that the entire world needs to bend over backwards to hand it to you. Abraham Maslow wrote in 1966, "it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail." It seems like that's where feminism is at today.
/r/MensRights24/09/24 06:26 PM
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But a girl who is not good looking will just get ignored. Ironically, on online dating platforms, the bottom 20% of women get as many messages as the top 20% of guys.
/r/MensRights24/09/24 06:08 PM
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Mormons in the US have always had higher birth rates than the national average too. The Amish are even higher.
/r/MensRights24/09/24 06:01 PM
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You can see this dip in the charts in the article I linked. The ratio averaged around 4:1 for women to men reproducing over the last 50k years, but spiked to around 17:1 around 8000 years ago.
/r/MensRights23/09/24 08:12 PM
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The number's I've run into are a bit different, but support that many more women have reproduced than men. Here is one article on the research. https://psmag.com/environment/17-to-1-reproductive-success/ It found the ratio of women to men who have passed down genes to the present has been roughly 4:1 over the last 50k years.
/r/MensRights23/09/24 08:11 PM
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More paternity leave would be great start. I hope that someday, instead of the choice being between daycare and one parent putting their career on pause to stay home with the kids, I wish there was a practical way for both parents to shift to half time, working every other business day, for several years.
/r/MensRights23/09/24 05:58 PM
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Ok cool, thanks for correcting me. I forgot about some of the coastal attacks on the 48 by Japan. I know u-boats were sinking stuff pretty close to the east coast too.
/r/MensRights21/09/24 07:03 PM
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It's the second half of Gen 3:16. It gets translated in two different ways depending on which defition the translater thinks the verb is using. And there's been endless argument over which definition the verb is using, but the double meaning seems intentional. That she will both desire (be attracted/chemistry) [a man who leads] which most translations use but also want to try to dominate him. Now that I look at it again, the part I said about her losing attraction isn't here, but just the dichot…
/r/MensRights21/09/24 07:00 PM
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It kind of depends on where you draw the line and what counts and what doesn't. Hawaii was attacked in 1942 1941, but wasn't a state then. The Philippines and Guam were held by the US and Japan invaded them both in Dec 1941. I remember they took a couple islands in Alaska too, but that wasn't a state. Embassies are considered sovereign territory, and the US has had several of them attacked over the years, fairly recently even. If you want to only count areas that were states at the time, it prob…
/r/MensRights21/09/24 06:52 PM
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Do any of them realize that this results in less desirable men in the dating pool? I have run into a couple of female authors that recognized this and actually wrote about things a woman could do that would actually help her feel more attracted to a man, but it was very counter to the feminist narrative. An example I remember was she could ask her husband to make a decision on something significant after offering her input and then supporting him with it and not arguing or questioning after that…
/r/MensRights21/09/24 06:38 PM
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That case is back from after the civil rights movement and the efforts to end segregation. A company that was trying to better reflect the black/white mix of the workforce the area was trying to end its segregation practice of hiring almost entirely white people. Affirmative action wasn't the way to fix things. It was kind of taking the easy path rather than try to fix the underlying reasons.
/r/MensRights20/09/24 10:20 PM
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we haven't been attacked since 1942 The US sent an awful lot of troops to the Middle East after Sept 11th, 2001.
/r/MensRights20/09/24 09:58 PM
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So Russia should go to nuclear war because Ukraine's army is invading Russian territory? I think this is the first time a nuclear power has been invaded by another army. (Except for maybe Israel?) Obviously Ukraine didn't start it though and it seems clear it's more a bargaining chip to get back their occupied land than to actually try to keep it.
/r/MensRights20/09/24 09:54 PM
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The US did come close to drafting nurses in 1945 due to a critical shortage of them. Germany surrendered a couple weeks later while the bill was still going through the Senate and became moot at that point. Interestingly, it did pass the House, with 98% of Democrats and 79% of Republicans supporting it.
/r/MensRights20/09/24 09:50 PM
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You must not be paying attention to the Ukraine/Russian war. Boots on the ground are still very important and both sides are trying to raise more troops.
/r/MensRights20/09/24 05:38 PM
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You'll have to get this Supreme Court ruling overturned first. In 1918, the Supreme Court ruled in Arver v. United States that the 13th Amendment does not apply to the military draft. The court's decision upheld the Selective Service Act of 1917 and the constitutionality of conscription in the United States.
/r/MensRights20/09/24 05:36 PM
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Ironically, they seem to crap on their yes-men more than guys with a spine.
/r/MensRights20/09/24 05:20 PM
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Dating advice for men written by women often completely misses the boat. The main issue seems to be the author is picturing men she was attracted to begin with and thinking about his "flaws" or things she thought she didn't like about him. Ironically, if he actually did everything she asked for and became that kind of man, odds are very high she would no longer be attracted to him. It seems like something similar is going on here. Boys/men who try to completely follow the feminist version of "he…
/r/MensRights20/09/24 05:17 PM
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I remember there being stories when US units were being deployed, a trend emerged of some women getting pregnant to not have to go. I've also heard it wasn't true though. But if it is true, then you either get a soldier or a child, just not sure which until it's time to go.
/r/MensRights18/09/24 09:42 PM
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Using the US as an example, abolishing the current draft system wouldn't really do much good because congress and the president would most likely just pass a new one if a major war broke out and they couldn't recruit enough volunteers. Plus the constitution gives congress the authority to raise an army anyway, which courts have ruled means drafting. So you need a constitutional amendment to take that away, which aren't easy to pass. On the plus side, it'd also make it much more difficult to rein…
/r/MensRights18/09/24 09:39 PM
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Hati seems pretty close these days. I really don't understand thinking moving there would be a good idea.
/r/MensRights18/09/24 09:34 PM
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Honest question: Historically, was this expectation placed on the eldest son at least a bit balanced by him inheriting the vast majority from his parents (and them actually building up an estate instead of blowing it)? Did the benefits disappear over time while still trying to impose the responsibilities?
/r/MensRights17/09/24 05:25 PM
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It's built for the rich elite who are mostly men. I think it was Bill Burr who had a bit talking about this where he closed with, "Bitch, you were right there in the hot tub with me."
/r/MensRights17/09/24 06:05 AM
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I looked up my jurisdiction a couple months ago and was surprised to find there is a duty to assist here. It made it clear though that it could just be calling an ambulance or going to try to find help if you have no phone and not actually trying to perform cpr or other medical intervention though. For a layman, it's pretty hard to succeed in suing for damages here. For someone with actual CPR training like a first responder, then there can be.
/r/MensRights17/09/24 06:01 AM
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My son got into watching some TV show where people had the idea of buying land and being off-grid and as self-sufficient as possible. Most episodes I found rather humorous because they all found it much harder than they expected to do all the farming and everything else it takes to support a human. So it's theoretically an alternative. Here's one family that did it for 42 years; https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lykov_family It doesn't sound very pleasant though. I'd rather see if the Amish or Menno…
/r/MensRights16/09/24 07:48 PM
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I vaguely remember someone who was trying to figure out how model the environmental impact of everything. It quickly became way too complicated trying to lay out a supply chain, then the supply chains for those, then what supplies them, etc. In the end, they found just going by how much something cost actually had a reasonable correlation. Not a great correlation, but it was a surprisingly simple way to estimate a ballpark and had the side benefit of being very simple. So if you care, just buy l…
/r/MensRights16/09/24 07:35 PM
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I read an article about what male actors often go through when the character is supposed to be ripped. They have to plan ahead for when there's going to be a shirtless day of filming and dehydrate themselves for a few days ahead of time. They have to have a doctor constantly checking on them to make sure they don't die.
/r/MensRights16/09/24 06:54 PM
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Yeah, I got into trying to trace my ancestors as far back as I could until I learned about 2% to 10% of people have the incorrect father listed on a birth certificate. At that point, I lost all interest.
/r/MensRights16/09/24 06:40 PM
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I always figured it was the best translation for a Japanese term that has some kind of connotations I'm not aware of.
/r/MensRights09/09/24 05:24 PM
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My two kids are 16 and 14 now. Over the years, there have been times when it's just been me and the kids for a week or two. I really enjoyed taking care of all the "homemaker" stuff. I would never choose to do it long term though, because I believe the risk is too high. Stats show divorce rates are higher, marriage satisfaction is lower, etc. when the guy is the one who is the homemaker. I'm not sure why exactly. My best guess is that women have a hard time respecting a stay-at-home dad. I know …
/r/MensRights09/09/24 04:39 PM
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Best dating advice I ever got was to say no to one of her requests at least once a month throughout dating and on into marriage/LTR. I didn't really understand it at the time, but the rest of the guys advice was solid and was working, so I followed this too. A lot of his advice was designed to get the woman to break up with you if she was a poor prospect, so I figured it was another thing like that. For your brother, it just might have saved him a lot of heartache :/
/r/MensRights05/09/24 10:01 PM
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The "deal" society used to make to young men was something like: work hard and you can get paired off with a young woman and have regular access to the bedroom and probably have a family too. Religion and culture were used to try to restrict sex to marriage as much as possible. This reinforced things and further harnessed young men's libido. The rules have changed but everyone is still trying to figure out how to adapt. Most of the so called "men in crisis" is just men trying to figure out how t…
/r/MensRights05/09/24 04:15 PM
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In the US, it varies greatly by race. African Americans have the highest % of kids being raised by a single mother. I tried to look it up, but sources varied between 70% and 45%. I also thought it was rising, but the one I found that charted it looks like it's leveled off.
/r/MensRights05/09/24 03:53 PM
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validation, fulfillment and purpose Yep, even a good woman can't give that to you anyway (been happily married 17 years). Is it just nativity that young men have? Some kind of fairytale we tell our boys? I guess somehow I lucked out on learning not to try to get that from a woman early on.
/r/MensRights05/09/24 03:43 PM
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It goes back farther. The Anita Hill v Clarence Thomas case in 1991 was when it became a bad idea to try to approach co-workers. Metoo just expanded it to approaching anywhere in real life. All that's really left are dating sites where consent to being hit on is implied but we all know what a cesspool those are.
/r/MensRights05/09/24 03:30 PM
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The issue is the audience. It would make more sense (to me) if a program like this was targeted toward engineers 10+ years into their careers looking into possibly transitioning into management. getting into a leadership is all about slapping on the confidence to someone powerful who doesn't know what you're talking about. If that's what it's like at your company, I guess it is what it is. You definetly need a layer of the BS, but it's something you have to add on top of solid engineering fundam…
/r/MensRights05/09/24 03:21 PM
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It used to be that women were charged more for an annuity versus a man of the same age and health. It factually made sense because the life expectancy was noticeably longer for the woman. But feminist groups complained enough and got it changed. I forget if lawsuits were involved, but anyway. That happened in the US back in the 70s. So if you want to talk about undoing that, we can. Otherwise, I find it hypocritical since they're similar imho.
/r/MensRights04/09/24 10:15 PM
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I'm 24 years into my career as an engineer. There’s plenty of talent This just isn't the case. I went to the top public university for my major in the region. Out of about 400 freshman sharing my major, I graduated with about 40. Being generous, you could double that to 80 since people tend to only start in the Fall but graduate fairly evenly between Fall and Spring semesters. Anyway you slice it, that's a high drop out rate. I had lots of friends that just couldn't get through one or more of th…
/r/MensRights04/09/24 09:50 PM
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This cannot end well. Reminds me of the villages that had their female population devastated because to get revenge for my neighbor accusing my wife of being a witch and her being killed as a punishment, I'd accuse his.
/r/MensRights28/08/24 06:49 PM
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I'm a bit rusty on my history, but I remember there being a very vocal and prominant feminist back in the 60s or 70s arguing the destruction of the nuclear family was the only way to free women from their "oppressed" role of being a wife and mother. So the push has been around a long time actually. She seemed scant on details on how kids were supposed to be raised - some kind of communal parenting co-op with heavy government involvement from what I remember.
/r/MensRights28/08/24 03:39 PM
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Or the flip side. I remember someone took a few paragraphs from Mein Kampf and switched "jews" to "men" and posted it on some women's forums. It got thunderous applause.
/r/MensRights26/08/24 07:05 PM
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If you want to bit by mosquitos (for some crazy reason), why would you put on insect repellant?
/r/MensRights26/08/24 06:49 PM
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If you kick a dog enough times, it will either run away or start biting you.
/r/MensRights26/08/24 06:39 PM
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Yeah most men want to be respected. It's possible for a wife to still respect her husband if she greatly outearns him, but it seems like many have a tough time in that situation. So it ends up being a risk best to be avoided.
/r/MensRights26/08/24 06:24 PM
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Ok I ate my cake. But I want to have it too. What should I do?
/r/MensRights26/08/24 06:20 PM
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Reminds me of a similar one where it correlated higher divorce rates to relationships where the wife earned more than 1.5 times as much as her husband.
/r/MensRights26/08/24 06:18 PM
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Probably a similar reason people buy lottery tickets -- thinking they'll be one of the lucky ones.
/r/MensRights23/08/24 09:09 PM
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I do have one question. If I join, thats mean I'll be forgiven, right? Don't be silly -- of course not. You're thinking of the other kind of church.
/r/MensRights20/08/24 03:29 PM
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I usually say something like this: Yes, there is an earnings gap when you total up all wages earned by men vs women. When comparing an individual man with a woman with the same job position, years of experience, etc., then there is no discernable wage gap though. The earnings gap is almost entirely due to women's choices such as working fewer hours, choosing easier fields, and taking time off to raise children. I've never really had anyone have much of a response to that. If there's time I somet…
/r/MensRights16/08/24 06:38 PM
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Yeah, I wonder which countries #1 is for. It's not the US for sure, which is fine, it's good to know how things work in other countries too. Straight from the us gov website it says it's a felony punishable by up to $250,000 fine and/or 5 years in prison if you don't meet an exemption criteria. Source A felony on your record does make a lot of things much more difficult such as getting a job. The most common way to be a citizen is to just be born here, they don't take that away somehow.
/r/MensRights14/08/24 03:17 PM
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It used to be that tubals had more risks than a vasectomy unless it was done immediately following a c-section and additional risks at that point were minimal. I know they keep getting better at minimally invasive surgery, so may no longer be the case anymore?
/r/MensRights12/08/24 08:36 PM
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Try googling your jurisdiction. Usually places like bathrooms, locker rooms, changing rooms (like clothing stores sometimes have to try things on, or beaches that have stalls to change in), and hotel rooms have laws making photography/video illegal. Often locker rooms by me have signs up that photography/video is prohibited along with the law citation.
/r/MensRights12/08/24 08:25 PM
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I always figured the fairest way was to try to balance how much free time my wife and I get. I work more hours, but she does more housework and errands, so our free time comes out to be close to the same.
/r/MensRights01/08/24 04:33 PM
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Yeah, I wanted kids and wanted to raise them well. Kids do best in a stable home with both parents. Married couples tend to be more stable than unmarried ones. So I did it. Been married 17 years now. It's worked out pretty well for me. I'm trying to think of any dreams I've had to give up. If I was childless and single, I'd probably play more video games and work out more and retire sooner. That's more of me just trying to balance my time to fit in a wife and kids though than her demanding me do…
/r/MensRights01/08/24 04:31 PM
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The advice I got on how to handle it is to say "no" to a simple request she makes at least once a month all the way back to when you first start dating. If she raises a fuss over it, you know you need to get out. If she respects you, then things can keep going. I didn't really get it at the time since I was such a simp back then, but I did it and it helped get things off on the right foot and hopefully weeded out the women who would likely be a problem.
/r/MensRights01/08/24 04:26 PM
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The reality is that the "Unknown" category dwarfs the proven true and proven false categories. Too often that unknown bucket gets conveniently ignored and tries to get you to assume its part of one of the other two buckets.
/r/MensRights31/07/24 07:07 PM
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Watch a few episodes of "What would you do?" with John Quiñones and you'll have even more examples of situations where gender makes a huge difference in how people typically react.
/r/MensRights30/07/24 08:29 PM
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"Please pay for our first date and don't play games trying to split the check." "Sorry, I can't because that would be misogyny." "Hello my sweetie BF. My car got a flat tire. Please come put the spare on for me." "Sorry, I can't. That's misogyny." Where this thinking leads ends up being very bizarre.
/r/MensRights30/07/24 02:38 PM
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For any students of history, collective punishment wasn't unusual. Like if someone convicted a heinous crime, capital punishment wasn't enough. They'd kill your wife and kids too for example. Or execute the entire village. Eventually we (mostly) realized that wasn't very fair to the people who had no part in it - like the 2 year old kid. So we barred collective punishment. You can see it codified in places like article 33 of the Geneva conventions (violation is a war crime). Article 33: Individu…
/r/MensRights29/07/24 04:15 PM
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Another big issue is that it's legal for women to lie to their BF or hookup that they're on birth control or even dig a condom out of the trash.
/r/MensRights26/07/24 05:18 PM
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They have to try something I guess because when you're ~51% of the population, you're not actually a minority.
/r/MensRights26/07/24 05:14 PM
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Maybe for the 3-6 days around ovulation it could be higher. Averaged over the month and it sure seems like that average is lower though.
/r/MensRights26/07/24 02:59 PM
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It's generally the man that is doing the initiating every step of the way. From trying to plan when the best time will be to make a move, get a read on her, set the mood, flirt, escalate, how to get her alone, etc. For women, it generally feels to them like it "just happens" (because the guy is doing all the setup) and all they have to do is go along with it. There can be a lot of reasons that process breaks down. Maybe she no longer is receptive, the guy tries harder, but it doesn't work or it …
/r/MensRights26/07/24 02:55 PM
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had been more inclusive and had supported a politically broader range of struggles, no one would have derided them Press X to doubt. I've seen too many examples of posts in the general broader audience subs getting lambasted for something like "we should support women and men on x" and get blasted with things like "why do men need help? We need to focus on women since they have it worse". There are subs that are mostly for men, but they tow the company line and they don't get much flack at all. …
/r/MensRights26/07/24 02:33 PM
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It's also not hard to modify slightly. I'm average height, started balding in high school, and never got more than about a 4/10 on those sites where you could post a photo for feedback. So, I just learned to talk to women in my social circles and most importantly learn to pay attention to indications they were interested in me. Sometimes I got it wrong, but got better and better on picking up on it. I know I was lucky and not every guy will get some interest, but that helped me a bunch rather th…
/r/MensRights25/07/24 06:54 PM
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Research I found and read said the dynamic of the wife earning significantly more only really works out in the long term if it's temporary. For example, the guy quits his current job to go to grad school full time for a couple years and then getting a much better paying job that significantly closes the income gap.
/r/MensRights25/07/24 06:31 PM
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Yeah, hard to tell from the article, but it sounds quite possible both these women are insufferable with little humility.
/r/MensRights25/07/24 06:27 PM
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Oh yeah, I had a couple women in college try really hard to get my attention so experienced it first hand. I think what I was trying to get it is whatever the mix is of being proactive vs sitting back and hoping something falls into their lap, it seems to have shifted from being mostly the former a hundred years ago to more of the latter today.
/r/MensRights24/07/24 11:10 PM
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Yeah I got a wake up call in one of my first part-time jobs stocking shelves. Our truck came in on Fridays and I was on duty by myself for my department when it did. I buckled down and got most of our stuff out on the shelves. When the two full time workers for my department found out, they got mad at me because it'd now be too hard for them to look busy the rest of the week. Plus when I realized everyone got the same token raises every year (both the slackers and people who worked hard).
/r/MensRights24/07/24 09:11 PM
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Thanks. That makes sense. I guess I mistook what he was trying to say. Even Picard (who OP put in the non-womanizing bucket) had had a few romantic interests over the seasons.
/r/MensRights24/07/24 09:05 PM
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Yeah, the "wine and dine" thing was a little more reasonable when it took guys probably at most 5 different first dates before one picked him and he could then decide whether to go with her or not. It is interesting to read about older practices like women going to a lot of effort to try to get noticed by their target guy. Or how parents would invite a guy over for family dinner, hoping he'd hit it off with their daughter. Dating where two strangers go out on some activity just the two of them i…
/r/MensRights24/07/24 07:44 PM
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Kinda hard for me to birth a child.
/r/MensRights24/07/24 07:33 PM
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Something similar is that in the U.S., companies used to charge women more (versus a man at the same age, and same risk factors such as being a smoker) if they wanted to buy an annuity. (An annuity is where you give a company a lump sum of money in exchange for monthly payments for the rest of your life). This was due to their longer life expectancy and mathematically, it was perfectly fair. I forget when this got challenged and changed ('70s I think) to being the same.
/r/MensRights24/07/24 07:26 PM
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Why are you singling out "womanizing"? And implying it's a completely bad thing? Watching characters like that and emulating the good parts (charisma, banter, using humor to deflect) and skipping the bad parts (like cheating) was one way I learned how to actually start getting 2nd dates. For me it was mostly Carry Grant movies where he was the male romantic lead actor. (I'm an old fart and most of you probably won't even recognize the name since most of those films were black and white). He had …
/r/MensRights24/07/24 07:13 PM
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I'm a bit rusty so I looked them up. I found sloth includes a desire to try to avoid all responsibility. Hmm that sounds a bit familiar. Wrath includes uncontrolled hatred. Seems like that would include misandry. Envy. Hmm some theorize a lot of feminist's complaints stem from envy over the mythical privileges the patriarchy grants men.
/r/MensRights20/07/24 03:00 AM
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People get charged and convicted of a double murder for killing a pregnant woman in some places. Just pointing out another double standard is all.
/r/MensRights20/07/24 02:42 AM
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The stories I've read about the experiences of transmen is that once they start passing and move to new social circles, where everyone has only known them as men, is that they get treated the same as the bottom 80% of men do. The complaints they have about how they're treated are the exact same things most guys deal with. The difference tends to be people have their kid gloves on if they think you're trans, whereas treating men like crap is perfectly fine. So surprise surprise, when you pass as …
/r/MensRights19/07/24 04:42 PM
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Yeah, that's a poorly worded question. If a feminist organization pushed for a privledge for women only and got it passed through a legislature, but a court rightly struck it down, that is a form of being resisted by necessary (and authorized) force.
/r/MensRights19/07/24 02:24 PM
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I have tried wrapping my head around being so paranoid about it. I experienced mild SA twice in college from 2 different women. I didn't really think that much of it at the time since it was a long time ago and the definition of SA back then probably didn't include what I experienced, but definitely would count by today's definition. My paranoia has slowly raised over the years as I hear more and more stories from other guys. Especially things like when a teacher is convicted of raping a male st…
/r/MensRights19/07/24 02:09 PM
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Thanks for the update!
/r/MensRights18/07/24 05:43 PM
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I read a story about him that talked about his life and background. One interesting thing I remember from it was that Joe Biden called his widow but she refused the call because her husband was such a big Trump supporter and that Trump hadn't called [edit: yet, at the time the article was written].
/r/MensRights18/07/24 03:35 PM
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Some jurisdictions do have a duty to assist in certain situations. None require confrontation, like the woman in the OP was expecting though. Wisconsin -- In Wisconsin, if you know that a crime is being committed, and that a victim has suffered or may suffer bodily harm, you have a duty to call police or provide assistance Minnesota -- If you are at the scene of an emergency and you know that someone has suffered grave physical harm, or could be hurt, you have a duty to give "reasonable assistan…
/r/MensRights18/07/24 03:12 PM
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This was a robbery, not an assault or grape. For robbery, you just give them what they want. That is what every training program for retail stores and banks tells it's employees. It's not worth the risk of escalation by confronting them or chasing them.
/r/MensRights18/07/24 03:07 PM
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If you're thinking fast, the best help you can offer when someone is getting robbed would whip out your phone to try to get pictures or video of the perpetrator if it can be done safely and then if the police actually come, stick around to give it to them. You should not confront or chase them and risk turning a robbing into a mugging, assault, or worse.
/r/MensRights18/07/24 03:00 PM
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Videoing the robbers? Sure, that would be very helpful to do if possible to do safely. Calling the police? Sure, that's helpful. Sticking around to give an account to police if they even come? Sure, that would be helpful. If not, giving the gal your name and number to testify if necessary? Sure, that's very kind and helpful. Confronting the robbers or chasing them? No, no, no, no, no. That would be very foolish. There's a reason stores train employees (not in loss prevention) over and over not t…
/r/MensRights18/07/24 02:51 PM
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I believe everyone should have the same rights and opportunities, regardless of gender, race, class, sexuality. This is egalitarianism and not feminism. The etymology of the word feminist is "to take the woman's side [on everything apparently]". It only works if women were truly disadvantaged in every way, which is simply not the case. Yes words change meaning over time, but convincing people feminism means equality is disingenuous. Actions speak louder than words and based on the track record o…
/r/MensRights18/07/24 02:36 PM
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Historically, humans have always been on the polygamous side. This is shown in DNA data showing the ratio of women to men who have passed down their genes to the present has roughly been 4:1. There was a spike as high as 17:1 around the time of the agricultural revolution. And it's been a bit lower the past few thousand years as monogamous civilizations outcompeted polygamous ones. It seems this ratio is creeping up again and wish I could find data on it. There are some factors I can see holding…
/r/MensRights17/07/24 04:48 PM
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Part of it is probably just due to women living longer but the average age gap in a marriage is the woman is a couple years younger. A couple jointly has a $10M nest egg so you count 5M for your the men category and 5M for the women. Man dies first. Say there's 9M left. It all gets counted as the women now. Then she dies 5 years later and the kids split it.
/r/MensRights16/07/24 07:55 PM
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Every religion needs a bogeyman.
/r/MensRights12/07/24 10:40 PM
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Imagine a graph where one axis is "attractiveness" and the other is "utility". Attractiveness is a scale for how many "tingles" a guy generates for her. The utility axis is things like provision, listening to her, cleaning up the house, being responsible/dependable, etc. On women's grading scale, there aren't many men who score high on both axis. What many end up doing (especially when younger) is taking an attractive man and then trying to change him into doing more and more stuff on the other …
/r/MensRights12/07/24 03:19 PM
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It's a fine line to try to navigate. Too much and it just causes "the ick", so most guys have learned it's best to err on the other side.
/r/MensRights11/07/24 09:57 PM
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Yeah, I got tired of checks bouncing and auotpay not going through because my wife had overspent on the joint account. Had our natural gas shutoff at one point. So I opened a new one in only my name that all the bills are paid from now. Nothing has bounced since. Now that our house is paid off, I have to pay the property tax twice a year. Every time, I tell her that if I die or am incapacitated, she needs to remember to pay it. I really think she'd lose the house to tax foreclosure. :p
/r/MensRights11/07/24 02:08 PM
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Never take off your armor. Master Chief and the Mandalorian approve this message.
/r/MensRights11/07/24 01:56 PM
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Feminists are stupid as hell for thinking chivalry oppresses them I vaguely remembering a pretty good argument that the remnants of chivalry (or more accurately courtly love) enable feminism. It's where the idea that men should pedestalize women came from. He argued it's been a big reason feminism has been able to get privledge without responsibilities.
/r/MensRights09/07/24 06:05 PM
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What is now called "courtly love" got grafted into chivalry around 1500 . Wikipedia isn't a great source, but it works for this. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Courtly_love
/r/MensRights09/07/24 03:46 PM
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Biology leads to culture which leads to society. If you want to change society you have to change culture first. And to change the culture you have to change the biology first?
/r/MensRights03/07/24 09:52 PM
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the users will always be the wild card Very true. Even on KS shows, most of the women who called in were very very different than the framework he recommended for them. Most just wanted to argue with him why he was wrong instead of trying to understand how it could actually help them. /shrug emoji I would think he just put in the interesting ones for his show, but he often did them live. I'd be happy to explain what the sub is supposed to be if you are interested Please do. I imagine I'm probabl…
/r/MensRights03/07/24 09:47 PM
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That's fair. There is overlap in ideology. From what I remember back then before the banwaves, there tended to be a lot of posts from guys talking about working on themselves, asking questions about how they could have handled a situation better, and that kind of thing. Also success stories from guys who put the work in and were now having much better luck in dating. There was hardly any of that from the supposedly women's version. It was still very much a "take me as I am. I don't want to work …
/r/MensRights03/07/24 08:33 PM
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KS's recommendations on what women should work on is the closest parallel that I'm aware of for something I'd categorize as rp for women. Most "rp" women's subs aren't anything like that though. So no, not really.
/r/MensRights03/07/24 08:20 PM
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Red pill was originally just about cutting through BS to understand how things really worked, primarily focused on romantic relationships. And then from there, rather than fight it like culture does in many ways, learn to work with it instead. For example, the body positivity movement puts out a lot of BS that morbid obesity is somehow supposed to be attractive. Most people still recognize that one as being BS, but other things more people get confused on. For example, a guy being all mushy-gush…
/r/MensRights03/07/24 07:07 PM
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across 770 diseases they studied, women were diagnosed later than men, with an average lag time of four years. Well, at least they cited some data. Seems like it could be due to men going in to see a doctor later though. If your issue is further along and has more symptoms, it's probably easier to diagnose.
/r/MensRights03/07/24 02:36 PM
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Looks like someone took the diversity dial and turned it all the way up to the maximum! (/s) As Inigo Montoya would say, "I don't think that word means what you think it means."
/r/MensRights01/07/24 06:49 PM
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For me it just came with experience. One big problem I had was I'd get so nervous around a woman I liked. I had to fake being confident, but with practice, it came. It was easier when it was a woman I wasn't very interested in to get the practice in. With one's a liked, I had to resist the urge to simp and build up the self-discipline to only match her level of giving so I didn't end up doing all the work. Another thing that helped was when I learned attraction is mostly subconscious. You can't …
/r/MensRights01/07/24 06:36 PM
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Some can be pretty motivated by wanting kids too. The only way to get biological kids is to convince a woman to help you with that. But there's no guarantees you'll have access to your kids. It also happens to guys that do manage to "catch" one once in a while but find there just isn't enough reward for the effort it takes.
/r/MensRights26/06/24 10:07 PM
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I got it from Kevin Samuels' shows. I'm not sure if he came up with it or got it from somewhere else. I double checked and I got the "G" wrong. His "G" is guilt instead of gaslighting.
/r/MensRights26/06/24 09:51 PM
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Thou shalt not join MGTOW. Or else. Things. THinGs will happen to you. Terrible ones. [Slightly] more seriously, if anything it's the opposite. There's one that says not to covert your neighbor's wife. If I'm not desiring any women, that's following it extra good, right?
/r/MensRights26/06/24 07:02 PM
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you get a bunch of empowered women asking "where are all the good men? " Back in your youth, where you left them!
/r/MensRights26/06/24 06:50 PM
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Lets check the SIGNs. Shaming? yes. Insults? yes. Gaslighting? yes. Need to be right? yes. We have a bingo. She managed to hit all 4 in a minute. Normally it's best to just avoid women who use any of the SIGNs, but that's pretty hard for a 3-4 year old to do.
/r/MensRights26/06/24 06:40 PM
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dime store Hegel I tried searching, but am still not sure what this phrase means? Mostly I got hits for song lyrics and some philosophy guy that seem unrelated.
/r/MensRights26/06/24 06:13 PM
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Dating has changed. Back in my dating years (1998 to 2005) what worked well then (for me at least) was to get the ball rolling by being the conversationalist, entertainer, planner, etc, but then pull back. Let her think you have options and have a busy life -- just this was enough back then to often trigger her hypergamy and get it to work in your favor. If a woman was interested in you, she'd often then step up and plan a date, call, etc. The ones that did were the ones I was interested in seei…
/r/MensRights26/06/24 06:01 PM
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This trend is entirely predictable and expected by anyone familiar with relevant areas of world history. Civilizations that leaned too far into polygyny (men having multiple wives/mistresses) had a problem. It left the lower status men with none. If there was a path for them to get enough status, perhaps some would be motivated enough to still work hard to try to get there. But if it goes too far, and too many realize they have no chance, then you often either get rebellions or just putting in e…
/r/MensRights26/06/24 04:00 PM
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Or it could come full circle. In Old English, "man" was the gender neutral term. "wereman" was a male adult (literally "hairy person", and similar to the word werewolf). Eventually the "were" got dropped and the two words merged. We've seen cases of men identifying as women as a way to get fairer treatment in places like Spain with biased laws. Maybe that will continue and more and more will. If it gets to the point where everyone identifies as female, then it will end up being a gender neutral …
/r/MensRights26/06/24 03:24 PM
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Logic is a tool of the patriarchy! [/s]
/r/MensRights26/06/24 02:54 PM
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I'm 46 and still look for guidance. I've even made some pretty big changes in the last 3 years. I don't find it embarrassing anymore. I think it's a good thing when people recognize they have room to improve themselves and are still working on it. The phrase 'duality of man' is one I remember from philosophy about how its human nature to have both good and evil inside us and struggle with that reality. How we come to grips with it and deal with it is personal journey for each of us.
/r/MensRights26/06/24 02:51 PM
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The things you cite are based off of correlation studies. you’re much more likely to stay together if you’re married, It's a correlation. People that really want to stay together for the rest of their lives could just be more likely to marry is all. you’re much more likely to increase savings, own a house, etc if you’re married. Again, it could just be people inclined in those directions are more likely to find marriage appealing and get married. Also the idea that the woman is usually the leech…
/r/MensRights25/06/24 10:37 PM
2

Putting a frozen pizza in the over doesn't count?
/r/MensRights25/06/24 09:46 PM
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Hey man, hang in there. My advice would be to try to focus on what kind of man you want to be. It can be hard to find good examples these days. Personally, I watched a lot of Stark Trek: TNG reruns as a teenager and latched onto Captain Picard. Nerdy, I know. But, I really liked how the character had charism, garnered respect without demanding it, but could be stern when needed. He had weaknesses and trusted his crew to help him cover those. Kirk had his mertis too, but he was a bit too brash fo…
/r/MensRights25/06/24 09:02 PM
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Thanks for your support. I don't really understand the mindset of being guilty for the sins of my ancestors. Article 33 of the Geneva Conventions (in part): No protected person may be punished for an offence he or she has not personally committed. Collective penalties and likewise all measures of intimidation or of terrorism are prohibited. If it's a war crime when a foreign power invades and imposes collective punishment, why do these feminists think it's ok to do to men alive today who had no …
/r/MensRights25/06/24 08:50 PM
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So what's the solution? Move away from the nuclear family and have communities raise children instead? I remember reading about one society where once a woman came of age, she got a bedroom to herself with a window she could unlock to invite her lover for the night so he could come and go without being seen. Her children would be raised by herself, her mother, and brothers. Fathers really had no part in his children's life directly. Relations were kept hush-hush to try to avoid jealousy between …
/r/MensRights25/06/24 05:28 PM
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Our culture is at war with our biology. Yes, it is good to recognize this dissonance, but I'd argue the benefits have out weighed the issues it creates. Personally, I kind of like the technological achievements civilization has brought. Maybe that's me being selfish. Civilizations that developed toward monogamy had more economic power (mostly due to men being motivated to work harder if he had a wife and kids of his own) and out competed those that were more polygamous (unmatched men tend to jus…
/r/MensRights25/06/24 03:45 PM
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When I was a teenager, I went on a 2 week trip to volunteer to help people living in poverty. One of the main things we did was to build a "house" for a family. It really was more like a shed - like people keep their lawnmower in. No electricity. No running water. No toilet. No heating or AC. Just a shed. It did have a real roof with shingles to keep dry at least and some kind of little stove to cook on. All together, it was only about 150 sq ft. It was a huge upgrade for them since they had jus…
/r/MensRights24/06/24 09:58 PM
2

Hey, thanks for sharing your thoughts. What's your take on Samson and Delilah? She wasn't his wife, but him opening up about the secret of his strength seems to have been something he should have just kept to himself. Speaking of Samson, before that he shared the answer to his riddle to his wife who was a philistine, who then betrayed him and told the philistines. Hard to draw principles from stories like that since the people are all sinners and make mistakes. Some argue Jesus needed Judas or s…
/r/MensRights21/06/24 05:27 PM
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In the US, the best option would probably be if you could somehow pass a constitutional amendment to change or take away the power granted congress to raise an army in article 8, clause 12. The Supreme Court ruled that meant conscription in a court case in 1918. The only way to undo that is with a new Supreme Court decision that overturns it or an amendment. (That I'm aware of). Plus, an amendment would make it a lot harder to quickly change back. That also makes it hard to get through in the fi…
/r/MensRights20/06/24 10:15 PM
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It's been all over. I don't remember Fox being one of them, but I don't go there, so they very would have covered it too. Here is Reuters. Here is CNN NY Times has a story too, but it's behind a paywall. This one covers more countries than just the US and has the charts I was remembering.
/r/MensRights20/06/24 10:06 PM
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I'm doing my part!
/r/MensRights20/06/24 08:59 PM
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The trouble with theoretically abolishing it is that as soon as a country is facing severe military pressure, they'll simply reinstate it. For example, conscription in Ukraine was canceled under Yanukovych, but quickly reinstated in 2014, and ramped up in stages since then. [copy and paste of my own comment I made on a similar thread]
/r/MensRights20/06/24 08:51 PM
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Yeah, I can't think of anything explicit either. There's nothing I can think of that requires husbands to be all vulnerable and mushy gushy either though. Most of the examples are going to God instead like David and many of the Psalms. I forget which of David's wives it was (Abigail maybe) who it says was attracted by his reputation as a warrior and good looks and not due to Psalms he wrote about pouring his guts out. All the New Testament places were husbands are told to love their wives uses t…
/r/MensRights20/06/24 07:24 PM
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Half the battle is just knowing that you always need to keep up a facade of having it together and being on top of things in front of your wife. If you're losing it, or just need someone to share dark shit with, get a therapist or go to the confessional booth at a Catholic church if you can't afford one. I'm not even Catholic, but hey, you gotta use the tools available. It's worked for me to keep my wife attracted to me for 19 years.
/r/MensRights20/06/24 07:05 PM
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It is interesting how many guys think this is one of the primary reasons to be in a romantic relationship with a woman. The whole idea of someone who knows everything about me, both good and bad, has some kind of appeal. I certainly was naive and thought this when I was a teenager. I learned the hard way that all it did was trigger "the ick" though. So yeah, any kind of idea about having that with a woman, you can kiss goodbye. It's just not going to happen. Share all the positive emotions you w…
/r/MensRights20/06/24 06:56 PM
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I will grant you that your example is harder to rationalize an argument against, so that certainly has a lot of merit. I'd argue there's more is at stake with mine (imho). In the us, you have no legal rights for sperm once it leaves your body and there are cases of men (and even minors who were rape victims) getting stuck with 20 years of child support for kids they don't ever get to see. The only option given to men to avoid that possibility is a vasectomy, which is really cringe that it's the …
/r/MensRights20/06/24 06:35 PM
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young people today tend to vote Democrat Hmm the stuff I saw recently this is true for new (young) female voters, with them trending more liberal in several countries. Young male voters are shifting markedly conservative though.
/r/MensRights20/06/24 06:06 PM
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1920s maybe? That should be closer to the time when a majority of women in the US opposed women voting since they thought it meant they'd have to register for the draft as well.
/r/MensRights20/06/24 06:03 PM
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Yep, I'm trying to help them prepare for those obstacles. That's only if she tries to be too picky and only wants the best of men. Yes, that's definitely part of it. Some of it is simply math though. If most women want to marry a man with a college degree equal or greater than her own, but 2/3d of degrees are going to women, then half of women aren't going to be able to pair off in a way that satisfies their hypergamy. The best way I can see to play the game there, is to try to beat the rush and…
/r/MensRights20/06/24 04:01 PM
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I dunno, seems kinda weird to me. I do think there are cases where voting needs to line up better with having some skin in the game. For example, my dad sometimes complains about how the school district he lives in has one of the highest $/student in the state because it's a college town so every time the school district has a referendum for more $, they campaign heavily at the college campuses and they usually pass. Very few of those college students have kids that will be going to school there…
/r/MensRights20/06/24 03:41 PM
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I dunno. I have a teenage daughter and son. Both are doing very well in school. My main worry for my daughter is that with 2/3rd of college degrees being earned by women now and hypergamy being what it is, she could have a hard time finding a suitor. So if she does decide she wants a family, she could have a hard time. Maybe I've read too many articles about successful women striking out. For my son, yeah, I do put a lot more thought into how to prepare him to try to get him into that mythical t…
/r/MensRights20/06/24 03:28 PM
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For #2 a big part of it (imho) is that men learn that if you do it poorly with a woman you're trying to have a romantic relationship with, it risks triggering "the ick." So we learn (often the hard way) to err on the safe side. I have had close guy friends throughout my life that could support each other with that stuff and I wish all guys could find that.
/r/MensRights20/06/24 03:03 PM
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Yeah, this is a problem in general. It used to be you could talk to friends about touchy subjects and no one got triggered. I remember doing this a lot with high school and college friends in the '90s. Now we have a million different echo chambers people can hide out online without ever having to learn the skills to cordially and politely debate. I was taught to respect and defend a person's right to voice their opinion even when I disagreed with them. Now, that's gone out the window and usually…
/r/MensRights20/06/24 02:57 PM
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The trouble with theoretically abolishing it is that as soon as a country is facing severe military pressure, they'll simply reinstate it. For example, conscription in Ukraine was canceled under Yanukovych, but quickly reinstated in 2014, and ramped up in stages since then.
/r/MensRights20/06/24 02:51 PM
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Yeah about the only thing I can think of to lower the risk is to get her to think breaking up was her idea instead of just being straightforward and doing it yourself. The time I though the right thing to do would be to just be straight with her and let her know we were done once I didn't see things going anywhere, my fresh ex took it well (lots of tears) but she was a class act and had character. Her roommate went completely apeshit on me though.
/r/MensRights19/06/24 03:23 PM
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Watch those same people get hysterical about a guy getting a vasectomy without his wife/GF's permission.
/r/MensRights19/06/24 03:19 PM
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Sometimes it's barely even self harm. My dad was a firefighter and they had a call from a woman claiming she had attempted suicide. They get there and asked what she did. She "slit her wrist". My dad had to ask where because he couldn't even find a scratch.
/r/MensRights18/06/24 09:59 PM
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Anytime you see the term "real man" or variations like you found, >99% of the time it's just a shaming tactic the speaker/author is using to try to manipulate you into doing what they want. There's a billboard up on my commute that says "Real men love babies". I guess it's supposed to be some kind of pro-life message? All it does is trigger me though.
/r/MensRights18/06/24 09:39 PM
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Men who post/comment in feminist subs (even if they fully support them) get told to leave and go to menslib instead.
/r/MensRights14/06/24 02:44 AM
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Like already mentioned, rp was originally just about cutting through the BS to try to understand more accurately how the world works. So that part is valid by default. For example, if you're 300 lbs and ask someone if you're fat, most people will try to be polite and dance around the question, or give you a white lie instead of just saying "yes", such as "you look great!" BS like that is pretty easy to recognize, but there are a lot more in our culture. Even with this one, the body positivity mo…
/r/MensRights10/06/24 03:23 PM
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I haven't heard that men get more cancer before. I do remember a research article from several years ago that found women who had given birth to at least one child experienced some health benefits compared to women who had not. If I remember right, their research was into fetal stem cells making their way into her bloodstream and help repair damage to organs, keeping them healthier. I don't know if that translates into less cancer, but maybe?
/r/MensRights07/06/24 09:16 PM
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Sex and race are protected classes in the US. The biggest obstacle is getting evidence. Most companies train their employees to not do something stupid like email, "You didn't get the job because we have too many white males already even though you were the most qualified candidate we interviewed." Instead all you usually get is something vague at most like "we didn't feel like you were a good fit".
/r/MensRights07/06/24 05:15 PM
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Here is my interpretation: John and Jill each earn $25/hr so their pay is the same. John works 40 hrs/week and Jill works 30 hrs/week, resulting in an earnings gap. Men working more hours is part of reason behind the difference in total earnings by men vs women.
/r/MensRights07/06/24 04:57 PM
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"I am... the LAW!" -Judge Dread Clip from the 1995 movie with Stalone
/r/MensRights07/06/24 04:42 PM
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I'd say their claim that they get taken less seriously at work probably has some evidence. Articles I've read about transmen say they notice they get taken seriously more easily once they start passing as men and start new jobs where no one knew them from before. Also makes some sense because a natural consequence for having a lower bar to hire/promote women/minorities in the name of DEI means any logical person is going to wonder more if you can handle the job/position until proven otherwise.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 05:39 PM
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There's a step in between simple rejection and getting falsely accused - spreading rumors within your mutual social circle and slandering you. That happened a few times to me in high school and early college. After that I was always questioning whether making a move on a girl hitting on me would be worth it or I'd rather not risk the social circle. Often the social circle won. Which was kind of funny since it just made the women try harder and then eventually get frustrated.
/r/MensRights06/06/24 03:09 PM
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Let me check the back of my patriarchy club card. Just need to find it. It's gotta be here somewhere. Hang on...
/r/MensRights06/06/24 02:44 PM
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I want a refund!
/r/MensRights06/06/24 02:37 PM
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Title IX is a US law, so that group is entirely focused on the US as far as I'm aware. The actual law is fine and a pretty generic law banning sexism. It mostly went wrong in how it's been applied in sexist ways.
/r/MensRights05/06/24 08:37 PM
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Yes, I read your blog post. I was just trying to answer your questions briefly instead of trying to tackle everything your blog post tried to cover. In the past, when I've tried to engage with people who come here with opposing views, it just ends with them not responding anymore before long. It looks like you're responding and doing your best to handle things civilly even when you're getting some hostile comments, so if I have some time, I'll try to go through your blog post and your comments i…
/r/MensRights05/06/24 08:30 PM
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If I tried to give you any detailed examples from memory, I'd probably botch it. You can read through /u/Title_IX_for_All 's comment history for examples or look on his website titleixforall.com -- the monthly recaps will have summaries of wins and losses.
/r/MensRights05/06/24 07:47 PM
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I guess that's one way to try to lower the birth rate even more...
/r/MensRights05/06/24 02:55 PM
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Do you know of any jurisdictions that will allow a single man to use surrogacy? Most of the world just bans it outright. As far as I've been able to find the places that do allow it (and legally enforce it) only allow it to couples with fertility issues, gay couples, etc. That's the issue I ran into looking more into surrogacy when people suggest it.
/r/MensRights05/06/24 02:49 PM
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There's a small group fighting sexist Title IX stuff. They've gotten some universities to change some things like publicly funded scholarships that were only for women.
/r/MensRights05/06/24 02:44 PM
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Yep, maybe I wasn't very clear. They had a scale of something like 0 being completely submissive and 100 being dominate with 50 being in the middle. A 40 would best match with a 60, a 50 with a 50, a 10 with a 90, etc. The genders could be either way. Two 95s would tend to just cause a lot of conflict and butt heads a lot. Two 5s would struggle to take much initiative to keep the relationship moving and making connections. I like women seeing me as cute and sometimes leading things. So if you're…
/r/MensRights04/06/24 07:57 PM
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I singled out courage A problem with trying to put courage down as the cornerstone without a foundation of good character is it can pretty easily be misguided. Shoplifting takes some courage. It takes courage to go skydiving without a backup chute. It takes even more to not take a chute at all, but not particularly wise. You need some kind of foundation of morale principals first. Then courage can be added to try to live that out. Easy when it aligns with the wider culture, often difficult when …
/r/MensRights04/06/24 07:44 PM
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attention, and impulse control Source? The studies I've read indicate men tend to have a greater ability to focus their full concentration on one task and tune everything else out, including their emotions and focus on the most logical solution. Women tend to have a small advantage with things that need to pull a little from a broad spectrum of inputs, factors, knowledge, emotion, and experience - the phrase "a woman's intuition". If women have an advantage in the modern workplace Probably the b…
/r/MensRights04/06/24 04:51 PM
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It's probably simply due to the words dominant and submissive developing negative connotations. I usually pick different words like leader and follower that have a more positive or at least neutral connotation. I remember reading some old research that found relationships did better the more the two had in common except on the dominance-submission scale, where opposites did better.
/r/MensRights04/06/24 04:32 PM
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I see the same mistake being made with happiness and marriage. There may be a correlation, but it doesn't mean marriage made people happier. It's more likely (imho) that happier people are more likely to get married is all.
/r/MensRights04/06/24 04:07 PM
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In some ways we're more naive today than hundreds of years ago. The biggest reason people marry now is that they are still in the infatuation stage of a relationship. It used to be considered very foolish because the feeling doesn't last and society recognized that.
/r/MensRights04/06/24 03:46 PM
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Courage is a positive trait for anyone to work on developing, not just men.
/r/MensRights04/06/24 02:07 AM
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Just let each man decide for himself what kind of man he's going to be. I'm getting tired of everyone trying to push their agenda by trying to define masculinity.
/r/MensRights04/06/24 12:32 AM
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Probably a good place to start would be with voluntary parental surrender. If I remember right, a mother can surrender a newborn in all 50 US states with few questions asked. If mom can do it, then dad should be able to too if we're going to have equal rights. These programs started to try to reduce the number of abandoned or murdered newborns. New moms getting a way out was more just a side effect. One big issue here is often the bio dad doesn't even know about the kid and it gets put up for ad…
/r/MensRights03/06/24 09:46 PM
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Reminds me of some advice I got back when I was trying to figure dating out which was to say "no" to a simple request she makes at least once a month. I didn't really understand why at the time, but I went with it. Looking back now, I see one of the reasons for it was because any woman that would fly off the handle and dump you over it is not someone that's going to be a good bet for any kind of LTR. (Safer for you if you get her to dump you than if you dump her directly too.)
/r/MensRights03/06/24 07:16 PM
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Sucks you went through that with your ex. Going forward, I hope you're getting better at sussing this attitude out before getting so involved. The only good thing about it being so widely accepted is women usually don't try to hide it at all so it's usually pretty easy to figure out and next them. I nexted quite a few just by talking to them before it ever got to asking for her # or a date. Downside to it being so widespread is it's really hard to find one without it.
/r/MensRights03/06/24 04:17 PM
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it's mostly men's responsibility to remedy these grievances So you're back to blaming all men instead of "the ones trying to push the count up as high as possible counting bogus things" as I put it? I don't like this kind of mindset. Blaming all men is the right mindset?
/r/MensRights02/06/24 06:35 PM
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The more stories I read like this the more I realize how lucky I am to have a wife that deposits her paycheck into a joint account and trusts me to manage our money to make sure the bills are paid and we're on track for saving toward major goals like kids' college funds and retirement. She has more in the Roth IRA I opened in her name and fund than I have in mine now since I made some risky plays in mine that bombed, haha. It was something we talked about and she agreed to it when we were dating…
/r/MensRights01/06/24 05:20 PM
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I think it might be another case of projection. Playfully teasing (a little) a woman you're in a romantic relationship with works as a way to build her interest and attraction toward you. When it takes the form of subtle putdowns, I've heard it called negging. That seems to be a bit much, but it boils down to trying to trigger the woman's hypergamy as to why it works if I remember right. So I don't know if they just do it back to their guy since they like it or something else is going on. Women …
/r/MensRights01/06/24 05:12 PM
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Every story I've read about harems (where they're aware of the others) just ends up with at most one of the women feeling desired and rest just feel jealous of that one and unloved. Often the "favorite" doesn't see it that way and is jealous of another one. Just ends in a lot of bitterness and resentment. For women, it's more about how a guy makes her feel than the physical aspect and that jealousy and resentment really gets in the way.
/r/MensRights01/06/24 03:39 AM
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Yes, it's very common. Even well-meaning women will sometimes not realize they're saying/doing something their man finds disrespectful. It will go a long ways with most any guy you're in a romantic relationship to tell him to let you know if he ever feels disrespected by you and then not laugh about anything he brings up but be serious about trying your best to not do it again.
/r/MensRights01/06/24 03:26 AM
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The physical act, no, but feeling genuinely desired is way better than duty sex.
/r/MensRights31/05/24 08:11 PM
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Yeah, the analogy does completely break down in that regard. The closest I can think of is you're one of the sheep that got eaten instead of a a villager. And we're still in the stage were most of the villagers still believe the boy crying wolf. And yeah, I'm not suggesting we ignore it. Part of why I'm here and I hope others are is trying to figure out what we can do to help the guys that do get falsely accused.
/r/MensRights31/05/24 08:03 PM
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One thing that took me a long time to realize is it's not just that you're risking injury or death, it's that prolonged combat takes away part of your humanity. My dad and I have been reading through letters my grandfather wrote during his 2 years of combat in WW2. One thing that surprised us is that over time, he completely lost his fear of death. They just got so numb to it and came to grips that it was quite possibly just a matter of time before the grim reaper came for them. I don't see any …
/r/MensRights31/05/24 07:56 PM
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It's like the story of the boy who cried wolf. He raised so many false alarms that no one believed him anymore. In some versions of the story the wolf eats the boy too and not just his sheep. So, like the villagers, I've just gotten numb to it and mostly ignore anyone trying to get me all worked up over the topic. Pretty unfortunate since many cases are real and serious, but I'm not the one who cried wolf and usually neither are the victims in those cases. I blame the ones trying to push the cou…
/r/MensRights31/05/24 06:33 PM
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I'm not surprised at all. I ran into this all the time while dating. At least most of them told on themselves very quickly so I could move on, often even before even getting to the point of asking for a phone number or a date. It made it refreshing when I'd finally meet a woman who didn't think this way.
/r/MensRights31/05/24 02:53 PM
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I'm no expert, but in those cases it often can be quite a bit less from what I've seen.
/r/MensRights31/05/24 02:47 PM
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About $7500 is for the legal paperwork. The rest is to cover the costs of running an adoption agency. It's hard to find enough volunteers, so you end up having staff that need to get paid somehow.
/r/MensRights31/05/24 02:06 AM
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A downside to this is gets expensive fast for poor and middle-class people to contest things in court.
/r/MensRights31/05/24 01:51 AM
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This post at least asks for "20 more male participants", but she posted on a lot of other subs that probably have a more even split between men and women with less indication she only wanted men to take it.
/r/MensRights30/05/24 08:54 PM
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women are told if they don't marry by 30, their lives are over This seems a bit overly dramatic. If you mean women turning 30 with no prospects are running out of time to settle down and have a family, that's just people trying to tell them the stone cold truth. Medically, high risk pregnancy starts at 35. There was a study recently trying to figure out why behind the women who end up having 0 children and the conclusion was the main reason was they simply waited too long before getting serious …
/r/MensRights30/05/24 08:49 PM
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You've got a big problem -- there's no question asking for male/female. So if you're trying to focus on men, you could have women taking it throwing it off. If you're trying to collect data for both and trying to see if there are differences between men and women, you won't be able to do that. Another thing I see is that while I feel like I matter a great deal to myself, my family, co-workers, and close friends, I feel society/culture does not value men in general. Your questions focus more on t…
/r/MensRights30/05/24 08:09 PM
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The first name of the student listed on the front page of the survey is almost always only given to women.
/r/MensRights30/05/24 08:00 PM
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I think it's pretty rare that the split of who's at fault is 100% on one person and 0% on the other.
/r/MensRights30/05/24 07:09 PM
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Having your own mother file for child support payments from you for a kid that isn't yours seems totally reasonable! /s I'm guessing your mom doesn't realize if the baby's mother surrendered all her parental rights to you as the supposed father, you could then file for and expect to get child support from her [edit: the baby's mother, not your mother]. Probably your mom is just woefully ignorant on this. There's a reason there's 25k in legal fees to do an adoption properly. There's so many thing…
/r/MensRights30/05/24 04:21 PM
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Just to clarify, she wanted you to fraudulently sign as being the father?
/r/MensRights30/05/24 04:11 PM
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I remember someone said they took a few paragraphs from Mein Kompf only switching jews to men and posting it on a feminist sub to thunderous applause.
/r/MensRights29/05/24 10:30 PM
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My son is 13 and plays soccer. One time they scrimmaged with the older girls team (ages 15-16) and he was surprised his boy's team (12-13) crushed them something like 7 to 0. So I had a good talk on the way home with him about how that's not unusual at all. Even women's pro teams have lost to high school boys teams. In tennis, Venus and Serena lost to a guy ranked something like 200th.
/r/MensRights29/05/24 02:53 PM
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If it gets to be called rape when men do it, then it's rape when women do it.
/r/MensRights27/05/24 06:14 PM
1

Definitely. I lift and if anyone asks me about it, I'm happy to share with people how it improved my life.
/r/MensRights27/05/24 05:59 PM
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One theory I've read is its projection -- they think that men have a hive mind herd mentality like they do.
/r/MensRights25/05/24 02:03 AM
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Then why did you quote a doomer mantra? (That a cycle of weak men and bad times are inevitable.) You also left off the last part of it where bad times create strong men. Fruedian slip or was that intentional?
/r/MensRights25/05/24 01:54 AM
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Funny thing is women who try to pass as men (e.g. Nora Vincent) and transmen report it's worse in a lot of ways. Someone once tried to counter me with a link to an article about benefits transmen report, but the only significant one was they felt more trusted with work responsibilities, which does tie in with this one: They can get a job or promotion without people assuming they were just a diversity hire rather than actually qualified. This one I believe is true, but what do you expect exactly?…
/r/MensRights25/05/24 01:49 AM
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I think I was bout 20 when I realized it was a dog and pony show and both parties really only represented the rich, powerful, and elite.
/r/MensRights24/05/24 09:13 PM
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Ouch. $20/hr * 2000 hrs/ year is $40k. 25% taxes leaves about $2500 / month. $1500 is about 60% of your take home pay. Splitting $2500 among 4.5 dependents (yourself, your wife, your baby, 50% responsibility for the other 3) means $555 for a full dependent and $228 for a 50% responsible one. $227 x 3 = $833, which would be closer to reasonable than the $1500. (I know this isn't how the calculations actually work, I was just trying to spitball a sanity check.) So I'd start by looking at how they …
/r/MensRights24/05/24 09:02 PM
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Not a fan of him saying he "blames weak men" and says he's "ragging on guys". We get enough of that. He talks about incels and then goes into men needing to lift -- indirectly blaming them.
/r/MensRights24/05/24 06:54 PM
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Practice. Research what they do and how to recognize them. Get out to where you interact with them frequently. I learned in high school and college, so interactions were plentiful.
/r/MensRights24/05/24 03:11 PM
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Yeah, I'd crap my pants too in that case. The black bear I saw was just minding it's own business rummaging around thankfully.
/r/MensRights23/05/24 09:44 PM
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Sometimes it's kind of fun. In high school, a gal made it very apparent to me she had a crush on me. I don't remember the details unfortunately -- it was 30 years ago. She was attractive. I was pretty sure we just had different views on some things that were important to me, so didn't think it would go anywhere but I asked her out anyway for fun. I had two different women in college who in my mind were just friends, but they dropped various hints at wanting something more but I just wasn't inter…
/r/MensRights23/05/24 09:42 PM
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This is different data than you requested, but the post above reminded me of this article about how the ratio of women to men who have passed down their genes to the present is roughly around 4:1 for the last 50,000 years of human history. In more recent history, it's dropped to around 2:1. Other studies had similar findings but put it another way -- around 80% of women have successfully reproduced and only 40% of men. Every kid has both a mother and father, so the only possible conclusion from …
/r/MensRights23/05/24 08:58 PM
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I think being a lone makes it more intense. Many years ago, my boss had a bunch of us guys over at his cabin on a lake for the weekend. I forget why, but he asked we take care of #1 in the woods and save the toilet only for #2. So I go out to take a leak and as I'm taking care of business I hear some rustling and look up to see a black bear about 30' away. So zip up, back away slowly and get back to the cabin asap, fairly terrified. They went back out to try to see if they could see it. I reluct…
/r/MensRights23/05/24 08:41 PM
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Yeah, I'm not entirely sure how this happened either. I know a lot of women expressing traditional desires like marrying in her early 20s to have a family and be a stay-at-home mom got shamed heavily by feminists. Women trying to understand what men are attracted to and working on herself to be more like that get shamed by other women as being a "pick me". I think a lot of older women who do try to warn younger ones probably get just as much grief as a guy trying to bring something up like how m…
/r/MensRights23/05/24 07:34 PM
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All you can do is try to warn younger women not to make the same mistakes. A lot of the damage has been done and short of inventing a time machine to roll back the clock, there's nothing else you can do. In generations past, older women warned younger women.
/r/MensRights23/05/24 07:02 PM
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I think it should be mutual. It's way more fun to be with a woman who pursues you back. My strategy to find them was basically two steps forward, one step back. Then wait and see if she would step forward. If she did, then repeat and the relationship can continue. If not, next. Pretty quickly in my relationship with my wife she was planning dates for us, inviting me over for a home cooked meal, etc. The GF I had before her even bought plane tickets for me to go visit her for a long weekend. They…
/r/MensRights23/05/24 06:11 PM
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Her #1: Women who cry are emotional. Men who cry are weak. I'm not really sure what can be done with this one. I do think men need safe places to be emotional. Over my life, I've had tight nit friends or groups (all men) where we'd get things out, have a bunch of tears, and support each other. I know better than to do that in front of my wife though. In my view, you can't negotiate attraction/chemistry. You can't choose to be attracted to someone. About all you can do is spend time with someone …
/r/MensRights23/05/24 05:55 PM
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I think you meant to link or write something but I'm not finding anything?
/r/MensRights23/05/24 04:14 PM
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prodigal son-ish Thanks for the summary since I didn't want to try to get through the paywall. I imagine there are some significant differences. The prodigal son was actually humble and had no expectation at all of anything. He only wanted to ask his father for a job as a servant. His half of the estate was still gone, his brother had the other half already. There was no magic wand that undid that consequence. So following the father's example from the story, I'm happy and glad some women are se…
/r/MensRights23/05/24 03:36 PM
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Apparently they're trying to push their numbers up so 100% of men, women, and children are sexually harassed by encountering this "chair".
/r/MensRights23/05/24 03:09 PM
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Title IX is designed to not allow the accused a chance to defend themselves It's really weird how things got to where they are today because when you read the original Title IX (and amendments), there's nothing that pops out as a problem. It's all about making sure colleges aren't being sexist, racist, etc. Somewhere in there there was some language where colleges had some responsibility to not have a "hostile" environment for students. If some students want to start a KKK group or someone keeps…
/r/MensRights23/05/24 02:59 PM
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Ok, the guys that seem to get hit the worst are when they're expelled, have a mountain of student debt, and can't finish their degree at their original school or anywhere else and have trouble getting any kind of decent job due to the false accusation hanging over their head.
/r/MensRights23/05/24 02:49 PM
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I'm only going off of stories of cases I've read about. he did not defend himself Quite often, trying to defend yourself to the college board doesn't help. One case I remember, the college panel interviewed all 12 of the woman's witnesses and zero of the 5 the guy submitted. The stories I've read where the guy "succeeded" was because he went to the actual court system (and not the college board) to fight it. But by then, the expulsion was years ago and the damage was already done. What is he fac…
/r/MensRights22/05/24 10:19 PM
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Looks like you missed blacking out one of the user names on the first image. Edit: adding this since people seem to be missing the point: sidebar rule: Sharing any social media post (including other reddit posts) must be done w/ screenshot & blanked names. The rule is there to reduce chances reddit shuts down this sub. So if you value the community, please follow them. Thank you.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 09:53 PM
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I think it goes back to first wave feminism in the US. One of the arguments many women made against women getting the vote was that they thought they could then be drafted too. They then got to vote without any risk of being drafted. It set a bad precedent.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 08:54 PM
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Some data I found is about 1% of encounters with bears in Japan and Finland resulted in injury to the human. No mater how you try to slice it, that's much higher than human encounters.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 08:45 PM
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I thought historically, young, single, unemployed, childless, starving men with nothing to lose have started the most revolutions? Once a guy has a family, he's more likely to not rock the boat.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 03:58 PM
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No. We need to bring back innocent until proven guilty. He said vs. she said with no other evidence should just be dismissed for lack of evidence.
/r/MensRights22/05/24 03:53 PM
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"Cell Block Tango" from Chicago. It's abuse taken to the level of murder. A lot of the song is about how they justify it. Lyrics: https://genius.com/Chita-rivera-cell-block-tango-lyrics
/r/MensRights21/05/24 02:33 PM
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I believe in the equal rights of everyone That's egalitarianism, not feminism. The etymology of the word feminism is "to take the woman's side". You have to find older dictionaries to find it because new ones will have the equality BS.
/r/MensRights21/05/24 02:28 PM
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This is from 2008 and makes references to lots of studies from quite a few years before that. It would be interesting to see research and data today to try to support the theory that women have shifted (relatively recently) such that even "lower mate value" ones still expect to be able to get men high in all four categories. E.g the term "forty-niner" to refer to a female 4 who thinks she deserves a 9.
/r/MensRights20/05/24 04:09 PM
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One prominent feminist wanted to decrease the human population to being only 10% male.
/r/MensRights20/05/24 02:24 PM
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Things like retroactively being able to revoke consent seems like efforts to make Chad pay too.
/r/MensRights20/05/24 02:19 PM
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Bill Burr has a stand-up bit about patriarchy talking as if he's an elite, rich, white, man and women are blaming him for how he's oppressed x, y, and z and all the privilege he has. His punchline was something like, "Bitch, you were right there in the hot tub with me." You are right that quite often when a feminism uses the word "patriarchy", they mean culture, society, elite vs workers, etc. Just when you think you figure out which context they're using it in, they seem to often switch to usin…
/r/MensRights20/05/24 02:15 PM
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Yep, many feminism authors/leaders spelled it out in detail how the destruction of the nuclear family was one of their main goals.
/r/MensRights20/05/24 01:31 PM
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Hopefully the newer generations learn from this experience Yeah, one thing that has puzzled me a bit is how modern older women don't teach young women these things very often and warn them of mistakes they've made. Things like how to be attractive for men, how to tell if a guy is running a short term strategy (e.g player), or a long-term (family orientated). Qualities to look for like good character. It's interested to read older literature and this stuff is pretty common. Feminism made it taboo…
/r/MensRights20/05/24 01:29 PM
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more problems with girls saying mean things I'd hazard a guess that this is the key: whoever it is that OP is referring to isn't counting things like gossip, slander, and verbal abuse as much as things like horseplay in their definition of "less behaved".
/r/MensRights17/05/24 11:47 PM
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Play the hand you're dealt the best you can.
/r/MensRights17/05/24 11:42 PM
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Yeah, it's been very remarkable how much success they're had at taking over education, media, etc. Even sub-populations with high birthrates (like the Mormons in the US) tend to lose a lot of their kids to it. Or immigrants tend to only have higher birthrates for a generation or at most two, before the descendants mostly match the general population.
/r/MensRights17/05/24 11:40 PM
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It definitely helps.
/r/MensRights17/05/24 07:12 PM
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Historically, societies that had strong family values out-competed those without. It's harder to see how that could continue to play out now though (high birth rate countries like Africa gaining power over those with low ones like much of the west) with the current tech, infrastructure, military, and other power differences though. And also, we're much more interconnected at a global level now than ever before.
/r/MensRights17/05/24 06:51 PM
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Most men in their 40's can't pull women in the 20-25 age range. The older they get, the more baggage they tend to pick up and end up being higher risk. You only need to find 1 keeper though, it just gets harder as the keepers get taken. It's a lot more fun to be with a woman where you're her first choice. A 40+ year old guy is mostly going to have 30+ women in his available dating pool where there's a high chance that's not going to be the case. If a 20-25 year old woman is with you, you're more…
/r/MensRights17/05/24 06:05 PM
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Hormones are a hell of a drug on a teenager's body and mind. when did so many men become fixated on being in relationships with women? I don't really think this has increased in recent history due to (my take) that it's mostly driven by libido. If anything, it's decreasing a bit as testosterone levels have measurably decreased over the population with time. If you take that away and only look at platonic relationships, then guys have always bonded with other guys more. What has changed in the la…
/r/MensRights17/05/24 05:52 PM
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Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy! Does that work for you? Hahaha
/r/MensRights17/05/24 03:15 PM
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Let's start with the messaging given to girls and young women: You should be able to choose if you want to pursue college and possibly post-graduate degrees. You should be able to choose if you want to pursue a high powered career or just do something easier to get by. You should be able to choose whether you want to be a parent or be childless. You should be able to choose if you want to pursue being a relationship or stay single. You should be able to choose if you want to stay fit or just let…
/r/MensRights16/05/24 08:44 PM
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I don't listen to him, but that makes sense. I've read up on feminism, and many places discussed different camps/factions within it, and Marxist feminism or a variation was frequently a label for one of them or a few factions were discussed that all derived from Marxism.
/r/MensRights16/05/24 06:00 PM
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The only issues are that it is illegal in some places This is the main issue with it. It's not just some, it's most, and possibly even all jurisdictions. More countries than not ban surrogacy all together. Most that do allow it put limitations on who can use it and usually disqualify single men and reserve it only to hetro couples with fertility issues, gay couples, etc. Many places won't adopt to a single man either, but I'm pretty sure that's an option in more places than surrogacy currently. …
/r/MensRights16/05/24 05:52 PM
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When you do something like that, it's important to know, does it exacerbate your anger or does it decrease it. ... If they help you release anger, you can afford them and they're done safely, she doesn't see the harm. This is pretty much my thoughts on it. If it's a way to release pent up anger, then go for it. If it's being used to whip up a frenzy to then go do violent criminal acts, well then that's obviously a big problem. In comments, women describe how moving it is to see other women embod…
/r/MensRights15/05/24 08:41 PM
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When people make a decision on something that's not black & white, the brain will then try to rationalize why the choice you made was the "correct" one. In fiction, often the best villains are the ones who have the most believable/realistic rationalization for what they're doing. The more rationalization the villain requires for the plot, the less believable and relatable they end up being. Sometimes the author even set things up to try to get us to question ourselves if we might not do the same…
/r/MensRights15/05/24 07:58 PM
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Being able to hold dichotomies like this doesn't make much sense to us since men tend to focus on logical thinking. You'll understand women better once you can accept that they do this. They make decisions based more off of feelings and get very good at rationalizing whatever that outcome is. It's nothing new. You can find examples all the way back into ancient literature.
/r/MensRights14/05/24 03:26 PM
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War crimes cover other things too. Not burying the dead is a war crime. Pretending to surrender in order to infiltrate and then attack is another (Obi-won and Anakin did this one all the time in the Clone Wars cartoon series). Also, only the fourth part of the Geneva conventions is about civilians. The first 3 cover things like treatment of prisoners of war. As I was looking it up, I also found there is something similar to your suggestion, "compelling a protected person to serve in the armed fo…
/r/MensRights13/05/24 10:36 PM
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You're still young enough to have a reasonable chance of dating women in the 22-26 age range. When they get closer to 30, it gets harder to figure out if they are genuinely interested in you as a person, or the baby rabies is turning up into high gear. Also, the older you get, the harder it gets to find someone who hasn't picked up too much baggage to be worth the risk. One of the ways I screened was I did volunteer work. I figured the women I met there were more likely to have good character an…
/r/MensRights13/05/24 05:52 PM
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Interesting take. I've had similar thoughts but my conclusion was that a guy's window was when he could date women who are 21 to 26 or so. Young enough that the baby rabies probably hasn't kicked into high gear (worst is 30 to 37 roughly) so it's more likely she's interested in you for you as a person. Also young enough to hopefully not have picked up too much baggage yet that makes her too much of a risk. You could go down to 18 (or whatever the age you become an adult in your area), but I foun…
/r/MensRights13/05/24 05:47 PM
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My biggest questions are whether the correlation holds up when they're not being questioned by police and if it would hold up if they knew you were looking for this correlation. If either is no, it's interesting, but not going to be useful for anything. They also need a control group of non-inmates.
/r/MensRights10/05/24 09:47 PM
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All I can say, and all that keeps me moving down this path, is knowing that it isn't "my decision"... Her hamster must have worked overtime to come up with that BS rationalization and convince her it made some kind of sense. I've seen other examples of demanding agency when it's wanted and denying it to shift blame, but this one might take the cake.
/r/MensRights10/05/24 09:26 PM
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Yeah, one of the big pushes of feminism was to "unshackle" women from their gender roles and let each woman choose for herself. "You go, girl!" Very ironic that they violently oppose men doing likewise.
/r/MensRights09/05/24 03:17 PM
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“too muscley” Yeah, this is a complete cop out and very lame excuse. If you seriously think you look "too muscley" it's really easy to fix. Just stop lifting and eat more to raise your body fat %. I went to a WNBA game where it was some team anniversary and they brought back several of their old players to give them various awards. It shocked me how many were very overweight or obese now. Some hadn't even been retired more than a few years. They looked a heck of a lot better when they were still…
/r/MensRights09/05/24 03:06 PM
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Can't have men being more satisfied with work than women. Better drag men down... /eyeroll
/r/MensRights09/05/24 02:57 PM
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She craved a close friendship with her future child This is a sign of a potentially future bad parent imho. Kids need parents who will be a parent and do the uncomfortable things like discipline and saying "no". Parents who try to be their kids' best friend end up spoiling them and turning them into brats way too often. And when the kid turns into a teen they're going to want to distance themselves from you no matter what you do in order to try to figure out their own identity. I have two teens …
/r/MensRights08/05/24 06:56 PM
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Well hopefully this made him realize they only want his help/support but don't want to help/support him. Seems like a theme with men trying to be allies to feminism and gay/bi men in the LGBTQ community.
/r/MensRights08/05/24 06:31 PM
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The usual claim is that the prenup was signed under duress. As in, she was worried he wouldn't go through with the marriage if she did not sign it.
/r/MensRights07/05/24 07:42 PM
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I think it was just looking at all human encounters. I didn't save a link. It probably would be better to limit it to 1 human on 1 human encounters out in the woods. There's scant data on that, but even there I think it's pretty safe to say it's well under 1%. When there is a bad encounter, it often makes regional or national news. Of those, the most common scenario is probably some kind of hunting accident. The 1% bear estimate is probably low since at least for Japan it included bear sightings…
/r/MensRights06/05/24 08:28 PM
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One of the estimates I found did cite a source for an estimate on number of human to human encounters. No matter how you slice it, it's pretty easy to see it's much, much less than 1%. Even if you take men convicted of a violent crime, each of them have encountered thousands of humans they did not assault, which is much lower than the bears.
/r/MensRights06/05/24 07:51 PM
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I'd say the risk is higher if she's 29+ than if she's 18-25 when you started dating.
/r/MensRights06/05/24 07:46 PM
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Yep. It's hard to find data on per encounter results. The estimates I've found were about 1% of bear encounters end with injuries to the human. Japan and Finland both were around there. Most places only track injuries and not encounters, so it's hard to estimate for most. So using those numbers and estimating how many humans people encounter resulted in a bear encounter being a minimum of 25 to 200 times more likely to result in injury than an encounter with a man.
/r/MensRights06/05/24 07:24 PM
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They're just the strong, silent type. They falsely accuse people of threating their cubs all the time :/
/r/MensRights06/05/24 07:12 PM
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Yeah, I'd much rather run into a black bear (without cubs) than a brown/grizzly bear or polar bear. I did find there are more injuries from black bears than brown or polar bears but that seems to just be due to there being so many more of them in North America, and they have a much larger range.
/r/MensRights06/05/24 07:11 PM
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All the mgtow subs got banned a couple years ago.
/r/MensRights03/05/24 06:26 PM
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And if the bear does attack you, you're not going to be facing possible prison time.
/r/MensRights03/05/24 05:56 PM
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Someone mentioned there's more women on apps than men in Poland too.
/r/MensRights03/05/24 03:51 PM
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You could try, "Don't be a _____ !" and fill in the blank with dick/bitch/asshole/jerk/Karen/creep/etc., but that's just as vague and useless in most cases.
/r/MensRights01/05/24 07:27 PM
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Why do you need a better word? It would be far better to just call out the specific behavior(s) in question. E.g. gaslighting, verbal assault, manipulation, slander, or whatever it is. That way, it's much more clear what you mean and what you're trying to address/resolve.
/r/MensRights01/05/24 07:15 PM
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There was a study posted here that was pretty interesting to me because it determined the biggest reason why women end up having no children was that they waited too long and their fertility window passed. It didn't really dive into what caused them to wait so long, but it was a start.
/r/MensRights26/04/24 03:17 PM
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It takes two, but women have more control over a countries' birthrate than men.
/r/MensRights25/04/24 07:44 PM
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So female U.S. congressmen are barred from voting on declarations of war since women aren't conscripted? The phrase is also a diss to women who've had a hysterectomy and trans women.
/r/MensRights24/04/24 05:39 PM
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I didn't see this reason mentioned yet. It was a post I remember that was made by someone from SK and they described the grueling school regiment they went through and that all kids are subjected to. Parents that don't subject their kids too all of the expectations get ostracized. So their primary reason for not wanting to have kids was not wanting to subject a kid to that crap. I'm waiting for the day when a state offers something like $50k to have IVF and be a surrogate mother and after the ki…
/r/MensRights23/04/24 07:39 PM
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Yep, reminds me of the Incredibles: Helen Parr/Elastigirl: “Everyone is special, Dash.” Dashiell “Dash” Parr: “That’s just another way of saying no one is.” and this one Syndrome: "And when everyone's super no one will be."
/r/MensRights22/04/24 07:15 PM
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I've always thought that marriage should automatically dissolve every 5 years I remember running into a history researcher that found some societies tried this. I forget the details on how it went, but thought I'd mention it if it was something you were curious about and wanted to dig into.
/r/MensRights22/04/24 07:10 PM
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So the grandfather is getting custody of the kid then? Right? Right? Guys? Why do I hear crickets?
/r/MensRights18/04/24 08:52 PM
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It's even more surprising when you consider how much it changed (and quickly in the grand scheme of things). Back when I was struggling with dating, I ran into advice to watch old movies where Carry Grant was the male lead for examples of how to talk to women in a way to be attractive -- be confident, a little cocky, how to flirt, banter, light teasing, etc., but keeping it classy. Neither the nice guy or f boy. Perhaps a little on the f boy side, but imo that depends more on if you're looking f…
/r/MensRights18/04/24 08:46 PM
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It's a meaningless statistic because you can do something that >99% of people would think was fine (like say "hello"), but one person decides it makes them uncomfortable, and so they'll label it sexual harassment. Most defintions of sexual haressment are like this. For a legal conviction, the bar is higher in that it requires a reasonable person to perceive the behavior as sexual harassment. So for bounding, the maximum would be this 50% number. And the minimum would be if you took the number of…
/r/MensRights18/04/24 08:33 PM
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I got to experience it. My mom was the oldest of 5 and was 16 when her mom died. About 5 years later her dad remarried a widow who also had 5 kids. My mom and a few of the other older kids were out of the house at that point, but otherwise was basically a Brady Bunch.
/r/MensRights17/04/24 09:20 PM
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I wouldn't read too much into it. Reality TV averages around 60 hours of recording for each 1 hour that actually gets used. For something like this, they may have asked the question to 200 women and only showed you the "juicy" ones. Some people seem to also try to say something to try to be part of the footage that gets used too, even if it's not what they really believe.
/r/MensRights17/04/24 09:09 PM
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Shrug, you're allowed to have preferences in dating imho. I'd go so far to say even if it's something you don't bring to the table yourself. I preferred to look for someone to compliment me and not a mirror image of myself. Some preferences I find very weird though - like not wanting to date your own race for example. The main way it goes wrong is when people have inflated expectations compared to what they bring to the table. Too often people just end up delusional. Like if you're morbidly obes…
/r/MensRights17/04/24 09:00 PM
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I don't think it even needs to be a regligous based conflict. In the end of the movie, "Full Metal Jacket", a US solider is hit in the leg by a sniper. Someone runs out to help him and the sniper kills him. The rest of the team had to restraint another guy from wanting to try to help the wounded guy. They form a plan and track down the sniper. Then go help the wounded guy. I remember someone at least claiming to have experience in the armed forces that this portrayal was a realistic depiction of…
/r/MensRights17/04/24 04:48 PM
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Service guarantees citizenship
/r/MensRights17/04/24 04:43 PM
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All it takes for a draft to be reactivated is the armed forces need for bodies to be greater than the numbers volunteering. The world has been seeming less stable lately and in the US, they're having trouble filling recruitment goals.
/r/MensRights17/04/24 04:41 PM
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Be careful. Divorce courts have established jurisdiction in some cases based off of things like this.
/r/MensRights16/04/24 04:10 PM
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They should be thankful there's a WNBA at all. It's not profitable and shows no signs of growing into something that will be. I go to a game once every couple years just because the tickets are so cheap (sometimes even free) and it's a way to get the arena experience (they go all out like an NBA game) in an affordable way for a family of 4. The basketball itself isn't terribly interesting to watch, unfortunately (imo).
/r/MensRights16/04/24 04:04 PM
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I remember hearing "underwater basket weaving" as a joke college major back when I was in high school and that was 30 years ago. No idea where I heard it from, but it's pretty much an expression in American English. The wikipedia article says it's been around a long time with no clear origin.
/r/MensRights15/04/24 07:48 PM
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Dalrock has a whole series delving into the history on how courtly love got grafted into chivalry, which started as a mockery of Christianity and then Christianity incorporated a lot of those beliefs.
/r/MensRights15/04/24 07:25 PM
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Yep, this is actually a good way to screen pastors since many of them or their churches put videos of past sermons up on their website. Look up their Mother's Day and Father's day sermons. Most are like you describe and it tells you what you need to know.
/r/MensRights15/04/24 07:12 PM
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Just a little historical background on chess: The queen in chess was originally much weaker than even the King. It could only move diagonally. It's first move it could move 2 squares, but after that only 1. It was around the 1400s that she got upgraded to the current state. Also many cultures referred to it as the King's advisor, or a variation, which actually ties into your point about influence. women had far more ... influence over their husbands) than they do now. I see an awful lot of marri…
/r/MensRights15/04/24 03:18 PM
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That's rough that things are that bad for the Sicilians. Thanks for letting me know there was more to it that the movie line. Today I learned. If anyone hasn't seen "The Princess Bride", its: You fell victim to one of the classic blunders! The most famous of which is 'Never get involved in a land war in Asia,' but only slightly less well-known is this: 'Never go against a Sicilian when death is on the line!'
/r/MensRights11/04/24 06:28 PM
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If you know what you're doing, a grizzly bear will most likely leave you alone. But if it does take an interest in you, you're pretty much screwed without bear spray or a large caliber gun. Probably at least 99% of the people who found themselves in the woods with one other person would probably try to cooperate with them to increase their own chances of surviving.
/r/MensRights10/04/24 09:08 PM
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Good point. You made me go re-read it a little closer. I think the key point is if a man dares to set a boundary that he doesn't want to date single mothers, he gets blasted for it.
/r/MensRights10/04/24 09:04 PM
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I seriously question carrying a knife. There's a saying that in a knife v knife fight, the loser dies in the street, and the "winner" dies in the hospital. This is the much more realistic outcome than what you see on TV and in movies. Your best option if someone pulls a knife on you is to run away. If you can't run, your pepper spray is the better option than having your own knife.
/r/MensRights10/04/24 08:06 PM
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I think it's pretty simple why. Here, if you are a trained emergency health care provider and royally screw up on putting a tourniquet on someone's leg and they bleed out, you can be sued, and will probably lose or be forced to settle. If you are a layperson with no formal training, you're immune to being sued under good Samaritan laws for doing your best to try to save them, but failing. If you are a cop out on a beat and come across 2 people in a scuffle, you have training on de-escalation and…
/r/MensRights10/04/24 07:58 PM
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It only gets worse the older you get. Might be time to move to get a new dating pool.
/r/MensRights10/04/24 07:44 PM
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In your 30s, you should still be able to find childless women in your dating pool.
/r/MensRights10/04/24 07:37 PM
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So the bear was a teddy bear? That's about the only kind of bear I can think of that would make it the better choice.
/r/MensRights10/04/24 07:35 PM
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So... the wife in the OP is Sicilian? May as well be that death was on the line. ;-o
/r/MensRights10/04/24 07:26 PM
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Logic is a tool of the patriarchy! /s
/r/MensRights08/04/24 09:46 PM
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We need more brave and strong women to apply to be sanitation workers!
/r/MensRights08/04/24 09:39 PM
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One thing that helped me back when I was a teen was learning to pay attention to hints women were dropping that they were interested in me. It was so much easier pursuing those and then decided if I was interested or not than just getting shot down over and over taking a shot at the ones I had crushes on. I realize many guys get no interest at all though, so I was lucky to have some options that would pursue me.
/r/MensRights08/04/24 09:34 PM
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An oft repeated phrase I've read in response to "where are all the good men?" is "back in your twenties where you left them". They ignore them then but then when they're finally looking for one, those guys don't want them anymore due to their youth and optimism being gone and all the baggage they've racked up.
/r/MensRights08/04/24 06:56 PM
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6 to 7 years seems a bit much to expect. Sure, guys should probably prefer as much vetting as possible, but I'm not sure 6-7 years is reasonable because if either backs out at the 7 year mark, the woman has just used up ~70% of her prime dating years of her twenties.
/r/MensRights08/04/24 05:05 PM
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If you mean most modern churches, I don't think they have a lot to offer men. They've mostly sold out to feminism and gynocentricism just like the wider culture. I've read a lot of theories on why congregations are about 2/3rds women now but my own take is it's just due to men getting tired of the gynocentricism and bowing out. The men that are there are rarely the strong, bold, courageous type like David or Jesus, but rather meek and wimpy to be blunt. If you mean picking up a Bible and reading…
/r/MensRights05/04/24 10:12 PM
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It's not much better imho. Both statements imply that if someone is unhappy they're going to act like an emotional terrorist to make the rest of the house unhappy too. Maybe these statements used to mean something more like "take care of your wife/spouse and they'll be more inclined to reciproate." That I can get behind. But too often now the "happy wife happy life" one gets used as a threat.
/r/MensRights05/04/24 03:35 PM
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It's better than it used to be 20 years ago when just clicking on the top result of an innocent search could result in porn pop-up ads that opened two more for every one you closed.
/r/MensRights04/04/24 06:11 PM
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This is an example of how and why subs turn into echo chambers.
/r/MensRights04/04/24 04:07 PM
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Yes, I'd say it's very common judging by the interactions of married couples I know. I'd say it also happens where you start with a genuinely good woman but she slowly changes on you. The best defense is to recognize the behaviors and nip them in the bud (and/or cut the person out of your life if practical). KS list of things to watch out for were women who tried to use shame, insults, guilt, and a need to be right. Another guy recommended say "no" to a simple request she makes at least once a m…
/r/MensRights03/04/24 10:05 PM
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First rule in school is to just tell the teacher what they want to hear. Most make it abundantly clear what that is. I did have a few teachers that rewarded critical thinking and trying to take a controversial position, but those were rare. Without knowing which case you're dealing with, I don't know how I'd answer.
/r/MensRights03/04/24 06:56 PM
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Hey, that's a good run-down, thanks! If I could add a couple things, another big difference is that young, average to attractive women often end up taking for granted that if they show interest in a guy, that he'll also be interested in return or come around quickly. That's not the case at all for the vast majority of guys. I was lucky enough that I had enough going for me that women would show interest in me and drop hints. Not very many. Probably <1% that were theoretically in my dating pool. …
/r/MensRights03/04/24 06:16 PM
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The technology for human cloning is there, yet it has been blocked. I would expect the same to happen for any single man trying to use an artificial womb to have a kid. Even places that allow surrogacy, frequently do not permit a single man to use it.
/r/MensRights03/04/24 12:13 AM
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power and dominance This makes it sound more innocent than it is. As much as I dislike Wikipedia, it at least makes it sound closer to the darkness it should connotate with calling it "manipulation, indifference to morality, lack of empathy, and a strategic focus on self-interest." Even that makes it sound almost palatable compared to what it is if you read Machiavelli's book "The Prince".
/r/MensRights02/04/24 10:51 PM
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I haven't heard of it before, although just the phrase "burned haystack" was pretty descriptive. I looked it up though out of curiosity and read through most of it. If you're a woman looking for a simp, it seems like it would probably work. At least in any locations like the US where there are a lot more men than women on these apps. (I read it's the opposite in a few places like Poland.) Most decent guys give up on writing out paragraph personalized opening messages because it's almost always j…
/r/MensRights02/04/24 10:41 PM
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Today a female friend Why are you friends with her? My life got better when I started cutting people out of my life that say crap like this. To paraphrase something I remember reading, "when someone tells you they're a misandrist, believe them." Same if they tell you they're of poor character or morals. For immediate family, then yeah you kind of just have to deal with the best you can.
/r/MensRights02/04/24 10:23 PM
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Oh definetly they're not the same. To me it seems like in Christianity neither has a right of refusal (theoretically because its rarely practiced) and in Islam it only says the wife does not have a right of refusal. Am I missing something? It just seemed confusing with your post, "Traditional Christian marriage. Islam, for example, does not recognise women as having the right to refuse." which implied (by my reading) that women can refuse under Christianity. Not trying to argue, so I apologize i…
/r/MensRights02/04/24 07:26 PM
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Do you mean only men have the right to refuse in Islam? Because it sounds like it's the same in both Islam and Christianity in that the wife does not have a right to refuse. Christianity applies it to husbands too is the difference? Most Christians don't actually practice this teaching however in my experience and instead will come up with rationalizations to allow one spouse to withhold the bedroom for extended periods of time (or even indefinitely).
/r/MensRights01/04/24 09:43 PM
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Women have been convicted of raping male children and he has a backlog of child care payments to start making once he turns 18.
/r/MensRights01/04/24 09:27 PM
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They want the perceived upsides but not the responsibilities. In the US, it goes back to 1st wave feminism. Many women opposed it on the grounds that if they got the right to vote, they'd have to sign up for the draft too. But they got the privledge without the responsibility and it has just continued ever since. Claiming to be about equality is just a facade to trick naive people.
/r/MensRights01/04/24 09:16 PM
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Yep, this is reflected in the phrase "to have and to hold" in the traditional vows - a promise to be sexually available to each other.
/r/MensRights01/04/24 03:30 PM
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"to have and to hold" in the traditional vows is a euphemism for promising to be sexually available to each other.
/r/MensRights01/04/24 03:29 PM
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If you're religious, you could try a pastor (or equivalent). I've had better luck with them over my life. My theory is that it's because they normally only take 1 counseling class in seminary so don't get as indoctrinated with the gynocentric and feminist stuff as counselors or therapists.
/r/MensRights27/03/24 05:23 PM
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I think there aren't enough of those to go around either. I forget which swipe app data it was, but it showed the women rated 80% of men as below average in appearance. Granted, there's more ways to trigger attraction in women. The trend seems to be women spending their twenties trying to get an attractive guy and then once they realize it's not going to happen, try to settle for a regular joe before she runs out of time on her biological clock. There's a big logjam of women in their early thirt…
/r/MensRights26/03/24 06:11 PM
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Is a "donor" in the first paragraph defined in a way that covers these guys not going through a fertility clinic?
/r/MensRights26/03/24 06:04 PM
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The first and second rules when in a romantic relationship with a woman are: 1. Be attractive. 2. Don't be unattractive. For the majority of hetro women: confident & stoic = attractive. Crying, or being nervous = unattractive. It's just the way they're wired. You either roll with it or pay the consequences.
/r/MensRights25/03/24 08:19 PM
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Or the other possibility is the highest earning women will tend to go unmatched as well as the bottom earning men. There seems to be some indication this is the way the dilemma is resolving.
/r/MensRights25/03/24 03:47 PM
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Good find. I've sometimes wondered why some women running out of time on their biological clock resort to freezing eggs rather than IVF at a clinic (or the other methods mentioned in the article to try to get pregnant). I suspected it was due to it being the emotions of it rather than the logic and the author highlights many things that would probably overlap.
/r/MensRights25/03/24 03:39 PM
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Yeah, it depends a lot on jursidictions, but it seems pretty common that the contract is void because it's the child right to be supported by both parents that cannot by waived by the mother or anyone else. The only real exception is often if the law makes an exception if it's from a fertility clinic, which isn't exactly great reassurance since it means the laws around that exception could be changed at any time.
/r/MensRights25/03/24 03:29 PM
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The only way there are enough Chads to go around is if they share.
/r/MensRights25/03/24 02:31 PM
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It exists in non-trivial numbers. The issue is it tends to be unstable. The research I've found says divorce rates are higher, marriage satisfaction is lower, and deadbedrooms are more common in these situations. Some other research found that it mostly only works if it's a short-term, temporary thing. Such as the man is not working in order to get a master's degree and then get a better paying job. I haven't found much as to the why other than just different theories. My theory is it's a wide v…
/r/MensRights21/03/24 06:27 PM
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Women have 100% of the babies they want, Good points, but I'll add some wanted babies end in miscarriage. My sister and her husband tried for over a decade and all ended in miscarriage until one finally made it. That was rough.
/r/MensRights20/03/24 08:06 PM
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Not the guy you asked, but for me, the cheer would be that individual guys no longer feel pressured into being plow horses, the weep is the possibility human technological civilization could go into decline and another dark ages due to the very low birth rates in almost all developed countries. A slow population reduction would be a good thing, but it's happening much too quickly and is causing and going to cause a lot of problems as the ratio of workers to non workers gets too low. AI and produ…
/r/MensRights20/03/24 07:43 PM
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I'd add places like Japan and South Korea since they seem like they're on a similar decline for similar reasons.
/r/MensRights20/03/24 07:20 PM
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True, I agree. My comment was tongue-in-cheek.
/r/MensRights20/03/24 05:44 PM
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Did she miss the memo that the women decided they wanted to be the breadwinners instead now?
/r/MensRights19/03/24 10:02 PM
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Good point. I wasn't trying to imply that. Only that the civil rights movement in the US was genuine about equality whereas feminism was not.
/r/MensRights19/03/24 09:23 PM
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Just another example showing feminism is not about equality as claimed, but about some kind of restitution and vengeance. It's like if Rosa Parks wanted white people to sit at the back of the bus.
/r/MensRights19/03/24 03:47 PM
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If I remember right, once in a while Kevin Samuels floated the idea (to a woman calling in to ask for advice) to put her kids up for adoption if she was as committed and serious about improving her dating prospects as she claimed to be.
/r/MensRights18/03/24 09:38 PM
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One idea is to do some volunteer work for a cause you genuinely care about. I figured the women I met there were more likely to be of good character. That's how I met my wife.
/r/MensRights18/03/24 09:23 PM
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Yeah the implication with "happy wife, happy life" is that if she's not happy she will try to make the rest of the household unhappy, which is emotional/psychological abuse. Making it gender neutral helps try to bring it back to being a balanced two-way street at least, but still can have that same issue.
/r/MensRights18/03/24 09:17 PM
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Yeah, my dating life turned around after I got some good advice from a guy about how to be a bit of a challenge and play hard to get in order to trigger their hypergamy. Putting in all the effort tends to turn women off. Simping isn't a winning strategy.
/r/MensRights18/03/24 04:08 PM
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Plus shovel the snow, mow the grass, fix stuff that breaks around the house, take care of the cars, and more.
/r/MensRights18/03/24 03:41 PM
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I spent a lot of time researching what factors correlated with higher and lower divorce rates and then screened women based on that when I was dating. Finally found one with most of the low risk indicators, none of the high-risk ones, and chemistry, but who also understood infatuation is just a phase and there's more to love and marriage than that. 17 years and and so far so good. If she did file (or I did for some reason), my strategy would be to first try to come to an agreement splitting thin…
/r/MensRights08/03/24 07:12 PM
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Seems more like a host-parasite type of relationship. :/
/r/MensRights07/03/24 05:23 PM
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Yeah, I'm so glad I took the advice to screen for a woman who was a giver too and reciprocated. It surprised me at the time how many I had to move on from because they wanted me to do all the work.
/r/MensRights07/03/24 05:21 PM
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I'm old enough to remember when preachers used to give sermons occasionally on topics like proverbs 31 or vices that tend to be more common in women than men like nagging, gossip, and slander, but it's been a very, very long time now. I've found a good test is to listen to a pastor's sermon from Mother's Day and Father's day. Usually now a days the father's day one quickly turns into "man up" while the mother's day one does none of that and is just "women are heros".
/r/MensRights07/03/24 05:16 PM
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Reminds me of the joke about a guy being stuck on his roof during a flood. A guy comes by on a boat and offers him a ride, but he refuses saying "God will provide". A helicopter comes and he refuses. He drowns and arrives at the pearly gates. They seem surprised to see him. He asks God why he didn't save him and God says, "Who do you think sent the boat and helicopter?"
/r/MensRights07/03/24 05:06 PM
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endless supply of providers The tables seem to be turning here. In the US, young women entering the workforce are out-earning men now, mostly because they're earning 2/3rds of college degrees. They won't all be able to pair off with a man who earns the same or more.
/r/MensRights07/03/24 05:04 PM
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Some companies offer tuition reimbursement toward a degree related to your job there as a benefit. I wish I took advantage of mine back when I was 22-26 and gotten my master's in engineering.
/r/MensRights07/03/24 03:33 PM
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She sounds like a peach /s. My wife set her paycheck to direct deposit in a joint account and is happy I take care of all the financial stuff - bills, investing, etc. She only has a pretty decent Roth IRA balance now entirely because I set it up and max out the contribution every year.
/r/MensRights06/03/24 08:51 PM
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The biggest problem is many therapists have just as much gynocentric gender bias as the general population. I remember a story about a speaker at a conference for therapists and he started by writing "Men are [blank]" on a whiteboard or something. He didn't say anything but maybe made some gestures if the audience wasn't quick to start yelling things out. Someone would eventually break the ice and yell out "pigs" or something and get a chuckle and he'd write it down and then it would soon be a f…
/r/MensRights06/03/24 08:23 PM
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If you're bored, it could be interesting re-applying with more and more things that check "diversity" boxes to see if you eventually get a response. Is switching race to "other/mixed" enough? Is there an option other than male/female you can check? Do you need to adjust a male-sounding first name by using first initial and middle initial for example or just giving yourself a new nickname?
/r/MensRights06/03/24 08:09 PM
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What stops it from just devolving into replies to replies to replies all with just a "." or "hey"?
/r/MensRights06/03/24 05:36 PM
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Both can be true. I've heard but not confirmed that the bell curve of men and of women have nearly the same average, but the men's is a bit flatter and wider (higher standard deviation). So you get more men at both the top and bottom. When you pick a segment that heavily filters for the smartest like Nobel Prize winners, patents, other major inventions through history, there's a bias toward men. There's also an imbalance at the bottom. There are more boys diagnosed with autism and more homeless …
/r/MensRights05/03/24 07:09 PM
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They do support abortion because they are nuts for women. My biggest consideration pushing me to support safe and legal abortion is that if you try to make it illegal except in cases of rape or incest, it just encourages falsely accusing a man of rape. This was what happened in the case that was used for the Roe v. Wade decision. Abortion was illegal in Texas except in cases of rape, so the woman accused some random guy and caused a world of pain for him just so she could get one.
/r/MensRights05/03/24 06:51 PM
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Libido is influenced by a women’s monthly cycle usually peaking around ovulation but what the study was talking about was things like if she’s attracted to men or women. In the vast majority of people that’s not fluid but very fixed throughout adulthood. It can carry down in other ways too like often you can tell someone has a type. My wife looks very similar to an ex GF of mine and other women I’ve had crushes on in the past for example. Most hetro women get turned on by feeling protected among…
/r/MensRights05/03/24 02:10 AM
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Whenever you dig into the numbers of people claiming there's a pay gap, what they're looking at is the total earnings of all men versus the total earnings of all women (for a given country). Then they infer men are earning more than women for the same job & years experience which simply isn't the case and has been illegal in the US since 1963 (if I remember right). There was a study into what young men and women considered when choosing a career. The top three considerations were the same for bo…
/r/MensRights04/03/24 10:53 PM
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Eh, even guys that by any metric are much higher status will get nagged if he lets it work on him. If you give your puppy a treat every time it pees on your shoes, you're just training it to pee on your shoes. If she gets what she wants by nagging, you're just training her to nag.
/r/MensRights04/03/24 10:45 PM
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Yes, it's very widespread. I'm glad I learned the tools to nip it in the bud before it got that far.
/r/MensRights04/03/24 09:03 PM
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The persistent nagging suggests that your friend's wife is the dominant one in that relationship which tends to be an attraction killer for women. Impossible to diagnose just from the little you wrote, but it happens very frequently. My uncle worked long hours and worked his way up to vice-president of a bank. His wife complained a lot so he moved back down to manager of a branch in order to scale back his workload and hours and have more time to spend with their kids. It didn't help much - she …
/r/MensRights04/03/24 08:31 PM
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Yeah, I wish I had saved the link for that research paper. I'm not sure how hard it would be to find with some digging but even if I found it, it's pretty dry like most publications in science journals and hard for laypeople to follow (including me since it's not my area of expertise).
/r/MensRights04/03/24 08:07 PM
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Many women either don't understand how attraction is triggered in themselves, or they're dishonest about it. Edit: or another posibility is simply that unattractive men are invisible to them so all the advice they give is with men they're attracted to in mind (but then this gets back to them not understanding it). Research has found that the part of the brain responsible for sexual attraction develops during puberty and then becomes non-plastic, meaning it can't learn anything new. So once a per…
/r/MensRights04/03/24 06:02 PM
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Feminism made many historical achievements while MR didn't make any significant progress It's because society & culture is gynocentric (and has been for at least the past 500 years when courtly love got grafted into chivalry). It was men that voted to give women the right to vote in the US (the majority of women actually opposed it) but you don't see many women trying to use their influence to try to help with any of boys/mens issues. Menslib Menslib seems to mostly be male feminists. In fact, w…
/r/MensRights04/03/24 05:49 PM
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Haha. I’m a 45 year old guy.
/r/MensRights03/03/24 12:39 AM
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I think that's how it used to be used. Every usage I've seen in the last couple years has been a woman trying to bring another down by calling her a "pick me" for daring to put some effort into her romantic relationship or try to get the attention of a single guy she has her eye on.
/r/MensRights01/03/24 08:30 PM
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The context I see it most often used is a woman calling another women a "pick me" for putting any kind of effort into being more like the kind of woman men are looking for for a romantic relationship. Amy: "Hey, Beth, why do you work out 3x a week? Seems like a drag." Beth: "I want to look good for my boyfriend" Amy: "You're such a pick-me."
/r/MensRights01/03/24 08:24 PM
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One thing to keep in mind is this is one of the few subs where men can vent a little and not get banned. So we do tend to collect the men looking for a place to blow off a little steam. So you'll run into a bit of that but try to not overly focus on it. Most of the regulars I see post here are very level-headed and make good arguments to support their positions often with data. If I remember right, the sidebar has a good "essay" describing our core issues.
/r/MensRights01/03/24 07:35 PM
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Yep, I meant in the context of a romantic relationship since that's the way I've always seen the term "pick-me" used. So in your example, that's more of acting like a tomboy and yes guys tend to see and treat women acting like tomboys like one of the guys in many ways and don't see them as a potential romantic interest. I don't know what you think of KS, and I don't agree with everything he said, but one thing that was interesting to me is that he had a lot of female callers on his shows asking …
/r/MensRights01/03/24 06:03 PM
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The hamster is undefeated
/r/MensRights29/02/24 10:14 PM
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It's a silly phrase. Most people like getting picked. It's the kids that got picked last when making teams that felt the worst. I've frequently read people describe this behavior as being like crabs in a bucket -- they pull each other down trying to get out rather than work together. A woman actually working on herself and trying to figure out what the guys she's interested in are looking for and focusing working on those things is just being smart and pragmatic. If I were a woman and someone tr…
/r/MensRights29/02/24 09:58 PM
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Yeah, I remember reading a story about a guy trying to explain to two women who kept going for peacocks (guys who flaunt expensive things like a car and clothing but are actually broke) that it was the guys driving older cars, dressed more plainly but were in a field with well paying jobs who actually had money in the bank. I wish I remembered more of the back and forth conversion, but I remember it became apparent to me it was just another way in which it mattered a lot how you make a woman fee…
/r/MensRights29/02/24 09:52 PM
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Yep, that's partly what I was getting at: It's our lizard brain that is attracted to those things and so we look for them whether we want children or not.
/r/MensRights29/02/24 09:47 PM
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My wife basically lived paycheck to paycheck when we were dating and had a net worth close to $0. But she's fine with me handling all our finances thankfully so I can keep us on track - even what she earns, which seems rather unusual from what I hear from most guys where women often want to be able to spend what they make on whatever and not have to put any of it toward bills or savings. Some advice I got and followed was to only take a woman on very cheap or free dates the first couple months, …
/r/MensRights29/02/24 07:50 PM
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four-fifths of American women felt their relationships were unequal My premarital counselor wisely explained that it is very common for both partners to feel like they're putting in more than their fair share. He made sure we both understood that and would work to keep that feeling in check.
/r/MensRights29/02/24 05:44 PM
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I've wondered why more women don't go the sperm bank route with no partner in the picture. If you want kids, have no prospects interested in a LTR, and time is running out on the biological clock, it's a pretty rational option and as the gender that carries the fetus, much easier for a woman to do it than a guy who can only really adopt (I'm not aware of any jurisdictions where a single guy can use a surrogate). I know a guy around 50 who gave up on dating and managed to adopt a kid for example …
/r/MensRights29/02/24 05:35 PM
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Yeah, the last time I told my wife our net worth all it did was make her want to spend some on things we don't need like a deck and new furniture. Took too much work explaining it was almost entirely home equity, retirement funds, and college funds, and we actually had little free for things like that. If she wanted some of that stuff, we'd need to cut some spending elsewhere, which never happened of course :p
/r/MensRights29/02/24 05:22 PM
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Yeah, many of the things men emphasize most are tied to fertility indications - hourglass figure, healthy, child-bearing age, nurturing abilities, etc. Seems very practical and pragmatic.
/r/MensRights29/02/24 05:18 PM
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But if you're famous, wealthy, and charismatic enough you can get away with a crooked nose like Owen Wilson and still get People's sexiest man alive "award". haha
/r/MensRights29/02/24 05:16 PM
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Yep, just to add on, if your wife/GF believes you could do better, she tends to put more effort into the relationship to balance it out better. Very hard to do these days.
/r/MensRights29/02/24 05:13 PM
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Wouldn't they both get parental leave?
/r/MensRights29/02/24 03:49 AM
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I dunno, sounds like a win to me. Why do you want to work more instead of be with your kids given the chance? I took less parental leave than I could have due to feeling pressure at the time by work and society that I should place work ahead of family. Looking back now I wish I could have spent more time with them while they were young. I agree making it mandatory is a heavy handed approach to try to change things, but being able to say to your boss, "Sorry I can't work, my leave is mandatory" i…
/r/MensRights29/02/24 03:48 AM
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Yeah, the definitions of masculinity/femininity I like the most is that it's observing the behavior of men and of women and trying to summarize and describe the differences.
/r/MensRights28/02/24 08:01 PM
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Some one once explained it to me this way. For men, the bar for a woman to be wife material is almost always higher than the bar to be willing to enthusiastically sleep with her. For women, it's the other way around but men usually don't realize this. Their bar to marry a man is often lower than their bar to enthusiastically sleep with one. If you're not her first choice, you probably should just move on.
/r/MensRights28/02/24 04:55 PM
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The whole thing seems to be in denial about how things typically work. It's usually on the man to escalate. Start slow and build slowly. If she responds favorably to each escalation, proceed and move to something a little bit more risque. If not, back off. Repeat. You usually don't know that she "doesn't want to" until an attempt to escalate gets denied. And even when it does, it often just means "you're moving too fast, slow down and I'll probably be on board in a bit".
/r/MensRights27/02/24 07:41 PM
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Thanks. We reference Norah Vincent's book quite often as well as trans men who say it's worse being a man. Also anectdotal. The article seems to try hard to spin things in a positive light, for example the feeling invisible part, but it was still interesting to me to read their stories. I figure transmen and transwomen can offer some insight into the ways society tends to treat men and women differently. And if we can assume that article was trying to spin things as positively as possible, they …
/r/MensRights27/02/24 07:08 PM
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Yeah, in the broad sense, she is out of touch and probably making the common apex fallacy mistake of only looking at top men and bottom 90% are invisible to her. Respect is earned in my book whether you're a man or woman. There may be a hint of truth in it though. Here is an article I recently read link where several trans men said they felt more respected at work after they started passing. My first thought was if you're in a place where the bar is lower for diversity hires, that it would make …
/r/MensRights26/02/24 10:09 PM
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She could end up facing criminal charges too if she tried to help him cover it up.
/r/MensRights26/02/24 06:42 PM
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This guys seems rather naive as if he didn't know insider trading was a crime apparently. He was also kind of a newb by buying shares instead of buying call options. Probably better for him to have only made a 71% profit instead of a 10x+ he could have done by buying calls.
/r/MensRights26/02/24 06:40 PM
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I don't know how much time you get with him, but when my son got to about 13, he took a lot more interest in everything I do from gaming, to sports, to weightlifting, my work, and more. Just having a good example in a boy's life goes a long ways.
/r/MensRights26/02/24 06:25 PM
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Yeah, I mean, at the most basic level, that's on point. There are lot of character traits women could learn as children and teens that would help them add more value that I don't think come naturally: grace, kindness, gentleness, conflict resolution, taking accountability, empathy, manners, cooperation, a little humility, avoiding gossip, slander, nagging, gaslighting, etc. Any woman with the opposite of all of those is a really poor prospect to try to have children with and help you raise them.…
/r/MensRights26/02/24 06:21 PM
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Imho something is racist/sexist if it's false or if there isn't data to back it up. A statement like, "According to Gallop Poll XYZ done on this date, 53% of African Americans support this measure, and 78% of White Americans do." is not racist, it's simply stating the fact of the result of a poll. Or "women get pregant and give birth" is just biolgy and is not sexist. Even if something is true, using it as an insult or shame could turn it back into racism, like "Asian men are a bunch of shorties…
/r/MensRights26/02/24 06:08 PM
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Owen Wilson won People magazine's sexiest man alive award and he has a very crooked nose. 20 years ago, the acronym I learned was LAMPS - looks, athleticism, money, power, and status for what women were attracted to in men. Vaguely speaking there's two bars for each. Two low in something and you won't be above the bar and will cause "the ick". Getting above the higher bar and you're starting some tingles. You need all of them above the bottom bars and at least one above the higher bar. Owen Wils…
/r/MensRights23/02/24 09:35 PM
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I'd be most of these guys are making the mistake of listening to what women say they want instead of paying attention to what they actually respond to.
/r/MensRights23/02/24 09:29 PM
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You can do them at a prenatal visit too -- there's enough fetal DNA floating in the mother's bloodstream to pick it up that way and a cheek swab from the guy.
/r/MensRights23/02/24 09:12 PM
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You don't necessarily have to be the biological father to get stuck paying child support. Either through paternity fraud or acting like a parent to the kid is enough in some places. It also can go the other way. Very rare, but it does happen. I read a case where a guy convinced the gal he was pregnant with to carry it to term and then she could surrender her paternal rights and he would take full custody and raise the kid. As soon as that paperwork was finished, he filed for child support from h…
/r/MensRights23/02/24 09:09 PM
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Source? I don't doubt you but I'd like to see it. From what I've found in the past, kids raised in a stable household with both parents fare the best in pretty much every measurable way. Ones raised by single fathers are next, and those raised by single mothers do the worst.
/r/MensRights22/02/24 09:28 PM
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Who should be the breadwinner now? Well, out of the young adults entering the workforce in the US, women are out-earning men now. Mostly due to them earning something around 2/3rds of college degrees. So if you had the job of playing matchmaker, you only have three options. You could pair them off so the women are out earning their BF/husbands. This often has issues as I mention in an answer to another of your questions below. The second would be to pair each women with a man older than her wher…
/r/MensRights22/02/24 06:36 PM
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Married 17 years here. I'd say it's happy overall. The main difficulty is just finding time for each other between careers, kids, kids activities, and taking care of housework.
/r/MensRights22/02/24 04:59 PM
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If the women in the pictures reflected their clientele, yes probably. I'd be very surprised if that was an accurate reflection of their typical clientele though. Could easily be a lot of delusional 3s and 4s thinking they deserve a 7 or 8 (or more).
/r/MensRights21/02/24 09:27 PM
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Yeah, I think it was the Anita Hill vs Clarence Tomas case around 1991 that killed the number of couples who met at work.
/r/MensRights21/02/24 09:22 PM
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Shrug, that's how it worked 30+ years ago before the internet.
/r/MensRights21/02/24 09:20 PM
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You have to realise, most men are very, very scared to come up to you When I was 15, sure. At 25, no. At 35, rofl. Now at 45, if I somehow found myself single, I have better things to do with my life.
/r/MensRights21/02/24 09:18 PM
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Yeah, my sister was trying to shoo off guys she wasn't interesting in by bitching at them. I asked her if she realized that if a guy notices her doing this, he'll probably avoid you because he figures you'll act like that to him eventually. It really didn't seem to sink in.
/r/MensRights21/02/24 09:05 PM
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Yeah, I think this is a big part of it. If your dating pool was 50 guys, an average gal (5) took a shot at the 10, then the couple 9s, then the 8s, and got down to the guys in her league (4-6) within a year or two and finally got a match for a LTR. Now they can spend the entirety of their fertile years (roughly 18 to 35) still chasing 9s and 10s.
/r/MensRights21/02/24 08:50 PM
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The first and easiest step is to just listen. A surprising number will let you know what you're dealing with by using phrases like "men are pigs" or "patriarchy" or such. Then you can save yourself the trouble of setting anything up.
/r/MensRights20/02/24 10:33 PM
20

As an admiral once said in a galaxy far, far away: "It's a trap!"
/r/MensRights20/02/24 10:25 PM
3

Better Bacheolr
/r/MensRights20/02/24 08:54 PM
4

Yeah, I do that at home but public toilets in my area never have a lid, only a ring.
/r/MensRights20/02/24 04:04 PM
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I've read many guys say this and remember some had sources and even remember reading some of those sources, but unfortunately I didn't save any links. I also remember it's difficult because a lot of guys are conditioned to just take it and not even recognize that they're being abused.
/r/MensRights20/02/24 12:00 AM
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How to deal with the rising of the far right, red pill bros, Enjoy it? At least the part of it trying to teach guys to grow a spine and work on things that make them more attractive. Shoot I used some of that material to work on myself and it improved my marriage and my wife is happier and me. So I don't know why some women think it's automatically a loss or red flag. and ever more frequent hate on a daily basis? Yeah, some take it too far. I'll give them that. The rise of the far right and red …
/r/MensRights19/02/24 11:56 PM
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The best explanation I've heard is that the #1 turnoff for women is when they perceive a guy as wimpy. A close second is being boring. Criminals are usually on the opposite end of the spectrum as that. They're often dangerous, do not give a F, won't take crap from her, exciting, unpredictable, and trigger her feeling protected. Part of me wonders if these women have just burned out their ability to be attracted to a more normal non-criminal guy. The only ones that give them the tingles anymore a…
/r/MensRights19/02/24 11:29 PM
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Yeah, especially once you include more than physical assault (emotional abuse, phycological abuse, gaslighting, etc.), the floodgates open.
/r/MensRights19/02/24 11:22 PM
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The only logical thing is to leave the seat however you put it to use it yourself because it minimizes the total # of people needing to touch the seat.
/r/MensRights19/02/24 11:14 PM
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Dig up a post on the AITA sub that's a few months old on a relationship issue between a man and a woman that isn't completely black and white. Flip all the genders and repost it. Then compare the responses to each. It's always very lopsided siding with whichever is the "woman". Or another is to read stories about women presenting themselves as a man like Norah Vincent or read about some people born as women and started transitioning to men and then had deep regrets after they started passing as …
/r/MensRights19/02/24 07:39 PM
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"this hatred of men is a response and reverberation of the patriarchy itself" It makes no sense. I think it's safe to say if you surveyed women identifying as radical feminists and Amish women, the former would "score" higher on misandry than the Amish women. What is teaching these groups of women to have such different attitudes toward men? The Amish are much more "patriarchal". The only conclusion I can think of is that it is radical feminism teaching women misandry.
/r/MensRights19/02/24 07:32 PM
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we are all entitled for what we want in a partner. My take is that everyone should have the freedom to put whatever they want on their list of "must-haves" and "can't stands" when looking for a romantic partner. Is that what you mean? After searching for a while and failing to find any matches, most reasonable people will take a look at their lists and realize their lists probably too long and if they want to actually find a match before running out of time, they need to do some soul-searching t…
/r/MensRights19/02/24 07:28 PM
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I was brought up as a kid in church. They told us to read our Bibles. I actually did and found a lot of interesting things they tend to gloss over or cherry pick. It's a long discussion on how and why the church turned out this way (if Dalrock's blog is still up, he does a lot of research on it.) Complementarianism is the oddest because when you read their examination of the Biblical passages on the roles of husbands and wives, it matches pretty well. The most controversial (for feminism, modern…
/r/MensRights19/02/24 04:47 PM
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Have you considered changing you name to something gender neutral like Sam or Chris and marking female or other on applications? Not sure how I feel about that but If it’s the difference in getting my foot in the door I’d be thinking a lot about it in your shoes.
/r/MensRights19/02/24 02:04 AM
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I'm teaching my teenage son and daughter. It's not much, but it's something.
/r/MensRights16/02/24 07:43 PM
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Two tips I remembered are: 1) if you are intimate, text the next day and comment about how last night was great. Hopefully, she'll reply back with something positive. Save that. Archive it. Back it up. That's your evidence it was consensual. If you do face charges, get her to commit to a timeline of when exactly things supposedly happened before you reveal what supporting evidence you have. 2) If you're ready to break up with a gal, get her to do it and think it was her idea. There are different…
/r/MensRights16/02/24 07:35 PM
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Yeah, the average gap is something like 2 to 3 years. I would expect the difference in % single to close at least somewhat if the ranges were something like 18-26 for women and 20-29 for men to try to account for some of that. I don't think it would completely close the gap though. So, part of seems like it might be couples that haven't discussed and agreed on what they are and for some reason men or more likely to respond they're single further into a relationship than women. In my experience, …
/r/MensRights16/02/24 06:07 PM
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Looks about as scientific as you can get as far as polls go. I'm confused what OP's basis is for titling this post "Unscientific poll..." Yeah, its subjective but that's just the nature of polls.
/r/MensRights16/02/24 04:23 AM
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I don't know how you really could because when you look up most definitions of harassment, it's mostly in the eye of the beholder. Legal definitions tend to be a tiny bit better since they usually at least add the phrase "would a reasonable person" consider X to be harassment. Even then the difference between flirting and harassment is comes down to if it's welcome or not.
/r/MensRights15/02/24 10:29 PM
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Which of their polls do you mean? (You just linked the frontpage).
/r/MensRights15/02/24 10:23 PM
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In the UK, it seems the biggest issue is men daring to look at a woman in public.
/r/MensRights15/02/24 08:55 PM
1

As KS used to advise women, "don't carry before you marry"
/r/MensRights15/02/24 08:47 PM
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My sister did one of those DNA ancestry tests and it came back 99% caucasian and 1% north African. I guess if I ever ended up in that boat I could try putting "mixed" for race. There's no logic to it anyway since someone who is 50% black and 50% white (like Barak Obama) gets called black by nearly everyone.
/r/MensRights15/02/24 08:10 PM
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Both men and women are happier married. Correlation does not tell you causation. It seems much more likely to me that happier, healthily people are more likely to get married than marriage somehow making people happier. My premarital counseling was pretty wise in making sure neither of us were getting married hoping it would make us happier or that either of us had an expectation that it was the other's job to make us happy. To be ready for marriage requires a lot of groundwork and preparation a…
/r/MensRights15/02/24 07:30 PM
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Also the one that goes something like, "Children love puppies, women love children, men love women, and dogs love men."
/r/MensRights15/02/24 06:39 PM
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This effect is probably more to do with the fact that less women are committing suicide. Wow. This comment in the second article is especially cringe. So when we survey men and women for happiness, men come out ahead because the most depressed ones offed themselves and aren't being counted? Where do they come up with this?
/r/MensRights14/02/24 08:29 PM
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Could you double check your link? I get a 404 error on Yale's webpage.
/r/MensRights14/02/24 08:16 PM
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Anecdotal, but yeah, my sister divorced her husband almost entirely due to her frustration with feeling like she had to put in overtime to make ends meet while her husband just drifted between various low paying part time jobs. He was a cool guy and I liked him a lot. It's like an unforgiveable sin in our society to try to make more out of life as a guy than just working to support a wife and kids.
/r/MensRights14/02/24 08:14 PM
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Expanding on that last though, I see a few possible implications. Men tend to try to get their life in a stable place before settling down / marrying / starting a family. Women tend to select for those men to help them raise kids. (I'm not saying that's the most important factor in who they choose since they tend to weigh "bad boy" traits much more heavily especially when they're younger) Not seeing a similar correlation in women has the opposite implications: Women feel no pressure by culture o…
/r/MensRights14/02/24 04:39 PM
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One tip is if you're in a relationship and you're ready for it to end is try to get it to be her idea to break up. The one time I was falsely accused was right after I broke up with a woman and then her roommate accused me of all kinds of things. The gal I had been dating had good character thankfully and apologized for her roommate's behavior. I got lucky there because that could have gone south quickly.
/r/MensRights14/02/24 04:29 PM
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I'm curious if you know of any jurisdictions where single men have successfully used surrogacy? Many countries outlaw the practice entirely. All the ones I know of where it's allowed only offer it to couples (like gay men, or a hetro couple with fertility issues). I haven't researched it extensively, so probably am missing some which is why I ask.
/r/MensRights14/02/24 04:25 PM
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The basics of being an adult is being able to take care of yourself. To me, this phrase "dying into poverty" reflects a refusal to be an adult and be responsible for oneself. For marriage to be fair, the risks, benefits, responsibilities, etc. need to be balanced. If you put all the risks on one party, don't be surprised when they're not too keen on signing up. Responsibilities need to be balanced. Authority needs to be in step with those responsibilities (Authority without responsibility is tyr…
/r/MensRights13/02/24 11:05 PM
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Yep, that's how it gets used here in the midwest of the US. At least when I was a kid. Thankfully, I don't hear people use it much anymore since it is rather racist.
/r/MensRights13/02/24 10:51 PM
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I wonder if part of it was that when your dating pool was smaller, then you'd work your way through your list of candidates and after taking your shot with the couple of 8-10s, you'd be forced to drop down and then take a shot at the 7s. Then the 6s, etc. Within a couple years, an average person got down to people in their league. Now an average woman can spend her entire fertility window (roughly 20-35) chasing 9s and 10s and never get down to the 5 or 6 that would be a match for her.
/r/MensRights13/02/24 07:41 PM
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I've read up a bit on historical rites of passage. The task varied and I don't think really mattered very much what it was. The important part about it was that it signaled the boys transition from mostly hanging out with women and children and started hanging out with the men and older boys. One tribe I remember, the rite of passage was the dads and men would "steal" the boys of age in the middle of the night and then the women would make a show over crying about it when everyone woke up in the…
/r/MensRights13/02/24 07:33 PM
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or "gyp" as in, "This thing broke after the first time I used it. What a gyp!"
/r/MensRights13/02/24 07:23 PM
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Yeah, definitely can happen. It happened to my son when he was about 12 from a girl about a year older who seems to have been dared into doing it by her girlfriends.
/r/MensRights13/02/24 07:22 PM
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I wonder if some of it is the internal dissonance women often experience. They're attracted to men that don't take any crap from them, lead well, are a little dangerous, but then also feel the need to wrestle control and wear the pants in the relationship and tame him. If she succeeds, her attraction often dissipates or even disappears too. This was recognized even in ancient literature. Part of their frustration seems to be because the only men they're attracted to have no reason to commit to t…
/r/MensRights13/02/24 07:19 PM
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Another one that is funny to me is when a nice guy decides to try acting more like a bad boy to see if he has any better luck with women and often does. He didn't learn that from secret patriarchy club meetings. He learned that from the way many women behave. You can't really choose what you're attracted to.
/r/MensRights12/02/24 10:05 PM
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Ignore it and take a shot anyway if you're so inclined. Some of them are just writing things like that to try to screen out wimpy guys who decide not to try because they don't meet her expectations. If you're hawt enough, it simply won't matter to many of those women. People have tested this with fake male profiles with hot pics and a profile with lots of things that should be red flags but still got lots of matches. One of the keys to women is to pay attention to what they react to with their a…
/r/MensRights12/02/24 09:38 PM
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When the mgtow subs were shutdown, a lot of those guys seem to have ended up here.
/r/MensRights12/02/24 03:45 PM
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If you're in a relationship that started balanced but now she's walking all over you, there's no quick fix. Suddenly trying to grow a spine will likely just blow things up.
/r/MensRights12/02/24 03:43 PM
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Because guys let them. I just aim to match what my wife gave me the year before for VD, Christmas, birthdays, anniversary, etc. I think one time she complained and I just mentioned what she gave me the year before and she's never complained again. I had no interest in people that didn't also give and put effort into relationships when dating and screened them all out. It took way too long to find a giver.
/r/MensRights11/02/24 09:10 PM
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Sexual attraction works differently in men and women is the short answer. By attraction, I mean the unconscious part. The word chemistry gets used for this, but that isn't quite right either. When you feel it, about all you can do is either harbor and nurture it or ignore it until it dissipates and goes away. It might be wise to ignore it when you see a red flag like bad character for example. There's an old saying I remember that was something like, "wait to tell her you're in the mafia until a…
/r/MensRights11/02/24 09:05 PM
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Yeah it definitely was never practiced by a super majority. The data I've found has suggested it was a majority though (as in at least 51%). One of the data reports I remember that supports the shift we've seen was that around 1970, about 70% of brides reported being virgins on the wedding day in the US and now it's under 5% (and that was from about 10 years ago). So which part are you disagreeing with? I've been trying to find more on this myself so would be interested in any data you've found.
/r/MensRights11/02/24 08:46 PM
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I guess I wasn't clear enough that I'm using the old definition of monogamy which meant only 1 partner over an entire lifetime. The word has changed to mostly mean one at a time now instead, which is why I tried to indicate I was using the old one. It usually took the form of both being virgins on their wedding and then being faithful to that spouse and then more than not didn't remarry when the first died.
/r/MensRights11/02/24 08:42 PM
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I think the biggest cause is the dissolution of monogamy (one partner for life). Not that it was ever practiced by 100% of the population, but I'd hazard it was the majority prior to say 1950 in the US. With exceptions for widows/widowers remarrying. Under monogamy, the most attractive guys still had multiple women interested in him, but the social and religious pressured him to pick one. And there was pressure to not be an unwed mother and if they did get pregant, society often presured them to…
/r/MensRights10/02/24 04:14 AM
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I remember reading it's mostly averageness. In other words, have a computer average 1,000 women's or men's faces together into an average, and the result tends to get judged as being very attractive by people. There are studies of a similar affect with just 2 faces. The composite average often gets rated as more attractive than either of the originals. For the age component, women tend to rate men their age up to a couple years older as most attractive. Men rate women a couple years younger up t…
/r/MensRights09/02/24 08:16 PM
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Why is it always men running after women? There's an old cartoon I remember vaguely. It was some kind of large herbivore animal. The father is taking to his son who is coming of age about the birds and the bees. They're on a hill top overlooking a bunch of females of their species who are grazing. The son says, "Let run down and catch one!". The father says, "We could, but if we walk down, we can catch them all." It's a game of subtlety. Come on too strong, and yeah she's going to be "running aw…
/r/MensRights09/02/24 08:02 PM
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Ah. I’m more used to that being United Kingdom. Thanks.
/r/MensRights09/02/24 06:29 AM
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Most pastors don't dare touch those verses anymore. /sigh
/r/RPChristians08/02/24 11:53 PM
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There's also no mention in the Bible of Bathsheba doing anything wrong. There's quite the lengthy rebuke in it from Nathan to David, so you'd think he would have at least mentioned Bathsheba if she had sinned.
/r/RPChristians08/02/24 11:48 PM
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If a man marries a promiscuous woman, is he not essentially a whoremonger? God asked Hosea to marry a promiscuous woman. He would not ask us to sin. It's pretty clear from the context of the book that it was considered unwise and it was only done because God had a specific purpose in mind - by Hosea experiencing the pain of being married to one, he would better be able to teach the pain God feels from Israel's "promiscuity" with other gods. His wife Gomer was unfaithful to him, just like modern …
/r/RPChristians08/02/24 11:21 PM
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Source? All I could find was stuff for India, and nothing from the UK.
/r/MensRights08/02/24 09:08 PM
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The trouble I see is it's under criminal code and not civil. If it were civil, you could get a lawyer and file yourself. With criminal, all you can do is report it and hope the district attorney will actually prosecute it.
/r/MensRights08/02/24 08:52 PM
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I think I found the full text of the bill here: https://www.parl.ca/DocumentViewer/en/44-1/bill/C-332/first-reading It sounds like something similar has been passed in the UK and the little digging I found indicates it hasn't had much of an impact because it takes a lot of work to gather evidence, the definitions are muddled. To poke some holes in it: Grounding your teenager to discipline him/her seems to meet the definition of preventing a family member from seeing friends. And it could make th…
/r/MensRights08/02/24 08:46 PM
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Yes, good point. I remember the way someone put it is that everyone is addicted to dopamine and oxytocin, it's just a question of what habits you've picked up to try to service those addictions. We're not nearly in control as we think we are. About all you can do is choose which additions you want to have. Choose wisely, haha.
/r/MensRights08/02/24 06:52 PM
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One other thing I've found is that especially men's brains are wired to release a dopamine hit when they accomplish something. Video games take advantage of this mechanism by tricking your brain into thinking you accomplished something worthwhile. After cutting back on video games, I got more sensitive to start getting those hits from normal everday tasks (even simple things like getting the stack of dirty dishes washed and put away). If you're numb to feeling much of anything from accomplishing…
/r/MensRights08/02/24 05:21 PM
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Think about some possibilities for goals you may want (promotion, GF, fitness, etc.). Research and figure out what the price you would have to pay to get it would be. Decide if that price is worth it or not to you. If not, look for other goals. If so, then pay the price. A goal I had a few years back was to lose enough weight to get from being medically obese, to the normal range. It was a high price to pay and a lot of work, but it was worth it to me to take better care of my health and have mo…
/r/MensRights08/02/24 05:03 PM
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I'm trying to remember which books would help the most with this situation. "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover is an old one but still very applicable and relevant. I think the first edition was from something like the '70s. "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty" by Manuel Smith is another classic. Get those and read them. Re-read the parts that are mot applicable to you. I've read them most and they were helpful. Your basic problem is you're trying to set a boundary, but it's a boundry you can't e…
/r/MensRights08/02/24 04:43 PM
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It's way too broad of a concept to have much use. In too many cases when someone says something like "men objectify women" you could swap out the word objectify for something like, "the natural and normal way men experience sexual attraction toward women." According to the wikipedia entry, an infant or toddler is objectified under bullet 2. Denial of autonomy – treating the person as lacking in autonomy or self-determination An employee meets the criteria of 1 and 4. Instrumentality – treating t…
/r/MensRights08/02/24 03:49 PM
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It's all about whether or not you're able to trigger attraction or not. Attraction can't be negotiated or rationalized, it's a subconscious reaction. About the only choice a person gets in the matter is whether to go with it or ignore it until it goes away. For women the triggers tend to fall under one or more of the following categories: looks, athleticism, mastery, power, and status. It makes an acronym LAMPS, to make it easier to remember. Guys get this idea in their heads that they want some…
/r/MensRights08/02/24 03:28 PM
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Every religion needs a boogeyman.
/r/MensRights07/02/24 11:21 PM
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Just imprison them instead like the US! /s
/r/MensRights07/02/24 11:18 PM
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With this logic we should work on making white Americans feel guilty about some of their ancestors owning slaves and slaughtering native Americans. We should make native American tribes pay restitution to other native American tribes for all their past atrocities too. And the African tribes that sold other Africans to the European slave traders. If someone commits a heinous crime, we should punish the spouse and kids too. Or their whole town. /s If this doesn't convince you feminism is a religio…
/r/MensRights07/02/24 06:16 PM
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Be handsome Be attractive Don't be unattractive https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=PxuUkYiaUc8
/r/MensRights07/02/24 05:58 PM
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My opinion spans the spectrum from anywhere from trash to pretty good and helpful depending on what author/forum it is. The alpha-beta thing was always a simplification (some authors like Athol Kay stress the importance of having a good mix of traits in both categories to have a good, healthy LTR with a woman), but a lot of authors take it to the point of being ridiculous and gross oversimplification. One forum I stopped going to because just asking a simple question would get you dogpiled by ea…
/r/MensRights06/02/24 06:08 PM
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I remember reading that circa 1800, it was commonly believed that african americans were so much less intelligent that they were basically not human (and this somehow justified slavery). One such person (I think it was one of the american founding fathers but I forget which) visted a school for black kids and realized they were just as smart, the difference with adults was due to limited education.
/r/MensRights06/02/24 05:40 PM
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Depending on the type of paternity test, they can be done as soon as the 8th or 10th week of pregnancy. I know one uses a blood sample from the mother (there's enough DNA from the fetus in her bloodstream) and a cheek swab from the man.
/r/MensRights05/02/24 09:53 PM
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Bronze league? Showoff! I'm stuck in wood league. ;-)
/r/MensRights05/02/24 09:47 PM
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it is not the incels who hate women, its the radical redpillers Which redpillers are you talking about here? Quite a few of them are just trying to teach men how to learn some game and improve themselves enough to be able to trigger attraction in women. E.g. Athol Kay. It can help to a point and improve a 7 to an 8, or maybe a 4 to 6. Blackpill is basically realizing even being a 7 in today's dating market isn't enough, so why bother. I don't think they really hate women either. Maybe some do; I…
/r/MensRights05/02/24 03:22 PM
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Annuities too. Women used to have to pay more for them because they live longer, but complained and got it changed to be equal.
/r/MensRights05/02/24 03:04 PM
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A parent wrote that their attorneys obtained up front payments of tens of thousands of dollars and then withdrew from their family law case at the last second. It's always hard in allegations like this to figure out what the other side would tell you. It's very possible though that the attorney did work on the case diligently and have completely legitimate billable hours and burned through all that upfront money before getting to a hearing or trial. 30k at 300/hr is only 100 hours. The attorney …
/r/MensRights05/02/24 02:55 PM
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It is hard, I don't blame women for wanting to date men like this because it is natural. This is a simplification, but I've thought of it being something like this. Let's say I'm a young man and there are 100 young single women in my social circles. I sort them out into a list with the most attractive at the top and the least on the bottom. I start at the top and simply talk to her a bit and try to see if I can spark any interest. Most likely not, and I move on to the next one. I work my way dow…
/r/MensRights01/02/24 11:03 PM
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The trouble is society/culture has convinced even below average women that they're better than most men (so hypergamy can't be satisfied with an average guy) and they deserve a 10 and shouldn't settle for anything less. You are right that pushing monogamy did a lot to keep it in check. The most attractive guys got pressured to pick one and marry her. The rest of the women realized they weren't going to get one and the best they'd be able to do is a notch down. And so on, sorting things out.
/r/MensRights01/02/24 10:10 PM
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Hypergamy is probably the underlying reason for the OP's observation. The more the messaging is that women are better than men, the fewer ways are left to satisfy it.
/r/MensRights31/01/24 07:40 PM
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Good insight. The protect angle was missed by previous guy. I can see other things feeding into the protection umbrella too. Being tall makes her feel small/vulnerable. Not letting her wear the pants makes her feel like you'll have the gumption to stand up to anyone else. Being stoic (how can you protect her if you can't keep your emotions under control?).
/r/MensRights31/01/24 07:25 PM
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If their instinct was to be unconsciously attracted to providers, why do we see so many young women go for broke lazy guys who just happened to be hawt/charming/bad boy? Only once they have a couple kids are in tow do some shift modes and start looking for provider type men? Females finding providers attractive is part of it, but if you don't bring a decent mix of attraction traits (power/status/looks/athleticism/mastery/charm) too, you're likely going to have a rough time.
/r/MensRights30/01/24 07:26 PM
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It usually just goes the other way with trying to insult a man by calling him an incel or virgin.
/r/MensRights29/01/24 07:07 PM
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It's probably a relatively minor effect at 40. At 70, then sure, that's one of the biggest factors. Imo, the biggest factor is just the demand spread others have mentioned - men will tend to date younger than them if they can. Very few men will seriously date women more than a couple years older than them. Another big reason is one of the last remaining reasons to even take the risks of a LTR/marriage is to have kids and dating a 38-40 year old woman is just not high odds of that happening. By t…
/r/MensRights29/01/24 07:04 PM
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I think it's time for alimony to go. The main argument that I can think of for alimony is that if one person is a stay at home parent until the youngest starts kindergarten, then it set's their career back by 4-8 years or so (depends how many kids of course). Some careers are pretty fixed with the progression of their pay scale, like teachers in my area, so it's not too hard to figure out where'd they be (current income and lifetime earnings) if they had kept working or had stayed single and nev…
/r/MensRights26/01/24 09:24 PM
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The saddest part was just when you thought maybe a female guest on his show was starting to get it, she'd then go on to show otherwise. (at least out of the dozen or so I watched) but "I'm a PhD!"
/r/MensRights26/01/24 09:06 PM
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But then Paul blames Adam for the first sin: Romans 5:12 When Adam sinned, sin entered the world. It's a bit interesting how people try to rectify the two since Eve clearly ate it first. Some try to say Adam failed to step in, but if there's a responsibility to intervene, it's hard to argue God not being guilty of that one. Or it could just be a reflection of the position then that men were the leaders of the household and were responsible for their household (but also had authority over his hou…
/r/MensRights26/01/24 06:14 PM
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If she intentialy squirts ketchup on the counter and then asks you to clean it up, the correct response is simply, "no". You should be saying "no" at least once a month anyways to something she asks you to do, especially if it would be simpler for her to do it herself, and this is a perfect opportunity. If you don't they tend to lose respect for you and start walking all over you.
/r/MensRights25/01/24 04:02 PM
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My bad
/r/MensRights25/01/24 03:54 PM
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I don't remember, it's fast enough though. The first visit is around 6 weeks and a week after that for results is still the first trimester. The time sensitivity is an issue with people trying to make abortion illegal except in the case of rape. The court system isn't fast enough to deliver a verdict before the baby will be born. It just results in false rape accusations to be able to qualify for an abortion (which was the situation in the original Roe v Wade case). I think it should be double o…
/r/MensRights24/01/24 04:03 PM
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Opt out is tricky because what happens when she isn't sure who the father is or procrastinates on doing the paperwork. I've wondered about at the 1st prenatal clinic visit, automatically doing a paternity test if the guy comes along. (cheek swab from him and blood sample from her (there's enough fetal dna in her bloodstream)). Also each fills out a form where they choose: 1) Yes, I want to be a parent to this child with all the rights and responsibilities that go along with it 2) I do not want t…
/r/MensRights24/01/24 03:58 PM
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How would we test that You can do a paternity test pretty early in the pregnancy (I don't remember when but it was around when the first prenatal clinic visit is done). It just requires a cheek swab from the man and a blood sample from the woman (there's enough of the fetus' dna floating around in her bloodstream).
/r/MensRights24/01/24 03:41 PM
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One of the biggest problem is people getting married now almost entirely due to being infatuated with each other. A couple hundred years ago this was considered foolish because even back then they understood that feeling didn't last.
/r/MensRights23/01/24 08:43 PM
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Once your livelihood is coming from doing X, it's hard to rock that boat too much on that formula. I remember reading an article about how many clergy admit to being atheists (only to the anonymous survey and not to their congregations). Most say there were true believers back when they went to seminary (although one said he did it just because it seemed like an easy job) and at some point lost their faith. But giving the sermon every week pays the bills and trying to retrain for a different car…
/r/MensRights23/01/24 08:33 PM
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The biggest one is women tend to have an in-group bias and will tend to take the woman's side on something and not the man's. Men have an out-group bias and will tend to take the woman's side on something and not the man. You can test it yourself by digging up a post from the aita sub from a few months ago on some kind of male-female relationship issue. Swap all the genders and repost it. Then compare the types of responses you get. It's always very different and lopsided favoring the "woman". T…
/r/MensRights23/01/24 08:21 PM
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It depends. Women like Karen Straughan come across to me as completely genuine because she's created a lot of content that draws unique conclusions and she has many real insights as to what's going on in the feminism/mra landscape. Or Erin Pizzey is another that is entirely believable because she's stuck her neck out many times over several decades. Ones like Pearl Davis (from justpearlythings), I'm skeptical of. I haven't watched a ton of her content (maybe a few hours worth), but it ends up se…
/r/MensRights23/01/24 07:57 PM
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Menslib is where the feminist women tell the male feminists to go to get them out of their subs.
/r/MensRights23/01/24 03:26 PM
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The biggest issue is getting gender neutral rules actually applied neutrally. Out of the divorced people I know, both cases where the wife earned more and the man could have theoretically gotten the child support going his way, he got pressured/harassed into forgoing it.
/r/MensRights22/01/24 11:51 PM
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Search "in group bias" limited to this sub and you'll get quite a few hits. A classic experiment is to dig up a post from the aita sub that's at least a few months old where the gist of it is a male-female relationship issue, swap all the genders, and repost it. If people were unbiased, the responses should be pretty much the same. But they're not.
/r/MensRights18/01/24 09:29 PM
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All too often it's coming from a woman trying to hunt way above her league. Why would that guy pick her to settle down with when he has better options for that? The other common reason is she's trying to convert a criminal/bad boy/player/drug addict into husband material. I suppose it's possible, but those are really bad odds and not worth getting burned trying it. But they try it over and over and then complain about getting burned.
/r/MensRights18/01/24 09:14 PM
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Looks like a classic straw man to me. You would think someone with a doctorate would know that, but universities pop out degrees like a Pez dispenser these days, so I guess not necessarily.
/r/MensRights17/01/24 09:31 PM
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6 months into dating my wife we had a bit of a fight. I took responsibility for my part in it but I was surprised when she also took accountability for her contribution. It was at that point I knew I had a potential keeper on my hands.
/r/MensRights17/01/24 02:58 PM
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There's guys working on filing Title IX stuff that post progress updates here periodically. They're making some real change and fixing some things.
/r/MensRights16/01/24 06:25 PM
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I've noticed this a lot too. In Eph 5, it says to love your wife as yourself. Not more. The church has almost entirely caved to feminism. Within my lifetime, I've noted even dominations that used to be on the traditional end do this. If you want to practice the religion, you're better off just reading it on your own these days. You find some fun things, like you got to spend part of your tithe on yourself (every sermon I've ever heard wants the full 10%) and most of what you did give went to sup…
/r/MensRights16/01/24 06:16 PM
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It's a trope that needs to become taboo the same way some others have: It is interesting watching some old shows and instantly recognizing things that are not ok anymore. Breakfast at Tiffany's is the earliest example I know of where a white actor is playing the role of an Asian. Tropic Thunder (2008) is the most recent one I can think of (white actor playing a black character). It was done as part of the script though, but still I'm not sure you could make that today. I was watching the first s…
/r/MensRights12/01/24 07:34 PM
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I was ee too. I had to look up what Altium was, first I've heard of it. It's been a long time since I've had to work on a PCBA layout though. Back then it was Cadence. The layouts I've been involved with usually just have a junior engineer, technician, or contract house entering it into whatever the tool is with an experienced senior engineer (with very solid grasp of their fields classes from college) directing them (and making them move problem areas they find). A degree in engineering doesnt …
/r/MensRights11/01/24 10:15 PM
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One thing I learned that helped me as a young adult was to pay attention how she interacted with me versus other guys. If she's the same, she's not flirting with me or interested, that's just her personality. If she's bubbly, "flirting", nervous, etc. around me but not other guys, then she might be interested. It wasn't fool proof though. One gal in college had been dropping hints for quite a while before she made it utterly obvious and I finally caught on because she seemed to do the same thing…
/r/MensRights11/01/24 09:30 PM
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That's sad that the quality of engineering schools has gotten that bad? I graduated with an engineering degree 24 years ago and stuff I learned there is still valuable and useful. Working with someone (like a project manager) who has a degree in some kind of hard science is almost always much much easier than someone without. It's just harder to explain things to them in a way they'll understand. They tend to be at a loss at how to troubleshoot anything and figure out what the issue is or how to…
/r/MensRights11/01/24 09:09 PM
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Chivalry was a gift that most women were taught not to expect and to cherish. I don't think this is quite right. From my digging the pedestalization of women came from what is now referred to as "courtly love" by historians which first started appearing in European literature roughly 500 years ago before the ideas started being practiced in the process of finding a match for marriage. The tradition of the guy getting down on one knee is him symbolically putting her on a pedestal. Courtly love go…
/r/MensRights11/01/24 07:38 PM
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... or poke holes in the condom, lie about being on birth control, "forget" to take it, or get a guy drunk...
/r/MensRights11/01/24 07:25 PM
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I don't think it's a win-win for her because of hypergamy. Data shows when a wife significantly outearns her husband (or he's a stay-at-home dad), divorce rates are higher, deadbedroom rates are higher, and martial satisfaction rates are lower. My theory is she has trouble respecting him. marry a construction worker who makes 40-50k a year and be a housewife Sure, this is an option on paper, but it often leads to problems. Lifestyle creep is a topic that has a lot of research done on it which fi…
/r/MensRights11/01/24 05:23 PM
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Incel doesn't really work because they can get some at the drop of a hat. A better question is if they want to get married (some day), would any man ever propose?
/r/MensRights11/01/24 05:05 PM
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My strategy to filter them out (17 years ago) was to focus my search on young women doing volunteer work. I figured there'd be very little overlap on the Venn Diagram of the women described in this thread with those who took the time and had enough passion to do volunteer work regularly. It worked out for me, I found one who is low-maintance, low-drama, is a giver too, and reciprocates.
/r/MensRights11/01/24 05:02 PM
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The next generations of women aren't going to have this option either (as a whole) since young women are out-earning young men now.
/r/MensRights11/01/24 04:27 PM
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It's the women closer to 30 you have to be more careful with. At college age (18-22) they're usually still pretty idealistic and chasing tingles than trying to lock down a plowhorse. I think it used to be more of a thing in generations past. My aunt and uncle are 70 and met in college. He was very awkward and nerdy (and still is) but she latched onto him as a good catch.
/r/MensRights11/01/24 04:21 PM
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It's often a form of manipulation and emotional/psychological abuse.
/r/MensRights10/01/24 06:19 PM
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men’s earning potential decreases as they age Where is this from? Most reports I've read on this indicate men's earnings (adjusted for inflation) peak sometime in their mid 40s to early 50s or so if I remember right.
/r/MensRights10/01/24 05:59 PM
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Yes. Marrying for infatuation used to be considered ridiculous (a couple hundred years ago) because it doesn't last, but yet here we are today with most people marrying primarily due to "being in love" when they're really just infatuated. Marriage was a way to structure society that worked well for raising children, keeping female hypergamy in check, etc.
/r/MensRights10/01/24 05:55 PM
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I've been married 16 years. The best way to deal with her needs is to not try to satisfy them all. If you do, she'll just keep wanting more, and you'll end up being a simp. Leave her wanting more so she misses you when you're not around. Give her attention and be good to her and meet some of her needs, but don't be at her beck and call. For mood swings, mine was relatively even keeled thankfully. The biggest thing when she's angry with me is to figure out if I actually did anything wrong. If I d…
/r/MensRights10/01/24 05:49 PM
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Also, they want a husband but don't really want to be a wife.
/r/MensRights10/01/24 05:38 PM
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what this will mean for girls and young women who feel they need to compete with this I have some news for her: women have always competed -- with other women. Guys with options will pick the best one(s). They've also always competed with the option of a guy just staying single. Many a woman has found herself cut loose after making herself more of a hassle than it's worth.
/r/MensRights09/01/24 11:27 PM
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Not answering the question seems to be the preferred tactic in presidential debates, so may as well give it a try, haha.
/r/MensRights08/01/24 10:41 PM
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Or even "feminism", where the etymology is "to take a woman's side [on everything]". Still seems like the most accurate definition to me, haha.
/r/MensRights08/01/24 10:22 PM
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rofl. A guy who does all the courting is a simp. Chads get chased.
/r/MensRights08/01/24 07:25 PM
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Many of the masculine norms they champion are associated with behaviours that pose a risk to health. This is bizarre to me. When I ran into the "manosphere", one of the most common thing they said to start with was to fix your diet and exercise. So I did and lost 50 lbs to go from obese to fit and got >3 times stronger, greatly improved my cardio endurance, even lowering my resting heart rate in the process. When I went in for my physical the nurse and doctor thought the entry from my previous o…
/r/MensRights08/01/24 07:20 PM
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What prevents polygyny being the outcome instead? As far as I can tell it's only social/cultural/religious norms and women's jealousy over sharing. We've seen monogamy (one partner for life) be erased from being practiced by the majority in the last 50 years, so wouldn't be surprised if the same happens with poly relationships. I remember reading that when the ratio of women to men goes up substantially, the women tend to become more promiscuous (to try to catch and keep a man) and tolerate shar…
/r/MensRights05/01/24 06:17 PM
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Oppressed by Twinkies?
/r/MensRights03/01/24 11:47 PM
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This reminds me of an old prayer: "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." One man is not going to change the gynocentric culture we're in overnight. 10,000 aren't either. From my research, it took a long time to get here, starting back around 500 years ago when "courtly love" came into flavor in European literature, which then got emulated IRL, become grafted onto chivalry. That's where pede…
/r/MensRights03/01/24 10:45 PM
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I got into genealogy for a bit and traced some of my lines back 200+ years (supposedly). I completely lost interest when I learned a significant number of birth certificates don't list the actual father. Estimates vary. I've head 3-4% on the low side. On the high side, I read medical students are told to expect up to 15% and should therefore not rely too heavily on the listed father for medical history. DNA tests for paternity/maternity are relatively cheap now and if we actually cared about kid…
/r/MensRights03/01/24 04:36 PM
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Kids do better in pretty much every measurable way when they grow up in a stable home with both parents. Married couples tend to be more stable than non-married ones. So if raising kids the best you can is at the top of your list of life goals, marriage might make sense. If it's not, there's really no point. The plot has mostly been lost with marriage. Historically, it seems to have been a useful thing as a society/culture to provide some stability and foster children. Children are the future an…
/r/MensRights03/01/24 04:28 PM
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My guess is the women who can take responsibility for their actions are probably less likely to end up in family court.
/r/MensRights03/01/24 03:37 PM
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Yeah, one of the big reasons I married my wife was she actually took responsibility when she screwed up. When dating, I quickly passed on the women who always tried to find someone/something else to blame for things that were clearly her fault.
/r/MensRights02/01/24 07:34 PM
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Part of parenting is ushering your kids' growth. Some kids will be pretty self motivated and not need much prodding, others will live at home unemployed until they're 60+ if you let them. Some parents will take this too far though and be overbearing and push their kids into things they really aren't interested in or good at. A good parent will find a healthy balance and figure out which options would be best fit for their child to pursue and help them find the right one. I think my dad did a goo…
/r/MensRights02/01/24 07:29 PM
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Women actually were able to unite and fight for what they wanted I won't generalize because I don't know enough, but for the main issue that started feminism in the US, this isn't how women got the right to vote. Most women opposed it when polled. It was a small but vocal minority that convinced men to vote for it and that's how it got through. A lot of people (both men and women) suggested having a special poll that women could vote on as to whether or not women should have the right to vote in…
/r/MensRights21/12/23 09:53 PM
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I don't see how you'd permanently ban it in the US without a constitutional amendment since it grants the federal government the power to raise an army and navy. The most you could do would be to repeal the current draft policy or make it gender neutral, but they could simply quickly create a new one or modify it if raising an army quickly became necessary. You could argue where the 13th amendment prohibits "involuntary servitude", conscription would be included in that. People have tried making…
/r/MensRights21/12/23 09:16 PM
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I forget the timeframe, but I thought if you went back far enough, they found female human ancestors had quite a bit more upper body strength than they do now (close to on par with the men), but lost it for some reason.
/r/MensRights21/12/23 06:38 PM
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I'm getting to the age (45) where it's getting harder and harder to improve at anything. I brought my 12 year old son to pick-up ultimate frisbee a year ago when we were going to be short 1 player otherwise and he had so much fun he kept wanting to come back. Now he's better than me and I've been playing on and off for 20 years, haha. I'm assuming you're still young enough that you can see progress by keeping at something. Enjoy it while you're young. :)
/r/MensRights21/12/23 06:36 PM
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Those pieces are so heavy - it's exhausting moving them around for hours on end. /s
/r/MensRights21/12/23 05:15 PM
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All my efforts in the gym and on the tennis court would yield super lame results. I did feel bad for women when I realized female powerlifters who have been at it their whole life get beat by an out-of-shape, 40 year old guy who's been lifting for only 2 months (for the same weight classification) unless she's been juicing. But >99.9% of young male athletes run into the same wall at some point. They realize they're never going to get into the NFL, NBA, MLB, MLS, etc. So it seems like an odd argu…
/r/MensRights21/12/23 05:11 PM
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Society used to make an offer to its young men that went something like: work hard to learn a skill to get a job that earns enough to support a family. Learn how to charm women at least a little. Then there will be plenty of women ready to pair off at that point with plenty of years left on their biological clock and able to pair bond so you can start a family. She'll be kind to you and treat you well. That offer simply doesn't exist anymore en masse. By the time most women are willing to go for…
/r/MensRights21/12/23 04:44 PM
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If you're a natural, sure, I guess if that floats your boat. If you're just outside that, the work it would take could be worth it to get there. For an average guy though, the juice just isn't worth the squeeze.
/r/MensRights21/12/23 04:33 PM
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I think it reflects that most people now simply lack very many principals - something you decide you're going to live your life around even when it's difficult or unpopular. Instead, it's just go with the flow and follow your feelings.
/r/MensRights19/12/23 03:32 PM
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It seems too "out there" right now, but I've seen the stigma about sleeping around go away within my life, so it seems entirely possible the stigma against soft harems could end up the same.
/r/MensRights18/12/23 07:18 PM
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My wife of 15 years had a health scare about a year ago. She was fine, but before we knew that, I got thinking about what I'd do if she died. I know there are good women out there, but I just don't think it would be a worthwhile use of my time to go try to find one again. An analogy I remember is at least when you're looking for a needle in a haystack, you know when you've found one. Instead it's like looking for a specific needle in a huge stack of needles - takes a lot of time, scratches and b…
/r/MensRights18/12/23 07:16 PM
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I think there are irreconcilable conflicts between what men desire, women desire, and what is good for society to flourish. The old paradigm of monogomy (one partner for life) was a compromise that probably tilted toward favoring what was good for society - those societies that embraced it out competed those that didn't. It makes sense because all data shows kids do best when raised in a stable home with both parents. And kids are the future of a society. I don't think monogomy is really very no…
/r/MensRights18/12/23 07:10 PM
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It all makes a lot more sense when you realize they don't mean all men - they only mean the men they already were attracted too.
/r/MensRights18/12/23 05:33 PM
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There are signs we're getting there like the study that found the number one reason that a woman will end up bearing zero children over her life is that she simply waited too long or put it off too long and ran out of time on her biological clock.
/r/MensRights18/12/23 05:22 PM
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Another example of where the etymology of the word "feminism" comes into play, which is roughly "taking the woman's side" [on anything or everything even when she's denying objective reality].
/r/MensRights15/12/23 05:09 PM
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When I was moving I rented the biggest moving truck I could legally drive on my driver's license. That thing was a beast and I was glad once it was returned without hitting anything or scraping into anything. I wonder what effect it would have if the basic driver's license only allowed cars (sedans, hatchbacks, etc.) and did not allow trucks of any kind. SUVs are already legally defined as trucks where I am even though people regularly include them in their usage of the term "car". I bet a lot o…
/r/MensRights15/12/23 05:05 PM
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From my own digging into how we got here, an interesting piece of the puzzle is what is now called "courtly love" by historians got grafted into chivalry about 500 years ago. This is where the widespread pedestalization of women seems to have come from. Just one example is kneeling to propose is symbolically putting her on a pedestal.
/r/MensRights15/12/23 04:48 PM
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Hey thanks for looking up the number for me that I couldn't remember (41% of US women are pro-life). I thought it was around there and tried to choose words to reflect that.
/r/MensRights15/12/23 04:43 PM
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First, a fairly large % of women in the US are pro-life. So it's not like it's all women. Second, men should have some concerns as well. The background case that was used to make the original Roe v Wade ruling was that a woman got pregant and since abortion was ileggal in her state unless it was due to rape (and a few other exceptions), she accused a random guy of raping her (who was not the actual father) so that she could get the abortion. I forget the outcome for that guy, but just having to …
/r/MensRights14/12/23 10:10 PM
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Kind of. In theory, everything not specified to the federal gov in the constitution is retained by the states, but the commerce clause gets used to justify the fed stepping into almost anything it wants to. The reasoning in the original RvW justifying the fed stepping in was pretty tenuous - even liberal Supreme Court Justice Ruth B. Gingsberg (sp?) thought it was ludicrous reasoning and gross overstepping. There was a stretch when the fed had much less power, so much so that it caused a lot of …
/r/MensRights14/12/23 10:01 PM
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I wish I saved the article, but someone linked one on here about some research on attraction and found that it was in a part of the brain that developed during puberty and than became non-plastic, meaning that it couldn't learn new things. It's an open question still as to what goes into how that forms and develops. Specifically, how much of it is DNA and how much of it is the environment. One thing funny is that it's close to the part of the brain that usually ends up controlling your feet and …
/r/MensRights14/12/23 09:48 PM
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I remember reading a story about a guy who was talking to some of the people who worked at an up-scale private school in London. He asked what the typical profile of the parents were for the kids who went there. They said most of the dads where high income - lots of investment bankers and the like. You couldn't afford the tuition on anything close to a median salary. The moms were mostly stay-at-home moms who took the kids to school and picked them up and went to yoga classes and weren't the sha…
/r/MensRights14/12/23 09:37 PM
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Yeah, I kept thinking I was watching Colin Jost doing the "news" segment on SNL.
/r/MensRights13/12/23 11:28 PM
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Oh of course. I was me just wondering is about all; not something serious.
/r/MensRights13/12/23 09:27 PM
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I have a confession. I sped on the way to work today. I also failed to come to a complete stop at 3 stops signs. This is the confession box, right?
/r/MensRights13/12/23 09:14 PM
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Ironically, in the US, police are under no obligation to step in and help you as case law has repeatedly ruled. https://mises.org/power-market/police-have-no-duty-protect-you-federal-court-affirms-yet-again
/r/MensRights13/12/23 09:02 PM
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That's a big part of it. If during a sports game, a teammate gets into a scuffle with an opposing player, I can step in to try to separate them knowing neither of them is packing heat. Plus I know the refs will be doing the same. I also can assume the offending players realize we're playing a game and this is not a struggle to the death. Stepping into a situation where the person has already shown they have no regard for the law and society, and why exactly would I expect them to reply to me wit…
/r/MensRights13/12/23 08:57 PM
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Ironically, I wonder if it may be lower risk overall for female bystanders to intervene. Higher physical risk presumably, but lower risk in the court system and eyes of public opinion if anything goes wrong. Plus any male white knights may be more likely to jump in to help her who maybe wouldn't assist a male intervening.
/r/MensRights13/12/23 08:51 PM
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Yeah, risk of injury is often a consideration too that often isn't coming into play trying to help someone injured but often does when dealing with someone who is already showing they have no regard for the law, society, or others. The problem is a lot of the things you could do to lower the risk of personal injury increase your risk of being put through the ringer in the legal system afterwards. Lets say, getting a running start and tackling the perp while his back is turned catching him by sur…
/r/MensRights13/12/23 08:17 PM
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In the USA, there was a stretch where bystanders who tried to help someone injured in a car accident or having a medical emergency before paramedics arrived were being sued successfully for things like not doing CPR quite right, etc. So people stopped helping. Which should surprise no one. So, there was a big push to pass "good Samaritan" laws to shield people trying to do their best to stop someone from bleeding out even if they didn't do it to the level of a trained paramedic. So now people ar…
/r/MensRights13/12/23 02:58 PM
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It's right in the etymology of the word. Feminism means "taking a woman's side [on everything apparently]". They've tried to whitewash it into it meaning "equality" but that's about as ridiculous as arguing "history" comes from "his story".
/r/MensRights13/12/23 02:48 PM
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You shouldn't be surprised. If she had a fake/borrowed birth certificate, passport, dna test, blood and urine samples, and matching fingerprints, it would still be the guy's fault according to a lot of people.
/r/MensRights13/12/23 02:34 PM
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Respect is another word that feminism has been working hard to obfuscate. The English words "honor" and "respect" have vaguely switched places with each other with their primary usage. The two concepts being: Treat other humans with basic dignity, politeness, kindness. Basically be decent and not an asshole to everyone. Most religions/philosophies/cultures have some version of treat others how you'd like to be treated. Status/recognition that elevates one above another that is earned or due your…
/r/MensRights07/12/23 06:07 PM
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As near as I've been able to find, when what historians now call "courtly love" got grafted into chivalry about 500 years ago, that's where the pedestalization of women (aka simping) originated from. Sure, you can find examples before then, but that seems to be where the society-wide trend started.
/r/MensRights07/12/23 05:50 PM
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In my state it takes about a year from the time one party files for divorce and all the details get ironed out and it's finalized. Health insurance is one of those things that gets sorted out and isn't lost the day someone files.
/r/MensRights06/12/23 09:34 PM
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I put off watching it for a long time because I thought it was going to focus on something else based on the title. It's a good documentary, I just think the title is pretty misleading as to what it's primary subject matter is going to be. She seemed to not really understand what "red pill" all entailed and is probably why she picked the title thinking it would be compelling is about all I can figure out.
/r/MensRights06/12/23 09:25 PM
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Eh, any guy trying to find a diamond in the rough these days needs to figure out ways to quickly screen out and sift through all the chaff. A lot of women screened themselves out just from me talking to them and quickly realizing it. I didn't use stupid silly little tests out of magazines, but did do things like only free or cheap dates for the first two months to make sure she actually liked me and I wasn't just a wallet to her. I'd check to see how flexible she was. I'd pay attention to how sh…
/r/MensRights05/12/23 11:22 PM
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The joke (or "wisdom") is men don't understand women, but I've come to the conclusion women don't understand themselves.
/r/MensRights05/12/23 11:00 PM
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Advantages to be a man Sports (I do know you said you were excluding physical, but there's enough controversy being stirred up over trans kids in sports currently that I think it deserves a slot) If a hetro romantic relationship is progressing very well and he wants to try to convert it into a LRT/marriage, it's very likely she'll be agreeable. Reversing sides, it's not such a slam dunk for a woman trying to convert a short term relationship into a long term one and seems to be one of their majo…
/r/MensRights05/12/23 06:11 PM
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I'm not sure that's really a fair to exclude all things physical though because some (like longer fertility window) do cascade down with things that result from that like having more time to search for a partner. I can see not getting into physical strength because it doesn't have much bearing anymore except for the small number of jobs remaining where it is a big advantage or co-ed sports. Before the industrial revolution, it probably was the biggest advantage. Now, it's more of a liability tha…
/r/MensRights05/12/23 05:50 PM
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The 90% is a bit of an exaggeration to be fair. It's hard to isolate to just physical attractiveness because so many of them instantly got moved to the unattractive category after talking to them and finding they had a crap personality.
/r/MensRights05/12/23 05:42 PM
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When I was 20, I found around 90% of the women near my age physically attractive. That's slowly dropped over time, and now (at 45), it's less than 5% of the women my age +/- 3 years.
/r/MensRights05/12/23 05:33 PM
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It depends a lot on the circumstances. A big battle for me to make some changes to improve my relationship with my wife was just getting over those fears. Me and other guys who's advice I was following found the fear was mostly unwarranted since women normally like a guy that takes charge and makes descisions that will be the best for the family. Sure, it doesn't always work - when it doesn't it's usually because the guy went on a rampage trying to change way too much, way too fast. If kids are …
/r/MensRights05/12/23 05:03 PM
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Good luck. From reading all your comments and the OP, it sounds like part of your problem might be talking too much about it. Drawing you into a discussion/argument plays into her hands because they don't fight fair. They'll gaslight and not be logical about things. So you have to not let yourself be drawn into that. A quick one to two sentence explanation is fine, but that should be about the extent of it imo. If she asks you to come help her with a chore or ask you do something, just reply wit…
/r/MensRights05/12/23 04:50 PM
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We do tend to learn more than we realize from watching how our parents interacted when we're kids.
/r/MensRights05/12/23 04:45 PM
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Some advice I got that didn't understand at the time, but followed because the rest of the guy's advice was good is that you need to say "no" to a woman you're in a romantic relationship with at least once a month. It's easier if you establish this boundary from the beginning when dating. Otherwise women tend to lose respect for you and start to walk all over you.
/r/MensRights05/12/23 04:42 PM
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It is pretty hard to get out of that rut once it's entrenched. Women usually aren't attracted to men who have become whipped like this though. So if trying to get out of it breaks the relationship, so what? It wasn't a good relationship anyway. Better to try and have a small chance of getting a better more healthy relationship out of it than keep the status quo.
/r/MensRights05/12/23 04:39 PM
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You need to pick boundaries with consequences you can enforce. "I will not be disrespected" is not a boundary if you just sit there and take it. "When you disrespect me, I will tell you. If it continues, I will grab my car keys and leave." [for a few hours or whenever you feel like coming home] is a boundary with a specific result that you have control over.
/r/MensRights05/12/23 04:34 PM
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Take a deep breath. Usually you can only change your medical and other insurance (like disability, dental, vision) without a reason for a limited window. Mine was something like Nov 1st to Nov 15th and then the changes take effect Jan 1st through the rest of the year. I can't just drop any of the coverage at will. I would suggest calling HR at her work and confirming that you are covered for 2024 and then ask if there's anyway it could be dropped other than her not working there anymore. It's qu…
/r/MensRights04/12/23 11:22 PM
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For all the talk a man's height gets, it's only one factor in what is attractive to hetro women. I started balding in high school, but just did the best with the hand I was dealt. If it's still that big of a deal, research elevator shoes and get a pair for every occasion. They can only go so far though.
/r/MensRights04/12/23 08:27 PM
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A big part of looking for a LTR these days is trying to find the lowest risk option you can. If that risk is still too high, then you get to wrestle with whether to keep looking or get used to just being single. I believe people can change, but realistically, it's often just a facade and they'll end up going back to their old ways in some form. So your example is simply too risky in my book.
/r/MensRights04/12/23 08:04 PM
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On one hand, the male-self improvement sucks because we're expected to more work. On the other hand, at least guys usually realize young enough if they're having dating trouble that they still have time to work on things to improve their situation if they want to. Something similar happens to women, but the trouble for them is that it doesn't happen until they're around 30. They're given youth and beauty for free and usually take it for granted. At some point, they start to realize the men they …
/r/MensRights04/12/23 07:56 PM
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I expect they'll try to throw up roadblocks to single men trying to use it. Similar to how many countries outlaw surrogacy, and even some where it is legal have restrictions against single men using it.
/r/MensRights30/11/23 11:28 PM
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Probably, but it's hard to say. When abortion became legal and the pill became widely available in the US in the 70s, there was widespread hope that the number of kids being born to single mothers would go down. Instead, it keeps going up. Partly it was due to not being able to pressure men into "shotgun" weddings anymore. The guys figured she had ample opportunity to prevent the pregancy or "take care things", so felt no obligation.
/r/MensRights30/11/23 11:27 PM
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A lot of it came into focus for me when I dug into what hetrosexual men and women are attracted to in the other. Both sides frequently make the mistake of assuming what they find attractive is what the opposite sex finds attractive. For men, one thing they generally look for is a woman who is kind to him. So they frequently overdo and it turns into simping. Women find status and provision attractive, and frequently mistakenly think that getting a Ph.D and career will be her ticket toward getting…
/r/MensRights30/11/23 10:21 PM
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1) No, not at all. If anything, there are topics I've been able to discuss with male friends that I would not with any females (including my wife). 2). No. Similar to 1, some shit I've been through is very guy-oriented and close guy friendships can relate to it, whereas it would just make a female uncomfortable and if it was some kind of romatinc relationship, it would be unattractive to her. 3) They're different needs in my book. Sure there's overlap. Sexual intimacy is better when there's the …
/r/MensRights30/11/23 09:57 PM
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Yeah, I remember seeing a video about knife fights. Usually the loser is dead in the alley and the "winner" dies in the hospital. Contrary to hollywood, it's really hard to dodge enough to not bleed out. The video even had two people use markers (isntead of knifes) to show just how hard it is to not get marker on you (cut). They had someone from the army add that knowing a martial art didn't really help your chances enough to change the fact that your best option is to simply run away as fast as…
/r/MensRights30/11/23 05:58 PM
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That's it! You're going to HR for using the b word.
/r/MensRights30/11/23 05:48 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss.
/r/MensRights30/11/23 05:47 PM
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6 months into dating my wife, I screwed up. Rather than just use it to beat me up, she actually tried to understand my side and why I would do that and took accountability for her part in it. That's when I knew I had a potential keeper on my hands. Not very romantic at all, but it's so hard to find anymore. Keeping house was not her forte. I knew that even when dating. When our kids came, she was a stay-at-home mom for a while. Once the kids were in school and the house was still a mess, I convi…
/r/MensRights30/11/23 05:42 PM
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Yeah just make sure it's not in a joint account. I pay all our bills out of an account only in my name after I got tired of automatic bill pay not going through due to my wife spending out the joint account to zero. It gave me a good excuse to have some tucked away in a high yield savings account at the same bank.
/r/MensRights30/11/23 05:30 PM
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Plus when you split, your relationship with the kids is over too. At least when they're your own, you can try to get co-parenting or at least visitation.
/r/MensRights30/11/23 05:21 PM
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About all I can think of is for the guys only really interested in getting some action but can't pull off "alpha" game is that beta/simp game can work on single mothers pretty quickly (and then cut them off when they get too demanding or wants you to meet her kids). I don't really see the appeal myself and seems a bit unethical, but it's there.
/r/MensRights30/11/23 05:19 PM
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You don't have to raise your voice, but you do need to say "no" to something she asks you to do at least once a month.
/r/MensRights30/11/23 05:12 PM
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It's been a while since I read it, but the things I remember are setting boundaries (don't put up with crap), make sure you're clear on what you'd like. I think this was the book that talked about not falling into the trap of making covert contracts too.
/r/MensRights30/11/23 05:08 PM
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I think the foundation feminism relies on is the pedestalization of women, which has been around for about 500 years. There are a lot of cracks. Once it washes away, I can't see how it can stand.
/r/MensRights30/11/23 05:03 PM
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Another related way they do something similar is by erasing inappropriate words that target women like [female dog] and [gardening tool] but are perfectly fine with ones like [involuntary celibate] to trash men. Soon you'll probably get sent to HR for telling someone to stop acting like a Karen too.
/r/MensRights30/11/23 04:57 PM
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Women in their late 30s reported “online ageism,” Rofl. Blame mother nature for that one. Men can't bear children. If he wants them, he needs to find a willing woman with good chances of successful bearing them and them being healthy. Late 30s is too late. That ship sailed. If you're there, you need to look for men who don't want more kids. Sure women can and do bear healthy children after 40, but why would a man with options go with that if he's able to find someone just as good in other aspect…
/r/MensRights27/11/23 11:32 PM
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In my experience, the hardest part about relationships with other guys is feeling them out to see if you can try to break the ice on some topic - like some kind of personal problem you're looking for advice on. Many guys don't really want to have to go there, which is fine. Every time I've been past that point with a guy 1 on 1 or in a group, it's been very supportive. I remember reading how one guy put it - it was something like, "most guys get a point in their life where they realize they're c…
/r/MensRights27/11/23 11:08 PM
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Yeah, if I were a woman and someone called me a "pick me", I'd take it as a compliment. Men with options aren't going to settle for someone who's argumentative, combative, needs to always be right, gaslights, nags, or shames.
/r/MensRights27/11/23 11:02 PM
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Over recorded human history, almost every human culture had some kind of rite of passage boys would go through. It usually was around age 12-14 and usually marked his transition from hanging out mostly with his mother, women, and other children and started hanging out more with his father, other men, and older boys. Usually there was some kind of task involved like surviving on his own for 3 days, or hunting a semi-dangerous animal like a rattlesnake. I've wondered if this is something that real…
/r/MensRights27/11/23 10:57 PM
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And father options are pay for it or got to jail. He doesn't even necessarily have to be the father. :/
/r/MensRights27/11/23 10:49 PM
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It would be a pretty foolish for her to deliver and surrender all parental rights since in my jurisdiction you could file for and expect to receive child support from her for 21 years even if you promised otherwise. I don't think you can create some kind of contract where you take on any and all financial responsibilities she may otherwise have since the law sees it as the child's right and not the parents. Parental rights you can (visitation, custody) but not potential child support obligations…
/r/MensRights27/11/23 10:43 PM
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Yeah, I'm so grateful that I got the advice when I was young to not do that. It wasn't always easy, but I managed to cut things off when it became clear she expected me to do most of the work for the relationship. It happened a lot. Most just kind of drifted a way. One took it pretty hard because she was falling in love with me very quickly. My ex-GF and wife are the only ones I ever found who gave back as much as I gave.
/r/MensRights22/11/23 07:52 PM
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From my digging, pedestalizing women dates back to roughly 1500 A.D. when what is now called "courtly love" started cropping up in literature and then people started mimicking it IRL.
/r/MensRights22/11/23 07:47 PM
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If you've agreed to date someone exclusively, then you need to cut loose any other "plates". If the topic hasn't come up but you've been on 15+ dates with someone, it's probably past time to bring it up. For a single guy, getting involved in some hobbies and groups and chatting with women to see if any show any interest in him, is a pretty basic level of dipping your toes into the dating market. Most wouldn't consider that to be spinning plates. If you only talked to one woman and then pursued o…
/r/RPChristians20/11/23 08:23 PM
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Sounds like you handled it reasonably well. I had a long distance relationship of about 6 months fizzle once I realized she expected me to uproot and move closer to her instead of her moving to my city. You do need to flush out your mission better though and then once you have that, it should become clearer how your GF can potentially fit in to help you with it.
/r/RPChristians20/11/23 08:05 PM
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Divide the man's age by 2 and then add 7 (minimum of 18 or whatever age of majority is in your area). That's about the lowest age women that high tier but not Leonardo DiCaprio level can maybe garner interest from. So that puts a 32 looking at 23 to 28 and a 34 looking at 24 to 28 if you also want to avoid the women in the danger zone. Personally, when I was in my late twenties, I found almost all the early twenties women too immature for my taste even though they fit within that range and I was…
/r/MensRights17/11/23 07:28 PM
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Men age 32-34 or women?
/r/MensRights17/11/23 05:03 PM
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There's probably at least a hundred men with a 100m time between 9.58 and 10.49 too.
/r/MensRights16/11/23 10:41 PM
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If a male athlete said he wanted to "inspire girls" and not both grils and boys, people would probably label him some kind of pedo or creep. There's really no choice. He's only allowed to say kids/children/"boys and girls".
/r/MensRights16/11/23 10:38 PM
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If they call you gay, ask if they're homophobic in a completely serious and deadpan tone.
/r/MensRights16/11/23 10:34 PM
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That makes sense, except the male mannequins in the stores around me are still all the slim and fit ones.
/r/MensRights16/11/23 04:56 PM
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See if there are any singles groups in your area. I went to one for "young adults" when I was about 26 and it was 2/3rds women and a majority seemed to be 30 to 35. Not exactly what I'd consider to be a young adult anymore, but they were desperately trying to find someone. Also hobbies. I've noticed on Meetup, there are groups for singles that either do the same thing like a sport or plan a variety of things. If there are any causes you believe in, doing volunteer work can be an option too. I di…
/r/MensRights15/11/23 08:01 PM
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Soon enough only women who are plus-sized will be "allowed" to do it just like the clothing mannequins and women's clothing models.
/r/MensRights15/11/23 07:50 PM
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It's pretty common at my company to give a technical quiz as part of an interview. It helps us weed out who did paperwork/management for so long that they forgot even fundamentals they would have learned to get their degree. It should be much easier for a new grad, but even some of them struggle with it. It makes me wonder how they even passed the classes to get the degree. It's very short because we only give them about a half hour to finish it, but we've found it's very necessary to cut throug…
/r/MensRights14/11/23 11:14 PM
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Logic is a tool of the patriarchy!
/r/MensRights14/11/23 07:03 PM
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Also, for 6 pack abs, just getting your weight to the medically defined healthy range is the easy part. Building muscle and dropping your body fat percentage low enough to get them to pop is an entirely new level of dedication.
/r/MensRights14/11/23 04:35 PM
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The hamster is undefeated, haha.
/r/MensRights14/11/23 04:32 PM
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The first Captain Marvel movie was interesting and I enjoyed it but after that, there's just nothing interesting about the Carol Danvers / Captain Marvel character. She's very similar to Superman (the classic version of him before what DC did with him in their latest movies). You're never going to really challenge either in combat. The audience is never going to believe there's really any real risk involved. I remember reading that someone said what made Superman interesting was challenging him …
/r/MensRights14/11/23 04:26 PM
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If someone is brave enough to tell a woman she's being a bit too aggressive, bossy, difficult, or "too much", it's probably just trying to get her to step back and do a little self introspection and think about how she's coming across to people. (Most religions and philosophies have some version of treat others how you'd like to be treated.) Being able to realize when you're wrong and admit it and take accountably, isn't a sign of "shrinking" yourself, but a sign of good character. Someone who a…
/r/MensRights13/11/23 09:46 PM
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If neither of you want kids, it probably can work out pretty well for both to be career-focused. Or if they do and can afford a nanny / au-pair. If it were a career that didn't require high hours and she actually did a good job balancing the demands of her career and kids and still had time and energy to be a good wife, then sure, there's nothing wrong with a career. It's pretty rare that it works out that way though. Usually it's the guy that ends up with the short end of the stick. Being a hou…
/r/MensRights13/11/23 09:36 PM
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It's not entirely wrong. For a woman to get her foot in the door with a guy for a romantic relationship, she needs to pass the "boner test". The thing is though, it's usually a very low bar, especially for a 28 year old guy looking at the pool of 20-28 year old women. Sure, he'll probably have a type (like a thing for red-heads or something) but he'd very likely be quite content dating someone who wasn't but hit a lot of other boxes like fit, friendly, feminine, and cooperative. The things it so…
/r/MensRights13/11/23 07:23 PM
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Yep, I learned back in high school to not bother with the women I liked the most. Most likely, it'd just be a waste of time. Instead, just pay attention to which ones were showing interest in me. I realize now many guys get no interest at all.
/r/MensRights13/11/23 06:20 PM
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Did you mean "prophets"? (instead of "profits")
/r/MensRights13/11/23 06:17 PM
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Haha, good point. I suppose it depends on what these guy friends and their friends are like. I have a neighbor who is about 38, a mess, and a player. I would not suggest him to anyone, but the woman in the article is the kind of woman I see him with frequently (single moms who are also wrecks), and if she insisted, I guess I'd offer to give him her #. Hopefully not, but that's the only one I might think about. I would not suggest any of my respectable male co-workers or friends to her. I guess I…
/r/MensRights13/11/23 06:12 PM
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She should have thought about what family oriented men would be looking for in a woman when she was 20 instead of 37 and a single mother. Even at 37, she still isn't. Any decent guy with options who wants (more) kids, is going to skip right over someone 37. not, as far as I can tell, overly “picky.” Just another delusional woman. Her male friends try to break it to her (quoted below), but she's not listening. When she asks her male friends to set her up with their friends, they consistently tell…
/r/MensRights13/11/23 05:36 PM
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if you want to date or marry educated, successful, stable men...YOU have to be up to their level. Good post, but just to comment and clarify this a little, many women seem to not realize that these guys with options that do marry, pick someone who is respectful, family-oriented (instead of career oriented), fit, friendly, feminine, co-operative (and not competitive), etc. Becoming a mirror-copy of that guy they want isn't usually what those guys are looking for. One gal in high school that seeme…
/r/MensRights13/11/23 05:25 PM
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But, but those were the only men that gave her tingles...
/r/MensRights13/11/23 05:18 PM
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You've drunk the kool-aid then. Feminists pointing to the current dictionary definition of feminism and talking about how they're about equality is how they get naive young people to buy into their agenda and perspective that women are some kind of permanent victim class. This sub is full of info on how the old definition I gave is more accurate to how prominent feminists actually behave than the new one. Your comment does work if women were in fact disadvantaged compared to men. Then advocating…
/r/MensRights07/11/23 11:31 PM
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Yep, I'd rather find out as soon as possible if that's what it's going to be.
/r/MensRights06/11/23 08:14 PM
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2) is interesting because age 4 is generally the oldest a kid can be in order for a US adoption agency to be equipped to try to place them. So if both parents wanted to put the kid up for adoption, they probably could. Once adopted, neither would have any child support responsibilities. So with that background, some of the replies you're getting stop making sense such as before birth vs after birth. My first thought with your scenario #2 was whether they both were on board with trying or if she …
/r/MensRights06/11/23 08:11 PM
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Yep been married to the 2nd one for 16 years now. She's been great.
/r/MensRights06/11/23 07:48 PM
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The best way to ditch a woman is to get her to break up with you rather than do it yourself (and have her think it was her idea). So if I were on a date that used this "line", I would just be glad that she revealed early on what kind of person I was dealing with and gave me an easy out to "end" things. One example is I only planned and asked a woman out on very cheap or free dates the first several times. I figured any golddiggers would weed themselves out but any that were actually interested i…
/r/MensRights06/11/23 07:46 PM
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Nah, both the women I've had a long term relationship starting planning and paying for some dates after I did for the first few (which were pretty cheap things - no fancy dinners). The ones that didn't, I just let fade away or broke up with if it seemed like they needed closure. I wanted someone who was a giver too and not just a taker. Seemed like a good way to test for it.
/r/MensRights06/11/23 07:32 PM
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The approach I took was to take a woman out on a few very cheap dates (and pay). Then I'd wait. Only a few would then ask me out and pay, in which case the relationship could continue if I was interested. If not, I just moved on and starting working on some other leads. I did have one woman call me about 2 weeks after our last date all worried about why I stopped calling and asking her out, so I explained why to her. In my mind there wasn't anything to break up, but I went through the breakup ta…
/r/MensRights06/11/23 07:26 PM
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I can respect someone who espouses a principal and then does their best to live by it. For example, my sister decided to become a vegetarian in response to learning about conditions farm animals go through. She only brings it up when someone asks why she's a vegetarian and doesn't go around trying to make people feel guilty for eating meat. She let her own kids decide for themselves when they got older and they mostly have chosen not to be vegetarian. If feminism just said they were about promot…
/r/MensRights06/11/23 07:11 PM
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I agree with it in its definition. They've switcheroo'ed the definition. The etymology of "feminism" is more honest, which roughly is "taking [a] woman's side [on anything]". You can see this change if you look it up in a modern dictionary (which will have the equality bs) and then look it up in older and older dictionaries. A better word for treating genders as equal as possible is egalitarianism.
/r/MensRights06/11/23 07:01 PM
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Rom com movies are right behind the romance novels in a lot of ways.
/r/MensRights06/11/23 06:38 PM
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Back in those times, a young woman usually stayed under the roof of her father until she was married off. Sure she wasn't idle. She'd be busy helping with the farm, family business, and/or helping with younger siblings and housework.
/r/MensRights26/10/23 02:40 PM
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Kids do best in a stable home with both parents. In pretty much every measurable way. For all it's faults and risks, married couples are still more stable than unmarried ones. So if raising kids well is a guy's #1 goal in life, that's about the only way the risk might make sense.
/r/MensRights26/10/23 02:37 PM
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It made sense back in times & places where a husband could divorce his wife and send her away with almost nothing (neither kids, $, property, or possessions). Some cultures, if he received a dowry, he was obligated to return that to her father/parents or give it to her so she had at least a little.
/r/MensRights26/10/23 02:31 PM
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Kneeling to propose has only been around a couple hundred years from what I found and is not some kind of instinct.
/r/MensRights25/10/23 08:57 PM
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Reminds me of this one: Woman, "Whatever happened to chivalry?" Man, "Chivalry was for ladies." Woman "..." [As an aside, I don't think chivalry (as in when courtly love was grafted into around 1500 A.D.) ever was a good thing since it pedestalized women and is what seems to be the root cause of how we ended up with so many of the problems the MRA is trying to fix.]
/r/MensRights18/10/23 10:11 PM
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Let me see if I can think of a few Body positivity - being morbidly obese is somehow attractive. [it's not] You can have it all - family, career, marriage. [Pick 2] You'll stay attractive forever. [the wall is undefeated] You can turn a bad boy into a responsible husband & dad [if you somehow do, you'll probably lose attraction for him]
/r/MensRights18/10/23 10:06 PM
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Even in the west, most Christian denominations pander to feminism, it's mostly just a question of how much and in what ways.
/r/MensRights11/10/23 09:33 PM
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Sorry, but I don't know the details and even if I did, it probably wouldn't help because it would be specific to my state.
/r/MensRights11/10/23 09:13 PM
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I never got into the bar scene, but I'd expect any guys there making approaches would be the kind that have done it a hundred times before and probably just looking for casual level relationships. I mostly looked by going out and getting involved with groups that did hobbies I enjoyed and volunteer stuff that I supported. Some singles groups too. I wanted someone of good character, and I figured selfish narcissists aren't really the type that do volunteer work, haha. My dating years were a long …
/r/MensRights09/10/23 10:18 PM
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I hope you at least drop hints. In high school and college, sure I took a shot with the girls I found most attractive first but quickly found there was no point if they weren't interested in me. So I started trying to watch which women were showing interest in me and asked them out instead. That worked much better. Sometimes I ignored the hints because I just wasn't interested in return. Yeah, guys can have a "type" they find most attractive, but will find probably 80% of women near there age th…
/r/MensRights09/10/23 07:25 PM
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"his fiancée" is furious Asking for a prenup is a great way to test a woman. This one failed.
/r/MensRights09/10/23 07:08 PM
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Because it's based on what the man can "afford" to send and not what it actually costs to raise a kid.
/r/MensRights09/10/23 06:58 PM
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So it's more realistic then? (A GF trying to get you to buy things)
/r/MensRights05/10/23 10:39 PM
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The problem is that in this professor's generation it was enough for a young man to buckle down, get a decent enough job, have at least a decent enough character, his own place, and a woman would be willing to pair up with you, be loyal, monogamous (one partner for life) with you, have kids with you and stick with you. It's simply not enough anymore. You have to be better than 90% of men to even get any interest from women and even if you do, you probably won't find any all the things I listed. …
/r/MensRights05/10/23 03:15 PM
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I have a hard enough time deciphering code I wrote myself if it's been a while, haha.
/r/MensRights05/10/23 02:55 PM
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So the shower scene from the "Starship Troopers" movie is coming true, I guess.
/r/MensRights05/10/23 02:29 PM
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For the pick-up artists out there, good luck trying to emulate real confidence. You can't, son. You either got it, or you don't. I'll have to disagree a bit here. "Fake it till you make it" is a saying and it did work for me to get my dating life turned around. It's not really different than many things you learn by just practicing a lot. Yeah, it's faster if it just comes naturally or you hit a point like it sounds you did where it just clicks. But just with focus, concentration, trial and erro…
/r/MensRights05/10/23 02:22 PM
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The stuff I've read indicates it usually keeps going down. 3rd is less of an increase than the 4th. 4th is less than the 3rd. 5th is less than the 4th. There have been stories on here of women having a baby with a guy who seemed to have a decent job only to find out he already is paying child support for 10 kids so she gets hardly anything.
/r/MensRights05/10/23 02:15 PM
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Child support is normally substantially less for a 2nd child than the 1st. Your fear is something I thought a lot about while dating and before I proposed. Almost all the things that lower divorce risk were there but I figured there was still a 20% chance things could blow up and get ugly. In the end for me it just came down to a future with a 20% chance of being way worse but an 80% chance of being at least a little better (based on what things I enjoyed and valued in this life) outweighed just…
/r/MensRights04/10/23 06:17 PM
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Yep, you're learning a bit about how attraction normally works in women.
/r/MensRights04/10/23 06:06 PM
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Fair enough. They were having massive financial problems around the same time.
/r/MensRights04/10/23 05:35 PM
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It's ironic to me that when the movie "Clerks" came out, the main female character having a body count of 36 was meant to be shocking, but now it isn't at all. 1994 is a while ago, but not that long ago in the bigger picture.
/r/MensRights04/10/23 05:22 PM
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forcing boy scouts to accept girls Boy scouts in the US weren't forced to allow girls by any external group or factors. It was an entirely internal decision. The US supreme court ruled on their side years ago that they could exclude girls. They allowed them later by their own internal decision mostly to try to boost falling enrollment numbers from my understanding.
/r/MensRights04/10/23 05:09 PM
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My understanding is they made the change not due to outside pressure but to try to boost falling enrollment numbers. They lost a lot of the very conservative troops.
/r/MensRights04/10/23 05:07 PM
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The explanation I remember is that when a woman gives dating advice, she's thinking about things she wished she could change about guys she dated. The key missing piece that they don't say, but is right there is that she was attracted to these guys. Otherwise they'd be invisible and she wouldn't have dated them to begin with. The biggest issue most guys struggle with is simply being attractive enough to get interest from very many women. The key here is to listen to the guys who have paid attent…
/r/MensRights02/10/23 05:52 PM
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Yeah, even if the quality in the dating pool of single women stayed the same, the riskier marriage becomes, the fewer women are worth the risk. In many ways the quality has seemed to have gone down over the last 50 years too, making it riskier from that side too.
/r/MensRights02/10/23 05:39 PM
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Yeah. The hardest thing to find for me back during my dating years (2002-2007) was a woman who was a giver too. The way I describe what I did was I'd take two steps forward (pursuing) and then a step back. If she stepped forward and pursued and gave back, then we could proceed. If not, I simply moved on. I screened out so many women very quickly this way, often before even asking for a phone number or date. If she got past that and we went out 2 or 3 times, I'd just wait and see if she'd call an…
/r/MensRights02/10/23 05:20 PM
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There was a post on this sub recently that linked to a study and it's theory to explain the data was the falling birth rate in the west was mostly due to more women waiting too long to try to start a family and they simply ran out of time. Hard to test if it's correct or not, but it's been interested to think about for me at least.
/r/MensRights27/09/23 03:00 AM
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27.5% of women in the US are overweight. 41.9% are obese or severely obese. That leaves 30.5% left for the healthy weight and underweight categories if I did my math right. Source I thought there would be an upward trend with age, but it was pretty flat among age categories. I guess you can compare to the stats for children and infer from that they it shoots up in their late teens and 20s.
/r/MensRights26/09/23 02:32 AM
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Yeah my biggest frustrations with almost all Christians is they won't follow what their own religious texts plainly say. Even just in the New Testament without getting into arguing what from the Old Testament applies and what doesn't. Just in my lifetime, even most of the more traditional denominations no longer even really try to pretend anymore.
/r/MensRights25/09/23 05:13 PM
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In general, it's true. As near as I can figure out it's only partly due to getting married. It's mostly due to her not being able to get any guys she finds very sexually attractive to marry her. She's running out of time (biological clock), so gets who she can. Similar to how many guys will sleep with a women even if they never see her as a long term prospect, many women are willing to marry a guy they're only marginally sexually attracted to. Generally, across the board, a women's attraction fo…
/r/MensRights25/09/23 05:06 PM
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There's only one reason imho. It's if having kids and giving them the best environment possible to be raised is your highest priority in life and it's worth to you despite all the risks and likely downsides (such as a dead bedroom after she's done having kids). Pretty much every study confirms kids do best in stable homes with both parents.
/r/MensRights25/09/23 04:51 PM
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Pretty much my thoughts. There's the old saying that goes something like, "Thoughts become actions. Actions become habits. Habits become character. Character is who you are." I did it myself. I was horrible with women as a teen and young adult. So I learned what pushes their buttons and acted like that guy. Eventually, with practice it just became who I was. The biggest issue now is that there's no cultural norm, legal reason, or other kind of pressure (such as used to come from religion) to mak…
/r/MensRights15/09/23 04:13 PM
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It's a good video, but the title is rather misleading as to what it's about.
/r/MensRights13/09/23 05:38 PM
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Men and women win elections at similar rates in the US. I remember someone had a source. So if there's a bias, it's not in the public in aggregate. The most likely explanation for why there are more male candidates is simply that it appeals more to men for some reason. Similar to how there's a loose trend with men choosing college majors related to things and women tend to pick majors that have more emphasis on people and relational things. It's possible there's a bias in the why parties select …
/r/MensRights11/09/23 06:12 PM
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Ironically, you’re more likely to get sympathy/support from a pastor or equivalent for other religions. In seminary, they only take about one class in counseling so they don’t get the woke, gynocentric indoctrination as much as a psychologist/counselor/therapist who is young enough to be far away from retirement.
/r/MensRights26/08/23 04:51 PM
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First, you don’t get to define masculinity and then impose that definition. Masculinity is simply observing the behaviors of men and women and summarizing those that men tend to exhibit significantly more than women. There certainly have been changes in men’s behavior in the past 20 years and 50 years. In general the changes seem to be a reaction than embracing feminisms ideas about “deconstructing patriarchy”. For example when abortion and birth control became available it was widely hoped and …
/r/MensRights18/08/23 05:03 AM
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My approach for a first date was to just ask her out to go do something cheap and I’d just pay. Something like, “Hey I’ve been wanting to hit up this mini-golf place. Would you want to come with on Thursday at 7 pm?” I found an activity worked better to get a read on body language and it helped spark some conversation too. If it was going really well I’d ask if she’d want to go grab some desert and chat some more there. I’d keep doing cheap dates for a month or so if I was interested. I figured …
/r/MensRights12/08/23 04:43 PM
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The ironic thing with male pattern baldness is guys get it from their mother since it’s on the X chromosome. So it’s the woman who gives it to her sons. Picking a guy with a full set of hair does give any daughters better chances of not having bald sons though. So I suppose there still is merit from the “best genes” standpoint.
/r/MensRights09/08/23 08:33 PM
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I saved this link on “how to be a good wife” from 1955. I can only imagine how much backlash that would get now haha.
/r/MensRights08/08/23 07:59 PM
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In the USA, there was a stretch where people were suing and winning when they were injured and a bystander tried to help them to the best of their ability but did not do something according to medical best practices. So people stopped helping out of a fear of being sued. In response, Good Samaritan laws were passed barring people from suing people trying to help. It makes sense to not expect ever to have the level of training as a medical doctor or a first responder such as a firefighter. Police…
/r/MensRights08/08/23 07:34 PM
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To borrow from Martin Luther King Jr., I dream of a day where each person is judged by the content of their character. “I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.”
/r/MensRights08/08/23 06:32 PM
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Pretty sure it’s just due to so many more women getting college and post graduate degrees that it’s finally made up for women often choosing majors that don’t pay as well.
/r/MensRights07/08/23 02:42 PM
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I know a guy who adopted when he was about 50 because he had given up on finding a decent woman to start a family with. Shortly after he adopted a boy he started dating a woman he married. She was about 30 and I think they had at least one kid together ( I kind of lost touch with them).
/r/MensRights07/08/23 02:38 PM
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It was funny how he talks so much about his new “privileges” but is unable to put any of it in to words (other than artificial things like the walking alone at night thing). He’s just so convinced it’s there that he can’t come to realize it’s a lie. In fact most of what he writes about shows a lack of any kind of privilege. As for friendships, I’ve had several close male friendships that were on a deeper and more personal level than I’ve ever had with a woman (except my wife but there are guy st…
/r/MensRights07/08/23 02:05 PM
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I remember seeing some research on this. The short answer was that if you include everyone who marks Christian/Muslim/etc it does not make any statistically significant difference. If you filter it to those that show some commitment to it like attending services almost every week, then promiscuity and infidelity rates due go down a little.
/r/MensRights04/08/23 11:46 PM
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Yep. The best filters are the ones you set up such that if they fail, they break up with you. Safer that way than breaking up with her. For example, only free or cheap dates for a couple of months makes sure any gold diggers ditch you.
/r/MensRights04/08/23 02:04 AM
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Yeah I tried doing the long distance relationship thing once but once I realized she had no interest in moving to my metro and that there was no way I was going to uproot my career to move to her’s, I realized it wasn’t going to go anywhere. I had a cat when I was dating my wife. When I found out she was allergic to them I took the cat to my parents figuring the relationship wouldn’t last and I’d just go get my cat back. Never happened haha.
/r/MensRights03/08/23 08:35 PM
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I’ve been watching a lot of better bachelor videos on YouTube lately. He has quite a few that talk about why many men are leaving the dating market. A lot is his opinion but he does pull in data quite often to support his reasoning. Partly it’s just that it’s so hard to find a decent match. I think about how long it took to find my wife. If it ends I wouldn’t bother trying to find a new LTR. It would just take too much investment for the potential reward.
/r/MensRights03/08/23 07:16 PM
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Some of it seems to be women that keep getting burned chasing players and then accusing all men of being like that.
/r/MensRights03/08/23 03:48 PM
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