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WhiteNight200/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 09:42 AM
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Ask questions and be interested. Listen and ask follow-ups. Plan to learn something--it won't take long. Add to the conversion without self-aggrandizing. For topics you can stick to the FORD method: Family Occupation Recreation Dreams
/r/askMRP22/07/23 10:05 AM
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r/askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/22 03:57 PM
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r/askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 09:11 PM
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r/askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/21 05:03 PM
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Stats: 35yo, 5’9”, 174 lbs., BF 13.7% (Navy) Lifts: SQ: 245x6 DL: 265x5 OHP: 125x3 BP: 180x4 Updates "Nice Guys interpret a woman's approval as the ultimate validation of their worth. Signs of a woman's approval can take the form of her desire to have sex, flirtatious behavior, a smile, a touch, or attentiveness. At the other end of the spectrum, if a woman is depressed, in a bad mood, or angry, Nice Guys interpret these things to mean that she is not accepting or approving of them." (NMMNG) I h…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 10:53 AM
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Thanks for clarifying.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/21 02:00 AM
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You don't know why a man should want to f---. Why? Maybe you can rephrase. I'm not sure what you're asking here.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/21 01:27 AM
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We're talking in circles now. I'm telling you I agree with you. I'm the problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 07:49 PM
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I'm not blaming her now. It's me. I'm the one who can't (or won't) find the drive to move forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 03:36 PM
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Stats: 35yo, 5’9”, 171 lbs. Lifts: SQ: 235x7 DL: 265x5 OHP: 115x8 BP: 170x6 Updates It took me a couple days to admit that HoA was right about a lot of things. I was frustrated with being stagnant and felt the need to put pressure on to make things better. I was going about it in the wrong way, blaming my wife again and putting all the pressure on her instead of on myself and my efforts to lead. I called off the Feb 15 deadline a couple days after my last OYS, but couldn't report it because of t…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 12:48 PM
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I’m taking my life back from the sorry Beta I used to be. One way I measure success is by the fulfillment of my responsibilities and the advancement toward my mission and long-term goals (fitness, FI, raising well-adjusted children, etc.).
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 06:18 PM
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This was not negotiating desire. If she wants me, she wants me. I want her to know I’m serious and give her time to prepare instead of just dropping a bomb and ending it. You’re right. I have bad days sometimes. I bounce back.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 05:51 PM
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I told you last week to STFU Where did you say this? I sure don’t see it. maybe going to get a divorce So I should just serve her papers like an autistic? uncontested and well Maybe not. I’ll deal with it. boring You tell me I’m boring but you also criticize me for planning nights out and developing my hobbies and interests. That’s a clear contradiction. little boy Call it what you want. I’m taking my life back.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 05:42 PM
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No games. I was being clear, assertive, and drawing a boundary. I’ve been at this for 20 months and nothing has changed. Totally unrelated. I was just noticing that there were some good examples from my childhood I could look up to. That’s all.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 05:27 PM
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Stats: 35yo, 5’9”, 171 lbs. Lifts: SQ: 225x8 DL: 240x8 OHP: 110x7 BP: 165x8 Chin-ups: 5 sets of 10 Updates I was a basket case last week. Getting back on track. Been reading a lot of u/Red-Curious’ posts. It’s been helping me get perspective with his religious upbringing. Mission: I’m closer to understanding the concept, but haven’t found what mine is yet. Most of the ones I’ve seen are not to my taste, which is fine. You probably won’t like mine, either. My initial feelings are about raising my…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 12:57 PM
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I can see there is some incongruence in that statement. I feel that my efforts could be better utilized somewhere else. She didn’t say very much.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/20 02:54 PM
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I hear you. I still suck at making myself sound interesting—you should interview me when you’ve got insomnia. I have improved but I still suck at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/20 02:24 AM
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eye contact It’s something I noticed I wasn’t doing very well this week. You can make of it what you will.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/20 02:18 AM
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divorce lawyers a year ago It’s taken me this long to rewrite my whole programming and come close to coming to terms with the fear and fallout. REALLY that boring? I still think about this all the time. I don’t know how the hell to find a vision or mission. I just don’t. I know I’m a retard, but that knowledge doesn’t help me fix it. It feels like almost everything I’ve done is a farce, some weak imitation of something else someone real did. I’ve spent my life always doing what was expected of m…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/20 02:16 AM
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Stats: 35yo, 5’9”, 170 lbs. Lifts: SQ: 215x8 DL: 240x8 OHP: 110x7 BP: 185x2 Chin-ups: 5 sets of 10 Updates Reading WOTSM again. A lot of times I don’t know what it is that I want, or I’m not eager enough to get it that I’m willing to throw away stability to get there. I don’t have a mission. I feel neutered. Like a cripple sometimes. I’m hoping getting my T fixed will help with this, but I’m afraid that’s just an excuse. I should’ve had my T fixed a long time ago. Was on Clomid for a while about…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 10:54 AM
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I don’t take responsibility for her emotions. I need to do better about managing myself in these situations. I can’t let myself get discouraged. I don’t pretend to be able to pull her out of her tantrums, but I should be clear with her afterward that it’s unacceptable behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/20 12:23 PM
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Stats: 35yo, 5’9”, 169 lbs. Lifts: SQ: 250x2 DL: (skipped heavy lifts due to ventral/inguinal pain) OHP: 115x6 BP: 175x5 Chin-ups: 4 sets of 10 Less time and effort put in this week and it shows. I’m still here. Updates PRs on upper body exercises this week. Setting up appointment with doc to get T checked (I’m hoping T will help me across the board in all areas). Finally got wife to set up IRA. Will start HSA as well next year. Outdid myself with Halloween costume this year. Kids and wife loved…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 04:05 PM
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r/askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 11:00 AM
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That’s a good way to look at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 03:45 PM
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I’d change the order of your steps slightly, but those are all the basics there.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 01:11 PM
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Stats: 35yo, 5’9”, 169 lbs. Lifts: SQ: 240x1 DL: 205x3 (deloaded) OHP: 110x7 BP: 165x7 Pull-ups: 3 sets of 10 Starting my OYS process over. Taking a look at myself and my efforts more seriously instead of listing minor accomplishments. Mission This is something I’ve struggled coming up with and my progress has been limited because I don’t have a solid vision of what I want. My core values used to have God and Family first, above everything else. Since MRP those priorities have shifted dramatical…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 09:59 AM
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Well, crap. Challenge accepted.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/20 04:23 PM
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just quit Just quit MRP/OYS? Basically did that when I fell back into blaming her and not taking responsibility about six months ago. Didn’t take. Just quit my marriage? Still seriously considering it. Right now I think the benefits of the marriage and the challenges within it that promote my growth outweigh the benefits of leaving right away. I could be wrong and would be happy to hear your take on that. Just quit the church that led me to become a Career Beta? Considering that, too. recipes Ni…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/20 12:00 PM
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This is for me. I’ve been boring and want to change that. It’s also a way for me to lead and share with my wife the life and relationship I want. I don’t expect anything and it’s not a big deal if I miss a night.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 01:35 PM
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Ok, you lost me on that reference.
/r/askMRP20/10/20 06:38 PM
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How can you have any pudding if you don’t beat your meat?
/r/askMRP20/10/20 04:39 PM
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r/askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 04:07 PM
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OYS #21 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 35yo, 5'9", 167 lbs. SQ: 240x1 BP: 185x1 OHP: 120x4 DL: 205x5 deloaded Chin-ups: 10x3 Relationship: Wife 34yo, Twins 3yo. Married 12 years. Mission (Currently Under Renovation) Be my own man. Give of my abundance. Share my gifts and talents readily with those who are ready to appreciate them. Be the Oak to those in my care. Study On sidebar for third time. Not much reading last two weeks. Physical De-load week last week. Pushed squat on Monday back to regu…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 12:59 PM
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I think you’re right about this.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 12:28 PM
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OYS #20 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 35yo, 5'9", 167 lbs. SQ: 170x5 deloaded BP: 175x3 OHP: 115x5 DL: 205x5 deloaded Chin-ups: 10 Relationship: Wife 34yo, Twins 3yo. Married 12 years. Mission (Currently Under Renovation) Be my own man. Give of my abundance. Share my gifts and talents readily with those who are ready to appreciate them. Be the Oak to those in my care. Study On sidebar for third time. Physical Working back up to weight on SQ/DLs. 8 hours sleep 4/7 days. Career/Finances New cred…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 09:49 AM
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Or when is a woman just not worth your time and gifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 04:46 PM
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Is this not on the sidebar? I’ve been asking myself these same questions, whether it really is validation I’m after. Where is the line between looking for validation and genuinely wanting better sex and intimacy with your partner?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 04:33 PM
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OYS #19 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 35yo, 5'9", 168 lbs. SQ: 135x1 (massive de-load) BP: 165x5 OHP: 105x7 DL: 205x5 (de-load) Chin-ups: 10 Updates since last week: Physical: Lots of back soreness last week, typically when bending over. Was fairly improved on Monday. I can DL 60% fairly comfortably, but squatting even one plate hurt enough to make me doubt. De-loading lower back exercises this week, and using extra time in gym for cardio. Not getting enough sleep due to work and home projects…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 09:52 AM
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Yeah, we’re caught in semantics. You’re right. Girl is not the focus. I can’t rely on anyone else for support or validation. It’s a vision, something to strive toward. If I can find someone who adds value, great; if not, it’ll be fine. Financial Independence: $3M would easily cover it, without Social Security benefits. I can’t give you a timeline—have to figure out alimony and child support first. I’m still not sure what you’re looking for. Maybe you can point me to an example.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 06:15 PM
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Clever. I still found some value in it. I know I can do better. See my response to 2wo below for my honest self-evaluation at this point. Your BS-meter is appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 04:28 PM
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This is consistent with everything I heard before. I knew the rule, and thought I had found exceptions in my counselor and myself. I was wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 04:17 PM
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First of all, thanks for paying attention. You’re right. I’ve created my own problems. I listened to advice, tried to get the best information I could, and made a plan. The consequences of that plan (and my failures in implementing it) are on me. You guys are trying to help me come to the conclusion to just get out. I hear you. What’s holding me back? All stuff you’ve seen before: The hope that things can improve with my wife and family. The fear of harming my kids. The fear of divorce ($, drama…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 04:14 PM
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A mission is more abstract, not to justify failure or mediocrity, but to promote you to continue pushing the envelope. What you’re talking about sounds more like vision, something I’m still working on putting into words. I imagine myself leading a family to a prosperous life, becoming financially independent, maybe retiring early. Teaching my children to live with integrity. Being worthy of and holding respect and gratitude in the eyes of my wife (whoever it is).
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 12:51 PM
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That’s my mission, not my goals. Goals are concrete, with numbers and deadlines. I’m happy to adjust my mission if I come along a better one.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 12:23 PM
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Because it’s fun even without the sex. It’s good practice for whatever comes next.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 12:20 PM
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OYS #18 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) This one is mostly a downer. I’ve got to admit where I’ve messed up and learn from it. (I’m late this week due to a ban from a Rule 11 violation.) Stats: 35yo, 5'9", 168 lbs. SQ: 265x2 BP: 180x4 OHP: 105x7 DL: 325x1 Chin-ups: 10 Relationship: Wife 34yo, Twins 3yo. Married 12 years. Mission Be my own man. Give of my abundance. Share my gifts and talents readily with those who are ready to appreciate them. Be the Oak to those in my care. Study Starting over for the…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 08:51 AM
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No negotiation, no ultimatum, no grace period. Just get out now. Don't let her do anything to change your mind or make you doubt yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 02:32 AM
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Get the annulment now. You'll find someone better before you know it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 01:57 AM
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r/askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/20 12:46 PM
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I’d love to be that guy. Many days I’ve cultivated that kind of energy. Taken steps backward recently, probably due to being discouraged, focusing on the worst parts of my efforts to take my life back, letting others rattle me, instead of being OI. I don’t want to be like that. Need to focus on the good again without expecting results from others.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/20 12:17 PM
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this post right? Yes, I have. Worth a re-read. I blamed myself more than her for a while. Gaming efforts didn’t work, and I started to blame her again. And got more apathetic after starfish every time. weight Been averaging 1750 calories/day for close to a year now while going to the gym 3-4/week. Weight has been stagnant the whole time, though re-comping has definitely still been happening. Even brought it down to 1600/day for almost a whole month and saw no progress—figured I was trying too ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/20 07:49 AM
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I know better than that. Some people are truly sick and need outside help. “Posting occasionally” means no one here has the whole picture, so I can understand your misunderstanding. My fault for not being more diligent or thorough in reporting. I probably am half-heartedly executing in some areas. I find the social and gaming parts of MRP particularly challenging, especially recently. Counseling is a sincere attempt from me to help us find some common ground before divorce becomes inevitable.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/20 12:55 AM
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Trying to remember where I read this. Pretty sure it’s in the sidebar somewhere. It sucks when you figure this out.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/20 02:44 AM
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She came highly recommended by some colleagues here and I’ve done my research on her. If anyone can help my wife overcome her issues, it’ll be this counselor. I have my fair share of crap that I need to sort out, too. But I am perfectly willing to drop out if I feel I’m being treated unfairly.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 02:32 PM
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No spite or wresting control here. Quiet comfort and reassurance felt like the right move. But I see what you mean and will do better about using these opportunities.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 12:09 PM
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OYS #17 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19; last OYS in March) Stats: 35yo, 5'9", 168 lbs. SQ: 250x5 BP: 155x8 OHP: 105x6 DL: 280x7 Chin-ups: 10 Mission Be my own man. Give of my abundance. Share my gifts and talents readily with those who are ready to appreciate them. Be the Oak to those in my care. Study Finished MAPx2, Red Pill Sidebar x2, If You Can, Millionaire Next Door. Reading Common Sense on Mutual Funds. JFF podcasts. Physical Grateful gym is open. Back at full 5/3/1 BBB. Tried 1500 calories on n…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 09:49 AM
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OYS #16 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19; last OYS in December) Stats: 35yo, 5'9", 172 lbs. Lifts as of 4 weeks ago (gym closed): SQ: 285x1 BP: 175x1 OHP: 120x1 DL: 285x4 Chin-ups: 9 (current) Mission Be my own man. Give of my abundance. Share my gifts and talents readily with those who are ready to appreciate them. Be the Oak to those in my care. Study Finished Passionate Marriage, MMSLPx2. u/Red-Curious’ posts on divorce advice. Keeping tabs on MRP posts. Reading MAPx2. Physical Bodyweight workouts at …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 11:32 AM
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I wouldn’t be surprised if our wives frequented the same forums and collaborated.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 02:18 PM
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She’s watched maybe 3/8 on relationships. I’ve printed out worksheets and have offered my copy of Passionate Marriage. She has sometimes listened while I’ve been watching the courses on Sexual Intimacy over the past week.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 10:19 PM
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Mixed grip. Left hand is underhand. Sometimes I switch it up for the 5x10 sets.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 09:02 PM
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All good advice. Maybe it is the pressure getting to her. I’m sticking with it for now. I will probably meet with a divorce attorney anyway so I know details and can prepare properly. Dr. Finlayson-Fife is who we’re scheduled to meet with. Waitlist is 11 months long.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 08:56 PM
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Interesting! I may replace my hanging leg raises with these.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 08:16 PM
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Thanks. This is exactly how I interpreted her comments.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 03:35 PM
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I’ll have to look at this later. TRP blocked on mobile.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 03:16 PM
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Helpful advice. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 01:51 PM
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Married 11 years. (I was trying to streamline my OYS and left the background out, but I could put a link to my first OYS.) Been on MAP about 9 months. I was a Career Beta so I will probably take longer than others. My plan is still to stick it out to July. Just don't have a plan for specifically dealing with this recent development. I could shrug it off, put in a good faith effort, and continue gaming my wife (this would be OI); or I could keep my hands off and discourage any escalation of her c…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 01:15 PM
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OYS #15 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 175 lbs., BF 17% (Strongur) SQ: 260x5 BP: 155x7 OHP: 105x7 DL: 250x7 Background: Raised LDS, Career Beta, 99th percentile introvert (per JBP's personality assessment) Wife: Raised LDS, early 30s, 5'3", 135 lbs., Together 12y, Married 11y, SAHM plus music teacher Children: 3yo boys Mission Be my own man. Give of my abundance. Share my gifts and talents readily with those who are ready to appreciate them. Be the Oak to those in my care. Study Fin…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 10:51 AM
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Thanks for clarifying. That's what I'm going for.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 07:08 PM
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You're right on the first count. I need to change my mindset and find the value in failure. I wouldn't say I'm looking for "reward sex". That sounds like a covert contract to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 04:30 PM
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Good reminder.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 03:12 PM
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It was the last rep in my set. Completed the next two sets no problem. Yes, normal. Your antagonism isn't worth more of a response than that. Good point here. I'll focus on learning from failure instead of seeing it as a waste. Bwahaha. You don't know my wife. But I get your point. Consider your feedback appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 02:54 PM
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OYS #14: Six Month Report (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 180 lbs., BF 15-18% (Navy) SQ: 250 5x5 BP: 155 5x5 BR: 140 5x3 OHP: 110 5x5 DL: 240 1x4 Chin-ups: 8RM Mission Be my own man. Give of my abundance. Share my gifts and talents readily with those who are ready to appreciate them. Be the Oak to those in my care. Study Back in NMMNG. Schnarch's Passionate Marriage is next. WISNIFG #2 when I'm on mobile. Physical PRs across the board over the last three weeks. Squats are my stronges…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 09:40 AM
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OYS #13 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 182lbs., BF 15-19% (Navy) Deloaded 15% after missing two weeks due to surgery SQ: 190 5x5 BP: 130 5x5 BR: 120 5x5 OHP: 90 5x5 DL: 215 1x5 Chin-ups: 7RM Mission Be the captain. Lead myself and my family to a life of fulfillment and abundance. Exercise righteous dominion. Refuse to apologize for acting in my own self-interest. Study Finished MMSLP, MAP, NMMNG, Rational Male Year One Highlights, 16 Commandments, all posts on MormonRedPill subreddi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 01:18 PM
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electronic cooking device "Hot plate" sounds like the most appropriate answer in this context.
/r/askMRP05/09/19 08:07 PM
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I agree with you completely. This was a low point. I'm making efforts to keep the proper perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 04:13 PM
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OYS #12 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 184lbs., BF 18% (Navy) SQ: 210 5x5 BP: 135 5x5 BR: 135 5x5 OHP: 100 5x5 DL: 225 1x5 Chin-ups: 6RM Mission Be the captain. Lead myself and my family to a life of fulfillment and abundance. Exercise righteous dominion. Refuse to apologize for acting in my own self-interest. Study Finished MMSLP, MAP, NMMNG, Rational Male Year One Highlights, 16 Commandments, all posts on MormonRedPill subreddit, popular posts on MRP, BPP's YouTube videos, WISNIFG…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 01:35 PM
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Much of Rand's philosophy aligns with TRP. Even her female protagonists demonstrate women's hypergamous nature. Roark has a mission and an unwavering vision for himself, while his enemies (and allies) embrace mediocrity instead of living their lives to the fullest or pushing themselves to the limit. I can use as many good examples like Roark as I can get while I'm figuring out my own vision. Honestly, if I had read anything by Rand in HS it would have gone way over my head. STEM fields were a lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 08:23 PM
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Getting colds is due to toddlers. They catch something and by the time they show symptoms we've already caught it. The past year has been particularly bad, despite our precautions. The A/C thing is not a recurring issue, and she has not gone behind my back to change it or anything like that. Once I put my foot down on an issue she usually stops fighting me on it. MRP has helped me a great deal in being more assertive. We certainly have issues in our relationship, but sabotage and outright defian…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 01:15 AM
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OYS #11 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 180lbs., BF 18% (Navy) SQ: 185 5x5 BP: 135 4x5 BR: 125 5x5 OHP: 95 5x5 DL: 195 1x5 Chin-ups: 6RM Mission Be the best captain I can be. Lead myself and my family to a life of fulfillment and abundance. Exercise righteous dominion. Refuse to apologize for acting in my own self-interest. Study Finished MMSLP, MAP, NMMNG, Rational Male Year One Highlights, 16 Commandments, all posts on MormonRedPill subreddit, popular posts on MRP, BPP's YouTube vi…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 04:00 PM
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Don't let her do anything that undermines you in your role as a father.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 07:40 PM
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"I highly doubt that, Kid2." This is toxic behavior and should be nuked from orbit. There is no way you should let anyone disrespect you like this.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 06:39 PM
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My plan is to go back and finish SGM after WOTSM. Then translate SGM into something I can apply to our bedroom. Then get her horny (a feat in itself) and take it to the next level. I have a lot more OI than I used to, which will help.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 04:15 PM
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OYS #10: Back to the Grindstone (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 180lbs., BF <19% (Navy) (need to update) SQ: 165 5x5 (deloaded) BP: 125 5x5 (deloaded) BR: 130 5x5 (deloaded) OHP: 105 5x5 (to deload this week) DL: 235 1x5 (to deload) Chin-ups: 6RM Mission Be the best captain I can be. Lead myself and my family to a life of fulfillment and abundance. Exercise righteous dominion. Refuse to apologize for acting in my own self-interest. Study Finished MMSLP, MAP, NMMNG, Rational Male Year…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 11:27 AM
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You got it, sweetheart.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 10:00 PM
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(Victim puke warning) I was Beta even before 6th grade. The only time girls found me attractive was when I wasn't giving them any attention at all. I had multiple crushes in my teenage years who became attracted to me only after I had moved on. It all makes sense now, of course. I was seriously messed up, and it's going to take a long time to change. But I'm leaving that guy in the dust.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 09:52 PM
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Refusing to develop frame? No. Clueless as to how to develop my own frame? Yes. This is my greatest weakness, and my progress will suffer everywhere else until I can figure this out. I lack VISION of what I want to be. Once I have that, I can implement steps and tasks toward that end. WOTSM says that a man must live with fear long enough to be comfortable with it as a companion. JBP says to straddle Order and Chaos. I freely admit that this usually scares me to death, but the best parts of me wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 06:18 PM
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I'll look into it. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 05:23 PM
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I've found more wisdom in WOTSM than any of the other books on the sidebar, and I really liked Athol Kay's stuff, which was very down to earth. WOTSM is poetic.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 03:19 PM
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OYS #9 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 184 lbs., BF 19% (Navy) SQ: 195 5x5 BP: 125 5x5 BR: 135 5x5 OHP: 105 5x3 DL: 225 1x5 Chin-ups: 5RM Mission Be the best captain I can be. Lead myself and my family to a life of fulfillment and abundance. Exercise righteous dominion. Refuse to apologize for acting in my own self-interest. Study Finished MMSLP, MAP, NMMNG, Rational Male Year One Highlights, 16 Commandments, all posts on MormonRedPill subreddit, popular posts on MRP, BPP's YouTube v…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 09:39 AM
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+1 on 12 Rules For Life
/r/askMRP11/06/19 09:10 PM
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OYS #8 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 186 lbs., BF 17% (Navy) SQ: 195 4x5 BP: 125 5x5 BR: 135 5x5 OHP: 105 4x4 DL: 225 1x5 Chin-ups: 5RM Background: Raised LDS, Career Beta, 99th percentile introvert (per JBP's personality assessment) Wife: Raised LDS, 32yo, 5'3", 135 lbs., Together 12y, Married 11y, SAHM plus music teacher Children: 2yo twin boys Mediocre but regular sex for eight years with wife before pregnancy, when she lost all interest. Nothing for 18 months, then a trickle. D…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 12:46 PM
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Faith is deeply personal. I hope you find what you're looking for. I'd be more interested in hearing where you were stalling with the Pill. It's your prerogative, but I encourage you to leave your old posts as they are. They were influential in my choice to pursue MRP, as I'm sure they have been for many others. Like you said, finding balance between Mormonism and the Red Pill is Nintendo-hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 06:11 PM
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Don't make your mission something that you can't control (that relies on other people to get in line). They will disappoint you. Take charge of yourself. Fix yourself. Do not focus on others or measure your success by them. If they follow your lead, you can work with that. But if they don't, you will still be in the position to make your life into whatever you want it to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 08:03 PM
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Everything you do from now on should be for yourself and what you want. Dancing Monkeys go through the motions of MRP for sex and validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 06:50 PM
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OYS #7 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 187 lbs., BF 17% (Navy) SQ: 175 5x5 BP: 110 5x5 BR: 130 5x5 OHP: 100 5x5 DL: 215 1x5 Chin-ups: 5RM Background: Raised LDS, Career Beta, 99th percentile introvert (per JBP's personality assessment) Wife: Raised LDS, 32yo, 5'3", 135 lbs., Together 12y, Married 11y, SAHM plus music teacher Children: 2yo twin boys Mediocre but regular sex for eight years with wife before pregnancy, when she lost all interest. Nothing for 18 months, then a trickle. D…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 01:50 PM
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I found that Jordan Peterson's 12 Rules For Life had some good insights on child-rearing mixed in with his other advice, such as the following: Don't let your children do anything that makes you resent them. Don't bother children who are skateboarding (let them take risks, rough-and-tumble play is a good thing). Set your house in order before criticizing the world. Tell the truth. Be precise in your speech.
/r/askMRP04/06/19 01:23 AM
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I can do better with my body language here.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 05:40 PM
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When I get to AM, this will be the case. Unfortunately, I have a long history of being uncommunicative/passive in the past. While my silence keeps me out of the bull she's flinging at me, it doesn't keep her in my frame. It leaves a vacuum (of leadership), which she will fill with sighs and eyerolls, instead of apologies.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 02:54 PM
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OYS #6 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 187 lbs., BF 17% (Navy) SQ: 165 5x5 BP: 105 5x5 BR: 125 5x5 OHP: 100 4x5 DL: 205 1x5 Chin-ups: 4RM Background: Raised LDS, Career Beta, 99th percentile introvert (per JBP's personality assessment) Wife: Raised LDS, 32yo, 5'3", 135 lbs., Together 12y, Married 11y, SAHM plus music teacher Children: 2yo twin boys Mediocre but regular sex for eight years with wife before pregnancy, when she lost all interest. Nothing for 18 months, then a trickle. D…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 10:58 AM
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Honestly, I've only been doing the high protein diet for about a month now, starting at 1g/kg. I'm still finding ways to plan and center my meals around it, but things are going well. I haven't had any DOMS to speak of since my first week at the gym. If I stall out or I'm not getting the results I want, I'll make some major changes. Otherwise I'll step it up incrementally where I can.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 12:48 PM
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My lean body mass estimate puts me right around 70kg. 1.8-2.4g/kg/day of protein (for small to moderate calorie deficit and progressive training) = 126-168g/day. Only the most extreme studies recommend 3+g/kg/day. (And I'm not that extreme...yet.)
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 12:10 PM
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I need to get better at slimming down the marriage section and focus on one or two highlights. My social interactions are where I see the most that I can improve, so that's where I tend to focus.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 07:44 PM
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OYS #5 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 187 lbs., BF (need to update) (I'm on SL5x5 week 9) SQ: 155 5x5 BP: 100 5x5 BR: 120 5x5 OHP: 90 5x5 DL: 185 1x5 Chin-ups: 4RM Background: Raised LDS, Career Beta, 99th percentile introvert (per JBP's personality assessment) Wife: Raised LDS, 32yo, 5'3", 135 lbs., Together 12y, Married 11y, SAHM plus music teacher Children: 2yo twin boys Mediocre but regular sex for eight years with wife before pregnancy, when she lost all interest. Nothing for 1…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 07:26 PM
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I agree with everything here. Thanks for sharing this.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 04:49 PM
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The career beta in me is screaming, but being that assertive is the right thing to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 06:50 PM
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The "Why do you get to make the decision?" is the lynchpin here. I should have a direct, immediate answer for this. The initial ones that occur to me just sound conceited and tyrannical. "Because I am the Captain" or "Because I preside over this family" sound slightly better. "Because I am ultimately responsible" might be closer.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 01:38 PM
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OYS #4: A Testy Mother's Day (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 188 lbs., BF 17.4% (Navy) (I'm on SL5x5 week 7) SQ: 140 5x5 BP: 90 5x5 BR: 110 5x5 OHP: 85 5x5 DL: 175 1x5 Chin-ups: 3RM Background: Raised LDS, Career Beta, 99th percentile introvert (per JBP's personality assessment) Wife: Raised LDS, 32yo, 5'3", 135 lbs., Together 12y, Married 11y, SAHM plus music teacher Children: 2yo twin boys Mediocre but regular sex for eight years with wife before pregnancy, when she lost all intere…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 01:11 PM
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Those posts were worth the re-read. I can game during the day It's the initiating that needs to happen soon after kids' bedtime. Game is usually on during the day.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 04:28 PM
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So far, Bang has been all about approaching women, esp. at bars, clubs, etc. Not terribly applicable to me. I'm not that high on the levels of Dread, and won't be for a while yet. The general attitude to have is relevant, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 03:50 PM
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OYS #3 (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 189 lbs., BF 17.4% (Navy) (I'm on SL5x5 week 6, failed one OHP rep) SQ: 125 5x5 BP: 85 5x5 BR: 105 5x5 OHP: 85 5x5 DL: 155 1x5 Chin-ups: 3RM Background: Raised LDS, Career Beta, 99th percentile introvert (per JBP's personality assessment) Wife: Raised LDS, 32yo, 5'3", 135 lbs., Together 12y, Married 11y, SAHM plus music teacher Children: 2yo twin boys Mediocre but regular sex for eight years with wife before pregnancy, when she lost all interest…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 09:39 AM
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Righteous Dominion It looks like you and I have very different ideas about what that means. Underwear She was in her Gs. Not yet DTF. There was probably something else I could've done better here, but when my best efforts to game and engage are met only with distracted musings on unrelated topics/people, I have taken it personally. I can handle this better. She has a very bad habit of getting distracted. And it is a behavior I will discourage in the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 05:50 AM
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You guys make it sound like I was trying to talk my wife into a BJ. When I got the soft no, I was 99% positive it wasn't going to happen. I merely took the opportunity to see if I could get her to open up about any other reasons (besides her low attraction) she was reluctant. The methods in WISNIFG can be effective at getting people to see what their true motivations and feelings are as they put them into words. Was this the best way to deal with the situation? In hindsight, no. But I don't regr…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 10:08 PM
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Not much action there recently, but what is there is still valid.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 09:24 PM
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Noted.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 08:32 PM
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Valid feedback. tried to get her to get down to the real reasons she wouldn't do it (apart from low attraction). Raised the way she is, my wife suffers numerous symptoms of Good Girl Syndrome. She has made some progress but still has a long way to go. WISNIFG methods are an attempt to get her to express and confront her true feelings. Maybe this timing wasn't the best, but I thought she would be more motivated after an excellent date and an O.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 03:02 PM
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I was driving--tried to do the best I could then.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 02:41 PM
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Addendum: I left out many of the exact details, because I already had a huge wall of text. Next time, I'll just keep it to prevent confusion. Dread: She specifically asked about me turning to other sources to satisfy my desires for sex. Generally, for LDS, spinning plates is off the table. Dread has to be a lot more subtle. For the "orthodox", porn and masturbation are off the table, too. So if she's worried about me turning to other sources, that's dread. Comfort tests: When she states "You don…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:50 PM
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You have good goals here. Stop being the Dancing Monkey and don't focus on her. You can do this. And you owe me a new pair of shoes.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 12:34 PM
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OYS #2: Back from the Ban (Discovered MRP 3/11/19) {Thanks to everyone who gave me helpful advice after my first posts almost a month ago. The break gave me a chance to think through some things and focus on me, instead of instinctively reacting to every comment here.} Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 189 lbs., BF 18.4% (Navy) (I'm on SL5x5 week 5, haven't failed a set yet) SQ: 110 5x5 BP: 75 5x5 BR: 95 5x5 OP: 75 5x5 DL: 145 1x5 Chin-ups: 2RM Background: Raised LDS, Career Beta, 99th percentile introvert (pe…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 09:41 AM
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It was a big blow when I found out I was infertile. Many couples have to ride the rocky rollercoaster of hormone treatments, conceptions, miscarriages, etc. when overcoming infertility. For me, it was more of a dark, bottomless pit that I had to climb out of, one slow stretch at a time. I never told my wife, but I couldn't stand the thought of her conceiving with another man's seed. Instead, we chose to anonymously adopt another couple's embryos--it circumvented the spiritual and moral reservati…
/r/askMRP23/04/19 10:49 PM
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No problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 02:07 PM
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140K is before taxes, you are correct.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 02:07 PM
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The walls are coming down, that's for sure. your crisis is a philosophical one, and how you resolve it will be the most important thing you've ever done (or ever will do). Totally agree with you here. I certainly side with Rand in a lot of areas, but I still believe there is a balance that can be found. And I know I'm not the only MRPer who thinks so. Thanks for the support.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 02:05 PM
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Chuck in trash when she's not looking. It was in the shredder the next day. Thanks for the affirmation. The more you do , the more she will see it as a big joke. Stop this insecure punt as your weak foray into the arena. Isn't A&A joking? Flirting, initiating, and then laughing off a rejection is the opposite of getting butthurt. I agree with most everything else you said. I've got a lot of work to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 01:30 PM
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If you earn 140k per annum, why do you have credit cards and are still paying off student loans? We use credit cards only for the rewards. 5% back on many of our purchases is actually saving us money. We pay the cards off every month and have NEVER paid interest on them. Our credit cards work for us. Student loans from grad school were 140K total. I've only been out of school 5 years and we paid over 40K as down payment on our house a little over a year ago. IVF on top of that, plus medical bill…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 01:20 PM
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Dread Level 3 is on the horizon.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 11:46 AM
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Thanks for the support. And backhanded compliments. 😄 Could you be more specific on the neediness? (I typed that and just realized that's exactly what you were talking about.) /shrug
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 11:45 AM
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We live far away from family, so it's harder to get sitters. That's not an excuse. I plan to do better about setting them up myself. Overnights are particularly difficult to arrange. (As mentioned, we were able to get a week together last month. The boys were able to stay with my parents.)
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 11:40 AM
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But realistic. Thanks for the tears. 😄
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 11:27 AM
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All helpful advice. I've come to most of the same realizations. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 11:24 AM
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Was trying to post it as a comment on the weekly OYS post. I'm still trying to figure out the nuances of the mobile app. Apparently, "hidden" means only hidden to me?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 11:19 AM
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OYS #1.1 (One month since discovering MRP) (I posted this late on the last OYS Weekly, so this is a re-post with small edits) Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 189 lbs., BF 19.2 (Navy) Background: Raised LDS, Career Beta, Drunk Captain, 99th percentile introvert (per JBP's personality assessment) Wife: Raised LDS, 32yo, Together 12y, Married 10y, SAHM, teaches music lessons in our home (currently 9 students) Children: 2yo twin boys I felt our sex-life was adequate (but very vanilla) before the pregnancy. I wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 09:54 AM
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New to reddit, and I'm attempting to figure out the formatting... There is a lot here. Too much for me to deconstruct so late in the week. Make sure you post your OYS on the Tuesday, as that's your best bet to get responses. Thanks for responding. When I didn't get much feedback right away, I figured that was the case. I may update this and re-post on Tuesday. Don't fuck about with lifting. Get a gym membership. Get one now. Your next OYS post should make it fairly clear you went and got one. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/19 01:53 AM
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OYS #1 (3 weeks since discovery of MRP) Stats: 34yo, 5'9", 189 lbs., BF 19.2 (Navy) Background: Raised LDS, Career Beta, Drunk Captain, 99th percentile introvert (per JBP's personality assessment) Wife: Raised LDS, 32yo, Together 12y, Married 10y, SAHM, teaches music lessons in our home (currently 9 students) Children: 2yo twin boys I felt our sex-life was adequate (but very vanilla) before the pregnancy. I wanted more but never pushed. She would almost always get off by dry humping before happi…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/19 04:27 AM
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