| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 38 | Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad? | Field Report | Wooden_Strawberry835 | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 05:56 PM |
| 18 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experience | Field Report | Wooden_Strawberry835 | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 09:59 AM |
| 3 | Woman texting less after first date bad sign? | Field Report | Wooden_Strawberry835 | /r/seduction | 25/03/24 08:19 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 15 | Rather than maximizing your looks, do this insteadVery well said. Could you elaborate on how you built your confidence? I feel like I’m at a point where further maximizing looks does not yield much of a return | /r/seduction | 15/03/25 01:58 PM |
| 1 | How to actually "lower my standards"?I can’t believe no one here even entertained the idea that it might be due to a lack of emotional connection. I’m basically the same and getting the hot girl did nothing for me as well. I know from past relationships though that once in emotionally invested everything is fine sexually. For me emotional comes before the sexual and that’s just how it is. For a lot of guys that’s not the case though. | /r/seduction | 20/11/24 06:59 AM |
| 4 | Should i seduce girls i’m not really into?Same shoes as you. I do flirt with them but always be honest that I’m not interested in dating them when it comes to that conversation. Not interested in sleeping with people I’m not physically or emotionally attracted to enough. Why would I anyway, don’t see the point in it. | /r/seduction | 11/10/24 09:13 AM |
| 1 | How to touch a girl during a hookupYup, same. Slowly started getting back into the game after a LTR and when I make out with a girl its more of a "I need to kiss her to progress this interaction" kind of vibe in my mind rather than me kissing her because I really desire it, even if the girl is very attractive to me. Like a lot of things in seduction though, I guess it will autocorrect with more interactions or in this case makeouts. | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 10:34 AM |
| 5 | How to touch a girl during a hookupPerformance anxiety kills that passion for a lot of men. I struggle with it too, can’t get into that primal state with a chick I’m not very comfortable with yet. It sucks to be that way. | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 06:27 AM |
| 16 | How are you navigating the insanely flaky nature of the dating scene right now?Could you give advice how you do that? I still struggle with getting attached even after one night stands and I can’t seem to fix it. | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 07:01 AM |
| 4 | Tip for newbies - go the online route firstI took the route of only doing OLD at first and am kind of stuck because I’m too lazy to approach and battle my approach anxiety. Kind of wish I did more cold approach before OLD. On the other hand you are right, if I get a girl on a date I’m not nervous anymore since I know the vibe and how to handle first date situations. Gotta keep in mind however that for some people OLD doesn’t really work that well, one of my good friends just doesn’t have the looks and vibe from pictures alone that would … | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 09:19 AM |
| 1 | I feel like I am a loser - Have a good foundation but no gamesGreat comment, I struggle with that myself. What exactly do you mean by displaying the opposite behavioral traits? | /r/seduction | 04/09/24 07:50 PM |
| 4 | Losing confidence after a bad night outNot OP but really great comment and attitude | /r/seduction | 30/08/24 02:10 PM |
| 21 | Losing confidence after a bad night outYou did a solo trip through Italy and your confidence is shot because you didn’t get any girls. Even in Italy or on vacations it’s a numbers game and sometimes you are lucky sometimes you are not. Of course you want to maximize your chances and not solely rely on approaching thousands of girls but if you were on vacation first thing would be that you’ve broadened your horizon and made some cool memories, not that you hooked up with foreign girls. If I were you I would simply focus on having fun … | /r/seduction | 30/08/24 12:00 PM |
| -4 | Why don't I get horny around other people?Quit porn | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 10:54 PM |
| -1 | How so many people here so good on apps yet have 0 success approach irl. 25MI will look into the Hypnotica stuff. My inner game is not bad but certainly needs some work. I always hear that people have little success on dating apps as opposed to going out but for me it seems to be the other way around. I guess I really do have to approach more. Do you just cold approach or look for indicators of interest like eye contact before an approach? Also when did you get into that stuff? I got out of a ltr recently and am 25 years old and already feel behind in experiences. | /r/seduction | 21/08/24 08:39 AM |
| 8 | How so many people here so good on apps yet have 0 success approach irl. 25MIf dating apps worked for you why did you make the switch? And how did you go about building confidence to approach? I’m in a very similar situation as you were. | /r/seduction | 21/08/24 08:18 AM |
| 2 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceWell I guess I stood my ground I mean I told her in that moment that it’s fine and we went to bed but I guess there’s no coming back from this since she ghosted me (it has been a couple days and no answer to my message). I’m not terrible disappointed in myself or think I necessarily did anything wrong it’s just a shame since she was a cool person or at least the parts of her personality i saw during the date were cool. Oh well, onto other things. Thanks for your message though! | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceWell I mean I basically said that. Said to her it’s hard for me to finish from blowjobs and if I’m drunk almost no chance. When she said she got turned off by me not doing anything to her body and that for today she doesn’t feel it anymore I said no worries | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceTrue but it makes me wonder if all the effort is worth it. Always going out with people you don’t know, mostly not clicking with any and once you do you get ghosted after stuff I’ve just described. Man it’s a mess lol. | /r/seduction | 17/08/24 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceGuess I did. Stupid me | /r/seduction | 17/08/24 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceAlright I understand | /r/seduction | 17/08/24 11:53 AM |
| 1 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceWhy do you think so? | /r/seduction | 17/08/24 11:10 AM |
| 1 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceIm not a native English speaker so maybe I don’t understand but doesn’t being on a dating app often imply that you don’t want gf treatment especially if your profile says you look for casual stuff | /r/seduction | 17/08/24 10:14 AM |
| 2 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceYeah true and thanks for the kind words but i think I’m gonna take a break from dating either way. Can’t really comprehend how you can have basically a perfect date with perfect connection and 100% positive feedback from her part and lose interest in an instant because of a stupid drunk sexual moment. Gonna leave some scars on my self esteem for a while. | /r/seduction | 17/08/24 08:08 AM |
| 2 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceYou’re right, I’m so stupid she even told me she liked toe stuff but the period stuff put me off. I’m not like the most experienced because I’ve been in relationships most of the times and now I’m beating myself up because she was really attractive and really interesting as a character | /r/seduction | 17/08/24 07:19 AM |
| 2 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceYeah ok it’s been a day since I texted her and no response so I guess this is done. Speaking from experience of no answer within 24h shes done with it | /r/seduction | 17/08/24 07:17 AM |
| 1 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceWhat do you mean? Isn’t gf treatment physical and mental? | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceIdk mate you’re interpreting a bit much into that | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 01:32 PM |
| 4 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceOnline dating | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 11:21 AM |
| 21 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceWell theres nothing to add. You're right. | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 11:20 AM |
| 7 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceIt was this night, dont worry I'll update you | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 10:57 AM |
| 1 | Ended at her place but weird sexual experienceI had to leave pretty early before she woke up because of my schedule so there wasn't any time for that sadly. | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 10:14 AM |
| 2 | Woman texting less after first date bad sign?She’s intelligent and academically driven which I value a lot Idk if this is too generic but she has an incredible smile She has a calm but not cold demeanor which was somehow very sexy, not sure how to describe it | /r/seduction | 25/03/24 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Woman texting less after first date bad sign?Yes, gotta work on this one. Couldn’t really figure out how to do any of these without it coming off as unnatural though. Probably just gotta man up. | /r/seduction | 25/03/24 10:00 PM |
| 1 | Woman texting less after first date bad sign?Yep guess I have to be patient and see. Thanks! | /r/seduction | 25/03/24 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Woman texting less after first date bad sign?No worries mate. Can I ask you for your impression now that you know that I texted her my actual number? | /r/seduction | 25/03/24 09:03 PM |
| 3 | Woman texting less after first date bad sign?Do you use WhatsApp? I've heard its not so common in the US but its linked to your phone number and its used instead of classical SMS in Europe. So yeah I gave her my cell number. | /r/seduction | 25/03/24 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Woman texting less after first date bad sign?I don't really get what you are saying. Do you mean it would've been a red flag if I didn't give her my number? And what else should I have done? Continued texting on Tinder? I figured that if she is put off by me giving her my number after a good date that she isn't really interested anyway because I mean who would think it is too much investment to exchange number after a great first date? | /r/seduction | 25/03/24 08:46 PM |
| 2 | How to relax on first date?An unusual thing which has helped me is to listen to podcasts or YouTube videos of something you are currently pursuing in life (other than women). For instance I put on a podcast about career/business while driving to the dates and it just gets me into the mindset of thinking about my goals (again other than getting women). When I arrive I’m always in the mindset that even if the date is going to be complete shit I will just go home and continue the grind, so nothing really changes for me no ma… | /r/seduction | 24/03/24 11:24 AM |
| 2 | Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?Yeah I see what you mean, in my experience though most girls still text/ask questions even after you set up a date. I think its also highly dependent on the girl though. A friend of mine told me that when he set up dates and didn't text at all after that a lot more girls flaked on him. Theres probably a sweet spot between too much and too little. I think its hard though since I have a lot of girls atm that would be down to meet and I have limited time so I kind of want to keep them all "warm" un… | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?How much is too much though? Got a date scheduled with another girl on saturday for instance and we've been shooting each other 1-2 messages a day for a few days. I can't just not answer I mean she keeps the convo going. | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?Thanks for your answer first of all. I don't see how keeping it short beforehand makes dates like the one today rarer though? I mean yea you save time but the date can still suck in person | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 07:55 PM |
| 2 | Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?Right? The dates that went well were almost no texting compared to the others that went bad. I don't really know why that is though. Maybe if you text too much you already have a picture about the other person inside your head and are let down by the reality or something...idk | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 07:27 PM |
| 3 | Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?Yeah I actually wanted to explore a bit on my own since I recently moved, def a great idea | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?Thanks mate definitely going to try to up my insta | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 07:25 PM |
| 5 | Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?Going on a tangent based off your comment: If you pull these girls from IG your profile must be pretty decent. Any quick tips how I can improve my IG? | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?In what sense is it wrong? Because of potential time waste? | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?I might actually start doing that. It's just that no girl ever proposed to video call / call before so idk | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 06:34 PM |
| 3 | Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?I only rely on meeting girls online atm (I know its not optimal) therefore I kind of need to text a bit with them first before asking them out. I'm a bit fed up with texting too much after todays date so I'm going to ask for a date sooner in the future. Can't really effort wasting my time like that. | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 06:33 PM |
| 7 | Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?Alright crazy to hear that. I guess I was just lucky with the first two dates out of my past relationship. That probably set a false standard for me but glad to hear that its normal. Thanks for your input. | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?Glad to hear that its normal. A friend of mine also used to video call girls before meeting them but I think its very awkward I don't know why. | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 06:09 PM |
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