Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?

444888lucky7 · 2024-03-20T18:24:39+00:00

I text like shit and I barely ever do, but women fall in love as soon as they meet me. I'm way better in person than over text. I'll only ever text to set up meetings or check up every now and then. Even then it's short and to the point.

Total_Obligation_371 · 2024-03-20T18:15:44+00:00

It's not only normal, it's the rule, not the exception.

aquilaruspante1 · 2024-03-20T18:37:52+00:00

Very normal.

That's why it's wrong to message too much before meeting

unswunghero · 2024-03-20T19:14:29+00:00

I often found that the better the conversation was in text, the more boring the conversation was in person.

NovaNivea · 2024-03-20T18:05:16+00:00

Online chemistry fizzling to nothing face to face is normal. I'd suggest aiming to set a date within a week of matching so you can't invest too much. Maybe also ask for a phone call before the date to see if a vibe is there.

Any-Gap-143 · 2024-03-20T18:20:19+00:00

Video call for sure. You can’t tell if you have chemistry through text. Some people have personalities like a bag of hammers in person. You can get to see their sense of humour and mannerisms having a video call.

phoque_ewe_reddit · 2024-03-20T19:44:19+00:00

Pretty normal, yes.

I think physical chemistry trumps all; so like ... any 'points' you score off text are meaningless -- they're just to get you a date.

And like, yes the girl can see your picture, but maybe your vibe/ energy/ character is different than what she was expecting.

I've had a few dates like you described. BUT they are rare, because I don't bother to 'light things up' over text anymore. Because again, it's kind of pointless.

I still have dates that fizzle out, but I mean, I keep messages short beforehand

Think of a fat chick that is funnier than Louie CK + Chappelle combined. Has you dying laughing. Would you fuck her? Well, probably not. Well, maybe you'd throw her a bone. I know men and women are different (and male comedians play off their social status more than anything) but eh.

I'm 6' so it's not height; it's just actually very common.

Hunt_the_Bay · 2024-03-20T20:54:58+00:00

Happens all the time sometimes you just don’t vibe in person.

Stiltzkinn · 2024-03-20T22:00:39+00:00

Now it is fairly normal doing video calls, I think your will screen so much better before wasting your time in person dates.

Defiant_Magician_848 · 2024-03-20T22:54:52+00:00

You can even lose the chemistry/ most of it when you move from text to call

meltboro · 2024-03-21T00:13:13+00:00

Chemistry online is almost never indicative of chemistry in person, its almost always a complete waste of time to chat online

Ok-Abbreviations9212 · 2024-03-21T00:44:16+00:00

The less bandwidth in any sort of interaction, the more people make up.

Text is obviously the worst. There's no tone, few words, and the need for quick interaction. Both of you are all in conscious control of everything you say. low bandwidth.

But when you actually meet someone? You can't fake that. We al send out far, far, far more non-verbal information than we're ever consciously aware of. That's mostly what "chemistry" is about.

safestuff987 · 2024-03-21T15:12:10+00:00

Quite a common scenario.

The best strategy is to interact less online/via text and interact more in person. Both interactions create a very different dynamic, and only one builds attraction (hint: it's not texting/online).

Title	Is it normal that sometimes chemistry online is good but in person bad?
Author	Wooden_Strawberry835
Upvotes	38
Comments	52
Date	March 20, 2024 5:56 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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