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It's not working for me either. Fuck Reddit.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/24 12:34 AM
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Yes, it's definitely possible. I have a friend who is 5'4" and he pulls, his last girlfriend was around 5'7". It's all about knowing your demographic/the type of women who are naturally attracted to your look/style and personality, and then just putting yourself out there and being direct. Also, don't play the friends game, ever; get to know them briefly through a conversation or two (assuming you'll see them again), then ask them out. The faster you move, while also showing her that you've put …
/r/TheRedPill08/10/24 02:08 PM
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I'm also 5'6" and there's nothing I can do about it except focus on being better at every other aspect of my life. Women will always have more options, that's life. Suck it up, accept it, and make the most of the options you do have.
/r/TheRedPill08/10/24 01:08 PM
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Think of it in terms of power. "Absolute power corrupts absolutely." Why does it feel like those in power always abuse it? Because those that abuse it are going to be the ones who are visible. You've probably never heard of those who don't abuse their power. Now translate that to intersexual dynamics. Women have the power, especially in the modern age. Unless you're in the top X% of men, women are the choosers, this gives them the power -- and even if you are top X% of men, women can still rejec…
/r/TheRedPill08/10/24 01:04 PM
2

Which part enrages you? Would be helpful to know that.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/24 05:52 PM
2

Because you have no value at those ages compared to men older than you. Women always date up in both age and SMV. So when you are young and have no life/financial value, you are very low SMV compared to men older than you. You have to date women younger than you basically.
/r/TheRedPill06/10/24 08:17 PM
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Ummm no. Mens SMV is basically flat until 25 when it starts to increase. https://therationalram.blog/2020/04/04/deconstructing-the-manosphere-sexual-market-value-theory/
/r/TheRedPill06/10/24 08:15 PM
4

Then you just need to put yourself out there. It's numbers game at that point.
/r/TheRedPill06/10/24 05:40 PM
6

How old are you now? Male SMV plummets between 19-25, unless you are tall, handsome, and charismatic (or have really good game and confidence).
/r/TheRedPill06/10/24 04:18 PM
2

I had multiple married women seriously flirting with me in a one week span (they were 100% trying to fuck someone). One of them told me "never get married to a woman 12 years younger than you or she'll be at the bar doing this." I dated this girl and she straight up told me "if I didn't like you so much we would have fucked by now" (not that we had the opportunity because any time we had the chance she was blackout drunk or on her period). I then played an experiment with her, where I decided to…
/r/TheRedPill02/10/24 08:59 PM
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Because nobody who has taken the red pill wants a feminized and castrated society and understands that is the cause of societal decline in the west.
/r/TheRedPill20/09/24 09:02 PM
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False: https://www.perplexity.ai/search/time-to-first-orgasm-vs-time-t-30TRcEW_TmK5r9L_syaM1Q And also I've never had a women get "post nut clarity." They usually start begging me to fuck them. Maybe with you they're faking an orgasm to get you to stop cause they now know you don't know what you're doing.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/24 06:48 PM
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I'm pretty sure I've read that women have their second+ orgasm faster/easier than their first.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/24 08:11 PM
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It is 100% a tight pelvic floor from previous bad masterbation habits and general response to unexpected movements/stimuli. I discovered this a few months ago. Thanks a bunch for the tips and advice. Reverse Kegels are key, plus regular kegels and other pelvic floor exercises, but especially reverse kegels (peep the premature ejaculation subreddit).
/r/TheRedPill24/08/24 04:13 AM
7

I like going down on a girl on occasion and if I can trust that she doesn't have any stds.
/r/TheRedPill24/08/24 04:11 AM
17

I can last as long as I want masturbating. No porn cause it gives me ED. It's something about a woman thrusting back against me that makes me finish super quick. Also I always get the off before intercourse with my hands or mouth.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/24 09:30 PM
2

What the fuck is this shit. Stop it. Be better.
/r/seduction17/05/24 05:57 PM
12

Sounds like a sex worker bro. She's just trying to get you to pay for nudes and/or blackmail you.
/r/seduction15/05/24 01:05 PM
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It's because feminism has made men so insecure that women inherently don't want to interact with the types of guys I'm referring to, so they've never had a positive experience. And they don't know jack shit about basic human sexuality because modern media and feminism has lied to them. That's why they come here looking for real advice from other men's real experiences.
/r/seduction08/05/24 04:55 PM
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That post was actually extremely informative if you would just remember that a lot of people here don't know jack shit about basic human sexuality. Read the post again, but before you do, pretend that you've never had a positive interaction with a woman and never seen a woman approach a man. I agree this sub has lost most of the guys who have real skills and experience.
/r/seduction08/05/24 03:59 PM
2

You should have included this in your original post. No guy is gonna agree to this kind of relationship baggage if he has other options and doesn't want a real, exclusive relationship. Makes no sense.
/r/seduction08/05/24 03:34 PM
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Look up PsycHacks/Orion Taraban on YouTube. He's got some great dating tips for women. In your case he would say "embed yourself in his life by being useful" such as helping him with his business or doing chores he hates doing, so that you leaving his life is a large negative. And then keep seeing him until he catches feelings (which he eventually will), so that he doesn't want you to leave him because he has feelings and his life would get worse without you.
/r/seduction08/05/24 02:24 PM
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I agree but you can only listen to so much stuff you don't care about or can't relate to for so long. Like the 47 year old had some great stories but eventually it's just like "what am I doing here?"
/r/seduction07/05/24 11:25 PM
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My only problem is similar to dating women from other countries, there can be a culture barrier making it hard to relate or have things in common or to talk about. I'm 28, I dated a 47 year old one month and a 21 year old the next. I could talk to the 47 year about music but not much else cause we had different lives and interests, she never traveled for example. The 21 year old and I are from the same city, went to the same school, have more in common, and have lots to talk about in general. Bu…
/r/seduction07/05/24 09:54 PM
2

Honestly probably a good heuristic
/r/seduction07/05/24 05:42 PM
2

I met a girl who ticked every box: pretty, kind, smart, funny, went to church weekly and read the Bible every day, spent a lot of time with her parents and siblings, great body, great blowjobs. I found out a month later she was actually married and had a kid. Tbh I've got no barometer anymore on what a red flag or positive vs negative trust signal is anymore.
/r/seduction07/05/24 02:58 PM
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Yeah, that's fucking weird.
/r/seduction07/05/24 02:08 PM
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If you are there for a valid reason, like waiting for your friend, and you are the age of a college student, I don't see a problem with it. But if you are going there for the sole purpose of talking to girls and/or you are past the age of a normal college student, then that's creepy.
/r/seduction07/05/24 12:54 PM
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Women want the guy who has lots of other options. It's literally the most basic thing they find attractive about a man, for examples: - he is handsome which means many other women also find him handsome, therefore he has options and he must be attractive - he is muscular so he is sexy, which means many other women find him sexy, therefore he has options and he must be attractive - he is funny so he provides happiness and entertainment, which means other women find him valuable, therefore he has …
/r/seduction05/05/24 02:22 PM
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Yes. The "right person you've always dreamed of" will want you to know what you're doing in bed, whether she has had previous partners or not. I'm willing to bet 90% of male virgins are virgins because they lack sexual confidence, so they never take any risk that might let them have sex. Having sex with this woman will allow you to build that sexual confidence and gain some experience, so that when you do meet that next girl who is actually who you want to have sex with, you will go for it becau…
/r/seduction04/05/24 07:45 PM
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Unless it's an emergency she doesn't need you. Treat her like an adult or your best guy friend. If your best guy friend texted you, you'd have no problem brushing him off and asking to do something on another day. Get more hobbies or activities that you have to commit to such as volunteering or weekly trivia with friends or rec sports.
/r/seduction03/05/24 08:33 PM
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I enjoy it if they flirt back and it becomes a natural part of the interaction. Otherwise it becomes a chore.
/r/seduction03/05/24 03:15 PM
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Not all men should be winners. Just like not all women are attractive or worthy of having your children.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/24 02:20 PM
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If she's looking for a serious relationship, I don't bother unless she also has "open to short", because personally I don't want to waste someone's time or make them miss their chance of finding their guy who she wants to have kids with. We are in a population decline which I put humanity over my short term pleasure seeking. But that's my personal philosophy.
/r/seduction02/05/24 06:35 PM
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Some examples would be nice, most of us probably don't even notice since we know nothing else
/r/seduction02/05/24 05:31 PM
6

It's not about the social pressure, it's about the privacy
/r/seduction02/05/24 03:48 PM
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It means you go out on dates and/or hang out and do things together but don't expect it to last any longer than the current date your on and just focus on having fun, not talking about plans for the future and things like that. Whereas serious is the same thing but you do start talking about plans for the future, and also have a talk about being committed/exclusive.
/r/seduction02/05/24 02:01 AM
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Oh crazy detail I left out. The one who I hooked up with said she was super Christian, goes to church every week, reads the Bible before bed, and listens to Christian music every morning.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/24 11:42 AM
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You want to be a man or no? A man knows he's playing a game with low odds and says "fuck it, I'm gonna do what I can to beat the odds."
/r/TheRedPill30/04/24 10:55 PM
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Really shows you how you gotta keep playing the game, and keep your edge, until you die of old age.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/24 10:08 PM
3

Yes but I think it's mostly a combination of luck and building momentum.
/r/seduction30/04/24 12:19 PM
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This is super common for me on dating apps. There's this weird calculus you have to play because some girls want to message for a week before setting up a date, else she will ghost if you ask too soon, but other's will ghost you if you don't go for the meetup within the first 5ish messages back and forth. And on top of it, if you or her are both too busy and/or schedules don't align so you can't set up a date for another week or two, the odds of being ghosted go up even more because women have b…
/r/seduction26/04/24 03:00 PM
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Why are people downvoting this. It was 100% a shit test. And it worked as designed, as confirmed by the existence of this post.
/r/seduction24/04/24 10:32 PM
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How long are you waiting before making a move? You should be going for a kiss within the first few hours of knowing her and should have sex within the first 3 interactions. Otherwise move on.
/r/seduction22/04/24 06:27 PM
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It's because he knows it's not gonna last forever so there is no point in labeling it because he's gonna move on when he gets bored, finds a better option, or moves to a new town/city (girls do the same thing btw). A guy will have a "situationship" with a girl who he has fun with but knows he can do better than or she has some kind of issue that he would not commit to for life. For example, she has family issues or different religion or she's an alcoholic/addict or differing opinions on kids, et…
/r/seduction22/04/24 12:18 PM
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I'm getting a feeling it's a combination of you not being direct enough and you not being competent enough physically. You'll get more sex by directly asking a girl who doesn't even know your name to go home with you than you will waiting for a woman to initiate sex. Not that they never will imitate sex but they're more likely to follow a man who is direct than initiate sex. But when a girl goes back to your place with the intention of fucking, there is always a 50% chance you won't have sex. Th…
/r/seduction21/04/24 10:19 PM
1

"Hey do you like wine?".."Yes why".."I've got a bottle at my place we could go back instead of staying here." "Do you want to get out of here? Let's go back to my place."
/r/seduction21/04/24 03:26 PM
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I disagree. Roller blading is the only thing you're allowed to do on a third date. It's written in the Bible. "On the third date, God created roller blades." - Genesis 1:13
/r/seduction21/04/24 03:17 PM
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Yup. Women will always want everything from the guy she is attracted to. If she sleeps with you, she's willing to have any kind of relationship, whether casual or serious, but eventually she will want commitment. She might be okay with something starting off casual and think that's all she wants, but pretty quickly she will want more.
/r/seduction21/04/24 02:15 PM
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Reread your post. What advice would you give a friend who asked you the same thing?
/r/seduction20/04/24 05:11 PM
1

"I want to have sex so bad but I'm on my period" okay that's what I mean
/r/seduction17/04/24 08:27 PM
1

Well none of those girls liked having sex on their period.
/r/seduction17/04/24 05:40 PM
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Don't we all. Can't do anything about it unfortunately. What I don't understand is when women come over but then tell you their on their period, and make you feel bad because you turned them on but they can't have sex because they're on their period.
/r/seduction17/04/24 03:11 PM
2

YourBrainOnPorn.com
/r/seduction16/04/24 01:45 AM
0

Have you ever been friends with a really ugly, fat girl? You've friendzoned her. Men cannot be "just friends" with a women who they would fuck. But women can be just friends with guys who they would fuck (if personalities were irrelevant).
/r/seduction10/04/24 11:35 PM
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When's the last time you did get laid? You're coming across as a complete incel. I don't think you understand the difference between being humorous and being a clown. Also did you even read my comment other than "stand up comedy"?
/r/seduction09/04/24 12:10 PM
1

Are you in college currently?
/r/seduction09/04/24 12:57 AM
5

One totally would but she is obese smh. But yeah I've just played the friendship route.
/r/seduction08/04/24 08:54 PM
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This is more so because of proportionality, makes the muscles look bigger on a smaller frame. But short men do also make (perceived) "size" gains faster because of the same reason. A 5'6 man adding on 10lbs of muscle is what a 6' guys looks like after adding on nearly twice as much muscle mass.
/r/seduction08/04/24 08:11 PM
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Make friends with them, go do things with them, use them as social proof and to introduce you to their single friends. I did exactly this with rec kickball, now I've got a bunch of new female friends and we go do things and they also tell me to go talk to girls when we go to bars.
/r/seduction08/04/24 07:55 PM
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Stand up comedy. When she finds you you do stand-up, it immediately makes you interesting and attractive to women. You also practice being funny, confident, and if you do it long enough you become who you were meant to be (able to think on your feet and be unapologetically yourself in front of anyone and everyone). Caveats: Mostly men that do stand up, so don't expect to meet women through comedy unless you meet one in the audience. It can become difficult/very time consuming, as it's an "inside…
/r/seduction08/04/24 03:41 PM
1

"Just looking to see where things go"
/r/seduction08/04/24 12:07 PM
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Pay attention to what makes her breathe heavier and faster. Keep doing it. Find what else makes her breathe heavier and faster. Do more of it. Repeat. Go back and forth between the different things. Continue.
/r/seduction08/04/24 01:15 AM
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It sounds like they're into you being a cuck. Which is how you are behaving. They're essentially having phone sex while you're their listening, in the role of a cuck. And now they want you there in person to be a cuck while your friend fucks his wife in front of you. Dude. You are a cuck.
/r/seduction06/04/24 11:19 PM
15

Your answer was good before the edit
/r/seduction05/04/24 07:53 PM
70

Yeah, that's too much
/r/seduction05/04/24 06:53 PM
65

Exactly what u/sly_teddy_bear said. Agree and escalate. "Wow you've got great intuition. How'd you know I still need help wiping my ass?" Could definitely think of something better but this gets the point across.
/r/seduction05/04/24 06:46 PM
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That's called a shit test my guy
/r/seduction05/04/24 06:14 PM
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Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert Glover Read "Models" by Mark Manson Go to the wiki for this subreddit and read through the linked posts Talk to anyone and everyone. In every interaction you have with strangers, have the goal of "can I have fun with this person"
/r/seduction05/04/24 01:34 PM
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You don't even know how to answer a basic question. I'm blocking you.
/r/seduction04/04/24 03:46 PM
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What's your goal in the coffee date? Is it to have fun and enjoy it, are you trying to get to know her, are you just trying to run game on her, are you trying to use her as a therapist, etc?? Cause depending on your goal, you're going to get different outcomes.
/r/seduction04/04/24 12:36 PM
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Lunchtime or just after, at and around casual lunch spots/cafes any day of the week or weekend.
/r/seduction03/04/24 09:13 PM
23

I heard in Islam there's a magical place where you can meet 72 virgins
/r/seduction01/04/24 12:11 AM
1

If you can cook a bomb ass meal for yourself, why do you need her? --> she wants you even more cause you don't need her
/r/seduction26/03/24 06:07 PM
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New clothes that fit you A gym membership Professional photos for insta/dating apps Tattoos Apartment upgrade Fraternity Dues (if in college) Hair transplant (more than a few grand) Cooking classes
/r/seduction26/03/24 01:42 PM
1

What the fuck is this? Stop simping. The is so fucking cringe.
/r/seduction26/03/24 01:38 PM
2

No, it's cause I saw 3 posts in 2 days about guys having crushes ghost them
/r/seduction26/03/24 11:52 AM
1

Get some help. Professional help.
/r/seduction20/03/24 08:25 PM
2

It's more like girls who are boring in person feel comfortable being themselves over text but can't do so in person. More of a confidence/shy/introverted thing. Probably would be a fun conversation if you could make it through multiple dates with them though; but because it's a boring conversation and there is no chemistry, there is (mutually) never a second date. Then the girls who are fun in person know that texting doesn't matter
/r/seduction20/03/24 08:07 PM
8

I often found that the better the conversation was in text, the more boring the conversation was in person.
/r/seduction20/03/24 07:14 PM
1

It's basic barbell theory. Put most of your money in the index funds, and put a small portion of your investments into high risk, high reward bets that you've done proper analysis on. Really, all masculine life is this way. It is plate theory. Calculated risk with the confidence of having more options in reserve.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/24 03:04 PM
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Tbh I'd categorize "No More Mr. Nice Guy" under The Red Pill instead of mindset/leadership. NMMNG was my introduction to the red pill, the main premise of the book is that men are acting as feminine instead of masculine because we've been raised by women in a feminized society. If that isn't The Red Pill, I don't know what is. Honestly, it should be the first book you read before any others.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/24 02:59 PM
8

Start doing things you don't like. You answered your own question
/r/seduction19/03/24 11:46 PM
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"Damn girl you got a donk for a white bitch"
/r/seduction19/03/24 12:50 PM
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Sounds like you should move on. If she is ghosting you and setting up "loyalty tests" she ain't the one bro.
/r/seduction19/03/24 12:48 PM
1

If she won't kiss you on the first date, she never will. That's been my experience tbh. It's 2024 not 1950.
/r/seduction18/03/24 06:55 PM
0

Snowflake, not safeword
/r/seduction18/03/24 05:57 PM
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Do StrongLifts 5x5. It's 3 days a week and will help you build a lot of strength and size. As others said, you are very skinny. Women like a man with a strong frame (in every sense of the word). Building some muscle/bulk will give you more confidence. Tbh, I say focus on yourself right now; don't worry about "seduction". At 19, just getting out of your parents roof, focus on learning who you are, what you enjoy, how you like fitting into a group dynamic (do you like to lead the conversation, do …
/r/seduction18/03/24 01:11 PM
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You probably need a "dopamine fast". Get off all social media and TV for 2 weeks (even Reddit). Start reading physical books and going out in nature. When you get bored in a conversation, treat it like a game and figure out as many things as you can that she is interested in which you are also interested in/keep talking about one of those topics once you find one you want to talk about.
/r/seduction18/03/24 12:51 PM
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It's because you are being needy and placing too much pressure on yourself in your interactions with women. It's like having a stutter, people develop stutters because they aren't confident in what they want to say. So you need to stop placing pressure on yourself in interactions with women. You do this by meeting as many women as possible and realizing there is always another one you can meet if this one doesn't work out. And then you build momentum to the point where you are talking to/dating …
/r/seduction17/03/24 06:13 PM
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I understand your perspective, but some of these items are gonna be impossible to find. But that is also the point of my post. It's hard to change, but stop looking at women as "people". Look at them as "women". Almost all women are compassionate, love animals. Women are not men. They have different interests. Some of your requirements will only be found in a male friend. Your girlfriend/wife is not supposed to do and be everything you want in a friend in a single person. Make more friends, and …
/r/seduction17/03/24 03:56 PM
3

Yes
/r/seduction17/03/24 04:30 AM
1

You gotta learn to live and live life by yourself man. If you can't do that you'll never be able to have fun with a stranger
/r/seduction17/03/24 03:52 AM
6

Agree. But you still have fun with then or what's the point?
/r/seduction17/03/24 03:51 AM
2

Exactly. So move on to the next one.
/r/seduction17/03/24 03:50 AM
1

Exactly!!
/r/seduction16/03/24 11:26 PM
6

So get in the right mindset. The ability to do this is what is necessary to succeed. You accept it already, so embrace it and live it. Is it hard? It can be. But is anything worth it in life easy?
/r/seduction16/03/24 11:25 PM
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They DGAF because you aren't having fun with them, so they just move on because women always have more options than men. But if you have fun with them, they don't want you to move on cause they want to keep having fun. "Girls just want to have fun"
/r/seduction16/03/24 06:02 PM
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Well if you go into every interaction with any woman you meet with the question of "can I have fun with this woman?" You will get a date. Whether initiating a conversation on a dating app or whether it is meeting a girl in public, if you go into it with the goal of finding out "can I have fun with this girl" she will see you as a fun guy and want to spend more time with you and therefore go on a first date, and then just keep going with the same mindset.
/r/seduction16/03/24 05:55 PM
5

Did you read the post or just the title?
/r/seduction16/03/24 04:44 PM
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Cool. I just read it. Great, quick and to the point article with good examples! I wrote a longer post the other week on an analogous topic. Putting her feelings/desires over yours = friend. Putting your desires over hers = lover: https://unswunghero.substack.com/p/friends-lovers-and-being-a-man
/r/seduction16/03/24 03:22 PM
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Most if not all women want long term relationships (with the right guy), they will tell you they don't because they want to make sure you aren't needy. And they might tell you every time they see you that they still don't want a long term relationship. But after 6 weeks, they'll admit to you that they like you and want a long term relationship. If she is willing to hook up with you, she is willing to be in a long term relationship with you -- this is just how women operate. a man must be good en…
/r/seduction16/03/24 03:18 PM
2

"She wants different things" is code for you were too needy instead of taking it date by date until she eventually asks "where is this going".
/r/seduction16/03/24 02:46 PM
6

Didn't read the article, but based on the title of it, this! 100%
/r/seduction16/03/24 02:45 PM
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From what I'm reading, yes I think you are not flirting enough. And you are probably not being forward enough. They are probably getting a friend vibe from you. Friends comfort friends. Lovers embrace the discomfort and turn it into sexual tension. Stop trying to make her feel comfortable. This is one thing I noticed in myself that I really needed to change. It bled into all my words and behaviors, and led to lots of first dates. Stop trying to make her comfortable, start trying to have fun with…
/r/seduction16/03/24 02:43 PM
3

If she takes that long AND flaked, move on. Some girls I've been out with log into the apps once a day, send their messages, and that's it for the day. But if she's taking days and then flaked, she's bullshitting and just on the apps for the attention. Move the fuck on.
/r/seduction15/03/24 11:14 PM
4

Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover,and do all the "Breaking Free" activities. It's really good therapy and will help with what you're experiencing.
/r/seduction15/03/24 06:37 PM
2

Dang. Weird. I guess just follow up. Maybe she got cold feet in general or maybe she's still dating another guy (in the process of breaking up/in an onagainoffagain relationship), which is why she deleted bumble so it wasn't on her phone
/r/seduction15/03/24 06:30 PM
3

Any time you ask a woman on a date. "Let's meet at XYZ place. Does Thursday at 7:00 work for you" Then let her respond with an alternative if any of the place, day, time does not work. Make it as direct as you can and as easy as possible for her to say Yes. This took me a long time to learn, especially on dating apps. You want to minimize the number of messages back and forth to set a date. The above example allows for a minimum total of 2, the question and the Yes.
/r/seduction15/03/24 06:20 PM
1

lol sounds like that's still a FWB just not so regular
/r/seduction15/03/24 05:16 PM
1

Yeah. Maybe follow up in a few weeks to see if she's changed her mind? No risk, high reward at that point. And in the follow up, be direct with a simple asking if she wants to meet up for a drink at XYZ place on Thursday night.
/r/seduction15/03/24 03:19 PM
2

It's possible she was expecting a hookup after the club, and since that didn't happen, she moved on. Or she just realized after the fact that she isn't interested in you. Or you gave off needy vibes somehow. Could be many things
/r/seduction15/03/24 01:43 PM
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I think the better way to phrase that is "we select the 10% of women who are interested in us". You shouldn't be trying to date someone who isn't interested in you enough to let you take the lead, but you also have to suggest ideas that you know she will enjoy (or tolerate when you are in a relationship) or else she's never gonna say yes. If you're in the early stages, suggest places and things that she brought up in previous conversation.
/r/seduction15/03/24 12:43 PM
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Tell her to fuck off
/r/seduction14/03/24 08:00 PM
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"I'm sorry you see it that way. Since there's nothing I'm gonna do that will change your mind, maybe we should just be friends." Then don't respond and wait until she begs you to hang out.
/r/seduction14/03/24 06:22 PM
2

Go to the wiki for the subreddit, there are some good linked posts on flirting and teasing.
/r/seduction13/03/24 03:22 PM
2

It's because you aren't being fun and playful enough. If you spike their interest by showing you are fun, she will want to meet you. Build trust by having a couple good group photos.
/r/seduction13/03/24 03:21 PM
6

Go for the number and date after 4 messages sent.
/r/seduction13/03/24 03:11 PM
2

No. Wait for her to message. Then set up a date.
/r/seduction13/03/24 01:15 PM
4

I think it will depend on the person. A "sneaky link" is a new term for fuckbuddy. While traditionally "link up" is often used professionally, such as professional networking or setting a sales call, as a referring to getting in touch/setting up a meeting. So it could mean "link up for sex" or "link up to meet (in general)" aka "meet up"
/r/seduction13/03/24 12:57 PM
1

You have no intellect bro
/r/seduction12/03/24 11:14 PM
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Women want a man who knows who he is and what he wants (from his own life). If you ever heard a woman say "I want a man who knows what he wants" and didn't know what she meant, read 3% Women thrive off of anticipation. As a man you must thrive off the unknown and being okay with any outcome, in addition to not being an open book Women will test you to make sure you subscribe to the above 2 bullets, and if you fail those tests, then you don't and she will move on Focus on making your interactions…
/r/seduction12/03/24 11:13 PM
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Dude, you obviously haven't done the work on yourself you say you have. Have you ever seen and ugly guy with a hot woman? I see it all the time. Grow up.
/r/seduction12/03/24 07:35 PM
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It's a self confidence issue, which is what a CBT therapist can help you with. One of my best friends is ugly, 6'2 and has no muscle mass. He got married in October to a pretty girl.
/r/seduction12/03/24 06:56 PM
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You might need professional help. Go to a good Cognitive Behavioral Therapist with a proven track record.
/r/seduction12/03/24 06:26 PM
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It's 100% a confidence issue then. You are limiting yourself when you say you are too ugly. I doubt you are too ugly. I'm 5'6" and very handsome but I'd trade to be tall and ugly. I used to have the same mindset as you because of my height until I realized it was a confidence issue, not a height issue. It's all about how you carry yourself. If your mindset is that people are going to have a negative reaction to you, they're gonna have a negative reaction to you. But if you go into every interact…
/r/seduction12/03/24 05:26 PM
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If you are tall and fit, there's no reason you shouldn't be be getting any matches on dating apps, which means something is wrong with your profile and pictures. Be as not serious as possible in your profile, and with pictures make sure they are not too try hard - just good pictures of you out living your life and with friends. Your fear of talking to women is a phobia. Treat it like any phobia. Ease your way in. Talk to cashiers/retail workers, ask them how their day is or compliment their hair…
/r/seduction12/03/24 05:09 PM
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Maybe I have a shitty profile, sure (very likely cause I am handsome). But this is a common story I've heard by many guys I personally know and from so many posts I've seen online. Either way, only the very few % of profiles get the majority of women swiping right on them, so if you aren't one of those profiles, your odds are way better in person. Not that men shouldn't do OLD, and people like you can basically disregard my post because obviously OLD is working great for you, but if it isn't wor…
/r/seduction08/03/24 01:50 PM
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I said "focus", not "don't use dating apps". It shouldn't be your focus because it's less likely to lead to a positive result. I spent 2 years on dating apps, went on 2 dates with girls I would marry based on their looks (0 second dates with either). But I meet women naturally in person and they will tell me they find me very attractive. I'm quite handsome, and women find me attractive in person. But with OLD, the odds that the same woman would swipe right on me is like 5%.
/r/seduction07/03/24 06:15 PM
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I'm not saying you "shouldn't use OLD," but it shouldn't be your focus because it's less likely to lead to a positive result. I spent 2 years on dating apps, went on 2 dates with girls I would marry based on their looks (0 second dates with either). But I meet women naturally in person and they will tell me they find me very attractive. I'm quite handsome, and women find me attractive in person. But with OLD, the odds that the same woman would swipe right on me is like 5%.
/r/seduction07/03/24 06:15 PM
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Yes, not saying you "shouldn't use OLD," but it shouldn't be your focus because it's less likely to lead to a positive result. I spent 2 years on dating apps, went on 2 dates with girls I would marry based on their looks (0 second dates with either). But I meet women naturally in person and they will tell me they find me very attractive. I'm quite handsome, and women find me attractive in person. But with OLD, the odds that the same woman would swipe right on me is like 5%.
/r/seduction07/03/24 06:14 PM
2

Yes. I've read it multiple times. Key take aways are - spend as much time in social atmospheres where you truly enjoy yourself (if you like board games go to board game bars, if you like music go to concerts, if you like reading hang out in book stores and coffee shops, fitness and gym classes, etc.) and you will meet women who are similar to you and therefore they will be more likely to be interested in you - be direct. When you approach a woman, she knows why you are talking to her. You aren't…
/r/seduction05/03/24 04:27 PM
1

Read "Models" by Mark Manson.
/r/seduction05/03/24 02:12 PM
1

Just be up front with them as to what you are looking for. It's that simple.
/r/seduction04/03/24 10:57 PM
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Just meet her for coffee and see what she's like in person, nothing to lose meeting for a 45 minute coffee. I've gone out with a girl like this and she was great in person. Girls on dating apps have so many matches they often don't put much effort into the conversation before meeting.
/r/seduction03/03/24 01:39 AM
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Agree 100% If a girl "secretly" likes you, this means you are scared to find out if she honesty likes you. How do you know if she likes you? - You ask her on a date and she says yes - You share a "moment" and go in for the kiss and she kisses you back with passion (some girls are boring kissers so beware the boring kisser, if you're making out, grab the back of her head and if she responds by being more passionate than she is emphatically kissing you back) - You put your arm around her and she p…
/r/seduction02/03/24 03:22 PM
1

The hurt is never gonna go away. You're always gonna remember back and have that twinge of pain when you think of what you did wrong. But the key is to move on and meet several more women that you like. Feelings happen any time you start looking into what your future will look like with a specific girl in it and you like what you see. If you don't do this, you can avoid feelings from developing quickly and let them develop at a more natural pace as you experience things together. Let the feeling…
/r/seduction01/03/24 10:04 PM
4

Start going to concerts and meeting them in person.
/r/seduction01/03/24 04:58 PM
7

Prerequisites to any seduction course: - "Models" by Mark Manson - "No More Mr Nice Guy" by Robert Glover
/r/seduction29/02/24 09:16 PM
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Every single one of your posts/articles reflects the exact things I have learned from experience over the last 2 years being single/pursuing relationships. Keep doing what you're doing.
/r/seduction29/02/24 07:18 PM
3

Often I would say "you want to meet up for a drink or just come over and split a bottle of wine/cocktails"
/r/seduction28/02/24 08:52 PM
4

Do a quick search in the search bar. Lots of negative reviews and feedback.
/r/seduction27/02/24 10:50 PM
3

The most important skill for cold approach is talking without a filter: saying whatever comes to your mind while keeping your mind from going blank. This shows her you are confident, can entertain yourself, and can hold a conversation. It's a skill you can practice. Start doing "free word association" exercises. Find a random word generator, and immediately say out loud the first thing you can think of. A fun exercise is the "never ending story", where using the random word generator, you tell a…
/r/seduction27/02/24 02:35 PM
1

But there may be places they are more likely to congregate vs an overweight girl who doesn't care about their fitness or a party girl. Where do they hang out when they're with their girlfriends? Fat girls may be hanging out at home with a 1.5L bottle of wine, pizza, and their friends and a movie. Party girls are pregaming and hitting bars. Fit girls go to the gym, go home and eat, go to sleep. What are they doing with their girls on nights they don't workout/after workouts/on weekends? I'm being…
/r/seduction21/02/24 02:39 PM
4

I live next to a Pilates studio. It's the only place I've consistently seen attractive, fit women in my daily life. I've never gone to a class because I know it's a struggle to socialize in a class setting like that: Either you have to become friends with some of them, form or join an existing social group with several of the other members, and play it slow to form a natural connection with one of them; or after a couple classes you go for one of them and ask her out and it works out and you fin…
/r/seduction21/02/24 02:25 PM
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This required about 1 paragraph of explanation. You wrote 7 paragraphs. It's a perfect metaphor for how you have handled the situation with this woman. Tl;dr "woman has shown interest in me and we've been social in group settings for the last year. She's also driven me home a few times. I've been a sissy and failed to act on it." All you had/have to do is ask "do you want to grab a drink after work, just the two of us?" Or if you ask her to come in for a drink when she dropped you off at your pl…
/r/seduction21/02/24 01:59 PM
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A mutual friend has been dating this girl cause he doesn't think he can get anyone else. She moved for work so now it's a long distance relationship. He flies to see her every other week, she rarely if ever flies to see him. She gave him an STD because she regularly cheats on him. I agree. Move on and understand your worth.
/r/seduction16/02/24 02:59 PM
18

Grab her hips and hold her against you while she twerks. It's quite simple.
/r/seduction15/02/24 09:41 PM
1

Some girls just like texting and being in contact with someone. They find it fun. They're probably doing the same thing with their girlfriends. I'd say look at it as a positive. If she's texting a lot before the date, she's at least saying she's not uninterested. She might be trying to get to know you more before she actually meets you. I think it really is only clingy if she starts double texting or asking why you didn't respond. However, texting them back too much can be risky. Depending on th…
/r/seduction14/02/24 01:46 PM
30

I'm just confused why she told you her bf is diabetic?
/r/seduction13/02/24 10:28 PM
36

When I was doing OLD, I often found that the girls I had the best conversations with over text had the worst conversation skills in person, and the girls that were boring or short answers over text were often fun conversationalists.
/r/seduction12/02/24 09:40 PM
1

How long have you been seeing this girl? Does she know she is just an FWB/have you had an adult conversation that y'all are not going anywhere serious?
/r/seduction12/02/24 08:08 PM
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I went out with a girl who gave a guy her number which he used to figure out her last name which he used to stalk her. Let her prioritize her safety because you wouldn't want to date a woman who doesn't prioritize her, your, or your future children's safety.
/r/seduction11/02/24 08:07 PM
5

Great point and really good article. Thanks for the comment, spot on.
/r/seduction11/02/24 01:26 AM
1

That's literally what your post said.
/r/seduction07/02/24 04:41 PM
2

This isn't Twitter, engagement bait does you no good here. Life as a human is about seeking challenges. Improve your life outside of dating if you get bored of it. Sounds like you need to focus on your self and find a fulfilling path in general, as "pickup" is an inherently unfulfilling task for those who make it the goal in itself as opposed to a tool to reach a goal.
/r/seduction07/02/24 02:03 PM
1

Texting right when you get home from the date might be what he's referring to, unless she texts you when she gets home then you should respond. It's fine waiting to text the day after to tell her that you had fun, if she didn't text you first after the date (assuming it was an evening date). Setting up another date the next day can also kill the mystery but also it's not gonna hurt anything if she is actually interested in you. Often I'll text the day after that I had fun and we should do someth…
/r/seduction30/01/24 03:38 PM
1

I'm disgusted by OP's utter disregard for women as people and not just sex objects.
/r/seduction29/01/24 01:42 AM
3

I feel disgusted reading this post.
/r/seduction28/01/24 06:53 PM
3

Everything makes a ton of sense knowing that, thank you for sharing. The issue is that you don't care about a connection (many guys don't), but women do because women are 90% emotional. See your original post. Since you don't care, you probably aren't thinking about these things on a date, so if you (personally and all guys in general) are going on lots of dates but aren't getting the intimacy or relationship you're looking for, then it will often be because a guy isn't focused on creating those…
/r/seduction12/12/23 05:09 PM
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Literally, connection = things in common + easily able to carry a conversation together + similar sense of humor + fun to be with + (physically attracted to each other) Are you on the autistic spectrum? I've had a "connection" with people outside of dating, such as female classmates in school or even guys I meet.
/r/seduction12/12/23 05:01 PM
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I've met plenty of kind and attractive women who were really boring or we had nothing in common and couldn't carry a conversation. Or our sense of humor was opposite. There was no connection. I have a feeling you just haven't met enough women to experience a real connection. Connection is also something that can develop over time, but there are definitely people that it will happen right away with. Including with men that you immediately hit it off with, like Dale and Brennan in step brothers. P…
/r/seduction12/12/23 02:28 PM
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I guess my definition was more for connection (or chemistry), which is what I look for. Spark is something I've felt with 3 girls, where it's like from the moment I meet them I just can't stop thinking about them and our conversation and want to be back in that moment and talk to/be with them. Like an instant, intense "crush" on a person. Looking for a spark is a dead end because it's more rare and just because there is a spark doesn't mean you're compatible. Whereas looking for connection is mo…
/r/seduction12/12/23 02:16 PM
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I think it's a pretty fair but it's also an excuse. I've recently discovered this is primarily true for men who only use dating apps to meet women. It's way easier to get a hookup off a dating app than it is a relationship, if she meets you she's probably willing to have sex on the first or second date. But the odds of getting a date on a dating app can be low, especially because of the way dating apps work in general. Dating apps there's either too much pressure ("I am looking for a boyfriend/g…
/r/seduction12/12/23 01:49 PM
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I can't believe people don't realize this is a joke
/r/seduction07/12/23 11:05 PM
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Yes this was 90% a joke and 10% a true story that works for me every time.
/r/seduction07/12/23 09:00 PM
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For a FWB or a hookup, I agree with the binary. For someone you would date/marry, you should have certain standards, in which case using an X/10 is fine as long as she meets all the other criteria that are important. I have trouble dating someone who is a 6 or 7 and then meeting more attractive girls who are similar and not feeling like "I could do better" -- had this experience on a third date with a girl who's a 6, we were out ice skating and I kept staring at all the other girls so I called t…
/r/seduction01/11/23 06:30 PM
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