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Mate, my IQ is above the average and, trust me, that makes me less attractive.
/r/seduction19/08/24 04:09 PM
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Yes! I'm like you and the hottest women I've been with were in my early youth, when I didn't know anything about seduction and I didn't feel restrained. There was a 10/10 in Malta, dancing and surrounded by men who wanted to fuck her. She ignored everyone. I walked straight to her and whispered in her ear "I love you and I want to be your slave". She started dancing with me and then I made out with her and her 8/10 friend. I did something similar in school. I told one of the hottest girls in my …
/r/seduction11/08/24 01:12 PM
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A honest one
/r/seduction07/08/24 02:36 PM
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Where are you based?
/r/seduction31/07/24 04:27 PM
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OMG I know girls who've slept with gay friends and by the way it's not black of white, sexually is full of grey areas. The girl slept with the guy described in the post by her choice, nobody was abused or tricked. Everyone was safe. What you say sounds like some woke nonsense.
/r/seduction19/07/24 01:04 PM
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Exactly
/r/seduction19/07/24 08:19 AM
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Because we're not in nursery anymore and are grown up enough to know white lies are ok. It's not lying. It's joking. Seduction is not for you guys.
/r/seduction15/07/24 05:25 AM
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Because it takes every resistance off. It's actually one of mistery's techniques.
/r/seduction14/07/24 10:46 AM
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I agree with all the other replies, not yours. I have no reason to hide my intentions. The problem here is whether doing it at work. Showing my intentions straight away will help me to get to my goal. The problem is actually that maybe it's not the case in that context and initiating an interaction with the wrong frame, because I can't show my intentions, will ruin the game. Why on heart should I not show my intentions? Do I want to be her friend? Intentions have to be showed from the first inte…
/r/seduction11/04/24 05:09 PM
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That's actually true. It will be ok and accepted if I reframe it
/r/seduction11/04/24 03:20 PM
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I do that every time at the canteen but 1) the problem will be the same when I start talking and ask for her telephone number. 2) I lose the frame. We start a friendly conversation from which I'm not able to recover and ask her out. I know myself and the only way I can hit on someone is by starting the whole interaction by hitting on her so the only way would be "hi, what's your name?", whereas asking if I can sit there is a friendly approach which puts me in a position I'm not able to ask her o…
/r/seduction11/04/24 12:40 PM
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You're right. However I find women are normally coherent with what they say they're looking for. What you say is true if you consider it moment by moment, which is reasoning in terms of seduction. You can seduce a woman into having sex but if she's looking for an LTR she won't change her mind. If you don't take them seriously you can still fuck them but if they're looking for something serious, sooner or later you will have to deal with it and that's what I'm tired of. There are a few women who …
/r/seduction06/04/24 09:06 PM
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Thank you for your answer. Those words were very much needed! I'm saving your comment and I'll read it every time I get negative thoughts about what women say.
/r/seduction06/04/24 08:05 PM
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My goal is to get laid and my second goal is to get laid with someone who's not telling me every second she only has sex in a relationship. I had enough. I'm open to a relationship but that comes with dating, it's not a goal. Whatch what women do not what they say. This is true but in my current mood I really need to meet someone withba more libertine mindset.
/r/seduction06/04/24 07:19 PM
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Very normal. That's why it's wrong to message too much before meeting
/r/seduction20/03/24 06:37 PM
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You said you didn't mean she lied but you actually did mean it. What makes you think it's a fake excuse? Many times I've been told "sorry there wasn't a spark there", "I'm not feeling it", "I was looking for someone different". She could have done the same. She's 40, she's not a kid My question is the same: why should I think she's lying when she even deleted her account? What reasons does she have to lie. Believing she's lying to me and maybe she's dating someone else would be typical of a a pe…
/r/seduction20/03/24 11:10 AM
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You're saying she's lying because you imply it's just an excuse. I'm saying, the fact she deleted the app might mean it's not an excuse.
/r/seduction20/03/24 10:03 AM
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Ok. Thank you for clarifying. I asked cause I wasn't sure. It's because she said "it'd be fun knowing you" but of course I made up the interpretation. I think I'll reply saying it's fair enough, that I wish her all the best and to not hesitate to message me if she feels better. Is that ok?
/r/seduction20/03/24 09:41 AM
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Thanks. Although the fact she deleted her account makes me think maybe she's telling the truth.
/r/seduction20/03/24 09:28 AM
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That's exactly what I did. That's exactly when she didn't reply.
/r/seduction15/03/24 06:21 PM
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Sure but let's assume we start small talking again with no connection to the previous conversation. It will be way more difficult for me to ask her out a third time.
/r/seduction15/03/24 09:22 AM
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No woman as ever complained about my voice when exchanging voice messages. Most of them have actually complimented me for the sound and the accent. What you say makes sense really. Not sure what to message tho, I'll have to think that. One annoying thing is that she didn't drop while we were small talking, in that case it would be spontaneous even just to ask "how are you". She dropped exactly when she was meant to let me know when she was free and I feel like messaging again now without connect…
/r/seduction15/03/24 08:18 AM
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Are you in the USA?
/r/seduction10/03/24 10:20 AM
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A coffee was the first idea we had, and it was my idea. Even if I say "let me know" it doesn't mean I'm waiting for her to let me know. My plan is to try and raise the vibe again, with no pressure and ask her out again in a few days. An important detail of her answer is that she just stated something without asking questions. She just said we can meet but not this week. Stop. No questions, no hooks for further conversations.
/r/seduction02/03/24 01:37 PM
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I asked her on a date before getting her number, on hinge. That's why she gave me her number. As soon as I messaged on WhatsApp she started with the profile pic issue. Then, when she allegedly relaxed she started talking about her dog. It was just kind and polite of me asking a few questions and as I said they weren't too many messages. Since at some point the conversation ended I then messaged, as I said, yesterday night "are you up for that drink then?" However she replied half an hour ago say…
/r/seduction02/03/24 01:26 PM
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What makes me mad is that I don't normally let anyone cross my boundaries and I wouldn't in this case, but I really thought it was a special case and she wasn't feeling safe. But I guess that's exactly the case, when we think "this one is special" and give up our identity, it's over.
/r/seduction02/03/24 09:19 AM
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Exactly and I have to learn to stop taking seriously their questions and it's all their fault! Just need to train myself not to feel guilty!
/r/seduction26/02/24 06:13 PM
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Nobody wrote the rule but if she's asking I get she's projected to the future and the eventuality of kids. As you said it's subjective and since I haven't asked her to marry me yet and I assume it's nothing serious until otherwise stated I normally feel pressured to say I'm not looking for anything serious as an instinctive defense mechanism. In my opinion my reaction is natural as it would be for most of my connationals I believe, whereas here on this sub I get I'm the weird one. So I get it's …
/r/seduction26/02/24 05:47 PM
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You don't use dating apps, so I guess you cold approach? I'm originally from Italy and I used to live there till I was 35. I didn't use dating apps back then and had no game at all but I used to be hit on often and all the girls where pretty much happy if I was upfront and said I didn't want anything serious. The age range I was dating was from 25 to 35. When I moved to England I started using dating apps cause being in a foreign country made building a social circle more difficult. For a short …
/r/seduction26/02/24 12:11 PM
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Well, good for you! I guess I missed my window. Do you really tell them you're there just for fun and they're up for it? Enjoy yourself!
/r/seduction26/02/24 10:54 AM
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The more I use dating apps the more I realise you don't have to be open on what you're looking for. There's no logic in women. They want honesty but it's impossible.
/r/seduction26/02/24 10:52 AM
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Really? Where are you based and what age range? I (43m in UK ) get unmatched all the times if I don't say I have long term goals.
/r/seduction26/02/24 10:51 AM
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Because you basically said "All I want to do is hook-up." Not literally, but that's what she took away from the exchange. Here's what she interpreted your msg to say: "One day, when I meet someone I REALLY want to be with, I may want to start a family with that person, but it doesn't matter if you can give me kids or not because I don't REALLY want to be with you, I just REALLY want to have sex with you." You are considering what I said out of its context. I said what I said only because she men…
/r/seduction25/02/24 07:48 PM
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In any case, even tho I start understand, the more I think about it the more nonsensical it seems. I'll keep avoiding anyone who talks kids at an inappropriate stage.
/r/seduction25/02/24 05:45 PM
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She put that not to scare people off but then she says she cannot give me kids before the first date. She's doing it right!
/r/seduction25/02/24 05:43 PM
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What?
/r/seduction25/02/24 04:12 PM
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Ok I understand. So should I lie about the fact I don't have any long term goals? (Kids are a long term goal).
/r/seduction25/02/24 11:16 AM
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Thank you for your explanation. Now I start to understand a little bit the logic behind it. If I understood she means "I'm just saying this, just in case. Then it's up to you" and my reaction is taken from her as "I don't care cause I just want to hook up". Is that correct? I think the problem is cultural. Where I come from that would be taken as a very weird thing to say and even if I start to understand it will take time for me to adjust to it as it's something that makes me instantly very unc…
/r/seduction25/02/24 11:15 AM
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I don't think they do, or they're supposed to. Can you expand please? Okay, but that's not all that was said - the conversation on this topic kept going and going and going, when it could've been capped off with a wink as if it was no big deal. Why is it not a big deal?
/r/seduction25/02/24 10:44 AM
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Ok. I understand what you mean apart from one thing: Why do you say I'm the one who's not enjoying the moment when she's the one talking about the future? I'm actually upset because she's moving the focus to the future when it's too premature. To me that's a neurotic behaviour and I get defensive and logic. I'm not defending myself, I'm arguing cause I want to understand your point.
/r/seduction25/02/24 03:12 AM
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Sorry mate but I can't follow you and I wish I could. The country I'm from if a woman talks kids in the initial stage everyone will think she's crazy. Since I'm in England this is happening all the times and I simply don't understand. It's not that I don't respect or accept different point of views, it's just I don't understand. She was flirting with me heavily, she is sex positive and she doesn't know yet what she wants according to her profile. So, I'm sorry I just can't understand why it is s…
/r/seduction25/02/24 03:04 AM
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I know. What I don't understand is how "I don't know yet" fits in with "I can't have kids". That's all I'm saying. I just can't work my head around it. And if a woman takes the kids topic I'm going to say "hold your horses, I'm only inviting you for a coffe. Haven't asked you to marry me yet" and I will never be able to do differently
/r/seduction25/02/24 02:52 AM
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I understand what you mean. In any case it's a big turn off for me. A date is not an interview. Second, if they don't want commitment now they should ask about kids when they decide is the moment to consider commitment. It's a contradiction we're not committed but if you want kids I cannot give them to you. It's against any logic.
/r/seduction24/02/24 10:05 PM
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Which country do you live in?
/r/seduction21/02/24 07:17 AM
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Thank you for your reply.
/r/seduction21/02/24 07:16 AM
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I know
/r/seduction21/02/24 07:16 AM
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I just asked a 23 year old girl who has hooked up with a 40 year old "do you think it's creepy for a 40 year old man approach younger girls in clubs?". She replied "yeah probably" I also dated a 28 year old into old men. She said, when she was talking about her 40 year old colleague who asked her out, it's creepy because he's older unless she is the one who makes the first move.
/r/seduction21/02/24 07:14 AM
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Many women think that. Ask them
/r/seduction21/02/24 07:09 AM
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I agree with every word. I dated twice a 28 year old. She is a girl who likes older men and even she said it's still creepy if a 40 year old hits on her. She said "it's different if I show my interest first but if you make the first move it is creepy because you're older" and she said that in a judgemental way speaking about her colleague. Also the same people who promote gender fluidity for some reason hate age fluidity. That's because old man - young woman was a paradigm of the "patriarchy"
/r/seduction21/02/24 07:09 AM
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I used to look very young at 38 and I managed to get a 25 year old number in a club. Then COVID arrived and it changed everything in my life. Because of the stress I look way older now even tho probably still a bit younger than I am. I get self conscious to the point I think girls are going to call security only because I'm order.
/r/seduction21/02/24 06:56 AM
1

Can you link me their YouTube channel please? Thanks
/r/seduction21/02/24 06:53 AM
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It does happen.
/r/seduction28/10/22 02:54 PM
1

Speak honestly to her and you'll find out. Say "I think drinks is more appropriate for a first date" and see how she reacts.
/r/seduction28/10/22 02:53 PM
1

Prostitutes do that
/r/seduction14/10/22 07:59 AM
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Unfortunately???
/r/seduction04/08/22 02:50 PM
1

Where are you from and where in Italy you live?
/r/seduction31/07/22 09:16 PM
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Why on earth???
/r/seduction29/07/22 04:18 PM
4

This is not high risk high reward. This is annoying people.
/r/seduction28/07/22 07:27 AM
1

a lot of girls on tinder are not looking for anything serious Where are you and how old are you? It might be like that where you live at your age range.
/r/seduction26/07/22 06:14 AM
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How can you say tinder is for casual stuff? On tinder I've matched with the most relationship oriented girls
/r/seduction25/07/22 02:57 PM
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It's a sarcastic comment. Not promoting anything
/r/seduction22/07/22 05:10 PM
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I used to be like the OP but not on dating apps and in another country and women appreciated. On dating apps even saying you're not necessarily looking for anything serious but you're open to see how it goes means you get treated as a fuckboi which is the scariest thing that can happen to a girl these days apparently. A guy interested only into sex with no intentions in a relationship. So dangerous!!! To be honest dating apps made me not blame guys who ghost girls after they got what they wanted…
/r/seduction22/07/22 02:24 PM
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Lol! I suggest you to make a fake average looking male account on tinder and look for hook ups ethically, then come back here commenting.
/r/seduction22/07/22 02:06 PM
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I'm sorry about what I'm reading man. That really suck. As a person who's doing his best to improve himself, both in the physical and mental aspects it must be really painful to be hit exactly where it hurts the most, as it appears from what you said about your mental health issues. There are no words for that bitch and I don't really understand why some people is like that. She could have rejected you in a more polite way but she didn't and, you know what? I think she over reacted cause she is …
/r/seduction20/07/22 12:51 PM
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Would you say words mean nothing even when on dating apps they say "I'm looking for something serious"?
/r/seduction11/07/22 08:49 PM
1

Absolutely. I can confirm!
/r/seduction11/07/22 09:07 AM
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It's not just women. I tend to be attracted more to women who care less about me.
/r/seduction11/07/22 07:13 AM
1

Try another therapist before giving up!
/r/seduction07/07/22 06:52 AM
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I agree with you man, you need some help. I would advise a break from dating apps and seeing a therapist. Especially the latter will help you decode reality better.
/r/seduction06/07/22 11:54 PM
1

He is the most confident person I've ever met, whenever he met a new girl he was hitting on her straight away, from the first interaction. He was saying stuff like "you didn't tell me you had a so hot friend" and stuff like that while at the same moment showing he didn't care at all. He was continuously the centre of the attention, super funny and entertaining, super cocky and super direct with women. He was doing kino from the first second and almost always k close on the same night she met som…
/r/seduction06/07/22 06:20 PM
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I know a guy who was taught by his dad who was a player himself. He lost his virginity when he was 12 and amongst all the girls he knows if he hasn't fucked them it is because he chose not to. I know a couple of times he had fmf threesomes too.
/r/seduction06/07/22 12:23 PM
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Right finally I have some time to reply. Italy is very open, and quite progressive sexually. Have you even been to Italy? Do you say that by experience or just because of what I said? Italy is very different according to areas and environments regarding to sexual openness that's why I only mentioned it when you asked. Before you asking I only said "my background". While I tend to agree, its also a barrier to being fully present. The fear of being hurt can be subtle and insidious. It can tell you…
/r/seduction04/07/22 01:02 PM
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Mate, thank you for your reply. I really appreciate you took the time to reply so accurately. I was waiting to have some time to write a proper reply and today I did it but when I finish to write it it was too long. So I copied and pasted it on the notepad so I could split it in shorter answers but something went wrong and j lost it, after an hour of writing. Im so frustrated! I'll reply later, tonight or tomorrow.
/r/seduction03/07/22 05:27 PM
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Don't honestly understand all the hate you're getting. I hate all these bigoted and right thinking people. They Don't know anything about this situation but don't miss the chance to be judgemental. If this guy cheated that's his business and we don't even know why he did it. You're not in a relationship and you're not a friend of his girlfriend so not your business!
/r/seduction03/07/22 04:02 PM
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Cause if it is a test it's toxic AF and manipulative and you shouldn't like a woman who do such tests. Start listening to their words. She asked you not to contact her. She wanted it. So you give that to her. Period.
/r/seduction30/06/22 12:08 PM
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This
/r/seduction30/06/22 12:07 PM
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In my opinion, such measures are the result of an increasing ratio of social predators. They arent really needed until more deceptive and manipulative practices become more commonplace. As predation ramps up, so do the protective counter-measures. Human beings are fundamentally driven to avoid regret. The more times they've been in situations they regret, the more their behavior changes to avoid that regret. I actually think the exact opposite. I can see English guys ghosting girls a lot. I can …
/r/seduction28/06/22 06:06 PM
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So do I. But now think back through that same database of personalities, and tell me what the most likely outcome is for a woman having constant, amazing sex with a new plaything. Im not talking about one and dones. To be reliably spectacular in bed in another person requires building some form of intimacy. A sensitized awareness and receptivity to another person's motions, emotions, and desires. The same traits that make someone truly awesome in bed inherently carry the potential to make strong…
/r/seduction28/06/22 06:05 PM
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Ok I'm splitting my answer in separate successive comments. Sorry if it is too long The first part of my reply is as an answer to this comment. The second part I'd an answer to the first part.
/r/seduction28/06/22 06:05 PM
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For some reason it says "something went wrong" when I post my comment. Can it be cause it's too long?
/r/seduction28/06/22 05:23 PM
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Maybe the relationship is almost over, maybe she's just a chronic cheater and if not with the OP it would be with someone else, maybe she's in a polyamorous relationship, maybe they're at that point in a relationship where sex is dull so he's saving the relationship allowing her some relief. Who knows? Love always wins in the end and OP shouldn't care unless her boyfriend is his friend.
/r/seduction28/06/22 03:28 PM
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She has a boyfriend and she's hitting on you.
/r/seduction28/06/22 12:01 PM
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Can you explain me how to quote? So I can reply to every bit later after work. Thanks
/r/seduction27/06/22 12:40 PM
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I'd still appreciate her boldness. Not berate. That's the point!
/r/seduction27/06/22 08:04 AM
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I've got a timeline too to make a family. I'm 41. I only think it's sad looking for someone to make a family with like you're looking for a house, or a job. The only way I know to look for someone is dating people with no goals. That's the quickest way I know. The best relationships I know were born from casual ones. Whilst I look for the right one I can have some nice time with someone else without being promiscuous however. By the way, you want to have kids, but what with those women who alrea…
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:51 AM
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You more or less understand. It's definitely too much investment from soon. Not investing too soon is something I learned at my own expenses and something I would suggest to my best friend, to my brother and sister. Investing from the beginning, being focused on your goal is absolutely an unhealthy waste of energy that will drain you, delude you and cause you to miss lots of nice things (nice even tho they are different from your goal). You can have wonderful time and connection with a woman wit…
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:09 AM
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Thank you for your reply. Firstly I would like to disagree with you when you say women tend to get invested emotionally when having sex. I disagree cause I know thousands of women who don't. You talk about it as if it was a biologic matter. In my opinion it is a cultural matter. Women get heartbroken cause they start fantasizing too soon about that man being their long term partner. It's a belief system matter, not a biologic one. If they believe they're going to have sex with the knight in shin…
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:02 AM
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The thing is this way they filter out way more guys than the ones who want sex. I know they're not asking me to commit right away but they want to see if there is the intention from my side for commitment which of course there isn't before there is. This is the whole point. If to date you want intentions for commitment even before we have met you're asking for too much. Only thing I need for dating you is you being attractive and that's how things should be. Wrong. The background I come from is …
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:38 AM
1

They could just say "no ONS"
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:33 AM
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Yes. We're too different. Thank you for the explanation.
/r/seduction25/06/22 07:25 PM
1

What do you mean?
/r/seduction25/06/22 06:11 PM
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The thing is I don't like girls who think they're supposed to say they're looking for something serious. I can't stand anything traditional about dating. I cannot have any connection with any of these women. The background I am from is totally different and I had enough of this. What appals me mostly is the need of a goal and if after a while if it's not going where they want they will dump you even if they like you. I'm just allergic to these ways.
/r/seduction25/06/22 05:38 PM
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That's exactly what I think they mean and that's I won't date any of these women. I think I'm going back to my country for this reason. Dating for me has been impossible in England.
/r/seduction25/06/22 05:35 PM
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Yes, cause he's not a fuckboi. That's the whole point of my reply. A person who cares explaining a girl he's not necessarily after anything serious cause he doesn't want to hurt her get ghosted, the fuckboi will lie to her, fuck her and ghost her. The only healthy way of not being hurt or played with is waiting before investing not asking stupid questions. All the serial girl fuckers I know suggest me to reply I'm looking for something serious to that question. The OP is a sensitive guy who want…
/r/seduction24/06/22 06:11 PM
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Wrong. They fuck and ghost women who are looking for a serious relationship. They build casual relationship with women who are up for it. These casual relationships then could evolve into serious ones with time and this is how it should be and how it has always worked for me.
/r/seduction24/06/22 05:42 PM
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So why don't you help me emancipate myself from ignorance answering that question? Especially if it is amusing. You're allowed to laugh.
/r/seduction24/06/22 05:41 PM
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To be honest I was doing what you say before moving to England and it always worked. I'm very honest and direct about what I want. Then I moved and in this country and most women want to be told you are looking for a serious committed relationship or you're a fuckboi.
/r/seduction24/06/22 05:09 PM
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Will that imply you will keep on dating the wrong person?
/r/seduction24/06/22 05:07 PM
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I'm saving this reply to read it again and again. Thank you my friend. My problem with women is I'm too honest!
/r/seduction24/06/22 05:05 PM
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My eyes rolls back when I hear a woman asking that question or when she says "I don't do casual dating". It's not bad saying you want a serious relationship, it's just you're putting too much pressure on a guy from the beginning. What's so bad about wanting to date? What the OP replied, which is similar to what I normally reply, means he is open to a relationship. So what's the problem with that? Should he tell you he's looking for something serious? It would be a lie, he could sleep with you an…
/r/seduction24/06/22 04:40 PM
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In my opinion it does come across that way. I'm a man and have exactly your same problem. I learnt not to be afraid to say exactly what you told her. There's nothing bad with being open to everything, actually it's the right way of doing it in my opinion and I couldn't date, even for a serious relationship, a woman who's not open to casual. So I keep saying that, if they're not ok with it they can unmatch if they're rude or explain you they're looking for something different.
/r/seduction24/06/22 04:26 PM
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What's wrong with fuckbois?
/r/seduction24/06/22 04:23 PM
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I had the same problem. Then one day I found myself staring in the eyes of this girl on our first date in a way that obviously showed my intentions and I did it naturally and it worked so well. Since then I haven't had any problems. You will look like a creep if you force yourself. The lesson I learned is: there's nothing bad desiring a woman and nothing bad expressing that desire. Women appreciate it. Don't think how to do it, if you want that woman look at her like you would look at someone yo…
/r/seduction24/06/22 08:23 AM
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A ritual is whatever is considered a rule of dating like for example no sex on the first date. I don't need or expect sex on the first date (I actually rarely escalate so much on the first date) and I can wait several dates but if the reason is a stupid rule I'm suddenly turned off. As I'm turned off by a woman who's expecting me to pay all the times. No judgement, it's just we're not each other cup of tea. Just to make it clear and to avoid anyone to be offended. Stupid for me, not stupid as an…
/r/seduction22/06/22 02:45 PM
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I prefer not to say it. I don't want to offend anyone and the experience I'm having in this country is different than the one is other people having.
/r/seduction22/06/22 06:22 AM
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And I respect that. I'm interested into the human aspect of it. I can wait for sex. As I said I don't need it straight away and I see it as an experience to share with a person you think you like to share it, everyone with their own timing. What I don't respect is women who treat sex as a reward and stupid rituals that take the human aspect away.
/r/seduction22/06/22 06:20 AM
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I had never encountered it until I was 35. Then I moved to another country and here it's incredible how "on the defensive" are women. They behave like only men like sex. I was literally told "You have to earn the cookie" and it is ridiculous! I respect women too much to accept such things! And again I'm ok to wait, I don't need to have sex straight away. It's the attitude the problem.
/r/seduction21/06/22 07:39 PM
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What are you talking about? I just read a few lines. Sorry I can't go on. You talk like someone who was there and are doing lots of assumptions. If a woman put it like I have to earn it she's just not for me. Period. I see men and women as equals and sex as an experience to share. Women who treat sez as a reward have to stay miles away from me. It's just that I don't like them and they are toxic and manipulative! EDIT: lol I went a little bit further reading. Can you explain me where I said I th…
/r/seduction21/06/22 07:29 PM
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No! It's stalking!
/r/seduction15/06/22 11:25 AM
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Not sure why all these people advising not to do it. What's the risk? Seriously what could be a reason not to do it? It's not very clear. Won't help with your confidence? Ok, but it won't undermine it as well, won't be fun? Ok, your first time with whoever won't be fun. I don't see honestly any reason not to try that. You have nothing to lose. Go live your experiences man!
/r/seduction14/06/22 09:17 AM
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So do hook ups on tinder actually exist?
/r/seduction12/06/22 09:20 PM
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It's not just a matter of priority. People have lives too. I always take my time to reply to a girl even if I'm very interested just because I don't want to spend my life texting and because I'm a busy person. Wasting time texting is the most annoying thing ever. If a girl pointed out she would like me to reply more often I would say 'bye'. If a girl messages me too much I lose interest. Messages are good for create a bit of banter and fixing dates. Period I don't have to tell anyone everything …
/r/seduction01/06/22 11:55 PM
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Where can I find this older gentleman?
/r/seduction29/05/22 06:58 AM
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I totally understand you. I used to hang out with a guy who everything he was doing was approaching girls. I saw him getting rejected for a year until one day he got his first phone number and....boom...it was like something switched on....he started pulling every time we went out, one or two nights numbers. So, watching him, I realized it was possible and that probably at some point something clicked inside him and changed him in a successful approacher. A night it was me and him at a club. 2 g…
/r/seduction28/05/22 07:59 AM
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You're the guy every guy wants to be man. The average guy doesn't get any reply on Instagram. Sleeping with Instagram hotties with 3 messages is everyone dream. You've got a superpower and like marvel characters your power makes you lonely. Try getting a few pounds on (joking)
/r/seduction25/05/22 05:35 PM
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It's the opposite problem any man has. Here's my theory: you're above average looking and in great shape. Women sleep with guys like you but for a relationship prefer someone who's giving them "safer" and "quieter" vibes, someone more in the norm, not someone who's not gonna be desired by every woman in the neighbourhood, especially if he approaches women on socials normally and sleeps with them easily.
/r/seduction25/05/22 11:55 AM
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True and that's the only explanation I can find
/r/seduction07/03/22 02:57 PM
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Sorry, the only pattern I can find is this: if I like them they don't like me. There's no other obvious pattern. It could be that I'm less confident with a girl I like, it could be I just have to lower my standards but I had enough of dating girls I don't like.
/r/seduction07/03/22 02:57 PM
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Exactly.
/r/seduction07/03/22 02:55 PM
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Of course I'm talking about girls I slept with or have told me their interest clearly. The problem is not that I can't keep them around, cause i get rejected earlier than that. I slept with women I've liked only twice in my life and they didn't give me a second chance but the usual stuff is that I can't sleep with them even just once whilst I have a queue of women I don't like available to sleep with me at my terms Nd I'm not up for it anymore.
/r/seduction07/03/22 02:54 PM
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I look at women mate, I call them girls cause that's what I'm used to, I'm not native English speaker and maybe that's the issue, but the women I date range from 32 to 45. They are women, not girls. The common trend I see between people who like me is I don't like them, whereas the common trend between the women I like is they don't like me. I don't think I have unrealistic expectations, I don't want to date a top model but a normal woman who I find s little attractive. I'm tired of sleeping wit…
/r/seduction07/03/22 02:50 PM
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Yes I've been dating women I don't like for a while and I'm unhappy. I'd rather be on my own. I mean I'm not attracted to them sexually.
/r/seduction07/03/22 02:47 PM
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I don't do daygame and I don't usually approach girls in the street. I use dating apps and I hit in girls I like from my work, when I was at school, from the circle of friends. There has always been a constant flow of girls into me, unless I'm attracted to them. That's a constant pattern. If I like them they say they see me as a friend or that I'm handsome and nice but for some reason they don't feel like wanting more than friendship. I had enough. Thank you for your reply.
/r/seduction06/03/22 11:24 PM
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This ☝🏻 nothing to add. Even tho you might not realise it, escalation is something you do together.
/r/seduction08/01/22 10:19 AM
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