Confused: is this a shit test?

DaygameCode · 2024-03-02T12:22:07+00:00

Dude, you need to chill. You take the game waaaaay too seriously. Like she got under your skin just over a freaking profile picture. 🤣

TRTGymBro · 2024-03-02T12:49:55+00:00

I read through some of your old posts and have no idea what to make of you. It sounds like you have some real paranoia and anger issues with women. Not saying you shouldn't be careful, but your over-defensiveness and over-sensitivity are just...weird.

Also, I just don't think you know what you want. That's why these women are ghosting you and ignoring you. What the fuck do you want? A WhatsApp pen pal? Talking about her dog's cancer?

gtaIIIstan · 2024-03-02T13:19:06+00:00

No frame and you take her and yourself way too seriously. Yes, I know in the comments you say you "don't let anyone cross your boundaries" but it's not that deep. Besides, the best way to demonstrate you have strong boundaries is through humor in this instance. Stop appealing to "almighty reason" and start playing to emotions. This is what wins the day a lot of the time and more men need to be focused on cultivating this vibe in their interactions, not being so serious and framing her as your judge. I might've started by replying "#internationalmanofmystery" or "I think the photo automatically appears after a successful first date ; ) " This is you prizing yourself and being playful.

As I've said many times, just because she asks you a question, doesn't mean you have to answer it. And if you do, it doesn't have to be in the way she expects. One guy turns the interaction into one where she's chasing him. Another guy turns it into one where he is being weirdly elusive and qualifying to her. The first is good, the second is bad.

"Yes, this is my ghost haunting this phone 👻👻👻👻" was a decent attempt but it came too late and also isn't the sexiest thing to call yourself. And you don't even commit to the bit because after her "I can't believe that, hehe" you go straight back to talking about WhatsApp again lol.

Me: "cause they would be thinking I'm showing off 🤣. Joking aside, no hiding, I just never thought about it"

Again, you're harping on it way too much. You complied to her request, which is sort of you ceding frame, but bottomline is she gave you a compliment. Yet you didn't take it anywhere. This is not the time for humility and overall you handled this interaction poorly. So take the compliment and actually move the conversation somewhere. It hasn't been going anywhere for 10 messages. If someone is calling me handsome, I'm asking them out on a date and actually moving the interaction somewhere.

xcoreflyup · 2024-03-02T09:14:18+00:00

pretty sure that was a compliance test.

Its ok, my friend. have fun with the next girl.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-03-02T09:30:43+00:00

It's not a scam, she's a legit person. I can tell 100% as I have experience if fake profiles and they're not difficult to spot.

That's how you get scammed.

Don't bother communicating on text. The last time I did was in 2012. I texted for months met her and rode her at a wedding..

Arrange to meet asap. Just text the details get on with your life.

Life is too short to be playing games.

No_Plan8250 · 2024-03-02T12:19:03+00:00

She: "not an issue. It's strange, hehe" That was really annoying me but she's foreigner

Having no picture on your WhatsApp isn't common, so while there's a language barrier, it is a bit odd OP.

In the same vein you're talking about scammers, she could also be thinking the same thing. Plenty of women get ripped off in lover boy schemes (pro tip: you cannot tell 100% if someone is a scammer - your absolute confidence in this will be your downfall)

Was it a shit test? No, it's probably just confusion on her part. She's never seen this before and thought it was odd. Your tepid reasoning for not having one and skirting the issue would be a bit of a flag from the other side.

The atmosphere shifted to a more relaxed tone and we started talking about her dog with cancer.

Did it shift to a relaxed tone?? Sounds more like a buzz kill for me. I'd say that's why the messaging died.

If there was a shit test, Im not entirely sure you'd "have passed it in any other context with girls even hotter than her" either because I think you have a lot to learn about texting and maintaining an exciting energy on that platform.

VientoDelNorte · 2024-03-02T14:17:59+00:00

I think you lacked assertiveness.

-No, I don't have a photo on my profile because I like it that way. And that is not going to change. If it's going to be a problem for you, maybe we're not as compatible as we thought. And the best thing is that everyone follows their path.

If you start by giving in, you will eventually end up becoming someone you are not.

Boosteddreamer · 2024-03-02T18:12:46+00:00

If this is that big of a issue to you, you have some personal issues you need to work out.

Title	Confused: is this a shit test?
Author	aquilaruspante1
Upvotes	0
Comments	13
Date	March 2, 2024 8:56 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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