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Saying women shouldn't be treated as objects is not saying all men treat them as objects. Etc. You're reading what you wanted me to have said, not what I actually said. Everyone is socialized in society. You're just saying you think the way young men are currently socialized is fine. I think there's too many grifters trying to tell teenagers that being a man means not having connections to others and owning things. It's not training, it's a message, and the current message is shitty.
/r/MensRights07/09/25 01:24 AM
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So you're saying men are naturally like that and need to be trained to not be? The things you quoted were predatory behavior, namely, domestic violence and assault. It was literally you who said that. You just didn't use the word predator. Do you mind if I ask you those questions or not? If you don't want me to ask, that's fine.
/r/MensRights07/09/25 12:06 AM
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Nothing in there says men are naturally predators. Shit, it doesn't even say anything along the lines of "men are predators." In fact, it says the exact opposite, that many mens' ideas about manhood, women, and girls are shaped through socialization, which is damn near tautological fact. People are influenced by the environment around them. presumably women and their male converts These are your words. That organization was started by two dudes. Do you mind if I ask you some questions to show yo…
/r/MensRights06/09/25 09:29 PM
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What's your issue with that? Is it that they agree that women shouldn't be seen as objects? Or that they are against harassment, domestic violence, and rape?
/r/MensRights06/09/25 06:33 PM
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This is one of the dumbest posts I've seen in a long time. You asked a leading question of an AI that wants to blow smoke up your ass and think you've unlocked the world's secrets. I've worked with chemically castrated men. Many of them are just as aggressive, both physically and sexually, as they were before. Thinking a castrated man is "submissive" and any other quality like it is dangerous for everyone around them.
/r/MensRights06/09/25 01:46 PM
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I've never had to show a passport or birth certificate to vote, so this is actually extra barriers.
/r/MensRights13/04/25 03:34 PM
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Voting shouldn't be contingent on child support. End of story.
/r/MensRights13/04/25 03:12 PM
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Some people lose one document but not the other. Shit happens. Why put barriers in place of voters when fraudulent votes make up less than a margin of error in vote counts. It's like making gun free zones, the only people it effects are people that are going to abide by it.
/r/MensRights13/04/25 03:10 PM
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C9nservarive judges are more likely to award the mom whatever she wants. Liberal judges realize what's best for the kids isn't cookie cutter. If it was the other way around than we'd historically have dads getting full custody and moms getting kicked to the curb.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/24 11:03 PM
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Dude, you're unhinged. Wow, you come to a forum with TONS OF EMPIRICAL EVIDENCE I came here with the exact amount of evidence you did for your claim. You literally need to see a therapist or something. Your hate will consume you.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 10:39 PM
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You've gotta be kidding. You sound like the most crybaby little teenage boy ever. You're not a "master of logic" or "male brained" or whatever other shitty ideal you have of yourself. You're mad because you got divorced (which is a valid reaction) and then decided that 50% of people were inherently wicked (which isn't true). Grow the fuck up.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 07:53 PM
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You have a court order. It needs to be followed or nothing in it matters. My ex did this to me, had thileir grandma take them clothes shopping when my son was supposed to be have a small birthday party. I told her off (in writing) and made sure to bring it up in the hearing we had already had scheduled. She's literally violating a court order. Don't let her get away with it because she'll do it forever.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 06:16 PM
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I've been on this sub since 2017, and I know exactly what it is (and isn't). What you've described has nothing to do with actual men's rights. When's the last time someone came here for help with an employer putting them in a dangerous situation? When is the last time a dad came here looking for custody advice and actually got some? When I came here for help and advice, I was just told a bunch of generalities about court for men, which didn't even turn out to be true.
/r/MensRights28/05/23 07:21 PM
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This sub offers one perspective, and that's an amalgamation of red and black pill thought. I gave advice to seek a sub that doesn't offer a single perspective and you give a cosmic brain response. Get real. Go to those subs that you "don't think exist" and see if people argue in the comments. Then come back here and see if more than a couple people with a dissenting opinion are here. I don't mean each person is objective, and you knew that when you commented.
/r/MensRights28/05/23 01:23 PM
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Wait, so instead of looking inward and saying "damn, this criticism was deserved and we should work to be better for the people looking for advice" you say "damn straight we're subjective in our view points and purposely exclude any other perspective. Show me someone who isn't." That's a problem with your own shit, my guy.
/r/MensRights28/05/23 01:06 PM
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This isn't the subreddit for this question, buddy. If you're asking people to objectively weigh the actions of your date against your desires then you should find a different sub. If you want people to trash your date in the most obviously subjective ways possible and with no further critical analysis, then you're in the right place.
/r/MensRights28/05/23 11:43 AM
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This is tagged as humor but it looks like everyone here, OP included, is treating this pretty seriously.
/r/MensRights21/05/23 05:47 PM
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My ex moved across state lines on the opposite end of the state. She's been trying to push arbitration, but I see no point in it because life isn't hard on the kids and changing the status quo isn't something I'm worried about. Don't give in OP. They're your kids, too.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 10:33 PM
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Don't do any of her paperwork. For about a million reasons, don't. You will do the same paperwork for your lawyer and if the information is ever exchanged you leave that up to your lawyer. BUT you wife gave you a great present by handing you all that info, so make sure you copy it and send that ylto your lawyer when you have one.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 09:45 PM
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I had a different experience in a temporary matter hearing. She said she didn't know where I worked despite me having the same job for 3 years by the time she took the stand AND despite having to refile financial disclosures just 5 months prior. I won and the judge tore into her in the order. That's happened basically every time we've gone to court. I don't know if I'm just fortunate, but family court has been completely different for me than it was for my dad.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 02:18 AM
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Why are you letting your kids be with that lunatic? Why does she just take them as she pleases?
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 02:14 AM
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Revisionism aside, ALL women except royalty, and even in many cases royal women, too, were considered property. Free men with the right to come and go always had more rights than women. There are a lot of reasonable things contemporarily to be mad about, you don't need to rewrite history to try to make yourself the victim.
/r/MensRights23/03/23 07:06 PM
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It does happen to women all the time. This isn't an "us vs. them" issue, this is a systemic issue that hurts both genders.
/r/MensRights06/10/22 01:46 AM
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The reason you're here looking for a response to this is because it's true. Women can perpetuate this behavior and be the victims of the same behavior, just like men can do and be the same. So your response should be to look to yourself and see if you're repressing your emotions and figure out how to cut people out of your life that expect that from you just because you're a man.
/r/MensRights01/10/22 12:31 AM
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Isn't this the theme of like 50% of porn? I'd say it's already accepted in the reverse.
/r/MensRights19/09/22 04:41 PM
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What's the context here? You just posted the reaction, not what they were reacting to.
/r/MensRights05/09/22 01:15 PM
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Withholding them as a tit-for-tat and against the court order would be using them as a pawn.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/20 08:58 PM
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This is NOT the answer. Family court doesn't give a shit about what your intentions are.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/20 08:50 PM
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Morally, yes. Legally, no. She had no right to keep them from you. My state's (Iowa) Supreme Court already ruled that covid concerns are not cause for withholding time with the kids (I'd have to read more about it, but I think that is besides if the other parent is showing symptoms or had a positive test). I know other states have ruled similarly.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/20 08:48 PM
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I don't know what your personal situation is but she's objectively a danger to your kids. You should go for full custody based on what I read here. There is nothing ok about driving drunk with the kids. If I were in your shoes I wouldn't hesitate to ask my mom to retire and help. Your kids are gonna be messed up if they grow up think it's normal or ok to be messed up all the time and driving drunk and living in an unstable situation.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/20 02:57 PM
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Here to "third" this. Seek marriage therapy. Even if you are leaning more toward divorce, fine, but you probably could benefit from this, too. And if in a couple months you still want to be divorced then just do it and don't hold back. Good luck dude. Better to get it over with if that's what is best for you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/20 05:51 PM
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Very tangentially related: I was talking with a couple of coworkers when one of them said she doesn't let her husband play video games so I probed: what if he had the day off? What if your kid was asleep and he had already done x hours of stuff around the house? Etc. Nope. She hates it when he plays video games no matter what. Some women just hate that their partner has found something they enjoy. I guess this was related mostly to the red flag thing. That conversation has been eating at me and …
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/20 03:40 AM
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No. She pays me. She makes more than I do. She only pays me a little over $100/mo, but my lawyer was interested in some poetic justice and we got it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/20 05:54 PM
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I know this doesn't mean a ton because we probably live in different states, but women don't "always get the kids" anymore. I fought for 50/50 custody and my ex fought for full custody. I won. In many states now it depends on what kind of relationship the other parent is willing to foster between the kids and the non-custodial parent. My ex tried to push me out of their life every chance she got and the court sided with me all 4 times we went. Talk to a lawyer. It might make you feel a whole lot…
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/20 09:54 PM
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No. Some people know what they want, she apparently figured it out before making a life long mistake (from her perspective).
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/20 06:19 PM
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they've been called the framers [of the constitution] for forever. "Framer" is a generic term for someone that writes the original text of a bill or debated it before it became law. Using the word "framer" or "the framers" without further context usually refers to the people that signed the constitution.
/r/MensRights23/02/20 06:54 PM
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If your state doesn't have any info then it could be that she got married out of state, or it might be that it just hasn't been recorded in the system yet, depending on how your state records marriage licenses.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/19 05:48 AM
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I would say don't ask her at all. It's just telegraphing. Asking would be an absolute last resort.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/19 05:46 AM
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This is kind of what my ex did. We went through a few months of marriage therapy before she handed me the papers at the therapist's office. ​ I had a long discussion with the therapist afterwards and he divulged in me that he believed, from what was happening and what she said, that she was going to file for a divorce no matter, she just wanted the counseling sessions so that she could say she tried. This fit because I had been telling her for years that I wanted us to go to a marriage therapist…
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/19 12:39 AM
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I totally get it. After my temp order I was paying 3/4 of my monthly take home into child care and child support. It sucks. You're allowed to whine. Go for it. ​ But is this how it goes? It depends on the state. Do you have a lawyer? Tell them to file some sort of motion with the court regarding the GAL. The GAL isn't doing their job and it's not helping you or your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/19 04:37 AM
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We need a little more info. Do you all have kids? Assets? Does she work? Do you work?
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/19 10:28 AM
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Regardless of whether your ex is in fact a stupid cunt, the judge won't look kindly on you calling her one. The degree to which you two get along is a key factor in getting your parental rights back.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/19 03:05 AM
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The kids are going to be disrupted no matter what. This is a huge lifestyle change for them, no matter what the outcome is. Don't let the idea of them being "disrupted" keep you from fighting for a full fledged relationship with your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/19 05:48 AM
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No. There's a huge difference between the sub and yours is generally unhelpful if there's any way the marriage can be saved. shoo.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/19 05:46 AM
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It's not that nobody in the system knows it needs to change or even how it needs to change, it's that this is the one branch of government that is slowest to change and there's even a reason for it. It's supposed to be least swayed by public opinion. That said, maybe having marriage and divorce presided over by the judicial system was the wrong move in the first place.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/19 02:52 AM
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Somebody else asked a similar question in one of the x-posts I did. Here was my response. We're not talking about a lawyer that simply isn't good here. We're talking about borderline incompetent. A goods lawyer follows deadlines, knows procedures, has a plan, and advises their client. They want the process to go as fast as possible and get their client what they can. A bad lawyer files endless extensions, addresses issues as they arise (versus trying to predict possible issues), violates procedu…
/r/MensRights18/03/19 02:57 AM
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Yeah. I'm pretty fortunate. I think #7 and #12 are the best pieces of advice I can give a divorcing dad. Without following those I would have been absolutely shit on. There were countless times where I could have responded or reacted in an equally shitty way to my ex and nobody would have batted an eye except the judge. I stood up for myself, but I didn't let her bring me down to her level, so she couldn't ever use it against me.
/r/MensRights16/03/19 09:35 PM
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Right? Like I had said, he was following our state's guidelines, but I don't know why they even allow a requested review on monetary grounds if they aren't allowed to change it... Either way, the temp order was something I didn't talk much about in the post. Even though it has made me drown, it was probably my most powerful piece of evidence. The judge had given my ex pretty basic directions on how she needed to change her behavior and that to not follow them would only be hurting her own case. …
/r/MensRights16/03/19 06:59 PM
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I don't think that's an unfair thing to say from the outside looking in. I'm not sure I could ever feel that way though. I remember when my daughter was born, I thought I was going to be that stoic and stern dad in the operating room but when I saw her I kinda feel apart. I remember her first laugh. I can't stop thinking about the way my son greets me whenever he sees me, how he almost sprints in place because he's so excited. Or how I was broken when he had to have surgery when he was just a fe…
/r/MensRights16/03/19 06:46 PM
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I wrote that at the top under "outcome." We are officially divorced, we have 50/50 custody, she has "primary," which as far as I know that just affects taxes in this situation, and she pays me about $100 in support a month.
/r/MensRights16/03/19 06:39 PM
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Given the circumstances, if I was any more interested in my kids' lives I'd be quitting my job. I'm cool with that. I was a stay at home dad for a year. I just don't think my land lord would like it, nor the grocery store that I'd be stealing all of our food from, nor any one of the number of places I'd need to pay for necessities.
/r/MensRights16/11/18 06:40 AM
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Nanny, daycare, and private school. Costs we didn't have a problem covering together (and with only one mortgage) but which are much more taxing when rolled in with everything else that goes with divorce.
/r/MensRights16/11/18 06:35 AM
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There's a document, don't remember what it's called, but it's basically a request the court review how much they've ordered to pay and the persons overall expenses. We're submitting that soon. But we'll see.
/r/MensRights15/11/18 03:53 PM
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Move your family to a better state for a year, demand she gets a job, then divorce her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/18 09:46 AM
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I'm most impressed with 5 months support only being $1400.
/r/MensRights20/09/18 09:34 AM
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I've honest-to-god tried. Not just now, but also for a year and half before she served me the papers. I wish her no ill will. I actually hope she becomes a happy person, but right now it seems her onpy goal in life is to try to stress me the fuck out... I was even putting over 80% of my paychecks into the joint account until I moved out last month, and that was just because I needed money to move out. She was livid about it, despite doing everything she could to be as hostile as possible while w…
/r/MensRights15/09/18 11:23 AM
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She claims to believe I am a danger to our kids, so yeah, it's a bit hostile. For the record, I told the mediator what "evidence" she has that I'm a danger to our kids and he literally laughed. Every lawyer I've told has said "... and? Anything else?" ​ We both make the same amount if I work OT. She's salaried. She never gave up earning potential for our kids. She had wanted to and I set things up for her to be a stay at home mom, but she turned around and served me with divorce papers instead. …
/r/MensRights15/09/18 10:29 AM
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Hmm. My lawyer is telling me I'll be paying a thousand dollars a month, we make the same amount (if I work OT) and in the agreement (not signed yet) she gets 8/14 days and I get 6/14 plus "liberal visitation" of two extra days a week, where I get to visit them but they stay the night at mom's place.
/r/MensRights15/09/18 10:21 AM
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How do you both pay support? Does she make significantly more than you?
/r/MensRights15/09/18 09:24 AM
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This is the only answer you need to pay attention to if you want a stable, self-respecting life for your kids and yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/18 09:06 AM
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I don't know of any checklists, but I know I've got my eyes on the coffee maker and you can bet your ass I'm taking some cleaning supplies and half the wash cloths.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/18 01:50 PM
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Temporary custody hearing. Get a lawyer yesterday.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/18 11:08 PM
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Tell her to pound sand. That's joint money you used for something that would have been a joint expense the day prior. That said, if you're legally separated now then make sure you separate your finances, too. And do that ASAP.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/18 07:16 PM
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Therapist is a good idea.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/18 02:45 AM
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Yeah, I'm recording audio. I recently argued with her, but I was controlled and kept an even tone and recorded it. I wanted to get her on recording corroborating my documentation that she didn't let me see our kids more than an hour at a time over the weekend.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 08:41 PM
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God, I'm glad I came here.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 07:29 PM
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One party consent just means that only one person, out of however many, who is having a conversation needs to give consent for the recording to be legal. I can't tell you if it's allowable, it does seem a bit sketch that the recordings all start mid-argument, though.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 06:32 PM
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I know, I'm weighing my options here. She's pushing hard to fet me to move out this is probably exactly why. But the bottom line is that I'm not moving out until the house is refinanced in her name alone, she has paid me the equity, and there is some sort of parental plan in place. She makes the same as I do (a tad more actually) so financial support would be out of the question if we had a 50/50 agreement for custody. But it can't be that simple. So what an I leaving out here,
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 01:13 PM
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I know, I want to avoid court for now. We're still living in the same house right now. I want to move out soon (a couple different lawyers have assured me this won't effect custody), but until then it would be a waste of time getting the court to rule on temporary custody. It looks like she's shooting herself in the foot by pulling this shit. I think it was Sun Tzu that said it: Don't interrupt your enemy while (s)he is making a mistake.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/18 10:54 PM
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Nothing yet. We have mediation coming up soon here.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/18 09:07 PM
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I have it in writing that she took our kids. I can easily get her parents to verify the approximate amount of time I spent with them. I really wish she would talk to her lawyer because then we could avoid all the dramatic BS, but she hasn't gone beyond a consultation yet. Thanks for the help, u/Terrenord.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/18 06:47 PM
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You're going into this thinking the court is making a decision about your kid's future. They're not. They making a decision about your kids present that will remain in place for the foreseeable future. Breast feeding babes need to brast feed. Don't let the court make a ridiculous decision. Bide you time until breast feeding is done. It sucks, I know. I've been miserable for the past year and a half. But I'd do it all again if it guaranteed 50/50. In a heartbeat.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/18 04:45 PM
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Waiting it out is worth it. You don't want to be excluded from your kid's life. I promise if you get 50-50, the misery will be worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/18 04:22 PM
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I thought Iowa was a 2 party consent state, but it looks like it's single party consent, so I just might do that. Thanks, man.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/18 07:06 PM
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Get a good lawyer. Edit: as in, now.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/18 08:16 AM
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I'm not sure this is good advice. This might just set her off...?
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/18 09:16 PM
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I'm sure you're right. At this point I think we just both want this over with. But I'll follow your advice just to cover my ass. It's difficult right now because our son is in the hospital (medical disability, he'll be okay, but it makes planning awkward.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/18 04:53 PM
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Thanks man. And yeah, I'm not moving out without stipulations. It's her house too, so I'm not moving without her paying me for my equity in the house. We also discussed furniture and whatnot. I'm not sure if we're on the same page, but stuff like the couches are things I'm not worried about. But I need a decent bed, a bed for my daughter and crib for my son, etc. We have two large tvs, we agreed on who gets what one, who gets what dishes. It's pretty much literally just custody we don't seem to …
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/18 04:30 PM
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What I meant by her proposed visitation is that what she wants is a visitation. I might as well be in prison with what she wants. I know what she wants will never happen.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/18 11:30 AM
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We came up with some agreeable terms for me to move out. Iowa doesn't consider a parent moving out when determining custody, so I'm not worried about that. I was before, but my lawyer set me straight. Now I need to learn on how to keep from helping her when kids are involved. I have a hard time saying no already because they are my soft spot.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/18 04:04 AM
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Yeah, it was more of a rant. Every lawyer I've talked to just laughed when I told them her proposed visitation. I'm not worried anymore. She's honestly a good mom, and if she ends up being more agreeable on the custody issue I'll likely agree to her being the primary parent. If I get one less day a week than she does then I'll be fine.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/18 04:00 AM
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Thanks man. My kids love me and I'm not going to do anything that will allow her to take that away from me.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/18 09:24 PM
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I'm not going to say I'm impervious to head games, but I'm pretty good at poker, if that gives you an idea. My dad and stepmom went through one of the nastiest divorces this past century, so I have an idea of where it can go. Thank you for the tips and support though, they'll definitely be at the front of my mind the whole time.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/18 09:22 PM
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She was much more agreeable to interim child care this morning. She spoke with a lawyer this yesterday, so I think they set her straight. Every lawyer I've talked to so far has basically laughed at her custody demands.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/18 02:59 PM
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Already subbed. I've been fighting it pretty successfully, proper diet and exercise have been great. It's still hard when the person you love would be happier is you failed rather than succeeded. I just need to work out more and work on my future and my kids' future. It'll be nice when I'm finally not living with someone working against my self-interest.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/18 02:08 AM
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The lawyer I talked to said I didn't fuck it up, so we're golden. Thanks again, Mr. Squats.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/18 01:25 AM
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I know, I should have tagged this as a rant or support. I talked to my first lawyer today and he pretty much said what you did. Thanks for responding.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/18 01:17 AM
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Working on everything, but I might have fucked up a bit this morning. We'll see. And I've been working on me for a while. I lost 40 pounds. Yeah, what that song? "Sorry, Not Sorry"? Done and done.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/18 04:58 PM
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