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This is the most honest post here. As a guy who has improved his game, I can say looks are the biggest factor. If you truly are good looking, as long as u are normal you will get results
/r/seduction28/11/24 09:49 AM
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Profile is everything on dating apps. So many guys have crappy photos, and then say OLD doesnt work. Im not saying it does or does not work, im saying no one can give a solid conclusion when they havent tried OLD properly.
/r/seduction24/08/24 08:28 AM
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That's not just your reality, thats most guys reality lol. Men are suppose to be the ones making the moves. I wouldn't completely exclude apps without giving them a chance. I know some guys who try everything (cold approach, apps, social circle etc), ideally you wanna maximize everything to boost your odds. I know a guy who does decent on bumble, and if you end up creating a good profile and get some matches here and there, then thats great. If not, then you can ditch the apps and stick to other…
/r/seduction24/08/24 07:36 AM
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It can get easy to get caught up with the negativity and because we're human we automatically think its our looks But I truly think its just the way the dating marketing is nowadays. Its harsh but it is the reality.
/r/seduction24/08/24 07:20 AM
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All good bro. I'll be honest with you man, I've had over 1000+ approaches (over the span of 4 years on and off But I've had very little success with cold approach personally. And tbh I know im not bad looking, im a decent looking guy and in shape and ive had girls like me outside of cold approach (social circle, work etc) I just think dating has gotten much much harder, particularly with the rise of social media But despite that the only reason I still do cold approach is because its the most co…
/r/seduction24/08/24 07:19 AM
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Im in the same boat. I think dating has just gotten harder, its just the way things are. I looked at your pics, you’re far from ugly, so looks aren’t the issue.
/r/seduction24/08/24 06:48 AM
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Im one of those guys, cant comment on apps as I havent tried em but have had very little success with cold approach (despite doing 1000+ approaches and analysing and improving interactions over time) Im not sure what it is. Maybe as an ethnic coloured guy cold approach in a western country doesnt work, or maybe dating is just very very difficult now Idk. Only reason I do cold approach is because its still improving my skills with women which are transferrable to other areas. Otherwise if I focus…
/r/seduction22/08/24 05:28 PM
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I love this post but one thing ive always struggled to figure out is this part ​ " Before trying to change anything, did you check if you were really free in your life? Are you free to ask people out whenever you want to hang out with them? Are you free to make someone stop when he insults you? Are you free to open your mouth in public if someone is doing something you are not okay with? " ​ How am I suppose to "make someone stop when they insult me" or open my mouth if im not okay with someone …
/r/seduction05/01/21 10:05 AM
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I've made a thread on this a week ago, well said.
/r/seduction15/11/20 04:04 AM
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ive edited the original post and added some of ur replies in. Ur replies were the best and alligned most with reality.
/r/seduction12/11/20 05:31 AM
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While I understand where you're coming from, you will never have your life all set. When you get something, you will want another afterwards. This post wasn't about having a literal 'perfect life', read my edit to the original post as I explain this
/r/seduction12/11/20 05:19 AM
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I updated my original post, have a look at it to see what i mean't
/r/seduction12/11/20 05:16 AM
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I updated my original post, have a look at it to see what i mean't
/r/seduction12/11/20 05:15 AM
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This guy gets it, great replies Douglex.
/r/seduction12/11/20 05:06 AM
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Amen to that. When your life is in order, you feel real confidence and it shows. Because you love your life, your body, your mind, your family and social circle, your career, et cetera. It radiates. You appear worthy because you sincerely believe you are worthy. i do direct, direct is best imo, but indirect works too, its just about preference.
/r/seduction12/11/20 05:02 AM
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Spot on Douglex, I am glad you get the idea. I think most of the people that don't understand my perspective haven't done game or done game much, but after they have done it, all of this will make much more sense
/r/seduction12/11/20 04:55 AM
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" huge inner game shift is being okay with your life and still being able to approach " I get what you mean, but it isn't that easy. If you can do that, I am happy for you. But this thread speaks for the majority of people. For most people inner game isnt just something u snap ur fingers and it gets fixed. u need to be working on ur life such as career and other things to keep building it up.
/r/seduction07/11/20 07:34 AM
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Improving inner-game is just about improving your life. Like I've mentioned in my post, even little things can increase inner-game. Such as drivers license and car. If you get that sorted, thats one less problem out of your life, subconsciously, all these little things fixed will build up your self esteem. You'd be surprised how much small things like the car example I gave, can pile up and stress you out (even if you don't realise it). You can improve bigger problems, such as career and finance…
/r/seduction07/11/20 07:01 AM
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No worries. Don't ever let anyone tell you its an excuse not to game. Getting your life set is not an excuse, its something that will benefit u down the line when u finally do decidr u have good inner-game/life set to game.
/r/seduction07/11/20 04:55 AM
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Depends on individual, read my replies to ppl above. In my case dropping game was perfectly reasonable, i created this thread for those in a similar situation who might need a change of perspective or guidance
/r/seduction07/11/20 04:53 AM
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Very good points. It could also depend on the individual. I am decently experienced in game, so ive actively gone out and approached since march. For me personally, game is far too distracting and actually made me feel worse because it made me realise i donr have much value to offer. I remember going on a date and feeling miserable realising that all this effort could have been spent far more productively on my career and social relationships such as friendships. After dropping game I became far…
/r/seduction07/11/20 04:51 AM
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100%
/r/seduction07/11/20 04:45 AM
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You could, but i find that I see more improvements in other aspects of my life when im not focused on game. And its not an excuse - If u reaply dont have your life together, that should be far more of a concern than dating. I have room to talk as ive gone out and actively daygamed, but I use to be like you with the "no excuses" thing Create a solid foundation first which u dedicate most ur time (e.g career). Game can be done on the side but its a distraction as to get good at game, u do need to …
/r/seduction07/11/20 04:44 AM
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Lol mate, I think im experienced enough to have a strong opinion on this mattet I use to have that mindset too, but this really is not an excuse and this is coming from someone who has actively gone out and done daygame, so im not all theory and talk. if you don't have your life set, game really shouldnt be a priority. But at the end of the day its just advice, do whatever u want
/r/seduction07/11/20 04:40 AM
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Fair yeah. My numbers look like 1/3 boyfriend, 1/3 no (like they left or just refused for a non bf reason. Might’ve had a bf too!), and 1/3 number. So that’s actually around 1/2 from girls who at least don’t directly say they have bf. The real killer imo is the number to date percentage, but I’ve been remedying that w better connection/tension building in set and more discussing date logistics in set. Seems to be working. What are your thoughts on instant dates? Some people say they are a waste …
/r/seduction14/10/20 06:03 AM
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After a point, you need to ask "so.. how do you spend your time?"From the answer, you need to find some common points and invite her to do some activities related to those common points. I made an edit on the post, thank you for your advice.
/r/seduction13/10/20 09:03 AM
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I made an edit on the post, thank you for your advice.
/r/seduction13/10/20 09:01 AM
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Also be selective with who you approach. Make sure they are attractive to you and they show some interest. It’s easier to be engaged when you actually want her. I made an edit on the post, thank you for your advice.
/r/seduction13/10/20 09:01 AM
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I made an edit on the post, thank you for your advice.
/r/seduction13/10/20 09:00 AM
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Let’s not talk about numbers or dates. Do most of your sets seem happy that you came to talk to them? Like she says wow I really respect your confidence and you seem cool, but I’m going to have to decline. Or if she doesn’t directly say that, she at least signals it. Yeah they do seem happy, but most of them have boyfriends. My perspective has changed a bit, check updated post.
/r/seduction13/10/20 08:42 AM
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First off let me tip my hat to your perseverance. You're an animal in that sense. Now for the good, the bad, and the ugly. I completely agree. I am going to update this post so make sure to read what I also realised after doing some analysis. You made some excellent points, I think this whole pua thing eventually made me less authentic but also, I think a big reason for such bad stats is because I ran into women who were mostly single and ill be honest, sometimes I'd just approach avg looking gi…
/r/seduction13/10/20 08:41 AM
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I know 100%. Cause I'd write everything I did wrong on notes, and the next time I'd game, I'd do better. After lots of experience I realised this is a numbers game and daygame works best for people good looking. If she is not physically attracted to u, no amount of game will work. Game is not mind control. Daygame is basically getting rejected until u bump into a chick who is attracted to u and then as long as u behave normal and have decent game, u likely got a date with her. Reason PUA coaches…
/r/seduction12/10/20 02:35 PM
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I think I also mainly wanna focus on social circle game. Most people I know get far better results from this and they don't even work nearly as hard as daygamers. That combined with night game might be best.
/r/seduction12/10/20 02:21 PM
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If you’re getting numbers and no text back then you’re not making a connection and you’re not doing something memorable. Again it’s the quality of the interaction that’s important. I used have the same results. I don't think so man. After this much experience, my game has improved significantly. I can understand why you hate post like this, cause its negative, but you gotta understand that its coming from frustration from a guy who has actually gone out and done lots of the practical side of thi…
/r/seduction12/10/20 02:18 PM
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Don't follow any "statistics" regarding seduction, I guarantee is bullshit. I'm sure nightgame is easier because is a scenario where pretty much every person is there to have fun (clubs, bars, malls..), so people are a lot more open to small talk and socializing in general. Just keep your dedication and change your approach, i'm sure you will be fine. What do u mean ur sure nightgame is easier? Have u personally never done nightgame? I am definitely a very dedicated person, would love to shift m…
/r/seduction12/10/20 12:41 PM
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Yeah initially when I started daygame back in march, I use to enjoy it cause I wasnt outcome dependant. But after a while of not seeing basically any results, I realised this is ridiculous despite my game becoming much better. But I've heard lay rates for nightgame are also very low like 1-2% according to some posts on reddit, do u think this is true?
/r/seduction12/10/20 12:13 PM
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Have you asked others to rate your photos? Someone objective like a stranger. I've always prefered nightgame because daygame yields low results for anyone, and nightgame is fun even if you have no results. No I haven't but I have seen some people on r/Rateme me who get like 4-5/10 for looks, who are shorter and worse looking then me. Also, I am thinking of switching to nightgame, im getting sick and tired of daygame and like u said, at least nightgame will be more fun.
/r/seduction12/10/20 12:01 PM
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I've seen many posts online and I think people are right, game is not mind control. If she is not physically attracted, nothing will work. I've seen many posts online and I think people are right, game is not mind control. If she is not physically attracted, nothing will work. I've seen peoples infields of having worse game then mine and still getting way more dates
/r/seduction12/10/20 11:50 AM
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Don't think its to do with my sets bro. I've seen many posts online and I think people are right, game is not mind control. If she is not physically attracted, nothing will work. So maybe im just ugly even thought I was average this entire time. I will continue doing daygame as I got no choice, as I dont have many other ways of meeting women currently, so I think instead of 10 approaches per day for 5 days, I will do 5 per day so it saves me from overinvesting time in game cause at this point im…
/r/seduction12/10/20 11:49 AM
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Great perspective. Yeah I understand the dating coaches not showing the failures, but they do show stats and by the very least they are getting far more dates then me (definitely more then 1 date for 400 approaches lol) And thats what bothers me. I've gotten far enough to realise this is a numbers game and improving my skill actually isnt yielding me better results, cause after i got rid of AA and could conversate better, any improvement above that didnt yield any further results. I think approa…
/r/seduction12/10/20 11:46 AM
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I agree, I've done 400+ approaches and only 1 date, I am not that bad looking either and my AA is gone along with my game being decent (can flirt in set, stack, vibe etc) heres my post on it: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/j9okm5/is_daygame_a_waste_of_time_400_approaches_and_1/ imho, im not sure if daygame is worth it. Might be just my looks but idk
/r/seduction12/10/20 10:56 AM
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Ofc u dont, but that wont get u anywhere with women. By society, a man does the chase and aplroaches the girl, not the other way around. So good luck with that
/r/seduction25/09/20 06:09 AM
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Chase doesnt mean literally be clingy. Chase means as the man u set up the dates, do daygame, ur the one who asks her out etc
/r/seduction25/09/20 06:08 AM
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Likewise. I assume a girl doesn’t want to go out again if she ghosts after the first contact or date. Effort has to be mutual. good luck with that. as the man, we have to do the chase, its just the way it is.
/r/seduction23/09/20 03:17 AM
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Tbh, couldn't have said it better. You just need to act normal thats all. Thats why I mean't on my post above, that game might matter at least for first 100-200 approaches, when i started back in march, I couldnt hold eye contact and would leave the convo fast due to nervousness It took me 100-200 approaches roughly to be confident in set. But it varies from person to person. But I agree, u literally just have to be normal and know how to hold a normal convo and eye contact etc Not sure if u've …
/r/seduction25/07/20 09:39 AM
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I do feel like on reddit especially, lots of people try and cover things up for the "good feelz" and say stuff not for the truth, but to make u and themselves feel better Truth is looks do matter, some deny it on here but its the truth, if shes not attracted then no amount of game will help Game isnt mind control BUT > Here's the thing. None of that matters. U can only control your 50 and if she isnt attracted, move onto the next girl. Eventually u will find a girl who is physically attracted an…
/r/seduction25/07/20 09:31 AM
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u/Justachillday I disagree with some things but I do feel like we are on the same page here. I think initially, there is a lot of learning to be done at least on your first 100-200 approaches, but after that u realise, if she isnt attracted to u physically, then no amount of game will fix that. There needs to be at least some amount of attraction, and where game comes in handy is with "maybe" girls, with yes girls its pretty much game on. But even then, lets say she is attracted. After doing 300…
/r/seduction25/07/20 09:25 AM
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All I am saying is that someone's time may be better spent with girls you have a chance with, rather then trying to lay the groundwork with someone who finds you amusing and knows that you want to fuck her, in the hopes that one day you might be able to use her to get some other pussy. I could be wrong though As much as I hate to admit it, he did have a good point though. After doing DG for a few months ive started to realise that, girls really like to gossip and things ive even heard on a date …
/r/seduction25/07/20 08:48 AM
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This is basically what I mean't I guess I should have worded my reply to him better. But I think we can both agree, who the hell does cold approach if they can't handle rejection? Cold approach will have u rejected over and over again even if u are a 10/10 on the scale, thats part of the game. Imagine trying to get better at anything but then u see failure and u just wanna give up. Its either give up or keep going OP, the decision is yours. If rejections annoy you that much, don't do cold approa…
/r/seduction25/07/20 08:38 AM
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I don't mean to sound harsh, but at some point you gotta ask yourself this. Why are you doing cold approach out of all things if u hate getting rejected and just cant stand it? U dont see the irony? Even super good looking guys constantly get rejected during cold approach, but why would anyone go into cold approach if they hated rejection? Cold approach is filled with rejection and embarrassing moments, and it will happen over and over again whether u like it or not. Thats how you will grow. I a…
/r/seduction25/07/20 03:43 AM
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Yeah I sort of get what ur saying. I guess what I mean't is, cause im in good shape and not obese or anorexic, thats not my biggest goal right now and I know for a fact that sure, it will make me a bit happier. But not nearly as much if I could get rid of my social anxiety and just be confident in even day to day social interactions with my friends. But I agree you shouldn't ever think mediocrity and average, I still have yet to find my passion. One step at a time, I think I will still do DG but…
/r/seduction25/07/20 03:30 AM
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Get bigger or lower body fat or both. But seems you’re not internally validated which you need to work on That won't make me happier internally. Like I said, I am already in great shape, not super buff but good shape. Already working out to get more buff but that literally doesnt help with my inner game, ive come a long way in the gym vs when i started 4 years ago. Yes it helps but not nearly as much as I thought. I think you are assuming a lot of this has to me being worried about my looks but …
/r/seduction25/07/20 02:53 AM
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yes, am in good shape. I am an avg looking dude but happy with my appearance, so thats not an issue with my inner game. Its everything else i listed in my post above
/r/seduction25/07/20 02:08 AM
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THE KEY IS don’t be the person that says I will get a job and never gets around to it you can’t procrastinate. This 100% And my self esteem issues isn't necessarily cause of a job, its mostly cause of my social anxiety and awkwardness. Like for example, in DG I showed better outer confidence and started getting better at seeming confident But on certain days, I still felt weak on the inside and this is mainly cause of my day to day interactions even with just friends feeling awkward or uncomfort…
/r/seduction25/07/20 12:59 AM
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That's a very good point
/r/seduction25/07/20 12:56 AM
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I honestly greatly underestimated dating. I assumed cause I had gotten much better at DG means the dating won't be too bad. I was wrong, dating is way harder than infield clips make it seem and its a separate thing of its own to master. Cause if u show a frame of this cocky confident guy on ur first interaction with her during dg and then over text u maintain this frame But then the date comes and u act different (mainly due to inexperience) Then she will be put off and realise what she was attr…
/r/seduction25/07/20 12:51 AM
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Great points, and reason why I played the questions game was cause when we went inside the venue both of us just sat and it felt a bit awkward cause after the general question of how was your week like it went silent ​ It was way too early on to just go into interviewer mode (in general u shouldnt go interviewer mode anyway as its boring I know) But it was better than not saying anything, and this 1 hr date I knew was going to be rough, so I had to squeeze through it and not just be a wuss and l…
/r/seduction25/07/20 12:20 AM
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I agree, after reflecting I know that the entire date was pretty weak. But in the moment I had to build some sort of conversation, otherwise there were moments it was silent (and obviously not in a good way) So I had to play a boring questions game as well In general, I was unprepared and it was my first date ever in my life all thanks to DG, but I've got a long way to go before I can get good I feel.
/r/seduction25/07/20 12:04 AM
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Do you think daygame/cold approach should be done when you have self esteem issues even outside of dating e.g social anxiety, friendships or lack of, and general low confidence thats not even just with women? I've been thinking about this lately and after doing 200+ approaches I've realised, sure ive gotten better in interactions with women. But my inner game is still messed up and I think it shows through my body language sometimes even in day to day interactions outside of dating
/r/seduction24/07/20 11:39 PM
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My bad, fixed it
/r/seduction24/07/20 11:14 PM
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kino whats this edit: and also read the above reply I left to someone. This date might have been doomed from the beginning, she was 29 I am 20, she is incredibly attractive and has had lots of dating experiences due to her age so hence the experience. Even so I could have escalated if I was confident, but I guess her age really reflected her superior confidence
/r/seduction24/07/20 02:02 PM
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Honestly I realised it might have also been bad due to the age gap. She has had way more experience than me and been on ton of dates obviously cause shes older by like 9 years, so no surprise she was way more dominant and confident during the interaction > Why don’t you do more “practice” dates with not-as-pretty girls? Well it takes me a while to get a date from dg (im an avg looking guy) But I got her out I believe cause in australia social media close works better than number close (ive exper…
/r/seduction24/07/20 01:45 PM
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Honestly, its true you messed up a lot but you also dodged a bullet. The way this chick seems to be testy and rough, does that seem like the type of person you would wanna spend time with even just to get laid? Take it as a learning experience, good job for your first date, learn from it and see what you can improve for next time. You are actually lucky in a way she showed that she could be a hassle or not so fun to hang out with early on, some guys spend a few months with a chick and then start…
/r/seduction14/07/20 04:45 AM
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Lol bro. U arent getting blowouts cause u are doing direct, u are getting blowouts case of several reasons, a lot is out of ur control. Some girls could actually have bfs, some might personally not find u attractive, some might be in a bad mood, some might be in a rush, some are just not interested cause they are not looking to date at that point in time Trust me on this, doing indirect is beating around the bush. Like tom torero says, direct is best. With direct even if u get an instant blowout…
/r/seduction24/06/20 05:09 AM
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First of all,good job. Secondly, girls like an alpa, a leader. So practice saying "Another time, lets get some coffee" or "lets grab a drink" rather than " would u like to get some coffee" or "yes or no" etc
/r/seduction10/06/20 11:49 PM
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Hey, thanks for answering, and I think you are right. I was more confident in other ways back in March, like now my actual approach as in conversations and speech, eye contact is better, but im more of a coward in the sense that when people look at me, i avoid approaching (which wouldnt happen back in march) I've heard its called the 'spotlight effect', I think you are right, I will just have to keep approaching. I am still very lost as to why me being way more inexperienced back in march cared …
/r/seduction10/06/20 12:49 AM
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day game
/r/seduction09/06/20 12:20 PM
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i can tell u wanna go deep inside her and bust all kinds of nuts, u probably are just thinking bout her
/r/seduction06/04/20 02:17 PM
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I think he did great cause he save a lot of curiosity for the date. Not all but some ppl on here seem a bit jealous he did a good job on getting her number and making her laugh
/r/seduction20/11/19 09:03 PM
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Haha yeah but in the moment I felt like I had to prove something to myself that I can do this but funnily enough it made me feel worse and now i feel less confident but i wont give up. Ill try in a city soon, just hope i dont give up
/r/seduction18/11/19 11:26 PM
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Look up daygame, even average or below avg guys are getting results from this but it takes balls to cold approach and commitment, getting use to rejection etc. That imo is our best shot.
/r/seduction15/11/19 12:51 PM
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lmao yeah, she is toxic so ignore ppl like her, there are ton of success stories out there. Lol girl who posted this deep down is probs a feminist, the scarier part is how many upvotes this post got.
/r/seduction15/11/19 11:40 AM
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I was in same boat when i saw this post, but when i scrolled down I am back into favouring cold approaches. Some responses if u scroll way down destroyed this girls argument and are way more convincing. Dont give up brother, the "norm" way of gettinf girls will leave u with less options compared to approaching and getting 100times more options than the "socially acceptable" way
/r/seduction15/11/19 12:47 AM
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I can relate rn im 20 yrs old, and i thought going to the gym alone would get me good with girls but i was wrong. Sure gym is good for appearance but it wont build up ur social skills/increase chances of getting laid if u never try and hope girls just magically like u. Cold approach is giving me hope and soon i plan on doing my first approach.
/r/seduction15/11/19 12:45 AM
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Agreed especially last part, how did it get so many upvotes? I bet its cos we probs got a bunch of feminists of r/seduction
/r/seduction14/11/19 01:29 PM
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nice, how old r u now? Just curious cause I think its cool to learn from older & more experoenced guys
/r/seduction14/11/19 09:58 AM
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she lowkey sounds salty bout the whole cold approach thing
/r/seduction14/11/19 08:52 AM
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100% agreed
/r/seduction14/11/19 08:48 AM
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Agreed. Hell if a girl approached a guy, a guy would be glad that they did. This post is pretty generalized by this girl, cos not all women find us guys approaching creepy. The reason why I wanna do cold approaches is to increase my confidence in general. My options such as in university are so low and im sick of having to chase one or a few girls doing it the "normal" way, why not just do cold approaches everyday or most days and have a 100times more options?
/r/seduction14/11/19 08:47 AM
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I dont mean to be sexist but alot of women, especially this one who posted this, have no idea how much harder it is for a guy to get someone. Women generally always get guys hitting em up but guys gotta work harder sometimes even if they are attractive.
/r/seduction14/11/19 08:02 AM
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Honestly its very inspiring hearing success stories and for some girl to make a post and say "uh but dont do it cos women find it weird/creepy" is stupid and ruins hopes for people who wanna try this and have seen ppl get results but might be hesitant cause of this post.
/r/seduction14/11/19 07:59 AM
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This. And also there are tons of success stories of guys cold approaching and getting a hookup or meeting the love of their life so idk why she wants guys to have limited options... Especially in this modern era where ppl r glued to their phones and mainly date using tinder smh
/r/seduction14/11/19 03:52 AM
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This 100%, i agree. This girl who posted this, honestly i get her point but it did disappoint me quite a bit cos as an introvert and being socially awkward w women it seems like i got less options other than cold approach which has given me hope after i just recently discovered it.
/r/seduction14/11/19 03:41 AM
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