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Bradicus has a lot of rejection reels: https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=bradicus+rejection
/r/seduction30/05/19 01:16 PM
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Reading your post above, I would say given your circumstances, trying to be a pickup artist from the get-go isn't the right approach here. Though I do really admire your willingness to take action NOW. That's going to get you really far. Not trying to be mean, let me explain: I've always had a mantra in this of "The Game starts with you". A lot of people come into this sort of thing having terrible upbringings, were social outcasts and never had friends or they were bullied or whatever and have …
/r/seduction15/04/19 11:25 AM
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Don't open her directly like that, consider that different words have different levels of power to them (for example "gorgeous" is further up the escalation ladder than "interesting or intriging"). What you want to do is allow her to spend more time with your personality, then drop a compliment and calibrate the word you use depending on how well she is responding to you. For an example, You: "Hey excuse me, I thought there was just something adorably intriging (pushing it a little here with "ad…
/r/seduction08/04/19 09:59 AM
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"What kind of things should i talk about them with? How should i act?" Talk about the things you want to talk about. Act the way you want to act. Don't supplicate or change your personality for others - it's needy and you will come off as incongrent and weird. Instead focus on just being the best version of yourself for now and having fun with them - enjoy the process more than the outcome. Treat it like an indirect game situation and look out for IOI's Having said that, and I'm aware of the par…
/r/seduction25/03/19 11:58 AM
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Try supporting your wing then leaving to another set. You set the groundwork, they have to do the rest. Yes, you're right when you take validation away from someone like that they'll want it back.
/r/seduction23/03/19 06:09 PM
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"I’ve tried approaching the girl myself and introducing them but even that comes off as slightly obvious and a bit awkward." This is the right way to do it, go in, raise your own value then have your friend come over and then start having a conversation with you. Going in as two can be quite overwhelming for the other people involved. Turn away from them and towards your friend when he comes over, at some point you can be like "Hey I just met these cool people you let me introduce you...." Now o…
/r/seduction23/03/19 04:29 PM
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"How do I respond/react to girls insulting me as a test?" Own your shit. They accuse you of being the world's biggest dickhead? In a non-reactive tone, agree and amplify everything they say. "Not only am I the world's biggest dickhead but I am in fact being enrolled in Dickhead University next month. Feels really good - I studied hard for it." You're drunk or a bit socially uncalibrated? "Yeah, I got off a desert island 15 minutes ago - you guys are the first human beings I've talked to in 15 ye…
/r/seduction17/03/19 10:23 PM
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I'm going to be harsh and say DON'T USE ANY OF THEM. That's not because of the way you look, but because what story they tell about your life. Mirror selfies are incredibly unattractive, in the same category as shirtless selfies, dick pics and pictures where you're in a crowd of people and the person viewing them can't tell which one you are. In your online pictures you want to portray yourself as a cool guy with a fun and interesting life that she'd like to be a part of, more than anything. In …
/r/seduction03/03/19 12:03 PM
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Yeah, I saw all of them. There's nothing wrong with you. The rest about women not valuing looks as much is based on my, and many others experiences in the game. I like this video RSD's Owen Cook that puts it into perspective: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HDbI10CQUs8 Another thing I'd like to say is never listen to what a woman says, instead, look at what she DOES. Her actions speak a lot more than her words. So she might say she likes bigger men, but what she probably means by that is that sh…
/r/seduction03/03/19 11:24 AM
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Personally, I don't think you're a bad looker. From a hetrosexual point of view (no homo) I can definitely see you being an attractive-looking guy to ladies. In the last photos you dress really well. Have some more confidence in yourself dude! Here's the thing: women don't sexually value the way a man looks as much as men do in women. So while he might be cute/handsome, if he opens his mouth and weird shit comes out, she's going to get turned off so fast. Women much more value a man's social sta…
/r/seduction03/03/19 10:45 AM
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"Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida is literally the quintessential book on being a better man. It's broken down into little principles that you can implement into your life one by one, for example not putting women above your purpose or path.
/r/seduction26/02/19 11:30 PM
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Hey Ptolemy. That's fine, what's awesome is that you went out even though you found it awkward/scary. A lot of people cope with this by drinking but I wouldn't recommend it as it becomes a slippery slope and it ruins your game. I'm sure you have more character than that. If you're afraid of the bar/club itself just make it your homework to go out 4 nights a week and stand in them, pick a really awkward spot on purpose, for an allotted time. I recommend 20 minutes but pick whatever is comfortable…
/r/seduction24/02/19 02:41 AM
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"I have a boyfriend." could mean a couple of things: She's not into you and wants to reject you politely. Usually as a result of escalating too quickly or miscalibrating. A lot of women have this as an automatic way to deflect mis-calibrated or early escalation because it WORKS. She actually does have a boyfriend and would prefer to stick with him given her current options. She has a boyfriend but wants you to understand that if you two sleep together it was YOUR fault. She wants discretion. She…
/r/seduction23/02/19 11:53 AM
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It means she more than likely really likes you dude. Sustained eye contact with "Anime eyes", where they go all wide eyed and their pupils are dilated, is a massive IOI. You need to use this moment to increase the sexual tension between you and her and go in for the kill kiss/pull. General "Pulling the trigger" escalation ladder: Slow your voice way down. Talk with a slow pace, with rhythm and talk softly. Don't break eye contact before she does, it shows dominance and confidence which is a mass…
/r/seduction05/02/19 12:14 PM
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Another good one is to share a taxi with her at the end of the night or if you haven't been drinking offer to drive her home. When you reach her house ask if you can use the bathroom then take things from there. You should be trying to seed the pull throughout the interaction by mentioning something like a movie or whatever, which will then later give you an excuse to be allowed into her home.
/r/seduction09/12/18 07:25 PM
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Hey Sergei89, Sounds like you've got crippling approach anxiety, which is 100% fine. You've been socially conditioned by society and thousands of years of evolution, being anxious about an approach is hard-wired into your biology and will never 100% go away. You can, however, learn to manage it. When I started out I had the worst approach anxiety on planet earth. When you start out it seems like a giant monster you cannot overcome. If you keep approaching over time it'll get easier. There's some…
/r/seduction21/10/18 07:58 PM
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Hey LagginPotato64, With cold approaching this is a very common thing. So much can happen between her giving you her number and you texting her so don't take it too personally. Also while she feels super awesome in the moment with you, later on her emotions fade and she no longer feels like she was in that moment. Women primaraly make decisions based on their emotions, how good it makes them feel. Having said this, one of your primary goals during your set, you want to build as much as a solid n…
/r/seduction11/10/18 12:35 AM
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"Is there anything I could've done better? Honestly this was really awkward and I'm not sure how it could ever work." The Good: You approached. You're now above the 99% of men that were too afraid to approach a stranger romantically. Grats! You put yourself in a position to let good things happen. Keep doing it no matter how embarassing it gets, because it gets better. You tried to take it beyond platonic levels. A lot of men don't get to the point on why they're talking to her. The only downsid…
/r/seduction19/09/18 12:22 AM
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Tyler Durden from RSD has aspegers and he details how he overcame his social awkwardness here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=urwoHocvW6A You can overcome something like aspergers with a bit of practice and knowledge but you have to approach it differently than someone without this condition does. You have to do everything a person without a condition would do consciously but it gives you more control in a double-edged sword sort-of-way. The analogy he gives is it's like driving a manual car vs…
/r/seduction16/09/18 07:56 PM
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I'm going to go ahead and say yes. There's a phenomenon in online dating profiles where if you have a good-looking friend next to you in a picture, they by comparison are perceived to be even more attractive in that picture. So while it won't be hurting your looks, you'll be helping him.
/r/seduction04/09/18 10:55 PM
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Gotta take a page from good ol' Patrice O'Neal: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rTEJiLvKOfQ This audio is the realist commentary on the friend zone. If you're only hanging around her because you're attracted to her: She's wasting your time, she's a fucking time vampire, she doesn't respect you as a man, you're a complete joke to her. She sees you as a complete non-sexual object. She's getting everything she wants out the relationship but you aren't - she's using you. You're going to be there to …
/r/seduction18/08/18 11:11 PM
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Don't worry too much, it's happened to me too a couple of times. Ended up approaching the same girl twice with a week apart and she remembered me. This is more common in small towns. It's awkward, but just treat it like its no big deal and keep going,
/r/seduction15/08/18 01:00 AM
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Go direct, don't do subtlety. Us men are retarded as fuck, we're not as socially intelligent as women, we don't pick up on subtle signals unless we frequent forums like this one and appreciate you just being 100% straight with us. No standing near us hoping we'll approach you, no flirty giggling at his bad jokes, no touching his arm hoping he'll get the hint - nothing. We also don't have that slut shaming thing going on and it's a lot less risky for us to have sex so most dudes will escalate wit…
/r/seduction26/07/18 11:35 PM
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So sometimes, people will still get weirded out by your approach, not react well to a joke and other stuff like that. Using your social intelligence to calibrate to these situations is part of game. Other than this, just go in and focus on having a really great conversation. When you get comfortable doing this, then start adding bits of game on top of it. Bit by bit.
/r/seduction26/07/18 07:54 PM
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Yep - 100% platonic. Just try and stay there for as long as possible and don't worry about the outcome. Only thing I'd say is if you feel you need to calibrate a bit so they aren't so weirded out.
/r/seduction25/07/18 08:33 PM
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Hey, firstly - awesome job on those 30 approaches. It sounds like you have a very similar problem to what I had when i started out - you're a premature ejectulator. You'll either blow yourself out the set on purpose or leave because the anxiety of staying in the conversation with a complete stranger/pretty girl is too much. Here's an exercise you can do to get over it: You're basically going to expose yourself to being in set and over time the fear will go away. The way you do this is to just re…
/r/seduction25/07/18 08:03 AM
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Honestly the last two I had put effort into because I'm not that great at them, I'm much better at "Push-Pull" and "Observational" stuff as they're my preferred go to, but if you can come up with something better and stick to the principals outlined above to use on the spot then they're still solid ways to open. At the end of the day I'd say the thing that matters most is the place these lines are coming from. If it's from a place of trying to impress her rather than having a fun time with her o…
/r/seduction24/07/18 10:21 PM
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Might not be the best examples, but ideally in the first couple of seconds you want to: Not give too much power away. A little is fine, just don't blow your entire load. You need to be a little bit needy on the opener to get things going. Make it uncertain if you like her or not and establish man-to-woman. Classic cat-string theory, you give her too much, she loses interest. Too little, she loses interest. It also let's you transition into more direct statements and flirting later once she likes…
/r/seduction24/07/18 08:35 AM
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I personally wouldn't go direct. I'll explain why - direct is great when you're starting out and have issues conveying a man-to-woman interaction but as you get better at this all you really do is shoot yourself in the foot at the beginning of the interaction. It's like this: you're asking the woman to make an immediate decision on you before you've even conveyed your personality and the women that liked you going direct, would have probably liked you no matter what you opened with. Given this, …
/r/seduction24/07/18 06:34 AM
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Just as a follow up, from my experience gaming in the UK outside of London, I find European girls need A LOT of statements of empathy and fun before they'll open up to you. If you're going to be gaming European women, you HAVE to get really good at ploughing through their automatic firewall defence, I do it in a cycle like this: Statement of empathy > Stack Forward With Something Fun > Check to see if she's still weirded out by the stranger talking to her > Repeat at first step until she opens u…
/r/seduction19/07/18 11:57 AM
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I'm gonna guess from reading your post that it's more the vibe and the energy you're giving off rather than the actual canned material. If you're not congruent with the stuff you say then you're going to leave an almost uncanny valley, disgusting taste in their mouths and it would have just been better if you had just said what you wanted to say rather than running Mystery's canned lines. You'll come across like a robot and women are VERY good at picking this stuff up intuitively. These days peo…
/r/seduction19/07/18 11:40 AM
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Mostly outdated. I'd still recommend reading them as they contain a lot of valuable stuff in them in the same way if you were studying psychiatry you'd study Sigmund Freud or if you were studying evolution you'd look up Darwin. Mystery is like one of the grandfathers of pickup - his theories on how to pickup women were the foundations for a lot of the stuff we have today. The Game is like the pickup bible and opens a lot of mens eyes into what is possible when you have a short bald dude picking …
/r/seduction16/07/18 12:42 AM
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I really do wonder how your mother knows what good game is.
/r/seduction13/07/18 02:18 AM
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Hey Seddit, I'm a bit confused about the structure of this, would like some questions answered. Isn't the "Comment" just the same as the "Assumption"? What's the distinction? What exactly is the "Projection", could someone more clearly define it to me? Is it a thing you use the bridge on to a new conversation topic or a "If X if true then Y must also be true." sort of thing?
/r/seduction02/07/18 08:19 PM
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Hey, I went through something similar when I started and I had the worst approach anxiety on planet earth. Just some things to consider: Approach Anxiety will never truly go away. You can however manage it. What you want to do is start really small and work your way up. Baby-step the process. Remember if you only get 1% better every now and then, you're still overall getting better. Over time as you approach the anxiety will get more manageable. Given this, here's some exercises you can do to re…
/r/seduction15/06/18 03:06 PM
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