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DISCUSSIONXtinamina/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 11:56 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEXtinamina/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 09:19 PM
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ADVICEXtinamina/r/RedPillWomen16/08/17 03:21 AM
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LTR/MARRIAGEXtinamina/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 11:04 PM
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DISCUSSIONXtinamina/r/RedPillWomen13/02/18 09:51 AM
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ASK RPWXtinamina/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 01:28 AM
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ADVICEXtinamina/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 03:25 AM
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LTR/MARRIAGEXtinamina/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 05:51 AM
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ADVICEXtinamina/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 09:18 AM
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PARENTINGXtinamina/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 07:28 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEXtinamina/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 11:35 PM
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LIFESTYLEXtinamina/r/RedPillWomen25/05/18 12:44 AM
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DiscriminationXtinamina/r/MensRights07/03/17 07:45 PM
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So is the only option for a woman to contribute the most she can to a society is to be a mother?
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/21 05:00 PM
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There's no hope for you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/20 05:53 AM
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Have you seen his post history? He's a basement-dwelling incel and I'm appalled at this subreddit for giving him positive karma. 🙄
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/20 07:27 AM
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....but women are really annoying. I love me some good pootang tho. (*Posted on MGTOW2) If you don't mind me saying, please never comment in this sub again.
/r/RedPillWives22/06/20 10:27 PM
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This is not the kind of captain OP has. So what should she do?
/r/RedPillWives09/06/20 04:18 AM
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Be careful about using dread on a man. It doesn't work the same way when women do it to men. u/HornsofApathy, if you find it worth your time, I would love to read a post by you geared towards women on here.
/r/RedPillWives03/06/20 02:00 AM
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The more you live within your feminine the more he will be polarized into his masculine. Do you really think that's true? I know it works magically and almost without failure the other way around, but in my four years of reading both of the red pill men and red pill women subs, I'm not convinced it can really work this way. I wasn't even going to respond to this comment until I saw it was you, a MRP mod. I don't trust a man's opinion posting on red pill women unless he is fully involved in the r…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/20 11:44 PM
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interlectual. Yeah, I wouldn't call you that either.
/r/askMRP15/10/19 04:02 AM
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Seems to work. It doesn't. It's funny to see the feminine equivalent of "faggot- lift and STFU", etc. It's not funny, and they don't have that. They're all over the place. It's like you're trying to walk on sand while imagining as hard as you can that it's stable ground, but every time you open your eyes it's still sand and you're still stumbling, then your girlfriends tell you to close your eyes and imagine harder. Anybody led here by the wife leading from behind? Gross.
/r/askMRP30/07/19 08:07 PM
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Is it really all about getting feelz? Is it that stupid? I'm cracking up. Feelz are translated as you "understanding" her. It's how she feels a "connection" to you. So it seems stupid on the surface, but the roots are deep and mean so much more to a woman.
/r/askMRP03/06/19 11:45 PM
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r/askmrp is great. Actually so is r/marriedredpill.
/r/RedPillWives20/03/19 05:11 AM
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The fact that your biggest concern about having children is your post baby body tells me you’re not ready for kids. This.
/r/askMRP08/03/19 11:32 PM
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The mentality is what I'm most concerned with. Do you think that by adopting a kid, your hormones will be more stable and you would be able to handle mom life better? Mom life is hard, biological kid or not. Raising a baby is hard and crazy no matter what. As they get older they push boundaries, take up all of your free time, surprise you in the craziest ways and sometimes are just so damn annoying. I think it's safe to say this is true whether you "squeeze them out" yourself or not. As far as t…
/r/askMRP08/03/19 07:48 PM
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Yes, he's a lurker here.. starting to "get into it" more lately. So there's hope!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/19 07:49 AM
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I always love your responses. I'm in tears from laughing.
/r/askMRP07/03/19 12:49 AM
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I got your sarcasm but I'm literally asking. I'm the wife. I don't want balls in my purse.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/19 10:35 PM
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Yes but what is the wife supposed to do to help him get them out?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/19 05:47 PM
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What if their husband is asking her questions that start with "should I..." literally six times a day?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/19 06:27 AM
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27m here experiencing a loss in interest to my 3 year old dog, and feel shit about it. I love my dog, deeply and think he’s amazing in so so many ways, the cuddles are out of this world too, but I can’t help but notice the fact that he’s aging and it really has an effect on me. The way I see it is people choose our puppies mostly on cuteness, the rest are like bonuses. And when you start to lose the one thing that got you attracted in the first place, it makes things really hard. I’m constantly …
/r/RedPillWives25/01/19 04:42 AM
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Found the OP.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 09:33 AM
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Also the deleted post history...
/r/RedPillWives09/11/18 12:50 AM
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Username checks out!
/r/RedPillWives17/10/18 03:34 AM
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(even though they talk too much about baking and too little about getting fit and being kinky). Haha YES. I'd love to see more of that. I feel like we in RPW think talking about sex is taboo! But when it comes to fixing a marriage, their process is stupid. The girl submits, the man hardly changes a thing because he thinks it is going great, and she’s not really happy or attracted since he’s still a clueless beta so she has to fake it harder and harder. Ttthhhiiiissss. The strategies over there n…
/r/askMRP08/10/18 04:04 PM
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How did you flip it?
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 05:42 AM
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I mean really, it's that simple. Not for me.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 04:35 AM
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You either have BOTH the authority AND the responsibility for a task in the relationship, or you have NEITHER. If this is true in any given situation within a C/FM dynamic, then thank you so much for this. I've been trying to find a straightforward, all encompassing sentence/answer to what that dynamic would look like.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 04:31 AM
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What would you recommend to protect your hands with? It's not realistic for me to wear gloves all the time and I've been thinking about just using sunscreen as a hand lotion when I go out. Is that a thing people do?
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 04:50 AM
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I love it too! It's called TempDrop. It started on Indiegogo but I discovered it when they started selling to the public. I love it! You just wear it on your arm with an armband and it records your temperature all night while you're asleep. Then when you wake up you can take it off and sync it to your phone whenever you are ready and it will give you your temp.
/r/RedPillWives23/08/18 04:51 AM
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Right, and we do, if we can. :) Thanks!
/r/RedPillWives22/08/18 07:09 AM
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For the purpose of letting him know that we won't be able to be intimate for 5 days, I do tell him when my period starts. If I have bad cramping, I do complain about that as well, like any other pain. Then I get some Tylenol. I also have been charting my cycle in detail using the fertility awareness method (not just marking when my period starts and ends) which involves taking my waking temperature every morning (actually I use a wearable thermometer but most people take their temperature upon w…
/r/RedPillWives21/08/18 10:22 PM
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I agree 100% with this. It's very difficult to try to deal with someone else's emotions while you are just trying to focus on yourself. I truly believe that having less people there, the better. And I think the best people to have there are people who will be calm and know what they are doing, like professionals.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/18 07:42 PM
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Thank you for writing this. I am the same way in that my husband has to reassure me that his boner wasn't permanently killed by being there during two births. I don't think I want him in there for any others we may have but I think he would be hurt. It honestly does make birthing more difficult for me though, knowing he might just be sitting there disgusted while I'm trying to focus on the hardest physical and emotional experience of my life. I don't blame the men who don't want to watch that. I…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/18 05:14 PM
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As for the sexual turn offs of others - your shaming is the reason why they said these things to me privately and would never admit these things to their wives or other women. And in what universe would this be ok to admit to their wives or other women? Especially if they already watched and the wife feels embarrassed or regretful for having her husband there.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/18 01:19 AM
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I love YouTube channel "Live Your Style". She talks in detail about how to decorate your home the way you want. And she has apartment specific videos as well, as she also lives in one. Also the subreddit r/cozyplaces has lots of inspiration!
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/18 07:29 AM
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This is exactly what my husband needs from me. Thanks! Gonna go do that now.
/r/RedPillWives11/08/18 07:51 AM
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Unfortunately, I let a feminist ex friend borrow it and she burned it. Hahahaa! I'm sorry... That was just too funny. I'll purchase one in her honor.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 12:30 AM
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I have to agree with you. I know it makes me sound like a negative Nancy, but based on how easily influenced he was by a positive comment from a female stranger (someone he will never see again), it's a safe bet that he'll be just as easily knocked down and discouraged by the next negative comment that comes his way. I don't believe that this guy at the airport (or any man, for that matter) needs more women coddling them with reassurances and admiration. I think he needs other men to remind him …
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 12:17 AM
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Magic Pill: I take a chasteberry supplement "The plant was believed to promote chastity (hence its name). Monks in the Middle Ages reportedly used it to decrease sexual desire." Say it ain't so!
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/18 08:43 PM
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My husband wants me thinner and that seems to be a RP theme with RP men. I think that's a biological theme with the majority of straight, red pill, blue pill, purple pill, oxygen breathing men. My BIL is an SJW, self described feminist. Very liberal, pussyhat wearing "nu male". My sister is 90 lbs overweight and even he wants her to lose the weight as it is effecting their sex life and his attraction to her. I get it, I'm in the same boat as you and my sister and have been wanting to post this e…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/18 01:30 AM
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Same!
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 06:33 PM
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S/he was likely trying to point out that OP has bigger issues to work through.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/18 08:18 AM
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Sure, yes! I plan to read the book as well
/r/askMRP23/06/18 11:54 PM
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Where's Morpheus when you need him?
/r/askMRP23/06/18 10:41 PM
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I always find it funny that the men seem to encourage a woman's nagging and pushing him around so that the man is sent over the edge and maybe has a realization that he should get his shit together. I suppose men who give that kind of advice may be speaking from experience? Is it kind of like the transformation a young man may feel when he is punched in the face for the first time? Like something has to trigger him? Female red pill forums always emphasize to bring your man your problem, not the …
/r/askMRP23/06/18 08:31 PM
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Then you're off to a good start! I was actually asking because my husband is like that. He says he wants them but then I leave the decisions up to him, and he gets irritated that I "won't contribute my opinion", which he only wants because he uses it as the final answer.
/r/askMRP23/06/18 08:16 PM
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My husband has done some reading on here. I could tell when he was really diving into it, but it wasn't cringy to me. I actually loved it. But because it has died down and he seems to have forgotten about it, it does feel like an act. I will say that I totally avoided the men red pill forums when he was into it though. It helped. I would suggest sticking with the female red pill subs and stop following and reading the men ones. Let him do his thing and be as supportive and encouraging to him as …
/r/askMRP23/06/18 08:13 PM
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He has to want the reins enough to put in the hard work and fight for them. Make him earn it. How the heck do you make him "earn it"? What if he doesn't want them and gets irritated he has to even take them?
/r/askMRP23/06/18 08:05 PM
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Hi, I just noticed your comment and the above comment! So, I never really initiate because sex is hardly ever on his mind. He's said as much, so it's not just a guess. Another time, when the (then) baby was down for the night and we had time for ourselves for once, after not being intimate for a few days, I coyly asked him "so.. What do you want to do now?" and his soul crushing answer was "I don't know. Wanna play Mario Kart?" I just about cried right there.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/18 09:51 AM
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Yay! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives22/06/18 01:30 AM
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Yes please! I've been a SAHM for three years, after being on t the workforce since I was 17. I'm starting to get some flack on it now and it makes me feel guilty for enjoying this lifestyle. Some imply that it's not fair to my husband.
/r/RedPillWives21/06/18 08:37 AM
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It's not really the word itself or the meaning of it, it's just when it's used as a nickname. "My captain this, my captain that". Like I said, it seems too cutesy and kind of juvenile to me. I don't think I felt this way at first when I came upon this subreddit, but when 75% of the time a post starts out with "I'm having some issues with my Captain, he's perfect in every way and I trust him but he made me stop talking to my family and goes through my social media accounts while sitting around sm…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 07:04 PM
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And I won't! I'm not going to try and stop anyone from using it either. Just expressing my opinion. :-) I suppose hate is a pretty strong word though.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 06:00 AM
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I hate the term "Captain" too! It just seems way too overly cutesy in a bad way. I don't mind it when literally referring to "Captain/first mate dynamic" but when used to refer to one's SO or husband, it just bothers me.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 07:11 PM
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Maybe try to ask them about their past and get to know them better. Perhaps they have interesting stories to tell about experiences they've lived?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 12:31 AM
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Good times create weak men. Weak men create bad times. Bad times create strong men. Strong men create good times.
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre13/06/18 07:30 AM
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What if he says he doesn't want to have sex that often because of your weight, but still wants to once in a while because he's still a man and has needs? Asking for a friend...
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 12:27 AM
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I get what you're saying. You have to find the red pill SOMEWHERE.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 05:19 PM
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Are these the kind of guys we're aiming to win over now? I thought "red pill men" were not worth our investment?
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 09:38 AM
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Forearms and nose...jaw....face...
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 09:25 AM
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You are 100% right. These are the thoughts I kept making myself go back to over the weekend. He's amazing where it concerns EVERYTHING ELSE in our relationship. I'm sure it triggered me so badly because of my upbringing and how I was treated by peers throughout childhood and adolescence. Made fun of for not being feminine, never taught how to take care of myself or that it even matters, etc. It was just an incident that made me feel masculine and I'm embarrassed of being perceived that way. Hone…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/18 03:08 AM
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I feel like this post was written about me, the wife. And I feel like my husband needs to read it to get me. A year and a half ago I had to ask him if we could have sex at LEAST twice a week. Until recently, we died down to twice a month. So depressing. I feel like I have nothing to give him, and he was so hurt/offended when I told him I feel like we were just friends. I've felt like the man in the relationship more times than I can count. Edited to add: he said that my saying I felt like we wer…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 07:17 AM
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Thanks for the response! It's already happened though, so I just don't know how to feel about it now. You're right, it's not a shock either. It's happened before too, years ago.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 10:40 AM
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If you make it, do you have a recipe? If you buy it, where?
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 10:38 AM
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Also, ginger in chicken soup will add a kick that'll elevate the whole thing . Turmeric too! Sooo good.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 10:34 AM
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How can I get over being so turned off by my husband because he asked me to open a jar for him? -_-
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 06:33 AM
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This is a problem for me too!
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 06:32 AM
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Do not underestimate how difficult having a MIL like that would be, OP! ESPECIALLY if your SO does not put his foot down with her. It's a HUGE DEAL. Source: my experience.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 07:46 AM
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Since you've raised them to do their share of chores from an early age, was it ever a "battle" or struggle for them to be willing to help out regularly as they got older? How are they now with keeping up with their own households (if they have them, the 21 y/o at least) or contributing without being asked?
/r/RedPillWives31/05/18 03:23 AM
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Interesting. Can you elaborate?
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 08:24 AM
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On a similar note I don't feel like many women think their job/education triggers sexual attraction in a man. I don't know... judging by how much this gif gets passed around and commented on and praised makes me think otherwise. https://m.imgur.com/gallery/tn5QFCt
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/18 06:38 AM
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No dude is going to want to fuck you just because you spent $50 to have Mona Lisa painted on your nails. In fact, it's kinda a turn off for lots of guys Do you think there is any man alive that would decide not to f*** a girl solely because of whatever style she decided to get on her nails? She's not doing it for sex, she knows she will get sex whether or not her nails have an over-the-top application, or a simple classic one.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/18 06:31 AM
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This! Also the ginormous cleaning group on Facebook. And "clean with me" videos (sped up videos of women cleaning their houses) are very inspiring and make it seem effortless. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 09:38 PM
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r/eatcheapandhealthy
/r/RedPillWives07/05/18 11:44 PM
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I would love to read more on why that is.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 07:15 AM
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https://i.imgur.com/qPBrBWC.jpg Funny little meme
/r/RedPillWives19/03/18 06:22 PM
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It's true. There's a more accurate tracking method called "Fertility Awareness Method" and you can learn about it in the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". It's sad how little women know about their own bodies and even sadder that most people scoff at the idea that a woman can know when she has ovulated.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/18 08:31 AM
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Definitely seems to have a lower libido. Possibly low T, and he's talked before about how he wants to have it tested but nothing came of that and I don't think it would sound very nice of me to suggest it to him. I must have been feeling pretty down about myself when I posted this. It's something I'm thinking about less now, especially when it comes to feeling like maybe he's just not attracted to me. I'm just focusing on working on my SMV and letting him relax, because he also has some pretty b…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 10:49 PM
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I know I haven't responded to anybody else here on the thread, sorry everybody! Your message popped up in my inbox and I have a quick moment to answer... That sounds like my husband, at least the part about him caring to think about more important things from day to day then sexual desire... But yes, we do go for long stretches without it and sometimes I seem to be the only one who notices. With two kids now, that is just how it goes but it's been like this even before kids.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 08:00 PM
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What a sweet comment!
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 07:18 AM
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Is there always a leader in a relationship or can both partners have "equal" input? I'm not sure if my husband is the leader or not, and that probably means that I do the leading, right? Or could it be we both are just walking around in the dark hoping the other knows where to go?
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 10:12 PM
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Perhaps we subconsciously treat each other the way we like to be treated. Men like to be treated with kindness and so we're kind and nice to women. Women like to be... well, what do women really like? 🤔 Women like to be guided, so they tell their man what to do. Teased, so they'll let them know they need some Chapstick or maybe they shouldn't eat that donut. They like to know their guy has a handle on things so they throw shit tests, which only get stronger when the guy responds with kindness or…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 07:17 PM
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That's exciting! I'm 5'9 as well and after two kids, I've got some work to do on myself. I'm still breastfeeding though so I'm cautious about eating so little at the moment but I'm taking baby steps!
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 07:56 AM
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That's beautiful! Congratulations!
/r/RedPillWives27/02/18 12:15 AM
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I think this is the best comment/advice I've ever gotten on Reddit. I'm going to read this every day. Thank you !!!
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/18 09:07 AM
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Great insight. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/18 08:14 AM
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This is much more doable when you realise you are doing it for yourself first and foremost. You are trying to be the best you that you can be, because you care about cultivating your heart. I've been trying to wrap my brain around this "do it for yourself" thing that everyone gives as advice when it comes to self improvement. It doesn't seem like an answer to me, and I just ask "why?". I've never heard it described as cultivating​ your heart before. Can you elaborate on that or point me to some …
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/18 09:01 PM
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Great article.
/r/RedPillWives08/02/18 07:11 AM
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Are there any productive things he does that you would find some fun in doing with him?
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/18 09:45 AM
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Yes
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 07:35 AM
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Hello! I love that you do this. Thank you! My question is, what does my husband need the most from me right now?
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 05:36 AM
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What a beautiful response! I'm married and even I got some great advice from this. Saving this comment.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/17 12:05 AM
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Hi! I posted about this exact thing a few months ago! Maybe it will help you. :) https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/6tzdst/how_can_i_work_on_feelingbecoming_more_vulnerable?sort=top
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/17 02:25 AM
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Thank you! I would love to have a life coach. Thanks for the tips.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/17 11:13 PM
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I have had the exact same experience with the therapist - ie, she's saying 'don't be so hard on yourself' and I'm like 'I'm not being unreasonably hard on myself, I just know that I need to improve some things'. Exactly!! Thanks for the resource! I loooove sorting things out so that they are measurable and listed. I think that's something that could help me immensely.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/17 07:24 AM
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Thank you so much for this response. I figured that about therapists, at least after I've finally gone. I like honesty and hearing the blunt truth, and I've been meaning to post here for a while about my current state of life. I'm glad I did!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/17 07:17 AM
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I love the four meals a week thing. I think I can do that. What do you do on weekends? Whatever you can throw together, or go out again?
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/17 07:13 AM
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Thank you sooo much for this beautiful and well thought out response! It's insanely helpful! You're right, I did badly need a starting point. You covered the basics and important stuff and I will definitely be using everything you wrote as a template. Unfortunately my toddler only naps once a day, but if I'm lucky, it's at least a good couple of hours. Definitely need a planner, and I've heard good things about The Happy Planner. I'll pick one up after Christmas for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/17 07:12 AM
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I cried when he died, too. Never has a celebrity death made me cry before.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 09:06 AM
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"Action comes before motivation" I'll remember that, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 06:07 PM
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Yes, trying something that turns out not so great IS better than not trying it at all. Thanks for that insight. I've heard of flylady and I would like to try that out again. Thanks for the reminder! I guess maybe I could start writing that down the things that I do get done, like a to-done list, but so far it's nothing that I could be proud about.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 06:06 PM
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What does your typical day look like? Waking up when my toddler decides to, fixing him and I quick breakfasts, holding the baby and rushing to get something done during the times the baby is ok being set down. It just feels like a messy blur of nothing. How old are the kids? Two and 6 months What is your husbands role? Does he help with the kids, relieve you at the end of the day, do any of the chores? Yes, yes and yes, he's great with all of that. So great that I wish he would even just get the…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 06:02 PM
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Love this, thank you. The first therapist I tried did not ask me anything about my past or my feelings about my current self at all, so I switched to a different woman in the same practice and she was a little bit better. I saw her for the second time yesterday and she didn't tap into my childhood pains as much as I had hoped, and I was starting to think that maybe it just doesn't matter at all. But I also don't feel like shoving it down and not trying to make sense of it or connect it to who I …
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 05:36 PM
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Thanks for the tips. I really have to look more into grocery delivery as I'm sure it would help immensely.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 05:33 PM
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I've read up until the end of "Secret 1" and I'm curious as to what parts you believe​ won't be applicable to real life for most people. Is it the emphasis on keeping the mother in the home?
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 08:46 AM
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http://penelopesoasis.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/secrets-of-fascinating-womanhood.pdf The link in your original post led me to the websites main page, so I copy and pasted this in case it leads directly there for others! :) I'm interested in doing this! I've been married to my husband for 5 years, together for 11 years. I'm 27 and we have two kids. He is such a good man and is always striving to improve himself for me and our kids, and I would love to do the same because I admit, I have a lo…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 08:18 PM
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She actually started to really get into third wave feminism. A little more harpy on him than usual. They also had very different long term career plans that she didn't agree with. Such a shame.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 01:21 AM
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My brother in law's ex girlfriend was like this. She never had a moment of awkward conversation and always knew what to say. She also seemed to have a genuine interest in what was going on in the other person's life. It made me want to open up to her because it felt like she cared. She was also always down to do anything and never complained about anything. He regrets breaking up with her. I miss her too. :'(
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 11:47 PM
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Have you always been overweight during your relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 08:59 AM
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This is something I'd like to teach my kids but I don't want to do it in a way that makes them self conscious. Did you find it to bring out insecurities in you, or did you take it as something positive?
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 06:14 PM
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Maybe they misread "he's physically attracted to me" as "physically attacked".
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 10:28 PM
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I've only realized like a week ago that I can "pin" memories deliberately like you describe. That's why I'm inspired to buy scented candles and cook food for my family that smells amazing!
/r/RedPillWives19/10/17 05:31 AM
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Sure, but I really really wish I found this sub as a teen!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 04:54 AM
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" 'What bothers me the most about having any conversation around emotional labor is being seen as a nag,' says Kelly Burch, a freelance journalist who works primarily from home. 'My partner feels irritated and defensive by the fact that I'm always pointing out what he's not doing. It shuts him down. I understand why it would be frustrating from his perspective, but I haven't figured out another way to make him aware of all the emotional and mental energy I'm spending to keep the house running.' …
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 06:05 AM
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Posts like these about spouses and bffs annoy me too.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/17 03:51 AM
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Please tell me you have Shia LaBeouf's "Just Do It" video on there. And the remixes.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 08:05 AM
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That I can see both sides to an issue and approach ideas objectively.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/17 07:12 AM
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I'm looking for broad answers! :) I guess I'm not worried about being judged on any specific thing. I think this question interests me because I worry that even if I DO try to present myself as the woman I want to be seen as, others may not see me that way. For example, I always had this idea of myself as the "laid back observer" in groups and among friends, and I'm more on the quiet side. I didn't think it came across as negative until people started calling me a robot and telling me I hold my …
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 08:34 AM
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Yes to all of the above. Thank you for the insight, it's very helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/17 02:23 PM
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I'll look into that book, thank you! Therapy is definitely something that's been on my to do list for a very long time. The same issues I need to be seen for are the same ones holding me back, but something's gotta give.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/17 01:29 PM
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Thank you !
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 06:26 AM
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I think about this ALL THE TIME. As a SAHM with 2 young children, I'm looking for advice on this!
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 10:44 PM
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This is one of my biggest problems!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 10:17 PM
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Love conquers all 🤘 /s
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 11:52 PM
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I've used an epilator on my armpits a few times. It hurts at first but it gets addicting and lasts for a while! Plucks a bunch of hairs out at once.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 05:46 AM
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I do this with my husband sometimes, but with joke songs, like "Never Gonna Give You Up" or anything by Abba. He gets a kick out of it.
/r/RedPillWives26/05/17 02:18 AM
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Similar http://imgur.com/fN2bRsw
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 04:58 AM
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because everything is in the woman's favor But is that what you REALLY want? To make all the decisions, all the time? If you're unhappy because you can't respect your man, it doesn't sound like everything is in your favor. A man with a good mix of beta and alpha traits won't deprive his woman of what she needs or wants just because he's​ not a pushover.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/17 11:42 PM
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Yes, very true. I definitely feel like I am losing myself. Thanks for the insight. :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 05:20 AM
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I LOVE this comment, thank you so much :-) you hit everything I was concerned about. Although, the in support of people I was referring to in my post are mainly family members. I realized a while ago I can't put too much energy into my childless girlfriends because it's just way too exhausting when they give me parenting advice, LOL.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 05:57 PM
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That sounds like a very good idea!
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 05:44 PM
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That's something I definitely have to keep in mind. I feel like this is my life forever. Time has certainly gone by slow but I should keep myself busy, that would help.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 05:43 PM
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Thank you ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 05:42 PM
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All very good advice, thank you! I really need to focus more on self care, and after reading Surrendered Wife, I did step it up in that department but my husband has been sick and there's not much time after he comes home before we sleep. So I try to rush my routines​ to get back to spending time with him. :( His love language is time spent with me, so he always wonders where I am or how long I'll be away from him. 🙁 Another thing to add to the guilt. Though he does like it when I take care of m…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 03:52 AM
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Thanks! I really believe the schedule/routine idea could help me. I just need to sort out my priorities and create one! I feel guilty for being exhausted, sad and lonely, causing me to be impatient with my toddler. :( When I need a break, I resort to screen time for her and I feel even more guilty. I also have guilt for feeling regret about getting pregnant again so soon, and being worried about how much life may get so much​ more difficult after the birth.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 03:49 AM
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Most likely. I used to go to them when my kid was very little but then the car seat became a torture device and it made me not want to go out at all. But I think she's getting better so I just need to be brave again.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 03:45 AM
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That escalated quickly... I'll keep that in mind!
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 07:26 PM
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Oooh, that's like a knife to the gut, haha! We didn't have a wedding! The family took it as a slap to the face, but I really didn't want one, so... We just went to a small wedding chapel, did the vows, etc with no one there. Actually that's one of the reasons we didn't have a wedding, because there were too many people who would want to get involved and invited!
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 07:26 PM
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He's all for it and thinks it's something we should be more proactive about. Thanks for the tip! Good idea.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 07:11 AM
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Cool, thanks! :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 02:16 AM
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Thank you for this! It's so refreshing to read that there are families and people in this world that believe that upbringing and family values matter. I know that sounds ridiculous but wherever I go and whoever I talk to, it's always about how the world will shape somebody and how that is "ok" and the thought of a family shaping a child is appalling to a lot of people. Some would consider it brainwashing, especially if the family has religious values.
/r/RedPillWives14/03/17 10:17 PM
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The sidebar is definitely where you want to start!
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/17 09:05 AM
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Same here! I'd get so frustrated trying to browse through books I couldn't even see.
/r/MensRights08/03/17 03:33 AM
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I was in my maternity clothes for a good few months after my kid was born! And was also extremely adamant about breastfeeding. I didn't think that starting to wear regular clothes again would help me, even if they were a bigger size than before I was pregnant, but it really made a difference in the way I looked and felt. :-)
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 06:48 PM
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Ha! I was inspired. :)
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 02:14 AM
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Thank you for being honest! I find myself stuck in sweat pants and a t-shirt all day, but I don't want my husband coming home to a slob. It's just hard to justify creating more laundry with outfits that I don't even wear out of the house.
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 01:43 AM
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What a great channel!
/r/RedPillWives14/02/17 06:19 AM
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Very good points! Thank you for your insight. :)
/r/RedPillWives06/02/17 12:37 AM
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Did you find yourself feeling like you were missing out on the "cool" stuff or were you content with the timeless classics? I plan on raising my son this way too but I don't want him to feel left out or "poor" (like I did growing up, to an extent)!
/r/RedPillWives05/02/17 11:48 PM
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Me too!
/r/RedPillWives05/02/17 08:19 AM
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I can't wait to read it as well!
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 09:19 PM
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Well, he doesn't exactly tell me that I'm already beautiful unless I complain about feeling ugly. He never seems to say it out of the blue like he used to when I was actually kind of pretty! So that's a huge sign. And on the other hand, he will never tell me straight out if he wants me to put more effort, even though he knows I appreciate the honesty.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 06:03 PM
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That's my goal! I've never been good at self-motivation, and neither has he.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 06:01 PM
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Yeah, he's definitely trying to be nice. Thanks for your input!
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 06:00 PM
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Thank you! I've always wanted to be that "pretty mom" (not in sweatpants everyday, has energy to play with them, decorates herself with jewelry) to my kids, as it shows them you know how to take care of yourself. My mom was the opposite and it was discouraging and kind of depressing, and definitely rubbed off on me. It left me with a belief that I'm not worth it enough to put effort into myself.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 06:15 AM
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Yup. I gotta be consistent. 👌
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 12:15 AM
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That makes sense. I've only been at this for almost a month, if that. And I'm still working on getting better. Just need to keep at it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 10:25 PM
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He probably doesn't want to make every single decision every day (like what to have for dinner) and probably would like you to manage some decisions around the house (what groceries are needed, what the kids' schedules should be, paying bills). That's the thing, though. It's not just picking what to eat. I currently manage all of the decisions you listed and more. His questioning me is surely not because he feels overwhelmed by making decisions, it's more likely because he's hesitant of this new…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 12:04 AM
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I do give him my opinion. I made an edit to my original post. This is more than just deciding where to eat.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 12:00 AM
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"If he asks me something, then I know he doesn't care and is deferring to me." See, this isn't the case with my husband. If he asks me something, it's because he doesn't want to end up making the wrong decision and make a mess, so he wants to leave it up to me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 11:52 PM
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I LOVE THIS. My husband and I were cracking up. I love this guy's videos. Thanks!!
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 08:48 AM
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I find that to be a great answer. I just feel weird about it and it feels like it could come off as kind of fake (even though it's mostly true!) especially since he knows I read the Surrendered Wife and he will probably suspect it's just a scripted line I picked up. I just hoped to find a way to make it sound more convincing. I guess I'm just being too paranoid.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 02:00 AM
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Thanks! :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 12:16 AM
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Thanks for the advice! I'll started trying more often to let him know I trust him. And often when discussing dinner or whatever it may be, I do give a long list of my own preferences. He's a lot more picky than I am, but even after we go back and forth, he still weasels and ropes me into having the final say. Then comes the question of "why are you having me decide?" I will try "because I trust your decisions" when I'm screaming "because I'm tired of mothering your every move!" on the inside. :)…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 11:25 PM
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Sweet, thanks! :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 03:52 AM
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Hello! I'm a 26 year old, pregnant SAHM to a toddler. I've been married for 4 years (already, wow!!), I've been with my husband for 11 years total. I'm happy to have found a sub that resonates with how I want to live my life and improve myself as a wife and a woman!
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/17 11:01 PM
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Hello! I've been lurking a lot and reading the old posts. I'm 26, in a LTR for 11 years, married for 4. I've already learned a lot here! Edited to add , we have one child and another one on the way.
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 06:20 PM
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That sounds like a very nice arrangement!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 04:40 PM
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Was he resistant or nervous to take that over?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 11:17 PM
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I'm anticipating something similar. I have the extra time at home to go through the budget and move HIS money around where I think is best, but I think he'd feel empowered doing it himself. I would hope it creates a chain reaction in which he feels more productive at work because he can see and manage the fruits of his own labor. But at the same time I can see him getting overwhelmed at the task and giving it back to me. The book says to flat-out refuse and tell your husband that he can handle i…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 10:32 PM
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For him, you mean? He figures it's smart because he has no confidence in his ability to manage it well, but the last time he did was before we were married - about 4 years ago. I just assumed that role when we got married and joined our incomes (when I was working.) Isn't this a common occurrence in marriages? Not that it makes it right, but you seem surprised he would let his wife manage it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 09:45 PM
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